Overcoming Fear of Rejection

Overcoming fear of Rejection
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We also fear, perhaps more than anything else, losing approval from others. Fear of rejection is widespread. In tribal times, being ejected from the safety of a group could have meant death. No wonder many of us like to 'fit in'.
Fear should keep us alert and safe - like the beam from a lighthouse warning ships of submerged dangers. But too much fear, like a super-beam of light blinding the ship's captain, can cause the loss of the very thing we feared losing.
And this may be especially true when it comes to fear of rejection.
Seeking reassurance from other people is a dead end. Reassurance needs to be found from within you, not from others. Why? Because any look, word, or action from other people can be warped and wrongly interpreted as an upcoming rejection when it simply isn't.
The tips here were created to help you feel more self-assured; which in turn, of course, will lead you to be less needy and more confident that things can work out for the best or...if they don't, that it's:
Not necessarily your fault.
Something you'll handle successfully and from which you'll move on.
So how can you deal with fear of rejection?
1) There's nothing to fear but fear itself
Ever hear the term 'self-fulfilling prophecy'?
A self-fulfilling prophecy is a false idea about a situation that makes the person with the belief act in such a way that the false idea comes true. You wrongly believe your partner is rejecting you; you become defensive, anxious, perhaps angry. Eventually, these behaviors may bring about the feared rejection which wasn't there to begin with.
Someone wrongly believes a group will reject them, so they start feeling angry with the group, and the group rejects them. Now the 'prophet' feels they were right from the very beginning: "I told you so!/I knew it!"
You see how this works? In fact, some people just want to be proved right - even if that means a bad outcome! Expecting the worst can act as a type of emotional insurance policy.
Look to yourself. How do your beliefs around possible rejection influence your behavior? And how does that behavior influence your actions? You can't start to change your actions until you really see what is going on. Start looking for signs of what is working rather than just signs of what's going wrong.
2) Have you thought about how you want to feel?
Ever noticed how people having emotional problems often seem to tell you how they don't want to feel? Fair enough, but at some point you need to work out how you do want to feel. Imagine someone trying to learn a new language and spending all their time focusing on how they don't want to not study, how they don't want to not speak a word on their upcoming holiday. Okay enough already; what do they want?
Don't focus on how you don't want to be "paranoid" (as Kelly described herself). Focus on how you do want to be. You don't learn to jump rope by constantly telling yourself you don't want to fall on your face. Right here and now, take a few minutes and really think about how you want to be in the future around this issue: relaxed, indifferent, self-assured? en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection
Overcoming fear of Rejection
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