Ikr honestly the whole world has let women down. Women don't have support from their own parents or even the legal system which are both supposed to stand by you and protect you from evil and provide justice. I'm not surprised that women don't report, everyone knows at this point that our judicial system sucks and the judges are also biased. There's literally no point of some laws that are progressive even.
@UCGHl18XgEFRcpXVm-l3encQ that's just you giving excuses . Also . This is why we need systematic change. A system where wives don't get beat up . Can we make sure of that?
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW I didn't said yelling and screaming everytime is right. Sometimes people do when they're angry. And not only wife, husband also yell and scream. So please 🙏 don't start argument n try to justify slapping n domestic violence here.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW why r u taking this as Man vs women. Do u hv reading problems bro??? I said about domestic violence. Anger can have both genders. Male n women both. But bcz of anger to slap someone or beat someone is wrong. Kindly try to pay more attention on reading comments n understand it.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW watch and understand it. He is not just a comedian nut a respected intellectual. On side note, only comedians today dare to speak truth...smh...
If a young couple kiss at a public place, a mob will be formed, their parents will be called and their morality will be questioned. If a man beats his wife in that same place, people will assume that the wife did something wrong and she deserves it. If a woman beats her husband in that same place, husband's manhood will be questioned and he will be insulted even after he dies. Moral:- Introduce tight slap as a form of PDA in your relationship and you will never be disturbed in public places.
Unmarried or married couple kissing outside in public comes under the obscenity act and though this act is not well defined it is still punishable in the court of law . If a man beats his wife or gets beaten by his wife , or even two men or women fight in public , these are both forms of assault, you as an educated person should ask them to stop and if they don’t you are privileged to report it to the authorities.
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 in a previous video they made a video about pressure a male spouse face to ear more than his wife I hope they will make about this topic too 😓😓
She has to...if a woman gets noticeably angry her opinion is ignored because is seen as "hysterical," in order for women to get a voice with the patriarchy, we have to sound rational even though the treatment of us is not...I know it's BS but it's also reality.
@@catherines8020 if a man gets noticeably angry or even if he stays calm, his opinion is ignored because it's seen as hysterical, in order for men to get a voice with a patriarchy, we have to sound rational even though the treatment of us is not, I know it's BS..., but it's also reality.
Have u watched channel "be natural"?? That woman is 10x more bolder than this lady and speaks women's issues in hindi. Swaddle giel is afraid of something. Also she has 4million subs.
@@sumedhpagare1605 Nope, there was a medical procedure literally created to "cure" women of hysterics, changing the gender in what I said doesn't silence the reality of it, this is not a problem that men have when a guy gets angry according to male-dominated culture, he is just being passionate.
People think that domestic violence is something which occurs with marriage, which is sick and disgusting. As a child who grew up watching their mother being beat by their father, I know how it feels to grow up and the trauma still hasn't left me. Thank you for making these videos!
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW nhi tell me how u urself supposed that his mother is verbally abusing....he didn't said that.....he just said ki he has seen her mother being beaten up......dont manipulate things here......u misogynist
Yeah because most of India still believes that women are their property and as things they own rather than real equal people and offcourse no one can tell you what to do with a thing that you own right
No no When it comes to period, they be like it's a top secret As if it's an unnatural process For so long people are buying all the shitty ideologies and then be like it's in our culture when it's even not in our culture
The Lockdown is only bringing up cases of Domestic Violence and it’s scary (the only word I can think of) not only for women, but also children who have been equally abused emotionally and or physically.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Only a narcissistic and egotistical man would slap someone over random stuff. If he uses violence so easily, his ego is fragile and shouldnt be even allowed to have any relationship. He deserves punishment and tbh... therapy
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน sorry but that is just a random event, not a statistic if you believe that domestic violence has risen against men then provide some statistics
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Damn you are sick if you think that any form of violence against any person (irrespective of gender) is okay. What right do you have to hit another person no matter what the situation is? It's not about tolerance, it's about violating someone's right to not be harmed. No man or woman needs to tolerate being hit by another person, even if it's just a slap.
People should realize that Marriage doesn't mean they are buying a house help which you can beat anytime or you can get a free cook! Spouse's Parents play a very important role in it! They should realize its NOT OKAY!!!
@@DramaTV2613 I didn't said only about women .. I kept the gender neutral. Plus if you get a maid you give her special clothes on some occasions but that doesn't means that housewife or house husband are SERVANTS. He should have kept a housework instead, just you can't beat him/ her or Rá pe him/Her.
@@DramaTV2613 sahi toh kaha. Husband uska sara kharcha uthaya fir kis baat ki alimony. Padhi likhi ladki khud financial independent kyu nahi ban sakti after divorce?
I've seen so many cases where our house maids are beaten up like animals just because they choose to save up their money instead of giving it to their lazy & unemployed husbands to buy alcohol. But yet we can't do anything to save them because "Ye to mia-biwi ka maamla hai"
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Ab kya kare bhaisahab, jab desh me AAP JAISE LOG honge tab ya to ladna padega ya to rona padega. And since we cannot fight back & remain strong all the time, to kabhi kabhi rona pad hi jaata hai.
i wish i wasn't from a family that has normalised misogyny to an abusive extent, to the point where it affects my relationships with other people (friends, boyfriends) i wish my life were easier.. EDIT: i am doing my best to be fully independent by next year.. and i am so thankful to all the people who replied with encouraging words, thank you so much.. means a lot..
It is actually a problem in our upbringing. Since childhood boys are taught to be dominating and strong whereas girls are taught to be adjusting in every relationship. Our upbringing should be equal, then everything will be justified further!
Yep. Tbh I'm a single boy child. My life has been different. I cooked I cleaned and I totally live by that's how everyone should be. We're no special for doing and going with bare minimum. Par jab mai apne aspas ladko ko dekhta hu it frustrates me ki loog kaise ek hi gharme ladke aur ladko ki parvarish 2 different ways me karte hai. It fucking haunts me. I'm glad I am single child shayad meri behen hoti ti mai bhi nalayak hota. I don't know this is so frustrating to see boys do so. Sab boys aise nahi hote many are mentally so aware. But dikat mardo se jada parvarish me dikhti hai abto. It is so energy consuming to see them doing so. Kitni moms ko problem hojati hai agar unka ladka gharka kaam kare.
So true!!! I'm in early teens (entered my teenage just a year back) and my family is already telling me that when I get married in the future , I'll have to adjust in my 'New House' and cook and clean there without saying anything. I'll have to do as everyone says there and keep them happy for I'm a girl and it's my duty to do so. I'm not supposed to say anything to my husband after I get married cause I'm a girl and a girl should not talk back. This mindset of theirs killed me from inside. I've no hopes for my future left now.
I think we should teach Both genders How to not tolerate Physical abuse. A boy or a girl anyone can be abused so we should Teach our Sons and daughters how to respect and Love each other :)
The movie thappad is such an iconic movie which actually made me realise that it's ok to raise your voice against smallest of the unacceptable things that happens to us. We shouldn't have to wait for something more horrible to happen. And I recommend everyone to watch it. 😊
Nothing shows our bias more than how people get more riled up about false cases of violence than they do about actual violence against women, which is far more prevalent.
I have never harassed any women in my life and i will never do it in future but if talking about false accusations makes me bad or something , so be it!!!
If he beats you once, he will beat you again. Domestic violence is not just physical violence. It will also include sexual violence, financial dominance, and other areas. And leaving is not so easy. There have been millions of cases where a man has killed a woman after she has left him due to the domestic abuse.
@@rishikart10 it does. But sadly of all cases men on women violence is more common. But you’re right. that doesn’t mean men victims don’t exist or don’t go through the same emotions of fear or shame or helplessness that female victims go through. Resources must exist for both genders. And we must look at the demon of domestic violence as evil. If people think it is justified to hit the wife then these same people will refuse to acknowledge that Wives may hit husbands because that is so far outside the realm of possibility for them.
@@Beanhill_94 Its More common because of Emotions Women Can Proudly Report thier husbands with no Regret While Men Would Be Shame Full and choose to take the pain Because Niethier the society or the law would beilieve it without proof and even if they got proof women can just tell it was self diffence While women dont need any evidence to proove it
For people who cry about saying men too suffer domestic violence. Yes they do , even children suffer from domestic violence infact people who engage in imparting violence against their fellow beings should be punished.but more than often victims of such violence are women because problem "soch" ki h.thats why we need to talk about it . So that women don't bear violence thinking that it's their duty or "log kya sochenge"
a big reason which I feel contributes to the high number of domestic violence cases in India is - Most women are economically dependent on their husbands....so they have to bear everything even if its wrong..Had they been economically independent...things I think would have been better
Actually there r many self sufficient working women who face domestic violence due to their wanting to have a career n prioritising work, they r also harassed to give away their earnings n sometimes deemed as not sanskari woman just bcoz of career or having opinions
If a couple hold hands in public some culture protectors will come out of nowhere to teach them morality. But if a woman is getting harrased or beaten up by a man society will turn the other way. Why will society target a harmless man showing affection but stay away from a man being violent? I too used be against PDAs but seeing the hypocrisy of the society, I decided that I don't want to be a part of them. If people can look away when someone is fighting, murdering or pissing in public they can look away when a couple is holding hands or hugging too
According to me, the most important rule for a beautiful relationship is respect, listening and freedom. Respect - When you give respect to others, others will do the same. Listening - Listen well to what others are saying and understand them with no biasing because when we listen we understand more and this applies to everything in this beautiful world. Freedom - Give the other person some space and don't act like an intruder, let them do what they want and if they are doing something wrong then communicate with them. According to me these things will bring more peace and happiness in life.
I divorced my Indian (now ex) husband because of domestic violence. While his mother was visiting and staying with us, she actually said "I know he's harsh, but you have to stop giving him reasons." I was astounded at that response. I'm glad I eventually called the police.
Exactly, same excuse for thousands of other stupid things too. They justify it because it happens in many households. Once I told my mom ki jab bola Gaya tha ki it's not the sun that goes around the earth, but the opposite, toh bhi saari jagah vahi notion chalti thi ki sun goes around earth. Doesn't mean it's true though. U can't expect change in others when u don't want to change urself Mujhe reply Mila "chup reh"
Just bc "IT HAPPENS IN EVERY HOUSE " doesn’t mean "IT'S OKAY" Wrong is wrong either everyone does it or not.Even if the whole country do something wrong doesn’t mean "it" oksy and everyone should do this😌✋
They use the same excuse for so many things, like I tell my mom that something is wrong. Her answer is "har jagah yahi hota hai" and then she dismisses the thing. It becomes so frustrating
@@1directionforever430 ikr.murder also happens everywhere does that makes murder less "bad"??? Who cares it happens everywhere or it still as bad as it used to be.
My mother once told me "Tmhari saas tmko bahot maregi kyunki tmko ghar ka kaam nhi karne aata" as a joke. Then I told my mother that she(my future saas) better teach her son all the "Ghar ka kaam" kyunki agar usko ghar ke kaam nhi aayenge to use bhi mujhe koi nhi bacha sakta. After that my mom never repeated that line again
Domestic violence not only affects the husband-wife, it also has a impact on the children who are either scarred for life growing up in an unstable household or they themselves carry forward domestic violence on their spouses...Domestic Violence is a vicious cycle that affects next generations. And no I'm not exaggerating here.
Are ladkiyo beef khao body banao. Tum non veg khati nahi upwas rakh k dubli patli ho jati fir maar khati ho. Isse accha h jamke body banao non veg khao. Ek mare toh dus maro
@@nimishajadhav4974 meri neighbour christain the woh aunty uncle ko peet deti thi. Or bolti thi bachpan se beef khaya h isiliye itni takat h😂😂. Par asal me uncle bohot sidhe or helpful the. Lower middle class the. woh aunty 10 rs k liye tak uncle building compound me aake beizzati kar deti thi.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW There it goes.. this has happened to me before out of nowhere some guy trolls... ain't gonna argue with you and give you that satisfaction reporting your comment..bye
People who say in movie thappad it's just a one slap need to understand that there were 100 people in the room his mom, dad, boss her mom, dad and so many friends but he chose to slap her wife not others in rage of anger!! Whyy? I don't want to say he should have slapped anyone of them but just wanna say how we forget it's a slap just because she was his wife which is not good!
Abuse in any form should be a red flag in a relationship. It's ironic how people tell women that they should put up with abuse for the sake of "izzat". Sadly domestic violence continues to be a harsh reality of our country, and it is extremely common and underreported at the same time. And then we have some people who call treating women with respect as being a simp. Its called being normal, it is nothing to be ashamed of, and it is nothing to be proud of. It's sad how people see dominating women and being disrespectful as a quality of a masculine and assertive man....the society makes me sick honestly
Honey.......simping is when, the guy gets totally mad for the girl, girl. I mean.......you want men to become not a abusive human or a total slave for his significant other? If you want the latter........ there's no point of getting in a relationship or even marriage. And it's applicable in both Man And Women, both can be a SIMP
@@arb1897 Isn't it better to be a respectful and a reasonable person? Why does the spectrum remain restricted to either being a simp or a slave? And clearly,you have no idea how many people keep on addressing men who respect women as "simps".
@@missgranger9723 Respecting Women.......i would, i do agree, yes Respect should be there......but only for women? What about guy's Respect? Okay, im flexible, i will let it slide. E.g. no 1:- a sweet Relationship, a guy and a Girl.....it was a New Experience for the Guy, but the lady had 1 or more Relationships earlier. And I don't know if you are a guy or not, I hope Not. When Guy gets in his First Ever Relationship, there's a 70/30 chance that the guy is one of the most Extreme Loyal species....... that's good, loyalty should be there, A Guy should always treat his lady like a Queen, but....... he always agrees whatever the lady says, whatever, he peaks up calls whenever she calls, but not the other way around. The guy's more desperate than the lady, and it's one of the major Red Flags in a Relationship (As I said previously, it can happen regardless of the Genders, but mostly in men), in future he would either go in depression, feel suicidal after Breakup, even though the lady moved on, he doesn't. That's a Men's life of Relationship, my dear........and those kind of People are called SiMPS.
@@missgranger9723 and moreover, A Relationship isn't a One way Road, it's two way. So stop generalizing women all the time......... especially privileged Women, from Big Cities (i know there's exceptions), cause Women from Rural Areas, suffers discrimination to this damn time. A man suffer too
Same goes with children. They are human beings too which have same feelings as adults. Violence against children by parents is unacceptable even if it's just "one slap".
@Saatvik Bakshi you can ground the child, you can inforce other non violent punishment but slap? Seriously? Idk about it in your country but here in western world this is unacceptable! Also a slap can cause mental problems, YES IT CAN! Stop glorifying child abuse!
The sad part is, When we start questioning the actual problems, like these, they just label us as "Not a marriage material" ! And question us like "who will marry you?"
No person respectful towards the other commits an act of violence. I've seen my parents married for 20 years, never seen huge fights or violence. Yes, they do have disagreements but that doesn't mean they have to start a cutthroat argument or violence for it. A few of my uncles however do inflict violence on their wives. One even considers his wife to be a subordinate. I think a lot of this comes down to how a person is. Dismissing an act of domestic violence by any person as a family matter is stupid since the fact that the person has inflicted violence on any other person means that he /she will do it again to someone else. It's a psychological issue that needs to be resolved. I have always seen my parents laugh more than fight, and I'm glad it is this way.
You are very lucky if your parents are like that, happy to read you are grateful for it & happy to see you know they are the exceptions rather than the norm
This channel should get million of subscribers and awards too for acknowledging and enlightening such important issues of our lives and want to make a better society💗
Women empowerment comes with financial independence. It makes women confident. I think every women should take charge of their own life and not dependent either on thier parent, husband or in-laws.
But society /family doesn't provide them that opportunity. Since their birth, they are brought up in their homes for the purpose of marriage (learning household works).. That is not the case for a boy.. This is the scenario of rural and semi rural area and even in some cases urban area.. I hv seen in semi urban area a financially empowered girl even cannot return to her home when she found out her husband deceitfully married her..coz her maternal house will not permit her to return. Financial independence is important definitely.. Mass awareness is required through campaign and programmes like this
the most common victims are the wives of every household however i believe domestic violence includes children , the elderly and any other family members in its domain and all of it is horrifyingly normalised
We need to rise above the stone age mindset where beating of wife, children, servants were normalised. In today's modern era no one would or should normalise these things. When I read ancient texts I get overwhelmed by the respect and responsibilities they shoulder on women. I don't know how we have come so nasty. The good things are that women themselves are rising against all these nasty practices. The marginalized sections are also rising against the injustice they face. Hope things get much better in near future.
After getting two MS degrees, acheiving so much through hard work, and living in Boston as a teacher, I am still struggling with this issue because my sister got married to an asshole who beat her up a week after she delivered a baby. I grew up watching my uncles beat my aunties, my dad beat my mom and my sister (and also me), and after living in the States and realizing how dehumanizing this is and how much trauma it leaves on us, it just makes me sick to my stomach. We need to end this, we need to rise to these opressor and pathological patriarchial mentality. By helping our sisters one at a time, by encouraging them to raise voice, and not let anyone treat them like animals. We are the new India, we will change this!
Atleast you have a job sir , I’m in 12th class .my mother is suffering mental harassment , physically torture from 17 years I can’t even do anything about it he just an alcoholic and he is in politics so if we complain to anyone it just get ignored
I can’t believe how calm you are during these videos but then again just anger won’t achieve anything because taking steps to resolve that anger by resolving the problem can be much more beneficial !
I remember that violence is so normalised that movies like thappad seem like a threat to our culture. I saw the movie and shared it with a married friend who watches a lot of movies in theatres with her husband as he is fond of it. She told me they did not watch the movie as husband told her "yeh movies auraton ke dimag kharab karti hai". And a relative of mine who a victim of domestic violence said ". Ek thapad ki baat kar rahey hai aaj kal ladhkiyon mein patience hi nahi hai, hum ne kya kuch nahi saha aur aaj bhi seh rahey hai bachon ki khatir". Women standing against domestic violence in their relationship are ridiculed equally by men and women most of the time.
When the victims of domestic violence do not support the other victims, I can assure you they are messed up and they have convinced themselves it's a normal thing
@@whateverIdc-y6p oh yes totally agree, my sisters used to do same thing, they saw nothing wrong they parrot defence on behalf of my parents. I had to flee that entire mad house at young age. Now, i am healing but still very much lost in life. It is very difficult to reason and help such people. Such a vicious cycle
In my home, the domestic violence has gone too much. Its not just my dad hitting mom. My mom hits my dad too sometimes my dad starts to bleed. Its not that one is superior when they fight, they fight like they'll kill each other. Ive been depressed my whole life cuz of them
I can relate to that , my father only hit my mother in self defense when she was going to kill him . Now they act quite normal with eachother but still some hate for eachother
I can relate. I have been a mediator when my parents fight like this. And in the process,I ended up bleeding. That's when the parent that hurt me realized what they were doing was wrong and since then they haven't done anything to beat my other parent. Not because their heart softened for other parent,they still hate each other and I wish till date that they would divorce. But that seems highly unlikely to happen and all of us are trapped in this hell hole that we call home.
The Swaddle is one of the best Indian RUclips channels. I have learnt ample things and it forces me to introspect and question commonly held notions. Thank you for putting out such educational videos.
I must say the movie Thappad came with this intension too but I have seen so many ppl saying that Amrita in the movie made such a fuss about just a slap and she should have adjusted with it, or who takes a divorce on just one slap as if, if such a thing happens to their sons/daughters in future, they will count the slaps announce a cut off and then if the slaps crosses the cut off they will support their daughter/son/sister/brother or whoever to take divorce 🤦🏻♀️ stupid mentality.
I remember after watching the movie with my parents, they said that the movie had a good message but was exaggerated. Like wtf- he hit her. End of story. He abused her emotionally and physically and didn't value her. Istg my parents want to raise me like cattle so I can be a slave to someone. No thanks I'll never marry (or maybe marry a woman) and live happily ever after
@@pretty948 I know my father said that accidently though when I started shouting he took his word back and said he was just kidding but it was expected our parents belongs to older generation they have spent their life with that mindset and that society thus it's a new concept for them but they are accepting it that's enough for me😊
Also, it wasn't just a slap. She didn't leave him right after the slap. She stayed for a while and the way the husband behaved like nothing happens. He didn't apologized and was trying to get her wife's attention by acting ill. Even after that when she tried to heal herself he was forcing her to move back to him. That movie was such a good message but people refused to even watch it. In the end they also showed how it should happen with amrita's brother's relationship.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW yeah she should at least wait for the other nine or wait no she should at least wait for a thousand slaps or so and then she should think about taking divorce and when the slaps crosses lakhs then she should opt for it right. I wish ur mother didn't go through so many coz I can see the way it has normalised slaps for u. More power to her🔥
I am seeing a lot of comments saying that yes this video is true And then in the replies i see "men are also the victim of domestic violence, they also don't get justice.." Did we say "no it doesn't happens" did we "deny that men don't get hurt" no we didn't.. we accept that as a problem, and we want any man going through any kind of violence should GET justice ASAP!! But this video is currently talking about domestic violence against women that is more prevalent in the rural or town areas (which is the major part of india) and by just supporting women we don't claim that we deny any support for ANY human being or we hate men. We were just sticking to the topic this video discusses about.. that's like if we support black people and are fighting against racism then its stupid to assume we hate white people at all and we deny white people don't go through any hardships..
Okay for all those who are bringing up that it’s not just women who face domestic violence, you are absolutely correct! But, _Why is it that, the only time that you bring up violence against men, is when violence again women is being discussed in the first place?_ Everything has a time and space. I’m not saying that domestic violence against men shouldn’t be discussed. But the only time you discuss it, shouldn’t be to interrupt women who are sharing their experiences, which they clearly have faced from longer time and to a greater extent.
@akash kumar yes, maybe. But bringing up such issues just when it's about something else will look like you're trying to divert the topic from the main point
Absolutely loved this video💖 Domestic violence is a triggering topic for me and I feel that 'Thappad' is a milestone for us. And I'm so grateful to the feminists who fought hard to bring us where we are today
Everyone specially men must know how to behave properly. Though many are short tempered and things can go wrong in short span of time. Both must sort the things politely, other intervene if needed. Although law is for both but it is harsh on male(fake complaints). Anahita I like the way you present it and also you are sweet.
I observed some things on youtube ... some big youtubers try to justify voilence on a woman by saying that there is voilence against men also.... But they dont say the both are not to be done.... the point is whenever girls will be fighting for their rights these male youtubers will be talking about shitty points which will be also believed by their millions of followers....
It's not just a slap or a Gaali.. But it's the thinking behind that abuse with which men think they have some kind of birthright to discipline or control women. Change won't come unless women bring the change themselves. Don't fear "log kya bolenge" and "ghar ki izzat". Stand up for yourself and do WHATEVER it takes to be free from a violent household. Because if you're abused in the house which you think as your home, it's not really your "home". EDIT: this applies to men too, who are a victim of domestic violence.
Domestic violence and all other forms of abuse have been normalized to such an extent that even when I called the police to my home, they scribbled something on a notepad and...didn't really do anything about it. 😭
@@bhavyavikrambhat9312 Thank you for your concern :) I'm not financially stable yet. I have moved to the upper parts of the house temporarily and I'm able to provide for my basic needs for the time being. Hopefully, a time comes when I'm able to flee and be free from this madness.
just wanna know who could even unlike this video.... this is the reality what can you find wrong in this??? this is the harsh truth that has to be changed.
This is so common. In my family my whenever my father is in a bad mood, he comes up with stupid problems deliberately and beats my mom to death. He even takes large amount of money from my mom and doesn't return it and instead he says that my mom has taken all his earnings. But the most sad part is that my mom always keeps a happy face around me and never complain against him. I am now studying in 11th standard and my dad keeps on telling me that if my mom is in the house then I will never be successful. I literally hate my dad, and in front of relatives he threatens us that we need to behave like a happy family, basically me and my mom just act in front of them that we are a cheerful family when basically we are not. I am really writing this with tears in my eyes, I have understood now that I need to get a job and with my salary I need to free my mom from the hell we are living in. I sometimes feel difficult to concentrate in my studies as all the memories of my dad beating my mom keeps flashing in my mind. I cry silently. In this comment section I am basically getting freedom to write whatever pain my mind has saved.
As a survivor of domestic violence I can speak from a victims point of view. Mentally sick cruel conniving men are supported by others of the same kind. The mothers sisters and family of such men are equally responsible. He is an ex army officer Sr das a Bengali, who said that he married a woman from the Hindi belt since Bengali women are too strong. I am 52 married to an American man now. But those memories still haunt me I get flash backs and have been diagnosed with PTSD. My career is gone. Our society does not take this crime seriously. In fact I have heard quite a few "women" "friends" say things like you should get over it. I wish hope and pray something similar happens to someone near and dear to them
I am so so so highly impressed by this presenter Anahita that every time if it is her video, I play the video very first ajd listen her & watch her speaking. Her body language, expressions, way of smiling, dressing sense, everything is top notch❤️
Any kind of domestic violence against men or women is unacceptable. Even if they think it is just a slap, a slap can quickly turn into something bigger. And if anyone thinks they have a right over their spouse then they shouldn't even be married in the first place.
i remember, that once me and my dad got in a fight so he took my phone away... so my mom went to to him and tried talking to him... i am in my room with Mumma and my sis is with my dad... so she goes to the other room and then next thing I hear is my sister and mom coming towards my room, crying. i was furious at the bastard... he didn't even apologize, its been a year and that a$$ still doesn't have the guts to apologize... next day he bought chicken to make up 🙄 ... even like 3 days ago, I and my dad got into an argument and he almost slapped me cause I had been studying since morning and I didn't have the energy to do work... he read my mom's diary... he hasn't apologized and is expecting me to apologize for defending my mom... he keeps putting my mom down, she works all day and like keeping the house clean... so she asks us to stop dirtying it, and since in lockdown, the help isn't coming, she is dong all the work and my dad has the audacity to tell her she ain't working... his mom is also an bitch... like my mom and dad were getting on really well when my dad and grandma started going down to walk, alone... since then he has been treating her like shit.... again... also before my grandpa died, my dad and mo were a good couple... but since my dad has been living with my grandma, he has been treating her like shit... also like my grandmatreats my dad like shit too, but he is too blind to notice... he lets people use him and ruin his family... Edit: he slapped my mom again... I know I shouldn't be giving updates abt my family but I want such assholes to be exposed... my mom's jaw has been hurting since yesterday because of the slapp... we hve left the house and are living in my uncle's house
@@humairaakram6378 cant... i keep suggesting divorce.. but my dad has the "divorce is breaking a family" my house is soo fucking toxic... i couldn't handle it... but I couldn't do much... i am only 13... my mom isn't financially independent so she is focusing on that as of now...
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 Look at the data. Go to any old age home. Check how may parents were abandoned by their son vs how many of them were abandoned by their daughters. Check how many parents were tortured by their sons for their property. I'm not saying all women are saints and all men are devils. But statistics proves who is more violent.
Such husbands would never understand till the wife start thinking about herself instead of family. What do you think, are we too weak for our self defence? We are strong enough to defend ourselves from a single man!
Hello swaddle. I really love and appreciate your content. Here I am to highlight a big issue: women against women. This idea really needs to be addressed. As we all know there a many stupid tv shows that promote this idea. Please make a video regarding this.
It’s not just about physical/sexual abuse but also emotional and mental abuse. Sadly, not many recognise it! Court demands evidence and how can one produce that! Thankfully we have at least started recognising the obvious and hoping we will eventually see the not-so-obvious!
This video should have a warning attached to it because the way it frustrates you to think of how people were able to normalise such a horrible thing and how even today, people (and more women than men (or maybe not all men admit what they believe)) still believe that it's okay. And this is terrible because women whose partners don't beat them are regarded as "lucky" and are expected to overlook all their other faults and try harder to be "a good wife". Moreover, in households where this does happen, it teaches children very wrong things.
"Just a slap" - it' never a one-time incident, as they mentioned DV has the highest repeat rate. Getting help is difficult with the victims having nobody to turn to and nowhere to go. It's sad how common this situation is :(
I really love how everybody in the comment section is speaking the right and what is the truth. While our parents think that the young generation has no moral,ethics but I guess we are more open-minded and fair in all these important matters.
According to my boyfriend... the movie encourages more women to get separated for such pity issue. He says, I quote " Kuch jada hi ni krdi thik h thappad marna galat h but? " . I want to ask all men not only him... But kya, will a man be okay with just one tight slap in front of everyone without him fault... No right, then why a woman should just shut and move on.
It is ofter seen that when any woman slaps a man bcoz he was being creep, man usually take that slap very seriously, their tiny little ego is shattered, they can go to any extend to take revenge, they might end up shooting that girl or even attack her with acid..... But other way arround... Slapping your WIFE who takes care of family, perform so MANY Task just to make our lives easy... I don't know how can 1 slap be justified.... How can even talking to her in rude way be justified.
Ppl often justify physical abuse saying," he was angry. Maybe he slapped you out of anger.." No dude being angry doesn't mean you can beat your wife. You don't beat your mother or sister when you are angry. Then why abusing your wife just to calm your freaking nerves. She is not a punching bag to bear your anger. People with such mentality are sickening and must be taught basic human rights first!
Domestic violence is very wrong and if a person is going through that please leave quietly. As a kid, i saw my mother getting beaten up my father and the trauma still hasn't left me at all.
The bitter truth is that some men view their wives as their property and they think it's perfectly fine to do whatever they wish to do to their spouse.
I am an American wife married to an Indian man who beat me but I didn't let him get away w it...I told our friends, his family and everybody he came across what was happening to expose him so he would stop .... thankfully hus family supported and protected my welfare but then he got out of hand then threatened me in front of his family and he said he was going to kill me in front of them for standing up for me and he vowed he would in front of our young child....his justification was that his late Police Capt dad beat his mom every week...his dad's poor example could have put my husband in prison forever....now I work w victims of crime here in America and I hope to go to India someday to join forces w other likeminded women and govt to educate and to help the women and children to break free from their abusers to rebuild their lives....this is heartbreaking and I understand how it feels to have been at the hands and feet of an abuser.
The fact that when one issue is being talked about but u try to dismiss it by always saying "we face it, and we matter more than u so no one should care about u" is sickening. A talks about one thing, B says "no, ur issues never matter because I only want my things to be talked about, so I will keep whining about how my issue matters and always try to change the discussion from a topic which is important to u so that people think u r disrespecting me by talking about any topic which doesn't relate to me" "I will cite one false case to generalize u all but when I see a real case, I will whine about how I am not talked about in ur video". When I see any topic of any importance to u I will try to dismiss it by making the discussion about me and not letting anyone see the real issue
@@swatisaini6447 yup, let's wait Also, u face domestic violence "u provoked him". He faced domestic violence "let's call him unmanly and make jokes about him and never consider the issue". But when someone talk about them "I am not represented, u r biased, u r against all of us"
@@1directionforever430 The reply under my comment literally says the same thing but uk what? I'm tired of correcting these people because no matter how many paragraphs you type explaining how stupid they sound their next reply will be even more stupid than the previous one. I mean,we can argue with people who are reasonable but what better to do than ignore these morons who keep on commenting nonsensical things.
This is so true. We have never denied that men too face grave problems. But under each swaddle video they will post comments of men being harmed by "feminazis"
When women only say... Yeh sab hota rehta hai (all this keeps happening often)... Hum ne bhi jhela (We too have faced similar situations in our past)... This directly supports the concept of leading abusive lives is ok If women support women in teaching boys to respect n restrict actions, men will follow d lead
Sometimes, even girls family members are involved in normalisation of Domestic abuse and violence. Repeated comments that you will be domestically abused in your husband's house, or abusing them...Also has a deep impact Beautiful Overthinking Programme Swaddle
I faced domestic violence from my father. Next day morning I went to police station to make a complaint and warn my father. They did it, but my mother was like u ruined family reputation. Indian women are least bothered about domestic violence but they wanna save their husbands name and reputation. This is kinda shitty!!😡 I would say if u r not fighting for urself and your happiness then that's the weakness & bad behaviour. Self love & self respect is more important in one's life. If people are more concerned about reputation then they should not cause any harm to other people. " For every reaction there is equal and opposite reaction".
You are a child of your father still you can't take some beating from them, it was normal for Indian kids to get beaten lightly by parents before few years. You could have taught him or show him some videos but you are fragile and weak, so you filed complain against him.
@@factshouse3690 I had bleeding on my neck and arms because he hit me that way and I had nail marks on my neck and he squeezed my neck where I lost my breath for few minutes. I took TT injection.😏
@@factshouse3690 just shut up. U r normalising the domestic violence again. By the way I'm 28 yrs old I know what is good and bad and I know to make how people to treat me but not causing domestic violence. Father / mother whoever has done a mistake is a mistake. You cannot do the same thing in America they have separate law for this because they knew it will harm and put kids/ people under Lifetime depression. This is why India is in the list of depressive countries.
Also I would like to give an example of Bhabhiji Ghar Par Hain- If the husband is getting beaten/verbally abused and the laugh track is running, please atleast think before laughing. Be it on a man or a woman, violence is not funny.
I think another reason why domestic violence is so prevalent is due to 'internal misogyny'. It's really sad and unfortunate that women don't support each other.
I like how the title doesn't say that domestic violence only happens to women. It happens to all genders and everyone has the right to seek help. Please come forward regardless your gender and age. You might think that people will make fun of you for coming forward, but every such situation starts with haters and you should know that you are respected, loved and the wise youth got your back.
Education is the key to end violence against women. When a woman is educated and financially independent, she would be able to advocate for herself and be willing to walk out of a toxic family or relationship.
The texts quoted by her in this video about Manusmriti are vague. The texts tells the woman यंत्र नारी पुज्यते तत्र रमे देवता It means even in a family there is no worship of any god goddess or supereme being or almighty but the women in the family ate empowered happy and contented the family will be blessed in all times and prosper The text she shown in video it means different people having different mindests, thoughts, experience, approaches need to be be explained differently the thoughts , ideas and concepts
After seeing this video and reading other comments, I feel genuinely sad for people who face domestic violence or any kind of violence on a daily basis. The thought of it makes me sick that men want to dominate themselves and show that women are nothing but mere servants. The reasons why we should give proper education to everyone is so that people can stand for themselves and justify the actions of others. I am so sick of the mentality of the society
I remembered the line of judge "you can't come to court every time you get slapped by your husband". This hurts deep.
I got goose bumps when I first read this news. If court only will say that where do women go to seek justice?
Ikr honestly the whole world has let women down. Women don't have support from their own parents or even the legal system which are both supposed to stand by you and protect you from evil and provide justice. I'm not surprised that women don't report, everyone knows at this point that our judicial system sucks and the judges are also biased. There's literally no point of some laws that are progressive even.
@UCGHl18XgEFRcpXVm-l3encQ so what do you suggest? The wife should wait till her husband injures her gravely or worse kill her and THEN go to court?
@UCGHl18XgEFRcpXVm-l3encQ that's just you giving excuses . Also . This is why we need systematic change. A system where wives don't get beat up . Can we make sure of that?
@@TheH7hunk yeah right. It takes a special level of fucked up to say that and not understand the problem with it
And that is why The movie THAPPAD is a must to watch
Make thappad 2 based on amber heard
Agree I love that movie thappad
Husband has no rights to slap or beat his wife. She's your wife not your slave. 🙄🙄
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW I didn't said yelling and screaming everytime is right. Sometimes people do when they're angry. And not only wife, husband also yell and scream. So please 🙏 don't start argument n try to justify slapping n domestic violence here.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW why r u taking this as Man vs women. Do u hv reading problems bro??? I said about domestic violence.
Anger can have both genders. Male n women both. But bcz of anger to slap someone or beat someone is wrong. Kindly try to pay more attention on reading comments n understand it.
I still don't understand why people think thappad movie is exaggerated and it was just a slap!!! No it's NEVER JUST a slap it's violence!!
they were soooo much uncomfortable ya... just understand...XD... they behave the same and justify or nullify it later...
bc People are so often hearing lies when the truth comes they will be offended and disappointed.
@@user-bw8yn3zr1s u should watch bill burr video No reason to hit a Woman
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW hey man he perfectly explains why sometimes there are reasons to hit a woman
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW watch and understand it. He is not just a comedian nut a respected intellectual.
On side note, only comedians today dare to speak truth...smh...
A slap is normalised while a simple gesture of affection like a kiss is seen as an unforgivable crime
Underated...!!😮
Aurato ko dabaa k rakhna chahiye nahi you woh sar par charh jaati hai
@@sadiqahmed1648 yahi soch badlo...
@@madhurigowda5782 even girls stay happier with guys who control them
@@sadiqahmed1648 definitely living in the 90's :)
If a young couple kiss at a public place, a mob will be formed, their parents will be called and their morality will be questioned.
If a man beats his wife in that same place, people will assume that the wife did something wrong and she deserves it.
If a woman beats her husband in that same place, husband's manhood will be questioned and he will be insulted even after he dies.
Moral:- Introduce tight slap as a form of PDA in your relationship and you will never be disturbed in public places.
😂
We should all practice slapping tf out of everyone we see to pay respects
BDSM
Public ke marje
Joh Karna karege
Unmarried or married couple kissing outside in public comes under the obscenity act and though this act is not well defined it is still punishable in the court of law .
If a man beats his wife or gets beaten by his wife , or even two men or women fight in public , these are both forms of assault, you as an educated person should ask them to stop and if they don’t you are privileged to report it to the authorities.
The fact that people believe that domestic violence is a spouse's right is sickening
The fact that people believe that domestic violence is only on women is sickening
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 I agree
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 domestic violence can happen to anyone
It's not a gender issue
@@aloowalia2849 I don't see swaddle acknowledging that. They should also make about men suffering domestic violence
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 in a previous video they made a video about pressure a male spouse face to ear more than his wife
I hope they will make about this topic too
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How is she able to speak about such outrageous patriarchy with such a calm voice?? I love this channel.
Coz being calm and saying straight to the point is better than yelling and being angry 🤷
She has to...if a woman gets noticeably angry her opinion is ignored because is seen as "hysterical," in order for women to get a voice with the patriarchy, we have to sound rational even though the treatment of us is not...I know it's BS but it's also reality.
@@catherines8020 if a man gets noticeably angry or even if he stays calm, his opinion is ignored because it's seen as hysterical, in order for men to get a voice with a patriarchy, we have to sound rational even though the treatment of us is not, I know it's BS..., but it's also reality.
Have u watched channel "be natural"?? That woman is 10x more bolder than this lady and speaks women's issues in hindi. Swaddle giel is afraid of something. Also she has 4million subs.
@@sumedhpagare1605 Nope, there was a medical procedure literally created to "cure" women of hysterics, changing the gender in what I said doesn't silence the reality of it, this is not a problem that men have when a guy gets angry according to male-dominated culture, he is just being passionate.
People think that domestic violence is something which occurs with marriage, which is sick and disgusting. As a child who grew up watching their mother being beat by their father, I know how it feels to grow up and the trauma still hasn't left me. Thank you for making these videos!
Oh my gosh u can file a case of u r grown up and financially stable
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW defending themselves by beating a person up? What's wrong with you dude?.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW heyyy u are not improving the situation
@@sanikanairrr yeah he has got some issues !!!!
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW nhi tell me how u urself supposed that his mother is verbally abusing....he didn't said that.....he just said ki he has seen her mother being beaten up......dont manipulate things here......u misogynist
People justified everything normal which dominate women
Agree
Yeah because most of India still believes that women are their property and as things they own rather than real equal people and offcourse no one can tell you what to do with a thing that you own right
Yes...
@@pretty948 actually that's no the reason
No no
When it comes to period, they be like it's a top secret
As if it's an unnatural process
For so long people are buying all the shitty ideologies and then be like it's in our culture when it's even not in our culture
The Lockdown is only bringing up cases of Domestic Violence and it’s scary (the only word I can think of) not only for women, but also children who have been equally abused emotionally and or physically.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Only a narcissistic and egotistical man would slap someone over random stuff. If he uses violence so easily, his ego is fragile and shouldnt be even allowed to have any relationship. He deserves punishment and tbh... therapy
@@reorio7376 he's been copy pasting this same comment under every other comment under this video.. ignore this jobless idiot.
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน sorry but that is just a random event, not a statistic if you believe that domestic violence has risen against men then provide some statistics
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Damn you are sick if you think that any form of violence against any person (irrespective of gender) is okay. What right do you have to hit another person no matter what the situation is? It's not about tolerance, it's about violating someone's right to not be harmed. No man or woman needs to tolerate being hit by another person, even if it's just a slap.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW yes but only in the act of self defense should that man hit the woman.
People should realize that Marriage doesn't mean they are buying a house help which you can beat anytime or you can get a free cook! Spouse's Parents play a very important role in it! They should realize its NOT OKAY!!!
Doesn't mean that you can beat a house help, either. Your sentence structure made it sound such, hence just clarifying.
@@DramaTV2613 I didn't said only about women .. I kept the gender neutral. Plus if you get a maid you give her special clothes on some occasions but that doesn't means that housewife or house husband are SERVANTS. He should have kept a housework instead, just you can't beat him/ her or Rá pe him/Her.
They want someone to take care of them in old age. They expect a snaskari bahu to do their seva. It's not a job it's marital duty.
@@DramaTV2613 there should be no giving back money. It's not a job. She did her marietal duty just like her husband did his.
@@DramaTV2613 sahi toh kaha. Husband uska sara kharcha uthaya fir kis baat ki alimony. Padhi likhi ladki khud financial independent kyu nahi ban sakti after divorce?
I've seen so many cases where our house maids are beaten up like animals just because they choose to save up their money instead of giving it to their lazy & unemployed husbands to buy alcohol. But yet we can't do anything to save them because "Ye to mia-biwi ka maamla hai"
In fact if we say something, the maid herself won't be ready to do anything you know.
this is so true...It happens with my maid also,but she is never ready to take a stand for herself no matter how many times we try to help her
This happens with my housemaid too this is so unfortunate
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Ab kya kare bhaisahab, jab desh me AAP JAISE LOG honge tab ya to ladna padega ya to rona padega. And since we cannot fight back & remain strong all the time, to kabhi kabhi rona pad hi jaata hai.
Yes many housemaid husband are d
Unemployed drunkard animal
This video was much needed after the incident where a man stabbed his wife multiple times in broad daylight and no one helped her
Wait! Seriously?
i wish i wasn't from a family that has normalised misogyny to an abusive extent, to the point where it affects my relationships with other people (friends, boyfriends) i wish my life were easier..
EDIT: i am doing my best to be fully independent by next year.. and i am so thankful to all the people who replied with encouraging words, thank you so much.. means a lot..
Me too....such a family environment results in major trust issues which takes a hell lotta time to heal from
@@bhuvijetly2409 i agree. sending hugs to you.. xoxo
@@bellatrix9256 awww .....more power to you girll!!
Just study hard and move out from your family, hope you will be do that someday , sending you a lots of virtual hugs
can I join this club too
It is actually a problem in our upbringing. Since childhood boys are taught to be dominating and strong whereas girls are taught to be adjusting in every relationship.
Our upbringing should be equal, then everything will be justified further!
Yep. Tbh I'm a single boy child. My life has been different. I cooked I cleaned and I totally live by that's how everyone should be. We're no special for doing and going with bare minimum. Par jab mai apne aspas ladko ko dekhta hu it frustrates me ki loog kaise ek hi gharme ladke aur ladko ki parvarish 2 different ways me karte hai. It fucking haunts me. I'm glad I am single child shayad meri behen hoti ti mai bhi nalayak hota. I don't know this is so frustrating to see boys do so. Sab boys aise nahi hote many are mentally so aware. But dikat mardo se jada parvarish me dikhti hai abto. It is so energy consuming to see them doing so. Kitni moms ko problem hojati hai agar unka ladka gharka kaam kare.
So true!!! I'm in early teens (entered my teenage just a year back) and my family is already telling me that when I get married in the future , I'll have to adjust in my 'New House' and cook and clean there without saying anything. I'll have to do as everyone says there and keep them happy for I'm a girl and it's my duty to do so. I'm not supposed to say anything to my husband after I get married cause I'm a girl and a girl should not talk back.
This mindset of theirs killed me from inside. I've no hopes for my future left now.
@@khushi8130 don't lose hope, we all are with you
I think we should teach Both genders How to not tolerate Physical abuse. A boy or a girl anyone can be abused so we should Teach our Sons and daughters how to respect and Love each other :)
@@gabby2560 agreed
The movie thappad is such an iconic movie which actually made me realise that it's ok to raise your voice against smallest of the unacceptable things that happens to us. We shouldn't have to wait for something more horrible to happen. And I recommend everyone to watch it. 😊
@TejaAnd why do u think I am talking about women? I never once mentioned women.
@Teja who hurt you bro
Nothing shows our bias more than how people get more riled up about false cases of violence than they do about actual violence against women, which is far more prevalent.
Ikr so many haters will be seen in this comment section only in a few more hours
Yup. They'll abuse all women in the comments section because they don't fit into their misogynistic mindsets.
I have never harassed any women in my life and i will never do it in future but if talking about false accusations makes me bad or something , so be it!!!
@@profrigel8482stfu!! i said I've never harassed any women !! Don't say baseless things
@@profrigel8482marital rape is a horribe crime but without a protective shield for men in law , i will always oppose criminalising it.
If he beats you once, he will beat you again.
Domestic violence is not just physical violence. It will also include sexual violence, financial dominance, and other areas.
And leaving is not so easy. There have been millions of cases where a man has killed a woman after she has left him due to the domestic abuse.
It applies equally on both genders 👍💯
@@rishikart10 it does. But sadly of all cases men on women violence is more common.
But you’re right. that doesn’t mean men victims don’t exist or don’t go through the same emotions of fear or shame or helplessness that female victims go through.
Resources must exist for both genders. And we must look at the demon of domestic violence as evil. If people think it is justified to hit the wife then these same people will refuse to acknowledge that Wives may hit husbands because that is so far outside the realm of possibility for them.
True
@@Beanhill_94 Its More common because of Emotions
Women Can Proudly Report thier husbands with no Regret
While Men Would Be Shame Full and choose to take the pain
Because Niethier the society or the law would beilieve it without proof and even if they got proof women can just tell it was self diffence
While women dont need any evidence to proove it
Nah, people can change. Million??? Exaggerating much???
For people who cry about saying men too suffer domestic violence.
Yes they do , even children suffer from domestic violence infact people who engage in imparting violence against their fellow beings should be punished.but more than often victims of such violence are women because problem "soch" ki h.thats why we need to talk about it .
So that women don't bear violence thinking that it's their duty or "log kya sochenge"
ISTG! This channel taught me many important things in my teen years.
Ditto!
Me too!
Me too
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Me too!
a big reason which I feel contributes to the high number of domestic violence cases in India is - Most women are economically dependent on their husbands....so they have to bear everything even if its wrong..Had they been economically independent...things I think would have been better
Very true and parents don't accept them after divorce
@@八ルシュ-z6v yeah....kyuki ab to "KALANK" lag gaya
@@八ルシュ-z6v exactly this. So many lives could have been saved if parents only decided to stand by their married daughters.
This is not the only reason. A man's upbringing is the main reason of domestic violence.
Actually there r many self sufficient working women who face domestic violence due to their wanting to have a career n prioritising work, they r also harassed to give away their earnings n sometimes deemed as not sanskari woman just bcoz of career or having opinions
If a couple hold hands in public some culture protectors will come out of nowhere to teach them morality. But if a woman is getting harrased or beaten up by a man society will turn the other way. Why will society target a harmless man showing affection but stay away from a man being violent?
I too used be against PDAs but seeing the hypocrisy of the society, I decided that I don't want to be a part of them. If people can look away when someone is fighting, murdering or pissing in public they can look away when a couple is holding hands or hugging too
So true!!👏
According to me, the most important rule for a beautiful relationship is respect, listening and freedom.
Respect - When you give respect to others, others will do the same.
Listening - Listen well to what others are saying and understand them with no biasing because when we listen we understand more and this applies to everything in this beautiful world.
Freedom - Give the other person some space and don't act like an intruder, let them do what they want and if they are doing something wrong then communicate with them.
According to me these things will bring more peace and happiness in life.
🙌🙌 if a couple loves each other, nothing can can between them
@@HarleenKaur-de4pv True but just love isn't it. A relationship needs mutual respect.
@@jahnavirainlover yes, but love automatically results in respect. Like you if you love your mum, you'd want the best for her right.
I divorced my Indian (now ex) husband because of domestic violence. While his mother was visiting and staying with us, she actually said "I know he's harsh, but you have to stop giving him reasons." I was astounded at that response. I'm glad I eventually called the police.
we justify it coz 'ye to har jagah hota koi nayi baat thodi naa hai'
Exactly, same excuse for thousands of other stupid things too. They justify it because it happens in many households. Once I told my mom ki jab bola Gaya tha ki it's not the sun that goes around the earth, but the opposite, toh bhi saari jagah vahi notion chalti thi ki sun goes around earth. Doesn't mean it's true though. U can't expect change in others when u don't want to change urself
Mujhe reply Mila "chup reh"
@@1directionforever430 😂😂
Let's assume that it's common, but it's not normal. There's a difference between the two
Just bc "IT HAPPENS IN EVERY HOUSE " doesn’t mean "IT'S OKAY"
Wrong is wrong either everyone does it or not.Even if the whole country do something wrong doesn’t mean "it" oksy and everyone should do this😌✋
They use the same excuse for so many things, like I tell my mom that something is wrong. Her answer is "har jagah yahi hota hai" and then she dismisses the thing. It becomes so frustrating
@@1directionforever430 ikr.murder also happens everywhere does that makes murder less "bad"??? Who cares it happens everywhere or it still as bad as it used to be.
@@Rafa-ct5yh exactly
Woman are always thought since childhood that to adjust in every conditions in their in laws house. 😞😞
My mother once told me "Tmhari saas tmko bahot maregi kyunki tmko ghar ka kaam nhi karne aata" as a joke. Then I told my mother that she(my future saas) better teach her son all the "Ghar ka kaam" kyunki agar usko ghar ke kaam nhi aayenge to use bhi mujhe koi nhi bacha sakta. After that my mom never repeated that line again
@@agrimasingh150 u go gurl.
@@harshithamaxina2518 ; )
@@factshouse3690 Ab tumhe mirchi lagi to mai kya karu
Yeah. They always tell to adjust. Why it's only women when the world can adjust around themselves by minding their own business?
Domestic violence not only affects the husband-wife, it also has a impact on the children who are either scarred for life growing up in an unstable household or they themselves carry forward domestic violence on their spouses...Domestic Violence is a vicious cycle that affects next generations.
And no I'm not exaggerating here.
Are ladkiyo beef khao body banao. Tum non veg khati nahi upwas rakh k dubli patli ho jati fir maar khati ho. Isse accha h jamke body banao non veg khao. Ek mare toh dus maro
@@kamartaj3010 dont agree completely but love your sentiment and energy!!!😄
@@kamartaj3010 you're a funny guy 😅 But then again needing to defend oneself in one's own home sounds too much..
@@nimishajadhav4974 meri neighbour christain the woh aunty uncle ko peet deti thi. Or bolti thi bachpan se beef khaya h isiliye itni takat h😂😂. Par asal me uncle bohot sidhe or helpful the. Lower middle class the. woh aunty 10 rs k liye tak uncle building compound me aake beizzati kar deti thi.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW There it goes.. this has happened to me before out of nowhere some guy trolls... ain't gonna argue with you and give you that satisfaction reporting your comment..bye
People who say in movie thappad it's just a one slap need to understand that there were 100 people in the room his mom, dad, boss her mom, dad and so many friends but he chose to slap her wife not others in rage of anger!! Whyy? I don't want to say he should have slapped anyone of them but just wanna say how we forget it's a slap just because she was his wife which is not good!
Abuse in any form should be a red flag in a relationship. It's ironic how people tell women that they should put up with abuse for the sake of "izzat". Sadly domestic violence continues to be a harsh reality of our country, and it is extremely common and underreported at the same time.
And then we have some people who call treating women with respect as being a simp. Its called being normal, it is nothing to be ashamed of, and it is nothing to be proud of. It's sad how people see dominating women and being disrespectful as a quality of a masculine and assertive man....the society makes me sick honestly
Honey.......simping is when, the guy gets totally mad for the girl, girl. I mean.......you want men to become not a abusive human or a total slave for his significant other? If you want the latter........ there's no point of getting in a relationship or even marriage. And it's applicable in both Man And Women, both can be a SIMP
@@arb1897 Isn't it better to be a respectful and a reasonable person?
Why does the spectrum remain restricted to either being a simp or a slave? And clearly,you have no idea how many people keep on addressing men who respect women as "simps".
@@missgranger9723 i want to know what your definition of simping is....... can u say it? Okay...im gonna give you two or more examples.....okay?
@@missgranger9723 Respecting Women.......i would, i do agree, yes Respect should be there......but only for women? What about guy's Respect? Okay, im flexible, i will let it slide.
E.g. no 1:- a sweet Relationship, a guy and a Girl.....it was a New Experience for the Guy, but the lady had 1 or more Relationships earlier. And I don't know if you are a guy or not, I hope Not. When Guy gets in his First Ever Relationship, there's a 70/30 chance that the guy is one of the most Extreme Loyal species....... that's good, loyalty should be there, A Guy should always treat his lady like a Queen, but....... he always agrees whatever the lady says, whatever, he peaks up calls whenever she calls, but not the other way around. The guy's more desperate than the lady, and it's one of the major Red Flags in a Relationship (As I said previously, it can happen regardless of the Genders, but mostly in men), in future he would either go in depression, feel suicidal after Breakup, even though the lady moved on, he doesn't. That's a Men's life of Relationship, my dear........and those kind of People are called SiMPS.
@@missgranger9723 and moreover, A Relationship isn't a One way Road, it's two way. So stop generalizing women all the time......... especially privileged Women, from Big Cities (i know there's exceptions), cause Women from Rural Areas, suffers discrimination to this damn time.
A man suffer too
Same goes with children. They are human beings too which have same feelings as adults. Violence against children by parents is unacceptable even if it's just "one slap".
@Saatvik Bakshi this "one slap" can damage thier self image and can contribute to mental abuse!
@Saatvik Bakshi you can ground the child, you can inforce other non violent punishment but slap? Seriously? Idk about it in your country but here in western world this is unacceptable! Also a slap can cause mental problems, YES IT CAN! Stop glorifying child abuse!
The sad part is, When we start questioning the actual problems, like these, they just label us as "Not a marriage material" ! And question us like "who will marry you?"
They want to attend ur marriage, and if u die of abuse, they will attend ur death ceremony also and complain that the kheer wasn’t tasty enough
No person respectful towards the other commits an act of violence. I've seen my parents married for 20 years, never seen huge fights or violence. Yes, they do have disagreements but that doesn't mean they have to start a cutthroat argument or violence for it. A few of my uncles however do inflict violence on their wives. One even considers his wife to be a subordinate. I think a lot of this comes down to how a person is. Dismissing an act of domestic violence by any person as a family matter is stupid since the fact that the person has inflicted violence on any other person means that he /she will do it again to someone else. It's a psychological issue that needs to be resolved. I have always seen my parents laugh more than fight, and I'm glad it is this way.
You are very lucky if your parents are like that, happy to read you are grateful for it & happy to see you know they are the exceptions rather than the norm
@@piyush.ochani Thank you. Yes I am extremely grateful
Due u r lucky because I have been growing up seeing this only
This channel should get million of subscribers and awards too for acknowledging and enlightening such important issues of our lives and want to make a better society💗
Women empowerment comes with financial independence. It makes women confident. I think every women should take charge of their own life and not dependent either on thier parent, husband or in-laws.
But society /family doesn't provide them that opportunity. Since their birth, they are brought up in their homes for the purpose of marriage (learning household works).. That is not the case for a boy.. This is the scenario of rural and semi rural area and even in some cases urban area.. I hv seen in semi urban area a financially empowered girl even cannot return to her home when she found out her husband deceitfully married her..coz her maternal house will not permit her to return. Financial independence is important definitely.. Mass awareness is required through campaign and programmes like this
the most common victims are the wives of every household however i believe domestic violence includes children , the elderly and any other family members in its domain and all of it is horrifyingly normalised
Not every household.
Secondly, most common victims are kids and not wives.
We need to rise above the stone age mindset where beating of wife, children, servants were normalised.
In today's modern era no one would or should normalise these things.
When I read ancient texts I get overwhelmed by the respect and responsibilities they shoulder on women. I don't know how we have come so nasty.
The good things are that women themselves are rising against all these nasty practices.
The marginalized sections are also rising against the injustice they face.
Hope things get much better in near future.
Fun fact is that these were not most possibly even well defined norms in stone age, this kind of destructive social hierarchy.
After getting two MS degrees, acheiving so much through hard work, and living in Boston as a teacher, I am still struggling with this issue because my sister got married to an asshole who beat her up a week after she delivered a baby. I grew up watching my uncles beat my aunties, my dad beat my mom and my sister (and also me), and after living in the States and realizing how dehumanizing this is and how much trauma it leaves on us, it just makes me sick to my stomach. We need to end this, we need to rise to these opressor and pathological patriarchial mentality. By helping our sisters one at a time, by encouraging them to raise voice, and not let anyone treat them like animals. We are the new India, we will change this!
Atleast you have a job sir , I’m in 12th class .my mother is suffering mental harassment , physically torture from 17 years I can’t even do anything about it he just an alcoholic and he is in politics so if we complain to anyone it just get ignored
I agree 💯
God safe men like u ..hope ur sister is alright
I can’t believe how calm you are during these videos but then again just anger won’t achieve anything because taking steps to resolve that anger by resolving the problem can be much more beneficial !
*Waiting for* Sudarshan Chakra 3.0, ULTIMATE, Akash Mishra MGTOW, Return of kings (other honorable mention) *with their Invaluable comments* .... 💬
What is this sudarshan chakra I have read it many times
@@janvisharma1011its a name of a person
Isn't Sudarshan chakra which is a weapon of krishna supposed to be woman friendly? Krishna always be behaved with dignity and sensitivity with women
why attention to
So am I
They are hilariously idiotic
I remember that violence is so normalised that movies like thappad seem like a threat to our culture. I saw the movie and shared it with a married friend who watches a lot of movies in theatres with her husband as he is fond of it. She told me they did not watch the movie as husband told her "yeh movies auraton ke dimag kharab karti hai".
And a relative of mine who a victim of domestic violence said ". Ek thapad ki baat kar rahey hai aaj kal ladhkiyon mein patience hi nahi hai, hum ne kya kuch nahi saha aur aaj bhi seh rahey hai bachon ki khatir".
Women standing against domestic violence in their relationship are ridiculed equally by men and women most of the time.
When the victims of domestic violence do not support the other victims, I can assure you they are messed up and they have convinced themselves it's a normal thing
@@whateverIdc-y6p oh yes totally agree, my sisters used to do same thing, they saw nothing wrong they parrot defence on behalf of my parents. I had to flee that entire mad house at young age. Now, i am healing but still very much lost in life. It is very difficult to reason and help such people. Such a vicious cycle
@@Purplegalaxy00 I wish u best of luck for ur healing journey! 😃😃
@@whateverIdc-y6p thanks (:
In my home, the domestic violence has gone too much. Its not just my dad hitting mom. My mom hits my dad too sometimes my dad starts to bleed. Its not that one is superior when they fight, they fight like they'll kill each other. Ive been depressed my whole life cuz of them
I can relate to that , my father only hit my mother in self defense when she was going to kill him . Now they act quite normal with eachother but still some hate for eachother
Same situation mene apne relative k yha dekhi h👀
I'm so sorry for what you faced. I hope you get out of that environment.
😔
I can relate. I have been a mediator when my parents fight like this. And in the process,I ended up bleeding. That's when the parent that hurt me realized what they were doing was wrong and since then they haven't done anything to beat my other parent. Not because their heart softened for other parent,they still hate each other and I wish till date that they would divorce. But that seems highly unlikely to happen and all of us are trapped in this hell hole that we call home.
The Swaddle is one of the best Indian RUclips channels. I have learnt ample things and it forces me to introspect and question commonly held notions. Thank you for putting out such educational videos.
I must say the movie Thappad came with this intension too but I have seen so many ppl saying that Amrita in the movie made such a fuss about just a slap and she should have adjusted with it, or who takes a divorce on just one slap as if, if such a thing happens to their sons/daughters in future, they will count the slaps announce a cut off and then if the slaps crosses the cut off they will support their daughter/son/sister/brother or whoever to take divorce 🤦🏻♀️ stupid mentality.
I remember after watching the movie with my parents, they said that the movie had a good message but was exaggerated. Like wtf- he hit her. End of story. He abused her emotionally and physically and didn't value her. Istg my parents want to raise me like cattle so I can be a slave to someone. No thanks I'll never marry (or maybe marry a woman) and live happily ever after
@@pretty948 I know my father said that accidently though when I started shouting he took his word back and said he was just kidding but it was expected our parents belongs to older generation they have spent their life with that mindset and that society thus it's a new concept for them but they are accepting it that's enough for me😊
Also, it wasn't just a slap. She didn't leave him right after the slap. She stayed for a while and the way the husband behaved like nothing happens. He didn't apologized and was trying to get her wife's attention by acting ill. Even after that when she tried to heal herself he was forcing her to move back to him. That movie was such a good message but people refused to even watch it. In the end they also showed how it should happen with amrita's brother's relationship.
@@artraft3669 Exactly💯💯
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW yeah she should at least wait for the other nine or wait no she should at least wait for a thousand slaps or so and then she should think about taking divorce and when the slaps crosses lakhs then she should opt for it right. I wish ur mother didn't go through so many coz I can see the way it has normalised slaps for u. More power to her🔥
I am seeing a lot of comments saying that yes this video is true
And then in the replies i see
"men are also the victim of domestic violence, they also don't get justice.."
Did we say "no it doesn't happens"
did we "deny that men don't get hurt" no we didn't.. we accept that as a problem, and we want any man going through any kind of violence should GET justice ASAP!! But this video is currently talking about domestic violence against women that is more prevalent in the rural or town areas (which is the major part of india) and by just supporting women we don't claim that we deny any support for ANY human being or we hate men. We were just sticking to the topic this video discusses about.. that's like if we support black people and are fighting against racism then its stupid to assume we hate white people at all and we deny white people don't go through any hardships..
THIS🙌
Okay for all those who are bringing up that it’s not just women who face domestic violence, you are absolutely correct! But,
_Why is it that, the only time that you bring up violence against men, is when violence again women is being discussed in the first place?_
Everything has a time and space. I’m not saying that domestic violence against men shouldn’t be discussed. But the only time you discuss it, shouldn’t be to interrupt women who are sharing their experiences, which they clearly have faced from longer time and to a greater extent.
@akash kumar clearly, you didn't understand what was said
@akash kumar yes, maybe. But bringing up such issues just when it's about something else will look like you're trying to divert the topic from the main point
@akash kumar I agree, men rights should also be discussed equally
I get Goosebumps every time I watch one of these videos, It's completely restructuring my beliefs
some people believe that beating spouse makes the relationship stronger and also a right
Absolutely loved this video💖 Domestic violence is a triggering topic for me and I feel that 'Thappad' is a milestone for us. And I'm so grateful to the feminists who fought hard to bring us where we are today
Everyone specially men must know how to behave properly. Though many are short tempered and things can go wrong in short span of time. Both must sort the things politely, other intervene if needed. Although law is for both but it is harsh on male(fake complaints).
Anahita I like the way you present it and also you are sweet.
We should ban alcohol. If man dont drink alcohol he will remain well behaved and less angry
I observed some things on youtube ... some big youtubers try to justify voilence on a woman by saying that there is voilence against men also....
But they dont say the both are not to be done.... the point is whenever girls will be fighting for their rights these male youtubers will be talking about shitty points which will be also believed by their millions of followers....
Why you people always thinks
Others are idiots and you have all the knowledge
The fact that Kabhir Singh was a massive hit while Thappad flopped at the boxoffice speaks a lot about this attitude
It's not just a slap or a Gaali.. But it's the thinking behind that abuse with which men think they have some kind of birthright to discipline or control women.
Change won't come unless women bring the change themselves. Don't fear "log kya bolenge" and "ghar ki izzat". Stand up for yourself and do WHATEVER it takes to be free from a violent household. Because if you're abused in the house which you think as your home, it's not really your "home".
EDIT: this applies to men too, who are a victim of domestic violence.
2:08 10 percent more women believe that its reasonable for a man to beat his wife like WTH
Because it is taught to us that when something goes wrong it is probably our own fault
10% people are our mom, aunts & most of the middle aged woman
@@AnuradhaS55 aka pados waali aunty😂
Domestic violence and all other forms of abuse have been normalized to such an extent that even when I called the police to my home, they scribbled something on a notepad and...didn't really do anything about it. 😭
Hope u left the evil creep.
@@sarojiniginger It's my mom. She went into a rage and started taking knives and scissors; so I called the police. It was scary
@@AnuBlossom If you are a minor..... Call the child helpline...... If you are above 18 ......
FIND A JOB AND
RUN AWAY!!!
@@bhavyavikrambhat9312 Thank you for your concern :)
I'm not financially stable yet. I have moved to the upper parts of the house temporarily and I'm able to provide for my basic needs for the time being. Hopefully, a time comes when I'm able to flee and be free from this madness.
@@AnuBlossom All the Best dear❤️
just wanna know who could even unlike this video.... this is the reality what can you find wrong in this??? this is the harsh truth that has to be changed.
Fake cases wale honge......jinhe sare cases fake hi lagte h
@@donotthinkgobar978 true
This is so common. In my family my whenever my father is in a bad mood, he comes up with stupid problems deliberately and beats my mom to death. He even takes large amount of money from my mom and doesn't return it and instead he says that my mom has taken all his earnings. But the most sad part is that my mom always keeps a happy face around me and never complain against him. I am now studying in 11th standard and my dad keeps on telling me that if my mom is in the house then I will never be successful. I literally hate my dad, and in front of relatives he threatens us that we need to behave like a happy family, basically me and my mom just act in front of them that we are a cheerful family when basically we are not. I am really writing this with tears in my eyes, I have understood now that I need to get a job and with my salary I need to free my mom from the hell we are living in. I sometimes feel difficult to concentrate in my studies as all the memories of my dad beating my mom keeps flashing in my mind. I cry silently. In this comment section I am basically getting freedom to write whatever pain my mind has saved.
I wish people realise that and stop considering divorce as a taboo and dating as a taboo
I don't feel you but hope you succeed in getting a better life girl
As a survivor of domestic violence I can speak from a victims point of view. Mentally sick cruel conniving men are supported by others of the same kind. The mothers sisters and family of such men are equally responsible. He is an ex army officer Sr das a Bengali, who said that he married a woman from the Hindi belt since Bengali women are too strong. I am 52 married to an American man now. But those memories still haunt me I get flash backs and have been diagnosed with PTSD. My career is gone. Our society does not take this crime seriously. In fact I have heard quite a few "women" "friends" say things like you should get over it. I wish hope and pray something similar happens to someone near and dear to them
I am so so so highly impressed by this presenter Anahita that every time if it is her video, I play the video very first ajd listen her & watch her speaking.
Her body language, expressions, way of smiling, dressing sense, everything is top notch❤️
You know what the biggest problem is?
Sometimes,WOMEN ONLY ASK OTHER WOMEN to adjust.
THIS MUST CHANGE.
Any kind of domestic violence against men or women is unacceptable. Even if they think it is just a slap, a slap can quickly turn into something bigger. And if anyone thinks they have a right over their spouse then they shouldn't even be married in the first place.
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW I know you shouldn't be taken seriously since MGTOW is in your name
@Akash Mishra, MGTOW only a narcissistic man would slap in the first place
i remember, that once me and my dad got in a fight so he took my phone away... so my mom went to to him and tried talking to him... i am in my room with Mumma and my sis is with my dad... so she goes to the other room and then next thing I hear is my sister and mom coming towards my room, crying. i was furious at the bastard... he didn't even apologize, its been a year and that a$$ still doesn't have the guts to apologize... next day he bought chicken to make up 🙄 ... even like 3 days ago, I and my dad got into an argument and he almost slapped me cause I had been studying since morning and I didn't have the energy to do work... he read my mom's diary... he hasn't apologized and is expecting me to apologize for defending my mom... he keeps putting my mom down, she works all day and like keeping the house clean... so she asks us to stop dirtying it, and since in lockdown, the help isn't coming, she is dong all the work and my dad has the audacity to tell her she ain't working... his mom is also an bitch... like my mom and dad were getting on really well when my dad and grandma started going down to walk, alone... since then he has been treating her like shit.... again... also before my grandpa died, my dad and mo were a good couple... but since my dad has been living with my grandma, he has been treating her like shit... also like my grandmatreats my dad like shit too, but he is too blind to notice... he lets people use him and ruin his family...
Edit: he slapped my mom again... I know I shouldn't be giving updates abt my family but I want such assholes to be exposed... my mom's jaw has been hurting since yesterday because of the slapp... we hve left the house and are living in my uncle's house
Call police
That's fked up
@@calm6959 it is.. we left the house, he is trying to make us feel guilty and is trying to make my mom feel like she has too much ego
@@humairaakram6378 cant... i keep suggesting divorce.. but my dad has the "divorce is breaking a family" my house is soo fucking toxic... i couldn't handle it... but I couldn't do much... i am only 13... my mom isn't financially independent so she is focusing on that as of now...
@Shray :D
Sons also beat mothers as if entitled. There is hate for women among them. This disrespect is gender based.
Daughters are innocent. Only sons are evil
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 Look at the data. Go to any old age home. Check how may parents were abandoned by their son vs how many of them were abandoned by their daughters. Check how many parents were tortured by their sons for their property. I'm not saying all women are saints and all men are devils. But statistics proves who is more violent.
@@ManonLucas14 yes that's what I'm saying. Daughters are innocent🙄
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 Don't generalizes any community, gender.
@karma man who? @ shaun Murphy??? Previous comment
Such husbands would never understand till the wife start thinking about herself instead of family.
What do you think, are we too weak for our self defence?
We are strong enough to defend ourselves from a single man!
It was mentioned multiple times that most women dont speak up about it
Hello swaddle.
I really love and appreciate your content.
Here I am to highlight a big issue: women against women. This idea really needs to be addressed. As we all know there a many stupid tv shows that promote this idea. Please make a video regarding this.
Wish the whole world could see this video and really OVERTHINK on such extreme NECESSITY!
Whether people read MANUSMRITI or not but that book is CURSED.
It’s not just about physical/sexual abuse but also emotional and mental abuse. Sadly, not many recognise it! Court demands evidence and how can one produce that! Thankfully we have at least started recognising the obvious and hoping we will eventually see the not-so-obvious!
This video should have a warning attached to it because the way it frustrates you to think of how people were able to normalise such a horrible thing and how even today, people (and more women than men (or maybe not all men admit what they believe)) still believe that it's okay.
And this is terrible because women whose partners don't beat them are regarded as "lucky" and are expected to overlook all their other faults and try harder to be "a good wife".
Moreover, in households where this does happen, it teaches children very wrong things.
"Just a slap" - it' never a one-time incident, as they mentioned DV has the highest repeat rate. Getting help is difficult with the victims having nobody to turn to and nowhere to go. It's sad how common this situation is :(
I really love how everybody in the comment section is speaking the right and what is the truth.
While our parents think that the young generation has no moral,ethics but I guess we are more open-minded and fair in all these important matters.
I guess I'm the luckiest kid
I have the best mother in world
Sucks to be you tho 😂
@@calm6959 why do you think it sucks to be me tho?
According to my boyfriend... the movie encourages more women to get separated for such pity issue. He says, I quote " Kuch jada hi ni krdi thik h thappad marna galat h but? " . I want to ask all men not only him... But kya, will a man be okay with just one tight slap in front of everyone without him fault... No right, then why a woman should just shut and move on.
What without fault ?
Usne janbuchkar thode mara tha
@@COVID-eq5hh pffff, I like how your name is covid 19, everyone should indeed stay away from people with your mentality.
@@rashishree721 actually I am here to take away people with sick mentality like you
@@COVID-eq5hh ooooooh so I have a sick mentality? Says the person who thinks domestic violence should be normalized
@@COVID-eq5hh also, I am referring to domestic violence which happens to both women and men, violence is bad against anyone
It is ofter seen that when any woman slaps a man bcoz he was being creep, man usually take that slap very seriously, their tiny little ego is shattered, they can go to any extend to take revenge, they might end up shooting that girl or even attack her with acid.....
But other way arround... Slapping your WIFE who takes care of family, perform so MANY Task just to make our lives easy... I don't know how can 1 slap be justified.... How can even talking to her in rude way be justified.
Ppl often justify physical abuse saying," he was angry. Maybe he slapped you out of anger.." No dude being angry doesn't mean you can beat your wife. You don't beat your mother or sister when you are angry. Then why abusing your wife just to calm your freaking nerves. She is not a punching bag to bear your anger. People with such mentality are sickening and must be taught basic human rights first!
When people say the husband has "allowed" the wife to work...
Domestic violence is very wrong and if a person is going through that please leave quietly. As a kid, i saw my mother getting beaten up my father and the trauma still hasn't left me at all.
More power to you 💙
The bitter truth is that some men view their wives as their property and they think it's perfectly fine to do whatever they wish to do to their spouse.
Indians are beautiful people and they deserve so much better.
I am an American wife married to an Indian man who beat me but I didn't let him get away w it...I told our friends, his family and everybody he came across what was happening to expose him so he would stop .... thankfully hus family supported and protected my welfare but then he got out of hand then threatened me in front of his family and he said he was going to kill me in front of them for standing up for me and he vowed he would in front of our young child....his justification was that his late Police Capt dad beat his mom every week...his dad's poor example could have put my husband in prison forever....now I work w victims of crime here in America and I hope to go to India someday to join forces w other likeminded women and govt to educate and to help the women and children to break free from their abusers to rebuild their lives....this is heartbreaking and I understand how it feels to have been at the hands and feet of an abuser.
Some of Indian men are sick kindly avoid them
The dislikes are of violent husbands.....
And that's why India needs feminism.
The fact that when one issue is being talked about but u try to dismiss it by always saying "we face it, and we matter more than u so no one should care about u" is sickening. A talks about one thing, B says "no, ur issues never matter because I only want my things to be talked about, so I will keep whining about how my issue matters and always try to change the discussion from a topic which is important to u so that people think u r disrespecting me by talking about any topic which doesn't relate to me"
"I will cite one false case to generalize u all but when I see a real case, I will whine about how I am not talked about in ur video". When I see any topic of any importance to u I will try to dismiss it by making the discussion about me and not letting anyone see the real issue
They are coming in 3...2...1...
@@swatisaini6447 yup, let's wait
Also, u face domestic violence "u provoked him". He faced domestic violence "let's call him unmanly and make jokes about him and never consider the issue". But when someone talk about them "I am not represented, u r biased, u r against all of us"
@@1directionforever430 The reply under my comment literally says the same thing but uk what? I'm tired of correcting these people because no matter how many paragraphs you type explaining how stupid they sound their next reply will be even more stupid than the previous one. I mean,we can argue with people who are reasonable but what better to do than ignore these morons who keep on commenting nonsensical things.
@@missgranger9723 their intention is only to spread hate and trivialise women problem
This is so true. We have never denied that men too face grave problems. But under each swaddle video they will post comments of men being harmed by "feminazis"
When women only say... Yeh sab hota rehta hai (all this keeps happening often)... Hum ne bhi jhela (We too have faced similar situations in our past)...
This directly supports the concept of leading abusive lives is ok
If women support women in teaching boys to respect n restrict actions, men will follow d lead
Sometimes, even girls family members are involved in normalisation of Domestic abuse and violence.
Repeated comments that you will be domestically abused in your husband's house, or abusing them...Also has a deep impact
Beautiful Overthinking Programme Swaddle
I faced domestic violence from my father. Next day morning I went to police station to make a complaint and warn my father. They did it, but my mother was like u ruined family reputation. Indian women are least bothered about domestic violence but they wanna save their husbands name and reputation. This is kinda shitty!!😡
I would say if u r not fighting for urself and your happiness then that's the weakness & bad behaviour. Self love & self respect is more important in one's life. If people are more concerned about reputation then they should not cause any harm to other people. " For every reaction there is equal and opposite reaction".
I recommend you look up Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj on RUclips. What are your thoughts on her? I would like to know.
You are a really bad daughter.
You should actually care about family reputation.
You are a child of your father still you can't take some beating from them, it was normal for Indian kids to get beaten lightly by parents before few years. You could have taught him or show him some videos but you are fragile and weak, so you filed complain against him.
@@factshouse3690 I had bleeding on my neck and arms because he hit me that way and I had nail marks on my neck and he squeezed my neck where I lost my breath for few minutes. I took TT injection.😏
@@factshouse3690 just shut up. U r normalising the domestic violence again. By the way I'm 28 yrs old I know what is good and bad and I know to make how people to treat me but not causing domestic violence. Father / mother whoever has done a mistake is a mistake. You cannot do the same thing in America they have separate law for this because they knew it will harm and put kids/ people under Lifetime depression. This is why India is in the list of depressive countries.
Also I would like to give an example of Bhabhiji Ghar Par Hain- If the husband is getting beaten/verbally abused and the laugh track is running, please atleast think before laughing. Be it on a man or a woman, violence is not funny.
I think another reason why domestic violence is so prevalent is due to 'internal misogyny'. It's really sad and unfortunate that women don't support each other.
Forget about people ,sometimes it is so deep rooted that a woman herself justify that when it's done to her !!!
Great content bro👍
Keep going, you're doing amazing work!
Because of these all we kids can't able to share anything with our parents. Everyday they used to fight. I'm so scared about my future.
Domestic or any form of violence is never ok, be it to men, women or children. Such horrendous things need to be addressed
That is why I just loved movie Thappad.
"Sirf ek thappad, par nahi mar sakta hai woh"
All this starts at home itself--when parents hits their kids for small small mistakes.
This mindset needs to change!!!
Your work is commendable!!!!
I like how the title doesn't say that domestic violence only happens to women. It happens to all genders and everyone has the right to seek help. Please come forward regardless your gender and age. You might think that people will make fun of you for coming forward, but every such situation starts with haters and you should know that you are respected, loved and the wise youth got your back.
Education is the key to end violence against women. When a woman is educated and financially independent, she would be able to advocate for herself and be willing to walk out of a toxic family or relationship.
I am soo happy my house don't come under those 'many houses' 😊😊
The texts quoted by her in this video about Manusmriti are vague. The texts tells the woman यंत्र नारी पुज्यते तत्र रमे देवता
It means even in a family there is no worship of any god goddess or supereme being or almighty but the women in the family ate empowered happy and contented the family will be blessed in all times and prosper
The text she shown in video it means different people having different mindests, thoughts, experience, approaches need to be be explained differently the thoughts , ideas and concepts
Who the fuck came up with this concept that if a husband beats his wife to yeh Ghar Ka mamla hai?🤦🤦
After seeing this video and reading other comments, I feel genuinely sad for people who face domestic violence or any kind of violence on a daily basis. The thought of it makes me sick that men want to dominate themselves and show that women are nothing but mere servants. The reasons why we should give proper education to everyone is so that people can stand for themselves and justify the actions of others. I am so sick of the mentality of the society