How My Football Coach Groomed Me
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- Опубликовано: 22 фев 2023
- Olivia Hops will share her obsession story with us on Unfiltered Stories. Olivia grew up as an autistic child who was highly interested in football, so she joined her school's football team. What she didn't realize was that her football coach was grooming her and that she would become completely obsessed with him.
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I remember when I was 9 years old meeting this 18 year old on summer vacation. We were really attracted to each other (I know, crazy), but I had very strong emotions for him that I thought were love. Thankfully, my parents were very wise and picked up on it before things went too far. I wanted to be with him, and I never forgot how strong my feelings were at just 9 years old. When I raised my own kids I was super cautious who they got close to, even at a young age.
I hate how normal this is! and no offense but it's always women falling for older guys 🤦♂️
I had a similar experience myself. I don’t know exactly how old he was, could be 15 or 18. And he was not to blame of anything at all. I simply fell in love with him. Nothing much happened, I simply loved sitting near him.
@@lilztheking1751what. 1. A child isn’t woman 2. No it isn’t
@@Ashhhhh220 well females 🙄 and yes they do
@@lilztheking1751women don’t just fall for older guys. The men are the ones that pursue it
There is nothing to be ashamed of on your end; he took advantage of you when you were a child. I'm glad you are able to give yourself a break because his behavior was calculated and creepy and you were a trusting kid. ❤️
I remember being 13 years old and crushing on my school fitness coach (in his early 20's), I would have been so vulnerable to those feelings being returned.
Me too. It took me years to realize how inappropriate it would have been had any of my teacher crushes ever returned my feelings.
She loved it just she stoked him just as much she was into it ,,,
@@lostinspace699weirdo
This the best page on RUclips they get straight to the story no introduction or intro music
I believe a lot of us lived similar history than yours. I had similar situation and I was older. I wish you all the very best.
Thank you for the courage to tell us your history.
Your strength and bravery will help someone else that may be going through this.
Wow. I learned I was groomed and I I felt horrible and ashamed. So thank you.
Oh geez... is this the new "thing"?
@@_whatnext_9319what you expect to see on this channel? 🙄
@@_whatnext_9319are you having a hard time realizing your aggressive “seductive” ways are actually disgusting “grooming” and sexual assault? Don’t ever pursue someone who doesn’t like you. Get it? Leave them alone. Don’t try to convince them that they like you. Leave them the hell alone.
@@_whatnext_9319fucking gross groomer
It’s so important for you to be sharing these stories because I think most of live it burden of experiences that are confusing and difficult but because it’s not that tangible we don’t talk about it. It doesn’t get resolved.
Sorry this happened to you. So many kids are tricked by adults, not their fault. Parents can’t know everything that their kids are getting into. Parents and kids need to out these creeps so they don’t move on to the next kid.
I was groomed at 14 by my crush who was 24 at the time and my fam knew and did nothing, they liked him and as long as he looked after me they didn't care much even tho he expected me to act like an adult and attend nightclubs while trying to to be sophisticated way beyond my age, that alone was hard on a 14 year old to handle. We lasted only 2 years and I kinda outgrew him and what he expected from me and I started dating boys my own age... I didn't know what grooming was either, not back in the 80's anyways, it was kinda acceptable behind closed doors unlike today's standards!!
Thank you for being so so honest
Wow, well done you for being able to break the toxic cycle and move on! Your comments on Autism have me wanting to do some research for myself. Could explain some things. Thanks for sharing your story ❤
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Hi Olivia, how are you? I just want to say thank you for sharing your story and I know that was not easy to do. You are very brave to tell this story and I am happy for you that you moved on and you don't talk to that coach anymore. I have autism myself and thank God that never happened to me. I was diagnosed with autism when I was three years old. I didn't play sports when I was in high school, it wasn't my thing. I was exactly an athlete in high school. Olivia, thank you for sharing and have a nice day!
Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
His job was to be professional with you he did wrong to you be proud of who you are and dont let it happen to your kids
Lovely story and good on you in moving on with your life. I hope this guy is no longer a coach at this school.
You are obviously a very bright, well spoken and beautiful young lady. I wish you much success and have no doubt you will succeed in life .
16:16 I really needed to hear that. Thank you.
Why didn’t your mom do something when you told her ? How did you get to talk for years after you told her that is shocking
She probably didn’t want to put her kid threw legal proceedings
Because there’s a stigma of being judged.
Why wasn't he charged from the texts he sent her
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That couch deserves jail..
Hopefully your doing well..😁💜
I'm subscribed to Olivia's channel & got confused seeing her in another channels video!!
This is a massive failure on your parents part. I hope they have finally owned up to it and realize how wrong and neglectful it is to not know/care that your teenage daughter is developing a relationship with a grown man. Your parents and your coach failed you. I'm glad you are well adjusted successful adult.
Don’t blame parents for predators. Don’t blame ANYONE but the predator. If it happens to you or someone you know, you might then understand how sophisticated their plan and assault is.
@@jadegreen1554nah don’t excuse incompetence
Although this more about grooming which can happen anywhere it’s another reason a girl on all boy’s team is a bad idea, you don’t have any females to talk to who might also be getting groomed and you feel super helpless and isolated
I will take it one step further and say that from all my visits to Muslim countries, I must say that I agree with their methods of schooling. Keep the girls together and separate from the boys. End of story...
@@joannajourneysthat won’t make u safer since girls do it to girls
U know any of the boys could’ve been groomed as well right
She wanted to play football...so let's play
thank u for sharing... i related to the story.
Thanks for sharing,god bless.
I pray you make an actual committed relationship and build your own family like you actually wished all along, someone within about 10 years of your age
Thank you
Here to spread awareness
Nice to hear one of these not end in sex or trafficking or someone getting away with molestation. Still an awful guy obviously. Also props to autism for the quick recovery after a day of crying
God 100% answered your prayer. Thank you Jesus ❤
Would love to see the photos.
I’m confused I figured when she told her mom then her mom would’ve taken it to the school and got him fired or put in jail
I can't stand abusive people.
Wow...these 304s are CRAZY.
She’s not a 304??? R u okay?
Incel
I cannot believe that parents would be so unaware and uncaring so as to not even know this was going on.
Well see, that's the problem with kids being individual people with the ability decisions. It's literally not possible to know everything about them, especially if they're actively hiding it. That's a big part of why ultra conservative people treat their children more like property.
Don’t call them uncaring. I’m sure they didn’t know.
That’s what manipulators do best hide stuff
They let her get tossed up and didn't press charges@@alexanderh3924
Parents like you are the ones who are the most clueless about what their children do, because you have enormous expectations and punishments for a child for even making a slip. They will never go to a parent like that if they ever fall into a predators secrecy trap. Get educated. Predators make children keep a secret.
So sorry this happens to you! But why didn’t your parents see anything strange with his behavior, no one is carrying my child from one place to another just because he is “nice”.
The driving home thing they couldn’t thought just the usual nice coach helping out a teammate since teams do become family
He carried her to a bed too
Hairdressers and Beauticians do the same thing.
So nothing happened sexually between them? Sounds like she was grooming a fantasy in her head that never happened.
Groomers will defend groomers
Wish I could see those photos. Lucky guy.
I bet he's done this to other girls
Stay away from these type
Football, . .oh .. .hahahahaha . . sounds like she was stalking him and he was too nice to tell her to piss off. .
Guy never boned her. Only thing criminal was her sending dirty pics.
you are so beatifull
He had strong feelings for you but hewas the adult and he should had never had that type offrinedship with you. This is so common in Latin American countries, its disgusting how these older men have relations well rape minors as young as they can be. Someone needs to do something.
I’m not sure who groomed who. The guy clearly made mistakes but he might have fallen in love with her and let it get the best of him. I mean to be fair he didn’t have sex with her or even try to get her to have sex. He never sent her sexual pics and never asked her to send any to him, by her own admission. Bad situation all around but it could have been much worse.
That's kinda what i was thinking. The long gaps show he was probably wanting to be done and was basically addicted to her too. But he never tried to get her to do anything sexual when she was a minor which shows crazy restraint... Especially after she started sending him then unsolicited. That said completely inappropriate. 10000% percent. No coach needs to be texting kids one on one like that. He clearly crossed the line, I'm just not sure he started it with those intentions. I would never let my daughter have 1:1 texts with grown men though.
Totally agree...this particular story kinda minimizes what actual sa victims go through. She is not a victim of grooming, the coach never crossed the line.
Something that stuck out to me is that he prompted her to admit she had a crush on him and that’s when it really intensified for her. She also responded with but we can never be together you have a special relationship or something, he responded something along the lines of I don’t think I found the one yet. Furthermore as a grown man he should know better than to play with the emotions of a 14 year old. He kept those texts going knowing how she felt and said things like I’m so miserable without you or whatever.
I don’t think it could have been a 14 year old autistic girl’s idea to send him those photos. Just bc he didn’t start anything intimate doesn’t mean he isn’t guilty. He never told her to stop sending them.
It seems like he also knew the impact he had on this her psyche & he didn’t want to lead her into depression. Early on he seemed like he was trying to be a protective and loving dad type. He had multiple off roads, but the further things got the more he could hurt her - which it seems he didn’t want. It does seem like she became a bit of a drug for him at some point too. Him trying to call things off but coming back could be because he saw/was told how that hurt her or because he felt he was missing that strong drug of constant attention. Bad situation, good it didn’t escalate further.
She should come with a warning label ...... IF YOU , marry this a wreck ... And you can be assured that you will have a sexless marriage . No touching allowed . And she will ALWAYS BE THE VICTIM in every aspect of your marriage ..
Imagine receiving unsolicited nudes from an autistic person, by not reciprocating it implys I'm not interested... at the same time I may not tell you to stop because I'm not going to be the one to tear down the confidence of someone with autism.
Also, I dont think he kept leaving and coming back. I think she was texting him regularly, and he would ignore it for months then every now and then reply so he's not a complete asshole. So the times he replied, she considered that to be him coming back to her.
Way to turn it around and victim blame. Regardless of what she did, he was still an adult and had a role educating children. If what you said was true, he definitely should have taken a proactive roll in correcting her behavior but it stroked his ego. He also encouraged it by claiming he had feelings for her. Bottom line, he handled the situation with gross misconduct either way.
It is something that happens. My mother and her roommate would invite my middleschool classmates over to their house on Friday and Saturday nights, supplying us all with alcohol, it often would get inappropriate as these 2 older women were drunk with 12 and 13 year olds. I actually got injured one time and my mothers room mate gave me percocets and put me into her bed so I would be safe when people came over to party that night. IShe hopped in bed with me that night after the party, it had been building for a while, but that night she had finally taken advantage of all of the lack of people who cared whether or not I was having sex with her. I am sorry you had no one to protect you and make sure you were safe that you could turn to and rely on.
Maybe you were alittle in love with this dude.
Yeah? So what he still groomed her
you scare me
Change your number .
Sounds made up
This doesn't sound like anything you portrayed it to be.
All you did for over 18 minutes is qualify and project this scholastic relationship you had with a coach, that never materialized into anything illegal in any way. You've supplied no proof to these allegations and any rational thinker should be highly suspicious of all of these claims.
If anything... this sounds like a long-winded crush from a young girl for an older man, who didn't reciprocate those feelings, then a third-party told you what they thought your relationship was to him and without hesitation, you quickly accepted that theory hook, line & sinker. 🙄
Jesus Christ is disgusting what you people come up with
Bs story
Did she take a breath at all while talking 🤔
The video has jump cut edits maam
@@richbaboon9345 oh I didn't know ty 👍
And the thing that really sucks is that the shit the right & republican party is pulling right now regarding drag shows, school library books, & whatever else they can come up with is doing real damage to addressing actual grooming & people in situations like this woman's.
Not at all and not what the psychiatrists are saying. Children are being groomed into trans and schools are using pornography to help do this. Everything is learned and most lbgtq parents make their kids gender fluid through grooming. You are a flat out groomer and like to show pornography to children in school. The books actually have an underage child enjoying being groomed by an adult next door in the story.
I have never seen someone go onto a horror story of grooming and try to promote grooming children at the same time.
Do you know what percentage of lgtbq families have lgtbq children? It is a learned activity that brings depression, mental health, and lifeling problems.
It's the democrats that are grooming children to be pruned! The conservatives are totally against it!
you want kids to see half naked men pretending to be female strippers?
@joshuapowers4623=FAKE BOT COMMENT
Sounds more like a suduction
Disgusting
Sounds more like a love story to me.
Of course what he did was very inappropriate on the other hand in another time error not so long ago you two would’ve just gotten married and had a family. People got married even at 14 years old or 15 years old
And nobody thought anything about it. And usually these marriages lasted for a lifetime. I’m not so sure he 16:22 was Grooming you as much as he was wrestling with his own conscience, it sounds like he could’ve taken a lot farther and didn’t.
It wasn't him, it was you that lured him.
What is wrong with you people
Groomers defending groomers
Women always playing the victim when it's convenient 😂😂😂.
@@Rotting12 Women always playing the victim when convenient 😒
So, no accountablity on your side? All the blame is on the coach? Mmmmm, too easy, he actually did'nt do anything and on the contrary you did a lot of things he never asked for. Beside, you said many many times this situation made you feel so good for years. Its a little bit like the me too from hollywood actress, first they got the job, then they filed a lawsuit. Not fair.
I mean the coach did do stuff u shouldn’t do with some random kid like yea no physical stuff happened but that doesn’t mean grooming wasn’t there
Groomers will defend groomers
@@Rotting12 unaccountable people will defend fake victims
So if you flirt with a girl and she gets the wrong idea, females are now going to see it as a crime. He was a chad and kept you in the friend zone till you where legal. Sounds like you have little accountability for your actions.
You weird asf
He didn’t keep anything in the friend zone their relationship was inappropriate as the adult he shouldn’t have talked to her like that
She persuad a relationship with her coach. Story over
It doesn’t matter who pursued who she was 14-15years old for Gods sake.
@@ARTWV he is a man. If she throwing it at him he's probably gonna catch it!😂 But if it was a 14yr old boy that killed someone you'd be screaming he knew exactly what he was doing and should get the death penalty.....
@@Anthony-dj4nd it doesn’t matter if she was throwing it at him. She was 14, you actually think that’s cool to be with a 14yr old girl if she is the aggressor? Come on man that’s sick.
@@ARTWV Welp. They didn't😂 Literally happens everyday
@@Anthony-dj4ndyou've got to be a creeper🤮
Another today's victim? Honestly, nobody care about this kind of ranting.
I find that person horrible. She does not hesitate and try to destroy someone that did not hurt her by using the latest society fads and obsession about sex for some strange reasons. Truly an horrible little person. No wonder everybody starts being very careful nowadays. They could meet this kind of nasty character eventually.
she was into. it nothing burger
Nasty fing incel
To assume that he would’ve pursued you sexually if you went to Disney is very presumptuous. Aside from having inappropriate communication with a underage girl, I can’t really pinpoint the grooming that took place. Perhaps you were smitten and he should’ve had enough sense to cut off whatever forms of communication that went beyond coach/ player. I don’t mean to interrogate you on your experience but something about your story doesn’t quite sit well ..
You hit your puberty and ran with it. Now you’re a victim. You came on to him, now you’re the victim. The coach is equally at fault, but for a different reason.
He was being paid to do a job 😠 major abuse of power there.
@@yellowhibiscus-ll2gx
Never violated her trust. Kept her safe by taking her places. My band teacher had to do these things for me and others. Lol.
Again, what did he do?
@@lowellbentleyaccepted her nudes isolated her tries to get her trust as the adult he knows all of that is wrong but still kept in contact
Groomer defending groomeres
It sounds like you groomed yourself here miss. You dangled yourself in front of the guy and put the temptation there, but he never followed through so how is that grooming? You're the girl who betrays when you don't get what you want. Thats what happened there. The guy let it go on too far but he didn't groom you.
Shut up
It sounds like she was grooming him.... i hate hearing about chicks that develop crushes and lead on the guys..... and then blame the guys. He didnt try anything sexual with her. She fkin started the interaction and the sexting!
Sure, he could have shut her down. But dont call it grooming because he was playing along. You did it. You had fun doing it. Stop making him into a criminal.
Yep a 40 year old male teacher, college grad, was overpowered by an autistic teen. Nothing he could do. 😅😂
@@duhmoan what? ...
A 15 year old autistic girl had full & total control over a 40 year old adult male. You nailed it genius.💪🏻
Groomers defending each other