Relapsed and Emotionally Distressed

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  • Опубликовано: 16 фев 2023
  • The plaintiff was nine moths sober when she started dating the defendant, and she believed he was the man of her dreams. However, after they got engaged, the plaintiff says the defendant became controlling and enabled her relapse, so she’s suing for emotional distress. The defendant insists he tried to help the plaintiff stay sober, and he’s countersuing for car damages and emotional distress.
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  • @tgrant6518
    @tgrant6518 Год назад +1364

    I don’t like how she’s using her addiction against him. She’s hella manipulative.

    • @AD-wi4fq
      @AD-wi4fq Год назад +71

      This 👆. She is absolutely blaming him for her relapse, unreasonably expecting him to be her savior, and not taking personal accountability for HER actions. It’s a shame because he seems like a good guy that cares for her.

    • @PositivitySpeaks101
      @PositivitySpeaks101 Год назад +47

      Yes she is !! It’s everyone fault but hers!!

    • @tjbooker9948
      @tjbooker9948 Год назад +47

      She's being a Coke-Karen.

    • @evetteshelton1249
      @evetteshelton1249 Год назад

      @@tjbooker9948 🤗

    • @trichandler78
      @trichandler78 Год назад +11

      I was saying the same thing

  • @deeransom
    @deeransom Год назад +1217

    Just from hearing the first 30 seconds, I’m shocked that she’s blaming her relapse on this man. I thought recovery meant taking accountability

    • @mrshappilymarried1
      @mrshappilymarried1 Год назад +55

      She tried to talk loud and talk over him to deflect from her lies...he should have never got involved with her.

    • @popsinspace2565
      @popsinspace2565 Год назад +13

      I think you maybe right! It sounds like she took her wishes or prayers to make herself righteous. Prayers and wishes don't make you right with God. Take care.

    • @jannettsnow
      @jannettsnow Год назад +4

      It, does.

    • @traciemartin3785
      @traciemartin3785 Год назад +12

      @Dee Ransom Your thought is very correct. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "It is up to her to decide to or NOT to begin taking drugs again"(as you've said, "accountability").

    • @1LovedbyHim
      @1LovedbyHim Год назад +8

      I literally thought I was hearing things wrong, so I had to start the video over to listen again. That’s sad!

  • @pingpittman3106
    @pingpittman3106 Год назад +36

    This man is FIGHTING TEARS‼️ UNGRATEFUL JUNKIE always find good ppl to use. She had a great man . Hope he finds a woman that matches his maturity

  • @nycmamii
    @nycmamii Год назад +209

    Her telling him he shouldn’t have messed with her as a response to him saying he doesn’t deal with drugs told me everything I needed to know. She’s a professional victim. Unless he shoved the drugs down your throat, up your nose, or in your skin, IT’S YOUR FAULT!

    • @patriceshields81
      @patriceshields81 Год назад +13

      The majority of addicts if not all, are very manipulative and non accountable. That's what makes them see no wrong in their actions, sad but true

    • @csssaundrasmith7018
      @csssaundrasmith7018 Год назад +5

      Yeah that was evil

    • @vidalsmith9160
      @vidalsmith9160 8 месяцев назад +4

      Exactly when she said that..she told me all i needed to know!!

    • @2dlovinu2
      @2dlovinu2 8 месяцев назад +3

      I wish her the best and pray that she makes her One year recovery, and beyond. I also hope that she realizes that her Boyfriend was trying to help her the best he knew how. Accountability is key.

    • @user-tm4ky2ch2x
      @user-tm4ky2ch2x 3 месяца назад

      👍🤭🤭🤭

  • @billyhenry5860
    @billyhenry5860 Год назад +872

    I was waiting on Judge Mathis to get her. That man seems like he really loved and tried to help her. She was trying so hard to make him look bad.

    • @teresareid1770
      @teresareid1770 Год назад +38

      That addict mentality

    • @yomajestytoyou2565
      @yomajestytoyou2565 Год назад +25

      She really did try! I believe ever he said

    • @paigepaige9308
      @paigepaige9308 Год назад +39

      Knew it was coming! As soon as he proved he tried to get a room! It was over

    • @tomswill9189
      @tomswill9189 Год назад +3

      This is true.

    • @laceykanda995
      @laceykanda995 Год назад +18

      I noticed her weirdo behavior in the first half and the constant projection from her was the biggest Red Flag for me. She also gives such strong Karen Energy with the tears lool. She looks a hot ass mess too with the hair and the messy makeup 😅😭.
      He's "controlling" because he wants her to get her life together lmao. She has such an unlikable quality to her. Her little 30 days isn't enough. I hope they do a 2 year update!

  • @MrsRens-LionessofJudah
    @MrsRens-LionessofJudah Год назад +375

    Not holding herself accountable means she is not ready to change.

  • @amandabrown6565
    @amandabrown6565 Год назад +118

    As a former addict (6 years clean now 🙌🏽) I knew she was lying when she opened her mouth. She loves to play victim and blame everyone but herself. NOBODY can make you relapse, you relapse on your own. If someone tries to hand me a pill, I walk away!! I don't even have to say no I just remove myself from that situation and she had the opportunity to do so as well!! Only a person who has already relapsed or is still having cravings will put themselves in a situation to relapse. I hope she gets the help she needs and takes accountability for her wrong doings.

    • @bhornannawindeedeigh5007
      @bhornannawindeedeigh5007 Год назад +8

      🙌🏾 Six years, One day at a time! That's awesome! Don't stop. 💞

    • @kingdjack6
      @kingdjack6 9 месяцев назад +1

      Yes and no there was a divorce case where the wife was complaining about the husband drinking come find a few times that after the husband would complete rehab the wife would pick him up and get completely shit faced (and yes she admitted to do it) the judge jumped on her and she canned her divorce.

    • @andreawashington5430
      @andreawashington5430 7 месяцев назад

      Baaaby she tried it, and Your Sobriety is your choice and seeing tho that was your year anniversary you should’ve been saving so that you only had to depend on you… but maybe she had already relapsed and didn’t want Togo And deflected the whole situation, by trying to play the victim

    • @christinamenhennett
      @christinamenhennett 6 месяцев назад +1

      Congratulations on being clean for 6 years!!! You've got this, and you'll do great!

    • @Punkie83
      @Punkie83 2 месяца назад +1

      Congrats and keep up the awesome work! 🤘🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾 2yrs for me

  • @ignitionSoldier
    @ignitionSoldier Год назад +64

    He still has a lot of feeling for her. You can see it pouring out of him. I feel bad for him for real.

    • @embo1771
      @embo1771 5 месяцев назад

      It broke my heart when he was describing the woman he met at church. He truly loves her and I’m sure this whole experience has been heartbreaking. Watching somebody self sabotage and blame everyone else while you’re trying everything in your power to help them has got to be awful.

    • @user-tm4ky2ch2x
      @user-tm4ky2ch2x 3 месяца назад

      Yes Lord... Glad he was able to walk away 🙌🙌🙌

  • @maesams6212
    @maesams6212 Год назад +197

    All that crying she did when telling the story, now when J.M tells her that he doesnt believe her......NO MORE TEARS.
    SHES A MANIPULATOR!!!!

    • @nishas2745
      @nishas2745 Год назад

      She is the type of woman that will claim a man raped her out of anger.

    • @RY-os9vw
      @RY-os9vw 11 месяцев назад +2

      💯💯💯💯

    • @lailanimessina1473
      @lailanimessina1473 9 месяцев назад +1

      Noowwwww she’s taking accountability 🙄 At the beginning it was all his fault

    • @Mynameistyshawn
      @Mynameistyshawn 9 месяцев назад

      EXACLY!!!! The story switched up when Mathis started to speak to her a bit more aggressively! Like OH so now you outta nowhere you’re taking accountability?!? Smh

  • @DJ-vj4vi
    @DJ-vj4vi Год назад +556

    This woman is evil and manipulative. No accountability on her own behavior whatsoever.

    • @Rachietutu
      @Rachietutu Год назад +11

      Boy, she really had me fooled until the about offering her another room.

    • @ANGELAKCLAY
      @ANGELAKCLAY Год назад +1

      NO' She's NOT! Anybody can take the Negatives of a Person's life depending on what it is. Spin some nonsense/foolishness, to make someone look BAD. That's a shame! SMH!

    • @traciemartin3785
      @traciemartin3785 Год назад +8

      @@ANGELAKCLAY It is very manipulative to mostly blame him(not mostly herself) for HER decisions and mistakes. Had she blamed herself MOSTLY, as well, I would've given her a bit more understanding, but she didn't. Condoning her behavior of blaming MOSTLY him for her own decision(s) & mistake(s) shows that she is still thinking in the drug addict mentality. One can only imagine how she may have been the times she was doing drugs deeply. She is an adult and should be held majorly accountable for herself & her own decisions.

    • @ANGELAKCLAY
      @ANGELAKCLAY Год назад

      @@traciemartin3785 ACTUALLY' She should have stood her ground. She was double teamed and that's unfortunate. Rather than Argue, she let them have it.

    • @zykeriaa
      @zykeriaa Год назад

      ​@@ANGELAKCLAYyou are insane

  • @San-ui9cr
    @San-ui9cr Год назад +46

    Her audacity is unreal. I hope that man and all men stay far away from her.

  • @lbushquizeanic1
    @lbushquizeanic1 Год назад +114

    She was not with the dude for love; she was with him for convenience and his resources.

  • @adrianprince7266
    @adrianprince7266 Год назад +434

    I believe that this defendant's heart is in the right place but he should've never gotten involved with the plantiff. I'm sure he's glad that he didn't marry her.

    • @sheilae.9670
      @sheilae.9670 Год назад +22

      I absolutely agree with you on this one, Adrian Prince.

    • @josl1345
      @josl1345 Год назад +22

      He sure shouldn't have. Not worth the trouble at all.

    • @GrumpySmurf0813
      @GrumpySmurf0813 Год назад +4

      @Adrian I agree.

    • @Pumpsandabump
      @Pumpsandabump Год назад +2

      Exactly!!!

    • @gigifree5783
      @gigifree5783 Год назад +4

      I bet he’s somewhere waiting on her. He ain’t done.

  • @FinDom1
    @FinDom1 Год назад +349

    She went against what they told her in rehab by starting a relationship and is now blaming him for her relapse.

    • @Ualari
      @Ualari Год назад +24

      They say at least 1 year sober Before relationships because it’s hard enough the first year without drugs you don’t need to add relationship stress.

    • @JM_HUh
      @JM_HUh Год назад +12

      Right, this is a prime example of why they say it..

    • @mezxth00935
      @mezxth00935 Год назад +4

      I think it's a relationship wit someone in recovery

    • @FinDom1
      @FinDom1 Год назад +8

      @@mezxth00935 It’s a relationship period for a certain amount of time.

    • @mezxth00935
      @mezxth00935 Год назад +1

      @@FinDom1 but that's not the rules that's all I'm saying it's wit people going thru recovery as well. It'll probably be smart not to deal wit anyone like u said but that's not what they tell them

  • @lashondarussell8231
    @lashondarussell8231 Год назад +13

    You know you high when your ponytail ain’t tight🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

  • @johndreadawson9574
    @johndreadawson9574 Год назад +31

    She’s speaking all the recovery talk. He really wanted to help her because he was very emotional

    • @gailmitchell1541
      @gailmitchell1541 Год назад +7

      I just hope that he never have anything else to do with her… even if she comes back pleading . Run Guy Run !!!..,she is a very toxic addictive manipulator!!!

    • @daphnepowell-cooper9858
      @daphnepowell-cooper9858 Год назад +1

      🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

  • @Sunshine134chick
    @Sunshine134chick Год назад +167

    5:55 She just told on herself you should’ve never messed with me that means she knows she’s no good smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Tiffany-fo4zj
    @Tiffany-fo4zj Год назад +403

    I had to add another comment, I’m so happy judge Mathis came down on her ! I was literally clapping and screaming at the tv 😭😭🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @mrshappilymarried1
      @mrshappilymarried1 Год назад +21

      Me too! I was saying 🗣Get🗣Her 🗣Judge!

    • @MartinAndGina
      @MartinAndGina Год назад +11

      Man me three!!

    • @laceykanda995
      @laceykanda995 Год назад +16

      Gurl I was YELLING AT THE TV 😂😭! She's sitting up there trying to gaslight him and all he was trying to do was get her to be serious about her addiction issues lol smdh. The "crackhead" stories had me cracking up, love when judge says that 🤣.

    • @Tiffany-fo4zj
      @Tiffany-fo4zj Год назад +4

      @@laceykanda995 lol exactly !!!

    • @nodoggybag1207
      @nodoggybag1207 Год назад +3

      Me too

  • @conkeycruisers7203
    @conkeycruisers7203 Год назад +28

    She got the recovery speech memorized well. I wish her the best? Nothing but game in her!

    • @rondasharp3594
      @rondasharp3594 8 месяцев назад

      Omg, I was thinking the same thing

  • @deshonebonyrowland-ward4552
    @deshonebonyrowland-ward4552 Год назад +31

    When she said, "Why can I not talk?" I literally said it right along with JM... all she's BEEN doing is talking... Trying to hustle someone.. Girl bye and I do pray for your recovery... To the defendant... Find a good woman.. We out here.
    And she sounds dumb... Wine ain't a drug unless you're an alcoholic.. And the defendant isn't. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

  • @bridgetts4767
    @bridgetts4767 Год назад +473

    It’s all her own fault and she can blame no one. She pretends to be the victim in all these situations. First step to sobriety is accountability!!

    • @jannettsnow
      @jannettsnow Год назад +9

      Yes, and the hardest step.

    • @GrumpySmurf0813
      @GrumpySmurf0813 Год назад +1

      💯💯

    • @CRaiRai
      @CRaiRai Год назад +5

      She still in denial...she not trying to get clean 4Real 4Real🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️💯

    • @barbarafreeland5582
      @barbarafreeland5582 Год назад +3

      Lady, stop playing the victim and hold yourself accountable for your mess.

    • @GangstaBoo7
      @GangstaBoo7 Год назад

      YESSSS 😒

  • @lashirahcurley5443
    @lashirahcurley5443 Год назад +141

    It’s not his responsibility to keep up with your recovery you know you’re an addict you should have never been in those places Ben if he offered it you had the choice to say NO!

    • @mahailiabrown3972
      @mahailiabrown3972 Год назад +7

      Exactly like we all know this just by watching this show but if she is an addict and was going to programs then she knew what she was doing she should never gotten involved in him knowing she was still struggling

    • @dsanders799
      @dsanders799 Год назад +1

      Preach beautiful

  • @twill1247
    @twill1247 Год назад +14

    I applaud that brother for keeping his composure and articulately defending this case. She is crazy asf!

  • @earlgerald804
    @earlgerald804 Год назад +36

    "Then you should've never messed with me," says it all. You can't save everybody, they don't want to be saved. They will turn your help against you. You will be the villain in their story!

  • @lashirahcurley5443
    @lashirahcurley5443 Год назад +305

    He will never understand no matter how much he reads up on addiction he’s not an addict he can do what he wants ma’am you can’t and you also can’t blame him for your actions!!!!!

    • @maryone9587
      @maryone9587 Год назад +15

      EXACTLY 💯 Judge Mathis needs to stop being a judge and become a counselor since he know so much‼️ that's his thing NOT THE AUDIENCE, this is getting ridiculous ‼️ I'm not responsible for an addict actions, and I refuse to coddle an addict ‼️

    • @Sunshine134chick
      @Sunshine134chick Год назад +1

      @@maryone9587that part 👏🏾

    • @Tyme_flies
      @Tyme_flies Год назад +12

      @@maryone9587 right on. I'm a recovering addict the only person who can cause me to relapse is ME ! JM is a joke these days .

    • @sereneamani1713
      @sereneamani1713 Год назад +6

      @@Tyme_flies I am happy for the progress you have made

    • @Tyme_flies
      @Tyme_flies Год назад +8

      @@sereneamani1713 Thank you 8 years clean .

  • @amberhi874
    @amberhi874 Год назад +64

    ACCOUNTABILITY is the word of the day. Happy Friday y'all!!!!

  • @maurreese
    @maurreese Год назад +18

    He has a good heart and she knew she could prey on that. I hope that he is able to learn and heal from this and I hope for her to continue recovery.

    • @ganiyutundesanusi6635
      @ganiyutundesanusi6635 7 месяцев назад

      He deserves a good woman not after all what he did 4 her and her child. She's manipulative and really did a good job in leading him on to continue in a relationship with her. She's gat nothing to offer. If were him ,I won't look back even if she's back 4rm whatever recovery. A crackhead is a crackhead.

  • @flava1969
    @flava1969 Год назад +6

    Why is Judge Mathis steady calling the woman a crackhead when she said she was alcoholic!! 😂 😅😅😂

    • @ericacollins1985
      @ericacollins1985 Год назад +5

      Because she did the powder form of crack!! And she say it.

    • @user-tm4ky2ch2x
      @user-tm4ky2ch2x 3 месяца назад +2

      She was on everything...😢😢😢 Xanax alcohol and other stuff!

  • @susiesolangesimpson2828
    @susiesolangesimpson2828 Год назад +85

    4 DUIs? Yikes.

  • @misophat2023
    @misophat2023 Год назад +95

    People need to Take accountability for Your Own Actions!!

    • @LissyVee
      @LissyVee Год назад +4

      That’s literally the first thing they teach you about addiction when you go into treatment

  • @dcwad1
    @dcwad1 Год назад +24

    Even in her update, she still frightens me. She will have to seek deliverance from her past and from herself.

    • @Ericechild1979
      @Ericechild1979 Год назад +6

      You ain’t lying she still has a dark aura and presence around her I wouldn’t give a damn how squeaky clean or how many days sobriety ENERGY is Everything and I am still feeling bad vibes🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @raychatman
      @raychatman Год назад +2

      AMEN🙏

    • @20venice
      @20venice Год назад +1

      Agreed 🙏🙏

  • @angelphilbert
    @angelphilbert Год назад +20

    Even after Judge Mathis and his team helped her, she's still by exclusion blaming the ex-boyfriend. Leopards don't change their spots. She is a hustler!

  • @FinDom1
    @FinDom1 Год назад +216

    It sounds like her phone was stolen by someone she was about to either get high with or trick with.

    • @lashirahcurley5443
      @lashirahcurley5443 Год назад +38

      Exactly, addict shit I have done it thank God for recovery!…I hate ppl that play the recovery card but living foul

    • @FinDom1
      @FinDom1 Год назад +23

      @@lashirahcurley5443 so glad you are better now. Congratulations!

    • @urluvizmyluv1999
      @urluvizmyluv1999 Год назад +4

      Facts

    • @nixonsneverendingthoughts2824
      @nixonsneverendingthoughts2824 Год назад +25

      She probably traded that phone for drugs

    • @deejai1173
      @deejai1173 Год назад +2

      @@nixonsneverendingthoughts2824 exactly

  • @kichonephilmore3284
    @kichonephilmore3284 Год назад +96

    The way he snapped 16:21 lol she played a victim real well

    • @a_83567
      @a_83567 Год назад +4

      You see how she switched it up real fast after that lol. First it was he made me drink then it was “I don’t blame him” after JM went in on her.

    • @LaLakers17
      @LaLakers17 8 месяцев назад

      Exactly queen

  • @ISayToMyself
    @ISayToMyself Год назад +21

    She sure knows how to blame everybody else for her problems When you are in treatment, you don’t need to be in a relationship.

  • @tanielsnow9477
    @tanielsnow9477 Год назад +15

    May all good things follow him 💚Definitely a man with great character

  • @mahailiabrown3972
    @mahailiabrown3972 Год назад +153

    I'm so glad the judge got on her and told her that she using her recovery to blame a man who really tried to help her

  • @mrfiness
    @mrfiness Год назад +121

    Judge was 💯 on this one!!

  • @montewilson9567
    @montewilson9567 Год назад +32

    A lot is being blamed on her drug use but she seems shady regardless. 😵‍💫

  • @highlander666
    @highlander666 Год назад +13

    He should've avoided her altogether, she's very manipulative, dishonest & conniving. I can't see any reason as to why he got with her🤔 I don't care if its judgmental, I won't get involved with an addict regardless of whether they're in recovery or not

    • @dahmeneekah
      @dahmeneekah 2 месяца назад

      😊 I can see why....

  • @mizzmz7051
    @mizzmz7051 Год назад +110

    I’m so happy JM seen thru her BS he’s the best

  • @JazzyJeffRealTalk
    @JazzyJeffRealTalk Год назад +207

    I could never deal with a woman like her. Everything is a sob story and everyone else is at fault when she has constant erratic behaviors.

    • @Shawn-ds9ug
      @Shawn-ds9ug Год назад +8

      That’s how they are, even in recovery!

    • @akimat418
      @akimat418 Год назад +7

      I don’t understand why he would become involved with a woman who hasn’t been sober for a full year!! Heck, I wouldn’t knowingly become involved with a person who has a habit/addiction of any kind.

    • @JM_HUh
      @JM_HUh Год назад +6

      @@akimat418honestly I think ppl don’t know how bad a real alcohol addiction can be until you’re around someone who is severely addicted to liquor. I learned the hard way but definitely left shortly after realizing how bad it was bcuz I KNOW that’s something I can’t deal with smh

    • @reneeoneal9656
      @reneeoneal9656 Год назад +1

      She's not for real go home Honey

    • @darkboyzjackson5549
      @darkboyzjackson5549 Год назад +1

      AIN'T NO CHANGING OR HELPING THEM ,EVEN SOBER TO BE HONEST ITS WHO THEY ARE ITS THERE PERSONALITY

  • @pingpittman3106
    @pingpittman3106 Год назад +8

    When she said YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER MESSED WITH ME😮I can’t stand those type of people. But it’s always too late by the time they say that

  • @cynthiadavis9917
    @cynthiadavis9917 Год назад +22

    I've been in recovery for over 30 years, I relapse once before sticking to it. Depends on who you choose to associate with, your common sense tells you when ur sobriety is being threatened it is YOUR responsibility to get away! Only you know ur triggers. Her mistake was putting a relationship in front of her program. He took on protector job after hearing her horror stories, including her baggage in her family aspect. She relapses, gets embarrassed then goes back to addict behavior of blaming everyone else for HER actions?

    • @truelight3325
      @truelight3325 Год назад +3

      You're right, I really wish she would have finished that whole program because he really messed up a good relationship. She had a supportive person who cared. But everyone has their own breaking point. I'm glad he showed maturity and walked away.

  • @jeffreyabbey9592
    @jeffreyabbey9592 Год назад +7

    Glad this man wasn't a sucker and understood his boundaries. It isn't your job to save someone else.
    They should save themselves
    And im happy you quit this woman out of ypur life

  • @DaisySmile90
    @DaisySmile90 Год назад +55

    She’s a liar. Wow. The story she gave judge Mathis about being robbed was crazy lol

  • @channiejysyiaa
    @channiejysyiaa Год назад +16

    Wow!! The ending is marvelous. You can really see the change from then to now. More blessings to her.

    • @Shawn-ds9ug
      @Shawn-ds9ug Год назад +3

      Until she relapses again! 50 days clean for an crack addict is nothing. I’m so sick of giving addicts a round of applause because they are finally not lying, stealing and abusing!

    • @raychatman
      @raychatman Год назад

      You fell for her lies, this woman is a dope fiend con artist and everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. Honestly she has a demonic spirit in her .

    • @irving11413
      @irving11413 7 месяцев назад +2

      She’s been in the game so long it’s a con she just knows the right things to say. She’s really made that man seem like the devil talked about him locking her out of the room while he’s telling her he’ll get her own room. She went to the bad side of town to get high but she’s blaming him. She’s never gonna change she’s just gonna play the game as she sees it

  • @staggersmusic
    @staggersmusic Год назад +13

    God bless this brother! I don't know why it seems like the "good" men always get played but glad he got justice in his favor! Lastly, I hope the woman's sobriety is genuine this time around...

  • @reneeowens3826
    @reneeowens3826 Год назад +34

    She walked down to the BAD side of the City 🌃 ... DRUGS & DRINKS & THE nerve to blame her Savior..SMH

    • @nixonsneverendingthoughts2824
      @nixonsneverendingthoughts2824 Год назад +11

      You caught that too? She wanted to go for a binge because she had already relapsed. The texts offering her a room tied that fact up nicely

    • @nodoggybag1207
      @nodoggybag1207 Год назад +3

      She wanted to be with her crowd

  • @Tiffany-fo4zj
    @Tiffany-fo4zj Год назад +53

    She cannot blame this man for her addiction !!! That’s not his fault. How dare she sit there and accuse this man for her very own actions. I have no sympathy for her. She is accountable for her , nobody else.

  • @angelphilbert
    @angelphilbert Год назад +37

    This woman "made me" scream at my screen!!! She is beyond "crackhead" issues! Man, I was never so frustrated looking at Judge Mathis before! She is the most manipulative, hard-headed, dysfunctional individual I have ever seen on this show! She did not want a boyfriend, she wanted an ATM in human form! Judge Mathis took too long to dish her up! 😡😡😡😡😡

    • @raychatman
      @raychatman Год назад +3

      You mean AMM AUTOMATICALLY MARQUIS MONEY😂

    • @linettesterling4683
      @linettesterling4683 Год назад +3

      💯👌🏽

    • @maxxpopp2373
      @maxxpopp2373 Год назад +3

      I'm a woman and I tell my brethren, anytime a woman can't provide for her own basic needs, leave her azz alone. Women these days ain't got no business waiting on no man to buy them a house , a car, clothes, a business..etc. This is not the 1940's and 50's where women couldn't do certain things unless a man was helping her. Opportunity is everywhere. Buy yo own shyyt. Brothers leave these trychs alone.

    • @bhornannawindeedeigh5007
      @bhornannawindeedeigh5007 Год назад +2

      ​@@maxxpopp2373Amen.

  • @keyturn23
    @keyturn23 Год назад +18

    No good deed goes unpunished!

  • @susiesolangesimpson2828
    @susiesolangesimpson2828 Год назад +99

    She shouldn’t be in a relationship if it would be that easy for her to relapse. She did a lot of blaming in this case. Not that he’s an angel but I believe he genuinely loved her and tried to help.

    • @MariaxMariaxMaria
      @MariaxMariaxMaria Год назад +7

      💯💯

    • @blackwisdom
      @blackwisdom Год назад +16

      I find it interesting that you would add the comment, *"Not that he's an angel....."* I'm curious how anyone, after listening to the testimony in this case, would not see this man as an angel!
      He was literally there for her in ways she wasn't there for herself....but you say, *"Not that he's an angel....."* 🤔🤔

    • @susiesolangesimpson2828
      @susiesolangesimpson2828 Год назад +5

      @@blackwisdom Because no one is an angel.

    • @mountmount1757
      @mountmount1757 Год назад +6

      ​@@blackwisdom Real Talk. Seems like he accepted a woman with some baggage, loved and took care and provided for her and her kids and on top of that planned to marry her and commit. Hell even while they were arguing he still tried to make sure she was safe. And I doubt her spending that week in Vegas was because she called and he declined assistance but rather she put off on asking him for a ticket as long as she could and either bit the bullet and asked for it or called a family member to get her right. Man's literally ain't have not 1 negative thing they CONFIRMED he did but her? Sht a whole book of the wrong she was out there doing while trying to slander buddy's name 🥴

    • @blackwisdom
      @blackwisdom Год назад +8

      @@susiesolangesimpson2828 if, according to you, no one is an angel, then there's no need for you to say he's not an angel...because *NO ONE* is, that means it's a given.
      That's like saying anyone who's able to read this message can read....that too is a given...so, it doesn't need to be said.

  • @xo_dre0728
    @xo_dre0728 Год назад +30

    Yo this shyt threw me way off. I mean the lies, the blaming, the shifting of responsibilities...this woman is scary as fkk. This guy is insane for taking this upon himself

  • @mindlessdaija
    @mindlessdaija Год назад +6

    So many sniffles, no tears. I don’t think a person who blames other people for relapsing is truly recovered. Take responsibility for your own faults

  • @jesseoglesby9594
    @jesseoglesby9594 Год назад +16

    A person's sobriety is strictly in their own hands. You cannot blame anyone for relapsing but yourself.

    • @kgames1748
      @kgames1748 9 месяцев назад

      Say that shyt again honey realist comment I've seen in a minute

    • @jesseoglesby9594
      @jesseoglesby9594 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@kgames1748 Thank You Love 💕💕💕💕

  • @yolandahall2615
    @yolandahall2615 Год назад +176

    As a sister of a crackhead you can never love them enough you can never help them enough to help them get off drugs THEY themselves have to want it. My brother is a grown man 54 years old homeless and choosing drugs over his kids and family.

    • @GrumpySmurf0813
      @GrumpySmurf0813 Год назад +17

      I can somewhat empathize. My dad was an alcoholic. Chose alcohol over us. My mom tried to get him help but he would decline. Then blame her for not helping him.

    • @tjneverdefeated4394
      @tjneverdefeated4394 Год назад +6

      😔

    • @gail1436
      @gail1436 Год назад +19

      Have older brothers who have been on drugs on and off all their adult lives. One is homeless & the other was released 10 yrs ago from prison and went back to drugs & now in back in jail. This addiction is so powerful and destructive to everyone in its wake

    • @yolandahall2615
      @yolandahall2615 Год назад +2

      @@GrumpySmurf0813 oh yes I’ve been blamed.

    • @yolandahall2615
      @yolandahall2615 Год назад +6

      @@gail1436 oh yes for sure my brother has been in and out since 16 yrs ok lost his own dad to drugs and didn’t learn from that! The system also helped to fail our brothers bc they give them no help or follow up with sobriety they just release them and that’s it!

  • @lashirahcurley5443
    @lashirahcurley5443 Год назад +28

    I’m a recovering addict nobody can make you relapse but you their was a hole in your program and you stopped being connected to the program worrying about him

  • @Malaan7
    @Malaan7 Год назад +14

    Oooowee! I was so glad when JM went in on her. She is manipulative, lacks accountability and is ungrateful. That poor man! You don't find too many like him these days. I hope he can find peace with this situation and never sees her again.

    • @LaLakers17
      @LaLakers17 8 месяцев назад

      Yes queen he seen it

  • @popsinspace2565
    @popsinspace2565 Год назад +2

    It sounds like she took her wishes or prayers to make herself righteous. Prayers and wishes don't make you right with God.

  • @Price8903
    @Price8903 Год назад +40

    I would never be with an addict. Recovered or not. It’s too much of a hassle. Their everyday is consumed with not getting high. Why take on all of those issues, and you yourself don’t struggle with that. She even said so herself ‘then you should’ve never messed with me’

    • @IagainstI.
      @IagainstI. Год назад +1

      Yep, you can't live your life because you have to be considerate of someone else's mess

    • @nodoggybag1207
      @nodoggybag1207 Год назад +3

      I am jus realizing this now. And idk why but they play that victim card well when ironically they cause everybody else misery. It's sickening. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and the father is in another state "finding himself" and it's all my fault. Smdh. Wish I would saw the flags sooner

    • @bhornannawindeedeigh5007
      @bhornannawindeedeigh5007 Год назад +1

      ​@@nodoggybag1207Firstly, I pray your baby is healthy and happy, and that you have everything you need as a mommy, especially if this is your first child. Raising children is a wonderful experience even though sometimes it can sometimes be hair-raising or frightening. Mostly it's so much fun and so very rewarding. God bless you and your child with all of His blessings throughout your lives. Never give up hope as a mother. I'm praying for you.
      Secondly, the "father out there somewhere finding himself" 🙄 obviously doesn't have the courage nor the strength that you have to help you raise your baby. Maybe someday he will realize the woes of his ways. Possibly not. In the event that he doesn't, you will have to remain strong and have the conviction to lead your child to become jyst as strong and as courageous and as hopeful as you. Y'all shall overcome - I just know it. (I speak from experience. My first husband left me alone when our child was only 14 months old. I had no family because he had moved me two states away from them. It was traumatic and difficult, but my son and I survived, and he is The Most Wonderful young man I know. 🤩. Naturally, I'm biased, but you understand. I raised him to be a champ in spite of all odds stacked up against us, no thanks to his father.
      Anyway, @nodoggybag1207, I wish you well forever and always. Surely God is watching over you and your baby, wherever you are. 💐🙏🏽

    • @mstoy713
      @mstoy713 7 месяцев назад

      Yes indeed I tried to help my brother and it was like heavy weight forming on my shoulders and once he couldn't get nothing else out of me I no longer heard anything from him once that happened my shoulders didn't feel so heavy anymore # never again
      THEY ARE MANIPULATORS USERS LIERS .....

  • @gonegirldiaries
    @gonegirldiaries Год назад +31

    I’m so glad JM got her together bc that man wasn’t nothing but good to her!

  • @Mr_Porter
    @Mr_Porter Год назад +9

    Accountability is her kryptonite. I take responsibility for what he did to me. 🤦🏽
    Wow...

  • @francesacoy4730
    @francesacoy4730 Год назад +7

    It's always someone else fault rather than yourself. Addiction is harmful!

  • @beverleyblanchard2848
    @beverleyblanchard2848 Год назад +13

    A typical alcoholic will blame everyone else to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

  • @sweetsweet81
    @sweetsweet81 Год назад +37

    I'm glad she followed through on the judge's offer! She looks a lot better than she did in court.

    • @peterdarker1
      @peterdarker1 Год назад +12

      She looks better, but she still evil...she didn't say she acted wrong in the courtroom

    • @BossLady333
      @BossLady333 Год назад +1

      💯🙏💯

    • @BossLady333
      @BossLady333 Год назад +1

      @@peterdarker1 😂💯👺💯😂

    • @raychatman
      @raychatman Год назад

      You believe that con artist dope fiend, cause everything that comes out of her mouth is A LIE, BY HER BEING PRETTY MEN SOME MEN WILL FALL FOR HER DOPE FIEND CON.

  • @sylviawise3362
    @sylviawise3362 Год назад +4

    I feel so sorry for him! I hope he does not let this situation does not change who he is. Very generous and genuine man.

  • @magdcs
    @magdcs Год назад +5

    Poor Marque, his whole life is in shambles.

  • @lafiosamusic5531
    @lafiosamusic5531 Год назад +22

    She needs to stop blaming him for her actions! Nobody makes you do anything, that “liberated freedom” She referencing means she has a choice and she chose to do drugs instead of choosing to leave! But that self pity and everyone else is to blame mindset only keeps us sick, so suck it up get back to treatment and take this as a lesson not a loss. Blessings! 💯💪🏾

  • @moneyisgood2011
    @moneyisgood2011 Год назад +27

    Blaming everybody for your problems owned up to your addiction stop blaming everyone and there momma for your problems my man needs to move on she will never own up to her mistakes damn shame

  • @BossLady333
    @BossLady333 Год назад +8

    The Plaintiff has a victim mentality. JM had me rolling saying if he was a woman he would marry him. 😂🤣😂🤣😂
    I am a woman and I would marry him too! 😍 The ending was beautiful and had me in tears! She looks so amazing and recovered. Congratulations to the Plaintiff and good luck with your recovery! 🙏💗🙏

  • @yeahthatslaki9877
    @yeahthatslaki9877 Год назад +9

    The defendant tried but she wasn’t in recovery for long enough she still had those ways and manipulation. Once judge seen he tried to get her a room he knew. Plus the guy that robbed her she was probably trying to buy some drugs

  • @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324
    @rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324 Год назад +20

    How is the plaintiff accountable when she relapsed and now suing him for emotional distress.

  • @TaxProGirl
    @TaxProGirl Год назад +11

    I want to root for her, but she's still not a nice person, even after 50+ days in treatment. She went to church to find a man she could manipulate & use. Even after 50 days, she didn't apologize for lying on the defendant. She's the person that will lie to put a man in jail just because he doesn't let her use him.
    I hope this is a learning lesson for the defendant. There are great women out there & you decide to get in a relationship with someone fresh out of recovery. Next time, I hope you pick a woman with far fewer issues.

  • @luvvvbug83
    @luvvvbug83 Год назад +4

    This poor man she doesn’t deserve him I hope he found someone that appreciates him

  • @bamking
    @bamking Год назад +3

    This lady is putting the blame on everyone but her self

  • @barbarapaton4005
    @barbarapaton4005 Год назад +49

    The plaintiff said the right thing: “Well , You should not have messed with me!” Glad she got the help she needed!

    • @mahailiabrown3972
      @mahailiabrown3972 Год назад +10

      She didn't say the right thing by saying you should never have mess with me the right thing would have been if she chose not to be with him the same way that would have been the right thing from the beginning she knew that she was an addict she knew that he wasn't she knew that he could do whatever he pleases and it won't affect him she can't if she knows these things then she knows that she should not be around people places and things this is what they tell you in AA and na so she has no excuse she's a manipulator we'll probably learn the skill when she was out in the streets I don't know but I know that she is not right and she did not say nothing correct the statement

    • @scottrogue946
      @scottrogue946 Год назад +2

      If the roles were reversed and a woman did what he did for a drug addicted man than the comments would not be in her favor. They would say they have no sympathy for her. Our society is so odd 😂

    • @barbarapaton4005
      @barbarapaton4005 Год назад +5

      @@mahailiabrown3972 i understand your point. However she did not adhere to the AA guidelines. And that was the reason she relapsed badly. What the boyfriend should have done is get educated and informed about how to deal with an addict who is trying to recover. It was a mismatch and the end result before JM. Again I’m happy for her achievement in recovery at the end of it all. Wish her well.

    • @mahailiabrown3972
      @mahailiabrown3972 Год назад +1

      @@barbarapaton4005 it's her responsibility at all times she knew she wasn't suppose to date before a year no matter what it's her fault and like I said she said nothing wrong she is a manipulator

    • @barbarapaton4005
      @barbarapaton4005 Год назад

      @@mahailiabrown3972 well I will keep far from manipulators! Wouldn’t mess with them at all !

  • @arlenecoggins-john3795
    @arlenecoggins-john3795 Год назад +5

    She is a manipulative liar, she wants sympathy. He is going to make a great husband to a lucky lady. I hope she stays sober.

  • @suesanborts-bredall9914
    @suesanborts-bredall9914 Год назад +4

    Girl....get yourself together. No one owes you anything but honestly. Irregardless of what anyone else does...you are responsible for your own sobriety.

  • @1eaglefan960
    @1eaglefan960 Год назад +6

    The one time I was very proud of the judge for actually going off on the plane ticket and letting her know that the gig is up! If I was dependent I was saying far away from her and her family and anybody that she knows.

  • @Eltown33
    @Eltown33 Год назад +10

    She really tried to sue this man for her being on drugs this ish wild!!!

    • @nope9790
      @nope9790 Год назад +1

      Marque is just a plain MARK.

    • @Shawn-ds9ug
      @Shawn-ds9ug Год назад +1

      This is why you don’t mess with addicts, sober or not! They will traumatize you greatly!

  • @gonegirldiaries
    @gonegirldiaries Год назад +15

    you can tell that man really love her & I honesty don’t believe anything she’s saying

  • @reginawelch3000
    @reginawelch3000 Год назад +2

    Poor man ,you’re a great man be careful !!!

  • @rodneyharris7618
    @rodneyharris7618 Год назад +3

    I truly pray for God to healed her from addiction.Because if she don't deal with her unresolved issues.The results won't be good.

  • @cici864_4
    @cici864_4 Год назад +20

    I’m so glad Judge Mathis got onto her ass bc she needs a reality check .. she still isn’t ready bc she wasn’t even accepting what he was saying.. she started saying things she thought he wanted to hear. I do believe the defendant is a good guy and really loved her.

    • @user-tm4ky2ch2x
      @user-tm4ky2ch2x 3 месяца назад

      I felt the same way 👍🙌🙌🙌

  • @Pytnamed_Lon
    @Pytnamed_Lon Год назад +11

    You're responsible for your actions ma'am! He appeared to be a good dude

  • @003cbanks
    @003cbanks Год назад +1

    Drinking wine is not a sin young lady and I’m a pastor it’s when you indulge in it God bless thankful for the help you received 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

  • @evetteshelton1249
    @evetteshelton1249 Год назад +7

    Continued best wishes to her.

  • @reneebrown1012
    @reneebrown1012 Год назад +8

    Addicts are so manipulative and self absorbed, like their problems are more important and take precedence over everyone else’s. Hopefully my brotha making better choices 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @jeffreyabbey9592
    @jeffreyabbey9592 Год назад +5

    Don't save her
    She don't wanna be saved
    Don't save her

  • @abijustbeyourself2UBTRU
    @abijustbeyourself2UBTRU Год назад +5

    There's no way he should've gotten involved with this woman, she's still very manipulative and can't own her actions

  • @SamuelsReview
    @SamuelsReview Год назад +3

    She's trifling and playing the victim. Usually I'm on the woman's side, but this one is making us look BAD!

  • @Sunshine134chick
    @Sunshine134chick Год назад +16

    She made a huge mistake getting into a relationship fresh outta rehab you’re not supposed to do that also she can’t keep blaming other people for her addiction she has to look at herself

  • @antares3097
    @antares3097 Год назад +7

    Don't try and save em; they don't want to be saved...🤔

  • @aprillassiter-benson757
    @aprillassiter-benson757 Год назад +2

    COURT REPORTER REFLECTION: Great to see you still trailblazing!!!! I never forgot when the African American Advisory Commission in Topeka, Kansas that I worked for brought you in for a conference back in the early ‘90s. I was in court reporting school at the time and you encouraged me to stick with it. I’m proud to say that I kept with it and have been a court reporter for almost 24 years, and am now a Federal Official Court Reporter!!! Wanted you to know that you’re making a difference beyond the courtroom. Thanks for inspiring me OVER 27 YEARS AGO!!! God bless you, Judge Mathis!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😃😃

  • @rob14roc
    @rob14roc Год назад +2

    Tiffany, you had a hellava dude, and you blew it. I sincerely hope you have fully recovered and God sends another great man of God your way. 🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @mrblue2011
    @mrblue2011 Год назад +7

    Judge got one right. The lady is bad news lol

  • @lmarie711
    @lmarie711 Год назад +10

    How is she suppose to be better if it's never her fault? She's just coasting from one no drug period to the other. It's always going to be someone else's fault.

  • @Ualari
    @Ualari Год назад +5

    Recovery requires taking ownership and not being in a relationship for at least one year. You can’t get sober or stay sober for someone else. They definitely told her that at AA.

  • @ms.midwest6712
    @ms.midwest6712 Год назад +1

    She definitely needed recovery! Lord I pray that man got away, and stayed away!!!