Amazing video,Dr.Haider! I have a question related to rumination. I am currently going through a situation wherein 1 month ago there was an argument between me and my neighbor who is the builder of houses in my community for car parking spot. He and his family have taken over 2 parking spots in our neighbourhood which everybody has equal rights to park. Nobody wants to quarrel with that guy because he is a narcissist. Last month I confronted his son about this and he became defensive saying it is their "right" to park their car over there because his dad built the society and I told them it's not. The conversation ended though in his favor as nobody in my community wants to deal with these guys in general meetings as they are very very confrontational. Since that day, I am ruminating over and over and over how I could have argued more in my favor? Your video is helping but if there are more tips about this, I would really appreciate it. This situation happened in India where I also have a home and where laws regarding these kind of situation are in grey area and not very clear so all these types of situation can only be solved by discussions that this other party is in no mood of having. So I am wondering how to become more assertive in situations like this especially when dealing with verbal bullies and confrontational people?
Amazing video,Dr.Haider! I have a question related to rumination. I am currently going through a situation wherein 1 month ago there was an argument between me and my neighbor who is the builder of houses in my community for car parking spot. He and his family have taken over 2 parking spots in our neighbourhood which everybody has equal rights to park. Nobody wants to quarrel with that guy because he is a narcissist. Last month I confronted his son about this and he became defensive saying it is their "right" to park their car over there because his dad built the society and I told them it's not. The conversation ended though in his favor as nobody in my community wants to deal with these guys in general meetings as they are very very confrontational. Since that day, I am ruminating over and over and over how I could have argued more in my favor? Your video is helping but if there are more tips about this, I would really appreciate it. This situation happened in India where I also have a home and where laws regarding these kind of situation are in grey area and not very clear so all these types of situation can only be solved by discussions that this other party is in no mood of having. So I am wondering how to become more assertive in situations like this especially when dealing with verbal bullies and confrontational people?