Look at it this way: She's with you because she sees you as a stable provider, *and* she acknowledges you're with her because she's young and good looking. The problem starts when the men fail to know their worth and SIMP for a female who could easily replace
In the words of the late great Bill Withers….”I want to spread the news, that if it feels this good being used….just keep on using me…until you use me up”. 🤷🏾♂️
Best transaction I've ever made in my life. Hell i felt used with my ex wife in America. It is what it is. But what it ain't is unhappiness and emptiness
Many years ago, my then American wife said to me, “women cost money.” I was young and had never thought about such matters. Her words hit me like a ton of bricks. I instinctively knew her words were true. ALL MEN PAY. Now my two questions are..Can I afford this, and protects my financial stability? Am I getting my moneys worth? I have never, not felt used by a woman.
Agree while in the relationship, any amount of money given to Fem Ale partner is justifiable But unfortunately in Mar riage somebody invented AL Imony. many man , without any kid , div Orced by their wifi & Although S he has her own job , govt gave her AL Imony for life. My man is still paying 😢😢 without getting anything in return & he did not wanted Div Orce too His mistake > he ma rried her & took care of her for 15 years
"All relationships are transactional." I learned this back when I was 21 years old and every woman in the club only cared about what kind of car I drive( Is it expensive leading her to determine if I'm rich) and what I do for a living (trying do determine if I'm rich). Call me jaded from the jump, but I always knew it was transactional... especially when men were losing half their wealth in divorce court.
Calvin, it works because it's not about love...Once you remove love from the equation, like in the old days, people are willing to compromise to make the arrangement work, because men and women need each other...
But marr iage contract give right to W0 man to get money from ex What is that? Contract should disclose the amount upfront before entering in that way both party will be clear. W0 men at 35 with kid got ma Rried with minimum wage job & no savings Get out (she Filed ) after 20 years with A house, 1/2 of man’s money ( he studied & had working experience of 10 years before meeting He R thats why he earn & save that much) & Al Imony for life 😅
The bottom line is: Are you Happy and healthy? Healthy in the sense that you’re in a financially sustainable situation as a man. If the answer is yes, then just enjoy the ride.
Absolutely the best basis for a long term relationship because it’s honest. No silly emotional ambiguities like love etc. Sure maybe it eventually develops as it has with my Thai wife of 15 years and I. But when I first met her when she was a 19 yr old college intern and I was a 49 year old lawyer with money, there was no question she saw I had money and I saw her as drop dead beautiful! Still going strong. If this is being used then please continue! Please!!!!
I disagree. I have hooked up with women who work in bars so they mess around with different men for a living. But I have had these same women act silly because I was not giving my undivided attention to them.
@@CP-mw2iv "You can't make a hoe into a housewife". You broke the golden rule that's your OWN fault. You can't complain "this recipe don't work" when you start out with shit-tier ingredients LMAO.
Agree with everything you say Sunshine Shoulders. I’m living in Thailand and at first I bristled at the transactional nature of my relationship especially because of the language barrier but over time I realized what a good person she is and we became much closer. Having spent a large part of my adult life single I like the space that our relationship provides. I don’t get that “what are you thinking about” bullshit that I had to endure in North America and my life is peaceful.
The problem is that when you start off, and she is giving you an 'introductory offer,' sure to increase at some point. Maybe it's just a little bit extra here, a little extra there to start with, setting you up for the BIG request. She will push your limits be assured. She will hate it, but you must set a budget and stick to it!
Great video,....and it reminded me of an old song lyric: "I'm gonna spread the news, that if it feels this good being used, you can just keep on using me--till you use me up"-- 'Use me' by Bill Withers
Your comment is a delusional one that has led many men to end themselves because they thought that if they lost their finances, then love would keep her there and was destroyed when the veil was ripped from them.
@@kezmenflowers8691 Your logic is completely nonsensical because the point is - if it were love, she wouldn't just abandon a guy if his finances were to go south. You obviously didn't get my point.
@@gemox3225 love changes with feelings, just like money. It's not something to truly rely on. If that was the case, lots of people would still be together instead of being divorced at the rate that it is.
Any and all relationship is transactional, you just get what you are paying for in the Philippines. I'm in the fourth quarter also, we rent everything in this life, enjoy!
I think you are correct when you posit that all relationships are transactional. Each of the partners is trying to fill a need they have and in return fulfill a need of their partner. If it feels unfair (a better description would be unbalanced) it may be time to evaluate your own needs and think about what would be fair.
Sooo much Truth here! No one would enter any relationship if there was nothing in it for them. Best decision I've ever made in my life was marrying a Filipina! She gave me a beautiful daughter and two older brothers for our daughter and more love than I had imagined. Take care of your girl and help her parents and she will shower you with love! I can't thank her parents enough for giving me this amazing, caring, giving person. Choose well and it's not that risky!
@kevinc...... What a fantastic life you have developed together, great to hear your storey. I guess to a certain extent a relationship is transactional, but hopefully their is a lot of love to. As you have found with your lovely Filipina. Every happiness friend & well done, you give us all hope. Enjoy your happiness & great life, you deserve it 👌
All relationships are transactional. Always have been, always will be. Friendships, jobs, everything. Once one side no longer finds enough value in the relationship, it ends. You get fired, you quit, divorce, or end of friendship. There is no unconditional. Everyone is with someone conditionally. Right or wrong, it's reality.
men start feeling used when a lady starts to tell you what else you need to be doing for HER when she isnt doing anything other than bringing pretty legs and hair and smile etc in a relationship. it makes most men wonder if its better to rent the cow than buy the cow.
I went to Belize to see if I wanna live there and yes it was a culture shock but Belize reminds me of the Philippines I'm 59 I met my wife in America we have a 2 year old daughter but just hoping one day to be friend you peace and blessings my brother
he is speaking facts. serious facts. but it is not just there. this nonsense is global nowadays. but if you tell a lady you want to marry her pretty legs etc for example, she will IMMEDIATELY tell you that she is more than legs etc. most men wont stay with a woman if we DONT GET ALONG WITH HER. facts
And that there my friends, is the key. Stop simping, know your worth. Understand that you have options here in the Phils at the tune of 57.7 million, possibly more. We had another song that was popular in PR. ‘Si tú no me quieres, me quiere la otra.’ Meaning, if you don’t want me, the next one will….
Transactional seems so cold and harsh. It may be the same but I prefer to call it reciprocity or reciprocal. With each relationship it’s a give and take from both parties.
I’m 55, 5’ 11”, net worth of $6M, fit, never married, no kids. If I could have a genuine relationship (even if transactional, but not a scam) for purposes of having children, then I’m in. Either way, I’m retiring at the end of this year.
U may looose your monnies quick then , Because if s he only want u for Ur mo Meny , S He wiL l leave u when s He got the legal power to get AL Imony, child sup port & some of that Net worth. Or , may be S he will see the relationship as. Job what she does sad Ly as a duty & it will be a bad experience for u & u will L Eave. Hope u find a gd partner , best wishes
In a relationship, we do two things: give and take "I am giving more in this relationship" - how do you measure it, anyway? Who gives more time, money, pleasure? "I am being used." - in business, if you don't get the benefits you sign up for, terminate the contract. Leave. Transactional relationship - a blunt term, indeed but sugar coating it isn't necessary. Will add more thoughts when im not half asleep 😂
It's HARD for anyone to lay down with someone 20yrs older than them. Would it be easy for you to lay with a 80yr old. It's VERY HARD BELIEVE ME!!!!! FILIPINAS are no different. JUST DESPERATE for a better life for them and their families.
Good morning! I got tons of thoughts about this topic. I gotta organize it first. And I'm running late to work 😂 Excited to share my thoughts. Will get back to you, Calvin! 😂
It doesn't matter how many years she's with you. If it's transactional, she might get a higher offer and leave😢, or worse, she might accept a side hustle or 3 and stay🤑. That's where the STI's come in😵. Stay strong gents🫡.
I'm glad you are reading your comments because I have been saying this constantly!! You can't get away from it because if you stop providing, protecting, and planning, ALL women will eventually leave!!
When I was 49 I was with a 29 yr old American woman with 5 small kids, a 20yr age gap.. I knew going in I was going to pay her bills and she was going to be my woman. after 3 yrs she said I feel like her sugar daddy more than her boyfriend, I said about time you figured it out..she was disqusted by my reply 😅🤷🏿 👍🏾🇺🇸🇵🇭
Dude, you are more than a Sugar Daddy you helped her and her kids out of poverty she should kiss the ground you walk on and or settle for the reverse!!!
Tina asked" What's Love Gotta Do with It"? What's Love but a second hand emotion "? Well I heard you Cal say this a bit often, but do you Think that some Filipinos can actually Love Foreigner Men, or The Transaction is another Way so She doesn't End up on The Track?
I heard a man once say, "the man should have a different perspective on the word love". Love can be lonely and enslave. Emotions should be separated from the concept of "love". I believe love is an action not emotion and in such receipical disappointment must be accepted. There may be a point that even that nice body you sleep with isn't enough and it's time to move on.
If she wants your money it's not love.Thats what we called pay to play.Find a smart woman because beauty is just a bunos but having a partner with everything is rare.A woman that smart independent and a woman with a class
hey Cal...Starting all over again there in the Philippines is not a bad place to reset with all the beautiful choices one has. Of course, provided the man paces himself during the process. The topic you bring up in todays vlog is quite thought provoking to say the least.
Was in a transactional relationship with a Thai. I now follow the 3 day rule and only date freelancers. It’s cheaper, no one gets hurt or has expectations and for me there is no such thing as true and lasting love.
You're absolutely right, Calvin. Excellent video and great take on the topic. How did you get such good quality audio, by the way? Are you using an external mic?
in America some girls want, want but sometimes they don't put out because you didn't give enough. here there some that put out if you buy sack rice. or money for there parents cheaper than a Gucci bag
It’s a both/and not an either/or. If your lucky. She wants your financial input and you want her beauty. But you can also both care for each other in an authentic way. If your lucky
It's taken me a while to learn the fact that all relationships are transactional. As long as both parties are getting what they want, are respectful to each other, and are happy, who the fuq cares? And besides, like you have noted, Calvin, how would you really know if she truly loves you? The alternative is dating in the West...yeah, no thanks.
You talk reality! It’s refreshing that you don’t try to mask the truth. Obviously these young girls are NOT attracted to a disabled old man! Don’t kid yourself, it’s desperation and this desperate attitude isn’t is bad in the USA and that’s why you don’t see these age gaps in USA as commonly.
I think the solution always arcs towards future, common goal, family, children, grandchildren, AND MOST ESPECIALLY **GOD** this takes the bluntness and crudeness and ickiness out of the transaction mindset..? just a thought 💭 I loved this RUclips video. Thank you! 🙏
As long as they both continue to deliver what difference does it make? Sure, I'll take care of your needs, but better be there when I need what I need too. A couple of things. Guys from the west get caught up in how they have been used to being treated and their life experience, which is valid. We need a mind cleanse before going over there it seems(!) Second, it sounds like the girls get too comfortable and begin to demand more as time goes by. I could be wrong.
a love connection that goes beyond the superficial. It's a bond that often involves understanding each other's core values, beliefs, and life goals. This connection creates a sense of companionship, where both partners feel they're on the same team, working towards common dreams.
@@123sabong I don't think many 22 year old women would have the same life goals and dreams as a man in his sixties. It's the unspoken agreement. Sorry I missed the joke if you were just being sarcastic.
In US - money only unless has a mental problem - here yes money but without the stigma - I knew a guy in Winland who had a "care giver" with benefits. Cost was P35,000 month. Saw her at pool in bikini - definitely worth it.
If both come forth and say . I looking for man that feed, cloth, roof , then help mom and dad . Then I live with you and provide you the man and women need . You older than I and never love you like a young man But I be faithful to you un till you pass on . Kept house clean , cook , etc . You do not beat on me or mistreat me … Now tha😢 up front honest
Seems once you look at a relationship thats how things have always been. Women want security so its a mans job to provide that. Men want female attention so its a womens job to provide that. If both agree then the relationship will work. Most times a relationship will fail if one side is doing much more then the other side.
Hey Calvin I'm new to your show and your channel Im watching your old videos I'm married my wife is from Belize I'm just trying to find out where I wanna move to the Philippines or Belize
Your right it doesnt take alot of money many woman there dont ask for much especially if you live a healthy lifestyle they are mostly happy when your hiking playing ball running around and even a $10 bracelet means the world to them you would never get these reaction from a woman in usa or other places
Well if they can stay happy at that $1500 to $1700.00 per months total expenditures and she carries her end then it would seem that it would be worth it. But if it's a never ending battle to spend more on her behalf then it wouldn't seem right. Does that make sense? And yes that's the unwritten rule right?
My next relationship shall be entirely transactional, up front, and in writing. Complete with consequences for non performance. No contract, no relationship (marriage); Period! Love? LMAO! Be serious. Not opposed but, not required.
The Filipino man has no problem with the unspoken agreement, so why should you. It happens every day here. Woman marry and partner up with providers. Leave the fairy tales for the children.
Folks from someone that has experienced what Calvin is talking about on this subject, please listen to him very carefully, if you plan to move here and meet that “special someone” this little talk is right on target! This is why I love listening to this guy, he just tells it like it is.
No cal don't stand for it I dumped my filipna because of using me for transactions relationship if they can't bring to the table as two become one then its a redflag
What I learned from religious extremists - 1. Embrace celibacy. 2. Embrace masturbation. 3. Take sex completely off the table. No transactional relationship will even begin. You get to keep your money, your sanity and your peace of mind.
Yep, jackin OFF and alone. You're gonna pay. Whether it be taking them out to dinner or buying them a gift $$$ is still getting spent. If you aint putting out then she aint putting out.
Look at it this way: She's with you because she sees you as a stable provider, *and* she acknowledges you're with her because she's young and good looking. The problem starts when the men fail to know their worth and SIMP for a female who could easily replace
Soooo true!!!!
In the words of the late great Bill Withers….”I want to spread the news, that if it feels this good being used….just keep on using me…until you use me up”. 🤷🏾♂️
Best transaction I've ever made in my life. Hell i felt used with my ex wife in America. It is what it is. But what it ain't is unhappiness and emptiness
Facts ...
Philippines:Respect, America:Disrespect.
@@williammcneill2753 stop stereotyping bro that's dangerous. I am Filipino and I'm married to a Western white woman for 25 years we have 5 children.
Just remember one thing fellas. Its not yours, it is just your turn. Always love yourself 1st & most. Thats game!
Many years ago, my then American wife said to me, “women cost money.” I was young and had never thought about such matters. Her words hit me like a ton of bricks. I instinctively knew her words were true. ALL MEN PAY. Now my two questions are..Can I afford this, and protects my financial stability? Am I getting my moneys worth? I have never, not felt used by a woman.
Yes and not all "Paying for it" is financial. some of it is emotional or physical.
Agree while in the relationship, any amount of money given to Fem Ale partner is justifiable
But unfortunately in Mar riage somebody invented AL Imony.
many man , without any kid , div Orced by their wifi &
Although S he has her own job , govt gave her AL Imony for life.
My man is still paying 😢😢 without getting anything in return & he did not wanted Div Orce too
His mistake > he ma rried her & took care of her for 15 years
We never “get our money’s worth”…the house that’s located between her legs always wins. 😔
@@A_Sen_0A Prenup will prevent this.
At that point before she became your then American wife to “find someone else who is willing to.”
"All relationships are transactional." I learned this back when I was 21 years old and every woman in the club only cared about what kind of car I drive( Is it expensive leading her to determine if I'm rich) and what I do for a living (trying do determine if I'm rich). Call me jaded from the jump, but I always knew it was transactional... especially when men were losing half their wealth in divorce court.
Calvin, it works because it's not about love...Once you remove love from the equation, like in the old days, people are willing to compromise to make the arrangement work, because men and women need each other...
Wow. Great point!
Agree! Being brutally frank is unpopular but acceptance of the truth is the best.
It's always been transactional. America's just don't want to call a Spade a Spade.
But marr iage contract give right to W0 man to get money from ex
What is that?
Contract should disclose the amount upfront before entering in that way both party will be clear.
W0 men at 35 with kid got ma Rried with minimum wage job & no savings
Get out (she Filed ) after 20 years with A house, 1/2 of man’s money ( he studied & had working experience of 10 years before meeting He R thats why he earn & save that much) & Al Imony for life
😅
@johnfoley4023 aLi Mony
@johnfoley4023 ALi Mony is the real power.
After few years , Any day a wifi can file divorce & will Get M Oney for life from ex
The bottom line is: Are you Happy and healthy? Healthy in the sense that you’re in a financially sustainable situation as a man. If the answer is yes, then just enjoy the ride.
Absolutely the best basis for a long term relationship because it’s honest. No silly emotional ambiguities like love etc. Sure maybe it eventually develops as it has with my Thai wife of 15 years and I. But when I first met her when she was a 19 yr old college intern and I was a 49 year old lawyer with money, there was no question she saw I had money and I saw her as drop dead beautiful! Still going strong. If this is being used then please continue! Please!!!!
Transactional relationships are clear cut. Money for goods/services. Nothing more-nothing less. Appreciate the vlog brotherman.
I disagree. I have hooked up with women who work in bars so they mess around with different men for a living. But I have had these same women act silly because I was not giving my undivided attention to them.
We use each other. It is good
Most times, the service isn't good😂😂😂.
@@CP-mw2iv "You can't make a hoe into a housewife". You broke the golden rule that's your OWN fault. You can't complain "this recipe don't work" when you start out with shit-tier ingredients LMAO.
@@CP-mw2ivstop laying down with professionals
It's all the same, but overseas you get WAY MORE for WAY LESS.
We lean on each other. Give and take. How it supposed to be. One sided relationships dont last.
NICE thumbnail Calvin. You guys are looking young+healthy. God bless+take care👍
Agree with everything you say Sunshine Shoulders. I’m living in Thailand and at first I bristled at the transactional nature of my relationship especially because of the language barrier but over time I realized what a good person she is and we became much closer. Having spent a large part of my adult life single I like the space that our relationship provides. I don’t get that “what are you thinking about” bullshit that I had to endure in North America and my life is peaceful.
How much of a hood person she is because you're financing her?
The problem is that when you start off, and she is giving you an 'introductory offer,' sure to increase at some point. Maybe it's just a little bit extra here, a little extra there to start with, setting you up for the BIG request. She will push your limits be assured. She will hate it, but you must set a budget and stick to it!
Great video,....and it reminded me of an old song lyric: "I'm gonna spread the news, that if it feels this good being used, you can just keep on using me--till you use me up"-- 'Use me' by Bill Withers
For me, transactional relationships don't work. If you don't really love each other, it will end up empty.
Your comment should be at the very top with thousands of likes.
They work quite well here. Love is so broad of a term. I love my dog but I'm not going to marry him
Your comment is a delusional one that has led many men to end themselves because they thought that if they lost their finances, then love would keep her there and was destroyed when the veil was ripped from them.
@@kezmenflowers8691 Your logic is completely nonsensical because the point is - if it were love, she wouldn't just abandon a guy if his finances were to go south. You obviously didn't get my point.
@@gemox3225 love changes with feelings, just like money. It's not something to truly rely on. If that was the case, lots of people would still be together instead of being divorced at the rate that it is.
The unspoken agreement is Real
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Any and all relationship is transactional, you just get what you are paying for in the Philippines. I'm in the fourth quarter also, we rent everything in this life, enjoy!
I think you are correct when you posit that all relationships are transactional. Each of the partners is trying to fill a need they have and in return fulfill a need of their partner. If it feels unfair (a better description would be unbalanced) it may be time to evaluate your own needs and think about what would be fair.
Sooo much Truth here! No one would enter any relationship if there was nothing in it for them. Best decision I've ever made in my life was marrying a Filipina! She gave me a beautiful daughter and two older brothers for our daughter and more love than I had imagined. Take care of your girl and help her parents and she will shower you with love! I can't thank her parents enough for giving me this amazing, caring, giving person. Choose well and it's not that risky!
@kevinc...... What a fantastic life you have developed together, great to hear your storey. I guess to a certain extent a relationship is transactional, but hopefully their is a lot of love to. As you have found with your lovely Filipina. Every happiness friend & well done, you give us all hope. Enjoy your happiness & great life, you deserve it 👌
Another incredible video brother Calvin. So much wisdom my brother.
Truth Truth Truth Truth Truth
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ !
All relationships are transactional. Always have been, always will be. Friendships, jobs, everything. Once one side no longer finds enough value in the relationship, it ends. You get fired, you quit, divorce, or end of friendship. There is no unconditional. Everyone is with someone conditionally. Right or wrong, it's reality.
men start feeling used when a lady starts to tell you what else you need to be doing for HER when she isnt doing anything other than bringing pretty legs and hair and smile etc in a relationship. it makes most men wonder if its better to rent the cow than buy the cow.
I went to Belize to see if I wanna live there and yes it was a culture shock but Belize reminds me of the Philippines I'm 59 I met my wife in America we have a 2 year old daughter but just hoping one day to be friend you peace and blessings my brother
he is speaking facts. serious facts. but it is not just there. this nonsense is global nowadays. but if you tell a lady you want to marry her pretty legs etc for example, she will IMMEDIATELY tell you that she is more than legs etc. most men wont stay with a woman if we DONT GET ALONG WITH HER. facts
And that there my friends, is the key. Stop simping, know your worth. Understand that you have options here in the Phils at the tune of 57.7 million, possibly more. We had another song that was popular in PR. ‘Si tú no me quieres, me quiere la otra.’ Meaning, if you don’t want me, the next one will….
Transactional seems so cold and harsh. It may be the same but I prefer to call it reciprocity or reciprocal. With each relationship it’s a give and take from both parties.
I’m 55, 5’ 11”, net worth of $6M, fit, never married, no kids. If I could have a genuine relationship (even if transactional, but not a scam) for purposes of having children, then I’m in. Either way, I’m retiring at the end of this year.
U may looose your monnies quick then ,
Because if s he only want u for Ur mo Meny , S He wiL l leave u when s He got the legal power to get AL Imony, child sup port & some of that Net worth.
Or , may be S he will see the relationship as. Job what she does sad Ly as a duty & it will be a bad experience for u & u will L Eave.
Hope u find a gd partner , best wishes
Chinese saying: "Marry a man for money, you'll earn every penny of it".
@sandr...... There are a lot of very wise Chinese sayings & that is certainly a good one 👍
So daggone true. USA relationships too. Foreign countries are for sure transactional. They came from humble means we know. Nice topic. Thanks.
In a relationship, we do two things: give and take
"I am giving more in this relationship" - how do you measure it, anyway? Who gives more time, money, pleasure?
"I am being used." - in business, if you don't get the benefits you sign up for, terminate the contract. Leave.
Transactional relationship - a blunt term, indeed but sugar coating it isn't necessary.
Will add more thoughts when im not half asleep 😂
It's HARD for anyone to lay down with someone 20yrs older than them. Would it be easy for you to lay with a 80yr old. It's VERY HARD BELIEVE ME!!!!! FILIPINAS are no different. JUST DESPERATE for a better life for them and their families.
It's not hard at all. Quit hating
YESSS!!! I know the TRUTH hurts. How OLD are YOU??? Get someone 20yrs OLDER than you OKKKK!!!!! Then talk❤😊
It's hard to give money to a woman who isn't sleeping with you. Very hard, trust me
Good morning! I got tons of thoughts about this topic. I gotta organize it first. And I'm running late to work 😂 Excited to share my thoughts. Will get back to you, Calvin! 😂
Welcome back 😅
@@calroach1 been busy with life the past months.. Oh year(s) i guess 😂😂
It doesn't matter how many years she's with you. If it's transactional, she might get a higher offer and leave😢, or worse, she might accept a side hustle or 3 and stay🤑. That's where the STI's come in😵. Stay strong gents🫡.
If both parties are content then it’s great!!
I'm glad you are reading your comments because I have been saying this constantly!! You can't get away from it because if you stop providing, protecting, and planning, ALL women will eventually leave!!
Because:
She wants a better life...
And he wants a better wife...
When I was 49 I was with a 29 yr old American woman with 5 small kids,
a 20yr age gap..
I knew going in I was going to pay her bills and she was going to be my woman.
after 3 yrs she said I feel like her sugar daddy more than her boyfriend, I said about time you figured it out..she was disqusted by my reply
😅🤷🏿 👍🏾🇺🇸🇵🇭
Dude, you are more than a Sugar Daddy you helped her and her kids out of poverty she should kiss the ground you walk on and or settle for the reverse!!!
@@quinnbat
You would think huh?.
😅 their way of thinking its mind boggling how their brains works, but I dumped her 2 months later..
Its always about the money anywhere in the world like my mom once said no woman want a broke man .they can do bad on their iwn
Spending a million Pesos is much better than spending a million Dollars!
Tina asked" What's Love Gotta Do with It"? What's Love but a second hand emotion "? Well I heard you Cal say this a bit often, but do you Think that some Filipinos can actually Love Foreigner Men, or The Transaction is another Way so She doesn't End up on The Track?
One subscriber made a great point. He said when you remove love from the equation, things work out better.
I heard a man once say, "the man should have a different perspective on the word love". Love can be lonely and enslave. Emotions should be separated from the concept of "love". I believe love is an action not emotion and in such receipical disappointment must be accepted. There may be a point that even that nice body you sleep with isn't enough and it's time to move on.
people in hell dont care until they get there
If she wants your money it's not love.Thats what we called pay to play.Find a smart woman because beauty is just a bunos but having a partner with everything is rare.A woman that smart independent and a woman with a class
Love doesn't guarantee anything. I love my dog but I'm not going to marry him.
@@calroach1 No one marry dogs.But a woman who it's okay settling to man who doesn't have plans marrying her doesn't have a mind.
hey Cal...Starting all over again there in the Philippines is not a bad place to reset with all the beautiful choices one has. Of course, provided the man paces himself during the process. The topic you bring up in todays vlog is quite thought provoking to say the least.
I am raising my hand Calvin!
Was in a transactional relationship with a Thai. I now follow the 3 day rule and only date freelancers. It’s cheaper, no one gets hurt or has expectations and for me there is no such thing as true and lasting love.
You're absolutely right, Calvin. Excellent video and great take on the topic. How did you get such good quality audio, by the way? Are you using an external mic?
Thanks. I'm using my gimbal Alex.
@calroach1 Gotcha! Thanks bro.
in America some girls want, want but sometimes they don't put out because you didn't give enough. here there some that put out if you buy sack rice. or money for there parents cheaper than a Gucci bag
Hello sunshine shoulders, you are right.
I agree that most relationships are Transactional. It appears that there is an unspoken understanding there, while in the West it's lopsided
"it can make you feel used"-----like you dont use her body every chance you get and make her do all the housework 24/7 shake my head
It’s a both/and not an either/or. If your lucky. She wants your financial input and you want her beauty. But you can also both care for each other in an authentic way. If your lucky
@albion....... Well said, you totally nailed it, let's hope many can lucky, well done 💯
Bro Calvin,
Your 💯 % on point. Great delivery. Stay Strong 💪
It's taken me a while to learn the fact that all relationships are transactional. As long as both parties are getting what they want, are respectful to each other, and are happy, who the fuq cares? And besides, like you have noted, Calvin, how would you really know if she truly loves you? The alternative is dating in the West...yeah, no thanks.
Park looking good
You talk reality! It’s refreshing that you don’t try to mask the truth. Obviously these young girls are NOT attracted to a disabled old man! Don’t kid yourself, it’s desperation and this desperate attitude isn’t is bad in the USA and that’s why you don’t see these age gaps in USA as commonly.
If you ever want to meet someone, i forever want to be the only one in your life " i need your body" LOL 😆
Body and Lumpia Facts!
I think the solution always arcs towards future, common goal, family, children, grandchildren, AND MOST ESPECIALLY **GOD**
this takes the bluntness and crudeness and ickiness out of the transaction mindset..? just a thought 💭
I loved this RUclips video. Thank you! 🙏
As long as they both continue to deliver what difference does it make? Sure, I'll take care of your needs, but better be there when I need what I need too.
A couple of things. Guys from the west get caught up in how they have been used to being treated and their life experience, which is valid. We need a mind cleanse before going over there it seems(!) Second, it sounds like the girls get too comfortable and begin to demand more as time goes by. I could be wrong.
It looks nice there.
They work until your money runs out.
Think about it, why would a fit and beautiful woman of 22 be with a man in their sixties?
a love connection that goes beyond the superficial. It's a bond that often involves understanding each other's core values, beliefs, and life goals. This connection creates a sense of companionship, where both partners feel they're on the same team, working towards common dreams.
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@@123sabong I don't think many 22 year old women would have the same life goals and dreams as a man in his sixties. It's the unspoken agreement. Sorry I missed the joke if you were just being sarcastic.
In US - money only unless has a mental problem - here yes money but without the stigma - I knew a guy in Winland who had a "care giver" with benefits. Cost was P35,000 month. Saw her at pool in bikini - definitely worth it.
If both come forth and say . I looking for man that feed, cloth, roof , then help mom and dad . Then I live with you and provide you the man and women need . You older than I and never love you like a young man But I be faithful to you un till you pass on . Kept house clean , cook , etc . You do not beat on me or mistreat me … Now tha😢 up front honest
Thanks
Thank you so much for your support!
@calroach1 another top honest thought god bless u geezer
My brother if you only knew you'd be wishing you were in my shoes! You just keep on using me till you use me up! That's from me.
Bill Withers
Seems once you look at a relationship thats how things have always been. Women want security so its a mans job to provide that. Men want female attention so its a womens job to provide that. If both agree then the relationship will work. Most times a relationship will fail if one side is doing much more then the other side.
You are gonna pay one way or another. It's the unchangable rule of human life
Sounds like a deal!
Im still going to retire in Philippines 🇵🇭 with out being used 😅😅😅
I'm In Denial in Mindanao😏
💪🏿👍
Hey Calvin I'm new to your show and your channel Im watching your old videos I'm married my wife is from Belize I'm just trying to find out where I wanna move to the Philippines or Belize
Great choice to have 💪🏾
Thanks brotha
Thanks for your support
Guess it doesn't take a lot of money to buy her
Your right it doesnt take alot of money many woman there dont ask for much especially if you live a healthy lifestyle they are mostly happy when your hiking playing ball running around and even a $10 bracelet means the world to them you would never get these reaction from a woman in usa or other places
Well if they can stay happy at that $1500 to $1700.00 per months total expenditures and she carries her end then it would seem that it would be worth it. But if it's a never ending battle to spend more on her behalf then it wouldn't seem right. Does that make sense? And yes that's the unwritten rule right?
But if relationship become toxic , & break up happens no More Financial support to ex Filipino like Palimony or something?
(In case of no kids)
I think i rather stay home and go fishing.
This is just a fact any where in the world . please Calvin don`t think of yourself as a ATM machine on wheels
Love of a woman for a man is always with conditions.
Ain’t nothing new under the sun This is how it’s always been between man and woman
My next relationship shall be entirely transactional, up front, and in writing. Complete with consequences for non performance. No contract, no relationship (marriage); Period! Love? LMAO! Be serious. Not opposed but, not required.
USING EACH OTHER,THATS WHATYOU CALL IT.TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION.BAD DEAL FOR THE YOUNG ASIAN.GOOD DEAL FOR THE OLD FOREIGNER.
The Filipino man has no problem with the unspoken agreement, so why should you. It happens every day here. Woman marry and partner up with providers. Leave the fairy tales for the children.
Sunshine. Now you being honest . Let men know up front the real story . With this it take the scam out of the relatesonship
All relationships are transactional, the Phils even more so.
You Pay to Play at some point with Anyone>
I never paid for sex .............so, many angry bar girls are after me
Transactional relationships would never work for me..
Folks from someone that has experienced what Calvin is talking about on this subject, please listen to him very carefully, if you plan to move here and meet that “special someone” this little talk is right on target!
This is why I love listening to this guy, he just tells it like it is.
No cal don't stand for it I dumped my filipna because of using me for transactions relationship if they can't bring to the table as two become one then its a redflag
World's oldest profession!!!
What I learned from religious extremists -
1. Embrace celibacy.
2. Embrace masturbation.
3. Take sex completely off the table.
No transactional relationship will even begin.
You get to keep your money, your sanity and your peace of mind.
Most women are users!!!
How yall find these women?
Sex is not LOVE.
Why don't you ever talk about monetary policy? Unsound money is the foundation for transactional relationships.
Bro, this is cringe
Screw that! My doe is my doe! I. steady mobbin, AND I'm straight JACKIN!
Yep, jackin OFF and alone. You're gonna pay. Whether it be taking them out to dinner or buying them a gift $$$ is still getting spent. If you aint putting out then she aint putting out.