"True Bisexuals" And Other Disrespectful Phrases: A Rant
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2014
- After seeing the same disrespectful comments being made over and over about my sexuality, I finally had to speak up.
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Claiming that bisexual or pansexual people are homosexual or heterosexual based on the person they are with at the time is like claiming all single people are asexual. Relationship status does not define sexuality.
Exactly! Or claiming that someone is a vegetarian because they happen to be eating a salad right now.
+I Am Drew Also the idea that I'm not bisexual because I haven't slept with a woman so how could I possibly know I'm bi. How do you know you're straight if you haven't had sex with the opposite gender? You just sort of know what you're attracted to, females or males or both or everything in between. I happen to not care what gender someone is, but I still call myself bi to make it easier to explain to people. :P
+I Am Drew Hey guys & girls, it's all about the misunderstanding of the word bisexual. Bisexual means to be attracted to both men and women at the same time though one may be in a relationship with either gender. I'm a guy with a average size, the thought about being Extra large seem pleasing but guy on guy puts me off. Even girl on girl sound strange to me, but hey, if it's pleasurable, then let it be
+I Am Drew you just repeated what she said for mad likes.............
Well pansexual people aren't a real thing but you're absolutely correct
Gavin is a very wise man
Thank you meg. You approached this much better than most youtubers would. You saw something that annoyed you and instead of deleting it you took the high road and explained what it meant in a calm way. Keep it up meg!
STOP TRYING TO SEDUCE MEG! you cant fuck her jus cuz she's bi perv
***** What so people can't give compliments without it being an attempt to seduce someone?
***** I advice you to look up the meaning of a compliment.
Spankin DaBagel i don't
***** you're saying you don't compliment people who you don't want to have sex with?
This is fantastic. My sister says she's bisexual, but since she married a man, she's straight. She also claims that even though my best friend is bisexual and she's marrying a woman, that makes her a lesbian. I keep telling her "that's not how it works" to no avail. SO THANK YOU. Now I can just send her this. (quite late on finding this video.)
+gettingstranger
It's kind of how I've explained to some people that you can have gay sex and still be straight. The obvious reason being that being gay or straight isn't about the kind of sex you are having, as some/many people seem to believe, being gay or straight is about what you are attracted to. Admittedly, it would be pretty difficult for a straight person to have gay sex, just as it would be pretty difficult for a gay person to have straight sex, because they aren't attracted to their partner, it is still completely possible and doesn't change their sexuality just because they did have sex outside of their attraction type.
rageoftyrael That also works for asexuality! A lot of people seem to think that just because you're not sexually attracted to someone means you're not going to have sex with anyone. Which is ridiculous. It's just like having sex with someone you're not attracted to, just as you described.
It's really strange to me how difficult it is for people to grasp the concept of bisexuality/pansexuality; people have a tendency to only see you as bisexual when you're single and then shove you into heterosexual or homosexual depending on who you're in a relationship with. I can be with a man and be bisexual, I can be with a woman and be bisexual, my sexuality hasn't changed. Just as heterosexual people don't become asexual when they're single, bisexuals don't change sexualities with their relationship status.
From one bisexual girl to another: thank you so much for making this video, Meg. Makes me glad I chose to subscribe to your channel.
From another bisexual girl, thank you for making this video. I get so many comments just like those from people I consider to be friends in my everyday life, and it can be really upsetting. I have one "friend" that continues to make the assumptions that because I am bisexual I must want to have a threesome, or I must be more sexually active, or that since I'm interested in men and women I must be interested in him. Seeing someone I respect defend bisexuality is really awesome for me, I'm so very glad that you made this video, hopefully it will educate some people.
I've had that comment about having threesome made from my own boyfriend which made me really upset (but that's okay, he doesn't say shit like that anymore) and it's really annoying. Sorry to hear you have to go through the same thing.
When my girlfriend's mom found out I was bisexual, she was completely accepting...but a bit misinformed. I believe she said "I don't get bisexuals. Why can't they just make up their minds?" It was a surprising comment from her, to say the least.
Jake Thornton Haha, I know that comment. "Well, I have made up my mind, I like guys and girls."
My thoughts exactly. My mind couldn't be more made up.
***** I get what you're trying to say but he only makes this sort of comment when we discuss about my sexual orientation and not any other time. But this doesn't matter anymore since we've broken up. But thank you for the insight.
Thank you so much! I get judged for my sexuality every day! Seriously thank you honestly so much. You don't know how much this means to me. You're my role model.
1. Thank you for using polyamory not 'polygamy'
2. Thank you for saying 'many genders' not just both
Meg is a queen
can not believe this video is necessary.
:'(
Me neither but ignorance is best friends with a lot of people
Titoichi1986
i need an idiot stick, but their is not enuff hour in the day.
Meg Turney You know, one of my best friends actually said to me that he doesn't understand bisexuality and even doesn't think it exists (as if it were a switch that turned on and off, "Today I like men, tomorrow I'll like women"). What baffled me most is that he himself is gay. You would think that a member of the LGBT community would understand the struggles of even the members in the B group, and yet he didn't understand either.
I truly do think that it comes from a place of ignorance [definition: "lacking of knowledge or information"] for more people than you or I would think. And, of course, a writhing hole of nothingness for everyone else, but let's ignore those for now. You are the bigger person for responding with love, acceptance, and (most importantly) information like you did, even if it was done with reluctance and mistrust.
It is better to respond by actually explaining before flaming. If a rude comment comes from one who is ignorant, all you do by flaming is add more fire to the problem and solve nothing. When you explain to them instead WHY what they said was rude, you have a chance of them being more informed and knowing next time not to say or think what they did. If, instead, you are greeted with another rude comment, that is stupidity [definition: "having information or intelligence but choosing not to use it"]. Even then, flaming a stupid person is like trying to set a brick wall on fire; nothing will get accomplished and you will just be more frustrated in the end.
I know, it's not always easy to identify who is ignorant and who is stupid, and even then it's even less easy to respond without anger (and hoping they respond back with the same love you tried to give them). I know that I find myself in more flame wars than I care to have because I forget myself how pointless it is to argue with stupid people. Just know that, in the end, you are a more complete and beautiful (inside as well as out
Nope, gays don't get it anymore than straight people. There are plenty of gay people who won't date Bisexuals because they believe the same myths.
It really is unfortunate. =/
Lexie Lou
Yeah, online dating is a bitch about that. You find a nice girl but she realizes you're bi not gay then does the fade away. It really, really bothered me when dating.
GlitchyVirus It is, bi-erasure is a big problem in the LGBT community (even though one of those letters stands for bi). I think part of it comes from some who are homosexual using bi as a 'coming out stepping stone', because it can be seen as safer. Which is fine if that's how you come out, but it has caused a decent chunk of the LG community to see bi as 'not real', which kind of sucks.
It's not surprising that there are misunderstandings within the LGBT community about what people in the 'other' categories are about. Think of it this way: we are all biologically human but there is rampant misinformation about the most basic biological processes that we all have. Or just because you are something doesn't make you an expert in it.
WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT
Gavin said something intelligent? ;)
Lol
Sadly, this is one the nicer comments on this video. but still pretty funny
he is actually quite intelligent, his brain just doesnt work like everyone elses and he finds it hard to put together his thoughts into a sentence sometimes! i mean, you DO have to be pretty smart to put together and use a high speed camera like on slowmoguys.
Of course he did, he's British. We're all fricking evil geniuses.
He's actually pretty smart once you decode what he says and get to the idea xD
I think the confusion stems from 'bi-sexual' people they knew from when they were young. Many young ladies go through a stage of liking other ladies just to see what it's like. Most of them aren't bi. They are either promiscuous or aren't really bi, just in a phase. So when people see people who label themselves as 'bi' (but really aren't) either being promiscuous or going straight, they assume that all bi-sexuals are that way.
Being publicly bi mustn't be easy since you get these ignorant people talking to you that way so I applaud your patience and the way you approached this video.
*clap*
Don't ever call an experimenting woman a 'slut'. People have every goddamn right to determine whether or not they're bi or gay through experimentation. If the end conclusion is that they're hetero, then at least they tried. That still doesn't make them a slut.
In fact, don't call women sluts, period. Women have every right to be with as many or as few people of any gender as they like, without fear of judgement.
I agree with you. I was writing that part of it as if I was one of those people who didn't know people could actually be bi-sexual for life.
wolfchasing edited the wording to make it more clear :)
If someone labels their sexuality as a specific thing, I don't think you have the right to say they are or aren't. You can be bisexual and only be with men your whole life, or women you're whole life. It means you are sexually attracted to both genders. You can't determine if a woman is sexually attracted with whomever they are.
Katie Sardo But if say you are bi-sexual when you are 16 then when you are 18 you say you are straight, which are you?
As a bisexual, I thank you for putting my frustration into words. One of my friends thinks that my sexuality is confusion and that I'll get over it. I've been called a slut due to my sexuality and pretty much most the people in my school called me a whore when I participated in the Day Of Silence. People just need to learn to understand that bisexuality is 1) not a myth and 2) I'm not a slut because of my sexuality
Also I really love your vlogs and such and how calmly you responded to the comments you recieved that caused this video.
I need to show this to my two sisters. They think the exact same way as the person who left you that accusation and I get so frustrated and angry trying to explain the way I feel to them. I know they don't mean any harm, but it's frustrating when they try to tell me that I'm just straight, as if they know exactly how I feel. The only one who truly understands is my mother and I'm glad I have at least one person in my life that is accepting. Thank you for taking the time to explain this and help more people understand.
This is why i love you meg, you take a situation that is so absolutely frustrating and handle it with respect and care and think of how the other side might perceive it ; you speak out to help others and to clarify the unclear which makes you even more so perfect
there are 2 very nice similie about that:
)Werewolves: Always a Werewolf, no matter if the person is currently in his human form or wolf form they will always be a werewolf
) Sleeper Couch: It is always a sleeper Couch, no matter if they are in their bed form or their couch form
) Bisexual: Is always bisexual no matter if they are currently in their " dating the same gender" form, in their " dating the opposite gender" form, " dating more than one gender/person" form or in their " not dating anyone" form ( a bisexual person also doesn't have to have all of these forms, though most do go through the " not dating anyone atm" form for at least some of their lives)
I feel bad for Meg. Sadly, ignorant people will always exist. Religion is one of the things that causes the most ignorance, especially in regards to sexuality. All these repressed noobs who lack the ability to think for themselves will always be around. Sadly nothing we can do but keep on keepin on.
I completely agree with this, and it seems like there are two religions at the top who argue the most, atheists and Christians. I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm actually a Christian myself, but if you think about it, atheists seem to mostly try to shove their beliefs down everyone's throats, and Christians are doing the same, but they seem to have a contest of who can argue the mist between each other.
TableTopsArentReal I agree with your point mostly, but aetheism isnt a religion, or a faith system. its the lack of belief.
In my opinion, which has no good education behind it, it's only how I feel on the subject, everyone believes something, even if you believe there isn't anything, you still believe that it is true.
+TableTopsArentReal I don't believe in any god. So you're wrong. Atheism has no beliefs. Also, not all atheists try to shove atheism down people's throats. That'd be being a hypocrite. Watch Hemant Mehta (RUclips Channel - 'TheAthiestVoice') for a good education on that sort of thing.
+Zach Vajda And Co. But you believe there isnt a god
I totally relate to this, thank you so much for making it! I absolutely love you
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video, Meg. You're wonderful.
I've had MANY people accuse me of not being a "real bisexual" just because I was dating a man. Oh, excuse me, let me date everything that moves in order to please YOU about MY sexuality. You said it perfectly, Meg. Dating a man doesn't make me straight; dating a woman doesn't make me a lesbian. However, dating both makes you a cheater/ not in a monogamous relationship and shouldn't be a requirement just because you like both sexes... /rant
it amuses me how often people label non heterosexual people as unable to have monogamous relationships.
we are not shopping in one department when we seek a mate, we shop all over the place, in all departments-but we still only want to take ONE item/mate home and will be happy with that one item/mate until it is lost, leaves, breaks or we die. then we may or may not go shopping again for a new item/mate, but across all departments; not just one.
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but I dont hear anyone agreeing or laughing
that one liner tanked. try harder next time because VS does have a very successful plus size line; and next time you may label yourself stupid irreparably!
people need to remember that bisexuality is not synonymous with polyamory. you can be bi and monogamous or bi and polyamorous or or monosexual (meaning gay,lesbian or straight) and poly or monosexual and monogamous :P
Literally got halfway through the video and hit subscribe! Hit a major issue on the head and said it with class. Thank you Meg Turney!!!
THANK YOU, MEG. Most of my high school years I identified as bisexual, and these things you mentioned bothered me (and still bother me) because I find there is a lot of ignorance surrounding bisexual people. Such as bisexuals only want to get laid, they're just expierimenting and will either come out as gay/straight, and so on.
Even though I am a lesbian, another thing I wanted to add to this is some ignorance surrounding gay/lesbian people with people assuming since we like the same gender ...we like _everyone_ within the same gender. From a personal example, I work at a skate shop and one dude would ask "oh do you like her? why not her? You say you like girls but you're not attracted to this girl?" sorta implying that since I like women, well I must like ALL women. But being gay is not much different from being straight (except you like the same gender), but straight people have certain people they're attracted to/preferences/types/etc. My straight girl friends don't walk into a bar and are suddenly attracted to EVERY male there, such as I am not attracted to every woman when I walk into a bar but I might see 1 or 2 and be like "oh she's cute". I feel like this is also a problem that applies to bisexuals too, and is incredibly irritating :/
I just want to thank you Meg for uploading this vid, it helped clear up confusion from my friends.. I dont want to sounds too creepy, but the way you view Bisexuality is exactly the way I do. thank you again, and have a good one!
I have something for the wonderful people of the comment section to ponder/discuss:
Do you think not being attracted to a certain race is racist, or just a simple sexual preference?
it's pretty dicey to the point of racism imho. Like first of all, if you say find out Person A is of x ethnicity and immediately say no, I don't like x people, then yeah that's really racist because you're forming your opinion simply because theyre of a certain race. It's just...really gross now that I'm thinking about it. Sexually, people of the same race aren't uniform in appearance and romantically, judging someone's characteristics due to race is definitely racism.
Vivienne Kinney
I prefer brunettes over blondes.
I prefer big breasts over small breasts.
I prefer women with a little extra weight than those with extremely slender waists.
These are all physical characteristics that I find sexually attractive. So how is it racist to find white skin more attractive than black skin? I have nothing against black people, black women, their rights or their freedoms. I just have a lessened desire to mate with them. This is not racism, this is sexual attraction. You don't choose or learn sexual attraction.
Depends on the reasoning. If you just haven't found anyone of that race that's physically appealing, not racist. That would be the same as someone who has a preference for redheads over blonds or tall people over short people. It's an aesthetic thing. When it comes to sexual attraction, yeah, it is pretty much the only time it's okay to judge someone purely on the way they look. I would, however, encourage people to keep an open mind about things. Like I said, it could very well be that you just haven't found a person of that race that you find attractive yet.
However, if you avoid relationships with people of a particular race because you think that they all act or think or are a certain way...yeah, probably pretty racist. That would be the equivalent of preferring redheads over blonds because you think all blonds are dumb. Or you prefer thin people over plus-sized people because you think they're all more healthy (contrary to common belief, that is not always true). Whenever you're attaching a non-physical quality to a physical attribute, be it race or gender or eye color or weight or whatever, you're getting into pretty prejudiced grounds. Because you're making assumptions based on something completely irrelevant.
Yeah, but the person you were replying to made no mention of outside characteristics, and mentioned only attraction.
I've been attracted to people of all skin colours, it's just that darker skin has always been a reducing factor, and never an enhancing one.
Tibetzzz, the person asking the question was wondering whether an attraction toward one race over another was racist. And, while attraction often has components beyond the physical, when talking about attraction and race, you have to discuss physical outside characteristics. Because, when asking if that preference is racist or not, that distinction determines whether it's problematic or not.
Like I said, if your attraction toward one race over another is purely aesthetic, there's probably not a problem. Like I've known many guys who find Asian girls more attractive than white girls because there's just something about that look--be it the hair or the eyes or the skin tone--that does it for them. And that's fine.
However, if that attraction is based on an idea that a personality quality is attached to that physical attribute, that's where it gets offensive. Like I've also known many guys who like Asian girls over white girls because they think that we're all easy or submissive or kinky or smart or cute. When, in fact, yes, there are Asian girls who are easy or submissive or kinky or smart or cute, but there are also many, many, many Asians who aren't. Being Asian has nothing to do with any of those qualities. It's a false assumption based on a racist premise.
And even self-identifying cute or smart or kinky or submissive or easy Asian girls are allowed to have days when they're not. Binding these attributes up with race puts people in a box that has more to do with what someone else thinks they ought to be and less with who they actually are. When someone's imposing their perceptions onto another person, that's when a sexual preference becomes offensive and deeply problematic.
you are truly amazing, being able to handle this so calmly. i am sure you know the feeling of seeing ignorance around you every day of your life, and the fact that you are able to be so calm is really remarkable. i do not have the same virtue, after a while of annoyance building up i tend to just go off on people. you go, meg! heart you!
Hey Meg. Thanks for explaining this. It is super frustrating when people assume they know everything about you. I am so so sorry that you felt disprespected. Anyway, I'm just happy for you that you are with someone you care about and who cares about you. Love for the win! :)
The best way to respond to that kind of accusations would be "Oh, you're dating a brunette? ...so you're not attracted to blondes? I KNEW IT, YOU NEVER WERE ATTRACTED TO BLONDES, IT WAS JUST A PHASE!"
Just gonna ignore many of the comments here and just say Meg as a fellow Bisexual woman I really appreciate you talking about the issue and just talking about bisexuality in general. You are awesome.
This is so fantastic! I think you did a perfect job with how you chose to approach the subject, and I really thank you for your clear and concise thoughts. This is exactly what I have said when people have accused or questioned me on the same topic, or have wanted to say before anger might have made things less controlled. Again, wonderful video. :)
Meg has been such a comfort since i came out. its been touchy don't laugh) but she has made a real differance. thankyou meg!
Ugh I hate the ignorance people have on bisexuality grrr
I have gotten the "Real Bisexual" phrase a few times now. It really is ignorance.
YEEESSSS!! I have to explain this all the time. Thank-you for putting this info out there for everyone to understand.
You tell 'me Meg! Love you so much girl. You are my inspiration in so many ways and I love how you speak your mind and are never afraid to stand up for what's right. ♡
That was a wonderfully constructed rant, if you can even call it that; you were so sweet about it.
See, I've heard the "true bisexual" thing a lot and I think it stems from the "scene" age a while bavk, where everyone claimed to be bisexual. While a lot of them were, a few gave the whole lot of bisexuals a difficult time. Either way you look at it, it's simply the fact that people are uneducated.
I'm hetero flexible, meaning I'll date anyone who identifies as male. People tell me that if I date a transgender/transsexual that I am a lesbian, which is simply not the case.
There's a lot of sexuality orientations that don't get much coverage.
Megs Bi?
yes! 3somes must be fun!
bobbysreign You do realize just because a person is bisexual, it doesn't mean they ever have been or ever will be in a threesome, right?
Akayes92 she has! I can tell
bobbysreign No, you can't. Your accusations are wrong and hurtful and you should really stop making them.
bobbysreign
Go fuck yourself.
seriously meg is amazing! the way she handled the topic was very eloquent and honestly just perfect!
I already loved you and know I have a lot more respect for you Meg! It's awesome you chose to collect yourself and cover this topic in such a mature way for everyone to listen to :)
As a pansexual male who's dated both guys and gals, I don't see how being in a monogamous relationship with anyone changes sexuality. I can have a girlfriend and still enjoy watching, like, gay porn or yaoi or what-have-you.
I think it's also important to point out that the definition of "bisexual" doesn't necessarily mean "attracted to men and women." That older definition has been debunked because it is binarist and cissexist. Bisexuality and pansexuality are very close to one another in that both can be attracted to any gender, but bisexuals tend to be attracted only to their own gender and one other gender, whereas pansexuals just take gender out of the equation of their attraction altogether.
So, meg is attracted to the same gender and another gender, which just so happens to be women and men, but that doesn't necessarily mean that is true for all bisexuals.
Wow you returned on this acquisition extremely well, i don't think anyone else could of kept so clear and calm and is seams that if that person making these acquisitions actually was listening to what you are saying then they would be able to understand what you mean and "how it works" for lack of better phrasing. Keep on being amazing!!!
This made me tear up. You're such a great role modal Meg and you've helped me I'm so many ways with my sexuality. You're slaying girl, and you continue to slay every single day
this made me think of ice cream. i like vanilla ice cream. but i also like chocolate ice cream. but if i happen to go a while with just eating chocolate ice cream, that does not mean that i no longer like vanilla ice cream.
You were not ranty at all Meg. This video was very informative. Just keep in mind that this is the internet and there are a ton of ignorant people on here. I am guessing the people who said those ignorant things were jealous because they lost their shot at being with you so they retaliated with something that would push your buttons. Forget those people. Anyway, I heart you too Meg!
Your rant/flustered voice is so cute!!!! Preach it. I love that people are getting the awareness out there about the lgbt lifestyle! Most people are just ignorant about it, and I'm glad you can handle this with such grace!!!!
Thank you so much for making this video Meg
I'm very sorry that you've gotten such invaisive and hurtful comments about your sexuality, when it's really none of our business. It only matters to you and the people you are in a relationship with.
Good job for taking the high road and answering in a classy way. We love you for you and your awesomeness, and your sexuality has no bearing on that.
YAS GURL YAS
So awesomely put. And you replied with such dignity and grace, which is so hard when people hash out those ignorant/hateful comments.
Today at the church I went to they talked about the heroes in our lives. How they stick up for others, how they make sacrifices. Your video was a small act of being a hero. You have reminded me that even when it is hard, even when it makes me sad or mad I need to stick up for who I am and others like me. Thank you! Stay strong! Heart you.
reason #758920487579204 why I loooove meg. As a pansexual I get this all the time, and GOD i love the way she explains this.
nevermind all of this. That Gundam though
Ditto
I love you Meg! when people write those type of comments they're just trying to get a response! you're doing fine (:
I think you handled that situation really well. Im sure it was really difficult to deal with that, and I applaud you, and the way you dealt with it. Good job, Meg!
Y'know, I used to dislike Meg based on the persona she puts on for her Rooster Teeth content, but I really can't find any reason to not like her anymore. Yeah, whatever, she sometimes does a high-pitched voice that annoys me, but that's my own peeve, and in no way a valid reason to dislike her. She genuinely seems to have an amazing personality and outlook on life, and that's a much better indication of what kind of person she is rather than a voice she uses in front of a camera.
How are people confused about that? Lol
It's very easy to be confused about things like this when it's something that's so ingrained (either from birth or nurture) and isn't a part of a person's own experience. It's a cultural bias on a more subtle but potentially more damaging scale. You look like me. You were raised like me. You even view much of the world in similar ways as me, or at least in ways that I am familiar with. Yet you experience something in a way that is diametrically different from what I take for granted as a hard and fast truth. People get caught up on the difference. In the case of Meg's sexuality (and anyone else's, of course), they assume that because one part of how she experiences love and attraction is different that the entirety of how she experiences it is different (or is a complete fiction).
I'm assuming the same way people don't understand how people don't choose to be gay. Some times people literally just can't understand something put in front of them, no matter how well you explain it.
jessewski Yep, that's definitely one of the big ones that came to mind. There are other examples that I was thinking of, some that can't necessarily be explained away, but they don't really apply to the video.
Thank you for making this video! I get asked (accused) those types of questions whenever I bring up my sexuality, and to me it always feels disrespectful...even though it most times comes from a place of ignorance. I'm glad that you were able to respond in civil terms, and put a voice to what a lot of bisexual people feel like when asked similar things. :)
As a recently out to his family bisexual, just wanna say thanks for awesome educational content on the subject! Keep up the awesome work!
Thats surprising to hear Gavin give you that bit of advice since he sounds more of a "they can say whatever they want; it doesn't affect my live in the slightest" kind of attitude
Huh, I never knew you were Bisexual. I guess that's another thing I can relate. Love your vids and
AHHHH! Meg! This was ah-maaaayzing. You handled this so well and explained bisexuality so well. I am exactly the same way as you! People don't realize that if you're committed to a man you're automatically straight! Love this, love you.
I love this video! Thank you, Meg! I'm bisexual as well and it really sucks when people get it so unbelievably wrong, but you handled this incredibly well and it's great that you took the time to educate people. Lots of love to you.
Well said Meg.
It's actually quite embarassing that you have to spell that out to people.
this video deserves a lot more attention! it is very educational and informative and one of the only video's i've seen that actually talks about biphobia and acknowledging polyamory and bisexuality are two completely different and equally valid things. i hope this helps more people see this and start to understand.
Meg I absolutely love you! Your little rant makes me feel really comfortable with my sexuality, bi. You're so cute and I hope you see this because I met you at Toronto Fan Expo last summer:3 Love you
At this point I hate to be this guy, but it IS 2014, at this point I feel like this kind of thing CAN'T come from ignorance anymore. With all the education and knowledge out there, at your fingertips and actively being taught if you don't believe/understand this type of thing then it has to be intentional. Maybe at most they mean a bisexual RELATIONSHIP cannot be truly monogamous because bisexuality is the ability to love more than one gender and a relationship where that applies would have to involve more than two people, but even then it's just ridiculous.
C'mon, you can't really be using "it's 2014" rationale. Ignorance is highly pervasive in society and it is largely due to misinformation and lack of education on subjects. In much of the US (and I'm sure parts of Canada and other countries) there is still arguements/debates over whether or not to discuss the topic of "gay" in school or whether or not HS students should be taught sex ed from an "safe sex" or "abstanence" only approach. So if the education system is still struggling with that question, how many schools nationwide have even bothered broach the topics of bi, pan, tran, etc? Misinformation or simply the lack of, is responsible for a lot of ignorant actions and comments...whether it be about sexuality, race (the dumbest being "only a white person can be a racist"), politics, etc.
But the internet exists, information on pretty much anything and everything from tons of credible sources is literally at your fingertips.Even if you were to go to a school where they tell you "Jesus made the gays to test us" all it takes it a google search to dispel all these myths. If you honestly cannot bother to look up anything for yourself with how insanely easy it is then you're really just deciding to remain ignorant.
I don't disagree that the information is out there...but you are greatly over estimating the ease of access to it. There is an astounding number of people who do not have easy access to a computer or the internet and simply have to rely on what they hear around them. Frankly, the topic of sexuality (which is different from thinking about sex) isn't something that most people actively talk or think about. To be honest, by the time this topic "enters" into peoples lives, they (for the most part) already have some form of an opinion on it, just solely based on their upbringing/environment. Not to mention...a "google search" on sexuality or most topics, is anything BUT easy. The internet is one of the greatest sources for information while at the same time being one of the greatest sources of MISINFORMATION....deciphering which is which is not easy for a lot of people.
sens2k5 I'd also like to add that easy access isn't enough, people need to be curious and open-minded enough to seek out things they do not know about. I know a lot of people of average AND high intelligence, who are very well able to look up information, but just don't, or think it's such a barrier, or are tainted by prejudice/stereotypes so they don't dare/need to dig deeper. You easily think you know about something, but if you haven't invested time into "research" or trying to experience it through yourself and/or by other people's experience, you don't know enough yet. Take the literal meaning of research, to search again. You might stumble upon different results than the first time.
so meg, i have a few bi friends and some are attracted to one gender more than the other. is it the same for you?
what i mean by that is that lets say a girl is finds her self attracted to a lot more women than men. but she still considers her self bi. so do you like one gender more than another?
Have you ever heard of the Kinsey scale? You can self identify as bisexual, but be a 2 (more attracted to men, but still attracted to women) or a 4 (more attracted to women, but still attracted to men) on the scale. Being a perfect 3 (equal attraction) doesn't make you "a better bisexual". It's perfectly fine and normal to have a pull towards a certain gender.
I can't speak for Meg's attractions.
Lexie Lou i didn't know of that scale! i havent even heard of it among my bi friends! thanks! Meg, if it's too personal to answer it's fine but yeah i was just wondering!
Junior525 You're welcome.
I think she couldn't really answer this question without facing more harassment. If she says she's a 2, then people will say she is just bisexual for attention (more so than they already do, anyways). If she says she's a four, people would say she'll cheat on Gavin. I think it's safe to let people assume she's a 3 even if she isn't.
I don't really like the Kinsey scale that much however it's a decent intro to sexualities. But a good analogy is that prefer redheads to blonds. Doesn't mean you don't like blonde but if two people who fit your every need stood before you and one was a redhead and the other a blonde more than likely preference dictates you'd go for the redhead. I don't know if that helps any but sexual preference and sexuality is multifaceted. There is a lot of influences in the way you choose a partner.
I am a bisexual who leans more towards relationships with guys than with girls. So yeah, you can have preferences. I also consider myself demisexual, which to me means I need a emotional (usually starting with friendship) connection with someone before I can find them sexually attractive. Once that connection is there, then I can find either male or females attractive. Also, I'm aware that most of my female friends are straight, so that might feed into why I have had more male relationships than female relationships.
Well stated, Meg. Good for you in taking time to calm down and use this as a lead in to sharing information and with any luck, enlightening people.
I stopped leaving youtube comments a while ago because I thought that most youtubers didn't read them anymore. But I think that's part of the reason comment sections are turning into hate-fests. Thank you for making this video, Meg. It means a lot that you took the time to explain this to people. I can't believe all of the shit you have to deal with from people, but I'm so glad that you do and can keep a smile on your face. I love you and your videos. You're a fantastically sweet person and I hope that someday people realize that it isn't okay to make accusations about people, especially people they don't know but are kind enough to share some of their lives with us.
You said bisexuals are attracted to many different genders but wouldn't that be pan-sexual? Isn't bisexuality just being attracted to people with male bodies that identify as male and people with female bodies that identify as being female?
Not necessarily. Once you get into the sexualities that are in between straight and gay, there aren't really strict definitions. Everyone interprets those words slightly differently and people identify themselves as what they're comfortable with. So while you define Meg's sexuality as pansexual, she is more comfortable with calling herself bisexual, and considers herself as such.
Bisexuality means being attracted to two or more genders. People who are attracted to two genders will label themselves as bisexual, while people attracted to more than two genders have the option of labeling themselves as bisexual or pansexual.
Pan-sexual is when you're attracted to someone regardless of their sex. It is similar to bisexuality but it's basically that pan-sexuals are attracted to that person because of personality and not their gender, unlike straight people who are like 'I'm having sex with you because you're male AND I like you personality AND we get along.' and Pan-sexual would be 'I'm having sex with you because I like you'. It is difficult to explain.
Yeah. I identify myself as bisexual but I could be with a trans person because if they say they're a woman, then I view them as a woman or if they say they're a man then I view them as a man.
It's honestly up to interpretation but most people interpret it your way. Just be mindful that not all people do.
Alexandra Bowden hm that sounds a little more like Omnisexual, when you're attracted to people based on personality not gender or sex. I know that they tend to go hand in hand. But I almost view Omnisexual like Asexuality but you're sexually attracted to someone.
what is the difference between bisexual and pansexual
When you're pans you're attracted to people across the gender spectrum. That means girls, guys, nonbinary people, gender fluid folks, etc :)
Tiana Buchanan thank's for confirming. I took meg's advice and googled
TheSelfishLlama
I identify as bysexual and I can and have found myself attracted to transgender. I personally define bisexual as 'being attracted to genders the same and different from your own' or 'being attracted to more than one gender' I wouldnt limit my attraction for someone just because they arent a cismale or cisfemale.
I would personally find the difference to be that pansexuals romantic and sexual attractions are genderblind.
TheSelfishLlama Katie Cook Hi, I'm not being rude but could you not differentiate "men and women" from "trans men and women" please? A trans man is a man and a trans woman is a woman. Just thought I should point that out :)
TheSelfishLlama hey, just so you know all the bisexual people i know tend to define their attraction as "attracted to same and different genders," or "attract to two or more genders" and honestly girlfriends tv is a terrible resource to learn about bisexual ladies.
Thank you so much for making videos like this, you don't really see or hear many people actually addressing bisexual issues within or outside of the LGBTA community which is why it's so important to me that you're doing this.
I did enjoy this. I like that you made a video about this. I have had heard people say things like that to and even "bisexuality is only for overly horny people" and it really pissed me off. Videos like this will make it more understandable to people that just dont understand. Glad to see u make another great video meg. Hope all is well and I
Third and your not hot Meg ! (got to balance out the comments) Also Meg before you answer questions you should sleep on it , give yourself time to think about what you want to say cause some people just throw questions out there to get a heat of the moment reaction out of you (like the "whats sex with Gavin like ?" question) also with this camera angle you film at we never get to see penny =(
Meg, videos like these are why I respect you so much. even though you were very angered by this accusation, you spoke out about it and got your point across. You speak your mind and I look up to you for that. We love you
Holy shit, I'm about to cry with happiness, I'm not used to the RUclipsrs I follow SHARING beliefs with me on that subject or even having open opinions relating to sexual orientation!! It makes me so damn glad that you're openly standing up for your sexuality and that Gavin is totally on your side and understand and agggh I'm so happy for you.
thank you meg for clearing this up cuz i personally didn't really know what bisexual meant and im sorry there are jerks out there who think they need to accuse you of not being "true bisexual" and thats just really rude and invasive and im glad u cleared it up for everyone. You're awesome any way i look at it so just keep being awesome
you. are. perfect. thank you for explaining this topic so well and hopefully opening the eyes of some ignorant or uneducated people. meg, you are a beautiful person and truly inspire me everyday and i look up to you in so many ways, thank you.
YES THANK YOU. I cannot explain this to people without judgement! Bless you
I didn't get to say it when I met you in Toronto Meg, but thank you for being so open about your sexuality and trying to educate people. I struggled with my sexuality for a long time, and you really helped me accept myself as bisexual. Keep doing what you're doing, because I promise you it is helping so many people
I wouldn't consider this a rant at all. Just a good explanation of your perspective. It's pretty cool you're willing to share this as well as take the high road and try to educate folks who may not understand. You're a solid person, Meg Turney. Thanks for sharing.
Super glad to see this video especially from someone who can speak from experience - the amount of ignorance and disrespect towards the bi community is honestly shocking and it comes from all sides. Biphobia is honestly one of the most frustrating things I've ever seen and even though I'm heteroromantic I get really worked up and passionate about it so I can't even imagine how much it bothers you.
This was a rad little video that really hit the nail on the head in a clear and concise way thanks :3
Yes! Go Meg! I love when people clear up sexuality and gender questions for people who don't understand because everyone should know so they don't look silly or end up being rude or misunderstood for something they didn't know.
Very well done Meg, I applaud you! I do feel like you educated rather than ranted, and I do like that you are open enough to see that it could have been ignorance instead of shaming or criticizing. Maybe not at first, which is fine, but I am glad you decided to take the mature route for this video instead of the full steam ahead rant route
Thank you So much Meg! I've been saying what you said for years and I've always gotten the BS arguments in return.
I wish I could 'like' this twice! The amount of times I've had stuff like this said to my face, even by my close friends, is astounding.
Beautifully said, Meg. Thank you, truly. Because I hear this..all the time. Thank you :) ♥
Meg you have handled this calmer than anyone else I have met.
Meg I just want to thank you. Your ability to stand up and defend bisexuality in such an educational and poised manor has meant so much to me. You've given me so much strength to be able to get through those awkward/ tough times and defend my self and my sexuality with grace and poise. Thank you, thank you. I know exactly what that box feels like so thank you so much for speaking out and trying to throw it out. Keep on keepin on
You explained this much more than anyone else would have. Thank you Meg.
Meg, that was amazing. You explained it so well and i hope that people learn this because the amount of people that this kind of thing wrong is stupid
I completely agree with you. I'm in a poly relationship with my wife and it makes us very happy to spread the love. Now in my wife's case she also happens to be Bi Sexual. So she has been in the past in a monogamous relationship with a women and in one with a man. Thank you for coming out and giving the haters a good education. Thanks meg. Love you.
I'm with you meg it's awesome your standing up for this, cause I got this same thing said to me and it made me so mad! But thank you so much for addressing us with this video.
It was so nice to see a video properly explaining this! Despite many rude, disrespectful comments, I for one am glad that someone bisexual is educating people a bit more on sexuality and relationships from a personal point of view - it makes me feel less alone!! Thank you, Meg!!
I really really appreciate the fact that you've made this video. There are so so SO many misconceptions about bisexuality to the extent that I'm terrified of telling people that I am without being ridiculed. It really is ignorance, since people aren't bisexual themselves or have any prior knowledge about it, they can make really harmful and mean statements such as thinking that bisexual people are just confused or have a lot of sex or can become either just a lesbian or straight depending on their relationship status. I think it's wonderful that rather than just yelling about it, you took this like educational approach. If people can't understand the concept at this point and continue to make rude comments, they're not here to support you and you deserve so much more from your fans than that.
Meg thank you so much for your videos regarding bisexuality there is so much negativity and misconception about it that having someone to look up to who is openly bisexual and not afraid to address these issues makes me really happy and less ashamed of my sexuality
I just really want to thank you for this video, because I have struggled so hard with being bi. This is everything I have ever wanted to say and it really means a lot to hear it talked about.