I don't know if this is primary or secondary: Now, photos, any photos from "Before D-Day" make me either incredibly sad or even angry. I have photos on my phone taken just the day before D-day and when I see them, all I can think of is "that very morning my husband engaged in his betrayal (PMO) before we went out to work on that project". FB pushes 'memories' of posts in the past. Those ALWAYS upset me because the first thing I think is "when THAT photo was taken I didn't even know what was going on behind my back in my life". Then I'm overcome with anger and the feeling that I'm a complete and UTTER fool.
My husband broke his vows when he served in Iraq 17 years ago. We were married for 30 years. We had just buried our 24 old son. He left his bereaved family to serve his country. He supposedly impregnated his 54 year old partner. My daughter read his emails to her for the next 2 years. He let her carry his disgusting secret all these years until he finally came clean to me 11 months ago. I am devastated and hurt beyond words. We are in counseling but it’s going to b a long journey of healing for me. I never thought he would be capable of such betrayal.
My D-Day was nearly 10 months ago. It is the hardest 10 months of my entire life. I too, never thought my husband capable of this kind of betrayal....30+ years.
Thank you so, so much! This is a very valuable task and I will do it. Unfortunately, I don't even know how to deal with the "normal" triggers so that at some point they no longer torment me and limit my life. There is an entire city that is a huge, painful trigger for me. That really sucks.
@@BetrayalTraumaPractitioner Yes, it's really time for me to take my life back. My therapist is currently teaching me to finally be angry. That has brought... interesting results 😅 If I can finally be angry, the rest will definitely be easier for me. Maybe then I'll even find my self-esteem again. Thank you for your educational videos, they provide important inspiration and food for thought.
My boyfriend cheated on me. I have been cheated on in the past but the betrayal of him was like nothing I have ever felt before. Now, I have so many triggers - primary and secondary. Ugh. I’m still with him because we have small children, but man…it’s so hard to pretend it’s all ok.
This is very interesting and so informative . Thank you
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I don't know if this is primary or secondary: Now, photos, any photos from "Before D-Day" make me either incredibly sad or even angry. I have photos on my phone taken just the day before D-day and when I see them, all I can think of is "that very morning my husband engaged in his betrayal (PMO) before we went out to work on that project". FB pushes 'memories' of posts in the past. Those ALWAYS upset me because the first thing I think is "when THAT photo was taken I didn't even know what was going on behind my back in my life". Then I'm overcome with anger and the feeling that I'm a complete and UTTER fool.
I can relate to the photos: when I look at a pic of me a d husband smiling now that I know what he was doing, I feel like such a fool!
My husband broke his vows when he served in Iraq 17 years ago. We were married for 30 years. We had just buried our 24 old son. He left his bereaved family to serve his country. He supposedly impregnated his 54 year old partner. My daughter read his emails to her for the next 2 years. He let her carry his disgusting secret all these years until he finally came clean to me 11 months ago. I am devastated and hurt beyond words. We are in counseling but it’s going to b a long journey of healing for me. I never thought he would be capable of such betrayal.
My D-Day was nearly 10 months ago. It is the hardest 10 months of my entire life. I too, never thought my husband capable of this kind of betrayal....30+ years.
Sounds like he too cannot believe he was capable. I am so very sorry for your profoundly hurtful journey. - Mr. Jay
Thank you so, so much! This is a very valuable task and I will do it.
Unfortunately, I don't even know how to deal with the "normal" triggers so that at some point they no longer torment me and limit my life.
There is an entire city that is a huge, painful trigger for me. That really sucks.
Ensure you are giving yourself the power of choice in ALL decisions in life big and small.
@@BetrayalTraumaPractitioner Yes, it's really time for me to take my life back. My therapist is currently teaching me to finally be angry.
That has brought... interesting results 😅
If I can finally be angry, the rest will definitely be easier for me. Maybe then I'll even find my self-esteem again.
Thank you for your educational videos, they provide important inspiration and food for thought.
My boyfriend cheated on me. I have been cheated on in the past but the betrayal of him was like nothing I have ever felt before. Now, I have so many triggers - primary and secondary. Ugh. I’m still with him because we have small children, but man…it’s so hard to pretend it’s all ok.