This song was played at my father's funeral. He liked this part so much that he told my mother that when he died he wanted this played at his funeral and my mom made sure it happened.
God Bless your Father. I was 11 years old when I saw This movie and toldo My parents that I wanted This song on My funeral. I'm 47 years nlw and still My kids knkw I want This song in My Reception. Bless You and your Dad.
Beaufort, South Carolina...I was stationed there...just a year after this movie came out. Drove over that bridge countless times. I remember the smell of the salt marsh and the look of the place. Being from Colorado, this was an alien landscape. I love this movie. The music, the story, the acting and the location. One of my favorites, always.
I’ve been juggling with suicidal thoughts somewhat recently (partly due to the pandemic), but after seeing this film for the first time, I always think back to this scene and it pulls me off the ledge each and every time.
"I feel terrible," "yeah" "last time I spoke with Alex, we had a fight, I yelled at him." "that's probably why he killed himself." God he reminds me of me.
This was one of the first truly adult films I saw and it has stuck w me ever since, from music, to acting, to script of friendship, failure, and coping with life after growing up, or not.
This movie taught me that suicide is so painful. It leaves a whole that can NEVER be repaired... Then, sadly 12 years later, I too, would experience this pain when my boyfriend (who had just proposed a month & a half earlier) committed suicide himself. I don't think I'll ever get over it.
The played this on the local PBS station tonight, I guess its a movie classic. Ive seen it dozens of times, know the dialog by heart. Whenever someone stares an inanimate object, I say, "Thats the problem with these things you've got to watch them every minute".
as great as this scene is and as great as the song is, the sheer involvment of the song with this movie immediately strikes it off a list of songs to be played at my funeral...
One of my favorite movies of all time. I love it when Meg Tilly, after smoking a joint; hops out of the Porsche and starts staggering towards an open field (in the wrong direction) wondering where are all the grave stones at this cemetery?! lol Classic!
@@TheLlamaFarma Ooops, sorry. Maybe I should put down my own joint; before commenting on RUclips. LOL. Thanks for correcting my statement . Cheers! Dominic.
This has been my favorite movie since I saw it at a theatre near Indiana University. I was in high school and visiting my older sister. To me, it's profound in it's portrayal of individuals, their imperfections and their friends who accept and love them despite it. I have never watched a movie more than 3 times except for this one. I never tire of it. Great cast, soundtrack, vibe, set, camera, work, message.
@yekdeli You Bet, I drive to Beaufort as much as possible...live in Atlanta....I have played this movie every year since the 80's,,,Just buried my Dad in the military cemetery in Beaufort..last January 2011. went to see the house in the Big Chill...it looks like the movie...beautiful
One of my all time favourite. My parents watched in the 80s when I was young and I have continued to change people's lives with making them watch this movie
When I die, their Will be free Beers and a shoving of this f...... Movie,,,,and after Every one hugs and goes home, and forgets that I ever was - dude ❤️,,,I'll rest in peace!
lol this line is hilarious, but I don’t know if it’s because guys like that in High Fidelity would just scoff at a movie like The Big Chill for being famous mostly for the soundtrack, or because the song choice was so on the nose that it’s a joke to them at that point in 2000. It’s always been a perplexing joke to me.
I'm 30 (born in 1990) my father always tol my sisters and I "you can't always get what you want. But you can get what you need." Then when I was about 13 he showed me this movie. Loved the reference... and still think the way it was written is good 👍.
Thanks for posting this. I remember the scene from the film all the time and when my father died, this was the signature song i played all the time. The cortege going over the bridge...magnificent shot.
Every time I see this scene it reminds me of another movie High Fidelity with Jack Black. In that scene they are making up their favorite list of songs about death and he mentions "You can't always get what you want", by The Rolling Stones and his coworker says that's and immeditate disqualification because its association with the movie The Big Chill. ruclips.net/video/F9yP10X3wAY/видео.html
They need to do a reunion sequel where they are all in there early 70's and have health problems, like one of the women has died from breast cancer. One of the guys is in a nursing home with Alzhiemers, another is paralized from a stroke. You know, some of the real fun things about getting old. I speak from experience.
Thanks juancosaco for posting this. I grew up with this movie and this song...listening advice: on album, in a car or earphones. You don't really hear the full orchestral-tone value unless you do it that way.
There's plenty of good music to choose from. It's just not always mainstream. I was always moved by Basia Bulat's incredible voice, and she's definitely a Milennial. Look up her songs "Run" or "It Can't Be You" if you disbelieve me.
In the 80's this movie is about people of my parents age. Saw it in the 80's when I was a kid but didn't dig it. Saw it again in HBO couple of months ago and I was addicted to watch it again. Couldn't seem to get at any video stores..
I think I saw saw this movie two or three times over a weekend when it was in theaters. I'm not exactly sure what was so compelling about it. It was more than just the great sound track, there was something in the way these characters connected and cared for each other. As a kid who was contemplating heading off to college I was intrigued and excited to think I too might bond with college friends as the folks in the Big Chill had.
"I just love your tv show. My boys and I watch it every......all the time." Ironic that "Richard" was the character's name, because he really was a dick. Kudos to the actor who played him. Top 20 of a favorite movies of all time. Kasdan and Michael Mann are two of the most underrated directors of our time.
Chloe feels bad that she can't drive with The Family, not surprising. Alot of Families are very territorial about who drives in a Limo at Funerals. Also Nick's Jacket is synonymous in other Films. It was the Jacket "Hart" wore on his First Day at School in The Paper Chase and Matt Damon wore it in The Talented Mr. Ripley when he first met Freddy Miles who made a "Pointed" Remark about Tom wearing a Corduroy Jacket in Summer in Europe.
Philippe Hunt I would play In The Arms Of An Angel. What a Year 1968 was. Dr. King & Bobby Kennedy get killed. More Young Men are drafted to go to Vietnam. Also this Movie was the last to show a Tech Free World. No Internet, Facebook, Cell Phones and all of the Technology that we can't seem to live without. Also it was the last era that folks listened to Music on Records and Cassettes. When My Young Cousins look at Record Albums they are perplexed.
Well the director was said to have made a real difficult decsion to cut kevin's scenes and said that kevin was very good in them! Kasdan the director said he felt bad and to make it up gave Kevin in what would be his break out role in Silverado!
@Bangwhistle That's because you're unwilling to suspend disbelief; an essential part of watching and enjoying, most fiction, however closely it may try to imitate life. "Sometimes, you just have to let art flow over you."
Yeah kevin costner was supposed to be alex. I heard they shoot him for the alex scene but it never made to the screen.I guess the producers cut his wrist way before the movie enters the cinema screens .Kevin was a small time actor at that time. He was disposable
Simon Deacon He's a bit peeved that she chose to stay with her "Friends" instead of "Him." Also he felt like the Odd Man Out because he didn't go to the same School as they did and didn't have the same memories. It's like going to Your Spouse's Class Reunion and you don't know anyone from Adam. Remember in 2000 Caitlyn Ryan on Degrassi attends he Class Reunion with her Boyfriend Keith but she only has Eyes for Joey Jeremiah.
William Hurt's character is a drug dealer who uses a lot of his own product. He's a great actor, but I just can't accept a junkie who is as fit, healthy, and well groomed as this guy.
This song was played at my father's funeral. He liked this part so much that he told my mother that when he died he wanted this played at his funeral and my mom made sure it happened.
God Bless your Father. I was 11 years old when I saw This movie and toldo My parents that I wanted This song on My funeral. I'm 47 years nlw and still My kids knkw I want This song in My Reception. Bless You and your Dad.
Fuckin A, dude
a film that is still moving to me, after more than thirty years...
i think i watch this movie once a month. reminds me of my friends back in macau. we were quite a bunch!
It still holds up very well. Not like other 1980's movies see (don't see) "Ferris Bueller"
Go visit the LOW COUNTRY OF SC!! Beaufort/ St. Helena island/ frogmore... hunting island 🌴 port royal!!!
My sister wanted this song when she passed away far too young RIP from Cancer. We played this song 🎵 RIP 🙏 dear Judy 🙏 I miss you so very much ❤
🙏💙
Beaufort, South Carolina...I was stationed there...just a year after this movie came out. Drove over that bridge countless times. I remember the smell of the salt marsh and the look of the place. Being from Colorado, this was an alien landscape. I love this movie. The music, the story, the acting and the location. One of my favorites, always.
I’ve been juggling with suicidal thoughts somewhat recently (partly due to the pandemic), but after seeing this film for the first time, I always think back to this scene and it pulls me off the ledge each and every time.
I'm here with You. No man is an Island. Anytime and anywhere we ate here to hear You.
"I feel terrible,"
"yeah"
"last time I spoke with Alex, we had a fight, I yelled at him."
"that's probably why he killed himself."
God he reminds me of me.
This is one of those movies where you fall in love with every character.
This was one of the first truly adult films I saw and it has stuck w me ever since, from music, to acting, to script of friendship, failure, and coping with life after growing up, or not.
One of those "I'm not young anymore” films."
My first Adult/Growing-up film was "The Graduate" Dustin Hoffman coming back to Pasadena and having an affair with "Mrs. Robinson"
@@CidYoung-REALTOR My first "growing-up" film was Walt Disney's Peter Pan. Dreaded the cultural shock of turning 13.....
Amazing that it has been 36 years...1983-2019. Time goes fast.
Hey people. I entered UW Madison in 1968. This movie means a lot to me. The soundtrack, the actors, the storyline and scenes.
"I'd love to hear the way you describe me to them."
This movie taught me that suicide is so painful. It leaves a whole that can NEVER be repaired... Then, sadly 12 years later, I too, would experience this pain when my boyfriend (who had just proposed a month & a half earlier) committed suicide himself. I don't think I'll ever get over it.
Just remember he is at peace and remember the good times
RIP William Hurt.
Everyone was brilliant in this film.
The played this on the local PBS station tonight, I guess its a movie classic. Ive seen it dozens of times, know the dialog by heart. Whenever someone stares an inanimate object, I say, "Thats the problem with these things you've got to watch them every minute".
A little Big Chill trivia... it's Kevin Costner in the coffin. He was slated to play Alex, but was cut.
He did play Alex. They edited him out of the film much to their regret. A young Kevin Costner would have made the film even more memorable.
@@eddihaskell I don't think so. The absence makes Alex even more memorable.
He did play Alex all of the scenes with his face were cut.
as great as this scene is and as great as the song is, the sheer involvment of the song with this movie immediately strikes it off a list of songs to be played at my funeral...
An amazing sequence... music and film.
An amazing movie.
I love the film, the soundtrack. A chronology of our lives.
a great movie in fact it's a classic and a good watch.
One of my favorite movies of all time.
I love it when Meg Tilly, after smoking a joint; hops out of the Porsche and starts staggering towards an open field (in the wrong direction) wondering where are all the grave stones at this cemetery?! lol Classic!
Meg Tilly is in the car with Jeff Goldblum and Tom Berenger .... Mary Kay Place is in the Porsche with Willian Hurt :)
@@TheLlamaFarma Ooops, sorry. Maybe I should put down my own joint; before commenting on RUclips. LOL. Thanks for correcting my statement . Cheers! Dominic.
@@ddemo2613 Fun Fact - Meg Tilly was married to Colin Firth who appeared in Bridget Jones Diary, among other movies .... lucky bastard ...
Incredibly powerful scene! Totally confirmed my love of The Stones when I first saw this.
This has been my favorite movie since I saw it at a theatre near Indiana University. I was in high school and visiting my older sister. To me, it's profound in it's portrayal of individuals, their imperfections and their friends who accept and love them despite it. I have never watched a movie more than 3 times except for this one. I never tire of it. Great cast, soundtrack, vibe, set, camera, work, message.
To any one who had an Alex in his life as well.. i feel you.
"and what where you fighting about"
"I told him he was wasting his life " brilliant.
*I love this movie*
One of the best damn Films!
a movie a person (almost) never gets tired of , notwithstanding all the "grey zones" you have to go through in life...
@yekdeli You Bet, I drive to Beaufort as much as possible...live in Atlanta....I have played this movie every year since the 80's,,,Just buried my Dad in the military cemetery in Beaufort..last January 2011. went to see the house in the Big Chill...it looks like the movie...beautiful
I see this as a feel good movie mostly due to the classically great music!
thank you for sharing this magnificent clip! From a classic!
One of my all time favourite. My parents watched in the 80s when I was young and I have continued to change people's lives with making them watch this movie
When I die, their Will be free Beers and a shoving of this f...... Movie,,,,and after Every one hugs and goes home, and forgets that I ever was - dude ❤️,,,I'll rest in peace!
Wow - this scene is just as good as I remember it being - haven't seen it in years!
I want this to be played at my funeral...
"immediate disqualification because of its involvement with the big chill"
"oh god your right"
What’s that from?
@@JimmySteller High Fidelity
lol this line is hilarious, but I don’t know if it’s because guys like that in High Fidelity would just scoff at a movie like The Big Chill for being famous mostly for the soundtrack, or because the song choice was so on the nose that it’s a joke to them at that point in 2000. It’s always been a perplexing joke to me.
This movie was so well done, that I always think of funerals when I hear this song.
When The Stones sang this in Rock 'N Roll Circus and he did the ending unexpectedly, My Father (RIP) almost fell on the floor laughing.
One of the best scenes in any movie EVER.
This is such great filmmaking. Beautiful marrying of music to image and little scenes.
I'm 30 (born in 1990) my father always tol my sisters and I "you can't always get what you want. But you can get what you need." Then when I was about 13 he showed me this movie. Loved the reference... and still think the way it was written is good 👍.
Great example of "Show. Don't tell" in movie making.
Thanks for posting this. I remember the scene from the film all the time and when my father died, this was the signature song i played all the time. The cortege going over the bridge...magnificent shot.
..hi love your tv show the boys and i watch it every, all the time...lolgreat movie...thanks for posting
Every time I see this scene it reminds me of another movie High Fidelity with Jack Black. In that scene they are making up their favorite list of songs about death and he mentions "You can't always get what you want", by The Rolling Stones and his coworker says that's and immeditate disqualification because its association with the movie The Big Chill.
ruclips.net/video/F9yP10X3wAY/видео.html
Its a great movie. Johnny Carson put up money to help make this
Trivia: Kevin Costner played Alex. There is a scene of them back in college that was not included on the deleted scenes. Costner played younger Alex.
Great film. Anyone who lived through the 1960s can relate to it.
Even in death their friend Alex made them smile
The lonely funeral parade. Time to reflect on what could have been but never will be. Love this movie. A true reflection on real life unedited.
They need to do a reunion sequel where they are all in there early 70's and have health problems, like one of the women has died from breast cancer. One of the guys is in a nursing home with Alzhiemers, another is paralized from a stroke. You know, some of the real fun things about getting old. I speak from experience.
Half of them will also have become Trump supporters, too, more's the pity.
@@JimmySteller If they had become Trump supporters it would have meant that they had grown up!
@@JimmySteller Ha! Ha! "More's The Pity" was a phrase once used on the UK Soap Opera Coronation Street.
I am revising music for my service as I watch this... lol
The scene at 4:30 might be my favorite in the film.
One of the greatest movie scenes of all time!!
oh man! love this scene and this song!
Thanks juancosaco for posting this. I grew up with this movie and this song...listening advice: on album, in a car or earphones. You don't really hear the full orchestral-tone value unless you do it that way.
Say what you want about Boomers but they had awesome music. What would a Millennial be playing at their funeral?
Sicko mode
I Am a millennial but i would Play Queen
Ed Sheeran
Lil pump "esketit"
There's plenty of good music to choose from. It's just not always mainstream. I was always moved by Basia Bulat's incredible voice, and she's definitely a Milennial. Look up her songs "Run" or "It Can't Be You" if you disbelieve me.
In the 80's this movie is about people of my parents age. Saw it in the 80's when I was a kid but didn't dig it. Saw it again in HBO couple of months ago and I was addicted to watch it again. Couldn't seem to get at any video stores..
Karen sits to play "You can't always get what you want" - the Rolling Stones song of 1969 0:16
I think I saw saw this movie two or three times over a weekend when it was in theaters. I'm not exactly sure what was so compelling about it. It was more than just the great sound track, there was something in the way these characters connected and cared for each other. As a kid who was contemplating heading off to college I was intrigued and excited to think I too might bond with college friends as the folks in the Big Chill had.
I’m still waiting.
@@kittytaylor9618 Thanks for reminding me of this great movie. I don't remember leaving this comment -- 10 years ago!
This is such a great movie.
RIP William Hurt
"I just love your tv show. My boys and I watch it every......all the time." Ironic that "Richard" was the character's name, because he really was a dick. Kudos to the actor who played him.
Top 20 of a favorite movies of all time. Kasdan and Michael Mann are two of the most underrated directors of our time.
The baby boomer generation had the greatest music ever , hate on this comment all you want but it’s the truth.
Chloe feels bad that she can't drive with The Family, not surprising. Alot of Families are very territorial about who drives in a Limo at Funerals. Also Nick's Jacket is synonymous in other Films. It was the Jacket "Hart" wore on his First Day at School in The Paper Chase and Matt Damon wore it in The Talented Mr. Ripley when he first met Freddy Miles who made a "Pointed" Remark about Tom wearing a Corduroy Jacket in Summer in Europe.
filmed in good old south carolina
richard desjean Yep, same house as The Great Santini.
Yes. Alot of Pat Conroy's Books (RIP) took place in South Carolina most notably The Lords Of Discipline.
This album was my soundtrack growing up
"that's probably why he killed himself" lol
Such a stand alone thing to play at a funeral
R.I.P. William Hurt
to Tom Berenger "and you're an actor ?"
Jeff Goldblum snorts.
I wonder if that was in the script =P
High Fidelity brought me here
One of my favorites
Instructions to my Brother. PLAY THIS AT MY FUNERAL!
awesome tune ,awesome movie
RIP Willaim Hunt
Still my favorite movie with William Hurt.
Philippe Hunt I would play In The Arms Of An Angel. What a Year 1968 was. Dr. King & Bobby Kennedy get killed. More Young Men are drafted to go to Vietnam. Also this Movie was the last to show a Tech Free World. No Internet, Facebook, Cell Phones and all of the Technology that we can't seem to live without. Also it was the last era that folks listened to Music on Records and Cassettes. When My Young Cousins look at Record Albums they are perplexed.
Such a classic...I love it.
Well the director was said to have made a real difficult decsion to cut kevin's scenes and said that kevin was very good in them! Kasdan the director said he felt bad and to make it up gave Kevin in what would be his break out role in Silverado!
That's a sweet - connection...:)
a great movie, so underated...
Totally the best!
"fuck 'em if they can't take a joke..."
A great funeral scene!
I can't separate this song from this movie...
Q: Where are Alex's mom & dad? A: They're not relevant to the story, so they don't exist.
Actually - Alex was played by Kevin Costner = but all of his scenes were cut from the final movie!!!
Limosines...a fancy casket...all those flowers....expensive funeral. If you have ever had to bury anybody you know the costs. Hollywood...go figure?
Love the sky at 6:15 ♥️
This is why I am a Funeral Director/Embalmer~
All of them University of Michigan graduates……. Go Blue!
@Bangwhistle
That's because you're unwilling to suspend disbelief; an essential part of watching and enjoying, most fiction, however closely it may try to imitate life.
"Sometimes, you just have to let art flow over you."
Kevin Costner is great in his role. ;-)
Was that weekend at Bernie's ???
Yeah kevin costner was supposed to be alex. I heard they shoot him for the alex scene but it never made to the screen.I guess the producers cut his wrist way before the movie enters the cinema screens .Kevin was a small time actor at that time. He was disposable
The shots of the headlights... Funerals suck.
FOR CHARLIE
So good.
Notice how Karen (Jobeth Williams) never actually talks to her husband...
yeah but he seemed like an okay guy
There is the one scene where she says goodbye to him in the car. But he barely looks at her. ;-)
Simon Deacon He's a bit peeved that she chose to stay with her "Friends" instead of "Him." Also he felt like the Odd Man Out because he didn't go to the same School as they did and didn't have the same memories. It's like going to Your Spouse's Class Reunion and you don't know anyone from Adam. Remember in 2000 Caitlyn Ryan on Degrassi attends he Class Reunion with her Boyfriend Keith but she only has Eyes for Joey Jeremiah.
She hates his guts
William Hurt's character is a drug dealer who uses a lot of his own product. He's a great actor, but I just can't accept a junkie who is as fit, healthy, and well groomed as this guy.
Dizzy wants her glitter gloss Palem. : )