Bro I have missed some many opportunities that I began to realize that’s why I can’t get a girlfriend I lack confidence in myself to even approach them and then I be wondering why I can’t get a girl🤦🏽♂️
Facts you got to win the battle in your mind. I dm this girl I was interested in and said “hey, how you doing” she blocked me 🤦🏾♂️, but I got over the fear to dm her and have no regrets 😂😂.
At the end of the day bro you just gotta accept that not every girl is gonna like you. Ik every girl won’t like me either, there’s no reason for you to stress over things that don’t matter
2022 was the year that I asked a girl out for the first time. I got rejected. It hurt a lil bit but it's okay. After that I went to talk to more girls and started to get a little bit more comfortable communicating. On Christmas Eve I asked a girl out and she gave me her number. We are still talking. I said that to say this: I have a stutter and even I went and stepped out of my comfort zone. Talk to that girl that you want to talk to, fellas. If I can do it so can you. Update: This girl lead me on. She didn't tell me from the start that she wasn't looking for a relationship. When we first met, I literally asked her if she was single. She said yes. So I thought we were gonna build up to a relationship when she gave me her number. 2 weeks later (today) she texts me "I'm not trying to lead u on or anything but I'm not really lookin for a relationship. we can be good friends tho". Like why didn't you say that when I first approached you?
same i asked a girl out this year and she said no, but it didn't hurt me like that ever since I've made friends with like 3 girls but i've yet to ask another one out yet.
Facts bro u can't let your emotions control u always remember it's one life we have and we can't live in sadness forever Always do what makes you happy and stay positive.
in middle school/ early highschool i had no anxiety i gave 0 f's. i was able to talk to women and anyone really with an obnoxious amount of confidence/borderline arrogance lol. a 'popular' buddy of mine in high school told me he used to want to be like me back then. when i got to high school i started to let things get to me, and cared too much and resulted in me isolating myself from people. I took a lot of L's and let peoples slick comments and disrespect affect me. i lost all confidence in myself and had terrible social anxiety ever since. I'm slowly getting better. it's a challenge you have to work on every single day no matter what. happy new year
Your not alone man, I used to have so much confidence, I still look back and wonder how I had so much. It was easy in early 9th grade but every prime is called a “prime” for a reason. After launching into the middle of my 9th grade year I started to think a lot more, grew more anxious for no reason, started to feel as if whenever I spoke I sounded like a joke. Caused me to overthink. What was crazy was even during this time people still looked up to me as if I had it all, but I let 2 girl’s influence the way I viewed myself which spiraled into depression desperately looking for validation from those 2 girls. 2 years & a new school later I’m still viewing my old confidence as something I could only dream of having.
@@connect1876 man I can relate to this so much. Looking back now (I’m 27) I wish I would have taken every opportunity I was afraid of doing in high school. Whether it be going to party’s I was afraid of going to, or hanging out with girls that wanted to hangout but I was too shy to do so… only way to break through this anxiety is to become accustomed to it and keep putting yourself in these situations.. by chance do you fap a lot? Looking back I noticed all this started to happen to me as I started watching pron…
@@FashionFramez I feel like the fap part is different for everyone. Some people it really correlates to their confidence while others it doesn’t really affect much. I can say I never viewed a woman differently after fapping. Me personally I believe it’s not a chemical response to confidence/ self esteem , it’s more of how your brain thinks since everyone’s brain is different which might just be the case.
Kam I’m so grateful I found your channel bro, you have genuinely changed my mindset for the better, I’m so much more confident on how I think about myself, and I don’t care what others think about me anymore, this all made my nervousnesses disappear. My life seems so much more enjoyable all because of you man 🙏
Honestly you helped me realize that the one thing that’s holding we as humans is that we tend to overthink the outcome of whatever situation we wanna face and think the worst would come but in reality people just don’t care better to take the risk then not too
Bro I’m in my junior year of high school and I been going through social anxiety since my freshman year bro I watched vids and I been thinking and thinking so much that I finally realized what I was doing wrong and I’m on Christmas break and I find out that the girls that I had my eye on got a man’s that quick I feel like I threw bags upon bags. So when I go back idk what to expect but to carry myself
Yep, the only actual way to beat social anxiety is by doing things that seem uncomfortable to you. I'm still working on it myself but I've seen progress. It's all about risk taking. Socially savvy people are good in social situations because they take risks. They'll crack a joke when everyone's silent and risk it falling flat or everyone thinking they're weird. However the reward is that they are now the funny guy/girl and people appreciate a good joke sometimes. Or another example. Meeting new people. A socially savvy person will risk rejection and/or embarrassment all for the potential reward of making a great friend. So basically if you have social anxiety, it just means you're a coward who is afraid of risks. Take a risk, you'll be fine either way
The most effective way to cope social anxiety is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which is powerful tool that allows you to control your cycle of thoughts, emotions and physical action. We appreciate you Kam for bringing up this topic, can't wait to hear you preaching more about it!
She might just be scared. Just let her figure it out for herself. She might need therapy at that point because it's emotional and emotions kick logic out the door
Im in 11 grade, I get the invites to gatherings but I always say no because parties are not my thing. I already have a couple close friends and I only wanna converse with them, and I messing up?
Yo I have this aswell and I need serious help man bc of this I have been limiting myself for too long I need to find a way to stop it or ill be going out sad ngl🙁
So u weren’t socially awkward when u forced urself to talk to people? I did the exact same thing and people thought I was weird which I rightfully was so. So I was just chasing people 97% frfr. I’m not as awkward rn though.
He doesn't mean lead a group of people. He means leading your own life and not giving into people expectations all the time. And the truth is you can't lead your life 100% of your days. There will be times when you got to be led and times when you got to lead whether it's yourself or your girl or whatever. But when the time comes be ready to lead. That can be by speaking up or disagreeing or even agreeing with someone or something. Don't be so hard on yourself too bc failure is gonna come just try again nothing is set in stone.
Social anxiety gives you regrets
One too many 😢
social anxiety can especially make you miss out on a potential girlfriend... from my experience
same bro this girl keep giving me choosing signals and idk what to do lmao
Fax, I missed out on a potential girlfriend in high school.
Your dream job . No just relationship, depends on the right person that will help you
Bro I have missed some many opportunities that I began to realize that’s why I can’t get a girlfriend I lack confidence in myself to even approach them and then I be wondering why I can’t get a girl🤦🏽♂️
Fr ong
Bro just saved my life, was nervous asf for my first job but i walked in with a w mindset🙏
Facts you got to win the battle in your mind. I dm this girl I was interested in and said “hey, how you doing” she blocked me 🤦🏾♂️, but I got over the fear to dm her and have no regrets 😂😂.
At the end of the day bro you just gotta accept that not every girl is gonna like you. Ik every girl won’t like me either, there’s no reason for you to stress over things that don’t matter
@@iscreamloyalty887 💯
2022 was the year that I asked a girl out for the first time. I got rejected. It hurt a lil bit but it's okay. After that I went to talk to more girls and started to get a little bit more comfortable communicating. On Christmas Eve I asked a girl out and she gave me her number. We are still talking. I said that to say this: I have a stutter and even I went and stepped out of my comfort zone. Talk to that girl that you want to talk to, fellas. If I can do it so can you.
Update: This girl lead me on. She didn't tell me from the start that she wasn't looking for a relationship. When we first met, I literally asked her if she was single. She said yes. So I thought we were gonna build up to a relationship when she gave me her number. 2 weeks later (today) she texts me "I'm not trying to lead u on or anything but I'm not really lookin for a relationship. we can be good friends tho". Like why didn't you say that when I first approached you?
proud of you bro. hope everything works out with that girl you talking to
@@youngsvph7573 Thanks bro I really appreciate it
Wish u luck!
@@dr.woozie7500 thank you
same i asked a girl out this year and she said no, but it didn't hurt me like that ever since I've made friends with like 3 girls but i've yet to ask another one out yet.
Facts bro u can't let your emotions control u always remember it's one life we have and we can't live in sadness forever Always do what makes you happy and stay positive.
This man is preaching facts, in this video. Social anxiety holds a lot of people back in life.
This guy is sent straight from God 😩
in middle school/ early highschool i had no anxiety i gave 0 f's. i was able to talk to women and anyone really with an obnoxious amount of confidence/borderline arrogance lol. a 'popular' buddy of mine in high school told me he used to want to be like me back then. when i got to high school i started to let things get to me, and cared too much and resulted in me isolating myself from people. I took a lot of L's and let peoples slick comments and disrespect affect me. i lost all confidence in myself and had terrible social anxiety ever since. I'm slowly getting better. it's a challenge you have to work on every single day no matter what. happy new year
Your not alone man, I used to have so much confidence, I still look back and wonder how I had so much. It was easy in early 9th grade but every prime is called a “prime” for a reason. After launching into the middle of my 9th grade year I started to think a lot more, grew more anxious for no reason, started to feel as if whenever I spoke I sounded like a joke. Caused me to overthink. What was crazy was even during this time people still looked up to me as if I had it all, but I let 2 girl’s influence the way I viewed myself which spiraled into depression desperately looking for validation from those 2 girls. 2 years & a new school later I’m still viewing my old confidence as something I could only dream of having.
@@connect1876 man I can relate to this so much. Looking back now (I’m 27) I wish I would have taken every opportunity I was afraid of doing in high school. Whether it be going to party’s I was afraid of going to, or hanging out with girls that wanted to hangout but I was too shy to do so… only way to break through this anxiety is to become accustomed to it and keep putting yourself in these situations.. by chance do you fap a lot? Looking back I noticed all this started to happen to me as I started watching pron…
@@FashionFramez I feel like the fap part is different for everyone. Some people it really correlates to their confidence while others it doesn’t really affect much. I can say I never viewed a woman differently after fapping. Me personally I believe it’s not a chemical response to confidence/ self esteem , it’s more of how your brain thinks since everyone’s brain is different which might just be the case.
@@connect1876 Porn really fucks up your dopamine levels
Perfect video to end the year.. Thanks Kam! Need to take control fr fr. Been a solid ten years of social anxiety lol, shit gets tiring as hell.
I can’t thank you enough I’ll start the changes asap I might get embarrassed but I won’t die, thank you
Kam I’m so grateful I found your channel bro, you have genuinely changed my mindset for the better, I’m so much more confident on how I think about myself, and I don’t care what others think about me anymore, this all made my nervousnesses disappear. My life seems so much more enjoyable all because of you man 🙏
Honestly you helped me realize that the one thing that’s holding we as humans is that we tend to overthink the outcome of whatever situation we wanna face and think the worst would come but in reality people just don’t care better to take the risk then not too
This video needs to be seen by millions.
You are the man brother thank you
This is a New Years resolution for many! I fw it Kam!
Bro I’m in my junior year of high school and I been going through social anxiety since my freshman year bro I watched vids and I been thinking and thinking so much that I finally realized what I was doing wrong and I’m on Christmas break and I find out that the girls that I had my eye on got a man’s that quick I feel like I threw bags upon bags. So when I go back idk what to expect but to carry myself
This channel has changed my life, thank you for everything Kam
I saw this video when the likes were at 555. Change and growth. I needed this bro, thank you.
Yep, the only actual way to beat social anxiety is by doing things that seem uncomfortable to you.
I'm still working on it myself but I've seen progress. It's all about risk taking. Socially savvy people are good in social situations because they take risks. They'll crack a joke when everyone's silent and risk it falling flat or everyone thinking they're weird. However the reward is that they are now the funny guy/girl and people appreciate a good joke sometimes.
Or another example. Meeting new people. A socially savvy person will risk rejection and/or embarrassment all for the potential reward of making a great friend.
So basically if you have social anxiety, it just means you're a coward who is afraid of risks. Take a risk, you'll be fine either way
This is the greatest youtuber ever. The most underrated channel on the planet.
After watching your videos for a couple of months you inspired me to start a RUclips channel next year about self improvement
Bet will be looking forward to it yo‼️
3:50 nah you worded it so perfectly, this is exactly what i’ve been tryna tell other ppl
In the first 3 mins of this video I realized how to own my style and I have to be the bigger man and lead
This is it.
this video solved all my problems
The most effective way to cope social anxiety is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
which is powerful tool that allows you to control your cycle of thoughts, emotions and physical action.
We appreciate you Kam for bringing up this topic, can't wait to hear you preaching more about it!
This is heavily underrated
I tried to tell my friend this but she just kept making excuses for her anxiety. Deep down some of us don’t wanna let go of it for some reason.
She might just be scared. Just let her figure it out for herself. She might need therapy at that point because it's emotional and emotions kick logic out the door
Im in 11 grade, I get the invites to gatherings but I always say no because parties are not my thing. I already have a couple close friends and I only wanna converse with them, and I messing up?
I have the same problem but i dont know if its messed up
having a close circle is good as long as you dont completely ignore everyone else
Imma be fr this video is life changing, it’s changing my whole perspective on life
Oh and the crazy thing is the first part of the video is the most accurate shit ever
best youtuber best advice
Even if sometimes I think I got it, I still have to fight and never thought about the mind is a battle field. Thanks for this massage bro legit.
W message, I appreciate your work
Smoking weed gives me social aniexty so had to quit it
Same for me. Smart move.
Thanks fam🦅
I’ve learned a lot from you.
I try to fight my social anxiety everytime but my head hurts and i go blank talking to people, lord knows I've tried.
Keep trying dude don't give up on yourself. I believe in you!!
fr and most times i literally dont kno what to say
thank you for this video. You've helped me and i needed this. Happy new years!
Cam gon flood his house with all the facts he spittin ong
Only at school class for some reason
16:00 cmon Kam is cultured w avatar
I’m on my senior year of high school like 4 months untill I graduated and the whole year this was holding me back now I just felt alone
Thank you man ❤
I moved a lot and I think it started as a kid. It continued until after highschool I didn’t even spend 2 years in one school
Figure out who’s toxic in your life and separate yourself from them.
This video helped me a lot fam i appreciate it
I love you man thanks for this💯🙏🔥
Yo I have this aswell and I need serious help man bc of this I have been limiting myself for too long I need to find a way to stop it or ill be going out sad ngl🙁
that avatar bender quote was deep
Ima leave this comment so i can’t fall back and say forget it.
Thanks, keep it up bruh 💪
Good video bro keep it up
6:44 this is real asf
Thx I really needed this
Great video
Wow man wow
Needed this man, thanks
i needed this video
Why is he not at 100k subs yet...shizz why is everything not a 1M subs yet💀
Go to places that benefit you, there's no need to unite with people you don't see a benefit from
And what if it's not consistent like on and off sometimes you want attention and sometimes you dont
Michael Jackson was right. Great video man
Love the vid ❤️
+1 sub. This shits good
Common Kam W
So u weren’t socially awkward when u forced urself to talk to people? I did the exact same thing and people thought I was weird which I rightfully was so. So I was just chasing people 97% frfr. I’m not as awkward rn though.
What if you don't want the eyes but you want the attention💀💀💀
How do you be a leader as a man?
He doesn't mean lead a group of people. He means leading your own life and not giving into people expectations all the time. And the truth is you can't lead your life 100% of your days. There will be times when you got to be led and times when you got to lead whether it's yourself or your girl or whatever. But when the time comes be ready to lead. That can be by speaking up or disagreeing or even agreeing with someone or something. Don't be so hard on yourself too bc failure is gonna come just try again nothing is set in stone.
Yesssirrr
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