@@coffeebitt1 Smiling…how sweet; thanks so much for the compliment! I hope this message helps! Thanks for reaching out and have yourself a great remainder of the day!
I truly appreciate this video, thankyou for posting this. I’ve felt so guilty for what my daughter calls me but it just isn’t true yet I always question myself. Being a people pleaser the inability to please my eldest child, I ended up having a breakdown from her behaviour and disrespect. Everyone tells me she’s old enough to be responsible for her own life, yet the twittering voice in my head still says, “what kind of mother turns away from her child?” Thankyou for confirming a few things xx
I am glad to see this subject. There is so much about childern going "no contact" with their "toxic" parents and everyone blames the parents. BS!!! And for anyone who thinks I am bitter and probably an estranged parent no. I have no kids. LOL I like to say my kids don't talk to me because they are still mad about that one time I didn't conceive and give birth to them. But there are a lot of toxic kids.
@@catherineblair550 smiling…this is too funny! It’s definitely a predicament - a very painful one at that! To put our bodies through the stress; make the sacrifices and then be faced with these painful moments; it’s no joke!! But most of us were put through these experiences; we did the best we could as parents; and hopefully, we are able to pick up the pieces and move on. Thanks for reaching out and have a great day!!
Explain to me how a child can be at fault for a toxic parent/child relationships? There something very telling that some psychologists say and that is that if there are issues that started before puberty, then it's impossible for the blame to lie on child. "Good mothers" dont raise kids that start to be disrespectful and treat them like dirt when they're 25. It's literally impossible. So drop the victim shit.
@ That is not true, and you are probably guilty, why you feel compelled to come on the site and try to justify. Here’s the thing, my friend, you don’t have to persuade us if anything. Please know that everything was and is being seen and everyone will be held accountable. While that is happening, do us all a huge favor and keep your personal opinions to yourself; this platform is not here for that. Thank you!
@@Midliferises Incredible how you just proved me right point for point. It NEVER fails lmao. So everyone else can leave their personal opinions so long as they agree with you right? Typical. I'm not trying to persuade you of anything. Like you said, they're observations and personal opinions. Are you projecting?
My Daughter is 40, & has 1 child, I have supported her & my granddaughter, for 4 years, my Granddaughter is 4 we are very close, my daughter uses my granddaughter, every way she can to get what she wants. It hurts me because of my grand, she is a Narcissist, all was bring up the past. Can't move forward, I have tried to get her to go to consulting even when she was younger because I saw something stirring inside of her then, and she got older she got worse. Unable to keep any kind of relationship. Blocks me from seeing my gran when she doesn't get her way. It hurts,but I have to step back & 🙏🏽 for her & my gran ❤
@@stufff45 Wow; it is very painful when the grandkids are put in the middle! There is nothing you can do but to wait this out, my friend. Eventually, your daughter will see where she is going wrong! The good thing is that your granddaughter is old enough to remember who you are. So don’t worry, things will work itself out. This is a tough one but nothing is too hard for the Devine! Release it all to Him and get on with your days as normal. It will be taken care of in due time; just keep the faith! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!!
@@MidliferisesThank you ,for that word of encouragement, 🙏🏽 I'm staying strong 💪🏽,& praying. I just glad to know I'm not the only one going through this, it helps to know one can reach out to talk about this.🤎
@ hello there! you are very welcome; we are very happy to know the messages help! you are definitely not the first nor the last; this is an ongoing predicament! and yes, we are here anytime you need to talk. stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
@@TheGussie3d You are probably taking a different approach now, so it is all new to her. She will come to terms with where she is going wrong soon enough; this, I promise you.
@@TheGussie3d Hi! Your daughter is use to having her way. You have to change how you deal with her and show another side; turn on the tough love. Your job was done. Thanks for sharing and be well, my friend!
Condolences about your mother. I'm here from one of your other videos I recently found. What struck a chord with me was when you mentioned *dont get pulled out of character*.. I'm trying now.. and *the trouble maker* or passive enabler. My husband. We have almost never come across as a team while raising our daughter. He doesn't put any rules or boundaries and sabotages my efforts. I'm frustrated beyond tears.. Please do make a video on how to handle a trouble maker with practical tips.
@@nitikakirsebom4443 Hello there! Yes, this is very challenging when the other parent is the trouble maker. I did have a run with this experience. I have to say that it makes it a little easier to work with when you know all of the players. It’s very sad because in the long run, the one being manipulated is who suffers the most in the end! Thanks for the sympathy mention; it was a very hard push-down for me! We pulled and tugged a lot, but she was my foundation. I will do a video on the topic and cover your request. Stay connected with us; keep the faith; and be well, my friend!
@@Midliferises I look forward. Even if we dont always get along with our parents once they are gone there will be an emptiness for most. Appreciate you sharing your experiences and stay well 🙏
My 25 yr old daughter has 2 babies with an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive partner. He is 30 and has manipulated his way into his mother's home to live with my daughter and their children. This is so that he doesn't have to work and support them. He send my daughter out to door dash with the children so that he doesn't have to take care of them while she is gone. The 2 yr old repeats the insults she hears from him. She has left him several times and told me about his anger and entitled attitude. Then she packs up the babies and goes right back within days. She leaves when im at work and then keep the children from me until he is sick of them and wants me to watch them or he kicks her out. She has been living this way for 4 years. 5 homes and 26 jobs between them in 4 years. I made a list so that I knew I wasn't crazy. She will not stay with me bc i refuse to take care of a 30 yr old man. Last week, when she again, i told her that burned her last bridge with me and not to come here the next time he wants a few days away from her. Its not fair to the children who want to live with me and are taken back over and over. I can't bear to watch it again. I've repeatedly made room for she and my granddaughters and support her in her journey to improve herself so that she can be a better parent to them. She leaves every time and seems not to care at all how this affects her children or myself. Her every effort in life is geared toward keeping her man. Frighteningly so. I would provide a home for my granddaughters ina heartbeat, but i have lost respect and hope for my daughter. I cannot live in HER misery.
Wow! This is some story! I will agree with you , in that, you cannot save your daughter from her situation. She has to come to terms with everything and slam the brakes -- if not for herself, for the children. Eventually, they will be old enough to understand what is going and that is not good! There is very little you can do in this situation, but don't ever stop talking. I do hope that your daughter comes to her senses sooner than later. In the interim, please make sure to not get sucked into it. Try to focus on your happiness and stability. Help where you can but focus on you. It doesn't sound like your daughter is appreciating the fact that you are coming to her rescue each time; be careful with that! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
My biggest mistake is let my children go to my mother in-law after schools while growing up. My mother in law had turned my eldest into a Narcissist. The damage that she’s done is irreversible. That woman condoned bad behaviors, my daughter had never disclose or communicate anything with me because she doesn’t like what I have to say. What she wants is for you to side with her when you know she’s in the wrong. I can’t give her positive advice, she’ll say this is why I don’t talk to you. “You’re always negative”. I can’t reverse it anymore. This child is so disrespectful. I finally told her I washed my hand off. About a week ago. And she hasn’t contacted me since then. It hurts but, I’ll have to accept it. I refused to get abused by her. She is pregnant with her first child, I bought her everything she needed and more. But I didn’t really get a sincere gratitude.
Hello there! Thanks for sharing! I will say that it was a good idea to release the situation so that you can keep your peace. Also, supporting your daughter with her pregnancy! Giving her the items for your soon-to-be grandchild was very nice; congrats with that! Hopefully, the time away will bring your daughter to some conclusions and that you two will come to some common grounds so that you can enjoy your grandchild. Keep the faith that everything will work itself out as it should because it will. Congrats, again, and stay connected with us.
@@ChayrityPerez Hi! Thanks for sharing your story! What I will tell you is that everything works itself out when you do what you’ve just done. When you come to the point where you have to cut everything loose, that is nature taking its course. Yes, it hurts but then it gets fixed. Your daughter is about to be a parent, that should be interesting - just keep the faith! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend.
@@deborahdaffron8945 Hi! You didn’t get into details but if this brings you your peace of mind then you have to do what you have to do. Stay connected with us and enjoy the remainder of your evening!
@@deborahdaffron8945 You have to do what’s right for you when it becomes overbearing! Try to stay opened, though, because things will turn itself around. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
@@deborahdaffron8945 As i mentioned to another ‘You have to do what’s right for you when it becomes overbearing! Try to stay opened, though, because things will turn itself around. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
@@faymoosa5064 Oh no! That is usually very painful! I don’t know how old your son is and whether or not they both live with you. If so, try to get out of the house as much as possible so that you can keep your peace. Also, don’t ever stop talking; always communicate how you feel. Pray about the situation and keep the faith. Things will work itself out eventually. Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
My mom is a narcissist I had no idea she was manipulative to my children against me behind my back to the extent she manipulated them is horrific. I had no idea the narcissistic game was a people game gathering all people for her side no matter what and turn them against me the mother no matter what but I know now as my children all hate me no telling what she was doing over the years. MY children are all brainwashed and now they hate me abuse me and are rude to me and evil.i love my mother im very kind to her but she has essentially usurped me from my life as a mother and now as a grandmother, my moms been really sick in the hospital I’ve been praying over her but it’s so surreal to see this woman all the time understanding all the destructive harm she’s caused me my children my grandchildren as they all gather around her being disrespectful and hateful to me. Thankfully I have my husband tha was brave enlightenment to be manipulated by her she caused issued in two previous marriages and most f all God is on my side I’m asking him to interview in all this because the damages are something no human could repair. I wonder if narcissistic people are actually demonic. Because she’s dine more damage than satan could if he tried.
@@bobbibacha Hello there! I’m sorry for the delayed response!! You have a lot going on here! What is good is that you know who is in charge. Continue to surrender all to Him and watch the magic happen! I’m sorry to hear of your mother’s behavior! Give it all over to the Master and be well, my friend!
My adult daughter is one of the most abusive females I have ever dealt with. She grew up in church knows the word Butt has so many issues. It is so hurtful the damage that she has caused with her mouth. I sent this video to her.
@@TheGussie3d Smiling…that is funny (you sending the video). I hope it gave her some enlightenment. It is crazy how some of our adult children are behaving with us, but we just have to come to terms with it and adjust. All I can continue to say is to protect yourself from the abuse. Everything will eventually work itself out. Thanks for reaching out and be well, my friend!
I been clean 6 years I received my last lawsuit in life so I pack 15 laundry bags of clean clothes picked a new state and my children and I moved to a new to state for a fresh start a new beginnings and yet my 20 year old daughter is highly disrespectful towards me I battled drugs since a 14 yr old girl and I've been a mother since 16 I have surrender my children many times and placed them my self into foster care because I didn't feel responsible enough over there lives because I didn't want them to have the rape story that has stunned my growth many years that I used but I'm no longer that sick momma I'm running for my life I decided I wanna live in do want my life and the thing I love must my child has war against me and it. hurts to feel demonic anger from such a painful continuation redo
@@AmauriiKay Hi! This is a very interesting story! You sound like you have been through a lot! It also sounds like you worked through it all and learned from it, which is amazing! I’m not getting a full feel for what is happening now, but whatever it is, just work to maintain your balance. Your 20 yr old is a young adult and if the respect is not there, you are within your right to separate yourself from it all. Remember, you have to be happy. healthy and balanced. You have to fight for that. Thanks so much for sharing and be well, my friend!
You are a very beautiful woman, and clearly very wise! Thank you for sharing
@@coffeebitt1 Smiling…how sweet; thanks so much for the compliment! I hope this message helps! Thanks for reaching out and have yourself a great remainder of the day!
I truly appreciate this video, thankyou for posting this. I’ve felt so guilty for what my daughter calls me but it just isn’t true yet I always question myself. Being a people pleaser the inability to please my eldest child, I ended up having a breakdown from her behaviour and disrespect. Everyone tells me she’s old enough to be responsible for her own life, yet the twittering voice in my head still says, “what kind of mother turns away from her child?” Thankyou for confirming a few things xx
I am glad to see this subject. There is so much about childern going "no contact" with their "toxic" parents and everyone blames the parents. BS!!! And for anyone who thinks I am bitter and probably an estranged parent no. I have no kids. LOL I like to say my kids don't talk to me because they are still mad about that one time I didn't conceive and give birth to them. But there are a lot of toxic kids.
@@catherineblair550 smiling…this is too funny! It’s definitely a predicament - a very painful one at that! To put our bodies through the stress; make the sacrifices and then be faced with these painful moments; it’s no joke!! But most of us were put through these experiences; we did the best we could as parents; and hopefully, we are able to pick up the pieces and move on. Thanks for reaching out and have a great day!!
Explain to me how a child can be at fault for a toxic parent/child relationships? There something very telling that some psychologists say and that is that if there are issues that started before puberty, then it's impossible for the blame to lie on child. "Good mothers" dont raise kids that start to be disrespectful and treat them like dirt when they're 25. It's literally impossible. So drop the victim shit.
@ That is not true, and you are probably guilty, why you feel compelled to come on the site and try to justify. Here’s the thing, my friend, you don’t have to persuade us if anything. Please know that everything was and is being seen and everyone will be held accountable. While that is happening, do us all a huge favor and keep your personal opinions to yourself; this platform is not here for that. Thank you!
@@Midliferises Incredible how you just proved me right point for point. It NEVER fails lmao. So everyone else can leave their personal opinions so long as they agree with you right? Typical. I'm not trying to persuade you of anything. Like you said, they're observations and personal opinions. Are you projecting?
My Daughter is 40, & has 1 child, I have supported her & my granddaughter, for 4 years, my Granddaughter is 4 we are very close, my daughter uses my granddaughter, every way she can to get what she wants. It hurts me because of my grand, she is a Narcissist, all was bring up the past. Can't move forward, I have tried to get her to go to consulting even when she was younger because I saw something stirring inside of her then, and she got older she got worse. Unable to keep any kind of relationship. Blocks me from seeing my gran when she doesn't get her way. It hurts,but I have to step back & 🙏🏽 for her & my gran ❤
@@stufff45 Wow; it is very painful when the grandkids are put in the middle! There is nothing you can do but to wait this out, my friend. Eventually, your daughter will see where she is going wrong! The good thing is that your granddaughter is old enough to remember who you are. So don’t worry, things will work itself out. This is a tough one but nothing is too hard for the Devine! Release it all to Him and get on with your days as normal. It will be taken care of in due time; just keep the faith! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!!
@@MidliferisesThank you ,for that word of encouragement, 🙏🏽 I'm staying strong 💪🏽,& praying. I just glad to know I'm not the only one going through this, it helps to know one can reach out to talk about this.🤎
@ hello there! you are very welcome; we are very happy to know the messages help! you are definitely not the first nor the last; this is an ongoing predicament! and yes, we are here anytime you need to talk. stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
I have told her everything about this how she needs to honour her father and mother. And she still doesn’t. She can’t take the word no
@@TheGussie3d You are probably taking a different approach now, so it is all new to her. She will come to terms with where she is going wrong soon enough; this, I promise you.
She doesn’t feel honored by you, so she has nothing to return.
@@TheGussie3d Hi! Your daughter is use to having her way. You have to change how you deal with her and show another side; turn on the tough love. Your job was done. Thanks for sharing and be well, my friend!
Condolences about your mother. I'm here from one of your other videos I recently found. What struck a chord with me was when you mentioned *dont get pulled out of character*.. I'm trying now.. and *the trouble maker* or passive enabler. My husband. We have almost never come across as a team while raising our daughter. He doesn't put any rules or boundaries and sabotages my efforts. I'm frustrated beyond tears.. Please do make a video on how to handle a trouble maker with practical tips.
@@nitikakirsebom4443 Hello there! Yes, this is very challenging when the other parent is the trouble maker. I did have a run with this experience. I have to say that it makes it a little easier to work with when you know all of the players. It’s very sad because in the long run, the one being manipulated is who suffers the most in the end! Thanks for the sympathy mention; it was a very hard push-down for me! We pulled and tugged a lot, but she was my foundation. I will do a video on the topic and cover your request. Stay connected with us; keep the faith; and be well, my friend!
@@Midliferises I look forward. Even if we dont always get along with our parents once they are gone there will be an emptiness for most. Appreciate you sharing your experiences and stay well 🙏
My 25 yr old daughter has 2 babies with an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive partner. He is 30 and has manipulated his way into his mother's home to live with my daughter and their children. This is so that he doesn't have to work and support them. He send my daughter out to door dash with the children so that he doesn't have to take care of them while she is gone. The 2 yr old repeats the insults she hears from him. She has left him several times and told me about his anger and entitled attitude. Then she packs up the babies and goes right back within days. She leaves when im at work and then keep the children from me until he is sick of them and wants me to watch them or he kicks her out. She has been living this way for 4 years. 5 homes and 26 jobs between them in 4 years. I made a list so that I knew I wasn't crazy. She will not stay with me bc i refuse to take care of a 30 yr old man. Last week, when she again, i told her that burned her last bridge with me and not to come here the next time he wants a few days away from her. Its not fair to the children who want to live with me and are taken back over and over. I can't bear to watch it again. I've repeatedly made room for she and my granddaughters and support her in her journey to improve herself so that she can be a better parent to them. She leaves every time and seems not to care at all how this affects her children or myself. Her every effort in life is geared toward keeping her man. Frighteningly so. I would provide a home for my granddaughters ina heartbeat, but i have lost respect and hope for my daughter. I cannot live in HER misery.
Wow! This is some story!
I will agree with you , in that, you cannot save your daughter from her situation. She has to come to terms with everything and slam the brakes -- if not for herself, for the children. Eventually, they will be old enough to understand what is going and that is not good! There is very little you can do in this situation, but don't ever stop talking.
I do hope that your daughter comes to her senses sooner than later. In the interim, please make sure to not get sucked into it. Try to focus on your happiness and stability. Help where you can but focus on you. It doesn't sound like your daughter is appreciating the fact that you are coming to her rescue each time; be careful with that! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
My biggest mistake is let my children go to my mother in-law after schools while growing up. My mother in law had turned my eldest into a Narcissist. The damage that she’s done is irreversible. That woman condoned bad behaviors, my daughter had never disclose or communicate anything with me because she doesn’t like what I have to say. What she wants is for you to side with her when you know she’s in the wrong. I can’t give her positive advice, she’ll say this is why I don’t talk to you. “You’re always negative”. I can’t reverse it anymore. This child is so disrespectful. I finally told her I washed my hand off. About a week ago. And she hasn’t contacted me since then. It hurts but, I’ll have to accept it. I refused to get abused by her. She is pregnant with her first child, I bought her everything she needed and more. But I didn’t really get a sincere gratitude.
Hello there! Thanks for sharing! I will say that it was a good idea to release the situation so that you can keep your peace. Also, supporting your daughter with her pregnancy! Giving her the items for your soon-to-be grandchild was very nice; congrats with that! Hopefully, the time away will bring your daughter to some conclusions and that you two will come to some common grounds so that you can enjoy your grandchild. Keep the faith that everything will work itself out as it should because it will. Congrats, again, and stay connected with us.
i know how you feel my dad hasnt let me be a mother everything i say no too my dad has let my child do
@@ChayrityPerez Hi! Thanks for sharing your story! What I will tell you is that everything works itself out when you do what you’ve just done. When you come to the point where you have to cut everything loose, that is nature taking its course. Yes, it hurts but then it gets fixed. Your daughter is about to be a parent, that should be interesting - just keep the faith! Stay connected with us and be well, my friend.
@@Midliferises thank you for your reassurance…yes I will let nature take its course 🙏 god bless
Indeed. So true...😊
Respect all Parents Mother s Father s. 😢😮👌💐👍Namaste. From bharat India.
Om Shaanti. To your mom.
ॐ नमः शिवाय। ❤❤
@@jyotivyas9286 Hi! that is correct; this should be the rule of thumb!! have a great day!
I have two of them so I leave them alone and I block them
@@deborahdaffron8945 Hi! You didn’t get into details but if this brings you your peace of mind then you have to do what you have to do. Stay connected with us and enjoy the remainder of your evening!
Same here xxx painful..
@@deborahdaffron8945 You have to do what’s right for you when it becomes overbearing! Try to stay opened, though, because things will turn itself around. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
@@deborahdaffron8945 As i mentioned to another ‘You have to do what’s right for you when it becomes overbearing! Try to stay opened, though, because things will turn itself around. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
My husband is a narcissist n he has brainwashed my son against me 😢😢😢
@@faymoosa5064 Oh no! That is usually very painful! I don’t know how old your son is and whether or not they both live with you. If so, try to get out of the house as much as possible so that you can keep your peace. Also, don’t ever stop talking; always communicate how you feel. Pray about the situation and keep the faith. Things will work itself out eventually. Stay connected with us and be well, my friend!
My mom is a narcissist I had no idea she was manipulative to my children against me behind my back to the extent she manipulated them is horrific. I had no idea the narcissistic game was a people game gathering all people for her side no matter what and turn them against me the mother no matter what but I know now as my children all hate me no telling what she was doing over the years. MY children are all brainwashed and now they hate me abuse me and are rude to me and evil.i love my mother im very kind to her but she has essentially usurped me from my life as a mother and now as a grandmother, my moms been really sick in the hospital I’ve been praying over her but it’s so surreal to see this woman all the time understanding all the destructive harm she’s caused me my children my grandchildren as they all gather around her being disrespectful and hateful to me. Thankfully I have my husband tha was brave enlightenment to be manipulated by her she caused issued in two previous marriages and most f all God is on my side I’m asking him to interview in all this because the damages are something no human could repair. I wonder if narcissistic people are actually demonic. Because she’s dine more damage than satan could if he tried.
@@bobbibacha Hello there! I’m sorry for the delayed response!! You have a lot going on here! What is good is that you know who is in charge. Continue to surrender all to Him and watch the magic happen! I’m sorry to hear of your mother’s behavior! Give it all over to the Master and be well, my friend!
My adult daughter is one of the most abusive females I have ever dealt with. She grew up in church knows the word Butt has so many issues. It is so hurtful the damage that she has caused with her mouth. I sent this video to her.
@@TheGussie3d Smiling…that is funny (you sending the video). I hope it gave her some enlightenment. It is crazy how some of our adult children are behaving with us, but we just have to come to terms with it and adjust. All I can continue to say is to protect yourself from the abuse. Everything will eventually work itself out. Thanks for reaching out and be well, my friend!
From Birmingham City UK...x ❤
I been clean 6 years I received my last lawsuit in life so I pack 15 laundry bags of clean clothes picked a new state and my children and I moved to a new to state for a fresh start a new beginnings and yet my 20 year old daughter is highly disrespectful towards me I battled drugs since a 14 yr old girl and I've been a mother since 16 I have surrender my children many times and placed them my self into foster care because I didn't feel responsible enough over there lives because I didn't want them to have the rape story that has stunned my growth many years that I used but I'm no longer that sick momma I'm running for my life I decided I wanna live in do want my life and the thing I love must my child has war against me and it. hurts to feel demonic anger from such a painful continuation redo
My name is Kisha I'm so happened to see your videos while using my wife computer soni reach out
@@AmauriiKay Hi! This is a very interesting story! You sound like you have been through a lot! It also sounds like you worked through it all and learned from it, which is amazing! I’m not getting a full feel for what is happening now, but whatever it is, just work to maintain your balance. Your 20 yr old is a young adult and if the respect is not there, you are within your right to separate yourself from it all. Remember, you have to be happy. healthy and balanced. You have to fight for that. Thanks so much for sharing and be well, my friend!