INFJs and INFPs Are Not Weird. We’re Neurodiverse.
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INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are on the spectrum of neurodiversity, and it is because we are neurodiverse that we tend to struggle in life. Most of us feel alienated, alone, and like there is no place for us. However, this is what most INFJs and INFPs don’t know: INFJs and INFPs are neurodiverse creatives. What that means is that: INFJs and INFPs don’t think like most other people, they don’t feel like most other people, they don’t see reality like most other people, and they don’t experience life like most other people. This is what is really going on when a person who is an INFJ or INFP is struggling so much with life. Most INFJs and INFPs try to force themselves into the box society says is “good” and “right” even though it doesn’t fit, because that’s all we’ve ever been taught, and no one has given us the knowledge or the tools to live life in a way that would actually flow with our neurodiversity, not against it. When we try to fit into the “normal” box that society provides, we end up feeling cut off from our own intuition, feeling cut off from our own creativity, and trying to use mainstream tools and methods that DON’T work for us and make us feel horrible about ourselves. The most important thing anyone who is an INFJ or an INFP with a neurodiverse temperament can know is that there is a huge different between the type of creativity that mainstream society teaches us to use (and rewards us for using) and the type of creativity that comes naturally to INFJ and INFP people.
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The world's really got us feeling like weirdos, meanwhile they worship the Kardashians and wildly cheer for strangers throwing balls into hoops. Go figure!
Hey Basketball is dope 😂
INFJ-T here. Spent most of my life, assuming that I had some sort of major mental disorder. It has actually ruined me because the stress of being this way has left me physically disabled. This isn't an easy way to be. At the same time, I feel like other people are essentially morons, ha.
@Laura F.E. Yes, the stress can cause real physical issues. Hoping you are feeling better and realise difference are okay, and actually so needed. It’s too bad people don’t get that about each other. Thankfully because of my mom, when I was younger, I didn’t assume I was wrong or had a disorder. Thanks to my mother for being an u usual person in terms of accepting a wide range of difference in people and being generally, trying to respect unique traits and find value in all beings. So I never felt, until adulthood that something was wrong. People want others to be a certain way, and devalue others who don’t fit the mold. It’s sad, because we loose each other’s value that way. For me it seems to influence negativity the autonomic nervous system and maybe was a trigger for auto immune issues.
Check out the cognitive functions, my dude. There are no -A or -T designations in true MBTI. (Hi. I'm an INTJ. 😊)
I was diagnosed HF Asperger at 27 after falling for an INTJ who also is.
He let me know I likely am on the spectrum lol.
People are morons, even most doctors because their brains connections are not elaborate enough to ask the questions we will.
It’s part of being Dabrowski Gifted.
@@KeylynLM ,
I have a friend who is an asperger, I like to say it that way because I do not see it as a syndrome or a spectrum, my friend is a genius, he is by far one of the smartest people I know. Really smart people are often misunderstood. Often seen as weird. It is only because normal childish things do not appeal to them. If they were lucky enough to have parents who get it they can thrive like no other. My friend was lucky, his mom put him in a school where he had contact with teachers who understood the needs of a really smart child.
Most people don't take the time to listen, maybe because they are just not that smart.
Edit, case in point take Elon Musk, I would venture a guess he is an aspberger.
We’re not the problem. It’s the others!
i'm infj and i have adhd! i feel like an alien in the wrong planet. i have no friends and now i have no desire to leave the house anymore. being around people wears me out. people are stupid LOL they do illogical things and they are blind to the truth.
Oh my gosh preach
God isn't that the truth. Sometimes I'm like maybe talk to some people. I watch and listen to them. I'm like God awful idea Dwight. Don't do it. Lol.
Infp here: I’m open to the idea that I’m an alien reincarnated into an earthling body. It’s makes a certain amount of sense to me😂
My mother once sent me a newspaper article about whether one's child is from another planet. I scored quite high on it.
I can relate a lot. It's so frustrating. I've only met 2 INFJ women, no males. Both were too young for me. People are usually either are too weak emotionally or too stupid logically. They lack depth is a key thing. I'm gained indepth knowledge in several subject areas. My mind never stops. I was lost for years, just drifting. INFJ understanding is powerful and helpful. I'm writing a book which has MBTI as a part of it.
5:55 How to explain that INFJs have psychic gifts without using the word “psychic”.
It’s like we have antennae tuned into the spiritual realm.
Connects the dots
For most of my life, I have had dreams which would come true the next day.
I've been able to see ghosts since I was a child. My teen years were hard with shadow figures and negative entities always attaching to me and even physically disrupting things around me.
I have had a *strong* connection to UFOs for my whole life, with them showing up wherever I went, and following me as I went for walks. I would always just "know" where to look, and they would be there. I can also telepathically ask them to come, and they do. I feel a deep love both for and from them.
My body used to interfere with electronics a lot. When I walked under streetlights, they would turn off. If I walked into a room with a radio or TV, the volume would change itself, sometimes going crazy.
I have always believed I could move things with my mind, and sometimes objects would just fall off things when I was near, especially if I was feeling frustrated. Things falling off tables when I didn't touch them, etc.
I have also had some experiences with astral projection/OBEs and lucid dreaming, though I want to be able to fully control and explore these realms at will.
Thank you so much for this I am an INFJ and I deduced I’m
Neurodivergent and that I have indeed always seen life and thought very differently to most. I am very intuitive and my interests are esoteric/metaphysical and I just don’t see life the way the mainstream do. I really appreciate this video as it helps me understand why I have paid for all these courses that I’ll probably never use to try and make me more organised and “normal” (like that was going to happen!!!)
I have worked out that my strengths are in the more “spiritual” realms and awareness of other beings and realms which I am more familiar with. I have always just known things. It confused me as a child why so many people lie, their energy says one thing and their words another!!!!
Well said and so relatable. Look into Human Design. I think you’ll find it as fascinating and helpful as I did.
Can you tell me anything about these beings you're referring to?
Extradimensional, spiritual, extraterrestrial, all of the above?
Do you have personal experiences that you would be willing to share?
And I agree about the lying. I have never understood lying. I can only say words which I truly mean from the depths of my soul.
I’m here because Iv’e already connected the Dots, and at just shy of 58 and discovering that I’m 50/50 for Autism / ADHD and INFP-T, it’s a bit daunting, but wonderful all at the same time to take off the societal mask and discover self. All of this has been over the last 8 years since my awakening following a stroke at 50. Thanks for the video. Glad it didn’t take a week to write this comment……lol.
When you said “you are not the problem” I teared up a bit
me too
Neurodiverse? I like it. So much better than the other adjectives generally used. Thanks. Definitely taking notes on this one.
Gifted is another word for it, but we are often seen as the opposite.
The actual word (part of grammar) should be ‘neurodivergent’; the word ‘neurodiverse’ would refer to a group of people made up of different neurologies, i.e. you can’t be neurodiverse because there’s only one of you.
Holy moly this resonated, and you'll never believe where I do my best thinking. I'm building a coaching business, working on creative solutions to client problems. So, I drive a school bus in the mornings. I'm up super early, get to see the sunrise over the mountains, pick kids up who are half asleep, enjoy my awesome coffee, and just get lost in my own thoughts. I'm a good driver in general, so that part just goes into autopilot. I come up with the coolest ideas for what I'm going to do that day, or next steps, or just other stuff. I get into such a cool place mentally, something I struggle with just sitting in front of a computer. At 9:00AM I'm done for the day, go home, and just do my work. I love it!
I just have to say I did not listen to this video yet, but I saw this, and wow..what an awesome and inspiring comment! I love my morning drive to work 😊 I have so many amazing ideas, I love listening to music, and I'm also a great driver because I'm flowing so much! Everyone always wants me to drive. Lol! I get to problem-solve all day at work and help people, and it's amazing. I also have a coaching business that I'm so passionate about! So many similarities I find in myself with this comment, so I just had to share! Anyway, I'm going to watch this video and enjoy 😄 Take care!
My rout was 30 minuits to my first stop up in the mountains. Of course, coffee in hand, and freedom to think. I enjoyed the job. Then I would work my constructrion/maintenance business in between. good luck on your coaching venture. I was a pastor at the time as well. blessings
Seen a lot of INFP videos but you are top notch. You even made me cry in a video I came across with.
Today at work someone told me that I was funny, but funny in a weird way. Even my daughter told me once that I might be from another planet. 🤪
I KNOW I'm "from another planet"! Since I was 4/5 years old I would talk about" where we came from, the people there and my past life. 💝🔮💝
Excellent video. Glad I found you.
A book recommendation for INFJs:
Understanding the Anomalously Sensitive Person - Why people think you are weird if you are highly sensitive by David Ritchey.
I'm an INFJ with an ISTJ brother. We are sooo different, he completely doesn't get me.
thanks will give it a read!
I feel that I won’t live to see any of the things I feel. I have given so much into many things, everything I do is always overlooked. People would compliment it but walk away. I don’t like my daily life. I have tried so much to shift it. Nothing is interesting anymore. I am extremely numb to life. It has no meaning or excitement to me anymore. This personality is a killer for me. Other people love it but for me, it is the biggest struggle.
I have cycled through this many times in life as well. Only my belief in God has pulled me back up when I've gone through these times.
You are not alone I'm an infj-t or so the test keeps telling me. I find this personality very difficult also. I don't know where I fit in in this world. It can be very lonely being like this. Hang in there!
@@Groovytunes96 We are in this together. It is such a weird thing. If we were to find and connect with our tribe, we would feel like we are valued, heard, understood, loved and appreciated.
@@Taurusboy07 Yes, I'm not sure where our tribe hang out though if only we knew. I long to feel all of those things it would be wonderful ☺️
Infp here: I don’t like the term neurodiverse either. It still has a stigma when it’s only applied to those who seem “weird”. The truth is that everyone is neurodiverse, but not everyone is interesting. Everyone is neurodiverse, but most people seem to happily, willingly and easily fit in the metaphorical “box”.
I don’t like labels. I hate every label!😂
But I like the video.
Same (INFP too)
Hmmm. Nope. Not everyone is neurodiverse :) maybe typical and atypical are terms you could feel more comfortable with? :)
Don't ignore reality just because you're uncomfortable with a word. Not everyone is neurodivergent, but just because we are doesn't make us any less valuable as people.
@@joshuab6261 makes you more valuable :) would love to chat
As a fellow INFP, I understand where you're coming from - but it's needed for advocacy purposes. Compare it to slogans like "Black lives matter" - even though you could argue that all lives matter, which is true, focussing on black lives matter helps focus on that part of inequality. Neurodivergence is the same - by using the term we can stimulate more inclusion and equal opportunities.
Getting an MA in English, didn’t work. Quitting my fucking job and hitting the Ayahuasca trail (puked so hard and so much I gave myself a hernia. I was not fucking around) for a few years in the Amazon, didn’t work, etc.
Im an INFJ diagnosed with ASD, ADHD, and stealth dyslexia 😅
First impressions: This is someone who has explored their depths and has profound insights.
I’ve been told I’m a very obvious INFP
All I want is to be allowed to be authentic and feel like I’ve never been given that grace and it’s very painful because it feels like everyone else is given the grace to be authentically themselves. That’s love to me
As an INFP, I've learned that we must allow that freedom for authenticity ourselves. People may not understand it, but that doesn't mean we should stop being ourselves or our nature down. Instead, we can be an example for the world.
I solved that issue regarding grace when I finally came to truly understand and embrace the immensity of love and life (no death!) that Jesus Christ offers us. Everything else pales in comparison to our Great God. He understands what we are going through. And I cannot wait to spend eternity with Him, as was presaged in a Rapture dream I had during the year of the 1986 Chernobyl Nuclear Power plant incident, prior to being a sold out Christian, 27 years later. What is grace other than a God man gives his life for his friends?
@@susannahfox7188 we're discussing two different things. People in my life are much more critical of me than they are of other people
I really appreciate this video as there's so few on the link between intuition and neurodivergence!
(I hate to be that person but the term is actually neurodivergent. Neurodiversity is the range of 'diversity' in neurology whereas neurodivergent is 'diverging' from what is considered 'typical' neurology).
Thank you for saying so I didn’t have to 😊
An infp for life. Enneagram 4w5. Have been diagonised with moderate adult ADHD a month back. My psychiatrist still believes it's my perfectionism OCD and anxiety combined that's driving my ADHD. Was a topper in school but then went off the radar to mediocre, academically. Mentioning it just to state that the onset hasn't been childhood, as is the common knowledge
Super confused on this, like a typical INFP maybe. Lol
This is the corne of the internet where I feel most seen and validated. Thank you, Lauren!
I've mentioned MBTI/INFJ in many YT comments, to help other INFJs get the knowledge they need. If it helps one person, it was worth it.
Can you give us references for the link between neurodiversity and INFP/INFJ please?
MBTI is not formally researched, as in ‘’citable” peer-reviewed research.
@@carmenm4479 sad :(
So true. Let others people think you're weird and don't take them seriously.
I really don’t care if I’m labeled weird however getting automatically dismissed is extremely painful because it’s so invalidating and tells me without words that me being authentic is in most peoples eyes bad. It’s like I’m nonverbally being told I’m not good enough to receive the kind of love I need to thrive.
I’m an INFJ & HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). Lately I’ve been having trouble at work with Overstimulation ( e.g: mass emails sent by company that are visually overstimulating (strong graphics patterns, strong color combinations and information I can’t process, or when someone’s else is working in my usual workspace, and I have to work elsewhere).
I’d like to get workplace accommodations for me being neurodivergent. Human Resources at my company said I need a diagnosis. INFJ/HSP is not a diagnosis, but it is a personality type,and is neurodivergent. Do you have any suggestions?
Well, I'm both INFP and autistic, so I feel this!
similar! INFJ autistic and ADHD here! ;)
My favorite channeled entity, Kryon has explained autism as higher dimensional beings trying to learn how to live in our limited 4D reality.
Same here. INFP and also on the high functioning end of the spectrum.
I'm INFP and I *think* I may be autistic
Same here
Amen, sister. I definitely don’t think and feel like other people. The struggle is sadly so real. I don’t think the MFA in creative writing helped much at all.
We need dreams and beauty. Ordinary life is where we die mentally. It's so damn boring what so many do! Why are they asleep?! Yawn yawn.
As someone who is austitic and INFJ, thank you for making this video ❤
I'm an INFJ-T, just diagnosed with autism. So, a person can really have both? If you know of any support groups or anything, please let me know. All the very best to you ❤️
I am also autistic and an INFJ, there are so many similarities that i have trouble seeing where one ends and the other starts. Could the INFJ designation be an early form of asperger diagnosis?
Neurodiversity, so is this why I feel like checking out?
Neat , tidy , clean area, but on tissue paper thin, budget. in a 7X10 room clothes and persona. on one side. Art materials, mini IKEA desk, that easily slide bottom half under my lumpy bed. Hard to be neat when living with someone who does not care about clutter. As long as area is Clean Hard to get to root of creativity and budget so thin. Everything $$$$$costs so much to just exist. Surprised not more INFJ's Surfacing. Most POD CASTS make INFJ's Good looking, pretty, nice STRAINGHT WHITE TEETH, dressed well, hair like they just had it done at a beauty shop.
You're amazing Lauren! Subscribed! Can't wait to see future videos 😊 INFP here 💗
I don't like labels. I wish more humans were able to just accept others as they are, like our pet friends do. And just be kind. Obviously, keep your boundries ❤
omg me either! i have a thing where i just dont label anything! so trying to explain myself to ppl is even harder! as i refuse to use labels on myself! lol
@marysaysmeow I'm the same! A label comes with so many stereotypes, or other preconceived notions. I don't call a person by their race, nationality, or anything similar.
I live in Ireland, yet I'd never call myself "an Irish person", as that may carry with it some ideas which are not representative of me as an individual.
I don't want people to judge me based on a word that means something to them, which may mean something different to me.
I am me, nothing else, and I look at everybody this way.
@@ShizuruNakatsu YES!! thats exactly why I refuse them!! I have the strangest way of explaining things because of it, I will explain things in feelings and texture colours sounds / simularities polar oposites ... and it can be hard for people to follow at first , untill they get used to me hahaha
@marysaysmeow Same here. Instead of using a simple word, I talk around it to explain it my own way because I refuse to use the label. Even when trying to talk about a character in a TV show, I'll be like "you know, the one who lost his son, then disappeared for four episodes and came back with a new haircut and started acting different", and everyone else is just like "Oh, the black one?", but like I'm not just gonna be like "it's the black guy" because the character is so much more than that to me. Even if I could clear the confusion so much faster, I'll keep saying things my own way until they get it 😂
Im INFJ or P or a bit of both as did 2 tests a year apart and 1st was P 2nd was J. Im also autistic (high function) and adhd so to hear that INFJ/P are also neurodivergent was a revelation that made total sense. Thank you.
Same.
😂Definitely a weirdo here. 😢So right about getting tired out when trying to use the typical methods.❤Thanks for sharing your YT!
As a writing coach, could you offer the service of matching INFJ writers with writing partners that can compliment their strengths and fill in the gaps on their weaknesses. Seem like that would be an invaluable service. I can see I have these gaps, but I don't have a clue how to fill them. And I've dreamed of having a writing partner who 'gets me' and also knows how to work with me towards a vision. P.S. I have a novel that 95% done and I know the story is great. I know it has great potential but there's something missing and I have a blind spot that's keeping me from seeing it. I feel it, but I can't get a handle on it. The story has a lot of cool, creative elements and it deserves to get out there, but I'm just at a loss as to how to put the muscles and the bones together with strong connective tissue to bring it to life. I bet a lot of INFJs feel this way.
Hi, INFP writer here who jives well with INFJs. I haven't published my writing but I have written at length on specific topics in groups and have been recognized by multiple people for my writing, including a professional writer who claimed she knows many writers making a living off their writing that aren't "nearly as talented". If you'd like to share what you're writing about, feel free to leave me a contact email. Maybe it'd be a match.
I like to write songs, which is a big challenge. I rely on gut feelings to get ideas for songs. Sometimes it takes a couple weeks before it all falls into place.
I am an INFJ...I've given the mbti test to literally scores of people and only one other male infj I've come across! I truly believe that male INFJ's are rare, literally. I also work in a Psychologist's practice as a Nutritionist and so am face to face with ADHD and Autism. I have noticed something: being INFJ can account for much of what is diagnosed as adhd and Autism (not for a second am I suggesting they don't exist!)...I do wonder, am I on the spectrum (as many think I am) or am I just...an INFJ male?
I’m an INFJ and recently realized I have ADHD. Not formally diagnosed, but it’s insanely consistent with my behavior. I have been thinking about the connection between these two for the past week nonstop, and wondering the same exact thing. Also, very interesting that you work as a nutritionist at aIa psychological practice. I have bachelors degrees in psychology and neuroscience and have been considering going into nutrition as a form of therapy for mental health.
@@carmenm4479
Very interesting Carmen! I would highly recommend doing nutrition (holistic) if you are able - the help it is to mental health is no longer a theory and you could do a world of good to people with both qualifications! I would love to do Psychology as well, but I've studied enough now at my age lol
I'm an INFJ and scored very highly on all three spectrum test I have had done.. actually explains so much tbh..
INFJ, then got diagnosed ADHD at 46 - plus gifted IQ... The irony is I've always felt stupid .. and only recently realized I always wear masks...
My next 46 is going to be a journey of self acceptance and hopefully self love eventually.... ❤
The Box. At 65 I feel like I've spent so much of my life conforming and squeezing myself into the box that I've lost so much of who I am. It no longer feels easy to be in touch with the person I once was before I spent my life changing myself to conform and fit the box.
So sad.
Some of the changes I've made in myself have been positive in ways in my life too tho. I just feel that I wash I could not only get back in touch with that core person again, but learn how to still embrace the positive changes and those I'd still like to make, but not push my core self down while implementing change.
Thank you.
I guess I'm really late for those classes but I really identified with this video. I always thought about it but never was able to contextualize as you did (INFJ here, Giftedness 170 IQ)
This woman does not seem to know what she is talking about. Neurodiverse means your brain structure is different than a typical brain but she does not explain how that is the case for INFJs' and INFPs'. Seems to be using it as a buzzword but not backing it up.
Nope, sorry. Having a different personality type doesn’t make you neurodiverse. Going by this reasoning, you could say the same of any of the personality types. I’ve worked with a good number of genuinely neurodiverse people and muddying the waters like this is a dangerous misdiagnosis. This video could genuinely confuse younger INFPs or INFJs who are just trying to find themselves so I think it needs calling out.
INFPs and INFJs tend towards creative work and that can make life more difficult because the vast majority of normal jobs aren’t creativity based but just because we don’t fit the standard mould, it doesn’t make us special snowflakes. Yes, we have our own struggles but so does everyone else.
It could be that you could be an INFP or INFJ and also have a neurodiverse condition. Perhaps certain conditions tend to cluster around certain personality types - I wouldn’t be surprised if autism clustered around certain NT types for example but that would require proper research. Just stating that having a certain personality type makes you neurodiverse is simply wrong.
I believe she is actually saying because you are neurodivergent you are inf. It's all about perspective. And it's absolutely scientifically sound. Maybe actual research and not RUclips spamming is the ticket you seek.. 🎫
@@Ohwome Re-watch it. She doesn’t qualify it in any way; she makes the blanket statement that INFJs and INFPs are neurodiverse. Her statement is unequivocal.
She says that she is a writing coach who has interviewed INFJs and INFPs, that is not a basis on which to make such an unequivocal statement.
You state that what she’s said is scientifically sound without offering any evidence. You also state this with certainty, you should therefore point to the research that backs up your position.
Also, learn to be less rude.
INFP here. Graduated near tip top of HS. Went to top tier university. Always worked random jobs. Never felt comfortable with most groups of people-especially in organized settings. Got a masters. Hated that career. Have had major depression and anxiety at times. Lately diagnosed with ADHD in my 40s. Maybe INFP “diagnosis” should qualify us for disability… Thank God my wife is stable and can fit into society…
I am an infp and only just discovered i am a neurodivergent and it makes a terryfing sense of everything
This is amazing. You just put into words so much of what I’ve struggled with in life! I could never work with anyone and it’s held me back in my career so much. Thank you!
Omg thanks for this video. I'm infp-t and it feels so validating since I self-diagnose as being on the AuDHD spectrum 😭
Just want to say thank you for your encouraging videos. You're right on! A grateful INFJ.
Hello. Where is the registration for the class? On your website? I don’t see a link. Thank you.
Being a successful 71 yo I know and have worked through "things INFJ". That being said thank you for this YT. Where did you get your information?
INFP writer, here...new sub
After years of being a creative person, i completed a degree a couple of years ago in audio for film, tv and games. It drained me to the point I never wanted to get back being creative again, im not sure if it was Uni itself that sucked all the joy from it from me. Halfway through the course I found by interacting with more people my interest in psychology and counselling was brewing more, im just about to further this in higher Ed. In my degree, even though i also won awards for my work, Ive always had a problem of not taking myself seriously enough to be a professional, its like being stuck between wanting success or keeping lowkey. I do wonder if my nuerodiversity plays a part in all this as a want to stay away from stress, while at the same time i love to learn. I hope i dont self-sabotage my counselling course or get bored, i really dont want my learning difficulties get in the way because it stresses me out even more. Its a cycle
I totally disagree that INFJs are neurodivergent. It looks like your prejudices against this type show a lack of depth in your analysis. Unsubscribing.
INFPs? You guys exist?!
Here I am 💅🏽
OMG "I get bored with repeat classes" - I have been saying for years that I don't like to repeat ANYTHING!: Thank you!
This is so interesting. So what if the unconscious creativity has just turned into extreme dissociation?
Wow. First time here! Too late for the class. Just subscribed😁
How is it that, in a general sense, INFJs can be thought of as neurodiverse? Isn't neurodiversity a clinical assessment? I know we're "different", but does it rise to the level of "neurodiverse"?
I ask because my stepson is on the spectrum. He is clearly neurodiverse. I'm just an INFJ. I realize I'm rare as a personality, which qualifies me as "different", but.....neurodiverse?
It doesn't necessarily HAVE to be the case, but as someone who's only just realized that I'm autistic and have ADHD, at 41, I finally understand everything about myself, and I think it's very probable that many many INFJs share these traits. In my new understanding of myself, autism and ADHD are the 2 opposing sides that make up the INFJ paradox. They hide each other in a way and are therefore less noticable on the outside,and inside, than either trait by itswlf would be.
@mikaelangeloh2316 I appreciate your insights, my friend.
I've taken about 50 Myers-Briggs tests in 40 years. Always came up INFJ until the last 5 years, now coming up INFP and only accepted and stopped hyper-masking my Autism 6 months ago.
How do you know my internal world. Yhis made me cry
Any other INFJ’s out there that are bipolar?
Yes. Im diagnosed autistic level 1.
I assumed I was on the autistic spectrum..I'm infp
Thank you so much. I'm an INFJ so I rarely even leave youtube comments 🙈 but thank you so much for this video. I'm in my late 20's and struggling a bit in life from not realizing these things about myself. And hearing you lay it so directly in a 10 min video has brought me both to tears and to the desire to use this understanding for positive change in my life. Keep doing you sis!
Thank you Lauren. You’re the best.
♥thank you amazing lady, love this.
I have been thinking this same thing. Thanks for sharing your conclusions. I enjoyed hearing your thoughts. 💕
Thank you. 💙
Ah yes. I'm INFJ and have I've heard it all. You have mental health issues (nope - two full psych eval say otherwise; laughingly they said "normal'). You are autistic (nope). You have ADHD (maybe). I'm now a fully functional mature (age 63) Intuitive with an Ni core that Sensors just don't understand, and the very fact it now works extremely well, and that I continue to thrive and prosper (when they don't) drives them into fits of anger. When I was younger it was horrific; I was attacked constantly for just being me. I am now to the point where I'm given reign to be pretty much as authentic as I want; with age came a strength that has earned me respect, and even in some cases fear. So hang on there folks.
Thanks for this. Very reassuring.
@@KittyFoxArtWorld Not a problem I think we INFJs need to know this this. For me the changes started in my late 30's and early 40's. If you haven't reached there yet, hold on. Your Ni 'activates' fully when it matures sufficiently. Then, if you are brave enough, the whole game flips. The important part is to notice it, and follow what it's telling you - not disregard it because you've been brainwashed into believing it's 'nonsense' and to do what Sensors tell you is 'sensible'.
@@jaytm2574 I'm 59 and things are finally starting to fall into place. I guess I'm a late bloomer🤣. Can you tell me what Ni is? Not familiar with the term.
@@KittyFoxArtWorld We"re ( INFJs) ALL late bloomers! That's the point, really. Ni is MBTI abbreviation for 'introverted intuition' , the INFJ ability to subconsciously suddenly 'see' the right answer or path and 'know' it's right without being able to explain why or put it into words. INFJs are intuitives , which use Ni exclusively (as do INTJs), intuitive are 30% of the population, iNFJs about 3%. Sensors are all fact and solid data and are 70% of the population. They also are unable to understand Ni and many think it's a form of mental illness because it's not 'logical'.
@@KittyFoxArtWorld Hope that wasn't over explaining or 'mansplaining'. Hard to tell where someone's level of expertise is at.
I love this video 🥺 wow 🥰❤️
Infj and infp are extremely different though. Just saying.
very similar ime - arent the 2 types in the Russian version of MBTI (socionics?) classified as mirror twins or something
I gave you a like because it’s not easy to feel you are different, how you see the world, life, and how you feel, etc.
In my experience I never felt alienated, since I was a little girl I was very independent and I never felt. In my experience and perspective empaths never felt alone.
I am highly spiritual and once I understood my cognitive function, how my works , I’m a highly sensitive person and I have to learn how to manage, I work hard in my self in order to understand everything of who I am.
I don’t like to be fit in a box and I don’t fit a person in a box. I don’t care if I am rare, I am very happy and proud of who I am.
Neurodivergent is gift, having a complex cognitive function is a gift, being a highly sensitive is a gift, being an empath is a gift. Is blessing.
Having a complex cognitive function or your brain works different or you think different doesn’t means you have to be a victim of your cognitive functions, being a victim of being a highly sensitive person or being a victim of circumstances or situations, that’s a decision.
When you understand how your brain works, you joined all the peace’s of the puzzle of who you are, you are able to upgrade.
How an INFJ have problems with focus, if we are good joined the dots, joining the peace’s of a puzzle, how an infj have problems with clear feelings and clear knowing, intuition?
How an infj doesn’t know how to discipline their mind?
When you have deep understanding of the electromagnetic field it’s because you have a deep understanding of cognitive functions, your sensitivity, all your senses are clear. When you absorbed information you know how to organize the information, it requires discipline, understanding, focus. You have to know yourself.
Wow thanks I just found out about my Nero Iit explains everything that I didn’t understand
Now I know who I am it’s quite a super power and difficult life I r lived ,
I know you understand me ❤ thank you for your video and your time I just found out a lot about myself I. The last 12 years
Reprogramming my subconscious
Really gave me an Eoic awakening
I changed my unwanted behavior
And slowed down 87% of my overthinking
And less Anxiety
Tbh I’m against any label though sometimes you’ve gotta name it for having a better framework of understanding, therefore I loosely sticht this label of INFP-A on my persona. Actually I wanted to say on “myself” but as some of you know clearly understand , there isn’t anything to attach on to our true selves.
Who am I? , well that question became like a mantra for me, being a fulltime explorer of life without clinching to an ultimate outcome or answer. I guess that’s my fuel to keep on going.
But there is a downside, and I have to skip many things because this ain’t the platform to write an autobiography. So long story made short.
During my early childhood and youth, I already was aware of the fact that I was a bit different, different in a way of feeling alienated, odd , weird or an outcast. Because my perceptions and behavior weren’t “accepted” . I mean that’s how it felt, but every time I told people why if felt this way they just make it worse by telling me that “I saw an see things not the way they are” .
Anyway among other kids this wasn’t a real problem, the problems started around puberty, but now I’m heading towards 40’s it’s really becoming a problem.
In the movie above there is mentioned :
You’re not the problem, and yes that’s true, but I become a problem for others because I simply can’t and will not comfort to their standards. Eventually that will lead to other “problems” or challenges in my feelings.
I mean and maybe this sounds familiar to hear,
Things like ; grow up, behave yourself, you can’t say this or that, this is a serious business are been throwing at you while working or on social activities, well that hurts.
It’s literally feels like you’ve no right to be there.
Therefore, thanks for providing all these interesting movies and sharing your insights with others.
This is very valuable for likeminded people and it helps to make bridges / connections .
For all of you, you’re not alone ,
I’ll end my gibberish with an awesome quote of Timothy Leary,
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Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected.
Find the others…
Timothy Leary
Good video, this answered a few questions I had about myself. Thanks.
This was such a helpful video. As a psychologist I work with a lot of neurodivergent individuals (e.g. autism, ADHD, dyslexia) and strongly resonated with all their experiences, but didn't meet full criteria for any of these diagnoses - yet another area of society where I didn't quite fit in! Lol.. But I have recently come to realise that maybe I resonate because INFJ traits overlap with many traits of these neurotypes, and we are also divergent from what is typical as we only comprise 1-2% of the population, so most aspects of society are not tailored to meet our needs (just like other neurodivergent peeps). But this was just an idea I had, and I couldn't find anything online about it (or colleagues even thinking much about it). This was a super validating explanation - I think I needed someone external to give me permission to take my neurodivergence seriously.
😢 thank you
I'm confused with the idea of neurodiversity, it feels like its thrown around way too much like "literally" or more currently, "AI" put into everything making it redundant. I guess I could see spiritual as more internal and emotional, though "soul bound" stuff makes no sense to me.
This is fantastic. Yes I've always felt different and tried to work out what to do to fit in but when you outline the INFJ characteristics that's just what I am and my heart leaps in relief and recognition. ❤
Lauren,
Please let me know how to reach out for a general appointment.
Thanks.
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My 15 year old kid was diagnosed with autism recently. I've been watching/reading information about autism this week to find out everything that I can about autism. They took the personality test two years ago and received the INFP result. I score as an INFJ. I'm not sure if it's a case of "finding the answer you want to find" or if there is something to this. It was funny to wake up with this thought and search for it, either way.
Found out I am INJP and I am also late diagnosed autistic and to me the two makes sense together.
Were we the jesters and town drunks in medieval times?
more probably the hermits and witches
I know I am. 😂
Garden gnomes and fairies
They killed it cause they dont understand it - as a kid i had so many ideas that didnt fit so they killed me inside to make me fit them and now i have nothing just pain- F Them
I'm INFP-T and have ADHD. I do wonder if there isn't more.
I have written...my entire life. Often strange dark poetic things. This video.. Exactly. I've always explained the way i write as from the beginning its amazed even me how the function and moment occurs. And no one has ever been yeah i get that. They just give me this strange look like um.. okay them. It's like this.. i can sit here and attempt to think of something to write for hours.. days.. months.. and nothing. For the poetic core to actually occur. Its simple. I take my paper/notebook whatever and i place my pen onto it. And shift. Go to my most inner world. Disconnect.. Disassociate. Now.. i turn everything within myself and my mind OFF. 📴
Empty. Dark. Cold. There is not a single thought. Nothing. Enter the void.. and within this void something happens a transition state and like a Ouija Board my hand will move itself.. it will start writing.. i have absolutely no awareness of what its doing. At all. Then at some point bam.. snap back to reality. And i look down and this two page eternally dark af poetic anomaly has appeared and i at this time couldnt tell you one word that was on the page.. as, i havent read it yet. 😮
And then i read it.. and im amazed at this thing that has been born from something deep within me.. often its beautiful and always on the darker sides of truth and pain and any and all other senses and emotions. I can vividly remember everything about the room.. the classroom and all within it and the feeling of utter alienistic strangeness that consumed me in this moment that i first realized this is the my creative works.. this is how i create. This is how i find out what this darkness inside is? I can literally make it speak. 😮
And this skill was practiced until mastered.
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Spectrum Score 40
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I'm a newly late-diagnosed AuDHDer, and I've wondered about my husband. I'm INFP, he's INFJ. I suspect he's on the spectrum too (thank goodness) and this video helps confirm it.
Also, that hard, dark place... That was definitely where I was at the beginning of this year, which is why I got a diagnosis. Everything is better now that I know what I'm dealing with, and I've got accommodations from my university where everything has been a struggle.
👽👽👽i feel like 👽👽👽 i sure am not from this planet
Thank you so much - I feel incredibly heard and seen...
goodness... ok.. this is a video to put on loop till I get aaaaall the deeper layers...
Im INFJ and Dyslexic
I have the same lamp. Love the elephant lamp!
INFJ here, Why not just keep the title short and drop the (F and P) so you don't have to explain yourself and why the title would be so long.
"INF's are not weird, they're just neurodiverse" or "INFJ/P's are not weird, they're just neurodiverse"
Great video BTW, I love learning more about how we work.
It is harder to search for.
The more words, the higher in the search list.
i’m an infp with autism adhd hand ocd
Thank you so much for posting this ❤
I am an INFJ and I am NOT neurodivergent and it is frankly a massive insult to say simply because of a legitimate-adjacent personality test.
She said "neuro diverse" but not "divergent". Are those the same? I'm unsure
I’m an INFJ, empath (HSP), & Asperger’s. I have wondered how many were overall.
Infp here. What is going on
absolutely amazing, thank you
I'd love to know more about your class