Where my sober pals at? Where my married viewers at? Where my Love Island converts at? Where my veggie meal lovers at? HOW ARE YOU!? (I really really hope youse enjoy this one, m'loves!)
Just told my hubby a few minutes ago that I need to give up those cocktails and tequila shots, because I'm tired all the time. Having 2 kids it can be so nice to finish your stressful days with a nice drink. But since I almost never get enough sleep (thank you, kiddos!), this doesn't work for my body anymore. Alcohol seems to be too much additional strain. Need to get rid of that. Had two sober pregnancies and long breastfeeding times without a drop, so I know I can do it 💪
Been sober over 7 months, had to give up for health reasons initially but now i don't miss it. Myself and my husband love alcohol free cider as an alternative option.
I don’t drink at all - i find it just doesn’t suit me at all it makes me anxious, messes up my IBS and just overall decreases my health physically and mentally. Just not for me so I feel you girl 😂❤️❤️
Same! One of the worst anxiety attack happened the only time I actually got tipsy. Fortunately, I also really don't like the taste :) But seriously, anxiety disorders and alcohol don't mix well for the most part…
I AM an alcoholic, I have no problem admitting it. But because I admitted it, I've been able to go 9 years so far without alcohol. Life and FUN without alcohol is possible lol. #teamnocable lol
I never started drinking. And once I got over the peer pressure I honestly could not care less. It showed me that I can be just as silly without being drunk and I don't have to deal with the anxiety and the aftermath of the drunk decisions. I also grew up in a neighbourhood with many alcoholics and that instilled a dislike for alcohol in me from a young age because I saw how much damage it can do. So in my books, great decision ❤
Same! I'm 22 and never started drinking either. I do find people think me strange for not drinking, but I'm past caring. I don't want to so I don't. Can't fathom how so many people judge me for not drinking though like bloody hell it's a healthier choice if anything cut me some slack 😂
Hello Melanie! Quiet audience member here. I just wanted to say, I am a practicing Muslim and I never drank in my life and never missed it (I also am prone to addictions and I know it is easier for me to say abstinence is better but still, with love: ) Just remind yourself that there is a big portion of world that does not drink. I live in Texas now and I have once lived in Australia for a while (from what I gather, Ireland and Australia are similar when it comes to the drinking culture). And it IS hard to socialize when you are not drinking but girl, it is good for you! You are better off when you have mental clarity, full experiences of life good or bad etc etc. Take care, Peace!
I'm a highly functional drinker. I always surpass my limit. Especially when I'm a bit down. The way you described it is so real for me. I've decided to go to a counsellor, I'm getting rid of alcohol. My partner is tee total. I cant wait to be hapoy sharing pints of milk with him ❤ My whole life doesn't need to revolve around alcohol/the weekend/the hope of a party. I'm done. So amazing to see someone talk about it. Xx
Jennifer Malcolm I can totally relate to you too! I’m a heavy drinker (a cold glass of Sauvignon blanc or 4 was becoming the norm 4-5 nights a week) whereas my partner hardly drinks (maybe once a month)... I’m just sick of it now so am so far 5 days without alcohol. Good luck on your journey 💪🏼 X
Salut to a sober pal. Been sober for 5 years now cause the drink was making me so ill, and i love it. I love being around drunk people and watching. Getting high on other peoples moods. And being the one to remember everything and lord it over the drunk ones in the morning. Really it is a blessing to be sober among friends and full enjoy a night. Enjoy it for the experience it is. Hope it works out for you.
CollyoftheWobbles same I definitely get drunk off other people’s vibes, without touching a drop myself. Love that it means I can drive to parties/bars as well
I did an alcohol free year and it was sooo good. I drink now but only on occasion, and rarely more than one (it makes me so sleepy!). It’s really nice to be able to walk into an event and not feel I need it. Very liberating once you get past the first bit.
I used to be a heavy drinker when I was young, as in Saturday nights could be 12 double Malibu chasers and 12 pints of Guinness. I think I've only blacked out once, though. I stopped drinking when my kids were born, as I was the only driver in the family, and I wanted to be safe to drive if there was ever an emergency. 20 years later, and I haven't really missed it. Good luck with the therapy, Melanie!
I gave up alcohol a few months ago, it's the best decision I ever made and has also really shown me who my true friends are; as they are the ones that will still make an effort to see you outside of drinking... good luck lovely!!
I'm a student in studying in London, and I don't drink (never had). I don't know how common is to a sober student, but it suits me (its an individual thing). Pro-tip = I still go dancing, its not easy, but I try to absorb the energy of people around me, and soak up there carefree spiritedness. It's like trying to have a conversation with a small child - you need to get on their level, it might not make sense, but I go with in anyway. I find ways to feel free without the alcohols.
That's the bit I struggle with... But the reality is, I just HATE dancing and clubs... And alcohol is the only way I can tolerate it... So I just don't go 😂 I think people need to take a step back and think, if I need alcohol to have fun, is that something I actually want to do? Probably not.
My older brother died because of alcohol abuse (to be fair: He did other drugs too). But the very most of his health issues came from daily alcohol abuse. I feel like I will never stop crying because of his death. I abused alcohol sometimes. Occasionally. Just to kinda numb yourself or make yourself "useless" so you can escape schedule. It's horrible. You feel horrible. No one "has to drink". Alcohol is not necessary for your body. It's so sad if someone feels like he or she MUST drink. A little bit will cause no harm. But I think if it's either "nothing" or "getting wasted"... Nothing is better.
Giving up alcohol was one of the hardest things I have done so far in the 25 years of my life. I used to have a bottle, beers and whatever else I could get my grubby hands on. Simply because I couldn't confront the feelings that I had at the time. Now I am 6 years sober and have never been happier. I wish you the best of luck in this long and hard journey. Much love and good vibes, from Tennessee. Thank you for sharing the journey with us.
Well you've got your life in order. Go you!! (deadly serious... I realised that could sound sarcastic!!) I'm 24, vegan, used to be sober until I was 21 but now loves a gin a bit too much, and VERY single 😂 I got one of the three at least 😉
hanzi31 I’ve been on my own since I was 17, and I had to grow up quick, raising my siblings. My brother died when I was a junior in high school, so yeah haha I got my shit together fast. You’ll get there. Everyone has their own timeline
Non drinker here for over 4 years! ☺️❤️ I go zero to Lindsay Lohan real quick so no more 😂 best decision I ever made but a hard adjustment for the first 5 months or so x
I am a 19 year old non drinker and proud of it lol. Please take me out of the teens. BUT.... just do it for yourself, not for anyone else. They too will benefit from it. ✌🏻🌼💜🌼
YES!!! OMG yes. Like Omg i couldnt agree more. We have a rep unfortunately and its sad that we have that. But we have a club and that so nice to have. Not drinking world woohoo!!!!✌🏻😂🌼💜🌼
I didn't drink until I was 21...at 19 I was SO sure I'd never drink ever... Between 21 and 23 I had a healthy relationship with alcohol (just having the odd glass of wine/G&T once in a while) but it kind of went downhill for a while. I'm now (at 24) wanting to go back to not drinking and wondering why I ever started). It's a tad tough socially being sober sometimes, but it is better for you in the long run, so stick at it if you really want to (or have the odd glass if you wish... Whatever suits you!) 😊
@@hanzib31 i appreciate ur demographic view. Im one of those people with issues in the past with alcohol. NOT ME. im sure im not the only one. Thanks for stopping by and replying.✌🏻🌼 have a great super day.
This came at the best time! I’ve just decided to give up alcohol too. I desire to have a life like yours one day. You can tell how in love you and your fiancé are!
I don't drink either! Never have. For many different reasons. Suprisingly, for me most of the pressure I've experienced came from older people rather than my peers, trying to convince me that it's harmless. Also, people can get very defensive when you say you don't drink? Like they have to defend themselves and their drinking, just because you don't. Idk.
I'm prone to blackouts and have gotten into a few dangerous situations. I went through a horrible depression last year where I drank all the time, went to the bar alone, was always drunk and picking fights with my boyfriend. Drinking makes all my insecurities bubble up. I become rude and horrible. In January I ended up blacking out and subtweeting about a friend. That was really a wakeup call for me. Power to you, hon. It's hard. I tried a month of no drinking after that incident and succeeded! I drink occasionally now, and I don't think I've blacked out since (I also have a bad memory in general... so when I blacked out I'd really freak out). Alcoholism runs in my family. My mom's 20+ years sober!! It's a one day at a time kinda thing. You got this. We're here for you!
I have been sober for two years, I did this a year and a half before the two years for just over a year but this time it is forever. I truly will never drink again - although I never was a bigggg drinker and liked to be in control when out, I feel like the benefits for my PCOS and Endometriosis as well as my productivity and quality of life wins over any night out. Although I still go out very late, dance all night and chat endlessly, it's a bit of knowing your personality and knowing your WHY. It is SO rewarding. Plus you feel safer, more clear headed, and more present for your loved ones.
I love you Mel ❤️ I have been suffering with depression and anxiety lately and I have just been watching your vids to remind myself that it’s ok to be human and that I’m not alone and I’ll get through it. Thank you 🌙🌻
So I just watched this without even knowing you added my 'Bad Day' cover and I was like HOLD UP. THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR. 😂😂😂 Thanks so much Mel! And happy TURTIEH birthday! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ As for the alcohol, I've been reducing my consumption of alcohol because I KNOW my brain and my body doesn't like it. The day after I have a night of drinking, I'm always so demotivated/deflated, down, tired, drained both mentally and physically. My boyfriend feels the exact same way, so we only tend to drink at celebration events or big family events.
I haven’t drank this year, 50% because I feel like I no longer enjoy it and 50% due to medical reasons(drinking really sets off a bladder condition I have TMI). It’s been super hard, and not giving up the drink but in a social sense people always think you’re either lying to get out of plans with them or look at you like you’re strange when you say you don’t drink so don’t want to go on a night out etc. It’s a bit crap when people only want to meet for a drink etc and it’s kinda made me realise friends who want to actually see you and those who just want somebody to go out with. I feel so much better in myself so that pro outweighs the cons!
I read the book you recommended over this weekend and by GOLLY is it my favourite book! I love how poignant it is, how clear it is in discussing all the sides in as many ways as possible, in not being afraid to call jerks jerks. And how working through the past doesn't mean you don't have a future ❤️ THANK YOU
Sober almost two years 💁🏼♀️ I live in south Florida which is a huge party/drinking environment. I stopped for very similar reasons. I would binge drink, be hungover, have depression and anxiety the next day. After years of doing this to my body and mind, i decided to quit. Now i didn’t plan on quitting as long as i have. I took it day by day and ended up here today almost 2 years sober. I am the only sober person in my group of friends so it was really hard to be social without the teasing and questions “why aren’t you drinking?” “Why don’t you just have one” and and so on. I just try to think about the next day rather than just that moment. It has been life changing and i am happier than ever. I do have a tip for you, Non Alcoholic beer! Having something in my hand helped tremendously! It’s still a struggle til this day but it’s not worth how i will feel the next day. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need a little support! Love your videos and how genuine you are. I wish you good luck!!!
Start with the venue first! It's really hard to book anything else until you have your venue and date set. Also keep in mind the venue's policy in terms of catering - e.g. can you get outside caterers or do you have to go with their food? Your venue and food will most likely be the two most expensive things so it's worth keeping them both in mind when making a venue decision. Enjoy!! I loved planning my wedding. Seeing it come together at the end was just magical :)
Almost 16 months ago I stopped drinking alcohol. I didn’t drink often, however my quality of life has massively improved since I stopped. First I made the decision to not drink for one year, and at this point I don’t think I will in the future. I know that if I want to have one or two drinks its ok for me, but I can’t get wasted. I love having 110% control over my actions and remembering everything that happens. I feel like I’m giving my body the respect it deserves, physically and mentally. In some social situations I miss drinking, because everybody is drinking and it feels like I’m not included in the group activity. I love being able to drive home whenever I want and to spent my money on other things! Good luck on your journey Melanie!
Wedding tips from someone also planning a wedding: - book your venue first and ASAP - it’s okay to look at different dress stores - wait until 9 months before wedding to check out food Also what are some Irish wedding traditions?
I am Scottish and haven't drank since 2015. I find that the longer I haven't drank, the stronger mentally I feel. In the beginning it was hard as being the sober friend is not great fun, but it gets easier and you feel powerful when you realise how much will power you can have! Best of luck Melanie!
sis when u started talking about the very very bad days that aren‘t at all regular anymore but used to be ur life when u were 19.... i‘m 19 now and you made me feel so much hope that it won‘t be like this forever!!! thank you mel!!!💚
In Scotland there’s a huge drinking culture here too, I think it’s important to break the expectations of needing a drink to have a good time. Totally behind you Melanie! ❤️
Charlotte Ferrier // hey fellow Scottish Charlotte 👋 I agree. Especially from a young age here it seems strange if you aren’t regularly drunk by the age of 15 which seems wrong. Everyone should be able to do what they want as long as it doesn’t harm them or others
I’m sober and I currently don’t have any intention of drinking again! Never was a big drinker anyway and had huge periods of time where I would stop drinking alcohol completely because of how it affected my personality and mental health. Finally gave it up for good about 1.5 years ago and haven’t looked back since. Best thing I ever did for my sanity. All my best wishes to you Melanie! Love watching your channel and your personal growth ❤️
I completely understand your whole thing about the culture surrounding alcohol. In my state in the US, alcohol is at the center of every gathering, whether that be small or large and all of a sudden people find themselves having a drink every day. I have had experience with alcoholism in my family and knowing the way that it has affected me I would never EVER wish that on anyone. It's good to recognize that your relationship with alcohol had gone sour and to do something about it. Lots of people don't.
Melanie, you GOT this! I'll be honest...I drank and drank and drank...I had no limits....I overindulged for many, many years...I was found face forward at the bottom of my stairs on many occasions because of excessive drinking. It caused me a lot of problems with my health and I decided to lead a healthier lifestyle and cut it out. In the beginning at parties, I drank club soda with lime ..it looks like a vodka soda and nobody ever bothered me for not joining in. Now, (years later) I don't care if people think I'm a buzz kill...I'm a much healthier version of myself and I'm proud of you for taking control. You have the strength to see this through! Love ya xox
Good for you Melanie! I'm a German expat living in Ireland and I drank waaay too much since I moved over. Don't get me wrong, I love the pub culture. What I don't like about it is the binge- drinking part of it. When I was in Germany last year over Christmas, I quit alcohol and cigarettes and one month later I was pregnant, so I've been sober for nine months now and I f****** love it! I'm not saying that I'll never drink alcohol again, but it made me realise so many things about my health and myself. I want to stay sober at least until June next year! Also-the book "The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober" helped me a lot in December! Hugs from West Cork!
Thank you for a great video! I am moving into my van this year and this year I am giving up alcohol! I am so inspired by you and your journey! Keep killing it! Love and blessings!
I never really drank much, probably on ten occasions in my life, I'm 27 now. I am afraid of losing control and it makes me feel weird. Maybe because I'm neurodivergent. There's a lot of addiction running in my family and I know I have obsessive/compulsive tendencies. I considered self-medicating with alcohol when I was thirteen or so, and that thought alone scared me ever since. I think I stopped drinking at all at.. 20? There's been 2 occasions when I took one sip to taste a sparkling wine my closest friend but that's it (trust is a huge factor for me as well, and the culture of people trying to push boundaries with alcohol that I experienced when I was younger). But I do occasionally eat chocolates containing alcohol. Since I'm not a party person at all it's fine. And since I've gotten older people accept my choice more. If they get pushy I say that addiction runs in my family and except for one time that statement shut people up. But it's weird, people do still get surprised I'm *strictly* alcohol free and make no exceptions for *them* or *that occasion*. Even one of my friends still seems surprised when I decline alcohol.
My mum is an alcoholic and she would become violent so I had to grow up very quickly and take care of my little brother. She has been sober for three months now. I will be 18 next year and I don't want to drink alcohol because of my childhood.
I can not believe I have only just found your channel! Your like my soul sister! I turned 30 in the summer too and decided to go sober for my 30th for a year. I feel fantastic! Your so inspiring! X
aww WELCOME TO THE INTERNET FAMILY! :) Yeah goodness I feel SO great off the drink! I'll admit, it can be tough on nights out or at weddings, drunk people are annoying as fuck lol, but ultimately it's been incredible for me! xx will make an update video!
I just found your page yesterday but I'm hooked, really really enjoying your content and I have entered 2024 with the intention to give up alcohol. I started with the idea of just dry Jan, then I realised I wanted this to be longer term. I'm currently toying with the idea or either three months until my birthday but the more I see videos on longer term giving up and seeing your first stint was a year, I'm definitely steering towards that but as you've said in another video, it's scary (for whatever reason!). Thank you for the content and please tell me where you got your jumper from I'm obsessed!!
Yay, sober pals! I'm sober for about 2 years now, the best decision I ever made! The judgement of some kind of people can be hard sometimes, because drinking is socially so heavily ingrained in my home country. Not drinking is kind of heavily frowned upon. ;) But I'm doing this for me and it benefits me in so many ways. And the people who really count will support you no matter what. You got this girl!!
If you and Jessie make a podcast I will die of happiness 😍🤩💖 thank you for being so open and honest about the shitty days and I’m proud of you for deciding to give up alcohol... will be very interesting to see how you find the journey! 💚💚
My dad has been an alcoholic all my life. My family has always talked about how his drinking bothered us and how he really needs to take control, but he would never listen. He really let drinking take everything away from him. It was a big part of my parents divorce and big part of why my sibling and I have a strained relationship with him. Drinking really destroyed his personality, brain, and behavior bc it caused a lot of other problems to occur. He wasn’t able to stop drinking until early this year when when he got hospitalized and nearly died from his addiction. He’s sober now but he never would’ve quit if he never had gotten sick. It made me realize that I would never let myself get like that. (I’m 15 now and still have a while before it’s legal.) And with talking with other people, including my friends, I realized that my situation was a lot more common as thought. I never really had anyone to talk about it with when I was younger and never felt like I could ever say anything. I just started therapy and I like it so far
23 years old, have always been sober. The peer pressure was real bad during middle school/secondary school but now I have been really lucky to find several separate groups of friends who don't mind me not drinking at all even when they do drink and sometimes we even hang out without alcohol. I don't intend to ever start.
Go you girl! I think it's great that you're giving it up before your 30th/Christmas etc. because if you held off till special occasions were finished, then it could set a precedent for making acceptions for special occasions and make it more difficult to stay off alcohol for special occasions in the coming year- but once you have your 30th birthday and enjoy it loads without alcohol, you won't be worried about not being able to have fun without alcohol for the rest of the year :) 💚💚💚 love you lots, sending you all the good wishes :D
Sober pal!! I've been sober for four years now. Best decision I ever made (and hardest) but truly worth it. It's been incredibly healing for my entire life, across the board, so it makes any difficulty that comes with the decision worth it. Much love!!
I'm 19 and I don't love drinking (I go through phases of not drinking or having one or two if I'm out) and I hate the drinking in culture so it's refreshing to see someone Irish talking about their relationship with drinking and making chances for themselves!
I can relate to giving up alcohol. I recently learned that I have a slew of health issues, several of which are still being tested for diagnosis, and when I first learned about them I started drinking more than usual. I typically only have a few drinks on the weekends, mainly wine, but I started mixing hard liquor in the middle of the week! Alcoholism runs very strongly in my family and I didn't like where I was headed so it's been a few weeks now since I've had anything to drink and I'm glad I changed it before it got out of hand. You're not alone and it'll be hard but you got this! On a side note, I would definitely listen to your's and Jessie's podcast!! 💚
I gave up alcohol pretty much exactly 2 years ago, it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I also took up running around the same time, as a replacement habit, and I genuinely believe that if I had still been drinking, I would not have been able to stick to any kind of exercise because most of my mornings were so overtaken by recovering from the previous night, even if it was just 1 drink I'd be more tired and sluggish and less motivated. I also focused on the fact that alcohol made me into the kind of person I didn't like, and that gave me a really strong 'why' to keep going. The hardest bit for me was all the 'accompanying' alcohol I had to give up - like a cornona with mexican food or wine with pizza - but after a few months I stopped thinking about even that and I am eternally grateful to myself for that decision.
You are very inspirational and encouraging person. Don't let anyone shame you for making changes that will behoove you. I used to drink here and there and then drank too much. Because I have bipolar II, I don't drink anymore. It made me unable to make decisions that were healthy. And my mixed episodes were pretty bad. I love how raw and honest your videos are. They have helped me so much throughout the years ❤
I'm getting married September 20th :) My first tip would be to figure out your guest list (or at least a pretty good estimate) of who/how many people will be invited. The guest count will determine what venues you can book (because of space limitations and capacity and such), and the venue/date determines everything else...vendor availability, decor, etc. The Big Wedding Planning Podcast and the Bridechilla podcast have been lifesavers!! ❤️
I gave up alcohol for about 9 months in 2017/18 for my mental health. It was a really eye opening experience for me and made me see I can have a good time without drinking. My mental health is much better now, so I drink again now, and having that time off has helped me be a much healthier drinker. I can choose whether or not to drink and know when to stop. I hope this journey goes well for you, but I tried giving up loads before I did it properly so don't worry it you slip up, its doesn't mean you won't get there. Good luck 💚
I have never enjoyed drinking to excess. I have never even puked while drinking. I just don't like being out of control of my body. I do have 1-2 glasses of wine with dinner on those great days. I think full restriction leaves room to shame yourself if you step off a personal goal, please be careful with this mentality while moving forward!!!
On a night out I try not to drink a lot but have recently tried going out to clubs and stuff sober with friends and find that I often have just as much fun! I find it very entertaining watching how stupid people can get when pissed.And it is amazing because the next day everyone is hanging and I've still got my whole day ahead of me rather than being completely written off!
Normalising therapy, thank you Melanie! 💚 When you asked for comments on social media use over on Instagram last month I really sat back and realised how much of a crutch dating apps had become for me. I was in an abusive relationship that ended in December and I had been using tinder for validation and to show I was moving on; to prove that my ex hadn’t destroyed me. I wanted to prove my ex wrong so badly when he’d told me I’d never find someone to love me, that it was zapping my energy. I finally broke down and have realised how much damage I have been doing myself, not enjoying my new found freedom because I’ve been looking to fill something I’m told by society I need to fill. I’m back in therapy and I’m learning to accept that I went through something, was manipulated and abused and that that isn’t because of who I am but because of who my ex was. It’s something that women shouldn’t have to experience but hearing other women talk about being in abusive and toxic relationships has helped me accept that it doesn’t make me weak and hearing you talk about therapy will hopefully make other women and girls who have been through sexual harassment and abuse realise that therapy should not be a taboo subject 💚
I quit alcohol 2 weeks ago and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m o my 23 and I’ve already experienced an alcohol problem in my personal life and however embarrassing it is to admit that as just a 23 year old, it’s the truth and I’m having a hard time with the social aspect. Everyone around me drinks as a normal activity and it is playing mind games with me. But as each day goes on, it gets better. I don’t (nobody does actually) need it and I am finally starting to realize that.
Over two years sober! Best thing I ever did!! My sobriety is my new comfort blanket! I feel so strong willed and confident in myself since quitting alcohol. There’s a saying that pretty much summed it up for me. A night of booze is borrowing happiness from the following day. Which is so so so true! I remember I had one of those “bad days” and said: no more. I don’t want this anymore. For the first two months I was super high on the idea...eventually that wears off and it can get hard....especially at events or around people who are heavy drinking. But! Eventually your inhibitions lower as you realise you can still have fun and dance like a moron or stay out till silly o’clock without booze!!! And not let the next day become something you suffer through. Nothing bad came from quitting alcohol for me. I only saw improvements and even two years in I still get amazed at how much better my life is without it. I used to black out. I remember a hangover throwing up in the shower, looking in the mirror and hating myself. I to would have dark memories emerge when I got very drunk and it could Be very distressing for me and for anyone I was with at the time. Alcohol made me so unhappy. You will grow. You will find things out about yourself. You will learn how to have fun in a new way. And NO hangovers!!!! You also save money! What’s not to love! Making this public and holding yourself accountable will hugely help! I wish you all the best with this. I wrote a blog called “no booze Hughes” after a year of no drinking; went into painful detail on the dark days. People may be shocked at first but when they realise it’s for your own good support will come your way and eventually people stop offering to buy you alcoholic drinks etc. Again! Good luck!
Liking before it even starts because honestly, the fact Mel is still making these is a blessing. I find I've just naturally fallen away from drinking because of the same reason, it doesn't make me feel great. I used to drink wine and beer really often but now I almost never drink wine. I still consider myself a lover of wine, but I swear it gives me dry mouth. I wake up in the night needing to CHUG a bottle of water and still feel unsatisfied. Gross. So I find now I usually drink more in the summer (I've been trying all the new gin smashes) and if I go on a trip (which is rare) I'll try special cocktails and stuff that are unique to the restaurant I'm eating at.
I gave up drinking a year and a half ago, I absolutely love it. I read Catherine Gray’s The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober when I first gave up and it changed my view on drinking so much! I had such an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and I feel so freeeee being sober. Never being hungover, never waking up not knowing what the hell I did the night before. It’s just so much better 😁
I don’t drink anymore! On rare occasions I’ll have one or two (maybe twice a year) but I am motivated by the reasons I quit drinking in the first place AND by how much happier I am since making the change for ME. You can do it!!
For starting your wedding planning just based on my experience: first you both need to decide what kind of wedding it is going to be (family only? dinner only? or lots of people big party?) and then pick a place - sometimes you have to book years in advance so I really recommend doing that before xmas if you want to get married in 2020 :) I love tacos also add some crunchy salad to them you will see it's even better!!
I don't drink (partially because alcoholism runs in my family and partly because I just think it tastes pretty gross) and I live in a state in the US where almost everyone drinks daily (I also live in the city that used to have the most bars per capita until recently when we were beat out by Boston but my city only has 50,000 people sooo) and it can be really tough when everyone around you is drinking and it's seen as so strange when someone doesn't drink but I always find that suggesting alternative ideas when hanging out with friends and explaining why you're giving it up can be really helpful! Also remembering all the reasons why you're giving up alcohol and all the positive ways it will change your life can be helpful as well. I'm really proud of you for taking this step because I have witnessed firsthand how difficult it can be and how mentally and emotionally draining it can be and I really appreciate you talking about it
Can I just say thank you for posting this. I’ve been saying to myself that I need to better my relationship with alcohol. I’m also not an alcoholic, but I just drink when I’m bored at night. And I drink by myself. And it’s just a depressing mess and it’s fucking with my head. Here’s to a new month.
My husband and I don’t drink, either. We have a lot of fun making non-alcoholic drinks when we hang out with others who do drink, though. My favorite right now is watermelon, basil, and agave blended until it’s a juice consistency and then I mix it with sparkling water! Yum! Also, my biggest wedding tips are to plan the wedding for yourselves, not for others and to look into paper flowers. I had an Etsy artist make my bouquet, the bridesmaids bouquets, the corsages for his mother and my grandmother, and the boutonnières for the groom, groomsmen, and the dads. It was my FAVORITE element of my wedding. The bouquets were made from pages of The Princess Bride and the boutonnières were made from pages of The Little Prince. I also had some flowers made to place on what would have been my mother’s chair (she passed a few years ago) using sheet music from You Are My Sunshine. It was a super personal touch to the wedding, is a lovely gift for the bridesmaids and the groomsmen, is something sentimental for the parents to keep forever, and my bouquet won’t ever die.
Married viewer here 👋 As far as planning the wedding, don't feel pressured into doing things you don't want to do just because it's traditional/expected/whatever (you do you!), that also extends to inviting people you don't want (love ya Mum, but your second-cousin-once-removed-grandchild who I've never met, isn't invited) I think the most important advice for wedding planning is to create a day that you and your hubby want. For me, it was an intimate (we're talking like 20 people) event, outside in nature, with lots of games and music, and homemade comfort food (no catering). I didn't do a line because I abhor them so I just made sure to greet everyone who came one-on-one and had a massive party.
I’m 20 and in college, and I dont drink! It always makes me so anxious, dizzy, and nauseous so after many years of being sick every weekend, I just don’t drink! Maybe a few drinks a once or twice a year, but that’s it (and I always regret it and then continue on my no drinking lifestyle haha). my tip would be if your out with friends, order a club soda or plain tonic, so you still have something to sip on and honestly no one cares. A really big perk I found was it significantly lessened getting breakouts! My boyfriend doesn’t drink either, so he inspired me originally. Good luck!
I’m three months sober in a few days ☺️☺️ I’m 26 and alcohol was a huuuuuuge part of my life but was just making me miserable! I find it difficult sometimes but 99% of the time I’m so happy with my decision :) Hope your sobriety is going well!!
I'm staying sober as well for a year because of mental health issues, and live in Mexico. Sooooo... not such a great environment for sober people. What I've found useful is taking gum to parties so when I feel like drinking I won't actually crave it because of the bad combination of flavors.
💚When I was a teenager and most kids started drinking for social reasons I decided I didn't want to associate with those people and go to those parties - I had resolved myself to thinking I was the outcast and I was okay with that. So when they all drank together I never wanted to be involved. I never ended up going to house parties and never developed a taste for the social numbing powers of alcohol. I don't have any issue with other people who drink, I just don't myself. I can be just as silly and flirty as all the drunk people. I don't like the dizzy feeling from alcohol, makes me feel unstable. 💚
I gave up alcohol when I realised it was fuelling my binge eating disorder. As a reformed party girl I thought my social life would go but I discovered a wealth of time to do the things I love (and saved money)
I'm 20 and I don't drink, havent for about 2 years now. At first it was hard to get used to being the sober one at partys but now I really enjoy it, I like being the mom friend and drunk people are fun to be around without being drunk yourself. Always takes a bit more time to get into party mood but with the right people, good music, and a glass in your hand (to at least not miss that feeling) you're definitely gonna have fun without the nausea and headaches the next day.
New subscriber over here! So weird, this is the first time I have come across your channel and I too have recently decided to give up alcohol. I gradually slipped into a really bad habit of drinking wine around 4/ 5 nights a week and 5 nights ago I thought enough was enough. I had realised I was no longer able to fulfil my potential with a groggy head everyday not to mention to damage it is doing to my health and fitness goals so I am now 5 days sober. I wouldn’t say I was an alcoholic but I would definitely say it was becoming a problem for me. This will be the first weekend without alcohol, wish me luck haha! Also, a tip, Tesco/ Sainsbury’s usually sell little jars of fajita seasoning in the herbs and spices sections for about £1/€1 and you get probably 8-10 more portions than those individual packets! Has saved me £££ as like you I love those kind of Mexican tacos/ fajitas etc Xx
Wow Mel that's really great for you! I've recently just cut back a lot on my alcohol intake. I'm really only an occasional drink with dinner person now. It will crazy to look back and see how much you used to drink! When I look back on my college days I was drinking EVERY weekend for no reason and that seems crazy to me! I wish you the best of luck girlfriend!!! We support you!!!😊💕
That's such a good decision in my opinion, I haven't drank in years and I don't ever feel like I need if or even want it. I'm totally fine without it. I feel like I'm taking better care of my body, my money, and my time with friends feels more valuable! Here with you girl! :)
I don't drink too often apart from special occasions during the year and I only like having about 3/4 drinks at one time. I don't go out to nightclubs and pubs as much as a couple of years ago as I usually felt anxious in them places even with good friends around me and alcohol didn't really help in making me feel that relaxed! I prefer doing things with people that don't involve alcohol nowadays, I've saved money and it has helped with my mental health too. Good luck with your alcohol-free journey :)
Melanie! I'm sober nowadays and I'm in my early 20s! I've never thrown up from drinking but back when I was younger during college, I drank every weekend, (binge-drinking) and then that turned into drinking most nights out of the week because that was the culture around me. Eventually, it struck me one day when I didn't drink over the weekend, that it had been MONTHS AND MONTHS since I had done that. That, ultimately, I'd been drinking every weekend and through the week for nearly a year straight.. Once I realized this, I scaled back dramatically, and with that, my tolerance for alcohol lowered dramatically. Instead of having a bottle of wine and maybe getting somewhat drunk, I could have maybe one glass of wine before I felt tipsy. That then transitioned into alcohol making me feel quite sick... the feeling of tipsy made me literally feel ill to my stomach. I felt dizzy, I felt nauseous, and I have no idea why. I think the sugar and thought of being tipsy and out of control makes me anxious, and elevates my heart rate to an uncomfortable point... so now I don't drink. If I do, it's maybe once every other month, and it's one or two glasses of wine. But that is so rare. Not to mention, I dropped twenty pounds because drinking food is bad for you typically, and drinking has a lot of calories. Now when I'm out I'll get a sparking water with lime so that it looks like I'm having a vodka soda, or I'll have some cranberry juice and ice so just nobody will ask the uncomfortable questions of why I'm not drinking. But it's a very very liberating thing and I've never felt healthier; and I don't miss being tipsy. Being with friends when I'm out and having them drink on my behalf is fine. I'll just watch, but at this point, my health is more important than feeling buzzed. You'll do amazing Melanie, we're all rooting for you x
Not sure if it counts but a grapefruit seltzer with a splash of campari and lime is delightful! Cucumber water with basil and mint as well. you can do it!! 💚💚💚
I’m proud of you, Mel! I also don’t drink, just like you I have an addictive personality and also a history of actual diagnosed addiction (to alcohol and other drugs) in my family. I don’t drink because of it, I don’t trust myself to not fall down that hole and also just don’t really like the feeling of being drunk/high. My grandfather passed away at only 59 years old because of liver disease from years of doing drugs and drinking. That scarred my siblings and I, even though we aren’t actually blood related to him, he was very important to us and when he died it showed us how much that stuff can hurt you and the people you love if you let it. Do what’s best for you, Mel! Don’t let it tear up your mental health like it is, I’m proud of you for stopping before it becomes REALLY bad. P.S. Congrats on you and Thomas’s engagement again!!
Tip to stop drinking: don't try to replace it with 0% because you will be so dissapointed because most of them suck. Find nice soda's or hot drinks to treat you. You'll be around people that drink a lot so be sure to get something you can enjoy and forget about the alcohol! Goooooood luck girl💚
I live in Montreal and was a bartender for many years. Giving up alcohol was very difficult since drinking kinda came with the lifestyle. I was surrounded by it. But it was never for me. Ever. I just sort of fell into it as a result of my environment and the people therein. When I decided to give it up, it was tough to be around people who enjoyed indulging but, after some time and encouragement from my loved ones, I was able to be in those environments without feeling the need to spend money on something that would leave me feeling like garbage the next day. I'm not 20 anymore and a hangover lasts forever and is far more brutal 😅😅 now, my body and my bank account are happy! I'm happy! And i haven't looked back! My boyfriend enjoys a good night out once in awhile and sometimes its tough for me to sit there with my mocktail but, at the end of it, I still have a great time and am able to function the following morning. If I'm not having fun? I leave, no hard feelings. Screw the stereotypes and the societal pressure: montreal is known for its bars and bar culture. I was mocked for giving up drink. I stuck to it anyway and am now able to really, genuinely enjoy so much more because my experience isn't fueled by something else!! You've got this girlie!!
I don't drink, mainly because i hate the feeling of not being in total control of myself. I now actually quite enjoy going out and seeing what everyone gets up to when they are a little tipsy, and unlike when I used to drink, I am now normally the last one standing! I usually just get a small coke or lemonade in a bar and people assume its alcoholic anyway. It can be hard when people you are out with question what you are drinking but I have found that as long as I look like I'm having a merry old time people don't really care what I'm drinking. Good luck!xx
I gave up drinking a few years ago for a year, just to see if I could and I did and it was grand. Recently I’ve had to give it up again because I started a new antidepressant and I have to say, it’s a lot more difficult this time. I do crave the odd glass of wine and I’m finding my social anxiety gets the better of me without the drink. But that’s something I want to overcome, I don’t want to just give into it and appease my anxious brain. Didn’t even think of getting non-alcoholic drinks, just to not feel so odd in a group of people drinking. Thanks for the idea!
I really appreciate you opening up about drinking! This is something I’ve also been struggling with. I wouldn’t say I’m an alcoholic but like you, I definitely have an addictive personality and have an issue sticking to not drinking. Currently I’m on medication (for anxiety) that I’m not able to drink on but I find myself still trying to drink, saying oh I’ll just have one... which leads or a second or third and because of the medication this often leads to me being sick. It’s definitely a challenge but I’m working on it. Hope you manage to stick to it, I’m cheering you on from afar!! 💪💪💪
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I been sober for a few years now to maintain my mental health, best decision I ever made
Melanie Murphy im sober bc im 12 and i don't plan on ever drinking
Just told my hubby a few minutes ago that I need to give up those cocktails and tequila shots, because I'm tired all the time. Having 2 kids it can be so nice to finish your stressful days with a nice drink. But since I almost never get enough sleep (thank you, kiddos!), this doesn't work for my body anymore. Alcohol seems to be too much additional strain. Need to get rid of that. Had two sober pregnancies and long breastfeeding times without a drop, so I know I can do it 💪
I'm sober being I am muslim, so I can't drink alcohol! I am engaged also ;)) I haven't started planning either though.
Been sober over 7 months, had to give up for health reasons initially but now i don't miss it. Myself and my husband love alcohol free cider as an alternative option.
I don’t drink at all - i find it just doesn’t suit me at all it makes me anxious, messes up my IBS and just overall decreases my health physically and mentally. Just not for me so I feel you girl 😂❤️❤️
Same!
Same! One of the worst anxiety attack happened the only time I actually got tipsy. Fortunately, I also really don't like the taste :)
But seriously, anxiety disorders and alcohol don't mix well for the most part…
I AM an alcoholic, I have no problem admitting it. But because I admitted it, I've been able to go 9 years so far without alcohol. Life and FUN without alcohol is possible lol. #teamnocable lol
Proud of you!!
I never started drinking. And once I got over the peer pressure I honestly could not care less. It showed me that I can be just as silly without being drunk and I don't have to deal with the anxiety and the aftermath of the drunk decisions.
I also grew up in a neighbourhood with many alcoholics and that instilled a dislike for alcohol in me from a young age because I saw how much damage it can do.
So in my books, great decision ❤
Sammee!
How did you overcome peer pressure
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Same! I'm 22 and never started drinking either. I do find people think me strange for not drinking, but I'm past caring. I don't want to so I don't. Can't fathom how so many people judge me for not drinking though like bloody hell it's a healthier choice if anything cut me some slack 😂
Hello Melanie! Quiet audience member here. I just wanted to say, I am a practicing Muslim and I never drank in my life and never missed it (I also am prone to addictions and I know it is easier for me to say abstinence is better but still, with love: ) Just remind yourself that there is a big portion of world that does not drink. I live in Texas now and I have once lived in Australia for a while (from what I gather, Ireland and Australia are similar when it comes to the drinking culture). And it IS hard to socialize when you are not drinking but girl, it is good for you! You are better off when you have mental clarity, full experiences of life good or bad etc etc. Take care, Peace!
I'm a highly functional drinker. I always surpass my limit. Especially when I'm a bit down. The way you described it is so real for me. I've decided to go to a counsellor, I'm getting rid of alcohol. My partner is tee total. I cant wait to be hapoy sharing pints of milk with him ❤ My whole life doesn't need to revolve around alcohol/the weekend/the hope of a party.
I'm done. So amazing to see someone talk about it. Xx
Jennifer Malcolm I can totally relate to you too! I’m a heavy drinker (a cold glass of Sauvignon blanc or 4 was becoming the norm 4-5 nights a week) whereas my partner hardly drinks (maybe once a month)... I’m just sick of it now so am so far 5 days without alcohol.
Good luck on your journey 💪🏼
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Salut to a sober pal. Been sober for 5 years now cause the drink was making me so ill, and i love it. I love being around drunk people and watching. Getting high on other peoples moods. And being the one to remember everything and lord it over the drunk ones in the morning. Really it is a blessing to be sober among friends and full enjoy a night. Enjoy it for the experience it is. Hope it works out for you.
CollyoftheWobbles same I definitely get drunk off other people’s vibes, without touching a drop myself. Love that it means I can drive to parties/bars as well
Omg a podcast with you and your sister would be everything. 😩🙏🏼
30 years sober and knowing that a trip across the pond would be SO hard. You go, girl
I did an alcohol free year and it was sooo good. I drink now but only on occasion, and rarely more than one (it makes me so sleepy!). It’s really nice to be able to walk into an event and not feel I need it. Very liberating once you get past the first bit.
I'm 19 and I don't drink!
Moonlight I’m 20 and I don’t either! it’s very refreshing and oddly calming to hear other young people who don’t drink!
@@olivia_leigh1 YAS THE YOUNG NON DRINKING CLUB!!!!!✌🏻🌼💜
Moonlight me too! Gave up almost a year ago at 18... don’t miss it at all
I used to be a heavy drinker when I was young, as in Saturday nights could be 12 double Malibu chasers and 12 pints of Guinness. I think I've only blacked out once, though. I stopped drinking when my kids were born, as I was the only driver in the family, and I wanted to be safe to drive if there was ever an emergency. 20 years later, and I haven't really missed it. Good luck with the therapy, Melanie!
Well done that is amazing !
I gave up alcohol a few months ago, it's the best decision I ever made and has also really shown me who my true friends are; as they are the ones that will still make an effort to see you outside of drinking... good luck lovely!!
I'm a student in studying in London, and I don't drink (never had). I don't know how common is to a sober student, but it suits me (its an individual thing). Pro-tip = I still go dancing, its not easy, but I try to absorb the energy of people around me, and soak up there carefree spiritedness. It's like trying to have a conversation with a small child - you need to get on their level, it might not make sense, but I go with in anyway. I find ways to feel free without the alcohols.
I do that too! Just feel the vibe!
That's the bit I struggle with... But the reality is, I just HATE dancing and clubs... And alcohol is the only way I can tolerate it... So I just don't go 😂 I think people need to take a step back and think, if I need alcohol to have fun, is that something I actually want to do? Probably not.
My older brother died because of alcohol abuse (to be fair: He did other drugs too). But the very most of his health issues came from daily alcohol abuse. I feel like I will never stop crying because of his death. I abused alcohol sometimes. Occasionally. Just to kinda numb yourself or make yourself "useless" so you can escape schedule. It's horrible. You feel horrible. No one "has to drink". Alcohol is not necessary for your body. It's so sad if someone feels like he or she MUST drink. A little bit will cause no harm. But I think if it's either "nothing" or "getting wasted"... Nothing is better.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Giving up alcohol was one of the hardest things I have done so far in the 25 years of my life. I used to have a bottle, beers and whatever else I could get my grubby hands on. Simply because I couldn't confront the feelings that I had at the time. Now I am 6 years sober and have never been happier. I wish you the best of luck in this long and hard journey. Much love and good vibes, from Tennessee. Thank you for sharing the journey with us.
I’m 23, engaged (will be married in October), vegan and sober! ❤️
you sound like youd be fun at parties
equinox I’m a blast!! Thanks for your support 😉
Noor Jaddo Thank you, love! 💕
Well you've got your life in order. Go you!! (deadly serious... I realised that could sound sarcastic!!) I'm 24, vegan, used to be sober until I was 21 but now loves a gin a bit too much, and VERY single 😂 I got one of the three at least 😉
hanzi31 I’ve been on my own since I was 17, and I had to grow up quick, raising my siblings. My brother died when I was a junior in high school, so yeah haha I got my shit together fast. You’ll get there. Everyone has their own timeline
I’ve just come out of a 28 day rehab for alcohol and I needed this. Preach the word girl! You booze, you lose. Literally.
Hope you are still doing well!
Non drinker here for over 4 years! ☺️❤️ I go zero to Lindsay Lohan real quick so no more 😂 best decision I ever made but a hard adjustment for the first 5 months or so x
i also want to stop drinking! i didnt realize how often i drank until pretty recently... here with you boo :)
I am a 19 year old non drinker and proud of it lol. Please take me out of the teens. BUT.... just do it for yourself, not for anyone else. They too will benefit from it. ✌🏻🌼💜🌼
Brid Mcgrath same! Everyone else our age drinks like their liver is superhuman!
YES!!! OMG yes. Like Omg i couldnt agree more. We have a rep unfortunately and its sad that we have that. But we have a club and that so nice to have. Not drinking world woohoo!!!!✌🏻😂🌼💜🌼
@@sjwells04 take care of the liver!!!!!✌🏻🌼💜🌼
I didn't drink until I was 21...at 19 I was SO sure I'd never drink ever... Between 21 and 23 I had a healthy relationship with alcohol (just having the odd glass of wine/G&T once in a while) but it kind of went downhill for a while. I'm now (at 24) wanting to go back to not drinking and wondering why I ever started). It's a tad tough socially being sober sometimes, but it is better for you in the long run, so stick at it if you really want to (or have the odd glass if you wish... Whatever suits you!) 😊
@@hanzib31 i appreciate ur demographic view. Im one of those people with issues in the past with alcohol. NOT ME. im sure im not the only one. Thanks for stopping by and replying.✌🏻🌼 have a great super day.
This came at the best time! I’ve just decided to give up alcohol too. I desire to have a life like yours one day. You can tell how in love you and your fiancé are!
I don't drink either! Never have. For many different reasons.
Suprisingly, for me most of the pressure I've experienced came from older people rather than my peers, trying to convince me that it's harmless.
Also, people can get very defensive when you say you don't drink? Like they have to defend themselves and their drinking, just because you don't. Idk.
Kim Devyver so true!!! Saying you don’t drink would surprisingly offend some people!!! Why?!
I'm prone to blackouts and have gotten into a few dangerous situations. I went through a horrible depression last year where I drank all the time, went to the bar alone, was always drunk and picking fights with my boyfriend. Drinking makes all my insecurities bubble up. I become rude and horrible. In January I ended up blacking out and subtweeting about a friend. That was really a wakeup call for me. Power to you, hon. It's hard. I tried a month of no drinking after that incident and succeeded! I drink occasionally now, and I don't think I've blacked out since (I also have a bad memory in general... so when I blacked out I'd really freak out). Alcoholism runs in my family. My mom's 20+ years sober!! It's a one day at a time kinda thing. You got this. We're here for you!
I have been sober for two years, I did this a year and a half before the two years for just over a year but this time it is forever. I truly will never drink again - although I never was a bigggg drinker and liked to be in control when out, I feel like the benefits for my PCOS and Endometriosis as well as my productivity and quality of life wins over any night out. Although I still go out very late, dance all night and chat endlessly, it's a bit of knowing your personality and knowing your WHY. It is SO rewarding. Plus you feel safer, more clear headed, and more present for your loved ones.
I love you Mel ❤️ I have been suffering with depression and anxiety lately and I have just been watching your vids to remind myself that it’s ok to be human and that I’m not alone and I’ll get through it. Thank you 🌙🌻
So I just watched this without even knowing you added my 'Bad Day' cover and I was like HOLD UP. THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR. 😂😂😂 Thanks so much Mel! And happy TURTIEH birthday! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
As for the alcohol, I've been reducing my consumption of alcohol because I KNOW my brain and my body doesn't like it. The day after I have a night of drinking, I'm always so demotivated/deflated, down, tired, drained both mentally and physically. My boyfriend feels the exact same way, so we only tend to drink at celebration events or big family events.
I haven’t drank this year, 50% because I feel like I no longer enjoy it and 50% due to medical reasons(drinking really sets off a bladder condition I have TMI). It’s been super hard, and not giving up the drink but in a social sense people always think you’re either lying to get out of plans with them or look at you like you’re strange when you say you don’t drink so don’t want to go on a night out etc. It’s a bit crap when people only want to meet for a drink etc and it’s kinda made me realise friends who want to actually see you and those who just want somebody to go out with. I feel so much better in myself so that pro outweighs the cons!
I read the book you recommended over this weekend and by GOLLY is it my favourite book! I love how poignant it is, how clear it is in discussing all the sides in as many ways as possible, in not being afraid to call jerks jerks. And how working through the past doesn't mean you don't have a future ❤️ THANK YOU
Sober almost two years 💁🏼♀️ I live in south Florida which is a huge party/drinking environment. I stopped for very similar reasons. I would binge drink, be hungover, have depression and anxiety the next day. After years of doing this to my body and mind, i decided to quit. Now i didn’t plan on quitting as long as i have. I took it day by day and ended up here today almost 2 years sober. I am the only sober person in my group of friends so it was really hard to be social without the teasing and questions “why aren’t you drinking?” “Why don’t you just have one” and and so on. I just try to think about the next day rather than just that moment. It has been life changing and i am happier than ever. I do have a tip for you, Non Alcoholic beer! Having something in my hand helped tremendously! It’s still a struggle til this day but it’s not worth how i will feel the next day. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need a little support! Love your videos and how genuine you are. I wish you good luck!!!
i'm only 2 mins in, but thomas is so funny "i thought i was having a nap" I CANNOT COMPOSE MYSELF
Start with the venue first! It's really hard to book anything else until you have your venue and date set. Also keep in mind the venue's policy in terms of catering - e.g. can you get outside caterers or do you have to go with their food? Your venue and food will most likely be the two most expensive things so it's worth keeping them both in mind when making a venue decision. Enjoy!! I loved planning my wedding. Seeing it come together at the end was just magical :)
Almost 16 months ago I stopped drinking alcohol. I didn’t drink often, however my quality of life has massively improved since I stopped. First I made the decision to not drink for one year, and at this point I don’t think I will in the future. I know that if I want to have one or two drinks its ok for me, but I can’t get wasted. I love having 110% control over my actions and remembering everything that happens. I feel like I’m giving my body the respect it deserves, physically and mentally. In some social situations I miss drinking, because everybody is drinking and it feels like I’m not included in the group activity. I love being able to drive home whenever I want and to spent my money on other things!
Good luck on your journey Melanie!
Wedding tips from someone also planning a wedding:
- book your venue first and ASAP
- it’s okay to look at different dress stores
- wait until 9 months before wedding to check out food
Also what are some Irish wedding traditions?
The seagulls bit! ahahahah feckin brilliant
I am Scottish and haven't drank since 2015.
I find that the longer I haven't drank, the stronger mentally I feel.
In the beginning it was hard as being the sober friend is not great fun, but it gets easier and you feel powerful when you realise how much will power you can have!
Best of luck Melanie!
sis when u started talking about the very very bad days that aren‘t at all regular anymore but used to be ur life when u were 19.... i‘m 19 now and you made me feel so much hope that it won‘t be like this forever!!! thank you mel!!!💚
In Scotland there’s a huge drinking culture here too, I think it’s important to break the expectations of needing a drink to have a good time. Totally behind you Melanie! ❤️
Charlotte Ferrier // hey fellow Scottish Charlotte 👋 I agree. Especially from a young age here it seems strange if you aren’t regularly drunk by the age of 15 which seems wrong. Everyone should be able to do what they want as long as it doesn’t harm them or others
Absolutely, most people I know started getting drunk around 13 with the expectations increasing as we got older and it’s such a shame!
Two years without alcohol. You'll feel better, for sure.
Meghan Tonjes that’s incredible, girl. Proud of you! Two and a half weeks in 🙌🏻💚
I’m sober and I currently don’t have any intention of drinking again! Never was a big drinker anyway and had huge periods of time where I would stop drinking alcohol completely because of how it affected my personality and mental health. Finally gave it up for good about 1.5 years ago and haven’t looked back since. Best thing I ever did for my sanity. All my best wishes to you Melanie! Love watching your channel and your personal growth ❤️
I completely understand your whole thing about the culture surrounding alcohol. In my state in the US, alcohol is at the center of every gathering, whether that be small or large and all of a sudden people find themselves having a drink every day. I have had experience with alcoholism in my family and knowing the way that it has affected me I would never EVER wish that on anyone. It's good to recognize that your relationship with alcohol had gone sour and to do something about it. Lots of people don't.
Melanie, you GOT this! I'll be honest...I drank and drank and drank...I had no limits....I overindulged for many, many years...I was found face forward at the bottom of my stairs on many occasions because of excessive drinking. It caused me a lot of problems with my health and I decided to lead a healthier lifestyle and cut it out. In the beginning at parties, I drank club soda with lime
..it looks like a vodka soda and nobody ever bothered me for not joining in. Now, (years later) I don't care if people think I'm a buzz kill...I'm a much healthier version of myself and I'm proud of you for taking control. You have the strength to see this through! Love ya xox
This upload is what I needed thank you
Good for you Melanie! I'm a German expat living in Ireland and I drank waaay too much since I moved over. Don't get me wrong, I love the pub culture. What I don't like about it is the binge- drinking part of it. When I was in Germany last year over Christmas, I quit alcohol and cigarettes and one month later I was pregnant, so I've been sober for nine months now and I f****** love it! I'm not saying that I'll never drink alcohol again, but it made me realise so many things about my health and myself. I want to stay sober at least until June next year! Also-the book "The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober" helped me a lot in December! Hugs from West Cork!
Thank you for a great video! I am moving into my van this year and this year I am giving up alcohol! I am so inspired by you and your journey! Keep killing it! Love and blessings!
I never really drank much, probably on ten occasions in my life, I'm 27 now.
I am afraid of losing control and it makes me feel weird. Maybe because I'm neurodivergent. There's a lot of addiction running in my family and I know I have obsessive/compulsive tendencies. I considered self-medicating with alcohol when I was thirteen or so, and that thought alone scared me ever since.
I think I stopped drinking at all at.. 20? There's been 2 occasions when I took one sip to taste a sparkling wine my closest friend but that's it (trust is a huge factor for me as well, and the culture of people trying to push boundaries with alcohol that I experienced when I was younger).
But I do occasionally eat chocolates containing alcohol.
Since I'm not a party person at all it's fine. And since I've gotten older people accept my choice more. If they get pushy I say that addiction runs in my family and except for one time that statement shut people up. But it's weird, people do still get surprised I'm *strictly* alcohol free and make no exceptions for *them* or *that occasion*. Even one of my friends still seems surprised when I decline alcohol.
My mum is an alcoholic and she would become violent so I had to grow up very quickly and take care of my little brother. She has been sober for three months now. I will be 18 next year and I don't want to drink alcohol because of my childhood.
Good luck to you and your family!💖
I can not believe I have only just found your channel! Your like my soul sister! I turned 30 in the summer too and decided to go sober for my 30th for a year. I feel fantastic! Your so inspiring! X
aww WELCOME TO THE INTERNET FAMILY! :) Yeah goodness I feel SO great off the drink! I'll admit, it can be tough on nights out or at weddings, drunk people are annoying as fuck lol, but ultimately it's been incredible for me! xx will make an update video!
I just found your page yesterday but I'm hooked, really really enjoying your content and I have entered 2024 with the intention to give up alcohol. I started with the idea of just dry Jan, then I realised I wanted this to be longer term. I'm currently toying with the idea or either three months until my birthday but the more I see videos on longer term giving up and seeing your first stint was a year, I'm definitely steering towards that but as you've said in another video, it's scary (for whatever reason!). Thank you for the content and please tell me where you got your jumper from I'm obsessed!!
Thomas saying thanks softly while dancing is really sending meeee
Yay, sober pals! I'm sober for about 2 years now, the best decision I ever made! The judgement of some kind of people can be hard sometimes, because drinking is socially so heavily ingrained in my home country. Not drinking is kind of heavily frowned upon. ;) But I'm doing this for me and it benefits me in so many ways. And the people who really count will support you no matter what. You got this girl!!
If you and Jessie make a podcast I will die of happiness 😍🤩💖 thank you for being so open and honest about the shitty days and I’m proud of you for deciding to give up alcohol... will be very interesting to see how you find the journey! 💚💚
My dad has been an alcoholic all my life. My family has always talked about how his drinking bothered us and how he really needs to take control, but he would never listen. He really let drinking take everything away from him. It was a big part of my parents divorce and big part of why my sibling and I have a strained relationship with him. Drinking really destroyed his personality, brain, and behavior bc it caused a lot of other problems to occur. He wasn’t able to stop drinking until early this year when when he got hospitalized and nearly died from his addiction. He’s sober now but he never would’ve quit if he never had gotten sick. It made me realize that I would never let myself get like that. (I’m 15 now and still have a while before it’s legal.) And with talking with other people, including my friends, I realized that my situation was a lot more common as thought. I never really had anyone to talk about it with when I was younger and never felt like I could ever say anything. I just started therapy and I like it so far
23 years old, have always been sober. The peer pressure was real bad during middle school/secondary school but now I have been really lucky to find several separate groups of friends who don't mind me not drinking at all even when they do drink and sometimes we even hang out without alcohol. I don't intend to ever start.
Go you girl! I think it's great that you're giving it up before your 30th/Christmas etc. because if you held off till special occasions were finished, then it could set a precedent for making acceptions for special occasions and make it more difficult to stay off alcohol for special occasions in the coming year- but once you have your 30th birthday and enjoy it loads without alcohol, you won't be worried about not being able to have fun without alcohol for the rest of the year :) 💚💚💚 love you lots, sending you all the good wishes :D
Sober pal!! I've been sober for four years now. Best decision I ever made (and hardest) but truly worth it. It's been incredibly healing for my entire life, across the board, so it makes any difficulty that comes with the decision worth it. Much love!!
I'm 19 and I don't love drinking (I go through phases of not drinking or having one or two if I'm out) and I hate the drinking in culture so it's refreshing to see someone Irish talking about their relationship with drinking and making chances for themselves!
I can relate to giving up alcohol. I recently learned that I have a slew of health issues, several of which are still being tested for diagnosis, and when I first learned about them I started drinking more than usual. I typically only have a few drinks on the weekends, mainly wine, but I started mixing hard liquor in the middle of the week! Alcoholism runs very strongly in my family and I didn't like where I was headed so it's been a few weeks now since I've had anything to drink and I'm glad I changed it before it got out of hand. You're not alone and it'll be hard but you got this! On a side note, I would definitely listen to your's and Jessie's podcast!! 💚
I gave up alcohol pretty much exactly 2 years ago, it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I also took up running around the same time, as a replacement habit, and I genuinely believe that if I had still been drinking, I would not have been able to stick to any kind of exercise because most of my mornings were so overtaken by recovering from the previous night, even if it was just 1 drink I'd be more tired and sluggish and less motivated. I also focused on the fact that alcohol made me into the kind of person I didn't like, and that gave me a really strong 'why' to keep going. The hardest bit for me was all the 'accompanying' alcohol I had to give up - like a cornona with mexican food or wine with pizza - but after a few months I stopped thinking about even that and I am eternally grateful to myself for that decision.
You are very inspirational and encouraging person. Don't let anyone shame you for making changes that will behoove you. I used to drink here and there and then drank too much. Because I have bipolar II, I don't drink anymore. It made me unable to make decisions that were healthy. And my mixed episodes were pretty bad. I love how raw and honest your videos are. They have helped me so much throughout the years ❤
I'm getting married September 20th :) My first tip would be to figure out your guest list (or at least a pretty good estimate) of who/how many people will be invited. The guest count will determine what venues you can book (because of space limitations and capacity and such), and the venue/date determines everything else...vendor availability, decor, etc. The Big Wedding Planning Podcast and the Bridechilla podcast have been lifesavers!! ❤️
I gave up alcohol for about 9 months in 2017/18 for my mental health. It was a really eye opening experience for me and made me see I can have a good time without drinking. My mental health is much better now, so I drink again now, and having that time off has helped me be a much healthier drinker. I can choose whether or not to drink and know when to stop. I hope this journey goes well for you, but I tried giving up loads before I did it properly so don't worry it you slip up, its doesn't mean you won't get there. Good luck 💚
I have never enjoyed drinking to excess. I have never even puked while drinking. I just don't like being out of control of my body. I do have 1-2 glasses of wine with dinner on those great days.
I think full restriction leaves room to shame yourself if you step off a personal goal, please be careful with this mentality while moving forward!!!
I'm really excited because I have the same thing, I say excited cause I know I'm not the only one who's is the spectrum, I love u, thank u for this
I admire you so much for looking after yourself and taking action to take care of your body! You inspire me every day Melanie 💚
On a night out I try not to drink a lot but have recently tried going out to clubs and stuff sober with friends and find that I often have just as much fun! I find it very entertaining watching how stupid people can get when pissed.And it is amazing because the next day everyone is hanging and I've still got my whole day ahead of me rather than being completely written off!
I also don't drink! The meds that I'm on mean I feel absolutely shit after drinking. You got this!
Normalising therapy, thank you Melanie! 💚
When you asked for comments on social media use over on Instagram last month I really sat back and realised how much of a crutch dating apps had become for me.
I was in an abusive relationship that ended in December and I had been using tinder for validation and to show I was moving on; to prove that my ex hadn’t destroyed me. I wanted to prove my ex wrong so badly when he’d told me I’d never find someone to love me, that it was zapping my energy. I finally broke down and have realised how much damage I have been doing myself, not enjoying my new found freedom because I’ve been looking to fill something I’m told by society I need to fill. I’m back in therapy and I’m learning to accept that I went through something, was manipulated and abused and that that isn’t because of who I am but because of who my ex was.
It’s something that women shouldn’t have to experience but hearing other women talk about being in abusive and toxic relationships has helped me accept that it doesn’t make me weak and hearing you talk about therapy will hopefully make other women and girls who have been through sexual harassment and abuse realise that therapy should not be a taboo subject 💚
I quit alcohol 2 weeks ago and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m o my 23 and I’ve already experienced an alcohol problem in my personal life and however embarrassing it is to admit that as just a 23 year old, it’s the truth and I’m having a hard time with the social aspect. Everyone around me drinks as a normal activity and it is playing mind games with me. But as each day goes on, it gets better. I don’t (nobody does actually) need it and I am finally starting to realize that.
Over two years sober! Best thing I ever did!! My sobriety is my new comfort blanket! I feel so strong willed and confident in myself since quitting alcohol.
There’s a saying that pretty much summed it up for me. A night of booze is borrowing happiness from the following day. Which is so so so true!
I remember I had one of those “bad days” and said: no more. I don’t want this anymore. For the first two months I was super high on the idea...eventually that wears off and it can get hard....especially at events or around people who are heavy drinking. But! Eventually your inhibitions lower as you realise you can still have fun and dance like a moron or stay out till silly o’clock without booze!!! And not let the next day become something you suffer through.
Nothing bad came from quitting alcohol for me. I only saw improvements and even two years in I still get amazed at how much better my life is without it.
I used to black out. I remember a hangover throwing up in the shower, looking in the mirror and hating myself. I to would have dark memories emerge when I got very drunk and it could
Be very distressing for me and for anyone I was with at the time. Alcohol made me so unhappy.
You will grow. You will find things out about yourself. You will learn how to have fun in a new way. And NO hangovers!!!! You also save money! What’s not to love!
Making this public and holding yourself accountable will hugely help! I wish you all the best with this.
I wrote a blog called “no booze Hughes” after a year of no drinking; went into painful detail on the dark days. People may be shocked at first but when they realise it’s for your own good support will come your way and eventually people stop offering to buy you alcoholic drinks etc.
Again! Good luck!
Liking before it even starts because honestly, the fact Mel is still making these is a blessing.
I find I've just naturally fallen away from drinking because of the same reason, it doesn't make me feel great. I used to drink wine and beer really often but now I almost never drink wine. I still consider myself a lover of wine, but I swear it gives me dry mouth. I wake up in the night needing to CHUG a bottle of water and still feel unsatisfied. Gross. So I find now I usually drink more in the summer (I've been trying all the new gin smashes) and if I go on a trip (which is rare) I'll try special cocktails and stuff that are unique to the restaurant I'm eating at.
I gave up drinking a year and a half ago, I absolutely love it. I read Catherine Gray’s The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober when I first gave up and it changed my view on drinking so much! I had such an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and I feel so freeeee being sober. Never being hungover, never waking up not knowing what the hell I did the night before. It’s just so much better 😁
I don’t drink anymore! On rare occasions I’ll have one or two (maybe twice a year) but I am motivated by the reasons I quit drinking in the first place AND by how much happier I am since making the change for ME. You can do it!!
For starting your wedding planning just based on my experience: first you both need to decide what kind of wedding it is going to be (family only? dinner only? or lots of people big party?) and then pick a place - sometimes you have to book years in advance so I really recommend doing that before xmas if you want to get married in 2020 :) I love tacos also add some crunchy salad to them you will see it's even better!!
I don't drink (partially because alcoholism runs in my family and partly because I just think it tastes pretty gross) and I live in a state in the US where almost everyone drinks daily (I also live in the city that used to have the most bars per capita until recently when we were beat out by Boston but my city only has 50,000 people sooo) and it can be really tough when everyone around you is drinking and it's seen as so strange when someone doesn't drink but I always find that suggesting alternative ideas when hanging out with friends and explaining why you're giving it up can be really helpful! Also remembering all the reasons why you're giving up alcohol and all the positive ways it will change your life can be helpful as well. I'm really proud of you for taking this step because I have witnessed firsthand how difficult it can be and how mentally and emotionally draining it can be and I really appreciate you talking about it
Having boyfriend problems today - this is exactly what I needed Mel! Love u lots ❤️
Melanie's dancing skills: 11/10
Can I just say thank you for posting this. I’ve been saying to myself that I need to better my relationship with alcohol. I’m also not an alcoholic, but I just drink when I’m bored at night. And I drink by myself. And it’s just a depressing mess and it’s fucking with my head. Here’s to a new month.
My husband and I don’t drink, either. We have a lot of fun making non-alcoholic drinks when we hang out with others who do drink, though. My favorite right now is watermelon, basil, and agave blended until it’s a juice consistency and then I mix it with sparkling water! Yum!
Also, my biggest wedding tips are to plan the wedding for yourselves, not for others and to look into paper flowers. I had an Etsy artist make my bouquet, the bridesmaids bouquets, the corsages for his mother and my grandmother, and the boutonnières for the groom, groomsmen, and the dads. It was my FAVORITE element of my wedding. The bouquets were made from pages of The Princess Bride and the boutonnières were made from pages of The Little Prince. I also had some flowers made to place on what would have been my mother’s chair (she passed a few years ago) using sheet music from You Are My Sunshine.
It was a super personal touch to the wedding, is a lovely gift for the bridesmaids and the groomsmen, is something sentimental for the parents to keep forever, and my bouquet won’t ever die.
Married viewer here 👋 As far as planning the wedding, don't feel pressured into doing things you don't want to do just because it's traditional/expected/whatever (you do you!), that also extends to inviting people you don't want (love ya Mum, but your second-cousin-once-removed-grandchild who I've never met, isn't invited) I think the most important advice for wedding planning is to create a day that you and your hubby want. For me, it was an intimate (we're talking like 20 people) event, outside in nature, with lots of games and music, and homemade comfort food (no catering). I didn't do a line because I abhor them so I just made sure to greet everyone who came one-on-one and had a massive party.
I’m 20 and in college, and I dont drink! It always makes me so anxious, dizzy, and nauseous so after many years of being sick every weekend, I just don’t drink! Maybe a few drinks a once or twice a year, but that’s it (and I always regret it and then continue on my no drinking lifestyle haha). my tip would be if your out with friends, order a club soda or plain tonic, so you still have something to sip on and honestly no one cares. A really big perk I found was it significantly lessened getting breakouts! My boyfriend doesn’t drink either, so he inspired me originally. Good luck!
I’m three months sober in a few days ☺️☺️ I’m 26 and alcohol was a huuuuuuge part of my life but was just making me miserable! I find it difficult sometimes but 99% of the time I’m so happy with my decision :)
Hope your sobriety is going well!!
I'm staying sober as well for a year because of mental health issues, and live in Mexico. Sooooo... not such a great environment for sober people. What I've found useful is taking gum to parties so when I feel like drinking I won't actually crave it because of the bad combination of flavors.
💚When I was a teenager and most kids started drinking for social reasons I decided I didn't want to associate with those people and go to those parties - I had resolved myself to thinking I was the outcast and I was okay with that. So when they all drank together I never wanted to be involved. I never ended up going to house parties and never developed a taste for the social numbing powers of alcohol. I don't have any issue with other people who drink, I just don't myself. I can be just as silly and flirty as all the drunk people. I don't like the dizzy feeling from alcohol, makes me feel unstable. 💚
I gave up alcohol when I realised it was fuelling my binge eating disorder. As a reformed party girl I thought my social life would go but I discovered a wealth of time to do the things I love (and saved money)
This is so relatable. I know I'm commenting like a year later but thank you so much for making this. Love your videos. 💕
“As you know I live in Ireland so I’m not exactly surrounded by sober people...” 😂💀
I'm 20 and I don't drink, havent for about 2 years now. At first it was hard to get used to being the sober one at partys but now I really enjoy it, I like being the mom friend and drunk people are fun to be around without being drunk yourself. Always takes a bit more time to get into party mood but with the right people, good music, and a glass in your hand (to at least not miss that feeling) you're definitely gonna have fun without the nausea and headaches the next day.
New subscriber over here!
So weird, this is the first time I have come across your channel and I too have recently decided to give up alcohol. I gradually slipped into a really bad habit of drinking wine around 4/ 5 nights a week and 5 nights ago I thought enough was enough. I had realised I was no longer able to fulfil my potential with a groggy head everyday not to mention to damage it is doing to my health and fitness goals so I am now 5 days sober. I wouldn’t say I was an alcoholic but I would definitely say it was becoming a problem for me. This will be the first weekend without alcohol, wish me luck haha!
Also, a tip, Tesco/ Sainsbury’s usually sell little jars of fajita seasoning in the herbs and spices sections for about £1/€1 and you get probably 8-10 more portions than those individual packets! Has saved me £££ as like you I love those kind of Mexican tacos/ fajitas etc
Xx
Also PS your makeup for your friend's birthday was faaaaab. So glam and gorgeous!
Wow Mel that's really great for you! I've recently just cut back a lot on my alcohol intake. I'm really only an occasional drink with dinner person now. It will crazy to look back and see how much you used to drink! When I look back on my college days I was drinking EVERY weekend for no reason and that seems crazy to me! I wish you the best of luck girlfriend!!! We support you!!!😊💕
That's such a good decision in my opinion, I haven't drank in years and I don't ever feel like I need if or even want it. I'm totally fine without it. I feel like I'm taking better care of my body, my money, and my time with friends feels more valuable! Here with you girl! :)
I don't drink too often apart from special occasions during the year and I only like having about 3/4 drinks at one time. I don't go out to nightclubs and pubs as much as a couple of years ago as I usually felt anxious in them places even with good friends around me and alcohol didn't really help in making me feel that relaxed! I prefer doing things with people that don't involve alcohol nowadays, I've saved money and it has helped with my mental health too. Good luck with your alcohol-free journey :)
Melanie! I'm sober nowadays and I'm in my early 20s! I've never thrown up from drinking but back when I was younger during college, I drank every weekend, (binge-drinking) and then that turned into drinking most nights out of the week because that was the culture around me. Eventually, it struck me one day when I didn't drink over the weekend, that it had been MONTHS AND MONTHS since I had done that. That, ultimately, I'd been drinking every weekend and through the week for nearly a year straight.. Once I realized this, I scaled back dramatically, and with that, my tolerance for alcohol lowered dramatically. Instead of having a bottle of wine and maybe getting somewhat drunk, I could have maybe one glass of wine before I felt tipsy. That then transitioned into alcohol making me feel quite sick... the feeling of tipsy made me literally feel ill to my stomach. I felt dizzy, I felt nauseous, and I have no idea why. I think the sugar and thought of being tipsy and out of control makes me anxious, and elevates my heart rate to an uncomfortable point... so now I don't drink. If I do, it's maybe once every other month, and it's one or two glasses of wine. But that is so rare. Not to mention, I dropped twenty pounds because drinking food is bad for you typically, and drinking has a lot of calories. Now when I'm out I'll get a sparking water with lime so that it looks like I'm having a vodka soda, or I'll have some cranberry juice and ice so just nobody will ask the uncomfortable questions of why I'm not drinking. But it's a very very liberating thing and I've never felt healthier; and I don't miss being tipsy. Being with friends when I'm out and having them drink on my behalf is fine. I'll just watch, but at this point, my health is more important than feeling buzzed. You'll do amazing Melanie, we're all rooting for you x
Not sure if it counts but a grapefruit seltzer with a splash of campari and lime is delightful! Cucumber water with basil and mint as well. you can do it!! 💚💚💚
I’m proud of you, Mel! I also don’t drink, just like you I have an addictive personality and also a history of actual diagnosed addiction (to alcohol and other drugs) in my family. I don’t drink because of it, I don’t trust myself to not fall down that hole and also just don’t really like the feeling of being drunk/high. My grandfather passed away at only 59 years old because of liver disease from years of doing drugs and drinking. That scarred my siblings and I, even though we aren’t actually blood related to him, he was very important to us and when he died it showed us how much that stuff can hurt you and the people you love if you let it. Do what’s best for you, Mel! Don’t let it tear up your mental health like it is, I’m proud of you for stopping before it becomes REALLY bad.
P.S. Congrats on you and Thomas’s engagement again!!
Tip to stop drinking: don't try to replace it with 0% because you will be so dissapointed because most of them suck. Find nice soda's or hot drinks to treat you. You'll be around people that drink a lot so be sure to get something you can enjoy and forget about the alcohol! Goooooood luck girl💚
I live in Montreal and was a bartender for many years. Giving up alcohol was very difficult since drinking kinda came with the lifestyle. I was surrounded by it. But it was never for me. Ever. I just sort of fell into it as a result of my environment and the people therein.
When I decided to give it up, it was tough to be around people who enjoyed indulging but, after some time and encouragement from my loved ones, I was able to be in those environments without feeling the need to spend money on something that would leave me feeling like garbage the next day. I'm not 20 anymore and a hangover lasts forever and is far more brutal 😅😅 now, my body and my bank account are happy! I'm happy! And i haven't looked back! My boyfriend enjoys a good night out once in awhile and sometimes its tough for me to sit there with my mocktail but, at the end of it, I still have a great time and am able to function the following morning. If I'm not having fun? I leave, no hard feelings. Screw the stereotypes and the societal pressure: montreal is known for its bars and bar culture. I was mocked for giving up drink. I stuck to it anyway and am now able to really, genuinely enjoy so much more because my experience isn't fueled by something else!!
You've got this girlie!!
I don't drink, mainly because i hate the feeling of not being in total control of myself. I now actually quite enjoy going out and seeing what everyone gets up to when they are a little tipsy, and unlike when I used to drink, I am now normally the last one standing! I usually just get a small coke or lemonade in a bar and people assume its alcoholic anyway. It can be hard when people you are out with question what you are drinking but I have found that as long as I look like I'm having a merry old time people don't really care what I'm drinking. Good luck!xx
I gave up drinking a few years ago for a year, just to see if I could and I did and it was grand. Recently I’ve had to give it up again because I started a new antidepressant and I have to say, it’s a lot more difficult this time. I do crave the odd glass of wine and I’m finding my social anxiety gets the better of me without the drink. But that’s something I want to overcome, I don’t want to just give into it and appease my anxious brain. Didn’t even think of getting non-alcoholic drinks, just to not feel so odd in a group of people drinking. Thanks for the idea!
I really appreciate you opening up about drinking! This is something I’ve also been struggling with. I wouldn’t say I’m an alcoholic but like you, I definitely have an addictive personality and have an issue sticking to not drinking. Currently I’m on medication (for anxiety) that I’m not able to drink on but I find myself still trying to drink, saying oh I’ll just have one... which leads or a second or third and because of the medication this often leads to me being sick. It’s definitely a challenge but I’m working on it. Hope you manage to stick to it, I’m cheering you on from afar!! 💪💪💪