Top 10 Habits of Happy Couples - Professor Boyfriend 11
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- Professor Boyfriend returns and discusses Psychology Today's article about the top ten habits of happy couples.
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my grandparents were married for over 67 years (my grandma died last September), and they always said "never go to bed angry at each other, go out of your way to help each other out and show the other person you care"...they were so cute together, my grandma would still sit on my grandpa's lap, and he would always drop her off at / pick her up from the front door if when they went to church or to eat out at a restaurant so she wouldn't have to walk... (: glad to have had their relationship as a benchmark / example for my own
Happy couples unconsciously dress in the same colors certain days, laugh together, forgive easily, can spend time in silence and not feel awkward. Happy couples also get excited to see each other and touch eachother alot, tease and appreciate eachother.
My happy relationship consists of some of these things. We definitely don't check in during the day - that's another stressful thing to add to my to-do list! But seriously... the best relationship advice I ever heard - "Don't be afraid to be the one who loves the most." Perfect.
A lot of couples are afraid of arguing, but in my personal experience arguing is hugely important. A lot of people are sometimes afraid to express a view or opinion, and keep it tucked away. I like being able to debate with my girlfriend, have meaningful, thoughtful discussions, and not always HAVE to have the same opinion about everything. Really being able to be yourself and still be best friends at the end of the day. That makes me happy.
It's important too to realize that couples are constantly growing and learning together so if there are times in the relationship that seem "unhappy" it is not a state that you are locked into. If this happens/is happening, take some time to look at yourself or use this list to do some things that maybe you're not doing. That way you are actively working to better your relationship and those actions in itself will improve your relationship.
talking and being truthful is the glue that keeps a relationship together
I think congratulating each other on accomplishments is a big thing like being proud of each others accomplishments. Also being able to poke fun of each other.
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You two nailed it. These things are natural things that happy couples do. I guess the trick is that sometimes the simple things are taken for granted, so it's good to have a refresher.
I noticed that when a couple seems to be really happy, they smile a lot(even for the little things). Also, you two for example, those couples that are "happy" normally act quite similar and have a lot of inside jokes.(I think it's adorable when girlfriend and boyfriend make silly faces and the other thinks it's cute^-^)
HOLY CRAP my boyfriend of 5 years and I already do all of these things and I know it's kind of silly to rely on somebody ELSE'S list to find out if you're in a happy relationship (I already knew!) But that is still kind of a really nice way to start my day, I'm feelin' good having some confirmation from an outside (Doctor) source, lol. Thanks Cristen!
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That intro was so nerdy and awesome! This is so obvious but communication is absolutely key. My last relationship was a long-distance thing and it was great at first. We emailed and texted several times a week in the beginning. We had Skype dates and sent each other gifts. But after a while, I felt like Iwas the only one wanting us to work. That gets old really quickly. So we broke up.
I absolutely agree with all of these things, my husband and I have been together for 10 years and one of the most important things to do (in my opinion) is to never go to sleep angry, and the second is telling your partner "I love you" all the time, with much skin to skin contact, whether its holding hands, hugging, or just cuddling, when ever you get a chance do it. Thinking about it though I think the most important thing is actually loving the soul not the characteristics, everyone changes and grows, and when you love the soul no matter how hard life can get you will always get through it, because its not things you love most its the who.
Happy couples are able to be goofy,are not afraid to be vulnerable in conversation, and feel comfortable enough to fart/burp/scratch weird places in front of each other.
+Keiren Velez I'm in a wonderfully close relationship, it doesn't mean I've suddenly come to enjoy being disgusting around others. Think of their comfort.
making cheesy videos together.... that's a sign of a happy couple right there.
Looking forward to seeing the person and putting effort into making time for them.
I saw you both at Beijing airport yesterday. Wanted to say hello but you were too far in the queue at the China custom (I try to be quiet and low profile in this kind of line up..) . Safe trip in Asia!
Single guy here, honestly I can say this has really opened my eyes on a few things. And I can definitely agree with the prof' Goolenberg that being happy about being out in public. Thanks for passing on the info', you two really have a PHD in relationship etiquette :P
Well my girlfriend's terrified of thunderstorms due to PTSD like symptoms, and everyday I check the weather and if I see a thunderstorm I get extremely worried about her. Really knowing you're happy is if both parties are overall happy and can feel comfortable around each other.
As for in a bad relationship, if they pressure you to lets say, give them nude pictures when you've said no. Or get too committed too quickly, and like Christen said picking at every single thing they do wrong.
Again- im only 14 so I don't have much experience but this is all I can manage.
haha this video is amazing! I just found your channel and I am hooked!
First of all, you two are so funny! Some of the things that really keep me and my husband happy are that we are forgiving, we consciously try to be better to each other every day by respecting each other along with appreciating each other daily, and have a team mentality. In contrast, I know when we're becoming unhappy when we get caught up with all the technology in our house and start becoming cranky because we get cabin fever. To remedy this problem we started going on evening walks and in general, try to live in the real world.
Elia Lightfoot You take my vote for logical and recipe for a happy relationship.
This was a suggested video for me today... on my 3 year wedding anniversary. I am happy to report most of these things are normal everyday occurrences for us even though I didn't notice the importance of them. Even when we are separated, which is frequent because he is military, these types of things are are important.
Being affectionate is a sign and also saying " I love you" often to your partner
My bf and I are happy. The #1 thing is healthy, honest, good communication. At least that's what's worked for us. We just mesh so well! :)
I never really thought about that, but as you went through the list I realized that my boyfriend and I do all of those things on that list without even thinking. Whether it is because we've been together for under a year or just because that's how it is, is pretty cool.
Always seek out new things to do together.
I think the list is good, we go to bed at different times, he always insists on walking in front of me, we're both hyper critical of each other, and I have a hard time with affection in public. We do really love each other, so I like these lists, because it gives me some concrete things to try to make us happier together. Thanks!
I'm a total night owl, and my husband has to wake up early in the morning, so we usually don't go to bed at the same time. I can see why that might indicate a happy relationship, but I think it's probably a secondary indicator. I would think the primary thing is to not be in a completely opposite world than your S.O. every day, so that you can spend time together when you're well rested, for example.
It's always fun in the first months of a relationship, you don't have to try to be excited, you don't have to try to be "In the mood". Your partner is ALWAYS exciting and interesting... Then the fire burns out and it turns to coals... This is when you need to try to keep that fire burning or accept that it's coals or maybe just have it as coals and every once in awhile make it fire again. Typically when the relationship turns to coals is when the "problems" occur. However I think it's important for HAPPY couples to not look at is as problems but rather look at is as an opportunity to see your partners personality, to really understand them. Usually at beginning of relationships people will just bottle things up cuz they don't want to ruin anything eventually that bottle fills to the top and..we know =) But I believe that for a happy relationship to happen these problems need to not be ignored or accepted, but Understood!!! I mean isn't that what love is? an understanding of another person, their sense of humor, what makes them tick. I mean without understanding it's IMPOSSIBLE to get that coal on fire again. Understanding,Balance, and knowledge of yourself and your partner is essential in my opinion =)
My S.O. and I cannot reasonably keep up with this list. We communicate about the big stuff and we make sure we talk at least once a day, but we recently had to agree to no more sleepovers so I can maintain my grave shift sleep schedule and go to bed at 5am on my 3 days off. For my health this is important so that means that it is important to both of us.
You guys are adorbz. Episodes with professor boyfriend are the best!
Some things that stick out as "happy couple markers" to me are things like being able to laugh with each other (or at each other :P), exchange sarcasm without taking it personally, spend time in silence without it getting awkward and trusting the other person.
I love my hunny bunny - a sense of humor is SO IMPORTANT
i don't know much about the relationship thing(only had 1 before), but I think having the same natural sleep cycle can be a good thing for a couple and of course always showing you care is good(when possible).
I'd say support one another in achieving optimal happiness. As long as you're doing that, everything else should follow.
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A happy couple supports each other's interests, even if they may not be their own. They enjoy each other's company no matter what situation they're in... every experience is enhanced because your s.o. is there! You make sure you celebrate each other's accomplishments, and you're able to grow individually as well as together.
I love how in these videos Cristen and her boyfriend can't stop staring romantically in each other's eyes. It's so cute.
One thing I do with my husband is everyday I tell him "Thank you for doing __________." for at least one thing, even when one of us is irritated at the other. It can't just be a quick little "Thank you." becasue he passed me the salt at the dinner table, it has to be a little more thought out than that. It's been amazing to watch when one of us is having a bad day, and after I say "Thank you" that our demeanor changes for the better.
I'm not going to lie it's really hard for me to find something to say thank you for when i'm mad at him, and we are disagreeing about something. But I suck it up and do it, and it has made a huge difference in our lives.
I like the 1,2,3 holding breath thing hahahhaa so funny
That was the most adorable thing that I've seen.
Those things are all natural!
Especially since my boo lives a town over.
This video is insanely funny! Well done!
Working actively towards being a happy couple.
Loved your version of #3
They are so good together!
"Let's take it one step further" "I'm with this girl, I'm with him" I laughed so hard, awesome video Cristen :). My boyfriend and I do most of those things, but my uncle and his partner fight in public, pretty bad, which I don't like.
I only really pay attention to the direct signs, such as commonly screaming at each other without actively making up.
I go to school full time and have a part time job during the day, and my boyfriend works 3rd shift, so it's not exactly like this list much. It's more like I tell him to have a good night at work when he's telling me goodnight and vice versa.
The weather check is a good habit!
After reading the comments I HAVE to say: if your relationship is working OK, don't get bent out of shape trying to fix it. You could just make yourself miserable trying to make changes your partner isn't ready to make, and then you'll feel disappointed and upset that 'they don't love you enough to change', and your partner will wonder why you are so upset and you'll start harping about it, and then your partner will try to avoid you because you have this little black rain cloud that growing into a thunderhead, and you'll be more miserable than you should be because...(deep breath)...you thought that someone else's list of habits would fit your unique relationship.
Not that I can't find the article by myself but it would be convenient for you to put the link in the about section...
My boyfriend and I are super clingy towards eachother. X3 and never go to sleep until an I love you is heard
Is this a list to follow to be happy or a list of notification of common habits a happy couple has?
couples who can be weirdos together ... like guys always seem to be happy.
a happy couple is one who doesnt need to ask themselves if they are happy. they just are
You guys have very similar facial features. You seem incredibly happy together. You seem to be very in-sync.
When you can poke fun at a list like this and then post it on the internet for all to see
For me...I know for sure that I'm in a perfect romantic relationship if I can talk to without feeling awkward or being too afraid to say the wrong thing.
You know it's bad when you are in the other room, they call out to you to tell you something, and you pretend you can't hear them so you can avoid any annoying discussion. Not even to avoid a fight, to just avoid discussion.
I feel like if you have to bring up how happy you are with your sig. other at every opportunity- you might not actually be happy. It's just one of those things where it's like, are you trying to convince me or yourself.
Both of you make me question my sexual orientation. So... thanks for that👍
I think the list is more for unhappy couples to work towards becoming happy than it is for happy couples to compare to
I enjoyed watching you go over the list. LOL! OMG... I'm getting old. You look soooo young. What a cute couple you make. -- I fail on aspects of the list, but happily married a long time. Hmm... probably married longer than you have been alive. ;-)
If you're worrying about whether or not you're happy you already have a problem. Don't go measuring, making lists, getting feedback from others, or making judgements about your relationship: just sit back, relax, and enjoy the good times!
Hmm, there are many things on this list that assume all couples live together. Does not work for my boyfriend & me.
I have met happy married couples that engage in some of these activities. The reason it might seem too cheesy for married couples, is because unfortunately most married couples are unhappy; thus, they don't engage in these activities. (that's why there is a high percentage of divorce)
My bf and I have different schdedules, so we rarely go to bed at the same time...
I don't do ANY of these. Damn...
The walking side by side thing is especially hard for me because I get anxious as HELL in crowds and I have to walk in a straight line. It's an OCD bummer...thing, but I have a rough time relaxing in crowds. Didn't realize it was a deal breaker. Boo.
MOST ADORABLE COUPLE EVER!
That guy looks like the actor that plays Theon Greyjoy on Game of Thrones.
I love your necklace.
OMG I'm trying so hard not to laugh out loud at work.....my boss is in the same room!!!!!!!!
Two words make my life easier. "Yes dear"
Is it just me or can I see both your mustaches.. Can not unsee now.
I think it's going to be difficult for a lot of people to be satisfied with any relationship after comparing it to how insanely perfect together you and prof. bf are ...
Gosh, I thought couples that cute only existed in movies ... guess it's not as unrealistic as I had convinced myself ...
I have a question..... ARE YOI TWO TOGETHER!? I really can't figure it out at times!? Please do tell me, thank tou
I don't think this list is designed to give a guideline for happy couples. Its more designed to help unhappy couples asses why. Ive been married for 5 years and my wife and I are unhappy even though we care about each other. I can pin point at least 3 things from this list that we don't do.
Lots of sex : >Working on your own development, having good emotional regulation, ability to think critically and logically, good social skills, conflict management skills, and higher levels of empathy, having similar goals/hobbies/values (to an extent), supporting each other, loyalty and transparency, expressing your appreciation and love.
My Fiancé & I feel that if a couple needs to follow a list to be happy than you are faking your relationship. Happiness like almost everything else comes naturally - all you have to to is nuture it =D
My lovely wife and I have been together for 13 years and only been married three years but we have the best relationship ever because we compromise we love each other we hug each other I make her laugh she makes me shake my head like what in the world is she talking about but I still love her I think me and my wife have a great relationship I wish everybody could have a relationship like me and my wife
Gottman found that the single strongest predictor of breakups is contempt, expressed by either or both partners in five minutes of videotaped conversation. Lack of contempt predicted the couple not breaking up, but not nearly as strongly.
Was that a Melodica!??
Well my guy and I are now married (year anniv in October - what what!) and I actually have to say (first of all super cute video guys:) This list really applies to us - a lot! It's kind of nice to be able to say, "yeah that's us - o yeah that too!" We've been together 5 years so - that's pretty rad right? :D
This is very cute!!
you smile when you think about your partner.
Tacky... cheesy hehehe signs of happy couple, balance their goals - check books - company - house together on the spending :D
I laughed at quite a few points in this video.
When you and your partner are discussing something, try listening first. Criticizing can be harmful.
So it's not a To Do list, but a list of symptoms
I don't know
Do you actually do any of these things?
one thing I do to see if everything is cool. is pick my hubbies nose. and if he lets me. everything ok. and if not something wrong. IT'S NUGGING TIME.
Mia Wallace is my spirit animal.
You guys are so cute!
iloveyouu cris!
This is so cute cuz now they're gettin MARRIED
lol at 1:28
OMG you guys are the CUTEST couple!
This list seems annoying things to do to your significant other. Especially the calling at work....... might get you fired. Then how happy would you be?