They couldn't even apologize as their very first action so they're not worth a response, they're just trying to lessen their own guilt. I could see them trying to get OP to reconcile with his false accuser with the pretext of family.
The beginning of this story is eerily similar to my own story, I was 21, recently engaged and working as an apprentice electrician and the youngest but I had an older brother. This was back in 1993 when my 14 cousin accused me of SA. The first I knew about was the police arresting me, I was naive enough to think as was I innocent then I would be OK. When I was bailed I soon realised that being innocent meant nothing if no one believes you, my entire family disowned me as well as my fiancée and all but my best friend and also my boss, my friend gave me a roof over my head for a week and I lost my job my boss gave me 3 months worth of wages. They were the only 2 though. I lived in a small town so it was hard to not be seen and my uncle, my cousins dad, her brother, my brother and my dad eventually found me. Let’s just say if someone didn’t call the police I probably wouldn’t be here today, I spent 2 weeks in the hospital, I had 11 broken bones in my hand arm, leg and foot. End of the 2nd week my parents found me in a hospital in another town and I was petrified they had come to finish the job, so that night I snuck out of the hospital, I removed the casts, got dressed and walked to the nearest train station and head as far away as I could. I slept that first night behind a bin at the train station I got to, I was just running from my family I was now running from the police well at least I thought I was. I wouldn’t find this out for over 9 years but thar day my parents came to see me they came to tell me my cousin had recanted her story. I spent most of that time sleeping on the streets unlike the OP, I was hospitalised with pneumonia and my finger prints taken as I had no ID and wasn’t able to talk and 3 days later when I woke up my parents my at my bedside, good job I was catheterised or I’d have wet the bed. I would find put I was never a wanted criminal, the charges had been dropped when I was in the hospital. They eventually took me home, where the family was waiting, including my cousin but also their spouses, so and children and I just started to cry. Everyone thought it was joy but it was anger, as I realised that they had all just gotten on with their lives on the preceding 9 years, had they even thought about at all. I screamed at the top of my lungs in rage and smashed my hand on the table and everyone went quiet just looked at me. I just asked the one thing that I had wanted to know of the last 9 years. What had I ever said or done in my life, that they not only believed I was capable of doing what I’d been accused of but that they also never even allowed me to defend myself. The room was quiet for a minute, when my mum said let’s not talk about it now its a time to get to know each other again. I just started to laugh as looked around the room and limped out room, my broken foot and leg never properly healed. That was late 2002 and I’ve never spoken to a member of my family since. I know my parents are both dead as they left me all there money but instead I told the solicitor to split it up and gave an amount to all the nieces and nephews I had, I didn’t want brother and sisters to say I’d cheated them out of anything. It’s now 2024 and I’ll soon be 53. I live alone, I’ve never married or even had a relationship, my therapist called it trust issues, lol, I went to university as a mature student and got a degree in computing, I have a job in IT that I world odd hours for. I have a warm bed to sleep on now and food in the fridge and thats all I need.
@@WilliamH-et4 Though my own family did the opposite, the women took the abusers side (not even denying he did it, just he is somehow the victim). But too many times with these false accusations absolutely nothing happens to the accuser. If they truly are apologetic then for the same amount of years he’s had no family she should be cut from theirs (honestly it should be permanent)
Story 1: They didn't even apologize when they reached out. They're just trying to lessen their guilt for ruining OP's life and putting the onus of reconciliation on OP by using the nieces and nephews. Never respond and just block them. They'll either get the message or they won't but they're not worth contacting ever again.
His response: "I'm terrible thank you for asking, your concern a decade past is duky noted; why in God's green hell would you think I'd remotely care about my sisters' brood much less want them to meet a person such as I?
They disowned you on an allegation but are only angry at her. I've been in your shoes but for other reasons and no amount of apologies can mitigate your hurt. Whatever you do take it slow
Hey now they were very upset with her and sent her to her room without any supper while telling her they were very disappointed in her...I cannot imagine a worse punishment.
Brutal story. It’s a terrible symptom of what happens when the family unit is weakened. I couldn’t imagine my father automatically believing something like that to the point of disowning me.
Yea, she lied to OP to cover the meet up. There's no trust anymore. I wouldn't believe her for a single nano second if she said she didn't sleep with him.
S1. They want forgiveness but didn't apologize. Don't meet on there terms, in person, if anything have a video call. S2. So she's getting off of BC and is as bad as a rabbit, if anything that makes it worse. Ask for her for an STD report, and a prenuptial. If she starts going on about trust, just say it's about the blocked person.
Story 1: after much consideration you want forgiveness but never apologized to me for what happened, you believed my cousin and she kept up a lie for nearly a decade, so whoever this person is that you disowned on that day is me now, and I’m way better off without you. I’m not saying that OP did anything to the cousin but OP mentions that they were in college at the time, had to defend their bachelor’s thesis and graduated not long after, it’s sounding like the cousin had become jealous of OP due to their success and it could’ve been a revenge act in a way
Story one: Bro should just ignore his relatives, a reunion would only benefit his relatives, they need the closure to ease their guilt while OP is not obligated at all to talk to them and make himself miserable. Story 2: Shit, OP is hardcore, snorting all that copium by the bucket 😂
Wow, that’s a tough one. I would say if you life was going great without them then move on, but let’s be honest. It’s not you need your family so I definitely would get with my psychiatrist and definitely meet with your family. Wouldn’t understanding that does know hugging and no guarantee that you’re going to accept them back in your life, talk to them individually find out what’s happening and from there make a decision because again your life is not that great right now. This might be just what you need to fix your life.
Proper response: "I don't have a family anymore. They all died in an accident caused by a complete piece of crap about 9 years ago.
How are you now?
They couldn't even apologize as their very first action so they're not worth a response, they're just trying to lessen their own guilt. I could see them trying to get OP to reconcile with his false accuser with the pretext of family.
Naaah that too soft would have said something under the lines of " hey this is op's friend, he passed away a year ago 😊".
The beginning of this story is eerily similar to my own story, I was 21, recently engaged and working as an apprentice electrician and the youngest but I had an older brother. This was back in 1993 when my 14 cousin accused me of SA. The first I knew about was the police arresting me, I was naive enough to think as was I innocent then I would be OK. When I was bailed I soon realised that being innocent meant nothing if no one believes you, my entire family disowned me as well as my fiancée and all but my best friend and also my boss, my friend gave me a roof over my head for a week and I lost my job my boss gave me 3 months worth of wages. They were the only 2 though. I lived in a small town so it was hard to not be seen and my uncle, my cousins dad, her brother, my brother and my dad eventually found me. Let’s just say if someone didn’t call the police I probably wouldn’t be here today, I spent 2 weeks in the hospital, I had 11 broken bones in my hand arm, leg and foot. End of the 2nd week my parents found me in a hospital in another town and I was petrified they had come to finish the job, so that night I snuck out of the hospital, I removed the casts, got dressed and walked to the nearest train station and head as far away as I could. I slept that first night behind a bin at the train station I got to, I was just running from my family I was now running from the police well at least I thought I was. I wouldn’t find this out for over 9 years but thar day my parents came to see me they came to tell me my cousin had recanted her story. I spent most of that time sleeping on the streets unlike the OP, I was hospitalised with pneumonia and my finger prints taken as I had no ID and wasn’t able to talk and 3 days later when I woke up my parents my at my bedside, good job I was catheterised or I’d have wet the bed. I would find put I was never a wanted criminal, the charges had been dropped when I was in the hospital. They eventually took me home, where the family was waiting, including my cousin but also their spouses, so and children and I just started to cry. Everyone thought it was joy but it was anger, as I realised that they had all just gotten on with their lives on the preceding 9 years, had they even thought about at all. I screamed at the top of my lungs in rage and smashed my hand on the table and everyone went quiet just looked at me. I just asked the one thing that I had wanted to know of the last 9 years. What had I ever said or done in my life, that they not only believed I was capable of doing what I’d been accused of but that they also never even allowed me to defend myself. The room was quiet for a minute, when my mum said let’s not talk about it now its a time to get to know each other again. I just started to laugh as looked around the room and limped out room, my broken foot and leg never properly healed. That was late 2002 and I’ve never spoken to a member of my family since. I know my parents are both dead as they left me all there money but instead I told the solicitor to split it up and gave an amount to all the nieces and nephews I had, I didn’t want brother and sisters to say I’d cheated them out of anything. It’s now 2024 and I’ll soon be 53. I live alone, I’ve never married or even had a relationship, my therapist called it trust issues, lol, I went to university as a mature student and got a degree in computing, I have a job in IT that I world odd hours for. I have a warm bed to sleep on now and food in the fridge and thats all I need.
They sound evil.
your story sent chills down my spine. I’m so sorry.
Did you at least kill any of the people who jumped you?
@@WilliamH-et4Course she didn’t, where were the women to hospitalize the cousin for what she did? No, it’s live and let live
@@WilliamH-et4 Though my own family did the opposite, the women took the abusers side (not even denying he did it, just he is somehow the victim). But too many times with these false accusations absolutely nothing happens to the accuser. If they truly are apologetic then for the same amount of years he’s had no family she should be cut from theirs (honestly it should be permanent)
Story 1: They didn't even apologize when they reached out. They're just trying to lessen their guilt for ruining OP's life and putting the onus of reconciliation on OP by using the nieces and nephews. Never respond and just block them. They'll either get the message or they won't but they're not worth contacting ever again.
This is why the presumption of innocence needs to be the cornerstone of everyone's lives.
His response: "I'm terrible thank you for asking, your concern a decade past is duky noted; why in God's green hell would you think I'd remotely care about my sisters' brood much less want them to meet a person such as I?
Stay far away from them and keep doing the things that build you up
I would simply put “I have no family” and block her
They disowned you on an allegation but are only angry at her. I've been in your shoes but for other reasons and no amount of apologies can mitigate your hurt. Whatever you do take it slow
Hey now they were very upset with her and sent her to her room without any supper while telling her they were very disappointed in her...I cannot imagine a worse punishment.
Some ppl only apologize only when they get caught.
Story 2: Dude needs to get off the copium.
Brutal story. It’s a terrible symptom of what happens when the family unit is weakened. I couldn’t imagine my father automatically believing something like that to the point of disowning me.
We need a simp trigger warning for the last story.
stroy2) break up she did it, even if she hasn't done anything physical it can still be an emotional affair
Yea, she lied to OP to cover the meet up. There's no trust anymore. I wouldn't believe her for a single nano second if she said she didn't sleep with him.
S1. They want forgiveness but didn't apologize. Don't meet on there terms, in person, if anything have a video call.
S2. So she's getting off of BC and is as bad as a rabbit, if anything that makes it worse. Ask for her for an STD report, and a prenuptial. If she starts going on about trust, just say it's about the blocked person.
Substituting "sensual" for "sexual" in this context might be the creepiest possible choice.
we had a great relationship since the beginning.................no op, you did not have a great relationship in the beginning
Story 1: after much consideration you want forgiveness but never apologized to me for what happened, you believed my cousin and she kept up a lie for nearly a decade, so whoever this person is that you disowned on that day is me now, and I’m way better off without you.
I’m not saying that OP did anything to the cousin but OP mentions that they were in college at the time, had to defend their bachelor’s thesis and graduated not long after, it’s sounding like the cousin had become jealous of OP due to their success and it could’ve been a revenge act in a way
Story one: Bro should just ignore his relatives, a reunion would only benefit his relatives, they need the closure to ease their guilt while OP is not obligated at all to talk to them and make himself miserable.
Story 2: Shit, OP is hardcore, snorting all that copium by the bucket 😂
Wow, that’s a tough one. I would say if you life was going great without them then move on, but let’s be honest. It’s not you need your family so I definitely would get with my psychiatrist and definitely meet with your family. Wouldn’t understanding that does know hugging and no guarantee that you’re going to accept them back in your life, talk to them individually find out what’s happening and from there make a decision because again your life is not that great right now. This might be just what you need to fix your life.
She told her friend you were better she slept with him
Story 1; This is why you never believe a woman
S2
Never date flight attendants
Story two wtf ? Do people not value them selfs
Possibly he's somewhere where it's culturally unacceptable to be single. Just pick one where being a virgin is treated like having a chronic disease
Coud they not be charged for somethng.