I found you while looking for more information about the whole Ella/Johnny 90 day thing. I'm an admin of the group she said she's in on Facebook. She is a member. It's very concerning to me to see this relationship portrayed in this way, with these people. The group is not a dating group, or meant to meet an Asian Prince, but because all the admins are already married to an Asian man, or are Asian men married to white, Western women. It helps to hear from people like me and my husband on how to deal with various cultural differences, when attempting to date someone who may be from a different background and have a totally different set of values than you do. The group was never MEANT to be a Fetish group, it was more of a ''So you've met an Asian man and you would like to date him but you're kinda ignorant and need a bit of help to navigate complex socio-cultural issues that arise''. Every now and then, we get some of these people... The ones who are like, super yellow fever-y. It's usually the Kpop stans, or the anime weebs. We generally tolerate them so long as they don't harass members or make anyone uncomfortable. I am dismayed that people might think there is an Order an Asian Boyfriend website out there or something. All that said, since I started watching your channel, YT serves me more of your content, and I'm loving it, lol. Especially when you dye your hair. We NEED you to melt it off with bleach on camera, at least once, so we can get a Brad Mondo crossover.
"I've waited 29 years for someone to love me" Not I want Johnny to love me, just someone. She's deeply insecure and will latch onto anyone who gives her affection, tbh I get the vibe that she would jump into a new relationship very quickly if Johnny and her broke up. I hope this goes well but I have a feeling it won't. Also buying a plane ticket without consulting you, emotionally manipulating you, not considering your situation when youre trying to make it work, not caring about how their behavior would affect your life, job, and family are all massive red flags. I really hope this doesn't happen again bc that would be a deal breaker for me.
I completely agree with you. She basically threatened him by saying either we meet or I'm seeing other guys. She only thinks about her feelings and "sacrifices" without thinking about his sacrifices which are a lot heavier than hers' imo.
she doesn’t even consider his side @ all LMAOO “he’s risking LOSING ME” GORLLL, he’s risking his family, his culture, his job, his country regulations-
I also don't understand why Americans always expect their partner to come here to the states. Why don't they ever consider going to the other person's country? Things would be so much better for Johnny if Ella moved to China. Is she even thinking about his son? Does she realize how much that's going to cost, getting 2 people over here? It cost us around $2,000 to get my son-in-law here. Actually, it probably cost more than that. Our immigration lawyer was a one-hour drive from my house, so the gas to get there. We had to get something to eat. My husband and I were the sponsors since my 19-year-old daughter didn't have enough income to sponsor him. We are also financially responsible for him for 10 years.
@@kathygriffith5164 Only thing I could assume is Johnny wants to leave but also China was in an actual lockdown. Still Ella never showed any willingness to sacrifice 1/10th of her comfort for him as he is for her and it sucks as there are plenty of other thicc women who would have him and not be so selfish. Someone send him to a BBW dating site! Very sorry about how shtty and expensive US immigration is tho, my dad never got citizenship due to that so I know it's terrible and really shouldn't be.
She is so selfish, he is willing to leave everything and she cannot undestand that there is a pandemic, he has a life and family and that is not a joke.
Johnny is literally saying that zero weeks is better than 2 weeks for him. 'It's too short, let's not meet at all'. Am I the only one thinking that Ella was right about him not wanting to come? I think he's bullshitting her but everyone is defending him.
Ella has something that we Chinese would call "公主病", aka "princess disease". She's been spoiled and sheltered, and so is selfish and entitled, and doesn't consider things from other people's perspectives.
I think it’s a combination of this Princess disease and from the fact that her mother seems to enjoy holding her back. People who need their children to support their livelihood often try to do that. She still works on the farm and she definitely pulls her weight. She’s definitely naive, but it’s not like she wouldn’t be able to defend herself. She’s a pretty big gal…
Kind of. Different Asian cultures will have different levels of that though. In Chinese culture, people would be more confrontational than in, say, Japanese culture (arguably the most reserved of all of the Asian cultures) but they still have more of this than Western cultures. Chinese people have the reputation of being the most straight-shooting of all the East Asian ones, at least.
@@TheChubbyJenny That's because they know and are familiar with you lol, so speaking to you honestly is a kind of intimacy. To outsiders though, there is more of a need for courtesy. Have you ever noticed that whenever you thank your family, they will say, "不用客气", or "no need for courtesy"? This is the same concept; between people who are close/intimate, Chinese people see no reason to be "polite", which is seen as a kind of "distancing" between people. This is why to people who they are close to, Chinese people are much more blunt, and can be quite brutally honest, even more so than Americans.
@@angeliquewu8318 That’s true. I was watching 90 day fiancé with Johnny (Chinese) and Ella (American). People had a problem with Johnny saying that he wishes for Ella to lose weight because she’s fat, but I didn’t see an issue with that. I saw it as Johnny looking at for her Ella’s health and life expectancy, because my family does the same exact thing. My family told my aunt and dad (who used to be obese) that they need to care for their health because they’re obese. Both never took it personally because it’s seen as a health concern, not a visual concern. I guess for Chinese, we are taught to distinguish between shallow criticism and real criticism which is why we are more blunt with each other. I worked at a Chinese boba shop for almost two years and when I started training, the staff straight up told me I’m slow and that I suck 🥲🥲🥲🥲. I cried a lot at that job but I’m lowkey thankful that they pushed me because it changed my work ethics forever.
She is so unreasonable. 5 WEEKS quarantine!? That's nuts. To see her for only 2 weeks, he's sacrificing 2 months where he can't see his child/parents/anyone.
If you can’t handle a long distance relationship PLEASE don’t get into one and I am speaking from experience! It‘s really hard and extremely difficult and when you have different time zones it really makes it impossible! If she wants to date an asian dude so bad she should just find one in America since there are so many asian people but I highly doubt they will even look at her lmao
?? What, it's not impossible for an Asian to look at her tho? Sure the overweight is an issue and she looks older but I mean look at her friend and her fiance. They both look like they belong together, one being Americans the other Asian. What are your trying to say? She could find herself an Asian man just as overweight and old as she is
I mean…I’m by no means thin, but I’m married to a Asian man…Your really stereotyping Asian guys here. Not all Asian guys want thin petite women, my husband has told me 100’s of times he likes curvy thick women, and finds tiny women unattractive. I agree with literally everything else you said about long distance, but please please don’t stereotype all Asian guys.
@@summerchapman8758 yeah we know this the original comment is just making fun of ella saying no one would want her in general shes not actually providing commentary on the likes/dislikes of asian men
I agree, telling him she wants an open relationship if they don't meet seems manipulative and controlling. I realize she's been waiting, but she's trying to give him an ultimatum and they haven't even met yet. Not a good start in a relationship for sure! BTW...you're beautiful
If she feels she's waited all her life to find someone to love her...that's so sad. She needs to stop this relationship and spend some time in therapy instead. That's a lot of emotional baggage to dump on someone and that relationship won't last
Eating non-edible stuff is actually a pretty rare condition called "pica syndrome". It's most common among kids and pregnant people and it's speculated that it might be caused by vitamin/mineral deficiency and psychological stress. Not sure if anyone's interested, but yay, random free knowledge to distract from the disaster that is 90 day fiance? 😅
@@jonah8231 Oh, that's interesting. I know dogs sometimes eat stuff they can't really digest to help out with their digestion, maybe cats do that too? 😄
Fr I cringed so hard when I seen her say she needs to wear a hijab in Dubai. I literally went to Dubai and some women were not even wearing a hijab and some were even alone without the hijab on sooo I don’t understand the way her brain works...
It took me way too long to figure out what she was doing lol as I knew Dubai isn't Saudi Arabia, it's a (rich) tourist hot spot where White women go all the time.
@@ThexDynastxQueen even in Saudi in some rich areas like Jeddah you don’t need a hijab (you do need an abaya probably though). Like you don’t need a hijab in most places in the Middle East especially if they want western tourists. So yeah you’re right Ella is just ignorant lol
He takes care of his parents and his son. She just wants him to drop being the main support of his household and leave everything behind like Ella, get over yourself.
True for my husband(and me lol), the juicier the gossip the better. Getting to some good gossip is like getting a jackpot. So naturally we LOVE 90 Day Fiance hahaha
Ella needs to go to therapy and grow a little bit first, she has a lot of feelings and is selfish about Johnny's situation in china. she's more worried about having an asian boyfriend, than the actual quality of the relationship and that if her and that person match.
To be honest, I feel really bad for johnny. Ella seems to put so much pressure on him when he already looks like he’s been going through a lot with his family and job stuff. I just hope this works and doesn’t end up in a disaster.
How is she gonna find another Asian man to be in an open relationship with, she already had to outsource to China to find Johnny. But fr, I didn’t realize they’ve been talking for 2 years, I guess I see her frustration. But it doesn’t even seem like she cares about him as a person despite talking that long. Also, Stony is adorable! I feel bad for him, maybe it’s just the way the show is framed but Johnny doesn’t seem to see him that often
Johnny really doesn't see Stony often. From my understanding, he lives in a different city while his parents care for his son in his hometown. This is a common occurrence in China, and, sadly, Stony is quite lucky to even have his grandparents. Many children, especially the poorer ones in rural areas, are left alone while their parents move to the city to find work.
Stony stays with his grandparents during the week and then Johnny comes to their home on the weekends to visit with Stony and the parents is the way I saw it.
It’s actually safe in Dubai for women to be alone (of course in every country bad things can happen but it’s fairly safe here in dubai) and why is ella victimizing herself when her “sacrifice” doesn’t even compare to what johnny has done so far.
the uae is literally ranked as one of the safest countries in the world. it’s definitely safer than the states. white women are def not in danger there.
Yh and I don't get why she said she needed to cover up either that's a thing in Saudi Arabia / Iran certainly not Dubai ;; its such a touristic place too like
@@artwitha.g.8955 bruh people roam around dubai in mini skirts and low cut tops. dubai is super western now because of their tourism. so is the rest of the uae but in dubai you won’t even get a funny look while in the other emirates you may get one. all they ask is don’t go out stark naked.
Ella not understanding that this man has grown up responsibilities AND comes from a country that does not play when it comes to covid😭 this relationship is doomed!
Johnny looked like he was about to cry during that call. I can't imagine how awful that must have been. It seems like he really cares about her and when she said she thinks that he doesn't care, you could see his heart break. I hope that they work this out or that Johnny finds someone better, he seems to be trying really hard and I think we can all agree that he needs a break.
can i just point out how much of a glo up he's had over the last few years? it kept distracting me how different and stylish you've become lol also the blond hair really suits ed
Eh I think he wears wigs? Idk lmao the style is great fine but the texture looks dry and stiff, it's why think its wigs. Which wigs arent a bad thing! Imagine him wearing different colors and styles lol
@@SemekiIzuio I'm pretty sure it's his hair bc he dyed it for videos and styled it, but i think he went to a salon to get that shade of blond + a haircut cause it used to be a mullet before new years i think. If it is a wig, it looks pretty good ngl
Johnny is such a good guy. He literally scarifce so much just to try to go and meet Ella. She is so selfish and impatient. Girl, we are literally in a world pandemic. Johnny has every rights to be cautious.
The way she puts the blanket on her head, never felt this offended in my life… and btw it’s ok to wear whatever you normally wear to Dubai you don’t have to wear the hijab or anything like that :)
It's not occupied Afghanistan it's just a chill sort of port city with huge buildings and obnoxious rich people, just like any global port city nowadays. No offense to Idahoans but good Lord
When she said "it's hard for me to go To Dubai so we'll both be making sacrifices" that was totally emotional manipulation. She's too desperate and trying to make him force things.
Imagine being more scared of people from one of the most richest countries in the world because they’re middle eastern and not scared of the Delta variant.. this must be another level of.. this must be racism right?
She really is selfish. They are both grown adults, they both have (well, HAD, in Johnny’s case) jobs, commitments at home, Johnny has a child, and there’s an entire pandemic that’s still going on. It’s not his fault that there are restrictions when it comes to traveling- but it’s not that hard to work around if she would have just waited until she talked to him, before buying the plane ticket. As an adult in a ldr, during a pandemic, you quite literally just have to go with the flow. A lot of stuff isn’t going to work out the way you want it to, and while it is frustrating, you have to get over it. Life goes on, and there will always be another opportunity.
The way she had that temper tantrum at the end because she wants love NOW! She’s supposed to be a grown women not a spoilt toddler. Her parents have a LOT to answer for.
14:32 🚨 Danger! Johnny would be better off without Ella. He isn't risking losing Ella, he's risking his son, parents, health and livelihood. 🚨 Waiting 29 years for *SOMEBODY* to love her, not Johnny in particular. Ella is pathetic.
Ella be complaining that johnny doesn't want to go BRUH WE'RE IN A PANDEMIC!!!! THAT'S SOMETHING YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT at least wait for the cases to decrease last time i traveled back to my home country cause my dad was sick and after that i had covid so yeah i suggest to wait it out,
Well you could still travel - you just have to be careful doing so! Went back to Europe over the holidays and it was safer over there than in the US. The real point here is that Ella doesn't want to give as much as Johnny is having to give to the relationship.
Your transition from the show to the sponsorship was so smooth I was wondering for a second whether that was actually just your personal recommendation or an add :DD neatly done
If she wants an open relationship because she’s impatient and doesn’t respect that there is a pandemic, he can find someone else who is patient and more understanding.
Its funny looking at this. Jonny is trying his best and ella is just being a little crybaby. My relationship started when covid just hit and everything closed down the day we were supposed to meet, long distant and we just met irl like september last year, But we waited because we believed. Its difficult, but it worked. Seems like ella is just not into long distance not everyone can work a relationship like that.
yeah i think ella is unrealistic and obviously doesnt give a damn about johny as a person, but i do wonder why we havent heard johny tell her he cannot leave because he is the only source of income for his parents who are raising his son...
thank you for making the johnny suh from nct joke I was waiting for you to drop it since the first episode (Also you’re absolutely right about the cocktail swords)
She is very selfish he is willing to leave everything for her why can't she understand i hope johnny gets a better person and just stay in china its much safer for him
Completely agree. China rn is containing Covid really well, and it's a lot of risk that he's taking to go out of the country. Especially since in other countries, you have to pay for Covid medical care. Not to mention, the amount of financial loss he's taking to see her when she doesn't even seem to understand that he's CHINESE and not Japanese omfg. It always pisses me off so much when people are described as "Asian" when people are trying to identify their culture. "Asian" is not a culture! Literally, China alone is the size of the European continent with twice the population. Forget just Chinese culture, each region, province, and town has their own specialties and cultural quirks.
@@angeliquewu8318 not to mention his fucking child and extended family she is acting like she is taking so much risk travelling to dubai while he left his son ,family and job just for her she is not ready for a relationship and she is wasting this guy's time and energy for nothing
Depends on a the location; some Chinese I lived with in Northeast were loud and direct, to the point that can come across as aggressive, until they burst out laughing. 😅 Also fights were normal. It was something I had trouble getting used to lol. This woman needs to grow up before getting into any relationship. Does she even know about him quitting his job, his parents opposing their relationship, or his son?? 😶 Better yet, does she know the difference between China and Japan? If so, she doesn't give a crap, and those aren't good signs.
Agreed! Like c'mon Ella. At least attempt to learn a little bit about the culture that he's coming from. Better yet, reference the correct weeb culture and focus on Chinese drama shows and Manhua?! It would still be dating a person because of the media you like to consume, but at least it would be from the correct country haha.
I’ve been in a LDR for almost 5 years now. (Yes we have met in person) It takes a LOT of dedication to the relationship. You have to compromise and have patience. If you truly love someone (and the relationship is healthy) then it’s worth the wait.
Is everyone just gonna ignore that UAE is a pretty safe country that doesn't really have strict religious clothing laws? (I mean don't get me wrong, the way they treat labourers are human rights violations but I feel like as a white woman her fear is a bit...much.)
@@AprilllisaurEgaming Those laws in practice are used to curb prostitution. A few countries (who are also popular tourist destinations) use similar laws to protect their citizens and combat human traficking. So they still wouldn't be affected.
Thanks to you, I am invested in these two as well. Before this I had no clue what this show was about, nor did I care. Actually I still don’t care, but I need to see this through to its finale now!
I figured she was an Inuyasha fan 😬 Though she’s totally out of line and fetishizing, I felt bad to see her cry. As a teenager (which is a bit more normal bc teens are irrational) I romanticized tf out of manga/anime and definitely though “damn i’m tryina be loved like that,” but not to this creepy and obsessive extent. Especially once I became an adult 😅
The thing is I feel like a lot of people see issues like this as mutually exclusive to certain things. Ella I think to some level does love him but that doesn’t remove her entire motivations are built on fetishization and her wants. It doesn’t remove that she is deeply has built an unhealthy connection to love through anime/manga which are both damaging from a romantic prospective but also again, something linked directly to an unhealthy view on East Asian culture/men which I do think can extend from that idea of love being a comfort for something coping for appearance/other self-esteem issues which is sad. I still think she is a deeply selfish and willfully ignorant person based on what was shown and how she talks about the world around her but that doesn’t mean that her problems don’t extend from somewhere that need the help of a therapist- not a TLC show which makes it’s sorta sad because I do think there are a lot of people with this mentality (at least about love, not the fetishization and generally shitty attitude) I can feel sad about. I guess if she was a better person as a whole dealing with the unhealthy love expectation I’d feel a little more sad but she mostly sucks so it’s harder for me to completely sympathize cause Jonny seems like a genuinely decent guy who doesn’t deserve to be her “Asian catch”
I am enjoying your videos more than the actual 90 Day Fiance show! Thank you for articulating what we've all been thinking about Miss Ella and her petulant demands on this poor guy!
Being a part of a relationship with someone from a different culture takes a lot of understanding and cooperation. I give Johnny a lot of props for speaking English so well and trying to understand Ella’s perspective. She is really selfish and there are no scenes showing her learning Chinese (“Stony was speaking to me in Chinese like it was English!” like English is the only language in the world. I really hope Johnny and Stony can find a kind person to love and take care of them.
i think the thing the hick dad said was "yeah middle east and that is not a real conducive, good place to go" which is dumb cause the word conducive doesnt make sense in this sentance, and also Dubai is super safe for tourists
I hate that after he said 'i'll be here for 10 more minutes' by the time I tapped on the screen to check it was exactly ten more minutes, i even waited a little to throw him off, he was one step ahead.
Those parents not wanting her to go to the Middle East...very common American sentiment. I tried to do foreign exchange and my parents banned those countries from my list. I don't agree necessarily as long as you're safe and educate yourself on rules in other countries.
I am in the same facebook group Ella is in, in fact, I'm a Admin. I am there not to meet an Asian man, but because I'm already married to an Asian man. It helps to hear from people like me and my husband on how to deal with various cultural differences, when attempting to date someone who may be from a different background and have a totally different set of values than you do. The group was never MEANT to be a Fetish group, it was more of a ''So you've met an Asian man and you would like to date him but you're kinda ignorant and need a bit of help to navigate complex socio-cultural issues that arise''. Every now and then, we get some of these people... The ones who are like, super yellow fever-y. It's usually the Kpop stans, or the anime weebs. We generally tolerate them so long as they don't harass members or make anyone uncomfortable. I met my husband 9 years ago. We were LDR, he's Canadian, I'm American. He is also Chinese-Vietnamese. Having been in a long distance relationship myself, I literally cannot imagine ever just booking a ticket and inviting myself to meet someone like that. My husband and I were LDR for 2 years. We met after 4 months, then waited another 8 months to see each other, and after that, we were seeing each other very regularly, at least once a month. His parents liked me, his friends liked me, we got married and went through immigration. Honestly I see it from both sides. The first two times we met, my husband came to see me, in the US. He took time off work, and he paid for a hotel room, while I paid for a rental car and our food. After that, I came to Canada, and I stayed directly at his apartment with him. I have no idea how a LDR can even survive with this level of drama and inability to ever even MEET... In an LDR, at some point, one of you has to be willing to completely relocate your whole life, and take a risk to meet someone in a foreign country. Without that, you're just wasting your time. Johnny seems less than committed to seeing Ella. That said, she's acting crazy pants... inviting yourself to DUBAI without even talking to him first. GURL, no.
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He should just break up with her i didnt meet my bf til 4 years
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I found you while looking for more information about the whole Ella/Johnny 90 day thing. I'm an admin of the group she said she's in on Facebook. She is a member. It's very concerning to me to see this relationship portrayed in this way, with these people. The group is not a dating group, or meant to meet an Asian Prince, but because all the admins are already married to an Asian man, or are Asian men married to white, Western women. It helps to hear from people like me and my husband on how to deal with various cultural differences, when attempting to date someone who may be from a different background and have a totally different set of values than you do. The group was never MEANT to be a Fetish group, it was more of a ''So you've met an Asian man and you would like to date him but you're kinda ignorant and need a bit of help to navigate complex socio-cultural issues that arise''. Every now and then, we get some of these people... The ones who are like, super yellow fever-y. It's usually the Kpop stans, or the anime weebs. We generally tolerate them so long as they don't harass members or make anyone uncomfortable.
I am dismayed that people might think there is an Order an Asian Boyfriend website out there or something.
All that said, since I started watching your channel, YT serves me more of your content, and I'm loving it, lol. Especially when you dye your hair. We NEED you to melt it off with bleach on camera, at least once, so we can get a Brad Mondo crossover.
when you think you're weird and there's TLC made you a normal person again
Thanks, TLC 😂
For real!🤣
FRRR
the accuracy
The bar is low tho
"I've waited 29 years for someone to love me" Not I want Johnny to love me, just someone. She's deeply insecure and will latch onto anyone who gives her affection, tbh I get the vibe that she would jump into a new relationship very quickly if Johnny and her broke up. I hope this goes well but I have a feeling it won't.
Also buying a plane ticket without consulting you, emotionally manipulating you, not considering your situation when youre trying to make it work, not caring about how their behavior would affect your life, job, and family are all massive red flags. I really hope this doesn't happen again bc that would be a deal breaker for me.
I completely agree with you. She basically threatened him by saying either we meet or I'm seeing other guys. She only thinks about her feelings and "sacrifices" without thinking about his sacrifices which are a lot heavier than hers' imo.
This whole situation is fucked. Johnny is being fetishized and used as a collectible item and Johnny is..Well, he’s Johnny.
I 100% agree with you.
Well, she did cheat on him with one of her "friends", told Johnny about it and Johnny had to apologise for it. Yes, Johnny.
She need to love herself …
Johnny deserves better. She’s too old to act like such a brat.
I think she may be a little simple
Yeah shes gotta grow up
@@giannapop82 I think she's a lot simple. Like I think she has some kind if developmental problem. Not trying to be mean. Just stating facts.
Run away Johnny!!
she doesn’t even consider his side @ all LMAOO
“he’s risking LOSING ME”
GORLLL, he’s risking his family, his culture, his job, his country regulations-
Yeah these Americans on this show always seem kind of inconsiderate about someone moving to a new country lol
She’s a simpleton
@@giannapop82 so true!
I also don't understand why Americans always expect their partner to come here to the states. Why don't they ever consider going to the other person's country? Things would be so much better for Johnny if Ella moved to China. Is she even thinking about his son? Does she realize how much that's going to cost, getting 2 people over here? It cost us around $2,000 to get my son-in-law here. Actually, it probably cost more than that. Our immigration lawyer was a one-hour drive from my house, so the gas to get there. We had to get something to eat. My husband and I were the sponsors since my 19-year-old daughter didn't have enough income to sponsor him. We are also financially responsible for him for 10 years.
@@kathygriffith5164 Only thing I could assume is Johnny wants to leave but also China was in an actual lockdown. Still Ella never showed any willingness to sacrifice 1/10th of her comfort for him as he is for her and it sucks as there are plenty of other thicc women who would have him and not be so selfish. Someone send him to a BBW dating site!
Very sorry about how shtty and expensive US immigration is tho, my dad never got citizenship due to that so I know it's terrible and really shouldn't be.
She is so selfish, he is willing to leave everything and she cannot undestand that there is a pandemic, he has a life and family and that is not a joke.
Johnny is literally saying that zero weeks is better than 2 weeks for him. 'It's too short, let's not meet at all'.
Am I the only one thinking that Ella was right about him not wanting to come? I think he's bullshitting her but everyone is defending him.
@@ChocolateMuffin308 bro what
@@ChocolateMuffin308 he wants to, but there is a pandemic duh
Yep, typical entitled American with zero self awareness
He's leaving his son. He's an asshole. They're both terrible.
Ella has something that we Chinese would call "公主病", aka "princess disease".
She's been spoiled and sheltered, and so is selfish and entitled, and doesn't consider things from other people's perspectives.
Facts
She lacks empathy. Trying to think about how much something that's really nothing to her, but will have a huge impact on Johnny's family.
I was thinking the same thing, my grandma calls my cousin that a lot and so does my grandpa, but his is in Spanish "Señorita"
@Cindy Vox Her own mom called her naïve LMFAO
I think it’s a combination of this Princess disease and from the fact that her mother seems to enjoy holding her back. People who need their children to support their livelihood often try to do that. She still works on the farm and she definitely pulls her weight. She’s definitely naive, but it’s not like she wouldn’t be able to defend herself. She’s a pretty big gal…
She needs therapy first. She's too selfish and ignorant to be in a stable relationship
Ik Johnny literally has a son a family and a life in China he wants to meet her but she should understand that is not so easy
Amen, Sister!
As an asian, it's true that people will talk behind your back just to not hurt your feelings. They will wait to say "I told you so"
Kind of. Different Asian cultures will have different levels of that though.
In Chinese culture, people would be more confrontational than in, say, Japanese culture (arguably the most reserved of all of the Asian cultures) but they still have more of this than Western cultures.
Chinese people have the reputation of being the most straight-shooting of all the East Asian ones, at least.
@@angeliquewu8318This is p true. My family are brutally honest... like too honest sometimes lol
@@angeliquewu8318 Agreed - it's not just in Asia that you see this. My family from South Carolina will do the same thing.
@@TheChubbyJenny That's because they know and are familiar with you lol, so speaking to you honestly is a kind of intimacy.
To outsiders though, there is more of a need for courtesy.
Have you ever noticed that whenever you thank your family, they will say, "不用客气", or "no need for courtesy"?
This is the same concept; between people who are close/intimate, Chinese people see no reason to be "polite", which is seen as a kind of "distancing" between people. This is why to people who they are close to, Chinese people are much more blunt, and can be quite brutally honest, even more so than Americans.
@@angeliquewu8318 That’s true. I was watching 90 day fiancé with Johnny (Chinese) and Ella (American). People had a problem with Johnny saying that he wishes for Ella to lose weight because she’s fat, but I didn’t see an issue with that. I saw it as Johnny looking at for her Ella’s health and life expectancy, because my family does the same exact thing. My family told my aunt and dad (who used to be obese) that they need to care for their health because they’re obese. Both never took it personally because it’s seen as a health concern, not a visual concern. I guess for Chinese, we are taught to distinguish between shallow criticism and real criticism which is why we are more blunt with each other.
I worked at a Chinese boba shop for almost two years and when I started training, the staff straight up told me I’m slow and that I suck 🥲🥲🥲🥲. I cried a lot at that job but I’m lowkey thankful that they pushed me because it changed my work ethics forever.
She is so unreasonable. 5 WEEKS quarantine!? That's nuts. To see her for only 2 weeks, he's sacrificing 2 months where he can't see his child/parents/anyone.
If you can’t handle a long distance relationship PLEASE don’t get into one and I am speaking from experience! It‘s really hard and extremely difficult and when you have different time zones it really makes it impossible! If she wants to date an asian dude so bad she should just find one in America since there are so many asian people but I highly doubt they will even look at her lmao
Are there even any asians living in idaho
?? What, it's not impossible for an Asian to look at her tho? Sure the overweight is an issue and she looks older but I mean look at her friend and her fiance. They both look like they belong together, one being Americans the other Asian. What are your trying to say? She could find herself an Asian man just as overweight and old as she is
@@SemekiIzuio i think we all understand what she was saying... lol u are asking wdym and literally answered ur own question.🙄
I mean…I’m by no means thin, but I’m married to a Asian man…Your really stereotyping Asian guys here. Not all Asian guys want thin petite women, my husband has told me 100’s of times he likes curvy thick women, and finds tiny women unattractive. I agree with literally everything else you said about long distance, but please please don’t stereotype all Asian guys.
@@summerchapman8758 yeah we know this the original comment is just making fun of ella saying no one would want her in general shes not actually providing commentary on the likes/dislikes of asian men
I agree, telling him she wants an open relationship if they don't meet seems manipulative and controlling. I realize she's been waiting, but she's trying to give him an ultimatum and they haven't even met yet. Not a good start in a relationship for sure! BTW...you're beautiful
If she feels she's waited all her life to find someone to love her...that's so sad. She needs to stop this relationship and spend some time in therapy instead. That's a lot of emotional baggage to dump on someone and that relationship won't last
Her weight is going to be a huge, no pun intended, issue. I can't see her doing the things you need to do to lose weight.
Eating non-edible stuff is actually a pretty rare condition called "pica syndrome". It's most common among kids and pregnant people and it's speculated that it might be caused by vitamin/mineral deficiency and psychological stress. Not sure if anyone's interested, but yay, random free knowledge to distract from the disaster that is 90 day fiance? 😅
My sister craved dishwasher pacs when she was pregnant. Luckily of course they’re disgusting so she would just crave smelling them instead 😅
Cats also have it often. My cat is in fact addicted to eating plastic. 😅😅
What the hell!?!? I was definitely curious thank you for this
@@krk6216 Oh my god, glad that she got through it without actually trying to eat those! 😅
@@jonah8231 Oh, that's interesting. I know dogs sometimes eat stuff they can't really digest to help out with their digestion, maybe cats do that too? 😄
As a Brit, that love Island clip was the most sad but hilarious thing that had ever aired on British television 😭😭😭
Listen!!!!!! 🥲🥲🥲
I'm not Brit but damn that was funny.
She wants to have her own 💅Asian men anime harem💅 PERIODT 😅😅😅
Miss maam u need to 🤚stop 🤚
"Meet Johnny from NCT" 😂😂😂 pls that caught me off guard. Im crying 😂😭😭
do you guys think ella googled dubai literally ever? you don't need hijab there, especially not the weird carpet she's using lmao
Fr I cringed so hard when I seen her say she needs to wear a hijab in Dubai. I literally went to Dubai and some women were not even wearing a hijab and some were even alone without the hijab on sooo I don’t understand the way her brain works...
It took me way too long to figure out what she was doing lol as I knew Dubai isn't Saudi Arabia, it's a (rich) tourist hot spot where White women go all the time.
@@ThexDynastxQueen fr
@@ThexDynastxQueen even in Saudi in some rich areas like Jeddah you don’t need a hijab (you do need an abaya probably though). Like you don’t need a hijab in most places in the Middle East especially if they want western tourists. So yeah you’re right Ella is just ignorant lol
It’s called micro-aggression aka low key racist or “ignorance”at best.
He takes care of his parents and his son. She just wants him to drop being the main support of his household and leave everything behind like Ella, get over yourself.
"they will say it behind your back" is SO accurate, especially as a japanese girl, japanese people love talking shit (myself included)
FR! family pass time is bashing other people
thats the conversation all the time w my mom and her sisters 💀💀
FR,,, Filipina here but SE asia too lol
As an Indian I agree as well… we meet people just to shit talk them behind their backs
True for my husband(and me lol), the juicier the gossip the better. Getting to some good gossip is like getting a jackpot. So naturally we LOVE 90 Day Fiance hahaha
"You're just going on a trip for a meet and greet with a NCT member" caught me off guard.
SAMEEE THE NCTZEN IN ME SCREAMED😭😭
I YEET THROUGH THE WINDOW WHEN I SAW THAT 👁👄👁
SAME! I GASPED SO LOUD😭👏🏻💚
Ella needs to go to therapy and grow a little bit first, she has a lot of feelings and is selfish about Johnny's situation in china. she's more worried about having an asian boyfriend, than the actual quality of the relationship and that if her and that person match.
To be honest, I feel really bad for johnny. Ella seems to put so much pressure on him when he already looks like he’s been going through a lot with his family and job stuff. I just hope this works and doesn’t end up in a disaster.
How is she gonna find another Asian man to be in an open relationship with, she already had to outsource to China to find Johnny. But fr, I didn’t realize they’ve been talking for 2 years, I guess I see her frustration. But it doesn’t even seem like she cares about him as a person despite talking that long. Also, Stony is adorable! I feel bad for him, maybe it’s just the way the show is framed but Johnny doesn’t seem to see him that often
Johnny really doesn't see Stony often. From my understanding, he lives in a different city while his parents care for his son in his hometown. This is a common occurrence in China, and, sadly, Stony is quite lucky to even have his grandparents. Many children, especially the poorer ones in rural areas, are left alone while their parents move to the city to find work.
@@aznmochibunny Woww I thought this could be the case, but I didn’t know it was so common. Thanks for sharing!! The more you know :/
Outsource, 😂
Stony stays with his grandparents during the week and then Johnny comes to their home on the weekends to visit with Stony and the parents is the way I saw it.
It’s actually safe in Dubai for women to be alone (of course in every country bad things can happen but it’s fairly safe here in dubai) and why is ella victimizing herself when her “sacrifice” doesn’t even compare to what johnny has done so far.
the uae is literally ranked as one of the safest countries in the world. it’s definitely safer than the states. white women are def not in danger there.
Yh and I don't get why she said she needed to cover up either that's a thing in Saudi Arabia / Iran certainly not Dubai ;; its such a touristic place too like
@@artwitha.g.8955 bruh people roam around dubai in mini skirts and low cut tops. dubai is super western now because of their tourism. so is the rest of the uae but in dubai you won’t even get a funny look while in the other emirates you may get one. all they ask is don’t go out stark naked.
@@sarahmustafa2848 ik exactly !!
Also adding that she’s a white woman?? As if Dubai isn’t one of their fav places to go recently. The education in Idaho seems to be lacking
Ella not understanding that this man has grown up responsibilities AND comes from a country that does not play when it comes to covid😭 this relationship is doomed!
Johnny looked like he was about to cry during that call. I can't imagine how awful that must have been. It seems like he really cares about her and when she said she thinks that he doesn't care, you could see his heart break. I hope that they work this out or that Johnny finds someone better, he seems to be trying really hard and I think we can all agree that he needs a break.
"Invested against our will."
I just watch whatever you post lmao
Wow... Run Johnny! She's a walking red flag. She's selfish and narcissistic. No concept of reality.
funny how the dad is worried about her for going to a middle eastern country where Dubai is considered safer than any city in the US for women
Everywhere is unsafe for women. But yeah, Americans are on average very ignorant on other countries. Coming from an American.
can i just point out how much of a glo up he's had over the last few years? it kept distracting me how different and stylish you've become lol also the blond hair really suits ed
Eh I think he wears wigs? Idk lmao the style is great fine but the texture looks dry and stiff, it's why think its wigs. Which wigs arent a bad thing! Imagine him wearing different colors and styles lol
@@SemekiIzuio I'm pretty sure it's his hair bc he dyed it for videos and styled it, but i think he went to a salon to get that shade of blond + a haircut cause it used to be a mullet before new years i think. If it is a wig, it looks pretty good ngl
Edvasion is gorgeous! I've never seen him when he wasn't, but damn. Here lately though, in a different level he is a very beautiful person!
Johnny is such a good guy. He literally scarifce so much just to try to go and meet Ella. She is so selfish and impatient. Girl, we are literally in a world pandemic. Johnny has every rights to be cautious.
The way she puts the blanket on her head, never felt this offended in my life… and btw it’s ok to wear whatever you normally wear to Dubai you don’t have to wear the hijab or anything like that :)
Ik!! I've been looking for this comment I think they're mixing up Dubai with Saudi Arabia and Iran or smth
It's not occupied Afghanistan it's just a chill sort of port city with huge buildings and obnoxious rich people, just like any global port city nowadays. No offense to Idahoans but good Lord
It's the American ignorance which makes them think Dubai and Saudi Arabia is same 💀
The dude quit his job for you!
And a pandemic happened
She should not be this much of a brat.
When she said "it's hard for me to go To Dubai so we'll both be making sacrifices" that was totally emotional manipulation. She's too desperate and trying to make him force things.
I swear if my s.o. threatens me with "looking at other options like an open relationship", I will be out that door. smh🙄🙄🙄
Imagine being more scared of people from one of the most richest countries in the world because they’re middle eastern and not scared of the Delta variant.. this must be another level of.. this must be racism right?
No it’s More like ignorance💀
+ the most safeties places in the world
She really is selfish. They are both grown adults, they both have (well, HAD, in Johnny’s case) jobs, commitments at home, Johnny has a child, and there’s an entire pandemic that’s still going on.
It’s not his fault that there are restrictions when it comes to traveling- but it’s not that hard to work around if she would have just waited until she talked to him, before buying the plane ticket.
As an adult in a ldr, during a pandemic, you quite literally just have to go with the flow. A lot of stuff isn’t going to work out the way you want it to, and while it is frustrating, you have to get over it. Life goes on, and there will always be another opportunity.
This 💯
If she really and truly cares about Johnny she'll wait until it's safe for him to travel.
Her dad talking like there's a war in Dubai lmao "it's not a good time to be in the middle east right now"
It might be better in a few centuries
Lmaooo she’s so delusional. She’s not even making a sacrifice, her mom is bailing her out on bills
The way she had that temper tantrum at the end because she wants love NOW! She’s supposed to be a grown women not a spoilt toddler. Her parents have a LOT to answer for.
14:32 🚨 Danger! Johnny would be better off without Ella. He isn't risking losing Ella, he's risking his son, parents, health and livelihood. 🚨 Waiting 29 years for *SOMEBODY* to love her, not Johnny in particular. Ella is pathetic.
I have absolutely nothing against open relationships or poly, but her using them as a guilt trip is so upsetting. She needs serious help.
Ella be complaining that johnny doesn't want to go BRUH WE'RE IN A PANDEMIC!!!! THAT'S SOMETHING YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT at least wait for the cases to decrease
last time i traveled back to my home country cause my dad was sick and after that i had covid
so yeah i suggest to wait it out,
Not to mention that in some countries, Covid treatment is not free!
Well you could still travel - you just have to be careful doing so! Went back to Europe over the holidays and it was safer over there than in the US. The real point here is that Ella doesn't want to give as much as Johnny is having to give to the relationship.
Your transition from the show to the sponsorship was so smooth I was wondering for a second whether that was actually just your personal recommendation or an add :DD neatly done
Ngl I would swim to Dubai for Johnny from NCT. 🤡
7:13 when he said that there's roughly 10 minutes left to the video... nicely done
If she wants an open relationship because she’s impatient and doesn’t respect that there is a pandemic, he can find someone else who is patient and more understanding.
The blonde hair is amazing!! I can’t get over it😭😭😭💕💕💕💕
I thought for a second you were talking about her blonde naruto wig 😂
Its funny looking at this. Jonny is trying his best and ella is just being a little crybaby.
My relationship started when covid just hit and everything closed down the day we were supposed to meet, long distant and we just met irl like september last year, But we waited because we believed. Its difficult, but it worked.
Seems like ella is just not into long distance not everyone can work a relationship like that.
My daughter married her now-husband in May of 2019. It took until November of 2020 for him to get here. It's definitely not for the faint of heart.
She is so selfish. Johnny get away for her. She clearly have too much issues. Do you want someone like this to raise your kids? Think about that.
Ella trying to appropriate Dubai’s culture now 💀
yeah i think ella is unrealistic and obviously doesnt give a damn about johny as a person, but i do wonder why we havent heard johny tell her he cannot leave because he is the only source of income for his parents who are raising his son...
I t concerns me that Ella said she wants to be with SOMEONE now, SOMEONE, not that she wants to be with Johnny
Finally the continuation of the most awaited saga is here( i was so curious about the rest of Ella and John's story)😂.
you’re right about the alabama thing. i live here and my cousin tried to match with me on a dating site. 😬
😭😭😭😭
wtf💀
😬😬 nooooo I thought that was a stupid historic joke that got out of hand. (Lov you pfp by the way)
My cousin in Louisiana tried to forcefully and randomly kiss me when we went fishing…the Bible Belt of America is sus in general lol.
Excuse me?!!! I thought that was a stereotype of people in Alabama 🤯🤯🤯
WHY THAT UNECESSARY SHOT OF HER WEARING A SCARF AND ALL??? 😭
Every time I hear Johnny, I can't unsee Nct Johnny😭
Am I the only one who hears the opening notes to Shakira's "Hips Don't Lie"? 9:31
thank you for making the johnny suh from nct joke I was waiting for you to drop it since the first episode
(Also you’re absolutely right about the cocktail swords)
She is very selfish he is willing to leave everything for her why can't she understand i hope johnny gets a better person and just stay in china its much safer for him
Completely agree.
China rn is containing Covid really well, and it's a lot of risk that he's taking to go out of the country. Especially since in other countries, you have to pay for Covid medical care.
Not to mention, the amount of financial loss he's taking to see her when she doesn't even seem to understand that he's CHINESE and not Japanese omfg.
It always pisses me off so much when people are described as "Asian" when people are trying to identify their culture. "Asian" is not a culture!
Literally, China alone is the size of the European continent with twice the population. Forget just Chinese culture, each region, province, and town has their own specialties and cultural quirks.
@@angeliquewu8318 not to mention his fucking child and extended family she is acting like she is taking so much risk travelling to dubai while he left his son ,family and job just for her she is not ready for a relationship and she is wasting this guy's time and energy for nothing
Booking a trip without confirming that the other person is coming is beyond stupid
As an Asian I can sense when Johnny’s reacting something in an Asian way but is too polite to tell her
Honestly feel bad for the guy she's not even trying to be reasonable.
Depends on a the location; some Chinese I lived with in Northeast were loud and direct, to the point that can come across as aggressive, until they burst out laughing. 😅 Also fights were normal. It was something I had trouble getting used to lol. This woman needs to grow up before getting into any relationship. Does she even know about him quitting his job, his parents opposing their relationship, or his son?? 😶 Better yet, does she know the difference between China and Japan? If so, she doesn't give a crap, and those aren't good signs.
Agreed! Like c'mon Ella. At least attempt to learn a little bit about the culture that he's coming from. Better yet, reference the correct weeb culture and focus on Chinese drama shows and Manhua?! It would still be dating a person because of the media you like to consume, but at least it would be from the correct country haha.
GAWD Johnny from NCT…. my thirst came out when i saw that lmao
I’ve been in a LDR for almost 5 years now. (Yes we have met in person) It takes a LOT of dedication to the relationship. You have to compromise and have patience. If you truly love someone (and the relationship is healthy) then it’s worth the wait.
"To meet Johnny from NCT" 😅
As someone with family from Idaho, specifically Idaho Falls, yes. This is 100% how they are. I think there is something in the water.
Is everyone just gonna ignore that UAE is a pretty safe country that doesn't really have strict religious clothing laws? (I mean don't get me wrong, the way they treat labourers are human rights violations but I feel like as a white woman her fear is a bit...much.)
They have laws about unmarried couples though, which would affect them
@@AprilllisaurEgaming Those laws in practice are used to curb prostitution. A few countries (who are also popular tourist destinations) use similar laws to protect their citizens and combat human traficking. So they still wouldn't be affected.
LOL not at you saying “she’s about to meet Johnny from Nct” even though it’s a joke
Not that giant puppy haha
Awwee poor Johny. I felt that reaction in my heart when she Said she said she have second thoughts.. 😭 she’s horrible to him.
Bruh, idk why but “The *whooooole* 29 years?” part made me laugh so hard that I got a rib cramp. 🤣
I thought at age 25, your brain matures, but she’s acting like she’s 5 years old.
not the "meet and greet with an nct member" BAHAHAHAH
That transition to the sponsor tho - smooth like butter👑
choosing this video as my bed time story hoping I won't get nightmares
Oh yeah, sure, when a relationship is falling apart, bringing more people in it will def help.
I feel you! THAT TABLE TALK WAS UHM VERY SUS
Thanks to you, I am invested in these two as well. Before this I had no clue what this show was about, nor did I care.
Actually I still don’t care, but I need to see this through to its finale now!
I figured she was an Inuyasha fan 😬 Though she’s totally out of line and fetishizing, I felt bad to see her cry. As a teenager (which is a bit more normal bc teens are irrational) I romanticized tf out of manga/anime and definitely though “damn i’m tryina be loved like that,” but not to this creepy and obsessive extent. Especially once I became an adult 😅
Ah so you caught the dog being named Sango too, huh? 😅
The thing is I feel like a lot of people see issues like this as mutually exclusive to certain things. Ella I think to some level does love him but that doesn’t remove her entire motivations are built on fetishization and her wants. It doesn’t remove that she is deeply has built an unhealthy connection to love through anime/manga which are both damaging from a romantic prospective but also again, something linked directly to an unhealthy view on East Asian culture/men which I do think can extend from that idea of love being a comfort for something coping for appearance/other self-esteem issues which is sad. I still think she is a deeply selfish and willfully ignorant person based on what was shown and how she talks about the world around her but that doesn’t mean that her problems don’t extend from somewhere that need the help of a therapist- not a TLC show which makes it’s sorta sad because I do think there are a lot of people with this mentality (at least about love, not the fetishization and generally shitty attitude) I can feel sad about. I guess if she was a better person as a whole dealing with the unhealthy love expectation I’d feel a little more sad but she mostly sucks so it’s harder for me to completely sympathize cause Jonny seems like a genuinely decent guy who doesn’t deserve to be her “Asian catch”
I am enjoying your videos more than the actual 90 Day Fiance show! Thank you for articulating what we've all been thinking about Miss Ella and her petulant demands on this poor guy!
Just to be clear… those two weeks in Dubai are supposed to be spent ALONE. It’s QUARANTINE. You shouldn’t be SEEING anyone.
Tbh Johnny is such a sweet guy.. i hope this poor guy isnt heart broken.. he seems to be truly fond of her.. and she is weird..
So weird, I was binge watching your videos and literally just finished the last video you made about this! 😂
The transition to the ad was amazing Ed truly is a genius 🤣
the fact that he said "i'll be there 10 more minutes "and it was exactly 10 minutes
I love these videos covering 90 fiance so much. They're hilarious. Honestly, I don't think their relationship is going to work out.
Being a part of a relationship with someone from a different culture takes a lot of understanding and cooperation. I give Johnny a lot of props for speaking English so well and trying to understand Ella’s perspective. She is really selfish and there are no scenes showing her learning Chinese (“Stony was speaking to me in Chinese like it was English!” like English is the only language in the world. I really hope Johnny and Stony can find a kind person to love and take care of them.
You finally making different videos which do not include you burning your hair off
i think the thing the hick dad said was "yeah middle east and that is not a real conducive, good place to go" which is dumb cause the word conducive doesnt make sense in this sentance, and also Dubai is super safe for tourists
That girl eating plastic has some strong teeth, mine would probably wear down/chip so fast if I tried that lol
Your commentary on this programme gives me all the serotonin I could ever need!!!
I hate that after he said 'i'll be here for 10 more minutes' by the time I tapped on the screen to check it was exactly ten more minutes, i even waited a little to throw him off, he was one step ahead.
Those parents not wanting her to go to the Middle East...very common American sentiment. I tried to do foreign exchange and my parents banned those countries from my list. I don't agree necessarily as long as you're safe and educate yourself on rules in other countries.
Not gonna lie, that ad transition was mad smooth
I am in the same facebook group Ella is in, in fact, I'm a Admin. I am there not to meet an Asian man, but because I'm already married to an Asian man. It helps to hear from people like me and my husband on how to deal with various cultural differences, when attempting to date someone who may be from a different background and have a totally different set of values than you do. The group was never MEANT to be a Fetish group, it was more of a ''So you've met an Asian man and you would like to date him but you're kinda ignorant and need a bit of help to navigate complex socio-cultural issues that arise''. Every now and then, we get some of these people... The ones who are like, super yellow fever-y. It's usually the Kpop stans, or the anime weebs. We generally tolerate them so long as they don't harass members or make anyone uncomfortable.
I met my husband 9 years ago. We were LDR, he's Canadian, I'm American. He is also Chinese-Vietnamese. Having been in a long distance relationship myself, I literally cannot imagine ever just booking a ticket and inviting myself to meet someone like that. My husband and I were LDR for 2 years. We met after 4 months, then waited another 8 months to see each other, and after that, we were seeing each other very regularly, at least once a month. His parents liked me, his friends liked me, we got married and went through immigration.
Honestly I see it from both sides. The first two times we met, my husband came to see me, in the US. He took time off work, and he paid for a hotel room, while I paid for a rental car and our food. After that, I came to Canada, and I stayed directly at his apartment with him. I have no idea how a LDR can even survive with this level of drama and inability to ever even MEET... In an LDR, at some point, one of you has to be willing to completely relocate your whole life, and take a risk to meet someone in a foreign country. Without that, you're just wasting your time. Johnny seems less than committed to seeing Ella.
That said, she's acting crazy pants... inviting yourself to DUBAI without even talking to him first. GURL, no.
Woah what hell is with those addictions yikes! And the Idaho British accents sent me rolling lol especially your expression afterwards like I rest my case xD
Watching from the future makes the end of this video. So sad.😂
how
@@Bom.3d she cheats on him and then tries to make him the problem
Just found your channel and your music choices crack me up. Thank you for taking the hit of following along with this couple for us.