I think you maybe right! It sounds like she took her wishes or prayers to make herself righteous. Prayers and wishes don't make you right with God. Take care.
@Dee Ransom Your thought is very correct. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "It is up to her to decide to or NOT to begin taking drugs again"(as you've said, "accountability").
As a former addict (6 years clean now 🙌🏽) I knew she was lying when she opened her mouth. She loves to play victim and blame everyone but herself. NOBODY can make you relapse, you relapse on your own. If someone tries to hand me a pill, I walk away!! I don't even have to say no I just remove myself from that situation and she had the opportunity to do so as well!! Only a person who has already relapsed or is still having cravings will put themselves in a situation to relapse. I hope she gets the help she needs and takes accountability for her wrong doings.
Yes and no there was a divorce case where the wife was complaining about the husband drinking come find a few times that after the husband would complete rehab the wife would pick him up and get completely shit faced (and yes she admitted to do it) the judge jumped on her and she canned her divorce.
Baaaby she tried it, and Your Sobriety is your choice and seeing tho that was your year anniversary you should’ve been saving so that you only had to depend on you… but maybe she had already relapsed and didn’t want Togo And deflected the whole situation, by trying to play the victim
I noticed her weirdo behavior in the first half and the constant projection from her was the biggest Red Flag for me. She also gives such strong Karen Energy with the tears lool. She looks a hot ass mess too with the hair and the messy makeup 😅😭. He's "controlling" because he wants her to get her life together lmao. She has such an unlikable quality to her. Her little 30 days isn't enough. I hope they do a 2 year update!
Her telling him he shouldn’t have messed with her as a response to him saying he doesn’t deal with drugs told me everything I needed to know. She’s a professional victim. Unless he shoved the drugs down your throat, up your nose, or in your skin, IT’S YOUR FAULT!
I wish her the best and pray that she makes her One year recovery, and beyond. I also hope that she realizes that her Boyfriend was trying to help her the best he knew how. Accountability is key.
This 👆. She is absolutely blaming him for her relapse, unreasonably expecting him to be her savior, and not taking personal accountability for HER actions. It’s a shame because he seems like a good guy that cares for her.
It broke my heart when he was describing the woman he met at church. He truly loves her and I’m sure this whole experience has been heartbreaking. Watching somebody self sabotage and blame everyone else while you’re trying everything in your power to help them has got to be awful.
NO' She's NOT! Anybody can take the Negatives of a Person's life depending on what it is. Spin some nonsense/foolishness, to make someone look BAD. That's a shame! SMH!
@@ANGELAKCLAY It is very manipulative to mostly blame him(not mostly herself) for HER decisions and mistakes. Had she blamed herself MOSTLY, as well, I would've given her a bit more understanding, but she didn't. Condoning her behavior of blaming MOSTLY him for her own decision(s) & mistake(s) shows that she is still thinking in the drug addict mentality. One can only imagine how she may have been the times she was doing drugs deeply. She is an adult and should be held majorly accountable for herself & her own decisions.
@@FinDom1 but that's not the rules that's all I'm saying it's wit people going thru recovery as well. It'll probably be smart not to deal wit anyone like u said but that's not what they tell them
I just hope that he never have anything else to do with her… even if she comes back pleading . Run Guy Run !!!..,she is a very toxic addictive manipulator!!!
Gurl I was YELLING AT THE TV 😂😭! She's sitting up there trying to gaslight him and all he was trying to do was get her to be serious about her addiction issues lol smdh. The "crackhead" stories had me cracking up, love when judge says that 🤣.
I believe that this defendant's heart is in the right place but he should've never gotten involved with the plantiff. I'm sure he's glad that he didn't marry her.
He deserves a good woman not after all what he did 4 her and her child. She's manipulative and really did a good job in leading him on to continue in a relationship with her. She's gat nothing to offer. If were him ,I won't look back even if she's back 4rm whatever recovery. A crackhead is a crackhead.
EXACLY!!!! The story switched up when Mathis started to speak to her a bit more aggressively! Like OH so now you outta nowhere you’re taking accountability?!? Smh
When she said, "Why can I not talk?" I literally said it right along with JM... all she's BEEN doing is talking... Trying to hustle someone.. Girl bye and I do pray for your recovery... To the defendant... Find a good woman.. We out here. And she sounds dumb... Wine ain't a drug unless you're an alcoholic.. And the defendant isn't. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
He will never understand no matter how much he reads up on addiction he’s not an addict he can do what he wants ma’am you can’t and you also can’t blame him for your actions!!!!!
EXACTLY 💯 Judge Mathis needs to stop being a judge and become a counselor since he know so much‼️ that's his thing NOT THE AUDIENCE, this is getting ridiculous ‼️ I'm not responsible for an addict actions, and I refuse to coddle an addict ‼️
You ain’t lying she still has a dark aura and presence around her I wouldn’t give a damn how squeaky clean or how many days sobriety ENERGY is Everything and I am still feeling bad vibes🤷🏽♀️
It’s not his responsibility to keep up with your recovery you know you’re an addict you should have never been in those places Ben if he offered it you had the choice to say NO!
Exactly like we all know this just by watching this show but if she is an addict and was going to programs then she knew what she was doing she should never gotten involved in him knowing she was still struggling
Even after Judge Mathis and his team helped her, she's still by exclusion blaming the ex-boyfriend. Leopards don't change their spots. She is a hustler!
I don’t understand why he would become involved with a woman who hasn’t been sober for a full year!! Heck, I wouldn’t knowingly become involved with a person who has a habit/addiction of any kind.
@@akimat418honestly I think ppl don’t know how bad a real alcohol addiction can be until you’re around someone who is severely addicted to liquor. I learned the hard way but definitely left shortly after realizing how bad it was bcuz I KNOW that’s something I can’t deal with smh
"Then you should've never messed with me," says it all. You can't save everybody, they don't want to be saved. They will turn your help against you. You will be the villain in their story!
This woman "made me" scream at my screen!!! She is beyond "crackhead" issues! Man, I was never so frustrated looking at Judge Mathis before! She is the most manipulative, hard-headed, dysfunctional individual I have ever seen on this show! She did not want a boyfriend, she wanted an ATM in human form! Judge Mathis took too long to dish her up! 😡😡😡😡😡
I'm a woman and I tell my brethren, anytime a woman can't provide for her own basic needs, leave her azz alone. Women these days ain't got no business waiting on no man to buy them a house , a car, clothes, a business..etc. This is not the 1940's and 50's where women couldn't do certain things unless a man was helping her. Opportunity is everywhere. Buy yo own shyyt. Brothers leave these trychs alone.
She cannot blame this man for her addiction !!! That’s not his fault. How dare she sit there and accuse this man for her very own actions. I have no sympathy for her. She is accountable for her , nobody else.
COURT REPORTER REFLECTION: Great to see you still trailblazing!!!! I never forgot when the African American Advisory Commission in Topeka, Kansas that I worked for brought you in for a conference back in the early ‘90s. I was in court reporting school at the time and you encouraged me to stick with it. I’m proud to say that I kept with it and have been a court reporter for almost 24 years, and am now a Federal Official Court Reporter!!! Wanted you to know that you’re making a difference beyond the courtroom. Thanks for inspiring me OVER 27 YEARS AGO!!! God bless you, Judge Mathis!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😃😃
As a sister of a crackhead you can never love them enough you can never help them enough to help them get off drugs THEY themselves have to want it. My brother is a grown man 54 years old homeless and choosing drugs over his kids and family.
I can somewhat empathize. My dad was an alcoholic. Chose alcohol over us. My mom tried to get him help but he would decline. Then blame her for not helping him.
Have older brothers who have been on drugs on and off all their adult lives. One is homeless & the other was released 10 yrs ago from prison and went back to drugs & now in back in jail. This addiction is so powerful and destructive to everyone in its wake
@@gail1436 oh yes for sure my brother has been in and out since 16 yrs ok lost his own dad to drugs and didn’t learn from that! The system also helped to fail our brothers bc they give them no help or follow up with sobriety they just release them and that’s it!
God bless this brother! I don't know why it seems like the "good" men always get played but glad he got justice in his favor! Lastly, I hope the woman's sobriety is genuine this time around...
I've been in recovery for over 30 years, I relapse once before sticking to it. Depends on who you choose to associate with, your common sense tells you when ur sobriety is being threatened it is YOUR responsibility to get away! Only you know ur triggers. Her mistake was putting a relationship in front of her program. He took on protector job after hearing her horror stories, including her baggage in her family aspect. She relapses, gets embarrassed then goes back to addict behavior of blaming everyone else for HER actions?
You're right, I really wish she would have finished that whole program because he really messed up a good relationship. She had a supportive person who cared. But everyone has their own breaking point. I'm glad he showed maturity and walked away.
You believe that con artist dope fiend, cause everything that comes out of her mouth is A LIE, BY HER BEING PRETTY MEN SOME MEN WILL FALL FOR HER DOPE FIEND CON.
Glad this man wasn't a sucker and understood his boundaries. It isn't your job to save someone else. They should save themselves And im happy you quit this woman out of ypur life
Yo this shyt threw me way off. I mean the lies, the blaming, the shifting of responsibilities...this woman is scary as fkk. This guy is insane for taking this upon himself
She shouldn’t be in a relationship if it would be that easy for her to relapse. She did a lot of blaming in this case. Not that he’s an angel but I believe he genuinely loved her and tried to help.
I find it interesting that you would add the comment, *"Not that he's an angel....."* I'm curious how anyone, after listening to the testimony in this case, would not see this man as an angel! He was literally there for her in ways she wasn't there for herself....but you say, *"Not that he's an angel....."* 🤔🤔
@@blackwisdom Real Talk. Seems like he accepted a woman with some baggage, loved and took care and provided for her and her kids and on top of that planned to marry her and commit. Hell even while they were arguing he still tried to make sure she was safe. And I doubt her spending that week in Vegas was because she called and he declined assistance but rather she put off on asking him for a ticket as long as she could and either bit the bullet and asked for it or called a family member to get her right. Man's literally ain't have not 1 negative thing they CONFIRMED he did but her? Sht a whole book of the wrong she was out there doing while trying to slander buddy's name 🥴
@@susiesolangesimpson2828 if, according to you, no one is an angel, then there's no need for you to say he's not an angel...because *NO ONE* is, that means it's a given. That's like saying anyone who's able to read this message can read....that too is a given...so, it doesn't need to be said.
I would never be with an addict. Recovered or not. It’s too much of a hassle. Their everyday is consumed with not getting high. Why take on all of those issues, and you yourself don’t struggle with that. She even said so herself ‘then you should’ve never messed with me’
I am jus realizing this now. And idk why but they play that victim card well when ironically they cause everybody else misery. It's sickening. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and the father is in another state "finding himself" and it's all my fault. Smdh. Wish I would saw the flags sooner
@@nodoggybag1207Firstly, I pray your baby is healthy and happy, and that you have everything you need as a mommy, especially if this is your first child. Raising children is a wonderful experience even though sometimes it can sometimes be hair-raising or frightening. Mostly it's so much fun and so very rewarding. God bless you and your child with all of His blessings throughout your lives. Never give up hope as a mother. I'm praying for you. Secondly, the "father out there somewhere finding himself" 🙄 obviously doesn't have the courage nor the strength that you have to help you raise your baby. Maybe someday he will realize the woes of his ways. Possibly not. In the event that he doesn't, you will have to remain strong and have the conviction to lead your child to become jyst as strong and as courageous and as hopeful as you. Y'all shall overcome - I just know it. (I speak from experience. My first husband left me alone when our child was only 14 months old. I had no family because he had moved me two states away from them. It was traumatic and difficult, but my son and I survived, and he is The Most Wonderful young man I know. 🤩. Naturally, I'm biased, but you understand. I raised him to be a champ in spite of all odds stacked up against us, no thanks to his father. Anyway, @nodoggybag1207, I wish you well forever and always. Surely God is watching over you and your baby, wherever you are. 💐🙏🏽
Yes indeed I tried to help my brother and it was like heavy weight forming on my shoulders and once he couldn't get nothing else out of me I no longer heard anything from him once that happened my shoulders didn't feel so heavy anymore # never again THEY ARE MANIPULATORS USERS LIERS .....
I’m a recovering addict nobody can make you relapse but you their was a hole in your program and you stopped being connected to the program worrying about him
The Plaintiff has a victim mentality. JM had me rolling saying if he was a woman he would marry him. 😂🤣😂🤣😂 I am a woman and I would marry him too! 😍 The ending was beautiful and had me in tears! She looks so amazing and recovered. Congratulations to the Plaintiff and good luck with your recovery! 🙏💗🙏
Blaming everybody for your problems owned up to your addiction stop blaming everyone and there momma for your problems my man needs to move on she will never own up to her mistakes damn shame
She needs to stop blaming him for her actions! Nobody makes you do anything, that “liberated freedom” She referencing means she has a choice and she chose to do drugs instead of choosing to leave! But that self pity and everyone else is to blame mindset only keeps us sick, so suck it up get back to treatment and take this as a lesson not a loss. Blessings! 💯💪🏾
Until she relapses again! 50 days clean for an crack addict is nothing. I’m so sick of giving addicts a round of applause because they are finally not lying, stealing and abusing!
You fell for her lies, this woman is a dope fiend con artist and everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. Honestly she has a demonic spirit in her .
She’s been in the game so long it’s a con she just knows the right things to say. She’s really made that man seem like the devil talked about him locking her out of the room while he’s telling her he’ll get her own room. She went to the bad side of town to get high but she’s blaming him. She’s never gonna change she’s just gonna play the game as she sees it
wow! this is sad ! addiction is hard but that means we have to try harder and if that means no relationships, no going out, that’s just what it is. we think we are stronger until those temptations creep in! i wish both of them well. GOD BLESS
The one time I was very proud of the judge for actually going off on the plane ticket and letting her know that the gig is up! If I was dependent I was saying far away from her and her family and anybody that she knows.
He should've avoided her altogether, she's very manipulative, dishonest & conniving. I can't see any reason as to why he got with her🤔 I don't care if its judgmental, I won't get involved with an addict regardless of whether they're in recovery or not
I want to root for her, but she's still not a nice person, even after 50+ days in treatment. She went to church to find a man she could manipulate & use. Even after 50 days, she didn't apologize for lying on the defendant. She's the person that will lie to put a man in jail just because he doesn't let her use him. I hope this is a learning lesson for the defendant. There are great women out there & you decide to get in a relationship with someone fresh out of recovery. Next time, I hope you pick a woman with far fewer issues.
Addicts are so manipulative and self absorbed, like their problems are more important and take precedence over everyone else’s. Hopefully my brotha making better choices 🤦🏾♀️
She wasn’t ready to change. She is trying to justify her relapse. She has not taken accountability for her actions. She has not been using “I” statements. She is full of crap
Glad to see the plaintiff cleaning her act a bit there. The case itself was cut and dry. The plaintiff was still in recovery and shouldn't have pursued a relationship while doing that. The defendant did more and stayed longer than I would've 🤣😂 but even he couldn't help keep her on the wagon so he's a good dude
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Just from hearing the first 30 seconds, I’m shocked that she’s blaming her relapse on this man. I thought recovery meant taking accountability
She tried to talk loud and talk over him to deflect from her lies...he should have never got involved with her.
I think you maybe right! It sounds like she took her wishes or prayers to make herself righteous. Prayers and wishes don't make you right with God. Take care.
It, does.
@Dee Ransom Your thought is very correct. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "It is up to her to decide to or NOT to begin taking drugs again"(as you've said, "accountability").
I literally thought I was hearing things wrong, so I had to start the video over to listen again. That’s sad!
As a former addict (6 years clean now 🙌🏽) I knew she was lying when she opened her mouth. She loves to play victim and blame everyone but herself. NOBODY can make you relapse, you relapse on your own. If someone tries to hand me a pill, I walk away!! I don't even have to say no I just remove myself from that situation and she had the opportunity to do so as well!! Only a person who has already relapsed or is still having cravings will put themselves in a situation to relapse. I hope she gets the help she needs and takes accountability for her wrong doings.
🙌🏾 Six years, One day at a time! That's awesome! Don't stop. 💞
Yes and no there was a divorce case where the wife was complaining about the husband drinking come find a few times that after the husband would complete rehab the wife would pick him up and get completely shit faced (and yes she admitted to do it) the judge jumped on her and she canned her divorce.
Baaaby she tried it, and Your Sobriety is your choice and seeing tho that was your year anniversary you should’ve been saving so that you only had to depend on you… but maybe she had already relapsed and didn’t want Togo And deflected the whole situation, by trying to play the victim
Congratulations on being clean for 6 years!!! You've got this, and you'll do great!
Congrats and keep up the awesome work! 🤘🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾 2yrs for me
I was waiting on Judge Mathis to get her. That man seems like he really loved and tried to help her. She was trying so hard to make him look bad.
That addict mentality
She really did try! I believe ever he said
Knew it was coming! As soon as he proved he tried to get a room! It was over
This is true.
I noticed her weirdo behavior in the first half and the constant projection from her was the biggest Red Flag for me. She also gives such strong Karen Energy with the tears lool. She looks a hot ass mess too with the hair and the messy makeup 😅😭.
He's "controlling" because he wants her to get her life together lmao. She has such an unlikable quality to her. Her little 30 days isn't enough. I hope they do a 2 year update!
Her telling him he shouldn’t have messed with her as a response to him saying he doesn’t deal with drugs told me everything I needed to know. She’s a professional victim. Unless he shoved the drugs down your throat, up your nose, or in your skin, IT’S YOUR FAULT!
The majority of addicts if not all, are very manipulative and non accountable. That's what makes them see no wrong in their actions, sad but true
Yeah that was evil
Exactly when she said that..she told me all i needed to know!!
I wish her the best and pray that she makes her One year recovery, and beyond. I also hope that she realizes that her Boyfriend was trying to help her the best he knew how. Accountability is key.
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Not holding herself accountable means she is not ready to change.
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Facts
Thats true queen
She got the recovery speech memorized well. I wish her the best? Nothing but game in her!
Omg, I was thinking the same thing
I don’t like how she’s using her addiction against him. She’s hella manipulative.
This 👆. She is absolutely blaming him for her relapse, unreasonably expecting him to be her savior, and not taking personal accountability for HER actions. It’s a shame because he seems like a good guy that cares for her.
Yes she is !! It’s everyone fault but hers!!
She's being a Coke-Karen.
@@tjbooker9948 🤗
I was saying the same thing
He still has a lot of feeling for her. You can see it pouring out of him. I feel bad for him for real.
It broke my heart when he was describing the woman he met at church. He truly loves her and I’m sure this whole experience has been heartbreaking. Watching somebody self sabotage and blame everyone else while you’re trying everything in your power to help them has got to be awful.
Yes Lord... Glad he was able to walk away 🙌🙌🙌
This woman is evil and manipulative. No accountability on her own behavior whatsoever.
Boy, she really had me fooled until the about offering her another room.
NO' She's NOT! Anybody can take the Negatives of a Person's life depending on what it is. Spin some nonsense/foolishness, to make someone look BAD. That's a shame! SMH!
@@ANGELAKCLAY It is very manipulative to mostly blame him(not mostly herself) for HER decisions and mistakes. Had she blamed herself MOSTLY, as well, I would've given her a bit more understanding, but she didn't. Condoning her behavior of blaming MOSTLY him for her own decision(s) & mistake(s) shows that she is still thinking in the drug addict mentality. One can only imagine how she may have been the times she was doing drugs deeply. She is an adult and should be held majorly accountable for herself & her own decisions.
@@traciemartin3785 ACTUALLY' She should have stood her ground. She was double teamed and that's unfortunate. Rather than Argue, she let them have it.
@@ANGELAKCLAYyou are insane
This man is FIGHTING TEARS‼️ UNGRATEFUL JUNKIE always find good ppl to use. She had a great man . Hope he finds a woman that matches his maturity
She went against what they told her in rehab by starting a relationship and is now blaming him for her relapse.
They say at least 1 year sober Before relationships because it’s hard enough the first year without drugs you don’t need to add relationship stress.
Right, this is a prime example of why they say it..
I think it's a relationship wit someone in recovery
@@mezxth00935 It’s a relationship period for a certain amount of time.
@@FinDom1 but that's not the rules that's all I'm saying it's wit people going thru recovery as well. It'll probably be smart not to deal wit anyone like u said but that's not what they tell them
She’s speaking all the recovery talk. He really wanted to help her because he was very emotional
I just hope that he never have anything else to do with her… even if she comes back pleading . Run Guy Run !!!..,she is a very toxic addictive manipulator!!!
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I had to add another comment, I’m so happy judge Mathis came down on her ! I was literally clapping and screaming at the tv 😭😭🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Me too! I was saying 🗣Get🗣Her 🗣Judge!
Man me three!!
Gurl I was YELLING AT THE TV 😂😭! She's sitting up there trying to gaslight him and all he was trying to do was get her to be serious about her addiction issues lol smdh. The "crackhead" stories had me cracking up, love when judge says that 🤣.
@@laceykanda995 lol exactly !!!
Me too
Her audacity is unreal. I hope that man and all men stay far away from her.
I believe that this defendant's heart is in the right place but he should've never gotten involved with the plantiff. I'm sure he's glad that he didn't marry her.
I absolutely agree with you on this one, Adrian Prince.
He sure shouldn't have. Not worth the trouble at all.
@Adrian I agree.
Exactly!!!
I bet he’s somewhere waiting on her. He ain’t done.
I applaud that brother for keeping his composure and articulately defending this case. She is crazy asf!
She’s a liar!
Shit I applaud him for keeping those texts
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It’s all her own fault and she can blame no one. She pretends to be the victim in all these situations. First step to sobriety is accountability!!
Yes, and the hardest step.
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She still in denial...she not trying to get clean 4Real 4Real🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️💯
Lady, stop playing the victim and hold yourself accountable for your mess.
YESSSS 😒
He has a good heart and she knew she could prey on that. I hope that he is able to learn and heal from this and I hope for her to continue recovery.
He deserves a good woman not after all what he did 4 her and her child. She's manipulative and really did a good job in leading him on to continue in a relationship with her. She's gat nothing to offer. If were him ,I won't look back even if she's back 4rm whatever recovery. A crackhead is a crackhead.
All that crying she did when telling the story, now when J.M tells her that he doesnt believe her......NO MORE TEARS.
SHES A MANIPULATOR!!!!
She is the type of woman that will claim a man raped her out of anger.
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Noowwwww she’s taking accountability 🙄 At the beginning it was all his fault
EXACLY!!!! The story switched up when Mathis started to speak to her a bit more aggressively! Like OH so now you outta nowhere you’re taking accountability?!? Smh
You know you high when your ponytail ain’t tight🤦🏽♀️🤣
5:55 She just told on herself you should’ve never messed with me that means she knows she’s no good smh 🤦🏾♀️
Exactly!
Yeah, caught that
Thought I was the only one that caught that
U call It queen
@@LaLakers17the hell are you talking about? 😂
She was not with the dude for love; she was with him for convenience and his resources.
Yup
She was looking for a home,(the boweaver
Not psych show ,people's court...
Mean old man 😮😮
It sounds like her phone was stolen by someone she was about to either get high with or trick with.
Exactly, addict shit I have done it thank God for recovery!…I hate ppl that play the recovery card but living foul
@@lashirahcurley5443 so glad you are better now. Congratulations!
Facts
She probably traded that phone for drugs
@@nixonsneverendingthoughts2824 exactly
When she said, "Why can I not talk?" I literally said it right along with JM... all she's BEEN doing is talking... Trying to hustle someone.. Girl bye and I do pray for your recovery... To the defendant... Find a good woman.. We out here.
And she sounds dumb... Wine ain't a drug unless you're an alcoholic.. And the defendant isn't. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
He will never understand no matter how much he reads up on addiction he’s not an addict he can do what he wants ma’am you can’t and you also can’t blame him for your actions!!!!!
EXACTLY 💯 Judge Mathis needs to stop being a judge and become a counselor since he know so much‼️ that's his thing NOT THE AUDIENCE, this is getting ridiculous ‼️ I'm not responsible for an addict actions, and I refuse to coddle an addict ‼️
@@maryone9587that part 👏🏾
@@maryone9587 right on. I'm a recovering addict the only person who can cause me to relapse is ME ! JM is a joke these days .
@@Tyme_flies I am happy for the progress you have made
@@sereneamani1713 Thank you 8 years clean .
She sure knows how to blame everybody else for her problems When you are in treatment, you don’t need to be in a relationship.
I'm so glad the judge got on her and told her that she using her recovery to blame a man who really tried to help her
Even in her update, she still frightens me. She will have to seek deliverance from her past and from herself.
You ain’t lying she still has a dark aura and presence around her I wouldn’t give a damn how squeaky clean or how many days sobriety ENERGY is Everything and I am still feeling bad vibes🤷🏽♀️
AMEN🙏
Agreed 🙏🙏
It’s not his responsibility to keep up with your recovery you know you’re an addict you should have never been in those places Ben if he offered it you had the choice to say NO!
Exactly like we all know this just by watching this show but if she is an addict and was going to programs then she knew what she was doing she should never gotten involved in him knowing she was still struggling
Preach beautiful
Even after Judge Mathis and his team helped her, she's still by exclusion blaming the ex-boyfriend. Leopards don't change their spots. She is a hustler!
I could never deal with a woman like her. Everything is a sob story and everyone else is at fault when she has constant erratic behaviors.
That’s how they are, even in recovery!
I don’t understand why he would become involved with a woman who hasn’t been sober for a full year!! Heck, I wouldn’t knowingly become involved with a person who has a habit/addiction of any kind.
@@akimat418honestly I think ppl don’t know how bad a real alcohol addiction can be until you’re around someone who is severely addicted to liquor. I learned the hard way but definitely left shortly after realizing how bad it was bcuz I KNOW that’s something I can’t deal with smh
She's not for real go home Honey
AIN'T NO CHANGING OR HELPING THEM ,EVEN SOBER TO BE HONEST ITS WHO THEY ARE ITS THERE PERSONALITY
She is playing the victim card so bad. Take accountability for all of YOUR actions. Im so glad Judge called her out.
ACCOUNTABILITY is the word of the day. Happy Friday y'all!!!!
"Then you should've never messed with me," says it all. You can't save everybody, they don't want to be saved. They will turn your help against you. You will be the villain in their story!
People need to Take accountability for Your Own Actions!!
That’s literally the first thing they teach you about addiction when you go into treatment
May all good things follow him 💚Definitely a man with great character
4 DUIs? Yikes.
I feel so sorry for him! I hope he does not let this situation does not change who he is. Very generous and genuine man.
I’m so happy JM seen thru her BS he’s the best
Exactly queen
I knew she was full of it when she blamed him for HER relapse. SMH. 🤦🏽♀️
Judge was 💯 on this one!!
Spot on!
This woman "made me" scream at my screen!!! She is beyond "crackhead" issues! Man, I was never so frustrated looking at Judge Mathis before! She is the most manipulative, hard-headed, dysfunctional individual I have ever seen on this show! She did not want a boyfriend, she wanted an ATM in human form! Judge Mathis took too long to dish her up! 😡😡😡😡😡
You mean AMM AUTOMATICALLY MARQUIS MONEY😂
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I'm a woman and I tell my brethren, anytime a woman can't provide for her own basic needs, leave her azz alone. Women these days ain't got no business waiting on no man to buy them a house , a car, clothes, a business..etc. This is not the 1940's and 50's where women couldn't do certain things unless a man was helping her. Opportunity is everywhere. Buy yo own shyyt. Brothers leave these trychs alone.
@@NestozLikwidVPotientAmen.
The way he snapped 16:21 lol she played a victim real well
You see how she switched it up real fast after that lol. First it was he made me drink then it was “I don’t blame him” after JM went in on her.
Exactly queen
When she said YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER MESSED WITH ME😮I can’t stand those type of people. But it’s always too late by the time they say that
She cannot blame this man for her addiction !!! That’s not his fault. How dare she sit there and accuse this man for her very own actions. I have no sympathy for her. She is accountable for her , nobody else.
Preach queen
COURT REPORTER REFLECTION: Great to see you still trailblazing!!!! I never forgot when the African American Advisory Commission in Topeka, Kansas that I worked for brought you in for a conference back in the early ‘90s. I was in court reporting school at the time and you encouraged me to stick with it. I’m proud to say that I kept with it and have been a court reporter for almost 24 years, and am now a Federal Official Court Reporter!!! Wanted you to know that you’re making a difference beyond the courtroom. Thanks for inspiring me OVER 27 YEARS AGO!!! God bless you, Judge Mathis!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😃😃
As a sister of a crackhead you can never love them enough you can never help them enough to help them get off drugs THEY themselves have to want it. My brother is a grown man 54 years old homeless and choosing drugs over his kids and family.
I can somewhat empathize. My dad was an alcoholic. Chose alcohol over us. My mom tried to get him help but he would decline. Then blame her for not helping him.
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Have older brothers who have been on drugs on and off all their adult lives. One is homeless & the other was released 10 yrs ago from prison and went back to drugs & now in back in jail. This addiction is so powerful and destructive to everyone in its wake
@@GrumpySmurf0813 oh yes I’ve been blamed.
@@gail1436 oh yes for sure my brother has been in and out since 16 yrs ok lost his own dad to drugs and didn’t learn from that! The system also helped to fail our brothers bc they give them no help or follow up with sobriety they just release them and that’s it!
God bless this brother! I don't know why it seems like the "good" men always get played but glad he got justice in his favor! Lastly, I hope the woman's sobriety is genuine this time around...
She’s a liar. Wow. The story she gave judge Mathis about being robbed was crazy lol
Another crach head move
Oh she smoked Dat phone for sure
I've been in recovery for over 30 years, I relapse once before sticking to it. Depends on who you choose to associate with, your common sense tells you when ur sobriety is being threatened it is YOUR responsibility to get away! Only you know ur triggers. Her mistake was putting a relationship in front of her program. He took on protector job after hearing her horror stories, including her baggage in her family aspect. She relapses, gets embarrassed then goes back to addict behavior of blaming everyone else for HER actions?
You're right, I really wish she would have finished that whole program because he really messed up a good relationship. She had a supportive person who cared. But everyone has their own breaking point. I'm glad he showed maturity and walked away.
I'm glad she followed through on the judge's offer! She looks a lot better than she did in court.
She looks better, but she still evil...she didn't say she acted wrong in the courtroom
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@@peterdarker1 😂💯👺💯😂
You believe that con artist dope fiend, cause everything that comes out of her mouth is A LIE, BY HER BEING PRETTY MEN SOME MEN WILL FALL FOR HER DOPE FIEND CON.
Good catch judge. Some people try to manipulate the crap out of their own problem
Glad this man wasn't a sucker and understood his boundaries. It isn't your job to save someone else.
They should save themselves
And im happy you quit this woman out of ypur life
She was really mad cause he took the vehicle from her dope fiend azz😂
Yo this shyt threw me way off. I mean the lies, the blaming, the shifting of responsibilities...this woman is scary as fkk. This guy is insane for taking this upon himself
She walked down to the BAD side of the City 🌃 ... DRUGS & DRINKS & THE nerve to blame her Savior..SMH
You caught that too? She wanted to go for a binge because she had already relapsed. The texts offering her a room tied that fact up nicely
She wanted to be with her crowd
Happy I stuck around for the update. The plaintiff looks so much better , mentally and physically.
She shouldn’t be in a relationship if it would be that easy for her to relapse. She did a lot of blaming in this case. Not that he’s an angel but I believe he genuinely loved her and tried to help.
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I find it interesting that you would add the comment, *"Not that he's an angel....."* I'm curious how anyone, after listening to the testimony in this case, would not see this man as an angel!
He was literally there for her in ways she wasn't there for herself....but you say, *"Not that he's an angel....."* 🤔🤔
@@blackwisdom Because no one is an angel.
@@blackwisdom Real Talk. Seems like he accepted a woman with some baggage, loved and took care and provided for her and her kids and on top of that planned to marry her and commit. Hell even while they were arguing he still tried to make sure she was safe. And I doubt her spending that week in Vegas was because she called and he declined assistance but rather she put off on asking him for a ticket as long as she could and either bit the bullet and asked for it or called a family member to get her right. Man's literally ain't have not 1 negative thing they CONFIRMED he did but her? Sht a whole book of the wrong she was out there doing while trying to slander buddy's name 🥴
@@susiesolangesimpson2828 if, according to you, no one is an angel, then there's no need for you to say he's not an angel...because *NO ONE* is, that means it's a given.
That's like saying anyone who's able to read this message can read....that too is a given...so, it doesn't need to be said.
Get her judge!!! No one is responsible for a relapse except for the addict PERIOD!
I would never be with an addict. Recovered or not. It’s too much of a hassle. Their everyday is consumed with not getting high. Why take on all of those issues, and you yourself don’t struggle with that. She even said so herself ‘then you should’ve never messed with me’
Yep, you can't live your life because you have to be considerate of someone else's mess
I am jus realizing this now. And idk why but they play that victim card well when ironically they cause everybody else misery. It's sickening. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and the father is in another state "finding himself" and it's all my fault. Smdh. Wish I would saw the flags sooner
@@nodoggybag1207Firstly, I pray your baby is healthy and happy, and that you have everything you need as a mommy, especially if this is your first child. Raising children is a wonderful experience even though sometimes it can sometimes be hair-raising or frightening. Mostly it's so much fun and so very rewarding. God bless you and your child with all of His blessings throughout your lives. Never give up hope as a mother. I'm praying for you.
Secondly, the "father out there somewhere finding himself" 🙄 obviously doesn't have the courage nor the strength that you have to help you raise your baby. Maybe someday he will realize the woes of his ways. Possibly not. In the event that he doesn't, you will have to remain strong and have the conviction to lead your child to become jyst as strong and as courageous and as hopeful as you. Y'all shall overcome - I just know it. (I speak from experience. My first husband left me alone when our child was only 14 months old. I had no family because he had moved me two states away from them. It was traumatic and difficult, but my son and I survived, and he is The Most Wonderful young man I know. 🤩. Naturally, I'm biased, but you understand. I raised him to be a champ in spite of all odds stacked up against us, no thanks to his father.
Anyway, @nodoggybag1207, I wish you well forever and always. Surely God is watching over you and your baby, wherever you are. 💐🙏🏽
Yes indeed I tried to help my brother and it was like heavy weight forming on my shoulders and once he couldn't get nothing else out of me I no longer heard anything from him once that happened my shoulders didn't feel so heavy anymore # never again
THEY ARE MANIPULATORS USERS LIERS .....
A lot is being blamed on her drug use but she seems shady regardless. 😵💫
Very
I’m a recovering addict nobody can make you relapse but you their was a hole in your program and you stopped being connected to the program worrying about him
It always cracks me up when he calls people crack heads lol. She really tried to play victim and it backfired smh
A typical alcoholic will blame everyone else to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
The Plaintiff has a victim mentality. JM had me rolling saying if he was a woman he would marry him. 😂🤣😂🤣😂
I am a woman and I would marry him too! 😍 The ending was beautiful and had me in tears! She looks so amazing and recovered. Congratulations to the Plaintiff and good luck with your recovery! 🙏💗🙏
Blaming everybody for your problems owned up to your addiction stop blaming everyone and there momma for your problems my man needs to move on she will never own up to her mistakes damn shame
HE SOUNDS LIKE A SMART BUSINESS MAN
How is the plaintiff accountable when she relapsed and now suing him for emotional distress.
Leave that science project of a Plaintiff ALONE ! She refuses accountability and responsibility
She needs to stop blaming him for her actions! Nobody makes you do anything, that “liberated freedom” She referencing means she has a choice and she chose to do drugs instead of choosing to leave! But that self pity and everyone else is to blame mindset only keeps us sick, so suck it up get back to treatment and take this as a lesson not a loss. Blessings! 💯💪🏾
Accountability is her kryptonite. I take responsibility for what he did to me. 🤦🏽
Wow...
I’m so glad JM got her together bc that man wasn’t nothing but good to her!
Yesss mammn
This crazy man took her on vacation to Vegas. I wouldn’t even take her to the corner store she’s Cooked
Wow!! The ending is marvelous. You can really see the change from then to now. More blessings to her.
Until she relapses again! 50 days clean for an crack addict is nothing. I’m so sick of giving addicts a round of applause because they are finally not lying, stealing and abusing!
You fell for her lies, this woman is a dope fiend con artist and everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. Honestly she has a demonic spirit in her .
She’s been in the game so long it’s a con she just knows the right things to say. She’s really made that man seem like the devil talked about him locking her out of the room while he’s telling her he’ll get her own room. She went to the bad side of town to get high but she’s blaming him. She’s never gonna change she’s just gonna play the game as she sees it
So many sniffles, no tears. I don’t think a person who blames other people for relapsing is truly recovered. Take responsibility for your own faults
you can tell that man really love her & I honesty don’t believe anything she’s saying
wow! this is sad ! addiction is hard but that means we have to try harder and if that means no relationships, no going out, that’s just what it is. we think we are stronger until those temptations creep in! i wish both of them well. GOD BLESS
She really tried to sue this man for her being on drugs this ish wild!!!
Marque is just a plain MARK.
This is why you don’t mess with addicts, sober or not! They will traumatize you greatly!
A person's sobriety is strictly in their own hands. You cannot blame anyone for relapsing but yourself.
Say that shyt again honey realist comment I've seen in a minute
@@kgames1748 Thank You Love 💕💕💕💕
No good deed goes unpunished!
The one time I was very proud of the judge for actually going off on the plane ticket and letting her know that the gig is up! If I was dependent I was saying far away from her and her family and anybody that she knows.
Yes lawd...
You're responsible for your actions ma'am! He appeared to be a good dude
He is a fine well-spoken gentleman. I hope he learns how to avoid toxic women going forward and put his energy into someone that's more deserving.
He should've avoided her altogether, she's very manipulative, dishonest & conniving. I can't see any reason as to why he got with her🤔 I don't care if its judgmental, I won't get involved with an addict regardless of whether they're in recovery or not
😊 I can see why....
She puts herself in environments that she no’s she shouldn’t have been but, she’s in denial about her recovery and wants to blame this man
I want to root for her, but she's still not a nice person, even after 50+ days in treatment. She went to church to find a man she could manipulate & use. Even after 50 days, she didn't apologize for lying on the defendant. She's the person that will lie to put a man in jail just because he doesn't let her use him.
I hope this is a learning lesson for the defendant. There are great women out there & you decide to get in a relationship with someone fresh out of recovery. Next time, I hope you pick a woman with far fewer issues.
she is playing victims game, his mannerism, and his appearance and his personal hygiene shows that he is truthful.
Addicts are so manipulative and self absorbed, like their problems are more important and take precedence over everyone else’s. Hopefully my brotha making better choices 🤦🏾♀️
I like your comment Renee Brown🤗🌹💐🤗
Ain't they babe smh
Poor Marque, his whole life is in shambles.
It's always someone else fault rather than yourself. Addiction is harmful!
She wasn’t ready to change. She is trying to justify her relapse. She has not taken accountability for her actions. She has not been using “I” statements. She is full of crap
She is a manipulative liar, she wants sympathy. He is going to make a great husband to a lucky lady. I hope she stays sober.
I love judge Mathis I’m glad he told this crackhead how it was 😂 cause I laughed so hard
She looks so much better in the update! Wow!
She blamed everyone but her self
Continued best wishes to her.
They just need to go their separate ways. Plain and simple.
Glad to see the plaintiff cleaning her act a bit there. The case itself was cut and dry. The plaintiff was still in recovery and shouldn't have pursued a relationship while doing that. The defendant did more and stayed longer than I would've 🤣😂 but even he couldn't help keep her on the wagon so he's a good dude
She wasn't in recovery she just told him another LIE, SHE SAW A LOLLIPOP 🍭.
This was an educational episode. The issues people go through in early recovery & how they deal with conflict can be difficult to understand.
This poor man she doesn’t deserve him I hope he found someone that appreciates him
So true queen