My therapist told me that the first 'shot' of adrenaline you get when you start to panic only has a life of 60 seconds. Basically your body will naturally use up that amount of adrenaline in 60 seconds and you can return to normal. I now count backwards from 60 if I feel that first rush and it has been incredibly helpful in preventing a lot of panic attacks that might otherwise have derailed my whole day. I'm not successful every time, but one less panic attack is definitely a good thing!
//Heloise// you will be able to one day, as a sufferer of anxiety, I can say that you will find things that terrified before you much easier as you grow and as time passes :)
'10/10 would panic again' I love you I used to have a 'panic box'. The idea is you get a cardboard box and decorate it, and fill it with things that calm you. Mine used to be filled with pictures of space and the universe, and quotes about how insignificant we are, and it calmed be down because it reminded me that whatever I was panicking about wasn't actually important, all consuming and all ending. This is useful for panic attacks that are triggered by more psychological than physical issues. :) The ones I get from claustrophobia I'm yet to conquer!
Does anyone else not feel like themselves any more? I'm too conscious of every move I make. I can't laugh anymore, I feel fake. I feel like whatever I did 10 minutes ago wasn't even me. I don't know how to hold myself and I've even forgotten how to talk to my best friends, everyone really. I've forgotten how to have the simplest of conversations and it's slowly killing me. Am I alone?
Like I feel like I'm boring people and because of that I don't speak to people in fear of boring them and in turn that actually bores them. Also, what if I say something stupid and they think about it later when the time taken for them to think that could have been a wonderful idea or something else and I've ruined it It's late at night can you tell
Kathryn McCallum You are not alone. It seems to be depression and I recommend seeing a therapist about it. I used to feel that way too. Don't self diagnose, but you deserve to be happy. You're mental health is just as important as your physical health.
Kathryn McCallum hey this is wild but i have been feeling everything you just said and i wanted to let you know that you are not alone. i feel like i've lost who i was when i was younger and that everyone can see how fake i am at all times, which is why i think i'm losing all my friends and i never say the right things to keep them in my life. i'm sorry i don't know how to fix things from here, but you are definitely not alone in this.
Kathryn McCallum I've never been able to describe what I have been feeling this past semester until I read your comment. It's life I'm a watching a movie of life but I'm not in it! Somebody else was laughing at a joke this morning, not me. I feel so distant from myself. I'm an over thinker much like Dodie, but this problem I always push aside and say it's nothing. It's anxiety isn't it? Okay yeah so thank you for that comment it helped me a lot I'm gonna go watch that anxiety vid now
i feel the exact same way. It seems like everything is slowly falling apart although nothing's really THAT wrong in my life. Nothing really makes me happy anymore and i feel so spaced out at times.
As someone who has GAD, SAD, and Panic disorder I can both agree and recommend these tips and I'd like to thank Dodie for bringing this in a nice setting!
Sad is "Seasonal Affective Disorder" It often occurs in the Winter months when ur body doesn't enough sunlight. My boyfriend has it, he has a speical light which he uses to help him out :)
i used to randomly panic when i was at school, and i remember that the one thing that really helped me was focusing on someone else and trying to follow their breathing patterns. i also tried to act normal while doing so and that usually made the panic 'get bored' and leave faster :) hope this can help someone !!
TIP TO HELP WITH AN ANXIETY ATTACK. - Look around you.- Find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 2 things you can taste.This is called grounding. It can help when you feel like you have lost all control of your surroundings. Hope this helps 💛💛 xxx
Hayley Barbera One of my good friends uses this technique too. Helps her stay grounded in reality when her brain wants to panic. I was going to comment this so I'm glad you did and explained it so well xxx
Hayley Barbera I do this for my dissociation episodes as well! Very good advice, I find even if it doesn't bring me back to reality, I'm at least more calm.
i've used a similar technique in DBT called 5-4-3-2-1. also i've learned that some people trace the five things they see like theyre following a light with their eyes. it's super helpful especially if you pick a more complicated thing to trace
one thing that my therapist says that helps is the square breathing (? idk if thats whats called but) 1- breath in for 4 secs. 2- stop breathing for 4 secs. 3- breath out for 4 secs. 4- stop breathing for 4 secs. repeat it imagining a square on your head. it really helps you to focus and relax. i have panic disorder and sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. but its worth trying :)
This is amazing I will definitely be using this, thank you for sharing this with us 💜 also thank your therapist for helping random strangers on the internet :)
I believe it's called square breathing... Also 7/11 breathing. Breath in for 7, breath out for 11. Big fan of square breathing. It takes a while to settle into if you're panicking, but it works.
I suffer from Panic Disorder as well as GAD. Things my family and I have learnt from having this as a regular occurrence are to put a heavy blanket over your shoulders and having straws in the cupboards. When panicking, drinking water or a smoothie or any drink through a straw really hones you in and is comforting. Sucking on a sweet also helps!
i can't say "I'm going to be okay" because I'm afraid I'll jinx it and I'll throw up actually (i have extreme emetaphobia and that's the main reason i get panic attacks) and the only way i can calm down is going to sleep
I read tips for when you're packing... watched at least 30 sec before I dobblechecked the title, and understood why she hadn't showed us her suitcase yet hahah
another tip, if you ever think anything like 'i cant stop this, im gonna go insane', just imagine trump telling you that. because its easier to tell him 'fuck off youre wrong ill be just fine' than to tell yourself. a silly, yet helpful tip.
heavyblurrysouls that tip is just gold. i will even try this on my other negative voices (like the one telling me i'm not good enough or i don't try hard enough) thank you!!!
Okay dodie I literally can't find enough words to explain how helpful you've been. I'm going thru a lot of shit in my life right now and you and your music helped me so much more than you'll ever know. I sometimes feel like an empty shell, and the only thing that helps me is your music. I'm also dealing with my sexuality and literally the first time I've heard "she" I BURST into intense tears. I always felt like I was a freak for feeling this way about girls (well technically I'm bisexual so heya sis) and thanks to you I've learned to accept my self and now I'm in the process of coming out. I would never have been able to do this without you. Thank you for everything you are and doing. I will NEVER be able to thank you enough. I wish you to be genuinely happy. You deserve it more than anyone else in the world 💜
I have had a lot of panic attacks in my life. Most of them have been triggered by going to college or by jobs. I also have severe social anxiety, depression, and to top it all off, I also have ADD. All of these things combined make it impossible for me to take classes or have even a part time job. I would get physically ill every time I even thought about all the commitments I had (School/work). My depression takes the form of a lack of motivation and a general sense of hopelessness. But I'm working on getting therapy so I can start feeling a little better.
grace! Hey I'm late but do to breathe in for 6 seconds, breathe out for 12. Or just double the amount of time you're breathing out in relation to inhaling.
I've had a panic attack once in my life and I feel like the worst thing is seeing people around you talking about you to other people for example: "How long has this been happening to her?" "When did this start" "Have you tried doing this.." "You should call her mom" and just thinking of things you want to say but you physically can't stop crying and/or screaming. Or when you just think about how you are screaming and feel so out of control. It was definitely the worst six hours of my life; I have troubles explaining it to people but I guess it's hard to understand it until you've been through it. I wish I could've remembered this video when I was having a panic attack, it's hard to think rationally when in such a state.
When I was diagnosed with a panic disorder my doctor and I came up with a mantra that I tell myself every time I panic... I am fine, everything is fine, I will be ok because everything is fine. Let it come let it go but in the end, all is well.
Ay yeah when I have a panic attack, one of my least fav things is seeing it freak other ppl out so I'm like no it's fine I'm just being crazy it's actually funny! And I sit there half laughing half sobbing/hyperventilating. Granted this makes me look even more insane but rip. The other day I literally vomited out of anxiety and was like look guys how wack is my body! And everyone was just like... dude wtf r ok... and I'm like no! It's normal and funny!! It's fine!! Just bc I'm so used to it at this point... I just need to remember to breathe outwards when I panic and have someone help find resolutions to my catastrophic thinking ay that shit fucks me up. Love you dode
Kaitlyn Trussell wtf my friend literally does the exact same thing I don’t quite do either, but when I’m panicking I just prefer someone calm and stable near me
I get them all the time, and they're horrible. Mine last between 10 and 40 minutes and they're the second worst thing in my life. I've had up to 8 in a single day. They usually have a reason, such as a few weeks ago I had to have vaccine injections (HPV in case anybody was wondering) and I have the *BIGGEST* fear of needles. I had about 4 panic attacks before I was even in the waiting room. I had a couple while it was being done, but lucky the woman doing it was very understanding and lovely, and reassured me that I was safe. When you said about how you should tell yourself that you're okay, the words you used literally almost made me cry. I've never had the control to be able to try and contain the panicky thoughts, but I know that I'm definitely going to remember to tell myself what you said here. "I am safe. I am okay. I will be okay." Thank you dodie. You truly are a lifesaver. x
Oh god your comment really struck home with me. I'm severely hemaphobic, can't stand needles, and just being in hospitals and doctor offices can trigger anxiety attacks. I completely believed that I would die if I went in for a blood draw a couple months ago. Like, I couldn't visualize myself existing and continuing on with my life after the draw. It sucks, because hardly anyone can relate to it, and it's a trigger you can't just avoid.
I have the exact same problem- I have the worst problem but when I went for some reason the doctor found it humorous of my fear. My parents were apologising and he was just chuckling to himself which just made me feel worse. So just know you are not alone and you are safe- if you ever want to talk I am here as someone who understands what you are going through
When I have a panic attack (because I suffer from an anxiety disorder) I try to find something to read over and over again and I try to make a pattern in my head because it helps me focus on keeping the pattern going and not think about my worries. For instance if I’m in a grocery store and I have a panic attack I look at one of the signs above the aisles and repeat what they say in my head. It helps me personally.
HashtagArtastic YES THIS WORKS!!! I have a panic disorder and GAD so I am very prone to panic attack, even when driving. And I read road signs a lot when I panic and it helps
i have watched this so so many times, i talk with you because i have memorised all the words by now, thank you for being the saviour for my panic attacks
*is currently having a panic attack* SHUT UP PHONE AAA- oh wait... oh ok... oh this is helping... oh looks like dodie did it again... she saved my life again... thank you dodie, ily
I have found that during my panic attacks (I get them because I have a sort of social claustrophobia (aka fear of being in a crowded room/hallway and not being able to see an exit)) it is best to focus solely on my breathing and every thought that comes into my head (like the walls are closing in or I can't leave this room or etc) I mentally say 'thinking' as a way to notice the thought but not give it enough attention to continue my panic. And I have also found that counting your breaths (like **breath in** one. **breath out** two. . . . ) brings my focus to something concrete, rather than my outrageous thoughts. For some reason I also find it comforting to feel my pulse.. almost like feeling my heartbeat helps me realize that I am still alive and doing generally okay.
Of course you uploaded this at the end of the day of my 8 minute speech lmao. I had a panic attack this morning, literally cry-screaming at my father to let me take a mental health day. I feel super bad.
This is so important!! My therapist has recommended most of the things you've mentioned, although its kinda a learning process and getting into the habit of doing these little tips they do really help after a while. I suffer with really bad anxiety attacks, depression and derealisation/dissociation and tip number 1 always helps a lot, especially when i've lost control of my body (because it doesn't feel real) but my mind itself is panicking.
i've had times where i have such weird feelings in my body and weird and embarrassing symptoms that just haunt me and makes me believe i have cancer, persistent genital arousal disorder(..yes) and all sorts of chronic and deadly disorders - and during those times i have THE WORST panic attacks that last for hours, while making my weird symptoms even worse so it never ends. and afterwards i'm still dealing with all the things i worry about. and i could never tell anyone the things that are wrong with me in real life, which makes me feel so alone and helpless. thankfully i started taking anxiety medication to keep me going:/ but thank you for this video, you are so extremely sweet
can you please do a video on what to do if a friends having a panic/anxiety attack??? i have a friend with major anxiety and i never know what to do when something happens. Thank youu!!!
Ella Jean this kind of dismal but there's not much, it's such a mental insular thing the only way to deal w it is like, ride it out and be mentally strong (so don't feel bad if you feel kinda helpless!
a guide : anxiety -taking care of someone- Now, if someone ever comes to you talking about their anxiety, please, please, please don't brush it off your shoulder like it's nothing. Please, please, please don't sweep anything under the rug. You have to look at it in their perspective. If they say something that seems little to you, it could be huge for them. You don't know what triggers their anxiety. You'll pick up on the little things the more you talk to them, so all you can do at that moment is say that you're there for them. Just… be careful of what you say always. And if they're telling you about their anxiety, they obviously trust you so please, please be careful with the way you react. Your reaction is probably everything to them, so tell them it's okay and don't ever say something hurtful. Also… if they cry a lot… don't call them a crybaby, please? Please don't ask whether or not they're more emotional that day either… they've probably just been acting like they're okay even when their anxiety has been slowly nipping away at the back their brains. Please, please, please don't assume things like that. Please just be there for them and don't ever, ever tell them what to do, just listen. If a panic attack occurs, take the person to a quiet place with minimal people (best without anyone at all) and tell them to do breathing exercises. In 4, out 6. Continue to do this until their breathing is even, but take a few minutes after to just sit quietly. < this works for me, but it may or may not work for your friend If you notice they are not talking someday and they don't seem to want to talk, don't ask them why they're being quieter that day or whether they feel upset/why they seem upset. Just recognize the social queues and do more of the talking… or just let there be comfortable silence (it depends on what fits the situation the most, just don't force them to talk). Also, if they try to add something but say never mind, don't get annoyed. Just smile and say, “Okay, tell me later if you want.” Lastly, hugs are appreciated (though, you don't need to do that if it's uncomfortable). But once again, watch out for social queues and try not to read the situation in the wrong way. If you're not sure, just ask if they want a hug, but it's probably best to ask all of the time. Bottom line of this guide is that they need someone to ground them, you are that person because they trust you, and these are the things you need to remember. With someone with severe anxiety, I made this guide awhile back and it might not be the same with your friend, but hopefully it helped a little.
ok, but what if that person is becoming really dependant on you? like if you feel like you cant do anything for yourself, and if the person is becoming possessive and expectant, acting like its your responsibility to drop everything to help them? what do you do if the person invalidates any of your own kind of fears or anxieties with "well you dont have a mental illness like me" or if they start acting or saying things that imply you dont care about them unless you are ready to drop everything to do anything to help them? idc if this makes sense, but i just want to help, but it starts getting really difficult when the person starts getting really possessive and expectant and it feels like you cant do anything anymore, like your skating on thin ice. this may seem really selfish and mean, but its hard because its taking quite a toll on me. idc
recently i've been dealing with a lot of anxiety issues, and i've had about 4 panic attacks this month, i literally had one 10 mins ago. not only did this video help, but just watching you in general really helps. listening to your voice, singing or not, helps me calm down. i just want you to know, i really appreciate you, you're beautiful, talented, and over all just an amazing lil bean. i love you
I really cannot believe that I hadn't subscribed to your videos earlier. honestly it makes me feel not broken or alone when you are so open and helpful with content like this. thank you
oh dodie, I needed this so much right now. I had to spend three days in the psych ward this past weekend because of a massive panick attack that drove me to overdose on advil. it was awful and scary and I hope something like that never happens again. Reminders that there are other people like me out there who suffer from panic attacks always makes me feel better so thank you
This is such an awesome video, Dodie :D I was actually misdiagnosed as having panic attacks about 6 months ago, it turned out it was bouts of mild oculogyric (spelling?) crisis caused by anti-psychotics I was on. So if you're on psychotropic medication and having strange (and in my case unexplained) episodes of panic and depersonalisation that seem to have no trigger, check the side effects and consult a psychiatrist :)
my mum loves me watching you. she realises that you help me through my recent depression and anxiety/over-thinking. i love you. thank you for everything dodie.
Dodie, there has never been a video with better timing I was feeling really anxious all day (I have GAD) and I started having an anxiety attack watching other RUclips videos, this then came on through autoplay and I felt like I had you by my side helping me calm down, thank you for this. It saved me from getting into a much bigger state than I was. I have been hospitalised by my anxiety attacks before and your video may have just saved me from having that happen again. Thank you x
I had a panic attack at prom a few years ago (it was scary as hell at the time but now I laugh about it with friends), so I literally had a panic at the disco. -_-
MY TIP THAT OFTENLY WORKS (this mostly works when I feel like it is calming down but im panicking it wont and I wont be okay) -take a walk (around the place you know) - then look around yourself -look at people and describe them •"she has dark eyebrows" •"she is brunnette" •"her hair is really pretty I wonder what--blah blah" -try to remeber some things that happend around there (positive, funny)
no doubt it's a challenge to put out a video every single day, but i am so glad that you are doing it... your "see you tomorrow" at the end makes me smile such a warm smile-- also, i suffer from quite a few random panic attacks, and hearing someone talk about the same things that i experience exactly really helps me accept that they are real
you've literally been more helpful than any doctor, neurologist, or councillor I've ever had to see for my anxiety. I once started crying whilst presenting an English paper because I was having such bad anxiety (what made it worse I had 2 ex's in my class and 1 of them was laughing)
Kristina Roy everything becomes overwhelming and all your emotions are multiplied to the power of ten. It sometimes makes people throw up or faint. Some say it's like a heart attack or even death.
you sort of just know? i dunno. if you're freaking out and can't stop it no matter what and you sort of have an alarm bell in your head then you probably are I left a little link in the description!
doddlevloggle thank you much dodie! Sometimes I get really panicky and closed off so I'm trying to figure out if those are panic attacks or just like normal level panic
Heart Eyes Howell for me its kinda like nothing feels real. you dont feel like youre in your body but either somewhere outside watching yourself or nowhere else and everything is like a dream, you dont feel anything, its like youre nervously numb, like your life feels not real and not like a happening thing and you cant understand anything, all that stuff. all i could say is just dont stress over it because its fine :) youre fine and everythings gonna be okay
Heart Eyes Howell I also have depersonalisation, and it truly sucks! I always thought I was the only person who'd ever experienced it, but thanks to Dodie and her fans I've realised that I'm not alone!
thank you so much for this Dodie. as im going through gcse bullshit at the moment, there have been a few times where ive found myself not being able to breathe (being asthmatic doesn't help in these situations) and feeling faint and having to remove myself from situations when i suddenly start feeling uncomfortable or panicky. i feel like the room is closing in, my vision goes blurry and my legs feel like jelly. sometimes i ask go to the toilet as an excuse to get away and calm myself down because im not comfortable. gcse music has been hectic. weve had so many replacement teachers over 2 years and i only just found out exactly what im meant to be submitting today and i have till May to complete it. i and the rest of my class are stressed and are freaking out. but today we came together, not only as a class, but as a family to calm each other down and support each other in this difficult time. i will use your advice and share it with others as much as i can. i cannot thank you enough x
i'm in a weird position with anxiety. i was diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder when i was twelve, and they put me on meds, but turns out, they only worsened my other symptoms, such as depression, and anger issues. so, i'm no longer on medication, since they said it would not work for me. so i'm stuck. like, i don't have any solution for it. i literally just have to deal with it and figure it out myself. so if i ever have a panic attack, i have to deal with it and figure out how to calm myself down. if i have anxiety about something, i have to just deal with it. but this video helped a lot. i'll try some stuff out and try not to panic, so thanks, dodie. (:
kaleioli if you ever feel helpless in terms of meds , (no pressure but like if you did want to take them again) I always remember that there's 1000s of anti depressants and anxiety drugs so chance is you're probably gonna have to take 3/4 duds before you find like /your/ meds xx don't give up on healing ;)
I know this video was posted two years ago (anyone from 2019?) but I'm going to comment here because I don't really talk to people about my anxiety. I have a minor sports-induced asthma, and an irrational fear of not being able to breathe, which may have been from severely choking on water during swim practice when I was younger. The swim coach was standing at the pool right where I was struggling to cough up the water and try to get some air, and she didn't move or react at all to help me. I believe that is the major reason why when my asthma kicks in, I start to panic and hyperventilate and overthink everything that I'm doing, mostly while I'm running. It's gotten to a point where I didn't want to run for high school track this year because I didn't want to feel like a burden for my teammates, and I always feel like people judge me for not having control over my anxiety. I would rather cut out the sport from my life than to experience the panic and guilt of not being enough. I know that not many people are going to read this, or even respond with their story, but if anyone is going through a similar thing then please tell me how you're coping with it. I hope that one day I'll be able to live properly with my anxiety and accept it as something that defines who I am.
I realized all of the methods you mention for myself the hard way a couple years ago, I know it can seem really counter intuitive to just allow it to wash over you, but just noticing/acknowledging it instead of obsessing definitely works. Most of the time it'll just go away pretty quickly now and I've been a much happier/well put together person since I started to look at it that way.
thank you so much!!!! i usually watch your videos when im having panic attacks and they help calm me down. and to have one dedicated to panic attacks is the best thing ever. i love you
I suffer for anxiety and panic attacks but because of my age (14) if I go to the doctors they won't help it they always say "it is just your age" which is just so annoying...so I have to deal with them myself
Josephine I'm 13 almost 14 and I do panic all the time (and I'm incredibly anxious about everything). I don't think it's particularly serious but I have had several panic attacks before... I hope they listen to you soon... I don't know what age they take you seriously? 😒
yeah, I'm thirteen and every time i I try talking about my anxiety and depression they say it's just teenage hormones and that it'll go away soon, but yet it runs in my family??? so I have to deal with mental breakdowns and anxiety attacks all on my own because it's "just teenage hormones". like, no, bro, I have anxiety and depression. help. but yeah, I hate when doctors and stuff do that. they never take us seriously
Just thought I would tell you my tip for PANICKING IN EXAMS that DOES work. You breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds and out of your mouth for 7 seconds! ❤️❤️
Dodie you are my hero. I cried watching this video. I've been struggling with actual panic disorder for about 4 years. It's a lot better today than it once was, but still. This video touched me so much I just wanna hug you
Before I even watched this myself I saw the title and in my class a friend of mine was having a panic attack (she gets them quite often, she's on medicine though) and I just took her phone, got her RUclips, and put this video on and put her headphones in. She resisted it but in the end I do genuinely believe she watched the video and she did seem a lot more calm after watching it so I just want to thank you for giving me something to show her when she needs it and something I can watch when I need it.
i had my first panic attack when i was in school and period one i realised that i had homework due in period two and i hadn't done it and i started shaking and crying and it was awful and i couldn't breathe and then my teacher went "are you okay?" and i was like "NOOOOO" so she sent me home and i did the homework, that was great.
I have an anxiety disorder and asthma so I carry a tissue around with some lavender oil on it and when I feel stressed and out of breath I smell it and it makes me feel more focused on that and clears my airways to make it easier to breath. :)
this is the LITERAL BEST advice video about how to deal with a panic attack in the moment that i have ever seen, and i have had an anxiety disorder since i was 12 or so. how??? this?? needs to be watched by everyone
Thanks for creating a cozy environment where we can talk about these things. At least for me, talking about what makes me panic and how to cope with it is scary, and it makes me really happy that you made this video :)
STORY TIME WITH OZZIE: So every day after school I walk to a carpark to meet my mum and she then drives me home. It was always fine, id walk, she'd be there, we'd go home. Untill one day she was late. But I didnt know she was on her way and I didnt have my phone. My thoughts: "SHES DEAD OMG SHES DEAD AND THERES NOTHING I CAN DO IM JUST STUCK HERE AND MY MUM IS DEAD".. Yeah.. But then id see her drive up as normal, telling me that the traffic was major. Id be like "lol, ok" but actually i wanted to cry. THE NEXT DAY smart ass me forgot her phone again and mum was late again. Re-read past experience ^^^ This caused me to call my Dad while I was walking, so if she wasnt there, my Dad was technically with me. My mum was never late again but id still call dad. Id often text him at lunch in school to make sure he had his phone on him, but when he was busy or didnt reply, Ozzie (me) goes into ANOTHER panic. "OMG HES DEAD TOO"...yeah... This caused me often going to the medical room and being sent home. My mum was never late again since then and my dad always replies now, but I still have panic attacks every day filled with thoughts like: "WHAT IF THEY FORGET TO MEET ME? WHAT IF THEY DIE? WHAT IF I LOOSE MY PHONE?" now every day i check if i have my phone at the beggining and end of every lesson and always have someone wait with me untill my dad picks up the phone.. Thank you so much if you are still here! Id like some help on how to overcome this... Thank you
I found out that without reason I started repeating "Everything is okay" whenever I panic, I don't know when I started doing it but it helps quite a bit. Though people give me some strange looks when in public...
Devin Shaun Yes. You have to eat three meals a day. If you have a problem doing that that sounds like some sort of eating disorder and I recommend seeking help (I'm recovering from one myself). You're not a beast, you're thoughts are just disordered. Not eating can lead to lack of focus, harder to think, and your brain literally SHRINKS! You can also get seizures if you don't eat enough. Please eat daily fren ♥ ♥ ♥
Also remember that every beautiful living creature on this planet eats. Every flower, every cat, every plant, be it a tiny animal like a delightful butterfly or a giant blue wahle - they all eat, they're strong, beautiful and powerful in their own way.
I love that videos like this are getting more and more common. It's great to see this being talked about! I hope we can start seeing a decrease in mental illnesses in the future, as opposed to the rise we seem to be in now, with all of the help that is out there now. A girl can hope! Also your hair looks extra soft and fluffy in this video, it's lovely :)
I sent this to my friend who has anxiety and panic attacks pretty commonly and gets stressed out very quickly. I sent this to her because last night I was calling her and she was freaking out about a tooth surgery she has tomorrow and how she also has a project due Friday. She said she'd watch this video and she texted me saying she felt more calm. Thank you dodie because this girl is the light of my life and I want her to be happy💕
Hello! Can anyone help me? I've been dealing with loneliness and it makes my mental state very sad, but my emotions I show to people are monotone and I act like life is mundane, which it is. Any advice for lonely people? Thank you
Emily Kim probably someone has already told you this, buuuuut you should say what you're feeling. I know it's hard but taking it away from your chest will make you feel more free and less lonely specially if you can say it to someone who you can like cry in their shoulders and stuff, there's also a lot of apps like 7 cups of tea, that will lisent to you and if you need help they'll give it to you. But i recommend you talk to a friend or a family member and if it's hard to say it out loud writting a letter could really help.
Emily Kim the samaritans are really good people to talk to. I phoned up and they kept me from have a mental break down and just spoke to me and calmed me down. if you in a different country that isn't the UK there must be people that you can speak to about it. maybe like coucilling. I know that you may not want to open your heart to a stranger but it may help! my uncle suffered with mental illness like loneliness and depression and with the help of his friends, councillors and the samaritans, he got through it.. maybe give it a go! please let me know about your decision! I'd really like to know!
amy mason the samartians are in america too! they came to my school last week. it's really good to talk to people about your feelings, and they're great people to talk to. good luck!
dodie dodie dodie dodie dodie two years ago i went to disneyland and i experienced the worst panic attack of my life i threw up and long story short i just freaked out and ruined my family's trip. I've never met anyone who has this same thing and this video brought tears to my eyes just knowing that someone else was going through this. it was so comforting to see that someone i look up to SO SO SO SO much has experienced something that she explains at least to be exactly what i went through is so comforting. when you explained in your snapchat your anxiety and panic attacks i just wanted to give you a hug and explain some of my tricks that work for me. anyways I've learned how to control this horrible feeling of not being in your own body and hope you do also someday. love you to the moon xx morgan
These are great tips! I think everyone who has panic attacks eventually learns the signs of a panic attack and how to deal it somehow. I find that something that helps me is to immediately tell someone I'm comfortable with telling that I'm having a panic attack, have them hold my arm or hand, and then embrace what is going to happen. I try to be okay with what is happening, let it happen, and drink lots of water. This gets me back to normal the quickest.
An anxiety attack is when you have a fear based attack that's because of something, say you're really stressed because of school, so you get an anxiety attack. A panic attack is when you have a fear based attack that happens randomly.
Sarcastic Squareflake my counsellor described it like: an anxiety attack is more like overwhelming, racing thoughts and a panic attack is a lot more physical e.g. I've fainted from panic attacks. hope that helps and hope you're ok !
The easiest way to describe the difference is when it occurs in relation to the event that you're dealing with. An anxiety attack will end once the situation is dealt with, whereas a panic attack occurs during and after. Also, panic attacks are more physical when it comes to the symptoms, where you can cry and hyperventilate and so forth, whereas an anxiety attack is more mental, really stressed out thoughts. I hope this helped! ^.^
Ellie Wildgoose Thank you! I think I suffer more from anxiety attacks. I just get confused sometimes because some people say anxiety attacks, and some people say panic attacks for the same thing. I just remembered that somebody told me they were different and I wanted to know. But I start counselling soon so I'll be able to ask all sorts of questions. Soz for telling you my life story which you didn't ask for lol 😊
!!! something I've been working on is recognizing the thoughts and anxiety and kind of acknowledging them like "oh okay that's interesting but that's not true" or "okay, what am I feeling? do I know why? how can I help this? what is good right now? what can I look forward to?" etc etc. being mindful is an absolutely excellent tactic.
this is calmed me down a little bit, thank you dodie :) if anybody has any tips on how to get rid of anxiety please reply to me because I’m so sick of having this illness. I can’t sleep, eat or basically function. Soooo you can see my struggle? Thanks x
this is a lovely video dodie. i saw this from a post on tumblr, credit to sensitivesuggestion for writing this, i thought it was very helpful as well: 1. self-soothing comforting yourself through the 5 senses Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually Taste: tea, mints, gum Smell: lotion, candles, incense 2. distraction removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social/talking to loved ones 3. opposite action doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus 4. emotional awareness identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy 5. mindfulness centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk 6. ask for help this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life
This was super informative and insightful and your videos in general are so gentle and calming they help me with my anxiety so much but thanks for this because although i've been in several different types of therapies for the past year, my main issue is that when I have a panic attack, I don't know what to do. My therapists often give me tools to use when I'm just feeling generally anxious, which are good to have as well, but these are all really great tips for when I'm actually panicking, which has been a huge struggle for me in the past.
Am I the only one that gets anxiety and then in their head is like you're just making it up for attention and when you talk to people you just want empathy any way possible and then you're like well these thoughts are just for attention and then it gets to the point where you can't do or think anything without it "being for attention" in your mind and then you get overwhelmed and have a panic attack because that happens a bit too much for me and I haven't ever heard of anyone else doing that so I just wanna know if I'm alone on this or not
I literally just had a panic attack while doing a drama performance and my teacher gave me a detention so hopefully this will help me avoid the bullshit school system. I just think the drama teacher hates me because she's hella homophobic and I'm hella gay 😂 x thanks dods
I literally can't thank you enough for this, just knowing that someone else understands what I'm going through is the nicest feeling in the world thank you so so much x
I love you so much for being so outspoken about mental health! I suffer from anxiety (but rarely have full blown panic attacks) and this is pretty much how I deal with my anxiety as well.
my life is too much panic and not enough disco
irelan.mccormick S👽A👽M👽E
Too much falling out and not enough boys
irelan.mccormick id just like to say i was the 420th like- 420 blaze it lol (why am i like this)
Too much chemistry homework and not enough romance.
Too much chemistry homework and not enough romance.
My therapist told me that the first 'shot' of adrenaline you get when you start to panic only has a life of 60 seconds. Basically your body will naturally use up that amount of adrenaline in 60 seconds and you can return to normal. I now count backwards from 60 if I feel that first rush and it has been incredibly helpful in preventing a lot of panic attacks that might otherwise have derailed my whole day. I'm not successful every time, but one less panic attack is definitely a good thing!
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if I ever have a panic attack at a club, I will have literally panicked at the disco and my life will be complete
erin the only place that a panic attack can have any positivity
Twenty One Phan Babies Falling out! at the Disco true
I have had one at a disco. I have completed your life for you. :)
//Heloise// you will be able to one day, as a sufferer of anxiety, I can say that you will find things that terrified before you much easier as you grow and as time passes :)
erin if you see anyone panicking at a disco, you should threaten them with a good time then they'll probs be okay
'10/10 would panic again'
I love you
I used to have a 'panic box'.
The idea is you get a cardboard box and decorate it, and fill it with things that calm you.
Mine used to be filled with pictures of space and the universe, and quotes about how insignificant we are, and it calmed be down because it reminded me that whatever I was panicking about wasn't actually important, all consuming and all ending.
This is useful for panic attacks that are triggered by more psychological than physical issues. :)
The ones I get from claustrophobia I'm yet to conquer!
Katie M YOU CAN DO IT !!! I believe in you
Katie M that's a nice idea
Does anyone else not feel like themselves any more? I'm too conscious of every move I make. I can't laugh anymore, I feel fake. I feel like whatever I did 10 minutes ago wasn't even me. I don't know how to hold myself and I've even forgotten how to talk to my best friends, everyone really. I've forgotten how to have the simplest of conversations and it's slowly killing me. Am I alone?
Like I feel like I'm boring people and because of that I don't speak to people in fear of boring them and in turn that actually bores them. Also, what if I say something stupid and they think about it later when the time taken for them to think that could have been a wonderful idea or something else and I've ruined it
It's late at night can you tell
Kathryn McCallum
You are not alone. It seems to be depression and I recommend seeing a therapist about it. I used to feel that way too. Don't self diagnose, but you deserve to be happy. You're mental health is just as important as your physical health.
Kathryn McCallum hey this is wild but i have been feeling everything you just said and i wanted to let you know that you are not alone. i feel like i've lost who i was when i was younger and that everyone can see how fake i am at all times, which is why i think i'm losing all my friends and i never say the right things to keep them in my life. i'm sorry i don't know how to fix things from here, but you are definitely not alone in this.
Kathryn McCallum I've never been able to describe what I have been feeling this past semester until I read your comment. It's life I'm a watching a movie of life but I'm not in it! Somebody else was laughing at a joke this morning, not me. I feel so distant from myself. I'm an over thinker much like Dodie, but this problem I always push aside and say it's nothing. It's anxiety isn't it? Okay yeah so thank you for that comment it helped me a lot I'm gonna go watch that anxiety vid now
i feel the exact same way. It seems like everything is slowly falling apart although nothing's really THAT wrong in my life. Nothing really makes me happy anymore and i feel so spaced out at times.
I panic whenever I have an asthma attack. Which obviously doesn't help me breathe again.
Jackie House me too!!
Jackie House same
Jackie House same :/
same i’ve been sent home from school like 5 times for it lmao
Eliz abeth I'm just glad I'm not the only one tbh
As someone who has GAD, SAD, and Panic disorder I can both agree and recommend these tips and I'd like to thank Dodie for bringing this in a nice setting!
Maeve re sorry if I'm prying but I was just wondering what sad and gad is?
Maddie Johnson gad is generalised anxiety disorder and I think sad is seasonal affective disorder
Sad is "Seasonal Affective Disorder" It often occurs in the Winter months when ur body doesn't enough sunlight. My boyfriend has it, he has a speical light which he uses to help him out :)
i always found it funny how seasonal affective disorder spells sad
your hair looks fucking great in this video. you look fucking great in this video. you always look fucking great
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samantha esther tru
samantha esther YES YES YES
i swear her hair grows so fast what is this sorcery
Lyn M is your prolife pic dodie yellow
my panic attacks happen over thought of existentialism and my eventual non-existence. fun stuff, let me tell you.
Existential crisis? I'm familiar with it.
Oh dude I feel you on this
Has anyone found a fix for this?
@@huskylover8167 antidepressants 😜
i used to randomly panic when i was at school, and i remember that the one thing that really helped me was focusing on someone else and trying to follow their breathing patterns. i also tried to act normal while doing so and that usually made the panic 'get bored' and leave faster :) hope this can help someone !!
didnt expect to see you here lmao
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TIP TO HELP WITH AN ANXIETY ATTACK.
- Look around you.- Find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 2 things you can taste.This is called grounding. It can help when you feel like you have lost all control of your surroundings. Hope this helps 💛💛 xxx
Hayley Barbera ooohh I like this
Hayley Barbera One of my good friends uses this technique too. Helps her stay grounded in reality when her brain wants to panic. I was going to comment this so I'm glad you did and explained it so well xxx
Hayley Barbera I do this for my dissociation episodes as well! Very good advice, I find even if it doesn't bring me back to reality, I'm at least more calm.
i've used a similar technique in DBT called 5-4-3-2-1. also i've learned that some people trace the five things they see like theyre following a light with their eyes. it's super helpful especially if you pick a more complicated thing to trace
Rachel the Viking Lemon i watched a documentary in health last year and it mentioned this so i thought i would share
one thing that my therapist says that helps is the square breathing (? idk if thats whats called but)
1- breath in for 4 secs.
2- stop breathing for 4 secs.
3- breath out for 4 secs.
4- stop breathing for 4 secs.
repeat it imagining a square on your head. it really helps you to focus and relax.
i have panic disorder and sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. but its worth trying :)
itsmemoony I will try this, thank you for the tip, have an amazing day :)
This is amazing I will definitely be using this, thank you for sharing this with us 💜 also thank your therapist for helping random strangers on the internet :)
Sydnee Nichols no need to thank me, i really hope it works out for you 💙
Bryony The Overthinking Pigeon im happy to share things that might help other people, i really hope it helps you 💙
I believe it's called square breathing...
Also 7/11 breathing. Breath in for 7, breath out for 11.
Big fan of square breathing. It takes a while to settle into if you're panicking, but it works.
I suffer from Panic Disorder as well as GAD. Things my family and I have learnt from having this as a regular occurrence are to put a heavy blanket over your shoulders and having straws in the cupboards. When panicking, drinking water or a smoothie or any drink through a straw really hones you in and is comforting. Sucking on a sweet also helps!
Dodie, you look beautiful! #hairgoals
i can't say "I'm going to be okay" because I'm afraid I'll jinx it and I'll throw up actually (i have extreme emetaphobia and that's the main reason i get panic attacks) and the only way i can calm down is going to sleep
fun story - there's no such thing as a jinx. there are only coincidences. choose your own truth! you will be okay :)
I don't believe in coincidences or jinx's..
Dippy Is Bae I have extreme emetaphobia too which causes my panic attacks so I feel your pain.
oh my god i have emetophobia as well its the worst thing
I'm having an emetaphobia panic attack right now :( :( I don't know what I can do
Read that as 'tips for when you're picnicking'
Katie Grubb dodie should do that as a video
Katie Grubb i read 'tips for when you're packing'
Katie Grubb I'd totally watch dodie giving picnic advice
Leen P. same hahah
I read tips for when you're packing... watched at least 30 sec before I dobblechecked the title, and understood why she hadn't showed us her suitcase yet hahah
another tip, if you ever think anything like 'i cant stop this, im gonna go insane', just imagine trump telling you that. because its easier to tell him 'fuck off youre wrong ill be just fine' than to tell yourself. a silly, yet helpful tip.
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heavyblurrysouls that tip is just gold. i will even try this on my other negative voices (like the one telling me i'm not good enough or i don't try hard enough) thank you!!!
and if you're brazilian just think about Temer saying that, it works as well
Okay dodie I literally can't find enough words to explain how helpful you've been. I'm going thru a lot of shit in my life right now and you and your music helped me so much more than you'll ever know. I sometimes feel like an empty shell, and the only thing that helps me is your music. I'm also dealing with my sexuality and literally the first time I've heard "she" I BURST into intense tears. I always felt like I was a freak for feeling this way about girls (well technically I'm bisexual so heya sis) and thanks to you I've learned to accept my self and now I'm in the process of coming out. I would never have been able to do this without you. Thank you for everything you are and doing. I will NEVER be able to thank you enough. I wish you to be genuinely happy. You deserve it more than anyone else in the world 💜
Bi prideeeee
Gal Raveh awwww this is so cute
Gal Raveh aw this comment is so pure i love it ;3
I have had a lot of panic attacks in my life. Most of them have been triggered by going to college or by jobs. I also have severe social anxiety, depression, and to top it all off, I also have ADD.
All of these things combined make it impossible for me to take classes or have even a part time job. I would get physically ill every time I even thought about all the commitments I had (School/work).
My depression takes the form of a lack of motivation and a general sense of hopelessness. But I'm working on getting therapy so I can start feeling a little better.
BoatingMyFloat Are you doing any better now? You sound really strong I admire you :)
BoatingMyFloat It's ADHD. The term "ADD" hasn't been used in a long time.
May no. Those are two different disorders. Only some people have the hyperactive aspect of attention deficit disorder.
Add sucks.
..........................but what if i have a blocked nose when i try closing my mouth and breathing
we NEED you Doot
doot DOOT NOOOOO
grace! Hey I'm late but do to breathe in for 6 seconds, breathe out for 12. Or just double the amount of time you're breathing out in relation to inhaling.
grace! Iiiiiiik
This legitimately happened to me a few days ago and it was awwwfullll
you're gorgeous and my gay heart can't take it I loVE YOU
omgmg same!
Siobhan Rose gay squad lol🏳️🌈
erin Same🌈
I'm not even gay but every time I look at Dodie..I just..my heart can't take it.
But same tho
I've had a panic attack once in my life and I feel like the worst thing is seeing people around you talking about you to other people for example: "How long has this been happening to her?" "When did this start" "Have you tried doing this.." "You should call her mom" and just thinking of things you want to say but you physically can't stop crying and/or screaming. Or when you just think about how you are screaming and feel so out of control. It was definitely the worst six hours of my life; I have troubles explaining it to people but I guess it's hard to understand it until you've been through it. I wish I could've remembered this video when I was having a panic attack, it's hard to think rationally when in such a state.
What about if you're in a disco?
Panic! at the Forehead oh boy
Panic! at the Forehead I love both of your usernames
jacksfilms?
Then you make a weird joke about it, or play a song by panic!
Well then I guess that you panic! At the disco
When I was diagnosed with a panic disorder my doctor and I came up with a mantra that I tell myself every time I panic... I am fine, everything is fine, I will be ok because everything is fine. Let it come let it go but in the end, all is well.
Ay yeah when I have a panic attack, one of my least fav things is seeing it freak other ppl out so I'm like no it's fine I'm just being crazy it's actually funny! And I sit there half laughing half sobbing/hyperventilating. Granted this makes me look even more insane but rip. The other day I literally vomited out of anxiety and was like look guys how wack is my body! And everyone was just like... dude wtf r ok... and I'm like no! It's normal and funny!! It's fine!! Just bc I'm so used to it at this point... I just need to remember to breathe outwards when I panic and have someone help find resolutions to my catastrophic thinking ay that shit fucks me up. Love you dode
Dodd...... dodie* smh
Kaitlyn Trussell i can strangely relate to this
Kaitlyn Trussell hi
Kaitlyn Trussell wtf my friend literally does the exact same thing
I don’t quite do either, but when I’m panicking I just prefer someone calm and stable near me
Really needed this. I just finished my first final of the day and I'm not ready for the second one. Thank you Dodie! You're a life / grade saver!
Good luck :) I know you'll do great
Bryony The Overthinking Pigeon Thanks!
Good luck!! :)
Khris Adyn good luck! *sends virtual hug*
I get them all the time, and they're horrible. Mine last between 10 and 40 minutes and they're the second worst thing in my life. I've had up to 8 in a single day. They usually have a reason, such as a few weeks ago I had to have vaccine injections (HPV in case anybody was wondering) and I have the *BIGGEST* fear of needles. I had about 4 panic attacks before I was even in the waiting room. I had a couple while it was being done, but lucky the woman doing it was very understanding and lovely, and reassured me that I was safe. When you said about how you should tell yourself that you're okay, the words you used literally almost made me cry. I've never had the control to be able to try and contain the panicky thoughts, but I know that I'm definitely going to remember to tell myself what you said here. "I am safe. I am okay. I will be okay."
Thank you dodie. You truly are a lifesaver.
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Oh god your comment really struck home with me. I'm severely hemaphobic, can't stand needles, and just being in hospitals and doctor offices can trigger anxiety attacks. I completely believed that I would die if I went in for a blood draw a couple months ago. Like, I couldn't visualize myself existing and continuing on with my life after the draw. It sucks, because hardly anyone can relate to it, and it's a trigger you can't just avoid.
I have the exact same problem- I have the worst problem but when I went for some reason the doctor found it humorous of my fear. My parents were apologising and he was just chuckling to himself which just made me feel worse. So just know you are not alone and you are safe- if you ever want to talk I am here as someone who understands what you are going through
Thank you so much for all of your lovely words, it really means a lot. Remember that you're all just as strong 💜
'Your panicky thoughts are telling lies that feel like the truth, but they're not' Going to keep this in mind, thanks Dodie
When I have a panic attack (because I suffer from an anxiety disorder) I try to find something to read over and over again and I try to make a pattern in my head because it helps me focus on keeping the pattern going and not think about my worries. For instance if I’m in a grocery store and I have a panic attack I look at one of the signs above the aisles and repeat what they say in my head. It helps me personally.
HashtagArtastic sounds like it can work i had another panic attack yesterday and I had no clue what to do... Thanks for sharing your methods 😊
omgggg i do the same:)
BTBT BTS I am so glad I helped!!!
You are amazing! If I was In that situation I would tend to add on to it making me more anxious.🙂
HashtagArtastic YES THIS WORKS!!! I have a panic disorder and GAD so I am very prone to panic attack, even when driving. And I read road signs a lot when I panic and it helps
i have watched this so so many times, i talk with you because i have memorised all the words by now, thank you for being the saviour for my panic attacks
I LOVE YOU, YOURE AN ANGEL
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e m i l y r a m o s YES
*is currently having a panic attack* SHUT UP PHONE AAA- oh wait... oh ok... oh this is helping... oh looks like dodie did it again... she saved my life again... thank you dodie, ily
So is this the secret for the mad?
Booksandtea123 AYEEEEEEE
Real talk this is so helpful and lovely! Keep helping people babes I love this!
Booksandtea123 oooh that reference
i can confirm that it is
In a little bit of time it won't hurt so bad ( ^:
I have found that during my panic attacks (I get them because I have a sort of social claustrophobia (aka fear of being in a crowded room/hallway and not being able to see an exit)) it is best to focus solely on my breathing and every thought that comes into my head (like the walls are closing in or I can't leave this room or etc) I mentally say 'thinking' as a way to notice the thought but not give it enough attention to continue my panic. And I have also found that counting your breaths (like **breath in** one. **breath out** two. . . . ) brings my focus to something concrete, rather than my outrageous thoughts. For some reason I also find it comforting to feel my pulse.. almost like feeling my heartbeat helps me realize that I am still alive and doing generally okay.
Of course you uploaded this at the end of the day of my 8 minute speech lmao. I had a panic attack this morning, literally cry-screaming at my father to let me take a mental health day. I feel super bad.
she has almost all the problems i have....
kind of like a mentor for me.
i am just younger..and stupid and crazy but tooooo polite and easygoing.
This is so important!! My therapist has recommended most of the things you've mentioned, although its kinda a learning process and getting into the habit of doing these little tips they do really help after a while. I suffer with really bad anxiety attacks, depression and derealisation/dissociation and tip number 1 always helps a lot, especially when i've lost control of my body (because it doesn't feel real) but my mind itself is panicking.
i've had times where i have such weird feelings in my body and weird and embarrassing symptoms that just haunt me and makes me believe i have cancer, persistent genital arousal disorder(..yes) and all sorts of chronic and deadly disorders - and during those times i have THE WORST panic attacks that last for hours, while making my weird symptoms even worse so it never ends. and afterwards i'm still dealing with all the things i worry about. and i could never tell anyone the things that are wrong with me in real life, which makes me feel so alone and helpless. thankfully i started taking anxiety medication to keep me going:/ but thank you for this video, you are so extremely sweet
can you please do a video on what to do if a friends having a panic/anxiety attack??? i have a friend with major anxiety and i never know what to do when something happens. Thank youu!!!
Ella Jean this kind of dismal but there's not much, it's such a mental insular thing the only way to deal w it is like, ride it out and be mentally strong (so don't feel bad if you feel kinda helpless!
a guide : anxiety
-taking care of someone-
Now, if someone ever comes to you talking about their anxiety, please, please, please don't brush it off your shoulder like it's nothing. Please, please, please don't sweep anything under the rug. You have to look at it in their perspective. If they say something that seems little to you, it could be huge for them. You don't know what triggers their anxiety. You'll pick up on the little things the more you talk to them, so all you can do at that moment is say that you're there for them. Just… be careful of what you say always.
And if they're telling you about their anxiety, they obviously trust you so please, please be careful with the way you react. Your reaction is probably everything to them, so tell them it's okay and don't ever say something hurtful.
Also… if they cry a lot… don't call them a crybaby, please? Please don't ask whether or not they're more emotional that day either… they've probably just been acting like they're okay even when their anxiety has been slowly nipping away at the back their brains. Please, please, please don't assume things like that. Please just be there for them and don't ever, ever tell them what to do, just listen.
If a panic attack occurs, take the person to a quiet place with minimal people (best without anyone at all) and tell them to do breathing exercises. In 4, out 6. Continue to do this until their breathing is even, but take a few minutes after to just sit quietly. < this works for me, but it may or may not work for your friend
If you notice they are not talking someday and they don't seem to want to talk, don't ask them why they're being quieter that day or whether they feel upset/why they seem upset. Just recognize the social queues and do more of the talking… or just let there be comfortable silence (it depends on what fits the situation the most, just don't force them to talk). Also, if they try to add something but say never mind, don't get annoyed. Just smile and say, “Okay, tell me later if you want.”
Lastly, hugs are appreciated (though, you don't need to do that if it's uncomfortable). But once again, watch out for social queues and try not to read the situation in the wrong way. If you're not sure, just ask if they want a hug, but it's probably best to ask all of the time.
Bottom line of this guide is that they need someone to ground them, you are that person because they trust you, and these are the things you need to remember.
With someone with severe anxiety, I made this guide awhile back and it might not be the same with your friend, but hopefully it helped a little.
ok, but what if that person is becoming really dependant on you? like if you feel like you cant do anything for yourself, and if the person is becoming possessive and expectant, acting like its your responsibility to drop everything to help them? what do you do if the person invalidates any of your own kind of fears or anxieties with "well you dont have a mental illness like me" or if they start acting or saying things that imply you dont care about them unless you are ready to drop everything to do anything to help them? idc if this makes sense, but i just want to help, but it starts getting really difficult when the person starts getting really possessive and expectant and it feels like you cant do anything anymore, like your skating on thin ice. this may seem really selfish and mean, but its hard because its taking quite a toll on me. idc
oh wow. that sounds pretty bad. hope you've gotten yourself out of that situation and your friend has gotten some help
recently i've been dealing with a lot of anxiety issues, and i've had about 4 panic attacks this month, i literally had one 10 mins ago. not only did this video help, but just watching you in general really helps. listening to your voice, singing or not, helps me calm down. i just want you to know, i really appreciate you, you're beautiful, talented, and over all just an amazing lil bean. i love you
I love these videos they're so helpful thank you dodie
on a lighter note - Panic! at the Disco is totally amazing
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Yes! Brendon was on the Ellen Degeneres Show Today and is nominated for a Grammy!! My baby is growing up so fast 😭
I usually panic at discos
Addie Robertson PANIC AT THE DISCO AHHHH
Addie Robertson time
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Do you want to be best friends?
Zøe, tyjo and jish Are the best of frens Me
I really cannot believe that I hadn't subscribed to your videos earlier. honestly it makes me feel not broken or alone when you are so open and helpful with content like this. thank you
oh dodie, I needed this so much right now. I had to spend three days in the psych ward this past weekend because of a massive panick attack that drove me to overdose on advil. it was awful and scary and I hope something like that never happens again. Reminders that there are other people like me out there who suffer from panic attacks always makes me feel better so thank you
I have a giant Italian test tomorrow so this video is perfect!! Thanks!!
Also can I be on Snapchat
That weird Geek Lol, I'm italian
Ashiful Haque ayyyyy
That weird Geek good luck!!
That weird Geek good luck ♡
i love you dodie! I'm currently sick so I'm happy you uploaded.
Audrey B phandommmmm
This is such an awesome video, Dodie :D I was actually misdiagnosed as having panic attacks about 6 months ago, it turned out it was bouts of mild oculogyric (spelling?) crisis caused by anti-psychotics I was on. So if you're on psychotropic medication and having strange (and in my case unexplained) episodes of panic and depersonalisation that seem to have no trigger, check the side effects and consult a psychiatrist :)
my mum loves me watching you. she realises that you help me through my recent depression and anxiety/over-thinking. i love you. thank you for everything dodie.
Dodie, there has never been a video with better timing I was feeling really anxious all day (I have GAD) and I started having an anxiety attack watching other RUclips videos, this then came on through autoplay and I felt like I had you by my side helping me calm down, thank you for this. It saved me from getting into a much bigger state than I was. I have been hospitalised by my anxiety attacks before and your video may have just saved me from having that happen again. Thank you x
I had a panic attack at prom a few years ago (it was scary as hell at the time but now I laugh about it with friends), so I literally had a panic at the disco. -_-
I had a panic attack just the other day, thank you for this video Dodie
MY TIP THAT OFTENLY WORKS
(this mostly works when I feel like it is calming down but im panicking it wont and I wont be okay)
-take a walk (around the place you know)
- then look around yourself
-look at people and describe them
•"she has dark eyebrows"
•"she is brunnette"
•"her hair is really pretty I wonder what--blah blah"
-try to remeber some things that happend around there (positive, funny)
no doubt it's a challenge to put out a video every single day, but i am so glad that you are doing it... your "see you tomorrow" at the end makes me smile such a warm smile-- also, i suffer from quite a few random panic attacks, and hearing someone talk about the same things that i experience exactly really helps me accept that they are real
you've literally been more helpful than any doctor, neurologist, or councillor I've ever had to see for my anxiety.
I once started crying whilst presenting an English paper because I was having such bad anxiety (what made it worse I had 2 ex's in my class and 1 of them was laughing)
How do you know if you're having a panic attack?
Kristina Roy everything becomes overwhelming and all your emotions are multiplied to the power of ten. It sometimes makes people throw up or faint. Some say it's like a heart attack or even death.
Kristina Roy you feel panic, you want to escape, you feel like you can't breathe and you just feel scared.
you sort of just know? i dunno. if you're freaking out and can't stop it no matter what and you sort of have an alarm bell in your head then you probably are
I left a little link in the description!
doddlevloggle yes that's what it is like
doddlevloggle thank you much dodie! Sometimes I get really panicky and closed off so I'm trying to figure out if those are panic attacks or just like normal level panic
Dodie how did you feel when you started to have depersonalisation issues? I fear I may have it but I don't want to self diagnose
Heart Eyes Howell for me its kinda like nothing feels real. you dont feel like youre in your body but either somewhere outside watching yourself or nowhere else and everything is like a dream, you dont feel anything, its like youre nervously numb, like your life feels not real and not like a happening thing and you cant understand anything, all that stuff. all i could say is just dont stress over it because its fine :) youre fine and everythings gonna be okay
Thanks. I have felt like that for the last year and a half so I am going to go to a doctor about it soon
Heart Eyes Howell I also have depersonalisation, and it truly sucks! I always thought I was the only person who'd ever experienced it, but thanks to Dodie and her fans I've realised that I'm not alone!
Heart Eyes Howell Hello, can you please explain to me what that means? I've never heard about it and I would like to know. thank you!!
Heart Eyes Howell (fren you can talk to me bout it's part of what is wrong with me brain x)
2:51 omg. It's just making me cry for no reason.
thank you so much for this Dodie. as im going through gcse bullshit at the moment, there have been a few times where ive found myself not being able to breathe (being asthmatic doesn't help in these situations) and feeling faint and having to remove myself from situations when i suddenly start feeling uncomfortable or panicky. i feel like the room is closing in, my vision goes blurry and my legs feel like jelly. sometimes i ask go to the toilet as an excuse to get away and calm myself down because im not comfortable. gcse music has been hectic. weve had so many replacement teachers over 2 years and i only just found out exactly what im meant to be submitting today and i have till May to complete it. i and the rest of my class are stressed and are freaking out. but today we came together, not only as a class, but as a family to calm each other down and support each other in this difficult time. i will use your advice and share it with others as much as i can. i cannot thank you enough x
DODIE I'VE BEEN INCREDIBLY ANXIOUS LATELY AND HAVE PANIC ATTACKS EVERYDAY and you happened to post this i love you so much
i'm in a weird position with anxiety.
i was diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder when i was twelve, and they put me on meds, but turns out, they only worsened my other symptoms, such as depression, and anger issues.
so, i'm no longer on medication, since they said it would not work for me.
so i'm stuck.
like, i don't have any solution for it.
i literally just have to deal with it and figure it out myself.
so if i ever have a panic attack, i have to deal with it and figure out how to calm myself down.
if i have anxiety about something, i have to just deal with it.
but this video helped a lot. i'll try some stuff out and try not to panic, so thanks, dodie. (:
kaleioli if you ever feel helpless in terms of meds , (no pressure but like if you did want to take them again) I always remember that there's 1000s of anti depressants and anxiety drugs so chance is you're probably gonna have to take 3/4 duds before you find like /your/ meds xx don't give up on healing ;)
I know this video was posted two years ago (anyone from 2019?) but I'm going to comment here because I don't really talk to people about my anxiety.
I have a minor sports-induced asthma, and an irrational fear of not being able to breathe, which may have been from severely choking on water during swim practice when I was younger. The swim coach was standing at the pool right where I was struggling to cough up the water and try to get some air, and she didn't move or react at all to help me. I believe that is the major reason why when my asthma kicks in, I start to panic and hyperventilate and overthink everything that I'm doing, mostly while I'm running. It's gotten to a point where I didn't want to run for high school track this year because I didn't want to feel like a burden for my teammates, and I always feel like people judge me for not having control over my anxiety. I would rather cut out the sport from my life than to experience the panic and guilt of not being enough.
I know that not many people are going to read this, or even respond with their story, but if anyone is going through a similar thing then please tell me how you're coping with it.
I hope that one day I'll be able to live properly with my anxiety and accept it as something that defines who I am.
Goodness I really needed this today.
I realized all of the methods you mention for myself the hard way a couple years ago, I know it can seem really counter intuitive to just allow it to wash over you, but just noticing/acknowledging it instead of obsessing definitely works. Most of the time it'll just go away pretty quickly now and I've been a much happier/well put together person since I started to look at it that way.
thank you so much!!!! i usually watch your videos when im having panic attacks and they help calm me down. and to have one dedicated to panic attacks is the best thing ever. i love you
I suffer for anxiety and panic attacks but because of my age (14) if I go to the doctors they won't help it they always say "it is just your age" which is just so annoying...so I have to deal with them myself
Josephine I'm 13 almost 14 and I do panic all the time (and I'm incredibly anxious about everything). I don't think it's particularly serious but I have had several panic attacks before... I hope they listen to you soon... I don't know what age they take you seriously? 😒
yeah, I'm thirteen and every time i I try talking about my anxiety and depression they say it's just teenage hormones and that it'll go away soon, but yet it runs in my family??? so I have to deal with mental breakdowns and anxiety attacks all on my own because it's "just teenage hormones". like, no, bro, I have anxiety and depression. help.
but yeah, I hate when doctors and stuff do that. they never take us seriously
What kind of dr. are you seeing? You need to see counselor or psychiatrist
I needed this, but I'm sure cheshire cat is just as mad about this than I am.
Just thought I would tell you my tip for PANICKING IN EXAMS that DOES work. You breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds and out of your mouth for 7 seconds! ❤️❤️
Lottie Gibbons wow i'm really late but thank you so much!!
Dodie you are my hero. I cried watching this video. I've been struggling with actual panic disorder for about 4 years. It's a lot better today than it once was, but still. This video touched me so much I just wanna hug you
Before I even watched this myself I saw the title and in my class a friend of mine was having a panic attack (she gets them quite often, she's on medicine though) and I just took her phone, got her RUclips, and put this video on and put her headphones in. She resisted it but in the end I do genuinely believe she watched the video and she did seem a lot more calm after watching it so I just want to thank you for giving me something to show her when she needs it and something I can watch when I need it.
dodie u lil angel
i had my first panic attack when i was in school and period one i realised that i had homework due in period two and i hadn't done it and i started shaking and crying and it was awful and i couldn't breathe and then my teacher went "are you okay?" and i was like "NOOOOO" so she sent me home and i did the homework, that was great.
I have an anxiety disorder and asthma so I carry a tissue around with some lavender oil on it and when I feel stressed and out of breath I smell it and it makes me feel more focused on that and clears my airways to make it easier to breath. :)
this is the LITERAL BEST advice video about how to deal with a panic attack in the moment that i have ever seen, and i have had an anxiety disorder since i was 12 or so. how??? this?? needs to be watched by everyone
Thanks for creating a cozy environment where we can talk about these things. At least for me, talking about what makes me panic and how to cope with it is scary, and it makes me really happy that you made this video :)
STORY TIME WITH OZZIE:
So every day after school I walk to a carpark to meet my mum and she then drives me home. It was always fine, id walk, she'd be there, we'd go home. Untill one day she was late. But I didnt know she was on her way and I didnt have my phone. My thoughts: "SHES DEAD OMG SHES DEAD AND THERES NOTHING I CAN DO IM JUST STUCK HERE AND MY MUM IS DEAD".. Yeah.. But then id see her drive up as normal, telling me that the traffic was major. Id be like "lol, ok" but actually i wanted to cry. THE NEXT DAY smart ass me forgot her phone again and mum was late again. Re-read past experience ^^^
This caused me to call my Dad while I was walking, so if she wasnt there, my Dad was technically with me. My mum was never late again but id still call dad. Id often text him at lunch in school to make sure he had his phone on him, but when he was busy or didnt reply, Ozzie (me) goes into ANOTHER panic. "OMG HES DEAD TOO"...yeah... This caused me often going to the medical room and being sent home. My mum was never late again since then and my dad always replies now, but I still have panic attacks every day filled with thoughts like: "WHAT IF THEY FORGET TO MEET ME? WHAT IF THEY DIE? WHAT IF I LOOSE MY PHONE?" now every day i check if i have my phone at the beggining and end of every lesson and always have someone wait with me untill my dad picks up the phone.. Thank you so much if you are still here! Id like some help on how to overcome this... Thank you
I found out that without reason I started repeating "Everything is okay" whenever I panic, I don't know when I started doing it but it helps quite a bit. Though people give me some strange looks when in public...
You can also have panic attacks when you haven't eaten or don't eat regularly there horrid so make sure your being healthy and eating enough
Rose thorn my anxiety is always about food somehow. Do I really have to eat everyday?!? What kind of a beast am I?
Devin Shaun
Yes. You have to eat three meals a day. If you have a problem doing that that sounds like some sort of eating disorder and I recommend seeking help (I'm recovering from one myself). You're not a beast, you're thoughts are just disordered. Not eating can lead to lack of focus, harder to think, and your brain literally SHRINKS! You can also get seizures if you don't eat enough. Please eat daily fren ♥ ♥ ♥
Also remember that every beautiful living creature on this planet eats. Every flower, every cat, every plant, be it a tiny animal like a delightful butterfly or a giant blue wahle - they all eat, they're strong, beautiful and powerful in their own way.
I love that videos like this are getting more and more common. It's great to see this being talked about! I hope we can start seeing a decrease in mental illnesses in the future, as opposed to the rise we seem to be in now, with all of the help that is out there now. A girl can hope! Also your hair looks extra soft and fluffy in this video, it's lovely :)
I sent this to my friend who has anxiety and panic attacks pretty commonly and gets stressed out very quickly. I sent this to her because last night I was calling her and she was freaking out about a tooth surgery she has tomorrow and how she also has a project due Friday. She said she'd watch this video and she texted me saying she felt more calm. Thank you dodie because this girl is the light of my life and I want her to be happy💕
Hello! Can anyone help me? I've been dealing with loneliness and it makes my mental state very sad, but my emotions I show to people are monotone and I act like life is mundane, which it is. Any advice for lonely people? Thank you
Emily Kim
be my friend?
unless you don't want to be
which is fine :)
Emily Kim probably someone has already told you this, buuuuut you should say what you're feeling. I know it's hard but taking it away from your chest will make you feel more free and less lonely specially if you can say it to someone who you can like cry in their shoulders and stuff, there's also a lot of apps like 7 cups of tea, that will lisent to you and if you need help they'll give it to you. But i recommend you talk to a friend or a family member and if it's hard to say it out loud writting a letter could really help.
Emily Kim the samaritans are really good people to talk to. I phoned up and they kept me from have a mental break down and just spoke to me and calmed me down. if you in a different country that isn't the UK there must be people that you can speak to about it. maybe like coucilling. I know that you may not want to open your heart to a stranger but it may help! my uncle suffered with mental illness like loneliness and depression and with the help of his friends, councillors and the samaritans, he got through it.. maybe give it a go! please let me know about your decision! I'd really like to know!
Thank you for all the advice, and yes hmu joyisemo!!
amy mason the samartians are in america too! they came to my school last week. it's really good to talk to people about your feelings, and they're great people to talk to. good luck!
i thought the title said tips for packing
and i was like yaaay
travel hacks from dodie :)
i was wrong:p
I don't need a therapist if I have Dodie
dodie dodie dodie dodie dodie two years ago i went to disneyland and i experienced the worst panic attack of my life i threw up and long story short i just freaked out and ruined my family's trip. I've never met anyone who has this same thing and this video brought tears to my eyes just knowing that someone else was going through this. it was so comforting to see that someone i look up to SO SO SO SO much has experienced something that she explains at least to be exactly what i went through is so comforting. when you explained in your snapchat your anxiety and panic attacks i just wanted to give you a hug and explain some of my tricks that work for me. anyways I've learned how to control this horrible feeling of not being in your own body and hope you do also someday. love you to the moon xx morgan
These are great tips! I think everyone who has panic attacks eventually learns the signs of a panic attack and how to deal it somehow. I find that something that helps me is to immediately tell someone I'm comfortable with telling that I'm having a panic attack, have them hold my arm or hand, and then embrace what is going to happen. I try to be okay with what is happening, let it happen, and drink lots of water. This gets me back to normal the quickest.
I deal with panic disorder and It sucks
what a fun coincidence, i was just having a panic attack
Can anybody tell me the difference between a panic attack and an anxiety attack?
An anxiety attack is when you have a fear based attack that's because of something, say you're really stressed because of school, so you get an anxiety attack. A panic attack is when you have a fear based attack that happens randomly.
Sarcastic Squareflake my counsellor described it like: an anxiety attack is more like overwhelming, racing thoughts and a panic attack is a lot more physical e.g. I've fainted from panic attacks. hope that helps and hope you're ok !
The easiest way to describe the difference is when it occurs in relation to the event that you're dealing with. An anxiety attack will end once the situation is dealt with, whereas a panic attack occurs during and after. Also, panic attacks are more physical when it comes to the symptoms, where you can cry and hyperventilate and so forth, whereas an anxiety attack is more mental, really stressed out thoughts. I hope this helped! ^.^
Solome Wlodarczyk Thank you! 😊
Ellie Wildgoose Thank you! I think I suffer more from anxiety attacks. I just get confused sometimes because some people say anxiety attacks, and some people say panic attacks for the same thing. I just remembered that somebody told me they were different and I wanted to know. But I start counselling soon so I'll be able to ask all sorts of questions. Soz for telling you my life story which you didn't ask for lol 😊
!!! something I've been working on is recognizing the thoughts and anxiety and kind of acknowledging them like "oh okay that's interesting but that's not true" or "okay, what am I feeling? do I know why? how can I help this? what is good right now? what can I look forward to?" etc etc. being mindful is an absolutely excellent tactic.
you have no idea how much i needed this right now. I’m also sooo glad i’m not the only one that feels worse when i focus on my breathing
Oh yeah panic attacks ☹️ they are great... and Snapchat squadddd where u at???
this is calmed me down a little bit, thank you dodie :) if anybody has any tips on how to get rid of anxiety please reply to me because I’m so sick of having this illness. I can’t sleep, eat or basically function. Soooo you can see my struggle? Thanks x
Literally just had a panic attack at the doctor's once a side of my mouth was numb...
this is a lovely video dodie. i saw this from a post on tumblr, credit to sensitivesuggestion for writing this, i thought it was very helpful as well:
1. self-soothing
comforting yourself through the 5 senses
Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket
Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation
See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually
Taste: tea, mints, gum
Smell: lotion, candles, incense
2. distraction
removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time
puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social/talking to loved ones
3. opposite action
doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion
affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus
4. emotional awareness
identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling
journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy
5. mindfulness
centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment
meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk
6. ask for help
this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental
therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life
This was super informative and insightful and your videos in general are so gentle and calming they help me with my anxiety so much but thanks for this because although i've been in several different types of therapies for the past year, my main issue is that when I have a panic attack, I don't know what to do. My therapists often give me tools to use when I'm just feeling generally anxious, which are good to have as well, but these are all really great tips for when I'm actually panicking, which has been a huge struggle for me in the past.
10/10 would panic again
Am I the only one that gets anxiety and then in their head is like you're just making it up for attention and when you talk to people you just want empathy any way possible and then you're like well these thoughts are just for attention and then it gets to the point where you can't do or think anything without it "being for attention" in your mind and then you get overwhelmed and have a panic attack because that happens a bit too much for me and I haven't ever heard of anyone else doing that so I just wanna know if I'm alone on this or not
Grace Catherine. I thought I was alone on this but I guess I'm not, I have felt like this for so long!
I literally just had a panic attack while doing a drama performance and my teacher gave me a detention so hopefully this will help me avoid the bullshit school system. I just think the drama teacher hates me because she's hella homophobic and I'm hella gay 😂 x thanks dods
That's hecka messed up. Nothing you are being blamed for is your fault. Stay strong, schools are BS
That teacher needs to be educated
wtf your school is shit, hope you're okay
I literally can't thank you enough for this, just knowing that someone else understands what I'm going through is the nicest feeling in the world thank you so so much x
I love you so much for being so outspoken about mental health! I suffer from anxiety (but rarely have full blown panic attacks) and this is pretty much how I deal with my anxiety as well.