Infj doorslam is real. If we have been feeling used and taken advantage of for quite some time, or if people walk all over us, or if we have been trying to work out issues with someone for years and they don’ seem to care, etc... we can definitely have enough of it and eventually door slam.
that's because it's the INTJ door slam you posers. I don't feel guilty because it was a logical conclusion and even though I slam the door I leave a window open, but you have to trust that Ni because ppl don't change.
I'm an INFJ and everything being said here has been spot on in regards to my friendship with my INTJ friend. They're also pretty rare so good luck finding one to befriend!
I love their company as well. As an INFJ, I often feel like the missing link between them. I take a bit of INTJ's great logic and INFP's golden softness. But I'd like to be as much as they are myself. They really are a source of inspiration.
5 years late but this is a lovely comment, and a great example of an INFJ type of compliment (compliment in the shape of an analogy, basically an illustration). Makes me proud. Although you could be an INTP lol.
An INFJ would read your emotions multiple ways (body language, words and tone, eyes). Plus they would have already worked out a lot before you said anything. We watch how people interact with other people and situations. One thing with INFJs, they can have very one sided relationships, thus the other parties need to see this and engage the INFJ, probe them and their feelings (but give them time as your feeling are interfering with theirs, the empathy component to INFJ). Oh, accept the INFJ is going to say something that will sound out of place or very direct, truth bombs or just a related (to the INFJ) thread. Just ask them why they said that, to allow you to understand what connected the dots for the INFJ. INFJs are over thinkers.
veritas liberabit vos hahahha I’m so good at reading body language, tone of voice, demeanor all in one Lol. It’s scary and makes me avoid people, I want to turn this off but I can’t, my brain always start building a puzzle. I also hate that people use my good intuition in these areas for their own malicious or suspect benefit
@@paradigmshift7541 Then you can read them to avoid being used, as most Infj can do. Scary but usefull. That's makes us a part INFP's. We are shadows, they are assumed, same goal : HARMONY. Why clashing?
@@tsl7804 I like standing here in the middle ground of all these "Do you lean only this way, or only that way" people who demand everyone choose one of the two abstract 'teams' they've crafted in their mind. They watch me not picking sides, and in their angst will accuse me of riding some fence that they now have crafted in their mind to separate the previously imagined 'teams'... I say there is no fence, the team is the Homo sapiens sapiens, and if you look around you could see there's a middle-ground, it's not all that profound and is quite easily found.
Love the things you guys said. I’m sure you’ll get a lot of INFJ commenters, because even if we don’t have Fi, we often feel like outcasts and unheard. So regarding anyone who talks about us (or our type) it feels comforting to finally feel understood. To any degree. I love INTJ’s for their Ni. It’s always an intellectually stimulating conversation and we do always come from different places. I see the Fi almost right away because when I explain things in an Fe-Ti way you are met not with empathy, but with an alternative (but also true) way to approach the situation. So even if we would go about it in different ways, I always see it just as valid. To speak more about the INFJ doorslam, it very much is a true thing. The reason why is because we reach a point of exhaustion that our Ni-Ti and Ni-Fe can no longer handle. We care too deeply for the small amount of friends that we have. We are overly optimistic for them because we hold those same standards for ourselves. So when that person begins repeatedly causing us pain in any shape or form. Whatever the reason the only answer is to cut them off. It’s so much emotional damage and we’re typically not able to outthink or outfeel our way our of this one. So the only solution is to abandon ship. When it comes to fight or flight, we aren’t fighters. As I age, I’m learning other people’s types and functions so I don’t need to doorslam. Before that happens I can logically fight myself out by giving myself time and space, confronting the person in a mature way, or just distracting myself with other sometimes more important things. Just thought I’d throw some thoughts out there. Thanks again for sharing!
INFP: Thanks for sharing your insights on the infamous INFJ door slam! Interestingly, my path of development goes in the opposite direction. I used to be super generous with my time, because everyone represents a new Ne experience, and my Fi can understand the other's emotions without automatically absorbing them. But maybe my subconscious Ni is awakening because I'm starting to realize that time is finite, and it's important to discern between people who add value to my life and people who don't. So I've been slamming some doors and it feels great!
Franz T hi. I’m new to this so could you explain the Ni-Ti Ni-Fe that I hear so much? I get that it’s internal external thinking and feeling but how does this differ from the INTJ, INFP, etc.? I took the tests, got different results, then narrowed it down by elimination, so INFJ for me I believe. The only thing about this that’s not me is that I don’t need a hug after talking with someone. Other than that I feel very strongly about being INFJ. Thanks!
I don't, Fe Ti is biased and illogical. INTJs express with Te from their Fi which is truth, unbiased and what has proven true. also Fi is empathy Fe is most often superficial, if you can't see an INTJs heart on their sleeve you need glasses to Se.
K so INTJs hate talking because they often have to repeat and explain themselves which shows ppl don't listen. like I said they express Te from their Fi, when they tell you what they think they tell you what they feel. on the other hand expressing Fe from Ti is just showing how you think you feel. feelings derived from thought is understanding, thought derived from feelings is confusion...sorry, your life is a lie.
I mean, on the impossible upside, if...IF an INFJ can sort out their Fi and themselves, they would basically be INTJ but charismatically express Fe so ppl would listen... instead of feely touchy tentative trivial jibber jabber.
I think the Infj door slam is really a manifestation of two things, we give all or nothing in our approaches to alot of things in life and have high ideals, and if we feel that the person we are involved with starts to take advantage of that and abuses our "all" then we will slowly be exiting that relationship inside of ourselves, even if its not visible to the other person and then we give nothing. Nada...basically you become a stranger to us. It often feels quite contradictory within ourselves and we often wonder how we can treat people with such cold indifference, that once had our extreme devotion.
As an INFJ, I LOVE INTJs. I think I feel more comfortable expressing my Se, because there’s an unconscious understanding that they’re not going to judge the strangeness that stems from it. My boyfriend is an INTJ and I think people would be surprised by how we interact with each other when we’re alone.
Infp’s are so adorable and understand my emotions while intj’s are intellectually satisfying if I may say they’re like the perfect people to have a one on one conversation with
Thank you both for being so kind to INFJs. There are a lot of reasons why we can annoy people, for sure, so for you to point out so many positives is incredibly sweet! I tend to see fellow INFJs and myself as a little enamoured by our "abilities" and "rareness." I try to be as honest with myself as possible, which is how I know for a fact that we can come across a little "elitist" in this community. :D
Interesting video, i had an INFJ room-mate for 3 years (i am an INTJ) and i very much agree that we understand each other very well, and our relationship is deep. apart from their positive side, i have found a non-healthy pattern in their romance behavior , they tend to enter a relationship that they have convinced themselves is going to work, but in most cases they end up with breaking up and go to some sort of depression and for that depression to go away(or for whatever reason i don't understand) they enter another relationship, and this cycle repeats. and by doing that they waste lots of energy and time.
When I break up with someone, I don't go into a state of depression. I just move on with my life easily. However, this may be due to the fact that I've never actually been in love before. Perhaps that makes a big difference.
Awww I love INTJs and INFPs. I relate so much with the INTJs feeling of kindred and comfort plus the fascination with the other person's way of thinking! I also really relate to the high taste complexity with food haha it also comes with my relationship to music. I have 2 INFP parents, so I feel kindred to you guys too. It was really hard to put a finger on what the difference was between me and my parents, bc certain things like our values were so similar, but everything about how we got there and acted on them was different. Now it's so clear - all the mechanics of our minds... Y'all are great! ❤️
As an INFJ I can say I definitely wear my empathy on my sleeve. I care deeply about everyone especially one on one. We are great counselors and mentors with our ability to disassociate ourselves from reality and situations to look at every angle without any attachment whatsoever. We are walking contradictions and personally I find large groups overwhelming due to the fact that I want to give my full attention to everyone but realize I can’t. About the door slam. Yes. It’s due to the fact we put 110% of our energy into relationships when most people rarely reciprocate fully. If the other half isn’t pulling their weight. Slaaaaam! We also have a hard time expressing our feelings and that can be pretty draining on our partners. I like listening to people express their feelings but it’s so hard for me to put my feelings into words.
Had an infj friend. She was really reserved at first but then when we got to know each other we had so much in common (enfp). I think their Fe side comes out in really affectionate ways. Also very philosophical, deep, loves talking about really abstract things which I am also into.
INFJ's understand more than what we give ourselves credit for, and because we don't feel a need to verbalise and communicate all of our feelings it can leave other people puzzled as to what's really going on with us. We make most/all of our decisions on an emotional level first, which is why we do the door slam thing first, and then if the other person notices it and wants an explanation--THEN we give the raw truth about why the door slam was used (which we know will probably trigger the emotions of others who only want us to connect with them via something ginmicky or superficial). We hold off on telling people how we actually feel, because we know people don't really want the truth, but something that comforts and reassures them.
I agree so much on the ‘envying’ each other’s leading function part. Maybe not envying I just find it so inspiring! I just love the authenticity of Fi doms. Whenever I’m with one they inspire me to just be my authentic self, too... then I go home try it for a little while until I go back to chameleon mode 😅
The difference between INFJ and INTJ's purpose is one is born to bring logic to the world and the other is born to bring spiritual awareness to the world.
Being quiet is our mysterious allure. So calm sometimes when I speak people fall asleep 😴 😆 When our SE experience (especially surrounding food) we have to wait an entire meal to make it up. It’s definitely a downer. We also have no qualms of dropping sandbags from our hot air balloon if it means we float lighter moving forward. We use flattery/compliments to build easy connection. As an INFJ I can say very little and often people will divulge so much including things they’ve never told anyone. We are like walking vaults of secrets however our memory being short term causes us to forget a lot of what we are told.
Awww I really enjoyed the video xx I'm an infj and I have 2 very close friends, one is an infp guy and the other an intj girl. It's so interesting to see this video and to hear what ur both thinking of infjs! I mostly agree with the point that there can be a comfortable silence between infjs and intjs,and it's really satisfying to talk to each other sometimes!
I have to say its not easy for an INFJ to door slam you and it usually takes a long time... but yes once we close the door its closed for that kind of relationship we might be willing to explore a different kind of relationship you but the possibility and space we held for you be for that point will never be the same and that is the famous door slap part of our personality and its happens when we cant imagine you ever meet us in a healthy sustanable balance fulfilling relationship.
I was very confused about my personality type for a while. I thought I was INTP at first because I like to think about things a lot. Though really none of the types really fit when you girls broke it down. One downside of INFJ is we tend to get engrossed in the other person and their life wanting to help them. So when we continuously try to help someone and they just won't listen, and do the opposite of our advice, we kind of slam the door on them and not give them anymore advice. This took a long time for me to do this though because we do develop strong and deep relationships, so much so that we may be more upset about your problem than you lol. We want to be around people and have social interaction but we won't open up till we feel 'safe' or accepted. And we like 1 on 1 conversations usually or maybe 2 or atmost probably around 3 friends. We also can't stand to talk about the weather or simple things. Also in relationships we tend to fall for our significant other quickly. Atleast this is my own experience and also since we are so much in our shell if someone shows deep interest in us that in itself is attractive even if we aren't so physically attracted to that person. I personally would rather listen to others talk mostly, but it is nice to talk about myself and my interests sometimes and we can be deeply passionate about our interests. I do tend to think about relationships logically as well, like if the relationship is toxic I often tend to cut it off even though it hurts a lot.
INFJ: My ex-boyfriend is an INFP and at work I have 3 INFP-colleagues and I really get along with them very good. I feel very comfortable around INFP's. I don't know any INTJ's in real life.
INFP you crack me up with all that energy. Your so sweet and real makes you special and you should not rush thru life, but take your time making decisions. I see a little bit of a wild child in you. INTJ you are so reserved and closed off that I have a difficult time reading you at all. I am jealous in the fact that I have little interest in caring what I feel like and I can tell that you are actively working through your own emotions. I bet you understand yourself better than I ever will. This is a fun little world MBTI. I lived for 50 years before I checked this out finally, even though I heard about it in college 30 years ago. At the time I felt as if it was a joke and moved on. For this whole time I have felt like an alien. Until this MBTI, I realize I am not nuts, just really weird.
I was internally giggling the whole entire time. The way you two described your relationships with an INFJ is really nearly identical to my relationships with my INTJ brother and one close friend and an INFP bestfriend. 😊 Me and my INFP bestie, we share a lot of interests and we can talk about all things without fear of being judged. She's the only one I would trust with my life. And my INTJ brother -- man, if I need to bounce scientific and logical ideas and theories off, I automatically gravitate towards him. But the Ni exhaustion is real tho, and it almost always results in me being agitated at him because he has an emotional range of a teaspoon, which disables him to consider what I am trying to make a point of (esp when the topic has something to do with society and people's individual feelings and such). 😆😆 That being said, I get along pretty well with INFPs and INTJs quite well! They are probably my fave people to spend time with. 😊
I really wish I had a close intj friend! Even if Ni exhaustion may totally be a thing, having someone to go on Ni adventures with but from different mental frameworks sounds exhilarating. I have a close infp friend and i have to totally agree! I would say that we also can share silence without feeling awkward, and we do approach similar interests totally differently but in a good way. Your infj friend is exactly like me when it comes to relationships! I haven't been in a relationship yet (I'm 18 lol) but I pretty much know what wouldn't work out for me, and I know that when I finally find that person it'll probably be it. Great video!
Oh man I can relate 100% to the food thing! I am not only INFJ but a chef, so when something isn't as good or is cooked differently, you had better believe I get MAD! lol Also I can relate to the Ni exhaustion when talking too long to another INFJ or INTJ. LOL We start getting too many ideas and feeding off each other's ideas and soon we are developing a conspiracy theory and thankfully our Ti or Te alerts us that we have to come back down to earth because it doesn't make sense!
As a Male INFJ this is rather an interesting insight for me as I usually don't care what others think of me, as long as they don't get in the way of my work. Now in response to the INTJ, I am not sure if INFJ women suffer from this as well or not. But in general it's probably not the best idea to hug an INFJ at least not of the male variety. Women especially rarely seem to understand that physical contact of any sort for me is very different then it is for the average person. And touching me tends to connect me to that person on a much deeper level which in turn allows me to read them very clearly. Even so much as shaking hands with someone in an interview will allow me to gain access to them in a way that most people can't understand. And more then a few other male INFJ's I have crossed paths with in life also seem to have this "Gift" if you wish to call it that. It is the reason a lot of us are very particular on who we touch and how, so just be warned that if you chose to touch an INFJ you could be opening up yourself to divulging more of yourself then you wish to hand out to them in any particular moment as we tend to read the vibration of the human body rather well. Especially if there is any skin to skin contact involved. As for my response to the INFP, don't feel bad for feeling like you don't know us really well. Most people even the ones that are around us constantly don't know us very well. Quiet for a long time, yes you could say that rings true for me considering that I stopped speaking to the whole of humanity for three years solid simply because it dawned on me that my words had the power to change peoples paths for better or worse. The Doorslam is very real make no mistake about it, people for us are about expansion. Why hang on to things that no longer serve a purpose for either party involved. If neither party is growing or expanding then there is zero point to hang onto it. We tend to move where we feel we are needed most if that isn't you then we are usually expanding ourselves or helping others expand elsewhere. INFJ's have a tendency to be there through a persons worst and then move on, it's not personal but since we are rare the world must learn to share. It's why Romantic Relationship tend to become difficult for us as we tend to either try to isolate that relationship and build us a little kingdom with 1 other person, or we are so focused on fixing the whole of society that any single person that tries to love us will eventually feel ignored and underappreciated. Been telling women since I was 13 that I was impossible to Love and not to fall in love with me, because most can not exist in either end of that spectrum. We either belong to that 1 person or to the world as a whole there really is no real middle ground for us. Even up holding friendship can be rather straining for us as people if we get our mind set on a particular goal. Hope this proves to be of some introspective use to you both, I do enjoy hearing peoples perspectives as well as widening the perspectives of others.
0.5% I'm not sure that I would call that technically rare in a world with this many people. I think more people are concerned with my rare blood type to be honest since it only 7% and more useful. Although my IQ runs in the top 2%. And my height is in the top 4%. So all and all I supposed I would be considered a odd specimen if Aliens were looking to fill a zoo on another planet. Still just a guy.
Infj here. I'm very hard to read lol. I definitely listen to people and feel other peoples feeling to an over the top extent. Those with problems tend to leech off of me because of those. I feel so deeply. I've also gotten to the point where I shut people out completely. It is a thing. Sometimes I just cant handle all the feelings. I much prefer to be alone because of this. My energy gets sucked out of my so easily now a days.
I LOVE your energies! :) Watched some other videos too, this one was superb for sure. 0:01 of the video really shows both of yours authenticity and THAT energy!
Infj with an intj bestie here. I just stumbled upon this video and I really enjoyed watching it. I mostly just came here to say that I'm pretty sure Ni exhaustion doesn't exist.
Intuition does not fill in the details so sometimes it's good to ask clarifying questions if only to know what someone is thinking or feeling or what they have experienced _in their own words._ Helps you to connect with them, helps you helping them or for that matter manipulating them if you're that sort.
😍 The Amazing Dynamic Duo! I look forward to your videos. Yup, do all the types. I totally get the whole comfortable silence experience with INTJs and giving each other space to process our interactions.🖖 There are no pretenses between us. I don't know what it is about an INFP that just makes you want to take your hair down, shake it, and tell'em your secrets. I think it's the acceptance and good vibes. I do complain about inconsistent food standards all the time. That's the only time I turn into Gordon Ramsay! 👦🏼 And I will not hesitate to boycott - door slam - the place either. Speaking of door slams, it's for reals. I had know idea it even had a name. I just called it "we aren't talking anymore because I'm fed up with their bullshit." Cheers!
I just came across your channel a few days ago and subscribed. I enjoy listening to you both and I admire your MBTI knowledge. My husband is an INTJ, and it's entertaining to have theoretical conversations with him. My good friend from high school reminds me sooo much of the INFP. I would tell her that she was born in the wrong decade: I always thought of her as a flower child. One of the things I most admired about my INFP friend was her loyalty. She never betrayed confidences. She never gossiped about anyone. She was pretty freaking awesome.
ahhh i loved this. i found it especially interesting during the first third bc a lot of it is exactly what I have been told by others irl, and i sensed it about myself aswell that people see these certain aspects of me
I think you are terrific! I am new to this field and wish I was aware earlier. You were correct about us. I have felt so alone in my life. I always felt different and now I comfortably know I am. Please keep posting. Thank you!
Speaking as an INFJ, I've always found it odd how I have so many female INTJ friends/acquaintances -- not bc they're female, but bc I always worry I come off as annoying/inconvenient/incompetent in my ditzy, Fe-Se way, hahaha But hearing this gives me some hope! I can be pretty analytical, that's probably what saves those relationships! xD (and FYI, not super huggy-- very selective about who, when and if I hug ;) and Ni, Ti and Fe are always bickering about whether to like people, or to hermit in my "cave" away from them xD)
My INTJ brother and I come to the same conclusion on things from different ways. I say something and he says the exact same thing. So i say oh that's what I just said. Haha. Mine must have came out wrong which is disappointing. However, we both have the same views on very deep topics like how we would like to die , aliens, etc.
you know what i like to do with INTJs? Ni staring contests, bro. INTENSE STARE GAME WHOOOOO. also, the best way to die is of natural causes while sleeping at an old age, imo.(sorry, my ENTP bros have influenced my behavior a bit too much by now)
One time this guy came up to me on the bus and started talking about how he was on his way to take back his brother who had been kidnapped. He said that there was gonna be a war on the streets and nobody did anything about it. I also reminded him of his brother, who was so nice that he would give away a hundred dollars to strangers - helping others before himself. It was a strange experience, people do upon up to me I suppose. But usually it's strangers.
As a INFJ i have done the famous doorslame you mentioned, sometimes because i havent invested in a relationship i see as pointless. But if u made good friends and i figure out they are disingenuous then i doorslam pretty easy on the person. Is probably my judging coming into play ahah.
If I'm quiet it's only because I met someone new and I'm trying to see what type of person they are and if we are compatible with eachother! Also sometimes, I have like a million thoughts going through head I need a little time to explore the meaning of them or my head will explode! The only time I will door slam someone is if they are narcissistic, or sociopathic people because they are toxic and destroy people! They are also harder to read in my experience, they are like the evil version of us INFJ'S. ! I loved your video here! It was very interesting and I learned some new things about you too! Thank you!❤❤❤
I'm new to MBTI so I'm not really familiar with INTJ or INFP, but I'm an INFJ and you both totally seem like people I'd love to hang out with so I'll assume our types are similar enough. ;p
Greetings from an INFJ 💕. Thank you for the vídeo. I have people from both types in my life that I Love. And my INTJ friend was sending philosophical messages to me today.
All throughout college, I thought that I was an INFJ. But during my post grad studies, I started to think that I was probably more like an INFP. Then, my INTJ college roommate told me recently, "I've always thought that INFJ didn't describe you as well as it probably should .. and that you fit better as an INFP. I was right."
I don't know, she kind of hit the nail on the head when she made the comment of "I'm imparting some wisdom to you plebs"... The judgement is there, however is rude to reveal, unproductive to the conversation, and will often completely end the relation. Speaking of ending relations, exactly like you had ascribed; If a romantic relationship is feeling more draining, or generally don't impart the positivity it once did... Or the romantic partner is feeling less receptive and/or communicative... I'm quick to sever that relation, I perceive it as a waste of both of our time. I understand people find it hard to let things go, and we tend to cling to nostalgia. So, I'll save both of us some stress and time, and we can continue persevering on our forward oriented paths.
I'm an INFJ and you guys are pretty accurate about me. I am empathetic, warm, kind and gentle. I never judge anybody. I do shut out people that take too much advantage of me. I am a gentle spirit who rarely has an outburst. I am super spiritual and I have hunches about the future. Spot on guys!
I love how the INTJ is pretending to be able to listen to the Perceiver way of explaining by adding intuitive laughs in the proper places XD, no offence from an INFJ
What that INTJ is describing in the INFJ is Ti. The INTJ can’t stand how INFJ doesn’t show their work, but if the INTJ uses his or her intuition they eventually accept the INFJ is usually correct, even tho it seems they showed no work. INTJ is Te so they like to see the work and process in front of them. It’s a constant issue being around Te users as an INFJ. We get it, we just seem to have the answers sometimes, and maybe it looks like we have no work to show, but that’s because we are Ti and do that part in our heads!
I have a question: why does Fe come across as phony to others? Introverts with strong Fe are genuine with that function, so I'm curious how it comes across to others. I really want to know, so please don't worry about hurting my feelings with your honesty. *Lol
INFP: Not necessarily phony but generally introverted judging functions can see extraverted judging functions as too simplistic and results-oriented (while Je often sees Ji as overly convoluted and subjective).
I even regret door slamming someone for 13 years and man I feel like an asshole. Excuse my language. Wished I had a way to go back in time to change the disturbing outcome.
Dude i just love befriending and spending time with an intj but not romantically while i like friending a male enfj while i romantically interested in female enfj... -infj
INFJ's Warm and empathetic❓ Usually try to foster closeness in some respect❓ More often than not, we are usually regarded as cold & distant. ❄🗻 I'm an INFJt Empath. I know from personal experience. 🌌🚀 Good vid., 👍 but your energies are a bit too energetic. 😉
You know what's funny is the host's most powerful personality trait, second to female, is how Asian she is: body language, tonality, language, inflection. Idk yet how personality and topic choice or content will interact. .... Okay, well turns out there is another variable that creates a first impression, obscuring a clear personality profile. I am going to call it age. The guest seems like a thinker (though again gender is a surprisingly dominant factor) and it broadcasts fairly clearly. Wait unless I'm wrong. Anyway maybe because I'm Americsn the guest seems to present from a neutral canvas, well a pink one. The host is a pink canvas too, and she is writing in English but I am distracted by the calligraphy of her writing style (so you know I'm not saying it to be mean or racist, I'm just observing.) Obviously calligraphy is beautiful, just a different reading experience than type-written English. Anyway, the rough edges will get sharper or more defined with time and experience.
INTJ here with an INFJ mom. The door slam is real. We’ve gone years not speaking several times before. She often tells me I’m cold or mean, and I see her as emotionally unhinged. When we’re doing well and are on talking terms, we talk about a lot subjects very easily!
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Infj doorslam is real. If we have been feeling used and taken advantage of for quite some time, or if people walk all over us, or if we have been trying to work out issues with someone for years and they don’ seem to care, etc... we can definitely have enough of it and eventually door slam.
Michelle Noel maybe a good question is why we put up with crap for so long
maplenook Because we care and understand .
Yes it takes a lot to door slam someone but once you have enough of it we SLAM it but I'm quite a forgiving person though (INFJ here)
yup! very true
that's because it's the INTJ door slam you posers.
I don't feel guilty because it was a logical conclusion and even though I slam the door
I leave a window open, but you have to trust that Ni because ppl don't change.
"There can a comfortable silence between the two of us" - hahaha - as an INFJ, I find the same thing with INTJs
I need INTJ friends man
Yes! Me too. Love INTJ’s and feel very comfortable around them in general
I'm an INFJ and everything being said here has been spot on in regards to my friendship with my INTJ friend. They're also pretty rare so good luck finding one to befriend!
Yes
As an INFJ I love the company of INFPs and INTJs. I admire the logic side of INTJs and the soft side of INFPs.
Funny because mature INFJ should be more logical because of Ti. INTJs are pragmatist and empirical, not necessarily logical.
I love their company as well. As an INFJ, I often feel like the missing link between them. I take a bit of INTJ's great logic and INFP's golden softness. But I'd like to be as much as they are myself. They really are a source of inspiration.
Your videos are like watching the sun rays (INFP) filter through the sturdy trees of a forest (INTJ).
Ah such a beautifully fitting analogy!
5 years late but this is a lovely comment, and a great example of an INFJ type of compliment (compliment in the shape of an analogy, basically an illustration). Makes me proud. Although you could be an INTP lol.
I'm an INFJ, so this was very interesting to hear an INTJ's and an INFP's perspective. Thanks! 😄
Me too :D
It was really good!
An INFJ would read your emotions multiple ways (body language, words and tone, eyes). Plus they would have already worked out a lot before you said anything. We watch how people interact with other people and situations. One thing with INFJs, they can have very one sided relationships, thus the other parties need to see this and engage the INFJ, probe them and their feelings (but give them time as your feeling are interfering with theirs, the empathy component to INFJ).
Oh, accept the INFJ is going to say something that will sound out of place or very direct, truth bombs or just a related (to the INFJ) thread. Just ask them why they said that, to allow you to understand what connected the dots for the INFJ. INFJs are over thinkers.
INFJs, this is correct.
veritas liberabit vos hahahha I’m so good at reading body language, tone of voice, demeanor all in one Lol. It’s scary and makes me avoid people, I want to turn this off but I can’t, my brain always start building a puzzle. I also hate that people use my good intuition in these areas for their own malicious or suspect benefit
@@paradigmshift7541 Then you can read them to avoid being used, as most Infj can do.
Scary but usefull. That's makes us a part INFP's.
We are shadows, they are assumed, same goal : HARMONY.
Why clashing?
@@tsl7804 I like standing here in the middle ground of all these "Do you lean only this way, or only that way" people who demand everyone choose one of the two abstract 'teams' they've crafted in their mind. They watch me not picking sides, and in their angst will accuse me of riding some fence that they now have crafted in their mind to separate the previously imagined 'teams'...
I say there is no fence, the team is the Homo sapiens sapiens, and if you look around you could see there's a middle-ground, it's not all that profound and is quite easily found.
Exactly my man
Love the things you guys said. I’m sure you’ll get a lot of INFJ commenters, because even if we don’t have Fi, we often feel like outcasts and unheard. So regarding anyone who talks about us (or our type) it feels comforting to finally feel understood. To any degree.
I love INTJ’s for their Ni. It’s always an intellectually stimulating conversation and we do always come from different places. I see the Fi almost right away because when I explain things in an Fe-Ti way you are met not with empathy, but with an alternative (but also true) way to approach the situation. So even if we would go about it in different ways, I always see it just as valid.
To speak more about the INFJ doorslam, it very much is a true thing. The reason why is because we reach a point of exhaustion that our Ni-Ti and Ni-Fe can no longer handle. We care too deeply for the small amount of friends that we have. We are overly optimistic for them because we hold those same standards for ourselves. So when that person begins repeatedly causing us pain in any shape or form. Whatever the reason the only answer is to cut them off. It’s so much emotional damage and we’re typically not able to outthink or outfeel our way our of this one. So the only solution is to abandon ship. When it comes to fight or flight, we aren’t fighters.
As I age, I’m learning other people’s types and functions so I don’t need to doorslam. Before that happens I can logically fight myself out by giving myself time and space, confronting the person in a mature way, or just distracting myself with other sometimes more important things.
Just thought I’d throw some thoughts out there. Thanks again for sharing!
INFP: Thanks for sharing your insights on the infamous INFJ door slam! Interestingly, my path of development goes in the opposite direction. I used to be super generous with my time, because everyone represents a new Ne experience, and my Fi can understand the other's emotions without automatically absorbing them. But maybe my subconscious Ni is awakening because I'm starting to realize that time is finite, and it's important to discern between people who add value to my life and people who don't. So I've been slamming some doors and it feels great!
Franz T hi. I’m new to this so could you explain the Ni-Ti Ni-Fe that I hear so much? I get that it’s internal external thinking and feeling but how does this differ from the INTJ, INFP, etc.? I took the tests, got different results, then narrowed it down by elimination, so INFJ for me I believe. The only thing about this that’s not me is that I don’t need a hug after talking with someone. Other than that I feel very strongly about being INFJ. Thanks!
I don't, Fe Ti is biased and illogical.
INTJs express with Te from their Fi which is truth, unbiased and what has proven true.
also Fi is empathy Fe is most often superficial, if you can't see an INTJs heart on their sleeve you need glasses to Se.
K so INTJs hate talking because they often have to repeat and explain themselves which shows ppl don't listen.
like I said they express Te from their Fi, when they tell you what they think they tell you what they feel.
on the other hand expressing Fe from Ti is just showing how you think you feel.
feelings derived from thought is understanding, thought derived from feelings is confusion...sorry, your life is a lie.
I mean, on the impossible upside, if...IF an INFJ can sort out their Fi and themselves,
they would basically be INTJ but charismatically express Fe so ppl would listen...
instead of feely touchy tentative trivial jibber jabber.
I think the Infj door slam is really a manifestation of two things, we give all or nothing in our approaches to alot of things in life and have high ideals, and if we feel that the person we are involved with starts to take advantage of that and abuses our "all" then we will slowly be exiting that relationship inside of ourselves, even if its not visible to the other person and then we give nothing. Nada...basically you become a stranger to us. It often feels quite contradictory within ourselves and we often wonder how we can treat people with such cold indifference, that once had our extreme devotion.
As an INFJ, I LOVE INTJs. I think I feel more comfortable expressing my Se, because there’s an unconscious understanding that they’re not going to judge the strangeness that stems from it.
My boyfriend is an INTJ and I think people would be surprised by how we interact with each other when we’re alone.
How?
F Do you mean how do we act around each other?
@@youratowel97 How do ppl think you do, thier judgment...
Infp’s are so adorable and understand my emotions while intj’s are intellectually satisfying if I may say they’re like the perfect people to have a one on one conversation with
Thank you both for being so kind to INFJs. There are a lot of reasons why we can annoy people, for sure, so for you to point out so many positives is incredibly sweet! I tend to see fellow INFJs and myself as a little enamoured by our "abilities" and "rareness." I try to be as honest with myself as possible, which is how I know for a fact that we can come across a little "elitist" in this community. :D
Agreed. I like being very authentic with people, as well.
Interesting video, i had an INFJ room-mate for 3 years (i am an INTJ) and i very much agree that we understand each other very well, and our relationship is deep. apart from their positive side, i have found a non-healthy pattern in their romance behavior , they tend to enter a relationship that they have convinced themselves is going to work, but in most cases they end up with breaking up and go to some sort of depression and for that depression to go away(or for whatever reason i don't understand) they enter another relationship, and this cycle repeats. and by doing that they waste lots of energy and time.
When I break up with someone, I don't go into a state of depression. I just move on with my life easily. However, this may be due to the fact that I've never actually been in love before. Perhaps that makes a big difference.
Wowww I am INFJ and what you ve described is totally me...omg I am shocked
THANK YOU
intjs please save us
True, my husband is an intj and I am an infj and I found myself in that exact pattern. My
Last relationship obviously is with my now husband 😅😅
Awww I love INTJs and INFPs. I relate so much with the INTJs feeling of kindred and comfort plus the fascination with the other person's way of thinking! I also really relate to the high taste complexity with food haha it also comes with my relationship to music. I have 2 INFP parents, so I feel kindred to you guys too. It was really hard to put a finger on what the difference was between me and my parents, bc certain things like our values were so similar, but everything about how we got there and acted on them was different. Now it's so clear - all the mechanics of our minds...
Y'all are great! ❤️
I think that every INFJ or INFP needs each other! I have an INFJ best friend.
I have an INFP best friend! :)
And yes, INFP+INFJ can work reaaaally well together!
Yes and no I'm a INFJ and my Sis is a INFP we do get along like 90% of the time but the other 10% can be the worst
Bibimaru XNFP’S are forever my best friends! I can trust them with my life and feel understood with them the most
I'm a INFJ and my big sister is a INTJ lol my sister is a built in BFF
I'm an INFJ and INFPs are my best friends and lover.
As an INFJ I can say I definitely wear my empathy on my sleeve. I care deeply about everyone especially one on one. We are great counselors and mentors with our ability to disassociate ourselves from reality and situations to look at every angle without any attachment whatsoever. We are walking contradictions and personally I find large groups overwhelming due to the fact that I want to give my full attention to everyone but realize I can’t. About the door slam. Yes. It’s due to the fact we put 110% of our energy into relationships when most people rarely reciprocate fully. If the other half isn’t pulling their weight. Slaaaaam! We also have a hard time expressing our feelings and that can be pretty draining on our partners. I like listening to people express their feelings but it’s so hard for me to put my feelings into words.
You are* so true on INFJ sharing knowledge without showing off and pointing out 100% facts
As an INFJ, the concept of lying is impossible as we are all very lazy and truth is the easiest route through life.
Had an infj friend. She was really reserved at first but then when we got to know each other we had so much in common (enfp). I think their Fe side comes out in really affectionate ways. Also very philosophical, deep, loves talking about really abstract things which I am also into.
INFJ's understand more than what we give ourselves credit for, and because we don't feel a need to verbalise and communicate all of our feelings it can leave other people puzzled as to what's really going on with us. We make most/all of our decisions on an emotional level first, which is why we do the door slam thing first, and then if the other person notices it and wants an explanation--THEN we give the raw truth about why the door slam was used (which we know will probably trigger the emotions of others who only want us to connect with them via something ginmicky or superficial). We hold off on telling people how we actually feel, because we know people don't really want the truth, but something that comforts and reassures them.
I agree so much on the ‘envying’ each other’s leading function part. Maybe not envying I just find it so inspiring! I just love the authenticity of Fi doms. Whenever I’m with one they inspire me to just be my authentic self, too... then I go home try it for a little while until I go back to chameleon mode 😅
The difference between INFJ and INTJ's purpose is one is born to bring logic to the world and the other is born to bring spiritual awareness to the world.
Being quiet is our mysterious allure. So calm sometimes when I speak people fall asleep 😴 😆 When our SE experience (especially surrounding food) we have to wait an entire meal to make it up. It’s definitely a downer. We also have no qualms of dropping sandbags from our hot air balloon if it means we float lighter moving forward. We use flattery/compliments to build easy connection. As an INFJ I can say very little and often people will divulge so much including things they’ve never told anyone. We are like walking vaults of secrets however our memory being short term causes us to forget a lot of what we are told.
From the first 5 seconds I already knew who was the infp and the intj LOOL
Awww I really enjoyed the video xx I'm an infj and I have 2 very close friends, one is an infp guy and the other an intj girl. It's so interesting to see this video and to hear what ur both thinking of infjs! I mostly agree with the point that there can be a comfortable silence between infjs and intjs,and it's really satisfying to talk to each other sometimes!
I have to say its not easy for an INFJ to door slam you and it usually takes a long time... but yes once we close the door its closed for that kind of relationship we might be willing to explore a different kind of relationship you but the possibility and space we held for you be for that point will never be the same and that is the famous door slap part of our personality and its happens when we cant imagine you ever meet us in a healthy sustanable balance fulfilling relationship.
Hey, you should make a video about the major differences between INFJ females and INFJ males. Or just summarize it for me please.
I was very confused about my personality type for a while. I thought I was INTP at first because I like to think about things a lot. Though really none of the types really fit when you girls broke it down. One downside of INFJ is we tend to get engrossed in the other person and their life wanting to help them. So when we continuously try to help someone and they just won't listen, and do the opposite of our advice, we kind of slam the door on them and not give them anymore advice. This took a long time for me to do this though because we do develop strong and deep relationships, so much so that we may be more upset about your problem than you lol. We want to be around people and have social interaction but we won't open up till we feel 'safe' or accepted. And we like 1 on 1 conversations usually or maybe 2 or atmost probably around 3 friends. We also can't stand to talk about the weather or simple things. Also in relationships we tend to fall for our significant other quickly. Atleast this is my own experience and also since we are so much in our shell if someone shows deep interest in us that in itself is attractive even if we aren't so physically attracted to that person. I personally would rather listen to others talk mostly, but it is nice to talk about myself and my interests sometimes and we can be deeply passionate about our interests. I do tend to think about relationships logically as well, like if the relationship is toxic I often tend to cut it off even though it hurts a lot.
Thank you. You two ladies are very smart and make great videos. 🌺
Ayee, my two fav types together talking about my type 😊❤
Bro, who got you smiling like that? 😊
Yes! I love you both for this! #INFJLove
INFJ: My ex-boyfriend is an INFP and at work I have 3 INFP-colleagues and I really get along with them very good. I feel very comfortable around INFP's. I don't know any INTJ's in real life.
INFP you crack me up with all that energy. Your so sweet and real makes you special and you should not rush thru life, but take your time making decisions. I see a little bit of a wild child in you. INTJ you are so reserved and closed off that I have a difficult time reading you at all. I am jealous in the fact that I have little interest in caring what I feel like and I can tell that you are actively working through your own emotions. I bet you understand yourself better than I ever will. This is a fun little world MBTI. I lived for 50 years before I checked this out finally, even though I heard about it in college 30 years ago. At the time I felt as if it was a joke and moved on. For this whole time I have felt like an alien. Until this MBTI, I realize I am not nuts, just really weird.
I was internally giggling the whole entire time. The way you two described your relationships with an INFJ is really nearly identical to my relationships with my INTJ brother and one close friend and an INFP bestfriend. 😊 Me and my INFP bestie, we share a lot of interests and we can talk about all things without fear of being judged. She's the only one I would trust with my life. And my INTJ brother -- man, if I need to bounce scientific and logical ideas and theories off, I automatically gravitate towards him. But the Ni exhaustion is real tho, and it almost always results in me being agitated at him because he has an emotional range of a teaspoon, which disables him to consider what I am trying to make a point of (esp when the topic has something to do with society and people's individual feelings and such). 😆😆
That being said, I get along pretty well with INFPs and INTJs quite well! They are probably my fave people to spend time with. 😊
INFP: Laughing for days at "emotional range of a teaspoon!"
INTJ & INFP Coffee borrowed that one from Hermione Granger. 😄😂
I Absolutely Loved This Video!! You Ladies Were Right On Point The Whole Way! 🙌💖🎆🎊🎉 Lol.
~From A Fella INFJ 👼😄💃
I love you both lol. INFJ here. I get along really well with INTJs and INFPs in my life, love both these types!
Ms. INTJ, you remind me of my best "Elfin" girlfriend Samantha. I love my INTJ and INFP friends.
~INFJ.
I really wish I had a close intj friend! Even if Ni exhaustion may totally be a thing, having someone to go on Ni adventures with but from different mental frameworks sounds exhilarating. I have a close infp friend and i have to totally agree! I would say that we also can share silence without feeling awkward, and we do approach similar interests totally differently but in a good way. Your infj friend is exactly like me when it comes to relationships! I haven't been in a relationship yet (I'm 18 lol) but I pretty much know what wouldn't work out for me, and I know that when I finally find that person it'll probably be it. Great video!
INFP: Thanks! Amazing to hear about the similarities :)
Oh man I can relate 100% to the food thing! I am not only INFJ but a chef, so when something isn't as good or is cooked differently, you had better believe I get MAD! lol Also I can relate to the Ni exhaustion when talking too long to another INFJ or INTJ. LOL We start getting too many ideas and feeding off each other's ideas and soon we are developing a conspiracy theory and thankfully our Ti or Te alerts us that we have to come back down to earth because it doesn't make sense!
Very flatering for the INFJ, thanx 4 the nice words guys, a very nice Ego Massage4 the INFJ. y'all Awesome 2. Stay Amazingly Beautiful. Peace.
Hahaha I am INFJ and you guys made me smile so much! Thanks for being so cute
As a Male INFJ this is rather an interesting insight for me as I usually don't care what others think of me, as long as they don't get in the way of my work.
Now in response to the INTJ, I am not sure if INFJ women suffer from this as well or not. But in general it's probably not the best idea to hug an INFJ at least not of the male variety.
Women especially rarely seem to understand that physical contact of any sort for me is very different then it is for the average person. And touching me tends to connect me to that person on a much deeper level which in turn allows me to read them very clearly. Even so much as shaking hands with someone in an interview will allow me to gain access to them in a way that most people can't understand. And more then a few other male INFJ's I have crossed paths with in life also seem to have this "Gift" if you wish to call it that.
It is the reason a lot of us are very particular on who we touch and how, so just be warned that if you chose to touch an INFJ you could be opening up yourself to divulging more of yourself then you wish to hand out to them in any particular moment as we tend to read the vibration of the human body rather well. Especially if there is any skin to skin contact involved.
As for my response to the INFP, don't feel bad for feeling like you don't know us really well. Most people even the ones that are around us constantly don't know us very well.
Quiet for a long time, yes you could say that rings true for me considering that I stopped speaking to the whole of humanity for three years solid simply because it dawned on me that my words had the power to change peoples paths for better or worse.
The Doorslam is very real make no mistake about it, people for us are about expansion. Why hang on to things that no longer serve a purpose for either party involved. If neither party is growing or expanding then there is zero point to hang onto it. We tend to move where we feel we are needed most if that isn't you then we are usually expanding ourselves or helping others expand elsewhere. INFJ's have a tendency to be there through a persons worst and then move on, it's not personal but since we are rare the world must learn to share.
It's why Romantic Relationship tend to become difficult for us as we tend to either try to isolate that relationship and build us a little kingdom with 1 other person, or we are so focused on fixing the whole of society that any single person that tries to love us will eventually feel ignored and underappreciated. Been telling women since I was 13 that I was impossible to Love and not to fall in love with me, because most can not exist in either end of that spectrum. We either belong to that 1 person or to the world as a whole there really is no real middle ground for us.
Even up holding friendship can be rather straining for us as people if we get our mind set on a particular goal.
Hope this proves to be of some introspective use to you both, I do enjoy hearing peoples perspectives as well as widening the perspectives of others.
wow infj male? thats incredibly rare
0.5% I'm not sure that I would call that technically rare in a world with this many people. I think more people are concerned with my rare blood type to be honest since it only 7% and more useful. Although my IQ runs in the top 2%. And my height is in the top 4%. So all and all I supposed I would be considered a odd specimen if Aliens were looking to fill a zoo on another planet. Still just a guy.
Draven Richardson lol sucks to be male and INFJ, sorry mate, I wish this on no one
Infj here. I'm very hard to read lol. I definitely listen to people and feel other peoples feeling to an over the top extent. Those with problems tend to leech off of me because of those. I feel so deeply. I've also gotten to the point where I shut people out completely. It is a thing. Sometimes I just cant handle all the feelings. I much prefer to be alone because of this. My energy gets sucked out of my so easily now a days.
it recommended me this nice it brightens me.
I'll wait for having a INTJ and INFP friends.
I'm an infj and my sister is a infp (i think) and our interactions are very similar to what you described.
I LOVE your energies! :) Watched some other videos too, this one was superb for sure. 0:01 of the video really shows both of yours authenticity and THAT energy!
Infj with an intj bestie here. I just stumbled upon this video and I really enjoyed watching it. I mostly just came here to say that I'm pretty sure Ni exhaustion doesn't exist.
I'm INFJ...... I Felt loved when I watch this vid though
Intuition does not fill in the details so sometimes it's good to ask clarifying questions if only to know what someone is thinking or feeling or what they have experienced _in their own words._ Helps you to connect with them, helps you helping them or for that matter manipulating them if you're that sort.
😍 The Amazing Dynamic Duo! I look forward to your videos. Yup, do all the types. I totally get the whole comfortable silence experience with INTJs and giving each other space to process our interactions.🖖 There are no pretenses between us. I don't know what it is about an INFP that just makes you want to take your hair down, shake it, and tell'em your secrets. I think it's the acceptance and good vibes. I do complain about inconsistent food standards all the time. That's the only time I turn into Gordon Ramsay! 👦🏼 And I will not hesitate to boycott - door slam - the place either. Speaking of door slams, it's for reals. I had know idea it even had a name. I just called it "we aren't talking anymore because I'm fed up with their bullshit." Cheers!
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I loved this!! Love seeing both of your perspectives and how you see us INFJS!
I just came across your channel a few days ago and subscribed. I enjoy listening to you both and I admire your MBTI knowledge. My husband is an INTJ, and it's entertaining to have theoretical conversations with him. My good friend from high school reminds me sooo much of the INFP. I would tell her that she was born in the wrong decade: I always thought of her as a flower child. One of the things I most admired about my INFP friend was her loyalty. She never betrayed confidences. She never gossiped about anyone. She was pretty freaking awesome.
INFP: Your friend sounds cool so I'm flattered :)
ahhh i loved this. i found it especially interesting during the first third bc a lot of it is exactly what I have been told by others irl, and i sensed it about myself aswell that people see these certain aspects of me
Emotive. Yes we love when people are expressing love and closeness.
I think you are terrific! I am new to this field and wish I was aware earlier. You were correct about us. I have felt so alone in my life. I always felt different and now I comfortably know I am. Please keep posting. Thank you!
Speaking as an INFJ, I've always found it odd how I have so many female INTJ friends/acquaintances -- not bc they're female, but bc I always worry I come off as annoying/inconvenient/incompetent in my ditzy, Fe-Se way, hahaha But hearing this gives me some hope! I can be pretty analytical, that's probably what saves those relationships! xD (and FYI, not super huggy-- very selective about who, when and if I hug ;) and Ni, Ti and Fe are always bickering about whether to like people, or to hermit in my "cave" away from them xD)
My INTJ brother and I come to the same conclusion on things from different ways. I say something and he says the exact same thing. So i say oh that's what I just said. Haha. Mine must have came out wrong which is disappointing. However, we both have the same views on very deep topics like how we would like to die , aliens, etc.
Haha! So relatable :)
you know what i like to do with INTJs? Ni staring contests, bro. INTENSE STARE GAME WHOOOOO. also, the best way to die is of natural causes while sleeping at an old age, imo.(sorry, my ENTP bros have influenced my behavior a bit too much by now)
It’s kind of nice to hear someone else’s opinion of me 😂😊 loved the video
One time this guy came up to me on the bus and started talking about how he was on his way to take back his brother who had been kidnapped. He said that there was gonna be a war on the streets and nobody did anything about it. I also reminded him of his brother, who was so nice that he would give away a hundred dollars to strangers - helping others before himself. It was a strange experience, people do upon up to me I suppose. But usually it's strangers.
As a INFJ i have done the famous doorslame you mentioned, sometimes because i havent invested in a relationship i see as pointless.
But if u made good friends and i figure out they are disingenuous then i doorslam pretty easy on the person.
Is probably my judging coming into play ahah.
My INFJ friend often *seenzones* me, but it's a comfortable seenzone for some reason lol! - INTJ
If I'm quiet it's only because I met someone new and I'm trying to see what type of person they are and if we are compatible with eachother! Also sometimes, I have like a million thoughts going through head I need a little time to explore the meaning of them or my head will explode! The only time I will door slam someone is if they are narcissistic, or sociopathic people because they are toxic and destroy people! They are also harder to read in my experience, they are like the evil version of us INFJ'S. ! I loved your video here! It was very interesting and I learned some new things about you too! Thank you!❤❤❤
You two are FUN! I love how you always have a smile on your faces. Thanks for the insightful videos ;) - INFJ
I'm new to MBTI so I'm not really familiar with INTJ or INFP, but I'm an INFJ and you both totally seem like people I'd love to hang out with so I'll assume our types are similar enough. ;p
I love you two ❤️❤️❤️ please make more videos
Thats upsetting that i found this video only today😅.As an INFJ, it made me feel good. Thanks, girls. U r cutie pies❤
INFJ here. Awwww this made me happy :)
Greetings from an INFJ 💕. Thank you for the vídeo. I have people from both types in my life that I Love. And my INTJ friend was sending philosophical messages to me today.
The doorslam, for me last resort. Its a silent painful move. But yes i have had to doorslam, self-preservation.
Exactly I see it as a wise decision as an infj I don’t like to fight so I just leave with dignity because there is no reason to fight a lost battle.
Your friendship is goals
I'm an INFJ guy with an INFP sister and it's so cute to see how you behave like her. We're currently guessing our mum's type, maybe INTP.
I love your channel guys!!!
I’m infj thank you for making this video
All throughout college, I thought that I was an INFJ. But during my post grad studies, I started to think that I was probably more like an INFP. Then, my INTJ college roommate told me recently, "I've always thought that INFJ didn't describe you as well as it probably should .. and that you fit better as an INFP. I was right."
its very important for me to know how infp think and feel about infj.. i wish you can explain more in next video..
Oh man I always do the commenting on food thing as an INFJ 😂
You guys are adorable. -INFJ
I don't know, she kind of hit the nail on the head when she made the comment of "I'm imparting some wisdom to you plebs"... The judgement is there, however is rude to reveal, unproductive to the conversation, and will often completely end the relation.
Speaking of ending relations, exactly like you had ascribed; If a romantic relationship is feeling more draining, or generally don't impart the positivity it once did... Or the romantic partner is feeling less receptive and/or communicative... I'm quick to sever that relation, I perceive it as a waste of both of our time. I understand people find it hard to let things go, and we tend to cling to nostalgia. So, I'll save both of us some stress and time, and we can continue persevering on our forward oriented paths.
It’s crazy have me an infj look like an intj but have an infp inside I feel like a mix of two
I’m an INFJ and I love INTJs :)
INFJ male here... It's all so true.
I'm an INFJ and you guys are pretty accurate about me. I am empathetic, warm, kind and gentle. I never judge anybody. I do shut out people that take too much advantage of me. I am a gentle spirit who rarely has an outburst. I am super spiritual and I have hunches about the future. Spot on guys!
An INFJ here 🙂
I love how the INTJ is pretending to be able to listen to the Perceiver way of explaining by adding intuitive laughs in the proper places XD, no offence from an INFJ
Being myself an INFJ male, i am in love with an INTJ woman... And it's perfect.
Well about INFJs not being awkward... I honestly don't know, I feel like I'm being pointed out because of my awkwardness all the time.
Ok can we talk abt how nice they are
Is eating an SE or SI experience? I thought it was SI.
INFJ's and INTJ's are unique but INFP's are the Knights Who Say Ne.
Where is the coffee?
I love the vid
I could guess which hostess was the INTJ and which one was INFP by the way they dress.
What’s your friend’s RUclips channel?
What that INTJ is describing in the INFJ is Ti. The INTJ can’t stand how INFJ doesn’t show their work, but if the INTJ uses his or her intuition they eventually accept the INFJ is usually correct, even tho it seems they showed no work. INTJ is Te so they like to see the work and process in front of them. It’s a constant issue being around Te users as an INFJ. We get it, we just seem to have the answers sometimes, and maybe it looks like we have no work to show, but that’s because we are Ti and do that part in our heads!
I have a question: why does Fe come across as phony to others? Introverts with strong Fe are genuine with that function, so I'm curious how it comes across to others. I really want to know, so please don't worry about hurting my feelings with your honesty. *Lol
INFP: Not necessarily phony but generally introverted judging functions can see extraverted judging functions as too simplistic and results-oriented (while Je often sees Ji as overly convoluted and subjective).
phony to Fi users. :P
I even regret door slamming someone for 13 years and man I feel like an asshole. Excuse my language. Wished I had a way to go back in time to change the disturbing outcome.
Really enjoyed this video!
Dude i just love befriending and spending time with an intj but not romantically while i like friending a male enfj while i romantically interested in female enfj...
-infj
Or how about we answer questions before that person knows they have a question? I guess it could be a little spooky but umm yeah
INFJ's Warm and empathetic❓ Usually try to foster closeness in some respect❓ More often than not, we are usually regarded as cold & distant. ❄🗻
I'm an INFJt Empath. I know from personal experience. 🌌🚀
Good vid., 👍 but your energies are a bit too energetic. 😉
You know what's funny is the host's most powerful personality trait, second to female, is how Asian she is: body language, tonality, language, inflection. Idk yet how personality and topic choice or content will interact.
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Okay, well turns out there is another variable that creates a first impression, obscuring a clear personality profile. I am going to call it age. The guest seems like a thinker (though again gender is a surprisingly dominant factor) and it broadcasts fairly clearly. Wait unless I'm wrong. Anyway maybe because I'm Americsn the guest seems to present from a neutral canvas, well a pink one. The host is a pink canvas too, and she is writing in English but I am distracted by the calligraphy of her writing style (so you know I'm not saying it to be mean or racist, I'm just observing.) Obviously calligraphy is beautiful, just a different reading experience than type-written English.
Anyway, the rough edges will get sharper or more defined with time and experience.
INTJ here with an INFJ mom. The door slam is real. We’ve gone years not speaking several times before. She often tells me I’m cold or mean, and I see her as emotionally unhinged. When we’re doing well and are on talking terms, we talk about a lot subjects very easily!