My mom in 1989 was a nurse and earned more money than my dad. She wanted to pick out and buy her OWN car. The dealership mentioned every time she went in to bring her husband. She finally was ready and they stalled her. She had taken meticulous notes of what everyone said to her and their names. She went to the manager and said she was going to take her car money to a lawyer and sue them for discrimination. This was in Medford Oregon and they gave her the deal she wanted with only her name.
In 1979 my husband went to the university I just enrolled in with my GI bill had me legally uninvolved because my husband said it interfered with my widely duties. I had to join the ROTC to get around him. Ended up divorcing him a year later
So many heartbreaking comments about the abusive men in their lives. Thank you, Stephen King, for writing this story and giving wives the guts to leave their husbands.
@@FrankowarsIdeas such as? Since the story is about a physically abusive husband who molests his daughter I can assure you that that kind of man does not need a movie to get the idea to do those things.
I was 28 , after my 5th child, i begged my dr for a tubal ligation . They said i needed his approval signature . The old country doc did it, he said what i had at home wasn't worth a hill of beans. It as 1980. He and his partner did me a great favor.
Mine offered to write mine up as an emergency because I had scar tissue in there from fibroids. I chose not to because we wanted more kids, but our youngest was taken from us by SIDS and now he's deported, so I guess there's no point. 😔 But I'll always remember how loved and seen that doctor made me feel.
@SweetAven00 - I'm sorry about your friend. I hope she found the care she needed and the respect for her own bodily autonomy. I came here to say what I'd heard when you've actually experienced it through your friend.
At the time I didn't know it but as a female, I was truly lucky at the age of 18 in 1971 to have my own savings account. At 19 I was moving to another state. When I went to close the account, there wasn't any money in it. I asked how this could happen as I was the only one who had touched the passbook. They said it was probably my boyfriend or husband. I told them I had neither, and regardless mine was the only name on the account and was it the bank policy to give someones money to somebody other than the account holder? Needless to say I left with my money that day.
This same thing happened to my mother several years after her divorce from my dad. We were in another state at this point but the bank said her “husband” had closed the account. No matter how many times she told them she didn’t have one. She never got her money back. This was in the early/mid 80s.
@uhura472 That's so infuriating! Hard to believe it hasn't been that long since women were considered chattel and second class citizens. I retired from what was considered a traditional male job. Fought discrimination from male co-workers, supervisors and management. I earned my pension, yet I still run into men who treat me like a "silly old lady" who can't make decisions. I'm the one who's always made the financial decisions in my marriage of over 30 years. When discussing important things, and they try to engage my husband and ignore me he points to me and says " Talk to her, she's the boss!" Lol 😂
@@margaritakleinman5701 thank you! I'm glad too. If I hadn't got that money, I wouldn't have been able to move and the course of my life would have completely changed.
Women had to be stronger and smarter back then. It's because of the older women that younger women have the ights that they have now. Unfortunately so many women today have forgotten about the hard work and painful experiences of their mothers and grandmothers. Women better wake up because certain politicians and their voters are trying to take away our civil rights.
I had a local banker help me. I was a single mother in 85. I had rented from him beforehand. He gave me a loan for a good car. He was chastised by the board. I paid the loan off early.
@@luzvaldes1030 I was a singe mom from 1994 on. I bought our house and that bank tried to rob me. I gave them my opinion. From then on I knew to always check and double check everything. They tried it a second time but then I reported them to the headquarter. Many years later and that bank is being known known for stealing billions from customers ( 2008) Belgians know which one it is. Billions. No one went to jail!!!🤢 What did they think: single woman = stupid? Stealing money from a single mom, hard working to keep a roof over their child's head???🙄🙄
Yep - same here in Australia. My mother was a Matron of a MAJOR hospital, in the '70's and yet was not allowed to get a loan to purchase a vehicle without a male relative signing for her. UN-effin'-believable!!
I was born to an unmarried 18yo in the 70s in Australia. Apparently, it was unusual that the hospital let her keep me. Your mother's then occupation reminded me
My ex took out over 2 grand from MY account ,and when I asked the bank how that happened since his name was nowhere they answered “well, we saw him with you before at this bank” 🤯 I was young and naive and did not take legal action ,should have !
I know a lady named Michel. Her husband became an opiate addict and had tons of credit cards in her name she knew nothing about. He got into her bank accounts. He was flying to different states getting his drugs. He eventually was able to take everything out of her retirement accounts. All because they assumed Michel was a man. Luckily their house was only in her name and he didn’t get any part of it in the divorce. He took everything else, though. Years later ended up slipping on snow at his mailbox. Broke his neck and was paralyzed.Guess who he had the nerve to call? His own family didn’t even go see him. He did not last long. Karma is real.
Their is bank policies where Banks can't give the Husband her bank account if his name is not on the account. She can sue the bank, for giving her bank account information to her Husband. They knew she was married to him, but his name was not in the account. He should not have, it was able to take her money out of her account. "SUE. THE BANK"!!! YOU WILL PROBABLY GET MORE. The husband didn't lose the bank book, he never had it. His name wasn't on the account in the first place." The Bank Breached their contract" she can also Sue the man who gave her husband the bank book, and the Bank clerk who gave him the bank book. After that, get a divorce!! Go live your life much RICHER THAN YOU STARTED!! INE FOLKS MAY KOSE THEIR JOBS,JAIL SOME JAIL TIME, AND BE SUED FOR EVERYTHING!!!
Context: Dolores wanted to use the money she saved in that bank account from housekeeping for 11 years to escape from her abusive husband Joe and to provide for her daughter. Joe was also sexually abusing their daughter Selena.
Not just banks. My mother's 1st husband, not my dad, accompanied her to the dentist. She needed 2 fillings. Each molar on either side of her eye teeth. Once the dentist had her put under her husband insisted the 2 teeth were pulled instead. My mom was younger and beautiful and he was insecure. The dentist tried to talk him out of it, but finally relented. After all, he was the husband....Needless to say she divorced him after that.
Wow 😮. These kind of stories blow my mind. I’m a child of the 70’s and knew about the financial crap but lived in ignorance about how much power was handed over in every other aspect of life
This movie is so gripping. Truly one of those times when it's warranted to say: 'they don't make them like this anymore'. Everybody acted their asses off in this movie. Shout out to Jennifer Jason Leigh who was just phenomenal.
I wanted my tubes tied, doc had said getting pregnant again would be the end of me and the fetus long before viability. Asked that exact same doc about ligation and was told I was too young to make that decision. I should discuss it with my husband. I was 33, had two kids and wasn’t too young to die. But too young to make a choice without my husbands input. It was 2011 y’all. Hubby ended up getting a vasectomy instead.
Mom and dad divorced in 1971. She had a good job but not enough to buy a car so she wanted to buy it on "time". The bank would not let her- They said she needed a man to sign the contract with her- That was Bank of America. Her boss signed the contract with her.
My dad told me Bank of America would not give him a loan so he basically said "up yours" to them and went to a small local bank. They gave him a loan. I don't recall what year he told me that took place but I believe it was around the late 60's or 70's. My parents ended up owning several homes in Santa Barbara. The home I grew up in in S.B. that they bought for $19,000 is now worth about a million. My dad was trustworthy, and honest.
My younger brother was born in 1970... my mother could not get her tubes tied afterwards without my father's signature.... my parents did agree but if they had not my mother would have had no say over her own body
I think it was 1973 when the laws changed but it took decades before banks and companies changed.. 2001, my now ex and I bought a home,, I opened all the utilities and I was the only one to sign contracts.. BUT guess who's name is first on everything??? And when I flipped out and complained, I was told HE had to come in and take his name off.. BUT HE NEVER SIGNED IN THE FIRST PLACE... so after our split up, he moved out BUT his name is still first.. he lives 1,000 miles away..
That happened to me in 1995. I was a widow. The account was in my name alone. The bank clerk asked what was I going to do with the money. I was 46. I said it was nonevof the banks business. She got the bank manager who asked where my husband was? I said in a little box under the ground. It's my money and I've been a good girl so I want some of it. He then started to say so.ething. I went to the door call a police officer over and said in the doorway. This man has stolen my money arrest him. The manager said I could have the first amount I had requested. I then said the remainder of the money in another bankers draft now. I walked out spoke to the officer explained why I'd called him walked back in the bank and came out with my money, all of it.
She just needs to dig one hole in her yard - but it needs to be big enough for her husband’s body. It’s also standard legal practice that she would inherit his estate and collect his life insurance.
…if you’ve seen the movie, then you know that’s exactly what she ended up doing. She dug a huge hole and led him right to it. The movie is “Dolores Claiborne” and has a stellar cast including David Strathairn and Jennifer Jason-Leigh
I recall in my 20s I wanted a bridging loan, but got told as I was a woman, considered an unsafe option, I was refused the loan. I went across the road to another bank, they transferred the account monies etc. I never returned to that banking service. Years later when I left my husband I was invited to take all I wanted from our joint account. Times have so changed.
My husband changed the safety deposit box to only his name when it was up for renewal. Never found out until i was asked as part of the divorce to itemize our valuables. Went to the bank and found out i no longer had access to the safety deposit box with all the collectables and jewelry and cash. The bank never notified me. Lost everything i build up with my husband.
I’d like to hear your ex-husband’s side of the story (why he did what he did with the SDB). Sounds like he saw the writing on the wall (end of marriage) and - whether rightly or wrongly - took countermeasures to protect himself.
I had a fellow that wanted to marry me, I said thats fine, but we'll have separate bank accts and credit cards. Along with a prenuptial agreement. He didnt like that. No marriage.
I was engaged to a very nice guy. When I asked who would do the cleaning, cooking and taking care of the child he said you. When I asked who would handle the bank accounts he said he would. No marriage. I was 22 years old and smart. If he had said everything would be joint including household, cooking, raising children, and finance I would have married him.
had a marriage proposal. division was 49-51 which made his decision always the final answer. Looked at him and said I'm a free female over 21 serving in the military you sir can pack sand.
My niece's ex did this to her before he was an ex. She had cancer and a cancer policy that paid to her,she put it in the bank and he took it ,all of it. Pos didn't give it back either. They said cause he was her spouse ( divorce not final yet) he was entitled to it . He told them he took it and paid bills with it.
She is in deed a great actress. I remember the movie Driving Miss Daisy, where she was bullied in a parking lot by another woman. Or the other one in Steven Kings Movie where she was an admiring fan of an author that she had then incapacitated and trapped in her house. Pure horror. She played that role excellently.
I don't think that young people understand that in the 70s it was difficult to sign a contract on your own behalf or have a bank account that was wholly yours. My Dad signed a check on my Mum's account, that was hard fought for, with his own name. Her name was directly under his signature and they cashed.it. she had literally scrimped one penny after another and held fast during his violence a torture to get us out, and the damned bank gave him her money. It didn't really fully change till the 90s.
Mine did the same...he cleaned us out and put it in his father's name... 22+ years later, I'm still struggling... he even only paid child support for maybe a total of 3 years, got himself laid off, worked off the books... every penny I made or had went toward raising my 3 kids...
I loved how Delores Clairboune & Gerald's Game intertwine for a moment during the eclipse. Stephen King's writings draw the reader steadily until you realize you've read half the night away!!
But all women in the US of A have been demoted and recreated as second class "citizens" by the stacked, arrogant, cowardly scotus, regardless of "state's rights".
*Dolores Claiborne is a phenomenonal book AND movie!* AN extremely strong and enduring character that you can't help but root for 💜 LuVd how she "took care of" Joe 🤨
I couldn’t get a tubal ligation (I couldn’t tolerate birth control pills) to prevent any further pregnancies without my husband’s signed consent. This was in 1978. But I would bet he could’ve gotten a vasectomy without MY consent.
It's still like that. My friend can't get a tubal ligation because she might marry a man who might want kids some day. She's 29 and doesn't want to get pregnant because of medical issues.
@ObsidianMoonChild my daughter is 38. She just had her second son after miscarriages and was asked if she wanted her tube's tied at the same time as her c section. She agreed. This was at her doctors appointment and obviously she didn't need her partners agreement because it is her body. Oh and 25 years ago I was in exactly the same situation and even then it was still my decision about my body. Oh and all that healthcare including c-sections and tube's tied cost zero dollars.
I still couldn't do that 10 years ago...but my spouse did. No questions asked. Was told anyone under 40 was too young and what if I got divorced and then remarry.
In the 70's my grandfather opened a bank account for my mum to put money into, fast forward to the 90's my dads name had to be added because they got a joint name cheque and the hames had to match the account. Without mum knowing, the account she had since she was 13 was now, legally, controlled by my dad. Women's rights have come a long way in some cases.
Let's hope we don't lose what we've accomplished. The new people in leadership are slowly trying to take things away from women, and the younger generation of women don't have a clue what it was like.
True story: I was a US Navy dependent after serving 8 years. Married the love of my life who had 2 years to go until he got out. I developed a cyst on my breast that was aspirated 3 times and at my next appt (accompanied by my husband) finally asked it to be removed. The Navy doctor looked at my husband and said, “There will be a big scar across her breast - you okay with that?” This was 1987.
Yes, if trump and his magas have their way, we will be back in the 70's or even further back. We will be looked at as property again. As trump said in one speech, he was going to take care of us, whether we want that help or not!
@sharonmartin5051 but she was meant to look nasty in Misery ... a very attractive nutter just would not gel. Make-up is a wonderful tool in the movie world ... 🤪🤪
And that was a huge problem with traditional marriage back then. She couldn't get a credit card or a loan. And, if her husband who wasn't even on the account could wipe it out without her permission. Women often were slaves and prisoners.
Ladies, please, please if you have an abusive husband draw out your own account and do not, not add his name but your parents name, it will keep home from pulling a stunt as stated here in the movie… put your fathers first and last name as benefactor and not your husbands name explaining of the abuse he had caused you. If you pass away put your children as benefactor only if over 21 years of age, and not being abused or threaten for the estate.
She is such a phenomenal actor. I have seen her”Misery” probably a dozen times. I also have seen Delores Claireborne several times (it has another favorite actor - David Strathairn).
That bank guy knew what it was like to have some dude run off with all the money he'd been raking in over the years; you'd think he'd have more compassion than that.
One of the best movies I’ve ever seen. So underrated. It’s one of the most quotable movies in history. Judy Parfitt is wonderful in this. All round great performances from a world class cast.
I heard this from a coworker, happened in the 1980s. She was a widow, of mature age, with a full-time job. She went to the bank regarding some mortgage issue. They allegedly told her they needed her husband's signature! The man had passed away - which part of "widow" didn't they understand?! When l wanted to buy my first car (used), the salesperson only adddressed my husband and insisted that he co-sign, which he refused. I was 35 years old with a full-time job and money in my purse! I simply got up and left the dealership without a word.
No one's taking your rights away. Roe was overturned under Biden. And nothing has changed from 2022 until now. So no.. you're not losing more rights. If you think you've lost the right to an abortion in your state, then fine. But to say you're losing MORE rights is wild and highly emotional 😂
@@live4thehunttoday678 Probably people like you, judging from the attitude. I guess critical thinking and common sense aren't that common anymore. Take a look at what's going on in the world around you.
My ex had my family home put in his name but left the mortgage he took out on it in mine, stopped paying all the utilities which were in my name that started getting shut off , cashed all the money he took from and while we were married and literally put it in his brother’s freezer.
When my friend and her husband brought their house it was in his name and her parents name! Her mother told her to do it that way. Anything happened to her parents, their share would pass down to her. Her mother is very wise!
I remember my aunt having to get my uncle's permission for a credit card. I remember my mother having to fight to have the right to use her maiden name again after divorce. I remember men were allowed to R their wives. I remember being denied a tubal ligation because my then-husband was Catholic and didn't believe it was right. I'm 48
Some banks still do this, like automatically putting my stepdad on my Moms account and making him the main person- because he’s “the man of the house”, he doesn’t have the job… she does.
My father forged my mother's name on a bank loan backed up by our home. We were kicked out of the house when I was a HS senior, and my three younger siblings had to go live with families of school friends.
You can say whatever you want but in France, until the 1970s, women needed the permission and supervision of their husbands to open a bank account. Muslim women (when Islam is actually respected as opposed to the cultural background) had the right to be financially autonomous, inherit and manage their own money as they pleased. This is why in the 19th century, France banned for a while the Quran, seen as too permissive. Quite ironic....
I felt so sorry for this woman in this movie. She worked hard to try and leave her husband. He was controlling and possessive. Very bad. However the actress herself, I love so much. I love watching her. Either in drama or comedy. She's a darling.❤
This is Delores Claiborne. One of Stephen King's best. (The Green Mile is still #1 to me.) This particular flashback of the story takes place sometime in the 1970s, assuming the present story was from the 1990s. Anyone who's seen this will understand why husband Joe's time was short. He forces Delores hand.
She married a rat and the bank guy decided he go with the men's club member rather than the real owner of the Bank book....how did the rat know she had a bank account anyway
I have never held a joint account with anyone 1 husband 4 kids 2 dogs and what i put in is ours but i get to take it out, balance the books I don't like surprises Never had a credit card in my life as its Not good to spend what you don't have
We are heading right back to where we were in the 1950s when women didn't have any rights. We need to stop sitting there thinking everything's going to be fine and actually say something about it.
@@julie9589 By de-regulating the protections given for women's rights. By restricting reproductive rights. By allowing people who openly abuse others to gain political power. By not opposing project 2025.
this man is a crook in any movie where he was dealing with banks.
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Would've been a great video if not for a fact that whoever did video editing removed all pauses. It's hard to follow. The concepts should've been separated by a pause, it would've made it easier to follow. Another reason for a slight pause, it stresses an idea. And finally, it gives one time to ponder upon a thought and also to assimilate information. Psychology of learning...
My ex wife. Did that to me i used to let her pay the bills i never checked the mail and one day i decided to check the mail and noticed that she removed me from our bank account !😮😢
My mom in 1989 was a nurse and earned more money than my dad. She wanted to pick out and buy her OWN car. The dealership mentioned every time she went in to bring her husband. She finally was ready and they stalled her. She had taken meticulous notes of what everyone said to her and their names. She went to the manager and said she was going to take her car money to a lawyer and sue them for discrimination. This was in Medford Oregon and they gave her the deal she wanted with only her name.
1989? Wow, that's insane.
In 1979 my husband went to the university I just enrolled in with my GI bill had me legally uninvolved because my husband said it interfered with my widely duties. I had to join the ROTC to get around him.
Ended up divorcing him a year later
It takes many acts of courage...nurses are so dedicated to everyone that's humanity
In 1989?!
Your mom is awesome!
So many heartbreaking comments about the abusive men in their lives. Thank you, Stephen King, for writing this story and giving wives the guts to leave their husbands.
Cette actrice est fantastique.j'adore Cathy Bates..missery Dolorès Clayborn.. BRAVO
This is a movie and a badly written one at that. No beaten women left their husband because of this movie, it just gave men ideas
@@FrankowarsIdeas such as? Since the story is about a physically abusive husband who molests his daughter I can assure you that that kind of man does not need a movie to get the idea to do those things.
Women leave their husbands all the time.
What's the name of the movie please and thank you @@Frankowars
Kathy Bates is a great actress! .
She was great in Misery.
It takes skill and guts to be an awful nasty character also.
She can perform many roles.
I've posted several times, you don't want her becoming Annie Wilkes!!!
She got the Best Actress Oscar for that role, and well deserved.
A true TREASURE
One of my favorites
Kathy is a gift to all of us. I’m enjoying her in the new series on CBS, “Matlock” Thursday evenings ❤
I wouldn't trust that bank manager
He stole alot of money at
Shawshank Prison
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🤣😫💀
This actor always plays the villain well.😅😅😅
He also was trying to mess up Ace Ventura, the racist!!
😅😊😅
I was 28 , after my 5th child, i begged my dr for a tubal ligation . They said i needed his approval signature .
The old country doc did it, he said what i had at home wasn't worth a hill of beans.
It as 1980.
He and his partner did me a great favor.
That Old Dr wasl a true human being. Period.
Mine offered to write mine up as an emergency because I had scar tissue in there from fibroids. I chose not to because we wanted more kids, but our youngest was taken from us by SIDS and now he's deported, so I guess there's no point. 😔 But I'll always remember how loved and seen that doctor made me feel.
They asked my friend for one a few years back in NC. She wasn’t even married yet smh
In Poland , the same
@SweetAven00 - I'm sorry about your friend. I hope she found the care she needed and the respect for her own bodily autonomy.
I came here to say what I'd heard when you've actually experienced it through your friend.
At the time I didn't know it but as a female, I was truly lucky at the age of 18 in 1971 to have my own savings account.
At 19 I was moving to another state. When I went to close the account, there wasn't any money in it. I asked how this could happen as I was the only one who had touched the passbook. They said it was probably my boyfriend or husband. I told them I had neither, and regardless mine was the only name on the account and was it the bank policy to give someones money to somebody other than the account holder?
Needless to say I left with my money that day.
This same thing happened to my mother several years after her divorce from my dad. We were in another state at this point but the bank said her “husband” had closed the account. No matter how many times she told them she didn’t have one. She never got her money back. This was in the early/mid 80s.
@uhura472 That's so infuriating! Hard to believe it hasn't been that long since women were considered chattel and second class citizens.
I retired from what was considered a traditional male job. Fought discrimination from male co-workers, supervisors and management. I earned my pension, yet I still run into men who treat me like a "silly old lady" who can't make decisions.
I'm the one who's always made the financial decisions in my marriage of over 30 years.
When discussing important things, and they try to engage my husband and ignore me he points to me and says " Talk to her, she's the boss!" Lol 😂
Very glad you got your money!
@@margaritakleinman5701 thank you! I'm glad too. If I hadn't got that money, I wouldn't have been able to move and the course of my life would have completely changed.
Women had to be stronger and smarter back then. It's because of the older women that younger women have the ights that they have now. Unfortunately so many women today have forgotten about the hard work and painful experiences of their mothers and grandmothers. Women better wake up because certain politicians and their voters are trying to take away our civil rights.
I had a local banker help me. I was a single mother in 85. I had rented from him beforehand. He gave me a loan for a good car. He was chastised by the board. I paid the loan off early.
You didn’t let him down. Thanks
I’m happy for you. I also had a banker help me once to obtain a mortgage. There are nice guys out there in the banking world…
@@luzvaldes1030 I was a singe mom from 1994 on. I bought our house and that bank tried to rob me. I gave them my opinion. From then on I knew to always check and double check everything.
They tried it a second time but then I reported them to the headquarter.
Many years later and that bank is being known known for stealing billions from customers ( 2008) Belgians know which one it is. Billions. No one went to jail!!!🤢
What did they think: single woman = stupid?
Stealing money from a single mom, hard working to keep a roof over their child's head???🙄🙄
Yep - same here in Australia. My mother was a Matron of a MAJOR hospital, in the '70's and yet was not allowed to get a loan to purchase a vehicle without a male relative signing for her. UN-effin'-believable!!
Same in South Africa during Apartheid. Had to have a male relative co-sign to open an account or start a business to.
In the US the law was changed in the 1970s, although it was still hard to get a loan.
I was born to an unmarried 18yo in the 70s in Australia.
Apparently, it was unusual that the hospital let her keep me.
Your mother's then occupation reminded me
My ex took out over 2 grand from MY account ,and when I asked the bank how that happened since his name was nowhere they answered “well, we saw him with you before at this bank” 🤯 I was young and naive and did not take legal action ,should have !
Oh lord
Oh gosh. You should have come back the next day and cleaned out his account.
Oh,my God 😢
I know a lady named Michel. Her husband became an opiate addict and had tons of credit cards in her name she knew nothing about. He got into her bank accounts. He was flying to different states getting his drugs. He eventually was able to take everything out of her retirement accounts. All because they assumed Michel was a man. Luckily their house was only in her name and he didn’t get any part of it in the divorce. He took everything else, though. Years later ended up slipping on snow at his mailbox. Broke his neck and was paralyzed.Guess who he had the nerve to call? His own family didn’t even go see him. He did not last long. Karma is real.
Their is bank policies where Banks can't give the Husband her bank account if his name is not on the account. She can sue the bank, for giving her bank account information to her Husband. They knew she was married to him, but his name was not in the account. He should not have, it was able to take her money out of her account. "SUE. THE BANK"!!! YOU WILL PROBABLY GET MORE. The husband didn't lose the bank book, he never had it. His name wasn't on the account in the first place." The Bank Breached their contract" she can also Sue the man who gave her husband the bank book, and the Bank clerk who gave him the bank book. After that, get a divorce!! Go live your life much RICHER THAN YOU STARTED!! INE FOLKS MAY KOSE THEIR JOBS,JAIL SOME JAIL TIME, AND BE SUED FOR EVERYTHING!!!
Context: Dolores wanted to use the money she saved in that bank account from housekeeping for 11 years to escape from her abusive husband Joe and to provide for her daughter.
Joe was also sexually abusing their daughter Selena.
Great movie
Thank you for your explanation
What's the name of this movie
@@MorenaMeza-f8xDelores Claiborne. From a Stephen King novel
Dolores Claiborne
Not just banks. My mother's 1st husband, not my dad, accompanied her to the dentist. She needed 2 fillings. Each molar on either side of her eye teeth. Once the dentist had her put under her husband insisted the 2 teeth were pulled instead. My mom was younger and beautiful and he was insecure. The dentist tried to talk him out of it, but finally relented. After all, he was the husband....Needless to say she divorced him after that.
That's ridiculous! That was her decision to make.
Wow 😮. These kind of stories blow my mind. I’m a child of the 70’s and knew about the financial crap but lived in ignorance about how much power was handed over in every other aspect of life
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This is why staying single is SO great! 😊
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Way to show your ignorance 🙃
@@WrenTheGrey Are you one of those creepy misogynist women ?
“An accident, Dolores, can be an unhappy woman’s best friend.”
LOL THAT would be the route I would go, it's amazing how desperation can make you do things that you wouldn't usually!
Series Why Women Kill ⭐️
@@leahartlee29Yes, watch the show "Why Women Kill", perfect example.
This movie is so gripping. Truly one of those times when it's warranted to say: 'they don't make them like this anymore'. Everybody acted their asses off in this movie. Shout out to Jennifer Jason Leigh who was just phenomenal.
I wanted my tubes tied, doc had said getting pregnant again would be the end of me and the fetus long before viability. Asked that exact same doc about ligation and was told I was too young to make that decision. I should discuss it with my husband.
I was 33, had two kids and wasn’t too young to die. But too young to make a choice without my husbands input.
It was 2011 y’all.
Hubby ended up getting a vasectomy instead.
Wow. Sickening.
Did he need your approval?
@@JuanitaAlderete-k3i probably not
Mom and dad divorced in 1971. She had a good job but not enough to buy a car so she wanted to buy it on "time". The bank would not let her- They said she needed a man to sign the contract with her- That was Bank of America. Her boss signed the contract with her.
My dad told me Bank of America would not give him a loan so he basically said "up yours" to them and went to a small local bank. They gave him a loan. I don't recall what year he told me that took place but I believe it was around the late 60's or 70's. My parents ended up owning several homes in Santa Barbara. The home I grew up in in S.B. that they bought for $19,000 is now worth about a million. My dad was trustworthy, and honest.
My younger brother was born in 1970... my mother could not get her tubes tied afterwards without my father's signature.... my parents did agree but if they had not my mother would have had no say over her own body
Dreadful time back then . As bad as Islamics; controlling women.
@@naomidoner9803
I think it was 1973 when the laws changed but it took decades before banks and companies changed..
2001, my now ex and I bought a home,, I opened all the utilities and I was the only one to sign contracts.. BUT guess who's name is first on everything??? And when I flipped out and complained, I was told HE had to come in and take his name off.. BUT HE NEVER SIGNED IN THE FIRST PLACE... so after our split up, he moved out BUT his name is still first.. he lives 1,000 miles away..
That happened to me in 1995. I was a widow. The account was in my name alone. The bank clerk asked what was I going to do with the money. I was 46. I said it was nonevof the banks business. She got the bank manager who asked where my husband was? I said in a little box under the ground. It's my money and I've been a good girl so I want some of it. He then started to say so.ething. I went to the door call a police officer over and said in the doorway. This man has stolen my money arrest him.
The manager said I could have the first amount I had requested. I then said the remainder of the money in another bankers draft now. I walked out spoke to the officer explained why I'd called him walked back in the bank and came out with my money, all of it.
She just needs to dig one hole in her yard - but it needs to be big enough for her husband’s body. It’s also standard legal practice that she would inherit his estate and collect his life insurance.
…if you’ve seen the movie, then you know that’s exactly what she ended up doing. She dug a huge hole and led him right to it. The movie is “Dolores Claiborne” and has a stellar cast including David Strathairn and Jennifer Jason-Leigh
@@kcindc5539 I believe the hole was an old well. Got him drunk and he chased her to it. She jumped over it. He fell into it.
@ it’s a great scene
💯👌
@gregmarsters2434 and nobody at all missed him, except one man...
I recall in my 20s I wanted a bridging loan, but got told as I was a woman, considered an unsafe option, I was refused the loan. I went across the road to another bank, they transferred the account monies etc. I never returned to that banking service. Years later when I left my husband I was invited to take all I wanted from our joint account. Times have so changed.
My husband changed the safety deposit box to only his name when it was up for renewal. Never found out until i was asked as part of the divorce to itemize our valuables. Went to the bank and found out i no longer had access to the safety deposit box with all the collectables and jewelry and cash. The bank never notified me. Lost everything i build up with my husband.
Ex husband
This must be in America. Women are still not full members of the Society.
Wow, I’d saddened to hear!
I’d like to hear your ex-husband’s side of the story (why he did what he did with the SDB). Sounds like he saw the writing on the wall (end of marriage) and - whether rightly or wrongly - took countermeasures to protect himself.
I hope someone handled that for you
I had a fellow that wanted to marry me, I said thats fine, but we'll have separate bank accts and credit cards. Along with a prenuptial agreement. He didnt like that. No marriage.
As it should b
I was engaged to a very nice guy. When I asked who would do the cleaning, cooking and taking care of the child he said you. When I asked who would handle the bank accounts he said he would. No marriage. I was 22 years old and smart. If he had said everything would be joint including household, cooking, raising children, and finance I would have married him.
had a marriage proposal. division was 49-51 which made his decision always the final answer. Looked at him and said I'm a free female over 21 serving in the military you sir can pack sand.
pack sand
But yet women have a cow when men suggest the same thing 😅😅😅
My niece's ex did this to her before he was an ex. She had cancer and a cancer policy that paid to her,she put it in the bank and he took it ,all of it. Pos didn't give it back either. They said cause he was her spouse ( divorce not final yet) he was entitled to it . He told them he took it and paid bills with it.
Kathy Bates is one of my favourite actresses ❤
She is in deed a great actress. I remember the movie Driving Miss Daisy, where she was bullied in a parking lot by another woman. Or the other one in Steven Kings Movie where she was an admiring fan of an author that she had then incapacitated and trapped in her house. Pure horror. She played that role excellently.
What movie is this???
I don't think that young people understand that in the 70s it was difficult to sign a contract on your own behalf or have a bank account that was wholly yours. My Dad signed a check on my Mum's account, that was hard fought for, with his own name. Her name was directly under his signature and they cashed.it. she had literally scrimped one penny after another and held fast during his violence a torture to get us out, and the damned bank gave him her money. It didn't really fully change till the 90s.
My ex-husband always found a way to spend my escape money somehow.
Oh my godness!
@@suemarlow8253 Here in the UK, you don't have that problem if you are SINGLE ...
That’s awful I hope he knows how disgusting he is
Not even then 😮💨
This is definitely one of the best movies of all times. I can’t believe people don’t know it!!!
Wells Fargo did that to me. My ex stole 33k in savings during our divorce.
Mine did the same...he cleaned us out and put it in his father's name...
22+ years later, I'm still struggling... he even only paid child support for maybe a total of 3 years, got himself laid off, worked off the books... every penny I made or had went toward raising my 3 kids...
Your ex is going to hell.
Priorities.
Your kids were yours.
He alone is his.
❤
I loved how Delores Clairboune & Gerald's Game intertwine for a moment during the eclipse. Stephen King's writings draw the reader steadily until you realize you've read half the night away!!
Yeah King is a perv, lots of kids having s*x or being abused that way he's a weirdo
We are NEVER going back! Keep testing us. You’ll FAFO
This is how things used to be. So glad it’s not that way anymore.
But all women in
the US of A have been demoted and recreated
as second class "citizens" by the stacked, arrogant, cowardly scotus,
regardless of "state's rights".
Yes there have been a lot of injustices towards women. Some laws are slowly changing. Lets hope the future is brighter.
Let's hope they haven't been voted away
Riiiggghhhttt... with what just happened in the past election... I don't think so 😢
Ma Bell wouldn’t open accounts to women alone in the 60’s
*Dolores Claiborne is a phenomenonal book AND movie!* AN extremely strong and enduring character that you can't help but root for 💜 LuVd how she "took care of" Joe 🤨
Thank you for the title😊
Pin this post please 📌📌📌
I couldn’t get a tubal ligation (I couldn’t tolerate birth control pills) to prevent any further pregnancies without my husband’s signed consent. This was in 1978. But I would bet he could’ve gotten a vasectomy without MY consent.
It's still like that. My friend can't get a tubal ligation because she might marry a man who might want kids some day. She's 29 and doesn't want to get pregnant because of medical issues.
@ObsidianMoonChild my daughter is 38. She just had her second son after miscarriages and was asked if she wanted her tube's tied at the same time as her c section. She agreed. This was at her doctors appointment and obviously she didn't need her partners agreement because it is her body. Oh and 25 years ago I was in exactly the same situation and even then it was still my decision about my body. Oh and all that healthcare including c-sections and tube's tied cost zero dollars.
yeah well I went to get my tubes tied at my sons birth. A. he had to be a boy.
B. I needed my husband's consent.
C. it was 2007.
I still couldn't do that 10 years ago...but my spouse did. No questions asked. Was told anyone under 40 was too young and what if I got divorced and then remarry.
@@jillmortlock8439 that is because multiple c sect put you at rusk
And dudes will pretend they have the hardest lives, while treating others like property, or knowing their kin has...
One of the best movies I've seen! Dolores Claiborn....must have watched in 10 times!
Book is even better!!❤ but love this movie
@@ahpzl8008
What’s the accuracy rating book vs movie??
The movie was so good at showing the abuse of a wife and daughter... Personally, I could only watch it once.
In the 70's my grandfather opened a bank account for my mum to put money into, fast forward to the 90's my dads name had to be added because they got a joint name cheque and the hames had to match the account. Without mum knowing, the account she had since she was 13 was now, legally, controlled by my dad. Women's rights have come a long way in some cases.
Let's hope we don't lose what we've accomplished. The new people in leadership are slowly trying to take things away from women, and the younger generation of women don't have a clue what it was like.
it is so scary to be honest
Project 2025 Wants to Go Back to those Horrible Days and if they are able to, also take Away Women’s Rights to Vote as well!
@@OmywinExactly! Project 2025 is Dangerously Archaic and Harmful to all! ( Except for Wealthy white men!)
@@Omywinplease, don’t be stupid!!!!!
This happened to me in real life
Seven years of working and saving gone in one day.
True story: I was a US Navy dependent after serving 8 years. Married the love of my life who had 2 years to go until he got out.
I developed a cyst on my breast that was aspirated 3 times and at my next appt (accompanied by my husband) finally asked it to be removed. The Navy doctor looked at my husband and said, “There will be a big scar across her breast - you okay with that?”
This was 1987.
Ffs.
Good grief!!! The disgust of it all!!! I hate that!
@@topazdragon8500 Huh ‼️ They think they own you 🙄🤬🤢
Dear Lord in heaven. . .
😡😡😡😡😡
This is what is meant by Make America Great Again!
Yes, if trump and his magas have their way, we will be back in the 70's or even further back. We will be looked at as property again. As trump said in one speech, he was going to take care of us, whether we want that help or not!
Isn't that the actor who played a scumbag in "The Shawshank Redemption"? Seems he's playing another scumbag.
Yes, he played the head of the prison
So I guess he's the best scumbag actor ever LOL!
Yup & he's creepy in this roll too 🤮
@@jnorway7295roll? really?
This film is FANTASTIC ... It's Delores Claiborne and Kathy Bates is one of my fave actresses ❤
I've never seen Kathy Bates so young..She was quite pretty. I last saw her in Misery and she wasn't so good looking in that..❤
@sharonmartin5051 but she was meant to look nasty in Misery ... a very attractive nutter just would not gel. Make-up is a wonderful tool in the movie world ... 🤪🤪
it's so FANTASTIC that you wont share the name?
@@censored3603 "It's Delores Claiborne and Kathy Bates is one of my Fave actresses"
@@censored3603 Did you look it up clever clogs ❓️❓️
We need more movies like this to show what happens.
There have been plenty of realistic dramas released since 1995.
Movie
THE BROTHERHOOD OF BELL
And that was a huge problem with traditional marriage back then. She couldn't get a credit card or a loan. And, if her husband who wasn't even on the account could wipe it out without her permission.
Women often were slaves and prisoners.
Ladies, please, please if you have an abusive husband draw out your own account and do not, not add his name but your parents name, it will keep home from pulling a stunt as stated here in the movie… put your fathers first and last name as benefactor and not your husbands name explaining of the abuse he had caused you. If you pass away put your children as benefactor only if over 21 years of age, and not being abused or threaten for the estate.
Love Kathy Bates. She nailed this one.
Bates is the best, most engaging and believable actor America has ever produced.
She is such a phenomenal actor. I have seen her”Misery” probably a dozen times. I also have seen Delores Claireborne several times (it has another favorite actor - David Strathairn).
Stephen is amazing! And she did an unbelievable job playing Dolores.
That bank guy knew what it was like to have some dude run off with all the money he'd been raking in over the years; you'd think he'd have more compassion than that.
I see what you did there 😂
ALWAYS HAVE YOUR OWN BANK ACCOUNT IN A DIFERENT BANK. AND INFORM YOUR LAWER ONLY TO LEAVE TO UR CHILDREN IF ANYTHING HAPPENS.
Oh yes 👏
Back then that kind of thing was impossible. The husband had the ultimate say so.
Don’t worry honey. Salvation lies within! Andy dufresne will take care of him
🤣 that's right!
I LOVE this movie... I LOVE Kathy Bates! She is my FAVORITE actress and I was sad to learn she's been battling breast cancer 😢
One of the best movies I’ve ever seen. So underrated. It’s one of the most quotable movies in history. Judy Parfitt is wonderful in this. All round great performances from a world class cast.
"I just had about enough you mr. High Poobah from Upper Butt-crack!"
My father did that to my mother. Took out every penny that she had saved. It broke her heart.
I heard this from a coworker, happened in the 1980s. She was a widow, of mature age, with a full-time job. She went to the bank regarding some mortgage issue. They allegedly told her they needed her husband's signature! The man had passed away - which part of "widow" didn't they understand?! When l wanted to buy my first car (used), the salesperson only adddressed my husband and insisted that he co-sign, which he refused. I was 35 years old with a full-time job and money in my purse! I simply got up and left the dealership without a word.
At that time, my mother had to get permission from my father to get a library card. You just can’t imagine if you weren’t alive back then.
Our dystopian political agenda would put women's rights back to the 50s.
Oh nooooooooo
Mine did too. Took my life savings, promising to pay it back but never did.
Same thing happened to me in the 80s. Just got our rights and now their doing their best to take them away again
I’m sorry this has happened to you
No one's taking your rights away. Roe was overturned under Biden. And nothing has changed from 2022 until now. So no.. you're not losing more rights. If you think you've lost the right to an abortion in your state, then fine. But to say you're losing MORE rights is wild and highly emotional 😂
Haha no one is trying to take away your rights? Which ones?
@live4thehunttoday678 right! Lol
@@live4thehunttoday678 Probably people like you, judging from the attitude. I guess critical thinking and common sense aren't that common anymore. Take a look at what's going on in the world around you.
Both of these actors also acted in other Stephen King adaptations.
The two actors acted very well
Annie Wikes yelling at the warden of Shawshank prison 😊
Kathy Bates is an Actor's Actor. One of the all time greats.
My ex had my family home put in his name but left the mortgage he took out on it in mine, stopped paying all the utilities which were in my name that started getting shut off , cashed all the money he took from and while we were married and literally put it in his brother’s freezer.
What did you do? I'm thinking, all it takes is one big hole another commenter wrote.
Delores Claiborne is an Ultimate Woman ❤
I just can’t get past “Put your trust in the Lord, your ass belongs to me.”
Shawshank is an awesome movie
She right the bank don't give a dam his name ain't on nothing, which is grounds To make one call.. This happens in real life.
Until 1974, her husband owned whatever she had at the bank.
Read the book and remember i could not put it down. Love Kathy and King❤
When my friend and her husband brought their house it was in his name and her parents name!
Her mother told her to do it that way.
Anything happened to her parents, their share would pass down to her.
Her mother is very wise!
I remember my aunt having to get my uncle's permission for a credit card.
I remember my mother having to fight to have the right to use her maiden name again after divorce.
I remember men were allowed to R their wives.
I remember being denied a tubal ligation because my then-husband was Catholic and didn't believe it was right.
I'm 48
Some banks still do this, like automatically putting my stepdad on my Moms account and making him the main person- because he’s “the man of the house”, he doesn’t have the job… she does.
"An accident can be a woman's best friend..."
My father forged my mother's name on a bank loan backed up by our home. We were kicked out of the house when I was a HS senior, and my three younger siblings had to go live with families of school friends.
This bank guy would make a good prison warden.
Like in Shawshank Redemption?
Ah yes. The movie is Deloris Claybourne. One of cathys most iconic performances imo
You can say whatever you want but in France, until the 1970s, women needed the permission and supervision of their husbands to open a bank account. Muslim women (when Islam is actually respected as opposed to the cultural background) had the right to be financially autonomous, inherit and manage their own money as they pleased. This is why in the 19th century, France banned for a while the Quran, seen as too permissive. Quite ironic....
In the late 90s I got divorced...when I went to buy a car the salesman asked me if there was someone at home that needed to approve my purchase.
Wow, that was ballsy of him to say that in the '90's!!
I used 'Dolres Claiborne' as a message board profile name. Then, I changed it to Dolores Reborn. Later it was shortened to Rebo.
Her husband was real garbage in worse ways than this. The movie is Delores Claiborne.
One of the greatest actress ❤
G damn. I love Kathy Bates. One of the greatest. ❤
I felt so sorry for this woman in this movie. She worked hard to try and leave her husband. He was controlling and possessive. Very bad. However the actress herself, I love so much. I love watching her. Either in drama or comedy. She's a darling.❤
This is Delores Claiborne. One of Stephen King's best.
(The Green Mile is still #1 to me.)
This particular flashback of the story takes place sometime in the 1970s, assuming the present story was from the 1990s. Anyone who's seen this will understand why husband Joe's time was short. He forces Delores hand.
She married a rat and the bank guy decided he go with the men's club member rather than the real owner of the Bank book....how did the rat know she had a bank account anyway
Until 1974, anything she owned was his, including her secret account. It's the only bank in town, all he had to do was ask.
Rats always find the cheese!
@teal1010 guess so
The actor was in Shawshank Redemption! Don't know who he is...great acting here with Kathy Bates! Read the book...very scary!
And funny. The dialogue between Vera and Dolores in the book is crazy😂
A wonderful and talented actress!
I have never held a joint account with anyone
1 husband 4 kids 2 dogs and what i put in is ours but i get to take it out, balance the books
I don't like surprises
Never had a credit card in my life as its
Not good to spend what you don't have
Well, nowadays many credit unions in small towns still behave with irresponsibility and lack of security controls.
One of my favorite movies. Kathy Bates is beyond exceptional.
You better listen to Miss Kathy Bates, otherwise the boneyard as wide open
This guy plays an excellent bad guy!
Love THIS movie her first step to freedom 😅😅😅😅😅😅 yessssssssssssssss 👍🏽
We are heading right back to where we were in the 1950s when women didn't have any rights. We need to stop sitting there thinking everything's going to be fine and actually say something about it.
What in the world are you talking about? 😄
Um, how so??
@@Jami-vm1zv Republicans lmao, open your eyes.
@@julie9589 By de-regulating the protections given for women's rights. By restricting reproductive rights. By allowing people who openly abuse others to gain political power. By not opposing project 2025.
Huh???
Delores Claiborne. She's truly an incredible actor!
Her name is Kathy Bates.
@TheKittyfizzle Yes, Delores Claiborne was the name of the book and film.
@@user67883 and she is an Actress ...
I know someone this happened to. Re- mortgaged her home, falsified her signature. Took the extra money ran up debts and left.
This is really terrible
They don’t call you when a complete stranger sells your house from under you, either.
You don't want her becoming Annie Wilkes!!!
Dont sleep on Dolores...Dolores can get mad too...
this man is a crook in any movie where he was dealing with banks.
Would've been a great video if not for a fact that whoever did video editing removed all pauses. It's hard to follow. The concepts should've been separated by a pause, it would've made it easier to follow. Another reason for a slight pause, it stresses an idea. And finally, it gives one time to ponder upon a thought and also to assimilate information. Psychology of learning...
Name of movie please and thank you!
Delores Claiborne
Dolores Claiborne. Love this movie. Stephen King and Kathy Bates. 🎉🎉🎉
My ex wife. Did that to me i used to let her pay the bills i never checked the mail and one day i decided to check the mail and noticed that she removed me from our bank account !😮😢
How long ago...now both people have to be there...
For that reason i bet
@jenniferstull3657 yea I didn't give it much thought until we got divorced 😕 oh it was 15 Yrs ago
@jenniferstull3657 yea I know I could have done something about it! The bank should have never let it happen without me being present
Oh she speaks. the TRUTH 😠