So they spread a video of a guy sitting alone in a café... they didnt realize that when no one else followed what they were doing, that in fact everyone believed they were the creeps, since they stalked and videotaped this guy for no reason. Then bragged about it and showed proof 😅
@@UndoliThing Yeah, but guess it comes down to being in the period of "Immaturity to Maturity" still kicking in. So they thought it was "funny and pathetic" when I guess years later when most who did mock OP thought about it, they realized it WAS cringe what the girl did and feel guilt they laughed at HIM instead of at HER for that act of major immaturity and bitch behavior.....and the other half who still didn't MATURE (have a mask of maturity in adulthood or as another replier mentioned, "They PEAKED in High School") will just say "funny video of loser creeping on a girl funny!" and move on with their day. Don't feel bad for the witch! Should have mature, realized what she did and did nothing more then what is expected of her! You can tell who matured (wizen up) and who didn't by how the ones who mature fly into a panic and try to remove ALL EVIDENCE of their idiotic actions "in their youth" as they know it can come back to haunt them later in life and can be SUPER SHOCKED that any evidence was found in the "non-internet fashion" (as in they never left any evidence on the internet to be "immortalized forever") while others never think and then when they run for a leadership position, their opponents reveal and old video of them "Blackfacing" or something of the like they never thought would come up again!
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer As someone who reported being groped by a manager, trust me: they don't take women's side. They do what will protect the company.
OP: Literally just existing. Girl: Omg, he's creepy. Also, the girl and her friends: Invites OP to a date she won't show up for, records a video without his consent, posts it on social media, spends months harassing OP. But sure I guess OP just not being super attractive was the problem (sarcasm).
Story 1: I am curious about what she told Sandy about OP now. I think Krista did tell her about the crush version of the story to spread it around as preemptive damage control and that's why Sandy was smiling about and thought it was something silly, but she realized it had to be more serious after she got sent to HR.
The first story is why places that work with a lot of sensitive information (both private and state/federal) have annual security trainings that include insider threat.
Had a bad stutter back in grade school. Had a teacher that would force me to stand in a corner and repeat "English, I can speak it" Over till I stopped stuttering. I am still trying to break that habit when ever I stutter slightly.
That’s horrible. I’m glad you’ve been able to overcome your stutter, because I know it takes a lot of work, but that teacher obviously knows nothing about how stutters work because that sounds like a recipe for making a stutter WORSE. I’m proud of you, and I hope that teacher gets her karma and then some.
Not only made the stuttering worse but also made the phrase “English, I can speak it” something I repeat even today. Getting better at stopping both but still a fight.
@@Project_KN1GHT Yeah, many of these teachers were ill equip to deal with "conditions" and some dealt with it in the WORSE fashion assuming "they were helping/disciplining" when they only made it worse! Look at the former Mobster Henry Hill who had dyslexia and his dislike of school spawned from the fact the teacher didn't know how to deal with it and just assumed he was "clowning around" and well his abusive father finds out and "tries to discipline him" and it only makes it worse till Hill decides "School just isn't worth it anymore" (And what a FINE way of encouraging people into hating school! Not that the life Hill went to really helped him out if you look up how his life went after that point! Goodfellas more or less exaggerated and took liberties with much of his life as descripted in his book that inspired the movie "Wiseguy" as when you get to understand his life, a large amount of his feel for the Mob Life is "I keep trying to get out, but they keep pulling me back in!" which is sad, so many former associates NOT in prison mention feeling sorry for the guy! WAY different then how he was portrayed by Ray Liotta in the movie during the points where it makes it like he/Hill LOVED the Mob Life! Ironically the end where he loses everything best illustrates how it went for Henry at the end! He only started the book because he figured by that point, anyone wanting him dead is either DEAD themselves I'm just using one example here! But yeah, even now when I asked my sister (24) her experiences in High School! (It's been 18 years for me) she mentions how her school BARELY handled her in the right manner (and only cause our mother is the LAST thing anyone in authority want to see! The ones who WILL use a free day or FOUR from work to get to the bottom of the issue involving "her children!" Stores in our area knew NOT to try and CHEAT any of us because my mother WOULD show up and frankly speaking, we'd be having some "nice things" from that experience! We learned to be more careful about being cheated, AND got free shit AKA "Bribes" by the time Mom was done with them!) and she was HAPPY to see the BACK of school! Even hesitant to send my niece (just turned 5) to school because of fears of how they would handle her! I think I was the one who lucked out, though only because my worry were the bullies who seemed to come to me like they were attracted to me or something as I ALWAYS had at least 3-4 bullies on me as I grew in school! Had 3 in Grade School, 8 in middle school, and 4 in High School! Thought College would be different but nope, had 2 bullies on my ass! And it's always cause "I did something that TRIGGERED them somehow!" like look in their immediate area for more then two seconds that set them off, or giggled from a joke I heard near their vicinity" or "just cause they don't like me" you name it! Basically "existing" seemed to piss them off! One even came at me because "he wanted to be FRIENDS with some of the bullies I had already and believe treating me like SHIT would somehow help him get in close to them! Still can't believe there are people who MISS school when I'm frankly HAPPY to see the back of it sans a few teachers who WERE good and I hope the best of them! Hope the best for ya @DJProtagonist
Story 3: love everyone assuming a man can't be abused by a woman and that op is a "bitch" for daring to be pissed at the family for trying to put her in the same room as his abuser behind his back. I'm behind OP all the way.
Story 3: I don't care that op is being judgemental does that mean she has to put up with the bad behavior from the sister law in the rest of her in-laws. Did you read the way these people treated their brother/ Son I wouldn't want to be around these people either.
That's just Reddit being Reddit. She posted something for them to latch onto and then the herd mentality took over. Reddit cares more about how you write than what you write.
op even said that she is a judgy b in the end, she is self aware. im not judging op because at least they know their faults so im really directing my rage towards that trashy family of the husbands. op sounds like they have a good head on their shoulders (needs to work on not judging a little too much tbh) while the others sound coo coo
@@sliqyplayz8072 It's obvious with her look after the HR meeting that she started gossiping! Meaning she DID recognize OP when he first saw her. Likely Sandy or others noticed and questioned her on it, and she idiotically kept to her immature story about "OP and her's PAST" (That he once "creeped" on her) so when HR brought her in and all was said and done, she knew she "don fucked up" as all it took as said, was for Sandy or the other girls to bring up what she said and she's DOOMED which just happened! She could have corrected what she said, but knew she was fucked no matter what she did, so ran with the SMALL hope that SOMEHOW Sandy or the other girls would say nothing! But likelihood is Sandy is a Gossiper and was like "Oh wow I never knew OP was like this, let me ask him how it felt to be a creep back then but not anymore" (I'm going to assume Sandy assumes it's "OP shameful past" he matured from when she approached him) and since it was right in front of the Supervisor who was IN THAT MEETING! Well you saw the rest! Krista winning would have been to just tell the girls the truth, that SHE was the creep who played the GHOSTING game on OP who had helped her and ruthlessly bullied him with her friends back then and that she said what she said to them out of dumb reflex when she was asked and to please not talk about or bring it up! Ten to One she knew Sandy would pass on THAT information and she'd be pariah, but at least she'd be JUST that and not pariah AND on her way out. She had the path of LEAST resistance, but she didn't take it because she likely is still the immature girl back then that THRIVED off of people thinking WELL of her (SPOILERS the internet makes people stupid sometimes, like they could assume since everyone was laughing at her video and believing her lie on the internet, then that must mean everyone agreed with her. And not that it was "just for that moment" and outside of it, she would have found "a different reception" then her "mean girl" mind would have factored in! I say this to OP that all but her and maybe not all of her friends forgot about you and that video, those in the MAYBE in her friend circle that helped in that may want to forget that ever happened and distanced themselves abit from Krista to avoid association when her actions finally blew up in her face)
Story 1: I had the exact same thing happen to me....except my tormenter was in middle school. I'll spare you the details, but I was near a breakdown due to the bullying I received, and she was the ringleader. Years later she showed up at the place I worked. She started in on the same insults, innuendos, and abuse. I snapped, shoved her up against the wall and got eye to eye with her. I growled "don't you dare start this shit up again!" Her eyes were big as saucers, and after a long silence she only said "My God, you've changed." She wasn't fired--but she quit the next week. The irony--she mocked me over my interest in filmmaking--and I did live my dream, earning Emmy and Oscar nominations later on. As for her--I found her obituary 15 years ago. She had organized film festivals in the Pacific Northwest. And the karma? She HAD to have seen my name on the credits of 65 features!
Story 1, yep my brother went through something similar. Note he's attractive and takes care of himself. He was dragged into a relationship triangle. Not being an idiot he got out of that situation. The girl issued a no contact order on him and spent an entire year stalking him trying to get him to break it. So, for the 3 remaining years he reupped the no contact order turning the tables on her.
This is the dumbest statement… don’t get me wrong I hate bullies but people can and change. Ironically this is the mentality that create bullies… They think the people they bully won’t change
@@moufou4lifeexactly this! Yes, some bullies may not change. But I can talk from experience that bullies CAN change. I had a bully through grade school who made my life a living hell. By highschool, he'd mellowed out and changed, and it turns out he was just lashing out because his dad was sick and he picked me as an easy target (in grade school I was a monumentally easy target, but back then I didn't know it was because of my autism). But in highschool, after he mellowed out, we actually became friends and he apologized for his behavior towards me. I won't say I excused his behavior, but it was nice to see him change and improve himself.
@@moufou4life Respectfully, there is a mountain of psychological research that undermines your statement. People "can" change, that is not in dispute. But short of a traumatic brain injury, stroke, drug addiction, or severe trauma, they rarely ever do. It's not impossible, but it is rare. And nobody really changes through sheer force of will alone. Kids who bully can grow out of it, but when you see it in adults, as was the case in this story, they do not simply grow out of it. Children who are still developing are an exception to this rule, they are more malleable then adults. Rather, what is often incorrectly ascribed to a personal change in the individual is actually a change in their environment or the circumstances they are responding to. In the case of bullying, that usually comes about when the bully is feeling insecure or vulnerable. If you put them in a comfortable situation where that pressure is relieved, they often do mellow out and stop bullying. But they have not changed in that scenario, their circumstances have changed. Reapply the pressure and they revert back to their normal defense mechanisms. This applies to virtually all people, not just bullies. It's why the average criminal recidivism rate is hovering around 84% globally... even with all the reform initiatives in the world, offenders still reoffend. Not all of them reoffend, but the single biggest predictor (by a huge margin) is whether or not they return to the same circumstances they were in during the initial offense. That's why reform is highly focused on things like career training, because that can radically change their lives, and their new life hopefully won't lead to the same patterns of behavior. You see it with addicts who have broken the physical addiction and been clean for years, there is nothing tying them to the drug anymore, but if put back into a situation where they would have used in the past, the odds of them falling off the wagon are extremely high. In fact, this knowledge is the cornerstone of behavioral therapy. They don't proport to change the individual. They instead teach the individual how to alter their circumstances and surroundings in ways that lessen the compulsion to engage in the negative behaviors they intend to address. For example, if someone is messy (like chronically so, to the point their home would be condemned, lol), no amount of telling them to just "clean up" will work, even if they really want to. It works for a while, then it slips and they end up right where they started. So instead you would create strategies for that individual to prevent that. Literally, throw out all but one dinner plate, bowl, fork knife and spoon. Now dishes can't pile up in the sink, and if you want to eat, you need to wash your plate, but the job is never too big to put off. You can do the same thing with laundry, minimize the clothes you wear so all of them fit in one load of laundry. That's a very basic example, but it illustrates the point well. You can apply this reasoning to most problems very effectively. Change the environment in such a way as to limit your own natural responses to the "correct" response. This theory is applied to virtually everything in life. Management Tactics in the workplace. Military Logistics. Education. Yes, technically, people can change. But it's rare, and the odds that any individual will change are extremely low. And even if they do change, it's not always for the better, lol. I will extend beyond your argument and concede, the way she behaved in college is not necessarily indicative of how she will respond in a professional environment. And she should be given a fair chance to behave better. Not because she's a different person who has grown and evolved, but because she is the same person faced with a very different set of circumstances, so her responses may be quite different in this new context. But she did immediately start gossiping in the workplace, and she got an employee's personal data via unauthorized access to company resources. Putting her past aside entirely, she should have been fired for those offenses alone. Her present day actions proved her to be a liability.
'Throwing in the alcoholic family members. What does that have to do with anything?' Tell me you have never had to deal with alcoholic people without telling me you have never had to deal with alcoholic people.
In story 2, op said in his full post that he met his disgraced former algebra teacher in the market and when she saw him, she went to another direction and never confronted him in the market store out of shame before op posted his reddit story and telling his former teacher if she read his reddit post to screw herself.
The last story, am I only one surprised how hard the comments went at OP. Bride seemed a nightmare, and invited her brothers ex that sent him to hospital???
That is a great HR 👍 no bs none of that high school crap. some people never grow up fuckin immature.......I teased you because I like you....this isn't a fuckin manga...
Like another commenter said, Krista has zero self control. She’s had that meeting with HR in the morning and less than half a day later, she does the exact same thing they forbade her. Told multiple people no less! How could that company trust her with ANYthing?
So, the last story, um. Maybe i wasnt paying enough attention but...why is she the asshole? It sounded like she wanted to help her husband. I dont recall much info about the Ex but even if she's fine and the husband is irrationally upset with her, to have the info of the ex dropped so close to the event sucks. They knew the info would be upsetting but chose to play "deal with or fuck off". And yeah, maybe offering up casually the family are drunkards wasnt cool but Im struggling to see why she suck. :/
I really want to hear Krista's side of her story, did she really like him? Did she regret what she did? People change, wether it's for the worst or for the better, people do change.
The HR should be fired. Gossiping about someone, no matter wether its right or wrong is not a big no no. The HR cant force people to keep quiet, its a comaony and not a dictatorship
I'll start by saying that Idk how much you know about Minecraft, so I'm just gonna explain it like you've never heard of it before. In Minecraft you can trade with Villagers for various items based on what "job" they have and to get said job they need a "work block." If you break the "work block" without trading with the Villager then it resets what items it will offer you. He wanted a specific trade from the Villager so he kept placing the block and then breaking it until it offered the item he wanted. (He does eventually get it and then does other stuff in case you didn't make it that far in the video)
So they spread a video of a guy sitting alone in a café... they didnt realize that when no one else followed what they were doing, that in fact everyone believed they were the creeps, since they stalked and videotaped this guy for no reason. Then bragged about it and showed proof 😅
*STUPIDITY 100*
Crazy how the students at college didn't realize it
See the problem here is we didn't peak in high school so we don't understand their mindset 😂
@@UndoliThing Yeah, but guess it comes down to being in the period of "Immaturity to Maturity" still kicking in. So they thought it was "funny and pathetic" when I guess years later when most who did mock OP thought about it, they realized it WAS cringe what the girl did and feel guilt they laughed at HIM instead of at HER for that act of major immaturity and bitch behavior.....and the other half who still didn't MATURE (have a mask of maturity in adulthood or as another replier mentioned, "They PEAKED in High School") will just say "funny video of loser creeping on a girl funny!" and move on with their day.
Don't feel bad for the witch! Should have mature, realized what she did and did nothing more then what is expected of her! You can tell who matured (wizen up) and who didn't by how the ones who mature fly into a panic and try to remove ALL EVIDENCE of their idiotic actions "in their youth" as they know it can come back to haunt them later in life and can be SUPER SHOCKED that any evidence was found in the "non-internet fashion" (as in they never left any evidence on the internet to be "immortalized forever") while others never think and then when they run for a leadership position, their opponents reveal and old video of them "Blackfacing" or something of the like they never thought would come up again!
This is a good example of how HR should act. Make sure to always check to see if your hr department at your workplace is a good one.
It's one of those good ones who doesn't automatically take the woman's side
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer As someone who reported being groped by a manager, trust me: they don't take women's side. They do what will protect the company.
OP: Literally just existing.
Girl: Omg, he's creepy.
Also, the girl and her friends: Invites OP to a date she won't show up for, records a video without his consent, posts it on social media, spends months harassing OP.
But sure I guess OP just not being super attractive was the problem (sarcasm).
Welcome to being an average and below average man. Either you don't exist or you're a creep.
It really bothers me that he keeps on building the house and destroying it💀💀💀
Oh so it's not just me 😂😂
I had to flip my phone over. 😂
Tell us she peaked in high-school without telling us she peaked in high-school.
Story 1: I am curious about what she told Sandy about OP now. I think Krista did tell her about the crush version of the story to spread it around as preemptive damage control and that's why Sandy was smiling about and thought it was something silly, but she realized it had to be more serious after she got sent to HR.
Also makes sense why she was ostracized after HR got involved, told everyone without saying what happened "she lied, it wasn't a crush"
Love S3 OP clowning the comments publicly
needs to be more common tbh
Same! I was like 'okay, screw those guys too' I'm totally on OP's side on that one, and would have said no from the get go honestly.
The first story is why places that work with a lot of sensitive information (both private and state/federal) have annual security trainings that include insider threat.
Had a bad stutter back in grade school. Had a teacher that would force me to stand in a corner and repeat "English, I can speak it" Over till I stopped stuttering. I am still trying to break that habit when ever I stutter slightly.
F THAT TEACHER!!! THAT IS CHILD ABUSE!!!
That’s horrible. I’m glad you’ve been able to overcome your stutter, because I know it takes a lot of work, but that teacher obviously knows nothing about how stutters work because that sounds like a recipe for making a stutter WORSE. I’m proud of you, and I hope that teacher gets her karma and then some.
Not only made the stuttering worse but also made the phrase “English, I can speak it” something I repeat even today. Getting better at stopping both but still a fight.
@@DJProtaganist I bet. Good luck, this random internet stranger believes in you lol.
@@Project_KN1GHT Yeah, many of these teachers were ill equip to deal with "conditions" and some dealt with it in the WORSE fashion assuming "they were helping/disciplining" when they only made it worse! Look at the former Mobster Henry Hill who had dyslexia and his dislike of school spawned from the fact the teacher didn't know how to deal with it and just assumed he was "clowning around" and well his abusive father finds out and "tries to discipline him" and it only makes it worse till Hill decides "School just isn't worth it anymore" (And what a FINE way of encouraging people into hating school! Not that the life Hill went to really helped him out if you look up how his life went after that point! Goodfellas more or less exaggerated and took liberties with much of his life as descripted in his book that inspired the movie "Wiseguy" as when you get to understand his life, a large amount of his feel for the Mob Life is "I keep trying to get out, but they keep pulling me back in!" which is sad, so many former associates NOT in prison mention feeling sorry for the guy! WAY different then how he was portrayed by Ray Liotta in the movie during the points where it makes it like he/Hill LOVED the Mob Life! Ironically the end where he loses everything best illustrates how it went for Henry at the end! He only started the book because he figured by that point, anyone wanting him dead is either DEAD themselves
I'm just using one example here! But yeah, even now when I asked my sister (24) her experiences in High School! (It's been 18 years for me) she mentions how her school BARELY handled her in the right manner (and only cause our mother is the LAST thing anyone in authority want to see! The ones who WILL use a free day or FOUR from work to get to the bottom of the issue involving "her children!" Stores in our area knew NOT to try and CHEAT any of us because my mother WOULD show up and frankly speaking, we'd be having some "nice things" from that experience! We learned to be more careful about being cheated, AND got free shit AKA "Bribes" by the time Mom was done with them!) and she was HAPPY to see the BACK of school! Even hesitant to send my niece (just turned 5) to school because of fears of how they would handle her! I think I was the one who lucked out, though only because my worry were the bullies who seemed to come to me like they were attracted to me or something as I ALWAYS had at least 3-4 bullies on me as I grew in school! Had 3 in Grade School, 8 in middle school, and 4 in High School! Thought College would be different but nope, had 2 bullies on my ass! And it's always cause "I did something that TRIGGERED them somehow!" like look in their immediate area for more then two seconds that set them off, or giggled from a joke I heard near their vicinity" or "just cause they don't like me" you name it! Basically "existing" seemed to piss them off! One even came at me because "he wanted to be FRIENDS with some of the bullies I had already and believe treating me like SHIT would somehow help him get in close to them! Still can't believe there are people who MISS school when I'm frankly HAPPY to see the back of it sans a few teachers who WERE good and I hope the best of them!
Hope the best for ya @DJProtagonist
Reddit will never get boring. 😂
"Let's defend the toxic family this time."
Story 3: love everyone assuming a man can't be abused by a woman and that op is a "bitch" for daring to be pissed at the family for trying to put her in the same room as his abuser behind his back. I'm behind OP all the way.
Me too
Exactly I can wrap my head around how op is the issue here???
Story #2:
*The World's Smallest Violins 👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻 for Mrs. Franks 😂😂😂 !!!*
lmao
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
HR: What move do you think would keep your job?
Krista: Spit on that thang! Hawk tuah!
Story 3: I don't care that op is being judgemental does that mean she has to put up with the bad behavior from the sister law in the rest of her in-laws. Did you read the way these people treated their brother/ Son I wouldn't want to be around these people either.
TELL IT!!
The hipster douche comment hit too close to home for reddit
They all sound insufferable tbh. I wouldn't wanna be around any of the people in this post.
That's just Reddit being Reddit. She posted something for them to latch onto and then the herd mentality took over. Reddit cares more about how you write than what you write.
op even said that she is a judgy b in the end, she is self aware. im not judging op because at least they know their faults so im really directing my rage towards that trashy family of the husbands. op sounds like they have a good head on their shoulders (needs to work on not judging a little too much tbh) while the others sound coo coo
Story 1: Some people don't age a day out of highschool. That woman... is as mature as a 12 year old and deserves to be fired.
It’s the fact that immediately after she was told not to discuss it she started gossiping
And she never took full accountability
@@sliqyplayz8072 She had done it before, that's why she looked so scared
@@sliqyplayz8072 It's obvious with her look after the HR meeting that she started gossiping! Meaning she DID recognize OP when he first saw her. Likely Sandy or others noticed and questioned her on it, and she idiotically kept to her immature story about "OP and her's PAST" (That he once "creeped" on her) so when HR brought her in and all was said and done, she knew she "don fucked up" as all it took as said, was for Sandy or the other girls to bring up what she said and she's DOOMED which just happened! She could have corrected what she said, but knew she was fucked no matter what she did, so ran with the SMALL hope that SOMEHOW Sandy or the other girls would say nothing! But likelihood is Sandy is a Gossiper and was like "Oh wow I never knew OP was like this, let me ask him how it felt to be a creep back then but not anymore" (I'm going to assume Sandy assumes it's "OP shameful past" he matured from when she approached him) and since it was right in front of the Supervisor who was IN THAT MEETING! Well you saw the rest!
Krista winning would have been to just tell the girls the truth, that SHE was the creep who played the GHOSTING game on OP who had helped her and ruthlessly bullied him with her friends back then and that she said what she said to them out of dumb reflex when she was asked and to please not talk about or bring it up! Ten to One she knew Sandy would pass on THAT information and she'd be pariah, but at least she'd be JUST that and not pariah AND on her way out. She had the path of LEAST resistance, but she didn't take it because she likely is still the immature girl back then that THRIVED off of people thinking WELL of her (SPOILERS the internet makes people stupid sometimes, like they could assume since everyone was laughing at her video and believing her lie on the internet, then that must mean everyone agreed with her. And not that it was "just for that moment" and outside of it, she would have found "a different reception" then her "mean girl" mind would have factored in! I say this to OP that all but her and maybe not all of her friends forgot about you and that video, those in the MAYBE in her friend circle that helped in that may want to forget that ever happened and distanced themselves abit from Krista to avoid association when her actions finally blew up in her face)
Nah, even a 12 year old child would be more mature than she is. But you are right. She deserves to lose her job.
Story 1: I had the exact same thing happen to me....except my tormenter was in middle school. I'll spare you the details, but I was near a breakdown due to the bullying I received, and she was the ringleader. Years later she showed up at the place I worked. She started in on the same insults, innuendos, and abuse. I snapped, shoved her up against the wall and got eye to eye with her. I growled "don't you dare start this shit up again!" Her eyes were big as saucers, and after a long silence she only said "My God, you've changed." She wasn't fired--but she quit the next week. The irony--she mocked me over my interest in filmmaking--and I did live my dream, earning Emmy and Oscar nominations later on. As for her--I found her obituary 15 years ago. She had organized film festivals in the Pacific Northwest. And the karma? She HAD to have seen my name on the credits of 65 features!
And then everyone clapped.
And the crows hoorayed
Story 1, yep my brother went through something similar. Note he's attractive and takes care of himself. He was dragged into a relationship triangle. Not being an idiot he got out of that situation. The girl issued a no contact order on him and spent an entire year stalking him trying to get him to break it. So, for the 3 remaining years he reupped the no contact order turning the tables on her.
Never forget that Bullies dont change
This is the dumbest statement… don’t get me wrong I hate bullies but people can and change. Ironically this is the mentality that create bullies…
They think the people they bully won’t change
@@moufou4lifeexactly this! Yes, some bullies may not change. But I can talk from experience that bullies CAN change. I had a bully through grade school who made my life a living hell. By highschool, he'd mellowed out and changed, and it turns out he was just lashing out because his dad was sick and he picked me as an easy target (in grade school I was a monumentally easy target, but back then I didn't know it was because of my autism). But in highschool, after he mellowed out, we actually became friends and he apologized for his behavior towards me. I won't say I excused his behavior, but it was nice to see him change and improve himself.
They do change bro... Even though it's only 50% of the time
My bullies became my friend and we got along after I heard what happened in there home life and helped them out and there happy now
@@moufou4life Respectfully, there is a mountain of psychological research that undermines your statement. People "can" change, that is not in dispute. But short of a traumatic brain injury, stroke, drug addiction, or severe trauma, they rarely ever do. It's not impossible, but it is rare. And nobody really changes through sheer force of will alone.
Kids who bully can grow out of it, but when you see it in adults, as was the case in this story, they do not simply grow out of it. Children who are still developing are an exception to this rule, they are more malleable then adults.
Rather, what is often incorrectly ascribed to a personal change in the individual is actually a change in their environment or the circumstances they are responding to. In the case of bullying, that usually comes about when the bully is feeling insecure or vulnerable. If you put them in a comfortable situation where that pressure is relieved, they often do mellow out and stop bullying. But they have not changed in that scenario, their circumstances have changed. Reapply the pressure and they revert back to their normal defense mechanisms.
This applies to virtually all people, not just bullies. It's why the average criminal recidivism rate is hovering around 84% globally... even with all the reform initiatives in the world, offenders still reoffend. Not all of them reoffend, but the single biggest predictor (by a huge margin) is whether or not they return to the same circumstances they were in during the initial offense. That's why reform is highly focused on things like career training, because that can radically change their lives, and their new life hopefully won't lead to the same patterns of behavior.
You see it with addicts who have broken the physical addiction and been clean for years, there is nothing tying them to the drug anymore, but if put back into a situation where they would have used in the past, the odds of them falling off the wagon are extremely high.
In fact, this knowledge is the cornerstone of behavioral therapy. They don't proport to change the individual. They instead teach the individual how to alter their circumstances and surroundings in ways that lessen the compulsion to engage in the negative behaviors they intend to address.
For example, if someone is messy (like chronically so, to the point their home would be condemned, lol), no amount of telling them to just "clean up" will work, even if they really want to. It works for a while, then it slips and they end up right where they started. So instead you would create strategies for that individual to prevent that. Literally, throw out all but one dinner plate, bowl, fork knife and spoon. Now dishes can't pile up in the sink, and if you want to eat, you need to wash your plate, but the job is never too big to put off. You can do the same thing with laundry, minimize the clothes you wear so all of them fit in one load of laundry. That's a very basic example, but it illustrates the point well.
You can apply this reasoning to most problems very effectively. Change the environment in such a way as to limit your own natural responses to the "correct" response. This theory is applied to virtually everything in life. Management Tactics in the workplace. Military Logistics. Education.
Yes, technically, people can change. But it's rare, and the odds that any individual will change are extremely low. And even if they do change, it's not always for the better, lol.
I will extend beyond your argument and concede, the way she behaved in college is not necessarily indicative of how she will respond in a professional environment. And she should be given a fair chance to behave better. Not because she's a different person who has grown and evolved, but because she is the same person faced with a very different set of circumstances, so her responses may be quite different in this new context. But she did immediately start gossiping in the workplace, and she got an employee's personal data via unauthorized access to company resources. Putting her past aside entirely, she should have been fired for those offenses alone. Her present day actions proved her to be a liability.
'Throwing in the alcoholic family members. What does that have to do with anything?' Tell me you have never had to deal with alcoholic people without telling me you have never had to deal with alcoholic people.
In story 2, op said in his full post that he met his disgraced former algebra teacher in the market and when she saw him, she went to another direction and never confronted him in the market store out of shame before op posted his reddit story and telling his former teacher if she read his reddit post to screw herself.
Why do story one's sound like one of those high school Disney drama movies
Story 2: teachers are supposed to help students, not belittle them. A teacher that be littles someone shouldn’t be a teacher.
The last story, am I only one surprised how hard the comments went at OP. Bride seemed a nightmare, and invited her brothers ex that sent him to hospital???
If the roles were reversed HR would have fired him the moment she said a word.
That is a great HR 👍 no bs none of that high school crap. some people never grow up fuckin immature.......I teased you because I like you....this isn't a fuckin manga...
5:30 villager vibing
Like another commenter said, Krista has zero self control. She’s had that meeting with HR in the morning and less than half a day later, she does the exact same thing they forbade her. Told multiple people no less!
How could that company trust her with ANYthing?
Krista has no self control
2nd story sounds like my elementary school teacher but she got away with it.
Super legit totally real story right here.
I'm surprised that there was an update since I saw the video in LG
Is it bad that the gameplay really annoys me? 😂
😅sry
Bro leave that villager I beg you
In today's things that never happened
Krista sounds like she never got out of high school, mentally speaking.
Also, this is a case of ‘well well well, if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions.’
The looping background footage is annoying.
So, the last story, um. Maybe i wasnt paying enough attention but...why is she the asshole? It sounded like she wanted to help her husband. I dont recall much info about the Ex but even if she's fine and the husband is irrationally upset with her, to have the info of the ex dropped so close to the event sucks. They knew the info would be upsetting but chose to play "deal with or fuck off".
And yeah, maybe offering up casually the family are drunkards wasnt cool but Im struggling to see why she suck. :/
You were being bullied in college? Is that seriously a thing? That's such a childish thing to do.
Camping with small children the night before a wedding said children are supposed to participate in is absurd.
I really want to hear Krista's side of her story, did she really like him? Did she regret what she did? People change, wether it's for the worst or for the better, people do change.
No way Sandy would've come up with a shit eating grin if Krista told her the truth.
The HR should be fired. Gossiping about someone, no matter wether its right or wrong is not a big no no. The HR cant force people to keep quiet, its a comaony and not a dictatorship
Why don’t you play a real game?
Too distracting.
What's wrong with Minecraft?
Hey, I’ll take an actual Minecraft build any day over the same parkour crap everyone else does.
“ distinct buffaloe” ngl I laughed so hard
What the fuck is the gameplay? Just constantly smashing up a plinth.
I'll start by saying that Idk how much you know about Minecraft, so I'm just gonna explain it like you've never heard of it before. In Minecraft you can trade with Villagers for various items based on what "job" they have and to get said job they need a "work block." If you break the "work block" without trading with the Villager then it resets what items it will offer you. He wanted a specific trade from the Villager so he kept placing the block and then breaking it until it offered the item he wanted. (He does eventually get it and then does other stuff in case you didn't make it that far in the video)