"There are those who say fate is something beyond our command. That our destiny is not our own, but I know better. Our fate lives within us, you only have to be brave enough to see it."- Merida. (✨A motivational quote from my favorite curly-haired disney princess)
Very true.I failed to pass class 12th twice in 2020 and 2021 but I just cannot put it on fate.I know through my efforts I will pass this last year of high school and why just pass,I can and I will score 95+.
I believe you're referencing "empaths". We feel more, care more & that can be a struggle within itself. I don't know if you are one or not but when you did a video on the pregnant moth you helped, I thought then that you too were that kindred, empath spirit. Thank you for opening up & thank you for being the lovely, caring person you are. We need more humans like you.
Details below ⬇️ Today I wanted to celebrate several years of being the happiest and healthiest I have ever been. I went from barely being able to stay standing during a work shift (and downing liters of soda a day to keep me going🙈) to hiking 5 miles up a mountain last year! I was so proud of doing something I never thought I could. I have fallen in love with life again! Just felt that it is a story worth sharing, I gave some details and links below. More Details ⬇️ Addiction is a word people often avoid, I am using it specifically to try to normalize the word and spread awareness that it is a broad and sometimes misunderstood term ❤️ I would say many of us have benign habits we cannot manage to break (and that’s not necessary a bad thing - we can simply be addicted to processed foods, the internet, our morning cup of coffee). What we often associate with true addiction is drugs or alcohol, and yet we often don’t recognize other types of serious addictions that can also severely damage our health and wellbeing. The word can bring up a lot of uncomfortable feelings for many, and often shame in those who have experienced it. I wanted to make this video to encourage everyone to reach out before problems worsen, but mostly to empower anyone who wants to change their life. Also, to celebrate the beautiful journey of healing! We are all worthy of receiving help and practicing self-love. When I use the word addiction I use it in regards forms of habitual and compulsive self-harm that can affect your health and wellbeing. In my case, I was not having serious problems with hard drug use in particular - therefore, I was not always taken seriously when I opened up to others about food addiction, workaholism, and extreme stimulant/sedative abuse that severely affected my body (and that’s ok, I do not blame anyone for misunderstanding what someone shares, especially when they cannot relate to it. The journey to recovery is one that only I could make). I am a highly sensitive person, as many people naturally are, and combined with pmdd I struggled to manage my thoughts and emotions as a young adult. While I cannot speak for anyone else who has had an eating disorder, in my case the behaviors associated with this condition resulted in the temporary alleviation of stress, therefore, it was a very addictive cycle. I consider that, along with workaholism (and the abuse of sedatives and stimulants), these are very powerful addictions that are often not recognized as such (along with many others, including other types of food addiction, technology addiction, etc). I am happy to say that thanks to an incredible support structure I was able to make a full recovery several years ago. I am the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been - I hope everyone can find the courage to embrace life in all it’s colors, as I can say with confidence you will reap the rewards, though the journey there takes time. Of course, I know that everyone’s definition of addiction is different (I am not using it in the medical sense as I am not a professional), I’m not here to split hairs on what is and isn’t a serious addiction. We are all on an individual journey, and I’m just sharing my story. I’m not using the word in the context of mental illness as I am not versed in it, I’m using it simply from my understanding of being addicted to the release of repetitive self-harm. Please, I encourage everyone commenting to be respectful and refrain from speculation in relation to other people’s addictions and problems, all personal inquiries on someone else’s health should be done privately between the two people involved only. It is unkind to make baseless claims about another persons health (particularly a stranger’s) in a public space.
Thank you so much for sharing, your honesty is so refreshing and I really enjoy ending my Wednesdays watching your videos! I'm a highly sensitive person as well (with anxiety) - I describe myself as a walking emotion. Sometimes it can be difficult absorbing so much around me, and the past year or so has really taught me how essential self-care is. Learning how to feel grounded is SO important when it can be easy to get swept away by feeling.... everything.
Hi Paola, would you ever consider making a video or writing about your experiences with PMDD? Or specific ways you combat its symptoms? It is a confusing struggle, and surprisingly difficult to find other experiences or solutions online.
Dear Paola! It is you who has helped me to start healing from the progressing insomnia. The war has invaded my country, my child is not healthy, my mother had to be evacuated and become a refugee and few months later nearly died from the heart problems. With all that on the backgroung my progressing during last years insomnia did not seam to be such a problem in comparison. But recently I have realised how much responsibility is put on my shoulders and that I must stay in proper condition to face everything what life is sending us to struggle with and yet find happiness and peace of mind in the simpliest and the most beautiful things like the laugh of my child and a cup of tea. God bless you and your dear ones for being such a sushine in these dark times! Thank you with all my heart!!!
Paola, Buddha is credited with the quote, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." It is no coincidence that I found you at this transition time in my life. Many blessings to you, your loved ones--human and critter. Thank you for your healing words and nurturing guidance. Love and light.
Nam myoho renge kyo means to open and revive, it's the mystic law of cause and effect taught by the Buddha known as the Lotus Sutra. Being an HSP, hearing and seeing these videos are soothing, teaching me how to imagine a different way of life and healing one morsel, granual and petal at a time.
"... sacrifice long term happiness in order to make the short term bearable" A most succinct revelation. "... and life is beautiful because it is hard sometimes" Thank you for sharing/showing the journey.
Workaholism is a real problem, and an addiction, both one we create ourselves, and ones companies sometimes force on their employees. I heard once that we can become addicted to stress, to the point we'll *find* something to stress about, and we're not always even aware of it.
thank you for sharing - that’s very interesting, I never thought of stress like that but I see truth in it, how we seek to keep our lives chaotic because it is what we know or find strangely comforting, possibly fearing the future. I appreciate the insight! Best wishes
@@TheCottageFairy Adrenalin is addictive. I wondered if I could live without it after so many years. In time I could, and did.Naturally it required changes. Changes scared me; they also healed me.
Knowing how much effort and how many hours it takes to edit videos like these, where the “editing is invisible” because it’s seamless, I’m constantly amazed you offer a video every week. These are pieces of art. And to offer such personal and deep insights - with such maturity, at such a young age - and with so much intention toward sharing uplifting beauty to expand healing and joy in the world...I applaud all of it. The writing, too, is just lovely. I still can’t tell which pieces you edit, and which are your brother’s touch - I’m just appreciating these videos so much. Thank you. I look forward to them every week. Every Tuesday night, I say, Yay! Tomorrow is Wednesday!! And thank you, thank you, for speaking with such nuance and subtlety about today’s themes. Speaking truly authentically takes artfulness and care. Sometimes to really express what one experiences on their unique path, requires inventing new language, or framing things in new ways. Thank you!!
"life is beautiful BECAUSE it is hard" -- this resonated. I am recovering from alcohol addiction, and it's something nobody sees or saw because I never got drunk like you'd think of an alcoholic. But I craved and relied on it in ways that were extremely unhealthy. I appreciate this video, it's encouragement to keep going even when I miss the impermanent relief self medicating gives.
to anyone who waits patiently for a whole week to see the next episode...while you are waiting, you might also enjoy: a very gentle series called Lakes kayaking with Jon in Canada. He is a *very* sensitive guy who loves nature, has very poetic camera sequences with water, snow falling, grasses waving in the breeze and magic encounters with wildlife while he kayaks in remote areas. He always has a good book with him, and keeps us entertained with little quotes or role playing Sam or Frodo from LOR. He has a big back catalogue of these lovely films, sometimes his fiancee comes too or he has a friend along. But the ones he does solo are the best!
Thank you, Paola, for this fantastic video! People think that only chemical abuse addictions are truly damaging, but behavioral addictions can also damage and destroy individuals and families. As a survivor of behavioral addiction, I can tell you that literally everything you said about your experience resonated with my own experience. This video could be a valuable tool for any therapist who is counselling people struggling with behavioral addiction or damaging compulsive behavior. One insight I gained from my struggle was this: Even though I was not addicted to chemicals, I was engaging in behavior which stimulated my brain to produce chemicals as a "reward," allowing me to briefly escape my depression and anxiety. I was manufacturing MY drugs in my own head! The brief "high" always was quickly followed by terrible, long-lasting lows. it took years to figure this out and escape from the pattern. I have been "sober," so to speak, for over ten years now, and I am very grateful. Thank you for all you do! You are as wise as you are kind and beautiful.
it helps a lot to seek professional counselling. This really amounts to someone who is more than just a good listener, its someone who can make thoughtful suggestions at the right moment - THAT is a skill all by itself.
So glad you got ahold of it. Mine came from serious abuse. I am now 59 and am finally getting through it. Serious stress and abuse that led to multiple physical issues. I dropped out of society to heal much as you have and every day is a struggle.
wishing you the best on your journey - I cannot imagine the pain of abuse layered onto the issue. A lot to heal from to be sure. Hoping for a continued future of renewal. Thank you for sharing.
Moi aussi, tellement d abus que je trouve la paix depuis peu seulement a 72 ans. Il n est jamais trop tard. Le chemin est aride mais tout a son sens. Tout mon soutien💕
Thank you for sharing! I am also a highly sensitive person and struggled for many years in my youth by trying to be someone I was not. When I started watching your videos, I felt like you were a kindred spirit. Your kind words and the beauty that surrounds me brought tears to my eyes.
My 17 year old daughter is a lot like you. She has always been highly sensitive to sounds and people. She never liked anything too tight on her as a toddler. She's never even owned a pair of jeans. Too tight. When she's around too many people she wants to run away because she's very empathetic. She is also an artist. So she found her talent at a young age. She creates characters from "her" world and she has a story to go with every character. Your generation just amazes me with all your talents! Hopefully good changes are coming and more kids can actually do what they love for a living! Thank you for sharing your story with the world!
you have described me so perfectly I am so highly sensitive I have been all my life to everything even as a child . I have been so nauseated since April , pain in the hollow of my chest . I had a scan of my organs last week liver pancreas kidneys gall bladder nothing showed up, then last Tuesday an upper GI scan nothing showed . A million dollar work up only to find out out it is stress I see a councilor in 2 weeks. I can remember being like this as a little girl so sensitive to everything. I feel so broken . I want to thank you for putting this video out there ,it is as if you are talking to me I feel there is hope .I guess I just never thought of you as being stressed you are so calm to me . You worked on yourself as I must work on me Thank you so much have a lovely day !
As a high sensitive person I relate to your story. This fast and noisy world is not made for me and almost daily I have to remind myself that I need more peace and quit in daily life than others. With age and better knowing myself it gets easier ! Loving your videos, thank you for making them!
I also struggled with an eating disorder and with anxiety, and I'm also an HSP. Though you didn't tell yet, for the way you talked I could tell you were HSP. Your videos really help me when I want to relax, and they help me feel normal, because I relate with your struggles and your points of view. Thank you Paola ❤️
I experienced wild strawberries when I went to Poland, 2 years ago. They were literal Heaven. Anyway, I thoroughly enjoyed tonight's video. I wish there was a new one every day. But I can't be selfish. 🥰
I was in tears when you told the story of the canary in a coal mine. I can deeply relate to that. I found my way to appreciate myself for my high sensitivity, but sometimes I am still hard on myself because of it. I found writing to be my strongest companion to connect more deeply with myself and, thus, also with people who accept and love me the way I am. Thank you so much for this video.
In my youth I too suffered eating disorder, solace in drugs and alcohol...now 68, I've Finally found peace through acceptance of what "is" ....just life. Attitude and gratitude are so needed for a positive lifestyle....May God Hold You In The Palms Of His Loving Hands...thank you for all you bring each week to heal the world~~give hope in a short few moments through words, music and the beauty of nature.
If I recall, she did speak of and processed some flowers and even had a link in the description of a woman who's an expert in healing plants. I can't remember which video though. :))
Such a soothing video, it really calms the soul. In this busy world of hatred, anger, rivelry, drama, competition ,crime and what not, it's a previlage to watch such a video.
How brave and thoughtful you are! To let us see that behind the lovely, calm, dear friend we have made in you, behind the simple beauty and gentle spirit, there were difficulties and challenges that you have faced with grace and determination. As Highly Sensitive People, we are blessed by feeling things deeply but sometimes overwhelmed and drained by our intense responses to life. Your story helps me see your humanity and struggles instead of idealizing your life and imagining you have no problems in your beautiful fairy realm. Thank you for sharing the real process of embracing sensitivity as a blessing and not a curse!
Thank you very much ❤️ you are so right, sensitivity is a gift and it is a journey to understand it - took me a while to figure out it wasn’t a curse! Much love
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and life experience. Even though I’m older now ( soon to be 70 ) I face daily challenges due to health issues. Some days are tolerable and others are not, but I’ve realized that gratefulness keeps me going and that kindness with compassion are life giving to others and for myself. Thanks again for your inspiration and openness.
“Life is beautiful, because it is hard sometimes”- I can relate to that statement Paolo. I had and have many addictions. From Food 🍲 to alcohol 🍺. I’m on my journey to recovery for alcohol and food. The word Addiction may sound negative - but I know now it’s part of life. I have drop several addictions to pick up others: art and photography. The road to recovery is forever for me - and I can accept that. Love your message and thank you for sharing your experience with this.
Yep. I agree. I am exiled by family, friends and even a few colleagues. I left a religion causing the first estrangement and as for colleagues, I don't know what happened. I could guess, but to what end, so I resort to the child in me that knows all about self-pampering. If I didn't due that, the alternative would be tragic.
your soul bloomed in this video and shed a quiet morning light on being more aware of our vibrations. sometimes i feel as though i’m not of this place, this world we are currently spinning in. Then i question how others do that life so well and then wonder why not me ? now i appreciate being more sensitive to the mainstream and the need to go inside and be quiet and alone . It’s a necessity
Extraordinary, even for you. Thank you. Carl Jung and Joseph Campbell are sources of inspiration for the work that you are doing. Fairy tales, in particular, come to mind. In addition to being a talented artist, and someone of profound emotional intelligence, you may also be someone who can help others understand intellectually the magnificence to which you demonstrate witness through your life. I remain in awe of the elegant simplicity which you convey.
Thursdays are my fav since I get to kick start my day watching your video Paola, you've no idea what a great impact your videos are having on me ❤️, the only time I feel relaxed and calm is while watching your videos, much love to you all the way from Sri Lanka!!
Thank you for explaining highly sensitive people. It has always made me feel like a bad person. Not wanting to be in the population of others. People would tag me an antisocial. It helps to know that there is nothing wrong but perhaps that's why I was a hospice nurse for so long. During the dying process there is usually somber and stillness. ♥️
@Chantal Banon I was never drawn to nursing, but always loved to sing with others. This turned into performing as a paid hobby, which was equal parts fun/stressful. I still love harmony singing with others, but now i sing with my local Threshold Choir for anyone recovering from an illness who is stuck at home, and sometimes we do hospice work by invitation. This is a very special repertoire of music written to be performed for the dying. In the second half of my life, it is the best group i have ever belonged to - rehearsing and singing is pure joy.
Having breakfast in early morning, watching your calming and relaxing video's with sunlights passing by in room through corners of door frames 🥺✨ it's so magical 🍀
Oh, Paula - I just loved this one (as I love them all). Thanks for talking about your personal journey, including being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). I am, too. It really helps to hear someone of a similar mind/heart discuss the strengths and challenges of going through life as an HSP. Beautiful photography, music, and words, as usual. I so look forward to these :) thank you!
This speaks to my heart. I am a recovered addict from drugs smoking among other things. I knew they were developed out of a way to smother something. I did not realize what until this video. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. No one can judge what behaviors are serious or not serious, if they are affecting you in negative matter, then it is certainly serious. You’ve given me so much peace and joy and I’m grateful for your openness and your journey ❤️. Also, I relate with everything you’re saying
I appreciate that very much! Yes I think sometimes we get caught up with comparing, thinking something isn’t that bad because someone else’s situation is worse. It kept me from reaching out for many years. I’m glad I finally did. Thank you for sharing and your kindness ❤️
I see now that there is help available if we reach out. I've always thought and said there are others who have it worse but realize that our personal trials are not less important if we learn and grow. Change takes time and life is beautiful because it's hard.
"The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater." J.R.R. Tolkien
Thank you so much. You’re a solace in this broken world. You’re so brave for living the life you love and wanted. Not all people can do that including myself.
Addictions are so much more common than we realize. We often don’t even realize we have an addiction when there is one. Really any bad habit that is negatively affecting your life can be viewed as an addiction. Thanks so much for speaking out on this 💕
We the canary tribe.. A blessing not a curse.. This I learned very early on fortunately.. Early awareness of suffering and fear... My mind and body rejected addictions as the canaries constitution is fragile and sensitive too... BEAUTIFUL Authenticity 💚💚💚
I am so moved by your story ... Thank you for the confidence you give us, by telling this story... I am also grateful that you feel safe in this loving place you've created, called a comment section. Every time I come here, I feel at home. It is like a fairytale family. I mean, it brings hope to feel that there are people who are playful and read fairystories, even if we are called grownups. Thank you to everyone here and thank you Paola, for gathering us around this campfire of imagination, love and hope! Greetings from Nenne in Sweden
From a fellow HSP who is raising a daughter who’s also a HSP thank you so much for sharing your experience. I recently changed my lifestyle as well to embrace my sensitivity as a gift & a blessing. I love being in nature (gardens are my favorite) & I surround myself w/peace as much as possible. Praying for you that your journey will continue to be blessed. I’m so glad I found your channel. ♥️
Oh yes, I felt the same! ... I cried floods when I first read about HSP, about half a year ago ... But I feel that it is healing to cry, when you feel seen and heard in such a deep way ... It treleases a lot of old tention... Take care!! Greetings from Nenne in Sweden
I think this is such an important message you're conveying here, especially for us HSP's. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that many, if not most of us here fall into that wonderful category. ;) What a gift it is to finally understand our own needs as well as what we can offer to others, especially when we are well. I've had a lifetime of using sometimes harmful coping mechanisms (mostly invisible to others) to escape the overwhelm. During quarantine when I was homeschooling my kids, my health finally became so noticeably poor that I was forced to confront my entire way of thinking and behaving. I had to tell myself a better story. I started excercising again, which helped enormously, but what really flipped the switch for me was learning about intermittent fasting. Sounds strange I know, and as someone who can add an ED to the list of coping mechanisms I was afraid of it at first. But what it taught me was that my body needed complete rests from digestion for a certain number of hours in order to carry out vital functions of repair and maintenance. Just like my mind and my heart needed time and space to rest and restore. It completely changed how I thought of food and fasting and my body. Instead of viewing food and my body as adversaries in a reward/punishment scenario, which is a terrible addiction, I began to see my body as a gift that deserved my care, compassion, and attention, just like my kids and loved ones. Sometimes it needs nutritious food, and sometimes it needs rest. What's helped keep me going, despite the inevitable straying and distractions, is learning to really listen to myself and notice my own behaviours. I notice when I start using coping mechanisms to deal with discomfort, and instead of just staying stuck there, I try to make some space so that I can open the door to whatever's knocking. Remembering that reactions and emotions are changeable, moveable things, I'm getting better at letting them in, listening, and letting them move on. Thanks again, Paola, this is medicine work you're doing!
Hi Anna… So much ❤️❤️in your testimony and words. They resonate deeply with me. Even though this is 3 months old.. I believe in divine timing. As they say…. The teacher shows up when they are needed. Your insights are wonderful! Thank you for sharing Eileen
Thank you for sharing your struggles and recovery with us. I’m a retired professional licensed therapist and understand the struggles of a highly sensitive person-not because I was a therapist but because I’m a highly sensitive person. Because I counseling sexually abused children and had to testify in court on their behalf, I suffered PTSD. Through my own counseling and a change in lifestyle, I fully recovered. Now I have a little homestead and keeping animals and gardening has restored me emotionally and continues to bring me joy. So glad you are following your heart!
Thank you for sharing this. As another HSP and former person with Bulimia, I was really struck by your comments regarding listening and responding when someone shares their challenges. I was bulimic for over 10 years, but because I was overweight, no one took it seriously. What finally stopped me was my youngest son started showing signs of eating disorders and I realized that he was observing and reflecting back the behaviors I thought no one knew about. As I age, I have come to honor the fact that I need much more quiet and calm then many others and I honor this by giving myself that. I watch little news and television and watch YT channels like yours that are calming and edifying. I have learned to just to not subject myself to stress if I can and to remove myself from it if at all possible. I am glad you have made a life for yourself that has allowed your true being to grow and prosper.
Thank you so much for this💗 I will be 1 year sober on September 18th & it has been challenging for me to deal with the guilt, fear and all the negative emotions I avoided for so long. As hard as it has been for me, everyday gets better. Today I opened my windows & noticed the smell of the lovely cool fall air. My addiction robbed me of all my happiness. I stopped noticing all the things I love, like the sunshine & birds chirping. I am becoming me again & I can see the beauty of the world again. I can find joy in the simple things & notice the beauty around me. Everyday I notice something small like a pretty leaf or a smell in nature that I once loved but forgot. Rediscovering the world, it makes me appreciate life sm more💙
I am so enjoying watching you grow right in front of us. You are more self-assured in your presentations. More comfortable in your own skin. Your smile is glorious. Your bravery is showing through. What an encouragement it is to those who strive to move forward and change in this world when life isn't working for them. Your life journey is helping others to have the courage to change as well. I've been through a similar process. It takes time. Thank you for your openness. You are a blessing.
As an HSP I truly appreciate you sharing this video with us. Your words really resonated with me. And I loved watching the calming footage as you spoke about your experience.
As someone that has struggled in the past with an ED, this was a beautifully done video and I am so happy to see you thriving. 💛 thanks for spreading hope through your videos! 🌿
I've been making big life changes recently that have left me second guessing myself. This video came at an important moment for me. Thanks so much for all your wisdom
This was my favourite video of yours. This really resonated with me and I have become so much more grateful for the simple things in life. I am now addicted to creating a life of home cooking, true gentle friendships, and cherising a simple life. Sending love and good thoughts from Australia. Xx
This is so off topic but I really love how small and quiet your village is . I live in a busy city filled with trash and banger teenagers who play rock music at 2 am , nosy neighbors , cars , machines and the smell of gas is everywhere . Honestly its affecting my well being but I cant do anything about it because I'm not an adult yet . I'm trying to make the best of living in a city like shopping at the mall and going to parties , overall I think I'll be better in a quiet and a peaceful place instead of modern and loud
I understand the difficulty of noise and how your environment becomes stressful. I'd recommend noise canceling headphones to play sounds or gentle music to help your mind. I did this with my ptsd when my brain would create sounds from past traumatic experiences, I was hearing things that weren't there. I listen to a video called snow falling by the relaxing guy and it's beautiful. I hope this helps. 💙
Hello lovely soul 😊 You saying that you are not an adult yet and still you seem to already know what is not good for you and that is surely a sign of maturity….so many humans take a long time to understand that and do not realise how badly their health is affected. I believe that, although for the moment, you have to stay in that detrimental environment, you can take a couple of actions that will help you build your internal support system. By watching Paolo’s beautiful work, you are already going in the right direction. Like Kara F wrote noise cancelling headphones will help for sure. Also 30 mins before going to sleep, switch that blue light off your screen and surround yourself with dim warm light if possible. I can also recommend you to try Yoga with Adriene if you haven’t already. She is one amazing human, her dog Benji is adorable and her team and herself are making such a good job helping millions build strength, flexibility and like I mentioned the very important internal support system. You will learn how to calm your overworked nervous system. I wish you all that is the very best for you. Take good care and stay safe.
@@loubainapeer9093 thank you so much for your support loubania , I will make sure to try the yoga thing since I've been searching for one lately, have a nice day amazing human!
Thank you for sharing your journey to a new life in a quiet and thoughtful manner with exceptional footage to emphasize the narration. I too am a nature mystic, and I know how important time spent with growing things can be to physical health and spiritual well being. Either in the garden, or taking a slow stroll through a wooded glen, each brings its own sigh of relief and refreshment.
“And life is beautiful because it’s hard sometimes” Paola, calms my nerves every time. She gives me the reality check I need when im feeling full of doubt & fear.
I just found this channel but your story inspires me. I’m a young adult now trying to recover from extreme burnout and a slew of mental health issues and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I have some faith that maybe I can get through this process and come out stronger eventually and transform my life like you did. Thank you for sharing 🙏❤
Thank you for sharing your story and experience. You have helped so many others who are struggling by sharing your voice and your journey. I appreciate you and your channel.
Hi Paola!!! I wish a had your courage- I myself face the same problem right now and am very scared to share it with anyone… I just pray everyday to be a better day than today 😌
I understand! It is the scariest thing I’ve ever done, to this day I am amazed and forever grateful for the love and understanding I received from the people I cared about, I hope the same for you - wishing you the very best ❤️ take care
May you never loose hope and persevere in your journey. You are not alone when it comes to life struggles and there is not shame but courage to admit to ourselves and others that we have some challenges that are testing our lives. Keep the faith and celebrate any little inch of progress and be gentle when you have set backs. Progress is never a straight line but a zigzag type of experience. Be gentle on yourself. You will conquer a little bit at a time. Believe. You will set your soul free in time.
Your story of recovery reflects in the beautiful wildflowers you’re picking. The part of the country where you live has been devastated by wildfires, and the beauty of those little flowers gives hope. Beauty from ashes-just like your recovery. I’m happy to see you are feeling happy and well❤️
Oh this video resonated with me on such a deep level. Being a Highly Sensitive Person, I could relate to you in so many aspects! Thank you for sharing your heart 💞💓💞!!
This was me too - and then my body made it loud and clear that it had experienced enough .. after two heart attacks, breast cancer and a small stroke I’ve finally wound right down. Life is very different for me now too - thank you for sharing! The connection with nature is everything! 🧚♀️❤️🐝
This video was lovely. I also struggle with addiction and anxiety, and the less numb I make myself the more I realize how sensitive I am. Its a struggle to find a place as a HSP in a fast paced and commodifying world. You're a radiant being, congratulations on your continued self-care.
I think most of us are drawn to your videos because we relate to you so much... I too am a highly sensitive person.. And not knowing how to channel it almost killed me. We need to protect ourselves in certain ways that most of society don't understand. I'm glad you okay and helping others as well.. I feel Highly sensitive people are the healers of the world
Bless your heart for being so open and honest. All the best in your recovery. Please don't give up, keep living and moving forward. You have a lifetime of happiness ahead of you.
Elli, I think many of us here understand how you are feeling. It is so difficult to not absorb the negativity and pain that the world is experiencing right now, and even harder to explain those feelings to others who don't experience that. You are not alone. Big hugs.
Wow. That was powerful, and amazing. And hits way too close to home. Thank u for sharing this, you are a wonderful inspiration to me to seek even more depth and connection with my day to day experiences and creative processes. Love and light 🙌🏼🧚🏻♀️💕
Once again you have put into words, with your beautiful ability to deliver them softly and lovingly, feelings that I am sure many of us can relate to! I am much older than you, but have gained such a wonderful perspective on what is truly important in life...There is no doubt in my mind and soul, that you have been placed in my path, and I am sure many others for a reason. My journey with some of the same "issues" as you mentioned started back when I was just a teen...luckily, through the years, as I have grown to understand and cope with them, I have a full, and very happy life! That is not to say that at times, I have to work a bit harder than other times, to stay aware and work on myself and those areas that can become weak. This past year, with the Pandemic, has been challenging. It was then, that I discovered your channel! You are such a treasure! I thank you for your honesty and all the love you send out with every video! Sending you much love and blessings!
it makes me sad all the time that i'm only 20, barely an adult, yet feeling like my life is already over. thank you very much for your videos, really, because your ideas keep on resonating with me. i hope i'm not putting you on such a high pedestal and putting too much pressure, but i just want to let you know how thankful i am for your videos. i agree that the world is too much for someone who is highly sensitive (i am too, and it's so difficult) because resting feels like a sin. my dream lifestyle is also settling in a small home in my hometown because that's where i left my heart and i want to feel at ease again. but getting there seems so impossible.
Thank you so much for sharing. My daughter keeps getting dismissed in school where she is so overwhelmed because she is so quiet and apologetic. I had to step in. Thank you for showing people that you don’t have to have an “obvious to others” problem to be struggling. So happy for you and excited for my daughter’s future because I’m here for her now. Hugs as always to you and everyone here💕✨
I've never heard anyone talk about addiction like this before. I'm so thankful for your new perspective to keep in my mind. Your videos bring me peace, clarity, and understanding. It's channels like this that bring me gratitude for the internet. Thank you for adding light and beauty to the world. (I also deeply appreciate how you word things. I used to write a lot and I notice when someone adds pumpkin spice to their word choice. Love it!!!)
I was addicted to coffee for several years, I had multiple cups per day every day. At the same time I had frequent migraines during those years too. One day, I experienced a wake-up moment in my life, and was advise to quit coffee, it was a hard decision because I love coffee! But now I feel that quitting was the right choice for me because when coffee was out of my system, majority of my migraines disappeared! I never thought that coffee addiction contributed to my painful migraines.
I am always glad to see your latest video posted and sit with my coffee to listen. It’s like a letter from a friend. Honest, gentle and refreshing in a chaotic world. Thank you.
Thank-you for sharing more of your life journey & for discussing the healing process. Your videos are a balm, helping me pace my own healing after a nervous system shut down, working, homeschooling & mothering my 4 young people. God bless your work
This is such an important message!! Everyone has that “inner voice” regardless of what struggles you may be experiencing. The key is recognizing it and seeking help. I’m glad you found your happiness and inner peace we all should have. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Why did I want to cry when o saw the video- it’s because I resonated with you as an empathetic being .. the world can seem so big and a bit much - i too had to loose myself to find myself and nature and living a more simpler life has help ground me so grateful for your Chanel and your transparency ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
you can't imagine how much I desire a cup of coffee/tea with you. I hope you have people close to you that are sensitive enough to notice and comprehend your sensitivity. I do but many times it's a self-journey and it can be so demanding... But at the end of the day you deserve to feel proud. I wish you too a lovely day or night!
I loved this video, it’s so beautiful while you are being incredibly open and honest. I have a similar experience in my youth, over 10 years of various eating disorders and tons of extremely toxic behaviours to run away from my emotions/anxiety. I remember this one summer I worked round the clock and basically only drank coffee and beer. Now I’ve been well for 5 years, but of course it’s a lifelong process to learn how to deal with my sensitivity and all the strong emotions. Sometimes i feel like that sensitivity is just a burden, but just like you pointed out, I’m so grateful that it allows me ti have lots of love, kindness and empathy towards other people, if not always myself. I’ve also found RUclips to be a great took in this path, not just as a videomaker but also as a keen fan of creators like yourself. I must say that while you always made amazing videos, lately they’ve been getting even better technically, if possible. You’re a true artist for the way you touch people’s hearts! Love from India ❤️
"There are those who say fate is something beyond our command. That our destiny is not our own, but I know better. Our fate lives within us, you only have to be brave enough to see it."- Merida. (✨A motivational quote from my favorite curly-haired disney princess)
True
👏 mine is a lack of listening to fear as a warning sign..it's called ADHD lol 😆 later
Very true.I failed to pass class 12th twice in 2020 and 2021 but I just cannot put it on fate.I know through my efforts I will pass this last year of high school and why just pass,I can and I will score 95+.
Ah she’s great! A very underrated disney princess! It’s such a magical movie 😍
I believe you're referencing "empaths". We feel more, care more & that can be a struggle within itself. I don't know if you are one or not but when you did a video on the pregnant moth you helped, I thought then that you too were that kindred, empath spirit. Thank you for opening up & thank you for being the lovely, caring person you are. We need more humans like you.
I am a recovering addict as well 4 years clean from drugs ! Glory be to God ! Thank you for sharing this video and congratulations !
I'm happy for you 🎉
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Today I wanted to celebrate several years of being the happiest and healthiest I have ever been. I went from barely being able to stay standing during a work shift (and downing liters of soda a day to keep me going🙈) to hiking 5 miles up a mountain last year! I was so proud of doing something I never thought I could. I have fallen in love with life again! Just felt that it is a story worth sharing, I gave some details and links below.
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Addiction is a word people often avoid, I am using it specifically to try to normalize the word and spread awareness that it is a broad and sometimes misunderstood term ❤️ I would say many of us have benign habits we cannot manage to break (and that’s not necessary a bad thing - we can simply be addicted to processed foods, the internet, our morning cup of coffee). What we often associate with true addiction is drugs or alcohol, and yet we often don’t recognize other types of serious addictions that can also severely damage our health and wellbeing.
The word can bring up a lot of uncomfortable feelings for many, and often shame in those who have experienced it. I wanted to make this video to encourage everyone to reach out before problems worsen, but mostly to empower anyone who wants to change their life. Also, to celebrate the beautiful journey of healing! We are all worthy of receiving help and practicing self-love.
When I use the word addiction I use it in regards forms of habitual and compulsive self-harm that can affect your health and wellbeing. In my case, I was not having serious problems with hard drug use in particular - therefore, I was not always taken seriously when I opened up to others about food addiction, workaholism, and extreme stimulant/sedative abuse that severely affected my body (and that’s ok, I do not blame anyone for misunderstanding what someone shares, especially when they cannot relate to it. The journey to recovery is one that only I could make).
I am a highly sensitive person, as many people naturally are, and combined with pmdd I struggled to manage my thoughts and emotions as a young adult. While I cannot speak for anyone else who has had an eating disorder, in my case the behaviors associated with this condition resulted in the temporary alleviation of stress, therefore, it was a very addictive cycle. I consider that, along with workaholism (and the abuse of sedatives and stimulants), these are very powerful addictions that are often not recognized as such (along with many others, including other types of food addiction, technology addiction, etc). I am happy to say that thanks to an incredible support structure I was able to make a full recovery several years ago. I am the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been - I hope everyone can find the courage to embrace life in all it’s colors, as I can say with confidence you will reap the rewards, though the journey there takes time.
Of course, I know that everyone’s definition of addiction is different (I am not using it in the medical sense as I am not a professional), I’m not here to split hairs on what is and isn’t a serious addiction. We are all on an individual journey, and I’m just sharing my story. I’m not using the word in the context of mental illness as I am not versed in it, I’m using it simply from my understanding of being addicted to the release of repetitive self-harm. Please, I encourage everyone commenting to be respectful and refrain from speculation in relation to other people’s addictions and problems, all personal inquiries on someone else’s health should be done privately between the two people involved only. It is unkind to make baseless claims about another persons health (particularly a stranger’s) in a public space.
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Thank you for your courage. Your timing in sharing this message couldn't be more perfect. Blessings.
Thanks for your videos,, it makes my free time valuable by watching your videos and I'm also trying to do like this,,, thanks ✨💖
Thank you so much for sharing, your honesty is so refreshing and I really enjoy ending my Wednesdays watching your videos! I'm a highly sensitive person as well (with anxiety) - I describe myself as a walking emotion. Sometimes it can be difficult absorbing so much around me, and the past year or so has really taught me how essential self-care is. Learning how to feel grounded is SO important when it can be easy to get swept away by feeling.... everything.
Hi Paola, would you ever consider making a video or writing about your experiences with PMDD? Or specific ways you combat its symptoms? It is a confusing struggle, and surprisingly difficult to find other experiences or solutions online.
Dear Paola! It is you who has helped me to start healing from the progressing insomnia. The war has invaded my country, my child is not healthy, my mother had to be evacuated and become a refugee and few months later nearly died from the heart problems. With all that on the backgroung my progressing during last years insomnia did not seam to be such a problem in comparison. But recently I have realised how much responsibility is put on my shoulders and that I must stay in proper condition to face everything what life is sending us to struggle with and yet find happiness and peace of mind in the simpliest and the most beautiful things like the laugh of my child and a cup of tea. God bless you and your dear ones for being such a sushine in these dark times! Thank you with all my heart!!!
Paola, Buddha is credited with the quote, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." It is no coincidence that I found you at this transition time in my life. Many blessings to you, your loved ones--human and critter. Thank you for your healing words and nurturing guidance. Love and light.
Oh wow, same, wonderful quote!
Thank you for these soulwatering words.... I wish you and everyone who reads this an inner success with their healing-process!!
Nam myoho renge kyo means to open and revive, it's the mystic law of cause and effect taught by the Buddha known as the Lotus Sutra. Being an HSP, hearing and seeing these videos are soothing, teaching me how to imagine a different way of life and healing one morsel, granual and petal at a time.
"... sacrifice long term happiness in order to make the short term bearable"
A most succinct revelation. "... and life is beautiful because it is hard sometimes"
Thank you for sharing/showing the journey.
Yes totally! I picked up on that subconsciously and you typing it I realised how spot on and poignant those two phrases were..
These two exact quotes were the ones that made me tear up because I felt them the most ❤️🥺
Workaholism is a real problem, and an addiction, both one we create ourselves, and ones companies sometimes force on their employees. I heard once that we can become addicted to stress, to the point we'll *find* something to stress about, and we're not always even aware of it.
thank you for sharing - that’s very interesting, I never thought of stress like that but I see truth in it, how we seek to keep our lives chaotic because it is what we know or find strangely comforting, possibly fearing the future. I appreciate the insight! Best wishes
@@TheCottageFairy Adrenalin is addictive. I wondered if I could live without it after so many years. In time I could, and did.Naturally it required changes. Changes scared me; they also healed me.
This is so very true!
This is so true. I grew up in a chaotic, alcoholic parent home full of stress. Now I seem to exist and seek out stress situations.
Knowing how much effort and how many hours it takes to edit videos like these, where the “editing is invisible” because it’s seamless, I’m constantly amazed you offer a video every week. These are pieces of art. And to offer such personal and deep insights - with such maturity, at such a young age - and with so much intention toward sharing uplifting beauty to expand healing and joy in the world...I applaud all of it. The writing, too, is just lovely. I still can’t tell which pieces you edit, and which are your brother’s touch - I’m just appreciating these videos so much. Thank you. I look forward to them every week. Every Tuesday night, I say, Yay! Tomorrow is Wednesday!! And thank you, thank you, for speaking with such nuance and subtlety about today’s themes. Speaking truly authentically takes artfulness and care. Sometimes to really express what one experiences on their unique path, requires inventing new language, or framing things in new ways. Thank you!!
Yes, I totally agree. Just wonderfully lovely. I’m so thankful I discovered this channel. Heals the soul.
Yesssss! What ‘she’ said. I wish I could articulate like this. 🦄🌸💗🦄🌸💗
Beautifully expressed...
"life is beautiful BECAUSE it is hard" -- this resonated. I am recovering from alcohol addiction, and it's something nobody sees or saw because I never got drunk like you'd think of an alcoholic. But I craved and relied on it in ways that were extremely unhealthy. I appreciate this video, it's encouragement to keep going even when I miss the impermanent relief self medicating gives.
@With Love, Kristina ❤
to anyone who waits patiently for a whole week to see the next episode...while you are waiting, you might also enjoy: a very gentle series called Lakes kayaking with Jon in Canada. He is a *very* sensitive guy who loves nature, has very poetic camera sequences with water, snow falling, grasses waving in the breeze and magic encounters with wildlife while he kayaks in remote areas. He always has a good book with him, and keeps us entertained with little quotes or role playing Sam or Frodo from LOR. He has a big back catalogue of these lovely films, sometimes his fiancee comes too or he has a friend along. But the ones he does solo are the best!
sorry! its called Lost Lakes
That's very kind to share, thank you
@_leafylife you're welcome 😊
Thank you, Paola, for this fantastic video! People think that only chemical abuse addictions are truly damaging, but behavioral addictions can also damage and destroy individuals and families. As a survivor of behavioral addiction, I can tell you that literally everything you said about your experience resonated with my own experience. This video could be a valuable tool for any therapist who is counselling people struggling with behavioral addiction or damaging compulsive behavior. One insight I gained from my struggle was this: Even though I was not addicted to chemicals, I was engaging in behavior which stimulated my brain to produce chemicals as a "reward," allowing me to briefly escape my depression and anxiety. I was manufacturing MY drugs in my own head! The brief "high" always was quickly followed by terrible, long-lasting lows. it took years to figure this out and escape from the pattern. I have been "sober," so to speak, for over ten years now, and I am very grateful. Thank you for all you do! You are as wise as you are kind and beautiful.
that is so insightful! Very true, I can relate to that - seeking the ‘reward’ and relief from the problem. Thank you for sharing!
How did you figure your way out of it?
it helps a lot to seek professional counselling. This really amounts to someone who is more than just a good listener, its someone who can make thoughtful suggestions at the right moment - THAT is a skill all by itself.
You have the most angelic and soothing voice. Peace is within you.
So glad you got ahold of it. Mine came from serious abuse. I am now 59 and am finally getting through it. Serious stress and abuse that led to multiple physical issues. I dropped out of society to heal much as you have and every day is a struggle.
wishing you the best on your journey - I cannot imagine the pain of abuse layered onto the issue. A lot to heal from to be sure. Hoping for a continued future of renewal. Thank you for sharing.
Glad you shared as a guy You guys can shoulder huge burdens.. we hear ya. Good luck to you.
Moi aussi, tellement d abus que je trouve la paix depuis peu seulement a 72 ans. Il n est jamais trop tard. Le chemin est aride mais tout a son sens. Tout mon soutien💕
Thank you for sharing! I am also a highly sensitive person and struggled for many years in my youth by trying to be someone I was not. When I started watching your videos, I felt like you were a kindred spirit. Your kind words and the beauty that surrounds me brought tears to my eyes.
How wonderfully you articulated such a difficult life transition. You’ve outdone yourself. 🌷
Oh my goodness. Look at all those cherries. Cherry pie, cherry tarts, cherry jam, cherry everything!!!
My 17 year old daughter is a lot like you. She has always been highly sensitive to sounds and people. She never liked anything too tight on her as a toddler. She's never even owned a pair of jeans. Too tight. When she's around too many people she wants to run away because she's very empathetic. She is also an artist. So she found her talent at a young age. She creates characters from "her" world and she has a story to go with every character. Your generation just amazes me with all your talents! Hopefully good changes are coming and more kids can actually do what they love for a living! Thank you for sharing your story with the world!
you have described me so perfectly I am so highly sensitive I have been all my life to everything even as a child . I have been so nauseated since April , pain in the hollow of my chest . I had a scan of my organs last week liver pancreas kidneys gall bladder nothing showed up, then last Tuesday an upper GI scan nothing showed . A million dollar work up only to find out out it is stress I see a councilor in 2 weeks. I can remember being like this as a little girl so sensitive to everything. I feel so broken . I want to thank you for putting this video out there ,it is as if you are talking to me I feel there is hope .I guess I just never thought of you as being stressed you are so calm to me . You worked on yourself as I must work on me Thank you so much have a lovely day !
As a high sensitive person I relate to your story. This fast and noisy world is not made for me and almost daily I have to remind myself that I need more peace and quit in daily life than others. With age and better knowing myself it gets easier ! Loving your videos, thank you for making them!
I also struggled with an eating disorder and with anxiety, and I'm also an HSP. Though you didn't tell yet, for the way you talked I could tell you were HSP. Your videos really help me when I want to relax, and they help me feel normal, because I relate with your struggles and your points of view. Thank you Paola ❤️
I experienced wild strawberries when I went to Poland, 2 years ago. They were literal Heaven. Anyway, I thoroughly enjoyed tonight's video. I wish there was a new one every day. But I can't be selfish. 🥰
yes I wished the same ..have to wait an entire week for this heaven
I was in tears when you told the story of the canary in a coal mine. I can deeply relate to that. I found my way to appreciate myself for my high sensitivity, but sometimes I am still hard on myself because of it. I found writing to be my strongest companion to connect more deeply with myself and, thus, also with people who accept and love me the way I am. Thank you so much for this video.
Thank you for I am a canary too.....♥️
watching ur beautiful video with a cup of coffee. Life is so perfect.
In my youth I too suffered eating disorder, solace in drugs and alcohol...now 68, I've Finally found peace through acceptance of what "is" ....just life. Attitude and gratitude are so needed for a positive lifestyle....May God Hold You In The Palms Of His Loving Hands...thank you for all you bring each week to heal the world~~give hope in a short few moments through words, music and the beauty of nature.
I love your videos so much and would love to see one about plants and healing properties of them!
If I recall, she did speak of and processed some flowers and even had a link in the description of a woman who's an expert in healing plants. I can't remember which video though. :))
Little Tut ah! I would love to know.
Such a soothing video, it really calms the soul. In this busy world of hatred, anger, rivelry, drama, competition ,crime and what not, it's a previlage to watch such a video.
How brave and thoughtful you are! To let us see that behind the lovely, calm, dear friend we have made in you, behind the simple beauty and gentle spirit, there were difficulties and challenges that you have faced with grace and determination. As Highly Sensitive People, we are blessed by feeling things deeply but sometimes overwhelmed and drained by our intense responses to life. Your story helps me see your humanity and struggles instead of idealizing your life and imagining you have no problems in your beautiful fairy realm. Thank you for sharing the real process of embracing sensitivity as a blessing and not a curse!
Thank you very much ❤️ you are so right, sensitivity is a gift and it is a journey to understand it - took me a while to figure out it wasn’t a curse! Much love
I am also a Highly Sensitive Person, the world can be very overwhelming. Thanks for this video!
Thanxx for being open with your story and sharing tips as well. By the way, you have the perfect voice for Audiobooks, very relaxing. 🌹
I was just thinking the same exact thing! Paola could narrate stories for apps that help one sleep, such as the "Calm" app and others.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and life experience. Even though I’m older now ( soon to be 70 ) I face daily challenges due to health issues. Some days are tolerable and others are not, but I’ve realized that gratefulness keeps me going and that kindness with compassion are life giving to others and for myself. Thanks again for your inspiration and openness.
“Life is beautiful, because it is hard sometimes”- I can relate to that statement Paolo. I had and have many addictions. From Food 🍲 to alcohol 🍺. I’m on my journey to recovery for alcohol and food. The word Addiction may sound negative - but I know now it’s part of life. I have drop several addictions to pick up others: art and photography. The road to recovery is forever for me - and I can accept that. Love your message and thank you for sharing your experience with this.
Yep. I agree. I am exiled by family, friends and even a few colleagues. I left a religion causing the first estrangement and as for colleagues, I don't know what happened. I could guess, but to what end, so I resort to the child in me that knows all about self-pampering. If I didn't due that, the alternative would be tragic.
your soul bloomed in this video and shed a quiet morning light on being more aware of our vibrations. sometimes i feel as though i’m not of this place, this world we are currently spinning in. Then i question how others do that life so well and then wonder why not me ? now i appreciate being more sensitive to the mainstream and the need to go inside and be quiet and alone . It’s a necessity
I am so proud of you ❤️. I hope you are doing well . Thank you for your beautiful videos ❤️
Thank you very much ❤️
Extraordinary, even for you. Thank you. Carl Jung and Joseph Campbell are sources of inspiration for the work that you are doing. Fairy tales, in particular, come to mind. In addition to being a talented artist, and someone of profound emotional intelligence, you may also be someone who can help others understand intellectually the magnificence to which you demonstrate witness through your life. I remain in awe of the elegant simplicity which you convey.
Thursdays are my fav since I get to kick start my day watching your video Paola, you've no idea what a great impact your videos are having on me ❤️, the only time I feel relaxed and calm is while watching your videos, much love to you all the way from Sri Lanka!!
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I appreciate it very much
@@TheCottageFairy do it like this,, I also live in village but my village is not like your village... I felt very pity
Thank you for explaining highly sensitive people. It has always made me feel like a bad person. Not wanting to be in the population of others. People would tag me an antisocial. It helps to know that there is nothing wrong but perhaps that's why I was a hospice nurse for so long. During the dying process there is usually somber and stillness. ♥️
@Chantal Banon I was never drawn to nursing, but always loved to sing with others. This turned into performing as a paid hobby, which was equal parts fun/stressful. I still love harmony singing with others, but now i sing with my local Threshold Choir for anyone recovering from an illness who is stuck at home, and sometimes we do hospice work by invitation. This is a very special repertoire of music written to be performed for the dying. In the second half of my life, it is the best group i have ever belonged to - rehearsing and singing is pure joy.
Having breakfast in early morning, watching your calming and relaxing video's with sunlights passing by in room through corners of door frames 🥺✨ it's so magical 🍀
that sounds beautiful, thank you for sharing ❤️
Oh, Paula - I just loved this one (as I love them all). Thanks for talking about your personal journey, including being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). I am, too. It really helps to hear someone of a similar mind/heart discuss the strengths and challenges of going through life as an HSP. Beautiful photography, music, and words, as usual. I so look forward to these :) thank you!
This speaks to my heart. I am a recovered addict from drugs smoking among other things. I knew they were developed out of a way to smother something. I did not realize what until this video.
Thank you.
wishing you the best on your journey ❤️ thank you very much
You are a lovely soul, in free time, watching your videos have a very soothing and calm impact on mind
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. No one can judge what behaviors are serious or not serious, if they are affecting you in negative matter, then it is certainly serious. You’ve given me so much peace and joy and I’m grateful for your openness and your journey ❤️. Also, I relate with everything you’re saying
I appreciate that very much! Yes I think sometimes we get caught up with comparing, thinking something isn’t that bad because someone else’s situation is worse. It kept me from reaching out for many years. I’m glad I finally did. Thank you for sharing and your kindness ❤️
I see now that there is help available if we reach out. I've always thought and said there are others who have it worse but realize that our personal trials are not less important if we learn and grow. Change takes time and life is beautiful because it's hard.
"The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater."
J.R.R. Tolkien
Thank you so much. You’re a solace in this broken world. You’re so brave for living the life you love and wanted. Not all people can do that including myself.
Thank you for sharing your journey. Nature really does heal us.
Addictions are so much more common than we realize. We often don’t even realize we have an addiction when there is one. Really any bad habit that is negatively affecting your life can be viewed as an addiction. Thanks so much for speaking out on this 💕
We are so blessed to have a honest beautiful friend who pre warns us. Im going to cut down on cafe
Yep
We the canary tribe.. A blessing not a curse.. This I learned very early on fortunately.. Early awareness of suffering and fear... My mind and body rejected addictions as the canaries constitution is fragile and sensitive too... BEAUTIFUL Authenticity 💚💚💚
I am so moved by your story ... Thank you for the confidence you give us, by telling this story... I am also grateful that you feel safe in this loving place you've created, called a comment section. Every time I come here, I feel at home. It is like a fairytale family. I mean, it brings hope to feel that there are people who are playful and read fairystories, even if we are called grownups. Thank you to everyone here and thank you Paola, for gathering us around this campfire of imagination, love and hope! Greetings from Nenne in Sweden
Lovely words! Blessings to you and your beautiful country.
@@Carmen-xj7nn Thank you, dear heart. Have a wonderful day and life!!
From a fellow HSP who is raising a daughter who’s also a HSP thank you so much for sharing your experience. I recently changed my lifestyle as well to embrace my sensitivity as a gift & a blessing. I love being in nature (gardens are my favorite) & I surround myself w/peace as much as possible. Praying for you that your journey will continue to be blessed. I’m so glad I found your channel. ♥️
Your channel is a breath of fresh air✨
I’ve never felt more seen than when I first read about highly sensitive people! It’s absolutely something I relate to.
Oh yes, I felt the same! ... I cried floods when I first read about HSP, about half a year ago ... But I feel that it is healing to cry, when you feel seen and heard in such a deep way ... It treleases a lot of old tention... Take care!! Greetings from Nenne in Sweden
Can you please suggest me some books to read on HSP?
I am addicted to your channel. Love your stories and eager for more. Thanks for your honesty and realness.
I think this is such an important message you're conveying here, especially for us HSP's. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that many, if not most of us here fall into that wonderful category. ;) What a gift it is to finally understand our own needs as well as what we can offer to others, especially when we are well. I've had a lifetime of using sometimes harmful coping mechanisms (mostly invisible to others) to escape the overwhelm. During quarantine when I was homeschooling my kids, my health finally became so noticeably poor that I was forced to confront my entire way of thinking and behaving. I had to tell myself a better story. I started excercising again, which helped enormously, but what really flipped the switch for me was learning about intermittent fasting. Sounds strange I know, and as someone who can add an ED to the list of coping mechanisms I was afraid of it at first. But what it taught me was that my body needed complete rests from digestion for a certain number of hours in order to carry out vital functions of repair and maintenance. Just like my mind and my heart needed time and space to rest and restore. It completely changed how I thought of food and fasting and my body. Instead of viewing food and my body as adversaries in a reward/punishment scenario, which is a terrible addiction, I began to see my body as a gift that deserved my care, compassion, and attention, just like my kids and loved ones. Sometimes it needs nutritious food, and sometimes it needs rest. What's helped keep me going, despite the inevitable straying and distractions, is learning to really listen to myself and notice my own behaviours. I notice when I start using coping mechanisms to deal with discomfort, and instead of just staying stuck there, I try to make some space so that I can open the door to whatever's knocking. Remembering that reactions and emotions are changeable, moveable things, I'm getting better at letting them in, listening, and letting them move on.
Thanks again, Paola, this is medicine work you're doing!
Hi Anna…
So much ❤️❤️in your testimony and words. They resonate deeply with me. Even though this is 3 months old.. I believe in divine timing. As they say…. The teacher shows up when they are needed.
Your insights are wonderful! Thank you for sharing
Eileen
So good! Yes, learning to hear our bodies
Your words are so wise and listening to them in your soothing voice is a wonderful experience. Thank you fairy! With love from Sri Lanka!
Thank you for sharing your struggles and recovery with us. I’m a retired professional licensed therapist and understand the struggles of a highly sensitive person-not because I was a therapist but because I’m a highly sensitive person. Because I counseling sexually abused children and had to testify in court on their behalf, I suffered PTSD. Through my own counseling and a change in lifestyle, I fully recovered. Now I have a little homestead and keeping animals and gardening has restored me emotionally and continues to bring me joy. So glad you are following your heart!
Thank you for sharing this. As another HSP and former person with Bulimia, I was really struck by your comments regarding listening and responding when someone shares their challenges. I was bulimic for over 10 years, but because I was overweight, no one took it seriously. What finally stopped me was my youngest son started showing signs of eating disorders and I realized that he was observing and reflecting back the behaviors I thought no one knew about. As I age, I have come to honor the fact that I need much more quiet and calm then many others and I honor this by giving myself that. I watch little news and television and watch YT channels like yours that are calming and edifying. I have learned to just to not subject myself to stress if I can and to remove myself from it if at all possible. I am glad you have made a life for yourself that has allowed your true being to grow and prosper.
Thank you so much for this💗 I will be 1 year sober on September 18th & it has been challenging for me to deal with the guilt, fear and all the negative emotions I avoided for so long. As hard as it has been for me, everyday gets better. Today I opened my windows & noticed the smell of the lovely cool fall air. My addiction robbed me of all my happiness. I stopped noticing all the things I love, like the sunshine & birds chirping. I am becoming me again & I can see the beauty of the world again. I can find joy in the simple things & notice the beauty around me. Everyday I notice something small like a pretty leaf or a smell in nature that I once loved but forgot. Rediscovering the world, it makes me appreciate life sm more💙
I am so enjoying watching you grow right in front of us. You are more self-assured in your presentations. More comfortable in your own skin. Your smile is glorious. Your bravery is showing through. What an encouragement it is to those who strive to move forward and change in this world when life isn't working for them. Your life journey is helping others to have the courage to change as well. I've been through a similar process. It takes time. Thank you for your openness. You are a blessing.
As an HSP I truly appreciate you sharing this video with us. Your words really resonated with me. And I loved watching the calming footage as you spoke about your experience.
As someone that has struggled in the past with an ED, this was a beautifully done video and I am so happy to see you thriving. 💛 thanks for spreading hope through your videos! 🌿
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I’m currently recovering from chronic illness and addiction. Thank you so much for your videos. They always radiate incredible vibes ❤️
I've been making big life changes recently that have left me second guessing myself. This video came at an important moment for me. Thanks so much for all your wisdom
Erin Moriarty me too!
This was my favourite video of yours. This really resonated with me and I have become so much more grateful for the simple things in life. I am now addicted to creating a life of home cooking, true gentle friendships, and cherising a simple life. Sending love and good thoughts from Australia. Xx
This is so off topic but I really love how small and quiet your village is . I live in a busy city filled with trash and banger teenagers who play rock music at 2 am , nosy neighbors , cars , machines and the smell of gas is everywhere . Honestly its affecting my well being but I cant do anything about it because I'm not an adult yet . I'm trying to make the best of living in a city like shopping at the mall and going to parties , overall I think I'll be better in a quiet and a peaceful place instead of modern and loud
I understand the difficulty of noise and how your environment becomes stressful. I'd recommend noise canceling headphones to play sounds or gentle music to help your mind. I did this with my ptsd when my brain would create sounds from past traumatic experiences, I was hearing things that weren't there. I listen to a video called snow falling by the relaxing guy and it's beautiful. I hope this helps. 💙
@@karagalactic thanks you so much Kara, I'm very happy someone understands my pain haha
@@Venus-x4b you're welcome. It helps to know others understand and get it when you're in pain.
Hello lovely soul 😊 You saying that you are not an adult yet and still you seem to already know what is not good for you and that is surely a sign of maturity….so many humans take a long time to understand that and do not realise how badly their health is affected. I believe that, although for the moment, you have to stay in that detrimental environment, you can take a couple of actions that will help you build your internal support system. By watching Paolo’s beautiful work, you are already going in the right direction. Like Kara F wrote noise cancelling headphones will help for sure. Also 30 mins before going to sleep, switch that blue light off your screen and surround yourself with dim warm light if possible. I can also recommend you to try Yoga with Adriene if you haven’t already. She is one amazing human, her dog Benji is adorable and her team and herself are making such a good job helping millions build strength, flexibility and like I mentioned the very important internal support system. You will learn how to calm your overworked nervous system. I wish you all that is the very best for you. Take good care and stay safe.
@@loubainapeer9093 thank you so much for your support loubania , I will make sure to try the yoga thing since I've been searching for one lately, have a nice day amazing human!
Thank you for sharing your journey to a new life in a quiet and thoughtful manner with exceptional footage to emphasize the narration. I too am a nature mystic, and I know how important time spent with growing things can be to physical health and spiritual well being. Either in the garden, or taking a slow stroll through a wooded glen, each brings its own sigh of relief and refreshment.
“And life is beautiful because it’s hard sometimes” Paola, calms my nerves every time. She gives me the reality check I need when im feeling full of doubt & fear.
❤️🌹💐🕊️dear lady, thank you...
Struck a chord when you said that living in addiction was simpler.
I just found this channel but your story inspires me. I’m a young adult now trying to recover from extreme burnout and a slew of mental health issues and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I have some faith that maybe I can get through this process and come out stronger eventually and transform my life like you did. Thank you for sharing 🙏❤
I adore the way you tell a story and all the pretty moments that go along with it. Thank you.
Beautiful, graceful and articulate young woman. Always look forward to your videos and wisdom. Thanks.
Thank you for sharing your story and experience. You have helped so many others who are struggling by sharing your voice and your journey. I appreciate you and your channel.
Thank you for trusting us with your uppermost thoughts,made me feel comfortable and more understanding. Xxx
Hi Paola!!! I wish a had your courage- I myself face the same problem right now and am very scared to share it with anyone… I just pray everyday to be a better day than today 😌
I understand! It is the scariest thing I’ve ever done, to this day I am amazed and forever grateful for the love and understanding I received from the people I cared about, I hope the same for you - wishing you the very best ❤️ take care
May you never loose hope and persevere in your journey. You are not alone when it comes to life struggles and there is not shame but courage to admit to ourselves and others that we have some challenges that are testing our lives. Keep the faith and celebrate any little inch of progress and be gentle when you have set backs. Progress is never a straight line but a zigzag type of experience. Be gentle on yourself. You will conquer a little bit at a time. Believe. You will set your soul free in time.
There is help. Pray to God. There is supernatural life too. A life in christ bless u
The supernatural life chanel. Real healing fir real pain only God can heal us at times
@@TheCottageFairy Thanks My Dear!📿
Your story of recovery reflects in the beautiful wildflowers you’re picking. The part of the country where you live has been devastated by wildfires, and the beauty of those little flowers gives hope. Beauty from ashes-just like your recovery. I’m happy to see you are feeling happy and well❤️
Oh this video resonated with me on such a deep level. Being a Highly Sensitive Person, I could relate to you in so many aspects! Thank you for sharing your heart 💞💓💞!!
This was me too - and then my body made it loud and clear that it had experienced enough .. after two heart attacks, breast cancer and a small stroke I’ve finally wound right down. Life is very different for me now too - thank you for sharing!
The connection with nature is everything!
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This video was lovely. I also struggle with addiction and anxiety, and the less numb I make myself the more I realize how sensitive I am. Its a struggle to find a place as a HSP in a fast paced and commodifying world. You're a radiant being, congratulations on your continued self-care.
I think most of us are drawn to your videos because we relate to you so much... I too am a highly sensitive person.. And not knowing how to channel it almost killed me. We need to protect ourselves in certain ways that most of society don't understand. I'm glad you okay and helping others as well.. I feel Highly sensitive people are the healers of the world
Bless your heart for being so open and honest. All the best in your recovery. Please don't give up, keep living and moving forward. You have a lifetime of happiness ahead of you.
These past days have been really hard and I'm trying to find the will to go on. This gave me hope. Thank you❤️
Elli, I think many of us here understand how you are feeling. It is so difficult to not absorb the negativity and pain that the world is experiencing right now, and even harder to explain those feelings to others who don't experience that. You are not alone. Big hugs.
God bless you Elli may you find comfort, joy, and ease in your soul❤️
Wow. That was powerful, and amazing. And hits way too close to home. Thank u for sharing this, you are a wonderful inspiration to me to seek even more depth and connection with my day to day experiences and creative processes.
Love and light 🙌🏼🧚🏻♀️💕
Your message is beautiful, your garden is beautiful, and so are you.
Once again you have put into words, with your beautiful ability to deliver them softly and lovingly, feelings that I am sure many of us can relate to! I am much older than you, but have gained such a wonderful perspective on what is truly important in life...There is no doubt in my mind and soul, that you have been placed in my path, and I am sure many others for a reason. My journey with some of the same "issues" as you mentioned started back when I was just a teen...luckily, through the years, as I have grown to understand and cope with them, I have a full, and very happy life! That is not to say that at times, I have to work a bit harder than other times, to stay aware and work on myself and those areas that can become weak. This past year, with the Pandemic, has been challenging. It was then, that I discovered your channel! You are such a treasure! I thank you for your honesty and all the love you send out with every video! Sending you much love and blessings!
it makes me sad all the time that i'm only 20, barely an adult, yet feeling like my life is already over. thank you very much for your videos, really, because your ideas keep on resonating with me. i hope i'm not putting you on such a high pedestal and putting too much pressure, but i just want to let you know how thankful i am for your videos. i agree that the world is too much for someone who is highly sensitive (i am too, and it's so difficult) because resting feels like a sin. my dream lifestyle is also settling in a small home in my hometown because that's where i left my heart and i want to feel at ease again. but getting there seems so impossible.
never give up on your dream! if you can believe it, you can achieve it.
@@filocalina thank you, kind soul! i wish you the same as well.
Thank you so much for sharing. My daughter keeps getting dismissed in school where she is so overwhelmed because she is so quiet and apologetic. I had to step in. Thank you for showing people that you don’t have to have an “obvious to others” problem to be struggling. So happy for you and excited for my daughter’s future because I’m here for her now. Hugs as always to you and everyone here💕✨
I've never heard anyone talk about addiction like this before. I'm so thankful for your new perspective to keep in my mind. Your videos bring me peace, clarity, and understanding. It's channels like this that bring me gratitude for the internet. Thank you for adding light and beauty to the world. (I also deeply appreciate how you word things. I used to write a lot and I notice when someone adds pumpkin spice to their word choice. Love it!!!)
I was addicted to coffee for several years, I had multiple cups per day every day. At the same time I had frequent migraines during those years too. One day, I experienced a wake-up moment in my life, and was advise to quit coffee, it was a hard decision because I love coffee! But now I feel that quitting was the right choice for me because when coffee was out of my system, majority of my migraines disappeared! I never thought that coffee addiction contributed to my painful migraines.
Wow! That was brave of you and what a positive change it had in your life. So happy for you!
bet you could drink all the decaf coffee you wanted and be fine......the caffeine is the problem
I am always glad to see your latest video posted and sit with my coffee to listen. It’s like a letter from a friend. Honest, gentle and refreshing in a chaotic world. Thank you.
It feels so good to watch such a calming vlog and the story is just 🥰😍
Thank-you for sharing more of your life journey & for discussing the healing process. Your videos are a balm, helping me pace my own healing after a nervous system shut down, working, homeschooling & mothering my 4 young people. God bless your work
This is such an important message!! Everyone has that “inner voice” regardless of what struggles you may be experiencing. The key is recognizing it and seeking help. I’m glad you found your happiness and inner peace we all should have.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
So grateful for your sharing something so personal and beautiful. Blessings on your journey. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤️
Absolutely gorgeous and you have such a way with words just love listening to you xx
Why did I want to cry when o saw the video- it’s because I resonated with you as an empathetic being .. the world can seem so big and a bit much - i too had to loose myself to find myself and nature and living a more simpler life has help ground me so grateful for your Chanel and your transparency ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel like you're helping me change my perspective on life exactly at a time when I need it the most, and I couldn't be more grateful.
you can't imagine how much I desire a cup of coffee/tea with you. I hope you have people close to you that are sensitive enough to notice and comprehend your sensitivity. I do but many times it's a self-journey and it can be so demanding... But at the end of the day you deserve to feel proud. I wish you too a lovely day or night!
Your videos are like a therapy for me... Thank you very much for all your hardwork❤️
Today's video was exceptional as always
“Life is beautiful because it is hard sometimes” … I agree with you.🍃🍂
I loved this video, it’s so beautiful while you are being incredibly open and honest. I have a similar experience in my youth, over 10 years of various eating disorders and tons of extremely toxic behaviours to run away from my emotions/anxiety. I remember this one summer I worked round the clock and basically only drank coffee and beer. Now I’ve been well for 5 years, but of course it’s a lifelong process to learn how to deal with my sensitivity and all the strong emotions. Sometimes i feel like that sensitivity is just a burden, but just like you pointed out, I’m so grateful that it allows me ti have lots of love, kindness and empathy towards other people, if not always myself. I’ve also found RUclips to be a great took in this path, not just as a videomaker but also as a keen fan of creators like yourself. I must say that while you always made amazing videos, lately they’ve been getting even better technically, if possible. You’re a true artist for the way you touch people’s hearts! Love from India ❤️