Sometimes I think its hard to talk even to people who want to support us coz u want to see that u make others smile,I like making people happy so if I share again something "heavy" it means I'm being difficult again?(that s my thought).....I feel i disappoint others but I guess I'm the one who feels disappointment. I would say Reach out to someone, it does help talking to the right person...
There is no one I can ask for help from. That’s because the narcissist made it look like we were having an affair - which we weren’t! He spotted me at my mother’s community pool + decided to bully + intimidate me right out of my house, making me leave my husband, my yellow labby, Magenta, + my step granddaughter, who I helped raise for seven years. My husband never even tried to find out what was wrong. Surely he had to read the fear in my eyes. I was crying + in fear + he didn’t see it because he was too busy sitting in his chair, smoking weed. That was his life - he didn’t want to be inconvenienced!! So I had to go to family functions alone. He didn’t see the fear + I knew if I told him the truth he wouldn’t have believed me. So I’m now stuck because I’m upset about my reputation now. I never slept around in my life!
Thanks for sharing your story. Remember the phone number I gave you yesterday for Silent Evie, 1-816-969-2000. Also you should be seeing a counselor to help you cope with us
For the longest time i didn't, around the age of late 20s I found a little key of knowledge that i didn't try. I found I began the slightest start of healing when I open up and talked. I was ashamed of it. Now at the age 43 I find it is the number one thing I start doing when I feel an episode of depression coming on. I mean I am all out there vocally about my MDD, GAD ,PTSD...ect,,,.I will not shut up to someone who listens. When someone ask how I am,I tell the truth now....I'm doing good today....or today I am walking through hell. Then you will see with you spirit and soul all the love you get from others, even strangers! So it was hard..but know its allot easier.
Yes. And I challenged myself to reach out for help from supposed friends recently during one of the most stressful and difficult times of my life and got screwed, so obviously it's not just "negative self-talk" or "depression" telling me I have no value.
Wow! I keep thinking each video is the best, but this really rang a bell with me this morning, particularly depression is "an autoimmune disease of the soul" that's the way it feels a lot. I'm establishing a link with Rob - I send him little bits of poetry that I run across - also song lyrics that really are poetry - also recommended a great book "The Noonday Demon" by author and lifelong depression struggler, Andrew Solomon. He has RUclips videos on line too. It's an amazing book, really, heartfelt, very scholarly, 465 pages getting "to the root" which I am always after. Love, MADGE/NORMA DESMOND (Sunset Boulevard, my "go to" song
I read the book the noonday demon when it came out in 2001 and won the national book award. I have seen Andrew Solomons TEDTalks and I've read articles written by him. He's a genius
this is a good topic .... I wonder why is it for me ... some years ago when I was physically unwell and really needed , I asked for help .. but almost nobody helped ... I came out of it ... Since then I dont really ask for help .. because I dont think things have changed ...
I have this thoughts in my mind about past events that reoccurring and I overthink about them over and over until it feels right before i let go of them. This 'ritual' took up so much of my time and it is really hard and painful.
@@DouglasBloch no I haven't yet. Do I need to sir? Or can I still control this? I'm really afraid. Sir, i really appreciate that you were able to reply to me with this.
@@nicoleleuterio9094 if you think about it. No matter which way you slice it. Asking for professional help can't hurt if you spend most of your day feeling bad.
It is hard for me the ask for help. I have been depressed all my life. I'm also Lonely and on my own, and my close family don't understand. I think Men find it more difficult to seek help than Women. I continue living with the pain because I know no different. But would give anything to be free of this burden.
I’m sorry it has been hard to seek help. It is more difficult for men. However this organization can provide really good support for you. www.lionrockrecovery.com/online-aa-meetings-and-support-groups
I like the scrabble joke better! "What's the word on the street?" lol! 👍😅 YES. I hate asking for help! Part of my upbringing was my mom saying No one wants to know when you're not doing well, tell them you're OK and go to your room until you're in a better mood." SO hence not sharing, asking for help, and holding it all in until it went toxic and i had a mental breakdown when I was 32. I had been in and out of therapy and support groups before then, but that last one before I applied for disability (which I still don't get after 9 years of trying) was a doosie. I felt like part of me broke and disappeared while all y memories came flooding back that I was repressing for so long. what a mess that was. I'm on the right path now thankfully, but still go back to that need to hide my feelings and ask for help unless I'm DESPERATELY needing it. I guess I would fall under the category of "self sufficient" even though I've been finding out that I'm not because I didn't get better tools to cope with what I was dealing with at the time. Brains are weird things. Thank you for this video, gave me some brain fodder to chew on for a while! 👍🥰✌
Hi doug. I have been diagnosed with treatment resistant depression. I have tried ECT, many antidepressants ( excluding ketamine ). If ketamine doesn't work for me then what do you suggest for someone like me or should i still hold hope? How can i be helped to get better ? Or you reckon there is no help for me till death ?
@@DouglasBloch i have heard of TMS but never tried it. I will find out more about it. Thanks for your reply. I guess what you mean by neoplastic is that the brain can change/fix itself automatically even if everything fails. Is that true ??
I think especially for men it is expected - by our modern society - to solve our problems on our own and not ask for help. It's if asking for support, which means vulnerability and exposure, by a man is considered to be a weakness. When I'm really down I feel a burden to ask for support from my friends and family, or even MH professionals. So I don't. I have this silly believe that I have to solve my problems on my own. It happened a few times that my best friend asked me afterwards: 'Why did you not call me when you were so depressed? You could have come by and talked about your feelings.' I know he doesn't see it as a burden. But I do.
@Pulling the Strings I know what you mean. I'm dealing with substance abuse myself (alcohol and speed) and I hope I won't get old. It really saddens me to write that latter down but it's the truth. Anyway, I hope you will get better in the future.
I'm also trying to have a more positive future. In the meantime I'll take comfort from the thought that I always can setup an appointment with a piece of rope (my country has very strict gun laws so that 'exit strategy' is a no go LOL). Anyway, hang on man.
@Pulling the Strings 'Hang on' haha. I'm really fond of black humour so you made me smile for the first time today. Thanks mate :) I also wish the best in your journey. And as Douglas always says: 'this too shall pass'. Keep that in mind. Thank you for your kind words.
Yeah .. I need someone that cares about helping me .. I live in the Bronx and let me tell u that nobody really cares about helping they just want a check .. thank u I appreciate you taking the time to talk to me
It's all a defence mechanism, even sarcasm. "leave me alone so I can heal". And, a way to avoid being hurt even more.
I relate to this. Avoid to not be hurt more than I have.
Sometimes I think its hard to talk even to people who want to support us coz u want to see that u make others smile,I like making people happy so if I share again something "heavy" it means I'm being difficult again?(that s my thought).....I feel i disappoint others but I guess I'm the one who feels disappointment.
I would say Reach out to someone, it does help talking to the right person...
stay positive! we all feel down but just know that "this too shall pass" it sounds impossible.Just work on it it will get better! cheer up!
im upset right now.i just try really hard to stay focused! thank you and it means alot for the response!
@@robdyrdek9293 I'm sorry u feel upset. I wish u feel better soon.
I never ask for help until something happens and I have no choice but to seek help. That’s why I have so many issues right now. Physical and mental.
Maybe you can find ways to change that pattern
There is no one I can ask for help from. That’s because the narcissist made it look like we were having an affair - which we weren’t! He spotted me at my mother’s community pool + decided to bully + intimidate me right out of my house, making me leave my husband, my yellow labby, Magenta, + my step granddaughter, who I helped raise for seven years. My husband never even tried to find out what was wrong. Surely he had to read the fear in my eyes. I was crying + in fear + he didn’t see it because he was too busy sitting in his chair, smoking weed. That was his life - he didn’t want to be inconvenienced!! So I had to go to family functions alone. He didn’t see the fear + I knew if I told him the truth he wouldn’t have believed me. So I’m now stuck because I’m upset about my reputation now. I never slept around in my life!
Thanks for sharing your story. Remember the phone number I gave you yesterday for Silent Evie, 1-816-969-2000. Also you should be seeing a counselor to help you cope with us
Douglas Bloch Thank you so much! ❤️
By the way the name of the prayer ministry is Silent Unity
You are a mensch, Douglas! God bless you!!
Thanks Douglas for this amazing vedio 👌👍
Thanks Douglas
THANK YOU! 🙂❤️ Feels like it is easier to breath.
For the longest time i didn't, around the age of late 20s I found a little key of knowledge that i didn't try. I found I began the slightest start of healing when I open up and talked. I was ashamed of it. Now at the age 43 I find it is the number one thing I start doing when I feel an episode of depression coming on. I mean I am all out there vocally about my MDD, GAD ,PTSD...ect,,,.I will not shut up to someone who listens. When someone ask how I am,I tell the truth now....I'm doing good today....or today I am walking through hell. Then you will see with you spirit and soul all the love you get from others, even strangers! So it was hard..but know its allot easier.
Another great video Doug and we've seen an increase on the live chats which is great.
Yes. And I challenged myself to reach out for help from supposed friends recently during one of the most stressful and difficult times of my life and got screwed, so obviously it's not just "negative self-talk" or "depression" telling me I have no value.
Perhaps the problem was with them and not with you
Yes, i definitely find it hard. I have asked for help before and been knocked back so it has made me reluctant to reach out again.
I understand. Have you tried finding a compassionate therapist
@@DouglasBloch i have actually and it's helping,thank you. I have one who comes to the house as i'm chronically ill.
Your video titles often trigger the same instant thought:
_"Yes, and how did you know?"._ ☻
awesome! great tips sir! thank you!
Wow! I keep thinking each video is the best, but this really rang a bell with me this morning, particularly depression is "an autoimmune disease of the soul" that's the way it feels a lot. I'm establishing a link with Rob - I send him little bits of poetry that I run across - also song lyrics that really are poetry - also recommended a great book "The Noonday Demon" by author and lifelong depression struggler, Andrew Solomon. He has RUclips videos on line too. It's an amazing book, really, heartfelt, very scholarly, 465 pages getting "to the root" which I am always after. Love, MADGE/NORMA DESMOND (Sunset Boulevard, my "go to" song
I read the book the noonday demon when it came out in 2001 and won the national book award. I have seen Andrew Solomons TEDTalks and I've read articles written by him. He's a genius
this is a good topic .... I wonder why is it for me ... some years ago when I was physically unwell and really needed , I asked for help .. but almost nobody helped ... I came out of it ... Since then I dont really ask for help .. because I dont think things have changed ...
I’m sure you did not get help earlier. Have you ever thought of seeing a counselor or therapist
Douglas Bloch yes but it doesn’t work because it is complicated and reality of some ppl lives
I have this thoughts in my mind about past events that reoccurring and I overthink about them over and over until it feels right before i let go of them. This 'ritual' took up so much of my time and it is really hard and painful.
It sounds like you were ruminating. Have you reached out to Mental Health practitioner to help you change this habit
@@DouglasBloch no I haven't yet. Do I need to sir? Or can I still control this? I'm really afraid.
Sir, i really appreciate that you were able to reply to me with this.
@@nicoleleuterio9094 if you think about it. No matter which way you slice it. Asking for professional help can't hurt if you spend most of your day feeling bad.
Thank you sir
Hi Douglas. What are your thoughts on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Thank You.
I hear that is a very good technique
It is hard for me the ask for help. I have been depressed all my life. I'm also Lonely and on my own, and my close family don't understand. I think Men find it more difficult to seek help than Women.
I continue living with the pain because I know no different. But would give anything to be free of this burden.
I’m sorry it has been hard to seek help. It is more difficult for men. However this organization can provide really good support for you.
www.lionrockrecovery.com/online-aa-meetings-and-support-groups
I like the scrabble joke better! "What's the word on the street?" lol! 👍😅
YES. I hate asking for help! Part of my upbringing was my mom saying No one wants to know when you're not doing well, tell them you're OK and go to your room until you're in a better mood." SO hence not sharing, asking for help, and holding it all in until it went toxic and i had a mental breakdown when I was 32. I had been in and out of therapy and support groups before then, but that last one before I applied for disability (which I still don't get after 9 years of trying) was a doosie. I felt like part of me broke and disappeared while all y memories came flooding back that I was repressing for so long. what a mess that was. I'm on the right path now thankfully, but still go back to that need to hide my feelings and ask for help unless I'm DESPERATELY needing it. I guess I would fall under the category of "self sufficient" even though I've been finding out that I'm not because I didn't get better tools to cope with what I was dealing with at the time.
Brains are weird things.
Thank you for this video, gave me some brain fodder to chew on for a while! 👍🥰✌
GOOD VIDEO
Nice to see you yesterday
If you are a uber driver and you live in your car do you work from home.
Hi doug. I have been diagnosed with treatment resistant depression. I have tried ECT, many antidepressants ( excluding ketamine ). If ketamine doesn't work for me then what do you suggest for someone like me or should i still hold hope? How can i be helped to get better ? Or you reckon there is no help for me till death ?
There is always help. The brain is neoplastic and can change. Have you ever heard of TMS?
@@DouglasBloch i have heard of TMS but never tried it. I will find out more about it. Thanks for your reply. I guess what you mean by neoplastic is that the brain can change/fix itself automatically even if everything fails. Is that true ??
I think especially for men it is expected - by our modern society - to solve our problems on our own and not ask for help. It's if asking for support, which means vulnerability and exposure, by a man is considered to be a weakness.
When I'm really down I feel a burden to ask for support from my friends and family, or even MH professionals. So I don't. I have this silly believe that I have to solve my problems on my own. It happened a few times that my best friend asked me afterwards: 'Why did you not call me when you were so depressed? You could have come by and talked about your feelings.' I know he doesn't see it as a burden. But I do.
@Pulling the Strings I know what you mean. I'm dealing with substance abuse myself (alcohol and speed) and I hope I won't get old. It really saddens me to write that latter down but it's the truth. Anyway, I hope you will get better in the future.
I'm also trying to have a more positive future. In the meantime I'll take comfort from the thought that I always can setup an appointment with a piece of rope (my country has very strict gun laws so that 'exit strategy' is a no go LOL). Anyway, hang on man.
@Pulling the Strings 'Hang on' haha. I'm really fond of black humour so you made me smile for the first time today. Thanks mate :) I also wish the best in your journey. And as Douglas always says: 'this too shall pass'. Keep that in mind. Thank you for your kind words.
I wish you were my therapist 😢
I have a habit of shaking my head and continue shaking for 1,2 seconds
How to stop this? This is quite annoying
Talk to your doctor
I need help
There are many mental health professionals out there you can reach out to
Yeah .. I need someone that cares about helping me .. I live in the Bronx and let me tell u that nobody really cares about helping they just want a check .. thank u I appreciate you taking the time to talk to me
😉