chattin' about therapy with tessa violet
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
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do you know if there is a place that you can get online counselling for free?
Amy Williams if you're under 18 and in the uk on the childline website they have trained counsellors you can talk to anonymously, they won't be able to help as much as actual ones but they are good for unloading your problems on something
Amy Williams if you're not in the uk im not sure if you can still use childline but there are other similar websites like 7cupsoftea
7cups is an app where you can get counselling by other users, for me it works wonders. If you don't like the person you are assigned you just move on to the next one until you find one that works.
godbless dodie for pinning this
Amy Williams Git yur own fren
I love vedif because it feels like we're all friends just out for coffee and chatting.☕️
Tana Yup this is literally what I feel when I watch Dodie's videos. I feel like we are long time friends and just chatting so it makes me want to make videos responding to her videos or something with the same topic.
^_^
Tana Yup Yaaaasss a
It make me feel so happy I just love it so much
Tana Yup ikr
Tana Yup yes oh my gosh. ☕☕☕☕
why is Tessa Violet dressed like the Arthur meme
TobyisaVamp ong
TobyisaVamp I can't unsee this
But is it
d o d i e y e l l o w
TobyisaVamp WHAT HAVE YOU DONE
tessa seems like a reeeally nice person and i love her hair and clothes.
i went to the doctor about how im feeling and she literally said "you're 19, you're young and pretty you have nothing to be sad about" and pulled up a webpage on PMS and offered to put me on the pill, ive never felt so patronised and i dont wanna go back but idk what to do :(
Maybe try to book a coin let by yourself, In many of my experiences it takes awhile to get in, but you don't need a doctors note to get into counciling
thank you, i think it's more i feel silly going to see somebody now because she made me feel like i was being dramatic :/
Yeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha
Thank you :)
maybe ask to see a different doctor - not all are this bad x
emmarose literally the same thing happened to me when I was 19, doc told me to "grow up" and I didn't try to go back for years. I'm 21 now and finally got the bravery to go back and now I'm on anti depressants and doing counselling and omg I wish I forced my doctor to listen to me all those years ago. If you know something is wrong, force that doctor to listen to you, do not take no for an answer!
okay but dodie looks so gOOD IN THIS VIDEO
K Corona i say that in every video 😫😂
K Corona YES
But honestly dodie looks good in every video XD
LizzyTheThief I think it's from lazy oaf but I could be mistaken😌
Totally agree.
who wore it better: arthur or tessa violet.
anna jade impossible question
anna jade i shouldn't have laughed so hard at this but i did
HAHAHAHAA
"do i want to better understand my life"
YOU GUYS
On the thing of telling your parents (my personal experience):
My parents are really busy, and I was incredibly anxious over Christmas. I've always been anxious, but this was the kind of anxious that made me actually ill for weeks. I finally broke in front of both my Mum and Dad the day before school started again. In my head they'd never been the first people I turn to because of being busy with my siblings and work, but they were incredible. They spoke to school to let me leave classes to try to calm down if I needed to and even said that I could have counselling with one of our psychiatrist friends. I though they'd pull some 'anxiety isn't real' 'you're making it up' crap, but they didn't. Shows that even if you don't think talking to them will help, give it a try.
THE ICONIC DUO
😍💕
HOW DARE YOU MAKE ME CHOOSE BETWEEN TESSA OR DODIE WITH YOUR UPLOADS AT THE SAME TIME AHHHHHHH
Just A Group Of Friends
That's what I thought!
saaaaaammmeee
Play both at once :D
but they're both in both of them so
I emailed a counselor asking to book a meeting while watching this video. Thank you. At age 27, this marks the first time in my life trying to get professional help.
Erik Runnakko I hope it goes well for you!
Erik Runnakko how is it going?
its been two years since you've posted this so I am here to ask you: how is it going? and im proud of you for trying
I hope it’s going well 😊
Ya see I tried going to my school counselor about my depression and anxiety, mainly depression, and she talked a lot about anxiety but I left feeling worse about my depression than before so that's dandy
Rebecca Ogden If I could recommend anything just don't go to a school counsellor. At least if you go, do not tell them about self harm or thoughts of suicide because they will call your parents WITHOUT your consent. Found out the hard way, but there is a big loophole in the mental health system where there is a massive misunderstanding that people who self harm are unable to control their actions which puts them at risk, and so the school can legally, even if you beg them, phone home and tell your parents, because the child is 'at risk'. The problem with this is so many parents are misunderstanding or unsupportive, they will shout at their children which will cause them to self harm again and feel even more isolated, or perhaps the parents are the reason they self harmed in the first place, and so telling them puts the child at risk even more.
greenteawithbees thanks so much
my school counselor is very very horrible, when a teacher saw my scars, the counselor called my mom and dad and told them lies. They forced me to tell them that I tried to "overdose" and that I tried to kill myself. they wouldn't let me leave / locked the room until i confessed to something i didn't do.
Mind you, they were scars. Not current cuts.
... That's awful. I'm so sorry
amaya lobato why???
Katie Ahronson I couldn't tell you, because I didn't know why either
amaya lobato that's terrible
I stopped watching heavydirtysoul for the 300th time for this.
I'm a RUclips addict SAMMMME
i relate
I'm a RUclips addict I saw you jaidens video too oml
I'm a RUclips addict OH GOD YES
I'm a RUclips addict that's saying a lot👏🏽
I have been in a psychiatric unit for nearly three weeks now since I tried to end my life. Anyone who is feeling this way, please hang in there. Nothing is worth that. I know it feels like no one can possibly understand but you need to give them the opportunity to try. You have made an impact on this world whether you realise it or not. Depression is a state of complete hopelessness but realise that the mental illness is what's influencing your thoughts. There is hope. You can get better.
Little P Thank. You.
Psychiatrists unit?
My god, what Tessa said about looking at your friends and going "well I'm not as bad as them so I'm fine" was SO RELATABLE. I have friends with clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, extreme anxiety, anorexia, self-harm, PTSD, dead parents, abusive parents, and so much more, and I'm kinda just sitting in the middle with my little fucked up mind all "I'm fine :)", even when I'm so not.
DODIE, MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT SONGWRITING!!!!!!
WHEN DID YOUSTART WRITING?
HOW MANY HAVE YOU WRITTEN SO FAR?
HOW DO YOU WRITE USING INSTRUMENTS?
YOUR WRITING PROCESS?
DOES BEING A RUclipsR MAKE PEOPLE IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY NOT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THEY WOULD OTHER PEOPLE?
Gregory Jackson SAW YOU ON TESSAAAs VId
ooh, also whats your philosophy for songwriting?
I SAW YOU ON TESSAS VIDEOOOOOOOoo oMG
I decide what I want it to be about and what instrument I want and then I'll like picture it in my head then try out it onto my guitar by trying different chords and stuff then slowly work lyrics into it
Is Tessa wearing dodie yellow or just regular yellow??
(asking for a friend)
or wait is this la la land yellow???
urmum looks like la la land yellow to me
i thought the same lmao
(guys do you know where that jumper is from?)
No it's not Dodie yellow, more La La Land yellow
my therapy session yesterday was very difficult..i broke down and kept crying and i couldn't breathe, but she is so lovely and helpful. she's the third one i've seen and she is so easy to talk to. x
i tried out therapy once and hated it. this taught me that the councillor i had wasn't right for me
youre a smart cookie. most people think after one therapy session that it doesnt work for them but like, yes its not therapy its the counselor that either a) doesnt know what theyre doing or b) you just dont trust them for some reason
Name a more iconic duo
Dil and t bags and your grand parents (but Tessa and dodie are iconic too)
Baby Dab I can't
Baby Dab *cricket sounds*
Baby Dab Dan and Phil
chips and gravy
i hate therapy, cause i'm always about to cry, but i feel like it'd be awkward if i did, and i feel like i'm not supposed to or not allowed to since i'm a guy, so it sucks.
They're completely used to and it's kind of what you're supposed to do. Just let out all of your emotions!
The best guys are the kind who can cry in front of people. Therapists are paid not to judge you, and they have by-far seen worse. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, and I promise you will feel better in the long run.
My Name's Yours, What's Aimee? thank you! i just feel trapped, ya know? so it can be hard sometimes. thank you though, i appreciate it.
Willow Song idk, i feel like i'm only allowed to cry when i'm alone or not at all. i try to keep in touch with my emotions, but it's hard when i constantly have the feeling i'm being judged, ya know? but thank you.
I get that its hard. Maybe you're judging yourself for crying at all? Something to think about.
When Tessa said "when children go to therapy it makes the parents feel like they've failed on their part" or something like that, I remember my friend who goes to therapy but she's only 10 and her parents talked of mine and my mom told me that my friend's mom said she felt like she failed at helping my friend feel happy. I just started to cry, srry for the long thing.
Dodie that's such a cute dress!!! You always look so nice!!!
Our school councellor has such a lack of empathy
Sivolia same. I don't even know if mine has a councilor that's not an old woman that'll be like "oh your fine go to class" and even if I did go to her I feel like my friends and peers would treat me differently
this is so true. My friend went to a school counsellor because of home troubles that were leading to anxiety and she basically said that everybody goes through home troubles and that other people have it worse
mine told me to bottle up my problems, put them away and focus on my school work lmaoo
Same same same... mine implied I was wasting her time because people have it worse... she also was super dismissive of anything I would say to justify myself
damn i'm sorry guys. i feel your pain though, mine was so bad she actually made me feel so much worse about myself rather than better. she also called me transphobic slurs which was obviously just great
Something that really helped me is to think that if you are not feeling good sometimes that is ok, and to not stress about it. Because if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually! Love you dodie, you really inspire me to create videos and make me smile!
About a movie so true!! Love your channel btw!
John Maco aww thank you! x
About a movie good advice. And I checked out your channel and really love the way you edit your videos!
"if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually!" I love that :)
This is a tad off topic, but I love just how this video was made. Also, therapy is important.
Also I would highly um. You know, not recommend school counsellors for some things, but it couldn't hurt to try I suppose.
I definitely wouldn't recommend my school counselor. I went because I was feeling depressed all the time, but then after the second time I went, it started to get a little better - not because of her, I hated her - but because my friends were including me in more things, and as I wasn't as upset anymore, she just said 'Oh, I don't think you'll need to come back anymore'. Well, she was horrible and then my friends started ditching me again and she never really listened properly, so now I don't want to ask for her again, so I am now stuck with doing nothing, as I go to a boarding school so I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents, so I can't ask them to book a doctor's appointment.
I'm actually still in therapy via a program with my school and I love my therapist, she knows how to make me feel like I'm not being annoying or boring or like I'm rambling and she somehow hears like a half hour of rambling about my feelings and is able to pull out a few minutes of analysis and she always says, "I wonder if..." which makes me feel like I'm not being spoon fed my epiphanies but rather led to them which is nice.
I'm so glad RUclipsrs are talking about this, it's so healthy to normalise therapy and just encourage people to get help in a way that isn't patronising 💕 Thank you for being so honest in these vids Dodie 💕
I've had a pretty bad experience with therapy. I think it's mostly because I have bad social anxiety and talking to a stranger for an hour definitely did not help that. But I've been on meds for a few months and it's been so so much better. So really therapy is not for everyone and can't fix everyone.
While now that you're on meds and feel a lot better a lot of people recommend people with anxiety or something like that go on meds first and see therapist when they are more comfortable talking
That weird Geek I have anxiety and like social anxiety and I I've talked about it to my mom a bit and just thinking of the process of medicine and therapy skills the living hell out of me which is why I should do it but like I know realistically therapy or whatever would help but it's just uhh I feel like it's would make it worse but I also feel like I'm wrong but idk sorry
Hi, aren't meds not over the counter for anxiety?
i love this i love this i love this
I've been in therapy since I was about 13 dealing with major depressive episodes, GAD and a panic attack disorder. I've been with the same therapist for 7 years now and even when I'm in a much better place I still want to work on myself, and having someone who knows me so so well and who I'm comfortable which is immensely helpful. I'm a big encourager of therapy, especially since I know howuxh its helped me. I think its important to remember that if you can, stay in therapy. Therapy is not just for crisis moments, but to help prevent complete mental breakdowns from happening. When I was about 15 I stopped seeing my therapist because I was no longer in danger of jumping off a bridge but stopping is what contributed to my first hospitalization. Therapy is expensive, especially in America and the best thing if you can't afford therapy is to know your resources. I'm glad you guys put this video up. Love you both!!
But is Tessa's sweater #dodieyellow tho
Gutentag you called
Gutentag nope, la la land yellow
Tessa is such a ravenclaw I love it
dodie i love you so much you helped me trough the toughest times of my life and i can never thank you enough ❤
I got turned down from therapy because I wasn't "bad enough"
onedeadrOse // Try another one, maybe? I believe that if you feel you're in need of it, more times than not you are in need of it.
onedeadrOse // im sorry, that's got to be very traumatic
Varun Srivastava I'm trying everything I can atm, thank you for the advice I appreciate it ♡
amaya lobato at least I'm still here :') ♡
onedeadrOse // are you British?? If so it might be to do with the NHS being shit and only taking on really bad cases
I LOVE TESSA I LOVE THIS I LOVE HER HAIR
also this helps me quite a bit because i think i really do need therapy but i've been scared to go
I was feeling really down at the beginning of this year, and I was absolutely terrified of going to counseling, but I did. I was lucky because I got paired with a guy who was very helpful to me, so it was a great first impression. But all in all, go for it. It's so scary, but also so worth it. And you've got all of us to support your decision.
do you find that it helps? I've been sick recently and one of the doctors decided to send me to a psychologist because they think part of why i'm sick, is because I'm stressed. I've got group counselling(?) kind of? coming up on the 15th of march/may/can't remember. It's supposed to be focusing on mindfulness, but I'm so so scared for that alone. I might talk to the psychologist about organising some sessions some time, if I work up the nerve :) Thank you so much for your support
Went to my first session of therapy today. Had this video on repeat and I felt a lot better about going. Thx dodie for helping me get through this madness.❤️
This video was exactly what I needed. I have been planning on making an appointment for a therapy session for weeks and this video was the push I needed to actually take action. Thank you!!!
your outfits are the aesthetic I never knew I wanted but now NEED DESPERATELY
I have been waiting all day for this...
you two are the MOST amazing people on youtube and probably on earth. thank you for posting things and sharing you're thoughts with us!
I love these, it just feels like were just pally pal pals havin a chat about things and stuff
Y'ALL ARE SO GOOD WITH WORDS GOSH
love it!
OlanRogers it makes me happy that you guys watch each other's videos
Olan! :o
I really like that you're breaking down the negative connotations around therapy. Thank you 💜
This video made me cry, and I feel so silly about it, but it's just so sweet and relieving to hear such beautiful people (inside and out) talking about things like this in such a positive way
I adore both of you so much. Thank you for everything you speak about and do. I really appreciate both of you
For those who live in Australia (and possibly other countries okay sh) and are currently in school, counselors are pretty much available at a heap of schools and are probably at the school you are currently going to.
I know that my school that I currently go to and the other places I went had counselors readily available for me and the other students, so have a check with your home room/pastoral teachers (if you have them) or any other reliable teachers to see if your school has a guidance counselor. I know mine has a little bit of a wait for booking appointments, but then again this will vary between schools and is absolutely and completely worth it.
Even though it might seem a little taboo to go to counseling to some, its actually really great that there is a place where people can go to open up and find out a little more about themselves and, if you're worried about privacy, counselors will never tell anyone, not even teachers or parents, about what you tell them unless it's completely necessary and unless you give them consent. Don't forget there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when going to counseling. Counselors are there to help you and listen, so there's no reason to be embarrassed!
Anyway, hopefully this helps the younger viewers here. Make sure you look after yourselves ;D lol
Yeah I'm Australian and my school counsellor is really nice
After I had watched this video I went to bed feeling so confident and happy and I woke up feeling positive. You need to make more of these videos because they are so calming and make you feel like you aren't alone. Therapy is such a great thing!! I'm in it also and I'm glad you guys are too. You just make me so happy Dodie (and Tessa!) I can't even describe it!
coming back to this because I love you both so much and I've learned so so much from you as artists. So glad that there are two powerful, talented, vulnerable women making amazing music. Ya'll are UNSTOPPABLE.
It's nice to see you talking about seeking help. There's already so much stigma surrounding mental health so it's good that these conversations are being encouraged particularly when you talk about your own experiences. It sets a good example to your audience. No one deserves to suffer in silence. ❤
therapy was something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I've had all sorts of personal issues with my mind, environment, personality for the half past year, but I always told myself "oh well, you're only exaggerating, other people are at a far worse place than you, you'll be fine!" it's so dumb, I KNOW AHH! my mum had gone to therapy for a year, thanks to HI she didn't have to pay too much, but I'm really anxious about the idea? I already have trust issues and opening up to a complete stranger is such an absurd idea... especially as a minor, who's problems seem insignificant. I suppose I should give it a try, but honestly, I don't think my problems can actually get fixed through talking? It seems so uncomfortable.
no, but I'm proud of you girls!
Listening to you gals talk about this stuff is my favorite type of video. I've been in counseling for a bit over a year now. I'm doing much better than I was before I started but I know I still have a lot to go. It's a process, and one I don't think ever truly "ends" but evolves. Listening to you talk always rejuvenates my ambition to learn more about myself. Definitely going to check out that book!
This video was wonderful, thank you! After seeing you being brave enough to admit you needed help, so did I (along with a couple other things). My first session was last week and while I am nervous, I am really thankful that I get the chance to make myself better. Thank you for helping me understand how valuable therapy is.
being so happy about dodie ♡
I recently started going to therapy too 😌
Alexa S stay strong ^-^
K Is a toll gay awwww thank you 💕
Alexa S yay good for you!!
Alexa S That's amazing! congrats! are you enjoying it?
Elsie Stech thank you!! So far, I don't love it but I think it's mostly bc I'm still uncomfortable crying in front of someone I don't know but I think it's starting to help!
Thank you so much for opening up about this recently, Dodie ❤ I've struggled with depression for about 4 years now, and I'm about to leave secondary school and also am only just now beginning to realise how much it's affected me. You've encouraged me a whole lot to get help and also made me understand how much of me is the way it is because of my depression. Now I know that I want to get better because I don't want it to screw up university the way it has secondary school. Thank you so much for all of this :) You are an absolute saint, and I'm so happy for your getting better.
, i love you and your music to an unhealthy point, every single song, and video you have made has impacted me in the best way anything ever has, every rough patch i go through your the light at the end of the tunnel helping me get through it, i think its amazing how much you have grown as a person and artist so from the bottom of my heart i want to say thank you for being there when nobody else has.I truly mean every word so really, thank you.
tessa is wearing a nice shade of 'also not dodie yellow'
you're both such positve people in this space and i love it
i love the fact that you did this talk!!! i hear so little from RUclipsrs about therapy and if they are doing IT. I did myself just started two months ago and this talks this problems and this struggle about listening to them is very familiar for me
Just wanted to say thanks Dodie! Because you and a few others have been talking about counselling recently, I've decided to book my first appointment which is such a big deal for me progress wise. You've made it all less scary for me and feel like I might finally be able to work through my stuff without feeling any shame about it. This is the first time i've really taken control and I'd like to thank you for giving me that extra nudge in the right direction!
8 minutes of amazing advice that I don't need myself but will DEFINITELY be storing up for friends
'everyone needs therapy'
honestly me at school
Thank you so much for talking about this!! People mostly associate only bad things with counseling, even though it's actually about improvement. It's just - as they said - learning more about yourself, and that's always something good. I feel like a lot of people fear to go to therapy, because they don't want to get judged. RUclipsrs or generally the media don't talk about it that much, at least the way like Dodie and Tessa did. And it's just good to hear people talk about their own experiences, and be open about it. So, again THANKS!! 💞
I'm so glad you guys made this video, I have a friend that can definitely benefit from therapy/counselling but feels like it won't help her. I know she'll watch this video and hopefully it may change her mind
Hey, how do you, like, tell people... things?
I mean, everybody is like, "so I was sad and my parents did something" but, like... how do they know? How do you tell people you are sad? I don't have this ability
I'm not capable of asking for help and it's not even because of pride, I just have no idea how you do it
you guys a so adorable together
I'm really glad you guys talked about this because I'm going to therapy soon and I've been quite nervous about it! You guys talking about it really helped relieve some of my stress and fears on it :)
I love your Doddleoddle videos but doddlevloggle videos are so intimate and nice and sweet and beautiful. I feel like I'm sitting down with a cup of tea and just being able to listen without having to talk. Honestly, thank you.
From somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy.
Now that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well.
I dont know which name would be cuter..
Tessa Clark,
Or Dodie Violet...💛🧡
I was also so totally convinced I couldn't fix my head with talking but I finally started cbt two weeks ago and already feel so much more in control. Makes me feel even more confident to see someone else talking about having the same experience, thanks dodie 💕💕💕
dodie i want to thank u for inspiring me to go back to therapy. for a while i thought i didnt need it or was better than therapy but u helped me realize that im not better than therapy and its okay to be in therapy so thank u bec im doing so much better than i was before!
This is SO important. Wow.
dodie! dye! your! hair! pastel! like! tessa's! it! would! suit! you!
your camera and lighting makes everything feel so warm and lovely
@doddlevloggle after watching this video, i was inspired to talk to my mom about therapy fro my anxiety-something i have struggled with for years but kept hidden. and she said yes! thanks to you i'm gonna be able to work through stuff i have bottled up for years and finally live a happy life. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration
my therapist tells me that my feelings are "just because im a growing teenager" so ya kno its great
Julia Haney try switching therapists!
teSSA YOURE SO WISE WHAT THE HELL
LOVE that you are starting a conversation about therapy. there is still much to much stigma about it in our society!
It's so weird watching this video because I am in school to become a therapist/counselor, so hearing you guys talk about the techniques therapists/counselors do to help you (like the attentive body language and verbal cues) are all things I know work and am slowly learning how to do. It's just so friggin cool seeing that these techniques actually have helped out people! Thank you so much for this video!
I am 15 and have had extreme anxiety disorder since I was 5. However we didn't know I had anxiety till just a couple years ago. Last summer I was at a very low point and my parents started getting scared. They didn't know how to help me..my mom asked if I wanted to go to counseling. I said no so many times that she eventually gave up and stopped asking. Looking back on it now..I wonder if it really would have helped..my anxiety recently has been better in the sense that I don't wake up every day with an attack-however when things like trips or social engagements come up, I suffer with very hard, very intense attacks. Do you think I should take my moms offer and go see someone?
I think you should go see someone because that helps a lot of people, but that's just my opinion, you should do whatever you think will be best for you.
Rachel Watkins I do think you should seek help because the longer you feel that way the harder it will be to try and get over it. I realize it's already been a little while but it is never too late.
Yes, look into it. If not just to get to know your own head, and the illness in it, a little bit better. Like Tessa mentioned, that's the most important reason, because understanding what is really happening to you is so unbelievably helpful in every way, and will give you the confidence to seek the help that is right for you in the long run.
For people in Australia seeking therapy I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps)
hope this helps :)
I just want to thank you both from the bottom of my heart for talking about this and making a video. You are so not alone in this experience! I thought that I was going to therapy because I currently wasn't worth anything and that I wasn't normal and that there was something wrong with me. Lies! Everyone isn't "normal" and everyone could use therapy to learn more about themselves and take care of their mental and emotional health. Also, Celebrate Recovery is amazing! I have a friend who is a leader of one group and it's is good for all the people involved. Her group was centered around body image but there are tons of wonderful groups that are non-judgmental because you're all just there to get better and understand each other.
Thank you for using your platform to talk about therapy and mental illnesses positively! It's so reassuring to hear people, who inspire me, talking about things that I can relate to! I highly recommend therapy to everyone, it's such a brilliant way to learn about youself and to normalise the way you feel. Love you loads Dodie and thank you💜💜
I don't think I could have Tessa as my therapist. I might fall for her too easily. I try to keep my therapists as "not my type".
Also, I've explicitly told my therapist to tell me what to do. I'm amazingly good at following directions. And that's why she said, "I know that. That's why I won't issue challenges to you. You'll actually do them no questions asked."
But seriously, mental illness has physical causes. If it feels like there's a thunderstorm going on in your head, complete with lightning bolts and thunder claps, and while that's happening your mood is tanking severely, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. That's a serious medical condition.
going on like two years with my therapist. she cares. highly recommend.
this video could not have come at a better time for me - after years and years and years of feeling like I couldn't cope (but putting it down to "being a teenager") I start therapy on Tuesday!! thank you for being so honest about it, you two have taken a lot of my worries away :)
Thank you for these little chatty videos. They make me a feel a little more comfortable about my illness. It made me re reflect about when you feel down and hating it. Now I can separate it from myself as the culprit but rather recognise it as signs of illness that I cant control
DODIE HELLO I LOVE YOU
Dodie's shirt reminds me of inside out.
I'm gonna start therapy really soon, and I gotta hand it to you Dodie. You made me realize that asking for help is okay and I can't thank you enough. ❤️
I wish I could have a friendship like these two. Been on a sappy/depressed video binge and I just can't help but admire their friendship. Especially since they seem so open with each other and can share that kind of stuff. Hope I can find a friend and a friendship like this.
I have felt depressed on and off since age 10 (2011) and I started feeling really anxious. In 2014 I went to my GP about it and nothing really happened until last year when my mum thought I had depression and I went to my GP again. They referred me to CAMHS.
Several months later they called me said it was just exam stress and that was that.
Several weeks after that I went to my other doctor told them what happened and they re-referred me to CAMHS. Many months later I actually got to talk to them and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. However they told me there was no point being put on their waiting list because in less than a year I turn 18. So they referred me to talking therapies and sent their diagnosis over.
A while later I got an appointment with talking therapies where they knew nothing baout me like they never got the information from CAMHS and they acted like a person could only have one type of anxiety? They told me it did not sound like I had social anxiety but I had "panic anxiety".
WTF IS PANIC ANXIETY? ALL anxiety is panicky on some level. Is it not?!
So now I am doing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online for anxiety and I have no idea what i'm supposed to be doing tbh because you don't really have the opportunity to talk to anyone. I mean every two weeks a person looks at your progress and makes some statements that aren't very helpful. Like they don't really do anything which I don't understand.
I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :(
I'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.
cookietiger I was referred to camhs by my doctor and diagnosed with mild depression and several anxiety disorders. camhs put me on a waiting list for CBT. It was supposed to be three months maximum before I would be seen for treatment but it's now been five and I've still heard nothing.
Urgh that sucks! Waiting lists are evil but i'm sure you will get the help soon. While you wait you could look for other counselling services in your area by asking your GP or someone and googling if you haven't already.
Before I got an appointment with CAMHS another psychiatrist suggested looking at a place in my area that might have a shorter waiting list but after I got to talk to talking therapies and that I told them I didn't need the help anymore so I wouldn't be in the way in the waiting list.
Honestly I love the idea of the NHS but it is often so frustrating in practice.
Hope you get better soon.
CAMHS is awful. maybe by panic anxiety they actually meant panic disorder? which is a definite form of anxiety based around panic attacks?
I go to Camhs, and tbh for me personally its done me some good, me and my councilor genuinely get along. I dont see her every week, because its busy you know. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a good councilor idk?? But if you find the right person to talk to, then its fine, some people in Camhs do genuinely want to help, then some others just sit there and don't even care tbh
7 Cups of Tea!!!
Thank you for this video, ladies.
I've been to counselling for grief as well as anxiety/depression and I never find it helpful because I experience what you said Dodie, feeling spaced out during sessions and not really getting anything out of it. I've been on meds for two years and I'm trying to get off them now. This video has inspired me to re-consider counselling as an option for dealing with everything.
Love you both so much x
Tessa and dodie, I want to thank you both. I found this video a while ago and cried after watching it. Fast forward to three hours earlier, this was the last video I watched again before going to my dad and asking for help. It almost feels like a dream how simple it was: telling him I’m suffering and asking for help. Tomorrow is my first session with my therapist, ahhhhhh!!! Lots of love to you ladies xxxx