12 Gestures That Make You 100% Less Attractive
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- Опубликовано: 28 май 2024
- Even the best look that took forever to create can be ruined by bad body language. This instinctual nonverbal “messenger” is still the main factor that influences how others perceive us and can make people like you or, on the contrary, make you totally unattractive. Here's a quick guide to some gestures you should avoid to always look your best.
Gripping your arm behind your back sends a strong negative signal to those around you. The higher you grab your arm, the angrier you seem to people.
Hiding your hands in your pockets means a lot of things, which is why it’s important to interpret body language as a whole. But in most cases people put their hands in their pockets when they're nervous.
Clasped hands resting on the table is a mini-version of crossing your arms over your chest. Sitting with your fingers laced together and your hands raised off the table sends the same message: “I’m shutting myself off, and I don’t want to talk to you.”
Instead of slouching, straighten your back, look ahead of you, and pick your feet up when you walk. These tips will improve your appearance even more than a new suit or a stunning dress!
While we usually put our hands on the lips simply because we don’t know where to put our hands, it’s still a pretty intimidating pose to see on a conversation partner. We unconsciously touch our mouth when we're lying and many people know this. Also, when you cover your mouth, it can be hard to understand what you're saying.
Clinching your hands looks like you’re literally about to punch someone in the face or you’re ready to defend yourself.
Eye contact could be the most important part of communication. If you tend to maintain too much eye contact or you simply want to avoid doing so, try to fidget with something every once in a while, maybe lint on your pants or something in your salad. Just don’t overdo the fake distractions because you’ll seem impolite.
There have been a lot of cool psychological studies on this topic, but to keep it short: we copy people who we like, and we like people who copy us.
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TIMESTAMPS
Gripping your arm behind your back 0:43
Crossing your ankles 1:04
Clasping your hands 1:33
Elbows on the table and fingers laced together 1:54
Slouching 2:18
Smirking 2:44
A hand reaching towards the person you're talking to 3:10
Hands on your hips 3:44
A hitch-hiker’s thumb 4:11
Clenched fists 4:36
A hand covering your mouth 5:06
Shaking your finger at someone 5:32
Pointers that’ll help you leave a good impression of yourself 5:50
SUMMARY
-When you grip your wrist or forearm behind your back, it sends a strong negative signal to those around you.
-Standing with your ankles crossed shows that you don't completely believe in the things you're saying.
-Clasped hands resting on the table send a message: “I’m shutting myself off, and I don’t want to talk to you.”
-The higher you place your arms on the table, the more you want to hide behind them.
-Slouching gives the impression that you feel helpless, unconfident, and miserable in life.
-People perceive such a tight-lipped smile as sarcasm and smugness.
-Sitting at a table and talking to a person with your hand extended out towards them tells your conversation partner that you want them to stop talking.
-Standing with your hands on your hips says, “Well, what do you wanna tell me? I’ll probably disagree anyway!”
-Unless you’re actually hitch-hiking, don’t point your thumb behind you while talking to someone. This gesture can often be regarded as a sign of disrespect.
-Clinching your hands reveals hidden anger and fear.
-You shouldn't cover your mouth with your hand when you talk because the person you're speaking with might think that you're hiding something.
-We often shake our fingers at someone when we really want to convince someone of our point of view on a certain matter.
-Smile sincerely, don’t force or fake it. Eye contact is key. Tilt your head. Use your brows. “Mirror” the person you're talking to.
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TIMESTAMPS
Gripping your arm behind your back 0:43
Crossing your ankles 1:04
Clasping your hands 1:33
Elbows on the table and fingers laced together 1:54
Slouching 2:18
Smirking 2:44
A hand reaching towards the person you're talking to 3:10
Hands on your hips 3:44
A hitch-hiker’s thumb 4:11
Clenched fists 4:36
A hand covering your mouth 5:06
Shaking your finger at someone 5:32
Pointers that’ll help you leave a good impression of yourself 5:50
Seriously....
No more interrview will happen... only sees the gestures
Donald
Hi
why is the majority in this video women? is it more important for women to be attractive than men?
So basically just cut off my arms.
Andre Pinnock haha😂😂😂
Andre Pinnock. Yeah! I got that too! Lol
Yeah! And I actually started wondering where to put my arms or hands instead. 😂
👍🏻
Andre Pinnock or maybe a straight jacket 😆
clicked on this out of curiosity, but then I realized that the only people who are unattractive are those who judge others based on how they pose.
I guess I'll just lay down emotionless as not to offend anyone
I’m the expressionless type so I can only laugh with my lips opening only a little
I need to cross my fingers and put it on the table to concentrate
I can constantly look at a persons eyes for more than a minute until he or she does what I want them to do
Hehe!
😁 😁
That'd still offend someone lol.
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By watching this video I can conclude that I am not attractive.😂😥
Asiya AR Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
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Asiya AR lol
Asiya AR don't think that of yourself everyones attractive
Asiya AR no your wrong cuz you are very attractive.
same
Who watchs and reads comments
Gosego Kamfwa Hi, can I ask you to give me your opinon about my channel and thank you 😄
Gosego Kamfwa Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
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Astrolabe ok
+Gosego Kamfwa
Me, all the time.
What do you mean
I am introvert so Imma do it all.
Hahahah, yeah
Same
same
Me too
Same with me
How the heck should i pose then!!!!!!
Ocean Days 😂
stand at attention maybe lol
Ikr
T-pose
How the heck should I pose then!!!!!!
as someone who studied psychology, i can tell you this is so wrong
Kladza : what do you mean? Can you explain please
Kladza - Thank you! There are exceptions to every single one of these “suggestions”. Why not go into the really interesting body language of lying vs telling the truth vs looking for the correct/proper way to express something? Much more helpful than these. Be well & keep that eagle-eye open! Jet 🧡🎸🎶⚡️🦇
me too, its so dumb what the bright side says about things like this, es ist sheiss
Kladza yeah most this stuff seemed completely wromg
This channel is most of the times wrong :) They just trying to talk about so wide spectrum of things with no real professional knowledge.
You know, this video fails to point out that every gesture shouldn't be read so much into.
For example, I have a habit of crossing my arms when someone is telling me something. It's just something I do to tell my body not to make a move and actually pay attention to what is being said to me. It helps me think more because my arms act as a sort of 'blockade', so that I do not act or respond until I have processed all information and actually considered my options carefully.
Niles Valentine
That is quite true, I like the way you think actually
to me that means guarding yourself
RomanCupid 95 Thorough.
Everyone at my school walks around with their hands in their puffer jackets. We are all unattractive and nervous af 👌😂
Thank you, and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
I can't read body language completely but still i can differentiate between rude and cool
Thank you
Can you please do a video on the opposite of this, like: which body language is really important and we should adapt
Sianeh Johnson :
On the contrary, we CAN LEARN body language tips. Just needs practice to put into use
Watch the full video please
Blue Dragon Always look someone in the eye when talking. If you have a hard time doing that look at them between their eyebrows. They won’t be able to tell...
David Oliveira yeah, what should I do with my hands😂
I'm thinking these may be different for other cultures who agrees?
This is one of very few advice videos that's nearly uncontroversial. The top comments usually bash the video, but I can't find any this time! Great job with this video!
Thank you for these best Gestures points
A body language you also shouldn't do: Grab your arm with one hand makes you look uncomfortable, shy and, uninterested in talking to someone. It also looked like something bad has happened. Putting all your fingers against each other is also a sign of shyness and timidity. Or tapping your index finger against the other index finger, which is fidgeting.
After that video I am afraid to move my hands/body.
😂
Oh come on! Nobody is thinking all these!
You said all the gestures. So..which one is the perfect? To cut our hands?
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Joanna _ lol
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Same I don’t care I about what gestures I have to do to look attractive I’m not remembering these I guess just cut your arms off
this guy is by farr my favorite of all their narrators. so great! so funny ❤️
Thanks a million and blessings and rewards
Personality is what matters the most not your looks. you never judge a book by its cover📙🚫😀
swiftierunner .89 ok cool
It's easy to say that, because people tend to judge ones by his or her looks first... cause that's what we see in the first place
I judge a 'a book by it's cover' and I'm usually right. Who in their right mind asks a 300 pound person to go hiking for the afternoon? !
Sonja Williams well thats you're way of thinking so ....thats on you.
swiftierunner .89
yeap..it is 'on me' and I'm not ashamed of it. once you have a larger person in your life, they draw you down to their depression level and it's not healthy for anyone. people will always judge with their eyes first. it's human nature.
I don't care what others think about me😅😅
BM SHAIK creations yeah......i will think about it.......😊😊
Positivity is the answer
TheAtm12345 Exactly i do agree with u
Sameee
same
This is a REALLY EXCELLENT GUIDE to UNDERSTANDING BODY LANGUAGE!💜❤️💗I am a Psychologist and it’s all very very important in my best helping patients and best communicating with them! It’s truly an ART that needs clarity and to be brought back into general public life-skills ALL OVER AGAIN! 💜❤️💗Wonderful Thank you!!
Very informative. I enjoy watching all your videos Bright side. Keep them coming!😊😊😊
ugh so i basically have to fake more stuff and show emotion
Shottoru Just be yourself
TheAtm12345 that isn't the point of body language. you have to "fake it" so that people will understand your body language.
12. Gripping your arm behind your back; 11. Crossing your ankles; 10. Clasping your hands; 09. Elbows on the table and fingers laced together; 08. Slouching; 07. Smirking; 06. A hand reaching towards the person you're talking to; 05. Hands on your hips; 04. A hitch-hiker's thumb; 03. Clenched fists; 02. A hand covering your mouth; 01. Shaking your finger at someone.
thank you so much for the advice❤
Sir really minute details of body language discussed. Thanks for that.
Thank you sir.
Romeo Raizada Hi, can I ask you to give me your opinon about my channel and thank you 😄
Romeo Raizada Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
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Astrolabe you are doing good. Keep it up. I hope you will grow rapidly.
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Congrats!😉
They dont deserve it lol
Thank you I really love this video
My fiancé doesn’t believe in body language and yet he shows many of the things you have displayed. Very interesting facts. Thank you for proving my point. Happy Holidays to you all.
Hi Bright Side , if you would like to could you make a video about sport like athletics . How to improve your speed or brain to do the sport better . I'm just love your videos and love to learn . Thanks !
*casually does almost all of these so far* g r E a t
Excellent Guestures. Thank you
I love your videos with this content here 👍😊
I can't be anymore unattractive
Yash Pednekar Hi, can I ask you to give me your opinon about my channel and thank you 😄
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So what shall we do?? Just be in attention position???
Pradip Kumar Borah Sometimes in a stand at ease position for relaxing 😂😂😂
Just copy the eyes, the smile, sit on your hands!
Cross your hands at your wrists, or have your hands clasped without the fingers laced. Stand with weight on one leg predominantly. Move your hands animatedly during conversation, but never toward your partner. All of these are welcoming and show a more at-ease conversationalist
pretend you are singing your National anthem hand over heart standing at attention,singing LOL
Pradip Kumar Borah 🤣🤣🤣
Very good video, most of the things I knew, but also learned some other pointers on body language. Thank you! :)
hands on hips is an indication of "keep away from me" often seen in a football match, when an opposing team score a goal.
Thank you that was Very helpful
Please don't believe any of this BS. The messages that people send with body language are a totality of the positioning and movements of all parts of their bodies and faces. These gestures alone have no definitive or single meaning. Also, the relationship between two individuals will alter how body language is intended and interpreted.
Yes, this vid really is BS. Plus, the animations and voice-over are amateurish & unattractive. Don't listen to these self-proclaimed "experts".
Colleen Riordan are you related to Rick Riordan? Because I love his books!
Body language depends upon the situation.we may not be conscious always.some times it depends upon the genes too.
I don’t think it depends on genes it might depended on the environment u lived in not genre :/
Info very worth knowing.
Nice video for understanding us
But I’m not attractive…
Like at all😂😂
Cally Stone Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
From a small youtuber that wants to hit 600 subs ❤️ 💗🙈
Don’t say that about urself. I have absolutely no ideas why but don’t say that about yourself
There's someone for everyone just be patient
Cally Stone im pretty sure im less attractive cause I did all of them before you shouldn't say that about yourself tho because I'm the less attractive one like less lessssss
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Thank you for sharing this vedio .. now I know
Your Videos are soo POPULAR in India!
Great Work!!
Needless restrictive rules. This stuff will change over time. Be yourself and learn what works instead of following rules with no experiential or empirical origin.
Best way to solve all this video gestures problem, cut off both arms at the shoulders...boom! You're 200% more attractive now!
AJ Jay your q
Thanks for helping us in daily life activities.😊
I need these pointers because I work at the front desk. Thank you brightside. 😃👏
Now this is what’s called judgement, it’s best to just learn the person, because guessing can be so bad!!
I say do whatever the f*** you want people are going to have opinions of you anyways nice or not.
Rain River ---EXACTLY opinions are like azzholes everybody's got one ;) so be yourself and say f^@k it
Nice.
I do most of these things so that I can get to know the real person
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Very good video with lot of useful facts...
great info, I was raised to watch my moms eyes for approval and sometimes body language, regardless of what she says, I must respond to the eye or body language, because she doesn't want us accepting anything from anyone, friend or stranger.
I dont think the persons I like analyse my body language everytime I talk to them.... this is BS😂
Exactly
Yeah but they do it unconsciously
I have habit of tilting my head while talking to someone. But l do this because it comforts my neck.
Very informative!
thnx f0r thix kn0wledge 😍
Interesting video that was very insightful. However, in future I, and I think many people, would appreciate it if you quoted sources in the description. Still, I enjoy the content 👌
Love you bright side
Well done Keep it UP!
Very helpful video
Ironically the “more attractive” people are obviously models. I could do without the cheese-ball smiling.
This seems tobe US motivated.
In Europe many of these a gestures are quite normal and used daily.
And not considered rudeness
This isn't even true in the US. For example, hands in pocket just shows more casual "ness" and holding your arm behind your back can show your shy. 90% of this is BS and is just fake as heck. Poor them, trying to look professional.
I'm from europe and i find the people here more closed then the US
Thank you very much
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Learn something from this helpful
I do all of these 🤣
People who have arms, need a place to put them. An angry look, the finger, a fist, a real gun, a knife, these are threatening. Anyone who takes the time to analyze every move and posture is a sick individual. I can tell all of these without the analysis. Mostly, this is just bovine fecal matter, and with that I am moving on to a useful site.
Doing great job......it was helping me a lott
Very good thank you.
Ok so I’m not attractive when using my arms... ok I’m just not attractive anymore!
Why do you have to be so complicated?
I think that the only way to speak to someone without them being offended is to cutoff your arms.
Ser EDS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loved it
I loved this video because it has both to do and not to do ❤️
No. 13 middle finger up👆 can't find the emoji.lol.
You mean this 🖕one?? 😉
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i think it will 10M before I wake up
Im an Indian
the BIG Tech Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
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Great tips 😎😎😎😎😎😎next time to use 😉😉😉😉😉
Wow interesting notions 😊👍
"use your eyebrows"… he..that's a usseless advise for someone with BOTOX 😂😂
These are very true and I should get out of some of these bad habits
The Don Hi, can I ask you to give me your opinon about my channel and thank you 😄
The Don Hey ❤️ hope everyone has had a lovely week so far!🙈 you’re an amazing human being 😊 be awesome, and don’t forget to smile 💕, if you’re having any hard times with anything, I just wanted to say... you’re powerful, you’re amazing and you can count on me, so keep trying, have a great day.
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Astrolabe I subscribed
Bulshit if you were sarcastic my bad
Very nice video.
please share any video about feeling confident or while on the stage feeling relaxed and confident
What???? I love putting my hands on my hips 🤣
So do I. :D
I do that too so much even
When you realize you do all these things
I cannot read or understand body languages bt now i know it...thank u
is time to rip it off myself hands and legs...nice video tough...Greetings from colombia south America..
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Nice video
Thanks
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SMARTY HASHIR lo
I do 11 things from this list around my crush😥
Really good video
Informative and funny 😄😄😄
*I am not alive*
Jaiden Rocha i am from xyz u?😑😑☠
Jaiden Rocha i cant die because i am not alive lool
Me neither
Focal Mind good!
Then how tf do we sit there is nothing left
Sit like a robot
VERY interesting!
Good stuff
Well, I'm a sloucher. 🤷🤦
Don't make eye contact in asia, you'll be rude.
Why do I find this funny?
Also reminds me of not smiling in France. You'll either be seen as a foreigner and become a target or rude as well.
agree
kyoxtohru112 what lol...smiling is rude in France?
whoah news to me
Excellent
What are the alternatives? Nice video
I do all of them up to 8
Then i do 5,4,3,2