I knew Sheikh was about to break down when he reached for the water after saying that his mom passed away 9 months ago………. 😢 we’ve all made the profound mistake of disrespecting our parents at some point of our lives…. Ya Allah. Please forgive THEIR shortcomings and OURS and give us the ability and chance to be respectful and dutiful to our parents before we return to Allah ❤❤❤ Ameen ya rabb
At first I always try to do sabr, but then my mother always knows how to say the harshest things to me and break my heart, at that time I'm losing it. Please pray for me and other children that facing the same problem ya Syekh so that we can always do good to our parents.
6:20 that's it. I felt a certain type of way beforehand then I saw it. Assim is human too. He knows loss. He has life experience. Inna illahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un for his mother
Beautiful message. This is very profound. Even if you have trauma and pain, even if that's from your family, it is still your choice to choose love. Choose to love all, and show compassion to everyone. Even if they would not do the same for you. I hope everyone who reads this has a blessed day. From Puerto Rico.
As for me, my mom was a slightly hard on me but soft to my sister, there were times i felt angry.. but then i knew i couldnt control my mother, the only person i can control is only me, so i changed myself and be nice to my mom. Since then she was extremely nice to me. So sad now she has gone 😢
Masha Allah, I'm so touched with your doa and my tears falling down reading your comments Barakallah fii kum and your very kindness will come back to you
Masha Allah, well explained sheikh, we have to be aware of our parents scarifices and are bound to be dutiful to them, Allah (subhan wa tala)bless everyone's parents, Aameen ya rabul alameen
I’m conflicted sometimes when I hear him talk about it being a test when parents are terrible humans, it’s hard to do things sometimes for the sake of Deen. But seeing him hold tears back mentioning his mother made me feel something, and since I’ve been listening to him for a couple years I try to be more mindful and aware with how I act with my parents
Your parents can be your gateway to Paradise or Hell.So stay patient doesn’t matter if they treat u harshly.Just obey unless its something that will badly effect u in religion.Same with obeying your husband.
My advise that first consider if you are right ir wrong i at 29 realized i was borderline personality.i woukd lash out or get depressed at my parents iver slightest things justifying they r flawed my dad gets hyper so i can be too took on bad coping mechanisms. Over thinking always being on mobile onky thrill seeking n sympathy from friends and family.olz visit therapist and my advise is firget their mistakes and analyze with ooen mind if they r right don't get mad at harsh tone or criticism.help them in house chores. If they mad u don't be rude leave do something productive don't isolate ruminate depress rather come back n firget 99 percent problems solved .if necessary be assertive say things in hasi mazak but don't force urself on them with monologues n guilt tripp n manipulation just let go.dont think ignore 1 positive count 99 blessings and strengthen urself in work namaz positive quotes exercise n oxytocin with quality time with family.give n take. Or ull regret in hellish thoughts like i m .plz seek help change ur bad habits plz
Assalamalikum, I have a question. Is anyone explaining me this year, muhuram 10 is on friday. Can i fast in 9th muhram Thursday and 10th muhuram friday can I fast or not
Regarding the fasting of 10th Muharam, it's Sunnah to fast the 9th and 10th or 10th and 11th so that we don't follow the foot steeps of Yahuud because them fast on 10th Muharam only. Allah knows best
I hate my mother. She ruin my life. She’s a selfish, self-centred, self righteous and she only think of her happiness, her wants and her needs. She control my life for 30 years and I can’t take it anymore. I love my dad.
سلام عليكم يا شيخ …… أنا أريد أن أسأل سؤال وهو أنا أريد أن أكون مع أمي واخدمها ولكن هي تريد مني أن أسافر إلى بلد آخر كي اكمل دراستي في الجامعة وهي مثيرة على ذلك مصيره فماذا افعل يا شيخ، هل اطيع واسمع كلامها أو اقعد معاها كي اخدمها بالله عليك يا شيخ أمانة جاوبني
I hate to say it, but the sheikh seems to be contradicting himself. In the following video, he says the parents are COMMITTING A SIN if they try to force the child to marry against his/her wish. I think the question was about serious matters like this and not about eating ice cream when your parents tell you not to. ruclips.net/video/FQ3qHBH_6JM/видео.html
@@abdulazizalawadhi6569 So obeying your parents in marrying is against Islam? If not, why does he say the parents are committing a sin? Watch the video I shared.
there's no pleasing anybody with displeasing Allah.. secondly sheikh always says to prioritize own opinion regarding marriage as many of times parents don't approve girl from other region or culture (she maybe very pious but still they won't accept in this regard he says to disobey them..this is only for boys) girls need permission obviously... sheikh never said to disrespect or disobey parents when it is lined with sharia
Who said that obeying parents in regards to marriage is against islam-_- the video you shared was for a particular scenario where the parents where transgressors
I'm sorry but why is he undermining child abuse and actually talking nonsense there's no need to be bringing other tests when this is not relevant to the q
there is never a word said about the parents huh? always the children, go fix the source of the issue first, why let parents be abusive and applying the deen wrong in the first place? transgressing the rights of their children , always excusing them and saying would you rather would you rather, i would rather have a physical thing that has no soul tormenting me than mental tortures for example, parents should be accountable and im sure they will be punished by Allah s.w.t, but at the end they always say forgive me forgive me to you as if nothing happened, as if it didnt affect you negatively in your life making it sad and harsher than it should be, and at the end they say forgive me and be good to me or else and using islam as an excuse , you do not understand the abuse and what it does to your LIFE, it affects your mood, your sleep, your work, your marriage , and if you even live up to optain any of these after the abuse you're special then, people get miserable, they cant focus, they always think of the abuse, you're always giving excuses to parents and the child will think the imams and the country is not protecting MY RIGHTS, as a child, but only the rights of the parent, so all we have is patience and dua to Allah s.w.t, you always think of it as a test, as if its only 1 test, people have multiple tests physical problems and mental problems and problems with their families, now you say she should be patient that her own mother favors her siblings thats bad idk if its haram, and bad mouth her in front of other families, you tell me this is okay? no puting the mother in her place and telling her she is in the wrong? you realize that what she says will make her whole family hate the girl and back bite her and make her miserably beyond fix ? no i agree and we should worship Allah and obey his commands and be patient, but for you people in power are not saying anything worth to the parents and bringing ease to the abused , they grow up angry and sad and will do the same to their kids out of spite and anger and not getting enough wisdom and raised righty by abusive parents, and the cycle continues and arab world is in garbage then, but the west at least they punish bad parents even if its not sharia law, you at the least should teach bad parents and put them in counselling and not give them excuses and say your children will not go to jannah unless they kiss your feet and in a way obey you as slaves and let you hit and abuse them, that gives blind power to the parent that is not even knowledgeable or pious in his /her deen, and breeds evil and bitterness, so you're part of the huge problem, almost as if making the excuse to yourself to do whatever to your kids because you hold jannah as hostage for them. parents should be loving, you should love and care for your parents not just cause islam tells you to, but because you love them and they deserve it, now a lot of angry hatful parents teach religion of hardship and forcing them to worship and all in the wrong ways no love no nothing, and they HAVE to obey parents not out of love but out of force and anger, what is this ?? is this your version of islam ? compel to obey and care for them because you HAVE to or else no jannah ? not because you love them and they love you? i never disagree with islam and Allah s.w.t, what i disagree with is you and your way of thinking and the abusive bad parenting we all see and experience in the arab and muslim world, forget the west for one second, all arabs have dark bags underneath their eyes looking evil and angry and sad and bitter and the cycle continues and no love no compassion and corrupt governments making their lives miserable and they take it out on their kids, and if non of you scholars talk to the ummah and advise and teach the love in islam only the haram and not haram and have a stern face all the time like its a religion of seriousness and this and that, this way you're excusing the parents who are responsible for the new generation of muslims, and they compare the dreadful life of a muslim in his country vs the western life with green fields and happy faces, why they say if japan had islam then they would be the best of people ? why never the miserable angry arabs never do good? fix yourselves and the way you teach islam, go do your duty and advise the leaders of the muslim worlds as knowledgeable scholars of islam, and then tell them to be real muslims and lead the arabs and muslm to be the best countries in the world, and then the common people will maybe be less bitter and angry at the country's state and poverty and comparison to the west, and be more happy and contempt so their kids will learn from them better and not abuse their kids, and maybe just maybe insha Allah we can slowly reach what we once were back in the day, it all starts from the home, stop telling children grown into broken adults to be " patient " and its a "test" and remain broken and take the mental abuse and physical abuse as if its okay as long as its a test, no go take your rights as a human as you have rights as a child same as the parent has a right as a parent, do not use islam as a weapon, some people do not deserve to be parents or bring the new generation.
Yes I hate it too when I hear that you’ll not go to Jannah unless you good to your mother. If you’re mother is good then it’s ok, I’m happy to be good to her but when you’re mother is bad, why should I still be good to her. She’s the source of my anger and my unhappiness because she ruin my life. Because of Islam giving so much power to mother, she’s always threatening me with it like she have the power of Jannah in her hand.
1:08 Assalaam Sheikh We trust that you Alhamdulillah. I have a very difficult question and may Sheikh please respond and try to assist us. My who will be 32 years of age. He has been seeing this lady for 3 - 31/2 years. They now wish to get married. But we as parents are not so happy with this lady. When we had a conversation regarding marriage with her the conclusion was as follows: Herself 1st Then her work Then her grandmother Then her father and family Then her friends - she loves her friends Then she wish to have a baby because her biological clock is ticking In the above conversation my son probably did not feature and we were not happy. Also from this conversation in 1. We also asked her if she had any boyfriends prior meeting our son. Her answer was yes and from this we deducted maybe more than 1 My son is saying that his father are asking inappropriate questions. Also that his father has very little respect for her. Also that his father has does not know how to operate. That his father has lied about marriage. His father now have the worse name by her family. His father has now put her through mental health care Then her father was married prior marrying her mother…….they have also now separated and Her grandmother and grandfather raised her - who is in her aged now Also her father 30 years ago was an drug addict - currently he is not using this substance anymore She only see her mother approximately 2 to 3 times a year. She has a brother who is an drug addict and we are very concern how this will impact on my son’s Children and our family and our other grandchildren. When we advised our son regarding our reservations of marrying this lady he was not very happy We gave him the final decision which he agreed but the breakup did not go very smoothly She and her aunt advised my son that he has to be very careful of his father as his father is very Manipulative and does not have his best interest at heart. Subsequent there has been many arguments and father and son is not on speaking terms My son now feels his whole family is against him and want to dictate to him Then my husband tried to speak to the lady again to meet him to discuss but she wanted my son to Be in the meeting as well. My husband said no and that she is now dictating to him My husband also advised her he is now done. From all this back and forth we found that she is very street smart and my son is not and he did not Have any girlfriends before just friends And because of this she is manipulating him. Please can Sheikh advise as we do not know what to do. All we wish is for him is to be happy and not be her 2nd best or 3rd best on her list. I have got no idea what to do and don’t like what my son is currently going through. If Sheikh advise what we have to do.
I knew Sheikh was about to break down when he reached for the water after saying that his mom passed away 9 months ago………. 😢 we’ve all made the profound mistake of disrespecting our parents at some point of our lives…. Ya Allah. Please forgive THEIR shortcomings and OURS and give us the ability and chance to be respectful and dutiful to our parents before we return to Allah ❤❤❤ Ameen ya rabb
Ameen
Aameen! ❤
Your absolutely right, you words my friend have done more for me that you will ever know. Thank you @AllahsServant12
@@ty7596jazakallah khair
6:02
At first I always try to do sabr, but then my mother always knows how to say the harshest things to me and break my heart, at that time I'm losing it. Please pray for me and other children that facing the same problem ya Syekh so that we can always do good to our parents.
I pray for you dear sister/brother that Allah gives us all the chance to be dutiful and respectful to our parents ❤
You should pray yourself. Maybe you are closer to Allah than the Sheikh Allah Knows best
Say, Laa Hawla Walaa Quwwata Illa Billaah
@@nafisrahman5482 laa hawwla walla quwatta illah billah 🤲 is sufficient for all of us especially stressful situations!
It's a test. Sometimes Allah tests us with those closer to us.
I’ve never seen him so vulnerable 😢
Tbh, only in this one I see sheikh "almost cry" when Q&A
May Allah grant our parents Jannah Firdaus. Aamiin
just shows how much he loves and misses his mother.
Tbh, only in this one I see sheikh "almost cry" when Q&A
May Allah grant our parents Jannah Firdaus. Aamiin
6:20 that's it. I felt a certain type of way beforehand then I saw it. Assim is human too. He knows loss. He has life experience. Inna illahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un for his mother
This actually helped me reconcile with my mother, Jazak Allah Khair
Same. Jazakallah khair
May Allah bless the Sheikh and have mercy on his mother.
Beautiful message. This is very profound. Even if you have trauma and pain, even if that's from your family, it is still your choice to choose love. Choose to love all, and show compassion to everyone. Even if they would not do the same for you. I hope everyone who reads this has a blessed day. From Puerto Rico.
As for me, my mom was a slightly hard on me but soft to my sister, there were times i felt angry.. but then i knew i couldnt control my mother, the only person i can control is only me, so i changed myself and be nice to my mom. Since then she was extremely nice to me. So sad now she has gone 😢
Subhanallah ❤❤❤
Patience is key. Speak softly to your parents. Use your internal dialogue and bite your tongue instead of showing anger.
Ya ALLAH
Make me and my whole family and friends true muslims
Allahumma Ameen
Masha Allah, I'm so touched with your doa and my tears falling down reading your comments
Barakallah fii kum and your very kindness will come back to you
Allahumma Aameen
May Allah have MERCY on us all Ameen
May Allah bless you and your Beautiful family good Deen and DUNIYA Ameen
Ameen ❤
Shaikh ur each words are so inspiring to improve ourselvs on the path of allah. May allay rewarded you💚💗
Ya Allah, May Allah bless and reward you, Sheikh immensely for reminding us all children to be kind to their parents, Ameen
Masha Allah, well explained sheikh, we have to be aware of our parents scarifices and are bound to be dutiful to them, Allah (subhan wa tala)bless everyone's parents, Aameen ya rabul alameen
I’m conflicted sometimes when I hear him talk about it being a test when parents are terrible humans, it’s hard to do things sometimes for the sake of Deen. But seeing him hold tears back mentioning his mother made me feel something, and since I’ve been listening to him for a couple years I try to be more mindful and aware with how I act with my parents
I always remember this video of Sheikh whenever I have a bit of “disagreement” with my mom. May Allah forgive us. Ameen ya rabb
Very good explanation 😢❤
May Allah grant us all sabr with our beloved parents, Ameen. JazakumAllah Khairan, for sharing your Deen
Ma sha Allah
May Allah grant us all Jannah
Masha Allah shiehk ❤❤❤
Your parents can be your gateway to Paradise or Hell.So stay patient doesn’t matter if they treat u harshly.Just obey unless its something that will badly effect u in religion.Same with obeying your husband.
MashaAllah
Ameen!
Ameen Yaa Rabbi
My advise that first consider if you are right ir wrong i at 29 realized i was borderline personality.i woukd lash out or get depressed at my parents iver slightest things justifying they r flawed my dad gets hyper so i can be too took on bad coping mechanisms. Over thinking always being on mobile onky thrill seeking n sympathy from friends and family.olz visit therapist and my advise is firget their mistakes and analyze with ooen mind if they r right don't get mad at harsh tone or criticism.help them in house chores. If they mad u don't be rude leave do something productive don't isolate ruminate depress rather come back n firget 99 percent problems solved .if necessary be assertive say things in hasi mazak but don't force urself on them with monologues n guilt tripp n manipulation just let go.dont think ignore 1 positive count 99 blessings and strengthen urself in work namaz positive quotes exercise n oxytocin with quality time with family.give n take.
Or ull regret in hellish thoughts like i m .plz seek help change ur bad habits plz
Sorry to say but sister is hardly audible. Did not understand the question
Assalamalikum, I have a question. Is anyone explaining me this year, muhuram 10 is on friday. Can i fast in 9th muhram Thursday and 10th muhuram friday can I fast or not
can.
Regarding the fasting of 10th Muharam, it's Sunnah to fast the 9th and 10th or 10th and 11th so that we don't follow the foot steeps of Yahuud because them fast on 10th Muharam only. Allah knows best
Yes you can my dear 9th and 10th , also 11 if you can
I hate my mother. She ruin my life. She’s a selfish, self-centred, self righteous and she only think of her happiness, her wants and her needs. She control my life for 30 years and I can’t take it anymore.
I love my dad.
Same but it’s a test which unfortunately we all have to go through
Bro your own personal life is yours you don’t have to listen to anyone except Allah regarding your personal choice
سلام عليكم يا شيخ …… أنا أريد أن أسأل سؤال وهو أنا أريد أن أكون مع أمي واخدمها ولكن هي تريد مني أن أسافر إلى بلد آخر كي اكمل دراستي في الجامعة وهي مثيرة
على ذلك مصيره فماذا افعل يا شيخ، هل اطيع واسمع كلامها أو اقعد معاها كي اخدمها بالله عليك يا شيخ أمانة جاوبني
I hate to say it, but the sheikh seems to be contradicting himself. In the following video, he says the parents are COMMITTING A SIN if they try to force the child to marry against his/her wish. I think the question was about serious matters like this and not about eating ice cream when your parents tell you not to. ruclips.net/video/FQ3qHBH_6JM/видео.html
But he did say before you should listen to them unless they tell you do something against Islam.
@@maryammary3494 So which one is it? Obey your parents or just be kind to them?
@@abdulazizalawadhi6569 So obeying your parents in marrying is against Islam? If not, why does he say the parents are committing a sin? Watch the video I shared.
there's no pleasing anybody with displeasing Allah.. secondly sheikh always says to prioritize own opinion regarding marriage as many of times parents don't approve girl from other region or culture (she maybe very pious but still they won't accept in this regard he says to disobey them..this is only for boys) girls need permission obviously... sheikh never said to disrespect or disobey parents when it is lined with sharia
Who said that obeying parents in regards to marriage is against islam-_- the video you shared was for a particular scenario where the parents where transgressors
I'm sorry but why is he undermining child abuse and actually talking nonsense there's no need to be bringing other tests when this is not relevant to the q
there is never a word said about the parents huh? always the children, go fix the source of the issue first, why let parents be abusive and applying the deen wrong in the first place? transgressing the rights of their children , always excusing them and saying would you rather would you rather, i would rather have a physical thing that has no soul tormenting me than mental tortures for example, parents should be accountable and im sure they will be punished by Allah s.w.t, but at the end they always say forgive me forgive me to you as if nothing happened, as if it didnt affect you negatively in your life making it sad and harsher than it should be, and at the end they say forgive me and be good to me or else and using islam as an excuse , you do not understand the abuse and what it does to your LIFE, it affects your mood, your sleep, your work, your marriage , and if you even live up to optain any of these after the abuse you're special then, people get miserable, they cant focus, they always think of the abuse, you're always giving excuses to parents and the child will think the imams and the country is not protecting MY RIGHTS, as a child, but only the rights of the parent, so all we have is patience and dua to Allah s.w.t, you always think of it as a test, as if its only 1 test, people have multiple tests physical problems and mental problems and problems with their families, now you say she should be patient that her own mother favors her siblings thats bad idk if its haram, and bad mouth her in front of other families, you tell me this is okay? no puting the mother in her place and telling her she is in the wrong? you realize that what she says will make her whole family hate the girl and back bite her and make her miserably beyond fix ? no i agree and we should worship Allah and obey his commands and be patient, but for you people in power are not saying anything worth to the parents and bringing ease to the abused , they grow up angry and sad and will do the same to their kids out of spite and anger and not getting enough wisdom and raised righty by abusive parents, and the cycle continues and arab world is in garbage then, but the west at least they punish bad parents even if its not sharia law, you at the least should teach bad parents and put them in counselling and not give them excuses and say your children will not go to jannah unless they kiss your feet and in a way obey you as slaves and let you hit and abuse them, that gives blind power to the parent that is not even knowledgeable or pious in his /her deen, and breeds evil and bitterness, so you're part of the huge problem, almost as if making the excuse to yourself to do whatever to your kids because you hold jannah as hostage for them. parents should be loving, you should love and care for your parents not just cause islam tells you to, but because you love them and they deserve it, now a lot of angry hatful parents teach religion of hardship and forcing them to worship and all in the wrong ways no love no nothing, and they HAVE to obey parents not out of love but out of force and anger, what is this ?? is this your version of islam ? compel to obey and care for them because you HAVE to or else no jannah ? not because you love them and they love you? i never disagree with islam and Allah s.w.t, what i disagree with is you and your way of thinking and the abusive bad parenting we all see and experience in the arab and muslim world, forget the west for one second, all arabs have dark bags underneath their eyes looking evil and angry and sad and bitter and the cycle continues and no love no compassion and corrupt governments making their lives miserable and they take it out on their kids, and if non of you scholars talk to the ummah and advise and teach the love in islam only the haram and not haram and have a stern face all the time like its a religion of seriousness and this and that, this way you're excusing the parents who are responsible for the new generation of muslims, and they compare the dreadful life of a muslim in his country vs the western life with green fields and happy faces, why they say if japan had islam then they would be the best of people ? why never the miserable angry arabs never do good? fix yourselves and the way you teach islam, go do your duty and advise the leaders of the muslim worlds as knowledgeable scholars of islam, and then tell them to be real muslims and lead the arabs and muslm to be the best countries in the world, and then the common people will maybe be less bitter and angry at the country's state and poverty and comparison to the west, and be more happy and contempt so their kids will learn from them better and not abuse their kids, and maybe just maybe insha Allah we can slowly reach what we once were back in the day, it all starts from the home, stop telling children grown into broken adults to be " patient " and its a "test" and remain broken and take the mental abuse and physical abuse as if its okay as long as its a test, no go take your rights as a human as you have rights as a child same as the parent has a right as a parent, do not use islam as a weapon, some people do not deserve to be parents or bring the new generation.
Yes I hate it too when I hear that you’ll not go to Jannah unless you good to your mother. If you’re mother is good then it’s ok, I’m happy to be good to her but when you’re mother is bad, why should I still be good to her. She’s the source of my anger and my unhappiness because she ruin my life. Because of Islam giving so much power to mother, she’s always threatening me with it like she have the power of Jannah in her hand.
1:08 Assalaam Sheikh We trust that you Alhamdulillah.
I have a very difficult question and may Sheikh please respond and try to assist us.
My who will be 32 years of age. He has been seeing this lady for 3 - 31/2 years.
They now wish to get married.
But we as parents are not so happy with this lady.
When we had a conversation regarding marriage with her the conclusion was as follows:
Herself 1st
Then her work
Then her grandmother
Then her father and family
Then her friends - she loves her friends
Then she wish to have a baby because her biological clock is ticking
In the above conversation my son probably did not feature and we were not happy.
Also from this conversation in 1. We also asked her if she had any boyfriends prior meeting our son.
Her answer was yes and from this we deducted maybe more than 1
My son is saying that his father are asking inappropriate questions. Also that his father has very
little respect for her. Also that his father has does not know how to operate. That his father has
lied about marriage. His father now have the worse name by her family. His father has now put
her through mental health care
Then her father was married prior marrying her mother…….they have also now separated and
Her grandmother and grandfather raised her - who is in her aged now
Also her father 30 years ago was an drug addict - currently he is not using this substance anymore
She only see her mother approximately 2 to 3 times a year.
She has a brother who is an drug addict and we are very concern how this will impact on my son’s
Children and our family and our other grandchildren.
When we advised our son regarding our reservations of marrying this lady he was not very happy
We gave him the final decision which he agreed but the breakup did not go very smoothly
She and her aunt advised my son that he has to be very careful of his father as his father is very
Manipulative and does not have his best interest at heart.
Subsequent there has been many arguments and father and son is not on speaking terms
My son now feels his whole family is against him and want to dictate to him
Then my husband tried to speak to the lady again to meet him to discuss but she wanted my son to
Be in the meeting as well. My husband said no and that she is now dictating to him
My husband also advised her he is now done.
From all this back and forth we found that she is very street smart and my son is not and he did not
Have any girlfriends before just friends
And because of this she is manipulating him.
Please can Sheikh advise as we do not know what to do.
All we wish is for him is to be happy and not be her 2nd best or 3rd best on her list.
I have got no idea what to do and don’t like what my son is currently going through.
If Sheikh advise what we have to do.
Try one of his counseling sessions I think he gives one free for the person who can’t afford it
The booking email is in the intro
May Allah help you and your family
stop teaching nonsense,parents are not god,dont give nonsense reasons like going in syria yemen
May Allah bless the Sheikh and have mercy on his mother.