When the narcissist makes poor decisions, and later lives in regret

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  • Опубликовано: 25 июл 2024

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  • @Turin_Turumba
    @Turin_Turumba 10 месяцев назад +136

    Their mood swings are so intense, they either love you or hate you, there's no in between, they have no loyalty either

    • @assplundah
      @assplundah 7 месяцев назад +10

      100% accurately stated! 👌

    • @Jennifer-xl5fh
      @Jennifer-xl5fh 6 месяцев назад +4

      This sucks😢

    • @sheririchardson7480
      @sheririchardson7480 22 дня назад

      Narcissists do not have the capability of loving anyone because they lack empathy. They don't even love themselves.

  • @fainitesbarley2245
    @fainitesbarley2245 8 месяцев назад +65

    They often feel good because of the supply - then discard you or drive you away whilst feeling arrogant and confident- then realise how bad they feel without the supply.

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 8 месяцев назад +19

      They're their own worst enemy

    • @GimDandy6696
      @GimDandy6696 7 месяцев назад +14

      The smugness is infuriating

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 7 месяцев назад +14

      @@GimDandy6696
      Yes the one I knew looked happier when he’d hurt someone than he did being friendly.
      A sort of emotional vampirism.

  • @lindatallon9217
    @lindatallon9217 8 месяцев назад +36

    They are not even human...one look into their evil snake eyes....you know this is pure evil.....

  • @marym8028
    @marym8028 8 месяцев назад +72

    They only regret leaving you until they get you back, then they treat you even worse than before. It's almost like they have such low self esteem, they feel anyone who loves them must be worthless too. They are always looking for someone to enhance their own self esteem, but it's only a matter of time they seem to rationalize that if that person actually loves them, then they are worthless, by reason of the very fact they love the (worthless) narcissist. Am I making sense here? The only time he was wonderful to me was when he thought he had lost me, (which gave me value). As soon as I took him back, the devaluing and abuse started all over again.

    • @shawnpullen9517
      @shawnpullen9517 8 месяцев назад +7

      Thank you so much for the insightful comment💯❤️🙏🙌

    • @hopeinhumanity.
      @hopeinhumanity. 6 месяцев назад +5

      The play the long game and do a helluva a lot of scheming.

    • @stephburns9847
      @stephburns9847 4 месяца назад +2

      Absolutely spot on!! 💯👌 x

    • @KCobainFan4Ever
      @KCobainFan4Ever Месяц назад +1

      I’m grateful for your comment. I am ready to move on from the narcissist in my life after almost 19 years together. It’s scary but he’s often treating me like this video states and I’m done.

  • @susanmcmahon4733
    @susanmcmahon4733 10 месяцев назад +40

    Sooo TRUE.,was married to a narcissist for 28yrs and discarded me for new supply, left her to go on to more new supply, every relationship he has in last 16 years seems to fall apart, he has had dozens of supply he definitely thinks grass is greener on the other side.

    • @assplundah
      @assplundah 7 месяцев назад +3

      Yep, whether they be male or female, they all seem to have the same M.O.

  • @ladyvirgo9514
    @ladyvirgo9514 10 месяцев назад +30

    Love the Phoenix Rising Image! Thats me! My husband of 12 years shacked up with the secretary from his work. Impulsive Coward. Good luck on that lasting, even if it does,cheating will be the foundation 😈
    The Grass is green where the fuck you nurture it. I was stability & true, he didn't appreciate that so she deserves him since she also knew he is married. It takes 2 and since he had the vows,hes more at fault

  • @tjfSIM
    @tjfSIM 10 месяцев назад +44

    They do have an innate talent for making their problems someone else's. It's incredible really - I look back over messages and think "Why the hell did I get drawn into that?" - silly things like they've got drunk and need money for a taxi, or they need to pay a bill, or they're stuck in the carpark cos they don't have enough money to pay the ticket..... on and on. Usually it was the middle of the night when I just wanted to get some sleep and had to get up for work the next day. But that never came into the equation - it was all about getting their needs met, nothing else.

    • @chocolatesouljah
      @chocolatesouljah 10 месяцев назад +6

      And the gaslighting and inconvenience they cause by the middle of the night behaviors are also fuel for them. I so appreciate when you stated, "They do have an innate talent for making their problems someone else's."

    • @passerby6168
      @passerby6168 8 месяцев назад +7

      It's a powerful allure, to feel needed. We think there's love behind it but when we aren't needed anymore - discarded like an object.

  • @JUMPforyourLIFE
    @JUMPforyourLIFE 6 месяцев назад +7

    Going back for another round of abuse is absolutely horrifying!

  • @wheelernathan34
    @wheelernathan34 10 месяцев назад +26

    Joe that was a brilliant video!! I love hearing about the aftermath of a torn narcissist!!

  • @flowergirl-yz3ki
    @flowergirl-yz3ki 10 месяцев назад +22

    Mr. Joe...I gotta say, it's like you are able to somehow crawl inside their mind and explain the thought patterns or motivations for us. Thank you for your content.

  • @kimberlyfloyd1009
    @kimberlyfloyd1009 8 месяцев назад +9

    There's a part of me that thinks they never regret anything. If they discard you, then they have turned you black in their mind. Of course, we can always wonder if in the deep recesses if they truly know.

  • @roxpearcerp
    @roxpearcerp 10 месяцев назад +13

    This is brilliant you have taught me so much My eyes are wide open now Thank You

  • @dezonwill33
    @dezonwill33 29 дней назад +1

    My ex narcissist reached out 3 years later telling people I messed her life up that’s not possible because when she moved outta my house she left with $165,000 in her pocket and gave me her @$$ to kiss now all of a sudden I messed her life up what a joke…

  • @ildyivy
    @ildyivy 10 месяцев назад +12

    I feel like many narcissists tend to win at life. Maybe not in really old age but they typically make at least some decisions right because they care heavily about how they look to others. So they will more likely fall into line with expectations even if they have to dupe other people to achieve this. I feel I was narcissistic in my youth but felt little pressure to conform to societal norms, did not care much what others thought of me, only to a small degree, but it was not a good thing and caused regret.

  • @user-cy8os7uc9m
    @user-cy8os7uc9m 4 месяца назад +2

    Thank you Joe. You are helping me so much. I appreciate all your hard work putting out these videos. Your voice & advice is so comforting. 💗

  • @robertwhitehead9831
    @robertwhitehead9831 10 месяцев назад +7

    Needed this today.

  • @donnadaniel4448
    @donnadaniel4448 10 месяцев назад +13

    Beautiful pictures, a calm soothing voice, and awesome content. I wonder if the narc in my life regrets dumping me. I will never know because I went no contact with them after the dump. I have moved on but I understand they had been contacting someone close to me asking about me so maybe they do regret it. I will never know

    • @Turin_Turumba
      @Turin_Turumba 10 месяцев назад +12

      They miss what you did for them, how you made them feel about themselves

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 27 дней назад

      One minute they love you, next moment they hate you. They are delusional and you will never have a normal relationship with a narcissist.

  • @msilvaoregon
    @msilvaoregon Месяц назад

    They have more than 1 family in different countries. They dont disclose this.

  • @darlinah8090
    @darlinah8090 10 месяцев назад +5

    Well said .. spot on! Exact descriptions. Had a narcissist friend. Pity …

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet 10 месяцев назад +9

    You have good content. I need to come by more often

  • @passerby6168
    @passerby6168 8 месяцев назад +4

    Act in haste, repent at leisure.

  • @stephburns9847
    @stephburns9847 4 месяца назад

    Spot on, Joe!! I love your content!! Completely impulsive with poor consequential thinking, and no empathy/ability to perspective-take which feeds into that. Keep up your amazing work! x

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 10 месяцев назад +6

    Good morning ! 🌞 A cup of joe with Joe ☕☕ is the best way to start a new day ! Great video, its lovely and unique as all your videos are . Thank you ! 🤗❤

  • @theoracle5265
    @theoracle5265 6 месяцев назад +2

    I'm sorry to say I've made this mistake forty- two years ago obviously I'm not alone.😔

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 10 месяцев назад +4

    Will never know.

  • @edgewalker7459
    @edgewalker7459 10 месяцев назад +1

    Good timing this one

  • @shirelleholmes4288
    @shirelleholmes4288 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love this!

  • @angelicarcturianmessagesan2830
    @angelicarcturianmessagesan2830 5 месяцев назад +1

    I love your videos thank you 😊

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 6 месяцев назад

    Unfortunate series of events….

  • @Joy.1111
    @Joy.1111 10 месяцев назад +1

    Really good video

  • @daphneskipper8627
    @daphneskipper8627 3 месяца назад

    Ty❤

  • @klyn9619
    @klyn9619 6 месяцев назад

    Ty 🕊️✨🪽🫶

  • @1966bb1
    @1966bb1 5 месяцев назад

    So true

  • @terencehennegan1439
    @terencehennegan1439 5 месяцев назад

    Word perfect 👌

  • @thisthathighlife
    @thisthathighlife Месяц назад

    💯💯❤️

  • @mynewlife1911
    @mynewlife1911 7 месяцев назад +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @Ikecantstop1
    @Ikecantstop1 7 месяцев назад +3

    My Ex discarded me the day after her Ex died... They were together 2 months a year ago... I told her that I'm here for her if she needs anything.
    2 weeks later - she's trying to vilify me on Social Media... She's convinced I've wronged her or manipulated her.
    Her Ex died... I literally did nothing. I have no idea why she's getting angrier with me as time goes... I don't chase....

    • @shirleyvanderheijden5934
      @shirleyvanderheijden5934 7 месяцев назад +1

      Grief maybe?

    • @Ikecantstop1
      @Ikecantstop1 7 месяцев назад +2

      @shirleyvanderheijden5934 maybe. I definitely wouldn't dump my girlfriend & create a smere campaign against her on Social Media tho.
      I've been told Cluster Bs don't know where their pain is coming from. So I'm assuming she blamed the closest person to her for the death of her Ex.

  • @abdelrahim5184
    @abdelrahim5184 6 месяцев назад +1

    I love how my Like is the 666❤