There is a final update to this. The ex and him signed the final papers for their divorce. I believe she was stalling or trying to get him to not go through the divorce as she kept calling and refuse to return any of his attorney calls. Eventually things got back on track and she knew she cant stop it so its done. Also some of her circle of friends were dropped by their partners after op called and informed them that they are cheaters. They were sus but op calling them made them confront them.
I hate when they get caught and say that “it’s not what it looks like 😮” Lmao. So it doesn’t look like Jamal has his sausage inside of you? Ok cool. Glad we got that cleared up 😑
@@thaddeuswoodruff8205 right,they just figured they would have some extra fun . Expected to never be caught. Oops! Don't want to lose your marriage, don't cheat. Really not that hard. Have friends that do cheat, don't go.out with them. Again, not that hard.
I’m in a committed monogamous relationship and we still both get tested every 3-6 months! Not because we’re worried the other will cheat, but because he works in a warehouse and I in vet med and special education, theres always a small small risk of swapping blood with someone. Also gives us both peace of mind, because even though we trust the other not to cheat, we’ve both been cheated on and anxiety can’t always be quelled.
I’m not in a relationship but if I was, I’d probably do it mostly because I get injections from the doctors quite a few times and have had several different types of surgeries and have had blood transfusions so you never know. I have been tested though and I am all good 👍
Yes, get tested! I was a naive young wife 35 years ago. I kept getting vaginal infections and stupidly assumed it was just my own body not being healthy, like yeast infections, only worse. (And I was apologizing to my then husband because I was worried I might give it to him. Oy.) My doctor never told me that these were sexually transmitted infections, but did eventually ask me if our relationship was monogamous. I assured him that it was. Ended up, that it most assuredly was not! 😂 I don’t care if you trust him 100%, get tested. Because of my ignorance and trust, I had numerous infections deep in my cervix and then later, cervical cancer. Listen to this nurse 👆🏼, she’s right!
My ex husband when i said if he was going to keep cheating I wanted an open relationship, told me to pack my belongings and leave (less nice than that) and when i in turn notified him i waa filing for divorce he cornered me with our wedding album shouting at me about the promise i made, then started crying, shoved me, and tried to initiate giggity. That was 12 years ago and i still can't rationalize any part of the story except that it was the only relationship i had ever been in. Now i am happily married and starting a family with an amazing, present, and loyal man and i am so glad i ran at 21 from that situation.
Haha it's great when you mention wanting to have an open marriage, HE doesn't want it because then he would be free to "cheat openly" and that's not as exciting to him and he more than likely didn't like the fact that you would have other men, a form of possession and controlling behavior, but he could have as many women as his little heart wanted, ugh trash! It's good that you eventually found an amazing man who adores you and loves to be with only you for the rest of his life ❤🎉
I had to ask many people what means giggity and no one had any idea but then I asked an American and after laughing for a minute he explained it. Eeew lol
@@ParadoxicalPoetry Believe it or not, I found mine on Tinder and it ended up we had a lot of friends in common who really pushed us to keep going because it was hard at first with what we'd both been through. 7 years in we are the best of friends and partners. We were always good people, but we had to sort how to always be good to each other. Loyalty and Honesty were core parts of who we were, we just had to learn to trust that about the other.
She came home and didn't take a shower and then tried to sleep with him after admitting to cheating multiple times is really disgusting. Get tested for sure!!
The audacity of the wife to think she could save a marriage even though she has been cheating on him. More than once! A no-brainer; she has issues and is glad he is divorcing her.
She asked for "therapy". In my humble opinion, it's a gaslighting technique where the guilty party blames the victim during and at the end of therapy. In this case, based on the current social climate, wifezilla will claim any type of "victim" card she can use against the husband. I will not be surprised if she claims she was just affirming her sexuality and that she still loves him.
My ex was like that. He once called me at 2:00 a.m. and wanted me to know the sl*t he was with had bigger ta-ta's than me. After I divorced him he cried and begged me to take him back. A few years later I ran into his sister. She said that when going thru some old pictures he found some of us together and said he really fu**ed up and lost the best thing that ever happened to him. I just smiled and agreed with her.
They always think you won't leave. After 25 (this past 4th of july) years of physical abuse (first 10 years) and verbal and mental abuse, I've been in trauma therapy for 2 months. This past weekend was the worst and told him "I'm done, love you but I haven't liked you for a while". He's now been trying to butter me up for days and offering everything and anything. Haven't changed my mind, won't change my mind🙄 Oh and, he cheated 3 times, came home and giggitied me BEFORE showering...so atleast he knew to say no when she tried😔 💜🖤💜
Please if you can consider having your own space and do not tell him or your plans. Good for you for getting out of the terrible situation it’s not easy but it’s worth it!
i know! it is so stunning, just like our Charlotte! i could not be happier for her and. Mike❤ could not have happened for 2 more amazingly deserving and loving people!
Yea my ex was very sneaky about his cheating. He insisted he do all the bill paying, the idea was I couldn't handle the finances. He insisted he was going to work when instead he was out with another girl. He had lost his job, I didn't realize the trouble we where in until the for closer notice showed up. We had 3 kids tougher. When confronted he told me THEN he didn't want kids. (Bit late) I told him to get his crap tougher while he tried to tell me we should shove the kids off on my parents. Two days after this blow out, I see a post on FB that's got my then hubby's name on it. "So excited to be having a baby with (his name here)" and ultrasound photos. I packed the kids up and left. He tried going after full custody of the kids he claimed he didn't want, but failed miserably when he didn't know their birthdays, or even their full names. His kids are in their teens now and don't bother talking to him. We are living our best lives with my boyfriend of 10+years who they say is their dad even if their bio dad won't let him adopt them.
My now adult sons refer to my ex as their bio dad, my 20+ year partner is their Dad. It’s the being there, and the things he does to support them that make him Dad.
The level of honesty that comes out of someone's mouth when they're half awake/half drunk in my experience is the truest form of their character and some people don't even realize this version of them exists. I knew someone like this who would have an absolute 180 in personality when in that state and surprise to no one it turned out he was cheating on his wife and was sexist and racist. Thankfully for OP that's the version of her that came home, and when she woke up she realized that conversation was not a dream and she had ratted herself out. Her tears are 100% fake because so is the rest of her. Happy you're moving forward OP.
The best response I’ve ever read on Reddit to finding a divorce lawyer because of a cheating spouse. The one who had been cheated on got a consultation with every divorce lawyer in the city so his soon to be ex couldn’t hire them because it would be a conflict of interest apparently. She had to get another lawyer that was out of state, they lived close to the border of their state, and had to pay double the price for it being across state lines. This being his plan from the beginning.
THIS. I always told myself if I ever left my husband for cheating, abuse, anything like that, the first person I’d tell is his mother so he can’t spin some story to her. I will not be the monster in my own negative experience
@@notericforeman exactly!! My husband is a smart man so I think he is smart enough to never cheat on me but if he does oooooooohhhhh I’m telling his mama cause now she’s my mama too. Mama would whoop his ass hard! And I told him he would have to go to all the kids who love us from both sides of our family and tell them why we are breaking up. Again I don’t think he would be dumb enough to destroy our lives and cheat on me and I ESPECIALLY know he wouldn’t ever abuse me because he has a large amount of trauma due to stuff he saw his Mom go through when he was a very young kid. Him and his twin still have a large hatred interest their being for the man that hurt their Mom. They may be a bit bold and a bit sassy but abuse they would never.
I knew a gal who did something similar to her husband. Utterly heart-wrenching to see her dramatic shift from a sweet generous soul into something completely different.
There was another reddit story like this but the guy found his wife in bed with the guy. They were supposed to go on vacation that day and she goes out with her friend and doesn’t come back. He heads to the friends house because he thought they were stayed since it started snowing. He shows up and finds his wife LAYING on this dudes chest and beats the shit out of the guy. He told his wife she had 5 min to get in the car or to not bother coming back. His WHOLE marriage was a fucking lie. After she had their first kid she fell into postpartum depression and the only person who could help her was her best friend who took her out 3-4 times a week for “girls night”. She said she didn’t know why she did it but she gave a bartender a blowjob one night and another guy she fucked and then basically stopped feeling guilty. From that point on for the next like 3 years she would go out 2-3 times a week and fuck another random stranger. Never the same guys twice. One and done. The poor husband gets a SHARK for a lawyer though and she helps him basically find out who and where. He told his lawyer to stop looking when they reach 50 different guys. They did a paternity test on his daughter who was born after this shit show started and surprise she is not his. They finally meet each other in the lawyers office to mediate the divorce and to keep things civil. His wife confessed to knowing that his daughter wasn’t his and that she DIDNT know who the father was. There were too many men to be sure. The husband basically throws her out, they live in at fault state, and with the evidence he had they got him full custody of both kids. The wife basically never expected to get caught and lost all her friends (besides the one helping her cheat) and her parents, who threw her out after they heard the full details of her “escapades”. The husband gave a year update and said he was doing good and had just been him and his kids. He had been tentatively dating a nice lady he met in a support group but swore never to marry again. The now ex wife basically having nuked her life and literally fled the country and is now living in Australia. As far as stories go, that was probably the worst one I had EVER read. This video is a close second now.
@@Angelonwheels24 The correct phrase actually is "speak my piece", though, as in "to state my side/my part of the matter." It's not supposed to be "peace" (and also, logically, there's really nothing peaceful about it in this sort of situation). That's reserved phrases like for "hold your peace" -- as in remain silent (peaceful) as opposed to "speak now".
I could see that, but for me, "balling" vs. "bawling" had me mentally picturing her trying to...well. What she got in trouble for doing, if you will. Especially since she literally tried to do it to him also after she started "balling" before he rejected her advances.
When my husband and I first got together, about 4 months in, I started getting HORRIBLE pelvic pain. Went to the doc and they ran a complete test panel. I found out I had 2 STDs that I'd had for over a year. Got them from MY XH!! I was in tears having to tell my now husband what the results were. We were on MAJOR antibiotics together and my now husband beat the brakes off my XH! Edit: when a cheater tries to get into you, it should tell you 2 things; 1) they think s*x fixes everything 2) s*x is the only acceptable way they know to fake intimacy 3) they clearly confuse emotional and physical intimacy
when i clicked on the video and saw you for your "hey everybody", i did a double take. Girl i dont know what youre doing in the shadows but you are glowing and your aura is happy and bright. keep it up!
Hello! Psychologist with a PhD in mental health psychology here (although I do not speak for all psychologists and my knowledge is based in UK practice). We actually don't use the term 'sociopath' - sociopathy hasn't actually been the correct term for a long time now, since the 1980s. I personally blame the BBC Sherlock for that misinformation being spread, although I'm sure there are many reasons...but Sherlock is my personal nemesis. When people talk about sociopathy in social media these days, what they usually mean these days is either something called Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). These are characterised by some of the things we assigned to sociopathy back in the day. For example, ASPD has that lack of empathy, and a persistent and enduring pattern of violating the rights of others, and NPD has things like fragile self-esteem, a need for admiration, believing that they are somehow special and unique and better than everyone else. I think something that is VERY important to note is that these are personality disorders. They often emerge in adolescence and into early adulthood, and some people can identify it in themselves and seek help. Some people can manage personality disorders really well, and others really can't. However, sometimes, people absolutely assign these sorts of disorders to people who are simply (technical term incoming) Complete Arseholes. It's important to know that people can have narcissistic behaviours without having NPD, and people can have a lack of empathy without having ASPD. It's always best not to equate them on a 1:1. At the end of the day, we only know what has been limited to two posts, and I'd need to have some VERY in-depth conversations and assessments with a person to diagnose anything, but I would say that this person should be assessed for NPD. I'm not saying that she DOES have NPD, but an assessment would help to rule it out or confirm it either way, as she does seem to want to control how people perceive her (with the anger at her husband for revealing her cheating) and she does seem to believe she is 'special' and 'should' be able to do whatever she wants. She could, however, be a Complete Arsehole. It is possible. Some people behave badly because they have disorders that are unmanaged. Some people behave badly because they are horrible. This is a ridiculously long comment - and the issue is VERY complex and nuanced, so again please don't take this as gospel, because it is so very complicated. But I hope this was informative and useful!! With love, A Fellow Potato (also I feel like I have the authority to grant Charlotte an honorary PhD in Petty)
I do believe that we, as a society, have a large misunderstanding of mental health even though there has been such a push to take away away any stigma attached to the subject. There hasn't been enough of a push for education. People still equate symptoms to disease. The lack of education of mental health has played rise to throwing the terminology around freely like a southerner calling everyone sweetheart. Another consequence that plagues social media, especially Tik Tok, is the pretenders who get away with it often. All because people are seemingly okay with being ignorant about it.
But a mental disorder does not excuse a person from being an asshole, whether it's diagnosed or not. I'm sorry but a person cannot go around doing assholly things and just blame it on their diagnosis.
Thanks for the great explanations, I learned some things. I also agree with the other reply in that having a diagnosis is not an excuse, but I would like to say that having a diagnosis, of any sort, is an explanation, not an excuse. My niece and nephew both have Asperger syndrome, nephew has never used it as either an explanation for why he is ‘different’ or an excuse. Niece was diagnosed as an adult and now EVERYTHING that isn’t fantastic in her life is because of the Asperger’s, not her, and includes all her choices and actions before diagnosis as not her fault because she had Asperger’s ( even if she didn’t know it).
I was married once, we were very young. 19 going on 20. My husband was a loving man. I know he trusted and loved me, at one point. Before he turned 21 and started going out to bars and clubs. We lived only a few blocks from the main area where most of these places were in our town, so it was pretty easy to get there, even though he ended up driving most of the time. So, about 3 or 4 months after his 21st bday, he sat me down and said he loved me and wanted to stay married, but that he wanted an OPEN relationship. I guess drunk chick's that threw themselves at just anyone was too tempting. Of course, I said no, and was very upset. He promised he would not sleep with anyone else if I said no, but I am positive he had already cheated on me. At this point we had 2 young children under 3 years old, and dude I TRUSTED him. Then, I lost a new job I was supposed to start one morning because he had driven MY car to the bar the night previous and wasn't back to be with our kids, and so I could have use of my car to get to the new job. He got back hours later, still kinda drunk, and wouldn't answer my questions. He was smiling like an idiot and mumbling incoherently, and just went right to bed. I checked my car. The armrest that separated the driver and passenger seat was up. There was sand all over the place. I would find out later that he had gone skinny dipping with one of the skanks that worked at the one strip club downtown, and had had s*x in the front seat of my car. A few days later I had gotten a family member to watch our kids for a half hour, because there was a show on TV that he said he wanted me to remind him of when it started, so I was headed to his friends place, where he said he was playing video games at. At this time neither of us had cell phones. There were the Nokia Tracfones, and the other cell phones were ones you paid big money for, and we just couldn't afford them. I get to his friends apartment, and a girl in lingerie opened the door. Inside was another scantily clad girl, and my husband and his friend, who were wearing only boxers. Really, I recall getting so dizzy, then tunnel vision, and I only remember snippets because my brain could not understand. The girls ran out of the room, crying and acting pitiful and scared. I'm sure I did not look pleased, and while I've been told I can be intimidating I think they were just playing it up. I wish I had gone after them and yanked them around by thier hair a bit, but I remember telling them that I didn't really blame them. They probably knew he was married but didn't know me and didn't care. I'm not sure how the conversation with my husband went, but I can guess. I know I was so angry that I could hardly breathe. I stormed out after screaming at him. His friend, who I also felt betrayed by because I thought we were friends, was trying to calm me and saying things like 'it's just s*x'. Soon after, I went to the courthouse and did ALL the paperwork, and paid, for the divorce myself. There were many other instances that still shock me now, but why hold on? Why stay in a marriage with someone who clearly did not know what love was anymore, and didn't care enough about me to even be safe while out cheating? Our kids are 23 and 24 now. There's been ups and downs but I think taking the fastest way out of that relationship in a fairly brief time was the best thing that could have happened. It sure did hurt. I already had dealt with self esteem issues since before I knew what those words mean, and I was deeply heartbroken because I loved him so much. He had been so sweet to me. I had trouble trusting men for so long after, and still probably do, which is why I am focusing on myself and my career and my children now. This was all about 20 years ago now though, and I am LONG over him, even though that breach of trust changed something in me. I feel awful for those that have to go through infidelity and all the downfalls of a toxic partner. Save yourselves! You are FAR better off without them, believe me!! Don't wake up every day wondering if you are the only one, and walk around with a rock in your gut and your heart slowly disintegrating. Especially if you have kids! Save them from watching fights, crying, etc...Don't let them think this is how relationships are, show them that both thier parents made smart decisions for everyone, even if it hurts for a littlewhile. No one deserves to be in unnecessary emotional pain everyday, because eventually it could escalate, then you might be on one of the true crime channels on YT, for sh*t that'll land someone in jail for the rest of thier lives, lol.
@@rubinfeuerherz3799 To my ex husband? He's living in another state with a wife he started hooking up with when he was in his early 30s and she was sixteen, and 3 of his 8 children, lol. We don't really talk anymore. From what I hear he still is not a one partner person.
I used to drink and party A LOT as a teenager & in my young 20s & I know exactly what she felt like when she came home and just said everything w/o caring, not that I cheated like that, but after destroying her body and mind all night with alcohol & prob some drugs shes was just wiped out, still fd up & didnt care. But when she woke up she realized she was caught and freaked out.
I also thought her behaviour was fairly "excusable" as she probably wasn't herself when she had that initial conversation, between sleep deprivation and alcohol (and maybe other substances)
Unrelated to a relationship, I left tuna juice in a storage plastic drawer that was to sit in the main hallway in a female housing as a parting gift. The other woman living there constantly tried talking shit and was obnoxiously loud during sleep hours the month I stayed. So I stayed calm and just left that little gift for them. I hope they enjoyed the mystery prize.
These kinds of stories make me so relieved that my fiancé is absolutely nothing like this. Speaking of fiancé’s, CONGRATULATIONS CHARLOTTE! I wish you and Mike all the happiness in the world!
When I heard the husband got the cheating wife's mommy involved, all I thought about in my head was Ms. Schwartz screaming "Whaaat! Whaat! Whaawhaat!" in a Christmas Story. 😂🤣😂🤣
Not a sociopath, but a serial cheater. The fact that she came home and said "You know what." Passed out and tried to convince him to stay by throwing herself at him. Eww. I'm so glad he left her. PS congratulations again on your engagement as well as all the other events during this year. It's a 24 Karat year for you.
Exactly my thoughts. I dealt with a serial cheater before and this made me think of him right away. Leaving him was the best thing I did. No hate to him, he clearly has issues he needs to work out but mentally I’ve been better off without him. Glad this guy got out right away!
I would say narcissist. People jump to use narcissist or narcissistic too often and usually don't use it correctly. But this particular woman was definitely a narcissist. She only thought of herself. Everyone was right when they said she cried for how people would judge her not what she was loosing. Because in her mind she was loosing face and a "Marriage". Not the person she was married to. It takes a lot of time to heal from what narcissistic people do to you too. Especially to walk away and understand they didn't care about you, just what you gave them on a daily basis. They eventually get angry at you, it's when this proper anger (not the staged anger they express in the early stages) comes through that they finally leave you alone. They let go because they've finally come to terms that they've lost their meal ticket and need to find a new one.
@@j.jtilling1722 Sociopathy and Narcissism go hand in hand, you can have a narcissist that isn't a sociopath but all Sociopaths are Narcissists. at the very least yes she is a Narcissist, but its the lack of empathy, the quick switch emotions that sociopaths do when they realize they are expected to feel certain things, and what feels like the inability to understand social norms. (you don't just go to sleep for like 12 hours after telling your husband point blank you cheated) that make me feel like she is a sociopath.
What I find weird, is that he never mentions any 'off' behavior on her part aside from the cheating. If she was a Narcissist, let alone a Sociopath, the red flags should be obvious at least in hindsight. And usually people in that kind of situation suddenly start seing all the red flags they previously ignored, because the were still in love with that person. But well, maybe he was still too much in shock. Still. There are people that are addicted to cheating, the same way people are addicted to gambling. It's completely irrational and dangerous behavior when looking at it from the outside, but they can't seem to stop themselves even though they know it's wrong and harmful. Her being drunk or possibly on some kind of substance when she was caught, kinda points to that. She made no attempt to hide what happened. She also readily admitted to having cheated before, which isn't at all typical for the calculating, manipulative behavior of someone with said personality disorders. She also didn't try to gaslight him into somehow being responsible for her cheating (by neglecting her or such). I don't know. But to me, she seems more like someone whose addiction behavior spiraled out of control than someone with a personality disorder.
First story. My exwife did the same, the same year we bought our house and had our daughter. She took our daughter to his house hours away, and refused to come home for over 24 hours. I served her papers 20 days later. It still hurts(it been over a year), ut it was the best thing for our daughter. Be strong, and carry on, dude. It WILL get better.
I can't imagine. Like you marry a person and suddenly is like "what? Who did I marry? Were they just acting? How could they hide the level of awful they are"
I’m sorry that she did this to you and your daughter. Thankfully your pain will completely disappear in time… and I truly hope you find a wonderful woman who will give you the love you deserve..and deeply appreciated the love you give her.
I love that the guy wants to brew his angry a little longer. It will actually help him forgive and get over her, because the anger pushes the “love” of what should be.
Can confirm, though in my case, [CW - death] finding out I wasn't the only chicken in the coop helped move the grieving process along when my partner passed unexpectedly in May. That sounds a little cold but I'm just being honest, and otherwise, the devastation would have been debilitating for who knows how long. Not that I'm over it, but I can function without losing my sh!t most of the time. Alas, all is forgiven and I will love and miss them forever in spite of what came to light in the wake of tragedy. Holding on to anger for too long can also be harmful in any circumstance.
CONGRATS!!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS!! 🎉🎉🎉 Can’t wait to see both of you being the funniest, wildest, and joyous partners ever!! Love your content and love you! 🤩🤩🤩
The way Charlotte was thanking everyone at the end really was so sweet! No matter how sad/depressed i am, her videos just make me feel so much better! ❤
My ex husband did a similar thing when I told him I was done. I couldnt leave till the end of the week because i needed to pack up my stuff. The next day he tried kissing my neck and thought I had changed my mind because "Women always do". When I finally left it was on my birthday. Gotta say, freedom from him was the best birthday gift he had ever given me XD
47 seconds after upload.. Dang This EXACT scenario happened to my husband with his ex-wife. She walked in at about 6:15 in the morning after she had been out all night. He was waiting for her because somebody had to take care of the kids before he went to work ( military- so being late was really not an option). She came inside sat down on the bed and said, " I f+%ked a guy" and with that she went to bed. He had to call his work and take the day off because who was going to take care of the kids? But then again she was verbally and physically abusive throughout their entire marriage so he was literally programmed to accept whatever she did and never ask questions.
One of the things that makes my head blow up is that the woman didn't hesitate and just told him like yeah you know what happened, she admitted that she cheated on him like if it didn't matter... What the hell!!! And of course it wasn't the first time! That's awful
I'm a psych major, getting drunk/high doesn't make you a different person, it only allows you to reveal your true character more unapologetically, but it doesn't change you. Cheating is a moral failing, if that moral failing isn't in you, no matter how inebriated you are, you won't cheat. The saying "drunk words speak sober heart" is pretty accurate. I agree, the women from the first story being so comfortable hurting her husband and cheating almost definitely means that she's cheated before and has gone through the initial guilt and remorse, so her reaction to it is jaded, which is why she had a "it's no big deal" attitude. It seems like she uses s*x to show love or affection, maybe she was abused and now feels that s*x is love, or maybe she has low self-worth and feels that s*x is the only thing she has to offer, or maybe she has an addiction or mental health problem, either way she needs therapy and lots of self-work. If anyone is ever cheated on and the person has this type of jaded reaction, it's highly likely they've cheated before. Sidenote, that ring is so beautiful, Congratulations! *PS: Not sociopathic behavior, more narcissistic. A sociopath would try to twist this into the victim's fault they cheated and make jabs to try destroy the last bit of the victim's self-esteem, or make threats like "you'll never find anyone as good as me, you didn't deserve me," they often switch moods quickly going from threats to trying to charm, they're also often dominant and have no regard for social rules or laws, they don't take no for an answer. A narcissist is going to cry for their own feelings surrounding a divorce, a sociopath isn't going to care about feelings and move onto their next victim without a care.*
@@AshleahShortcake as someone who grew up with a severe alcoholic, I respectfully disagree. My dad once told me at 9 I was acting like a little slut when all I was doing was eating pizza at Pizza Hut. Kicking my feet like a kid. Because I was. So you can honestly tell me my dad thought I was a slut before I was even attracted to boys, he felt that way sober? I do not think so. He is sick, and it was a sick thing to say. Just like that girl is sick.
Yeah it’s the casual way she walked in coming home like she thought nothing of it and the way she just said “you know what I’ve been doing” like no explanation no trying to say sorry and grovel… she isn’t sorry and she has done it before and will definitely do it again. She thinks he will forgive her without consequence! 😡
I no longer play music in my car, since I lost my mom 18 months ago, I found you & watch/listen to you DAILY, even old videos! I love you and CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT 🎉 Can’t wait to see your wedding process ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss! Things will get easier but keep in mind that there is no time limit for grieving and many never get over their losses completely. People learn to live around the loss instead. If you find this is the case with you, it's completely normal. Please be kind to yourself and know that it's also normal to go through emotional rollercoasters especially the first few years. I know this isn't the same and our experiences are very different, but when I found out my ex of 7 years cheated on me, it took a long time before I could listen to music and even longer for specific songs. It's been 3 years and while I'm a lot better, there are still a handful I still can't listen to. I'm not sure if I'll ever get over it completely but only time will tell.
Ahhh Charlotte, your ending was so sweet! I’m so excited for you and Mike. Talk about a great and perfect fit! He’s just as adorable as you are. And your ring is sooo beautiful!
Hey Charlotte! Sober alcoholic here and sex addict who has recovered through therapy. I have many years of sobriety under my belt. And I can say from experience that alcohol does turn people into someone completely different. Someone they themselves usually hate. I cheated on my ex husband. This over 8 years ago just before our divorce and just before I got sober. I drank more because I hated myself when I was sober. When I was drunk like the woman in that story I didn't care. She likely was drunk when she came home and so didn't care. The moment she woke up sober all those feelings of self hate came back. Guaranteed she feels remorse and hates herself and maybe doesn't know how to change. She may very well also be a sex addict. Good on OP for divorcing her because she needs to take that self healing journey alone. But I hope like me she finds a new and amazing life for herself maybe alcohol free and definitely with a good amount of therapy!
Thank you for your honesty and direct approach. I was also pretty much in the same situation 40 years ago. Lucky for me, my husband gave me the option to quit drinking or get a divorce, plus we had good insurance to pay for therapy. With therapy and AA. I quit. Another thing people do not realize is what a TOTAL BLACK OUT is. I woke up in places I didn't remember going to, or know where TF I was. The mind is so screwed on alcohol.
Thats why i dont can drink a lot when im out with my friends. I love sex and under the influence its even worst. Im afraid i would say yes to someone and break my beautiful mariage. Also Biggest turn on. On my brother's bachelor party, a hot woman tried to get my husband number. My man pulled the "i married his sister. She a good wife" showing his ring❤
Congrats on the engagement! You spark so much joy for me. Thank you! My bf puts your videos on for me when I'm feeling sick or tired or any kind of bad.
Limburger cheese stinks like something d!$ed when its not old. My dads BF put it on the manifold of his STBX's car. In the winter. When you have to use the heater.😂😂😂
I couldn't imagine telling my spouse that I had an affair and then just going to take a nap (in our bed!) - without washing the other man off me! And then trying to get my husband to sleep with me - still while not having washed off the prior man! The whole: "You know what I did. I met him, went to his house, spent the night and took an Uber home." Like she's placing an order at a fast food restaurant, as if it's no big deal. I knew it, but the icing on the cake was when she said it wasn't the first time! I feel so heartbroken for him.
Charlotte!! Thank you for your consistency, for the laughs and congrats to you and Mike! I want to say I’m 6 weeks postpartum and it’s been a tough journey (but the most rewarding and amazing experience too I love my baby). I started watching you about 6 months pregnant and I’m sure my baby knows your voice LOL P.S. I NEEEEEEEEEED the color block stay pretty sweater please restock it (size 3x thx 😂)
Smartest thing he did was tell her parents why he was leaving and her answer to his questions. They got to hear the situation before she could poison them against him. I think she was angry crying because she figured she had him and he would do anything to keep her. When he packed his bags and just walked away she got mad because he didn’t try to make it work.
This always bugs me. Why would anyone want to stay with a hoe? Eww. And if the guy is cheating, it’s the same… why would anyone want to stay with someone that gross. Eww. They literally put YOUR life at risk when they sleep around. If they loved you, they wouldn’t do that… it’s plain and simple.
11:59 she is not crying becoz she feels bad or ashamed, she is crying becoz she knows that the other guy won't take care of her or won't make a commitment, like the husband.
One of my exs was a serial cheater. And the moment I was happy and was out with another guy and he saw it he started crying. He didn't normally cry and I still did care for him even though he screwed me over more than once. I ended up leaving the guy I was hanging out with to comfort him and got back with him. Needless to say I was to much of a people pleaser, nieve, and a push over. And ever since him and a couple fails at attempted relationships I found someone that never once treated me bad. Ended up leaving because I was young and was scared I wasn't enough for him but I've never looked back to guys that don't treat me the way I should be since. And I am now happily married to a guy that would rather stay home and play video games than anything and if he goes out anywhere he always wants me to go with him. Side note he doesn't care if I go out with friends or anything and I don't care if he does either. That's just the way he is
A word of practical advice: In a situation like this, don't bother canceling subscriptions, because some of them can be tricky to get out of. Just call the credit card company and tell them your card was stolen. They'll cancel the card and issue you one with a new number. That way, your account can't be used for other things by your ex, who might have made note of the info. :)
All rise, our Honourable Judge Charlotte Dobre has entered the court, otherwise known as Queen and Duchess of Petty • Please open your Petty Books to chapters AITA? Those who are Delulu, and "How are you not embarassed?" After our daily doses of "absolutely not" it will be followed by Charlotte's Reiki session.
Bless his heart... he's worried about needles/a blooddraw when the final boss here is a long white swab that goes in a hole he's not expecting!!! He'll hate her by then for sure!!!
@@Angelonwheels24 is not as noticeable for women as they do ours during a pap, but hell for men. Gonorrhea, chlamydia, the bacterial stds are by swab. Syphilis and hiv/aids are blood.
@@TabithaStabitha Men who've worn catheters may be glad that swabs are for a few seconds vs say overnight or longer. Can't compared them specifically as I haven't been swabbed.
I really don't understand people cheating because they want "new". It's so much better when you know.Your partner really well, and they know you really well as far as what you like. And when you add an emotional bond on top of it, it really is like, sublime. Casual encounters are like eating cold McDonald's in comparison to Michelin Stars cuisine.
Esther Perel says some people seem to need the excitement so you have to find ways to keep things fresh in your relationship. Or don't commit to fidelity. But all of that requires a level of self-knowledge and honesty I suspect few people attain when young.
Back in middle/high school I had a friend who came from a hyper religious family. One of those "Girls can't cut their hair or wear pants" type of christian religions. She kept a pair of jeans in her locker to change into at school. One time she got super crazy with her rebellion and "accidentally" got bleach on the tips of her hair while doing laundry so she'd have a valid excuse to cut her hair. It was only about an inch, her hair was below her butt, it wasn't noticeable but it gave her some joy. (after she got out of her parents house she cut her hair to her chin, and vowed to never wear a dress or skirt ever again.)
Hi Charlotte, I'm a huge fan of yours and I'm 68 yo. You make me laugh and I appreciate that, plus I enjoy your content. I am so happy you've found the love of your life because many people never do. I was together with my husband for 38 years and we were a very close couple. I lost him in 2021 and it's only just within this last year that I've begun to feel better and more like myself. I'll never stop missing him, but I'm on the path to normalcy again. My fondest wish for you and Mike are that you have a blessed marriage like mine was. I hope that you are able to have many more years of happy matrimony though. Bless you both! 💞
Congrats to you & that soon-to-be hubby!! Super excited for you!! Also, just wanted to tell you I really appreciate you always keeping your videos fun & lighthearted. So many of my favorite RUclips influencers are getting so miserable and preachy lately. They aren’t fun to watch anymore. I get why, rude comments all the time would be anybody down, but it really kills it for the rest of us who come to RUclips to escape the misery in the world. You’re amazing!! Thank you for being you!
My former spouse of 15 years would not keep a job - he was in corrections and would stay maybe a year then want to move to another state. First it was Texas, taking along two toddlers. Next was Colorado. A girl he worked with called and told me he had been on the roof of the jail with a coworker. I went to his work early and when he got off I watched him get in a car with another woman and was hugging and kissing. I blew the horn, he jumped out and in and said he was "comforting her" as she had a bad marriage and I said evidently so do we. He apologized a lot. Next move was to FL, had two more children. He came home and told me his coworkers made fun of him because I didn't look like a model. I asked him how when I never get to leave the house. One week after our 4th was born he decided we were to go to Nebraska. He went to a group shelter thing at first, drove him up (with 4 kids in the car) and drove back, kept working, packing, etc. He tells me a coworker at work let him stay with him. I move up with the moving truck and not even a hug. He was very standoffish. The guys wife was Asian, a thing he always liked. I finally asked him so what happened and he said it wasn't s*x, she just tooted the horn and he woke up a FEW TIMES and she lived 2 doors away and had the never to come over!!! Her husband eventually left her. I said that's it, I'm moving back to WV and we all did. He was working for the state police and said if I let him quit and go back to college and finish, he would work and let me quit (worked at a hospital 10 hour days 7 days a week, he was basically the babysitter). So he started back and I kept getting early morning calls from a woman. He said it was a woman he was tutoring (he was a D student at best). I started at the same college in addition to work. She left notes threatening me on my truck. At this point we both had our own apartments at the school. My oldest said he came home and caught him with said woman and she was learning to play the *recorder* and she said it wasn't s*x really..long story short I moved to FL, he went to live with his mom, played the field, got the woman to come down there (and he had given her the car I left him) and rented her another car to go home to WV to get stuff and come back and she ended up calling him to come get it, it's at Kroger. Guess who he asked to take him after calling me every name in the book to his family? I had remarried by this time. He is a hobos*xual, going from woman to woman, married a women with a good income and put her in bankruptcy and ended up taking another girlfriend to his wife's house to get his things. He's in his 60s now and still the same routine, still talks rash about me (haven't spoken to him since 2009) and even the kids can't stand him for things he has done. p.s. his latest girlfriend looks like a dude with a bad haircut and is very foul mouthed. He goes from woman to woman until they ask him to help pay the bills then he leaves, he quit working in 1995 by the way. It was like getting rid of a boil on your tushy. Met him in 1980 and he is still a you-know-what and tells everybody it was my fault. When his mother was diagnosed with cancer, he left her in the hospital and moved many states away and even though she was never good to me, my husband and I moved her in and took care of her until she passed.
Thanks for "hobosexual"😅😅. I'd heard of homosocial (likes/loves men for everything except "giggity") but that was a new one. Visually I'm picturing Tom Sawyer/Huck Finn with his belongings tied up in a coloured paisley handkerchief on his "stick" slung over his shoulder.
Whoa, that's a lot to have put up with for so long, and I'm so glad Mr. Hobo-sexual is now your 'was'-band. It's awesome that you've maintained a good sense of humor - the situation isn't funny, but the way you tell it cracks me up: "It was like getting rid of a boil on your tushy." Laughter can truly be the best medicine! Also, it was very kind of you & your husband to have taken in your ex-MIL in her time of need despite a shortage of kindness from her.
Bless you and your husband for taking care of his mom. Y'all are too kind. She was lucky to have you both. It sounds like you really knocked it out of the park with the new husband. Congrats to you two!
Your ex-husband sounds a little like my father. My father was a narcissist, and would move into women’s houses with them. My brother and I called him “the gigolo.” He died several years ago. He’d decided to get his teeth pulled so he could get full dentures, and his dentist warned him repeatedly that he could get an infection from the procedure, which would have been very bad, as he had a compromised immune system. Well. He DID get an infection, which turned into sepsis, which killed him. My brother found a letter in his effects that he’d written but not sent to his dentist, blaming the dentist for killing him.🙄 🤦♀️ Yep. Nothing was EVER Dad’s fault. 🙄
I literally just went through the exact same situation three months ago. I still go back-and-forth with trying to justify being in the relationship but cheating was a hard no for me and my wife knew that so I’m working through those emotions. But for OP, no children and rentis probably your best scenario and one of my friends husband told me recently that he congratulates me on our divorce because it means my world is opened up to find my true person. So I hope OP finds the same same.
There's also "I'm sorry IF I hurt you" ... fake as$ apology to look out for & I also used it in customer service to calm customers down & then be able to sell products to them. I was ace at selling.
Right?! She just walked in rather casually for someone who had been out cheating on her husband all night!!! Like she almost acting like it’s not a big deal and assuming he’s going to forgive her which just tells me she’s not sorry and she will do it again. 😢
Because it'd become a habit at that point, a normal thing she'd do all the time with her friends who also cheat, she'd forgotten it's not normal and acceptable outside of her friend circle.
I love how she has grown in confidence right before our eyes. I remember when she was on another channel, then covid hit and she started this one. I haven’t missed a video. Congratulations to both you and Mike. 🎉
17:49 Charlotte, my ex was diagnosed with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and the whole thing about her being ambivalent that night, then throwing a crying fit the next morning- definitely is Narcissistic or Sociopathic behavior. That doesn’t make them have a diagnosis, only having this behavior consistently and without improvement really tells for sure. But yeah, they don’t have remorse because they don’t have empathy. They cry as a result of getting caught, not because they feel bad about what they did, but because they have been taught that it’s the correct behavioral response they are supposed to express after getting caught.
She thought he was going to roll over and take it that’s why she started crying! Because he packed his stuff! She was just shook! That he was doing something about it. This reads like he is a really nice guy, a loyal guy who is probably a homebody and she was bored. One of those women who likes messy “bad boys” and probably settled for the good guy. This guys deserves better don’t change! Don’t let her change you! Be the nice guy! ( congrats Charlotte! ❤ )
Love you congrats on your upcoming wedding! I do hope we get atleast one picture of you and Mike on the special day. I know we aren't entitled to it but I'm super excited to see how beautiful you two are.
My ex told me more than once that he was having weird...Symptoms...down there and had the nerve to ask if I was cheating on him. Then he got mad when he found out I had got tested for multiple STDs. I didn't JUST get tested because he made comments about something bothering him down there or because he accused of cheating, but I explained to him that I had two other boyfriends before him and never once considered getting tested for anything because we always used protection but I thought since my doctor was asking then I should take the time to find out if anything at all was going on with me so I could be in charge of my physical health. Still made him upset. Man was cheating for sure. Part of me wishes I told his friends and family how he treated me and why I broke up with him but I ultimately decided none of them mattered since they were getting cut out of my life along with him. Not only that but they've known this man for years and some of his closest friends have had falling outs with him for their own reasons so I really don't know how much what I would have to say would shock them. They make a choice every day to care about and forgive him despite how he treats people. EDIT: I tested negative for any STDS by the way thank God
When I first started watching your channel Charlotte I was just engaged. And hearing you say I know how to not be a wifezilla thanks to these videos I felt the exact same. Heading into my 2nd year of marriage now, I hope your wedding is as bumpy smooth as mine was(had a couple bumpy times during but otherwise as perfect as can be lol) My husband chimes in when I'm watching sometimes especially when watching Karen videos and bridezillas 😂😂😂 he's either saying get wrecked Karen! Or happy we both had a simple as hell wedding. I grew up with over the top weddings my husband didn't go to many in his life so he and I wanted as simple as possible.
Asking for therapy after you cheated is like those students who had a whole year to get a good participation grade and then beg for a halff-a..ed, last-minute presentation to avoid a fail. If you want an open marriage, say so from the start. Don't break people's trust and hearts.
omg!! 11:27 reminds me exactly of that part in Forgetting Sarah Marshall where she tried to get back with him and got all whiny and thought giving him a bj would fix their relationship!!! He reacted almost the same way..... Just pushed her away and said he just couldn't because his heart was shattered! Can't believe women would even do this, wow!
Men do that, too. It makes sense if people learn early that giggity is a stand-in for emotional trust, physical safety, and psychological intimacy. Think of the extreme where some abuse survivors get told they are irresistible to their abusers so the survivor essentially caused the abuse. They might believe physical intimacy is the closest they can get to someone and thus a way to manipulate them. In the less extreme case, when partners just disregard any attempt at self-control and allow their own indulgences often enough, maybe they figure the person they’re already with can’t say no to them either. Either way, IMHO giggity EASILY becomes a source of power and currency for getting what someone wants. 🤷🏽♀️
She was crying because she had been caught and not because she was genuinely upset. People like this will lie to your face and you'd have a hard time knowing they were. Congratulations on your engagement!!!!
At least she told you the truth. I give her that much. She could've destroyed you with lies. I'm also glad you had the strength to know who you are and walk away. Happy days!!
@@CharlotteDobre What eyeliner are you wearing? It's so pretty and I've been looking for something that isn't just bold black liquid liner. This liner you're wearing is so soft and subtle and pretty 💕
Congrats on your engagement, just subscribed to help you hit those 2 Million way before the wedding, so excited for you especially after watching your first uploads (which were cute) and how one can see how you developed your style while keeping your authenticity. ❤❤❤❤
Lack of empathy, enititlement to hall passes without permission, no remorse smacks more of a narcissistic type trait than sociopath but that can be a part of being a narc as well
There is a final update to this. The ex and him signed the final papers for their divorce. I believe she was stalling or trying to get him to not go through the divorce as she kept calling and refuse to return any of his attorney calls. Eventually things got back on track and she knew she cant stop it so its done.
Also some of her circle of friends were dropped by their partners after op called and informed them that they are cheaters. They were sus but op calling them made them confront them.
I was hoping the other girl friends would get confronted. I'm glad op told them.
They belong to the streets 😂
Thanks for the update
The phrase Crocodile Tears comes from an old Egyptian myth. They used to believe crocodiles cried tears while eating their victims.
Prayers for the guys that got cheated on an plus steak tastes better than hamburgers any day
I finally left my fiancé! I was sooooo over him treating me like crap. My sister is turning my bachelorette party into an un-engagement party!!! 🎉
Congratulations girlie❤❤❤🎉
Congratulations Bestie! 🎉
Yay! Good for you babes.
Congrats boss babe 🎉
WOOHOOOO LETS GOOOO
Cheating is not a mistake; it is a choice. Don’t ever buy “it’s not what you think”, “this is not what it looks like”, etc. because you cannot unsee.
And because it probably is what you think
I hate when they get caught and say that “it’s not what it looks like 😮”
Lmao. So it doesn’t look like Jamal has his sausage inside of you? Ok cool. Glad we got that cleared up 😑
@@thaddeuswoodruff8205 right,they just figured they would have some extra fun . Expected to never be caught. Oops!
Don't want to lose your marriage, don't cheat. Really not that hard. Have friends that do cheat, don't go.out with them. Again, not that hard.
@@ronhall5395 AMEN!!!
As a former STD/HIV nurse for local health dept, GET TESTED EVERY 3 MONTHS IF YOU ARE ACTIVE IN ANY CAPACITY WITH ANOTHER PERSON. TY
I’m in a committed monogamous relationship and we still both get tested every 3-6 months! Not because we’re worried the other will cheat, but because he works in a warehouse and I in vet med and special education, theres always a small small risk of swapping blood with someone. Also gives us both peace of mind, because even though we trust the other not to cheat, we’ve both been cheated on and anxiety can’t always be quelled.
Not fun to do but still… We never know
I’m not in a relationship but if I was, I’d probably do it mostly because I get injections from the doctors quite a few times and have had several different types of surgeries and have had blood transfusions so you never know. I have been tested though and I am all good 👍
Thanks for the advice!
Yes, get tested! I was a naive young wife 35 years ago. I kept getting vaginal infections and stupidly assumed it was just my own body not being healthy, like yeast infections, only worse. (And I was apologizing to my then husband because I was worried I might give it to him. Oy.) My doctor never told me that these were sexually transmitted infections, but did eventually ask me if our relationship was monogamous. I assured him that it was. Ended up, that it most assuredly was not! 😂 I don’t care if you trust him 100%, get tested. Because of my ignorance and trust, I had numerous infections deep in my cervix and then later, cervical cancer. Listen to this nurse 👆🏼, she’s right!
My ex husband when i said if he was going to keep cheating I wanted an open relationship, told me to pack my belongings and leave (less nice than that) and when i in turn notified him i waa filing for divorce he cornered me with our wedding album shouting at me about the promise i made, then started crying, shoved me, and tried to initiate giggity. That was 12 years ago and i still can't rationalize any part of the story except that it was the only relationship i had ever been in. Now i am happily married and starting a family with an amazing, present, and loyal man and i am so glad i ran at 21 from that situation.
Haha it's great when you mention wanting to have an open marriage, HE doesn't want it because then he would be free to "cheat openly" and that's not as exciting to him and he more than likely didn't like the fact that you would have other men, a form of possession and controlling behavior, but he could have as many women as his little heart wanted, ugh trash! It's good that you eventually found an amazing man who adores you and loves to be with only you for the rest of his life ❤🎉
Well done! 🎉
I had to ask many people what means giggity and no one had any idea but then I asked an American and after laughing for a minute he explained it. Eeew lol
Where do these amazing, kind, and present men live in the wild? For science, are they loyal, too?
@@ParadoxicalPoetry Believe it or not, I found mine on Tinder and it ended up we had a lot of friends in common who really pushed us to keep going because it was hard at first with what we'd both been through. 7 years in we are the best of friends and partners. We were always good people, but we had to sort how to always be good to each other. Loyalty and Honesty were core parts of who we were, we just had to learn to trust that about the other.
The "voice in the back of my head" paired with a shot of Quirrell/Voldemort almost killed me! Love you, Queen
She came home and didn't take a shower and then tried to sleep with him after admitting to cheating multiple times is really disgusting. Get tested for sure!!
Was about to comment the exact same thing. I was thinking I missed the part where she took a shower. So gross!
THIS!!
The other man is still all over her, and she believes her husband will have no problem with where her dirty cooch has just been? UGH.
Nasty!
RIGHT?! Like he wants sloppy 23rds??!!
The audacity of the wife to think she could save a marriage even though she has been cheating on him. More than once! A no-brainer; she has issues and is glad he is divorcing her.
Love that!!! Recently separated from my hub for the same reason. Glad you made the call before the wedding. There is better out there!!!!
She asked for "therapy". In my humble opinion, it's a gaslighting technique where the guilty party blames the victim during and at the end of therapy. In this case, based on the current social climate, wifezilla will claim any type of "victim" card she can use against the husband. I will not be surprised if she claims she was just affirming her sexuality and that she still loves him.
My ex was like that. He once called me at 2:00 a.m. and wanted me to know the sl*t he was with had bigger ta-ta's than me. After I divorced him he cried and begged me to take him back. A few years later I ran into his sister. She said that when going thru some old pictures he found some of us together and said he really fu**ed up and lost the best thing that ever happened to him. I just smiled and agreed with her.
@chanmi1957 what a loser ur ex was. I'm glad you got of that relationship. Hope things have been better since u left that piece of trash
@@chanmi1957they always regret it. Hold your head high knowing that he still cries at night.
They always think you won't leave. After 25 (this past 4th of july) years of physical abuse (first 10 years) and verbal and mental abuse, I've been in trauma therapy for 2 months. This past weekend was the worst and told him "I'm done, love you but I haven't liked you for a while". He's now been trying to butter me up for days and offering everything and anything. Haven't changed my mind, won't change my mind🙄
Oh and, he cheated 3 times, came home and giggitied me BEFORE showering...so atleast he knew to say no when she tried😔
💜🖤💜
Damn! Get yourself someplace safe! That's hard!
I'm so very proud of yo for working to get yourself out of that horrible situation!
@@goldengryphon thank you!❤
Good on you for deciding you're done. 💜
@@melissasheppard6674 thank you!
Please if you can consider having your own space and do not tell him or your plans. Good for you for getting out of the terrible situation it’s not easy but it’s worth it!
The ring is now a main character in Charlotte's videos.
@@camillelively I know!!!! I love it so much!!! And the way that yellow compliments her beautiful olive skin!!! I’m so obsessed!!!!
i know! it is so stunning, just like our Charlotte! i could not be happier for her and. Mike❤ could not have happened for 2 more amazingly deserving and loving people!
It looks sooooo good
As it should🥺 so happy for her and Mike💐❤️
@@erikarussell1142💯 agree
Yea my ex was very sneaky about his cheating. He insisted he do all the bill paying, the idea was I couldn't handle the finances. He insisted he was going to work when instead he was out with another girl. He had lost his job, I didn't realize the trouble we where in until the for closer notice showed up. We had 3 kids tougher. When confronted he told me THEN he didn't want kids. (Bit late) I told him to get his crap tougher while he tried to tell me we should shove the kids off on my parents. Two days after this blow out, I see a post on FB that's got my then hubby's name on it. "So excited to be having a baby with (his name here)" and ultrasound photos.
I packed the kids up and left. He tried going after full custody of the kids he claimed he didn't want, but failed miserably when he didn't know their birthdays, or even their full names.
His kids are in their teens now and don't bother talking to him.
We are living our best lives with my boyfriend of 10+years who they say is their dad even if their bio dad won't let him adopt them.
Yikes. Sorry you and your children had to go through that. And also glad you left and are happy now.
He can formally adopt them once the are 18
Family is many times who you choose, not the ones who are related by blood.
My now adult sons refer to my ex as their bio dad, my 20+ year partner is their Dad. It’s the being there, and the things he does to support them that make him Dad.
@@lindapatton4478 right
The level of honesty that comes out of someone's mouth when they're half awake/half drunk in my experience is the truest form of their character and some people don't even realize this version of them exists. I knew someone like this who would have an absolute 180 in personality when in that state and surprise to no one it turned out he was cheating on his wife and was sexist and racist. Thankfully for OP that's the version of her that came home, and when she woke up she realized that conversation was not a dream and she had ratted herself out. Her tears are 100% fake because so is the rest of her. Happy you're moving forward OP.
The best response I’ve ever read on Reddit to finding a divorce lawyer because of a cheating spouse. The one who had been cheated on got a consultation with every divorce lawyer in the city so his soon to be ex couldn’t hire them because it would be a conflict of interest apparently. She had to get another lawyer that was out of state, they lived close to the border of their state, and had to pay double the price for it being across state lines. This being his plan from the beginning.
haha this is diabolical I like it
Nope, sounds like a narc to me.
this is GENIUS
My sisters abusive ex pulled the "call every lawyer first card" and still lost 😂
@@r.coffman1431ok glad he still lost
If he wouldn't have told her mom, I can almost guarantee she would have told her mom she kicked HIM out for abusing her or cheating on her.
You’d be surprised how much some moms know their children
THIS. I always told myself if I ever left my husband for cheating, abuse, anything like that, the first person I’d tell is his mother so he can’t spin some story to her. I will not be the monster in my own negative experience
True. Some women do be like that.
@@notericforeman exactly!! My husband is a smart man so I think he is smart enough to never cheat on me but if he does oooooooohhhhh I’m telling his mama cause now she’s my mama too. Mama would whoop his ass hard! And I told him he would have to go to all the kids who love us from both sides of our family and tell them why we are breaking up.
Again I don’t think he would be dumb enough to destroy our lives and cheat on me and I ESPECIALLY know he wouldn’t ever abuse me because he has a large amount of trauma due to stuff he saw his Mom go through when he was a very young kid. Him and his twin still have a large hatred interest their being for the man that hurt their Mom. They may be a bit bold and a bit sassy but abuse they would never.
That’s why so was furious that he told her mom. She couldn’t make up a story to put the blame of the divorce on him.
I knew a gal who did something similar to her husband. Utterly heart-wrenching to see her dramatic shift from a sweet generous soul into something completely different.
What hannef then
There was another reddit story like this but the guy found his wife in bed with the guy. They were supposed to go on vacation that day and she goes out with her friend and doesn’t come back. He heads to the friends house because he thought they were stayed since it started snowing.
He shows up and finds his wife LAYING on this dudes chest and beats the shit out of the guy. He told his wife she had 5 min to get in the car or to not bother coming back.
His WHOLE marriage was a fucking lie. After she had their first kid she fell into postpartum depression and the only person who could help her was her best friend who took her out 3-4 times a week for “girls night”. She said she didn’t know why she did it but she gave a bartender a blowjob one night and another guy she fucked and then basically stopped feeling guilty.
From that point on for the next like 3 years she would go out 2-3 times a week and fuck another random stranger. Never the same guys twice. One and done.
The poor husband gets a SHARK for a lawyer though and she helps him basically find out who and where. He told his lawyer to stop looking when they reach 50 different guys. They did a paternity test on his daughter who was born after this shit show started and surprise she is not his.
They finally meet each other in the lawyers office to mediate the divorce and to keep things civil. His wife confessed to knowing that his daughter wasn’t his and that she DIDNT know who the father was. There were too many men to be sure. The husband basically throws her out, they live in at fault state, and with the evidence he had they got him full custody of both kids.
The wife basically never expected to get caught and lost all her friends (besides the one helping her cheat) and her parents, who threw her out after they heard the full details of her “escapades”.
The husband gave a year update and said he was doing good and had just been him and his kids. He had been tentatively dating a nice lady he met in a support group but swore never to marry again.
The now ex wife basically having nuked her life and literally fled the country and is now living in Australia.
As far as stories go, that was probably the worst one I had EVER read. This video is a close second now.
The use of "balling" instead of "bawling" made me mentally picture her jumping out of bed dribbling a basketball like a pro.
That's funny he also said "speak my piece" instead of peace
@@Angelonwheels24 The correct phrase actually is "speak my piece", though, as in "to state my side/my part of the matter." It's not supposed to be "peace" (and also, logically, there's really nothing peaceful about it in this sort of situation). That's reserved phrases like for "hold your peace" -- as in remain silent (peaceful) as opposed to "speak now".
I could see that, but for me, "balling" vs. "bawling" had me mentally picturing her trying to...well. What she got in trouble for doing, if you will. Especially since she literally tried to do it to him also after she started "balling" before he rejected her advances.
Thank you for the knowledge drop@@FormerChildProdigy
Yeah, she'd been balling for quite some time.
When my husband and I first got together, about 4 months in, I started getting HORRIBLE pelvic pain. Went to the doc and they ran a complete test panel. I found out I had 2 STDs that I'd had for over a year. Got them from MY XH!! I was in tears having to tell my now husband what the results were. We were on MAJOR antibiotics together and my now husband beat the brakes off my XH!
Edit: when a cheater tries to get into you, it should tell you 2 things;
1) they think s*x fixes everything
2) s*x is the only acceptable way they know to fake intimacy
3) they clearly confuse emotional and physical intimacy
Good thing XH is an XH. Best wishes to you💜
when i clicked on the video and saw you for your "hey everybody", i did a double take. Girl i dont know what youre doing in the shadows but you are glowing and your aura is happy and bright. keep it up!
Hello! Psychologist with a PhD in mental health psychology here (although I do not speak for all psychologists and my knowledge is based in UK practice). We actually don't use the term 'sociopath' - sociopathy hasn't actually been the correct term for a long time now, since the 1980s. I personally blame the BBC Sherlock for that misinformation being spread, although I'm sure there are many reasons...but Sherlock is my personal nemesis.
When people talk about sociopathy in social media these days, what they usually mean these days is either something called Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). These are characterised by some of the things we assigned to sociopathy back in the day. For example, ASPD has that lack of empathy, and a persistent and enduring pattern of violating the rights of others, and NPD has things like fragile self-esteem, a need for admiration, believing that they are somehow special and unique and better than everyone else.
I think something that is VERY important to note is that these are personality disorders. They often emerge in adolescence and into early adulthood, and some people can identify it in themselves and seek help. Some people can manage personality disorders really well, and others really can't. However, sometimes, people absolutely assign these sorts of disorders to people who are simply (technical term incoming) Complete Arseholes.
It's important to know that people can have narcissistic behaviours without having NPD, and people can have a lack of empathy without having ASPD. It's always best not to equate them on a 1:1.
At the end of the day, we only know what has been limited to two posts, and I'd need to have some VERY in-depth conversations and assessments with a person to diagnose anything, but I would say that this person should be assessed for NPD. I'm not saying that she DOES have NPD, but an assessment would help to rule it out or confirm it either way, as she does seem to want to control how people perceive her (with the anger at her husband for revealing her cheating) and she does seem to believe she is 'special' and 'should' be able to do whatever she wants.
She could, however, be a Complete Arsehole. It is possible. Some people behave badly because they have disorders that are unmanaged. Some people behave badly because they are horrible.
This is a ridiculously long comment - and the issue is VERY complex and nuanced, so again please don't take this as gospel, because it is so very complicated. But I hope this was informative and useful!!
With love,
A Fellow Potato
(also I feel like I have the authority to grant Charlotte an honorary PhD in Petty)
Actually, I just think she's hypersexual. A lot of people have it, and can be caused by many things.
I do believe that we, as a society, have a large misunderstanding of mental health even though there has been such a push to take away away any stigma attached to the subject. There hasn't been enough of a push for education. People still equate symptoms to disease. The lack of education of mental health has played rise to throwing the terminology around freely like a southerner calling everyone sweetheart. Another consequence that plagues social media, especially Tik Tok, is the pretenders who get away with it often. All because people are seemingly okay with being ignorant about it.
But a mental disorder does not excuse a person from being an asshole, whether it's diagnosed or not.
I'm sorry but a person cannot go around doing assholly things and just blame it on their diagnosis.
Thanks for the great explanations, I learned some things. I also agree with the other reply in that having a diagnosis is not an excuse, but I would like to say that having a diagnosis, of any sort, is an explanation, not an excuse. My niece and nephew both have Asperger syndrome, nephew has never used it as either an explanation for why he is ‘different’ or an excuse. Niece was diagnosed as an adult and now EVERYTHING that isn’t fantastic in her life is because of the Asperger’s, not her, and includes all her choices and actions before diagnosis as not her fault because she had Asperger’s ( even if she didn’t know it).
Oooh interesting , thank you for the informative comment !
I was married once, we were very young. 19 going on 20. My husband was a loving man. I know he trusted and loved me, at one point. Before he turned 21 and started going out to bars and clubs. We lived only a few blocks from the main area where most of these places were in our town, so it was pretty easy to get there, even though he ended up driving most of the time. So, about 3 or 4 months after his 21st bday, he sat me down and said he loved me and wanted to stay married, but that he wanted an OPEN relationship. I guess drunk chick's that threw themselves at just anyone was too tempting. Of course, I said no, and was very upset. He promised he would not sleep with anyone else if I said no, but I am positive he had already cheated on me. At this point we had 2 young children under 3 years old, and dude I TRUSTED him. Then, I lost a new job I was supposed to start one morning because he had driven MY car to the bar the night previous and wasn't back to be with our kids, and so I could have use of my car to get to the new job. He got back hours later, still kinda drunk, and wouldn't answer my questions. He was smiling like an idiot and mumbling incoherently, and just went right to bed. I checked my car. The armrest that separated the driver and passenger seat was up. There was sand all over the place. I would find out later that he had gone skinny dipping with one of the skanks that worked at the one strip club downtown, and had had s*x in the front seat of my car. A few days later I had gotten a family member to watch our kids for a half hour, because there was a show on TV that he said he wanted me to remind him of when it started, so I was headed to his friends place, where he said he was playing video games at. At this time neither of us had cell phones. There were the Nokia Tracfones, and the other cell phones were ones you paid big money for, and we just couldn't afford them. I get to his friends apartment, and a girl in lingerie opened the door. Inside was another scantily clad girl, and my husband and his friend, who were wearing only boxers. Really, I recall getting so dizzy, then tunnel vision, and I only remember snippets because my brain could not understand. The girls ran out of the room, crying and acting pitiful and scared. I'm sure I did not look pleased, and while I've been told I can be intimidating I think they were just playing it up. I wish I had gone after them and yanked them around by thier hair a bit, but I remember telling them that I didn't really blame them. They probably knew he was married but didn't know me and didn't care. I'm not sure how the conversation with my husband went, but I can guess. I know I was so angry that I could hardly breathe. I stormed out after screaming at him. His friend, who I also felt betrayed by because I thought we were friends, was trying to calm me and saying things like 'it's just s*x'. Soon after, I went to the courthouse and did ALL the paperwork, and paid, for the divorce myself. There were many other instances that still shock me now, but why hold on? Why stay in a marriage with someone who clearly did not know what love was anymore, and didn't care enough about me to even be safe while out cheating? Our kids are 23 and 24 now. There's been ups and downs but I think taking the fastest way out of that relationship in a fairly brief time was the best thing that could have happened. It sure did hurt. I already had dealt with self esteem issues since before I knew what those words mean, and I was deeply heartbroken because I loved him so much. He had been so sweet to me. I had trouble trusting men for so long after, and still probably do, which is why I am focusing on myself and my career and my children now. This was all about 20 years ago now though, and I am LONG over him, even though that breach of trust changed something in me. I feel awful for those that have to go through infidelity and all the downfalls of a toxic partner. Save yourselves! You are FAR better off without them, believe me!! Don't wake up every day wondering if you are the only one, and walk around with a rock in your gut and your heart slowly disintegrating. Especially if you have kids! Save them from watching fights, crying, etc...Don't let them think this is how relationships are, show them that both thier parents made smart decisions for everyone, even if it hurts for a littlewhile. No one deserves to be in unnecessary emotional pain everyday, because eventually it could escalate, then you might be on one of the true crime channels on YT, for sh*t that'll land someone in jail for the rest of thier lives, lol.
what happend to him?
@@rubinfeuerherz3799 To my ex husband? He's living in another state with a wife he started hooking up with when he was in his early 30s and she was sixteen, and 3 of his 8 children, lol. We don't really talk anymore. From what I hear he still is not a one partner person.
@@bell6dandy564 SIXTEEN?!
@@phoenixtail95 yep. I mean, i didn't WITNESS it, but we all know. She's in her mid to late 20s now, and they would deny it but yeah totally.
You say you loved him facts are women don't love there men unconditionally
I used to drink and party A LOT as a teenager & in my young 20s & I know exactly what she felt like when she came home and just said everything w/o caring, not that I cheated like that, but after destroying her body and mind all night with alcohol & prob some drugs shes was just wiped out, still fd up & didnt care. But when she woke up she realized she was caught and freaked out.
I also thought her behaviour was fairly "excusable" as she probably wasn't herself when she had that initial conversation, between sleep deprivation and alcohol (and maybe other substances)
NPE Not Petty Enough. Be petty, leave her with the rent, and put cat food in the hem of the curtain. 😂😂😂
Shrimp tails are easier to conceal
I think raw chicken smells the worst 😂
Y'all are diabolical 😂
Unrelated to a relationship, I left tuna juice in a storage plastic drawer that was to sit in the main hallway in a female housing as a parting gift. The other woman living there constantly tried talking shit and was obnoxiously loud during sleep hours the month I stayed. So I stayed calm and just left that little gift for them. I hope they enjoyed the mystery prize.
Cocktail shrimp is better than cat food.
These kinds of stories make me so relieved that my fiancé is absolutely nothing like this. Speaking of fiancé’s, CONGRATULATIONS CHARLOTTE! I wish you and Mike all the happiness in the world!
When I heard the husband got the cheating wife's mommy involved, all I thought about in my head was Ms. Schwartz screaming "Whaaat! Whaat! Whaawhaat!" in a Christmas Story. 😂🤣😂🤣
Not a sociopath, but a serial cheater. The fact that she came home and said "You know what." Passed out and tried to convince him to stay by throwing herself at him. Eww. I'm so glad he left her.
PS congratulations again on your engagement as well as all the other events during this year. It's a 24 Karat year for you.
Exactly my thoughts. I dealt with a serial cheater before and this made me think of him right away. Leaving him was the best thing I did. No hate to him, he clearly has issues he needs to work out but mentally I’ve been better off without him. Glad this guy got out right away!
You could say sociopathic behavior, possibly, but not dub her a sociopath. She has to meet certain criteria to earn that label.
I would say narcissist.
People jump to use narcissist or narcissistic too often and usually don't use it correctly.
But this particular woman was definitely a narcissist.
She only thought of herself. Everyone was right when they said she cried for how people would judge her not what she was loosing.
Because in her mind she was loosing face and a "Marriage". Not the person she was married to.
It takes a lot of time to heal from what narcissistic people do to you too. Especially to walk away and understand they didn't care about you, just what you gave them on a daily basis.
They eventually get angry at you, it's when this proper anger (not the staged anger they express in the early stages) comes through that they finally leave you alone.
They let go because they've finally come to terms that they've lost their meal ticket and need to find a new one.
@@j.jtilling1722 Sociopathy and Narcissism go hand in hand, you can have a narcissist that isn't a sociopath but all Sociopaths are Narcissists. at the very least yes she is a Narcissist, but its the lack of empathy, the quick switch emotions that sociopaths do when they realize they are expected to feel certain things, and what feels like the inability to understand social norms. (you don't just go to sleep for like 12 hours after telling your husband point blank you cheated) that make me feel like she is a sociopath.
What I find weird, is that he never mentions any 'off' behavior on her part aside from the cheating. If she was a Narcissist, let alone a Sociopath, the red flags should be obvious at least in hindsight. And usually people in that kind of situation suddenly start seing all the red flags they previously ignored, because the were still in love with that person. But well, maybe he was still too much in shock.
Still. There are people that are addicted to cheating, the same way people are addicted to gambling. It's completely irrational and dangerous behavior when looking at it from the outside, but they can't seem to stop themselves even though they know it's wrong and harmful.
Her being drunk or possibly on some kind of substance when she was caught, kinda points to that. She made no attempt to hide what happened. She also readily admitted to having cheated before, which isn't at all typical for the calculating, manipulative behavior of someone with said personality disorders.
She also didn't try to gaslight him into somehow being responsible for her cheating (by neglecting her or such).
I don't know. But to me, she seems more like someone whose addiction behavior spiraled out of control than someone with a personality disorder.
First story. My exwife did the same, the same year we bought our house and had our daughter. She took our daughter to his house hours away, and refused to come home for over 24 hours.
I served her papers 20 days later.
It still hurts(it been over a year), ut it was the best thing for our daughter.
Be strong, and carry on, dude. It WILL get better.
Hope everything is well for you and your daughter now 😊
Hope you got full custody to protect your daughter
I can't imagine. Like you marry a person and suddenly is like "what? Who did I marry? Were they just acting? How could they hide the level of awful they are"
Thank goodness ur daughter was okay after that bs. I hope ur life is full of happiness and peace
I’m sorry that she did this to you and your daughter. Thankfully your pain will completely disappear in time… and I truly hope you find a wonderful woman who will give you the love you deserve..and deeply appreciated the love you give her.
AP also stands for Affair Partner, so yeah, she was at the AP alright.
SHE IS FOR THE STREETS!
I love that the guy wants to brew his angry a little longer. It will actually help him forgive and get over her, because the anger pushes the “love” of what should be.
Can confirm, though in my case, [CW - death] finding out I wasn't the only chicken in the coop helped move the grieving process along when my partner passed unexpectedly in May. That sounds a little cold but I'm just being honest, and otherwise, the devastation would have been debilitating for who knows how long. Not that I'm over it, but I can function without losing my sh!t most of the time. Alas, all is forgiven and I will love and miss them forever in spite of what came to light in the wake of tragedy. Holding on to anger for too long can also be harmful in any circumstance.
@@sashadoom agree
Anger activates you, so it will see him through hiring a good attorney and such.
I Love the evolution of bridezilla to wifezilla ALWAYS with the best roast by Charlotte😂❤
WHAAAAT!! You’re engaged!! I just learned this! Congratulations Charlotte!! This internet stranger is happy for you both!!! ❤️
I’m imagining a woman sobbing, head in hands, crying out “It was *just giggity!!”* with complete seriousness and I just…what???
Imagine it in the world of The Sims, where they'd say "It was just woohoo!"
Meanwhile you have me picturing the woman as Quagmire
@@kentuckyfriedmuffins2461 LMAO
Char with the mermaid hair! I'm here for this
I *love* this hairstyle and in red? Chefs kiss
Ariel's all grown up.
This is such a lovely comment
@@CreativeCreatorCreatesI totally agree. I love this! I wish my curls would look like this
CONGRATS!!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS!! 🎉🎉🎉
Can’t wait to see both of you being the funniest, wildest, and joyous partners ever!! Love your content and love you! 🤩🤩🤩
The way Charlotte was thanking everyone at the end really was so sweet! No matter how sad/depressed i am, her videos just make me feel so much better! ❤
My ex husband did a similar thing when I told him I was done. I couldnt leave till the end of the week because i needed to pack up my stuff. The next day he tried kissing my neck and thought I had changed my mind because "Women always do". When I finally left it was on my birthday. Gotta say, freedom from him was the best birthday gift he had ever given me XD
A PERFECT day to do it too! It's a start of another cycle for you ... and I hope you've had the happiest of birthdays since!
@@AuditClerk They have been pretty decent, I usually celebrate by making mixed drinks, eating my favorite foods and binging my favorite movies.
@@fiestybritt9389 💝
You gave yourself the gift bestie ❤
Now tell both sides of the story, because your side isn't the only one that matters. But you were perfect, right? ;)
Congratulations on the engagement to Mike, Char! Delighted for ye!!! ❤
Wife was crying because she was truly stunned that he was leaving her. She never saw that coming. Astounding!
They always think they're in control and you will never leave them. 😅
I don't know why but I imagine the surprised Pikachu face and it's makes me laugh so hard 😂😂
I doubt she was crying over the loss as much as she was crying over the rejection and finding out she had no power over him anymore.
47 seconds after upload.. Dang
This EXACT scenario happened to my husband with his ex-wife. She walked in at about 6:15 in the morning after she had been out all night. He was waiting for her because somebody had to take care of the kids before he went to work ( military- so being late was really not an option). She came inside sat down on the bed and said, " I f+%ked a guy" and with that she went to bed. He had to call his work and take the day off because who was going to take care of the kids? But then again she was verbally and physically abusive throughout their entire marriage so he was literally programmed to accept whatever she did and never ask questions.
I'm glad and hope he is happy in his new life with you 😊
Glad he's outta THAT marriage and with you now! 🌠Wishing y'all all the best! 🫶🏻
One of the things that makes my head blow up is that the woman didn't hesitate and just told him like yeah you know what happened, she admitted that she cheated on him like if it didn't matter... What the hell!!! And of course it wasn't the first time! That's awful
I'm a psych major, getting drunk/high doesn't make you a different person, it only allows you to reveal your true character more unapologetically, but it doesn't change you. Cheating is a moral failing, if that moral failing isn't in you, no matter how inebriated you are, you won't cheat. The saying "drunk words speak sober heart" is pretty accurate. I agree, the women from the first story being so comfortable hurting her husband and cheating almost definitely means that she's cheated before and has gone through the initial guilt and remorse, so her reaction to it is jaded, which is why she had a "it's no big deal" attitude. It seems like she uses s*x to show love or affection, maybe she was abused and now feels that s*x is love, or maybe she has low self-worth and feels that s*x is the only thing she has to offer, or maybe she has an addiction or mental health problem, either way she needs therapy and lots of self-work. If anyone is ever cheated on and the person has this type of jaded reaction, it's highly likely they've cheated before. Sidenote, that ring is so beautiful, Congratulations!
*PS: Not sociopathic behavior, more narcissistic. A sociopath would try to twist this into the victim's fault they cheated and make jabs to try destroy the last bit of the victim's self-esteem, or make threats like "you'll never find anyone as good as me, you didn't deserve me," they often switch moods quickly going from threats to trying to charm, they're also often dominant and have no regard for social rules or laws, they don't take no for an answer. A narcissist is going to cry for their own feelings surrounding a divorce, a sociopath isn't going to care about feelings and move onto their next victim without a care.*
@@AshleahShortcake as someone who grew up with a severe alcoholic, I respectfully disagree. My dad once told me at 9 I was acting like a little slut when all I was doing was eating pizza at Pizza Hut. Kicking my feet like a kid. Because I was. So you can honestly tell me my dad thought I was a slut before I was even attracted to boys, he felt that way sober? I do not think so. He is sick, and it was a sick thing to say. Just like that girl is sick.
I figure there's a huge narccisist personality disorder going around and she has peak NPD.
@@AshleahShortcake although you may be right on her justification. We will honestly never really know what goes on in another’s head.
Yeah it’s the casual way she walked in coming home like she thought nothing of it and the way she just said “you know what I’ve been doing” like no explanation no trying to say sorry and grovel… she isn’t sorry and she has done it before and will definitely do it again. She thinks he will forgive her without consequence! 😡
I suspected as much for a long time. It's good to see an expert confirm my suspicions.
I no longer play music in my car, since I lost my mom 18 months ago, I found you & watch/listen to you DAILY, even old videos! I love you and CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT 🎉 Can’t wait to see your wedding process ❤️
That's something no one ever talks about when going through grief. Music becomes impossible to listen to I still have trouble 4 years later
I'm sorry for your loss! Things will get easier but keep in mind that there is no time limit for grieving and many never get over their losses completely. People learn to live around the loss instead. If you find this is the case with you, it's completely normal. Please be kind to yourself and know that it's also normal to go through emotional rollercoasters especially the first few years.
I know this isn't the same and our experiences are very different, but when I found out my ex of 7 years cheated on me, it took a long time before I could listen to music and even longer for specific songs. It's been 3 years and while I'm a lot better, there are still a handful I still can't listen to. I'm not sure if I'll ever get over it completely but only time will tell.
@@Angelonwheels24 I have the opposite. Music helps me through it. Best wishes to you.
Ahhh Charlotte, your ending was so sweet! I’m so excited for you and Mike. Talk about a great and perfect fit! He’s just as adorable as you are. And your ring is sooo beautiful!
Hey Charlotte! Sober alcoholic here and sex addict who has recovered through therapy. I have many years of sobriety under my belt. And I can say from experience that alcohol does turn people into someone completely different. Someone they themselves usually hate. I cheated on my ex husband. This over 8 years ago just before our divorce and just before I got sober. I drank more because I hated myself when I was sober. When I was drunk like the woman in that story I didn't care. She likely was drunk when she came home and so didn't care. The moment she woke up sober all those feelings of self hate came back. Guaranteed she feels remorse and hates herself and maybe doesn't know how to change. She may very well also be a sex addict. Good on OP for divorcing her because she needs to take that self healing journey alone. But I hope like me she finds a new and amazing life for herself maybe alcohol free and definitely with a good amount of therapy!
Good for you that you chose sobriety. ❤
Congrats on your recovery 😊
Thank you for adding depth to the discussion
Thank you for your honesty and direct approach. I was also pretty much in the same situation 40 years ago. Lucky for me, my husband gave me the option to quit drinking or get a divorce, plus we had good insurance to pay for therapy. With therapy and AA. I quit. Another thing people do not realize is what a TOTAL BLACK OUT is. I woke up in places I didn't remember going to, or know where TF I was. The mind is so screwed on alcohol.
Thats why i dont can drink a lot when im out with my friends. I love sex and under the influence its even worst. Im afraid i would say yes to someone and break my beautiful mariage.
Also Biggest turn on. On my brother's bachelor party, a hot woman tried to get my husband number. My man pulled the "i married his sister. She a good wife" showing his ring❤
Fun fact, AP also stands for Affair Partner. 1:08
You beat me to it
Alternative partner too
We love you Charlotte, congratulations again!!! You will be a great wife, you don't need these videos ❤
Congrats on the engagement!
You spark so much joy for me. Thank you!
My bf puts your videos on for me when I'm feeling sick or tired or any kind of bad.
Awww that’s so sweet
Limburger cheese stinks like something d!$ed when its not old. My dads BF put it on the manifold of his STBX's car. In the winter. When you have to use the heater.😂😂😂
I'm so glad!
@@LifeofAriana578 I'll be crying and trying to calm down and he says "wanna watch some girlie pop?" that's what he calls Charlotte 🤣
@@WheelieToasted OMGGGGG 😂
I couldn't imagine telling my spouse that I had an affair and then just going to take a nap (in our bed!) - without washing the other man off me! And then trying to get my husband to sleep with me - still while not having washed off the prior man! The whole: "You know what I did. I met him, went to his house, spent the night and took an Uber home." Like she's placing an order at a fast food restaurant, as if it's no big deal. I knew it, but the icing on the cake was when she said it wasn't the first time! I feel so heartbroken for him.
Charlotte!! Thank you for your consistency, for the laughs and congrats to you and Mike! I want to say I’m 6 weeks postpartum and it’s been a tough journey (but the most rewarding and amazing experience too I love my baby). I started watching you about 6 months pregnant and I’m sure my baby knows your voice LOL
P.S. I NEEEEEEEEEED the color block stay pretty sweater please restock it (size 3x thx 😂)
Smartest thing he did was tell her parents why he was leaving and her answer to his questions. They got to hear the situation before she could poison them against him.
I think she was angry crying because she figured she had him and he would do anything to keep her. When he packed his bags and just walked away she got mad because he didn’t try to make it work.
This always bugs me. Why would anyone want to stay with a hoe? Eww. And if the guy is cheating, it’s the same… why would anyone want to stay with someone that gross. Eww. They literally put YOUR life at risk when they sleep around. If they loved you, they wouldn’t do that… it’s plain and simple.
Once a cheater always a cheater my grandma used to say. They are addicted to the danger of it. No trust, no marriage.
Yeah my husband cheated on me after 23 years and he left me for someone else. Now he tries to cheat on her with me.....nope
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The way my jaw DROPPED when he wrote that she tried to be intimate with him😱
Funny ... lmao not only is the parents mad. But all the friends. She got them all busted... good shit. So glad he let everyone know..
That part was my favorite. Now they all gon be pissed at her 😂
I'm glad he left her. The fact she tried to sleep with him, after admitted to cheating speaks volumes of her character
"Just another one, usual behaviour"!
11:59 she is not crying becoz she feels bad or ashamed,
she is crying becoz she knows that the other guy won't take care of her or won't make a commitment, like the husband.
One of my exs was a serial cheater. And the moment I was happy and was out with another guy and he saw it he started crying. He didn't normally cry and I still did care for him even though he screwed me over more than once. I ended up leaving the guy I was hanging out with to comfort him and got back with him. Needless to say I was to much of a people pleaser, nieve, and a push over. And ever since him and a couple fails at attempted relationships I found someone that never once treated me bad. Ended up leaving because I was young and was scared I wasn't enough for him but I've never looked back to guys that don't treat me the way I should be since. And I am now happily married to a guy that would rather stay home and play video games than anything and if he goes out anywhere he always wants me to go with him. Side note he doesn't care if I go out with friends or anything and I don't care if he does either. That's just the way he is
A word of practical advice: In a situation like this, don't bother canceling subscriptions, because some of them can be tricky to get out of. Just call the credit card company and tell them your card was stolen. They'll cancel the card and issue you one with a new number. That way, your account can't be used for other things by your ex, who might have made note of the info. :)
And be sure they turn the Visa Updater OFF. Otherwise, they still might get your updated card number(s).
Your hair looks sooooo awesome Charlotte.
All rise, our Honourable Judge Charlotte Dobre has entered the court, otherwise known as Queen and Duchess of Petty
• Please
open your Petty Books to chapters
AITA? Those who are Delulu, and
"How are you not embarassed?"
After our daily doses of "absolutely not" it will be followed by Charlotte's Reiki session.
And then the petty potatoes will desperse to our own dwellings to spread the pettiness ❤
The Lion, The Witch, and The Audacity of This Bitch is my favorite chapter in the Petty Book. 😂
@@pablodelsegundo9502
That’s my favorite to! 😂😂❤❤❤
So excited to see Charlotte showing off her beautiful engagement ring Mike did such a good job. It is gorgeous !!!!
Thank you so much!❤
We need a law that the cheater has to move out... The cheatie shouldn't ever have to crash on friend's sofa. 💙💙💙
Bless his heart... he's worried about needles/a blooddraw when the final boss here is a long white swab that goes in a hole he's not expecting!!! He'll hate her by then for sure!!!
😂
What lmao I've been tested for everything and never had that test which one is that for ?!?
@@Angelonwheels24 is not as noticeable for women as they do ours during a pap, but hell for men. Gonorrhea, chlamydia, the bacterial stds are by swab. Syphilis and hiv/aids are blood.
@@TabithaStabitha Men who've worn catheters may be glad that swabs are for a few seconds vs say overnight or longer. Can't compared them specifically as I haven't been swabbed.
@@johncmitchell4941 oooh, I wish I had a dollar for every single catheter I've ever had to endure. I'm sure you do as well ❤️
I really don't understand people cheating because they want "new".
It's so much better when you know.Your partner really well, and they know you really well as far as what you like. And when you add an emotional bond on top of it, it really is like, sublime.
Casual encounters are like eating cold McDonald's in comparison to Michelin Stars cuisine.
Some people are just hypersexual. Had friends who were like that (not anymore). Some women are just super horny.
Esther Perel says some people seem to need the excitement so you have to find ways to keep things fresh in your relationship. Or don't commit to fidelity. But all of that requires a level of self-knowledge and honesty I suspect few people attain when young.
Omg! Congrats on the engagement! You guys are so cute together! Hope it goes well ❤
Back in middle/high school I had a friend who came from a hyper religious family. One of those "Girls can't cut their hair or wear pants" type of christian religions. She kept a pair of jeans in her locker to change into at school. One time she got super crazy with her rebellion and "accidentally" got bleach on the tips of her hair while doing laundry so she'd have a valid excuse to cut her hair. It was only about an inch, her hair was below her butt, it wasn't noticeable but it gave her some joy. (after she got out of her parents house she cut her hair to her chin, and vowed to never wear a dress or skirt ever again.)
I'm so glad she got out!
I am so happy for her! I hope she’s having the best time and living her best life. ♥️
Hi Charlotte, I'm a huge fan of yours and I'm 68 yo. You make me laugh and I appreciate that, plus I enjoy your content. I am so happy you've found the love of your life because many people never do. I was together with my husband for 38 years and we were a very close couple. I lost him in 2021 and it's only just within this last year that I've begun to feel better and more like myself. I'll never stop missing him, but I'm on the path to normalcy again. My fondest wish for you and Mike are that you have a blessed marriage like mine was. I hope that you are able to have many more years of happy matrimony though. Bless you both! 💞
Congrats to you & that soon-to-be hubby!! Super excited for you!!
Also, just wanted to tell you I really appreciate you always keeping your videos fun & lighthearted. So many of my favorite RUclips influencers are getting so miserable and preachy lately. They aren’t fun to watch anymore. I get why, rude comments all the time would be anybody down, but it really kills it for the rest of us who come to RUclips to escape the misery in the world. You’re amazing!! Thank you for being you!
She's not crying because she's ashamed. She's crying because she's losing the benefit of having a loving husband
My former spouse of 15 years would not keep a job - he was in corrections and would stay maybe a year then want to move to another state. First it was Texas, taking along two toddlers. Next was Colorado. A girl he worked with called and told me he had been on the roof of the jail with a coworker. I went to his work early and when he got off I watched him get in a car with another woman and was hugging and kissing. I blew the horn, he jumped out and in and said he was "comforting her" as she had a bad marriage and I said evidently so do we. He apologized a lot. Next move was to FL, had two more children. He came home and told me his coworkers made fun of him because I didn't look like a model. I asked him how when I never get to leave the house. One week after our 4th was born he decided we were to go to Nebraska. He went to a group shelter thing at first, drove him up (with 4 kids in the car) and drove back, kept working, packing, etc. He tells me a coworker at work let him stay with him. I move up with the moving truck and not even a hug. He was very standoffish. The guys wife was Asian, a thing he always liked. I finally asked him so what happened and he said it wasn't s*x, she just tooted the horn and he woke up a FEW TIMES and she lived 2 doors away and had the never to come over!!! Her husband eventually left her. I said that's it, I'm moving back to WV and we all did. He was working for the state police and said if I let him quit and go back to college and finish, he would work and let me quit (worked at a hospital 10 hour days 7 days a week, he was basically the babysitter). So he started back and I kept getting early morning calls from a woman. He said it was a woman he was tutoring (he was a D student at best). I started at the same college in addition to work. She left notes threatening me on my truck. At this point we both had our own apartments at the school. My oldest said he came home and caught him with said woman and she was learning to play the *recorder* and she said it wasn't s*x really..long story short I moved to FL, he went to live with his mom, played the field, got the woman to come down there (and he had given her the car I left him) and rented her another car to go home to WV to get stuff and come back and she ended up calling him to come get it, it's at Kroger. Guess who he asked to take him after calling me every name in the book to his family? I had remarried by this time. He is a hobos*xual, going from woman to woman, married a women with a good income and put her in bankruptcy and ended up taking another girlfriend to his wife's house to get his things. He's in his 60s now and still the same routine, still talks rash about me (haven't spoken to him since 2009) and even the kids can't stand him for things he has done. p.s. his latest girlfriend looks like a dude with a bad haircut and is very foul mouthed. He goes from woman to woman until they ask him to help pay the bills then he leaves, he quit working in 1995 by the way. It was like getting rid of a boil on your tushy. Met him in 1980 and he is still a you-know-what and tells everybody it was my fault. When his mother was diagnosed with cancer, he left her in the hospital and moved many states away and even though she was never good to me, my husband and I moved her in and took care of her until she passed.
Thanks for "hobosexual"😅😅. I'd heard of homosocial (likes/loves men for everything except "giggity") but that was a new one. Visually I'm picturing Tom Sawyer/Huck Finn with his belongings tied up in a coloured paisley handkerchief on his "stick" slung over his shoulder.
Whoa, that's a lot to have put up with for so long, and I'm so glad Mr. Hobo-sexual is now your 'was'-band. It's awesome that you've maintained a good sense of humor - the situation isn't funny, but the way you tell it cracks me up: "It was like getting rid of a boil on your tushy." Laughter can truly be the best medicine! Also, it was very kind of you & your husband to have taken in your ex-MIL in her time of need despite a shortage of kindness from her.
Bless you and your husband for taking care of his mom. Y'all are too kind. She was lucky to have you both. It sounds like you really knocked it out of the park with the new husband. Congrats to you two!
Your ex-husband sounds a little like my father. My father was a narcissist, and would move into women’s houses with them. My brother and I called him “the gigolo.” He died several years ago. He’d decided to get his teeth pulled so he could get full dentures, and his dentist warned him repeatedly that he could get an infection from the procedure, which would have been very bad, as he had a compromised immune system. Well. He DID get an infection, which turned into sepsis, which killed him. My brother found a letter in his effects that he’d written but not sent to his dentist, blaming the dentist for killing him.🙄 🤦♀️ Yep. Nothing was EVER Dad’s fault. 🙄
I literally just went through the exact same situation three months ago. I still go back-and-forth with trying to justify being in the relationship but cheating was a hard no for me and my wife knew that so I’m working through those emotions. But for OP, no children and rentis probably your best scenario and one of my friends husband told me recently that he congratulates me on our divorce because it means my world is opened up to find my true person. So I hope OP finds the same same.
There's two kinds of I'm sorry:
1. I'm sorry I hurt you
vs.
2. I'm sorry I got caught.
There's also "I'm sorry IF I hurt you" ... fake as$ apology to look out for & I also used it in customer service to calm customers down & then be able to sell products to them. I was ace at selling.
The fact that she is acting all cool. Like GIRL you cheated on your husband. Do you feel no remorse?
Remorse is for the weak
Right?! She just walked in rather casually for someone who had been out cheating on her husband all night!!! Like she almost acting like it’s not a big deal and assuming he’s going to forgive her which just tells me she’s not sorry and she will do it again. 😢
Because it'd become a habit at that point, a normal thing she'd do all the time with her friends who also cheat, she'd forgotten it's not normal and acceptable outside of her friend circle.
Am I the only person who thinks it's nasty she hadn't cleaned up then tried to jump him?
@@silverzip8292🤮🤢🤮 Nope not just you, fellow potatoe
❤So happy for you Charlotte....
True love does exist❤
I love how she has grown in confidence right before our eyes. I remember when she was on another channel, then covid hit and she started this one. I haven’t missed a video. Congratulations to both you and Mike. 🎉
17:49 Charlotte, my ex was diagnosed with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and the whole thing about her being ambivalent that night, then throwing a crying fit the next morning- definitely is Narcissistic or Sociopathic behavior. That doesn’t make them have a diagnosis, only having this behavior consistently and without improvement really tells for sure. But yeah, they don’t have remorse because they don’t have empathy. They cry as a result of getting caught, not because they feel bad about what they did, but because they have been taught that it’s the correct behavioral response they are supposed to express after getting caught.
She thought he was going to roll over and take it that’s why she started crying! Because he packed his stuff! She was just shook! That he was doing something about it. This reads like he is a really nice guy, a loyal guy who is probably a homebody and she was bored. One of those women who likes messy “bad boys” and probably settled for the good guy. This guys deserves better don’t change! Don’t let her change you! Be the nice guy! ( congrats Charlotte! ❤ )
I’m OBSESSED with Charlotte’s hair today 😍
✨ Gorgeous ✨
Lack of empathy, remorse, fake tears=narcissism.
Congratulations on your engagement!!! 💍❤️💕
12:13 this on some Meet the Grahams energy 😂 “You raised a horrible person, the nerve of you Dennis!”
"Sandra, sit down. What I'm about to say is heavy. Now listen... (Ahem)"
Love you congrats on your upcoming wedding! I do hope we get atleast one picture of you and Mike on the special day. I know we aren't entitled to it but I'm super excited to see how beautiful you two are.
I can only assume we are all invited😉
CHARLOTTE! 😂 "Giggity addict" had me rolling hahah love you!❤
8:20 from this day forth, I vow to never doubt Charlotte
My ex told me more than once that he was having weird...Symptoms...down there and had the nerve to ask if I was cheating on him. Then he got mad when he found out I had got tested for multiple STDs.
I didn't JUST get tested because he made comments about something bothering him down there or because he accused of cheating, but I explained to him that I had two other boyfriends before him and never once considered getting tested for anything because we always used protection but I thought since my doctor was asking then I should take the time to find out if anything at all was going on with me so I could be in charge of my physical health. Still made him upset. Man was cheating for sure. Part of me wishes I told his friends and family how he treated me and why I broke up with him but I ultimately decided none of them mattered since they were getting cut out of my life along with him.
Not only that but they've known this man for years and some of his closest friends have had falling outs with him for their own reasons so I really don't know how much what I would have to say would shock them. They make a choice every day to care about and forgive him despite how he treats people.
EDIT: I tested negative for any STDS by the way thank God
When I first started watching your channel Charlotte I was just engaged. And hearing you say I know how to not be a wifezilla thanks to these videos I felt the exact same. Heading into my 2nd year of marriage now, I hope your wedding is as bumpy smooth as mine was(had a couple bumpy times during but otherwise as perfect as can be lol) My husband chimes in when I'm watching sometimes especially when watching Karen videos and bridezillas 😂😂😂 he's either saying get wrecked Karen! Or happy we both had a simple as hell wedding. I grew up with over the top weddings my husband didn't go to many in his life so he and I wanted as simple as possible.
LOVE seeing the flash of the ring whenever you move your hands! So happy for you both 🎉
I work overnight in a trauma center. We get so many calls every night from people looking for their spouses. It's beyond sad.
Asking for therapy after you cheated is like those students who had a whole year to get a good participation grade and then beg for a halff-a..ed, last-minute presentation to avoid a fail.
If you want an open marriage, say so from the start. Don't break people's trust and hearts.
omg!! 11:27 reminds me exactly of that part in Forgetting Sarah Marshall where she tried to get back with him and got all whiny and thought giving him a bj would fix their relationship!!! He reacted almost the same way..... Just pushed her away and said he just couldn't because his heart was shattered! Can't believe women would even do this, wow!
Men do that, too. It makes sense if people learn early that giggity is a stand-in for emotional trust, physical safety, and psychological intimacy.
Think of the extreme where some abuse survivors get told they are irresistible to their abusers so the survivor essentially caused the abuse. They might believe physical intimacy is the closest they can get to someone and thus a way to manipulate them.
In the less extreme case, when partners just disregard any attempt at self-control and allow their own indulgences often enough, maybe they figure the person they’re already with can’t say no to them either.
Either way, IMHO giggity EASILY becomes a source of power and currency for getting what someone wants. 🤷🏽♀️
A bj to fix their relationship???😂😂😂😂 I swear some women
She was crying because she had been caught and not because she was genuinely upset. People like this will lie to your face and you'd have a hard time knowing they were.
Congratulations on your engagement!!!!
At least she told you the truth. I give her that much. She could've destroyed you with lies. I'm also glad you had the strength to know who you are and walk away. Happy days!!
my god, your hair looks extra floofy today, it's gorgeous!
SO FLOOFY thanks bestie
@@CharlotteDobre What eyeliner are you wearing? It's so pretty and I've been looking for something that isn't just bold black liquid liner. This liner you're wearing is so soft and subtle and pretty 💕
the first response is always the real response...
Congrats on your engagement, just subscribed to help you hit those 2 Million way before the wedding, so excited for you especially after watching your first uploads (which were cute) and how one can see how you developed your style while keeping your authenticity. ❤❤❤❤
Honey, these engagement vibes got you gloooowing ❤❤🎉 love that for you 👸😊
This is the earliest I've ever been
Me too 😂
Me three 😂
Congratulations... I'm so happy for u guy.. & he did a great job at picking the ring.. BEAUTIFUL 🎉🎉
Congrats on the engagement!!! You are GLOWING! My BF and I are looking at rings for like a month and I fell in love with one like yours!!!
RING TWINS
Not "balling" = old slang for sex, but bawling = crying
Sheesh 😂
Yeah in this context it's kind of an unfortunate mistake 🤭🤭🤭
CONGRATS!!! I wish you and mike love, prosperity, joy and strength for your beautiful union. I hope you two love and cherish each other eternally. 😁
Lack of empathy, enititlement to hall passes without permission, no remorse smacks more of a narcissistic type trait than sociopath but that can be a part of being a narc as well