people pleasing is keeping you from your desires | be your own bestie - ep. 4

the flaw of being a people pleaser can sound unserious at first... "oh, i'm just too nice!". but it's way more detrimental than that. the reality is that if you are a people pleaser, you aren't being authentic to yourself or the people around you (not very nice, right?). when you act as a chameleon for others for too long, the voice of your actual thoughts & feelings becomes mute and is replaced by your desperate need to be liked. this smallness and lack of self-respect ultimately holds you back in life and keeps you from your desires.
this episode is all about my personal experience with this, and what i'm doing to overcome it. spoiler, one of the only things that has actually worked for me is learning how to respect myself and take up space... a people pleaser's worst nightmare D:
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00:00 - intro ! (re-introducing the pod)
4:15 - explaining the new pod name
5:23 - growing up as a people pleaser
7:00 - making yourself small so others will like you
8:11 - losing yourself in the need to be liked, self-sabotage
9:48 - relationships with energy vampires as a result of needing to be liked
10:32 - having everybody else's back except for your own (becoming your own enemy)
11:29 - noticing the patterns of people pleasing
12:02 - the negative impact on those around you
13:00 - un-becoming a people pleaser and how it improves your life
13:44 - learning to listen to your intuition after muting it, validating yourself
16:08 - taking up space
16:58 - why speaking your truth is so scary
18:45 - life improvements post-people pleasing
19:28 - having your own back when nobody else does
20:55 - the power of simply believing in yourself
23:21 - everything comes more easily when you respect yourself
24:44 - putting yourself first is not selfish
25:42 - steven spielberg anecdote (case study of self-belief)
27:40 - intentions for the podcast
29:18 - outro
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[@maiamckirdy5185]

Love this. Cant wait to hear more from you

[@hakusspell1194]

Enjoying listening to you! People pleasing is so tiring and seems like an endless cycle, especially because the healing process is huge and I think some people don’t realize. People pleasers usually end up scare to ask for help (for obvious reasons!). I love the way you explained and gave your personal experiences. I’m glad to know we are never alone and it’s awesome that you are taking the lead sharing this hard work 💜

[@BeYourOwnBestie]

thank you so much for this comment ❤️❤️ totally feel that- it truly is exhausting, both the people pleasing and the healing process as you said! but i think even if we're just aware of it that means we're closer every day to people pleasing being a thing of the past

[@paryaseo9036]

Perrrrfect video about this topic wow it shows u really did sth to urself so u can talk these key things not all those surface level explanations👏👏👏

[@BeYourOwnBestie]

thank you so much girl 🫶 i really appreciate that 🥰