SIDE EFFECTS OF DECONSTRUCTING KAREN
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- SIDE EFFECTS OF DECONSTRUCTING KAREN
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I'm so happy she spoke the truth about Asian Indian Americans and how they are taught to look at black people as a lower class, they rode on the backs of blacks with the civil rights movement laws and how they are taught to assimilate.
Racialized "Black" people are a lower class. How do you think they got to be black?
Yessss
“... taight to look at Black people as a lower class ...” yet somehow AsianAmericans have the lowest self-esteem of everyone and BlackAmericans have the highest.
AsianAmericans are outperforming everyone in the US in test scores, educational levels, income, wealth, health, marriage and divorce rates, etc etc etc and Black people are at the bottom of many metrics yet somehow Black people are the most confident group in America.
and we haven’t even talked about Black women or Black girls and boys in specifics who blow their peers out the water on self-esteem.
When you lack self-confidence and you’re “the best,” it’s a hard pill to swallow that those who haven’t gotten what you’ve gotten still think well of themselves.
... they are taught to look at Black people as a lower class
yet Blàck people have the highest recorded self-esteem of any demographic and Asìan Americans have the least.
Asìan American young adults are the only demographic whose leading cause of death is suìcide, and this among a group considered to be doing “everything right.”
In many ways, Asìan Americans are at the top -and by wide margins - of all groups - academically, in income, health, wealth, marriage and divorce rates, lack of criminality, etc etc etc - and Błack people are at the bottom in many metrics yet, somehow, the most confident group of Americans is Błack people. This has to be a hard, bitter and confusing pill to swallow when you’re at the “top.”
@noble604
Interesting statement. Who and how was that recorded, meaning the measure of "self-esteem?" Being the highest among people called Black.
Affirm people > empowering folks > community > army
“I’m crazy busy right now planning Christmas and it’s October” 😂😂😂
This discussion was PHENOMENAL
This has been my favorite episode, by far.
I love that I can see how affirmed Amanda may feel as she sits back and listens
HOLLYWOOD IS HOW YT SUPREMACY EXPORTED that part
Wow, you three Queens were on 🔥My friends and family have these conversations all the time. Each one, teach one... ✊🏾 This discussion right here needs to go viral!!!
1. Honest conversations
2. Legal systemic stuff
3. Educational systems
4. Social Media (disinfo)
"We hate you because you don't hate yourselves" 🎯🎯🎯 They don't have the mental strength to 1. be the "outlier" in their bigoted clubhouse environment and 2. build a strong enough rapport within THEMSELVES that they simply project it onto us. I will NEVER shame myself to make the next person more comfortable!
The sad part is there's limited safe spaces to just be confident and proudly live your life; you have to accept that you will bother people who can't handle it and they WILL come after you! At work, at school, at the doctor's office, in court, at your child's daycare center, etc! SAD!
1000000000000000% feels like “how dare you have a purpose in life and I don’t???”
This is called insecurity. Black women don't seem to understand the difference between INDIFFERENCE and racism. We don't care. Truly, we have lives, children, jobs, partners and we're building wealth. You have to be delulu not to recognize you aren't the focus of our worlds.
30:50 - 33:40 really shows where humanity is and its hard to hear but the truth ....and Amanda putting her head down in that moment was the same feeling I felt 😔
“the hate themselves and you can’t get them to love themselves” real shit
It’s a true revelation. moment when Black people realize others hate the representation of Black people. They don’t hate what’s IN Black people. They hate the stirring of what they feel about themselves ... . hate for themselves. You only can hate others when you can hate yourself.
The timing of this episode, wow!! With all these w women complaining about Barbie but saying silent about Gaza 😒 😒
The hell does the average western woman know about middle eastern conflicts. If you don’t understand the situation then probably best not to speak on it.
Also idk what white women you have in your feed but I can’t seem to sift through all the hoards of ww on my socials, performance posting about subjects like this that they have such a tenuous grasp on.
i don't know how i've missed your channel. I can't tell you how good this was for me because sometimes i think i'm losing my mind while all along people are seing what I'm seeing. I am not american but i am an european black woman and it feels the same here. Thank you!!!!
This series should be required viewing
Love their energy ❤ What a great conversation. Speaking the truth 👏 So much to think about. 10/10
Three amazing women saying it as it is. The conversation we needed!
You brought Saira and Regina!!! Yaay
I love that aunt Regina is so Bout it!!!
This was fire!
This was such a comforting conversation. To be surrounded by delusion and to feel seen as I hear the echos of my own thoughts in this conversation is so refreshing
So teachable ✊🏿
Get the trampoline. Your nervous system will thank you❤
I can explain it, but i can't make you understand it.
When she said that she's the 4th generation of her family out of slavery, I really had to sit with that. I was born in the 90s but my papa (grandfather) was born into sharecropping which makes me the 2nd generation of my family out of slavery (on my American side).😢
I would like a live forum like this
LOVING THIS CONVO. Thank you for always putting yourself out there, utilizing your platform, and bringing more awareness to these issues
The look on their faces 😂 when told "You can't fu©k your way out of RACISM" priceless.
I feel you Saira
I do believe that all 3 of y'all are smart as hell ...I had a married for 26yrs I can't remember it's been 7 yrs happily divorced with the aftermath of his destruction but I can learn and study and get involved with being black in these setter states and connect with smart women...thank you for this and all your work!!!
This country was built for a white collective and every now and then melanated people are included in that system. Just imagine how much power melanated folks would have if we came together on a large scale🤔. That’s our only hope…in my opinion.
I know this is s conversation not interview, but Amanda doesn''t let her guests speak enough. She interrupts, and goes on too long, and prioritises her own voice over her guests. It's something that she can work on. She' smart. But Amanda, let your guests speak. Give them space to expound. This felt like an Amanda monologue.
I listen to Amanda regularly, she is compelling and says what needs to be said, inline many others, and copes well with backlash. But I can fully see why so many people don't like her.
She mistakenly believes it's because she's assertive and speaks uncomfortable truths and is abrasive sometimes. Though these are not endearing qualities, they are necessary...but not why people don't like her.
They don't like her because she is uninterested in anyone else's opinions or thoughts. She uses guests and topics to showcase her own knowledge and intelligence.
She had what can be described as pronounced narcissistic traits. The only time she stays silent is when people are praising her. She doesn't interrupt THEN.
Ahe is a necessary part of the landscape because too few people speak up and speak out but that doesn't mean you have to like her as a person.
It's I,I,I, me me me all the damned time. Her actual growth, if she is interested in growth, will be from decentering herself. She's on the wrong track with the whole 'centre yourself, think about yourself first, self care' flex. That's for people who constantly put others first ro their own detriment. It's not for peope who are already selfish. Then it just compounds the selfishness into narcissism. Dunno if she reads the comments. If she does, I'm not being mean. I have no agenda. Again, I consume your valuable content. I'm also entitled to critique it. And that's my honest opinion.
Give this show over to your guests more. Stop trying to get them and the audience to see how clever and informed you are at the expense of their time and views. We all know you're clever and knowledgable, and there's no need to prove it any more.
If it' any use, think about that root. Why do you feel the need to prove your smarts all the time? Is it because as black people, we are considered unintelligent, and women sre seen as less intelligent than men, and that intersect sort of forces you to assert your cleverness all the time? Are you considtently undermined by people close to you? Are you/were you patronised a lot?
Intelligence and wisdom are different things, and while i'm not qualified to make the distinctions, or rather there isn't really a point, I just observe this: intelligent people are loud and vociferous, where wise people tend to be quieter people. Perhaps that suggests that the truly are always more interested in what they are imbibing and consuming and learning than they are concerned with the giving out of what they know. They take in more than they release. Which means when they do release, the content is deep, considered from many angles, and is informed by so much more, having taken in so much more.
Less wise people do a lot of reading yes, and can regurgitate all the facts and often make compelling arguments in an academic way. But they miss things with a closed off mind. They conclude too much. Wise people are not so interested in conclusions. They're mkre concerned with the questions than the answers.
Food for thought. If Amanda listen to any of this, without getting into an irate how dare you rage and without thinking that I must be some jumped up patronising idiot, then she WILL grow if she takes even some of it on board.
She had the right however, to continue to be whomever she is, and be happy with herself and her achievements. Which are many. But she speaks a lot about growth, and there are some truths in this post that will be helpful for her. Sometimes it is hard fkr i eligent people to take advice off other people though.
I don't think she IS a narcissist, but rather has traits of it borne from needing to prove herself so much, which creates self-obsession.
Is hate to think i'd said anything upsetting. Just trying to help. Applicstion of some of this will improve not just her content, but probabmy her interrpersonal relationships too. Just be actively, actually interested in other people, not as accessories to augment your own ego, but because they're interesting and deserve your full attention and enquiry. That's the next level of your evolution. To strip away your need to show you're the smartest, to strip away your egotism, to strip away your disinterest in other people. Thus last one will be gardest, because intelligent people fully believe they ARE interested in other people. They're curious beings. She has a show that invites good guests on goddammit! But that isn't true interest in people, its an interest in abstraction, in ideas, in content, and sometimes in showing off. You'll know when you're finally interested in other people, when you can listen to them intently without itching to give your perspective instantly, without the feeling of waiting for your turn to chime in. When you don't feel like rushing them along. When you can sit and listen. Another difficulty for smart people is hearing they don't listen. They think they do be ausr the grasp what people are saying easily, and they respond to what's been said. But real listening is about slowness, and letting ithers expound. Quick-pacing a convo with constant interjections doesn't leave room for guests to feel like they can take their time. And because a lot of interruption us actually well-intended and a result of enthusiasm, or wanting to affirm tge other party, it doesn't deel negative. But it chips away until you are dominating a conversation, and implies that all you are doing is waiting for them to shut up so you can speak again. Over an hour, the pattern and accumulation becomes and is almost comicsmal. By the end of this 'interview' the poor women were sat in practical silence as Amanda took off for the stratosphere. And these women were very smart, very knowledgeable and very funny. The audience was deprived of moments from them because the host can't take herself out if the equation. It may be Amanda's podcast, her name. But in that case lise the guest segment. And since you get good guests, that'd be a shame. So yes, dial down you and dial up your guests.
This message is too long already and wont even be read, but whatever.
cliff notes :
projection about
not being heard.
me switching apps to hear the bleep’d sentence your homeboy said after his ayahuasca trip 😂😂 LOLLL
Yes 🙌🏾🙌🏾 we’re Yah People 💚✊🏽😊❤️
I can explain it, I can't make you understand it is my new tag line
Handmaid's tale then the planet blows up
Thank you for the work you do, Amanda. I still haven’t become numb to what they did to you outside that party, so you should feel no shame in not “being over it” either. In fact, I was considering watching Insecure but DIDNT after hearing the news of that. It is a deep contraction to what that show/its cast are lauded for. Nothing matters on screen, it’s what you do in REAL LIFE that matters. I’ve unfortunately learned who my friends are not through similar experiences. You’re SOOO much better without them.
Keep a person dumb and you can tell them anything.
This was a great episode and truly believe we are in a spiritual warefare bt good and evil.
We are. The Bible says it.
Loved this! Great conversation. Glad to discover these insightful ladies!
Yall this was THE BEST thing I have seen all year
People don't act on it because it takes them out of their comfort zone
This was such a great conversation!
The LOWER BACK...SLEEP!!!!!!! Same!!!!😅😢😅😢🫂😂😂🥲🥹
I don't care that much about making "white women" love, understand, learn, connect, and defend us. I think we need to work harder on our own self love as a community. We want white love and white compassion soo dang bad, yet we can't even depend on each other in our own communities. Skin folk STILL ain't kin folk and it's really really sad. I'm so over begging and trying to educate white people when we don't have our OWN backs when crap gets rough. I appreciate the conversation but it's time we redirect our focus and start "deconstructing" our own dang selves.
This was a great conversation.
Can't wait for their starring appearance in Matt Walsh's "Am I Racist?"
I enjoyed this episode so much!
Loving this video. Great job ladies!
Loved this ladies!❤
I am your people, Amanda.
31:54 at this point in time I thought about when you mentioned, while being on 'The Real' the white women viewers not wanting to talk about real issues and them saying "we want to talk about lipstick"
I am a social worker therapist and I want to cleanse Africa of the colonizers and create community among yt women. Humanity is on the line. Who’s with me?!😅
We recently had a conversation about where did the idea come from that "raising awareness" was somehow considered effective participatory activism, like Marvel cartoon characters are "representation" and all of these surface things. We never expected this math to math, but too much dismantling of the institutions of the Crow Era is happening without people holding their documentation.🎉🎉🎉
Wow!!! I'm feeling all of this right now!
The Mysterious Benedict Society have been taken off
Tremendo trabajo ❤️✨
Very good episode for hope and see that people get frustrated but keep going. Well done
Love you !!! Love this !!!!
@amanda seales go get that damn trampoline and add more joy to your life. You deserve it ma'am. Jump on!🤸🏾♀️☀️
🗣📣📣📣Powerful discussion
33 mins in excellent discussion 😊😊😊😊
I loveeee when Amanda talks about the woowoo! My culture many ancestors reincarnate into multiple descendants- so for example cousins may have the same soul as a a grandmother or grandfather etc. I totally get what she’s trying to say. So similar to Igbo odinala. ❤
I'm glad you spoke on that and you still take the highroad
What is the solution?
Exactly my question. I feel this whole thing has nothing to do with the women wanting to find real solutions and understanding. Rather , they’re looking for shock tactics, and , let’s face it, they’re making money out is this too. This concludes with everyone saying “ we’re racist “ and all clap as if the object was achieved. I want to ask: “and …? What’s next…?”
Would love to watch the documentary but haven’t been able to find it for free.
Social media is indeed keeping some of us from feeling like we are losing our minds, feeling less alone with what we're thinking, educating the masses whether some like it or not to mention it's the only reason we know the truth about Palestine.
Had to leave the pod and come to RUclips, because I needed to see facial expressions. Enjoyed this episode.
I remember seeing a trailer for Deconstructing Karen years ago, didn't watch it, and then totally forgot about it. I'm still not sure if I wanna get infuriated & triggered by watching it, but I just might solely because Saira and Regina are fire! I mean, Saira is volcanic! I have a response to the question all three of you perhaps facetiously didn't have an answer to: which was something like, why white women/people are willfully complacent and complicit to white supremacy. I think the reason is capitalism, because it socializes folks to internalize the morally bankrupt notion (really mantra) of scarcity, that haves and have-nots are inevitable, and that the cruelty and suffering that comes from being one of the have-nots is going to happen to someone, some group, and that in order to survive and thrive, one has no choice but to fight to be or remain part of the haves.
Wow
Nope they know and they don't give a damn.
You are so epic for this show !!!
Thank you ❤️ this was powerful.
Great. Now I hate myself even more. Maybe we're still mad about burning each other at the stake...
This was a wonderful session. A heartfelt thanks to all three of you exceptional women💌
Please don't make it about you.
That's why we can't get things straightened out.
Use your actions, your voice, and your hard earned money to make a change.
Spend at very small Black owned businesses, speak up when you see maltreatment, and record from a distance when Black people have police interactions. Do the things you'd do for your loved ones or you want done for yourself
Thanks for taking the time to respond. I made this comment in jest because Rao says that white women hate themselves & have no sense of community; and I absolutely agree. The witch burnings were a reference. I am biracial/cultural and did not grow up in white America. My mother was a "war bride" & I am from Guam. When I moved to the States the only communities I felt accepted in were & still are in black & brown communities. My heart, loyalty, allegiance & support will always be in these communities. And as far as making it about me, yes & no. I am in a constant state of self investigation to see where & how I fit into this equation so I can help dismantle colonial white supremacy.
Channel that hate into loving action for others! And it will balance out
Great conversation
What’s crazy is conservatives also believe that humanity is in a downward spiral but for completely different reasons.
Good points, good convos! I relate! So many facades and cry babies! Karen don’t cry if you’re reading this!
Here’s a solution:
We care!
We know they ONLY care about themselves!
The marketing has to change. The sales pitch has to change! Make good things sound beneficial to THEM!
Once you know you’re talking to a person that doesn’t care, change the sales pitch to how they can benefit from xyz
Well sis, and auntie THANK YOU for continuing the work...whitekanda is ccrraazzyyy
Great episode 👏🏽👏🏽
Needed this today!!!
I like it already-
It snowed in Florida. The environment is shot to hell.
Does anyone know the doc Saira recommended on the Disney platform?
Mysterious Benedict Society
We love you Amanda fuck those people from 2019 they ain't real like you!!!!! Keep setting the example 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I thoroughly enjoyed this!
Again 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm so proud of you
❤🎉😮Speak the truth!
💝
Oh my 😅
Loved this conversation
I love how they talk about white women, theyre all literally so the same!
And we can do it at the United Palace in Washington Heights. I got some pull there.
I'm your people!!
i better see a trampoline soon
I WONDER IF YOU WILL EVER “AFFIRM” THAT DOCTOR YOU BRAZENLY ACCUSED OF SA EVEN THOUGH YOU’VE NEVER MET HIM IN REAL LIFE?
It's funny, if you can dismantle Karen's you can actually dismantle racism
I've dated men not born in the US they have liked that I am smart. Merican guys not so much
Get a trampoline!❤
I’ve been totally hoodwinked & my soul was being killed…I fought. There IS a strong soul inside of me! I’m going through a major deconstruction & it’s amazing! I’m white living on stolen land Australia on Naarm. Yeah it’s difficult but it’s honestly the best thing. I felt more crazy repressed. I never felt ok being silent, my soul was uncomfortable. Ok yes this is about me (as usual a white women going on about herself 😂) but I want to give hope to other white people that it’s actually better to deconstruct. I’m an ally. What I hate is that when I’m vocal amongst my ‘progressive’ peers IM LABELED TOO MUCH! I have no community but will find it. 🍉🇵🇸❤️