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I’ve been told by a therapist that, statistically, couples report their least satisfactory years are when they have toddlers. It helped me hang in there. Take care ❤
Miss your ASMR so much
Same 😭
I second this motion with the hope she sees this and feeds us with some ASMR for crying out loud 😂 I don't care if she reads a phone book
Me tooo😢😢😢
I'm wondering if it's over for good. I know one baby makes it more difficult for the work tasks and having two DEFINITELY shifts things. Maybe her channel will be only lifestyle content from here on out. If that is the case, I'm glad she left us with a solid library to fall asleep to!
Girl, so do I.
You are right Julia, marriage changes through the years, that’s natural, the key is communication and learning to change TOGETHER!
they aren't married (and that doesn't change a thing), but yes we get the idea
Ideally but in real life having kids destroys relationships. They were struggling just b4 she got pregnant and this may be the last nail in the coffin...2 kids so close together in time...that is hard as fuck.
It’s so important to normalize growing with your partner and moving through change together
Julia,
I have been with my husband 35 years and there are still things we continually work on. Relationships constantly change and as we roll through phases in life it changes again. Our only child is a disabled adult. We are winding down into retirement and we have taken on my elderly disabled mother so things have changed once more . The evolution of one’s relationship is constant.
From personal experiences and friends experiences, people with a history of addiction will struggle a lot with escapism and feeling overwhelmed when having new children. At least for a while. Its a completely new adjustment even for those that didnt struggle with that in the past. Its just a matter of taking it day by day, finding what brings you joy and communicate.
Becoming a parent, often ppl litterally find themselves mourning their life before children. Even though you love your children, the first few years is an adjustment. Eventually, you come to realize you are still you, but different and evolved.
Also when raising children, every phase and every stage is temporary, the good ones and the not so good ones 😆.
Little kid time is really a test for a lot of relationships. So much changes so quickly. The child changes quickly, your roles in the household change, your priorities. I've been married almost 20 years, and we've definitely had ups and downs of all sorts, but the shift into parenthood was the most difficult on us. Honestly, we struggled the first few years with kids. Just look for the best in each other and don't let the struggles with each other overshadow the sweet and short season you're in with your babies. Best of luck to you guys!
i appreciate your honesty. relationships are hard work. social media rewards people for making theirs look perfect. we need to remember that we’re all just working through our own shit. thank you for the reminder
I've struggled in my relationship with the idea of having a child or not having a child and how both choices would affect us. We decided children aren't for us for a lot of good reasons. I feel like there is so much pressure put on parents now with the amount of time just focusing on kids. I applaud your awareness, and I wish you and Nick a lot of grace and love on your journey, figuring out being parents in a relationship.
I feel like Honor was just born, but here she is speaking! She is blessed with your lips!
As an adult child of two (high-functioning and closeted) former addicts, I can say that addressing whatever issues you have (whether it be with one's own self or within a relationship) the sooner you sit down and address them, the better. These issues do not simply go away on their own. And unresolved issues (regarding addiction or otherwise) can and do absolutely affect kids in the long run. Best of luck to you and your beautiful family and thank you for sharing. ♡
I love that stage in toddlers where they're talking but also aren't talking somehow and yet you can understand what they're saying lol
It’s true - Moms know how to decode the secret language 😂
“What’s mommy’s name”
“Julia”
“well Julia yes”
Lmaoo wasn’t expecting her to say the government
😂😂😂😂
That’s so smart she knows it though in case you ever get separated in public. ❤️
Always great to get your life updates, take care of yourself and your special family ❤
Nearly dying helped my relationship 🤣
After my partner and I had our twins, we struggled a lot. We even separated for about 2 months. We got back together but fell into a rut, we went like...6 years without any kind of intimacy, like no holding hands, certainly no romance. During this time, I started to get really sick and then I went into cardiac arrest. I almost died. I was on life support for two weeks, then spent another few weeks having to be in a facility getting IV antibiotics (54 days total). When I got out, he definitely appreciated me more and even our love life rekindled. I don't recommend trying to revitalize your relationship in this way. 😅
6 years with no intimacy?!
@@woodyx10 yaaaaaaas! Like maybe a hug before either of us left for work, kiss kinda on the cheek but near the mouth but not on the mouth. But not because I wanted other ppl, just not my partner, I didn't want to be intimate with anyone.
Really glad you’re sharing relationship struggles! This is supposed to be normal, and I’m glad you both are finding a way to understand and work through it. I’m a strong believer of perfect isn’t real when it comes to relationships because it’s two people with different upbringings and beliefs coming together and the overlap of beliefs is limited. I constantly battle the real versus the media and the struggles I know I face within my personal relationship (romantic and friendship). I hope the best for you and your family. Thank you for being real and raw. Always rooting for you!
My husband and I are retired, and we are spending so much wonderful time together. It's like falling in love all over again. We remember the difficult times. Just like you we talk about it and we encourage other couples to talk through it.
You always bring something unique to the table, can't get enough!
🫶🏻❤️🫶🏻
Honor has grown so much! She’s beautiful Julia ❤❤ And Happy Belated Birthday!
ETA: thank you for being open about your relationship with the ups and downs. It’s refreshing and I appreciate it your honesty. It’s like talking to an old friend with their perspective and helps us(or at least me) examine our own relationships. Thank you Julia ❤
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for being here!
I have been with my husband for 7 years and there is so much pressure to present a perfect front to people, but the reality is that magic is not what keeps people together for years and years. People who love each other so much can get shit on over and over again by circumstance and end up ripped apart and then people who aren't that right for each other might not face difficult trials and end up together a long time. There is a lot of work that goes into relationships and it can be so lonely to keep it all to yourself just to save face.
I appreciate you talking about your relationship. It’s real shit and I applaud you for that authenticity. We all innerstand it deeply. Especially longterm relationships. It’s a different kind of experience that not many people talking about or even get through these days.
Watching your vlog while feeding my 2 month old and feeling this completely! Long term relationship, surprise pregnancy which was incredibly traumatic and baby was in Nicu for 3+ months (he’s actually 5 months, 2 months corrected).
Our communication is horrible, we fight constantly over such mundane stuff and I feel heart broken that one of the happiest times in our lives has been so tough. These huge life changes are so difficult to manage for even the strongest of couples.
Thank you for speaking about it. No judgment at all, just solidarity. ❤️
Thank you for sharing what has been on your heart Julia. My marriage didn’t survive past 2 years and a child as my ex suffered with covert narcissism and long term bouts of alcohol addiction issues. It was a brutal experience. We sought help everywhere, from traditional talk therapy, energy work, entity attachment ‘exorcisms’ for addiction to kinesiology and beyond. What we learnt together in the end was that love is actually simple, if we are grateful and mindful of each other’s needs. It is when we fall into our childhood triggers, insecurities, competitiveness, control and victimhood that shit turns sideways. It really takes radical self reflection and responsibility on how you each play out the game that changes the game. Going the holistic route and seeing an energy healer and a homeopath to release all my trauma, codependency issues and blockages really helped me. Sending love and good energy in these challenging times…
Thank you for being so genuine on social media in regard to your relationship. It’s really refreshing to see that. We are all human, and as such, most of us will experience a full range of emotions (the good and not-so-good) in our long-term relationships (including friendships and relationships with family members, not only romantic connections). As you said, kind and loving communication and working on ourselves when needed definitely helps to create more positive interactions.
Happy belated bday! And so glad the anatomy scan went well.
You guys are gonna go far. You have built and are building such a loving, open, and communicative environment with your growing family. My husband and I have been together since we were 17 years old and we are 36 now. We have two kids, have been through pregnancy losses, sickness, financial struggles, deployments, moves, the works. We have had to break down walls and rebuild together so many times. Without that, you don't grow. You go through the changes and after you adapt you realize just how much stronger you've become. You are doing great. ❤
Dear Julia. Your honesty and realness, I believe, are much appreciated by all of us. You are very relatable and that is what brings us back here and causes us to take an interest in your life and cheer you on. I know I am not alone in wishing you a wonderful rest of your pregnancy and for your beautiful, growing family - the most lovely future.❤
Absolutely relationships go through ups and downs and so many changes. I wouldn’t make sense for things not to change after years. What makes the relationship special and worth it is the ability to always work through it and talk about it. I appreciate you shedding light on this topic because even though it’s so normal and even healthy many people tend to forget that.
I'm so glad you uploaded today- earlier I commented on your last video that I hoped you were ok- and then hours later- this! 🙂 I appreciate your authenticity so much.. it's fresh air on YT- along with your intelligence. Thank you.
Just reading the comments is a testimony to hiw valuable it is to share our struggles. No one is alone, no one is perfect and we are continually growing and changing. That's why communication and quality time is so important. Honor will also benefit from that time. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I'm so so happy that your pregnancy is going well and you can relax into it. Much love! ❤
Acknowledging there is a problem is the first step to finding a solution ❤ Blessings to you!
love this, i’m 24 and learning so much from your videos Julia. have been watching your asmr and vlogs for a long time. struggling with relationships and what i want to do i life. Thanks to this kind of content, i know its just a part of life and to always be kind to myself.
Thank you for being transparent I’ve watched your channel for years and it’s always enlightening and informative💕💕💕I hope peace and positive change continues to find you and Nick💕💕💕
Struggles are so normal in long term relationships/marriages. We all tend to fall into routines and sometimes those routines are easy but they're not healthy for our relationships. Once you get in that rut too, it can be really hard to get out of it. It can be really hard, but usually really worth it when you can come to a better place in your relationship.
All relationships take work and having kids is stressful - wonderful - but stressful. Good to refocus, communicate, and put the work in to keeping your relationship healthy. A big part of that is carving out solo time together. ❤
I will always appreciate your raw honesty. You’re a rare one. Hope everything works out, truly. You deserve the best,
I love how candid and open you are! Been watching your journey for years and love how you speak like you’re talking to a friend. Congrats on the 2nd baby! ❤
I felt this!!! When my husband and I first got married I was terrified when we had a huge blowout, no one talks about how to move past hard times in a relationship. Thank you for bringing awareness to low times in relationships. For us we just have to remember we are in this for the long haul and life isn’t perfect and that’s ok we can try again tomorrow. ❤
Thanks for being so genuine and real.
Gosh, your girl is so adorable!!
Thank you for speaking about relationship struggles. It's difficult to find people sharing these things, and so often it does seem like everyone else's relationship is just wonderful without too major of issues. So it's refreshing to have such authenticity!
Thank you for your openness about the subjects that are kind of difficult to talk about, I know that a lot of people, including myself are grateful for that. You really make us feel identified and less alone, even though you are a private person (like me), you deliver the message without sharing too much or expose your private manners. I hope you and baby are doing well ❤
Happy belated birthday Julia! That chef idea is an excellent way to celebrate. I wish you a great year ahead filled with all kinds of fun & rewarding things imaginable.
Thank you so much for your honesty. It takes courage! Your channel is truthfully helping me.
I love your honesty speak your truth it’s so good for the soul to be honest and have it in the open
Honor is so sweet and so smart. It’s been a treat watching her grow through your videos. I hope you find the energy for ASMR again one day. And as for your relationship with Nick, thanks for being real about your struggles. it’s very refreshing. I hope that you both find a way to get through the rough patch and can work it out. I’m sure that you will.
So good seeing you! I echo the “I miss your asmr” posts from others. It’s just good to see your face, see sweet Honor (she’s growing up!), and can’t wait to whiteness you becoming a wonderful mother of two. ❤❤
Communication is so key in a relationship ❤
Thank you so much for your honesty and open mind.
Ive been together with my other half for 21 years, and Im almost 34 years old. We started as a distance relationship couple, then we moved together when I was old enough. We love eachother so much, but the growing process is really really challenging. And it never stops. But thats part of the game, for everyone.
You sharing your thoughts on your relationship was really relieving and reassuring to me as someone who's in her first relationship and therefore learning how much effort it takes only now. It's easy to see other people in relationships and feel like they're happy and on the same page all the time, and consequently calling into question the quality and compatibility of your own relationship especially when what we see online and on social media are extravagant gestures and your own relationship is very subtle and domestic and ordinary - which aren't bad things, but again it's easy to doubt if you're doing this whole love thing right because your relationship doesn't look like other people's. It was comforting to hear you say that even couples who love each other a lot and have great compatibility genuinely go through really rough patches sometimes. Thank you for your videos and your honesty Julia
I really appreciate you being open about relationship. I was surprised how hard my relationship got after having a child. With 2 people being very exhausted, there is a lot that needs to be managed with a family. There is constant adjusting and it can be draining. I think compassion is very important, but there also needs to be responsibility for ones own emotions and behavior. I think that in trying times there comes out what's in there and sometimes it is unhealthy copingmechanisms, but it is really hard to work on yourself in times of survival and exhaustion. It just feels a lot of times so hard and lonely because it seems like everyone is thriving and you are struggling, even when both people are really trying the best they can.
I really appreciated the conversation around long term relationships. Social media has put so much focus on the best moments, but growing with another person over time isn’t always social-media perfect. Thank you for sharing.
I feel you so much! A child doesn't change the love between the parents but suddenly the love becomes kind of work... We are challenging the same problems since our daughter was born: eyes are on yourself or the baby but not the partner. And because of that it sometimes feels like loosing each other.
So we made a vow: every night before I bring her to bed we quickly tell us our highlight/best moment of the day. And we try to thank each other for every little thing. And when we fight, we try to hug when we notice the other is getting louder.
Thanks for sharing and being a realistic person ❤ you're so great 💖🌈
I love that you share the struggles in your relationship because it makes me feel like the struggles that I am having within my relationship are just part of the experience. Obviously every struggle and relationship is different but knowing every long term relationship has struggles and we all do go through them is a helpful reminder that you can struggle and it doesn't have to end a relationship. Love your content and you as a person julia !💕
As someone in their first serious relationship which has recently had its ups and downs, i love hearing about this and i find your openness on this subject so helpful and important. thank you so much for sharing!
Real talk is so important! Especially about relationships. So many lives on the internet are highly curated and its refreshing to hear the real ralk. Thanks for always being so honest.
Can I just tell u…I love Nick!! 👍😎
Julia….u guys have my heart!! 🙏
Thank you for sharing and being real. 🌹 In my experience, the most important thing when dealing with relationship adjustments, especially when it comes to past experiences which are misaligned and that resurface in patterns (see addiction, which not both of the people in the couple have experienced), - the most important thing is defining and agreeing a timeline for things to happen and for you both to work on them. Time is key to see progress, and to be able to look at how both of you are actually putting your most genuine effort in making it work. For me, it led to recognizing we could not be together any longer, after 4 years together and a last draining year of hope, conversations and hard work from both sides. Yet, it was the necessary choice, the absolute just choice. Wishing you all the best and that you find the way that responds to your soul's needs.
I can't believe how grown Honor is! You're doing an amazing job speaking to her like an adult so she develops her speech quickly. A friend of mine did that, and her girl was incredibly articulate by the time she was 4. So relieved to hear that your scan went well. Excited for you!
Btw, I think it's very wise that you and Nick do therapy, and that you're investing some thought into how you would handle something completely unexpected in the future. I think I mentioned a couple of years ago, when I was 36 I suddenly became extremely ill. I'm 53 now, I lost my chance to have kids, never got married, and haven't worked since. I'm still very ill and have little mobility. I never ever imagined something like this happening to me, and it's been so heartbreaking. Our society tends to avoid dealing with hard emotions, and think these horrible things only happen to other people. I've realized that it leaves us very unprepared if something does happen, and the resulting impact can be mentally and emotionally devastating. I've watched your videos for several years, and from what I see, you don't turn away from dealing with the difficult thoughts and emotions. That's not only going to serve you well, it's going to have a really healthy impact on your kids. 💜
Happy late bday Julia💕✨
Edited to add:
Thank you for sharing about your struggles. It’s not easy to do, so I appreciate the openness 💚
Honor is so cute!!! 😍😍😍 I love these videos as much as I love your asmr videos. I’m so glad your pregnancy is going well. You’re a great mama!!!❤️
You’re such a delight to watch❤️❤️
I totally relate to your relationship issues. I'm a mom of 5, and my husband and I have been together for almost 19 years. Relationships definitely have ups and downs, and it's important to talk about and normalize. We also struggle with communication and making time for our relationship. I appreciate the insight from your therapist about what if your partner suddenly passed. As hard as it is to think about, it really makes you realize what's important. Sending love and positive energy to you. ✨️
I really love that you guys can recognize these issues. When I was 17, I got married and had a baby all in 1 year. By the time I was 27, I'd had 6 pregnancies. One was a miscarriage, and one was our oldest daughter who died at 1 year and 17 days from a reaction to medication. We've recently celebrated our 39th anniversary. We've gone thru some of the things that tear marriages and people into pieces, but we've managed to hold it together. It took a lot of work, a lot of commitment to each other, and the family we created, and it took a lot of deep love for each other. There are times when you just really don't want to talk to your partner and times when you may not even like them, and that's ok, I think it's very natural because we're all unique and individual and it can be hard sometimes to meld those differences. But it's part of the process, and as long as you're still in love and committed, you'll conquer all the tough stuff, and years later, when you're grandparents, you'll look back and think, yeah every bit of it was worth it. I can't think of much that is sadder than people who loved each other enough to build a life, but not be willing or able to fight for it. I love that you guys work for it! ❤
Hi Sweet Julia, Im 18 years in to marriage and it ebbs and flows. I wish people would be more honest about relationships because they want to push the big romance on us all but the truth is that the most wonderful love anyone can hope for is a partner that stays in the good, the bad and all in between. You're doing an amazing job. Thanks for sharing with us and I'm always rooting for you❤❤ S.
Thank you for sharing about your relationship. Being in a relationship is so hard no matter how compatible and loving the relationship is. I am in a 15 year relationship with 2 kids and we have had many chapters together. He is my person, but that doesn’t the constant communication and navigating through everyone’s needs isn’t exhausting. And then you throw in life like a pandemic or a family illness or a pregnancy. Thanks for normalizing!
Happy belated birthday, Julia
I appreciate you sharing about your relationship. I think every single person in a long term relationship can agree with you. We may not have the exact same issues or backgrounds but we can all use work. Kids take a huge amount of time and energy but you can see all that work you put in is creating a wonderful little human. ❤️
Always happy to see a new video from you, love to see Honor, your everyday life and the little venting at the end.❤️I hope everything can be resolved and always wish you guys the best!!🙏
Your honesty is so refreshing. Relationships are hard.
shes so precious !
Honour is SO intelligent! how gorgeous ❤
Aha Sophomore Coffee! Coincidentally I started watching your RUclips right before I took a job in Baltimore and hearing your stories, like about the block, were some of the first things I learned about the city 😂 but honestly it felt like a sign I was making the right decision to move. I remember you mentioned your favorite coffee shop but couldn't remembered the name. Finally here it is!! I think I'll give it a try tomorrow 😊
Definitely go!!! Tell Kris I said hello 😀❤️
Im going through a ton in my relationship so I appreciate you speaking on it ❤ makes me feel not so alone
Wow ur so sweet gentle and clear as a mom I love it !
thank you for being so vulnerable
❤ you’re the best, thank you for sharing, you’re not alone ❤
Awh she’s so cute!! ❤❤
Omg she’s talking so much! Adorable 🥰
i’m so glad you’re feeling better in your pregnancy. also, honour is so sweet!
I’m glad that you respect Nicks privacy like you do. So many women would just throw it all out there for the world to know! 🌸
Love your content! Happy that you're still able to make any content. Also, Native toothpaste is what I recommend since you asked.
The way she says Julia is so cute I melted
i love and adore your honesty, especially as a parent with a young child in a long term relationship and i feel you on the issues thing. we might be living parallel lives LOL. i wish we were friends. THANK YOU.
Thank you for being honest. I have a 17 month old and totally understand how a relationship can change. I also understand about addictions and everything. I really like that you shared that. Thank you.
Thank you for keeping it real. Relationships aren’t all rainbows and happy. I’m madly in love with my husband but we still have issues. It’s just being human, living in this crazy world. As with all things in life, it can be adjusted and the path can be redirected if both parties want what is best. Sending positive thoughts that you are able to find this new path and this stressor comes off your plate. Much love!❤
Love to you and your growing family, so happy you got good news and some relief ❤ you and nick are certainly not alone, thank you for sharing openly. It can be very challenging to be with a partner that is in recovery. I think your commitment to each other and to love and growth will triumph over the inevitable character defects that come with the territory. I try my best to look at it as the blessing that it is, the connection that is possible with someone who is actively healing in recovery is so very deep and meaningful. When you’ve hit rock bottom and worked so hard to find the solution, one day at a time, it’s truly a life worth living. Blessings to you and Nick and the love you have for each other ❤❤❤
I enjoyed Honor’s joy sooooo much!
Absolutely love your vlogs & content in general 🥰
Always appreciate your honesty
Your videos are very comforting to me. I wish you all the best 🫶🏻
Thank you for candidly sharing about this 🩵
The hair is hairing!!! It looks so good and healthy 🤌🏼
Relationships are so hard and ever-changing, add little ones in the mix, and somedays its like "Do I even know this person anymore" my husband and I have been together for 20 years now, since I was 18 years old. We have a beautiful 2 and a half year old little girl, "Harper." Some advice I always try to go by: Keep the faith, keep the communication goin, Speak from the heart and not from an "angry tongue" and most of all be honest and open my friend! ❤❤
I would literally love to nanny her she is the cutest thing ever
Honor is such a pretty girl and getting big my goodness ! 🙊💕
You’re very brave for talking about the relationship realness, me and my partner went through something very similar. It’s more common then not!
your vlogs are the best I get so excited when you post
i felt this ❤ so happy for you always.
I typed this comment like six times trying to articulate what I want to say properly and I don’t think I’m going to succeed, but I appreciate how candid you’re choosing to be about your relationship because you don’t owe the public anything. Not only that, but what you had to say came at a perfect time for this internet stranger. I’m not having any more kids, but some of the things you said really resonated with me still and I needed to hear them. Thank you for sharing. 🖤 Also I can’t believe you’re halfway through this pregnancy and Honor is so big already! Your family is precious.
Congratulations to you both & Honor ❤🙏
I think every relationship, romantic or not, goes through ups and downs. I try to tackle things when I see them. I mean it took me four years into my relationship to work on my issues and addiction. You have to take things one thing at a time and tackle it head on. No avoiding it or coming back to it later. Unfortunately I learned the hard way these lessons. Thank God my partner is amazing...and wondeful.
Thank you so much for sharing, always good to keep it real.