Coming from a guy with a fascination for THICC-thighed/bootied, tall women including Zendaya Coleman (can't wait for her to have Zendaya Jr. with her beau Tom Holland! XD), thank you so much for this video!
You will NOT become a real life Laird, you will become the latest victim of this scam. After being taken to court you'd think they would obey a cease and desist order but here they are at it again. These two women will need a lot more before they learn their lesson.
crazy how when a woman is a few inches taller than her boyfriend everyone wants to ask "hOW dO YoU gUyS kiSs???" but no one seems to care when the guy is a whole foot taller than his girlfriend 😒
This. I mean, I am "petite" and the other day there was a post about the video's topic on Reddit. And people were just fixated on this idea that guys have to be 6 ft tall. That's definitely close to being a foot taller than me, I'm 5.2. But I feel as though I was expected to say "Yeah six feet tall baby that's how it should be". I honestly would prefer for the guy to be 5.9 or shorter. Don't have anything against taller guys and they can be very attractive for sure. But honestly, anyone taller than 5.7 would probably have to lean in for a lot of stuff, he'd break his neck trying to be at my level. I know that not all girls are 5.2-5.4 so I'm definitely not going to say "Oh yeah all short guys should find shorter women to date" because that's BS. All I'm saying is that the environment on the internet is toxic when it comes to this subject. Makes most women feel like they have to be shorter than 5.5 and all guys should not be shorter than 5.11. WTF?!
yes thank you for talking about this. as a nearly 6 foot woman I can't count the times I've been told I have to find a taller man and then I'm like why TF should i
same here! I'm 5'11 and my husband is an inch shorter than me. my sister's 510 and her husband is 4 in shorter than her. you can't help who you fall in love with. the people who are obsessed with height aren't someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway. because the second you gain some weight or get into an accident they're going to leave you. they're so shallow and judgemental they are not going to stay with you the second you no longer fit their aesthetic. all of the women in my family are at least 510 and all of them are married to men shorter than them. my great grandmother was actually 6 ft 1 in in 1901. and her husband was 6 ft 7 in tall. and now we have a family of giants. it's honestly all about old money. the longer your family has had money and therefore good nutrition the taller you are going to be. my family has had money since the early 1700s so everyone was getting great nutrition and just kept getting taller and taller and taller until around the '70s when processed foods became more common and we started getting shorter.
For me I love tall women and women that wear large heels like Lady Gaga and the tall girls that just embraced their height Short guys aren't losers Tall women aren't freakshows Men and women shouldn't be insecure about their height
Thank you! I am a short girl but it's been really frustrating seeing some gentlemen out there being seriously insecure about their height. Good for you! 😁 It doesn't matter, it really doesn't.
@@Fourtune1 I think more than showkj9off it's peer pressure and pressure to Co nform. And it's suck bs yore really going to live a miserable cookie cutter life just because every else tells you what to do? Ist your life stand your ground for who you like and what you want and makes you happy.
@@6abhisekbackup9 It's true, height can play a large role in attraction, but not always in the way you think for everyone, lol. For me, it's always been, if a guy with an attractive face is under 5'8" he's automatically more attractive to me than a guy 5'10" or taller. For some women (in the minority, but we exist) shorter men are just more of a turn on. Different strokes for different folks.
As a short guy, it's particularly tiring (and a bit depressing) to see how many women will filter me out because I'm not tall enough. Female friends will literally talk to me about height in guys as if it doesn't directly affect me. One of my best relationships was with a woman who was a whole 20cm taller. It was fantastic. Height just had no bearing on anything. I don't understand why it's such a big issue for many women.
I honestly don't stand this weening about being rejected by tall women: find a short women or a tall women that likes you, like everybody else does. We don't need to justify what we find attractive.
It's probably because society told women that taller men are the ideal partner to have. Taller men are perceived as more protective, more assertive, and just, more reliable.
Look at the stats on Google. Only 70% of women will date An average height man (5’9). Soon as you get an inch lower it starts decreasing by 10%+. A 5’5 guy has a 90% chance of being rejected by a 5’0 girl even though she’s still shorter than him with heels on.
@@Turbonilla There's no need to get defensive. He was just ranting about how his self esteem got repeatedly damaged over something he can't control. Wouldn't you do the same?
@@Turbonilla God forbid someone express how societal standards have disadvantaged them and cause them to have low self esteem because they don’t fit a certain criteria. What a crybaby, right? 🙄
Props to tall girls willing to date shorter guys! My wife is 5'7" and I'm 5'5" and she towers over me when she's in heels (and its hot AF, not gonna lie).
Being 5’11, i think ive dated like one guy taller than me. Not because i didnt want to date someone taller, it just never happened for me. Majority of the guys ive dated have HATED when i wore heals - either it made me tower over them or if we were the same height, made me taller. 100% conditioned to just never wear heels. Now I’m engaged to a guy who is 5’9 and absolutely LOVES my height and when i wear heels. I dont really care about heels much, but what I DO care about is the fact that it revealed something about my old boyfriends - that they were not only super fragile in their masculinity but also that they were totally cool with shaming something about me that is totally out of my control and something id worked on for years to accept. Being with a guy who actually LOVES this part of me is truly amazing.
This is so embarrassing. I stopped hanging out with this group of girls because they would constantly mock guys on Tinder because they were under 5'10", when I repeatedly mentioned that the guy I was dating was 5'7". Not only was it insulting, but I didn't want to be around people that shallow.
You didn't want to be around them because your own boyfriend was 5'7. I don't think they suddenly started mocking men under 5'10 until after you got a short boyfriend. You didn't mind them being shallow and mean until it affected you.
Key word "Tinder" that's a low intelligence treat at first glance. You will always find critics regardless. If a man is over 6'...does he have enough money? Is he muscular, has he a car and a house?
I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and he is 5 inches shorter than me. When we started dating girls would say “I could never date someone shorter than me”. I look at it like my ex was about 4 inches taller then me but treated me horribly but my fiancé treats me like a queen. At the end of the day it’s if they are a good person. I’m not going to leave a great guy because a silly rule society made.
I'm a 6'1" tall woman and i had huge problems with dating men because they were intimidated by me. the fact that i like to wear platforms didn't help at all. thankfully over the years i feel more appreciated as people started thirsting over fictional tall women and i saw it reflect positive on my dating life as well. i never held any prejudice against dating short men but people around me were calling me weird when the guy i danced with at the prom was shorter than me.
Yeah see this is proof that's it's all made up, beauty standards that is. As well as those of femininity and masculinity. The fact that they all played Resident Evil 8 last summer and were like "Step on me mommy" has someone made your life easier is both hilarious and a little lamentable. Your beauty was always there, yet they had to be told that you're beautiful to feel like they can be confident enough to approach you.
I'm right there with you. I'm six feet tall and I've never had a problem rocking the heels 👠. I've dated shorter men and never cared about what people thought about. I must say all the Lady D thirst from Resident Evil has me feeling pretty sexy!🔥
"Tall Girl" has got to have one of the most ridiculous premises ever. She is conveniently attractive, has great friends, a supportive family, a gorgeous house, several guys who are interested in her... But oh no! She's almost 6 feet tall. How will she EVER get by?! 🙄
@@edithputhy4948 Yeah, but if a girl is hot, a guy's not gonna pass on getting with her "because of society." Especially if she's attracted to him too. From a guy's perspective in bed we're all the same height. LOL
I'm a woman of 5'8/5'9 and I've always found shorter men cute. Everytime I've said yes to shorter men whom have asked me out. They appeared shocked. I am black and I know what it's like to not be "prefered". So I've come to the conclusion that I won't have preferences on people's physical appearances. There are deeper matters in life than stuff like that.
@@a.d.w8385 this. And (both men and women) will say it's their "preference". It's not a preference when you are at a statistical disadvantage for something like race or height. Also short and POC here and online dating is really toxic for ppl like us. Not impossible substantially harder.
Ive noticed too that the short one being assumed the “submissive” one is also usually going to be labeled as a bottom as a joke. It’s kinda weird I’ve come to dislike the term top and bottom bc they’ve morphed into the new “who’s the guy and who’s the girl” nonsense. When they were literally just position preference terms. Dom/me and sub already existed for behavior via the kink community, but they weren’t permanently fixed roles either
@@Joyride37 That's what I used to love abt the BDSM community (before it gained so much traction from bad movies such as 50 shades of grey) is that I was not pressured to fall onto stereotypical gender roles. I could be a sub or a dom (I'm a switch) and it had nothing to do with me being a femme woman, a top or a bottom.
@Miss Kate I think that’s so interesting. I’m in my early 20’s and a high school girl I know asked me if I was a “bottom or a top.” I mentioned that I probably prefer to be both and she said very mater of factly that it’s impossible to be both, we’re either one or the other. I’ve heard a lot of other teenagers say similar things, which is strange to me. I’ve felt a lot of pressure to not be a switch (specifically to be “a bottom” because I’m female) and there’s a lot of talk about how in order to “be a top” you have to insert something phallic into another person, it’s not about energy or roles as much as it is about literal parts. You cannot “top” your boyfriend unless you peg him, for example. I find it all weirdly backwards for something that presents itself as forward moving. My age group now has BDSM and queer culture in the mainstream- which can be a good thing, but in making it mainstream we’ve sort of misunderstood it and now use these originally deviant and freeing communities to further reinforce traditional gender roles, and I’ve noticed there was a whole phase where feminism was out of fashion so we didn’t really consider sexism when getting into these new things. As a result I think it’s taken away some of the more freeing and open ended aspects of these original movements, paired with our obsession with labels and correctness.
Shout out to Jlaw and Josh Hutcherson as Katniss and Peeta from the Hunger Games for pioneering the taller gf shorter bf in blockbuster films 10 years ago. I'll always love the moment in the last movie where Katniss leans down to hug a clearly shorter Peeta with a look of pure love and longing on her face. Back then, people acted like it was so strange, but it's lovely to see it completely accepted in another mainstream blockbuster these days.
I'm 5'10 and heavy set and my cousin told me the three strikes against my appearance is I'm tall, fat and dark skin. So I always tried to dress girly to counter the masculine traits I had. Even though I have dated guys shorter than me, I still feel less feminine than when I'm with a taller guy. I felt I had to date a taller guy to even look feminine.
I am sorry that they told you that 😟 please don't let this racism, fatphobia and sexism get to you! you are a beautiful person and you don't have to conform to the ideals of such jerks ❤️
Respect to all women willing or preferring to date shorter men or men who are shorter than them. From the video, seems like more guys are getting on board with dating taller women, but of course, sometimes words don't translate into actions.
There is no real "society". It's many individuals and most of them want to be accepted in a group more or less abiding social norms of their groups, meaning, you need to take effectively a decision for yourself what you want in life or not. This is the only way to become happy. As a rather short guy (173 cm), most people in my career told me, I wouldn't have what's needed to proceed in a meaningful way for a career. Now they are still in their jobs, while I successfully founded a company and I'm very well off compared to most people. They also laughed at me, when I showed up with my 6'1 girlfriend, but we're a happy couple for many years, while their relationships are broken. A man is measured by his accomplishments I believe, he is MADE. He isn't just born a winner by a single trait (in this case: height). Most people out there want to press you in some role, they want to see somebody. Like tall guy == successful. Problem is people are different. A friend of mine, which is 193 cm hasn't really anything going for him, but to be tall. He's very successful with women, because they choose him, because of his height. He got handed many things in life, just because he is perceived as a winner, but there wasn't any big skill involved. Reason I am where I am and he's just another average guy (but I help him massively with knowledge, so he's still much, much better off than he'd be without my stock market and crypto tips for example). I teached him also a lot of how to do actually do things and that you have to go in many situations in life against the herd, otherwise if you don't, your outcome only can be average. Therefore: if you want a tall man, you have to go for him and approach him. If height but doesn't matter, you'll have an easy life in finding a suitable partner, because society doesn't expect women to go for men. Then as women you have many other difficulties and challenges, but you know that of course better than me. Wish you the best.
It’s simple: women don’t want to admit we’re full of shit too. The prejudice/preference in regards to height never made sense to me, but I’ve heard so many women talk about not wanting to date someone under 6ft as if that’s the norm. We have a long way to go till we find our way through this…
@@Turbonilla it's how it's manifests that's the problem. For example I've seen many dating bios that straight up mock men under 6 ft. Seeing "Don't message if you're under 6 feet" from a 5'4 woman can be incredibly damaging to see.
@@TheCrogun respect is key, from both parts. But on tinder appearance comes first, so it's important to remember that's nothing personal about YOU. If a person is rude, swipe on!
Women's preferences are informed by patriarchy when it comes to finding mates. Data shows that powerful men will advance tall, masculine presenting males, and so those will traditionally be seen as most able to allow a woman to be feminine. That systemic bias isn't built by women nor is it the result of women not wanting to admit our own biases. It's a direct result of patriarchy rewarding a certain image of masculinity. But research also says that women are way more likely than men to drop their perceived standards when it comes to attractiveness so I am so confused by this prejudice ur linking to women. Image matters to everyone and preference exists, but the data still says women are much more comfortable with normal men than the opposite. This isn't saying women are all sunshine and roses. It's just saying there's a reason we can immediately come up with shows like King of Queens and Modern Family when talking about hot woman/way less attractive male pairings, but have a harder time naming TV shows where the woman is deemed much less traditionally attractive than the man. Idk if you've seen, but there are several videos on Yt that name celebrities with "ugly" spouses, and most of those are okay men with older or fat wives. I've seen one list with the opposite.
@@Turbonilla Preferences are informed by social norms tho. That's why thin people are now seen as most attractive, whereas in the 20s they were mainly seen as less so.
@@maloneaqua I hope you're right 😔 I'm a 5'2" straight guy and nearly 27. I've been single for nearly a decade. And I know that even if I get a girlfriend I'll be in for a constant barrage of people staring at us in public, making personal comments, her friends asking why doesn't she just leave me for someone taller/better (same thing to many people), etc. I've even heard anacdotes from other short guys of men walking up to their girlfriends in public in front of them and asking her to leave that pathetic short guy for them, "don't you want a real man?", or picking on the short guy in order to impress the girlfriend that they're more of a man and a better date. I don't really want to get beaten up so some douchebag can prove how macho he is, thanks.
My hubby is 5”5, I’m 5”7, I have never ever been happier, treats me like a literal Queen, everyday he sets such a strong standard for my daughter and an unforgettable example for our son. Incredible husband and father. So thankful for him❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽
I love this! I am slightly taller than my husband and I don’t even think about it, but so many others are quick to point it out which I think is so shallow.
Girl, same! When I started dating my now husband, it felt like everyone needed to point it out. Disappointingly so, mostly other women. To make it even more annoying, these were all girls who were shorter than me (and my husband). So the problem was that he wasn't too short, is that he was too short *for me* in their eyes.
I often date shorter guys, I'm 5'7 and the shortest guy I dated was 5 feet. I had no issue with it but we did get a lot of funny looks. In all honesty I loved his height, and it's so rediculous how people believe the guy has to he taller than the girl. That's just such a strange belief.
Growing up as tall girl in 2010's was way harsher than it should be, one "joke" that really burned itself into my memory was my "cool hip with the kids" teacher jokingly saying unlike other girls i will be the one carrying my boyfriend in my arms because i'm just "this tall" and then asking boys which one would like that, i was like 13 and tallest in my class what already was cause of bulling and complexes but this was very first time when i felt like... actually publicly humiliated for a joke. I skipped all next classes to get home and cry because i couldn't handle it. I didn't grew up to be actually tall i simply was a tall child in times when everyone thought misogyny is funny because it's "equality" and being petite was the beuty standard for women, now my height is average and seen as ideal but i still can't really get over insecurities bulling and standard of beauty from my childhood left me with. I also suspect people were specially horrible to me due to me simply not being conventionally attractive, a lot of people says tall height is not a problem for women because "models are very tall and seen as beautiful and desirable" but average women doesn't look like one.
I always hated the "oh but models are tall" comment because I clearly didn't look like a model and like you said, neither does the average woman. It's a non-compliment.
@@ayanna6327 the funny thing is that before becoming a model (sometimes even after), they're bullied too. Karlie Kloss and Amazon Eve were bullied a lot because they were more than 6 feet tall
As a 5’11 woman I was always more attracted to/dated men who were around 5’7. Never found it an issue even though people gave me flak for it. All in all, If height is your biggest worry in relationships then you should seriously reevaluate your perception of people and dating.
“Shortness is a shortcoming.” Lol. I don’t know how you said that without laughing. At least a chuckle or snort or something lololol. I’m still laughing and I’m minutes past it.
Kind of like Zendaya, I grew up with my dad being 5’6 and my mom 5’9 so it was a normal thing to me. I am now the same height as my dad living in a city where there is a lot of short guys-and I love a good platform heel. It’s never been a problem for me but I know other girls have a checklist of what they look for in guys and it almost always includes “tall”. Wish we could move past this. Short kings rise up!
I’m So glad people are breaking the mold on this ideal on what a relationship should look like. I am taller than my soon to be husband and we sometimes get looks but really it’s the people giving the looks that need to look at themselves. Love is beautiful no what what color, shape, or size.
'The shorter the king, the taller the crown'. The physical appearance only plays a minor role in a relationship. Attitude, kindness, commitment and intelligence, on the other hand, are crucial in maintaining a long-lasting and healthy relationship.
I was the shorter guy in the relationship twice in my life. I never felt insecure about it, ever. If anything, it was an ego booster lol And I’m not ashamed to admit it, either 😂🍻
@@lilithtozier7467 I can only speak for myself: But the "ego-booster" for me had to do with the fact that I already knew I was a good looking guy with a nice body, I was ripped, and in pretty good shape, standing at 5 foot 6 inches in height. In my mind, I wasn't below average in height by any means, I was average when you compared me with shorter men, but "short" when you compared me to taller men. 1) I just never felt insecure about my height. Ever. I have always felt comfortable in my skin. I love me for me. It the end, that's all I had. Most women I dated where about my height or shorter, but in the experience I had with 2 of my exes that were taller than me, I guess it boiled down to the fact that they could've had any other guy (tall or even more muscular), but instead, they chose me. That can make a (shorter) guy like me feel special. Thus, the ego booster. Plus, the sex was great. So I was on Cloud 9. lol
@nofeline I’m 5 foot, 6 inches in height, she was 5 foot 9 inches. And eh, I don’t know if I’d take the chance. I’m too used to my height and build. I’m very hesitant to even take the offer. Like, I don’t feel excitement. I feel nervous of the thought that a fairy can magically change my height, and it’d be silly to think that somehow that’s gonna change my life. I meant it when I said, I’m very confident in myself. And I really don’t feel the need to change anything about myself lol
@nofeline There’s a little something called, “biased self enhancement.” It’s the idea that when you look in the mirror, you love the person you see. It’s another form of self acceptance. If you look in the mirror, and can’t accept the person you are, then you have deeper problem that only therapy can help you with. That’s all I’mma say about that. But it’s because I love myself, and accept myself that I was even able to pull a taller woman. Twice. I don’t think about “what if’s.” Living that kind of existence is depressing. Accept “what is” and roll with it. I live my life with it, make the best of it, love myself for it, and use it to the best of my abilities. If another man is 6 feet tall, great. But that doesn’t make me feel inferior at all.
I'm 5'8" and my hubby is 5'2", but when I was really young I also insisted on dating guys taller than me. I met my hubby online, though, and we were friends for years without knowing what each other looks like (we met in a MMO)... he actually was there for me during a bad breakup. I think it was being in my late twenties where I was mature enough to appreciate what an incredibly genuine/sweet guy he is that made me fall for him.
@@ashuranero5721Because tall height is traditionally a masculine attribute. Just like how men want to feel big and strong, women want to feel petite and short.
@@RH-td7vc A man doesn't want to necesarily feel big and strong next to his woman, that is a male stereotype and actually kinda a stereotype of someone insecure. A man wants to be loved by his woman, for man the height of a woman therefore doesn't matter, men gladly would also take a taller woman
@@ashuranero5721 Most men prefer a woman to be shorter than them. Only guys who want to be submissive in the bedroom want a woman who towers over them. Or they're so low value they'll take anything they can get.
I’m literally struggling with this now. Do you think you should have considered getting someone taller ? I have a long term bf but he’s proposing soon I’m sure. I just can’t seem to look past his height. All my little brothers tower over him. Idk what to do
I find a lot of short guys pretty hot. I personally don't care and it doesn't make a difference for me.. but both men AND women can spread this relic of toxic masculinity. So many extremely handsome, desirable Hollywood actors are shorter than "average". Don't feel self-conscious, short men-- the women that care about your height are often extremely self-conscious about some aspect of their own appearance and are projecting
As an average-height woman (5'6"ish), I personally don't mind if a guy is noticeably shorter, and if he's being confident about it (in addition to being a decent person with a sense of humour), I actually find that quite attractive. Of course I do have certain preferences like most people do but they are unrelated to height. Have always dated men around my height or a bit shorter, and never got the obsession with really tall guys, tbh.
When in 2003 I met the man who would go on to be my husband and father of our two children, it took me a REALLY long time to convince him that yes, I was attracted to him and no, a taller girl like me was not necessarily after a taller guy than him! It was such a stigma, especially back then (it's gotten better) that it made it more difficult for us to hit it off. My husband is not an insecure guy, by the way, he had just been influenced by society to think that a shorter guy would not seem attractive in the eyes of a taller girl. And that wasn't true. But I do hear some women being really callous about shorter men, saying outright they would just never date a guy who's shorter than 1.80 cm or even 1.85 cm, etc.
My husband is 5' 5", I'm 5' 9". We've been together since 1995, married since 2001, and have 2 kids. He's Filipino, I'm the color of paste. We make it work. Oh, and he's a lot thinner than I am. ☺️
Thank you for looking at this. I'm a 6'1" woman and have felt insecure about my femininity because unless you're a skinny model, then socially you're perceived like a big hulking giant (though Tall Girl film really does take the tall girl victimization too far). Most of the guys I've dated have been shorter than me. Sometimes it's an issue (some guys say they aren't bothered by height, but then when you're with them they clearly are), but in my experience if the guy isn't bothered by it, then there's no issue (you both have to have thick skin about it though, because you will get the stares and the questions).
I remember ripping into my sista because she had this great man who was smitten by her. This man was in school for Engineering, had a job, was a gentleman. Was very sweet. Good reputation. She turned him down because he was 5'4. Like really? When she told me she wasn't interested. I said "Man, he must not be as nice as I thought." She said "Oh he is. But girl, he's like 5'4." The man even jokes about his height. But too me. It just didn't matter. My sister is not even tall. She's 5'6. I'm 5'9 and would have gladly entertained that man if I wasn't married at the time. I was so mad at her. She told me she would have dated him if he wasn't short. I said "So in the grand scheme heme of things. With there being deeper things in life, like love. This man's flaw was being short?" I don't think it's cool and she hasn't had a decent man since. But at least they've been tall. Smh.
@@Turbonilla it's still disgusting 🤷🏼♀️ instead of saying "I just wasn't attracted to him" saying "hahaa have you seen how TINY he is" IS disgusting. has nothing to do with preference.
I've experienced this all my life. I'm a tall girl, above 5'9, in a country where the average height is mostly short and since I was a kid I struggled with this concept "man taller than woman". I used to date intelligent and brilliant guys, my height or somethimes shorter, and people always seems to be shocked because "but he's not taller than you, OMG!" One time, a beautician, after seeing me and my bf (only 1 inch taller than me) asked me how I did it, how I could not wear hight heels and she said that she would never date a guy her height. That time I was really disappointed and even now it's something that really bothers me. This stereotype is really sick and inculcated so deeply in people's mind.
Personally I've never understood the hype about tallness. I'd much rather date a short guy with attractive facial features than an a tall guy without that (not that looks are everything, but every one has preferences).
Same, although I'm about 5'2", so it would be very easy for me to date a taller partner, but I'm not particularly fond of them being more than 4 inches taller than me.
Yes, I totally agree. I do have preferences about a guy's looks, but height is pretty unimportant to me. If I like the rest of him, I would not mind being with a short man. It wouldn't matter.
I knew a girl who was like 6'3, and she would insist on dating taller men, but found very few to no men who were actually taller than her. She finally realized that height has no effect on happily dating.
thanks guys for approaching this topic. I'm about average height 5ft8ish, don't have any issues about that, but I think a lot of women do. I've been rejected in the past because certain girls said, they'd be self-conscious about wearing heels when stepping out in public with me. Thus proving that it's more to do with societal pressure than physical attraction.
Social pressure is what ruins other people's freedom in life, even if the girls really liked you they're gonna be worried about society judging them. But nowadays it's normal for the girl to be taller than the guy since the whole girl should be smaller and guy should be bigger thing is getting old and boring, i see alot of couples around same height often but now I'm seeing more taller girl shorter guy relationships very often now to make it short couples of different heights and sizes . My current gf is 2 inches taller than me and it's been 2 years now, before i met her i dated girls close to my height or taller, it's these tiny 4'11 and below ones that didn't like my height for not been 6'5+ lmao.
From my experience, some women don't care how tall or short a guy is as long as he is attractive. This is from my experience I've gotten by women taller than me cause of my physical appearance. I'm 5'7 by the way
I’m 5’7 also. When I was short and ugly I struggled with girls. I kinda glow up and my relationship with women got better which led me to being a fuckboy. Height matters sometimes but I think looks matter the most.
This is true for me too. You will tend to find girls will make acceptions for attractive short men. But nobody talks about short handsome men. I mean we all know a tall woman can be beautiful. But people never seem to remember that there are short attractive dudes put there.
Haha... my girlfriend is two inches taller than me (she's 5'9", and an absolute beauty) and I was worried early on in our courtship that she wouldn't take me seriously as a suitor. She was aware of the height difference at first as well, but about a year into our relationship, neither of us even notice it anymore. I know that society looks at us and goes "Wow! He must be doing really well, if he's dating a taller woman!" So, I'll take that as a compliment, and an ego boost! xD P.S. To any insecure tall girls out there: you're fine as hell- be open minded, your perfect partner will find you :) Count on it!!!
@@zuhanaansarisajitha3586she is 5'6" and I am 5'5" About to marry next year I think it's fine though never met the girl because formalities are going on
I usually find height differences in couples cute for some reason lol. Especially when the girl is taller. A guy/girl who realise that height is just that, height, has my respect lol
Honestly, I prefer it when guys are shorter than I am. Being shorter than a guy makes me feel small and vulnerable, and I'm sick of most gender norms, including the stereotype that guys must be taller than girls. I think there's something very empowering about a tall girl who is unapologetic about being taller than most guys.
Bruhhhh I freaking agree finnally a girl who agrees wit me and yes I do love tall girls and imo all girls should be taller then men in general I just feel like it would be better that way!!!!😭😭😭😭😭
i was 5’10 at 14 and grew to be 6’1, i’m 20 now. i still remember very vividly a boy in my class being asked if he would date me and he said yes, but only if i was shorter. i’m glad to see that taller women with shorter men is beginning to be more normalized.
Tall girls are very beautiful and attractive, I am a man of 1.68 cm tall and I like a girl who is taller than me because I feel romantic and melting, how tall are you in cm
I got that one so much 😒 so disheartening when they’d be like “you’re pretty and you’re cool and play video games and like horror movies but… i just wish you were shorter”. Like seriously? I seemingly fit all your qualifications but the height is a deal breaker? So glad I’m married now and don’t have to date anymore cause it was so annoying. My husband is my exact same height and we still get comments about me being tall and him being relatively short. We simply can’t win. But he treats me like a goddess so I cannot complain and love him so much ❤
A very good message, one I am definitely happy to be watching being a 185 cm (6'1") girl who was ridiculed repeatedly for dating a 170 cm (5'7") dude. However, I would like to balance it by saying it is okay to desire someone shorter or taller. You can have a preference; you can have a type.
Tall girls are very beautiful and attractive, I am a man of 1.68 cm tall and I like a girl who is taller than me because I feel romantic and melting, how tall are you in cm
I applaud the tall women of the world who date shorter guys and have no issues towering over them. Love is not measured by how tall or short someone stands. It's the quality of a persons heart and the content of ones character that stands above all.
As a girl who grew up quite tall at 5.11 it was always an insecurity because your viewed as the bigger friend and the approachable one and I remember - was constantly hunching and bending over just to not appear as tall , I was called giant, tree, pole you name it , so dating a taller guy was something I really wanted to do cause like when your tall it would almost cancel out your femininity and you became like one of the boys , at least in my experience, so I always sought out taller men because for once I didn't want to be seen as like this hulking figure over everyone but rather just an ordinary girl so sometimes as taller women I think we seek out taller men to validate are femininity. I don't know if anyone else can relate to this ♥
I would assume because being tall is seen as traditionally masculine and short as traditionally feminine. American society seem fine with girls having traditionally masculine traits, but not fine with boys having traditionally feminine traits.
They're not, though. Masculine women, women with masculine traits, features, or interests do not have it easier than men with feminine ones. Society doesn't like either, but I hate when people erase the pain women go through because men...also go through it? It sucks for both. We can acknowledge both.
My 6'2" bestie (female) had a hard time with this. She always met men who were weird about her height. Fortunately, she found herself a winner a few years ago in a man who's not particularly tall, but the stereotype really does have real-world consequences.
My girlfriend (5'8.5") is taller than me (5'7") and we never had any issues dating or kissing. We have been together for 6 years since our middle school (LOL, she was taller when we first met and she still is) and I see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
Male shortness is actually seen as shortcoming, not male enough. "Short and ugly", " Is he cute, or is he tall?" are just a few comments that reinforce the idea. Media does a great job in bending or making a narrative. I don't want to mention the tweets women make for us or the deprecating jokes for that matter. The fear of humiliation, aka reaching above one's league, "she can do better... so why bother", "how dare you, you're short" are just a few concerns that stop us from pursuing. It's not a preference when you are at a statistical disadvantage for something like height and it has a name, Heightism. Gender roles exist and will continue to exist. You can find enough comments that say something along the lines of feeling more feminine with a taller guy while Short men remain as the last option, as in the "Tall girl". 4:29 correction: Insecurities stem from the experiences we face. 6:11 Corrrection: There are no pressure on women to not date shorter men, women were the ones who reinforced it on men. Women have stronger height preferences [call it requirement these days] as 6:15
I’m 5’8” and I mostly dated shorter men around 5’5-5’6. I never had an issue as long as they’re close enough to my height, but I did date a guy who was 5’2, and that was too short for me.
My grand aunt, now 86, rejected a love interest when she was in her twenties... because he was shorter than her. That was her main concern: "it would not have looked good, and I liked wearing heels". She did regret it years later, by then he had married another woman even taller than her.
@@RH-td7vc Who cares about other people looking I'm trying to breed superior genetic children, very very few women without makeup have a face that is as good looking like mine, they could hand over some height genes and make a tall beautiful Übermensch child
@@chadliterutherford9198 I like how you'll bitch about women wanting taller men yet seek out partners explicitly for their height because it's superior...
People even tend to make these assumptions in gay and lesbian relationships, too. The taller partner is ascribed the "more masculine" traits, while the shorter one is believed to be the feminine role in the pair. It's applying the same arbitrary assumptions that height means the "dominant" partner in the relationship, and it's laughably wrong.
I tend to do this thing whenever I feel insecure about about my height (5'2 M), where I feed my insecurity by watching yt videos that reinforce the fact that some women don't like short guys. Today was one of those days but after watching this video I feel a whole lot better and my mind's somwhat at ease
Just be realistic about it. Your height will definitely make it harder for you, pretending it won't will not help you. However, it doesn't mean you can't find a woman who doesn't care, even if they are the minority. Be aware of the problem, accept it and move on.
I'm a little taller than my boyfriend and I love it. Always had a thing for shorter guys. He's also the first and only real boyfriend I've ever had (met him through my best friend), we began dating earlier this year. The best part is, he likes that I'm taller than him. I didn't know guys like that existed. When we first saw each other, it was love at first sight, I thought that only existed in the movies until meeting him.
This is one of your very best videos ever. It should be required viewing by kids in middle school and high school! Think of all the really good men that women are missing out on simply because they're afraid of going against one of society's most outdated and worthless stereotypes.
I am slightly taller than my boyfriend and If I had refused to date men who are shorter than me I would have lost the chance to meet a wonderful person like him. I remember when we were talking online before our first date and he told me his height because of all this pressure, but for me his height was never a problem, I liked him since the first time we saw each other. It's funny to remember that when I introduced him to my mother she said to me "he is shorter" and my mother-in-law said surprised to me when she saw me for the first time "you are so tall!". Nowadays everybody got used about It. On the other hand, my first boyfriend was taller than me and It was a terrible relationship, I can't imagine living my life with a person like him. So I can say that height is not important for a relationship.
I've never seen anything wrong with it. I remember Who Framed Rodger Rabbit and he was showing Eddie the photos of him and his wife Jessica. And I remember one of the photos where she is of course much taller than him wearing a sexy bathing suit and he's wearing swim trunks with polka dots. I always thought that image look funny to me.
“Tall girl” is conventionally attractive, has friends, a good family, lives in a good home, several people romantically interested in her AND SHE IS BARELY OVER 6’ TALL. As someone who once was a 6’4” overweight teenaged girl, with several undiagnosed mental illnesses, constant victim to bullying and no friends at all, I felt offended how they framed tall girl 🙄 Like jfc I know the actress said that she suffered in real life, and I don’t doubt that, but that movie was overblown. 🙄
Short king here 5'6" married a 5'11" tall blonde german model. Kings out there do not give up there's hope for us. Be confident about yourselves and you too csn be with a beautiful tall amazon beauty. Short women are overrated anyway
Men don't care if a girl is taller than us, it's girls who care if we're shorter than them. I'm 5'9 and I've had more than one girl tell me that I'm too short for them. I've been in great shape most of my adult life, but that doesn't mean anything to girls who care about height.
My husband is ½" shorter than me. The biggest problem around height in our relationship is that he sometimes needs me to grab things off a shelf that is comfortably high for me, but unreachable for him, since he also has shorter, stockier arms than me. So really it's an issue of accessibility and convenience. I've never really gotten the hang of wearing heels, so it suits me just fine to be with a technically shorter man. But he's also never had an issue with me wearing heels occasionally other than concerns about physical comfort.
Glad this is being talked about. I’m 5’ 5” and my husband is 5’ 2” and seriously the BEST guy. I would have really missed out if I’d dismissed him because he’s short.
@@nicesmack9309 I'm 20 and my gf is 22 while she's taller than me too, and my cousin who's also 20 and his wife who's 19 is 2 inches taller than him , you're not correct bro
The bit about the far girl/skinny guy pairing is very close to my experiences. I’m 50 pounds heavier than my husband and have always been larger since we started dating. At the beginning I wondered if we’d make it because the I was in my head about the size difference. But I was able to let it go because he’s the kindest man I’ve ever known and treats me well which is what matters. The difference in our sizes is irrelevant
Honestly I’d have no issue with my GF being talker at Han me. It’s really not that important. Also Tom Holland is dating Zendaya, he’s lucky either way.
I'm a guy who's 6.1 feet tall, with a lot of female friends. I've always felt this sympathy for every short dude they've talked about not calling back, after realizing they were gonna get rejected by those girls for their height. Most men don't have hangups with dating short women, women of medium height, or even tall women - attractive is attractive. However, I guess women can be guilty of having physical biases as much as men can.
@@cyb11114 I think female weight and male height are very different in the way they are "rejected". If a woman is a little over or underweight, she is still attractive to basically all men; if she's more on the extreme, it's very hard to find a date. For men it is different: it's basically impossible to find a woman who prefers dating men who are a little bit shorter or even same height as her, but they are more forgiving on the extremely short.
In my experience (which isn't universal of course) a lot of the men I've dated have had issues with me being taller or even the same height as them, to the point they made me feel like a giraffe at 5.7. Now I put my height in my dating profile because if they don't care they'll ask.
Im 5'9 and have been rejected over height before but i've also dated women my height and taller, at the end of the day you like what you like. In fact more often i've found short Women caring more about height.
9:40 No. It's about weakness. A short is perceived to be weaker because of his height. Nothing to do with femininity with regard to make insecurity. Men are insecure about being short because of 1. the continued jokes 2. Perceived as weak. Short men aren't likely to still be seen as being able to protect and ultimately "unsafe". It's a primitive perspective but it plays true in society today unfortunately.
I am a fan of tall women. The taller the better! And I especially admire tall actresses who make a mark in Hollywood. I'm sure it's not easy. So, kudos to Elizabeth Debicki, Adrianne Palicki, and All-Time Great Sigourney Weaver. 🙌🏿
My partner and I also share a height difference, although I’m 5’6” and he is 5’1”. We also share a couple other differences that aren’t typically seen in on-screen and off-screen couples, being that I’m a plus-sized white woman dating a very muscular Asian man. It is nice to see couples on-screen that look similar to my partner and I and hopefully we can break all these stigmas that hold people back from just living their lives and showing their love.
My parents were tall woman ( 5'7" to 6'3") and a short man ( 5'9" to 6' 3") think Mandy Moore, Jessica Simpson, etc., etc. . This was just normal for a whole decade to my younger brother and I. What matters is your relationships are valued, healthy, have healthy rules and boundaries are obeyed, & everyone feels beloved, connected, and happy.
I think universally, shortness is viewed as a “disadvantage” or something to be made fun of. I’m 19 and I’m 5”2’ and while I’m privileged to be in the “she’s so small and short” feminine goal kinda way (I can’t understand why 😭) it feels like people are always bringing up my height to undermine me in some sort of way. Perhaps because shortness is to do with perceived weakness or such, but I’m sure (in my experience) it had nothing to do with being “you’re too feminine”
My adoptive father is 5'7'' former wrestler and body builder, 190lbs of pure muscle back in his days, he could take down bigger men than him in the sport without issues, and being a short bodybuilder represents an advantage since it is easier to get gains at shorter heights. A funny story, once we were in a Mall and we saw a punch measure machine, he broke that thing with a fist 😂
I used to ice dance & the rule there is that the guy MUST be one full head taller than the girl or you get looked down on (in 6.0 days you’d get unofficial points off). A similar idea exists in ballroom dance except there the girl still has to be shorter after wearing heels! So growing up I heard that the guy must be taller which was hard for my height. Yet also hearing that models are tall. So it was somehow both a blessing & a curse to be tall. In high school you’d hear short guys want tall girls “so they can climb them like a tree” or “they can stare at your boobs all day because that’s eye level” so dating a short guy meant being objectified more.
Honestly, this. I was the tallest of my 'friend' group so naturally my boobs became pillows for everyone whether I liked that or not. Lets not ignore the sexual harassment against taller women that just goes unchecked because we're deemed 'masculine' (even if we're not masc at all).
I am 6ft tall so it is nearly impossible for me to date a taller man. Not because there aren't and men taller than me, but most tall men want 5'2" women for some reason. I have just accepted it, and I am very happy with me bf, who is several inches shorter than me. He's amazing, and really don't even think about it.
I notice this too. Even in my country Malaysia. Majority of taller guys 5’10 and above always with like a very short girl 5’1” and below 😅. Heck even my older bro(5’10”) wife is like 5’1” or lower. When her teen daughter started to grow tall she seems to be really proud about it. I guess human prefer a partner quality which they dont have to make sure their offspring doesnt have their shortcoming subconsciousl Im just 5’6” and my wife is 5’5”. I seen it myself couple of times my short female classmate and coworker will pursue a tall guy aggressively when they met one 😅. They have like very deep ina trance crush with a tall guy if they just knew one.
This is so wild to me. I'm 5'2 and everyone says that's a good thing because most men will not be taller than me but 1. I don't care what men think and 2. I would do anything to be 5'11. Being short is so annoying. I feel like a child.
I hear you, sister: at 5' 3", I'm a gay man who is heartily sick of the societal attitude about my lack of physical altitude, and whose few serious partners have, with very few exceptions, coincidentally been men at least six feet tall or taller (though I chose none for his looks, least of all for his height), none of whom gave a damn about my stature in any way but that of my character. (FWIW, my partner is 6' 2", and cares about my height much as he does, say, my left-handedness: as the root of a long-running inside joke between us; where it counts, he thinks of us both as ten feet tall and bulletproof, and I have to agree. 😊🧔👱♂️💜👍🏼) I also find it interesting that the only woman I have ever loved (who is bisexual, but has long dated women only) is 6' 1" and, were we interested in a more than lavender marriage, claims that she would have married me in a heartbeat, if I would have her. I'd say that those fixated on relative heights miss out on all the most interesting potential partners.
I'm 5'2" and a straight guy. Tell me about it. But then I think screw that; why should I change who I am to fit their prejudice? Their attitudes need changing, not my body.
A very ridiculous rule of patriarchy is that in a heterosexuals relationship, women should not date or marry men who make lesser money, are shorter or younger than them. It is to show that men are more successful than their female partners! Why should superficial things like height, income, success, age etc should ever come in the way of two people who are together?
@@SilentLulamoon I believe that they should not be paid attention to when you are looking for a person to date. They are important to a person but should not come in the way of a relationship.
I’m 5’3 and I’m so sick of men who are 5’7 or above being called short. As an actually short man, it makes it feel even worse. Because at 5’3, my height genuinely does make it impossible to date women, especially on top of being trans and fat. My height dysphoria is as bad as my chest dysphoria was before surgery. And like my junk, there’s nothing I can do about it.
Seems you have it rough do you regret becoming a very short trans man? Seems it could’ve been easier for you in the dating market if you were lesbian non binary. I’ve seen a lot of very short trans men being disappointed and voicing their frustrations.
@@KatekyoKen No, it would not have been easier for me to be ‘lesbian non binary’ as you put it, because I am a man, and men can’t be lesbians, and nor am I remotely non binary. I’m also not even exclusively into women. And no, I do not regret transitioning (I didn’t become a man, I was always a man). I would be dead if I hadn’t been able to transition. I’d rather be forever single than live as something I’m not. Also, lots of short trans men have fulfilling love and sex lives. Being disappointed with the way one’s dating life is going has absolutely no correlation on whether or not transition was a good thing to do- you transition for yourself, and your own comfort, not so others will find you sexually attractive.
I'm so glad that you made this video! I'm a tall woman, 6 feet and 3.5 inches , so I've had to deal with this bias or unofficial cultural rule while growing up. Thankfully, I found a husband, who's tall but still shorter than I, who loves my height and doesn't care that I stand taller!
Men are only insecure about women being taller than them because they know that the majority consider it undesirable. Literally the only thing you need to do to make him not be insecure is let him know that for you that's not the case. If he knows this to be true, he won't be insecure. Simple as that.
thank you. i always dated taller men and women. i'm 5'2 and im seeing a guy who's 5'3 and it came up... he's awesome, goodlooking, handsome af but i notice his insecurity about his height. i always point out that his height is one of my favorite things about him and when i joke about our kid being doomed with shortness we both laughed and it was okay comfortable. to this day i say that "what do you wanna be when you grow up?" my answer is "taller" and he said he feels the same. but WHY... come on i am gorgeous and i feel like he's even more than me and we both have the same insecurity about something we could never change and makes us who we are but i know its not about us per se but society that seems not to appreciate ppl for who they are.
My husband is an inch shorter than me, and he is proud to go places with me, even with me wearing heels xD i mostly don't anymore, as we like to go dancing and heels can sometimes get in the way
I am 5'11/179cm female. This stigma is real and I know that I've bought into this. I've been mocked by guys about being tall so it's kinda made me feel like my lane is to be with a tall guy or not at all. Being above average height has made me so self-conscious that I would be so happy when I have friends that are my height. I'd see a tall person in public and wish we'd be best friends to feel normal. I'm also not gonna lie that I've bought into this so that I can feel normal (more feminine) for once. It's exhausting being the above average height female!
When you say "tall women are seen as less feminine", the thing is that based on the somewhat arbitrary small-woman of femininity, they ARE less feminine. The fallacy is thinking that that's a bad thing.
The older I get, it seems the less feminine more women are becoming. As if it's wrong to be pretty, delicate and feminine. Then again, those women seem to love very feminine men, where as I absolutely do not. So, I guess it evens out.
@@valkyrie9646 it's not wrong to have qualities typically associated with femininity, but it is wrong to force it on people. I suspect many women in the past felt forced to play that role when it wasn't comfortable for them. Now women are more free to express themselves however they feel, whether that's very masculine, very feminine, or anywhere in-between. The important factor for me is that they're being their authentic selves.
@@maloneaqua I'd say it's more the case that infantile and weak things are almost always small (e.g. baby animals), not that small things/people are always infantile and weak. Many adults are small and wouldn't really appreciate being called "infantile and weak".
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Coming from a guy with a fascination for THICC-thighed/bootied, tall women including Zendaya Coleman (can't wait for her to have Zendaya Jr. with her beau Tom Holland! XD), thank you so much for this video!
@@ms.bubs4fun506 People don't choose to be tall or short. That's the difference.
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crazy how when a woman is a few inches taller than her boyfriend everyone wants to ask "hOW dO YoU gUyS kiSs???" but no one seems to care when the guy is a whole foot taller than his girlfriend 😒
You took the words....😂
Physics suddenly stops applying apparently
This.
I mean, I am "petite" and the other day there was a post about the video's topic on Reddit.
And people were just fixated on this idea that guys have to be 6 ft tall.
That's definitely close to being a foot taller than me, I'm 5.2.
But I feel as though I was expected to say "Yeah six feet tall baby that's how it should be". I honestly would prefer for the guy to be 5.9 or shorter. Don't have anything against taller guys and they can be very attractive for sure.
But honestly, anyone taller than 5.7 would probably have to lean in for a lot of stuff, he'd break his neck trying to be at my level.
I know that not all girls are 5.2-5.4 so I'm definitely not going to say "Oh yeah all short guys should find shorter women to date" because that's BS.
All I'm saying is that the environment on the internet is toxic when it comes to this subject. Makes most women feel like they have to be shorter than 5.5 and all guys should not be shorter than 5.11.
WTF?!
I make your words mine!
"What an odd thing to say"
yes thank you for talking about this. as a nearly 6 foot woman I can't count the times I've been told I have to find a taller man and then I'm like why TF should i
same here! I'm 5'11 and my husband is an inch shorter than me. my sister's 510 and her husband is 4 in shorter than her. you can't help who you fall in love with. the people who are obsessed with height aren't someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway. because the second you gain some weight or get into an accident they're going to leave you. they're so shallow and judgemental they are not going to stay with you the second you no longer fit their aesthetic. all of the women in my family are at least 510 and all of them are married to men shorter than them. my great grandmother was actually 6 ft 1 in in 1901. and her husband was 6 ft 7 in tall. and now we have a family of giants. it's honestly all about old money. the longer your family has had money and therefore good nutrition the taller you are going to be. my family has had money since the early 1700s so everyone was getting great nutrition and just kept getting taller and taller and taller until around the '70s when processed foods became more common and we started getting shorter.
It is hard enough to find a special someone. Imagine tossing good ones over their height.
@@WhitneyDahlin ohh thats interesting! I never thought of that!
@@TheBlushersJournal damn right!!!
You're tall = You're attractive
It's one of the laws of physics
For me I love tall women and women that wear large heels like Lady Gaga and the tall girls that just embraced their height
Short guys aren't losers
Tall women aren't freakshows
Men and women shouldn't be insecure about their height
Thank you dear
lady gaga is like 5'1
@@zero1188 5'2 actually lol
But she was honestly the one who got me into heels
Amen
Thank you! I am a short girl but it's been really frustrating seeing some gentlemen out there being seriously insecure about their height. Good for you! 😁
It doesn't matter, it really doesn't.
If the person is attractive to you and has a great personality, who cares about what people think? The less you give a f----, the happier you'll be.
@@Fourtune1 that's so weird.
@@Fourtune1 I think more than showkj9off it's peer pressure and pressure to Co nform. And it's suck bs yore really going to live a miserable cookie cutter life just because every else tells you what to do? Ist your life stand your ground for who you like and what you want and makes you happy.
Height plays a huge role in attraction. "Is he cute or he's just tall?"
@@6abhisekbackup9 It's true, height can play a large role in attraction, but not always in the way you think for everyone, lol. For me, it's always been, if a guy with an attractive face is under 5'8" he's automatically more attractive to me than a guy 5'10" or taller. For some women (in the minority, but we exist) shorter men are just more of a turn on. Different strokes for different folks.
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As a short guy, it's particularly tiring (and a bit depressing) to see how many women will filter me out because I'm not tall enough. Female friends will literally talk to me about height in guys as if it doesn't directly affect me. One of my best relationships was with a woman who was a whole 20cm taller. It was fantastic. Height just had no bearing on anything. I don't understand why it's such a big issue for many women.
I honestly don't stand this weening about being rejected by tall women: find a short women or a tall women that likes you, like everybody else does. We don't need to justify what we find attractive.
It's probably because society told women that taller men are the ideal partner to have. Taller men are perceived as more protective, more assertive, and just, more reliable.
Look at the stats on Google. Only 70% of women will date An average height man (5’9). Soon as you get an inch lower it starts decreasing by 10%+. A 5’5 guy has a 90% chance of being rejected by a 5’0 girl even though she’s still shorter than him with heels on.
@@Turbonilla There's no need to get defensive. He was just ranting about how his self esteem got repeatedly damaged over something he can't control. Wouldn't you do the same?
@@Turbonilla God forbid someone express how societal standards have disadvantaged them and cause them to have low self esteem because they don’t fit a certain criteria. What a crybaby, right? 🙄
Props to tall girls willing to date shorter guys! My wife is 5'7" and I'm 5'5" and she towers over me when she's in heels (and its hot AF, not gonna lie).
A man of taste and class I see, respect
I loved reading this, I hope the guy I'm currently getting to know better feels the same way. :'') I do love my heels.
Being 5’11, i think ive dated like one guy taller than me. Not because i didnt want to date someone taller, it just never happened for me. Majority of the guys ive dated have HATED when i wore heals - either it made me tower over them or if we were the same height, made me taller. 100% conditioned to just never wear heels. Now I’m engaged to a guy who is 5’9 and absolutely LOVES my height and when i wear heels.
I dont really care about heels much, but what I DO care about is the fact that it revealed something about my old boyfriends - that they were not only super fragile in their masculinity but also that they were totally cool with shaming something about me that is totally out of my control and something id worked on for years to accept. Being with a guy who actually LOVES this part of me is truly amazing.
@@Itsatragedeigh Happy to see you're with a REAL man now, and not some insecure boys.
If 5’7” is short for men, why is that considered tall for women?
This is so embarrassing.
I stopped hanging out with this group of girls because they would constantly mock guys on Tinder because they were under 5'10", when I repeatedly mentioned that the guy I was dating was 5'7". Not only was it insulting, but I didn't want to be around people that shallow.
Yes queen ...leave their ass..proud of u
You didn't want to be around them because your own boyfriend was 5'7. I don't think they suddenly started mocking men under 5'10 until after you got a short boyfriend. You didn't mind them being shallow and mean until it affected you.
Key word "Tinder" that's a low intelligence treat at first glance. You will always find critics regardless. If a man is over 6'...does he have enough money? Is he muscular, has he a car and a house?
Protect this woman at all cost. she is a queen
That's the only solution. Short men should not tolerate their GFs hanging out with heightist 'friends'.
I'm 5'9", my husband is 5'7". I asked him if it bothered him. He said he felt like he was with a model.
Ahh, you married a man with taste!
Why did you lower your standards for a shorter guy?
@@Mogamishu Why did you drop out of middle school?
@@Andyanddiana467 no, she lowered her standards out of desperation.
@@Mogamishu funny, but no.
I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and he is 5 inches shorter than me. When we started dating girls would say “I could never date someone shorter than me”. I look at it like my ex was about 4 inches taller then me but treated me horribly but my fiancé treats me like a queen. At the end of the day it’s if they are a good person. I’m not going to leave a great guy because a silly rule society made.
Tall queen spotted. 👑
TGDD, Tall Guy Deficient Desorder.
Oh so you only lowered your standards for a shorter guy cause a tall abusive ex left you broken and damaged. Sad.
Or maybe she just found love within her fiance?
That episode in ‘Sex and the City’ where Samantha confronts with her prejudice with a short man was actually a lovely one and they had great banter.
Yes! I thought that was a great storyline about visual expectations and how they ended up not mattering.
episode no.? may give it a watch
@@6abhisekbackup9 season 3 ep 2
@John Sampson I guess since it was stated on the end they dated for 2 weeks
I'm a 6'1" tall woman and i had huge problems with dating men because they were intimidated by me. the fact that i like to wear platforms didn't help at all. thankfully over the years i feel more appreciated as people started thirsting over fictional tall women and i saw it reflect positive on my dating life as well. i never held any prejudice against dating short men but people around me were calling me weird when the guy i danced with at the prom was shorter than me.
Yeah see this is proof that's it's all made up, beauty standards that is. As well as those of femininity and masculinity.
The fact that they all played Resident Evil 8 last summer and were like "Step on me mommy" has someone made your life easier is both hilarious and a little lamentable. Your beauty was always there, yet they had to be told that you're beautiful to feel like they can be confident enough to approach you.
@@samf.s.7731 that's not proof of anything.... Is it double blind? Randomized? Large sample size? Controlled?
I'm right there with you. I'm six feet tall and I've never had a problem rocking the heels 👠. I've dated shorter men and never cared about what people thought about. I must say all the Lady D thirst from Resident Evil has me feeling pretty sexy!🔥
They weren’t intimidated….they were just not sure whether you would dump them later for being shallow
@Shahul Everybody is kinda intimidated by a taller person around them its a normal feeling
"Tall Girl" has got to have one of the most ridiculous premises ever. She is conveniently attractive, has great friends, a supportive family, a gorgeous house, several guys who are interested in her... But oh no! She's almost 6 feet tall. How will she EVER get by?! 🙄
That premise is so odd, because guys don't care if attractive women are tall.
Exactly! Like how the hell is she ugly because she's tall I'm a guy that likes women of every height. And I'm 5'7
@@cqtaylor I mean guys definitely would prefer being the taller one bc society makes a big deal about male height
She's actually taller than 6 feet but yeah everything you said is right
@@edithputhy4948 Yeah, but if a girl is hot, a guy's not gonna pass on getting with her "because of society." Especially if she's attracted to him too. From a guy's perspective in bed we're all the same height. LOL
I'm a woman of 5'8/5'9 and I've always found shorter men cute. Everytime I've said yes to shorter men whom have asked me out. They appeared shocked. I am black and I know what it's like to not be "prefered". So I've come to the conclusion that I won't have preferences on people's physical appearances. There are deeper matters in life than stuff like that.
I mean that's nice, but how terrible is it to feel undesired because of your skin colour.
@@dominator8245 well that's racism for you :/
@@dominator8245 Yeah. It doesn't bother me anymore though. It is what it is.
‘Cute’
@@a.d.w8385 this. And (both men and women) will say it's their "preference". It's not a preference when you are at a statistical disadvantage for something like race or height.
Also short and POC here and online dating is really toxic for ppl like us. Not impossible substantially harder.
Even in gay relationships, the ‘dominant’ one is stereotypically tall and the ‘submissive’ one is stereotypically short.
The "dominant" one is also stereotype as masculine, and the "submissive" one is also stereotype as feminine.
Way to ironically conform to the het life :S
Ive noticed too that the short one being assumed the “submissive” one is also usually going to be labeled as a bottom as a joke. It’s kinda weird
I’ve come to dislike the term top and bottom bc they’ve morphed into the new “who’s the guy and who’s the girl” nonsense. When they were literally just position preference terms. Dom/me and sub already existed for behavior via the kink community, but they weren’t permanently fixed roles either
@@Joyride37 That's what I used to love abt the BDSM community (before it gained so much traction from bad movies such as 50 shades of grey) is that I was not pressured to fall onto stereotypical gender roles. I could be a sub or a dom (I'm a switch) and it had nothing to do with me being a femme woman, a top or a bottom.
@Miss Kate I think that’s so interesting. I’m in my early 20’s and a high school girl I know asked me if I was a “bottom or a top.” I mentioned that I probably prefer to be both and she said very mater of factly that it’s impossible to be both, we’re either one or the other. I’ve heard a lot of other teenagers say similar things, which is strange to me. I’ve felt a lot of pressure to not be a switch (specifically to be “a bottom” because I’m female) and there’s a lot of talk about how in order to “be a top” you have to insert something phallic into another person, it’s not about energy or roles as much as it is about literal parts. You cannot “top” your boyfriend unless you peg him, for example. I find it all weirdly backwards for something that presents itself as forward moving. My age group now has BDSM and queer culture in the mainstream- which can be a good thing, but in making it mainstream we’ve sort of misunderstood it and now use these originally deviant and freeing communities to further reinforce traditional gender roles, and I’ve noticed there was a whole phase where feminism was out of fashion so we didn’t really consider sexism when getting into these new things. As a result I think it’s taken away some of the more freeing and open ended aspects of these original movements, paired with our obsession with labels and correctness.
Shout out to Jlaw and Josh Hutcherson as Katniss and Peeta from the Hunger Games for pioneering the taller gf shorter bf in blockbuster films 10 years ago. I'll always love the moment in the last movie where Katniss leans down to hug a clearly shorter Peeta with a look of pure love and longing on her face. Back then, people acted like it was so strange, but it's lovely to see it completely accepted in another mainstream blockbuster these days.
Recently rewatched furst movieband was shocked that there was a couple in hw movie where girl is taller, and it was 10 years ago
Katniss was the dominant and aggressive one 😅. Peeta is just so cute like a kitten with her.
I'm 5'10 and heavy set and my cousin told me the three strikes against my appearance is I'm tall, fat and dark skin. So I always tried to dress girly to counter the masculine traits I had. Even though I have dated guys shorter than me, I still feel less feminine than when I'm with a taller guy. I felt I had to date a taller guy to even look feminine.
It’s normal. I don’t think people should see this as a deal breaker, but neither should we deny our natural feelings, like this video suggests
Your cousin is a douche baguette. Be who you are, you’re awesome and life’s too short.
I had a boyfriend in high school break up with me cuz I called HIM my shorty 😂
I am sorry that they told you that 😟
please don't let this racism, fatphobia and sexism get to you!
you are a beautiful person and you don't have to conform to the ideals of such jerks ❤️
Well, good for you for trying to make the best of your appearance. I'm sure it helps.
I'm a tall girl, and I can't approve this message enough🙄 society seriously needs to get over itself
Respect to all women willing or preferring to date shorter men or men who are shorter than them. From the video, seems like more guys are getting on board with dating taller women, but of course, sometimes words don't translate into actions.
Society is boring.
Exactly 💯
There is no real "society". It's many individuals and most of them want to be accepted in a group more or less abiding social norms of their groups, meaning, you need to take effectively a decision for yourself what you want in life or not.
This is the only way to become happy.
As a rather short guy (173 cm), most people in my career told me, I wouldn't have what's needed to proceed in a meaningful way for a career.
Now they are still in their jobs, while I successfully founded a company and I'm very well off compared to most people.
They also laughed at me, when I showed up with my 6'1 girlfriend, but we're a happy couple for many years, while their relationships are broken.
A man is measured by his accomplishments I believe, he is MADE. He isn't just born a winner by a single trait (in this case: height). Most people out there want to press you in some role, they want to see somebody. Like tall guy == successful. Problem is people are different. A friend of mine, which is 193 cm hasn't really anything going for him, but to be tall. He's very successful with women, because they choose him, because of his height. He got handed many things in life, just because he is perceived as a winner, but there wasn't any big skill involved. Reason I am where I am and he's just another average guy (but I help him massively with knowledge, so he's still much, much better off than he'd be without my stock market and crypto tips for example). I teached him also a lot of how to do actually do things and that you have to go in many situations in life against the herd, otherwise if you don't, your outcome only can be average.
Therefore: if you want a tall man, you have to go for him and approach him. If height but doesn't matter, you'll have an easy life in finding a suitable partner, because society doesn't expect women to go for men. Then as women you have many other difficulties and challenges, but you know that of course better than me. Wish you the best.
Tall girls are 🔥
It’s simple: women don’t want to admit we’re full of shit too. The prejudice/preference in regards to height never made sense to me, but I’ve heard so many women talk about not wanting to date someone under 6ft as if that’s the norm. We have a long way to go till we find our way through this…
We have the right to our preferences! Don't reinforce the idea a woman preferring a physical type is "full of shit"!!! Everybody has tastes!
@@Turbonilla it's how it's manifests that's the problem. For example I've seen many dating bios that straight up mock men under 6 ft. Seeing "Don't message if you're under 6 feet" from a 5'4 woman can be incredibly damaging to see.
@@TheCrogun respect is key, from both parts. But on tinder appearance comes first, so it's important to remember that's nothing personal about YOU. If a person is rude, swipe on!
Women's preferences are informed by patriarchy when it comes to finding mates. Data shows that powerful men will advance tall, masculine presenting males, and so those will traditionally be seen as most able to allow a woman to be feminine. That systemic bias isn't built by women nor is it the result of women not wanting to admit our own biases. It's a direct result of patriarchy rewarding a certain image of masculinity. But research also says that women are way more likely than men to drop their perceived standards when it comes to attractiveness so I am so confused by this prejudice ur linking to women. Image matters to everyone and preference exists, but the data still says women are much more comfortable with normal men than the opposite. This isn't saying women are all sunshine and roses. It's just saying there's a reason we can immediately come up with shows like King of Queens and Modern Family when talking about hot woman/way less attractive male pairings, but have a harder time naming TV shows where the woman is deemed much less traditionally attractive than the man. Idk if you've seen, but there are several videos on Yt that name celebrities with "ugly" spouses, and most of those are okay men with older or fat wives. I've seen one list with the opposite.
@@Turbonilla Preferences are informed by social norms tho. That's why thin people are now seen as most attractive, whereas in the 20s they were mainly seen as less so.
It’s tough out here as a 5’5” man 😔
Facts
Society is changing. Younger people are less able to deluded themselves into stereotypes and in the future this will change
@@maloneaqua I hope you're right 😔
I'm a 5'2" straight guy and nearly 27. I've been single for nearly a decade. And I know that even if I get a girlfriend I'll be in for a constant barrage of people staring at us in public, making personal comments, her friends asking why doesn't she just leave me for someone taller/better (same thing to many people), etc.
I've even heard anacdotes from other short guys of men walking up to their girlfriends in public in front of them and asking her to leave that pathetic short guy for them, "don't you want a real man?", or picking on the short guy in order to impress the girlfriend that they're more of a man and a better date. I don't really want to get beaten up so some douchebag can prove how macho he is, thanks.
5’3 here. Sick to the back teeth of being infantilised.
I'll be the Goose to your Maverick!
My hubby is 5”5, I’m 5”7, I have never ever been happier, treats me like a literal Queen, everyday he sets such a strong standard for my daughter and an unforgettable example for our son. Incredible husband and father. So thankful for him❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽
I love this! I am slightly taller than my husband and I don’t even think about it, but so many others are quick to point it out which I think is so shallow.
Ugh I bet those comments get so annoying. I need to make sure I never do that to people
I can't believe they actually say that to you.
Why on earth would anyone bring that up, that's beyond me.
Yeah it's so annoying, like yes I've noticed that. 😂
Girl, same! When I started dating my now husband, it felt like everyone needed to point it out. Disappointingly so, mostly other women. To make it even more annoying, these were all girls who were shorter than me (and my husband). So the problem was that he wasn't too short, is that he was too short *for me* in their eyes.
Just tell them your man probably going to live longer and smarter. Tell your friend to swallow a smart pill lol instead of being shallow.
I often date shorter guys, I'm 5'7 and the shortest guy I dated was 5 feet. I had no issue with it but we did get a lot of funny looks. In all honesty I loved his height, and it's so rediculous how people believe the guy has to he taller than the girl. That's just such a strange belief.
Growing up as tall girl in 2010's was way harsher than it should be, one "joke" that really burned itself into my memory was my "cool hip with the kids" teacher jokingly saying unlike other girls i will be the one carrying my boyfriend in my arms because i'm just "this tall" and then asking boys which one would like that, i was like 13 and tallest in my class what already was cause of bulling and complexes but this was very first time when i felt like... actually publicly humiliated for a joke. I skipped all next classes to get home and cry because i couldn't handle it.
I didn't grew up to be actually tall i simply was a tall child in times when everyone thought misogyny is funny because it's "equality" and being petite was the beuty standard for women, now my height is average and seen as ideal but i still can't really get over insecurities bulling and standard of beauty from my childhood left me with. I also suspect people were specially horrible to me due to me simply not being conventionally attractive, a lot of people says tall height is not a problem for women because "models are very tall and seen as beautiful and desirable" but average women doesn't look like one.
Oh my god I feel a little traumatized just reading that. I'm so sorry that happened to you, that b!tch definitely was trying to hurt you.
I'm sorry that happened to you
I always hated the "oh but models are tall" comment because I clearly didn't look like a model and like you said, neither does the average woman. It's a non-compliment.
Yup, the worst is when you grew tall before everyone else. So you tower all the boys and girls. Even worse if you have social anxiety.
@@ayanna6327 the funny thing is that before becoming a model (sometimes even after), they're bullied too. Karlie Kloss and Amazon Eve were bullied a lot because they were more than 6 feet tall
As a 5’11 woman I was always more attracted to/dated men who were around 5’7. Never found it an issue even though people gave me flak for it. All in all, If height is your biggest worry in relationships then you should seriously reevaluate your perception of people and dating.
“Shortness is a shortcoming.” Lol. I don’t know how you said that without laughing. At least a chuckle or snort or something lololol. I’m still laughing and I’m minutes past it.
Idk about you, but I also got a giggle out of the fact that this is one of the _shortest_ Take videos I've ever seen. XD
Kind of like Zendaya, I grew up with my dad being 5’6 and my mom 5’9 so it was a normal thing to me. I am now the same height as my dad living in a city where there is a lot of short guys-and I love a good platform heel. It’s never been a problem for me but I know other girls have a checklist of what they look for in guys and it almost always includes “tall”. Wish we could move past this. Short kings rise up!
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I'm 5'5 and my girlfriend is 5'9 sometimes it's awkward but my fiancee love me so much..❤❤❤
I’m So glad people are breaking the mold on this ideal on what a relationship should look like. I am taller than my soon to be husband and we sometimes get looks but really it’s the people giving the looks that need to look at themselves. Love is beautiful no what what color, shape, or size.
'The shorter the king, the taller the crown'.
The physical appearance only plays a minor role in a relationship. Attitude, kindness, commitment and intelligence, on the other hand, are crucial in maintaining a long-lasting and healthy relationship.
I was the shorter guy in the relationship twice in my life. I never felt insecure about it, ever. If anything, it was an ego booster lol And I’m not ashamed to admit it, either 😂🍻
Genuine question: what about it is an ego booster? I’m the tall one with my bf for reference, I guess. Lmao
@@lilithtozier7467 I can only speak for myself: But the "ego-booster" for me had to do with the fact that I already knew I was a good looking guy with a nice body, I was ripped, and in pretty good shape, standing at 5 foot 6 inches in height. In my mind, I wasn't below average in height by any means, I was average when you compared me with shorter men, but "short" when you compared me to taller men. 1) I just never felt insecure about my height. Ever. I have always felt comfortable in my skin. I love me for me. It the end, that's all I had. Most women I dated where about my height or shorter, but in the experience I had with 2 of my exes that were taller than me, I guess it boiled down to the fact that they could've had any other guy (tall or even more muscular), but instead, they chose me. That can make a (shorter) guy like me feel special. Thus, the ego booster. Plus, the sex was great. So I was on Cloud 9. lol
@nofeline I’m 5 foot, 6 inches in height, she was 5 foot 9 inches. And eh, I don’t know if I’d take the chance. I’m too used to my height and build. I’m very hesitant to even take the offer. Like, I don’t feel excitement. I feel nervous of the thought that a fairy can magically change my height, and it’d be silly to think that somehow that’s gonna change my life. I meant it when I said, I’m very confident in myself. And I really don’t feel the need to change anything about myself lol
@nofeline There’s a little something called, “biased self enhancement.” It’s the idea that when you look in the mirror, you love the person you see. It’s another form of self acceptance.
If you look in the mirror, and can’t accept the person you are, then you have deeper problem that only therapy can help you with. That’s all I’mma say about that.
But it’s because I love myself, and accept myself that I was even able to pull a taller woman. Twice.
I don’t think about “what if’s.”
Living that kind of existence is depressing. Accept “what is” and roll with it. I live my life with it, make the best of it, love myself for it, and use it to the best of my abilities.
If another man is 6 feet tall, great. But that doesn’t make me feel inferior at all.
@nofeline I couldn’t have said it better myself, brother 🍻
I'm 5'8" and my hubby is 5'2", but when I was really young I also insisted on dating guys taller than me. I met my hubby online, though, and we were friends for years without knowing what each other looks like (we met in a MMO)... he actually was there for me during a bad breakup. I think it was being in my late twenties where I was mature enough to appreciate what an incredibly genuine/sweet guy he is that made me fall for him.
@Cope and?
But if you saw him first on Tinder he would have no chance, this is why so many women missing out on good guys.
Wait .. so a typical age where female over look man height is when they're in the 30s got it. Usually that the age when they have kids and single.
Tall wife here. 32 and still self-conscious about it! Thanks for the video! :)
Why are women self conscious about height?
@@ashuranero5721Because tall height is traditionally a masculine attribute. Just like how men want to feel big and strong, women want to feel petite and short.
@@RH-td7vc A man doesn't want to necesarily feel big and strong next to his woman, that is a male stereotype and actually kinda a stereotype of someone insecure. A man wants to be loved by his woman, for man the height of a woman therefore doesn't matter, men gladly would also take a taller woman
@@ashuranero5721 Most men prefer a woman to be shorter than them. Only guys who want to be submissive in the bedroom want a woman who towers over them. Or they're so low value they'll take anything they can get.
I’m literally struggling with this now. Do you think you should have considered getting someone taller ? I have a long term bf but he’s proposing soon I’m sure. I just can’t seem to look past his height. All my little brothers tower over him. Idk what to do
I find a lot of short guys pretty hot. I personally don't care and it doesn't make a difference for me.. but both men AND women can spread this relic of toxic masculinity. So many extremely handsome, desirable Hollywood actors are shorter than "average". Don't feel self-conscious, short men-- the women that care about your height are often extremely self-conscious about some aspect of their own appearance and are projecting
Thanks, what you said really helped put things into perspective for me and made me feel a bit better ❤️ (- a 5'2" man)
As an average-height woman (5'6"ish), I personally don't mind if a guy is noticeably shorter, and if he's being confident about it (in addition to being a decent person with a sense of humour), I actually find that quite attractive. Of course I do have certain preferences like most people do but they are unrelated to height. Have always dated men around my height or a bit shorter, and never got the obsession with really tall guys, tbh.
When in 2003 I met the man who would go on to be my husband and father of our two children, it took me a REALLY long time to convince him that yes, I was attracted to him and no, a taller girl like me was not necessarily after a taller guy than him! It was such a stigma, especially back then (it's gotten better) that it made it more difficult for us to hit it off. My husband is not an insecure guy, by the way, he had just been influenced by society to think that a shorter guy would not seem attractive in the eyes of a taller girl. And that wasn't true. But I do hear some women being really callous about shorter men, saying outright they would just never date a guy who's shorter than 1.80 cm or even 1.85 cm, etc.
My husband is 5' 5", I'm 5' 9". We've been together since 1995, married since 2001, and have 2 kids. He's Filipino, I'm the color of paste. We make it work.
Oh, and he's a lot thinner than I am. ☺️
By thinner how thin? How many kgs are you both?
Thank you for looking at this. I'm a 6'1" woman and have felt insecure about my femininity because unless you're a skinny model, then socially you're perceived like a big hulking giant (though Tall Girl film really does take the tall girl victimization too far). Most of the guys I've dated have been shorter than me. Sometimes it's an issue (some guys say they aren't bothered by height, but then when you're with them they clearly are), but in my experience if the guy isn't bothered by it, then there's no issue (you both have to have thick skin about it though, because you will get the stares and the questions).
I remember ripping into my sista because she had this great man who was smitten by her. This man was in school for Engineering, had a job, was a gentleman. Was very sweet. Good reputation. She turned him down because he was 5'4. Like really? When she told me she wasn't interested. I said "Man, he must not be as nice as I thought." She said "Oh he is. But girl, he's like 5'4." The man even jokes about his height. But too me. It just didn't matter. My sister is not even tall. She's 5'6. I'm 5'9 and would have gladly entertained that man if I wasn't married at the time. I was so mad at her. She told me she would have dated him if he wasn't short. I said "So in the grand scheme heme of things. With there being deeper things in life, like love. This man's flaw was being short?" I don't think it's cool and she hasn't had a decent man since. But at least they've been tall. Smh.
she didn't like him and you are mad at her? How entitled you are... You can't decide what other people should like or be attracted to
@@Turbonilla no they are mad at her for rejecting this man ONLY for his height
tbh your sis got what she deserved.
maybe one day she will realize how superficial she is and how much it harmed her... 🤷🏼♀️
@@CristalianaIvor she didn't like him because pyhsically he was not her type. So?
@@Turbonilla it's still disgusting 🤷🏼♀️
instead of saying "I just wasn't attracted to him" saying "hahaa have you seen how TINY he is" IS disgusting. has nothing to do with preference.
I've experienced this all my life. I'm a tall girl, above 5'9, in a country where the average height is mostly short and since I was a kid I struggled with this concept "man taller than woman". I used to date intelligent and brilliant guys, my height or somethimes shorter, and people always seems to be shocked because "but he's not taller than you, OMG!"
One time, a beautician, after seeing me and my bf (only 1 inch taller than me) asked me how I did it, how I could not wear hight heels and she said that she would never date a guy her height. That time I was really disappointed and even now it's something that really bothers me. This stereotype is really sick and inculcated so deeply in people's mind.
Personally I've never understood the hype about tallness. I'd much rather date a short guy with attractive facial features than an a tall guy without that (not that looks are everything, but every one has preferences).
Same, although I'm about 5'2", so it would be very easy for me to date a taller partner, but I'm not particularly fond of them being more than 4 inches taller than me.
I was personally never one for massive height differences because having to talk with a partner who is much taller than me is such a neck ache.
Yes, I totally agree.
I do have preferences about a guy's looks, but height is pretty unimportant to me.
If I like the rest of him, I would not mind being with a short man. It wouldn't matter.
And that's why i dont get dates
Everyone is different.
I knew a girl who was like 6'3, and she would insist on dating taller men, but found very few to no men who were actually taller than her. She finally realized that height has no effect on happily dating.
Was there a reason she wanted a taller men in the first place
thanks guys for approaching this topic. I'm about average height 5ft8ish, don't have any issues about that, but I think a lot of women do. I've been rejected in the past because certain girls said, they'd be self-conscious about wearing heels when stepping out in public with me. Thus proving that it's more to do with societal pressure than physical attraction.
Social pressure is what ruins other people's freedom in life, even if the girls really liked you they're gonna be worried about society judging them. But nowadays it's normal for the girl to be taller than the guy since the whole girl should be smaller and guy should be bigger thing is getting old and boring, i see alot of couples around same height often but now I'm seeing more taller girl shorter guy relationships very often now to make it short couples of different heights and sizes . My current gf is 2 inches taller than me and it's been 2 years now, before i met her i dated girls close to my height or taller, it's these tiny 4'11 and below ones that didn't like my height for not been 6'5+ lmao.
From my experience, some women don't care how tall or short a guy is as long as he is attractive. This is from my experience I've gotten by women taller than me cause of my physical appearance. I'm 5'7 by the way
Love how you don't expect them to be w you because of personality 😂
@@kenzashenna dude my looks came first it was my personality that sealed the deal
I’m 5’7 also. When I was short and ugly I struggled with girls. I kinda glow up and my relationship with women got better which led me to being a fuckboy. Height matters sometimes but I think looks matter the most.
Handsome men are winning.
This is true for me too. You will tend to find girls will make acceptions for attractive short men. But nobody talks about short handsome men. I mean we all know a tall woman can be beautiful. But people never seem to remember that there are short attractive dudes put there.
Haha... my girlfriend is two inches taller than me (she's 5'9", and an absolute beauty) and I was worried early on in our courtship that she wouldn't take me seriously as a suitor. She was aware of the height difference at first as well, but about a year into our relationship, neither of us even notice it anymore. I know that society looks at us and goes "Wow! He must be doing really well, if he's dating a taller woman!" So, I'll take that as a compliment, and an ego boost! xD
P.S. To any insecure tall girls out there: you're fine as hell- be open minded, your perfect partner will find you :) Count on it!!!
I think i might found one....I'm 5'6 and he's 5'4
@@zuhanaansarisajitha3586she is 5'6" and I am 5'5"
About to marry next year
I think it's fine though never met the girl because formalities are going on
I usually find height differences in couples cute for some reason lol. Especially when the girl is taller. A guy/girl who realise that height is just that, height, has my respect lol
Honestly, I prefer it when guys are shorter than I am. Being shorter than a guy makes me feel small and vulnerable, and I'm sick of most gender norms, including the stereotype that guys must be taller than girls. I think there's something very empowering about a tall girl who is unapologetic about being taller than most guys.
I'm a short guy who loves a girl taller than me I feel romantic and resigned
Bruhhhh I freaking agree finnally a girl who agrees wit me and yes I do love tall girls and imo all girls should be taller then men in general I just feel like it would be better that way!!!!😭😭😭😭😭
You have never been with a shorter guy and you never will.
@@Mogamishu I'm not ready to date right now, but whether I date in the future is for me to decide, not you.
You sound like a nightmare 😂
i was 5’10 at 14 and grew to be 6’1, i’m 20 now. i still remember very vividly a boy in my class being asked if he would date me and he said yes, but only if i was shorter. i’m glad to see that taller women with shorter men is beginning to be more normalized.
U tall very beatiful am man short i love tall girl so much how tall are you in cm
Tall girls are very beautiful and attractive, I am a man of 1.68 cm tall and I like a girl who is taller than me because I feel romantic and melting, how tall are you in cm
@Cope tall girl so beatiful
@Cope i knaw
I got that one so much 😒 so disheartening when they’d be like “you’re pretty and you’re cool and play video games and like horror movies but… i just wish you were shorter”. Like seriously? I seemingly fit all your qualifications but the height is a deal breaker? So glad I’m married now and don’t have to date anymore cause it was so annoying. My husband is my exact same height and we still get comments about me being tall and him being relatively short. We simply can’t win. But he treats me like a goddess so I cannot complain and love him so much ❤
A very good message, one I am definitely happy to be watching being a 185 cm (6'1") girl who was ridiculed repeatedly for dating a 170 cm (5'7") dude. However, I would like to balance it by saying it is okay to desire someone shorter or taller. You can have a preference; you can have a type.
Tall girls are very beautiful and attractive, I am a man of 1.68 cm tall and I like a girl who is taller than me because I feel romantic and melting, how tall are you in cm
Just talking to a tall girl I feel so happy and melted
I applaud the tall women of the world who date shorter guys and have no issues towering over them. Love is not measured by how tall or short someone stands. It's the quality of a persons heart and the content of ones character that stands above all.
As a girl who grew up quite tall at 5.11 it was always an insecurity because your viewed as the bigger friend and the approachable one and I remember - was constantly hunching and bending over just to not appear as tall , I was called giant, tree, pole you name it , so dating a taller guy was something I really wanted to do cause like when your tall it would almost cancel out your femininity and you became like one of the boys , at least in my experience, so I always sought out taller men because for once I didn't want to be seen as like this hulking figure over everyone but rather just an ordinary girl so sometimes as taller women I think we seek out taller men to validate are femininity. I don't know if anyone else can relate to this ♥
I would assume because being tall is seen as traditionally masculine and short as traditionally feminine. American society seem fine with girls having traditionally masculine traits, but not fine with boys having traditionally feminine traits.
Um, do they? Hmmm... I think the blurring of gender roles have made that possible
That’s true when it comes to personality - not appearance
They're not, though. Masculine women, women with masculine traits, features, or interests do not have it easier than men with feminine ones. Society doesn't like either, but I hate when people erase the pain women go through because men...also go through it? It sucks for both. We can acknowledge both.
@@temp_unknown I don't buy that.
@@jghifiversveiws8729 Good thing the truth is free!
My 6'2" bestie (female) had a hard time with this. She always met men who were weird about her height. Fortunately, she found herself a winner a few years ago in a man who's not particularly tall, but the stereotype really does have real-world consequences.
My girlfriend (5'8.5") is taller than me (5'7") and we never had any issues dating or kissing. We have been together for 6 years since our middle school (LOL, she was taller when we first met and she still is) and I see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
Male shortness is actually seen as shortcoming, not male enough.
"Short and ugly", " Is he cute, or is he tall?" are just a few comments that reinforce the idea.
Media does a great job in bending or making a narrative. I don't want to mention the tweets women make for us or the deprecating jokes for that matter. The fear of humiliation, aka reaching above one's league, "she can do better... so why bother", "how dare you, you're short" are just a few concerns that stop us from pursuing.
It's not a preference when you are at a statistical disadvantage for something like height and it has a name, Heightism.
Gender roles exist and will continue to exist. You can find enough comments that say something along the lines of feeling more feminine with a taller guy while Short men remain as the last option, as in the "Tall girl".
4:29 correction: Insecurities stem from the experiences we face.
6:11 Corrrection: There are no pressure on women to not date shorter men, women were the ones who reinforced it on men. Women have stronger height preferences [call it requirement these days] as 6:15
I’m 5’8” and I mostly dated shorter men around 5’5-5’6. I never had an issue as long as they’re close enough to my height, but I did date a guy who was 5’2, and that was too short for me.
Im a 6 foot 14 year old Guy, so imagine how I feel when most girls my age are under 5'6
Thats my height. You are are a real one.
My grand aunt, now 86, rejected a love interest when she was in her twenties... because he was shorter than her. That was her main concern: "it would not have looked good, and I liked wearing heels". She did regret it years later, by then he had married another woman even taller than her.
Let's be real, it does look weird. It's also weird how a seemingly masculine, heterosexual man would seek out women who out-size him.
@@RH-td7vc No, not always true.
@@RH-td7vc Who cares about other people looking I'm trying to breed superior genetic children, very very few women without makeup have a face that is as good looking like mine, they could hand over some height genes and make a tall beautiful Übermensch child
@@chadliterutherford9198 I like how you'll bitch about women wanting taller men yet seek out partners explicitly for their height because it's superior...
People even tend to make these assumptions in gay and lesbian relationships, too. The taller partner is ascribed the "more masculine" traits, while the shorter one is believed to be the feminine role in the pair. It's applying the same arbitrary assumptions that height means the "dominant" partner in the relationship, and it's laughably wrong.
I tend to do this thing whenever I feel insecure about about my height (5'2 M), where I feed my insecurity by watching yt videos that reinforce the fact that some women don't like short guys. Today was one of those days but after watching this video I feel a whole lot better and my mind's somwhat at ease
Just be realistic about it. Your height will definitely make it harder for you, pretending it won't will not help you.
However, it doesn't mean you can't find a woman who doesn't care, even if they are the minority.
Be aware of the problem, accept it and move on.
I'm a little taller than my boyfriend and I love it. Always had a thing for shorter guys. He's also the first and only real boyfriend I've ever had (met him through my best friend), we began dating earlier this year. The best part is, he likes that I'm taller than him. I didn't know guys like that existed. When we first saw each other, it was love at first sight, I thought that only existed in the movies until meeting him.
spread the words your girls friends ;)
I'm 6'6 and I can't tell you how much it means to me to see this video!! Thank you so much for you take 😊
6’6 with a nice smile 😂
Would you ever date a 5’7 guy?
@@mrgenetics4063 nope
This is one of your very best videos ever. It should be required viewing by kids in middle school and high school! Think of all the really good men that women are missing out on simply because they're afraid of going against one of society's most outdated and worthless stereotypes.
I am slightly taller than my boyfriend and If I had refused to date men who are shorter than me I would have lost the chance to meet a wonderful person like him. I remember when we were talking online before our first date and he told me his height because of all this pressure, but for me his height was never a problem, I liked him since the first time we saw each other. It's funny to remember that when I introduced him to my mother she said to me "he is shorter" and my mother-in-law said surprised to me when she saw me for the first time "you are so tall!". Nowadays everybody got used about It. On the other hand, my first boyfriend was taller than me and It was a terrible relationship, I can't imagine living my life with a person like him. So I can say that height is not important for a relationship.
I’m 5’5 and chubby and my fiancé is 5’4 and slender. I use to be self conscious about that difference. I haven’t thought about it in a while though.
I've never seen anything wrong with it. I remember Who Framed Rodger Rabbit and he was showing Eddie the photos of him and his wife Jessica. And I remember one of the photos where she is of course much taller than him wearing a sexy bathing suit and he's wearing swim trunks with polka dots. I always thought that image look funny to me.
Probably because he’s a rabbit with a human wife.
@@kiera6646
Technically, she's a person toon. Not an actual human. But I get it.
Eddie Valiant: Seriously, what do you see in that guy?
Jessica Rabbit: He makes me laugh.
@@NJGuy1973
Exactly.
“Tall girl” is conventionally attractive, has friends, a good family, lives in a good home, several people romantically interested in her AND SHE IS BARELY OVER 6’ TALL.
As someone who once was a 6’4” overweight teenaged girl, with several undiagnosed mental illnesses, constant victim to bullying and no friends at all, I felt offended how they framed tall girl 🙄
Like jfc I know the actress said that she suffered in real life, and I don’t doubt that, but that movie was overblown. 🙄
Right. Her height was the "only thing" that "missed" the conventional standard of beauty for women.
Yesss! Thank you!! 5'11 girl here! Thank youuuuuuu ❤️ this is so important to hear for both women AND MEN!
@Cope be proud girl 💕
TALL WOMEN ARE SO MUCH BETTER THEN LAME SHORT WOMEN
@@jesikanoel1539 YESS!! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Bet you're just a dude who pretend to be a woman.
"downey has worn shoe lifts" - shows downey in actual heels. xD i wish people would just call them what they are. there's nothing wrong with it.
being a shorter-than-average dude is like playing life on veteran difficulty
Short king here 5'6" married a 5'11" tall blonde german model. Kings out there do not give up there's hope for us. Be confident about yourselves and you too csn be with a beautiful tall amazon beauty.
Short women are overrated anyway
Men don't care if a girl is taller than us, it's girls who care if we're shorter than them. I'm 5'9 and I've had more than one girl tell me that I'm too short for them. I've been in great shape most of my adult life, but that doesn't mean anything to girls who care about height.
My husband is ½" shorter than me. The biggest problem around height in our relationship is that he sometimes needs me to grab things off a shelf that is comfortably high for me, but unreachable for him, since he also has shorter, stockier arms than me. So really it's an issue of accessibility and convenience. I've never really gotten the hang of wearing heels, so it suits me just fine to be with a technically shorter man. But he's also never had an issue with me wearing heels occasionally other than concerns about physical comfort.
It cracks me up how many straight women complain about how few single, commitment-minded men there are…
but won’t date anyone shorter.
Glad this is being talked about. I’m 5’ 5” and my husband is 5’ 2” and seriously the BEST guy. I would have really missed out if I’d dismissed him because he’s short.
/r I'm not the cake
@@nicesmack9309 I dated douche bags of all heights and sizes in my twenties. I didn't settle for shit.
@@nicesmack9309 I'm 20 and my gf is 22 while she's taller than me too, and my cousin who's also 20 and his wife who's 19 is 2 inches taller than him , you're not correct bro
Thank so much for this video! As a short guy myself (‘5’ “4”) I can certainly relate!
The bit about the far girl/skinny guy pairing is very close to my experiences. I’m 50 pounds heavier than my husband and have always been larger since we started dating. At the beginning I wondered if we’d make it because the I was in my head about the size difference. But I was able to let it go because he’s the kindest man I’ve ever known and treats me well which is what matters. The difference in our sizes is irrelevant
Normie: "Love knows no height" (shows men who are multimillionaire, high status and handsome) 🤡
Zendaya is richer than her short boyfriend. It's not just about money
Finally someone who makes senses.
No bullshit no made up shit story.
Honestly I’d have no issue with my GF being talker at Han me. It’s really not that important.
Also Tom Holland is dating Zendaya, he’s lucky either way.
I'm a guy who's 6.1 feet tall, with a lot of female friends. I've always felt this sympathy for every short dude they've talked about not calling back, after realizing they were gonna get rejected by those girls for their height. Most men don't have hangups with dating short women, women of medium height, or even tall women - attractive is attractive. However, I guess women can be guilty of having physical biases as much as men can.
No I feel men will not date a girl for her weight more then he would care about her hight
@@cyb11114 most men don't care about height but women do care
@@cyb11114 I think female weight and male height are very different in the way they are "rejected".
If a woman is a little over or underweight, she is still attractive to basically all men; if she's more on the extreme, it's very hard to find a date.
For men it is different: it's basically impossible to find a woman who prefers dating men who are a little bit shorter or even same height as her, but they are more forgiving on the extremely short.
In my experience (which isn't universal of course) a lot of the men I've dated have had issues with me being taller or even the same height as them, to the point they made me feel like a giraffe at 5.7.
Now I put my height in my dating profile because if they don't care they'll ask.
Im 5'9 and have been rejected over height before but i've also dated women my height and taller, at the end of the day you like what you like. In fact more often i've found short Women caring more about height.
9:40 No. It's about weakness. A short is perceived to be weaker because of his height. Nothing to do with femininity with regard to make insecurity. Men are insecure about being short because of 1. the continued jokes 2. Perceived as weak.
Short men aren't likely to still be seen as being able to protect and ultimately "unsafe". It's a primitive perspective but it plays true in society today unfortunately.
I am a fan of tall women. The taller the better! And I especially admire tall actresses who make a mark in Hollywood. I'm sure it's not easy.
So, kudos to Elizabeth Debicki, Adrianne Palicki, and All-Time Great Sigourney Weaver. 🙌🏿
This bias isn't ending. If anything, it's only getting worse.
It's not getting worse.
@@Michael-gs8og how so?
@@rolandserna7805 Because you just don't know.
My partner and I also share a height difference, although I’m 5’6” and he is 5’1”. We also share a couple other differences that aren’t typically seen in on-screen and off-screen couples, being that I’m a plus-sized white woman dating a very muscular Asian man. It is nice to see couples on-screen that look similar to my partner and I and hopefully we can break all these stigmas that hold people back from just living their lives and showing their love.
My parents were tall woman ( 5'7" to 6'3") and a short man ( 5'9" to 6' 3") think Mandy Moore, Jessica Simpson, etc., etc. . This was just normal for a whole decade to my younger brother and I. What matters is your relationships are valued, healthy, have healthy rules and boundaries are obeyed, & everyone feels beloved, connected, and happy.
I’m 5’10” and currently dating a man who is 5’7.” The “problems” related to our height difference are completely manufactured by society…
I think universally, shortness is viewed as a “disadvantage” or something to be made fun of. I’m 19 and I’m 5”2’ and while I’m privileged to be in the “she’s so small and short” feminine goal kinda way (I can’t understand why 😭) it feels like people are always bringing up my height to undermine me in some sort of way. Perhaps because shortness is to do with perceived weakness or such, but I’m sure (in my experience) it had nothing to do with being “you’re too feminine”
My adoptive father is 5'7'' former wrestler and body builder, 190lbs of pure muscle back in his days, he could take down bigger men than him in the sport without issues, and being a short bodybuilder represents an advantage since it is easier to get gains at shorter heights. A funny story, once we were in a Mall and we saw a punch measure machine, he broke that thing with a fist 😂
I'm 5'5 and currently dating a woman who is 5'10 , all I'm gonna say is just keep them laughing and smiling
Hows it .. going on.. ?
@@ronnied1471 still going, no complains really
@@edwinprado5620 great man.. hope u doing good
I used to ice dance & the rule there is that the guy MUST be one full head taller than the girl or you get looked down on (in 6.0 days you’d get unofficial points off). A similar idea exists in ballroom dance except there the girl still has to be shorter after wearing heels!
So growing up I heard that the guy must be taller which was hard for my height. Yet also hearing that models are tall. So it was somehow both a blessing & a curse to be tall. In high school you’d hear short guys want tall girls “so they can climb them like a tree” or “they can stare at your boobs all day because that’s eye level” so dating a short guy meant being objectified more.
Honestly, this. I was the tallest of my 'friend' group so naturally my boobs became pillows for everyone whether I liked that or not. Lets not ignore the sexual harassment against taller women that just goes unchecked because we're deemed 'masculine' (even if we're not masc at all).
I am 6ft tall so it is nearly impossible for me to date a taller man. Not because there aren't and men taller than me, but most tall men want 5'2" women for some reason. I have just accepted it, and I am very happy with me bf, who is several inches shorter than me. He's amazing, and really don't even think about it.
same
I notice this too. Even in my country Malaysia. Majority of taller guys 5’10 and above always with like a very short girl 5’1” and below 😅.
Heck even my older bro(5’10”) wife is like 5’1” or lower. When her teen daughter started to grow tall she seems to be really proud about it.
I guess human prefer a partner quality which they dont have to make sure their offspring doesnt have their shortcoming subconsciousl
Im just 5’6” and my wife is 5’5”. I seen it myself couple of times my short female classmate and coworker will pursue a tall guy aggressively when they met one 😅. They have like very deep ina trance crush with a tall guy if they just knew one.
This is so wild to me. I'm 5'2 and everyone says that's a good thing because most men will not be taller than me but 1. I don't care what men think and 2. I would do anything to be 5'11. Being short is so annoying. I feel like a child.
I hear you, sister: at 5' 3", I'm a gay man who is heartily sick of the societal attitude about my lack of physical altitude, and whose few serious partners have, with very few exceptions, coincidentally been men at least six feet tall or taller (though I chose none for his looks, least of all for his height), none of whom gave a damn about my stature in any way but that of my character. (FWIW, my partner is 6' 2", and cares about my height much as he does, say, my left-handedness: as the root of a long-running inside joke between us; where it counts, he thinks of us both as ten feet tall and bulletproof, and I have to agree. 😊🧔👱♂️💜👍🏼) I also find it interesting that the only woman I have ever loved (who is bisexual, but has long dated women only) is 6' 1" and, were we interested in a more than lavender marriage, claims that she would have married me in a heartbeat, if I would have her. I'd say that those fixated on relative heights miss out on all the most interesting potential partners.
Same! I’d do anything to be taller! I don’t even know how I’ve worn flats for most of my life, cause now I pretty much always wear heeled shoes!
I'm 5'2" and a straight guy. Tell me about it.
But then I think screw that; why should I change who I am to fit their prejudice? Their attitudes need changing, not my body.
@@jp9707 Brother JP, I'm with you on this one: those who get hung up re our physical stature don't deserve either one of us.
@@semperfi818 yeah 😃
At 5'4" (but strikingly handsome) I quickly got over any problems with dating taller women ... out of necessity!
Teach the world your experience
A very ridiculous rule of patriarchy is that in a heterosexuals relationship, women should not date or marry men who make lesser money, are shorter or younger than them. It is to show that men are more successful than their female partners! Why should superficial things like height, income, success, age etc should ever come in the way of two people who are together?
How is any of those things you mentioned superficial?
@@SilentLulamoon Well, height and age are superficial (unless you're talking about large differences)
@@SilentLulamoon I believe that they should not be paid attention to when you are looking for a person to date. They are important to a person but should not come in the way of a relationship.
I’m 5’3 and I’m so sick of men who are 5’7 or above being called short. As an actually short man, it makes it feel even worse. Because at 5’3, my height genuinely does make it impossible to date women, especially on top of being trans and fat.
My height dysphoria is as bad as my chest dysphoria was before surgery. And like my junk, there’s nothing I can do about it.
@Cope that’s great for you, I’m 25.
Seems you have it rough do you regret becoming a very short trans man? Seems it could’ve been easier for you in the dating market if you were lesbian non binary. I’ve seen a lot of very short trans men being disappointed and voicing their frustrations.
@@KatekyoKen No, it would not have been easier for me to be ‘lesbian non binary’ as you put it, because I am a man, and men can’t be lesbians, and nor am I remotely non binary. I’m also not even exclusively into women. And no, I do not regret transitioning (I didn’t become a man, I was always a man). I would be dead if I hadn’t been able to transition. I’d rather be forever single than live as something I’m not.
Also, lots of short trans men have fulfilling love and sex lives. Being disappointed with the way one’s dating life is going has absolutely no correlation on whether or not transition was a good thing to do- you transition for yourself, and your own comfort, not so others will find you sexually attractive.
I'm so glad that you made this video! I'm a tall woman, 6 feet and 3.5 inches , so I've had to deal with this bias or unofficial cultural rule while growing up. Thankfully, I found a husband, who's tall but still shorter than I, who loves my height and doesn't care that I stand taller!
Good thinking 😉😉
Men are only insecure about women being taller than them because they know that the majority consider it undesirable. Literally the only thing you need to do to make him not be insecure is let him know that for you that's not the case. If he knows this to be true, he won't be insecure. Simple as that.
all this makes life so hard for us short guys, even if you don't want to care sometimes it just gets to you
💯
thank you.
i always dated taller men and women. i'm 5'2 and im seeing a guy who's 5'3 and it came up... he's awesome, goodlooking, handsome af but i notice his insecurity about his height. i always point out that his height is one of my favorite things about him and when i joke about our kid being doomed with shortness we both laughed and it was okay comfortable.
to this day i say that "what do you wanna be when you grow up?" my answer is "taller" and he said he feels the same.
but WHY... come on
i am gorgeous and i feel like he's even more than me and we both have the same insecurity about something we could never change and makes us who we are but i know its not about us per se but society that seems not to appreciate ppl for who they are.
Honestly i didn't even know that tall girls don't date short guys till a couple of my (girl) friends told me that they wouldnt date a shorter guy
My husband is an inch shorter than me, and he is proud to go places with me, even with me wearing heels xD i mostly don't anymore, as we like to go dancing and heels can sometimes get in the way
I am taller 5.6 with 5.4 and almost twice the weight or my boyfriend. and Ive never been happier 🥰 we gonna celebrate 5 years on Nov 23th
I am 5'11/179cm female. This stigma is real and I know that I've bought into this. I've been mocked by guys about being tall so it's kinda made me feel like my lane is to be with a tall guy or not at all. Being above average height has made me so self-conscious that I would be so happy when I have friends that are my height. I'd see a tall person in public and wish we'd be best friends to feel normal. I'm also not gonna lie that I've bought into this so that I can feel normal (more feminine) for once. It's exhausting being the above average height female!
@Cope ok who cares
When you say "tall women are seen as less feminine", the thing is that based on the somewhat arbitrary small-woman of femininity, they ARE less feminine. The fallacy is thinking that that's a bad thing.
Small things are infantile and weak. Which makes sense bc we treat women as helpless, little things.
Which is so silly because society will view models as the pinnacle of beauty but models are tall!!
The older I get, it seems the less feminine more women are becoming. As if it's wrong to be pretty, delicate and feminine. Then again, those women seem to love very feminine men, where as I absolutely do not. So, I guess it evens out.
@@valkyrie9646 it's not wrong to have qualities typically associated with femininity, but it is wrong to force it on people. I suspect many women in the past felt forced to play that role when it wasn't comfortable for them. Now women are more free to express themselves however they feel, whether that's very masculine, very feminine, or anywhere in-between. The important factor for me is that they're being their authentic selves.
@@maloneaqua I'd say it's more the case that infantile and weak things are almost always small (e.g. baby animals), not that small things/people are always infantile and weak. Many adults are small and wouldn't really appreciate being called "infantile and weak".