@@remley8877 You were researching women and relationships at 15? Also, why preface the comment with, "I am a certified genius" I mean, you might very well be, and more power to you, but it makes you sound like an elitist snob. As for the rest of your comment, I can say that I agree, women do certainly want the things you mentioned.
I read all those pick up books etc... and as you start having success, you stop mechanically doing all the "rules" and you keep being successful. Over time I realized, that I wasn't doing any of the principles anymore and so I just started being myself (But not being yourself trying to be nice or convenient...) and, as a result, I realised that I had become even more attractive to women. By being 100% genuine, particularly in my intentions without sugar-coating my interest for someone, the more success I started having. That also improved my friendships as well and how my friends see me and respect me.
There are many ways to be attractive to women, but there are much more ways to be unattractive. For example, having an untreatable skin disease pretty much cancels any "personality", because we are not attracted to "brains on legs", we are attracted or not attracted to the whole package. I think you should make a video about tactics for ugly guys who cannot improve in the looks area for one reason or another.
The answer is very surprising for most men indeed - it's looks. Edward from Twilight and James Bond are very different in their personalities, therefore personality cannot in itself determine if you're attractive or not. However, both of them are of course good looking
Have you ever been to a shopping mall? Next time you go - Just count how many pretty bland looking men are there with girlfriends/wives/families - you'll see them in huge abundance. And we're definitely not talking about wealthy men either.
Sounds like quite a dangerous mindset to have. No offense buddy, but unless you were born in a 3rd world country with no way of creating a life for yourself overall you're probably not a victim in life. The glass is just half empty, rather than full. If you are not the best looking guy, focus on your style. Not very comfortable talking to women? Make sure each time you go to a shop etc you find an opportunity to talk to someone who works there, casually. It builds confidence. It worked for me! In other words, stop being a victim (believe me it's never good I was there) and find the half full aspects of yourself and work on what is in your control. Because by your logic good looking girls exclusively go for good looking guys. And the amount of ugly guys who are punching big time is unreal my friend.
I feel you Damien, I'm 31 now. I've had some good runs with women, and sometimes I still do. Whenever I've thought about what I did different, when everything was working for me (including attracting women), I end up with the same generic answer: be yourself. It's annoying but there's truth to it, and I believe now I know parts of the truth, one being as +Radar O'Reilly stated, to do whatever makes you happy, but in addition to that, be honest with yourself and others, believe in yourself, and don't fear what others think of you, what matters is that you are happy with yourself and what you do. That said, I still need your advice, cause I haven't been building my value lately, so I'm back at it again, and it's working wonders already. In relation to this whole mindset, perhaps it would interest you or other of your subscribers to look into the law of attraction (not physical attraction, just attracting what we want).
Well said Mikkel! It's always a journey of ups and downs though... the 'be yourself' mantra is true- but it often doesn't mean what so many men think it means... It should be more like... Be the YOU that you'd be if you had no insecurities, because that's the TRUEST version of you.
Do you think that the type of women who typically go on tinder aren’t the type of women who are into lean muscular guys to begin with? Cuz like i feel like guys with a skinny build do better in general on tinder but idk.
No, a well built guy will do better on Tinder (I've been both very muscular and skinny as I am now) - But many well built guys have profiles that make them look like douchebags, so they can struggle.
I must say I really enjoy and appreciate your videos. I'd be very curious to know how you got back on your feet after that health issue in your early 30s. I feel I had similar problems during my life and have similar symptoms like the ones you described.
I had to try a lot of things before I found a combination that helped - Exercise, meditation, massive change of my foood (and I had already been on a pretty healthy diet), massive amount of magnesium helped a lot. I would have seen about 20 different kinds of specialists to work out some kind of a solution - and I still havn't quite got it right yet.
My point wasn't that you have to be any of the stereotypes I specifically mentioned, but that there were a lot of different kinds of men who could be attractive to women - but primarily , if you don't really believe you have a lot to offer, you're always going to struggle, so that needs to be worked on first.
@@SchoolOfAttraction I'm not so sure it comes off that way if anything it feels as if we are getting contradictory information. If someone is struggling with women they have first hand the experience that what or "who" they are is insufficient in some way but here you say you can be many types of whos and still succeed which Imo is just irrelevent towards helping someone.
The answers explain the areas you most need to focus on - none of them say you'll be crap with women - every personality train comes with its own risk areas.
Damien, I really liked your early videos, but the quality of the newer ones have gone downhill. I rather see fewer, but high-quality videos, then a bunch of mediocre ones. I can't help but notice that all the stories and advice in this video have been rehashed multiple times in the last few months alone.
Sorry to hear you feel that way mate - I've had a lot of guys tell me the exact opposite about my newer vids - It's hard to please everyone, but I'll work hard to keep getting more variety in there!
@@SchoolOfAttraction Actually I subscribed to you because I found some oldish videos of yours that I thought were exceptional, because they talked about things that no other "dating coach" was talking about, and also because I felt like every video was changing how I viewed relationships and women in general, like the video "how to approach girls - without being creepy" I was really asking myself this question, I wanted to comprehend why some men are so smooth with women, while others seemed very creepy, and you resolved my question in a very beautiful ad simple way. with the example of a person playing with a child versus a pedophile playing with a child, the answer is the intetions behind your actions is what maters, if you are genuine or not. And, well, the video "how women rate attractiveness differently" was also incredible, because I learned something very different that made me change the way I see the world, those are just some of the videos that makes me feel like this is a really great value youtube channel, and you keep pumping good videos from time to time, others, are just ok, I understand that there is only so much content you can possibly make, after covering all the topics, there wont be anything ese to talk about, and many "dating coaches" just start pumping out videos without essence, videos that are no longer life changing but just ok, or videos that make you feel like you just wasted 15 min of your life like RSD because they just show you how they do it, they don´t necessarily reveal anything new to you. Anyway about this video, I think that people new in the dating world might find value in it, but I am advanced enough that I already know this. keep up the great work tho, I´ll be expecting more life changing videos of yours in the future. see you
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@@remley8877 You were researching women and relationships at 15? Also, why preface the comment with, "I am a certified genius" I mean, you might very well be, and more power to you, but it makes you sound like an elitist snob. As for the rest of your comment, I can say that I agree, women do certainly want the things you mentioned.
I read all those pick up books etc... and as you start having success, you stop mechanically doing all the "rules" and you keep being successful. Over time I realized, that I wasn't doing any of the principles anymore and so I just started being myself (But not being yourself trying to be nice or convenient...) and, as a result, I realised that I had become even more attractive to women. By being 100% genuine, particularly in my intentions without sugar-coating my interest for someone, the more success I started having. That also improved my friendships as well and how my friends see me and respect me.
There are many ways to be attractive to women, but there are much more ways to be unattractive.
For example, having an untreatable skin disease pretty much cancels any "personality", because we are not attracted to "brains on legs", we are attracted or not attracted to the whole package.
I think you should make a video about tactics for ugly guys who cannot improve in the looks area for one reason or another.
This is not a bad idea for a video mate - thanks for the idea.
@Bob Smith I've got to try that!
Most likely the most genuine and honest dating coach out there.
Cheers :)
The answer is very surprising for most men indeed - it's looks.
Edward from Twilight and James Bond are very different in their personalities, therefore personality cannot in itself determine if you're attractive or not. However, both of them are of course good looking
Have you ever been to a shopping mall? Next time you go - Just count how many pretty bland looking men are there with girlfriends/wives/families - you'll see them in huge abundance. And we're definitely not talking about wealthy men either.
Sounds like quite a dangerous mindset to have. No offense buddy, but unless you were born in a 3rd world country with no way of creating a life for yourself overall you're probably not a victim in life.
The glass is just half empty, rather than full. If you are not the best looking guy, focus on your style. Not very comfortable talking to women? Make sure each time you go to a shop etc you find an opportunity to talk to someone who works there, casually. It builds confidence. It worked for me!
In other words, stop being a victim (believe me it's never good I was there) and find the half full aspects of yourself and work on what is in your control. Because by your logic good looking girls exclusively go for good looking guys. And the amount of ugly guys who are punching big time is unreal my friend.
Good positive words.... thanks
Thanks for the coment Joe :)
I feel you Damien, I'm 31 now. I've had some good runs with women, and sometimes I still do. Whenever I've thought about what I did different, when everything was working for me (including attracting women), I end up with the same generic answer: be yourself. It's annoying but there's truth to it, and I believe now I know parts of the truth, one being as +Radar O'Reilly stated, to do whatever makes you happy, but in addition to that, be honest with yourself and others, believe in yourself, and don't fear what others think of you, what matters is that you are happy with yourself and what you do.
That said, I still need your advice, cause I haven't been building my value lately, so I'm back at it again, and it's working wonders already. In relation to this whole mindset, perhaps it would interest you or other of your subscribers to look into the law of attraction (not physical attraction, just attracting what we want).
Well said Mikkel! It's always a journey of ups and downs though... the 'be yourself' mantra is true- but it often doesn't mean what so many men think it means... It should be more like... Be the YOU that you'd be if you had no insecurities, because that's the TRUEST version of you.
Do you think that the type of women who typically go on tinder aren’t the type of women who are into lean muscular guys to begin with? Cuz like i feel like guys with a skinny build do better in general on tinder but idk.
No, a well built guy will do better on Tinder (I've been both very muscular and skinny as I am now) - But many well built guys have profiles that make them look like douchebags, so they can struggle.
Thanks for sharing your story, great stuff bro
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I must say I really enjoy and appreciate your videos. I'd be very curious to know how you got back on your feet after that health issue in your early 30s. I feel I had similar problems during my life and have similar symptoms like the ones you described.
I had to try a lot of things before I found a combination that helped - Exercise, meditation, massive change of my foood (and I had already been on a pretty healthy diet), massive amount of magnesium helped a lot. I would have seen about 20 different kinds of specialists to work out some kind of a solution - and I still havn't quite got it right yet.
I hope your health is better now
Thanks bud, it's still on the mend - a long journey to fix it up
Tfw he describes like three different types of himself and still can't relate to any of them
My point wasn't that you have to be any of the stereotypes I specifically mentioned, but that there were a lot of different kinds of men who could be attractive to women - but primarily , if you don't really believe you have a lot to offer, you're always going to struggle, so that needs to be worked on first.
@@SchoolOfAttraction I'm not so sure it comes off that way if anything it feels as if we are getting contradictory information. If someone is struggling with women they have first hand the experience that what or "who" they are is insufficient in some way but here you say you can be many types of whos and still succeed which Imo is just irrelevent towards helping someone.
I did your personality test and every trait I have it says I’ll have trouble attracting women. fml
The answers explain the areas you most need to focus on - none of them say you'll be crap with women - every personality train comes with its own risk areas.
Damien, I really liked your early videos, but the quality of the newer ones have gone downhill. I rather see fewer, but high-quality videos, then a bunch of mediocre ones. I can't help but notice that all the stories and advice in this video have been rehashed multiple times in the last few months alone.
Sorry to hear you feel that way mate - I've had a lot of guys tell me the exact opposite about my newer vids - It's hard to please everyone, but I'll work hard to keep getting more variety in there!
@@SchoolOfAttraction Actually I subscribed to you because I found some oldish videos of yours that I thought were exceptional, because they talked about things that no other "dating coach" was talking about, and also because I felt like every video was changing how I viewed relationships and women in general, like the video "how to approach girls - without being creepy" I was really asking myself this question, I wanted to comprehend why some men are so smooth with women, while others seemed very creepy, and you resolved my question in a very beautiful ad simple way. with the example of a person playing with a child versus a pedophile playing with a child, the answer is the intetions behind your actions is what maters, if you are genuine or not. And, well, the video "how women rate attractiveness differently" was also incredible, because I learned something very different that made me change the way I see the world, those are just some of the videos that makes me feel like this is a really great value youtube channel, and you keep pumping good videos from time to time, others, are just ok, I understand that there is only so much content you can possibly make, after covering all the topics, there wont be anything ese to talk about, and many "dating coaches" just start pumping out videos without essence, videos that are no longer life changing but just ok, or videos that make you feel like you just wasted 15 min of your life like RSD because they just show you how they do it, they don´t necessarily reveal anything new to you.
Anyway about this video, I think that people new in the dating world might find value in it, but I am advanced enough that I already know this. keep up the great work tho, I´ll be expecting more life changing videos of yours in the future.
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