Watch this if people Don’t respect you
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I need to set boundary by following
1. To say "NO" directly
2. Not accepting disrespect from
another person
3. Not to become very nice.
4. love myself ❤
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Aese log Hum sabke dimag me kuda bharte he
I too followed this rule from 3days now on
LIC Development e ban gaya ab meri gaon me familyme or sab jagah gajab ki izzat ho rahi hai
@@Arnabroy49how is it going..?
For being available for others all the time...this is one of my worst habit...will surely work upon this.... thankyou my mentor.❤
Very good evening
Same here
Same here
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Where are you from?
Disrespecting your own friends in the name of fun is the most disgusting attitude ever
Mastering others is strength. But Mastering yourself is true power
- Lord Buddha 😊
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Once me and 2 other friends were together. They were drinking, I wasn't. Eventually they felt hungry and wanted to go the nearest fries shop. So we went. After reaching the shop, one guy said that he had already given me the money to buy the fries, which he had not. And then they started staring at me with sus eyes, as if I was taking advantage of their drunken state. I felt so guilty for no reason and ended up giving the whole amount from my pocket. That was one of the very first big blows to my self respect. We were students back then, so buying fries for 3 people was quite costly as well.
I felt so resentful about this afterwards. Spent 3 nights thinking about it. Then I contacted them and asked them to check their wallets and let me know if they really had given me the money or not. They were like "we don't remember, not sure, it's okay". And for one of the very first times in my life I said "NO. Check it now and if you're not sure, then give me MY money back". I took the money back and never said yes to their invitations anymore.
Noice dude✨❤
Goood
Nooice
They are not your friends dude they are drunk chapris
Good for you dude 💯
1.Not always available for anybody
Self priorties.
2. Don't be too nice.
3. Say "No" Direct.
5. Don't accept disrespect in your life .
5. Respect yourself &take seriously yourself.
6. Set boundries.
4.
I have learnt much, my dear mentor. Thank you very much
Being introvert is also a crime god committed while making me. I can't say anything and people can't stop saying anything
Same.. world is not a good place for people like us ☹️
absolutely correct 💯
Sahi hai
I'm also an introvert, but I never tolerate any nonsense from anyone... being an introvert is not a weakness ....all you need is courage to deal with a mean person... letting go will just encourage such people...
😭😭 Bhai rula Diya tumne. F**k society.
So true, good analogy empty space people dump garbage.
We need healthy boundaries from people who dump their toxic emotion onto us.
Be stronger enough that their toxic emotions won't affect you
Be a man and don't take advice from women.
no one has said this before in my life that i don't need to be good to everyone... i truely needed this, in order to be in good books of everyone i always do things that i personally feel disgusted about... time to change
ya even m too kind ppl treat like doormat sometimes.. m too nice sometimes as i seek validation,, due to childhood issues, i behave like that.. i need to change
@@bhuvaneshwarij1326 it's the bitter truth we get to know after being dumped so many times in return even by the people we are close to.. Not everyone needs a good behaviour
I think you are just like me back then
Being shellfish is really good some time..
You should definitely go through a book Name NO MORE MISTER NICE GUY
And the book who really amaze me
No doubt BHAGWATGITA where you can find three word "Bhaw, Abhaw and Prabhaw"
@@pastthings6664 You are right, I also have read this book.
I stopped myself for being very nice ,and people call me you have attitude. Idk when and how I start becoming nice to others, but now I literally want to leave this planet Earth
This lady is talking to the points and these points are the golden rules for How to mentally stay fit!
Very correct, and really appreciate your thoughts and speaking these out openly. I have been at the receiving end for many years and just can't take it anymore, and I really appreciate you sharing this with the world and believe me some of us are LISTENING!
Most of the time we fail in setting boundaries because we don't want to appear rude to others. But trust me people, the ones who have boundaries themselves will understand what you're doing and would never poke you saying how rude of you!
But those who have a mental garden full of garbage, they'll pick some of it and throw it in yours when they see you building a wall around your garden. Cause they love doing it.
But don't you dare stop at that time. You keep going, and keep building your boundaries. Afterall, it's your garden and you are the one responsible for it's cleanliness not others.
Thankyou so much Neha ma'am for speaking about this issue. That's why we love you.
1 - help करना,
2 - अच्छा बनना की बीमारी,
3 - लोग काम में नहीं आते,
4 - राजमा चावल नहीं हूँ में,
5 - No बोलो,
6 - बुरा मत मानना
7 - boundaries create
8 - Mental Peace.. ❣️
Badia say samaj gaye
have always believed that my strength lay in being helpful and available to people every time. However, recently, my eyes were opened wide when I realized that nobody respected me, and everybody took me for granted. As a result, I have started telling myself not to approach people to help them unless they truly deserve it. I prioritize my dreams and refuse to give up my priorities for the sake of others.
completely agree with you. few days ago i become a friend who was toxic in nature on the name of fun. I'm 30 and at this age i got selected for a govt job. he was also in training with me. he called me "budha" in front of his friends( my friends was also there). i immediately stopped him and make him understand that i will not tolerate this. I'm polite and humble that doesn't means i will take whatever you throw at me. that day i knew how to take people's comments on me and yes i say "no" when my work is still left on the desk and someone wants me out there. i prioritise myself and now i havr time for myself to enjoy the moments i missed earlier.
All the points said here to set healthy boundaries in life is so true.. I could really connect to it because I have learnt to say "No" and also I don't give anyone the consent to disrespect me.
What I have learnt recently is to "Love yourself first and only then you can treat people out there in a better way"
Wrong thinking
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You can't truly help someone unless you help yourself first. Same with Love and Respect.
Initially when i was into myself and said "no" i was labelled as full of attitude and snobbish, and now I'm labelled as too nice. And I'm literally a dumpster for people' and their insecurities. I help because it's comfortable when i see someone sad in front of me. High time, i should align boundaries. And say no. This is so good ❤
What she said here is absolutely true. Specifically in terms of friends and frieship. Younger once need such advice!
I learnt all these lessons practically through my own experiences and yes if we dnt set healthy boundaries then life will automatically make sure u fall hard get hurt shattered but once u experience these negativities u rise so high tht u nvr look back i am thankful to God for bringing this transformation in me..and guys no matter ap kitna bhi motivational videos dekh lo jb tk thokar nhi lgegi naa koi life lesson long term k liye nhi sikh paoge..its ok to get hurt kyuki hurt hone ka jb limit cross hota h then u become unbreakable and strong ...thanks fr sharing ur valuable knowledge..its really helpful in spreading awareness in society..
@@ashishkumarsoni4626 👍
thankful to those people who gave us the confidence to stand for ourselves and set boundaries.
@@sweetyvlogs4394are you from Odisha??
She is 💯 correct . If we just continue to "be nice" to someone and unwillingly keep doing things for their favour despite knowing they don't have any respect for us .. bonds are meant to break . And only we ourself will be left on the crying end .
Great video ❤
What you are mentioning is people pleasing behaviour even when they don't feel it truly and when they don't have the guts to say no either, yet they do it out of fear...
Yes ,it's so true ,I did same mistake in my life again n again..but at this time I got very beautiful lesson ..your time is so much important.
Bat to bahot sahi hai LEKIN....agar aap life me unsuccessful ho to kitni bhi boundaries bna lo disrespect milega hi milega...isliye in chhote mote disrespect ko pee jao aur khudko itna successful bnalo ki tumhare circle me sab tumse chhote ho jaye...100% sure hai ki aapki galatiyo ko bhi respect milega.
It's our job to aspire for success but we all know success isn't guaranteed. To kab tak ghot ke piya ja skta h? Boundary set krne se hum apni wo energy save kr lete h jo negativity se deal krne me jati...
@@saumyasoni2870 aapne bohot sahi se samjhaya. Har insaan ki mental heath important hai, IAS se lekr clerk. or uss insaan ko Haq h boundaries set krne ka
@@makewish4You're absolutely right....Thank you!
So be successfull nothing is impossible.
Like modiji
I agree.... Setting healthy boundaries is so important !
Well said young lady. Much needed. Appreciate it.
Fr the best video I've ever found on RUclips💗 every single word touched my heart and it was actually true dw a harsh reality👀
Well said, everyone has their own self esteem and must learn to carry it with them at all times.
You have literally put up my whole life out here😭
I'm always there for everyone and myself when in need no one's is there to help me out🙂💔
same here brother...
Excellent. Well said. This video really helped me come out of becoming good to all.
Set healthy boundaries not everyone deserves your energy 😊✨🥰
Huge respect for you, an eye opener.
Plz educate us. I wish to learn more on confidence, self respect, and how to say no.
So much needed video...I have been struggling to deal with this thing for so long,I hope I'll apply things that you mentioned in this video.Thank you so much ❤
Listening you gives me confidence that I m working in right direction and hope to be what I want ! Thank you !
I agree
I suffer and try to help all
Once I could not help, they stopped talking
We must set boundaries
Very very important content. Hats off. Literally the same scenario of disrespect as a joke from friends happening with my friend named jason. Whenever our friend group comes together every time my few friends make jokes that are hugely disrespectful towards jason and I can see kind of discomfort/shame on jason's face. I already recommended jason to talk to them at the spot or if you are not able to do this then talk in-person to other friends about this joke and warn them seriously to stop these jokes. But he kind of seems that he is scared that if he talks about this then friends will stop talking to him. Really feel so sad for jason. But now I will going to share this video with him so I hope he can get some motivation and do this.
I absolutely needed this right now, and i've got my answer, Thanks DIDI! ❤
This is so true advice for introvert people. Our whole surrounding have so many such insecure people who constantly keeps your morale down...
Hi Neha, your videos literallly got me through my dark phase and still getting through. Thank you so much!
While I was facing some setbacks and failures; those people whom I always respected and treated well, those whom I thought to be my good friends; they all made fun of my failures and talked bad things about me to other people. 24/7 they would make fun of me and were really excited to see me struggling. It hurts me so much because they seemed very closed to me. Your video is so relatable to me didi ❤.
When u achieve success they will again appreciate u.
True frnds will surely support u during ur struggles.
Same here dude. I can understand the pain. But yes instead of focusing on them if it's possible just completely ignore them and strategies your life to achieve what you want to. Bas yr unki nhi apni tension lo, apni tension tumhe kahai na kahi le jayegi
@@shraddhamanthani1024 Yes you are right.
@@conceptbuilders6748 Thanks I agree with you
Mere tho Ghar meh hi aur relatives Mai mazak hothi hai.... Par vahi log appreciate karenge jab humare life Mai accha hone lagega.
Don't available all the time
Don't be always accha banna
Learn to say no
Dont take disrespect as a joke
Do not satisfy their egos (being accha bnna) as they are insecure about themselves and to satisfy their insecurities they are disrespecting you as a joke
Really Appreciate you cause u deserve this and you are DAMN Good. You know what I mean to say don't take it otherwise
Hats off to your for this video.....I always help everyone, listen to others and available to them but even then they dont respect me and mostly ignore me.
Have watched your videos for quite sometime. Yes, self-esteem is the most important thing for an individual's happiness.
Can't thank you enough
You have really opened my eyes!
I would completely maintain distance with a toxic people in my life 😊…. Thanks for your meaningful words!❤
Genuinely Thanks for this video dude 🙏
You are absolutely correct Didi ..
Many take advantage of us for being good to them I am a medical student and going to be a doctor in few years and I saw many people who took treatment without giving money many people has taken advantage for being a good and kind doctor ..
But still I feel that we shouldn't bother about it because if we will start bothering about it then one day everyone will be selfish and work only for themselves and only for their own benefit ..
Apni marzi se jeena sab ka hak hai lekin jo insaan sirf apni marzi se jeeta hai uss ko khudgaraz bolte hai jo sirf apne barre mai sochta hai yaa sochti hai ..
( Think about ourself is a good thing but only think about ourself is not a good act it makes a person selfish )
The best example of it can be seen in married life of a couple when both husband and wife earns together and if they share the financial expenditure equally then it's a good thing if we see it from one side but on the other side it is also very risky because if at any point of life at any stage of life one thinks that I spend more even if a little spark of it arises in the back of mind of anyone then it will completely burn the complete relationship of a husband and wife ..
So it is better to do things without expecting from others .. Even it is written in bhagvat gita also that phal iccha se rahti karam kar ( do things without expecting the result of it ) ..
Mai bhi ye he believe karta hu ki phal ke bina soche apna karam karu hamesha paisa naa dekho pata nii kitne logo ka bhala kar payoga mai aise kabhi soch bhi nhi sakta ..
JAI SRI RAM
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Much much needed..right thing at right time ..just yesterday itself I had terrible argument..I think universe is supporting me by ur video 💯🙂
Thank you maam really helpful points
1) Learn to Say No
2) prioritize urself
3) Stop seeking that mein duniya ka sabse aacha person hu award
4) don't accept disrespect stand up for yourself
5) Stop accepting thrash told by people to satisfy themselves
6) Set health boundaries
As u are explaining, it seems my soul is talking to me . Thank u so much 🙏🙏🙏. Hari bol .
Yeah I can relate. I had the disease to please others and always ended up at the wrong side of the road. It was very difficult to get out of that mess. But at last I found the way to and set boundaries with everyone including my parents and siblings too.
same. i have this people pleasing problem
It's not some disease.
Just you attitude towards life in general.
@@crczr it's an idiomatic expression. I know what I have written here. Next time try and understand first whats been written and then give your opinion
Thanks for this awesome video. I felt that this video is made for me. I can relate with everything you said and I'll make follow the below points:
1) will try to say No if I don't feel good
2) will make some boundaries if the person is trying to pull down or disrespect me
3) will give more priority on my work
These are extremely important points to be beared in mind. Help yourself first then help others. Don't let anyone disrespect you. Learn to say no, set boundaries. Don't underestimate yourself by comparing with others. Stop being too nice, soft and gullible.
This is so relatable... Will surely work upon this... Thanks for this one.. Much needed.
Fantastic narration of facts & realities of life. I would sum up " do not let anybody take you for granted. You have to safeguard your self; without hurting others".
CMA RANJAN BANERJEE
I need to set all of these boundaries in my life. But one of my biggest problems is I can't say 'no' to anyone. And that's become my weakness day by day. I can feel it. Everytime I think " no problem they're my friends, chalo bura nhi mante" but no It continues in a loop.
Your video gives a reality check ❤️
Then they insults us and we emotionally suffer...
There are always some people like that in our life that we think are our friends, but they'll make fun of us, exploit us, make us do things we don't want, or even expose our secrets among people or social media.
just say it ;)
Aap itni achi batei karte ho. Thanq! 😔U r so so right. I wil set boundaries from now on
Being available all the time, showing empathy all the time, accepting disrespect as jokes
Right! Everything you said in this video 👍 Niceness leave karo.. kindness is fine because in truly being kind we don't expect anything in return.. and we inherently cannot be kind to everyone. And yes, don't be afraid of letting people go when they hurt you. Don't hold grudges, simply LET GO. Let them be.
This video is fire🔥🔥🔥🔥! You just beautifully and very firmly clearly put out the gist of how to have self respect in society ❤
Just pure true talk extremely same the way u share all things are truly human things and we experience so thank u because u are our alaram of our mind .
I needed to hear this. Thanks 😢😊
You are such a loyal frnd who mirrors everything in our life & try to heal us from it..Really thankful for it..I have applied almost everything from ur talks & experience & it brought ultimately peace of mind ❤
One of my request is that Pls give a solution for feeling guilty about those people who hurted us the most but still we felt that we are hurting that although we have suffered a lot from them give a solution
Dear beti Jai hind
1. U a God sent girl. The lesson taught is superb as it contains moral.
.........An inner discipline .
2. I made my all soldiers to see & develop it.
3. Keep it up beti.....Chinnu
4. May Allah bless you....ameen
Indian army
I am around 80 and lost her 6 years back and your this video made me to realised that I am being used since last few years.
मुझे समझ में आया कि लोग मेरी कदर नहीं कर रहे बल्कि मुझे इस्तेमाल कर रहे हैं
God bless you 🙏🏿
Superb❤❤❤, this was amazing and so bang on honest , I totally agree and resonate with each and every word you spoke, got goosebumps with somethings you stated...have been through it and now I know what I felt to do was not wrong , as this is exactly the voice I had but sometimes didnt use it to get validation. Love your honest talks and great videos. Big fan of you , and hope your channel is super successful ❤👌😊
Thanku for this... for the first time i am commenting here I do watch all yours vedioes n whatever you telling, teaching, guiding is very appreciatable.....these thing which u shared us today Is somewhere in me also ...now I am gona take action n improve this thing... thanku Neha dee🧿❤️😘
I think it all depends on where we are in our spiritual journey in life. If truly considered from an energy or vibrational point of view, whatever bad happens to us (people or circumstances) is purely and only a reflection of some insecurity or negativity within our own being that just gets reflected on the outside. This is very difficult for people to digest understandably but those who have reached any level of advancement in their human journey know it to be true. Infact what you spoke about is a very transactional, wordly phenomena which for a lack of a better word is a very rudimentary level of being. If we all start doing tit for tat then the world would become unlivable. Also, because of this self assumed position of considering - it’s only OTHERS who are bothersome and exploitative and we are so pure that we have never showcased a similar behaviour even slightly ever in our lives is so basic and un self realised a view. Please don’t take my words otherwise, as I said we’re all in different timelines in our human journeys but I only commented because what I said may be important for some people to read. Thanks.
That’s correct.Almost everyone feels entitled enough to think they are the good person n that they are always available always helping without acknowledging their flaws.This is what causes feud among people coz they keep believing that the it’s the other person who’s wrong.I am not saying one should not say NO or set their boundaries but rather feel attacked or hurt and walk out immediately if somebody acts out or insults them.
Well said
Wowwwww... You spoke my heart out ❤❤❤❤
yes true but she also said that just tell polietly... she didn't say do tit for tat...
@@Krsnasuchi in the start of the video she expressed annoyance and anger which is okay but those are still lesser emotions when you really consider true emotional maturity and not getting affected by outside circumstances.
i love listing you from the bottom of my heart and i want my sisters to be like you.
Truth well said , thank you for advice
It's actually me the personalities you are taking about.... being available for all n making everyone happy....but nowadays I m focusing more on myself n my self esteem....thanks for this kind information ❤
That is due to the beautiful way you've been brought up/ the situations that surrounded you while you were growing up :) the world today is bad. As she said.. Krte kyu ho dusro k liye jo chahte ho ki dusra bhi kare.. Hmlog krte h kyuki hmare liye log sach me special hote h.. It's not just about a girl or a guy.. Hmara chhota bhai behn friend.. Sb privileged hote h or jb hm efforts kr rhe hote h, ek bar b ye nhi sochte h ki ye insan vapas lautaye.. It is when a lot of time passes and we realize samne vale ne kbhi kuch nhi kia kyuki usko zruri lga hi nhi.. Vo ulta bdtamizi se kuch b bol or kr rha h... That is how we exist!
@@nidhikarn6360 yes exactly we don't like to watch people in trouble especially apne log apne friends so we try to be available for them to help n put a smile on their face....but as you say this is kalyuga n we need to available n look out for our sake n happiness first becoz all people don't think like us...
@@nidhikarn6360 All are not good soul as we are in today's world I think...this video is surely an eye opener for me..
You and your content never disappoints !! Thank you so much for such nice videos !!
Ek number bol rahi hai
Life lesson hai ye
Khud ke baare me sochna bohut zaruri hai. Agar khudke bareme nahi sochoge to age bhi nahi bad payoge aur dusre ka khayal bhi nahi rakh payoge
Me pehele aisa hi sochta tha
Abhi me raaste pe bikhaari ko paise nahi deta
Kyuki wo meri problem nahi hai desh ki problem hai
Haa lekin me biscuit ke packet de deta hu lekin paise nahi deta
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Very helpful and accurate...I think these are the reasons for most of the part of mental issues faced by kind hearted people.. You explained it really wElll...Salute and Thanks❤❤❤❤❤
I will learn to say 'NO' to that work which i never want to do but due to some pressure from my closed ones, I force my inner self to do that...
Thank you ma'am for talking on such kind of topic which people don't take seriously but let themselves hurt at the same time
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Staying away from the negative people who make u feel less
Thank you for considering this topic.
It's a high time that people need to realise that being a door mat is foolishness.
Being nice to others is not a disease, its a quality. But setting limits to your generosity is important as you mentioned.
I have learnt to say 'NO' in my life not politely but directly in a straight forward way. Its really very tough to cultivate and maintain this habit in today's life.
Stop being nice and help people everytime
Thanks di for reality check!!❤😊
Yeah 👍
Hey 👋 chanchal
aap ki trah aapki batain bhi dill mei beth gayi aaj.
It is one of the best video see in my life.Thank you so much.
Being a South indian I don't know hindi ... I just followed ur captions ❤... this video is very revelant to my life sis😃keep posting more
Very well said. I like German people ( as i am in Germany ), 'cause of this reason. They are pretty clear what they want to say. They are very careful and helpful as well. I have learned this from them. Yes, it's not our culture to say no to others. but sometimes it creates complicated situations in our daily life.Thanks for sharing
❤ thank you for sharing your wisdom and thoughts 🙏
Most helpful video i found to date. This applies for me a lot
Thank you so much di for this video ❤️❤️🤗😍❣️
Each and every words you said in this video is totally made me think about my own life. I can relate to each and every sentences of yours. Thankyou for made me realise. This is what i always used to think but i was unclear ki kya hoga agr mai aisa ki toh.. agr logo ki help ni ki toh ye toh galt haina...aur agar krti v hu toh mujhe kahan help milta unse.. But now i am totally clear about this ki i have to make myself my own priority. I will listen this video daily so that i can change my this habit and it will go to my subconscious mind. Thankyou ma'am. You are just amazing. Thankyou for clearimg my all question which were running on my mind. But ma'am if i will be unavailable to people bcz apne kaam mein busy thi fir uske baad ek gulit hota hai ki mai uski help ni kr payi.. usse kaise bachu?
Please reply ma'am
I went all through this and I can totally relate!! Good video
Yeah u have a point actually being nice is not that nice and sadly truth is people respect toxic person more than nice person
Introverts Justice Button✅👇😢
Saying no..coz it's must.. otherwise people consider someone's time as trash..also being kind..❤
Ma'am shuruaat waali analogy aapki bahut sahi thi, exactly jis cheez ko hum as 'disrespect' perceive krte hain woh actually krne waale ke mann mein jamaa dinn bhar ka kachraa hain, i.e. frustration. Humne apne ko aisaa available banaayaa huyaa hotaa hain ki koi bhi apnaa woh kachraa dump kr apnaa mann shaant kr letaa hain, taaki apnaa ghar saaf rahein.
Thank you so much for such a mature advice which everyone shud follow
Qualitative content with vast knowledge ❤😊
Di i m not available 24*7 for everyone...... Thanks di
@shankarshukla9178.......bhai jab apna koi zaruri kaam ho tabhi available hona band karna padta hai na ?
I had seen many videos but this video is just superb.
दस लोगो के बीच में सामने वाले के मजाक के वजह से आपका मुंह उतर गया..
Thats not joke..
Set your boundaries and don't allow any nonsense creature in that.
Setting healthy boundaries are soo important. If people disrespect you just make the shit out of your life.