Thank you so much for making this! This was one of the things I came across that gave me confidence in getting top surgery without being on T. I'm a transmasc dude but I really just wanted to work out a lot and get top surgery to look how I want
Wow I love this video. Thank you so much. Its so great to see other gq butch lesbians talking about their medical transition. I really relate to the thing about not caring about scars. I actually like the way top surgery scars look, they are so badass.
Thank you ceejay let me just say that you have given me hope i recently came out to my mom as genderqueer and told her that i wanted top surgery she said that i could go to an a cup and keeps fighting with me on the idea of having a male chest and changing the subject. when i do like the pronouns he and they. i know that if i was to not have breasts i would be so happy because when i look in the mirror i dont like what i see. but you have given me so much hope that i wanna say thank you.
+TheTruebloodvampire Thanks for watching and for the encouragement! Congrats on coming out to your mom. That's a huge step! Just remember that it's your body not her's. No one has a right to dictate what you do with your body or to make you feel ashamed of who you are. I wish you tons happiness in your journey. Hit me up if you ever have any questions that I can help with :)
if you dont mind me asking question i have some. like do you have trouble getting jobs and people misgendering you all the time, and if it affects any relationships you have with like your family and wife? i know these are personal questions and i dont mean to sound nosy XD but, i do want a significate other and date someday and i was wondering because i like girls and a friend of mine says that lesbians like girls with boobs but i was wondering if that changes things after having top surgery? i was also wondering about how long the healing process is and alot of the reason it was so or is hard is because being an identical twin is a part of my identity i had a twin sister who died 5 days after we were born and i know in my heart that my twin will understand and love me no matter what. and that im always going to be a twin no matter what i do to my body.
+TheTruebloodvampire Sorry for the delayed response. Hope I didn't keep you waiting too long. And sorry I got so wordy with my answers. Anyway, Here goes: To my knowledge, I've never been turned down for a job because of my gender presentation. I work in software and in my experience job interviews have been pretty clear cut - if you code better than the other applicants and you're not a jerk, you're hired. I can imagine that there are other fields where there's a lot of gender related discrimination, but I would assume that it's a geographic issue as well. For example, law firms in rural Georgia might only be looking for clean cut good ole' boys, but I imagine firms in Boston would be more open. I definitely think it's worth finding a career field and/or a city where you are predominantly judged on ability rather than gender. My wife has always loved me for my gender identity, so it's never posed any issues in our relationship at all. She's very sensitive about it and is really awesome at broaching difficult conversations respectfully and supportively. I'm lucky to have her :) My father and brother have always been fine with who I am, but it definitely put a major strain on my relationship with my mother. She had a hard time accepting me for who I am and grieved a lot at what she perceived as the loss of her daughter. Her behavior towards me was very disrespectful in my opinion and eventually I took a pretty hardline approach with her. I wouldn't allow her to ignore the issue or to talk to me in anyway that undermined my identity. We stopped talking as much and our relationship really suffered for a while. But eventually she realized that she would lose me if she kept pushing me away and about 4 years ago, we started rebuilding our relationship. We're closer than ever now and she even goes so far as to publicly defend queer and gender variant people when her friends make demeaning comments or crack insensitive jokes. It's been a long hard road between us, but I think we'd both say it's been worth it! I definitely had lesbian friends who told me that no girl would want to date me if I got top surgery. I told them that i definitely didn't want to date anyone who only wanted to date me for breasts and got the surgery anyway despite their concerns. I can honestly say that I've never had any girl have a bad reaction to it. I think it's a little edgy and takes some conviction to get top surgery when you're not a transman and most girls seem to dig that. I think I actually attract more girls now, but I think that's because I'm more confident and comfortable now. Healing from surgery took about 6 weeks to be fully back to normal, but I felt pretty good after a couple days and went back to work after 6 days. As long as you don't play sports or lift heavy things, you'll be pretty good after a week. Lastly, I'm sorry to hear about your twin and want to thank you for sharing such a personal story. I don't think anything can break the bond that twins share, and certainly don't think it's so tenuous as to be broken by a simple surgery. I can't speak to having a twin, but my brother and I are very close and he didn't bat an eye when I had surgery. It didn't matter to him one bit. I posted a link in one of my top surgery videos to an old video taken just a few days post op on my friend Jordan's channel. You might want to check out his videos. He has an identical twin sister who interestingly had breast enhancement surgery not long before he had top surgery. I'm not sure if he has any videos about being a twin and transitioning, but it's worth a look. Him and his twin sister are still very close. Hope this wasn't too much info! I'll try to be more timely in my responses in the future.
thank you for answering my questions and its alright i been doing school and dealing with things but im not very picky about people not answering right then so youre okay XD but i will definetely look into it.
Idk if you will see this, but what kind of binder did you use? Im large chested, and wanted to know, i cant afford top surgery anytime soon because im independently in college, binders are the only thing i could probably afford
Thanks! Like most people, there's things I would change about my chest if I could, but I'm so so so much happier now than I was before :) It's really nice to hear positive feedback about it.
Thank you so much for making this! This was one of the things I came across that gave me confidence in getting top surgery without being on T. I'm a transmasc dude but I really just wanted to work out a lot and get top surgery to look how I want
Wow I love this video. Thank you so much. Its so great to see other gq butch lesbians talking about their medical transition. I really relate to the thing about not caring about scars. I actually like the way top surgery scars look, they are so badass.
Thank you ceejay let me just say that you have given me hope i recently came out to my mom as genderqueer and told her that i wanted top surgery she said that i could go to an a cup and keeps fighting with me on the idea of having a male chest and changing the subject. when i do like the pronouns he and they. i know that if i was to not have breasts i would be so happy because when i look in the mirror i dont like what i see. but you have given me so much hope that i wanna say thank you.
+TheTruebloodvampire Thanks for watching and for the encouragement! Congrats on coming out to your mom. That's a huge step! Just remember that it's your body not her's. No one has a right to dictate what you do with your body or to make you feel ashamed of who you are. I wish you tons happiness in your journey. Hit me up if you ever have any questions that I can help with :)
if you dont mind me asking question i have some. like do you have trouble getting jobs and people misgendering you all the time, and if it affects any relationships you have with like your family and wife? i know these are personal questions and i dont mean to sound nosy XD but, i do want a significate other and date someday and i was wondering because i like girls and a friend of mine says that lesbians like girls with boobs but i was wondering if that changes things after having top surgery? i was also wondering about how long the healing process is and alot of the reason it was so or is hard is because being an identical twin is a part of my identity i had a twin sister who died 5 days after we were born and i know in my heart that my twin will understand and love me no matter what. and that im always going to be a twin no matter what i do to my body.
+TheTruebloodvampire Sorry for the delayed response. Hope I didn't keep you waiting too long. And sorry I got so wordy with my answers. Anyway, Here goes:
To my knowledge, I've never been turned down for a job because of my gender presentation. I work in software and in my experience job interviews have been pretty clear cut - if you code better than the other applicants and you're not a jerk, you're hired. I can imagine that there are other fields where there's a lot of gender related discrimination, but I would assume that it's a geographic issue as well. For example, law firms in rural Georgia might only be looking for clean cut good ole' boys, but I imagine firms in Boston would be more open. I definitely think it's worth finding a career field and/or a city where you are predominantly judged on ability rather than gender.
My wife has always loved me for my gender identity, so it's never posed any issues in our relationship at all. She's very sensitive about it and is really awesome at broaching difficult conversations respectfully and supportively. I'm lucky to have her :) My father and brother have always been fine with who I am, but it definitely put a major strain on my relationship with my mother. She had a hard time accepting me for who I am and grieved a lot at what she perceived as the loss of her daughter. Her behavior towards me was very disrespectful in my opinion and eventually I took a pretty hardline approach with her. I wouldn't allow her to ignore the issue or to talk to me in anyway that undermined my identity. We stopped talking as much and our relationship really suffered for a while. But eventually she realized that she would lose me if she kept pushing me away and about 4 years ago, we started rebuilding our relationship. We're closer than ever now and she even goes so far as to publicly defend queer and gender variant people when her friends make demeaning comments or crack insensitive jokes. It's been a long hard road between us, but I think we'd both say it's been worth it!
I definitely had lesbian friends who told me that no girl would want to date me if I got top surgery. I told them that i definitely didn't want to date anyone who only wanted to date me for breasts and got the surgery anyway despite their concerns. I can honestly say that I've never had any girl have a bad reaction to it. I think it's a little edgy and takes some conviction to get top surgery when you're not a transman and most girls seem to dig that. I think I actually attract more girls now, but I think that's because I'm more confident and comfortable now.
Healing from surgery took about 6 weeks to be fully back to normal, but I felt pretty good after a couple days and went back to work after 6 days. As long as you don't play sports or lift heavy things, you'll be pretty good after a week.
Lastly, I'm sorry to hear about your twin and want to thank you for sharing such a personal story. I don't think anything can break the bond that twins share, and certainly don't think it's so tenuous as to be broken by a simple surgery. I can't speak to having a twin, but my brother and I are very close and he didn't bat an eye when I had surgery. It didn't matter to him one bit. I posted a link in one of my top surgery videos to an old video taken just a few days post op on my friend Jordan's channel. You might want to check out his videos. He has an identical twin sister who interestingly had breast enhancement surgery not long before he had top surgery. I'm not sure if he has any videos about being a twin and transitioning, but it's worth a look. Him and his twin sister are still very close.
Hope this wasn't too much info! I'll try to be more timely in my responses in the future.
thank you for answering my questions and its alright i been doing school and dealing with things but im not very picky about people not answering right then so youre okay XD but i will definetely look into it.
+Marichelle CHA for some reason I can't reply to your comment, but the underworks tritop was my favorite binder.
Idk if you will see this, but what kind of binder did you use? Im large chested, and wanted to know, i cant afford top surgery anytime soon because im independently in college, binders are the only thing i could probably afford
Thanks for sharing :) your chest looks awesome :)
Thanks! Like most people, there's things I would change about my chest if I could, but I'm so so so much happier now than I was before :) It's really nice to hear positive feedback about it.
Who was your surgeon?
Aleksi Jason Dr. Garamone