I mean, she's talking about that annoying stage where people don't say they're dating yet, but they're not just friends, so when asked about their relationship with the other person the answer is "oh we're talking", which typically leads to committed dating. I get what she's saying and why she hates it, but since "talking" is already intentionally vague, it gets hard to talk about without sounding brain dead.
"Like" is termed a verbal "crutch." I had a professor that had a laser pointer that made a noise and if you used a "crutch" during a presentation he would "shoot" you with the laser pointer and make you restart the presentation. Everyone that passed that class had impeccable verbal presentation skills by the end.
Oh crap, I just wrote that long-winded post above before seeing this. We had a similar exercise, but it was effectively a contest between the students.
As a married man, still a dude, i want to "go out" without my wife. I usually ride my bicycle to the bar where everyone knows my wife. If i were to act out of my marriage, the whole town would kick my ass.
I still go dancing. Married for 16 years, in my 30s. My husband doesnt like to do it out stay out late anymore and he’s totally fine with me doing it from time to time. Similarly to your situation, 99% of the time it’s at a very small dance club where everyone there knows each other and knows my husband. This is healthy ❤
The funny thing about all this "trad wife" and "hoe" stuff is that if you, as a man, don't seek to meet people in "hoe" situations like at a club or a dating app, have normal human connections and progress through normal relationships, it very often turns out "traditional"" in a more organic way that works for both people involved. These red pill dudes seem like they got burned once when touching the stove, then reacted by being angry at the stove instead of learning not to touch it.
That's a very good point. The places they go for seeking partners inevitably are filled with "non-traditional" people, but they then get upset when those same people don't act traditional. But then again, I don't think there is a whole lot going on in these red-pilled guys' heads.
No matter where Iv met a girl, Usually jobs or friends, they were always terrible communicators and with me bc they just wanted an F boy. I’ve gotten burned many times bc of being the got they thought was hot . I never used a girl for a one night stand , I always got treated like garbage . So I bring this up bc these red pill dudes , although some go too far, are often 99 percent right about women. I never have met women who are willing to admit things fully or be accountable , often it’s like they want to be treated like they are taken on a Disney ride and you’re just there to entertain and provide everything for them. Unfortunately I agree with the red pill guys more often than not. Thinking it was always me in the past was the norm since I gave women all the credit , it wasn’t till it happened enough where I realized I overestimated their intelligence when it came to “emotional intelligence “. It’s almost non existent in many women. They are usually highly narcissistic and it makes sense, narcissists are made both, and women get worshipped by dudes all their life and by the time you date one after a certain point, they have terrible habits and have no reason to be accountable because they grew up sexualizing themselves and being sexualized by others, they don’t need to fix anything bc they will go to the next simp ASAP. Guys tend to learn the hard way and then get bitter bc they expected to rationalize their way with women and often you just have to accept the resort that they won’t see reality as you do and are often misled by emotions easily
Same here. I use Snap, YT, and Discord. I have a TikTok but don’t post (just watch vids). On my Snap, I only have people I personally know, most of whom are family. LOL Everything else, I deleted years ago and have no intention of ever returning to it.
There is a video game called Unison. It’s a Japanese game poking fun at American culture. They have two characters called “Like” and “You know.” Even they notice how much we say it.
Japanese media culture is heavily based around reference and their business interests causes them to study US Media. They notice stereotypes or wide spread media trends, not as much the reality of social standing and ideology. They are seldom privy to that consensus. This is valley girl talk. Really think about how small a controlled group that is haha
Comin at you 7 months later, but I just wanted to say that as a 25 year old female who swore off social media, other than RUclips bc come on, at the age of 23, hearing you say that is “impressive” means a lot. Your channel has been really fun to be apart of since I found you and the Mrs. and y’all seem like really cool and genuine people, not to mention level headed. Thanks for doin what you do. 🙂 I could say so many things about quitting social media, because it is absolutely an addiction, but damn have people proven that they cant be trusted with the power they have to alter reality through whatever means they decide. There is so much evil, hate, BS and honestly junk out there on social media. It’s a waste of time, generally isn’t good for mental health (certainly wasn’t for me, and, of course, this is just my experience) and is certainly to me, pointless. I really appreciate knowing my loved ones in this beautiful 3D reality we’ve been given. Only downside is having nothing to do when people start tapping/scrolling as you sit their with nothing to do, no knowledge of how long the drought of connection them will go on… lol. I’ll keep supporting in 2D, though!! Again, love your channel. Thanks for making me feel like I am at least doing one thing right. 😂 25 is weird with or without social media : )
Yo go, girl. The less time spent on the internet, the safer and happier you’ll be. Speaking as someone with an internet addiction (not social media thank god) I know how hard it can be to cut that stuff from your life. Stay strong!
Install an e-book, start learning another language, and instead of doing nothing learn new words when you have a spare moment. Or read some jokes. There are a lot of things you don't need social media for
The first girl literally causes me physical pain. Her being incapable of forming a coherent sentence without the word "like" is awful. Without that word she would sit there in silence, incapable of speech.
When I first met my (now) wife I was living in a van, and she was going to medical school. Now I’m a stay-at-home husband, and she’s a doctor. It’s pretty sweet
for over thirty years i was a trad wife, i did everything for my hubby and four kids, but last xmas i caught him cheating with his brothers wife (also my best friend since i was 18, before i got married) it has destroyed the entire family and i have moved out with my 2 dogs and have to start again at 56. i am not interested in another relationship as dating looks like a complete nightmare. But watching mr and mrs lush always makes me smile, such a beautiful couple x
@@cleverusername4821 thats so kind of you 🥰 thank you. its been a tough year, i literally had to leave with my clothes, a few personal items and my beautiful dogs. But the only way is up. sending lots of love
@@oniebaloneysorry to hear that. I went through almost the same thing as you. Caught the ex wife cheating and she kicked me out of the house. I just didn't want to have a toxic argument in front of our children and left most of my belongings there and just packed a luggage. Everything I had since childhood is gone and now we have custody battle of our 2 small kids. Surprising thing is I'm actually happier than I've ever been. But I'll be the happiest when I get my 2 kids with me full time. I just want to say that you're not alone. Men go through it too and everybody cheats.
When I was in college in and in the military 2013-2020. If I went on a date with a girl, I would immediately stop "talking" to all other girls, unless things didn't work out with the girl I went on the date with, out of respect. I wanted to focus on her, not because we we're "dating" but because she did me the honor of saying yes to a date and I felt she deserved my full attention, not me still trying to get with other girls at the same time as I with her after she said yes to that first step.
Training yourself out of repeated filler words is like training yourself away from profanity. It took me a long time to cut back on coarse words after I got out of the Navy.
What I love about you both is that you're real. The bs people you react to and how you react to them makes you relatable and entertaining. I found you recently, so I'm gonna comment on old videos. Thanks for being you and sharing with us
When I met my husband he didn't have any social media and never did. I thought that was hot. He's not addicted to the internet and doesn't feel a need to share everything with the whole world. I loved it and still love it. A man without social media to me is a total green flag!
What an obtuse comment. Go outside and get a social life to meet someone naturally and get off the internet and the dating apps. Dating doesn't suck. You're just trolling the slums. Raise up your environment and your prospects will raise with them.
Its funny that you guys mention families with the trad roles flipped. I am a stay-at-home dad and my wife works, before covid shut down the restaurants I was working but during the pandemic her dream job was open and now she works and I take care of the kids and house stuff. It's kinda nice most guys don't get to see there kids this much
Nice. I remember doing an exercise in a public speaking class in which we were given a random topic, then were asked to speak extemporaneously about that topic for as long as we could until we hit some kind of disfluency. There were a couple of judges who rang a bell if they heard something, and the instructor kept the stopwatch. The topics were simple and broad, such as the weather, common experiences, household objects, types of clothing, etc. (Mine was "backpacks.") What they looked for: • Filler words could be the usual "uhs" and "ums," but also could include "like," "I mean," "you know," (except where necessary for the sentence structure) • Otherwise correct words being used as verbal crutches (at the time, "totally" and "basically" were commonly sprinkled into spoken language). Anyone who watches Muta on SomeOrdinaryGamers knows that he frequently begins phrases with "Again..." even when he had not previously covered the topic. So "again" and "at the end of the day" would elicit the bell for him. Go listen to poker player Daniel Negreanu on RUclips, and see how long it takes before you can't unhear him say "right?" at the end of half his sentences. That would ring the bell in this exercise. • You also couldn't repeat phrases, not only to prevent someone from gaming the exercise by saying the same sentence 20 times over, but also as another disfluency to avoid. This one is harder to explain, but you'd know if if you hear it: sort of a three-steps-forward-two-steps-back approach to speaking. ("The thing about Leon, the thing you should know about Leon is that he does this thing, he does something, it's this thing he does...") Add it all up, and it was one hell of a tough exercise. Most people didn't last long. One woman got the bell immediately because the first sound out of her mouth was "Like..." But there were a few of us who went the full two minutes without getting dinged. (I had an unfair advantage because I had a fair amount of experience doing radio as a high schooler.) Your technique of pausing really was/is the key to this - done well, it allows you to think about the next thing you're saying. Then it's rinse-and-repeat from there.
The power of pausing is something a teacher taught me, frankly its a manipulation tool, but if you can bask in an uncomfortable silence other people in the room will keep talking and reveal allsorts and stop acting like fools. The police get taught to do it.
@@sandhanitizer15 Then why did you have a girlfriend ? On a side note; you shouldn't sleep around, studies show the more people you have casual sex with the harder it is for you to pair bond with a woman in the future.
Effective communication is a dying art....like for sure. What gets me is how surprised they all are over not being plugged in to social media. Def a generational thing.
I'm a youthfully minded 56. Not immature, but still love life, still chase my dreams, and believe in the possibility of happiness beyond what I'm experiencing right now. Leon is around 40 from what I gather. I mention this, because I can relate to him and his opinions very well due to the maturity he's developed through his life experience. 20 to 30 year olds, no matter how mature or intelligent, lack the perspective of experience. Experience means EVERYTHING - honestly. Aging, and confronting the actual harshness of reality as you age, is one of the greatest learning experiences a human can have. Current social media is FILLED TO THE FUCKING BRIM with people whose emotional growth stopped at 12 or 14, despite still aging physically. To these people, life is simply likes, money generated, and attention. Nothing else matters, including the future of society. To them, that is someone else's responsibility. It's actually difficult to listen to them speak; similar to an adult listening to a 6 year old explain why they should be allowed to eat Froot Loops for every meal. The eternal, unearned validation of the internet has destroyed the emotional development and maturation of a huge swath of the population below 40. Pain, sadness, loneliness, desire, yearning. All of these things are immeasurably important in learning what it means to be an adult, to discovering what is important in life and what can be discarded, and to understanding what really matters in a relationship with another person. These 'podcasts' with these vapid women (and men) is good for generating views, because who doesn't like an idiot exposing themselves unabashedly in public. But as far as society goes, vapid young adults use these shows as validation for their own immature behavior, and it is killing the overall maturity of our society. A diet of garbage eventually leads to an early grave. I fear that is where our society is headed. Keep up the good fight. At least there will be a record that some of us tried to point out the idiocy of Millenials, Gen Z and Zoomers after we are all dead and buried. In 2033.
I agree with much of what you said but I don't agree with labeling the younger generations as being mostly these people. You're seeing a very slim representation of those generations on social media. Most of them are out there doing exactly what we all did at their age, which is building their lives.
Ms. Lush be a 10/10 on the outside and a 10/10 on the inside. I believe we call those 'unicorns', and that makes you one astronomically lucky man Leon.
I like that Leon likes his wife. Their relationship makes me happy 😂 my wife and I are so similar. We watch y’all together and love it. We go to Culver’s and eat in the car and watch lush life often.
I really love the dynamic between Mrs Lush and Leon. I have the same with my fiance'. We discuss these things all the time and just end up having the biggest laugh together, poking fun at eachother but always having respect for eachother and never forgetting we're in this together. My lady also was the bread winner for a good few years while I was struggling and until I got myself to where I am now. we've always maintained a balance around being a team. I have my opinions on male and female roles, but ultimately we all just want to be with someone nice who is willing to go through the hell of life together and make the good times better and the bad times tolerable. If you have that, you want for nothing. Just some advice from a 30 year old who wishes he knew that when he was 18. Be good to eachother, even when you're angry or when its hard to be.
Absolutely well written and summed up perfectly. I have my soul mate, Leon does you do and with kids you need to be able to really just have each other's back have fun and that's living your best life!! ❤ Love how your both just rational about shit it's obvious your perfect for each other ❤
I love these two, their wonderful relationship, their beautiful family. But yes, I have clicked on a Lush Life video bc of Mrs. Lush's décolletage. Keep up the good work you two!
i’m a 19 year old girl, i don’t use any social media besides youtube and twitch, but i don’t post on either i just watch. i am not fulfilled by social media, it just makes me angry.
Me neither but its fascinating in this day and age when you tell people that you dont have insta or facebook especially when you tell older folks like 35+ that you dont hang out as a young person on social media. To them I look like dinosaur. Well trust me those friendships will come by and they will be much more fullfiling than if your social media account has 10k followers.
I started down this red pill bs a couple months ago, I was off work for a few months (seasonal) only doing snow removal, so I was at home on my phone a lot and it seriously affected my mental health and relationship, I found myself not trusting my girlfriend or second guessing certain things when that girl is the love of my life and Im so glad I was able to snap out of it and come back from it. I can agree with certain points from both sides but these people have no clue what it’s like to be in a loving, trusting relationship where you can come to your partner for reassurance or to let them know your not comfortable with something. These people are so fake and Hollywood and you cannot take moral advice or life advice from them. Look at the people in your life that you want to be like and take advice from them. Simplest easiest way to not go down a toxic path, red pill or the opposite. Cheers folks
that’s really interesting, who did you watch the most and what drew you to continue watching and applying their content to your life? it’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable responding, thanks for sharing your story👍🏽
That doesn't reflect what the whatever podcast is about. There are definitely some toxic ones out there, as well as people, but one should be smart and strong enough to know and not apply it to their life. Whatever podcast does not promote toxicity. All they are doing is debating with women, showing the differences between the two, and calling out the issues (primarily with women as that's the point with this particular podcast). Issues being double standards, hypocrisy, wokeness, and low morals.
@@Noah-jb9om SEEMS like you need to learn to spell. The guy said he was in a moment of weakness and you had no reason other than being a dick to point it out again.
I’m so happy to hear someone say that. A loving and trustworthy relationship, there’s the answer. A lot of these boys and girls and yes I call them that because they act like entitled children and not Men and Women, will never know what it’s like to have a loving/trusting relationship. I feel sorry for them but at the same time I don’t. God Help us.
Nuance, as Leon mentioned, really is the key here. I know this is obvious, but always remember, these kinds of shows and podcasts ultimately have the goal of getting views; which usually means insuring that everyone participating in conversations are on the ends of spectrums (more polarizing = more intense emotions while viewing = more clicks). They also will specifically pick people that will likely not be able to explain their thoughts well, because the hosts (who may not even believe the things they’re saying btw) need to always come off as better than the guests. It’s good to remember these things, because otherwise you could fall down the rabbit hole of thinking that everybody thinks like these folks. Most people are not on extremes; so please, whoever is reading this, don’t let your entire view of “how men and/or women truly are” be shaped by these highly formulated channels. (To be clear, I’m talking about the content creators like Leon showed here. I’m not talking about the always naturally entertaining Lush family - they’re golden 😎)
The redpill versus modern female dating strategy is just so silly to me. Neither side is right or have the one and only answer. The real answer is somewhere in between. More over different strokes for different folks applies as well. Treating someone you like with respect and know your worth is generally the best advise I'd give a single man or woman right now.
Modern female dating strategy: -Have fun with Chad and Tyrone in your 20s -Settle with a "good man" in your 30s alongside your severe emotional trauma and 9 kids from 11 different dudes.
@@zwicker5585 Pretty much boils down to the only value a man has is his power and money and that is the only qualification you should use in finding a partner long term.
@@hgbugalou ok but I’m asking because ive never seen someone claim that. Ive seen a subreddit or two but its basically just women who follow the redpill advice but dont want to admit it,never once heard a women say they are FDS or something akin to that?
@@nealmccoy5727 men do the same thing, lol. That’s who are those kids’ dads! 😆They fool around with as many women as they can while they’re young and settle down with some “good woman” later in their life. Same “strategy”, so why you mad?
The thing about your partner going to the club on their own or with their friends is: if they aren't a cheater they won't care about random people trying to hit on them, if they're a cheater they will cheat regardless of being in the club or not. Why would anyone care about random people thinking their partners are good-looking? If your partner is a normal person - they won't care about other people finding them attractive because they love you and want to be with you. If all it takes for your partner to leave you and go for somebody else is a free drink at the club - good riddance. You don't need someone whose head turns so quickly.
But if you're trying to figure out which type your partner is, that is definitely an easy way to figure it out. If they insist on "going out" a lot. It's a red flag.
@@robbhays8077 I mean, that's the norm for people in their early twenties. Later in life, yeah that's a red flag, but I would expect it from a younger person.
it’s honestly disturbing how these people talk about other human beings as being “high value” or just look at women as “future wives” who’s only existence is to please their husbands and make them less insecure, shit is overall just weird ASF
@@kavalogue ok well “potential partners” are human beings. calling someone “high value” like they’re an animal or something is deranged and clearly shows a skewed view on people.
@@rengokusfox it really doesn't you're the one equating a person of value to a animal like what, being of value means yeah I'm comfortable dedicating 40+ years of my life to you, that they won't be wasted. The Issue is delusional people like you who seemingly believe that even if you aren't a good match for say Me, and we aren't a viable couple who could thrive, that I should suck it up and accept it because to analyse the possibility of the person your entering a relationship with having value - at least according to you, is equating them to a big game animal you and your buddies are hunting. I'm sorry but that's insane. Ultimately you're arguing against being seen as a valuable member of society who if I mated with you, I could assume whether or not we'd provide a good enough household, income and life to support ourselves together and children in the future. So yea, keep begging to be seen as a low value person who has nothing to ad i guess. You can do whatever you want. Be seen however you want. But that's because it only involves you. When you enter a relationship both parties have things to consider. The other person being a waste of time is one of the ultimate ones. like what are you talking about
@@kavalogue there is no “argument” to begin with. you came in here trying to start shit. all i said was seeing humans as high or low value is disturbing. keep it moving mf.
" it has nothing to do with insecurity, it has to do with the fact dudes who might be more attrative than me might hit on my girl and she might cheat..... that's all"
so ppl who park their fancy cars in safe places are insecure? you realize clubs are nr.1 rapist heavens,idk why men with such stardarts even date girls who club,that's the main problem,why you trying to fix a ho who likes to hang out around rapists and drug addicts. If men rejected females who club then reality would hit women and they would stop going to clubs.Clubbing is rare outside west for that exact reason,females actually have real intellectual/fun hobbies here,like doing actual fun shit with their girlfriends,women rather than going clubbing when their bf/husband is away just make parties at home,what's the difference if it's just girls having fun? they just invite everyone in,it's pretty common every weekend to just invite all close friends you have,play games,have some wine,dance, unless it's all a lie and they go clubbing for male attention while lying to their husbands,because that's it,women love male attention when they are married,they love and even have fantasies about other males and clubbing is the ''not-cheating'' way to earn that attention because the husband is way to trusting,trust me,go to any club and look at what these girls with rings on their fingers do. It's like all these guys like you who defend these girls are fucking delusional,have you even been to clubs? ppl have public sex,do cocaine,mix in drugs into random girl drinks EVERYDAY. What kind of uncaring boyfriend are you to even allow your gf to go clubbing? are you both dumb? Ask yourself why ALL rape statistics are among liberal women,cuz conservative girls aren't dumb,we know where the danger is,among liberal men,clubs ect. all the 'me too' shit happened with extremely liberal men. Nr. reason rape happens=drugs/alcohol.Clubs only exist for sex,they have no good music,the drinks they sell are cheaper to make at home,the people are trash,act trashy,smell bad,puke is everywhere,it's way too loud and flashy,you can have better music at home and dance with your best friends like no one is watching. The only thing a club offers is stranger attention/sex. There's plenty of safe anti-drug clubs around with actually good music and ppl who know how to party without drinking,none of them are famous because you aren't allowed to have public sex,do drugs,none of these girls who love clubbing go there so IT'S A LIE that they just want to have fun with their girlfriends,if they did they would go to safe clubs.
No matter how secure you are, I think there should be a level of comprehension to feel uncomfortable when your girlfriend/boyfriend puts themselves in morally questionable scenarios with the opposite sex. If you're a young girl, odds are-you'll get some guy hitting on you. A confident man isn't scared of the girl finding some other guy and getting cheated on - but the fact that your girlfriend is going to an environment with lots of single people and alcohol should be uncomfortable. I'm confident my girl will refuse those offers but it'll still bother me she's willing to put herself in that situation AT ALL
the thing with these manosphere channels is they talk so hard line for everyone as if because it's something a dude might want that's what all women should do, like nah i dont want a girl whos posting all sorts of skin online, and that is fine, just as it's fine for a woman to do that, we just aren't people who would get together then, it's called boundaries. but these dudes act like their boundaries need to apply to all women as a blanket.
It does apply to majority of women because most women have kids. In order to grow a stable household you need to take responsibility for your actions. I promise that accepting free drinks from strangers, and posting skimpy photos for all to see won't make you happy.
@owlhuman It's pretty funny that you don't see these women crying about misandry from the countless podcasts of "garden tools" talking about their "conquests".
@@mindbent7556 the actions you're talking about taking responability for, are literally meaningless XD. if you want you're life to be that way, then find someone who wants those same standards of stability. people can be stable while also posting a picture of themselves looking good lol.
Just as a random thought, I don't think women realize how helpful saying 'yes' to a first date is for socially awkward men. You're helping them at least practice interacting with women. This was probably one of the reasons why it was a prominent part of traditional dating culture.
you forgot one simple addition..."and follow through with it"... if she says yes she shouldnt just do it to help him feel good and learn, but if she commits to that, then she should take on the responsibility of fulfilling that learning by giving him the experience of actually having to be in the socially awkward situation of a first date, and if she then doesnt feel like it's a match, instead of jumping online to blast him, should help him learn what he could do differently in the future.
Y'all are so precious! Love these Lush Life videos, so much love and respect. There wouldn't be so much chemistry in the camera if it wasn't backed up in real life. So wholesome! xoxo
It kind of is insulting that they would think so little of their partner that you can't go out, that is what irks me. Like, not every venue is a piranha tank and the woman is a wounded cow. Someone aggressively buys me drinks and gets all in my space and I don't like it, then I aggressively remove some skin from their shins with my boots.
@@robbhays8077 1. Calling it a red flag is insecurity 2. Now, I don't condone drinking at all. However, are you serious? You would seriously ask why someone would want to do something glorified daily in practically every form of media?
"Traditional" means they still want him to pay for everything, "provide and protect" yet don't want to be held to any "traditional" standards themselves. Cake eat it too. You cant be a boss b, I don't need no man, independent queen and still require the man pays for all your shit, plans the date, always approaches you, etc.
We are all making fun of her, and also hyper conscious of ourselves using it now😂. Watching her literally made me never want to use that word ever again even if it makes me have to intentionally step around the word. Because I never want to look that stupid to anyone.
It is easy to get rid of filler words or sounds, although it takes some time and concentration. All you need to do is recognize when you are doing or about to do it and keep your mouth shut. Eventually your communication will become more clear.
yep, "like" has become the new "um" or "you know", which anyone who has taken a public speaking course knows are big no-no's if at all possible to avoid them.
42 yo single female and work in mental health. I was on fb about 10 years ago, seeing the need for validation from other people and when people don't get that, they end up needing support from me because they don't know how to pat themselves on the back for a job well done. If you can't be balanced in life without being validated here there and everywhere, you learn nothing about yourself. It's a pretty awesome feeling when you've achieved something to a very high standard and only 3 or 4 people know about it.
I don't get it either, I keep my shit to myself like a hoarder almost and this gremlin doesn't feel like sharing all that much. Close circle of 3 people in total, rest are kept in total darkness, and it makes me feel so powerful for some reason. Like I'm invisible and can be whoever I wanna be, lol.
I am so glad I am a Gen Xer who had one foot out and one foot in modern technology. Most from my generation can do with or without socal media. We can use it, but we don't feel the need to use it and can even get bored.
I'm 50 now, and I used to be that person you describe...I took pics of meals, locations I was visiting, my whole life on display just hoping others would would like it and see how much I get to experience. Partly because I was the small bullied kid in school, everyone picked on me. Once high school came around, there was no clique for me. There also was no internet at all back then, much less social media. Once I discovered that I could show people that I was the "same" as them, and that I wasn't the loser I had been called all my life, I took full advantage of the opportunity to gain the validation that I had so longed for, which before had seemed impossible. A decade and a half has passed since I joined facebook, and I still have the same facebook account, however it's now just my comedy outlet. I post funny pics and vids that make me laugh and I hope will make others laugh as well, and only post personal things when it's something major in my life. I stay away from the toxicity of other forms of social media. Especially snapchat while in a relationship. If you need an app that automatically deletes conversations and shared media after a day, then you are definitely hiding something. I still struggle with patting myself on the back though. probably always will, and really dont know how to accept the praise of others properly either...its a weird dichotomy that I don't understand.
@@DiamondPaintWithDiamondDave Hi there thanks so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear that your childhood wasn't that great, and I'm happy to see you made it through that. This use of expressing yourself through social media is an excellent example of intentionally sharing hope for others. We can find validation for ourselves through helping and listening to others with our own lived experiences to connect for the positive benefit of all. I can see your compassion and empathy for yourself through actions you are now expressing, keep that up because you are not only being kind to yourself but to others around you. It's a great feeling when you can brighten up someone's day with laughter. I appreciate your comment and with that send you love and kindness to spread to others who also appreciate you. Thanks heaps and go well.
It always cracks me up when anyone tries to tell people what “all men want” or what “all women want”. None of us have the same checklist which is why every relationship is unique and exactly why dating exists in the first place. The point is to try and find someone that holds the same values as you and that you feel you can be two halves of a whole with. It looks completely different for everyone. If you want a traditional partner, go find them, but don’t be demanding that EVERYONE be what you’re interested in. It’s just ridiculous. 🤦♀️🤣
I don't know any man who wants their woman posting sexually suggestive pictures, revealing pictures, who are loud and obnoxious, who go to the club (even when its just with the girls), have guy "friends", lack same-sex friends because they are so vapid and uninteresting that no human would want them around if not for their holes. Btw its spelled "Megan"
My boyfriends younger sisters best friend doesn't have any social media, neither did her husband, and he still found a way ro cheat.. worst part was it was with her best friend, in THEIR home... Such a mess. Anyways, my bfs sister said that she think it made them splitting up so much easier by not having social media because it truly is toxic and makes things seem so much worse then they need to be.
I'm the working breadwinner, my husband is a stay at home dad. We both have very traditional values but that means we agree ONE of us needs to stay home. Doesn't matter which, and with our personalities, this is the way that works!
To be honest I think most of these “traditional” toxic mens takes are just petty and insecure. Meanwhile the “empowered” toxic women’s takes of what man they deserve tend to be overly self serving and arrogant. There’s little room for bond growth in a relationship with people like this.
I completely agree.. Both men AND women can be toxic!!! Self entitled and out for themselves... ANYONE like this in ANY kind of relationship is pure toxicity and should be avoided!! Toxic women see MONEY... toxic men see BARBIE BOTH are putrid!!
That scenario of the guy going to the club and getting hit on and being jealous is actually insane. If you trust your partner none of that should matter! And if you don't trust your partner they are not the person for you. Also, as a woman, when I got to the club or out drinking I'm more worried about someone drugging me or men getting upset when I turn them down than actually getting hit on. This world is scary, when I go out with my friends my fiancé's biggest concern is that we stay together and we stay safe. The way these men and women think makes me want to vomit. Focus on the real issues, not that someone is going to steal your partner.
It is insecurity. But no one before they walk out the door says “bye honey love you! I’m ganna cheat on you tonight!”. My point is the hurt that happens after the trust is broken hurts a lot and someone going out is asking a person to be okay with having that hurt come when you could just not go or go out together. Idk that’s why my last relationship ended bc asking someone to trust all these untrustworthy situations is hard whether they deserve to be trusted or not. I’d rather be single and not have that feeling in my stomach that something might be happening.
This may be a little off topic, but I heard there is nail polish you can wear that changes color when they come into contact with a drink that’s been drugged.
1000% agree! My philosophy is people are gonna do what they are gonna do, if one is that insecure and do not trust their partner the relationship is doomed, and that kind of behavior could push someone to cheat.
Agree I am 5'7" and I don't lie, or exaggerate about my height, but it is an instant no, and makeup is a norm, while a filter is a deception if it is set to an extreme. . Ps love seeing you guys teaming up on these posts.
The fact that ppl really think they can skip the talking stage but think they are going to find true love is craaaaazy. Like no one will ever just know you and do that right things. The purpose of the talking stage is literally a pre trial to see if I really like what I see and it’s okay to realize we don’t match and stop talking it’s called dating we all have to go through it 🤦🏾
Her issue isn't the getting to know and talk to you part. It's the dudes basically treating it like an open relationship while she's getting to know them. To put you in her perspective; imagine your dating, and the person you're dating is fucking other dates when you're not around simply because neither of you has proclaimed being "serious". It's an understandable concern, when a huge portion of daters are basically acting polyamorous and feel tht acting that way is not only acceptable but that others can develop a serious connection to them while they're doing it.
The talking stage is actually pre dating stage. This concept is nuts as it let's both parties multi talk to different ppl at the same time. The dating stage would be for 1 on 1 but it seems like the talking and dating stage now have joined and women and men date multiple ppl when it should be exclusive to 1 person.
@@daviddoan9447 once I get to the talking stage, and the conversation gets past a day or 2 I ignore all others so that's not an issue. Its how it should be if you ask me. If I've devoted a few days of time to talk to her, then there's obvious interest there, so it isnt fair to her for me to be "auditioning" anyone else. I'd hope she thinks the same. once there's been an actual date, and we agree it was successful, the dating app goes away completely , and I inform her that I did so. Again, I'd hope she does the same. The app, and those other people will be there again if you find that there isnt a match, but at least you both gave it a fair shot without the contamination of other people to compare to at the same time.
“You cannot have your girl going outside and seeing actual men and realizing you’re a toxic worm that can being her nothing good”. Totally not insecure way to think…😅😂
I think my biggest problem with these types of conversations is that it’s a bunch of people trying to force their opinions on others. Idk. No real empathy or nuance
I see it more as each side trying to make the other at least see where they are coming from so that compromises can be made, which is a huge part of all relationships, that many today, due to the influence of social media, forget about. Watch all these videos of women who say "I don't want no man that don't...." and then she lists a plethora of things that no man alive could live up to. Plenty of men do the same. If both of those were willing to compromise on a few of those things, there could be a great match, however neither will know because they are so dead set on their own views. Its podcasts like this that bring those extremes to bear, and hopefully the viewers can see a bit of themselves in the people displayed and think to themselves that maybe they need to compromise a bit in life to be happy.
Toxic masculinity can be summed up in two words, Andrew Tate. He is the definition of toxic masculinity, his actions, the way he treats people and women specifically, the way he talks about and two people, how he takes a superior attitude in every instance, those are the traits and characteristics of a toxic masculine male. Protectiveness, caring, even not being able to show your emotions properly, are traits of males that we have developed over millennia of evolution through our biological line. These were characteristics developed out of necessity to survive, our ancestors adopted these traits to secure a future for their families. Know the difference between a real man regardless of whether he can show emotion, and those who are truly toxic. Stop labeling everyone as blanket toxic.
there is a difference to having a Instagram with food and pictures of travel etc compared to an instagram that is 100% bikini pics and cute selfies advertising to other thirsty men.
Like I was once told, “there are women to date and women to marry.” I pity the man that is out here looking to marry “a bad bitch.” I mean, the future outcome it’s in the term. 😅
That’s normal to feel that way. Men are wired to protect and provide, period. You’re still providing a valuable service to your family though, so don’t feel too bad.
"I can lie about my height, because you can lie with makeup" K. A woman can actually look the way she does with makeup on. Can the lying dude APPEAR 6 ft tall in person somehow? No? Guess it's not equivalent, then, is it...
I'm glad my girlfriend and I despise clubs too and literally every time she wants to go someone's birthday party she literally invites me, without me asking😊
I dated a beautiful girl without an Instagram. I loved it. I wish I could find more girls that don't use social media. The problem is that they are in the 1%. Another problem is that she (this girlfriend) was completely unaware of the nastiness of the real world. She couldn't handle the real world that I explained to her. I don't like it either. I DONT HAVE INSTAGRAM EITHER. I don't have twitter, tiktok, instagram, facebook, reddit, or even snapchat. I am almost COMPLETELY off the grid. I only use RUclips. HOWEVER, I WAS on these apps and It did open my eyes to a nasty reality that not even this girlfriend could handle or think existed. I'd like to date a girl that, if she has social media, she keeps it modest. Regardless, I'm avoiding social media as much as I can. If I need social media for a future career, I'll hopefully be rich enough that I can just hire someone to manage it for me and keep me informed. I don't want to have access to the nasty world that is social media and I won't participate. I learned that I want my future girlfriends/wife to at least be aware of the world to an extent though.
My fiancé does not have a big social media presence at all. she only really started using social media to message her friends or me when we were just dating. She calls herself a feminist, but she is a feminist in the traditional sense of equality for women. and not this neo-feminism movement that is just anti-men. she is the perfect traditional wife without even realizing that's what she is. im so glad i was lucky enough to find her, because omg these "modern women" in all these clips are going to find themselves single and sad, or divorced and in toxic relationships constantly.
24:50 it just sounds like he wants to own the woman’s body. The moment he “got” that woman, I think he’d want to show her off like a trophy wife. He wants her personal bodily autonomy. He wants the control. What he wants is a fantasy. Getting myself into that mindset, I realize it’s about control. And that in itself is an insecurity. Just an opinion
I prefer Lush Life to Leon Lush. Your marriage is wholesome, something I can aspire to. I plan on doing lots of things together with my wife once I'm married.
Oh but they have, and there’re THOUSANDS of clips online of these redpill dudes destroying 30+ women, as well as married women. Please, feel free to go searching for them. Let’s be so fucking real here 🤣.
I used to encourage my ex to go downtown with her girlfriends... I trusted her, and you know know... she always came home to me, drunk as a skunk, and I reaped the rewards for other dudes buying her drink.... She always came back to. It's all about trust
I am reminded of a song. "She don't know she's beautiful." Mrs. Lush is a bit too humble because she can definitely land any man she wants. But this is exactly the point. Men want a women who is only concerned if their husband thinks they are beautiful and don't need the whole world to tell them so. If women need the world then they don't need you because you will never be enough satisfy them.
Just accept that some people different standards than you. It's okay. You don't have to make everyone exactly like you. Quite the boring world it would be.
@Myron Bourne i do, i have a lot of fun, and im faithful & my partner knows that and vise versa. just cause you cant handle your insecurities and jealousy doesnt mean its the "right thing to do". just sounds pathetic.
Mrs. Lush you are definitely getting looked at and hit on, especially after we start talking because you are actually pretty cool and not dumb. All the reasons Mr. Lush put a ring on it.
Yeah, I’m not responsible for men’s behavior in response to my presence. If you don’t trust me to stay loyal to you, you are the problem. Being in a club doesn’t make me anymore likely to cheat. I don’t care who wants to go home with me. I’m taking my free drinks and hitting the dance floor with my girls. It’s straight up insecurity from the side of men. Even Leon felt it a little bit, which is why he kind of defended that malarkey.
Men like this just want a sense of control because they can't get it from anywhere else in their life. It's for them to figure out, not for the women to deal with it. Either way not our problem.
It feels kind of manipulative when he claims "that's the most attractive thing a woman can do" in regards to something that 1, would not be reciprocated, and 2, makes her prioritize his needs over her own? Commit to him RIGHT AWAY when you don't even know him? Gtfo.
In today's society, I cannot express how much I love your relationship. Marriage and the love from a woman is the rarest commodity in the world. I hope to see Mrs. Lush with grey hair giving you funny looks in videos 60 years from now.
Mrs. Lush acting like she wouldn't get swarmed In a club setting is hilarious
Legit, I was like... Guuuuurl you know you'd be pulling looks.
i came here to also say shes very hot
Fucking hilarious
Seriously! She’s a 10!!
She is getting swarmed in the youtube comments...imagine in a club...
I can't imagine why she doesn't like the "talking stages". Homegirls brain gotta be running on Windows 98 with that kind of processing speed.
hahah damn
I mean, she's talking about that annoying stage where people don't say they're dating yet, but they're not just friends, so when asked about their relationship with the other person the answer is "oh we're talking", which typically leads to committed dating.
I get what she's saying and why she hates it, but since "talking" is already intentionally vague, it gets hard to talk about without sounding brain dead.
THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON CALIFORNIA
You're giving her way too much credit
That girl would be perfect without "talking stages"
"Like" is termed a verbal "crutch." I had a professor that had a laser pointer that made a noise and if you used a "crutch" during a presentation he would "shoot" you with the laser pointer and make you restart the presentation. Everyone that passed that class had impeccable verbal presentation skills by the end.
Love that
Oh crap, I just wrote that long-winded post above before seeing this. We had a similar exercise, but it was effectively a contest between the students.
Actually the term used by linguists is "filler"
@@cscscscactually the term used by me is "dookie dookie sound like poopie"
@@MastaRavenkroft 😂 ok
As a married man, still a dude, i want to "go out" without my wife. I usually ride my bicycle to the bar where everyone knows my wife. If i were to act out of my marriage, the whole town would kick my ass.
I still go dancing. Married for 16 years, in my 30s. My husband doesnt like to do it out stay out late anymore and he’s totally fine with me doing it from time to time.
Similarly to your situation, 99% of the time it’s at a very small dance club where everyone there knows each other and knows my husband.
This is healthy ❤
The funny thing about all this "trad wife" and "hoe" stuff is that if you, as a man, don't seek to meet people in "hoe" situations like at a club or a dating app, have normal human connections and progress through normal relationships, it very often turns out "traditional"" in a more organic way that works for both people involved. These red pill dudes seem like they got burned once when touching the stove, then reacted by being angry at the stove instead of learning not to touch it.
That's a very good point. The places they go for seeking partners inevitably are filled with "non-traditional" people, but they then get upset when those same people don't act traditional.
But then again, I don't think there is a whole lot going on in these red-pilled guys' heads.
No matter where Iv met a girl,
Usually jobs or friends, they were always terrible communicators and with me bc they just wanted an F boy. I’ve gotten burned many times bc of being the got they thought was hot . I never used a girl for a one night stand , I always got treated like garbage .
So I bring this up bc these red pill dudes , although some go too far, are often 99 percent right about women. I never have met women who are willing to admit things fully or be accountable , often it’s like they want to be treated like they are taken on a Disney ride and you’re just there to entertain and provide everything for them.
Unfortunately I agree with the red pill guys more often than not. Thinking it was always me in the past was the norm since I gave women all the credit , it wasn’t till it happened enough where I realized I overestimated their intelligence when it came to “emotional intelligence “. It’s almost non existent in many women. They are usually highly narcissistic and it makes sense, narcissists are made both, and women get worshipped by dudes all their life and by the time you date one after a certain point, they have terrible habits and have no reason to be accountable because they grew up sexualizing themselves and being sexualized by others, they don’t need to fix anything bc they will go to the next simp ASAP. Guys tend to learn the hard way and then get bitter bc they expected to rationalize their way with women and often you just have to accept the resort that they won’t see reality as you do and are often misled by emotions easily
Wow that's a really good analogy for real.
This is so real. You don’t go looking for a wife in the club.
It seems to me their entire purpose with this podcast is to teach all other men not to touch it, and why. But the stoves don’t like that message.
I'm 27 and stopped using social media (aside from youtube and snapchat) for 6 years and I don't ever feel like im missing out on anything.
same, I really only use discord and youtube
Im 31 i use only youtube. If im bartending late night . I may scroll through facebook for thirty seconds .
Snap is one of the very worst ones 😂 besides twitter maybe
@@paragon1782 what's wrong with snap? Isn't it just like a messaging app with stories
Same here. I use Snap, YT, and Discord. I have a TikTok but don’t post (just watch vids). On my Snap, I only have people I personally know, most of whom are family. LOL Everything else, I deleted years ago and have no intention of ever returning to it.
i love when Leon has to explain to Mrs. Lush how dumb the outside world actually is...
@@AVesselOfFlesh exactly
@@AVesselOfFlesh those ladies are what I’ve found to be the majority *on dating apps* .
@@AVesselOfFlesh people on the Internet are from the outside world...
ikr 💀
Like she got like on that like show because like her like huge boobs were like hanging out like.
There is a video game called Unison. It’s a Japanese game poking fun at American culture. They have two characters called “Like” and “You know.” Even they notice how much we say it.
Lol that's pretty funny
Japanese media culture is heavily based around reference and their business interests causes them to study US Media. They notice stereotypes or wide spread media trends, not as much the reality of social standing and ideology. They are seldom privy to that consensus.
This is valley girl talk. Really think about how small a controlled group that is haha
Look up the youtube video "How English sounds to Japanese people" it's hilarious.
Yeah, because japanese culture is so normal.
"You know how like..."
Comin at you 7 months later, but I just wanted to say that as a 25 year old female who swore off social media, other than RUclips bc come on, at the age of 23, hearing you say that is “impressive” means a lot. Your channel has been really fun to be apart of since I found you and the Mrs. and y’all seem like really cool and genuine people, not to mention level headed. Thanks for doin what you do. 🙂
I could say so many things about quitting social media, because it is absolutely an addiction, but damn have people proven that they cant be trusted with the power they have to alter reality through whatever means they decide. There is so much evil, hate, BS and honestly junk out there on social media. It’s a waste of time, generally isn’t good for mental health (certainly wasn’t for me, and, of course, this is just my experience) and is certainly to me, pointless. I really appreciate knowing my loved ones in this beautiful 3D reality we’ve been given. Only downside is having nothing to do when people start tapping/scrolling as you sit their with nothing to do, no knowledge of how long the drought of connection them will go on… lol.
I’ll keep supporting in 2D, though!! Again, love your channel. Thanks for making me feel like I am at least doing one thing right. 😂 25 is weird with or without social media : )
Yo go, girl. The less time spent on the internet, the safer and happier you’ll be. Speaking as someone with an internet addiction (not social media thank god) I know how hard it can be to cut that stuff from your life. Stay strong!
Install an e-book, start learning another language, and instead of doing nothing learn new words when you have a spare moment. Or read some jokes. There are a lot of things you don't need social media for
28 no persoal social media. I get a lot of free products and share photo reviews on an insta page. But I don't use personal socials :)
@@BrittanySummer-jt9km So there's no way to find out that your name is Britanny Summer? xD
The first girl literally causes me physical pain.
Her being incapable of forming a coherent sentence without the word "like" is awful.
Without that word she would sit there in silence, incapable of speech.
When I first met my (now) wife I was living in a van, and she was going to medical school. Now I’m a stay-at-home husband, and she’s a doctor. It’s pretty sweet
Hang on for 10 years to get alimony.
Lazy af
Good luck holding that L when she leaves or cheats on you.
We'll see how long that lasts 😂
@@Drumcomedy you jealous 😮 I'm glad he found a woman who will love and care for him 💖
for over thirty years i was a trad wife, i did everything for my hubby and four kids, but last xmas i caught him cheating with his brothers wife (also my best friend since i was 18, before i got married) it has destroyed the entire family and i have moved out with my 2 dogs and have to start again at 56. i am not interested in another relationship as dating looks like a complete nightmare. But watching mr and mrs lush always makes me smile, such a beautiful couple x
I'm so sorry, no one deserve that let along such a loving and caring wife and mother.
@@cleverusername4821 thats so kind of you 🥰 thank you. its been a tough year, i literally had to leave with my clothes, a few personal items and my beautiful dogs. But the only way is up. sending lots of love
Doesn't sound like your "best friend" tbh lol
Give it a year. You'll be happier than ever and he'll be miserable, alone and filled with regret.
@@oniebaloneysorry to hear that. I went through almost the same thing as you. Caught the ex wife cheating and she kicked me out of the house. I just didn't want to have a toxic argument in front of our children and left most of my belongings there and just packed a luggage. Everything I had since childhood is gone and now we have custody battle of our 2 small kids. Surprising thing is I'm actually happier than I've ever been. But I'll be the happiest when I get my 2 kids with me full time. I just want to say that you're not alone. Men go through it too and everybody cheats.
When I was in college in and in the military 2013-2020. If I went on a date with a girl, I would immediately stop "talking" to all other girls, unless things didn't work out with the girl I went on the date with, out of respect. I wanted to focus on her, not because we we're "dating" but because she did me the honor of saying yes to a date and I felt she deserved my full attention, not me still trying to get with other girls at the same time as I with her after she said yes to that first step.
100% Yes
I was the same way. I was pretty use to getting second dates so juggling women was not for me.
That's how things used to be...
Nowadays, you can't trust a guy to not be banging other chicks when you are in a relationship. Little yet when it's only the talking phase.
@@TiffanyStarr2141 maybe you have trust issues and are attracted to men who will fulfill your expectations.
Training yourself out of repeated filler words is like training yourself away from profanity. It took me a long time to cut back on coarse words after I got out of the Navy.
What I love about you both is that you're real. The bs people you react to and how you react to them makes you relatable and entertaining. I found you recently, so I'm gonna comment on old videos. Thanks for being you and sharing with us
Glad to have you here!
I like, definitely like, liked this video.
Haha this should be voted #1
This video deserves more likes than the amount of times that “like” was said in this video.
Lol agreed 👍🏽
I don't think that number exists...
And it's just like because I'm like and then like they're like and it's like I'm like and it's like.... and then like... 😬
ITS OVER 9000!!!!
@LucidFlight imagine playing a drinking game, take a sip or shot every time like, like and like are said... 😂😵💫😵😵💫😵😂
When I met my husband he didn't have any social media and never did. I thought that was hot. He's not addicted to the internet and doesn't feel a need to share everything with the whole world. I loved it and still love it. A man without social media to me is a total green flag!
💯
You must be a rarity then cuz I constantly have girls telling me to get social media…
@@von6413and those are the girls you don't date, trust me.
Agreed
Dating sucks so bad. I’ll die alone. It’s better than dealing with my generation.
What an obtuse comment. Go outside and get a social life to meet someone naturally and get off the internet and the dating apps.
Dating doesn't suck. You're just trolling the slums. Raise up your environment and your prospects will raise with them.
Its funny that you guys mention families with the trad roles flipped. I am a stay-at-home dad and my wife works, before covid shut down the restaurants I was working but during the pandemic her dream job was open and now she works and I take care of the kids and house stuff. It's kinda nice most guys don't get to see there kids this much
Or how easy housework is when you set to it.
@@shawnfitzpatrick7071 don't get me wrong there is a lot to do during the day at home. I'd say I put in more hours as the homemaker then normal job
I’ve learned to just pause instead of using filler words (like, um etc.,) it make for better communication and therefore conversation!
Agree, I have been trying to be more mindful of that
I know right? It’s like, so annoying when people like, talk like that.
Nice. I remember doing an exercise in a public speaking class in which we were given a random topic, then were asked to speak extemporaneously about that topic for as long as we could until we hit some kind of disfluency. There were a couple of judges who rang a bell if they heard something, and the instructor kept the stopwatch. The topics were simple and broad, such as the weather, common experiences, household objects, types of clothing, etc. (Mine was "backpacks.")
What they looked for:
• Filler words could be the usual "uhs" and "ums," but also could include "like," "I mean," "you know," (except where necessary for the sentence structure)
• Otherwise correct words being used as verbal crutches (at the time, "totally" and "basically" were commonly sprinkled into spoken language). Anyone who watches Muta on SomeOrdinaryGamers knows that he frequently begins phrases with "Again..." even when he had not previously covered the topic. So "again" and "at the end of the day" would elicit the bell for him. Go listen to poker player Daniel Negreanu on RUclips, and see how long it takes before you can't unhear him say "right?" at the end of half his sentences. That would ring the bell in this exercise.
• You also couldn't repeat phrases, not only to prevent someone from gaming the exercise by saying the same sentence 20 times over, but also as another disfluency to avoid. This one is harder to explain, but you'd know if if you hear it: sort of a three-steps-forward-two-steps-back approach to speaking. ("The thing about Leon, the thing you should know about Leon is that he does this thing, he does something, it's this thing he does...")
Add it all up, and it was one hell of a tough exercise. Most people didn't last long. One woman got the bell immediately because the first sound out of her mouth was "Like..." But there were a few of us who went the full two minutes without getting dinged. (I had an unfair advantage because I had a fair amount of experience doing radio as a high schooler.)
Your technique of pausing really was/is the key to this - done well, it allows you to think about the next thing you're saying. Then it's rinse-and-repeat from there.
The power of pausing is something a teacher taught me, frankly its a manipulation tool, but if you can bask in an uncomfortable silence other people in the room will keep talking and reveal allsorts and stop acting like fools. The police get taught to do it.
That pausing is basically how to kill the habit. Taught myself how to cut them out when i got tired of sounding like an idiot.
Like like like like like
Like I liked this comment like why not like it because like why not.
Fr I thought I said like a lot, that was legit every 3rd word. Idk how she does it
I know right? She was saying "like" every few words. She needs to go back to school.
I didn't notice how many times "Like" was said until I read your comment
@@MaskedUlfjarn I think I counted 33 likes in about 45 seconds. That's insane.
Had a girlfriend in my early 20's try telling me that most guys in the club are just there to dance and have fun. She cheated on me.
Pick better women, don't just look at her beauty, look at her character.
@@haselbasil2488 bruh I was 20 and making my rounds. Wasn't trying to find a wife
@@sandhanitizer15 Then why did you have a girlfriend ? On a side note; you shouldn't sleep around, studies show the more people you have casual sex with the harder it is for you to pair bond with a woman in the future.
@@haselbasil2488 when people say this they settle with butt ugly women😂
😂 awesome comment ..hazil take away govt assistance n say same thing to women.
Effective communication is a dying art....like for sure. What gets me is how surprised they all are over not being plugged in to social media. Def a generational thing.
I'm a youthfully minded 56. Not immature, but still love life, still chase my dreams, and believe in the possibility of happiness beyond what I'm experiencing right now. Leon is around 40 from what I gather. I mention this, because I can relate to him and his opinions very well due to the maturity he's developed through his life experience. 20 to 30 year olds, no matter how mature or intelligent, lack the perspective of experience. Experience means EVERYTHING - honestly. Aging, and confronting the actual harshness of reality as you age, is one of the greatest learning experiences a human can have. Current social media is FILLED TO THE FUCKING BRIM with people whose emotional growth stopped at 12 or 14, despite still aging physically. To these people, life is simply likes, money generated, and attention. Nothing else matters, including the future of society. To them, that is someone else's responsibility. It's actually difficult to listen to them speak; similar to an adult listening to a 6 year old explain why they should be allowed to eat Froot Loops for every meal. The eternal, unearned validation of the internet has destroyed the emotional development and maturation of a huge swath of the population below 40. Pain, sadness, loneliness, desire, yearning. All of these things are immeasurably important in learning what it means to be an adult, to discovering what is important in life and what can be discarded, and to understanding what really matters in a relationship with another person. These 'podcasts' with these vapid women (and men) is good for generating views, because who doesn't like an idiot exposing themselves unabashedly in public. But as far as society goes, vapid young adults use these shows as validation for their own immature behavior, and it is killing the overall maturity of our society. A diet of garbage eventually leads to an early grave. I fear that is where our society is headed.
Keep up the good fight. At least there will be a record that some of us tried to point out the idiocy of Millenials, Gen Z and Zoomers after we are all dead and buried. In 2033.
Totally agree with everything you said!!
I agree with much of what you said but I don't agree with labeling the younger generations as being mostly these people. You're seeing a very slim representation of those generations on social media. Most of them are out there doing exactly what we all did at their age, which is building their lives.
Don't you include elder millennials in this. Leon is a millennial
Ms. Lush be a 10/10 on the outside and a 10/10 on the inside. I believe we call those 'unicorns', and that makes you one astronomically lucky man Leon.
if shes religious and trad wife then maybe
@@AC-mp7cx oh yeah great a religious wife,missionary sex with the lights off for 60 more years
I like that Leon likes his wife. Their relationship makes me happy 😂 my wife and I are so similar. We watch y’all together and love it. We go to Culver’s and eat in the car and watch lush life often.
Well I’d hope that he likes his own wife or it would’ve made no sense to propose
@@Schnuffbab mhm
Cheese curds
My wife steals my pillow and beats me with it if I stray on her side of the bed
@broshelbyshere There are a lot of couples that love each other very much but don't really like each other anymore.
I really love the dynamic between Mrs Lush and Leon. I have the same with my fiance'. We discuss these things all the time and just end up having the biggest laugh together, poking fun at eachother but always having respect for eachother and never forgetting we're in this together. My lady also was the bread winner for a good few years while I was struggling and until I got myself to where I am now. we've always maintained a balance around being a team. I have my opinions on male and female roles, but ultimately we all just want to be with someone nice who is willing to go through the hell of life together and make the good times better and the bad times tolerable. If you have that, you want for nothing. Just some advice from a 30 year old who wishes he knew that when he was 18. Be good to eachother, even when you're angry or when its hard to be.
Couldn’t have said it better 🤝🏼
Absolutely well written and summed up perfectly. I have my soul mate, Leon does you do and with kids you need to be able to really just have each other's back have fun and that's living your best life!! ❤
Love how your both just rational about shit it's obvious your perfect for each other ❤
I love these two, their wonderful relationship, their beautiful family.
But yes, I have clicked on a Lush Life video bc of Mrs. Lush's décolletage. Keep up the good work you two!
Started taking shots each time she say “like”
🤣🤪 almost died and bad idea
i’m a 19 year old girl, i don’t use any social media besides youtube and twitch, but i don’t post on either i just watch. i am not fulfilled by social media, it just makes me angry.
IDK if you're saying, but if that's true, you're winning tbh
@@bethere7862 thank you, it really just means i have no friends 😂
@@kenz5432how much do you weigh
@@krotchlickmeugh627 broooooo
Me neither but its fascinating in this day and age when you tell people that you dont have insta or facebook especially when you tell older folks like 35+ that you dont hang out as a young person on social media. To them I look like dinosaur. Well trust me those friendships will come by and they will be much more fullfiling than if your social media account has 10k followers.
I started down this red pill bs a couple months ago, I was off work for a few months (seasonal) only doing snow removal, so I was at home on my phone a lot and it seriously affected my mental health and relationship, I found myself not trusting my girlfriend or second guessing certain things when that girl is the love of my life and Im so glad I was able to snap out of it and come back from it. I can agree with certain points from both sides but these people have no clue what it’s like to be in a loving, trusting relationship where you can come to your partner for reassurance or to let them know your not comfortable with something. These people are so fake and Hollywood and you cannot take moral advice or life advice from them. Look at the people in your life that you want to be like and take advice from them. Simplest easiest way to not go down a toxic path, red pill or the opposite. Cheers folks
that’s really interesting, who did you watch the most and what drew you to continue watching and applying their content to your life? it’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable responding, thanks for sharing your story👍🏽
seams more like you were weak and let anyone influence you…
That doesn't reflect what the whatever podcast is about. There are definitely some toxic ones out there, as well as people, but one should be smart and strong enough to know and not apply it to their life. Whatever podcast does not promote toxicity. All they are doing is debating with women, showing the differences between the two, and calling out the issues (primarily with women as that's the point with this particular podcast). Issues being double standards, hypocrisy, wokeness, and low morals.
@@Noah-jb9om SEEMS like you need to learn to spell. The guy said he was in a moment of weakness and you had no reason other than being a dick to point it out again.
I’m so happy to hear someone say that. A loving and trustworthy relationship, there’s the answer. A lot of these boys and girls and yes I call them that because they act like entitled children and not Men and Women, will never know what it’s like to have a loving/trusting relationship. I feel sorry for them but at the same time I don’t. God Help us.
Mrs lush looking absolutely STUNNING! I hate these kind of podcasts but watching you guys react to them was the exception
I love you and Mrs. Lush . You guys are awesome.
Mrs. Lush will always be a dime in my heart!
Nuance, as Leon mentioned, really is the key here. I know this is obvious, but always remember, these kinds of shows and podcasts ultimately have the goal of getting views; which usually means insuring that everyone participating in conversations are on the ends of spectrums (more polarizing = more intense emotions while viewing = more clicks). They also will specifically pick people that will likely not be able to explain their thoughts well, because the hosts (who may not even believe the things they’re saying btw) need to always come off as better than the guests. It’s good to remember these things, because otherwise you could fall down the rabbit hole of thinking that everybody thinks like these folks. Most people are not on extremes; so please, whoever is reading this, don’t let your entire view of “how men and/or women truly are” be shaped by these highly formulated channels.
(To be clear, I’m talking about the content creators like Leon showed here. I’m not talking about the always naturally entertaining Lush family - they’re golden 😎)
The redpill versus modern female dating strategy is just so silly to me. Neither side is right or have the one and only answer. The real answer is somewhere in between. More over different strokes for different folks applies as well. Treating someone you like with respect and know your worth is generally the best advise I'd give a single man or woman right now.
What the hell is “modern female dating strategy”???
Modern female dating strategy:
-Have fun with Chad and Tyrone in your 20s
-Settle with a "good man" in your 30s alongside your severe emotional trauma and 9 kids from 11 different dudes.
@@zwicker5585 Pretty much boils down to the only value a man has is his power and money and that is the only qualification you should use in finding a partner long term.
@@hgbugalou ok but I’m asking because ive never seen someone claim that. Ive seen a subreddit or two but its basically just women who follow the redpill advice but dont want to admit it,never once heard a women say they are FDS or something akin to that?
@@nealmccoy5727 men do the same thing, lol. That’s who are those kids’ dads! 😆They fool around with as many women as they can while they’re young and settle down with some “good woman” later in their life. Same “strategy”, so why you mad?
The thing about your partner going to the club on their own or with their friends is: if they aren't a cheater they won't care about random people trying to hit on them, if they're a cheater they will cheat regardless of being in the club or not.
Why would anyone care about random people thinking their partners are good-looking? If your partner is a normal person - they won't care about other people finding them attractive because they love you and want to be with you. If all it takes for your partner to leave you and go for somebody else is a free drink at the club - good riddance. You don't need someone whose head turns so quickly.
But if you're trying to figure out which type your partner is, that is definitely an easy way to figure it out. If they insist on "going out" a lot. It's a red flag.
@@robbhays8077 I mean, that's the norm for people in their early twenties. Later in life, yeah that's a red flag, but I would expect it from a younger person.
@@robbhays8077 "Only for the free drinks!" Smh
Seriously, if there's no trust in this relationship from the get go it's not worth it in ANY sense of the word.
Those drinks aren't free. Why would a good partner be putting other people in position of pursuing them?
Hi from the U.K. love your videos always cheers me up your wife has an amazing sense of humour and has a look of Sandra bullock
I heard the word "like," so much in the first 45 seconds that my brain worms shifted slightly into the left hemisphere
😂😂😂
it’s honestly disturbing how these people talk about other human beings as being “high value” or just look at women as “future wives” who’s only existence is to please their husbands and make them less insecure, shit is overall just weird ASF
Wtf no it isn't. They're talking about potential partners. Not people in general. Dude wow
@@kavalogue Yeah, it’s weird. And they aren’t talking about people in general, just women.
@@kavalogue ok well “potential partners” are human beings. calling someone “high value” like they’re an animal or something is deranged and clearly shows a skewed view on people.
@@rengokusfox it really doesn't you're the one equating a person of value to a animal like what, being of value means yeah I'm comfortable dedicating 40+ years of my life to you, that they won't be wasted. The Issue is delusional people like you who seemingly believe that even if you aren't a good match for say Me, and we aren't a viable couple who could thrive, that I should suck it up and accept it because to analyse the possibility of the person your entering a relationship with having value - at least according to you, is equating them to a big game animal you and your buddies are hunting. I'm sorry but that's insane. Ultimately you're arguing against being seen as a valuable member of society who if I mated with you, I could assume whether or not we'd provide a good enough household, income and life to support ourselves together and children in the future. So yea, keep begging to be seen as a low value person who has nothing to ad i guess. You can do whatever you want. Be seen however you want. But that's because it only involves you. When you enter a relationship both parties have things to consider. The other person being a waste of time is one of the ultimate ones. like what are you talking about
@@kavalogue there is no “argument” to begin with. you came in here trying to start shit. all i said was seeing humans as high or low value is disturbing. keep it moving mf.
" it has nothing to do with insecurity, it has to do with the fact dudes who might be more attrative than me might hit on my girl and she might cheat..... that's all"
"It's not about insecurity, it's about me lacking confidence. There's a difference."
so ppl who park their fancy cars in safe places are insecure? you realize clubs are nr.1 rapist heavens,idk why men with such stardarts even date girls who club,that's the main problem,why you trying to fix a ho who likes to hang out around rapists and drug addicts. If men rejected females who club then reality would hit women and they would stop going to clubs.Clubbing is rare outside west for that exact reason,females actually have real intellectual/fun hobbies here,like doing actual fun shit with their girlfriends,women rather than going clubbing when their bf/husband is away just make parties at home,what's the difference if it's just girls having fun? they just invite everyone in,it's pretty common every weekend to just invite all close friends you have,play games,have some wine,dance, unless it's all a lie and they go clubbing for male attention while lying to their husbands,because that's it,women love male attention when they are married,they love and even have fantasies about other males and clubbing is the ''not-cheating'' way to earn that attention because the husband is way to trusting,trust me,go to any club and look at what these girls with rings on their fingers do. It's like all these guys like you who defend these girls are fucking delusional,have you even been to clubs? ppl have public sex,do cocaine,mix in drugs into random girl drinks EVERYDAY. What kind of uncaring boyfriend are you to even allow your gf to go clubbing? are you both dumb? Ask yourself why ALL rape statistics are among liberal women,cuz conservative girls aren't dumb,we know where the danger is,among liberal men,clubs ect. all the 'me too' shit happened with extremely liberal men. Nr. reason rape happens=drugs/alcohol.Clubs only exist for sex,they have no good music,the drinks they sell are cheaper to make at home,the people are trash,act trashy,smell bad,puke is everywhere,it's way too loud and flashy,you can have better music at home and dance with your best friends like no one is watching. The only thing a club offers is stranger attention/sex. There's plenty of safe anti-drug clubs around with actually good music and ppl who know how to party without drinking,none of them are famous because you aren't allowed to have public sex,do drugs,none of these girls who love clubbing go there so IT'S A LIE that they just want to have fun with their girlfriends,if they did they would go to safe clubs.
No matter how secure you are, I think there should be a level of comprehension to feel uncomfortable when your girlfriend/boyfriend puts themselves in morally questionable scenarios with the opposite sex. If you're a young girl, odds are-you'll get some guy hitting on you. A confident man isn't scared of the girl finding some other guy and getting cheated on - but the fact that your girlfriend is going to an environment with lots of single people and alcohol should be uncomfortable. I'm confident my girl will refuse those offers but it'll still bother me she's willing to put herself in that situation AT ALL
@@ardabruh1340 You sound exactly like the chuds on these podcasts. Jesus Christ.
@owlhuman if that’s how your girl would act, then you’ve picked the wrong partner.
the thing with these manosphere channels is they talk so hard line for everyone as if because it's something a dude might want that's what all women should do, like nah i dont want a girl whos posting all sorts of skin online, and that is fine, just as it's fine for a woman to do that, we just aren't people who would get together then, it's called boundaries. but these dudes act like their boundaries need to apply to all women as a blanket.
That is refreshing! ❤️👏
It does apply to majority of women because most women have kids. In order to grow a stable household you need to take responsibility for your actions.
I promise that accepting free drinks from strangers, and posting skimpy photos for all to see won't make you happy.
@owlhuman It's pretty funny that you don't see these women crying about misandry from the countless podcasts of "garden tools" talking about their "conquests".
@owlhuman sure, it's all wrong to speak for entire groups of people as if there is one solution for every case. again, it's boundaries....
@@mindbent7556 the actions you're talking about taking responability for, are literally meaningless XD. if you want you're life to be that way, then find someone who wants those same standards of stability. people can be stable while also posting a picture of themselves looking good lol.
Just as a random thought, I don't think women realize how helpful saying 'yes' to a first date is for socially awkward men. You're helping them at least practice interacting with women. This was probably one of the reasons why it was a prominent part of traditional dating culture.
you forgot one simple addition..."and follow through with it"... if she says yes she shouldnt just do it to help him feel good and learn, but if she commits to that, then she should take on the responsibility of fulfilling that learning by giving him the experience of actually having to be in the socially awkward situation of a first date, and if she then doesnt feel like it's a match, instead of jumping online to blast him, should help him learn what he could do differently in the future.
Y'all are so precious! Love these Lush Life videos, so much love and respect. There wouldn't be so much chemistry in the camera if it wasn't backed up in real life. So wholesome! xoxo
It kind of is insulting that they would think so little of their partner that you can't go out, that is what irks me. Like, not every venue is a piranha tank and the woman is a wounded cow. Someone aggressively buys me drinks and gets all in my space and I don't like it, then I aggressively remove some skin from their shins with my boots.
But why go there and put yourself in that situation if you're in a committed relationship? It's a red flag. It just is.
Going out together is the perfect solution. If you both enjoy the experience then go together. Casual date night!
@@robbhays8077
1. Calling it a red flag is insecurity
2. Now, I don't condone drinking at all. However, are you serious? You would seriously ask why someone would want to do something glorified daily in practically every form of media?
"I'm not insecure. I just feel like if I don control her, she'll cheat on me..."
@@robbhays8077thats really dumb
Tinder, or insert whatever dating app here, has created so many Eskimo bros that would have never been Eskimo bros.
What? 😂🤷🏽♂️
@@Michaelengelmann pretty self explanatory unless you’re not familiar with the term “Eskimo bro”
@@SouthernSavagery Feverishly looks up Eskimo bros.. 😂
@@Michaelengelmann EBDB BnB
@@SouthernSavagery I’m not, that’s why I’m asking 🙄🤦🏽♂️
If you have to control every aspect of your partners life, it's not because there is something wrong with THEM.
Cope
@@myronbourne6937 I mean being that controlling is someone trying to cope XD
@@myronbourne6937
Nope
@@dianadoraen7864 rope
It’s very situational. Could easily go both ways.
"Traditional" means they still want him to pay for everything, "provide and protect" yet don't want to be held to any "traditional" standards themselves. Cake eat it too. You cant be a boss b, I don't need no man, independent queen and still require the man pays for all your shit, plans the date, always approaches you, etc.
We are all making fun of her, and also hyper conscious of ourselves using it now😂. Watching her literally made me never want to use that word ever again even if it makes me have to intentionally step around the word. Because I never want to look that stupid to anyone.
It is easy to get rid of filler words or sounds, although it takes some time and concentration. All you need to do is recognize when you are doing or about to do it and keep your mouth shut. Eventually your communication will become more clear.
yep, "like" has become the new "um" or "you know", which anyone who has taken a public speaking course knows are big no-no's if at all possible to avoid them.
I had to rewind the opening a few times to make sure this dab didn't hit me as hard as her ability to communicate....
Probably a bit of both tho right bro
I can barely get through whatever they are saying with people that talk like that. It’s so annoying I can’t stand it.
42 yo single female and work in mental health. I was on fb about 10 years ago, seeing the need for validation from other people and when people don't get that, they end up needing support from me because they don't know how to pat themselves on the back for a job well done. If you can't be balanced in life without being validated here there and everywhere, you learn nothing about yourself. It's a pretty awesome feeling when you've achieved something to a very high standard and only 3 or 4 people know about it.
Well said 👏🏽 im learning to keep that in mind too. Thank you for your service in the mental health induatry 😊
I don't get it either, I keep my shit to myself like a hoarder almost and this gremlin doesn't feel like sharing all that much. Close circle of 3 people in total, rest are kept in total darkness, and it makes me feel so powerful for some reason. Like I'm invisible and can be whoever I wanna be, lol.
I am so glad I am a Gen Xer who had one foot out and one foot in modern technology. Most from my generation can do with or without socal media. We can use it, but we don't feel the need to use it and can even get bored.
I'm 50 now, and I used to be that person you describe...I took pics of meals, locations I was visiting, my whole life on display just hoping others would would like it and see how much I get to experience. Partly because I was the small bullied kid in school, everyone picked on me. Once high school came around, there was no clique for me. There also was no internet at all back then, much less social media. Once I discovered that I could show people that I was the "same" as them, and that I wasn't the loser I had been called all my life, I took full advantage of the opportunity to gain the validation that I had so longed for, which before had seemed impossible. A decade and a half has passed since I joined facebook, and I still have the same facebook account, however it's now just my comedy outlet. I post funny pics and vids that make me laugh and I hope will make others laugh as well, and only post personal things when it's something major in my life. I stay away from the toxicity of other forms of social media. Especially snapchat while in a relationship. If you need an app that automatically deletes conversations and shared media after a day, then you are definitely hiding something. I still struggle with patting myself on the back though. probably always will, and really dont know how to accept the praise of others properly either...its a weird dichotomy that I don't understand.
@@DiamondPaintWithDiamondDave Hi there thanks so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear that your childhood wasn't that great, and I'm happy to see you made it through that. This use of expressing yourself through social media is an excellent example of intentionally sharing hope for others. We can find validation for ourselves through helping and listening to others with our own lived experiences to connect for the positive benefit of all. I can see your compassion and empathy for yourself through actions you are now expressing, keep that up because you are not only being kind to yourself but to others around you. It's a great feeling when you can brighten up someone's day with laughter.
I appreciate your comment and with that send you love and kindness to spread to others who also appreciate you. Thanks heaps and go well.
It always cracks me up when anyone tries to tell people what “all men want” or what “all women want”. None of us have the same checklist which is why every relationship is unique and exactly why dating exists in the first place. The point is to try and find someone that holds the same values as you and that you feel you can be two halves of a whole with. It looks completely different for everyone. If you want a traditional partner, go find them, but don’t be demanding that EVERYONE be what you’re interested in. It’s just ridiculous. 🤦♀️🤣
I don't know any man who wants their woman posting sexually suggestive pictures, revealing pictures, who are loud and obnoxious, who go to the club (even when its just with the girls), have guy "friends", lack same-sex friends because they are so vapid and uninteresting that no human would want them around if not for their holes. Btw its spelled "Megan"
This I agree with 🙌💯
This video, like the others, proves Mrs Lush is one of a kind!! Love her!!!
I absolutely cannot stand women who say "like" every third word. 🤦♂️
My boyfriends younger sisters best friend doesn't have any social media, neither did her husband, and he still found a way ro cheat.. worst part was it was with her best friend, in THEIR home...
Such a mess.
Anyways, my bfs sister said that she think it made them splitting up so much easier by not having social media because it truly is toxic and makes things seem so much worse then they need to be.
Yikes!
Your boyfriend's younger sister's best friend got cheated on by her husband with her best friend... which means... your boyfriend's younger sister ?
@@Lipanj92 Nice 😂
She sounds like a great best friend. Why would she do that.
I think I developed a blood clot in my brain trying to read this.
I'm the working breadwinner, my husband is a stay at home dad. We both have very traditional values but that means we agree ONE of us needs to stay home. Doesn't matter which, and with our personalities, this is the way that works!
Hell yeah you guys are the best!
xoxo
Leon, the level of admiration and affection you have for your wife is beautiful! Love this!😊
You and your wife have the best vibe ever!! lol light weight jealous ,love the channel!!
Have ms lush react to thirst comments bout her and/or Leon 😂
That's *Mrs* Lush to you pal!
She deserves respect as Leon's wife. Her and her big luscious ta-tas deserve respect.
😉
Read each other's 😂
I agree. Have her respond to Mr Lush thirst comments. That'd be hilarious.
To be honest I think most of these “traditional” toxic mens takes are just petty and insecure. Meanwhile the “empowered” toxic women’s takes of what man they deserve tend to be overly self serving and arrogant. There’s little room for bond growth in a relationship with people like this.
I completely agree.. Both men AND women can be toxic!!! Self entitled and out for themselves... ANYONE like this in ANY kind of relationship is pure toxicity and should be avoided!! Toxic women see MONEY... toxic men see BARBIE BOTH are putrid!!
That scenario of the guy going to the club and getting hit on and being jealous is actually insane. If you trust your partner none of that should matter! And if you don't trust your partner they are not the person for you. Also, as a woman, when I got to the club or out drinking I'm more worried about someone drugging me or men getting upset when I turn them down than actually getting hit on. This world is scary, when I go out with my friends my fiancé's biggest concern is that we stay together and we stay safe. The way these men and women think makes me want to vomit. Focus on the real issues, not that someone is going to steal your partner.
Yep, like why are you so boring that your mid-life crisis wife is out clubbing pretending she's 20 and single?
It is insecurity. But no one before they walk out the door says “bye honey love you! I’m ganna cheat on you tonight!”. My point is the hurt that happens after the trust is broken hurts a lot and someone going out is asking a person to be okay with having that hurt come when you could just not go or go out together. Idk that’s why my last relationship ended bc asking someone to trust all these untrustworthy situations is hard whether they deserve to be trusted or not. I’d rather be single and not have that feeling in my stomach that something might be happening.
He was saying it Hypothetically
This may be a little off topic, but I heard there is nail polish you can wear that changes color when they come into contact with a drink that’s been drugged.
1000% agree! My philosophy is people are gonna do what they are gonna do, if one is that insecure and do not trust their partner the relationship is doomed, and that kind of behavior could push someone to cheat.
“Like like like like like like” I’ve never heard someone overuse “like” as much as that girl hahaha dear lord
Agree I am 5'7" and I don't lie, or exaggerate about my height, but it is an instant no, and makeup is a norm, while a filter is a deception if it is set to an extreme. . Ps love seeing you guys teaming up on these posts.
The fact that ppl really think they can skip the talking stage but think they are going to find true love is craaaaazy. Like no one will ever just know you and do that right things. The purpose of the talking stage is literally a pre trial to see if I really like what I see and it’s okay to realize we don’t match and stop talking it’s called dating we all have to go through it 🤦🏾
Her issue isn't the getting to know and talk to you part.
It's the dudes basically treating it like an open relationship while she's getting to know them.
To put you in her perspective; imagine your dating, and the person you're dating is fucking other dates when you're not around simply because neither of you has proclaimed being "serious".
It's an understandable concern, when a huge portion of daters are basically acting polyamorous and feel tht acting that way is not only acceptable but that others can develop a serious connection to them while they're doing it.
@@kiraPh1234k TLDR: she gave up the P immediately and then they weren't interested any more.
@@mothbreeder641 what a weird way to assume something based on someone’s opinion. Seems like youre easy from the way youre projecting
The talking stage is actually pre dating stage. This concept is nuts as it let's both parties multi talk to different ppl at the same time. The dating stage would be for 1 on 1 but it seems like the talking and dating stage now have joined and women and men date multiple ppl when it should be exclusive to 1 person.
@@daviddoan9447 once I get to the talking stage, and the conversation gets past a day or 2 I ignore all others so that's not an issue. Its how it should be if you ask me. If I've devoted a few days of time to talk to her, then there's obvious interest there, so it isnt fair to her for me to be "auditioning" anyone else. I'd hope she thinks the same. once there's been an actual date, and we agree it was successful, the dating app goes away completely , and I inform her that I did so. Again, I'd hope she does the same. The app, and those other people will be there again if you find that there isnt a match, but at least you both gave it a fair shot without the contamination of other people to compare to at the same time.
These two are just the epitome of couples goals. I feel the exact way about my husband. These two are so great with each other and very inspiring ❤
“It’s not about insecurity”… proceeds to describe the most insecure outlook in the world 😂😂😂
The world is threatening when you're as interesting as a tongue depressor like that dude.
Sort of like how "I'm not racist but..." will almost always precede something racist.
“It’s for me”…
“You cannot have your girl going outside and seeing actual men and realizing you’re a toxic worm that can being her nothing good”. Totally not insecure way to think…😅😂
Boundaries and standards are insecure I guess.
I think my biggest problem with these types of conversations is that it’s a bunch of people trying to force their opinions on others. Idk. No real empathy or nuance
I see it more as each side trying to make the other at least see where they are coming from so that compromises can be made, which is a huge part of all relationships, that many today, due to the influence of social media, forget about. Watch all these videos of women who say "I don't want no man that don't...." and then she lists a plethora of things that no man alive could live up to. Plenty of men do the same. If both of those were willing to compromise on a few of those things, there could be a great match, however neither will know because they are so dead set on their own views. Its podcasts like this that bring those extremes to bear, and hopefully the viewers can see a bit of themselves in the people displayed and think to themselves that maybe they need to compromise a bit in life to be happy.
my left eye now twitches every time I hear the word like
Toxic masculinity can be summed up in two words, Andrew Tate. He is the definition of toxic masculinity, his actions, the way he treats people and women specifically, the way he talks about and two people, how he takes a superior attitude in every instance, those are the traits and characteristics of a toxic masculine male.
Protectiveness, caring, even not being able to show your emotions properly, are traits of males that we have developed over millennia of evolution through our biological line. These were characteristics developed out of necessity to survive, our ancestors adopted these traits to secure a future for their families. Know the difference between a real man regardless of whether he can show emotion, and those who are truly toxic. Stop labeling everyone as blanket toxic.
Now do "toxic femininity" or does it not exist just like how "only digusting white devils can be racist"?
Common tate W
You're broke
There’s no such thing as “toxic masculinity”. None. Stop it. Stop the cope. Be smart
A woman CAN'T have Instagram but the man can scroll through it. 😂
Yeah
@@myronbourne6937 Sweet! So women can't post but they can drool at other rock hard abs. Awesome! 🤣
What? Just shut up bro.
there is a difference to having a Instagram with food and pictures of travel etc compared to an instagram that is 100% bikini pics and cute selfies advertising to other thirsty men.
@CC Cycling Eh, it's a bikini! 🤣 I don't care what other thirsty men think. It's only a risk if I don't trust her.
Like I was once told, “there are women to date and women to marry.” I pity the man that is out here looking to marry “a bad bitch.” I mean, the future outcome it’s in the term. 😅
56?!?! She said the word "LIKE" 56 fkin times !!! What in the actual fk...🤦
5:52 leon just pulled a real life "youre pretty peg" 😂
im also a stay at home dad and part of me feels like im doing something wrong by not bringing in the cash instead
Because you are. Women are not long term providers. They will for a period but it's a ticking time bomb until you're out.
That’s normal to feel that way. Men are wired to protect and provide, period. You’re still providing a valuable service to your family though, so don’t feel too bad.
If it works for you and your family then don’t stress.
Ur doing great
24 "like"s in a single sentence. My goodness.
Jesus Christ I am so glad my partner has never had any pretense of any kind of ownership over me. And vice versa. We're a team because we wanna be.
L cuck
Don't celebrate early...50% relationship ends in divorce...😉😉
"I can lie about my height, because you can lie with makeup"
K. A woman can actually look the way she does with makeup on. Can the lying dude APPEAR 6 ft tall in person somehow?
No? Guess it's not equivalent, then, is it...
I can’t believe she said “but you aren’t dating yet, you expect us to be loyal on the first date?“B*tch, what do you think dating is?
I'm glad my girlfriend and I despise clubs too and literally every time she wants to go someone's birthday party she literally invites me, without me asking😊
Its kind annoying , but atleast that way you both get to spend extra time with each other
“Myron and whatever this guy” made me laugh so hard. 😂 Fresh is such a clown 🤡
I will buy mrs lush all the drinks in the club!!
I dated a beautiful girl without an Instagram. I loved it. I wish I could find more girls that don't use social media. The problem is that they are in the 1%. Another problem is that she (this girlfriend) was completely unaware of the nastiness of the real world. She couldn't handle the real world that I explained to her. I don't like it either. I DONT HAVE INSTAGRAM EITHER. I don't have twitter, tiktok, instagram, facebook, reddit, or even snapchat. I am almost COMPLETELY off the grid. I only use RUclips. HOWEVER, I WAS on these apps and It did open my eyes to a nasty reality that not even this girlfriend could handle or think existed. I'd like to date a girl that, if she has social media, she keeps it modest. Regardless, I'm avoiding social media as much as I can. If I need social media for a future career, I'll hopefully be rich enough that I can just hire someone to manage it for me and keep me informed. I don't want to have access to the nasty world that is social media and I won't participate. I learned that I want my future girlfriends/wife to at least be aware of the world to an extent though.
My fiancé does not have a big social media presence at all. she only really started using social media to message her friends or me when we were just dating. She calls herself a feminist, but she is a feminist in the traditional sense of equality for women. and not this neo-feminism movement that is just anti-men. she is the perfect traditional wife without even realizing that's what she is. im so glad i was lucky enough to find her, because omg these "modern women" in all these clips are going to find themselves single and sad, or divorced and in toxic relationships constantly.
24:50 it just sounds like he wants to own the woman’s body. The moment he “got” that woman, I think he’d want to show her off like a trophy wife. He wants her personal bodily autonomy. He wants the control.
What he wants is a fantasy.
Getting myself into that mindset, I realize it’s about control. And that in itself is an insecurity.
Just an opinion
I prefer Lush Life to Leon Lush. Your marriage is wholesome, something I can aspire to. I plan on doing lots of things together with my wife once I'm married.
None of those redpill dudes could withstand being challenged by a 30+ year old woman, especially a married woman.
You'll bring your cats and wine no doubt.
You're not going to say anything they haven't already heard
Oh but they have, and there’re THOUSANDS of clips online of these redpill dudes destroying 30+ women, as well as married women. Please, feel free to go searching for them. Let’s be so fucking real here 🤣.
What guy wants a woman over 30 lol
I used to encourage my ex to go downtown with her girlfriends... I trusted her, and you know know... she always came home to me, drunk as a skunk, and I reaped the rewards for other dudes buying her drink.... She always came back to. It's all about trust
I am reminded of a song.
"She don't know she's beautiful."
Mrs. Lush is a bit too humble because she can definitely land any man she wants. But this is exactly the point. Men want a women who is only concerned if their husband thinks they are beautiful and don't need the whole world to tell them so.
If women need the world then they don't need you because you will never be enough satisfy them.
Cmon Leon! We need both of you beautiful people to be in focus! 😅
That first scenario the podcast dude made up about the club made clubs sound like a goddamn sexual war zone. TF.
he confused a club with an orgy
idk used to be a promoter and it’s scarily accurate
maybe not everywhere but the places i’ve worked it’s terrifyingly accurate
They’re not wrong. 99% of guys are there to try to get laid, why do you think so many guys buy girls drinks
bruh, they basically said they dont trust their partner to be loyal. dont blame it on randoms at the club.
Just accept that some people different standards than you. It's okay. You don't have to make everyone exactly like you. Quite the boring world it would be.
@@mothbreeder641 standards and control ling behaviors are completely different yoda ass
Blame it on the girl who goes to the club while in a relationship
@Myron Bourne i do, i have a lot of fun, and im faithful & my partner knows that and vise versa. just cause you cant handle your insecurities and jealousy doesnt mean its the "right thing to do". just sounds pathetic.
Mrs. Lush you are definitely getting looked at and hit on, especially after we start talking because you are actually pretty cool and not dumb. All the reasons Mr. Lush put a ring on it.
The learning channel educating people every day how much you can lower the bar.
Mrs. Lush is waaaaaaay too humble she's 100% a 10. She better take the freaking COMPLIMEEEENNNNTTTT
Yeah, I’m not responsible for men’s behavior in response to my presence. If you don’t trust me to stay loyal to you, you are the problem. Being in a club doesn’t make me anymore likely to cheat. I don’t care who wants to go home with me. I’m taking my free drinks and hitting the dance floor with my girls. It’s straight up insecurity from the side of men. Even Leon felt it a little bit, which is why he kind of defended that malarkey.
Also is it necessary to say women are whoring themselves out? It’s not hard to respect sex workers or women who just express sexuality.
Why do you need sexual attention from random men when you're in a relationship? Try some therapy to get it sorted out.
@@trinitymetler1246 so whores
Men like this just want a sense of control because they can't get it from anywhere else in their life. It's for them to figure out, not for the women to deal with it. Either way not our problem.
Nobody cares, us not accepting that behavior doesn't make us insecure
It feels kind of manipulative when he claims "that's the most attractive thing a woman can do" in regards to something that 1, would not be reciprocated, and 2, makes her prioritize his needs over her own? Commit to him RIGHT AWAY when you don't even know him? Gtfo.
@owlmom8312 Uhh... I'm sorry, what? I can't tell if you're agreeing or disagreeing. I honestly have no idea what you just said.
In today's society, I cannot express how much I love your relationship. Marriage and the love from a woman is the rarest commodity in the world. I hope to see Mrs. Lush with grey hair giving you funny looks in videos 60 years from now.
"you're just intimidated by women who are outspoken" the woman says to the man on a show where he's talking to like five outspoken women at once.