Take your time in choosing a college course. Go with what you love, dont rush in choosing. I rushed in choosing mine, and im having a hard time with it.
I have no aim or passion in life.The harder i try the harder life gets.I am starting to go nuts.I did my best for the last 3 years but i failed and it got harder each time.I am scared about life from the core of my heart.I can't almost enjoy anything anymore.I pretty much figured out how life works but everytime something unexpected happens.Now i can't even take action from fear.
Sounds like your biggest goal right now might be to explore your curiosities so that you can find your passion/ purpose. I'm working on something now that solves this very problem- stay tuned. Be sure to sign up for my email list if you haven't already!
this helps me alot! I was really scared about where I was heading and was too busy worrying about what other ppl will think of my life choices. But what you said helped. I may not know where I'm headed but I know where I want to be. I see myself living a calm and quiet life,I'm a hard worker so I can support and take care of myself. I feel better knowing that this is my life and none else's. I'm going to make my future come true!
Some people who are frightened of growing up would say to their parents:"Leaving primary school is one thing,but leaving high school is far too scarier."
I am 12 years old living in America.. and my problem is that I am always scared that a nuclear bomb will come. I know this sounds completely stupid but this is literally terrifying living like this. If I see a bird, a plane, or a helicopter out of the window I am instantly scared. I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t go to sleep at night. I randomly start crying thinking about things like what I am going to do and what will happen to my family- I don’t want to lose them. No matter how much information I get against my fear, for some reason I am still fearing it. Just thinking about it makes me want to cry. I am currently on vacation in London and I am dreading going back, scared about what will happen. Whenever I hear loud noises I get terrified. This dint happen until summer break, and I think that because then with school I had less time to think to myself, I was just busy. It happened at night though. and now that I have time to myself, I have time to think, I keep on thinking about it and it got so much worse that I have no idea how to handle it.. I need help and I don’t really know what to do... 😢😢😢
Wow! Not a good way to go about your days. This paranoia will definitely keep you from living your days to the fullest. I suggest talking with someone to help you work through it.
I am in year 10(grade 9) and I am stressed. I feel like if I don’t do well in GCSE’s then I will never get a good job and be unhappy for the rest of my life, I just feel like my fortune is dull and distressing
Your advice can relate to so many people! Being able to create your vision allows you to shape your own destiny and build the future that you aspire to have. Setting goals and having a clear direction for the future allows you to confidently live life full out
Great tips Shaina ! :-) I would just add this : Do not assign your happiness to your goals because there is a lot of variables that may go wrong ... ( Also depends on what do you perceive as a goals ? What time frame , how specific etc . many get goals confused with intentions , or visions )
Thanks for watching! Yes, creating a sense of happiness internally FIRST is the key. I talk more about not attaching happiness to external events in past videos. This video specifically focused on gaining the feeling of excitement. In my personal xperience, there have been the rare occasions that fear takes over, but because I have a strong, clear vision, I'm able to flip the switch quickly. I've found that with the "right" vision, and the consistent action to see goals through, that excitement level triumphs every time : )
anybody would be scared shitless if they are hold up at gunpoint because actually you are still being scared of the future that is the potential of the trigger being pulled, but it's still seconds into the future. i heard this from my dad who is taking a class in meditation.
I'm just a pre-teen, and I am super scared of dying. I mean, nobody is here to tell about it, so we don't really know what happens. I'm a Christian, but I'm always scared that for example, "How do people know what happens after you die?" Is it all made up or what? Sorry, I haven't talked to my mom about this cause I know she'll say something. I might talk to her tonight.
The great news is...that you get to decide what happens! You are in control of your own thoughts and beliefs. If you're scared of dying it means that you have a scary thought happening in your mind.
I've been a loner since middle school and haven't had a romantic relationship with anyone up till now. But I did made a few friends now. As my high school life is coming to an end I'm scared that I'm wasting my time and not living my high school life to the fullest. I'm scared that the fun times that I have with my friends now are not going to be there anymore and my life would revert back to the time in middle school. I feel like life still have so much to give and I'm not receiving. I don't want to loose these happy days, laughing, chatting and spending time together. We'd see each other everyday at the same place and the same time but won't get bored of this lifestyle. We'd go out together as a huge group on holidays and skip school sometimes. I don't want to loose these happy days. I don't want to loose my friends and be alone again. I want to spend more time with them. I don't want tomorrow to happen.
There is a lot of FEAR going on in your head and a lot of resistance. I encourage you to work through your thinking so that you can move onto the next chapter of your life with open arms!
Hhhhh. Why couldn't I find this sooner? I don't know how much it will help, but my chronophobia is just awful. I can't stand the sound of a clock ticking. I am a choice mute, well mostly, I will talk to my close friends using words but there is only 1 person. Im at a point in my life where I don't know what to do. I have a therapist but so far all they've done is put me on pills. Those pills help but it still doesn't help, just frustrates me cause I loose my ability to feel sad, and to think about what I say.. Anyway, I am a very young teen with such a strong fear of change and the future. I live in a home that all there is, is just yelling and fighting. It hasn't really improved but I can tell my mother is at least trying. It doesn't make it easy since I get attacked by my younger sister, and get emotionally abused by her. She has her own issues but I can't help but detest her. On the outside I make it seem like her words don't hurt me. But they do, it's to the point I don't do anything except sit on the couch and message the only people who seem to care...I basically have become what those words have told me. I've become lazy, I'm ungrateful, I'm fat, I've been told by my sister that she wishes I would just die. Hhhh. I just have a lot of issues. Ive had bad expierences in the past, those have addee to it. All the stuff that goes on, it's left me with severe fear of time. Even thinking about it I'm going to cry. The fear is so bad, I don't want to even think about having a child in the future, I fear getting married..just basically anything..my chronophobia also ties into my slight fear of death. I'll be leaving something behind, I think the fear of death is that I might pass away before my lover and then he'll move on to someone else, and forget about me. I also have a issue where I have gotten so good at concealing and bottling everything up because no one will understand, even when they say the do, that sometimes, especially when I'm upset or angry, I feel it in my chest but I can't let it out. It's like it's stuck. Which puts me in more distress. I also still even with all of this don't really even know myself. I don't understand how people expect me to explain myself when I don't even really understand myself. It also doesn't help I'm super in-tune to the enviorment and can sense the second the energies change and I can read people so easily, feel their emotions and those emotions become my own. It's one of the few true reasons I've just stopped talking. People only understand what they are able to comprehend on their level. I have never been listened to when I talk. Plus in the past when I would talk, I could tell people found it annoying, so if I don't talk I can't annoy them. Now though people don't respect my choice and try to force me to talk. Like my gym teacher. He makes me talk to him instead of typing it out. My other teachers don't mind, plus I do pretty good in their classes and don't have much trouble. Spanish is the only thing I have trouble with. Anyway, to make this long reason short, People as they try to force me to talk it makes me not want to talk even more. Another reason is that half the time I have began to feel worthless enough that me talking wouldn't matter. People never really listen, and the only one of my close friends that is in the same state I am, and that I go to school with is the only one I talk to. She doesn't make me explain myself, she's basically my emotional support at school when my dogs and cats aren't around. Anyway, long story short. I just don't know who I am, I have no goals, no will at all, not even the will to fight back. I just still feel broken, even with the support of my friends. They bring me happiness I haven't had since my lessons stopped, which I can't get back until my grades are straight A's which is upsetting because when I am on horseback, I find myself, I feel happy and free. I have something I want to focus on, I feel the powerful proud movement of the creature beneath me, I just feel like I'm complete. The bond I had with my lesson horse before she passed away this year, was just the strongest. It pains me everyday, I never got to say goodbye to her, just like I never got to with my very first lesson horse...my family doesn't understand how much riding did for me, they have asked why I'm so terrible now, I tell them its because I dont have my lessons and all they say is "get your grades up and you can ride again" my sister does cheering, and she still gets to do it, even if she has a C. So why should my grades matter? Anyway I have ranted off again...hhh. Just, does anyone have any advice at all? I feel like I'm just in a downward spiral.
I'm currently a senior, about to graduate in a few months. I'm literally terrified of what my life will become. I defiinelty don't want to live a "normal" life. I live on a small island and things are not that exciting here. Hopefully i can do what I want.
Hey there. If I were you, I'd start by getting clear on what you want. What do you want your future to be? Start painting a clear vision so then you can take start scheming and come up with an actionable plan.
The reason why I'm worrying about the future now it's because of my final football season and I'm starting to get pressured day after day when I think about it man. I'm just worried of what the outcome of next year's season is gonna be when I lead the team along with other players who are in their final year of high school football.
Hey there. I know for a fact our best performances and work are achieved when we're feeling excited and inspired. Don't let your fear get the best of you and possibly create the one thing you fear the most. What's so bad about not knowing the outcome and instead leaning into the excitement of your last year and why you love football?
Hi Shaina, I love your videos, you´re doing a super good job here! I´ve subscribed after seeing just one video of yours and been watching you all the time since. I almost never comment on RUclips but I want to comment here to say thank you! :)
I'm from the UK and in my first year of college/ Year 12 (11th grade) and instead of staying on at the 6th form college connected to my old school and studying 3 subjects I decided to go somewhere new. I'm doing a performing Arts course and even tho I think I'm enjoying it, I always get this horrible feeling of fear and regret. I fear that I've chosen the wrong subject and that one day I might realise I don't actually like performing arts as much as I thought I did. And then what do I do? I would have wasted 2 years studying the wrong thing when I could have played it safe and stayed at my old school studying 3 separate things. I just feel like, what if I've made the wrong decision? I wanted to take the risk cus all my life I've liked acting so I thought I owed to myself to give it a shot. So I want to see these 2 years through, but I'm just so scared that at the end of it when it's done and all my friends are going off to uni I'll be left directionless and visionless. I know this comments so long and confusing but please reply because this has really been stressing me out every single day and I can't stop thinking about it and I don't know what to do
Hey um I’m 14 and I am mainly scared of my future and death...because I mainly want to stay young and live like a kid for ever, and I mainly do want a year to repeat it self, time to repeat it self, but yet...this calmed me down a bit but I am still terrified....and pls, I need much encouragement to be able to smile and look ahead to my future instead of trying to hold my past.
The fact that you're so aware of this is amazing. This is honestly half the battle. You got this. If I were you, I'd use that fear of growing up, as the motivation to live everyday to the fullest and make the most out of the one life you have!
I love how you are always so real and answer people’s comments!!! I also have a fear but it’s because in 1 month I have to leave to mexico to see if my husband gets approve to live in the US if he gets denied I be homeless we have the house because of where he works and also he is the love of my life but the thing is it gets pretty violent at certain months where he lives(in mexico) ,it has me on the edge can’t sleep even though am very positive for others and myself but this one is a bit hard .
Hey girl. Sorry to hear that you're having to deal with some tough circumstances! While there are some things out of your control, I suggest starting with the one thing that is in your control- and that is your THINKING. How do you wan to FEEL about your future? And what THOUGHT (belief) will create that feeling? For example, "I KNOW that everything will work out as it's meant to." Or if that seems like to much of a jump, maybe something like "I'm learning to TRUST the journey."
Seeing ppl not just me that are afraid of the future makes me feel that im not alone Being afraid of the future causes me to cry alot and that one day my parent's will die or that people i love will die someday or like one day i will die and no one will remember me
I encourage you to make it your goal to find peace and calm right now. Otherwise, by living your own fear you contribute to the collective fear of the world.
i'm literally crying right now, i have exams coming up and my grades are falling apart. I don't know how to say it to my parents, that their daughter has been messing up her life right now, I'm trying my best to study and understand it all, how can i climp up from all this mess. Its been my dream. Will it just be only a dream now? I'm an accountancy student and i can't understand everything thats been thought to us in my major subjects. I'm starting to have an anxiety. Any advice please? : (((
Hey, it's been 3 yrs I know. Maybe you already passed your course and have forgotten this comment. Anyway, I feel the same way as you, but one thing I learned from life is that whatever you fear, observe it, analyze the reason and solve that. For you maybe it's your parent's opinion and plans and for me, it's independence.
I am excited to be a new sub! :D I also like the saying I might mess it up but its along the lines of these days are the best days of your life I changed it a bit to today is the best day of your life :) Just a great reminder to be in the moment :D
thank you for your video! I needed that today! I just saw your channel for thr first time. liked your style very much. You got yourself a new subscriber. :)
I've been away from my dad for 8 yrs because he worked in another country and he finally left the job and came back...i thought i could spend time with him for at least 2-3 months but her has to move away again next week...it's more near but i won't be able to see him every day My best friend is moving away in a month and I will really be lonely in school...I'm scared we'll lose touch and that next year is going to be with people I've known for a long time but never cared to talk to I might have to start preparing for an entrance exam for college and the next 2 yrs will be hectic and I will have to distance myself from everything I might not be able to visit my dad often, or spend time with friends or even go out The future scares me and i don't want it to come
I just got out of school and for a year now I tried to get my dream job. I got a lot of job interviews but nothing worked out. I‘m trying so hard but I feel so lost.
Feeling lost or burnt out? If you're on the "right" path for yourself- the one you're meant to travel, you shouldn't be feeling lost. If that's the case, you may have veered off course a bit. I suggest reconnecting with your purpose and revisiting your vision! Let that lead the way.
I have horrible grades, I have no money to pay for collage or trade school, and no company wants me because I'm too mentally unstable, and I can't pay for therapy cause I'm poor! My life is gonna be shit
Hi there. I'm not familiar at all with chronophobia and if it's something that needs to be addressed by a professional? My advice for "fear of the past" is to channel your fear into something positive. One of my favorite sayings to live by is "life is too short." I not only believe this statement as I'm sure you do too, but it's a constant reminder that I must take massive action to achieve everything I want to achieve and take nothing for granted. You don't want to allow your fear to consume you and stay stuck!
i should use a bambo stick and hit you on the head with it and if you ask why did i do that for, i'll say it doesn't matter. it's in the past. lol. know where that's from?
My head is messed up atm I never sleep and I might have a health problem and I’m having knee surgery again while my other one is still recovering and I have no idea what I want to do in the future and I need to pass maths and English next year when my minds going to be very messed up and I might develop ptsd and become depressed so I’m fucking terrified
I’m 10 years old and I’m panicking about when I’m gonna get a deep voice and when I’m gonna get braces when I’m 13 I’m terrified about being an adult and growing a beard I’m terrified and panicking here😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰
Im scared I will never have another child because of fear of another miscarriage. Very tough to do but doesn’t have to be my future. I’ve created this fear . Result of this= failure to stay pregnant
Um afraid about everything related to the future. I guess this feeling has to do with wjat i went through in the past... Yet I can overcome thinking and thinking so much that i feel my mind is buzzing
see i don't know where i want to go. Im going to junior year of highschool and things such as sat and act are scaring the shit out of me. As well as taking AP classes in which i need to get a 4 or 5 on because i got two failing grades and two 3s so far... I have no motivation to work hard in my classes because they don't interest me... i'm more interested in drawing, painting, dancing, singing, acting, playing instruments, and new discoveries (this includes finding out new techniques to solve math problems, biology, chemistry, physics and a lot of science and math videos)..... however my parents don't approve of the famous lifestyle of trying to find an acting career or creating art in any shape or form... they think I wouldn't be successful or gain any money to sustain a good life with no struggles. To an extent, I see where they are coming from, but they suggested to do something else, like business, which is kinda interesting but I don't want to head in the direction of becoming a CEO of a company or have high authority in a company.. that stresses me out a lot (I don't like being in charge of other people). i often run away from my problems by going on to youtube which doesn't help me accomplish school assignments. I need help sorting my life out so I can get myself to a healthy place where i eat healthy, work out, and work on a schedule which allows me to have some free time as well as get work done in time and with a well written assignment with good effort put into it. This "work" includes creating thought out assignments thinking of the question and proper answer, researching some extra to help out with understanding the subject as well as finding a study plan. I am having huge struggles to get there. I have even started very small with getting my chores done in time. I get this done, i find difficulty trying to maintain it and wanting to continue doing chores. I am even trying to incorporate a small time for self care. I also find myself on youtube watching things that won't help me but are really fun and cute to watch (daniel radcliffe and tom holland playing with puppies) Someone please help me find a way to create a lifestyle in which i can take care of myself, and a way to decide a goal to which i can strive for.
If you have the willingness (as it sounds like you do) to change your lifestyle I recommend hiring a coach and/ or reading some personal development books. I'm starting a monthly membership group in September that might interest you!
I know what to do in life. I gathered courage to fight the society and go against everything to do what I want. But then i think life is just too small. How will I do all this in such small time. Will I be able to achieve it? I don't know I'm fucked up 😩
I'm so scared of the future istg. I have to give NEET once I grow up it's exciting but scary. I want to become a great surgeon but I'm scary I'm 14 and I feel like a lot of time has went by and that I've wasted too much time... Idk. I'm scared. PS: loved ur video and ur personality so I subscribed
Hey ur only 14...it's never too late..and i know it's scary to think that u will have to sacrifice a lot of things in the future for NEET and distance urself from everything but I hope u find enjoyment in what ur doing and u will be satisfied with the results All the best!
I know this video has been uploaded 3 years ago, but I will still say, I searched for this because I am scared of how many things and people I will lose, I am very afraid of losing my loved ones and I know I am wasting time thinking about losing them instead of actually spending time with them, I really don't know what to do, I will turn 12 in 2 days, I really don't know why I am haveing such thoughts I am so young!
I'm not worried for jobs and money. But for building a family and making human relationships 🙁i have friends but they always say I don't have friends and other shameful staff i know it's a joke but i still hurt and i just try to smile and don't care😒but when i do this they always say i'm faking my anger or my emotions 😑i don't know what to do. I always go home and i think i'm useless and i will be always alone😒
How do you define a friend? Because people that say things like that don't sound like true friends to me. I suggest getting clear on what you DESERVE and what you're capable of FIRST!! It sounds like you're making decisions and choosing your relationships from an insecure place.
I'm so scared about future because I am always filled with panicness and anxiety... please suggest me some ideas to stop worrying so much so that I can go abroad and study
I resigned from my job because I was pressured by my boss. I’m going to start a new job next month but it’s only a part time job. I’m anxious because I have bills to pay. I applied for other jobs but there’s no good fit for me (schedule, distance, etc). What should I do?
I just want to let you know that it is okay to be afraid and you are not alone at all. My best advice is to just keep moving forward and continue everyday to strive to be better than yesterday. You're young now and eventually you'll figure everything out as time goes on. I was in your same shoes when I was 18 and I'm 22 now. Things do get easier and more clear I promise, just be patient!
Im scared bc my dad wants to move to spain because he is very depressed in this dark country (sweden). And i still have school, and a education to get. My mom want to move back to her homeland and i have no siblings so i feel very lonely
Alot of things i'm afraid of 😔 1. Moving out of the house and leaving my parents They brought me into this world and i grew up seeing them everyday that someday i have to move on without them which gives me anxiety. 2. How old my parents are growing I'm super scared of their death, the people who took care of you and leaving your life is just so deppresing. I can't live without them at any point. 3. Getting married Do we really need to get married? The only people i love are my parents and family 4. Covid/pandemic it gives me much anxiety, not going anywhere i want. I'm scared the only place i could visit in life is my house 🤕 5. How much the world would change I don't want the world to be full of technology, i just want it to be normal like this day 😰
I know my pfp is dead meme, but I’m 13, and I feel like every action I do is a mistake and by the time I’m an adult I’ll be like “ I should’ve done that as a kid” or “ I should’ve signed up for this sport to this club” eventually my childhood will end and I used to be afraid of that part, but now I’m not, but I’m still worked that I’m wasting my time with every movement, every thought, I guess what I’m saying is for me it feels like life is like 1 hour a minute, like I don’t have enough time. I’m Lowery confused
I loathe the words "should" and "shouldn't." I encourage you to focus less on what you think you should or shouldn't be doing and start exploring what you really want. What are you interested in? How do you want to spend your time?
Interesting. This is definitely a thought to explore some more. Why do you think this? Where does this come from? How is it not serving you. I also suggest putting the phrase "I'm just having the thought that..." before this fearful thinking.
Shaina Leis the problem is I get too involved in films. But for some reason end of the world creep me out I don't want to die and I don't want bad things to happen
Who here came because they're afraid of going or picking a course for college?
It's been so long since I was in college, I can't even remember if that was something that was nerve racking lol
SHINJA X same, I have no idea what I’m going to do in college
I’m thinking about what courses I have to take in high school to go to university
lmao literally me, i just graduated high school and im flipping shit
Take your time in choosing a college course. Go with what you love, dont rush in choosing. I rushed in choosing mine, and im having a hard time with it.
I’m so scared of everything!!
Sounds like a terrible way to go through life 🙁
Get working on that to increase your quality of life 💛
The same for me this year
Same
Me too
I have no aim or passion in life.The harder i try the harder life gets.I am starting to go nuts.I did my best for the last 3 years but i failed and it got harder each time.I am scared about life from the core of my heart.I can't almost enjoy anything anymore.I pretty much figured out how life works but everytime something unexpected happens.Now i can't even take action from fear.
Sounds like your biggest goal right now might be to explore your curiosities so that you can find your passion/ purpose. I'm working on something now that solves this very problem- stay tuned. Be sure to sign up for my email list if you haven't already!
Shaina Leis I like anything i am good at.I get good at anything i try.But everything has good and bad sides.I will stay tuned.
Elizabeth Gilbert
What happens in your life is in your hands, the things that happen out of your control shouldn't control you. Just let those things be.
this helps me alot! I was really scared about where I was heading and was too busy worrying about what other ppl will think of my life choices. But what you said helped. I may not know where I'm headed but I know where I want to be. I see myself living a calm and quiet life,I'm a hard worker so I can support and take care of myself. I feel better knowing that this is my life and none else's. I'm going to make my future come true!
Some people who are frightened of growing up would say to their parents:"Leaving primary school is one thing,but leaving high school is far too scarier."
Well when I worry about the future
I cry bc my parents will die, scared my mom will die or dad. And if they do I wanna die to meet them 😭😭
😧 that's a lot of fear and worry going on in your head
Shaina Leis yeah ☹️😖
Pɪsᴀᴏ fox that’s how I feel tooo and I’m terrified
Sameee 😥😭😭😭😭
Same tho 😭
Im scared of the future because im a introvert male with axiety.
Same here
Same and I’m about to graduate college next year and I don’t know if I will be capable of having a real job
I am 12 years old living in America.. and my problem is that I am always scared that a nuclear bomb will come. I know this sounds completely stupid but this is literally terrifying living like this. If I see a bird, a plane, or a helicopter out of the window I am instantly scared. I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t go to sleep at night. I randomly start crying thinking about things like what I am going to do and what will happen to my family- I don’t want to lose them. No matter how much information I get against my fear, for some reason I am still fearing it. Just thinking about it makes me want to cry. I am currently on vacation in London and I am dreading going back, scared about what will happen. Whenever I hear loud noises I get terrified. This dint happen until summer break, and I think that because then with school I had less time to think to myself, I was just busy. It happened at night though. and now that I have time to myself, I have time to think, I keep on thinking about it and it got so much worse that I have no idea how to handle it.. I need help and I don’t really know what to do... 😢😢😢
Wow! Not a good way to go about your days. This paranoia will definitely keep you from living your days to the fullest. I suggest talking with someone to help you work through it.
Shaina Leis okay, thanks. I’ll see when I go back I can get some help with this..
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I am in year 10(grade 9) and I am stressed. I feel like if I don’t do well in GCSE’s then I will never get a good job and be unhappy for the rest of my life, I just feel like my fortune is dull and distressing
Your advice can relate to so many people! Being able to create your vision allows you to shape your own destiny and build the future that you aspire to have. Setting goals and having a clear direction for the future allows you to confidently live life full out
Exactly. It's so important to shape our futures with goals. Otherwise, where are we going?
Great tips Shaina ! :-) I would just add this : Do not assign your happiness to your goals because there is a lot of variables that may go wrong ... ( Also depends on what do you perceive as a goals ? What time frame , how specific etc . many get goals confused with intentions , or visions )
Thanks for watching! Yes, creating a sense of happiness internally FIRST is the key. I talk more about not attaching happiness to external events in past videos. This video specifically focused on gaining the feeling of excitement. In my personal xperience, there have been the rare occasions that fear takes over, but because I have a strong, clear vision, I'm able to flip the switch quickly. I've found that with the "right" vision, and the consistent action to see goals through, that excitement level triumphs every time : )
Awesome ! :-)
I'm scared of my future Im afraid of it bc I will lose my family and not have a home not have food water and other needed things
anybody would be scared shitless if they are hold up at gunpoint because actually you are still being scared of the future that is the potential of the trigger being pulled, but it's still seconds into the future. i heard this from my dad who is taking a class in meditation.
youtube need more people like you.
So sweet of you to say. Thank you!
***** I am really excited to watch your videos. Keep it going 😊
Many more to come!
I'm just a pre-teen, and I am super scared of dying. I mean, nobody is here to tell about it, so we don't really know what happens. I'm a Christian, but I'm always scared that for example, "How do people know what happens after you die?" Is it all made up or what? Sorry, I haven't talked to my mom about this cause I know she'll say something. I might talk to her tonight.
The great news is...that you get to decide what happens! You are in control of your own thoughts and beliefs. If you're scared of dying it means that you have a scary thought happening in your mind.
I've been a loner since middle school and haven't had a romantic relationship with anyone up till now. But I did made a few friends now. As my high school life is coming to an end I'm scared that I'm wasting my time and not living my high school life to the fullest. I'm scared that the fun times that I have with my friends now are not going to be there anymore and my life would revert back to the time in middle school. I feel like life still have so much to give and I'm not receiving. I don't want to loose these happy days, laughing, chatting and spending time together. We'd see each other everyday at the same place and the same time but won't get bored of this lifestyle. We'd go out together as a huge group on holidays and skip school sometimes. I don't want to loose these happy days. I don't want to loose my friends and be alone again. I want to spend more time with them. I don't want tomorrow to happen.
There is a lot of FEAR going on in your head and a lot of resistance. I encourage you to work through your thinking so that you can move onto the next chapter of your life with open arms!
I am so scared of college, scholarships, jobs, success, going broke, etc etc. uhhhhh
same
It's just a vacuum. LOL. Great advice.
Lol thanks!
Thank you for this wonderful advice Shaina! May God bless you! 🙏❤
You're very welcome!
I love this video! Thank you so much for sharing this!
You’re very welcome ☺️
0:21 ME EVERY FREAKING DAY
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I'm very lucky to find your channel. Tnks it was really helpful.
Aww yay!! So glad :)
Hhhhh. Why couldn't I find this sooner? I don't know how much it will help, but my chronophobia is just awful. I can't stand the sound of a clock ticking.
I am a choice mute, well mostly, I will talk to my close friends using words but there is only 1 person. Im at a point in my life where I don't know what to do. I have a therapist but so far all they've done is put me on pills. Those pills help but it still doesn't help, just frustrates me cause I loose my ability to feel sad, and to think about what I say.. Anyway, I am a very young teen with such a strong fear of change and the future. I live in a home that all there is, is just yelling and fighting. It hasn't really improved but I can tell my mother is at least trying. It doesn't make it easy since I get attacked by my younger sister, and get emotionally abused by her. She has her own issues but I can't help but detest her. On the outside I make it seem like her words don't hurt me. But they do, it's to the point I don't do anything except sit on the couch and message the only people who seem to care...I basically have become what those words have told me. I've become lazy, I'm ungrateful, I'm fat, I've been told by my sister that she wishes I would just die. Hhhh. I just have a lot of issues. Ive had bad expierences in the past, those have addee to it. All the stuff that goes on, it's left me with severe fear of time. Even thinking about it I'm going to cry. The fear is so bad, I don't want to even think about having a child in the future, I fear getting married..just basically anything..my chronophobia also ties into my slight fear of death. I'll be leaving something behind, I think the fear of death is that I might pass away before my lover and then he'll move on to someone else, and forget about me. I also have a issue where I have gotten so good at concealing and bottling everything up because no one will understand, even when they say the do, that sometimes, especially when I'm upset or angry, I feel it in my chest but I can't let it out. It's like it's stuck. Which puts me in more distress. I also still even with all of this don't really even know myself. I don't understand how people expect me to explain myself when I don't even really understand myself. It also doesn't help I'm super in-tune to the enviorment and can sense the second the energies change and I can read people so easily, feel their emotions and those emotions become my own. It's one of the few true reasons I've just stopped talking. People only understand what they are able to comprehend on their level. I have never been listened to when I talk. Plus in the past when I would talk, I could tell people found it annoying, so if I don't talk I can't annoy them. Now though people don't respect my choice and try to force me to talk. Like my gym teacher. He makes me talk to him instead of typing it out. My other teachers don't mind, plus I do pretty good in their classes and don't have much trouble. Spanish is the only thing I have trouble with. Anyway, to make this long reason short, People as they try to force me to talk it makes me not want to talk even more. Another reason is that half the time I have began to feel worthless enough that me talking wouldn't matter. People never really listen, and the only one of my close friends that is in the same state I am, and that I go to school with is the only one I talk to. She doesn't make me explain myself, she's basically my emotional support at school when my dogs and cats aren't around.
Anyway, long story short.
I just don't know who I am, I have no goals, no will at all, not even the will to fight back. I just still feel broken, even with the support of my friends. They bring me happiness I haven't had since my lessons stopped, which I can't get back until my grades are straight A's which is upsetting because when I am on horseback, I find myself, I feel happy and free. I have something I want to focus on, I feel the powerful proud movement of the creature beneath me, I just feel like I'm complete. The bond I had with my lesson horse before she passed away this year, was just the strongest. It pains me everyday, I never got to say goodbye to her, just like I never got to with my very first lesson horse...my family doesn't understand how much riding did for me, they have asked why I'm so terrible now, I tell them its because I dont have my lessons and all they say is "get your grades up and you can ride again" my sister does cheering, and she still gets to do it, even if she has a C. So why should my grades matter? Anyway I have ranted off again...hhh.
Just, does anyone have any advice at all? I feel like I'm just in a downward spiral.
hey, how are you now? has anything changed? i hope so, but if not that's ok, im sure something eventually will change 🤍
I'm currently a senior, about to graduate in a few months. I'm literally terrified of what my life will become. I defiinelty don't want to live a "normal" life. I live on a small island and things are not that exciting here. Hopefully i can do what I want.
Hey there. If I were you, I'd start by getting clear on what you want. What do you want your future to be? Start painting a clear vision so then you can take start scheming and come up with an actionable plan.
Awsum words. Shaina. Destiny is not a destination its a journey.
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The reason why I'm worrying about the future now it's because of my final football season and I'm starting to get pressured day after day when I think about it man. I'm just worried of what the outcome of next year's season is gonna be when I lead the team along with other players who are in their final year of high school football.
Hey there. I know for a fact our best performances and work are achieved when we're feeling excited and inspired. Don't let your fear get the best of you and possibly create the one thing you fear the most. What's so bad about not knowing the outcome and instead leaning into the excitement of your last year and why you love football?
Hi Shaina, I love your videos, you´re doing a super good job here! I´ve subscribed after seeing just one video of yours and been watching you all the time since. I almost never comment on RUclips but I want to comment here to say thank you! :)
Aww thank you. I'm so glad you commented ☺️ It's nice to meet you!! Thanks for being a loyal viewer 😉
Thank you Shaina, thank you so so much
You're SO welcome!
Ya I'm scared of ww3, zombie outbreaks, robots, when the world runs out of oil and all of that shit. My anxiety and depression are not helping
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I'm from the UK and in my first year of college/ Year 12 (11th grade) and instead of staying on at the 6th form college connected to my old school and studying 3 subjects I decided to go somewhere new. I'm doing a performing Arts course and even tho I think I'm enjoying it, I always get this horrible feeling of fear and regret. I fear that I've chosen the wrong subject and that one day I might realise I don't actually like performing arts as much as I thought I did. And then what do I do? I would have wasted 2 years studying the wrong thing when I could have played it safe and stayed at my old school studying 3 separate things. I just feel like, what if I've made the wrong decision? I wanted to take the risk cus all my life I've liked acting so I thought I owed to myself to give it a shot. So I want to see these 2 years through, but I'm just so scared that at the end of it when it's done and all my friends are going off to uni I'll be left directionless and visionless. I know this comments so long and confusing but please reply because this has really been stressing me out every single day and I can't stop thinking about it and I don't know what to do
Stay true to your conviction and TRUST. It sounds like you made a gut decision and now just commit to it!
You ll be okay. Just believe
How are you now?
Loving that intro !! this video is what I needed thank you x
So happy you liked it : )
Hey um I’m 14 and I am mainly scared of my future and death...because I mainly want to stay young and live like a kid for ever, and I mainly do want a year to repeat it self, time to repeat it self, but yet...this calmed me down a bit but I am still terrified....and pls, I need much encouragement to be able to smile and look ahead to my future instead of trying to hold my past.
The fact that you're so aware of this is amazing. This is honestly half the battle. You got this. If I were you, I'd use that fear of growing up, as the motivation to live everyday to the fullest and make the most out of the one life you have!
I love how you are always so real and answer people’s comments!!!
I also have a fear but it’s because in 1 month I have to leave to mexico to see if my husband gets approve to live in the US if he gets denied I be homeless we have the house because of where he works and also he is the love of my life but the thing is it gets pretty violent at certain months where he lives(in mexico) ,it has me on the edge can’t sleep even though am very positive for others and myself but this one is a bit hard .
Hey girl. Sorry to hear that you're having to deal with some tough circumstances! While there are some things out of your control, I suggest starting with the one thing that is in your control- and that is your THINKING. How do you wan to FEEL about your future? And what THOUGHT (belief) will create that feeling? For example, "I KNOW that everything will work out as it's meant to." Or if that seems like to much of a jump, maybe something like "I'm learning to TRUST the journey."
Hope everything turned out okay 👍🏽
I need to do this.
Seeing ppl not just me that are afraid of the future makes me feel that im not alone
Being afraid of the future causes me to cry alot and that one day my parent's will die or that people i love will die someday or like one day i will die and no one will remember me
I’m scared at what’s gonna happen to the world
I encourage you to make it your goal to find peace and calm right now. Otherwise, by living your own fear you contribute to the collective fear of the world.
i'm literally crying right now, i have exams coming up and my grades are falling apart. I don't know how to say it to my parents, that their daughter has been messing up her life right now, I'm trying my best to study and understand it all, how can i climp up from all this mess. Its been my dream. Will it just be only a dream now? I'm an accountancy student and i can't understand everything thats been thought to us in my major subjects. I'm starting to have an anxiety. Any advice please? : (((
Hey, it's been 3 yrs I know. Maybe you already passed your course and have forgotten this comment. Anyway, I feel the same way as you, but one thing I learned from life is that whatever you fear, observe it, analyze the reason and solve that. For you maybe it's your parent's opinion and plans and for me, it's independence.
you are great and you have powerful voice👼👼👼
Thanks so much!
Thankyou!
You’re welcome!
I am excited to be a new sub! :D I also like the saying I might mess it up but its along the lines of these days are the best days of your life I changed it a bit to today is the best day of your life :) Just a great reminder to be in the moment :D
+Tayler Vanpelt Oh my gosh, I love that! It's going to be a motto for the rest of the day : ) Thanks for subscribing and welcome!!
thank you for your video! I needed that today! I just saw your channel for thr first time. liked your style very much. You got yourself a new subscriber. :)
Welcome to the channel! Thanks for subscribing 😀
I needed this. Thank you!
I've been away from my dad for 8 yrs because he worked in another country and he finally left the job and came back...i thought i could spend time with him for at least 2-3 months but her has to move away again next week...it's more near but i won't be able to see him every day
My best friend is moving away in a month and I will really be lonely in school...I'm scared we'll lose touch and that next year is going to be with people I've known for a long time but never cared to talk to
I might have to start preparing for an entrance exam for college and the next 2 yrs will be hectic and I will have to distance myself from everything
I might not be able to visit my dad often, or spend time with friends or even go out
The future scares me and i don't want it to come
You made me feel so good 💜
thank you , you open my mind...
Love it. You're welcome :)
Thank you! I don't have a plan though, I'm scared but it's ok :)
Sounds like you're being pretty optimistic about it...love that!
The future scares me.
It doesn't have to!!
I just got out of school and for a year now I tried to get my dream job. I got a lot of job interviews but nothing worked out. I‘m trying so hard but I feel so lost.
Feeling lost or burnt out? If you're on the "right" path for yourself- the one you're meant to travel, you shouldn't be feeling lost. If that's the case, you may have veered off course a bit. I suggest reconnecting with your purpose and revisiting your vision! Let that lead the way.
Shaina Leis thanks!. This helped me a lot
Hope everything worked out for you 👍🏽
I don't know why I laughed so hard when she said " It's just the vacuum "
Haha
I have horrible grades, I have no money to pay for collage or trade school, and no company wants me because I'm too mentally unstable, and I can't pay for therapy cause I'm poor! My life is gonna be shit
It's pretty clear that you need to start with your thinking.
Thank u Shaina
You're welcome!
You've helped me.
Great!
any advice for being scared of the past ? I'm scared of time passing and I think I have chronophobia? it's ruining many things
Hi there. I'm not familiar at all with chronophobia and if it's something that needs to be addressed by a professional? My advice for "fear of the past" is to channel your fear into something positive. One of my favorite sayings to live by is "life is too short." I not only believe this statement as I'm sure you do too, but it's a constant reminder that I must take massive action to achieve everything I want to achieve and take nothing for granted. You don't want to allow your fear to consume you and stay stuck!
i should use a bambo stick and hit you on the head with it and if you ask why did i do that for, i'll say it doesn't matter. it's in the past. lol. know where that's from?
Thank you very much. ..... . ......☺☺🎅🎅😊😊❤❤
You're very welcome!
My head is messed up atm I never sleep and I might have a health problem and I’m having knee surgery again while my other one is still recovering and I have no idea what I want to do in the future and I need to pass maths and English next year when my minds going to be very messed up and I might develop ptsd and become depressed so I’m fucking terrified
Im scared when im sleeping, i get panic/anxiety attacks. Insomnia ruined sleep, and no help.
😣 sounds like you may need to get some help for that! I am not a good sleeper either, but don't have panic attacks. Can't imagine!
I’m 10 years old and I’m panicking about when I’m gonna get a deep voice and when I’m gonna get braces when I’m 13 I’m terrified about being an adult and growing a beard I’m terrified and panicking here😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰
Same here
yo dude, ur 10, chill, u have so much year ahead of you, at least 7 years of being a kid/teen
@@andrijanamijic3133 now I’m 11
THANK YOUUU
You're welcome!
Im scared I will never have another child because of fear of another miscarriage. Very tough to do but doesn’t have to be my future. I’ve created this fear . Result of this= failure to stay pregnant
Um afraid about everything related to the future. I guess this feeling has to do with wjat i went through in the past... Yet I can overcome thinking and thinking so much that i feel my mind is buzzing
Well that's the key yea? To manage your own mind and your thoughts.
I'm very scared Of the future, for some reason I'm really scared that people Will be gone Like maybe my brother...😭😭
hey there...I hope this video gave you some new insight!
@@ShainaLeis Thank You....
this was exactly what i needed
Yay, Love it!!
see i don't know where i want to go. Im going to junior year of highschool and things such as sat and act are scaring the shit out of me. As well as taking AP classes in which i need to get a 4 or 5 on because i got two failing grades and two 3s so far... I have no motivation to work hard in my classes because they don't interest me... i'm more interested in drawing, painting, dancing, singing, acting, playing instruments, and new discoveries (this includes finding out new techniques to solve math problems, biology, chemistry, physics and a lot of science and math videos).....
however my parents don't approve of the famous lifestyle of trying to find an acting career or creating art in any shape or form... they think I wouldn't be successful or gain any money to sustain a good life with no struggles. To an extent, I see where they are coming from, but they suggested to do something else, like business, which is kinda interesting but I don't want to head in the direction of becoming a CEO of a company or have high authority in a company.. that stresses me out a lot (I don't like being in charge of other people).
i often run away from my problems by going on to youtube which doesn't help me accomplish school assignments. I need help sorting my life out so I can get myself to a healthy place where i eat healthy, work out, and work on a schedule which allows me to have some free time as well as get work done in time and with a well written assignment with good effort put into it. This "work" includes creating thought out assignments thinking of the question and proper answer, researching some extra to help out with understanding the subject as well as finding a study plan. I am having huge struggles to get there. I have even started very small with getting my chores done in time. I get this done, i find difficulty trying to maintain it and wanting to continue doing chores. I am even trying to incorporate a small time for self care. I also find myself on youtube watching things that won't help me but are really fun and cute to watch (daniel radcliffe and tom holland playing with puppies)
Someone please help me find a way to create a lifestyle in which i can take care of myself, and a way to decide a goal to which i can strive for.
If you have the willingness (as it sounds like you do) to change your lifestyle I recommend hiring a coach and/ or reading some personal development books. I'm starting a monthly membership group in September that might interest you!
I know what to do in life. I gathered courage to fight the society and go against everything to do what I want. But then i think life is just too small. How will I do all this in such small time. Will I be able to achieve it? I don't know I'm fucked up 😩
I'm afraid my ex wont ever reach out or would want to reconnect and I'm just gonna die alone knowing I'm not good enough for anybody... that's scary😭
You helped me today. You get a sub and like.. Thank you
Who else came to this video because they want to go to university/college but have terrible grades
I'm so scared of the future istg. I have to give NEET once I grow up it's exciting but scary. I want to become a great surgeon but I'm scary
I'm 14 and I feel like a lot of time has went by and that I've wasted too much time... Idk. I'm scared.
PS: loved ur video and ur personality so I subscribed
Hey ur only 14...it's never too late..and i know it's scary to think that u will have to sacrifice a lot of things in the future for NEET and distance urself from everything but I hope u find enjoyment in what ur doing and u will be satisfied with the results
All the best!
I know this video has been uploaded 3 years ago, but I will still say, I searched for this because I am scared of how many things and people I will lose, I am very afraid of losing my loved ones and I know I am wasting time thinking about losing them instead of actually spending time with them, I really don't know what to do, I will turn 12 in 2 days, I really don't know why I am haveing such thoughts I am so young!
I'm not worried for jobs and money. But for building a family and making human relationships 🙁i have friends but they always say I don't have friends and other shameful staff i know it's a joke but i still hurt and i just try to smile and don't care😒but when i do this they always say i'm faking my anger or my emotions 😑i don't know what to do. I always go home and i think i'm useless and i will be always alone😒
How do you define a friend? Because people that say things like that don't sound like true friends to me. I suggest getting clear on what you DESERVE and what you're capable of FIRST!! It sounds like you're making decisions and choosing your relationships from an insecure place.
I'm so scared about future because I am always filled with panicness and anxiety... please suggest me some ideas to stop worrying so much so that I can go abroad and study
2018? :3 OOOO Future!! This video Is really good!
Thanks so much!
Imaging video!
I needed this! Thank you so much😁💙💛
You’re welcome!
i´m reeeeaaally bad at school an I´m scared that i´ll never get a job and end up homeless. I´m so scared and stressed just thinking about that
I resigned from my job because I was pressured by my boss. I’m going to start a new job next month but it’s only a part time job. I’m anxious because I have bills to pay. I applied for other jobs but there’s no good fit for me (schedule, distance, etc). What should I do?
You keep trying and gathering information. You continue to seek solutions to your problem!
I’m scared of getting old and not being able to actually see the world develop into a new better place
Thank you so much maam.
I just want to let you know that it is okay to be afraid and you are not alone at all. My best advice is to just keep moving forward and continue everyday to strive to be better than yesterday. You're young now and eventually you'll figure everything out as time goes on. I was in your same shoes when I was 18 and I'm 22 now. Things do get easier and more clear I promise, just be patient!
I'm scared of dying in the future (I'm only 9 and I'm worrying)
Oh wow...too young to be worrying like that! Did you find these tips helpful?
I wanted to watch this because im scared of the future after a few months of quarantine
Im scared bc my dad wants to move to spain because he is very depressed in this dark country (sweden). And i still have school, and a education to get. My mom want to move back to her homeland and i have no siblings so i feel very lonely
U earn a sub.
Thanks!
Alot of things i'm afraid of 😔
1. Moving out of the house and leaving my parents
They brought me into this world and i grew up seeing them everyday that someday
i have to move on without them which gives me anxiety.
2. How old my parents are growing
I'm super scared of their death, the people who took care of you and leaving your life is just so deppresing. I can't live without them at any point.
3. Getting married
Do we really need to get married? The only people i love are my parents and family
4. Covid/pandemic
it gives me much anxiety, not going anywhere i want. I'm scared the only place i could visit in life is my house 🤕
5. How much the world would change
I don't want the world to be full of technology, i just want it to be normal like this day 😰
How do you move on without thinking of your parents death 😔
im afraid about my future so much that it makes me not doing anything instead push me hard
im 18 and i dont know where im going so im gonna smoke a cigarrette
I know my pfp is dead meme, but I’m 13, and I feel like every action I do is a mistake and by the time I’m an adult I’ll be like “ I should’ve done that as a kid” or “ I should’ve signed up for this sport to this club” eventually my childhood will end and I used to be afraid of that part, but now I’m not, but I’m still worked that I’m wasting my time with every movement, every thought, I guess what I’m saying is for me it feels like life is like 1 hour a minute, like I don’t have enough time. I’m Lowery confused
I loathe the words "should" and "shouldn't." I encourage you to focus less on what you think you should or shouldn't be doing and start exploring what you really want. What are you interested in? How do you want to spend your time?
I am scared of my college life I wanted computer science but I didn't get it I got mechanical I think my life is fucked up .
I'm sad
Who’s waching this in covid
how much did it cost you on your dental crowns?
That 1st word wat u said that myne 😰😰😰😰😭😭
Im scared..At least I'm watching this video.. thanks..
Hope it helped!
I live in fear of the world ending. I can't even watch films about it
Interesting. This is definitely a thought to explore some more. Why do you think this? Where does this come from? How is it not serving you. I also suggest putting the phrase "I'm just having the thought that..." before this fearful thinking.
Shaina Leis the problem is I get too involved in films. But for some reason end of the world creep me out I don't want to die and I don't want bad things to happen
Hey can you dye your hair to a darker color?? It'd look dope on u
Id love to be single
I'm scared about the whole "ww3" thing
Is is serving you to be scared about it? Why or why not? You know it's a choice to feel scared or not, yea?
@@ShainaLeis if I'm reading this correctly, I'm not scared to serve, I'm actually too young to serve, I just don't wanna die or watch someone else die
I’m scared of death 😢
Most people are. That's where the power of belief is so helpful and what's next...
You're cute gurl😄
Thanks lol
U r beautiful
Thank you!