I hear you but when your “work” is not in alignment with your soul and instead is depleting and oblivious to the needs of your body there is indeed stress and this stress can mean it’s time to move on and find a better fit and a more resonant way to serve. To ignore this and force alignment is to ignore a deeper knowing and guidance being sent from your body and often your heart. The courage to leap is often more valuable than the force to make it right. 🙏 be true be free.
I was just about to post what you have posted here. This talk suggests (or can be interpreted) that you can and should make peace with any situation. What if that situation is toxic and abusive?
@@zahrashahabinezhadlet's take an example. Suppose,, You are ugly. Your face is really ugly. You ha e a SEVERE cystic acne condition. All over the face. But you've been conditioned by media to look like Natalie Portman. And you're crying over that fact(there are many people doing that). You WANT to look very pretty. But you've been born that way. And you're poor too.. Don't have the money for surgery either. What would you do? Some may get severely depressed. Some may even contemplate suicide.. And so on. Which is really a way out? There are situations. Which are not very controllable all the time. Because the Universe marches on its own laws. You and me are but a visitor for a few days. We'll be gone soon. We can't change the Way. Of the Intelligence. Hence Acceptance should always be the top priority. If you break free of the conditioning -- the goal of yoga -- you'd realise your state of joy is IRRESPECTIVE of any outer situation but a state of inner being. Of course there are tough situation like the one mentioned above. But what if there's nothing you can do about it? Acceptance. And letting go. And what of you CAN do something about it? Acceptance again. You can deal with it BETTER if you accept it first. And work it out from a state of joy within. Rather than a state of compulsive urge to solve it.. With an agitated mind. The solution won't be as effective.
I though the same, but things doesn't happen by accident in this universe ( see the law of correspondence) . I believe you truly move on when u understand your lesson from that situation ( work ) and when you Let Go ( surrender to the universe). Just my view. 🙏
My case is the epitome of what stress and burnout can do to disrupt inner peace. After beginning my meditation practice, things have definitely improved. HOWEVER, after learning about Mickey Singer and his teachings, I can undoubtedly say that everything this man has to share is 100% true. Follow Mickey's advice and a profound inner peace that many can only dream of will become a reality for you in time. Thank you immensely for all you do, MS!! Namaste to all🙏❤.
He, more than any other teacher gave me the tools i desperately needed when I was in despair. I can’t believe how simple it is (simple is not the same as easy) to have a more peaceful and meaningful life. Now - as soon as I feel tension, judgement, annoyance, etc I simply check in with myself with the intention to let it go. It works 100% of the time if I LET it. The times I don’t let it go are simply areas I still need to work on. Love this man and his teachings!
Singer's teachings have really helped me but this one...this is probably the only one I would disagree with in some or most cases. I tried for so long at a job that I felt out of place at. A job that gave me very poor training and expected unrealistic results. A job I can say I strongly disliked every day (hated is a strong word). A job that gave me daily headaches, poor sleep, and blood pressure of 170. I tried to stop resisting, relax, have gratitude, and just go with the flow. That got me written up for not going fast enough. When I felt that my health was suffering and the job was going to cause me some sort of major illness down the road, I decided to stop resisting in a different way. To stop resisting and let go of the inner voice telling me that quitting was bad, that grown ups don't just quit their jobs, that things would get better, that I should be more grateful, that people would talk about me, etc. I had saved up an emergency fund of about 9-12 months and even then it was scary but I did it. I quit having no other job lined up. I'm taking a few months off before I start looking for another job. I feel that I need to destress and clear my head before I get into something else. No regrets so far. Oh and my blood pressure is back down in the 120s!
Thanks for sharing your story. There is wisdom in quitting sometimes. What about cases of abuse or exploitation?! In those kinds of situations, one might actually be performing a service by quitting.
Yeah, this doesn't take into account toxic environments or unrealistic expectations or invisible disabilities. Good on you for having an emergency fund and actually making use of it. I hope the next role you have is a much better fit for you.
I just love Michael Singer... I resonate with everything he says... thank you 💞 Ps. The piano music is lovely but I find it distracting during the speaking
Thank you 🙏🏻 Michael Singer and Sounds True for this reminder… “you’re in there”… resisting life. MS always makes me giggle about the garbage inside. Just emptied a little more with this snippet of wisdom. We’re all on this planet 🌎 out in the middle of nowheres 😁… what fun!
I mean, I like Mickey's teachings and resonate with his books on most things, but I am not sure about this. I surrendered in my previous workplace but the amount of work and the sitting still indoors had me so exhausted that I eventually got burned out anyways. I don't think we should just blindly accept anything. Many things being upheld in this world is not for the highest good of all in my opinion and maybe we should not blindly serve anything at all without careful consideration.
I'd politely disagree. Stress doesn't arise from resistance. Suffering does. Stress arises instead from the perceived gap between what we think is expected from us and what we feel capable of. Bridging the gap -either emotionally or cognitively, even spiritually with faith, is what helps with stress...
This is a wonderful and helpful video. My question is, “What if your job is pushing you beyond your limits-either physically, cognitively or both?” There are limits to what our bodies can do and what our minds can process. A task may be perfectly pleasant and you can enjoy the doing of it in the middle of the day, but what if the demands of your job require you to work 14-hour days? When *that* job is experienced as stressful, is the problem still you and not the job? Would love to hear Mr. Singer’s thoughts on this. 🙏
I was in the Navy, so I know 14-16 hour days for months on end...six days a week. I was stressed beyond imagination and would get migraines from it. So, I know what you are talking about. I retired from the Navy and then started a business that is perfect for me (Pet Sitting/Dog Walking). I don't think Michael Singer is saying not to change things in life, but to learn from every moment. My mother used to always say "Well, what you can you do about it?" (the situation) or "what are you going to do about it?" and I liken that to the serenity prayer "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." My question to you is if the job is perfectly pleasant in the middle of the day, why is it not pleasant after longer hours? And what can you do to best do that job that will make it less stressful? Perhaps taking breaks throughout the day, perhaps doing some light exercises and/or a ten miniute meditation during that break? I know when I was stressed out with my job in the Navy, just talking about how stressed I was added to the stress. Are you in fear that if you get too tired you will not do as good a job then be asked to leave that job? I also think journaling helps...writing down your thoughts about the job and what is stressful about it. The job is on the outside...and Michael is all about inside, inner work....what is going on INSIDE of you that creates this stress.
What are your values? If this job is in no way contributing to your values but are pushing you to always compromise them, which as a result, is harming your inner growth. A toxic space is a toxic space. M. Singer's journey may differ from yours in terms of what is valued. That's my outlook.
@@UXtatic Yes! Went to a massive burn out, After practicing: living thé présent moment to thé best of m'y abilyties..and it worked like Magic: i had a very good peacful life for 9 years ,until a massive burn out, that came out of nowere ( that's What i thought at thé Time...) But I now know that my job was not in alignement with my values. I just didn't know it: i kept doing my work to thé best of m'y abilitys, enjoying thé moment every day and it worked.. exept that deep down, m'y values were ignored to a peacful life. I don't regret ,now but 2 years of m'y life went climbing out of this burn out.. So, yes WE CAN stop fighting négativ feelings and thoughts, to accept thé présent and life ,but WE need to listen carefully, deep inside, if Our values are being ignored...
Same. After my last burnout that left me bedridden and has taken over 4 years to recover, and finding out I'm autistic and ADHD, I'm struggling to find anything, not a single thing, I can do work wise that will actually bring in enough funds to cover my minimum expenses. Feel like all I've done is work out what the actual root cause was only to find there is no way to fix it, even accommodations like sorting my clothes so they aren't uncomfortable (limited success), wearing sunglasses in places with bright lights even if it's inside, and ear plugs it's still not enough. Learning to understand my body's needs after a life time of having them put down and ignored and shamed for it has been a long slow process but I don't have the health to just push through anymore. Learning to stim has helped a little bit doing that anywhere outside home gets immediate discrimination or/and being ostracized not to mention the infantization people do. Even the job application process is systemically built to exclude neurodivergent people. Can't live off just air and there's no support payments I can get.
It’s challenging when your job provides a broken system you use that has many problems. But I get the lesson here… once we meet the job challenge with peace and contentment the energy of the job itself will align or new job opportunities will come that aligns with our new energy. 🙏
Resistance is not futile. It allows you to guard your principles and values. Your personal identity. Though to some extent it will hinder you. Still worth it because in the end only drones and sheep give no resistance. Its a give and take.
@@patrickhafner778 what if they are very dominant and controlling and the situation(eg. shared custody or co-workers) is more complicated for you than just walk away.
@@lushgreenbeanyou ignore them and anything they say as much as you can and the rest of the time you focus on yourself and what you need to happen. They only care about themselves and the fact that they NEED your attention on them. If you can develop an exit strategy so you never have to deal with them again where possible, even if it's years down the track. But until that end point their wants that they're screaming about being their needs are not your problem, zone them out.
It doesn't mean you have to stay at your job, it means your inner disturbance has nothing to do with helping the situation. The universe "gave" you this job for now because you are at it. You are free to leave and that will be what the universe "gives" you because you've left. It's simply what is. When your decisions are dictated by the negative emotions inside you, you aren't free to make the best decision for yourself or others.
59 yrs of fear and extreme isolation. 1000"s of hours meditating, praying and trying to feel connected. I don't know if this is a huge and I mean huge lesson that God intended or if I massively f'd up my life. I do not k ow what to do. I removed myself from people's lives so I would not be a frustrating bother but now I realize what a huge mistake that was and its just me. I need to know how to make some progress on my own cause there's noone and its embarrassing because people at work know this
Start going to community based events that match your interests or hobbies, start chatting to people and it might take awhile but it's the best way to make friends as an adult. Young kids make friends easily because they're right at the beginning of development but as they get older they start defining their interests and changing friends around it.
Excellent message, but adding the background music is pretty distracting for many. Maybe have an option of listening to the same topic, but without background music. Otherwise, it's like going to a restaurant and no matter what you order (salad, steak, sushi, etc.) it comes slathered in ketchup -- because the chef loves ketchup and thinks everyone would also enjoy this love.
His message is so wrong. Most of the time, stress and burnout at work occur because people are massively overworked, not because of the attitude they have. Often they are eager to work hard, but the toxic 24/7 work culture is ruining people's health. It's just common sense, there is no need to overthink it with a 'spiritual' analysis. Stop blaming the victim Mr Singer.
😂 I'm the problem? Yeah it's my problem that I was an undiagnosed autistic adhd person and that I cannot function like every neurotypical. Can't fix that, can't change that, can't change society's discrimination of who I genuinely am. I'm bullied and shamed. "Be yourself.... Not like that wtf are you doing?" After my most recent burnout that left me bedridden with multiple physical issues I've been trying to find work I can do that doesn't destroy my health. Literally every job I've had in several different industries left me a corpse in burnout hiding under the guise of depression, I've been searching and not a single job actually fits what I need. What do I do in this situation? I can't just go "oh wow, i get to talk on a phone" and 'happy' away the actual issues.
How can I connect this concept to work that involves advocating for vulnerable children who suffer abuse or bad situations? My responsibility to them demands that I create some resistance to procedures and policies that are not in their best interest. This can feel stressful...it feels stressful to voice conflict with unsympathetic authorities, however not doing so feels cowardly.
What MS talks about I love so much, and what you bring up is such a great question. "It feels stressful to voice conflict with unsymathetic authorities" Thank you for doing what you do..... What a gem you are for standing up for these kids...EMBRACE that! Know that you are doing that which is done for bettering the lives of these children. Change often seems to take forever.....(I see your fear in the stress....fear of not making a difference). I loathe conflict (as most people do)...and I can get get super hyped up in my communication style when I feel so passionate about something. Not sure if you are this way, too. But I usually worry (stress=fear) that I will communicate something in a way that will turn people off....
You're doing great work. As I understand it he is talking about inner resistance to the situation. Outer conflict may be necessary, if it creates stress in you it's a great opportunity to let go of your inner fear by experiencing it and relaxing behind it, and you will be able to do serve the situation better as a result.
I just got a new schedule posted. I have negativity swirling all around inside, "why didn't I get my reg schedule, who is more important than me, I've been here the longest, why did I get punished...". Those thoughts I created opposing the new schedule are all resistance.
At the deepest level, I think resistance is any commitment to a reaction that is rooted in fear. I say commitment because experiencing disturbance is natural. In the example given in one of the comments below, where you may be late to a meeting while you are in the middle of a traffic block. Initially, you will experience disturbance because you have a preference of not being late. That reactive experience is natural. The problem is we identify with that reaction and commit to it thereby causing resistance and more suffering. In other words, because we feel disturbed, we let our minds begin to race about excuses for being late for example, which loops back to the heart and causes more stress. The more we commit to the reaction, the more stressed we become. Alternatively, we could just accept that nothing can be done about being late at that moment, and later arrive at the meeting centered and clear without personal fears ready to tackle the problems objectively.
Someone experiences from early childhood the trauma of a parent who projected their own fears and trauma onto the child through physical and emotional abuse. The parent is a functional alcoholic. The child suffers and lives in fear of the parent for many years and feels powerless until they are old enough to leave as an adult, moving a thousand miles away, never speaking to any family member for 12 years. The child seeks to free himself from the haunting childhood experiences, and cannot truly forgive and forget. He becomes a lifelong pot smoker. Finally the parents pass away. The child now in his sixties, gives up substances and begins practicing meditation and studying buddhism. The practice and study include breathwork, yoga stretching and body scans, mantra and chanting, relaxing the body, witnessing the content of thoughts and emotions, and love and compassion meditation. His practice leads him to realize how emotionally trapped in the past he's been all these years. His practice facilitates clarity of mind and the ability to let go of the attachments to the past, to watch his mind without judging. When he sees his emotional blockages, he takes time to watch them and let them pass through him without trying to change anything. Sounds easy, but it often isn't at first, until it becomes the new normal, through practice in daily life over months and years. We don't have to change anything, just observe non-judgmentally, relax mind and body, and let go of what we need externally in order to feel okay internally. It took almost a lifetime to get to this point. Some would say a life wasted. Others would say a life worth living.
Say your water Skiing and you go down but you won't let go of the rope because you are so caught up in act of trying to Ski ( the act of water skiing represents your personal story ) let go don't let the Your Personal STORY DRAG YOU AROUND This is Soul level stuff not I ME MINE Stuff 💓💓 living Unfeathered beyond the Human Predicament !
I believe he is on to something, he got the gold we just allow ourselves to be totally open free and nonjudgmental First make your own experiment And test the hypothesis Just play and see what happens in each delicious moment ❤love to you all and to Michael Singer for being an inspiration to so many Thank you 🙏 Michael for your contribution to this world, and I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity for your book the untethered soul to land my lap. I love that you help make the world a brighter place ✨ please continue to share whatever is in your heart to share friend ❤
Two minutes in, this guy unfortunately haven't heard about Dr Aron's HSP. Plus repeating phrases causes hearing fatigue, ok, it's not a stress, not a stress ; )
I hear you but when your “work” is not in alignment with your soul and instead is depleting and oblivious to the needs of your body there is indeed stress and this stress can mean it’s time to move on and find a better fit and a more resonant way to serve. To ignore this and force alignment is to ignore a deeper knowing and guidance being sent from your body and often your heart. The courage to leap is often more valuable than the force to make it right. 🙏 be true be free.
I was just about to post what you have posted here. This talk suggests (or can be interpreted) that you can and should make peace with any situation. What if that situation is toxic and abusive?
@@zahrashahabinezhadlet's take an example.
Suppose,, You are ugly. Your face is really ugly. You ha e a SEVERE cystic acne condition. All over the face.
But you've been conditioned by media to look like Natalie Portman.
And you're crying over that fact(there are many people doing that).
You WANT to look very pretty. But you've been born that way. And you're poor too.. Don't have the money for surgery either.
What would you do? Some may get severely depressed. Some may even contemplate suicide.. And so on.
Which is really a way out?
There are situations. Which are not very controllable all the time.
Because the Universe marches on its own laws.
You and me are but a visitor for a few days. We'll be gone soon. We can't change the Way. Of the Intelligence.
Hence Acceptance should always be the top priority.
If you break free of the conditioning -- the goal of yoga -- you'd realise your state of joy is IRRESPECTIVE of any outer situation but a state of inner being.
Of course there are tough situation like the one mentioned above.
But what if there's nothing you can do about it?
Acceptance. And letting go.
And what of you CAN do something about it?
Acceptance again.
You can deal with it BETTER if you accept it first.
And work it out from a state of joy within. Rather than a state of compulsive urge to solve it.. With an agitated mind. The solution won't be as effective.
The main thesis of work says to do everything with zeal what life throws at you and your view is the opposite.
I could not agree more thank you🤗
I though the same, but things doesn't happen by accident in this universe ( see the law of correspondence) . I believe you truly move on when u understand your lesson from that situation ( work ) and when you Let Go ( surrender to the universe). Just my view. 🙏
My case is the epitome of what stress and burnout can do to disrupt inner peace. After beginning my meditation practice, things have definitely improved. HOWEVER, after learning about Mickey Singer and his teachings, I can undoubtedly say that everything this man has to share is 100% true. Follow Mickey's advice and a profound inner peace that many can only dream of will become a reality for you in time. Thank you immensely for all you do, MS!! Namaste to all🙏❤.
He, more than any other teacher gave me the tools i desperately needed when I was in despair. I can’t believe how simple it is (simple is not the same as easy) to have a more peaceful and meaningful life.
Now - as soon as I feel tension, judgement, annoyance, etc I simply check in with myself with the intention to let it go. It works 100% of the time if I LET it. The times I don’t let it go are simply areas I still need to work on.
Love this man and his teachings!
Singer's teachings have really helped me but this one...this is probably the only one I would disagree with in some or most cases. I tried for so long at a job that I felt out of place at. A job that gave me very poor training and expected unrealistic results. A job I can say I strongly disliked every day (hated is a strong word). A job that gave me daily headaches, poor sleep, and blood pressure of 170. I tried to stop resisting, relax, have gratitude, and just go with the flow. That got me written up for not going fast enough. When I felt that my health was suffering and the job was going to cause me some sort of major illness down the road, I decided to stop resisting in a different way. To stop resisting and let go of the inner voice telling me that quitting was bad, that grown ups don't just quit their jobs, that things would get better, that I should be more grateful, that people would talk about me, etc. I had saved up an emergency fund of about 9-12 months and even then it was scary but I did it. I quit having no other job lined up. I'm taking a few months off before I start looking for another job. I feel that I need to destress and clear my head before I get into something else. No regrets so far. Oh and my blood pressure is back down in the 120s!
Thanks for sharing your story. There is wisdom in quitting sometimes. What about cases of abuse or exploitation?! In those kinds of situations, one might actually be performing a service by quitting.
Yeah, this doesn't take into account toxic environments or unrealistic expectations or invisible disabilities.
Good on you for having an emergency fund and actually making use of it. I hope the next role you have is a much better fit for you.
I'm in the same boat.
I just love Michael Singer... I resonate with everything he says... thank you 💞
Ps. The piano music is lovely but I find it distracting during the speaking
Thank you 🙏🏻 Michael Singer and Sounds True for this reminder… “you’re in there”… resisting life. MS always makes me giggle about the garbage inside. Just emptied a little more with this snippet of wisdom. We’re all on this planet 🌎 out in the middle of nowheres 😁… what fun!
I mean, I like Mickey's teachings and resonate with his books on most things, but I am not sure about this.
I surrendered in my previous workplace but the amount of work and the sitting still indoors had me so exhausted that I eventually got burned out anyways. I don't think we should just blindly accept anything.
Many things being upheld in this world is not for the highest good of all in my opinion and maybe we should not blindly serve anything at all without careful consideration.
He is so wise
I'd politely disagree. Stress doesn't arise from resistance. Suffering does.
Stress arises instead from the perceived gap between what we think is expected from us and what we feel capable of. Bridging the gap -either emotionally or cognitively, even spiritually with faith, is what helps with stress...
Don't analyze the pointers same thing said in different words
I love this conversation and thanks Michael! Unfortunately the music is distracting and not necessary, in my opinion
I am one who was like a bee, going from flower to flower, now I get it... this is priceless Thank you.
This is a wonderful and helpful video. My question is, “What if your job is pushing you beyond your limits-either physically, cognitively or both?” There are limits to what our bodies can do and what our minds can process. A task may be perfectly pleasant and you can enjoy the doing of it in the middle of the day, but what if the demands of your job require you to work 14-hour days? When *that* job is experienced as stressful, is the problem still you and not the job? Would love to hear Mr. Singer’s thoughts on this. 🙏
I was in the Navy, so I know 14-16 hour days for months on end...six days a week. I was stressed beyond imagination and would get migraines from it. So, I know what you are talking about. I retired from the Navy and then started a business that is perfect for me (Pet Sitting/Dog Walking). I don't think Michael Singer is saying not to change things in life, but to learn from every moment. My mother used to always say "Well, what you can you do about it?" (the situation) or "what are you going to do about it?" and I liken that to the serenity prayer "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." My question to you is if the job is perfectly pleasant in the middle of the day, why is it not pleasant after longer hours? And what can you do to best do that job that will make it less stressful? Perhaps taking breaks throughout the day, perhaps doing some light exercises and/or a ten miniute meditation during that break? I know when I was stressed out with my job in the Navy, just talking about how stressed I was added to the stress. Are you in fear that if you get too tired you will not do as good a job then be asked to leave that job? I also think journaling helps...writing down your thoughts about the job and what is stressful about it. The job is on the outside...and Michael is all about inside, inner work....what is going on INSIDE of you that creates this stress.
What are your values? If this job is in no way contributing to your values but are pushing you to always compromise them, which as a result, is harming your inner growth. A toxic space is a toxic space. M. Singer's journey may differ from yours in terms of what is valued. That's my outlook.
@@UXtatic
Yes!
Went to a massive burn out, After practicing: living thé présent moment to thé best of m'y abilyties..and it worked like Magic: i had a very good peacful life for 9 years ,until a massive burn out, that came out of nowere ( that's What i thought at thé Time...)
But I now know that my job was not in alignement with my values.
I just didn't know it: i kept doing my work to thé best of m'y abilitys, enjoying thé moment every day and it worked..
exept that deep down, m'y values were ignored to a peacful life.
I don't regret ,now but 2 years of m'y life went climbing out of this burn out..
So, yes WE CAN stop fighting négativ feelings and thoughts, to accept thé présent and life ,but WE need to listen carefully, deep inside, if Our values are being ignored...
Same. After my last burnout that left me bedridden and has taken over 4 years to recover, and finding out I'm autistic and ADHD, I'm struggling to find anything, not a single thing, I can do work wise that will actually bring in enough funds to cover my minimum expenses.
Feel like all I've done is work out what the actual root cause was only to find there is no way to fix it, even accommodations like sorting my clothes so they aren't uncomfortable (limited success), wearing sunglasses in places with bright lights even if it's inside, and ear plugs it's still not enough. Learning to understand my body's needs after a life time of having them put down and ignored and shamed for it has been a long slow process but I don't have the health to just push through anymore.
Learning to stim has helped a little bit doing that anywhere outside home gets immediate discrimination or/and being ostracized not to mention the infantization people do.
Even the job application process is systemically built to exclude neurodivergent people. Can't live off just air and there's no support payments I can get.
This audio is Magic🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love Michael Singer..but I am resistant to the music playing in the background😂
It's not even in the background either, it's at full power competing with the voice. Me too, I'm resisting, wondering 'why , oh, why?'
@Karen yesss, exactly! You can barely hear him speaking, it's drowning out his voice!
It’s challenging when your job provides a broken system you use that has many problems. But I get the lesson here… once we meet the job challenge with peace and contentment the energy of the job itself will align or new job opportunities will come that aligns with our new energy. 🙏
Thank you Mickey. This advice really has helped me at work. It makes every problem that comes up something positive now…
There were so many gems in this talk. Uncle Mickey makes it plain ❤❤❤
Awesome warrior, beautiful teacher. Grateful receiver.
I needed that! Thank you, I needed the reminder to turn into the energy of service and love, and it is always available.
I can’t listen to talking and music - too tiring (I can’t tune out the music and end up listening to only that!), love Michael Singer 💛
Can not be more grateful to receive such wisdom, thank you 🙏
Thank YOU Michael..loved your books mate 🙏
This is so perfectly put ✨ I so appreciate his material. Perspective change that he can provide is so valuable 🙏
Very deep and powerful staff!
Thank you 🙏 ❤ MS!
Love Michael Singer! Thank you for the post! (piano music is distracting)
I so needed this! 💗Thank you 🙏🏼 and WOW! 💡
My favorite🎉
Excellent points
Life is A DANCE PEOPLE 🕺 LETS START DANCING
I love this audio his voice is so relaxing 😇
Resistance is not futile. It allows you to guard your principles and values. Your personal identity.
Though to some extent it will hinder you. Still worth it because in the end only drones and sheep give no resistance.
Its a give and take.
Thank you for posting this wonderful practical tip!
Wow thank you this came just at the right time love and light to you ❤
I’d love to hear Michael Single’s perspective on how to deal with narcissists in workplace and close family members(eg. spouse, parents).
They will only bother you if you resist the way they are and cease to desire them to be different. ❤
@@patrickhafner778 what if they are very dominant and controlling and the situation(eg. shared custody or co-workers) is more complicated for you than just walk away.
@@lushgreenbean Go on to his pages, look for your advice from him….
@@lushgreenbean you relax behind your negative emotions about them and lovingly do your best to help the situation
@@lushgreenbeanyou ignore them and anything they say as much as you can and the rest of the time you focus on yourself and what you need to happen.
They only care about themselves and the fact that they NEED your attention on them.
If you can develop an exit strategy so you never have to deal with them again where possible, even if it's years down the track. But until that end point their wants that they're screaming about being their needs are not your problem, zone them out.
Could it be that it is actually a toxic workplace with abusive manager and you are being exploited? Is the universe = corporate America?
It doesn't mean you have to stay at your job, it means your inner disturbance has nothing to do with helping the situation. The universe "gave" you this job for now because you are at it. You are free to leave and that will be what the universe "gives" you because you've left. It's simply what is. When your decisions are dictated by the negative emotions inside you, you aren't free to make the best decision for yourself or others.
Man, I really love that dude. Thank you 🙏
Thank you ❤
59 yrs of fear and extreme isolation. 1000"s of hours meditating, praying and trying to feel connected. I don't know if this is a huge and I mean huge lesson that God intended or if I massively f'd up my life. I do not k ow what to do. I removed myself from people's lives so I would not be a frustrating bother but now I realize what a huge mistake that was and its just me. I need to know how to make some progress on my own cause there's noone and its embarrassing because people at work know this
Start going to community based events that match your interests or hobbies, start chatting to people and it might take awhile but it's the best way to make friends as an adult.
Young kids make friends easily because they're right at the beginning of development but as they get older they start defining their interests and changing friends around it.
THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS💯
❤ thank you🙏
Fear and desire create stress
thank you so much
Love this
Amazing video🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow
That’s exactly what u said. Wow
Excellent message, but adding the background music is pretty distracting for many. Maybe have an option of listening to the same topic, but without background music.
Otherwise, it's like going to a restaurant and no matter what you order (salad, steak, sushi, etc.) it comes slathered in ketchup -- because the chef loves ketchup and thinks everyone would also enjoy this love.
His message is so wrong. Most of the time, stress and burnout at work occur because people are massively overworked, not because of the attitude they have. Often they are eager to work hard, but the toxic 24/7 work culture is ruining people's health. It's just common sense, there is no need to overthink it with a 'spiritual' analysis. Stop blaming the victim Mr Singer.
What is thr background music please?
The piano music is unnecessary, very distracting cause it’s almost louder than his voice. Beautiful teaching ❤
Background music is a bit loud and distracting thank you
😂 I'm the problem? Yeah it's my problem that I was an undiagnosed autistic adhd person and that I cannot function like every neurotypical.
Can't fix that, can't change that, can't change society's discrimination of who I genuinely am. I'm bullied and shamed. "Be yourself.... Not like that wtf are you doing?"
After my most recent burnout that left me bedridden with multiple physical issues I've been trying to find work I can do that doesn't destroy my health. Literally every job I've had in several different industries left me a corpse in burnout hiding under the guise of depression, I've been searching and not a single job actually fits what I need.
What do I do in this situation? I can't just go "oh wow, i get to talk on a phone" and 'happy' away the actual issues.
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How can I connect this concept to work that involves advocating for vulnerable children who suffer abuse or bad situations? My responsibility to them demands that I create some resistance to procedures and policies that are not in their best interest. This can feel stressful...it feels stressful to voice conflict with unsympathetic authorities, however not doing so feels cowardly.
What MS talks about I love so much, and what you bring up is such a great question. "It feels stressful to voice conflict with unsymathetic authorities" Thank you for doing what you do..... What a gem you are for standing up for these kids...EMBRACE that! Know that you are doing that which is done for bettering the lives of these children. Change often seems to take forever.....(I see your fear in the stress....fear of not making a difference). I loathe conflict (as most people do)...and I can get get super hyped up in my communication style when I feel so passionate about something. Not sure if you are this way, too. But I usually worry (stress=fear) that I will communicate something in a way that will turn people off....
You're doing great work. As I understand it he is talking about inner resistance to the situation. Outer conflict may be necessary, if it creates stress in you it's a great opportunity to let go of your inner fear by experiencing it and relaxing behind it, and you will be able to do serve the situation better as a result.
What's an example of resistance?
When there is a traffic block on the way to your destination, you get stressed, because of your resistance to the traffic block
I just got a new schedule posted. I have negativity swirling all around inside, "why didn't I get my reg schedule, who is more important than me, I've been here the longest, why did I get punished...". Those thoughts I created opposing the new schedule are all resistance.
At the deepest level, I think resistance is any commitment to a reaction that is rooted in fear. I say commitment because experiencing disturbance is natural. In the example given in one of the comments below, where you may be late to a meeting while you are in the middle of a traffic block. Initially, you will experience disturbance because you have a preference of not being late. That reactive experience is natural. The problem is we identify with that reaction and commit to it thereby causing resistance and more suffering. In other words, because we feel disturbed, we let our minds begin to race about excuses for being late for example, which loops back to the heart and causes more stress. The more we commit to the reaction, the more stressed we become. Alternatively, we could just accept that nothing can be done about being late at that moment, and later arrive at the meeting centered and clear without personal fears ready to tackle the problems objectively.
Someone experiences from early childhood the trauma of a parent who projected their own fears and trauma onto the child through physical and emotional abuse.
The parent is a functional alcoholic.
The child suffers and lives in fear of the parent for many years and feels powerless until they are old enough to leave as an adult, moving a thousand miles away, never speaking to any family member for 12 years.
The child seeks to free himself from the haunting childhood experiences, and cannot truly forgive and forget. He becomes a lifelong pot smoker. Finally the parents pass away.
The child now in his sixties, gives up substances and begins practicing meditation and studying buddhism.
The practice and study include breathwork, yoga stretching and body scans, mantra and chanting, relaxing the body, witnessing the content of thoughts and emotions, and love and compassion meditation.
His practice leads him to realize how emotionally trapped in the past he's been all these years.
His practice facilitates clarity of mind and the ability to let go of the attachments to the past, to watch his mind without judging.
When he sees his emotional blockages, he takes time to watch them and let them pass through him without trying to change anything.
Sounds easy, but it often isn't at first, until it becomes the new normal, through practice in daily life over months and years.
We don't have to change anything, just observe non-judgmentally, relax mind and body, and let go of what we need externally in order to feel okay internally.
It took almost a lifetime to get to this point.
Some would say a life wasted.
Others would say a life worth living.
Say your water Skiing and you go down but you won't let go of the rope because you are so caught up in act of trying to Ski ( the act of water skiing represents your personal story ) let go don't let the Your Personal STORY DRAG YOU AROUND This is Soul level stuff not I ME MINE Stuff 💓💓 living Unfeathered beyond the Human Predicament !
Background music louder than the speaker 😅
I love the information but I finally shut it off because the piano music distracted me so badly.
Can’t hear anything with loud piano music
I think this misses the mark..
I believe he is on to something, he got the gold we just allow ourselves to be totally open free and nonjudgmental
First make your own experiment
And test the hypothesis
Just play and see what happens in each delicious moment ❤love to you all and to Michael Singer for being an inspiration to so many
Thank you 🙏 Michael for your contribution to this world, and I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity for your book the untethered soul to land my lap.
I love that you help make the world a brighter place ✨ please continue to share whatever is in your heart to share friend ❤
The music is too loud :)!
The information is valuable, but the music is too loud.
I am sure no one comes here for the music. Why would you force it onto the people?
Two minutes in, this guy unfortunately haven't heard about Dr Aron's HSP. Plus repeating phrases causes hearing fatigue, ok, it's not a stress, not a stress ; )
Repeating something reiterates how imperative it is. ❤
Please save the trouble of finding music to go with these important messages. It’s too subjective anyway, plus it’s distracting. Thanks.
why in Gods name do they put that annoying music in there????
I am resisting the music in this video 😮💨🤢