8:50 relationship should make you and your partner better people not bring out the worst in each other. 10:08 physical and emotional abuse CANNOT coexist with love 13:47 Opposites do not make great relationships 15:35 Simple "Hi, how are you?" makes people like you 21:15 Similarities are one of the main factors for long term relationship. But opposites do attract for short term 22:11 For basic mating purposes, we are actually compelled to mate with someone different to us but problem is that it is not good for long term relationship 23:30 Self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that someone likes you, you will behave in a positive way towards that person creating a cycle of liking. 27:35 Men are right upfront about placing attractiveness in their top 3; Women place it 6, 7, or 8, but when you evaluate women's behavior, it's no different than men. 37:30 Share your beliefs, your goals, ect, to create intimacy, attraction and commitment. However, some secrets were meant to be taken to the grave 39:50 Sad reality, marriage dies out after 5 years. Not that you are with the wrong person, just the nature of love 43:40 Do small act of love and appreciation like saying thank you for doing the laundry or stroking shoulders. Do not insult your partner, or berate them; it's the worst thing you can do. 47:35 Physical and psychological and emotional abuse show up the same way on brain scans. _Fighting is not the only way to inflict damage upon the opponent; a man's spirit can be broken in much easier ways_ 56:00 Hurting someone is not a sign of love, as some abusers may claim. Physical and emotional abuse and love cannot coexist. Often time, it is a male abuser, but women could abuse, as well. Abusers will not change unless they get professional help. You cannot fix an abuser, unless maybe you are a professional (???) 58:00 Say to yourself, "I am Worthy of love".
All of this resonates with me. People that deny it are nothing more than "blue pill" thinkers. Looks matter and the only people who it is safe to say are NOT visual are the blind. Both sexes judge by looks first and foremost and looks can influence how you feel about and treat someone. Period.
You might be interested in a study in which blind men found women with a certain hip-to-waist-ratio the most attractive. Suffice to say, that that ratio was is the same which was the most attractive to men who could see the women instead of touching her.
Looks can be deceiving. Lots of good looking people are ugly inside, but the significant other chooses to stick around for “looks” sake.......probably for social status purposes
Actually, looks DO matter to people who are blind. Those who are blind form a mental image of an individual by touching them. The blind can, in fact, 'see' with their hands, similar to how bats 'see' with sound. That being said, most people probably aren't comfortable with having their face felt up by a stranger, so those who are blind are forced to learn about someone and appreciate their personality before knowing how they look.
so passion is when you're PHISICALLY attracted to someone and intimacy is when you can tell someone about EVERYTHING and trust them..in order for LOVE to work, you need to have intimacy, passion and COMMITMENT..
I think that initial physical attraction is important, even if we don't like to admit it, but like this guy points out, you also need passion, intimacy and commitment and when you get to know the person, that initial attraction won't be as important, you'll be attracted to how thoughtful and caring and funny they are and then it's just a bonus that person's good-lucking. and also, this proximity thing, the more time you get to spend with someone the more you realise how attractive they are..
i could listen to this even 2 more hours . it gets even more complicated . but the end is really emotional . i'm just used to using 5 drops of natural sex drops spanish fly and the love is on!!he isn't even thinking of some other girls. simple trick uh? and these aphrodisiacs are really easy to use.
yeah i know them too. my man gave me these natural drops as a birthday gift since he thinks i'm so bad in bed. but after 5 drops he completely changed his mind and now he wants me to be like that all the time
This lecture made me reflect on my self and made me aware of the important things a couple need to keep a relationship going. Is love a choice ? Maybe...! Got so much love to give and yet so much to learn.
For people to understand. 70% of love is physical appearance alone. Forget the personality even exists. 70% is looks and that is it. What he is talking about is the the other 30%. And he does a great job at it. It's sad that the human mind is so attracted to the human body rather then the personality.
+Mason Scott thats called animal attraction, what is alllot diffferent then LOVE, everybody has an animal attraction to smell, appearence & Physical engagement!
for an INTJ, it means meeting all my expectations. His behaviours and thoughts fall within my estimated range. So I know very quickly he is the right person for me and we can enter a long-term relationship. So I fall in love at first sight.
Mason scott. Your reality is how you perceive it mate. Looks do matter in attraction, but not as big as you might think it would be. For example... Imagine that you are really ugly but have a good personality and a mountain full of talents... Then you can attract people. You ARE what you believe in. Your perception to reality is what you believe in.
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There is only compassion as true love. Co-together passion-suffering. To simply be fully present for another because you recognize on a spiritual level that they are a part of you. Anything else is delusionally caused attachment arising as some form of co-dependency.
Good talk overall but I thought the "how to have a good relationship" part was not very clear, if anyone wants the keys to long lasting love that is backed by loads of scientific data look up John Gottman's book or audiobook "What makes love last?" the dude has been studying this stuff for like 30+ years, he is known as one of the leading experts in the world, great stuff.
4 things i took out from this lecture (could watch again!) Passion might stop earlier than intimacy if it starts As passion, if u wanna go back with ur ex u gotta analytically Measure, relationship dynamics n behaviour, attachment styles, personality = come values, where u wanna live etc
You are not picky if you have ONE trait that you want, it is a mere desire. You can want whomever you want. Let those who fall into love fall into love, and those who fall into true love fall into true love. Allow nature to take its course, that is of utmost importance.
i have always wanted to know what to expect in a relationship and how to make it work. I almost gave up in seeking cos i was afraid it wil fail again. learnt a lot from this. It is not easy but does help. thank you
What people also forget is that your flaws have to be compatible. For instance, if I am overly sensitive or emotionally unstable and you are non-chalant, self-absorbed, and easily irritated we would not work out very well. People always focus on the positive things we have in common but the truth is, our negative traits have to be compatible too.,,i.e I'm unstable but your patient, etc.
being "in love" and to "love someone" is not the same however. Because when you're desperately in love like teenagers you're not really yourself and you're unable to make rational decisions. But to "love someone" is when that phase has passed
Excellent breakdown of what real love is. It’s view of attraction, however, is very Anglo-centric because many cultures have an ancient tradition of not meeting until the wedding day. I would love to see an honest study of those marriages. Of course, it’s all dependent on whether people are prepared to be truthful, despite custom or religious beliefs.
Wow... Love for certain people happens for a certain reason and that's the psychological side of it. You apparently didn't even bother to reach halfway of this amazing video.
Which is more correct? The need for one to explore and be secure with oneself before getting into a relationship or the use of relationship to grow and be secure with oneself in who he/she is and what he/she has to offer.
everything is a business thats why people need these courses life is too short to have to go through love happens different and yes love exist when unconditionally and not forced fake manipulated it should just flow but dating is a huge business it includes many areas of professionalism and commercialism that benefit out of love, relationships, etc
It's exactly what people think it is love is not the full package. Love can never be the full package. The truth is that people will never get the full package. They can get parts of the package which are important but can never get the full package. Because the "full package" is not always their unless provoked by many events in a random order. For example you won't know if they can protect you unless you get hurt yourself.
...continue. and the most shallow one of all is people who keep saying how unfair this life is 'cause they're not taken while other people can be taken only by appearance. if you're single you're not oppressed at all. and who says being picked by tons of people makes you lucky? if people only see you as sex object then it is worse than being single. especially if your sexuality is exposed by rich people but then you are accused of ruining people's morality. being demonized is worse!!!
But then again, it's a natural part of the human being to consider whether life with someone else would be better, especially given the fact that we, as opposed to animals, are able to reflect intellectually over the future, and possible consequences of the choices we make. That's where "commitment" comes in, because some might feel that they would have an easier life if they marry a wealthy person.
@pmccarthy001 Being a student a of psychology..i can very well say psychology *is* a science, though not as objective as natural sciences like Physics & Chemistry, primarily because of its subject matter "human being". Its aim is to describe human behavior and other related things as objectively as possible and while doing so it doesnt hesitate to use mathematical analysis and models wherever possible, On a ending note, this series is intended to stimulate interest in psychology not douse it ;-)
...continue. and as i said, people who say they are not picky are hypocritical... unless they don't have any preference, consideration, priority at all and let someone else abuse them, then yes they are not picky. and all people always have many options even though they are not taken and nobody wants to be with them. you still have options when you're single as long as you are alive. its just you are not with the options. so you're NOT oppressed at all. and its never someone else's fault.
Quote: "Love is a Trojan Horse" - The greatest best known autor who will sue your head off, if you use that phrase in your proffesional, private and public life. And after that he will torture your soul till the rest of your life and after that. Cheers.
Limerence... Is the state of being infatuated with another person. Typically this infatuation is involuntary, there is a Strong requirement for reciprocation and validation one the limerent persons feelings. Generally, it's a non-sexual relationship. You should ask yourself why you're seeking validation from this particular individual? Limerence and love are two different things mainly the strong sense to find a validity. In love this finding validity is mutual but on limerence it's more one sided. This relates to attachment theory and other aspects of psychology that psychological relationship experts learn or those who deal with the relational aspects of society and groups. (Family, couples and even individuals who need help with these things).
dr.frank conner,i want to congrajulate you for making this valuable,knowledgable video available to all the viwers of youtube,and i must say you are pretty good and left an undying impression on my mind by ur knwledge and skill mof delivering it,god bless you...
I agree. It's the very reason why I am being more like my life partner each day... disliking the bureaucracy, politics & cultural world of jobs & careers. I am discouraged & distraught-ed over needing to wake up every weekday @ 6am like a trained pup just for a pathetic paycheck. The idea that there is something noble, prideful & honorable in being a slave or slaving away at some occupation,,, even that which you enjoy... is quite alarming & revolting. All due to indoctrination & predictability.
You are right! But I do believe that more attractive women than men exist, also women are more willing to trait attractiveness for other qualities, I think it was kind of over simplified in the theory...
if we men want to be honest, most of us actually don't want women who have kids or look unattractive. most unattractive women are still avoided. while attractive women still have to be careful, they maybe targeted as sex objects by some jerks. not all men and women are lucky. regardless how good or bad they are. i have witnessed women who were dumped because they are maternal, wise, kind and want serious relationships. i have also witnessed a man who was dumped because he was too kind.
I've just switched on, there's a bit of a problem with my EE connection - I just thought I'd anti-plug that in there, so nobody spoken yet, so I wanted to say that I am very surprised by the cover of this video as I can't see any minds. nor hearts there, only faces.
On another note I watched a lecture that said females that are attracted to greater sexual dimorphism tend to be faithful. Females who are attracted to less dimorphism tend to be unfaithful. It is an evolutionary trait across species that helps ensure that genes have the greatest chance of spreading. Males that are a good parent will look after her young so she can continue procreating. Evolutionary biology is fascinating stuff. :P
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8:50 relationship should make you and your partner better people not bring out the worst in each other.
10:08 physical and emotional abuse CANNOT coexist with love
13:47 Opposites do not make great relationships
15:35 Simple "Hi, how are you?" makes people like you
21:15 Similarities are one of the main factors for long term relationship. But opposites do attract for short term
22:11 For basic mating purposes, we are actually compelled to mate with someone different to us but problem is that it is not good for long term relationship
23:30 Self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that someone likes you, you will behave in a positive way towards that person creating a cycle of liking.
27:35 Men are right upfront about placing attractiveness in their top 3; Women place it 6, 7, or 8, but when you evaluate women's behavior, it's no different than men.
37:30 Share your beliefs, your goals, ect, to create intimacy, attraction and commitment. However, some secrets were meant to be taken to the grave
39:50 Sad reality, marriage dies out after 5 years. Not that you are with the wrong person, just the nature of love
43:40 Do small act of love and appreciation like saying thank you for doing the laundry or stroking shoulders. Do not insult your partner, or berate them; it's the worst thing you can do.
47:35 Physical and psychological and emotional abuse show up the same way on brain scans. _Fighting is not the only way to inflict damage upon the opponent; a man's spirit can be broken in much easier ways_
56:00 Hurting someone is not a sign of love, as some abusers may claim. Physical and emotional abuse and love cannot coexist. Often time, it is a male abuser, but women could abuse, as well. Abusers will not change unless they get professional help. You cannot fix an abuser, unless maybe you are a professional (???)
58:00 Say to yourself, "I am Worthy of love".
This is one of the best explanations of love, relationships, and attraction.
All of this resonates with me. People that deny it are nothing more than "blue pill" thinkers. Looks matter and the only people who it is safe to say are NOT visual are the blind. Both sexes judge by looks first and foremost and looks can influence how you feel about and treat someone. Period.
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for real
You might be interested in a study in which blind men found women with a certain hip-to-waist-ratio the most attractive. Suffice to say, that that ratio was is the same which was the most attractive to men who could see the women instead of touching her.
Looks can be deceiving.
Lots of good looking people are ugly inside, but the significant other chooses to stick around for “looks” sake.......probably for social status purposes
Actually, looks DO matter to people who are blind. Those who are blind form a mental image of an individual by touching them. The blind can, in fact, 'see' with their hands, similar to how bats 'see' with sound. That being said, most people probably aren't comfortable with having their face felt up by a stranger, so those who are blind are forced to learn about someone and appreciate their personality before knowing how they look.
This should be shown in High Schools, so the teenagers get knowledge and understanding about true relationships and what it is about.
11 years late but at my school they do show this video in psych classes
so passion is when you're PHISICALLY attracted to someone and intimacy is when you can tell someone about EVERYTHING and trust them..in order for LOVE to work, you need to have intimacy, passion and COMMITMENT..
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
relationships are so much work - sometimes i honestly feel like i'm happier being alone
my right ear felt alone in this
Thoght my earphones where broken
I thought my earphone broke
Same bro i got scared for my headphones
Same situation here
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"Minha orelha direita sentiu que formigou descolada da cabeça "
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Meme
I’m confident enough to believe I deserve an honorary degree in this field, I believe I communicate love accurately without ever going to college.
I think that initial physical attraction is important, even if we don't like to admit it, but like this guy points out, you also need passion, intimacy and commitment and when you get to know the person, that initial attraction won't be as important, you'll be attracted to how thoughtful and caring and funny they are and then it's just a bonus that person's good-lucking. and also, this proximity thing, the more time you get to spend with someone the more you realise how attractive they are..
It obviously is lol. I mean how are you supposed to enjoy sex with physically unattractive partner
This man is very easy to listen to - thank you, great lecture!
I couldn't stand that the audio only worked from one ear to be honest. I only made it about 30 seconds but im sure it was a good lecture.
i could listen to this even 2 more hours . it gets even more complicated . but the end is really emotional . i'm just used to using 5 drops of natural sex drops spanish fly and the love is on!!he isn't even thinking of some other girls. simple trick uh? and these aphrodisiacs are really easy to use.
yeah i know them too. my man gave me these natural drops as a birthday gift since he thinks i'm so bad in bed. but after 5 drops he completely changed his mind and now he wants me to be like that all the time
Great lecture for ESL students. Clear and easy to understand and good use of supporting visuals. Works well with text book units about LOVE.
Interesting course, I think the best way to maintain a long term relationship is to be brutally honest with each other.
Exactly what most people won’t be 😒
So true !!
It all makes sense now. I don't assimilate with people because I'm the most attractive.
This lecture was amazing ! Professor is beyond wise .
I'm so thankful and grateful to this professor and all of the questions, they helped me learn a lot.
I have my degree in psychology. I love these videos😀
This lecture made me reflect on my self and made me aware of the important things a couple need to keep a relationship going. Is love a choice ? Maybe...! Got so much love to give and yet so much to learn.
Love is completely letting go and discovering your absoute, true inner self, which you see in that other person.
+Raiken Xion Lol good luck with that.
Mark EM No bad luck (for me) cause I lost that person
He should have just said at the end "In summary, bitches be crazy" and then left to uproarious applause.
+robotpanda77 LMAO
For people to understand. 70% of love is physical appearance alone. Forget the personality even exists. 70% is looks and that is it. What he is talking about is the the other 30%. And he does a great job at it. It's sad that the human mind is so attracted to the human body rather then the personality.
+Mason Scott thats called animal attraction, what is alllot diffferent then LOVE, everybody has an animal attraction to smell, appearence & Physical engagement!
+Tootjuh Werta That IS love. What do you think "love at first sight" means?
for an INTJ, it means meeting all my expectations. His behaviours and thoughts fall within my estimated range. So I know very quickly he is the right person for me and we can enter a long-term relationship. So I fall in love at first sight.
It is terribly sad. It is a source of much unhappiness.
Mason scott. Your reality is how you perceive it mate. Looks do matter in attraction, but not as big as you might think it would be. For example... Imagine that you are really ugly but have a good personality and a mountain full of talents... Then you can attract people. You ARE what you believe in. Your perception to reality is what you believe in.
If I could, I’d get each person to view this video at least once a year. Insightful and superbly delivered.👌🏽
It's balance between harmony of spirits & personality ❤️❤️
my left ear like this.
I'm proud and happy of being your virtual student...
FOR ANYONE WHO DOESN WANT THEIR RIGHT WAR TO DISAPPEAR
Settings -> accessibility -> audio -> mono. Pretty much the same for windows.
my right ear disliked this video
nah fam your headphones are just broken
thessbest123 that's disgusting. you need to shave
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+thessbest123 +thessbest123 I was slightly interested in your message below. Please tell me you're feedback was nothing more than one of +thessbest123 I was slightly interested in your message below. Please tell me that you aren't medically challenged due to any past head injuries? Are you creeping over into the double digits, 10 year old. Bc There is no greater insult during a misunderstanding, lacking interpersonal skills, experiences and knowledge around the subject of choice. Just wanted to know about meaning behind the message.
+thessbest123 +thessbest123 I was slightly interested in your message below. Please tell me you're feedback was nothing more than one of +thessbest123 I was slightly interested in your message below. Please tell me that you aren't medically challenged due to any past head injuries? Are you creeping over into the double digits, 10 year old. Bc There is no greater insult during a misunderstanding, lacking interpersonal skills, experiences and knowledge around the subject of choice. Just wanted to know about meaning behind the message.
There is only compassion as true love. Co-together passion-suffering. To simply be fully present for another because you recognize on a spiritual level that they are a part of you. Anything else is delusionally caused attachment arising as some form of co-dependency.
Thank you so much for saying physical and mental abuse is not Love..
Good talk overall but I thought the "how to have a good relationship" part was not very clear, if anyone wants the keys to long lasting love that is backed by loads of scientific data look up John Gottman's book or audiobook "What makes love last?" the dude has been studying this stuff for like 30+ years, he is known as one of the leading experts in the world, great stuff.
4 things i took out from this lecture (could watch again!) Passion might stop earlier than intimacy if it starts As passion, if u wanna go back with ur ex u gotta analytically Measure, relationship dynamics n behaviour, attachment styles, personality = come values, where u wanna live etc
You are not picky if you have ONE trait that you want, it is a mere desire. You can want whomever you want. Let those who fall into love fall into love, and those who fall into true love fall into true love. Allow nature to take its course, that is of utmost importance.
i have always wanted to know what to expect in a relationship and how to make it work. I almost gave up in seeking cos i was afraid it wil fail again. learnt a lot from this. It is not easy but does help. thank you
What people also forget is that your flaws have to be compatible. For instance, if I am overly sensitive or emotionally unstable and you are non-chalant, self-absorbed, and easily irritated we would not work out very well. People always focus on the positive things we have in common but the truth is, our negative traits have to be compatible too.,,i.e I'm unstable but your patient, etc.
Dr.Frank Conner is a real visual presentator!
knowledge source , quality based lecture.
I love psychology and love, great combo in video.
best lecture of love i have ever heard...
Whoa, what a great and engaging instructor! I wish he taught at my University.
You're right, no intellect argues. Intellects, by definition, cannot argue. But intellectuals do.
This is an amazing lecture. Thanks a lot for uploading!
Thank you for the lecture! one of the best and practical lecture i've ever heard about love and relationships.
The fact he had quoted the negatives is a part of our lives'.! Rather than some of our lives'.! Some nt believe in divorace, and no other options'.!
I've learned a few things here. Thanks for the post!
I have only ever had 2 out of 3 in any given relationship ... but its not over yet and my ❤️stays open.
thank you dr conner for the amazing lecture, it was very informative :)
I could listen to this man forever.
This guy is the real deal
well I'm never gonna get anyone..
Lmao
how is it going?
Muuuhhh just hit gym brooooooooh.
I know
Looks max that’s all I can say
being "in love" and to "love someone" is not the same however. Because when you're desperately in love like teenagers you're not really yourself and you're unable to make rational decisions. But to "love someone" is when that phase has passed
Love this lecture. I learned lots of important information from this. Thanks a million.
Wholesome, informative, and helpful in putting things im perspective. Thanks 🌹
Excellent breakdown of what real love is. It’s view of attraction, however, is very Anglo-centric because many cultures have an ancient tradition of not meeting until the wedding day. I would love to see an honest study of those marriages. Of course, it’s all dependent on whether people are prepared to be truthful, despite custom or religious beliefs.
Be picky! I dont believe in being "too picky". If you don't want to settle, don't! Your soulmate will show up soon!
Wow... Love for certain people happens for a certain reason and that's the psychological side of it. You apparently didn't even bother to reach halfway of this amazing video.
Thanks for upload this video. I find it that equip my self by knowing love from the psychological side is very helpful in my love life.
Absolutely awesome ! Thank you for sharing the knowledge 🙏🏽
I like the "acceptance" factor for a successful relationship....My parents have been accepting each other behaviors for 40 years...
This is such a great lecture. Wish the students were more engaged.
Which is more correct? The need for one to explore and be secure with oneself before getting into a relationship or the use of relationship to grow and be secure with oneself in who he/she is and what he/she has to offer.
everything is a business thats why people need these courses
life is too short to have to go through
love happens different and yes love exist when unconditionally and not forced fake manipulated
it should just flow
but dating is a huge business it includes many areas of professionalism and commercialism that benefit out of love, relationships, etc
It's exactly what people think it is love is not the full package. Love can never be the full package. The truth is that people will never get the full package. They can get parts of the package which are important but can never get the full package. Because the "full package" is not always their unless provoked by many events in a random order. For example you won't know if they can protect you unless you get hurt yourself.
...continue. and the most shallow one of all is people who keep saying how unfair this life is 'cause they're not taken while other people can be taken only by appearance. if you're single you're not oppressed at all. and who says being picked by tons of people makes you lucky?
if people only see you as sex object then it is worse than being single. especially if your sexuality is exposed by rich people but then you are accused of ruining people's morality. being demonized is worse!!!
3/4 through realizing this hasn’t aged that well.
This sucks because we can't see the pictures he is talking about. We keep getting shown the same picture of celebrities...why?
This is really good information. I am so glad I came across this...
But then again, it's a natural part of the human being to consider whether life with someone else would be better, especially given the fact that we, as opposed to animals, are able to reflect intellectually over the future, and possible consequences of the choices we make. That's where "commitment" comes in, because some might feel that they would have an easier life if they marry a wealthy person.
I thought something was wrong with my right ear headphone lol
Me too lol
I'm glad for the long form on the lecture, & thx for the mirror GRCC...
I always assumed that unattractive people are less promiscuous than attractive people because less people are drawn to unattractive people.
13:00 (don’t mind me just making a time stamp so I can go back to it lol)
@pmccarthy001 Being a student a of psychology..i can very well say psychology *is* a science, though not as objective as natural sciences like Physics & Chemistry, primarily because of its subject matter "human being". Its aim is to describe human behavior and other related things as objectively as possible and while doing so it doesnt hesitate to use mathematical analysis and models wherever possible, On a ending note, this series is intended to stimulate interest in psychology not douse it ;-)
Thank you for this talk I got a lot out of it.
Regards Sean
...continue. and as i said, people who say they are not picky are hypocritical... unless they don't have any preference, consideration, priority at all and let someone else abuse them, then yes they are not picky. and all people always have many options even though they are not taken and nobody wants to be with them. you still have options when you're single as long as you are alive. its just you are not with the options. so you're NOT oppressed at all. and its never someone else's fault.
Quote: "Love is a Trojan Horse" - The greatest best known autor who will sue your head off, if you use that phrase in your proffesional, private and public life. And after that he will torture your soul till the rest of your life and after that. Cheers.
i loved how you started wisely then swore :D
"I do not believe in the existence of what is called love!"
Lord Byron ( 22 January, 1788 - 19 April, 1824 )
English Poet and Politician
Limerence... Is the state of being infatuated with another person. Typically this infatuation is involuntary, there is a Strong requirement for reciprocation and validation one the limerent persons feelings. Generally, it's a non-sexual relationship. You should ask yourself why you're seeking validation from this particular individual? Limerence and love are two different things mainly the strong sense to find a validity. In love this finding validity is mutual but on limerence it's more one sided. This relates to attachment theory and other aspects of psychology that psychological relationship experts learn or those who deal with the relational aspects of society and groups. (Family, couples and even individuals who need help with these things).
P H very insightful; can you recommend any books or lectures on the subject?
What a great video! Very educational.
Now I know where my professor in RS1 got his lecture about love....Very amazing tho. 😊
dr.frank conner,i want to congrajulate you for making this valuable,knowledgable video available to all the viwers of youtube,and i must say you are pretty good and left an undying impression on my mind by ur knwledge and skill mof delivering it,god bless you...
You should watch " WTF Bending a Mans Mind " You would love it!
OMG... wow... just.... wow...
That was amazing, I wish it wasn't so short though, I wanted to keep watching more. Pure brilliance!
My left ear is full of love.
I agree. It's the very reason why I am being more like my life partner each day... disliking the bureaucracy, politics & cultural world of jobs & careers. I am discouraged & distraught-ed over needing to wake up every weekday @ 6am like a trained pup just for a pathetic paycheck. The idea that there is something noble, prideful & honorable in being a slave or slaving away at some occupation,,, even that which you enjoy... is quite alarming & revolting. All due to indoctrination & predictability.
im from Colombia and im thankful for to see this thank u so much....this its very interesting for me ... nice day bye :)
I'll save you 1 hour and 30 minutes: Just be Chad.
XD Thank!
Whos Chad?
Yep , the black pill is very real
@@kevinwilson3337 i thought it was red pill
@@cashdollar6695 no , the black is when the moment you where born it was over .
GREAT INFO NICE SIMPLE WAY OF SAYING COMPLICATED THING , THANKS FOR POSTING
You are right! But I do believe that more attractive women than men exist, also women are more willing to trait attractiveness for other qualities, I think it was kind of over simplified in the theory...
This was a very good lecture! Wish I had this teacher
if we men want to be honest, most of us actually don't want women who have kids or look unattractive. most unattractive women are still avoided. while attractive women still have to be careful, they maybe targeted as sex objects by some jerks.
not all men and women are lucky. regardless how good or bad they are. i have witnessed women who were dumped because they are maternal, wise, kind and want serious relationships. i have also witnessed a man who was dumped because he was too kind.
I've just switched on, there's a bit of a problem with my EE connection - I just thought I'd anti-plug that in there, so nobody spoken yet, so I wanted to say that I am very surprised by the cover of this video as I can't see any minds. nor hearts there, only faces.
I love this class!! thank you SO MUCH for posting!
On another note I watched a lecture that said females that are attracted to greater sexual dimorphism tend to be faithful. Females who are attracted to less dimorphism tend to be unfaithful. It is an evolutionary trait across species that helps ensure that genes have the greatest chance of spreading. Males that are a good parent will look after her young so she can continue procreating.
Evolutionary biology is fascinating stuff.
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This video is great. I have come to better understanding of how relationships work.
very interesting, thank you Dr. Frank Conner
You need to watch " WTF Bending A Mans Mind ". Such a great movie.
That video was crazy man. Why you wanna get crazy essay? lol.
Fuuuu.... thats a crazy movie man, I just watched it online the other day.
Excellent explanation on love! Thanks!
I really enjoyed the lecture given. I was some great food for thought and was very informative. I am going to recommend my friends to see this.
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Thank you very much for sharing this on youtube!