I have spent a lot of time in China and I will say this is spot on. If you meet a Chinese woman that is the opposite of what is said in this video.......run away fast 🤣🤣🤣
Agree. Chinese are fake. They can put on a smile and pretend to be nice but all they are concerned with is money and themselves. Don't get sucked in. You could be a nice guy but often that doesn't mean a thing to them.
1. You're missing out. ;-) 2. Most of the tips in this video apply to relationships globally, not just in China. So, if you're under the impression that this sounds like a nightmare, maybe a blow-up doll would be more your speed.
@@johnqpublic4012 Actually he just dodged a major bullet. Over 100 Million Chinese women are now considered "leftover". If their own men will not marry them why should some "sucker" foreigner?
My experience is most of this is BS or at the very least naive. Chinese women are mostly interested in three things that being money, money, and money.
@@RidleyHolmes-sr2tw So it´s like in Euope and East Europe. Wome loves Money more than Man. lol. So i will stay as a Single it´s better and you have less Problems.
1. Chase 2. Let her make the first move for intimacy 3. Pay for everything 4. Don't disrespect the family( even if they disrespect you and talk shit about you) 5. Don't ghost her if you don't like her no more. Just be upfront 6. Run away if she's not traditional, and is a slut 7. Whatever you do will never be good enough. You have to be on point all day everyday. Got it 👍🏽
Living in China and married to a Chines woman for 16 years and I agree with the both of you. But............. there are also exceptions to the rules I know....
100% - but remember western culture now is very fractured and what is known to men in the third world is unknown to westerners. They are no longer providers, their women have way too much freedom and western men's mother's are not in a position to impart the fundamentals of female culture important everywhere else as they gave it up in exchange for women's "rights" (female speaking).
I married one when (and I'm still in the same position) having no money at all. She is very cute actually. Good looking AND friendly, smart and evolved in a interesting way. And so are our two daughters..... Having lived in China for 16 years now, and having a lot of female Chinese friends I must say that a lot of them (but it probably has to do with the circles I move in) are quite open, outspoken and touchy. Hippies actually haha. Good looking modern hippies.
And western women are different???? Need examples??? Happy to supply. A man will always be a walking wallet (not for me personally as I've always looked after myself) to most women - it is hardwired into female culture.
I am married to a Hong Kong lady that i met when i was a young gwaijai living in Hong Kong. She was quite conservative, and was very beautiful. We are married for 34 years. I am the provider of our family. She moved to my country where we got married. She is quite western thinking now.
I’m glad this video popped up in my feed from the algorithm. I’m always curious to learn how other cultures court/date. You are a straight shooter! Subscribed!
In China…. Love = (always) is about two hearts meeting in a space made of cooperation, mutual-respect, caring & sharing. Sex = is (mostly) about “a loving gift”. There may be some variations about this… to each their own. MOSTLY, when we care about the other person, we’re glad that they’re happy. That makes us happy too. Two can be happy… three can be happy… two billion can be happy.. And the whole Earth can be happy too!!!!!
This is very good advice Miss Jo Moon. I have been married to a Chinese woman for 20 years and I am still learning about her culture from the Chinese medicine that often seems to work for her but not me to the foods she eats and the family ties. She is on the phone with her sisters every day but if they are together they fight like cats and dogs. It took me awhile to get used to no affection in public even after all these years. I laughed at your reference to the little brother. And of course there is never 50/50. I was not raised that way. The man always pays.
Re Chinese medicine... I bust my neck in a motor accident a long time ago. I was experiencing constant pain. One of my customers/associates in Hong Kong was a TCM practitioner. He gave me awful, in the sense of puke/shitting, awful medicine to drink, and spent 3 months manipulating my spine and neck. Never felt better.
@Arnold Seay Chinese medicine appears to work on her and doesn't work at all on you because she is far more culturally conditioned to believe it works - classic placebo effect. I was in a relationship with a Chinese girl and her mother who practiced traditional Chinese medicine decided she wanted to break us up, and sewed in my ex's supposedly PhD level supposedly scientific brain that I would die in my 50's of heart disease no matter what I do with my health because I have a mole on my nose. My then girlfriend then dissolved into irrationality and couldn't be reasoned with. It was like her parents did a system reset on her and wiped out the personality of the girl I knew and loved. Also, she broke up with me on the phone by phrasing it as wanting to 'take a break', and then ghosted me.
Very good advice. I especially like the part about not expecting to go dutch with her. Men seem to forget that part of male attractiveness is our ability to garner resources and show that we are good providers. Especially in a country like China were men and women have very well defined gender roles. When I was dating in Shenzhen I noticed that women will occasionally pay for stuff but the ratio is not fifty fifty. For every 5 dates I paid for they would pay for 1. And I was happy to pay because China has so many smart, beautiful young women that are super eager to date foreign men. C'mon guys, don't be 小气！😅
WOW! YOU HAVE NAILED THIS! GREAT ADVICE! DO NOT DISREPECT HER CULTURE AND FAMILY! IT SPEAKS TO THE TRUE FEELINGS OF HER SUITOR. I ALWAYS MADE MY DECISION OF WHO I DATE LONG TERM BY WATCHING HOW SHE TREATS HER FAMILY ESPECIALLY HER PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS.
THE VALUES YOU TALK ABOUT IN CHINESE CULTURE RELATIVE TO DATING A WOMAN IN CHINA ARE TRADITONAL BUILDING BLOCKS OF CREATING A STRONG FOUNDATION FOR LOVE. I AGREE THAT GHOSTING on both sides is the act of an immature coward! A scorned woman can be something a man is not prepared to deal with...so keep it real from the very start. CREATING FRIENDSHIP FIRST IS THE BEST WAY TO DEVEOPING A RELATIONSHIP WHETHER YOU STAY IN IT TOGTHER...OR DECIDE TO GO SEPARATE WAYS! JO I SUGGEST THAT YOU DO NOT MEETME. YOU MAY NOT REMAIN SINGLE! HAHA!
I concur with the part about not coming on too strong and being aggressive too fast. My family is from Puerto Rico. In the Caribbean we are very outward and affectionate with one another, even in the beginning of a relationship. I dated a nice woman from china and I think I pushed her away as I was too quick to try to 'seduce' her. She liked me for sure. But I did not understand the differences in our culture. We as Hispanic men are expected to be aggressive from the beginning. I guess this is a difference in culture. Although I find Chinese women to be stunning I may have to just stick to my own kind going forward. Still, a very nice video, thank you very much!
@@worldview730 Perhaps so. I'd love to give it a go with a good woman from China. I like their family values and femininity. Where I live in central Flordia, there are not may opportunities. I'm hoping to spend some time travelling in Asia in the next couple of years, so that may change. Thanks for the comment.
@Realrichar They are definitely attracted to Hispanic men, but you have to be able to engage in conversations and show that you value hard work. Intelligence helps a lot because they are well educated.
Helpful thanks. Your advice - don't get into a relationship with a Chinese woman if you don't want to get married, is interesting. I wasn't sure I did at first, but we did go down that path, and living in China with our kid... although rocky, is working out.
I went to China in 2018 after I met a Chinese woman online for the past 3 years. When I went to see her and want to spend 2 weeks, the first 12 hours she didn't want anything to do with me and has no feelings with me. That was like a shock to me. I thought we could try for the next 2 days and see how that goes. But she changed and gets mad at me for unimportant things and shouts at me. She started to keep her distance from me and spends time with her friends. After being in China for first 4 days and no fellowship with me at all, I reluctantly decided to pack up my suitcases, give no gifts I had prepared for her, and leave China the next day. I was fed up with her treating me like an outcast. She's the worst Chinese woman I have ever met in China. So she gets nothing from me, because she DID nothing for me.
Interesting. Lets not change the definition of gold diggers based on the amount of money men have in their bank account. Gold digging can be small money or big money. It all comes down to the “intentions” of any lady from any country. If the intentions are extracting resources as a way to “use” that person she’s simply is a gold digger. As a person who’s well traveled. Women would go on many dates to get their food paid for. Therefore saving her own income without the intentions of forming something serious. Ive also know women that would ask for $50 which isn’t a lot but when she’s doing that with 50 other men, $50 turns out to be a lot especially in a foreign country that’s less expensive. As far as splitting the bill, it depends on her views and values. If she’s a feminist, there’s no way in hell im paying 100% of everything, we splitting the bill regardless if she’s Chinese, White, Latina, Indian, Middle Eastern, Native American etc. Me paying for the bill, she’s gotta be traditional as you mentioned in the video. Which means 1. Cooperative 2. Submissive 3. Feminine 4. Fit 5. Friendly As you mentioned in your other video, not all women are submissive. Well, if im paying for everything while she gets to keep all of her money…she better be all 5 things on that list. No way im taking care of someone who is masculine, loud, bossy, non cooperative, and not submissive My point here is “women can’t have it both ways”. They must pick and choose one or the other. They want traditional men, then we expect them to be traditional too. They want to be feminists, then feminists men expects splitting the bill 50/50 Thanks for the video
I 100% agree with the ghosting part. Experienced it once and it really sucks. I'm not against a break up, it's good and nobody's time is wasted. But breaking by ghosting or almost ghosting is a waste of time for the other and also such an asshole move. Men, women, don't ever do that pls
All great advice. I am from the states and I've been married to my Chinese wife for almost 28 years now! We met in the States while she was a MBA student and have been living in China for 26 of those years with no intention of changing anything. Enjoy life
Interesting, I've noticed that Chinese women are conservative. Especially traditional Chinese women. I've watched plenty of Chinese TV shows and movies. For example, I've watched the excellent TV series Romance Of The Three Kingdoms and the interactions between husband and wife were loving, but conservative. For example,Zhou You and his wife Xaio Qiao didn't kiss each other or were too touchy. I admire Chinese culture, and it's so beautiful. I study a lot of Chinese culture, also am learning Chinese. If I'm taking a woman out on a date, I'm paying.
I pay simply because it's me who plan the date and I want to go to the places I want to go without caring if she has the money for it or not! 🤷🏻♂️ that was always my approach! I do appreciate the women helping since that translates as us being able to spend more time together and going to more places! But that's is when seriousness goes up!
11:38 Yes I absolutely agree on your statement about ghosting and how it is, in your words, disgusting and brutal. What's even more disturbing is how some people actually champion this type of behavior and offer no sympathy, support, or assuagement--yet they're so quick to tell you things like "nobody owes you anything", "nobody cares about your feelings", "you need to just get over it and move on", etc. To say the least I find it to be very highly disturbing and it royally pisses me off. It seems to be very rare when I find a woman that's actually honest about her intentions instead of being petty and ghosting, which I personally believe is rooted in deception and not to mention, childish as all hell.
Based on my experience, this is all rock-solid advice…sorry though I am to say it. I wish I had seen this years ago, because nearly all of this was learned the hard way. The last chunk of advice in here I would do anyway, but good to know.
Yeah, but if you're married to a Chinese women; like me, you're fully aware of the strength of culture, and stereotypes. For instance *"love."* Regardless of however much, however desired, under no circumstances, will she ever espouse to her mother *"I love you."* We live in Japan, she has a phenomenal, career, and spending money on me is an addiction for her, so I'm not referencing the money topic, there are many, MANY taboos (like spending money on men) that no matter how much she dissagrees, no matter how much she desires, will under no circumstances do it. If Chinese women are unwilling to spend money on their spouse there's no changing it.
if my wife ever dumps me, I'll have to revisit this video...lol. your humor is much appreciated, regardless of the subject. it makes it more interesting. stay well...wife says hi.
I would add a couple of things here. It is natural for them to want to married up but no one bother to tell them its not an equal relationships but the Jo said roles are well established. Secondly, watch out for them pushing towards wanting to live in your Western country. The motivation may not be pure as it seems.
Guys Rule1. Never take dating advice from any woman from any culture. Rule 2. Don't get married ever. Rule 3. Don't date ed thewomen past 25. Rule 4. Rinse and Repeat
I want to say something about the so called traditionalism and Chinese girls being conservative. Once a Chinese friend told me that Chinese women often just pretend to be very conservative where in reality they actually aren't. He said that he hates this game and that he is fed up with it. I have experienced a lot of things during these years in China and I really cannot say that Chinese girls are conservative tbh. On the contrary, they are quite open, especially if they like you. My ex gf for example had s.. with me on the second date. And she is not the only one. Maybe I was just lucky, idk. but I think I agree with what my Chinese friend told me. It's a secret that a lot of people don't know. Or maybe it's just that people in my side are more open.
Basically, not only in China but almost all over the world at the exception of about 1-2%, marriage destroys love. Love switches to another type of relationship, especially if there are kids included.
But "love" itself needs to be questioned. It has been reinvented by the west over the last 65 years and is a feigned feeling these days intertwined with "lust" which obviously does not last.
Her Mother is a Supremely Key Figure >>>> if her Mother doesn't like you,[ approve of you ] it's over. "I love you she said, but how can I spend the rest of my life making My Mother Unhappy."
My wife of 22 years is a traditional Filipina. However, she is mixed race, a tiny bit of Filipino blood, 1/4 Spanish and 75% Chinese. A lot of what you said applies to many Filipinas as well. There are some differences, but a lot of what you said fit my better half like a glove.
My Chinese wife, if we split the expenses, after a while, in her mind it becomes she is paying for everything (and I am paying “nothing” even if I keep up my half).
im french Canadian and i had so many issue with my chinese gf, about talking China government, the soup with head fishes, keep my shoes inside the house, ect. We are in Canada but she wants to live like in China and when im the only one canadian in the group i know they are talking about my way of living 😆
Greetings from a Canadian in Chinese Singapore for years now. Why would you diss her gov't when yours is 10X worse? One nation is excelling and rising while the other is regressing and falling.
I’m an old fashion American guy I met a girl in hong Kong years ago, thought I was in love unfortunately my ship sailed and never seen her again,wouldn’t mind mtg a Chinese gal now. Just not sure where I’d meet her living in farm town USA. I really appreciate the old fashioned traditional values and culture. China is also very beautiful.
I'm on Jo's channel marathon. I can say unequivocally that all the values she outlined are pretty much African and Middle Eastern values when it comes to relationships and marriage. The West lost these values, not 'cos they're not ideal or desired but 'cos the West has "advanced" whatever that is 😊.
I heard that Chinese women end relationships by ghosting and that it is common. I had a relationship with a Chinese woman and she brutally ghosted me multiple times.
Thank you for this video. I am 58 yrs old, own my own business, but I have nowhere the worth of the 53 yr old Chinese lady I am dating. I can afford luxury restaurants, trips and never go 50/50 and won't. She does bring this up that she has to have a wealthier man, but the friends and lovers relationship is definitely on the table, and its moving in that direction, we really hit it off. Here is the thing, I understand that the likelihood of me finding a model 20 years younger than me are about the same of her finding a wealthy man in a big city at 53 years old who isn't wearing diapers (she's attractive and thin but not multi multi-millionaire attractive) Does reality sink in with Chinese women in these situations? She obviously finds me attractive and fun and we connect. But the likelihood of finding that combined package is like winning lotto. Just curious how you see this?
@@JoMoon Thanks for the reply. I agree, she is very straight forward about this. Fortunately at this stage in my life I am secure in myself and accept things as they are. My only 2 rules with her are that I am treated with respect and when we are going out, it's as a couple and that's about it.. (I blew her off when she was making the point that she has to be with a wealthy man and that she is open to more than friends...she came back and I adjusted my expectations). I've never dated Chinese women and I actually appreciate the blunt directness. I kind of feel sorry for her in a way, she is quite wealthy and the pool of the "someone better's" is very very small at this age and getting smaller. She has wealthy suitors but she can't stand them and we keep going out. It's all good as long as I know the rules though.
I met a Chinese lady at a work place we both worked for. We became friends and would go out for lunch time walks, that was over 20 years ago. More recently I called her for a dinner and movie date and we had a great night, we have been together since. She is separated from her husband for 4 years and does not want to talk about divorce, I can tell she still loves him in some way. This is ok for me, if she goes back to him, their family will be together again which would be great for them. Right now I'm taking advantage of the fun with her. No strings.
Very well done, I was struck by the many similarities between women’s feelings and beliefs to those in the US. S few unique to China, but people are more alike than different!! Of course there always men that do not understand basic human emotions.
I noticed most Chinese ladies think a lot about money and material goods. Most of my male Chinese friends could never find a GF unless they owned a home and had a nice car. These were smart and decently handsome guys with good jobs. It was heartbreaking to see them get raked over the coals by the ladies😕
This is a pragmatic way of doing things but when there is a demographic shift and men are less plentiful than now I doubt that this advice would be given. Incidentally, in some western countries and other Oriental ones it is considered to be impolite to continually touch ones own face.
Ghosting is the worst. This happened to me twice within a few months, once with a Western girl, once with a Latina girl. Now, I am talking for hours every day with a wonderful, beautiful, warm and smart Chinese girl. She is so strong and smart, but also very sweet and feminine. Oh, she is very feminine! Wow. She seems perfect. I have never had a relationship with a Chinese girl before. No-one else can compare to her.
Women are the same everywhere. After the initial attraction they are driven to get 3 things from the man. 1, wealth (money) 2, Status (prestige) 3, utilitarian value (what can he do for me).
Our biggest problem is the yelling and raising of her voice quickly when only regular talking is possible. When she starts raising her voice then the fight begins. She cannot stop this. My Chinese mother-in-law from mainland China always disrespected me by also raising her voice and yelling. She does what she wants and not listen to me, although she lives in my house in America.
@@jasonleong6791, but my in-laws are here as our guests.They came for a visit but couldn't go back to China because of COVID. They do what they want and don't respect what I want . I told them to not touch a clogged kitchen drain cause I tried to unclog the drain but couldn't so I called a plumber. But even after I told them not to touch the pipes, they took apart the drain pipes and started sticking a rod into the pipes that go into the back cabinet walls. I do plumbing cause I have several apartment rentals. They could have broken the pipes and then I would need to tear into the walls to get to the pipes. They don't listen and they do what they want. They don't want to lose face and they think that they are smarter than us, I notice. No, I won't stand for that disrespect. If they stay here, they have to learn our culture, and not push their culture upon us here. You're in another country and you got to respect how we do things here. When they are back in China then they can act any way they are accustomed to. Also, I've learned that Chinese moms think they the whole family is their matriarch. No way here in America. Sorry. They are bossy but they aren't going to boss me in my home. I had to get a therapist to talk to her and me to resolve our conflict. Then she changed. But now again she slowly changing to how she was before. Call the therapist again!! I told her not to go into the neighbor's yard and steal their fruits but she still goes into their yard and take their fruits. See what I mean when I say she doesn't respect or doesn't listen to me. I am embarrassed. There are more stories that I won't go into. I have a college stepdaughter and 4 year old boy and I don't want my kids to become like her - yelling at people , disrespect others , not listening to authority. Terrible character to me. I am a Japanese American living in Hawaii, in case you wondered.
I dated a divorced chinese women in America for 2 years - She dumped me because I was NOT rich - She once said that at my age 54 I should have at least $ 5 Million Dollars in the bank - I would not recommend to any male to date a chinese women.
Jo have you ever eaten Cod tongues, cod heads, or britches (Ovarian of the cod) Taste like sausage. ? There are some areas of western culture that have similarities. We didn't waste much because of being poor. My dad grew up on wild animals, like rabbits, moose, caribou, and tur (almost like Peking Duck). So he past it down to us. Our older culture carries the same thing some of China carries with family. In my province, there were no roads until the mid '60s. We lived on an island. Mostly fishing. Communities were all on the coastline. So everyone had to get along. There were no planes, trains, no police (They had rangers who did everything, just one in the community), or hospitals far away. I have already met a beautiful girl from Chongqing. I mentioned this to you already I know. I love listening to your videos. Thank You for the tips.
@@JoMoon Thanks Jo. My Great grandmother was a Canadian Eskimo Northern Dweller. (Inuit - Native). I have a picture of her wearing her seal boots and coat. Our ancestors came from the Mongolian area. They traveled across Canada's North to the far east of Canada. You can tell by our dark thick eyebrows. Just like China when our fishing was decimated. People moved into the city for work. My mom still lives on the island. I know if you lived in a rural area of China you would have loved our island. If you seen my dad you would say he looks Chinese.
I get there are a lot of simps in the West looking for women they get give money to and do whatever the woman wants. But are there really that many simps who want to be abused so much they would goes to China to look for that when their are so many women in Thailand, Philippines and even Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos. I get that Chinese will be really good at bossing you around the the bonus of her mom bossing you around too. Just hard for me to believe there are that many hardcore simps willing to live in China.
Having dated or had relationships with maybe 400 women over my lifetime, if not more, I can attest that Jo Moon is spot on with these tips, even as relates to American men and how they treat American women. It is really sad how here in the U.S. the new generations of American men haven't got a clue about what it takes to a proper man to the ladies. For example, when I was young I watched my dad each and every time open my mom's door for her to enter and exist the car. One time my mom opened her door, my dad chewed her out he was so upset. Said something like "I open your door, always." Yeah, my mom never did that again. What was she thinking. I have always open the lady's door. And like my dad I have to stop some women when they start to open the door themselves. Just a small example guys, read up and watch RUclips on how to treat your women.
11 years into the marriage to a Chinese woman at this point. It's time to learn all this! Seriously, most of this advice is common sense. However, I get that some people still need to hear it.
Well as a Nordic guy I found these values somewhat toxic. My girlfriend is Chinese and even if I do make like 3 times more in my country than average person does my girlfriend makes more money. I don't mind paying in the restaurant but I certainly did not understand Jo's argument. My Chinese girlfriend takes me on date for super expensive dine fining place that she is used to and I look bad for trying to make it 50/50? It just does not make any sense. Jo asks "why she should date you, tell me why?" - Well ask her, she is chasing me... I don't mind at all because she is so sweet and gorgeous. I still don't understand the logic paying dates if someone is making much more money than me and setting the standards as she please. Then pay for the damn standards as well.
They will try to get your money. Disputes are handled by the Family, if complaints filed,the police will take your passport until you reach an agreement. The system is slanted heavily against foreigners.
I will say I try to avoid dating Chinese women. Like 98% of the ones I have met or dated will go to ridiculous lengths to scam men and it seems okay because the ends justifies the means. It's textbook Chinese culture to do this and it makes dating these women incredibly difficult. I've just found it very tough to meet an asian women who loves me for me, and not because of the opportunities I make available to her. That and they cheat a lot too.
I tried to date a Chinese university professor. She told me I was unacceptable because I did not have social status at least equal to her. She didn't seem too concerned about money, but education level and social status were extremely important.
"Some guys are just so delusional these days about the gold digger crap" err... Personally, I would be willing to pay for all the dates and courtship and that is fine, I respect that culture but even if I was the richest man in the world, I would still need to know that my girlfriend / fiancé /spouse would still love me even If I was poor. The moment I suspected that she cared more about the money than she did about me, I would immediately show her the door. Any woman that cares more about the money is unworthy. Ditch them and find somebody better. Good luck finding real love. If money is more important to you, then I doubt that you ever will.
You know what?.. I have an exgf who's half filipina and half chinese.. one thing I had learned about Chinese culture, they are very strict to dating non Chinese man.. it means,they are so prejudice.. after I broke up with my xgf, I don't know if I'll date another Chinese woman again..
If girls want men to 'take care of them physically and financially', what does she do with all the money she makes? Even if the guy makes much less, he needs to support her -- even if she is wealthy on her own? Makes no sense.
I have spent a lot of time in China and I will say this is spot on. If you meet a Chinese woman that is the opposite of what is said in this video.......run away fast 🤣🤣🤣
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Chinese women only care about your status and your net worth.
Run away, fast
Do you think a Chinese woman would be willing to wait for you if you had to stop communications for a while and have a good reason?
As long as the man is rich he will be alright and be accepted 😊😊
Agree. Chinese are fake. They can put on a smile and pretend to be nice but all they are concerned with is money and themselves. Don't get sucked in. You could be a nice guy but often that doesn't mean a thing to them.
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That is what my rich Chinese said to me
Like American Express...rich men are accepted everywhere 🙂
@@andrewglover9608 correct
Chinese women sounds like an absolute nightmare. I think Ill avoid Chinese women - thanks for the warnings.
1. You're missing out. ;-) 2. Most of the tips in this video apply to relationships globally, not just in China. So, if you're under the impression that this sounds like a nightmare, maybe a blow-up doll would be more your speed.
@@johnqpublic4012 Actually he just dodged a major bullet. Over 100 Million Chinese women are now considered "leftover". If their own men will not marry them why should some "sucker" foreigner?
Chinese women are awesome. They are loyal, supportive, and caring. You just have to know how to navigate the culture.
My experience is most of this is BS or at the very least naive. Chinese women are mostly interested in three things that being money, money, and money.
And don't forget money.
@@RidleyHolmes-sr2tw So it´s like in Euope and East Europe. Wome loves Money more than Man. lol. So i will stay as a Single it´s better and you have less Problems.
@@RidleyHolmes-sr2tw and always remember money
"most women marry up especially in Asia". I would say that applies to women in every culture.
What happens when the wife makes more money that you?
@@user-uw8be4tb9i she marries down lor
@@user-uw8be4tb9i Then she's no longer "your" wife.
@@shin-ishikiri-no Really?? My wife is a model and makes more money. At least on the yearly salary side.
1. Chase
2. Let her make the first move for intimacy
3. Pay for everything
4. Don't disrespect the family( even if they disrespect you and talk shit about you)
5. Don't ghost her if you don't like her no more. Just be upfront
6. Run away if she's not traditional, and is a slut
7. Whatever you do will never be good enough. You have to be on point all day everyday.
Got it 👍🏽
I've been married to my wife, who is from China, for nine years and I think this woman is right about everything she said.
Living in China and married to a Chines woman for 16 years and I agree with the both of you.
But............. there are also exceptions to the rules I know....
What she says can be applied to any woman really.
USA is bad and motherland is glorious? too?
As a central european, I find it rather odd that these points have to be explained to westerners. It should be just common sense.
100% - but remember western culture now is very fractured and what is known to men in the third world is unknown to westerners. They are no longer providers, their women have way too much freedom and western men's mother's are not in a position to impart the fundamentals of female culture important everywhere else as they gave it up in exchange for women's "rights" (female speaking).
That's just what I was thinking.
Although there are differences.
Most of this seems to be common sense.
I love this woman's honesty. She is sharing nuggets about her culture.
So any guy who is not at least upper middle class should give up on marrying a Chinese woman. Got it
I married one when (and I'm still in the same position) having no money at all.
She is very cute actually. Good looking AND friendly, smart and evolved in a interesting way.
And so are our two daughters..... Having lived in China for 16 years now, and having a lot of female Chinese friends I must say that a lot of them (but it probably has to do with the circles I move in) are quite open, outspoken and touchy. Hippies actually haha. Good looking modern hippies.
Why do you want to marry a 🐕 eater in the first place anyway?? 🤣
@@marcjacobscontinued9411 Please help a brother
Abuse the fact that they think all foreigners are rich. Have a lot of sex and gtfo to the next one.
I have been around Chinese women and they have always acted nice,but they also like your money more then they like you.
Absolutely.
Truth!
Fact.
All money, not just your money
And western women are different???? Need examples??? Happy to supply. A man will always be a walking wallet (not for me personally as I've always looked after myself) to most women - it is hardwired into female culture.
I am married to a Hong Kong lady that i met when i was a young gwaijai living in Hong Kong. She was quite conservative, and was very beautiful. We are married for 34 years. I am the provider of our family. She moved to my country where we got married. She is quite western thinking now.
I’m glad this video popped up in my feed from the algorithm. I’m always curious to learn how other cultures court/date. You are a straight shooter! Subscribed!
So basically skip the Chinese option unless they are westernized.
Due to dating my Chinese girlfriend for 3 years now, everything this woman says is true
*In that case, are you happy with the situation?*
@@alexnelson9512 why would I be with her if I wasn’t happy 🙄
@@worldview730 this makes no sense whatsoever and has nothing to do with what I said.
It was not for you@@neilwadden1749
Three years and no ring?
Red flag
She's your place holder
In China…. Love = (always) is about two hearts meeting in a space made of cooperation, mutual-respect, caring & sharing. Sex = is (mostly) about “a loving gift”. There may be some variations about this… to each their own. MOSTLY, when we care about the other person, we’re glad that they’re happy. That makes us happy too. Two can be happy… three can be happy… two billion can be happy.. And the whole Earth can be happy too!!!!!
Until a Chinese woman takes revenge on you!
This is really good advice and a great video. Ms. Moon is considerate and giving advice, not manipulation. Thanks.
The best advice if you want to date with a chinese: DONT.
This is very good advice Miss Jo Moon. I have been married to a Chinese woman for 20 years and I am still learning about her culture from the Chinese medicine that often seems to work for her but not me to the foods she eats and the family ties. She is on the phone with her sisters every day but if they are together they fight like cats and dogs. It took me awhile to get used to no affection in public even after all these years. I laughed at your reference to the little brother. And of course there is never 50/50. I was not raised that way. The man always pays.
It is a pleasure to read your comments like usual, it depicts “a wise thoughtful gentleman who is living a happy life with his Chinese wife.”
Re Chinese medicine... I bust my neck in a motor accident a long time ago. I was experiencing constant pain. One of my customers/associates in Hong Kong was a TCM practitioner. He gave me awful, in the sense of puke/shitting, awful medicine to drink, and spent 3 months manipulating my spine and neck. Never felt better.
@Arnold Seay Chinese medicine appears to work on her and doesn't work at all on you because she is far more culturally conditioned to believe it works - classic placebo effect. I was in a relationship with a Chinese girl and her mother who practiced traditional Chinese medicine decided she wanted to break us up, and sewed in my ex's supposedly PhD level supposedly scientific brain that I would die in my 50's of heart disease no matter what I do with my health because I have a mole on my nose. My then girlfriend then dissolved into irrationality and couldn't be reasoned with. It was like her parents did a system reset on her and wiped out the personality of the girl I knew and loved.
Also, she broke up with me on the phone by phrasing it as wanting to 'take a break', and then ghosted me.
_So much for women wanting "equality" - they do (equal pay) and they don't (equal pay out). Nice and clever._
Very good advice. I especially like the part about not expecting to go dutch with her. Men seem to forget that part of male attractiveness is our ability to garner resources and show that we are good providers. Especially in a country like China were men and women have very well defined gender roles. When I was dating in Shenzhen I noticed that women will occasionally pay for stuff but the ratio is not fifty fifty. For every 5 dates I paid for they would pay for 1. And I was happy to pay because China has so many smart, beautiful young women that are super eager to date foreign men. C'mon guys, don't be 小气！😅
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What happens if a 38 year Asian celebrity is dating a 20 year old Chinese Atmosphere Model from China . Does the rules still apply?
WOW! YOU HAVE NAILED THIS! GREAT ADVICE! DO NOT DISREPECT HER CULTURE AND FAMILY! IT SPEAKS TO THE TRUE FEELINGS OF HER SUITOR. I ALWAYS MADE MY DECISION OF WHO I DATE LONG TERM BY WATCHING HOW SHE TREATS HER FAMILY ESPECIALLY HER PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS.
👍👍 Very good point Craig!
THE VALUES YOU TALK ABOUT IN CHINESE CULTURE RELATIVE TO DATING A WOMAN IN CHINA ARE TRADITONAL BUILDING BLOCKS OF CREATING A STRONG FOUNDATION FOR LOVE. I AGREE THAT GHOSTING on both sides is the act of an immature coward! A scorned woman can be something a man is not prepared to deal with...so keep it real from the very start. CREATING FRIENDSHIP FIRST IS THE BEST WAY TO DEVEOPING A RELATIONSHIP WHETHER YOU STAY IN IT TOGTHER...OR DECIDE TO GO SEPARATE WAYS!
JO I SUGGEST THAT YOU DO NOT MEETME. YOU MAY NOT REMAIN SINGLE! HAHA!
I concur with the part about not coming on too strong and being aggressive too fast. My family is from Puerto Rico. In the Caribbean we are very outward and affectionate with one another, even in the beginning of a relationship. I dated a nice woman from china and I think I pushed her away as I was too quick to try to 'seduce' her. She liked me for sure. But I did not understand the differences in our culture. We as Hispanic men are expected to be aggressive from the beginning. I guess this is a difference in culture. Although I find Chinese women to be stunning I may have to just stick to my own kind going forward. Still, a very nice video, thank you very much!
You said "A" Chinese woman. There are over a billion Chinese, sure you didn't meet a different type of woman
@@worldview730 Perhaps so. I'd love to give it a go with a good woman from China. I like their family values and femininity. Where I live in central Flordia, there are not may opportunities. I'm hoping to spend some time travelling in Asia in the next couple of years, so that may change. Thanks for the comment.
Your right, good point, go with your gut. @@felixortiz5981
Same here bro, I’ve taken Chinese classses and as a Mexican idk if Chinese women are attracted to Hispanics
@Realrichar They are definitely attracted to Hispanic men, but you have to be able to engage in conversations and show that you value hard work. Intelligence helps a lot because they are well educated.
Good quality conversation, very informative, enjoyed the speech, greetings from England.
Helpful thanks. Your advice - don't get into a relationship with a Chinese woman if you don't want to get married, is interesting.
I wasn't sure I did at first, but we did go down that path, and living in China with our kid... although rocky, is working out.
Lovely
I found this cogent, wise, and smart for any relationship and most civil cultures.
I went to China in 2018 after I met a Chinese woman online for the past 3 years. When I went to see her and want to spend 2 weeks, the first 12 hours she didn't want anything to do with me and has no feelings with me. That was like a shock to me. I thought we could try for the next 2 days and see how that goes. But she changed and gets mad at me for unimportant things and shouts at me. She started to keep her distance from me and spends time with her friends. After being in China for first 4 days and no fellowship with me at all, I reluctantly decided to pack up my suitcases, give no gifts I had prepared for her, and leave China the next day. I was fed up with her treating me like an outcast. She's the worst Chinese woman I have ever met in China. So she gets nothing from me, because she DID nothing for me.
That’s a really bad experience…All the best!
So it was like Home,, but you were in China ... Its called making you feel at home , ,, Batshit Crazzy ,,, ,,,
Gross. She's a human being not a Barbie Doll you can purchase.
You weren’t her (only fan) 👍
I agree with you. @@kingmaafa120
Thank you, I recognize the a few habits you were talking about. I'm glad you explained it to me.
Interesting.
Lets not change the definition of gold diggers based on the amount of money men have in their bank account.
Gold digging can be small money or big money. It all comes down to the “intentions” of any lady from any country. If the intentions are extracting resources as a way to “use” that person she’s simply is a gold digger.
As a person who’s well traveled. Women would go on many dates to get their food paid for. Therefore saving her own income without the intentions of forming something serious. Ive also know women that would ask for $50 which isn’t a lot but when she’s doing that with 50 other men, $50 turns out to be a lot especially in a foreign country that’s less expensive.
As far as splitting the bill, it depends on her views and values. If she’s a feminist, there’s no way in hell im paying 100% of everything, we splitting the bill regardless if she’s Chinese, White, Latina, Indian, Middle Eastern, Native American etc.
Me paying for the bill, she’s gotta be traditional as you mentioned in the video. Which means
1. Cooperative
2. Submissive
3. Feminine
4. Fit
5. Friendly
As you mentioned in your other video, not all women are submissive. Well, if im paying for everything while she gets to keep all of her money…she better be all 5 things on that list. No way im taking care of someone who is masculine, loud, bossy, non cooperative, and not submissive
My point here is “women can’t have it both ways”. They must pick and choose one or the other. They want traditional men, then we expect them to be traditional too. They want to be feminists, then feminists men expects splitting the bill 50/50
Thanks for the video
Impressive in depth, quality, wisdom, and social smarts! Wow.
I 100% agree with the ghosting part. Experienced it once and it really sucks. I'm not against a break up, it's good and nobody's time is wasted. But breaking by ghosting or almost ghosting is a waste of time for the other and also such an asshole move. Men, women, don't ever do that pls
Excellent report!! Straightforward, clear and smart!! Thank you so very much. (From usa)
All great advice. I am from the states and I've been married to my Chinese wife for almost 28 years now! We met in the States while she was a MBA student and have been living in China for 26 of those years with no intention of changing anything. Enjoy life
Interesting, I've noticed that Chinese women are conservative. Especially traditional Chinese women. I've watched plenty of Chinese TV shows and movies. For example, I've watched the excellent TV series Romance Of The Three Kingdoms and the interactions between husband and wife were loving, but conservative. For example,Zhou You and his wife Xaio Qiao didn't kiss each other or were too touchy. I admire Chinese culture, and it's so beautiful. I study a lot of Chinese culture, also am learning Chinese. If I'm taking a woman out on a date, I'm paying.
I pay simply because it's me who plan the date and I want to go to the places I want to go without caring if she has the money for it or not! 🤷🏻♂️ that was always my approach! I do appreciate the women helping since that translates as us being able to spend more time together and going to more places! But that's is when seriousness goes up!
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Yes I absolutely agree on your statement about ghosting and how it is, in your words, disgusting and brutal. What's even more disturbing is how some people actually champion this type of behavior and offer no sympathy, support, or assuagement--yet they're so quick to tell you things like "nobody owes you anything", "nobody cares about your feelings", "you need to just get over it and move on", etc.
To say the least I find it to be very highly disturbing and it royally pisses me off. It seems to be very rare when I find a woman that's actually honest about her intentions instead of being petty and ghosting, which I personally believe is rooted in deception and not to mention, childish as all hell.
Once again, very useful information, Ms. Moon. Thank you.
Useful for who ? Simps that listen to women demands? Ask if she knows how to make a sandwich!! Guys are the prize!!!!
To add to the not going 50/50, I also recommend paying the bill with cash.
She earns money … she pays too.
Don’t ask the fish how to catch it ask the fisherman
Don't expect the fisherman to show you his favorite fishing spots!
Know when to NOT fish in a particular lake and know when to throw the fish back.
Know when to stop eating fish due to mercury poisoning and go vegan.
This applies to all women. A woman is a woman no matter where they come from.
Bingo
I THINK YOU MISSED THE POINT: CHINESE WOMEN ARE DANGEROUS!
Good quality conversation! Greetings from France
Based on my experience, this is all rock-solid advice…sorry though I am to say it. I wish I had seen this years ago, because nearly all of this was learned the hard way. The last chunk of advice in here I would do anyway, but good to know.
If she loves you - she will pay for you! My wife does - chongqing wife.
Yeah, but if you're married to a Chinese women; like me, you're fully aware of the strength of culture, and stereotypes. For instance *"love."* Regardless of however much, however desired, under no circumstances, will she ever espouse to her mother *"I love you."* We live in Japan, she has a phenomenal, career, and spending money on me is an addiction for her, so I'm not referencing the money topic, there are many, MANY taboos (like spending money on men) that no matter how much she dissagrees, no matter how much she desires, will under no circumstances do it. If Chinese women are unwilling to spend money on their spouse there's no changing it.
Not true at all. She will pay for you if you are white. An Asian Mmale partner is expected to pay. Talk about racism!😂
if my wife ever dumps me, I'll have to revisit this video...lol. your humor is much appreciated, regardless of the subject. it makes it more interesting. stay well...wife says hi.
Haha this channel is mainly for entertaining
I would add a couple of things here. It is natural for them to want to married up but no one bother to tell them its not an equal relationships but the Jo said roles are well established. Secondly, watch out for them pushing towards wanting to live in your Western country. The motivation may not be pure as it seems.
Guys
Rule1. Never take dating advice from any woman from any culture.
Rule 2. Don't get married ever.
Rule 3. Don't date ed thewomen past 25.
Rule 4. Rinse and Repeat
everything sounds like good common sense. The same rules of conduct were obviously uinversal back 60 years ago everywhere
Your advice makes sense. I dated a couple of Chinese Girls..and I thought they were just Unpassionate☺☺
I want to say something about the so called traditionalism and Chinese girls being conservative. Once a Chinese friend told me that Chinese women often just pretend to be very conservative where in reality they actually aren't. He said that he hates this game and that he is fed up with it. I have experienced a lot of things during these years in China and I really cannot say that Chinese girls are conservative tbh. On the contrary, they are quite open, especially if they like you. My ex gf for example had s.. with me on the second date. And she is not the only one. Maybe I was just lucky, idk. but I think I agree with what my Chinese friend told me. It's a secret that a lot of people don't know. Or maybe it's just that people in my side are more open.
CITY, not side. (stupid auto correction!)
please visit clubs n unis in china your jaws will drop experiencing what she said is totally wrong abt girls being not physical.
Thinks for the information. It was very helpful.
Basically, not only in China but almost all over the world at the exception of about 1-2%, marriage destroys love.
Love switches to another type of relationship, especially if there are kids included.
But "love" itself needs to be questioned. It has been reinvented by the west over the last 65 years and is a feigned feeling these days intertwined with "lust" which obviously does not last.
Who are you?
People who never found their soulmate say this
@@Tomas-ql9yo depending on where such people live ...
Her Mother is a Supremely Key Figure >>>> if her Mother doesn't like you,[ approve of you ] it's over. "I love you she said, but how can I spend the rest of my life making My Mother Unhappy."
My wife of 22 years is a traditional Filipina. However, she is mixed race, a tiny bit of Filipino blood, 1/4 Spanish and 75% Chinese. A lot of what you said applies to many Filipinas as well. There are some differences, but a lot of what you said fit my better half like a glove.
8:43 😂😂😂😂 what did she mean!? A huge little brother??? 😂😂😂😂
Yea, she meant that 😂
My Chinese wife, if we split the expenses, after a while, in her mind it becomes she is paying for everything (and I am paying “nothing” even if I keep up my half).
im french Canadian and i had so many issue with my chinese gf, about talking China government, the soup with head fishes, keep my shoes inside the house, ect. We are in Canada but she wants to live like in China and when im the only one canadian in the group i know they are talking about my way of living 😆
Greetings from a Canadian in Chinese Singapore for years now. Why would you diss her gov't when yours is 10X worse? One nation is excelling and rising while the other is regressing and falling.
@@davidrichards1741 raising in a dictatorship never be good, im sad about Hong Kong and i hope Taiwan will stand face to little xixi
@@davidrichards1741 during the WWII Hitler put back the German economy on track and that wasnt a good model to follow
I’m an old fashion American guy I met a girl in hong Kong years ago, thought I was in love unfortunately my ship sailed and never seen her again,wouldn’t mind mtg a Chinese gal now. Just not sure where I’d meet her living in farm town USA. I really appreciate the old fashioned traditional values and culture. China is also very beautiful.
I'm on Jo's channel marathon. I can say unequivocally that all the values she outlined are pretty much African and Middle Eastern values when it comes to relationships and marriage.
The West lost these values, not 'cos they're not ideal or desired but 'cos the West has "advanced" whatever that is 😊.
I heard that Chinese women end relationships by ghosting and that it is common. I had a relationship with a Chinese woman and she brutally ghosted me multiple times.
Hey thank you so much, I met this wonderful woman from Shanghai ,she is just lovely I wondered about all this. I have a clue now. Good stuff
Thank you for the sincere and thought prvoking advises.
All your points are true, i married a HK lady 23 years ago.
“Heryyy, are we boyfriend girlfriend nowww” hits home tbh 😂
Thank you for this video. I am 58 yrs old, own my own business, but I have nowhere the worth of the 53 yr old Chinese lady I am dating. I can afford luxury restaurants, trips and never go 50/50 and won't. She does bring this up that she has to have a wealthier man, but the friends and lovers relationship is definitely on the table, and its moving in that direction, we really hit it off. Here is the thing, I understand that the likelihood of me finding a model 20 years younger than me are about the same of her finding a wealthy man in a big city at 53 years old who isn't wearing diapers (she's attractive and thin but not multi multi-millionaire attractive) Does reality sink in with Chinese women in these situations? She obviously finds me attractive and fun and we connect. But the likelihood of finding that combined package is like winning lotto. Just curious how you see this?
It seems that she wants someone “better”
@@JoMoon Thanks for the reply. I agree, she is very straight forward about this. Fortunately at this stage in my life I am secure in myself and accept things as they are. My only 2 rules with her are that I am treated with respect and when we are going out, it's as a couple and that's about it.. (I blew her off when she was making the point that she has to be with a wealthy man and that she is open to more than friends...she came back and I adjusted my expectations). I've never dated Chinese women and I actually appreciate the blunt directness. I kind of feel sorry for her in a way, she is quite wealthy and the pool of the "someone better's" is very very small at this age and getting smaller. She has wealthy suitors but she can't stand them and we keep going out. It's all good as long as I know the rules though.
I met a Chinese lady at a work place we both worked for. We became friends and would go out for lunch time walks, that was over 20 years ago. More recently I called her for a dinner and movie date and we had a great night, we have been together since. She is separated from her husband for 4 years and does not want to talk about divorce, I can tell she still loves him in some way. This is ok for me, if she goes back to him, their family will be together again which would be great for them. Right now I'm taking advantage of the fun with her. No strings.
Very well done, I was struck by the many similarities between women’s feelings and beliefs to those in the US. S few unique to China, but people are more alike than different!! Of course there always men that do not understand basic human emotions.
Thanks Carl
Really good & straight forward advice.thank you.
Simp
Sound advice, spot on!
I’m willing to be patient. I love Chinese women.🇨🇳🥰
Very helpful advice, thank you!
Thank you for some really good advice
Thanks for the government health warning. :)
Indeed, nobody wants to need to call in the Uncanny Counters just because they ghosted someone. Don't do it.
I noticed most Chinese ladies think a lot about money and material goods. Most of my male Chinese friends could never find a GF unless they owned a home and had a nice car. These were smart and decently handsome guys with good jobs. It was heartbreaking to see them get raked over the coals by the ladies😕
Your advice is greatly appreciated. And you have beautiful nails, by the way.
This is a pragmatic way of doing things but when there is a demographic shift and men are less plentiful than now I doubt that this advice would be given.
Incidentally, in some western countries and other Oriental ones it is considered to be impolite to continually touch ones own face.
Thank you Jojo, very informative ❤
Ghosting is the worst. This happened to me twice within a few months, once with a Western girl, once with a Latina girl.
Now, I am talking for hours every day with a wonderful, beautiful, warm and smart Chinese girl. She is so strong and smart, but also very sweet and feminine. Oh, she is very feminine! Wow. She seems perfect.
I have never had a relationship with a Chinese girl before. No-one else can compare to her.
Just discovered your channel. Totally spot on!
Women are the same everywhere. After the initial attraction they are driven to get 3 things from the man. 1, wealth (money) 2, Status (prestige) 3, utilitarian value (what can he do for me).
Our biggest problem is the yelling and raising of her voice quickly when only regular talking is possible. When she starts raising her voice then the fight begins. She cannot stop this.
My Chinese mother-in-law from mainland China always disrespected me by also raising her voice and yelling. She does what she wants and not listen to me, although she lives in my house in America.
When you're married, its not YOUR house anymore. Doesn't matter if you marry a Chinese, Filipino, Japanese or Korean. It becomes OUR house..... 🤤
@@jasonleong6791, but my in-laws are here as our guests.They came for a visit but couldn't go back to China because of COVID. They do what they want and don't respect what I want . I told them to not touch a clogged kitchen drain cause I tried to unclog the drain but couldn't so I called a plumber. But even after I told them not to touch the pipes, they took apart the drain pipes and started sticking a rod into the pipes that go into the back cabinet walls. I do plumbing cause I have several apartment rentals. They could have broken the pipes and then I would need to tear into the walls to get to the pipes. They don't listen and they do what they want. They don't want to lose face and they think that they are smarter than us, I notice. No, I won't stand for that disrespect. If they stay here, they have to learn our culture, and not push their culture upon us here. You're in another country and you got to respect how we do things here. When they are back in China then they can act any way they are accustomed to. Also, I've learned that Chinese moms think they the whole family is their matriarch. No way here in America. Sorry. They are bossy but they aren't going to boss me in my home. I had to get a therapist to talk to her and me to resolve our conflict. Then she changed. But now again she slowly changing to how she was before. Call the therapist again!! I told her not to go into the neighbor's yard and steal their fruits but she still goes into their yard and take their fruits. See what I mean when I say she doesn't respect or doesn't listen to me. I am embarrassed. There are more stories that I won't go into. I have a college stepdaughter and 4 year old boy and I don't want my kids to become like her - yelling at people , disrespect others , not listening to authority. Terrible character to me. I am a Japanese American living in Hawaii, in case you wondered.
@@jasonleong6791or italian or spanish...
LOL
I dated a divorced chinese women in America for 2 years - She dumped me because I was NOT rich - She once said that at my age 54 I should have at least $ 5 Million Dollars in the bank - I would not recommend to any male to date a chinese women.
Jo have you ever eaten Cod tongues, cod heads, or britches (Ovarian of the cod) Taste like sausage. ? There are some areas of western culture that have similarities. We didn't waste much because of being poor. My dad grew up on wild animals, like rabbits, moose, caribou, and tur (almost like Peking Duck). So he past it down to us. Our older culture carries the same thing some of China carries with family. In my province, there were no roads until the mid '60s. We lived on an island. Mostly fishing. Communities were all on the coastline. So everyone had to get along. There were no planes, trains, no police (They had rangers who did everything, just one in the community), or hospitals far away. I have already met a beautiful girl from Chongqing. I mentioned this to you already I know. I love listening to your videos. Thank You for the tips.
Reading this reminds me that life could still be wonderful and peaceful in some parts of the world. Beautiful.
@@JoMoon Thanks Jo. My Great grandmother was a Canadian Eskimo Northern Dweller. (Inuit - Native). I have a picture of her wearing her seal boots and coat. Our ancestors came from the Mongolian area.
They traveled across Canada's North to the far east of Canada. You can tell by our dark thick eyebrows. Just like China when our fishing was decimated. People moved into the city for work. My mom still lives on the island. I know if you lived in a rural area of China you would have loved our island. If you seen my dad you would say he looks Chinese.
@@drdecker1 The Natives of America are descendants of Asians who crossed the land between Russia and Alaska before It was covered by the ocean.
I am Dutch this woman should respect my culture so I'll go Dutch and split the bill! :)
I needed this information back in 2014.
I get there are a lot of simps in the West looking for women they get give money to and do whatever the woman wants. But are there really that many simps who want to be abused so much they would goes to China to look for that when their are so many women in Thailand, Philippines and even Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos. I get that Chinese will be really good at bossing you around the the bonus of her mom bossing you around too. Just hard for me to believe there are that many hardcore simps willing to live in China.
S imps abound. Take a look at the comment section of this wom an who is average-looking at best.
Good advice. Thank you.
Having dated or had relationships with maybe 400 women over my lifetime, if not more, I can attest that Jo Moon is spot on with these tips, even as relates to American men and how they treat American women. It is really sad how here in the U.S. the new generations of American men haven't got a clue about what it takes to a proper man to the ladies.
For example, when I was young I watched my dad each and every time open my mom's door for her to enter and exist the car. One time my mom opened her door, my dad chewed her out he was so upset. Said something like "I open your door, always." Yeah, my mom never did that again. What was she thinking.
I have always open the lady's door. And like my dad I have to stop some women when they start to open the door themselves.
Just a small example guys, read up and watch RUclips on how to treat your women.
“Especially when Korean dramas are so prevalent in China now days” ….12:53 😂
11 years into the marriage to a Chinese woman at this point. It's time to learn all this!
Seriously, most of this advice is common sense. However, I get that some people still need to hear it.
Pretty good advice. Recommended following.
Well as a Nordic guy I found these values somewhat toxic. My girlfriend is Chinese and even if I do make like 3 times more in my country than average person does my girlfriend makes more money. I don't mind paying in the restaurant but I certainly did not understand Jo's argument.
My Chinese girlfriend takes me on date for super expensive dine fining place that she is used to and I look bad for trying to make it 50/50? It just does not make any sense. Jo asks "why she should date you, tell me why?" - Well ask her, she is chasing me... I don't mind at all because she is so sweet and gorgeous. I still don't understand the logic paying dates if someone is making much more money than me and setting the standards as she please. Then pay for the damn standards as well.
They will try to get your money. Disputes are handled by the Family, if complaints filed,the police will take your passport until you reach an agreement. The system is slanted heavily against foreigners.
I will say I try to avoid dating Chinese women. Like 98% of the ones I have met or dated will go to ridiculous lengths to scam men and it seems okay because the ends justifies the means. It's textbook Chinese culture to do this and it makes dating these women incredibly difficult. I've just found it very tough to meet an asian women who loves me for me, and not because of the opportunities I make available to her. That and they cheat a lot too.
You met the wrong ones bro. Simple as.
@@Joe-mz6dc So how do I meet the right ones?
the 'most men in their entire life will never ever get a chance to meet a real gold digger...' part - is a harsh truth XD
How about most Chinese women, being emotional and showing a slight degree of affection.
I tried to date a Chinese university professor. She told me I was unacceptable because I did not have social status at least equal to her. She didn't seem too concerned about money, but education level and social status were extremely important.
"Some guys are just so delusional these days about the gold digger crap"
err... Personally, I would be willing to pay for all the dates and courtship and that is fine, I respect that culture but even if I was the richest man in the world, I would still need to know that my girlfriend / fiancé /spouse would still love me even If I was poor. The moment I suspected that she cared more about the money than she did about me, I would immediately show her the door.
Any woman that cares more about the money is unworthy. Ditch them and find somebody better.
Good luck finding real love. If money is more important to you, then I doubt that you ever will.
Chinese women in general, have a special beauty about them. I'm a black man who only dates chinese women. Once they're in love, they're completely in.
Hello 👋 nice to meet 😊 thank you, i like Asian girls, thank you for your advice 4:45 i respect Chinese woman very much e
This video illustrates why I like Asian women. Just watch as many videos as this. And you will become familiar with that culture.
You know what?.. I have an exgf who's half filipina and half chinese.. one thing I had learned about Chinese culture, they are very strict to dating non Chinese man.. it means,they are so prejudice.. after I broke up with my xgf, I don't know if I'll date another Chinese woman again..
If girls want men to 'take care of them physically and financially', what does she do with all the money she makes? Even if the guy makes much less, he needs to support her -- even if she is wealthy on her own? Makes no sense.