Ep. 300 | Compulsive Decluttering

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  • Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024

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  • @PinkSallyProductions
    @PinkSallyProductions 3 года назад +50

    Will you ever interview a hoarder who is in recovery from hoarding and using minimalism as a tool to reframe their life? That would be really interesting, thanks. Be well 🌹

  • @rachelvasquez252
    @rachelvasquez252 3 года назад +26

    I’m pretty obsessive about my minimalism. I had a disaster, I was my disaster. I ended up losing everything at once. I wasn’t even sad about it. I went right to feeling freedom in my soul. I never form an attachment to things anymore. I focus on my family. The people in my life are who I love. I now keep all my photo albums in one place because if there was a flood or fire that’s all I’m gonna grab. I still have mementos from the past and my childhood but I have already decided that if someday they were gone, I’d still be ok. I’d be ok if the albums we’re gone too but I know I’d mourn that loss.

  • @laureln56
    @laureln56 3 года назад +37

    I deal a bit with this because filling a box with stuff from your cupboards, getting rid of clutter feels like an adrenaline rush and when you get to the end of the clutter you start getting rid of other things you actually need just to get the rush of decluttering. I want the RUSH and will go back and back through possessions to get that rush. Good thing my husband is a fast mover and won’t fit into a donate box, haha

    • @lydiaderhake2532
      @lydiaderhake2532 3 года назад +1

      When you don't have dishes to eat off, you might have a problem. 😊

    • @74griffo
      @74griffo 3 года назад +2

      I’m the same! Quite recently I was awake in the small hours and I do this thing where I think about everything I have in my drawers and cupboards. I started thinking of a couple of items that I didn’t need/want anymore and had to get up to move them. I must have got up a further 5 times when I thought of other items. I get too much satisfaction from getting rid of things. I’m also not sensitive about letting things go even if they are quite new.

    • @laureln56
      @laureln56 3 года назад +2

      @@74griffo I also love vacuum tracks and hate to see them disappear under feet, haha if your house stays pretty clean vacuum tracks are the only evidence of your hard work. Sheesh I need to get out more!

    • @penelopeza9497
      @penelopeza9497 Год назад +1

      @@74griffo I totally understand what you mean!

  • @mjsmith9889
    @mjsmith9889 3 года назад +7

    My mom has a LOT of STUFF and will NOT get rid of anything, YET does not bring anything NEW into the house. Just all her old stuff, books, magazines, clothes, or anything from a long time ago. My father died in September of 2020 and she won't get rid of anything of his either now. I get the process of grief, but my mom has been doing this her whole life. I think it is a mental instability or insecurity when you hold onto things. I have been letting go of things a lot more now than ever since I want to live a MINIMALIST life. LOVE YOUR CONTENT AND YOU GUYS!!

  • @mjsmith9889
    @mjsmith9889 3 года назад +12

    Oh and let me add that back in the 80s we had a house fire and lost EVERYTHING!!! So I don't have attachment to too many things after that happened when I was in the 8th grade. It was DEVASTATING when it happened, but it was a valuable lesson to what is REALLY IMPORTANT in life. OUR LIVES not INANIMATE OBJECTS.

  • @jannertfol
    @jannertfol Год назад +4

    This can also be a symptom of 'divine discontent.' No matter what you have, you decide you don't like it as soon as you get it, you get rid of it, get something else, rinse, repeat.

  • @heatherromero7956
    @heatherromero7956 2 месяца назад +2

    I can't stand having almost ANY stuff. I don't know why, but things give me anxiety! I hate to see it. I actually enjoy having a mostly empty house. I only have the absolute bare nessities. My grown kids joke with me bc I hate getting presents. There is very little materially I enjoy.
    I do enjoy listening to your podcasts, they are very interesting, & fascinating from a phycological standpoint & very thought provocing.
    Thank you!

  • @lindsaysimplified
    @lindsaysimplified 3 года назад +16

    We are moving across the country, and selling all of our possessions because movers were so expensive. We are taking what we can pack in our SUV and mailing a few boxes. I feel like a an extreme minimalist at the moment, but it won’t be this way forever.

    • @patriciabarton6373
      @patriciabarton6373 3 года назад +1

      Lindsay, your situation is like mine. Doing the same.

  • @odalyshernandez5626
    @odalyshernandez5626 3 года назад +7

    It’s crazy awesome that you guys have hit episode 300 for this podcast! Congratulations!
    You guys indeed are the business of healing. I appreciate what you guys do to help others through their own healing journey. You both have helped me a lot and opened my mind to things I never would’ve thought of.

  • @sarahlockridge7879
    @sarahlockridge7879 3 года назад +12

    A diagnosis allows us to get help without shame❤️

  • @TeriHargraveartist
    @TeriHargraveartist 3 года назад +15

    One of the biggest hazards of hoarding, I would think is the health issues from the grime, rats, etc. that build up around the hoards!

  • @stephanierausch7758
    @stephanierausch7758 Год назад +4

    Just like hoarders keep things because they fear forgetting that memory, I get rid of stuff to get rid of reminders of abuse. In both situations memories do t go away but it’s very therapeutic to throw them out.

  • @alanbirkner1958
    @alanbirkner1958 3 года назад +5

    I donated some extra towels to a homeless shelter. Then I got rid of some clothes. I keep what I use and enjoy. Keep up your great work. Tina

  • @brandalinesmith6980
    @brandalinesmith6980 Год назад +2

    I finally have a name for what I do! I grew up with hoarder parents, and all three of us children keep only what we need. But the problem comes we put pressure on our spouse and children to get rid of everything because it bothers us. And I thought I was right for keeping the house clear and clean.

  • @lindiwekubu8846
    @lindiwekubu8846 3 года назад +2

    Josh and Ryan...You are the Best...since watching your Documentary from Netflix (Josh,l was so touched when you were telling us about your Late Mom)l stopped over buying.l actually gave away lot's of clothes, bedding and bath towels...l don't even have the need to pass by Zara when l'm at the Shopping Mall.. Thank you Guy's..❤️🇿🇦

  • @catmandoo3735
    @catmandoo3735 3 года назад +19

    At age 56, sometimes I wish I were starting out again with moving into my very first place, a clean slate that I could slowly build up from there. I suppose when I move from a 3-bedroom house to downsize to a smaller living space, I can try that by picking out just the bare necessities and get rid of everything else. Sometimes I think about getting a studio apartment just so I can maintain a minimalist lifestyle.

    • @kittygumdrop7442
      @kittygumdrop7442 3 года назад +3

      I can relate. We move a lot but over time, even with purges every move, we have gotten more and more. A lot started because we (particularly my husband) think we need certain things (big sofa, table, dressers, etc). I actually was happier when we just had 2 desks for gaming and beanbag chairs and a mattress on the floor. Moves were easier, we had more floor space even in smaller places. It's very easy to feel like you should just get rid of everything and start back at zero.

    • @lydiaderhake2532
      @lydiaderhake2532 3 года назад +3

      I think you might be falling prey to my pitfall: the Imaginary Self. If you keep thinking, "when I do X, then I'll be able to..." you are in a good place to challenge your assumptions. It sounds like you don't believe you can live a minimalist lifestyle in a 3-bedroom house. I want to challenge that assumption and flip the script to say, "It will be easier to move to a studio apartment when I learn to let go of what doesn't add value to my life." We all started by letting go of one thing that didn't add value. You can, too. I believe in you.

    • @rebeccacartier153
      @rebeccacartier153 3 года назад +3

      I just moved into a studio apartment and I only moved the essential things, then had to think long and hard before I even brought one thing into my space.. what is its purpose, can I use it for something else, does it make me happy, when was the last time I used it.
      I like to live intentionally not minimally. You can start to live intentionally in a 3 bedroom.

    • @NormyTres
      @NormyTres 2 года назад +1

      @@kittygumdrop7442 Have a packing party! :)

    • @kittygumdrop7442
      @kittygumdrop7442 2 года назад +1

      @@NormyTres no need. We literally move every 1.5-2 years. It's just a reality. We got through all boxes for the first time in 15 years because I listened to The Minimalists while doing the tedious keepsakes and random boxes. SOOO many trips to donation drop-off and the dump. Still going through again before our next move in December.

  • @wookinooki9023
    @wookinooki9023 Год назад +3

    I have a 72 yo acquaintance who has lived alone all her life, owns 1 pen, no pencil, no paper. 1 set of bed sheets, 1 towel. 1 tiny closet and it's not full. nothing on her walls. no color.
    When she does her laundry, her apartment becomes damp because she refuses to install a venting pipe, so she opens windows even in winter.
    She is very hot in the summer because she doesn,t want anything in her windows.
    she buys appliances and immediately throws aways the packaging and receipts. Then she actively looks for problems with her new appliance, invents a problem, cannot return it to the store, so she throws it away. Every month.
    She likes shopping...
    She buys little black shoes that don't fit her feet (slightly deformed), refuses to consider buying orthopedic shoes, then throws them away because they hurt, twice a month.
    She threw out her new tv because she couldn't figure out how to make her cable service work.
    She unassembles furniture to eliminate unnecessary components.
    She wants to remove the upper part of an entertainment display case (which is not made for unassembling at all) just because she eliminated one decorative bowl (and guess why she eliinated the bowl? TO GET RID OF THE DISPLAY CASE!!!)
    She removes unused shelves within the lower part of the unit, which are hidden by doors.
    She is tiny and wants to carry that huge unit down 3 storeys by herself because asking for help is also a form of clutter. Doing everything alone is more minimalist.
    She ALWAYS does her elimination in secret, very quietly.
    And every time she talks about eliminating stuff, she has a weird smile. Her eyes say "I think I need help".

    • @wookinooki9023
      @wookinooki9023 Год назад

      she refuses to use the recycling bins. everything goes into the garbage.
      She emptied her fridge after 1 day without power, complaining about the cost. ???
      it gives her a high.
      she does it secretly but she does talk about it. like she wants us to know she might have a problem.
      she spends her days reading and doing cross-words and watching TV. she never had a hobby in her life. She worked in a bank.
      She grew up in a rural village with 12 siblings. There is some mental illness in her family.

  • @ssslowpoke532
    @ssslowpoke532 3 года назад +5

    This is brilliant. It ALWAYS comes back to balance in life. With everything.

  • @silverflame_firebug
    @silverflame_firebug 3 года назад +4

    Regarding diagnosis: we are prone to applying these diagnostic labels without looking at the criteria that qualify a person for that diagnosis. I keep my pens in a separate section from my pencils. If someone moves it to a different compartment, I have to move it back. It's a tendency common in OCD, but given that it doesn't cause me anxiety, it doesn't impede my ability to function, among other factors, I am not OCD. Sure I may have some characteristics, but not to the severity or with enough other behaviours to qualify for the diagnosis.
    Yes, you can absolutely have a lot of stuff without being a hoarder. We, as a society, shouldn't be "diagnosing" people with disorders when we are both unqualified and uninformed about the qualifications.

  • @nancyparker2199
    @nancyparker2199 3 года назад +5

    I learned something new. I never knew there was people that hang on to nothing. Very interesting

  • @pissyspacek3531
    @pissyspacek3531 3 года назад +6

    Thank you so much for this.I have been struggling with this for a few years now.

    • @angiedilaj
      @angiedilaj 2 года назад +1

      Me too, it's absolutely ridiculous

  • @joannemorris1689
    @joannemorris1689 3 года назад +6

    The team is expanding....so LOVE PEOPLE USE THINGS..love you guys..please.come.to.the UK

  • @sandysmom100
    @sandysmom100 3 года назад +7

    I have done that in the past. But I never went further then material possessions. I always gave it to charity .But I think I always had way to much during my seasons of circumstantial depression amd stress. Family was mean to me , my landlord picked on me and he never dare pick on anyone else ( other tenants) I was not a hoarder or anything close to it .I actually had hobbies like crafting , ect .This landlord obviously had no hobbies .My mom said that to me for years that I had to much. My parents had to clean 40 years of stuff out of their cellar. She had everything down there for 40 years so know one saw it .I know some was my grandparents and us three kids when we were small. A pair of shoes I had from 52 years ago. It was sentimental and I liked to see them .But kind of ridiculous. I also have three adult kids and one grandchild. They all live with me except my eldest son .I got so angry with these people I thought well if you are going to pick on me , I will throw out everything or giveaway, or recycle. I'm still angry with these ppl .....How dare they when they are pack rats .my landlord had a load of crap in his cellar.But I've also sold things on ebay and made 500.00 at one point .Now I kept my sentimental things and things I absoulutely love !! I am selling some furniture now I'm not using .

  • @sheilachung7607
    @sheilachung7607 2 года назад +3

    After my first pay on London I bought a faux sheepskin duvet set for £160,I was so proud two years laters I asked my then ex and sister to pack it in a barrel and return it to me in the Caribbean.My ex dumped it and my sis never followed up.I was so upset and from then on I held no value to things I have because the one thing I held so much value to I still didn't get it in the end...so anything else after I couldn't care less to own

  • @YumiYarns
    @YumiYarns 3 года назад +11

    Thanks for this episode, guys! After listening, I'm wondering if it's possible to have a form of Spartanism where it's actually just relationships that you constantly get rid of (or maybe it's starting with relationships instead of things)? My husband likes the minimalist approach to items & our living space, but over the years I've noticed that he's gotten more and more apt to try to push away our friends and family with the excuse that he's just an introvert & doesn't want to waste his free time with people that aren't his wife (me) and son. I know Josh is very introverted so maybe he has more insight into this than I do. (I'm more of an outgoing introvert. I recharge by being alone, but I love spending time with friends/family when I have the energy.) Thanks for any observations you may have on this. ^_^

  • @mssendfitness
    @mssendfitness 2 года назад

    I am so glad I discovered the diagnosis of Spartanism. I couldnt figure out why I was constantly decluttering in an ocd manner.. after discovering the reasons, the whys and moving past it is a battle still, but it started as minimalism.. I am thankful to accept that its not a bad thing to be a Spartan? With intention. Its not a rush for me, its a fulfilling feeling that possessions have not attached to me like they do for others.

  • @tanjaaufdermaur9468
    @tanjaaufdermaur9468 Год назад +1

    When I feel low I do declutter usually I put my stuff at the curb but it's winter now so I put it on fb for free and I check my phone very often!😅 Yeah it makes me feel better if there are people coming to pick up my things and it gets out the house with minimal effort. I only have to put it in my mailbox. But I still have 💕things💕😉😅

  • @seanwheat4078
    @seanwheat4078 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for actual covering this. I think I have spartanism.

  • @michelleg1076
    @michelleg1076 3 года назад +5

    I never realized how much I have been on autopilot

  • @scorpio7938
    @scorpio7938 3 года назад +4

    I recently got rid of a super thick winter jacket i bought for dirt cheap i was saving it like someday maybe ill save it for a trip to alaska than i was like wait its in a bucket in my hall cluttering my space i donated it and now i have my hall clear its great and im not going to alaska anytime soon and the bucket i will use in my closet for some things i use

    • @lydiaderhake2532
      @lydiaderhake2532 3 года назад

      I love this! Yesterday, I sold my Stubben English saddle - my Dream Saddle. Guess how many horses I've owned in my life... (I'll give you a hint: it's less than 1.)

    • @scorpio7938
      @scorpio7938 3 года назад

      @@lydiaderhake2532 your comment sounds like me with the thick jacket for a trip to alaska your horse story made me laugh so much relate peace to you

  • @Bobbi-the-Croz
    @Bobbi-the-Croz 3 года назад +3

    Brilliant reminders 💯

  • @lamochilademary1969
    @lamochilademary1969 3 года назад +7

    Notice, pause, breathe , observe why and what you are feeling, then let go. 😏

  • @feathersky860
    @feathersky860 3 года назад +6

    Love You Both ❤️ ✔️ 🦅

  • @maryssa8593
    @maryssa8593 3 года назад +3

    I had this problem with my closet to the point where I had to add back. I was able to practice intentionality but it can go south quickly for people like me who want to do everything almost too well

  • @safepethaven
    @safepethaven 3 года назад +1

    Hence the wise advise to live by: :Everyting in moderation";
    The essential thought is found in the work of the Greek poet Hesiod (c. 700 bc), 'observe due measure; moderation is best in all things', and of the Roman comic dramatist Plautus (c. 250-184 bc), 'moderation in all things is the best policy.

  • @hollymackintosh2270
    @hollymackintosh2270 2 года назад +1

    I think I have this. I googled compulsive decluttering which lead to this video.

  • @leeharrison8790
    @leeharrison8790 3 года назад +1

    I suffer from utilitarianism lol Within my desired & functioning world of less space & than there's the world I'm surrounded by that also comes with it's own utilitarian needs as well .... that doesn't fit my desired world . but I need the things now in my present .. these things will not play a role in my future journey .. I have prematurely gotten rid of somethings & have repurchased them .. what a mess ! I don't have room for poor choices ..

  • @kirstycash5255
    @kirstycash5255 3 года назад

    Andy Andrews The Travellers Gift also changed my life along with The Noticer, so sooo good! Highly recommend and Andy has quickly become one of my favourite authors!

  • @leeharrison8790
    @leeharrison8790 3 года назад

    I'm known to sabatosh my goals ... by entertaining other goals .. each time the distraction .. affects me negatively in some way ..fiction dreamer until non fiction kicks in ... but I do get back on tract ... & once again focus .. I am in my sixties & perhaps that plays a huge role here ?

  • @theamytivillehorror
    @theamytivillehorror 3 года назад +1

    Hi Minimizers! Sounds great :)

  • @jeno264
    @jeno264 3 года назад +1

    Big Three Hundred podcast!! Hooray!! And the Spartans are also great warriors, and there was a movie 300. Coincidence? I think not. I will never be accused of being either Spartan either way

  • @carylmaluping9632
    @carylmaluping9632 3 года назад +2

    This is great ❣️

  • @leeharrison8790
    @leeharrison8790 3 года назад +1

    Perhaps the inability to process mentally a multifaceted out come before selecting a choice that produces such ? I personally struggle with down sizing in order to fit & thrive living in a small space ... Everything must have it's own resting place & multifunction purpose ... A larger stainless steel pot that can accommodate smaller stainless steel pots to fit inside of it .. that is just a example .. size & weight , along with it must be important & used often , My goal is centered around the things that I have serve me well every day . Yes , some things may be just as important down the road .. My selected life style is living in a mobile shelter that houses what I need to thrive with less .. where everything is well thought out & the reality plays a huge role in letting go as well as what can stay ... No sense in having pots that fit into pots if you don't use them ..lol what a challenge ... I've not been able mentally to accomplish this as I hoped , but I've not given up . distractions & my inability to focus & think have took it's toll on me .. I have made list ... Oh , I just became aware of two things that work against me ... I 'm living already in a small space & have been .. you'd think that would be helpful ? I've discovered & becoming more aware of there is my world & the world around me .. that's a lot of distraction .. functioning within my limitations & having to deal with the world around me .. I'm so aware every choice impacts me and more often than not is important in my situation as of now ... which takes away from my ultimate goal or at best just prolongs my desired adventure ... flip flopping .. & not sure about this or that ... I must stick to the basics & focus upon what is necessary !

  • @adnanhussain.z2986
    @adnanhussain.z2986 3 года назад +1

    @theminimalists Bro is your new book available on audible?

  • @Artybracknell
    @Artybracknell Год назад +1

    Shopping and then bin-ging. I've done it.

  • @cabbagecrosby1993
    @cabbagecrosby1993 2 года назад

    I pictured the scene in the beginning of Spy Kids where Juni is on the monkey bars, and his hands are sweaty, so he’s slipping, but he thinks he can probably reach and grab on again with the hand that slipped, but his sister Carmen kicks him in the butt, he falls on the net, and then face plants on the floor.
    Could that be a metaphor for other people undermining what we feel is essential to make our lives more enjoyable? I had some hot pink Nike shoes I got a lot of compliments on, but since I got them as a gift from my ex, the next guy I was in a long term relationship with made me get rid of them because he thought it was weird for me to keep a gift from an ex. I enjoyed the item itself, so I think he was just being insecure or something.

  • @dhruvnath_809
    @dhruvnath_809 3 года назад

    please help me with that mic suspension stand purchase link.

  • @chipchap5808
    @chipchap5808 3 года назад +1

    While I love the colored background individually and it also suits you very well the changing color when going back and forth Ryan and Joshua is a bit distracting. I would have preferred sticking to one color only. You know. Being minimal. 😂
    Anyway great podcast as always!

    • @TheMinimalistsPodcast
      @TheMinimalistsPodcast  3 года назад +1

      Stay tuned to see our new podcast studio! Exciting times.

    • @chipchap5808
      @chipchap5808 3 года назад

      @@TheMinimalistsPodcast looking forward to it. :)

  • @danicegewiss862
    @danicegewiss862 Год назад +1

    I can't eat pizza. The cheese makes me sick. I use the onion method to declutter.

  • @CasualObserver369
    @CasualObserver369 21 день назад

    It's a stress dealing mechanism for me

  • @Nikkiilss
    @Nikkiilss 3 года назад +4

    Really calling me out here. 😅

  • @Sky-Child
    @Sky-Child 2 года назад

    My partner says I am one of these. Listening to see if he's right...

  • @esthernohemi5856
    @esthernohemi5856 3 года назад

    Eccles 6:9

  • @lumijasminasmr3583
    @lumijasminasmr3583 3 года назад +1

    I’d swap my onbsessive hoarding to this any day, lmao.

  • @julio7842
    @julio7842 3 года назад +4

    There is nothing wrong with spartanism. Less is more.

  • @jo-annel.wright2975
    @jo-annel.wright2975 Год назад +1

    Love pizza? Use a napkin!

  • @roslyncaskey3396
    @roslyncaskey3396 3 года назад

    Spartanism??

  • @aquachonk
    @aquachonk 7 месяцев назад

    I hear "Tony Robbins," I downvote.

  • @dannyh9010
    @dannyh9010 3 года назад

    Bird labels: 1. food. 2. poop targets.

  • @sharisstampinstudio9286
    @sharisstampinstudio9286 3 года назад +3

    Love people…get vaccinated.

  • @idunablack2592
    @idunablack2592 3 года назад +1

    In all honesty, I think your older podcast episodes were much better in content and quality

    • @ZenDragoonYT
      @ZenDragoonYT 3 года назад

      How so? I feel they repeated content quite alot in the older ones. And this is good content as well.