Indeed! There are tonnes of older aces! I wish they had the chance to interview someone in their 40s, 50s, or older. It would have given more credibility to the article to some of those commenters, I think
Older-ace solidarity! I only discovered the term asexuality when I was in my early-to-mid 30s, and it put a lot of my experiences from when I was younger in perspective. I'm now 38.
Has person 3 considered that the reason many of us have "limited social contact" is because if we socialise with non-aces we find ourselves flirted with or forced into sexualized conversations and that's not a fun time for us?
Yes! Agreed! I am an extrovert and because of this it has put me in a lot of really uncomfortable, scary, and dangerous sitations for me as an asexual.
I was openly ace before I knew it was more than a “just me” thing. So much ridicule, invalidation, such. At least, now I know it’s not just me, and I have a whole community. It’s hard to navigate the allos still. The pride community seems to be slowly coming around tho. Also, we are more likely to be forced into unwanted sexual conversations and contact. I am more unsafe as an ace, than disguised as allo.
THIS. Conversations, especially among men, often seem to drift toward sex and people they've been with and people they want to get with and blah blah blah. I hate those. I often find myself having to pretend I'm understanding just to get through it.
Why go public? Because there's probably a lot of asexuals out there who don't know that they're asexual because they've never heard the term before. These people are probably confused about their sexuality or worried there's something wrong with them because society keeps telling them that they should feel sexual attraction when they just don't. These people's lives could be significantly improved by exposure to information about asexuality. This is why it's important to spread awareness.
I never knew asexuality was a thing in high school... now, I wasn't bogged down by feelings of brokenness or whatever; I actually thought everyone else was faking their interest to seem like a cool adult or whatever, and once they finally reached their 20s, they'd chill the fuck out and go back to not caring like me. XD Still, it would have been cool to be able to say I was ace while I was still in high school; to have a term for it back then. All I knew was "gay, straight or bi" so I'd have to settle for "or" "none of the above" or "opposite of bi" XD
Watching RUclips videos about asexuality helped me tremendously with determining my sexuality. I'm very grateful that people did decide to share their experiences because I'd probably still be really confused if they hadn't.
if lgbt community didn't exist, I probably would have lived on not aware of my lack of sexual attraction. However, it would also mean that I would feel way too confused about my lack of attraction to sex and get super broken. Tbh I am glad that I learned about asexuality before I feel all that cuz I would not have know wut to do.
It's sad and interesting that a bunch of the commenters assume only young people identify this way. I'm over 50; we've always been here, there just wasn't a word for it before.
To all the people getting pissy at the fact that people dare to actually be vocal about there sexuality. I tell people I'm aro ace because I DONT WANT PEOPLE TO ASK ME OUT OR TRY TO GET SEX OUT OF ME.
Not related to the video, but I came out as ace to my family and some close friends today. Your videos are not only fun to watch and very informative. Thank you!
I never get the “its unnatural” argument... it just doesn’t make sense, since by definition anything we do as humans is not natural, that is LITERALLY how we define what is natural and not. And how is doing things in a more primitive way beneficial AT ALL?? We can all agree that modern advancements of humans benefit us greatly and we’d all be much less happy overall if we did things “naturally”. Its just a stupid argument.
Actually, asexuality IS natural - it's been observed in I believe it was rams, some didn't want to have sex at all. At the same time, when you compare to lions, it's unnatural for a stepfather to actually let the children his partner had with her previous partner live - the natural thing to do would be to kill them, so that he could pass on HIS genes. But we don't do shit like that... IDK folks-who-argue-about-whats-natural-or-not, seems pretty unnatural to me; guess we should start implementing some new laws.
These comments gave me a headache. And the funny thing is so many of them remind me of what was once socially acceptable to say about gay or trans folks.
Thank you for being out as asexual. I have spent 35 years feeling broken and alone because of a lack of representation. It is so ironic that I have hidden this peculiarity for so long only now to be called out for being a special snowflake wanting attention! (I never bring it up in real life.)
TBH, I'd like to see some large-scale data survey research on society perspectives on asexuality. I'd like the Pew Research Center to do a series of reports on public conceptions about asexuality and asexuals, for example. Unfortunately, I don't think they've gotten to the point of acknowledging asexual existence though :-(
It was nice to hear the positive comments too, good to know that some people are willing to understand, explain and argue against these dumb comments. I always find the 'I don't understand why it's any ones business' argument the weirdest- it shows how little people understand our experiences! I wonder if such people are the same with Pride too, Ive heard some people say in the past 'yeah Pride is fine n all, but why do the gays have to be so out in the open about it?' I think they tend to fall into the same mindset/lack of understanding
I had someone who didn't know I was gay say to my face that "They don't mind gay people unless they're in-your-face about it". I did not come out to that person 😳
@@SliceOfAce Its so weird right?? My girlfriend had to sit through a similar conversation between two friends, just remained silent the entire time (which I guess is...what they wanted haha!)
Honestly those comments are so ignorant. All lot of straight people (I'm heteroromantic btw) think that people who are gay should stop throwing it onto everyone's faces but they don't realise that every day the world throws heteronormitivity and hetero-relationships into everyone else's faces.
I really felt you were speaking directly to me when you talked about People having never heard of Asexuality before and get ting into relationships Where they had sex and didn't want it because that's What was expected. I heard about the term for the first time about a month ago... I'm 30 years old now and have felt broken My entire life. I love that I finally found out about this, and that I No longer feel alone. So thank you.
Having watched GoT; yes, Varys did say that he was like that before he became a eunuch. And they even further illustrate the difference when they portrayed another eunuch who ended up still desiring a sexual relationship with another character.
"Just don't tell people about it then." I mean that's the same as telling a gay person that they should pretend to be straight rather than being open about who they are. After a certain age people will start asking you if you are dating, who you find hot, why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, are you are gay, shipping you with people, etc. If I were gay and someone asked me if I had a boyfriend or started shipping me with a guy I would just tell them I was gay. But as an aroace person, when I get shipped or asked questions like this by people IRL (where I don't have the anonymity of the internet to protect me LOL,) I just pass myself off as a "normal" sexual person and say that I am just too busy to worry about dating right now, because I don't want to deal with having to explain what asexuality is and have rebuttals on hand for reactions like "is that really a real thing" or "how do you know if you haven't tried it" or "don't worry you'll meet the right person someday." And I know I'm not the only one. IDK, I think that's sort of telling and highlights why it's important to talk about it so people at least know it exists. Would be nice to one day be able to respond to shipping or questions about dating with "nah I'm ace" without receiving a blank stare and/or a million personal questions.
@@Whocares158 I think often we are forced into those things because we are telling people. But that’s why the community needs to be strong within itself. There is safety in numbers. It’s hard to be ace, and quite exhausting having to explain oneself and be judged and invalidated. We do need to talk about it though, for sure (that’s why we are here, eh?)
The weird thing relating to the onanists is the fact that according to the National Library of Medicine asexuals are more likely to be women or non-binary than men, which pretty much directly contradicting the insult.
The comment with Darwinism left me speechless. Usually I don’t care too much about these a phobic comments as the person mostly didn’t understand what it means to be asexual. This comment however was the first comment actually not just not understanding but telling us how we are broken and how the “nature punished us with asexuality so we would reproduce ourselves/that nature would clean itself from us broken people”. That is disgusting. I’m sorry for making errors, I hope this is understandable.
I don't go on tumbler or twitter so I don't know how we are talked about there, but even without that information I've never felt part of the LGBT+. I still have sex with my partner and I'm heteromantic so I end up not feeling part of the LGBT+ or the straights. The asexual groups seem to have their own bubble outside of ether and I feel very comfortable there. I think its because whether people are straight or gay or bi or any other part of the rainbow, they still feel sexual attraction. Heterosexual and homosexual people have more in common with each other than they do with me. It's a bit difficult to explain.
I respect your opinion, but as a biromantic ace, I do feel apart of the LGBT+ community because it's supposed to be a space for anyone who doesn't fit into heteronormativity, and being ace literally contradicts the sexual aspect of heterosexuality. I feel like ace people are often the most misrepresented and most discriminated against because our lack of sexual attraction separates us from those who do, so I do understand why you feel like we have our own bubble. However, gatekeeping us from the LGBT community doesn't help us either and makes us seem less human and more "alien". So I do consider us to be in the LGBT+ community because asexual is a minority in a heteronormative world.
Varys was asexual before he became a eunuch. Personally I don't see that as good representation though because of its link with medical "treatment" of sexuality and attributing the difference between ace/allo to hormones rather than the mind. It's sort of like how aliens aren't good representation of asexuals because it's linking us to being "inhuman" and "unloving".
@@firefly927 Varys and Oberyn scene O: "You didn't like boys before (castration)?" V: Shakes head O: "really girls? I never would have guessed" V: "I was never interested in girls either" O: "what then?" V: "nothing" O: "everybody is interested in something" V: "no, besides when I see what desire has done to this country, I'm very glad to have no part in it"
@@firefly927 many(not all) people do realize or have a vague idea of their orientation before puberty, presumably romantic or aesthetic and obviously not sexual yet. I'm aro ace so I wouldn't know, but I remember kids saying they had crushes on each other well before puberty. One time a male friend ran up to me and kissed me because he was dared to kiss his crush (I stomped on his foot and ended up breaking his toe) Anyways what I'm getting at is that overall orientation can precede sexuality and puberty... I clearly had no clue what was going on and still don't. Meanwhile my friends have been having very clear crushes on specific genders basically their entire lives, which has now developed into sexual attraction ontop of whatever romantic or aesthetic stuff was already happening
People who bash demisexuality like that baffle me. No its not like there was a whole app designed around sleeping with people you don't know or anything not feeling attraction for months/ years is the average human experience.
I came out as ace to my family and my mom has been avoiding the topic ever since. Whenever my sexuality comes up, she manages to not include herself in the conversation or just discretely remove herself entirely. I can’t help but think she’s disappointed, although I had never considered that she would be because she supports all other aspects of the LGBTQ+ community. When I came out, my family had an hour-long conversation with all of the usual aphobic comments (“how do you know?”, you just haven’t met the right person yet.”, “maybe you’re sick or have a really low libido.”) Her reaction to my sexuality and the sexual people commenting on this article really highlight the lack of understanding and knowledge when it comes to asexuality. Part of me thinks they don’t believe it could possibly be a thing, cause they can’t comprehend how we can’t feel sexual attraction, just how asexuals don’t understand what it’s like to feel sexually attracted to anyone.
@@tracphonevirtualmagazine some asexuals have a high libido but are still not sexually attracted to people (or very limited). I have heard lots of aces say that they hate their libido because they have no idea what to do with it.
I wish I new what an ace was as a child or teen even my mother thought something was wrong with me. I'm demi but didn't know till I was 23 that was 3 years ago come June.
I understood my sexuality at 30. Thank you for doing this. I am kinda late to the party, but then, it is kinda recent for me and we need more awareness. My live would have been better if I knew that asexuality was an option an explanation for the way I have always been.
I haven't gotten any outright Acephobic comments but I do get comment like "Thats odd, I thought you were a lesbian, You just haven't met the right one yet, you're young and single wait a few years then you'll change your mind." Those might be Acephobic but those comments seem more like lack of knowledge.
The "sex/love is what makes us human" arguments are so incredibly silly. Nearly every animal has sex, so that one's clearly not true. Plenty of animals pair for life, and with a much lower divorce rate than humans, at that. You want to know what *actually* makes us human? Cooking. No other animal on earth goes out of its way to prepare their food like we do. Like, one of the defining features of a human is a relatively small digestive system compared to our size. We don't need four stomachs because we cut three of them out by cooking our food beforehand. We get those sweet, sweet nutrients in our bodies without nearly as much work! Which leaves more of our bodies for other important organs, like our big ol' brains . Which, ironically, is the organ responsible for the ridiculous idea that sex and/or love make us human. Besides, if there's one thing all aspec people like, it's cake, and you can't make cake without cooking.
You have beautiful teeth. I identify as asexual and I find people as beautiful in the way they look. I had a boyfriend before. I can be wrong myself. I believe that as myself identifying as an asexual, I am an individual with different experiences and wants.
Can I be ace not wanting sex and not having sexual attraction but still thinking about it? It’s really confusing to me because I don’t imagining my self in dreams but other people.
I also experience this as an asexual. It’s fairly common, as far as I can tell. 🙂 There is a more specific label underneath the Ace umbrella called Aegosexual or Anegosexual. It’s not as widely used, since Ace still works just fine, but it might be worth Googling to see if it describes you. ☺️
@@TheNitpickChick yeah, as far as I can tell the asexual/aromantic label is a group of different orientations that share the common trait of lack of some type of attraction to a real person, such as the bi/pan/Omni/etc group share an attraction to more than one gender.
The ability to read, write, cook and doing things like ie. driving a car or sewing makes us human. No other animal will probably ever be able to do these things properly.
I notice that a lot of these comments assume that asexuals are all very young. I'm 35.
Indeed! There are tonnes of older aces! I wish they had the chance to interview someone in their 40s, 50s, or older. It would have given more credibility to the article to some of those commenters, I think
You're still young! 😊
31! :D
Older-ace solidarity! I only discovered the term asexuality when I was in my early-to-mid 30s, and it put a lot of my experiences from when I was younger in perspective. I'm now 38.
I'm 50!
Glad there were people disagreeing with the aphopic comments.
Has person 3 considered that the reason many of us have "limited social contact" is because if we socialise with non-aces we find ourselves flirted with or forced into sexualized conversations and that's not a fun time for us?
THIS THIS THIS
Yes! Agreed! I am an extrovert and because of this it has put me in a lot of really uncomfortable, scary, and dangerous sitations for me as an asexual.
I was openly ace before I knew it was more than a “just me” thing. So much ridicule, invalidation, such. At least, now I know it’s not just me, and I have a whole community. It’s hard to navigate the allos still. The pride community seems to be slowly coming around tho.
Also, we are more likely to be forced into unwanted sexual conversations and contact. I am more unsafe as an ace, than disguised as allo.
THIS. Conversations, especially among men, often seem to drift toward sex and people they've been with and people they want to get with and blah blah blah. I hate those. I often find myself having to pretend I'm understanding just to get through it.
Spot-on !!!
Why go public? Because there's probably a lot of asexuals out there who don't know that they're asexual because they've never heard the term before. These people are probably confused about their sexuality or worried there's something wrong with them because society keeps telling them that they should feel sexual attraction when they just don't. These people's lives could be significantly improved by exposure to information about asexuality. This is why it's important to spread awareness.
_YES._
I never knew asexuality was a thing in high school... now, I wasn't bogged down by feelings of brokenness or whatever; I actually thought everyone else was faking their interest to seem like a cool adult or whatever, and once they finally reached their 20s, they'd chill the fuck out and go back to not caring like me. XD
Still, it would have been cool to be able to say I was ace while I was still in high school; to have a term for it back then. All I knew was "gay, straight or bi" so I'd have to settle for "or" "none of the above" or "opposite of bi" XD
Absolutely. The RUclips ace community helped me to come to terms with my sexuality. I am grateful to have found the community.
Watching RUclips videos about asexuality helped me tremendously with determining my sexuality. I'm very grateful that people did decide to share their experiences because I'd probably still be really confused if they hadn't.
Exactly, I went public because I don't want others to suffer through what I did as a teen and young adult
if lgbt community didn't exist, I probably would have lived on not aware of my lack of sexual attraction. However, it would also mean that I would feel way too confused about my lack of attraction to sex and get super broken. Tbh I am glad that I learned about asexuality before I feel all that cuz I would not have know wut to do.
Same, except for me I didn't even realize that I lacked any sort of attraction until I heard of asexuality.
@ANJEL LARRA BRIZ AGUTAYA I mean that would apply to all sexualities or they become people like monks who choose to abstain from sex
It's sad and interesting that a bunch of the commenters assume only young people identify this way. I'm over 50; we've always been here, there just wasn't a word for it before.
To all the people getting pissy at the fact that people dare to actually be vocal about there sexuality. I tell people I'm aro ace because I DONT WANT PEOPLE TO ASK ME OUT OR TRY TO GET SEX OUT OF ME.
Not related to the video, but I came out as ace to my family and some close friends today. Your videos are not only fun to watch and very informative. Thank you!
congrats, friend!!
Congrats! 🎉
Congratulations!
Awesome! Did it go well?
Slice of Ace It did! My brother made me a little ace necklace.
I never get the “its unnatural” argument... it just doesn’t make sense, since by definition anything we do as humans is not natural, that is LITERALLY how we define what is natural and not. And how is doing things in a more primitive way beneficial AT ALL?? We can all agree that modern advancements of humans benefit us greatly and we’d all be much less happy overall if we did things “naturally”. Its just a stupid argument.
Actually, asexuality IS natural - it's been observed in I believe it was rams, some didn't want to have sex at all.
At the same time, when you compare to lions, it's unnatural for a stepfather to actually let the children his partner had with her previous partner live - the natural thing to do would be to kill them, so that he could pass on HIS genes. But we don't do shit like that... IDK folks-who-argue-about-whats-natural-or-not, seems pretty unnatural to me; guess we should start implementing some new laws.
These comments gave me a headache. And the funny thing is so many of them remind me of what was once socially acceptable to say about gay or trans folks.
Yep, the parallels aren't hard to spot, yet "asexuals aren't oppressed like gay/trans people are" 🙄
Exactly! About 20 years ago my cousin came out as bi. And I remember a few of my uncles wondering why she had to “rub it in everyone’s face”.
Thank you for being out as asexual. I have spent 35 years feeling broken and alone because of a lack of representation.
It is so ironic that I have hidden this peculiarity for so long only now to be called out for being a special snowflake wanting attention! (I never bring it up in real life.)
TBH, I'd like to see some large-scale data survey research on society perspectives on asexuality. I'd like the Pew Research Center to do a series of reports on public conceptions about asexuality and asexuals, for example. Unfortunately, I don't think they've gotten to the point of acknowledging asexual existence though :-(
It was nice to hear the positive comments too, good to know that some people are willing to understand, explain and argue against these dumb comments. I always find the 'I don't understand why it's any ones business' argument the weirdest- it shows how little people understand our experiences! I wonder if such people are the same with Pride too, Ive heard some people say in the past 'yeah Pride is fine n all, but why do the gays have to be so out in the open about it?' I think they tend to fall into the same mindset/lack of understanding
I had someone who didn't know I was gay say to my face that "They don't mind gay people unless they're in-your-face about it". I did not come out to that person 😳
@@SliceOfAce Its so weird right?? My girlfriend had to sit through a similar conversation between two friends, just remained silent the entire time (which I guess is...what they wanted haha!)
Honestly those comments are so ignorant. All lot of straight people (I'm heteroromantic btw) think that people who are gay should stop throwing it onto everyone's faces but they don't realise that every day the world throws heteronormitivity and hetero-relationships into everyone else's faces.
@@majesticwyrm So true! It's almost like some blind spot or something for some people :/
I really felt you were speaking directly to me when you talked about People having never heard of Asexuality before and get ting into relationships Where they had sex and didn't want it because that's What was expected.
I heard about the term for the first time about a month ago... I'm 30 years old now and have felt broken My entire life. I love that I finally found out about this, and that I No longer feel alone.
So thank you.
Having watched GoT; yes, Varys did say that he was like that before he became a eunuch. And they even further illustrate the difference when they portrayed another eunuch who ended up still desiring a sexual relationship with another character.
If we are strangers the only thing that would give away on the surface that I am ace is. Well, my black ring
"Just don't tell people about it then." I mean that's the same as telling a gay person that they should pretend to be straight rather than being open about who they are. After a certain age people will start asking you if you are dating, who you find hot, why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, are you are gay, shipping you with people, etc. If I were gay and someone asked me if I had a boyfriend or started shipping me with a guy I would just tell them I was gay. But as an aroace person, when I get shipped or asked questions like this by people IRL (where I don't have the anonymity of the internet to protect me LOL,) I just pass myself off as a "normal" sexual person and say that I am just too busy to worry about dating right now, because I don't want to deal with having to explain what asexuality is and have rebuttals on hand for reactions like "is that really a real thing" or "how do you know if you haven't tried it" or "don't worry you'll meet the right person someday." And I know I'm not the only one. IDK, I think that's sort of telling and highlights why it's important to talk about it so people at least know it exists. Would be nice to one day be able to respond to shipping or questions about dating with "nah I'm ace" without receiving a blank stare and/or a million personal questions.
We actually have to tell people.
Because we Asexuals are forced into uncomfortable sexual flirting or anything like that without our consent.
@@Whocares158 I think often we are forced into those things because we are telling people. But that’s why the community needs to be strong within itself. There is safety in numbers. It’s hard to be ace, and quite exhausting having to explain oneself and be judged and invalidated. We do need to talk about it though, for sure (that’s why we are here, eh?)
The weird thing relating to the onanists is the fact that according to the National Library of Medicine asexuals are more likely to be women or non-binary than men, which pretty much directly contradicting the insult.
as an aroace woman this is so interesting to see
I got my ace ring and just found out about your channel ♤
ahhh congrats! i just ordered mine!
Lol I just made mine with some glue 🤣
The comment with Darwinism left me speechless. Usually I don’t care too much about these a phobic comments as the person mostly didn’t understand what it means to be asexual.
This comment however was the first comment actually not just not understanding but telling us how we are broken and how the “nature punished us with asexuality so we would reproduce ourselves/that nature would clean itself from us broken people”. That is disgusting.
I’m sorry for making errors, I hope this is understandable.
LOL
Am soo punished for being cute Asexual~💜
I don't go on tumbler or twitter so I don't know how we are talked about there, but even without that information I've never felt part of the LGBT+. I still have sex with my partner and I'm heteromantic so I end up not feeling part of the LGBT+ or the straights. The asexual groups seem to have their own bubble outside of ether and I feel very comfortable there. I think its because whether people are straight or gay or bi or any other part of the rainbow, they still feel sexual attraction. Heterosexual and homosexual people have more in common with each other than they do with me. It's a bit difficult to explain.
I feel the same.
I respect your opinion, but as a biromantic ace, I do feel apart of the LGBT+ community because it's supposed to be a space for anyone who doesn't fit into heteronormativity, and being ace literally contradicts the sexual aspect of heterosexuality. I feel like ace people are often the most misrepresented and most discriminated against because our lack of sexual attraction separates us from those who do, so I do understand why you feel like we have our own bubble. However, gatekeeping us from the LGBT community doesn't help us either and makes us seem less human and more "alien". So I do consider us to be in the LGBT+ community because asexual is a minority in a heteronormative world.
i feel the same way pal dont worry you arent alone
I hate Acephobia with a passion.
We Asexuals deserve better!
Varys was asexual before he became a eunuch. Personally I don't see that as good representation though because of its link with medical "treatment" of sexuality and attributing the difference between ace/allo to hormones rather than the mind.
It's sort of like how aliens aren't good representation of asexuals because it's linking us to being "inhuman" and "unloving".
Yeah, I can do without ace aliens, robots, and eunuchs 😅
He said he was "cut" as a "small boy". Most small children have not experienced sexual attraction yet.
@@firefly927 Varys and Oberyn scene
O: "You didn't like boys before (castration)?"
V: Shakes head
O: "really girls? I never would have guessed"
V: "I was never interested in girls either"
O: "what then?"
V: "nothing"
O: "everybody is interested in something"
V: "no, besides when I see what desire has done to this country, I'm very glad to have no part in it"
@@firefly927 many(not all) people do realize or have a vague idea of their orientation before puberty, presumably romantic or aesthetic and obviously not sexual yet.
I'm aro ace so I wouldn't know, but I remember kids saying they had crushes on each other well before puberty.
One time a male friend ran up to me and kissed me because he was dared to kiss his crush (I stomped on his foot and ended up breaking his toe)
Anyways what I'm getting at is that overall orientation can precede sexuality and puberty... I clearly had no clue what was going on and still don't.
Meanwhile my friends have been having very clear crushes on specific genders basically their entire lives, which has now developed into sexual attraction ontop of whatever romantic or aesthetic stuff was already happening
The it makes us human comment... So... animals are human? Right there, argument instantly falls apart.
People who bash demisexuality like that baffle me. No its not like there was a whole app designed around sleeping with people you don't know or anything not feeling attraction for months/ years is the average human experience.
Precisely. Grindr is the antithesis to demisexuality 😂
I came out as ace to my family and my mom has been avoiding the topic ever since. Whenever my sexuality comes up, she manages to not include herself in the conversation or just discretely remove herself entirely. I can’t help but think she’s disappointed, although I had never considered that she would be because she supports all other aspects of the LGBTQ+ community. When I came out, my family had an hour-long conversation with all of the usual aphobic comments (“how do you know?”, you just haven’t met the right person yet.”, “maybe you’re sick or have a really low libido.”) Her reaction to my sexuality and the sexual people commenting on this article really highlight the lack of understanding and knowledge when it comes to asexuality. Part of me thinks they don’t believe it could possibly be a thing, cause they can’t comprehend how we can’t feel sexual attraction, just how asexuals don’t understand what it’s like to feel sexually attracted to anyone.
The libido thing has some validity. That's literally what it is.
@@tracphonevirtualmagazine some asexuals have a high libido but are still not sexually attracted to people (or very limited). I have heard lots of aces say that they hate their libido because they have no idea what to do with it.
@@tracphonevirtualmagazine the author of this video made another video on libido and I really think it's spot-on
@@ellanina801 thanks for that. Also, the reverse situation to what you are describing happens, too
@@E._A. Oh definitely. It’s a spectrum
This was such a good video. Thanks for all the ace content.
Your positive way of reacting to those comments reminds me of jammie dodger. Really like his videos. Might dive right into yours now!
I wish I new what an ace was as a child or teen even my mother thought something was wrong with me. I'm demi but didn't know till I was 23 that was 3 years ago come June.
I understood my sexuality at 30. Thank you for doing this. I am kinda late to the party, but then, it is kinda recent for me and we need more awareness. My live would have been better if I knew that asexuality was an option an explanation for the way I have always been.
I want to have a child as an ace, but through non-sexual methods.
I haven't gotten any outright Acephobic comments but I do get comment like "Thats odd, I thought you were a lesbian, You just haven't met the right one yet, you're young and single wait a few years then you'll change your mind." Those might be Acephobic but those comments seem more like lack of knowledge.
They can be Acephobic comments because they're not taking your Asexuality seriously.
Lack of knowledge doesn't excuse Acephobia.
The "sex/love is what makes us human" arguments are so incredibly silly.
Nearly every animal has sex, so that one's clearly not true. Plenty of animals pair for life, and with a much lower divorce rate than humans, at that.
You want to know what *actually* makes us human? Cooking. No other animal on earth goes out of its way to prepare their food like we do. Like, one of the defining features of a human is a relatively small digestive system compared to our size. We don't need four stomachs because we cut three of them out by cooking our food beforehand.
We get those sweet, sweet nutrients in our bodies without nearly as much work! Which leaves more of our bodies for other important organs, like our big ol' brains . Which, ironically, is the organ responsible for the ridiculous idea that sex and/or love make us human.
Besides, if there's one thing all aspec people like, it's cake, and you can't make cake without cooking.
You have beautiful teeth. I identify as asexual and I find people as beautiful in the way they look. I had a boyfriend before. I can be wrong myself. I believe that as myself identifying as an asexual, I am an individual with different experiences and wants.
Can I be ace not wanting sex and not having sexual attraction but still thinking about it? It’s really confusing to me because I don’t imagining my self in dreams but other people.
Yeah, totally. Asexuality is defined by a lack of sexual attraction, so if you match that, then you're ace. Anything else doesn't change that
I also experience this as an asexual. It’s fairly common, as far as I can tell. 🙂
There is a more specific label underneath the Ace umbrella called Aegosexual or Anegosexual. It’s not as widely used, since Ace still works just fine, but it might be worth Googling to see if it describes you. ☺️
@@TheNitpickChick yeah, as far as I can tell the asexual/aromantic label is a group of different orientations that share the common trait of lack of some type of attraction to a real person, such as the bi/pan/Omni/etc group share an attraction to more than one gender.
We aren't weird, just rare
not so rare it seems, by considering the people commenting here 🙂
The ability to read, write, cook and doing things like ie. driving a car or sewing makes us human. No other animal will probably ever be able to do these things properly.
i thought i was the only asexual on the planet
What? The rest of us got to Neptune just fine... did you miss the launch?
I think your "avatar" name is offensive. You might want to change it ?
BINGO! 😜