Entitled Brides You Won't Believe Exist
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I got married 3 weeks after we were engaged. A friend gave me her wedding gown. we ordered a sheet cake from a local supermarket. His sister did the flower arrangements and we had the ceremony right after Sunday services. Our honeymoon was a one night stay at a local bed and breakfast. We just celebrated our 11th anniversary earlier this year.
Congratulations on 11 years.
Wow cool
My hubby and I drove to Reno, got married by a drunk in a wedding chapel and wore overalls. We've been married 30 years. As always its not the trappings but the commitment. Congrats on 11 years
And the end result is still the same as the people who spend an absolute fortune: you're married. Happy wedding anniversary!
I’ve told the man I’m going to marry that we’re going to elope. I have a dress ready that I was suppose to wear to a party but it didn’t end up happening that’s a beautiful gown embroidered with flowers. I care about the marriage not the wedding.
When etiquette was a thing, it was taught that you NEVER ask for a gift. Gifts are optional. Your gift is your presence not your present(s).
Sadly those days seem to be long gone, whatever happened to weddings being about celebrating with your friends and relatives instead of trying to put on a major type production.
genuine #comment
Not everyone is like this, but sadly, they (meaning the sane ones) seem to be a minority. I am of the opinion that people should pay for their own weddings, their own honeymoon and if you get 6 toasters, smile and say thank you.
I'm Spanish and this days the wedding invitation usually comes with the bank account number, so you can transfer them money 🤦🏻♀️ I think if you can't afford a fancy wedding, then have a simple one. People don't owe you anything 😂
@@peterbuckley3877 They happen all of the time; they just don’t end up on Reddit or videos like this.
When you said "you mean to tell me there are women like this with future husbands and I don't? ... I'm so low maintenance compared to these psychos!" I felt that down to my core. Girl, same.
Same bro
But I don't know that you'd want a partner who'd go for someone with the personality of these brides. Clearly there is something amiss in these partners that they see this behavior and think "yeah, that's reasonable. I see nothing worrisome about marrying this person."
I think we're more on the empath side and this brides clearly are more on the narcissistic.. "opposites" attracts but this kind it's the worst
You have to think of what kind of groom they have... You are better off without that type of man
@@delilahbelle2125 some people (including grooms) genuinely believe that it’s ‘normal’ for women to behave like psychos during wedding planning. They buy that it’s ‘stressful’ and women ‘can’t help’ but be awful.
Of course, many of them end up divorced a year later because the women stay like that after the wedding… but that doesn’t change the fact that they believed at the time that it was ok for the bride to behave badly.
"I know the wedding isn't until December."
Charlotte, "I thought you said it was in the summer. This is confusing."
Everyone in the southern hemisphere 👋
I'm in Canada, but I knew instantly it was probably Aus or something lolll
dry heat or not, December is not summer, no matter how hot it is 😁
@@1BigBenwell… yes it IS. Australia HAS summer in December and colder temperatures in July and they LITERALLY call the time from November - March SUMMER.
@@1BigBen lmao dude... southern hemisphere is the opposite. Spring/summer from oct-march, fall/winter from april-sept. XD are you smarter than a 1st grader? No.
@@1BigBen Are you a flat earther or something?
When my late wife and I got married she made her own dress and the wedding cake, all within a week. We had been together for about 2 years when she said yes and I suggested that we get married on my birthday (because the husband always forgets the anniversary, right?) so we got married with me in a borrowed suit and her in a beautiful hand made wedding dress. We were together for almost 18 years when I lost her to cancer.
I am so sorry for your loss 😇
Seems like you just married for love (and i love the pragmatism with the date^^) then for the wedding ^^
My friend, I can so relate. We had 75 guests, just a best man and maid of honor, an amateur photographer, a dj, and sandwiches and beer. We were married for almost 29 years when I lost him to cancer.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Younger people, you don’t have to have an extravagant wedding to have a good marriage.
Dear Sir, Love never ends. I´m in tears. I´m really sorry for your lost. May God bless you with a long and beautiful life.
William and Barbara, I am so sorry you both had to deal with such extreme loss. My heart hurts for you both.
In my early 20’s I was in one of my best friends weddings, the bridesmaids dresses were $300 & they all knew I couldn’t afford anything over $150...so instead of making me feel like sh*t, the bride and all bridesmaid pitched in to cover what I couldn’t afford 😢 still makes me tear up when I think about it.
I love that.💜💜
This makes me feel pride in my fellow women.. If the bride has chosen dresses too expensive for you, that is exactly what they should do. No one should be burdened by a dress they'll probably only wear once.
Those are true friends who care!
In the UK the bride and groom pay for all the wedding party dresses and suits
In England, the bride buys her bridesmaids’ dresses. Seems really entitled to demand women to buy (possibly expensive) dresses to wear once. Maybe not even dresses they like.
A few years later...
"I wouldn't have married her if I knew she was crazy."
Do you have to be beaten with the red flags to see them?!?! 😱
For some of us (me raising my hand) - yes.
Yes, yes we do...we know how ridiculous and stupid that is, but most of us can't (read as won't) stop ourselves...in fact, some of my friends seem to actually like to have to deal with a toxically crazy woman....🤷🏻♂️
Love that line!!
@@branon6565 Do women like this act this way in all situations or are they just obsessed with getting married? Make it make sense if you can 😂
It happens with guys too. I know girls who date or marry guys they know are assholes and mean and then act surprised when they start being an asshole to her.
"These women have husbands and I'm single " Felt that. In my soul.
ME too! really like danggg! but I don't want crazzy
For now
@@thomasdoyle9748 Exactly. Would love updates on how many/which of them are still hitched.
Because they're fake until they get married and you don't play that game.
I know but it's the quality of the husband tho. 😂😂For some reason, I don't expect women like these to have standards so they're probably marrying a man just as delusional and entitled as they are.
Charlotte: summer in December? I'm confused...
Southern Hemisphere: Allow me to introduce myself....
I'm confused how she was confused thinking it should be winter all over the entire planet, at the same time. lol
The comment I was looking for, yay! Otherwise wanted to answer this
@@kyliepechler I thought that until a couple months ago...
Lololol - duh - I missed this too 🤦♀️
Australia 👋
When my Aunty got married she invited everyone over to her house for her birthday and asked them to dress smart, once everyone was there she took the candles off the cake and put a wedding topper on and said welcome to our wedding!
this is adorable!
And then she asked for a volunteer to be the groom.
That’s super cute!
Smart woman!!
I stan her
Chance of divorce: 💯
Wow, fancy meeting you here AJ! And yes, you're absolutely right.
Absofuckinglotely!!!👏
Masks are for the sheeple 🐑
@@JimboJones99 that’s why I’ll never be engaged in the first place
HI! I know you from that other channel! Love your videos they are very informative & helpful!
When I got asked to be a bridesmaid to my best friends wedding, she told me I can look however I want, I can keep all my piercings in [all 28], have my tattoos on display, and I don't have to dye my hair a different color [at the time it was blue and purple] I absolutely loved that my BFF wanted me exactly as I am, it was heartwarming to say the least. Her wedding colors were very pretty, blush pink, wine and gold. I personally didn't want my hair [blue and purple] to stand out against everything, and be distracting, clashing with the colors in the wedding photos. So I decided myself to dye my hair with crimson red, and it mixed with the blue and purple I already had, and it came out a BEAUTIFUL wine color, and matched with everything perfectly. When she saw it she said "aww, you didn't have to do that!" And I told her, "I know I didn't have to, but I wanted to. Your my best friend, and I wanted the attention on you, not my bright, clashing hair lol" the pictures came out stunning, she looked like a bride right out of a magazine, and since my hair matched the colors she picked out, it wasn't distracting, but rather went with everything beautifully. She accepted me fully for who I am, and in turn I made a change just for her, so everything would look perfect for her wedding. [And honestly, I loved the wine hair color and kept it for a while] THAT'S how real friends do it 💯
Love this. The photos must be stunning!
You're a good friend, and that very rare these days 😔
This is awesome ❤ sounds like an amazing friend
Yeah that’s the only logical way to do it in my head. I’m getting married in 2 months and my bridesmaids also asked me if they have to look a certain way. I was like no I asked you for you. They got dresses in the same color but that’s all.
Now you, are a wonderful friend!
When I got married, we were college students with not a lot of money. Friends offered to make our cakes, and do the flowers, my mom sewed me a beautiful dress, my next door neighbor lent me her lovely veil, and my bridesmaids wore blue dresses that they already owned. We paid for the invitations, the venue, the official, gifts for the wedding party members and the friends who donated their time and expertise. It was a wonderful day, everyone had a wonderful time and best of all, we didn't end up with a huge debt on top of our student loans....
Aww that sounds perfect.
That really sounds wonderful. ☺
And beautiful memories of friends and family supporting your union. That's the way it should be. IMO
Well nowadays these kids are so freaking entitled and it so sad edit...not only entitled, but we also supposed to be careful not to "trigger" them with " any trigger words" and dont forget about giving them all participation trophies! Wtf is happening..each generation gets more sissified, but more entitled at the same time.. I was born in 82...Imagine what this generation is gonna look like with kids.... 🤣 😂 😹
@@nicole6323 a whole generation of Karens
*These women don't want marriages, they just want weddings.*
THIS. 👏👏👏
Exactly. Never understood it.
@@maryohmaryoh that’s my response as well.. WELL SAID POSTER 🙌🏼
I concur
Fact! I know ppl who had huge weddings, then pitched fits when they had no money because they spent it all on the wedding and ended up divorced pretty quickly. My hubby and I were married at a courthouse 25 years ago and no sign of divorce in sight. The polar opposite, actually.
My dad is a hairdresser; once he had a woman call 6 months after her appointment demanding a refund for the hairdo he did for her daughters wedding because she didn’t like the photos. She liked it the day he did it. But once she got the photos, she legitimately believed she deserved a refund. He just said no and hung up lol
wtf this is crazy . i don't know how people handle this types of shitty things. refund because some old lady didn't like it !! your dad is a good person just said no .
Good for him!
Dwl....sting!!!!
I love the story of how my dad proposed. He and Mom were watching tv, just having a normal day.
He looked at her and said, “Do you want to marry me, Sweets?”
She thought it was just a pre-engagement kind of talk and she said, “Of course I do.”
He smiled and left the room. He came back with the ring. She laughed and thought it was so “him.”
They’ve been together 51 years. They go on “dates” to the supermarket and hold hands walking in the park. Enough to make one sick. 😂
When all a person cares about is the engagement, the dress, the photos, whatever, it’s not a good sign.
Reminds me of the story of how my inlaws got "engaged". He just called her to pick out a date for the wedding
Still married 35 years later
This is my dream engagement scenario tbh.
Good for them!
Awweee this is so wholesome! The way he proposed was amazing!
I'd love to share my own story if it's alright
It was Valentine's day, and we were just parked at the side of the road beside a lake because I said it was a pretty area.
He pulled out a ring and I said "I'd be an idiot thinking it's a proposal" (because yk, there's no way i'd expect it you know?) and he responded saying I must be (to put it in better terms, though I always like what he says) Extremely Stupid.
Anyways, I did say yes 🫶🫶
Do NOT cut your dreads off for a wedding. That's ridiculous.
The dreads must be protected.
all hail the dreads
Dreads are really cool looking! I would get them but i would look like trash in them
@@HassanPlayz - I'm with ya. I would look absolutely terrible in dreads. Doesn't mean I can't appreciate them on people that can rock them. I'd also look terrible in a bikini, for the record.
@@SaravanjaSteele be kind to yourself💖💖💖💖💖💖
For my best friend's wedding, she wanted me in a dress that cost $90. Perfectly reasonable. However, my husband and I were extremely poor at the time, and were traveling out of state to get there (in our car that ended up breaking down on the way). My amazing friend covered the dress for me very graciously so I could be in her wedding. I think for their 7 year anniversary I'm going to send her $90 and a thank you.
The dresses I want are $550 and I’m offering to pay for the girls who can’t afford it. It was hard to find something they all liked and didn’t look cheap.
@@PotionsMaster007 Tbh for that price tag, you should be covering all of the dresses. It’s your wedding, not theirs. There are gorgeous dresses for a cheaper price tag.
@@dalilam5920 not in Australia, lol. Our exchange rate and import tax makes everything cost double. Plus the ones who can afford it work full time Jobs making 60-80k. It was the agreement I made on an individual basis, those who can and want to pay I’m ok with.
@@PotionsMaster007 don’t be ridiculous.
I live in Australia, too, and I know full well that plenty of nice dresses cost far less than $550!
@@dmf1301 nice for you may not be nice for me. Like I said, it was hard to find something they all agreed on. One wanted pants so I had to go custom so that she wouldn’t stand out. It’s not that easy. So please be kind.
"Let me get this straight. You want a refund for the pics in case you get divorced?..ok then I want my gift refunded back to me when you do!!!" haha!
Yes indeed! That's so true!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
What of the pics were the gift? 😋
These stories just reminds me of a cousin’s friend. The friend is single, single like a Pringle, and has a little daughter (she is asexual and aro, but the kid is adopted.). The friend always helped with weddings, being the planner pro bono, and just loved weddings, and was kinda bummed she would never have her own. So my cousin and his friends (mix of guys, gals, non-binary pals, the like) got together and brainstormed an idea; a friendship wedding. Nothing legally binding, just a party of friendship. They asked the friend “hey, we’re thinking about having a party, you wanna come? It’s formal dress, so we can get it for you”, and she was down. Everything was set up, even in a nice church. The day of, the friend was brought to the church in a limo, the others saying “we’ll catch up”. The friend was just… well, in utter shock when her friends revealed the truth behind the party, and she was emotional, happy and crying, and it was actually really sweet. Instead of a preacher, the daughter recited the “vows”, and it was just a huge party. And honestly, I thought this story was bullshit until I was shown pictures.
I love, love, love that you all did that.
@@moyasatterwhite4019 I didn’t do anything, this was my cousin and his mates, but I’m really proud of them, it was a really cute and nice thing to do. As an ace person myself, it’s cool to see the support and allyship my cousin and his pals show for the friend. They even got little “wedding” bands, that they wear on their middle fingers. :)
If only the rest of the world had the heart, acceptance & compassion of your cousin & their friends, the world would be a much better place! This is coming from a middle aged woman who grew up in a conservative, religious home. If I can get it, there’s no excuse for you young ones not to! 💕
I love this idea!!
This is absolutely amazing! 💕 Thank you for sharing this wonderful story!
The wedding that is in Summer could be from a country like Australia. Where if you're south of the equator Summer is in December.
Correct. And Aussie brides tend to be the worst bridezillas on the planet too.
You are probably right. Thank you. I didn't thought of that
Do they celebrate (if they do at all) Christmas in the middle of the Summer. I see pictures in my head "Santa with kangaroos instead of reindeers"
@@vivienleigh4640 Yes, they do, and with big parties on the beach!
Correct, but also, there are more countries in the southern hemisphere than Australia... Iive in one...
I was demoted from bridesmaid when I got pregnant and then uninvited because the bride and the mother of the bride thought I would steal her thunder if I went into labour. Needless to say, we’re not friends anymore
Same thing happened to me except it was my own sister! I still went as a guest but it was so awkward and uncomfortable. Sadly it was her that missed out on how special I would have worked to make her day special.
@@kateingram2466 That sucks, I’m sorry. But yeah, you’re right, definitely her loss x
@@kateingram2466 wow, if that happens to me, I am no longer going. I don't understand how a sister could do that.
She wasn't a real friend than. I honesty would think that would make a cool story if someone went to labor at my wedding or something like that!
What?! Omgosh is it just me that I would be like PREGO BELLY PICTURES!! I would find a way to take funny pictures with you at my wedding... Omgosh pregnant women are just BEAUTIFUL to me.. Well, I'm renewing my vows next year and if you want to get pregnant, hurry up and I'll have ya! Hehe... ❤️❤️
I was married last November. I choose the color for the bridesmaids but they were able to pick whatever style of dress best flattered them. I was shocked when one of my bridesmaids asked if she needed to cover up her tattoos for the wedding. Until I saw these I never knew brides could be so petty! It's a celebration with people who love you, quit trying to change them and instead enjoy the party together!
Just remember: You wouldn't want any of the men marrying these women anyways. There's a reason they make a great fit :)
💯
Agree !!!
Well, we can't actually know if they make a great fit or not
@@tatianasalazar4066 : 😄That'll be a different video. For now, all we can surmise is that they're attracted to torture.
@@Solutions3000 lmao at "attracted to torture" 😄
I was called “bridezilla” once…by someone who I’d quietly pulled aside after she commandeered my wedding ring shopping trip into an All About Her inquiry into a gold necklace she didn’t even buy. The jewelry store clerk was very visibly uncomfortable and kept giving me apologetic looks while this “friend” kept interrupting me to ask about literally anything other than why we were there (to pick out my fiancé’s wedding ring). After I (privately) told her this was NOT OKAY and that we won’t be able to go shopping together if this is how she’s going to behave, she went and LITERALLY CRIED to my fiancé that I was being “a total bridezilla”. I’m not sure what upset me more - her lies or the fact that he remotely believed her and talked to me about it. Eh, whatever. Engagement was called off anyways 😅
Edit to add: She’d been crushing on him since high school and threw a FIT when we started dating, let alone got engaged. In hindsight idk why I brought her with…I’m owning up to my own idiocy lol
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Damn 😯😯😯
Really sounds like you side stepped a shit hole at the last minute 😯!
Hope you're doing great now 🌼
Sounds like you dodged a bullet angel.... She would have been a constant fixture in your marriage, and why did he even believe her? His loss not yours... Love to you 💕💕💕
@Sergio Bicerra Same question. Did they end up together?
@@meeprific ... Literally what I was going to type 😂
Honestly, someone’s presence at my wedding was gift enough. It showed they cared enough to be part of our special day. If they brought a gift, we were certainly thankful, but it was not expected.
Your spouse is a very lucky person.
I agree with you to a point. I would never attend a wedding without bringing a gift. The expense of the gift depends a lot on how close I am to the couple, but I think a gift is mandatory. Only if you are destitute should you not bring a gift! Having said that, the bride, or the groom, should never demand a gift, or set a minimum price for gifts. That’s rude. The bridal gift registry is the best, because you can buy them something they want. But you don’t have to go by the registry. A lot of times, I think cash is a great gift, because they can always use cash! In the past, couples getting married were usually just starting out, and needed everything for their home. But a lot of times today, people are getting married later, and have already been living on their own. So they already have a toaster and a coffee maker, and an iron and sheets and towels and may even have China and flatware etc. They may even have 2 sets of everything if they both were living on their own. The last thing they need is another toaster!
@@lisaspikes4291 I was only speaking for myself and my own wedding. I would take or send a gift to someone else’s wedding. I was just happy people were there. I didn’t even keep track if everyone brought a gift. I sent thank you notes to those who did.
This was mine and my husbands attitude, we specifically said we just wanted our friends and family to be there and have fun. Hell, my husbands nephews turned up in jeans and t-shirts it was so relaxed. It was fab, everyone said they had a great time and we're still married 14yrs later.
We had lived together for over 2 years before we got married and we wrote on the invites no gifts please your attendance is our gift. We had a great time and we still had a couple of people give us money. Always grateful for cash but that was not what we intended either.
News flash, Brides. Only MAYBE your mother has waited your whole life for you to get married. It's just not as important to everyone else as you think it is.
Charlotte does not have a husband because she spends all this time entertaining us.
Thank you, Potato Queen.
Truuue
Charlotte doesn't need a husband. She's got this! (note: There is huge difference between wanting and needing a significant other) :-)
The Potato Queen needs more time to put together her Mr. Potato Head.
IT would be Dang egoist of us to keep her away from this
@@willverschneider1102 she doesn't need a Mr. Potato Head.
These women need to realize that having a wedding with guests means you are HOSTING guests. You are to be a good a considerate host to your guests. It's not just your day.
True and that is why gifts are called gifts. They are something that you give. The value of which only concerns the giver. lol
Well…it still IS just their day. And often they are PAYING for it. Obviously these brides in these particular posts are extreme and are certainly more entitled than they ever deserve to be. However, as a future bride (who paid for her own dress and is funding her own wedding with her fiancé), I know its not unreasonable to have SOME expectations, but demanding gifts (expensive or otherwise) is just rude and tacky.
This is what happens when they refuse to teach basic shit at school. Parebts dont have time to train their offspring in etiquette
The woman getting married in December (in Summer) more than likely lives in Australia or NZ where it’s like 1000 degrees. You couldn’t pay me enough to wear a jacket.
Yup, when I figured out it was a Southern Hemisphere summer I totally understood the guest's concern. It gets way too hot down here to be wearing jackets or long sleeves.
If that's what you think the Southern Hemisphere is like, you should travel more.
My friend, wearing a jacket in summer down here should be a crime lol
You do know that Australia and New Zealand are teo seperate places with entirely different weather, right.....?
My whole body feels like they are on fire and this entitled swine have the audacity to tell someone to wear a jacket. Imagine them being in perth oh boi
I had 3 pregnant women as my bridesmaids and my daughter had just given birth so we dressed my granddaughter in a flowery dress and that's the bouquet she carried down the aisle, one had dreads and another granddaughter dyed her hair blue to match my colors. We had the best wedding ever because everyone I loved was there!!
A couple of years after high school a bunch of us got invited to a classmates wedding. The invitation made it clear she expected to be volunteert labor fpr her hundreds of wedding guests - serving food, setting up, etc. We all just laughed and not a single one of us attended
Well done!!!
Good that's what they deserve
That's nutz.
One of my old "friends" lead me to believe that I would be a bridesmaid at her wedding. I wasn't able to attend her engagement party because I couldn't get off work without a 2-week notice. I found out that she asked people to be bridesmaids at that party, but she didn't ask me because she assumed I wouldn't be able to get off of work to do all that is "required" in order to be her bridesmaid. I was hurt but didn't say anything because it's ultimately not my decision. Time goes on and someone backs out as a bridesmaid leading her to ask me. She sent an incredibly phoney message about her being worried I wouldn't be able to get off work and I explained that as long as I requested the day off in time there would be no issues. She then sent me the list of "requirements." If you couldn't attend any of the activities she planned out, you were OUT of the bridal party. If you couldn't get your dress by a certain date, OUT. If you did anything that wasn't approved, you were gone. It was demanding and mildly aggressive. Now, since she gave me such short notice of the list, there were some activities that I wouldn't be able to attend and I wouldn't be able to get the dress that quickly as I am part-time minimum wage and would have to wait for my paycheck. I tried to gently explain that I couldn't just call off work. My job was strict about that and I tried to let her know from the beginning so it wouldn’t be mistaken as me not wanting to participate. Long story short, I opted out of the bridal party and almost called it quits on the friendship because she turned into such a dick. I ended up trying to maintain the friendship and attended her event. I recently cut her out of my life for something way more significant and it's been great.
👍👍👍👍👍
Good for you! When so-called friends start getting too controlling...that's a good time to say "Adios".
This sounds so much like a friend of mine too, who was supposedly my best friend (since 6th grade) but told me she picked someone else for her Maid of Honor because she was concerned I wasn't girly enough to "perform the duties necessary to be a successful Maid of Honor." Her fiancé ended up calling the wedding off before they got too far into planning, and knowing her, he dodged a bullet.
Toxic people have a way of removing themselves from our lives. I'm glad you're happier now 😊
I have been in eight weddings: 5 as a maid of honor, one as a flower girl, an 2 as a bridesmaid. If I could go back, I would tell them all thanks for asking but no thanks. :)
"Women like this actually have husbands?"
Well, yes, all ex husbands were once husbands.
😂😂😂😂
If they marry those women, it's entirely their fault. They're clearly not hiding their c*ntiness at all 😂 Or maybe they're the same too who knows
@@SoWhosGae Either that or these men marry those women just because they provide good sex, which... To me is an awful amount of effort and commitment for such a thing but oh well
Ya but not for long.
Some women get real crazy with their weddings. My sister in law was the same but shes a legit good woman/wife and seeing her like that was surreal.
The pregnancy ones always get me. When I was a BM for my best friend, we tried dresses on when I was around 5 months and would be 7months at time of the wedding. She and the shop were so considerate and thoughtful while picking out my dress (she had chosen a color and each BM had options for style). I ended up with a beautiful dress that had plenty of room for my belly and I loved it. She even let me were flats I'm the same color as the heels the rest of the party wore. Yes, a wedding is about the bride and groom, but it should also be a memorable and good time for those involved AND invited. I'm so over the "it's my day" mentality.
“I AM NOT MARRYING HIM FOR THE BENEFITS… but we wanted to get married quick so I can get the benefits”
Wait, what? I am confusion.
"im marrying him for the benefits, but when you say it out loud it makes me sound bad!"
@@touyatodoroki7935 He proposed in such a cute and unique way. She's one of the kids who bullied other kids because they liked different, cooler things. I wished her boyfriend would've just broken up with her. If she can't respect him proposing in front of the plane I don't think she respects his job at all.
what that would logically mean is that they already wanted to get married regardless of any benefits, but because there are benefits attached, they think its better to do it sooner. considering the tone of her message she probably just doesnt want to look bad.
Frankly, if I were American, I'd be excited about getting benefits with my marriage too.
There are actually dates effecting military personnel and the type of housing they get. She was most likely referring to getting family housing. They have to get married before the next time he has to report his marriage status, or else they will be married but unable to live on the military base together.
My wife and I ran away from home. Got a quickie wedding in a rent-a-chapel. No guests, no friends, no family. We had a reception later that evening with family members but that's it. Been married now 32 years.
We also didn’t spend much. And we’ve been together 40 years and married 39 years.
Did the same.
"Is there anyone more entitled than a bride on her wedding day?"
Often, her mother. :P
Or his :D
True! :)
No, they are allowed to be entitled on there big day, as it is one biggest commitment any one can make to another person. And if they wish to make it perfect in every way then they should be allowed too, some people believe that marriage is for life and a once in a life time experience. so why would they not want it to be perfect. something to remember forever.
@@wendyattwell8946 The first line in my comment about entitled brides is a quote from the video. My statement is that the real entitlement is often from the mothers.
My sister's, I just want to get through it in one piece.
You know what I like about these videos? The difference my wife on her worst day and these women on their best, is astronomical! In 25 years I have NEVER felt embarrassed about my wife.
“My bridesmaid can’t afford the dress I picked out, what do I do?!!”
Uhm. Buy the dress. You wanted it. It’s YOUR DAY. I never understood that. Just like how these women are getting married and I’m single. 🤣
Be happy you're single. I've yet to meet a man worth having.
Me too! I don't get it... I guess kind, caring ladies aren't what guys are looking for!
I'm guessing this is an American thing? I've been both a bridesmaid and a bride and I wasn't asked to pay for my dress, nor did I think my bridesmaids would pay for theirs.
Guessing you got standards!! :D
Or offer to pay the difference if she can only spend 150. That would just be 80.
"I know it's in December-"
"I thought you said it's in the summer?"
Welcome to the southern hemisphere lol
I didn't even think about that, true lol
Rest of world must think it odd when Australia burns in the winter every year lol
Yeah I was going to comment that they're probably in Australia.
Then there's Malaysia, my country, where it's Summer ALL YEAR LONG.
@@izumiruki that too.
*Most of these women on here don’t sound mature enough to be dating, much less getting married!*
Pretty sure that's why the men like them. A simple mind is easier to control and manipulate. That's why it's so easy to order kids around. Brush your teeth. Go to bed. Etc. Their brain haven't fully developed yet. As they get older the less easy it gets and they start to ignore you if you don't teach them your voice is the law. The kids I took care of as a teenager still listens to me today. Some of them call me mom. It started as a way to piss off their own mom but it stuck. Remember I had to scold one of them because he was acting like an a-hole. He is twice as big as me, could break me in two easily, yet when I scolded him he cowered in fear. He was 22 I think. Everyone that was there went dead silent when I started scolding him.
@@rowenkylee5627 I’m pretty sure the brides are the controlling ones not the grooms
men are generally not mature enough either, so it's not a shock
Agreed
I love how brides say it’s their *one day* but it’s never just one day. It’s months of preparation and jumping through hoops. They don’t just think it’s their day, they think it’s their day, month, year, and decade
I wanted my teenage brother to be a part of my wedding, but I also knew he was super-self-conscious and hated fuss and getting dressed up. So I told him, you just wear whatever you like and don't let mum hector you into a suit. He wore a hoodie and jeans, and I was 100% fine with that, because I love him and the last thing I want is to traumatize someone I love.
Edited to add for clarity: of course my brother will wear a suit if it's asked or required of him. But this was MY wedding day, and I wanted him to be as comfortable as it's possible for someone with severe anxiety and depression to be.
Exactly.
@YogiLie erm... if the kids doesn't feel right if he is wearing that why force him. And no, we are raising a considerate generation that values consent so all good.
You sound awesome.
@YogiLie I mean we were screwed either way because your generation ruined the world climate, economy, social prosperity, environment, and standards for literally everything. But considering how you responded I can immediately tell you were a bridezilla(if your husband even stayed to deal with your bullshit or if you even managed to get someone) and are a standard everyday Karen who lacks basic understanding , compassion, sympathy, and spacial awareness for other people
@wildthornrose I don't even know you and I love you!
As a wedding photographer, asking for a refund if they get a divorce is beyond hysterical. 😂
Inr. 😂
Dude I was divorced before I even got the actual wedding album put together. I had the proofs and it’s totally on me that I hadn’t sent the ones in that I wanted for the album (my dad got sick rt after my wedding first year was pretty rough) so with that said I didn’t even get all that I paid $2,000 for (back in 2004) and I still would NEVER ask for a refund. My family said I could still get the book done just with family pics and I’m like yeah they will be so fun to look at me in the dress from a failed marriage ah no thanks. Point is photographer did their job it’s not up to them to have to refund shit if you can’t make your marriage work. Idk where this new trend came from but that is just ridiculous to me….
My sister is having a super proper wedding and all she asked of me was to let her pick what shade of pink my hair is and what gauges I’ll wear.
All the girls get to wear whatever style dress, whatever shoes, whatever hair, and everything as long as it fits the general colors.
Bachelorette party? Laser tag against the groomsmen then bar hopping.
Wedding food? Brick oven pizza.
The matching shades of pink make sense. Sounds like a really fun wedding.
You. I like you. Laser tag appeals to my nutty self as well, and it’ll be great memories.
This sounds like an awesome wedding!
I don't normally do weddings, but I would attend this one.
See this is an excellent idea
My wife and I, both in our 50s, entered our second marriage. We got married in the presence of her mom and my dad by a judge that was about 6'8" and a sub-terranean voice. It was so cool.
And then we went to our favorite little mom/pop bar and restaurant. We'd ordered appetizers in steam trays and put $500 on the bar. All our friends came. It was well less than $1000 for the whole thing. We discouraged gifts (got a bunch anyway) since by the time you're our age, you have all the appliances and artwork/decorations you can ever need.
It was a blast, and I'm still married to my best friend.
With these Bridezillas asking for a $1000 dollars wedding gifts, am I the only person wondering how much they spent on gifts for their friends weddings? 🤔🤔😂
Lol 😂 sameee
east answer for "gifts must be over $$$" (other than "no"):
"priceless" personal art, you can even put a price tag on it
my friend who got married two years ago just asked for money for a honeymoon ACTIVITY fund. not the hotels or anything just ziplining and wine tasting. i spent 80 dollars which was probably the largest tier on their little registry LOL. it was honestly the best registry i've ever taken part of. i'd be over the moon if someone got me an airfryer or a set of bbq utensils. these people want their guests to pay for everything. YIKES.
@@erinb6425 and to add up to this idea, my friends that did the same, after they returned from the honeymoon, they send me the photo of them doing the activity i paid and wrote a note how was the experience to them. So sweet. The did it for everyone.
@@Camilla-cb4kl that's actually adorable! I would definitely pay for honeymoon activities.
I don't understand some people, truly. I thought the entire point of a wedding was to share the event with others you care about, otherwise why bother with a wedding at all when you could just hire out actors to play the part of adoring people?
Thanks for the lovely dose of laughs, Charlotte. I'm loving your content.
You are absolutely right!!! For those bridezillas everyone has to 'play' a 'part'. You really pointed out their worldview. And 'hired actors'...I love your comment ('liked' it off course)
That is the entire point that my friends adore me ( and not him ) on my Wedding day, exerpt from by best friends ex wife while planning her ( not their ) Wedding.
Just think that they planning "perfect" wedding only to get divorced 2 years later.
Coz if you hire actors then you can't demand that they "gift" you a small fortune to be at the wedding.
@@orladarcy2924 No, but you can, apparently, still request gifts from people who you didn't invite to the wedding!
“Your money issues aren’t my problem”
If only the brides themselves could realize that
My husband and I got married in my apartment backyard, with my best friend and his best friend as our witnesses, and another friend to officiate the wedding. I wore a simple floral dress, and he wore his Air Force blues. In Alaska! 😊
We’ve been married for 20 years. Through cancer, deployments, babies, surgeries, and moves around the world… we’ve made it.
And - We have 4 kids, two of them are now are adults with relationships of their own.
Weddings are what you make of them. Relationship are what you make of them.
When i got married way back in 2000, i paid for my MOH and bridesmaids dresses and shoes , as a gift to all my girls i paid for the jewelry they wore ,and because we were already living together we put on the invitation no gifts just the company of our friends and family.
I really had a great wedding and all my girls had tattoos dyed hair just like me.
I could never be as mean as these brides
And your friends and family love you for who you are
@@leventmuyan21 thank i am very blessed to have great friends and family
@@heatherboz I know. You are great, and they are actually the blessed ones
@@leventmuyan21 thank you very much
This is how I thought weddings were meant to me... like the norm and not the exception. So glad you and your friends would have had an amazing day to celebrate your wedding x
My wedding gifts included, an Iron, a Vase, a Casserole dish, Cutlery, an Electric Knife, a toaster, and a group present of a dresser. This was 38 yrs ago, you got what you got and you were happy you got something. Times have changed, for the worst.
That sounds like what my mom got, but she still uses most of the kitchen stuff she got 40 years later, so the gifts lasted.
Yer but then people use to end of with five blenders or $5 coupon. Things are better now.
And the entitlement frenzy is speeding up. I fear for our society.
I eloped, so we didn’t get many gifts: a coffee maker, four crockpots, a Sears gift card, a Yankee candle, and a few other smallish items. But the most precious gift was from my mother; a small box with three used VHS tapes. Those movies were “Monty Python and the Holy Grail,” “Monty Python’s Life of Brian” and “Love at First Bite.”
These weren’t just any videos. The MP videos my mom and I used to watch when I was home and without a date on a Friday night. But when I was nursing a broken heart, my mom would get me chocolate marshmallow ice cream and put “Love at First Bite” in to watch together. She gave us those three videos because we “didn’t need them anymore, but someday [our] kids will.” Mom lost her battle with breast cancer eight months later. I still have the videos.
Most sound like decent gifts, but I hope you were looking for a dresser. Not sure what I would do with a suprise dresser. I guess sell of some other furniture to make space for it.
My mum has bugged me non stop about my hair and tattoos at my sisters wedding. Even trying to get my friends to tell me to change my whole look. Some people have completely missed the point of a wedding being about love 😅
my mum too! but for my dress and shoes. the bride (my sister) was fine with my choice but my mum wasnt...
To be fair it depends. You shouldnt be an obvious distraction. I'm thinking extreme goth 2 feet high spikey bright red hair. Etc. Some people are extreme with expressing themselves which is great for them but people like that can be inconsiderate towards other.
Nothing wrong with toning it down for a few hours so the focus isnt on you....
Do you have a dick tatoo on your arm or something vulgar?...what's hard about putting on a long sleeve shirt or dress...
Two sides to everything. They could let you be like how you want for a few hour or you can conform like how they want for a few hours. Or just dont go... either which way someone will be unhappy I guess.
Agreed - my sister was in my wedding party (years ago!) and has some tattoos - it didn’t even cross my mind! Like, they’re tattoos! Get over it! 🙄
I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding and initially I was excited but over time I started to regret it more and more. I wasn’t close with the other bridesmaids who were mostly the bride’s family and childhood friends and even though they had my phone number, they chose to communicate in a group chat on fb even though I didn’t have fb anymore. So I was obviously out of the loop and they told the bride I wasn’t participating (she wasn’t in the group chat). The wedding was 3 months away and I was in the process of a major move but the bride decided she wanted to have a serious phone call the night before the move, when I was still packing, and then the next day when I was literally driving the uhaul to my new place over 2 hours away. I told her as soon as I got to my new place I’d call her bc I was using my navigation and needed to pay attention to that during the drive but she took that as me not caring and asked me to leave the bridal party. I felt a little burned at first but it was for the best. I realized I’m not really a wedding person and probably shouldn’t have accepted the role in the first place. We’re actually still friends but not as close
I remember when I got married, I wanted my bridesmaids to wear red and recommended a shorter dress since photos were outdoor in summer. They all happened to pick the same dress, but I was so confused when they asked me about how I wanted them to do their hair, makeup, accessories, etc. I just told em to do what made them comfortable, and now I see why that was probably unusual.
Also, people need to stop begging photographers to work for free or cheap. Getting professional photos is a vastly greater quality if you can get a package. One of the things I'm so glad we were able to get - our photographer was so great. He dang well dove in front of me when he thought my husband was gonna see me before the ceremony XD
A friend of the family gave us our photos as their wedding gift. They are retired photographers, so I asked if they knew anyone who was still doing it that they recomended. They said they would do it and then wouldn't let me pay them. Then they also kind of served as bouncers that I had anticipated needing 😆. I was blown away by the generosity of so many people.
People try to get hair and make-up (and wedding soloists) for cheap, too. I don't work on brides anymore. If I do, I bring a team. I will gladly do bridesmaids or mothers of the bride. Brides need their own person. Or at least one persoin from a team. The expectations are SO high. Some cannot be pleased. I require a trial appointment and contract IF I decide to do a bride.
@@cynthiawilkins3149 Lots of peopls don't charge people they love. That's how it's done. No one should ever ASK for free or discounted work. It's totally different of soneone offers.
Sounds like a great chill wedding
And an awesome photographer 😄
Maybe it is just me but where I am from most photographers are self taught. I think there are five or six wedding photographers from my church. I am sure they are great but none of them have formal training. All have training for different careers. One in my opinion is in conflict as pastor of the church.
I once helped my friend with SO MANY details to make her wedding special, that she never even asked me to be in her wedding. All of her bridesmaids had backed out because they were having some kind of falling out with her and not helping her plan the big day. Then, a month before the ceremony, the bride had said she really didn’t want me in the wedding and was trying to spare my feelings because all her other bridesmaids were more attractive than I was. And yet, in the end, she had a few bridesmaids up at the alter with the her who hated her and her wedding photos were just sad. I was spared from being in a miserable wedding!!!! Yay!
That’s so terrible :( I feel so sad for you after all the help you offered her, but better soon than later you noticed she was an awful person so you didn’t waste no more time with her.
You were the one to prove yourself a real friend by actually helping. Did you ever consider writing your experience in full and posting it on Reddit?
You wrote devil wrong
Oh my, I hope you're not friends with her anymore. She sounds horrid.
She sounds like a little freak tbh 🤮
Ms. Dobre, as an almost 35 year old, single woman who is also low maintenance and not a psycho, I completely feel you on the bewilderment.
“Low maintenance and not a psycho” rotlf….true that!
Same and 45, still single. At this point I believe the good ones married the psychos....but even if they divorce, they are so warped they are no longer normal. Guys, get out sooner rather than later.
@@sarahdoanpeace3623 I don't like the term maintenance. It feels like you are having an object.
Ok Ms. C. I'm your huckleberry...marry me..here in Texas.
Shall we start a club? 😂
Is this how brides really are about gifts? I'm from India and this is a cultural shock tbh. Here we accept whatever the guests choose to gift. And there's no option to register gifts. Generally, Indian weddings are really big and extra with 500 guests on average. And no one cares about gift. It's only after the wedding is over, we open the gifts and sometimes we give way similar gifts to other close friends or family as well.
I know and understand brides getting fussy about her own outfits or stuff, but obsessing about wedding party outfits or hair color, it's weird
Same in the Philippines. Registries aren't a thing here! Only gifts! And a money dance or a ritual or voluntary donation. 😂
I traveled to India for a friend's wedding and she insisted NO GIFTS. I imagine she didn't want to schlep them all back to the US (she has dual citizenship, born in India but currently lives in the US, went back to her hometown to get married)
“Don’t come to my wedding if you’re pregnant.” “What a relief, thank you so much.” ~blocks her toxic ass~
My husband and I started to plan a wedding but were getting stressed out so one morning, on a day my husband had off work, and asked what he was doing that day. He said he had no plans so I asked if he wanted to get married and he said "why not". We were together for 10 years already so we got ourselves, our boys, and called my parents who lived nearby with my nieces and met at the courthouse down the road. The funniest part is when some guy was hitting on me in the parking lot as I was walking in. It was a lovely ceremony and afterward, we took our kids to McD's for a meal. I couldn't have had a more perfect day.
I love this ☺️
Oh my goodness! I thought there was absolutely NO chance of anyone else have virtually the same wedding story as us... but lo and behold! AND we go to McDonald's every year on our anniversary. 22 years and stil going strong!
This sounds like my dream wedding, actually - in Scotland it would be "hey honey, wanna go to the registry office and put our bands up" then wait 6 weeks because that's the quickest it can happen legally lol.
I had close to this same experience.
The stress and the family drama of needing the best sent me over the edge. I basically said, “SCREW THIS!!” Hubs and I headed to the courthouse and his mom met us there with my step son.
$60 later, we were married! My moms still mad that I didn’t throw a party for her to socialize 😂
But hey, we saved thousands and relieved ourselves of stress.
We hit 8 years this March!!
I didn’t get McDonald’s but we got a red velvet cake from Walmart. LOL
Love it! We did something similar. No huge wedding expense, and there was a small cake!
I got married in a £50 dress with just my husband, daughter and our parents. We had a meal in a restaurant afterwards and our daughter was babysat for the night. That was enough for me. We’ve been together 12 years, married 7 and still love each other very much. I just can’t understand putting other people through so much stress and financial difficulty for one day. These brides are insane!
Me too!! I think I spent $200 for clothing. Married in Las Vegas chapel. We went to a Sushi restaurant after. Parents ended up paying for the "wedding gift" lol but we did bring $400 to pay.
I got engaged this passed January and getting married next October, and I am horrified by the idea that people expect the wedding to be paid for and for people to buy super expensive shit. I can't even fathom.
The type of men who would marry these type of woman, are saving the rest of us from getting stuck with them.
Good point
You gotta be a very special type of man to marry one of those people, and not a man who wants a healthy relationship with mutual concern for the other's wellbeing....
those poor poor souls
Charlotte, you don't want these people's men. They're human shells. You'll get yours when the right time comes and he'll be awesome.
If I were 10 years younger and in Canada and it wouldn't be creepy then Charlotte would be exactly my kind of partner.
Either human shells or just as psycho as their brides
Absolutely, Charlotte is a beautiful, intelligent woman who any man would be proud to call his wife. I used to think like this and wonder why all these nasty, entitled women got their men and slowly I came to realise that in marrying these harridons the men were showing how flawed THEY were, so listen to the above comments Charlotte, the right man is indeed, waiting in the wings and believe me he would have as much time for this type of woman as you do....none!
I was just going to say the same. These are not men who are marrying these women. Some alien life form that has infested the planet unfortunately.
This. Those men have personality issues too.
Lol 😂 “wait, December? Didn’t she say the wedding was in summer?” Australia, the answer is Australia Lol you are so freaking funny. 💜
Omg you’re right!!! Damn we totally forget about the Southern Hemisphere 😂
Or New Zealand, based on the English.
That’s what I thought although I had a few other countries in mind too like South Africa, New Zealand Papua New Guinea etc
Lol, my first thought too. Southern hemisphere, my dear!
@@itsjustiqra yeah but, you got what I meant, all the same, right? Lol
About the sibling story. I have a fiance. We've been together for more than 4 years. We live in different countries so getting married is kinda necessary if we want to live together (visa etc.). My sister has been with her now husband for more than 15 years. My fiance and I wanted to get married last summer, but my sister announced she will get married in August. Naturally, I postponed my plans to get married to my fiance because having two family weddings at short notice is inconsiderate to the guests who will have to spend a lot of money to attend (which none of us has). I would've gotten married in summer as well since other seasons are hectic for adults and children (school, work), and traveling abroad for foreign guests would be easier in summer. We, out of practicality postponed the wedding until next year. So, yeah, the bride-to-be (sister) is not unreasonable for having concerns over the brother's wedding. Also, when you are a sibling there are some unwritten rules about the order of things, right? The brother and his new fiance are obviously trying to upstage them since they knew her wedding was supposed to happen before, there's no doubt about it. Something is stinky here.
Uh, while I do share some concerns about how fast the brother is moving...I don't think the bride is really concerned about the family when she talks about having a "whole year." You chose to wait until the next year out of consideration and expense. She's trying to hog the whole year. As for sibling order, worrying about that doesn't do anything good for familial harmony, else I'd still be waiting for 2 of my siblings to get married.
As for your situation, if either you or your fiancé is trying to get to the US, it is easier on a fiancé visa than after you get married. I know of multiple couples who have been stuck living in different countries because one lived in the US. One bride was stuck in her home country basically being a single mom for a couple of years while he could only come visit occasionally. The couple who used the fiancé visa only had to wait about 5 months to be together.
In my country people love to give flowers to the bride so we added to our invitations a note saying that instead of flowers they could bring art and school supplies for children in need and they did. We also have two witnesses instead of bridesmaids, I had my brother and my husband had his best friend. We had lots of fun at our wedding together with friends, family and our one yo daughter. Sorry about that long comment, it got somehow nostalgic 😅
Now THAT'S how a wedding should be.
That's a brilliant idea!
I didn’t understand 3 years ago why my maid of honour asked me what dress she will wear at my wedding. Now i see why she was surprised when i told her to wear whatever she likes most. In my country tradition we don’t have many brides maids, only one and asking for presents is considered rude. We asked our guests not to buy flowers but to give that money to charity of they are ok with that.
It's rude here too
We also told our bridesmaids and brides man to wear whatever they wanted. And our officiant. And everyone else. Had the wedding in my parents’ yard and cooked all the food except the cake ourselves with family’s help. Didn’t ask for gifts either, and outside of family only one person gave us one and it was a very thoughtful gift that they happened to have anyway - a first edition of a book we both loved that they thought we would enjoy.
Our wedding was perfect and we had multiple people tell us it was the most fun they’d ever had at a wedding.
Yeah. I picked out a few dresses and asked my bridesmaids individually if they liked any of them. The most expensive was $36. Most were under $15. I offered to pay for them, and I told them that if they wanted to wear something they already had, that was fine, too. I was whatever the opposite end of the spectrum is. I was a little too laid back. Family and bridal party had to push to get any specific direction, which wasn't good either. There has to be a middle ground 😆
Same here man. At my sisters wedding, her friends group came up with the idea that since 3 of them worked as stage costumers and makeup artists, to have everyone of their age and younger go as Pirates.
And then some of the older folk got wind of it and wanted in.
Our 90 year old Great Grandfather who fought in and survived 2 World Wars came dressed as a Pirate to the one and only Great Grandchilds wedding he was able to attend (died 2 years later).
My sister loved it. There's nothing as memorable as a surprise like that.
As a twice married woman, trust me when I say that the wedding ends in a few hours but the marriage lasts years, or in Karen’s case, only months. My boss got married, spent 70k, was getting divorced within 6 months. They were so focused on planning this blow out wedding that they barely noticed they weren’t right for each other.
Instead of a wedding, desire the love of your life and a true partner. Weddings are pretty much a BS overpriced money making industry, hyped up to make people feel like they have to keep up with the Jones’. A good man will come along, just wait. And when he does, I hope you will see that the wedding is just one day of parting but a good man is for life. :)
this...this is a good comment
45 and still waiting. To the young....be actively looking, waiting for him to knock on your door doesn't happen. Trust me.
@@user-jy3zl2vp4b I agree!! Sorry, I didn’t really mean wait for a miracle. I mean wait for the right one but also actively look.
After so many bad relationships, I sat down and made a detailed list of the things that were important and things that didn’t matter to me. For example, I really wanted someone with a steady job, a decent vehicle, an ability to spell and someone who is kind. Those were must haves for me. However, I was ok with him not having a full head of hair and having children. By the time I was 36 and looking seriously, ruling out men with perfect hair and kids would have seriously cut down the pool of good and available men.
Anyway, after I got my list together, I started an online dating profile. I made it clear in my profile the basic things I wanted. I said if you don’t meet this criteria, please do not bother to reply. I also asked them to write back with what was important to them. The ones who wrote back with lewd comments were deleted and blocked immediately as were people pressuring me into meeting that day. Also, if men popped in and didn’t meet my basic criteria, delete. Gradually, there were several people of interest that I communicated with for a few weeks at a time but as soon as I saw one of my red flags pop up (one guy wanted bus fare to be able to come meet with me) I nicely said no thanks. I kept on this pursuit until I eventually met my current husband. We wrote these long emails back and forth for three weeks getting to know each other. Eventually we started talking on the phone and eventually had our first date. He met every criteria on my must have list. Later on, he told me he loved me before even meeting me in person.
So my advice is to work at dating like it’s a job. Figure out what’s realistically important to you, don’t even accept people one toe into your life until you already know they meet your basic criteria. When I got to a certain age, I realized how much time I had wasted with good looking boys who really weren’t relationship material. So write down your list and if these people don’t match it, NEXT!!! Good luck with the ❤️ search and be careful out there!!
My thoughts exactly! The only things me and my husband were not compromising on for our wedding was the date and the location. We wanted to get married on February 21st and we wanted to be married in our church's temple. Everything else was lovely and turned out great, and our families helped so much, so it didn't really matter when little details got changed around to fit our budget and schedule and the amount of work would be needed. If it was too hard, too expensive, or too time consuming then it didn't really need to be in the reception. And what we did do was lovely and it was a great day and that's all that mattered. We didn't even do matching bridesmaid dresses because I kind of don't like that concept. I told my sister's and soon to be sister in laws that of they wanted a new dress they could pick whatever they wanted and whatever price and color, and as long as they loved their dresses (and would hopefully want to wear them again so they could get some good use out of them) that I didn't care what they wore, and one of my sister's actually wore a dress she already had and they all looked beautiful. I think it's great that weddings can be this big massive celebration and how elaborate and creative people get with their weddings, but I think once the wedding is the only thing you think of and is damaging your relationships with your friends and loved ones that you may have gone too far and lost the focus of what a wedding is all about, you marrying someone you love and sharing that happiness with your other loved ones. The day doesn't have to be perfect in every detail to be a perfect memory of a day.
my wife and i got married at salvation army(free) spent 300 on my suit and food 750 on her dress and 150 on our rings. we love each other. our future together was the whole idea.
I don't even want to get married, but listening to these stories makes me feel like a better person by just acting like a normal person.
I was a very flexible bride: as long as my bridesmaids bought dresses in the color I specified (royal blue) then they could wear whatever style of dress they wanted. I was so happy with everyone who wanted to share our special day with us! I couldn't imagine making any unnecessary demands on any of my bridesmaids or guests!
Exactly, this is how it should be. 👌🏾🙂
Same here. I asked my uncle to give me away, he had a beard down to his waist. Everyone thought he was going to have to shave it. I was mortified! I loved him for who he was and that beard was part of him. I couldn't imagine asking someone to do something so drastic to be in my wedding.
I told my bridesmaids the same thing. As long as they matched my colors they were good.
Same!
In the UK the bride pays for all the bridesmaids dresses, shoes and accessories for the wedding. The best man and male ushers also have their hire suits/kilts etc paid for. It is also seen as quite rude to have a wedding gift registry, you take what you are given and hand write personal thank you cards to everyone for their gift (whether you like it or not).
"very flexible" would be no demands at all. Any wedding I've been to there has been no crazy color theme, to me this seems to be more for photos than just actually hanging around with the ppl you enjoy and having a good day together.
“You are already being gross, might as well be honest.” Words to live by.
Wel this is what happens when you tell a generation of little girls that the best and most important day of there lives is the weddingday. When your spend your life play planning your wedding with friends and your mom like it's a glorious big deal and the goal of your life
Your thumbnail photo is beautiful.
Absolutely. My parents got married in their lunch break - my father wore his Navy uniform and my mother wore a simple cotton two-piece blouse/skirt outfit which she rewore many times over the years. They had 2 witnesses and did it at the registry office. They were married 36 years until my father passed away. I always loved this about them and I think it was a big part of why I never had that toxic wedding culture drilled into me or passed down.
It's also an incredibly privileged thing to PLAN to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding - for a lot of people that's a down payment on a home, an education for your child, and even then you're still lucky. For others still it's paying off debt or taking care of medical expenses.
Aww thanks 🥰 never saw the responses hahaha
Exactly, I don't think anybody needs marriage anymore, there's so much more in life.
YES ohmygod
the most important phase is after the wedding tho, not the wedding itself
Regarding the hair color ones (only in the case of the bridesmaid - the one about the guest was f***ing ridiculous lol), I actually had this requested of me as a bridesmaid from my bride, and I didn't mind complying at all. Her and her fiance's family are East Asian and pretty conservative. She's also a super Type A Virgo lol. She never demanded it of me, but she gently requested if I would be willing to keep my hair my natural color rather than having my signature seaweed green color that I'd had for the past 6 years.
It was also less about the day itself, and more about the pictures that would live on forever - especially the ones that would be shared through her entire family, including members who lived overseas and who were SUPER traditional. Maybe the difference was in the way she asked and the fact that she is an INCREDIBLE friend to me of 15 years, but it would've hurt me more to show up with green hair knowing how upset it would've made her, so it was easy for me to do that for her.
I also could clearly imagine her family berating her about how ugly the pictures were because of me - which doesn't bother me at all, but I knew it would wear down on her spirit after everything she had already been through with the wedding.
Not gonna lie though, I REALLY missed the green and would google people with green hair every few days just to longingly look at them and live vicariously through them in anticipation for the day I would finally be able to dye it again. XD But it was definitely worth it.
Just a quick note: December is the summer for the Southern Hemisphere.
Yeah! But most people seems to not know about it! We're used to it!
Yeh aus has summer is December 😂 so when she said it and was confused I was like ummm it makes perfect sense to me 😂
Get this guy to Harvard
prolly was australia. came here to say that
@@freckleKaren Hmm there are other English speaking countries in the S. Hemisphere ...as well.
I used to feel the same way, Charlotte. I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s, most of my friends were married, and I was single. I was a bedside nurse at the time, and would have patients that were terrible, nasty women but their husbands were sweet and devoted. I would get so miffed and upset that these nice men married these witchy women; meanwhile I had a good paying job and was not crazy. I ended up meeting the most wonderful man and getting married a few years later. My friends often say how sweet my husband is and how he’s the most chivalrous man they know. I’m so grateful everyday to have him, and it was definitely worth the wait. Hang in there.
Dyaaam😂😂 Does he have any more brothers that are just like him (sounds like an amazing man) I so tired of all the crazy mean ladies around me getting married and I'm very polite and kind yet single 😂😂😂😂
@@mwethiakaruri2315 he has a married brother who is nice, but not really like him. My husband is the most chivalrous man I know. Today he said while we were looking at cars for me, mama gets the best and daddy gets the rest, as it should be.
I had the same thing happen and my husband said the same for himself. We definitely attribute a lot of things we DON'T do to our previous partners 😂 I know I'm way more patient now cuz let's be real, I don't wanna get thrown back into the dating pool 😂😂
Good for you for not succumbing to the pressure some women feel about getting married before 35 or so. I had the same experience you describe, thinking, "Why not me? I'm employed, nice, polite, good family, no scandalous past, good-enough looking, fit, "and I could not get a serious boyfriend to save my life. Finally Mr. Wonderful came along, our parents like each other very much, we rarely aruge and get over it quickly, and after 25 years, everything is wonderful. You go, Girl! Glad we didn't "Settle."
Just got engaged and all I want is to rent an Airbnb and have a pizza party in loungewear. Everyone said “No. You have to have a wedding.” Am I a bridezilla if I insist on sweatpants? 🤔🤯🤷🏻♀️
Good for you. They will remember this wedding for a long time. You will reminisce years and years and say that was the coolest wedding ever.
Do the wedding Rosie, you can decide on all the rules and STILL say "i did the wedding just like you wanted, i did you a favor!"
Btw honestly i would love a wedding with sweatpants and yoga bras, flip flops and lazy couches rules 😂 yours would be my favorite wedding ever
Your wedding plans sound fantastic! 🤗 Pizza party loungewear weddings 2021 😍
I say do it cause at the end of the day it’s YOU and your what would be HUSBANDS day no one else’s
yes. be the bridezila. it is your day. insist on sweatpants if they come even in jeans, devour them all
The tattoo one probably took place somewhere in the southern hemisphere where their seasons are opposite ours.
I don’t understand this mentality. I’ll just go to court and save the money and eliminate the stress. 😅 it’s just one day! Its the actual relationship that’s important.
Right? And more importantly, save my hard earned money haha I’d rather blow my savings on pretty much anything else over a crazy wedding.
@@laurenc4138 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I did this. Weddings are overrated.
sadly, we are spending a lot of money on a huge wedding because it'll cost the exact same in therapy for all the abusive and judgmental comments from family if we don't have a huge wedding.
That's what hubby and I did. A close wedding with family only at city hall, saved our money and went on a nice honeymoon, enjoying the drives and fabcy hotel/restaurant we went to. Couldn't be happier 🥰
When I was younger my older sister flew off the rails that I was gonna be late to her wedding, I was driving up from tx to be there. After she went full crazy and was screaming at me that I had ruined her wedding I said let’s be honest I will be on time to the next one. Needless to say she really went off on me . Fun fact she’s on her third marriage I’m still on my first 😏
I'm so confused by the whole "pay for the expensive wedding that I wanted AND our frivolous Europe honeymoon" is this really a cultural thing in American weddings or some people are just really that narcissistic...
Not "American." Just narcissistic.
In America it’s customary for the bride’s family to pay for the wedding, at least I thought it was. But it’s certainly not customary for the wedding party or guests to pay for it.
@@darcybrummett7004 Traditionally in Germany it's the same, though I really think, most couples pay for their weddings themselves nowadays
It's not a cultural thing for most Americans. Perhaps the super spoiled upper class people ,who always got what they wanted and never learned to care about others or even work for what they have, are the ones who see this behavior as remotely understandable.
Honestly, I don't understand that either.
"I'm so low maintenance compared to these psychos" Had me rolling lol Hell, it could be the title of my biography, and yet still depressingly single lol
Instead of me being bridezilla, my mother in law decided to take on that role unprovoked. Almost cost her a future contact with her son, we were both appalled at her behavior. Also, her legal name is Karen..
@@NYD666 Somehow, she lives up to all of the stereotypes.
@@NYD666 I bet the name "Karen" will die out completely within one generation.
No sane person would dare name their newborn baby girl "Karen", now.
Sometimes if you cut the contact, you have room to heal.
@@piiinkDeluxe We didn't speak for nearly 2 months, I think she realized that she was the problem.
What else would you expect from a Karen? 😂
I am always surprised that those people have friends at all.
They may not have any friends AFTER this.
Yeah they got “friends” not friends if you know what I mean 😜
Right.
Mina, Ikr?! Honestly, how they are not shredded in a huge ad in the city classified section, I cannot understand.
I’m surprised they even got a husband to have a wedding in the first place.
And my husband thinks I'm high maintenance because I have more than one type of lotion.
Next time he says anything, make him sit down & watch this video!!
@@AuditClerk nah let him watch the whole series 😂😂😂😂💔
You’re low key maintenance
I know I'm high maintenance, but that's because my form of autism. Things need to go in a certain manner or I get stressed or panicked, but I'll never try to blame the person causing it (unless they do it on purpose) because I know it's my problem and my disability.
Luckily I have a very patient and loving fiance
🤣😂😅😆😁
You said, "I can't wait to be a bride." Your dream has come true, my dear. Look at you now. You and Mike just got engaged and it sounds like it was a beautiful night you 2 had. He seems like a great person and I'm glad you've found each other. ❤❤ Love to you both
Statistics show that cheaper weddings, with the most amount of people attending, have the highest chance of the marriage being stable. To be honest I think that this is due to the personalities of the married couple. If someone is obsessed with an extravagant looking wedding, but don't want to spend too much money on anyone else attending (bar and catering tab so they don't invite a lot of people) then the entitlement of the couple, or just one of them, is going to cause strife in the marriage.
Your explanation is actually one of the reasons for that phenomenon. At least in a context of social science and the study of behaviouristic. So yes, I can only agree to that. You pointed out something important: A life lesson.
Had a quick church ceremony and closed down the bar in jeans. Real class-aye affair. Celebrating 11 years together this year.
Our wedding was under $500.00. We will celebrate 26 years in July. It was a very small wedding in a tiny country church with just a few friends and family. My neighbor made our cakes, punch, and finger sandwiches as our gift. We didn’t get professional photos. We were young and super broke. Sometimes I think about doing a nice vow renewal, but I’m happy with our simple little wedding. We’ve built a good life together that we are proud of. 😊
@@crystalh450 completely agree. I didn't want my parents to throw an extravagant wedding so we had an afternoon backyard reception . I found out that after my husband and I left for the honeymoon most of the guests stayed well into the night and the party got wild and fun. Apparently my Dad knows how to throw a party, lol
@@poguemom3 That's what really matters!
The kind of guy they’re marrying isn’t the kind of guy you’d be interested in anyway. Something tells me, in 95% of these, they’re a perfect match 👍
🤣 Good point!
When I got married I told everyone NOT to buy any gifts, we had a charity donation "wedding cake" (cardboard wedding cake with an opening for donations). Dress code was "wear whatever you feel comfortable in" .... so, one guest turned up in slippers 😂😂 (they had shoes in their car).
Bridzillas are so entertaining tho 😂😂😂
@Dulce Michelle Flores
Aww, bless you Dulce, I hope and (will now) pray for your special someone to be blessed with your love,💞🙏💞
We put on our website, on the template's included Registry page; "We have no registry, & expect no gifts. As a mature couple who have both lived independently for years" - I was 32, he was 30 - "we already have everything we could need. It means the world just to know you're joining us, & we consider your travel expenses more than gift enough. :-)
If anyone really _does_ personally want to give us something, we would treasure anything handwritten or made.
But otherwise, please just come; your presence is present enough."
We still got phone calls about it (& about what felt like everything else that we covered on the site; it seemed as though everyone just ignored the link we put at the bottom of their invite, with "More Details Here"), & we still received a bunch of envelopes on the day. Which was very kind + generous, & of course we were sufficiently effusive in our thanks! ^_^
I certainly don't expect everyone to be us, but _these_ women are just wild.
Yeah me too. No bridesmaids no best man and everyone could wear what they wanted and have fun. The only speeches were from my husband and myself 😁 And I kept my name.
My BFFFF wanted me to schedule my wedding around when she MIGHT be pregnant. I laughed and said I'd wheel her down the aisle in a wheelchair if necessary but that's not how I'm deciding my wedding date. She didn't get pregnant until 5 months AFTER my wedding.
I am triggered as a photographer by that "if we get divorced thing." This is exactly why client contracts exist. You are paying for the services rendered day of the photoshoot and for editing done to complete said photoshoot and the final products. If you break up with your boyfriend in between the time I took the shots and you get them (happened!)....guess what, you do not get a refund!!! I don't care if he cheated on you and ruined your life and your dreams and you just can't bare to look at the shots of you kissing and holding hands....not...my problem....and also see your contract or see my lawyer. Choices!
HA. #FACTS...🤣🤣😂😂
Next thing they will offer to pay you in "exposure" on social media.
@@scipioafricanus5871 That is also why we take deposits prior to shoots because we don't deal in social media credit/monopoly money/handshakes/promises/shout-outs/or IOUs! Young in the game photographers do often work for exposure though, so on the end of the client, it doesn't hurt to ask, but know your audience like someone charging $50 for a 4 hour session, and 50 photos, cool, them.
It seems so weird to me to ask for a refund after the fact. Photographers donate their time, services, and skill to take the photos. None of that can be regained so obviously they should be paid for that, and not have to refund anything.
There's only one case in which I'd approve of giving the money back: you've probably heard of the couple who put down a deposit for their wedding photographer, and before the wedding the gf/wife-to-be died. The guy asked for his deposit back and the photographer not only refused but got pretty nasty about it. I think I remember reporters looked into him and he wasn't a trained photographer and his pics were awful.
I think it's so funny how much planning goes into one day of their lives instead of having that much planning and focus on their actual marriage and then wonder where or why it all went wrong. REALLY
seriously, if I knew my future spouse was to act like this I would cancel the engagmenet and probably the entire relationship altogether. I understand wanting this day to be as special as possible, but don't treat people like shit, don't be a bitch and don't demand gifts my god.
Because some people are narcissists, and think that not only is the CEREMONY all about HER and HER wants, but so is the marriage. With predictable results. With Womens Lib, Feminism, whatever you wanna call it, why do women care so much about the damn ceremony, when most guys couldn't care less and just wanna get it over with?
@@donellmuniz590 I am naturally more submissive and do alot for my family so does my fiancee. We both care about the day because we are taking time out of our busy schedules and busy lives to just spend a day (in reality a weekend) focusing on ourselves. It's not like one day it's a day where we can put aside the stress of everyday life and enjoy ourselves with people we care about and who care about us
@@sonyaberry9805 As long as you're both on the same page, and neither of you makes it all about only yourself, it's all good.
When we had our wedding, we had to be super frugal. My bride and her mom made the bridal gown and we all pitched in on the bouquets, boutonnieres, and other flower arrangements. We were pretty young and broke but everything turned out beautifully. Even my dry ice flower arrangements were gorgeous as the fog flowing onto the floor made it look like we were dancing on a cloud at our reception. Yeah, it was a LOT of work but with all the help of family and friends made everything perfect. At no point did either my bride or myself expect anyone to change their lives for us or hurt their finances just to come to our wedding. Hell, most of the folks that attended helped. That was one VERY happy day and 35 years later, I'm still one very happy hubby. These bridezillas have NO clue what is important when it comes to marrying purely for love.
When I got married, my matron of honor was going to be 7 months pregnant, so I changed the dresses to something she would look great in. The other girls were all for it too. What good is a wedding that does not make everyone happy to be there.
To be fair to the bride whose brother scheduled his wedding for three months after hers-asking non-local family and friends to travel to two weddings so close together is kind of a lot, especially if it involved flying and staying in a hotel for several days. There are likely going to be people who can’t afford to go to both, and that sucks if those people are close family members.
Yes, I agree and not that the length of a relationship will dictate the marriage but she has a point about the entire thing.
It's time for a joint wedding 🎉
My sister-in-law did the same thing to my husband and I. We announced our engagement, we had been together for about two years at that point, didn't even have a day in mind or anything planned and still haven't gotten legally married yet. A couple of months go by and she announces that she is getting married to a guy she had been dating for four months. She got married six months later and then divorced him three years after that because he had a gambling and crack addiction. At the time she announced her engagement, my husband said he felt she was just trying to upstage us and beat us to the alter. Honestly, it wasn't a big deal to us that she did that but we were more concerned that she chose to marry a man she barely knew and ended up hurt in the end. Dude was a piece of work.
Yeah I agree. Travelling is expensive. Anyway attending marriages are a bit expensive as it is an event and even if you are just a guest you do have to buy clothes fit for the occasion. Where I'm from you have many rituals and it's atleast 3 different functions/events minimum and picking out outfits and jewellery etc is a bit of a hassle( others might not feel this but I do). And then travelling to another place. Not to mention that her dates are closer to financial year closings so maybe some people might have told her that they cannot come but will definitely come for the second wedding ?!? Maybe. Anyway whatever the reason, it cannot hurt to wait for 2-3 more months. And if they feel that their relationship will be stressed then they need to think about the reasons
Yeah that’s exactly what I was coming to the comments to say. She’s totally in her right to be upset about them planning a wedding so close to hers
I want to travel around Europe too. That's why I got a job. I didn't DEMAND my friends and family pay for it. Like an entitled weirdo.
Also as someone who has lived my whole life in several European cities (Paris, Dublin, London) and travelled around many others, a "Europe trip" doesn't need to cost 30k for it to be memorable or enjoyable. In fact the more you spend, the less likely it is you'll get an authentic experience - sure if you stay in the best hotels and go to the best restaurants, but that's not the real culture of the place so why are you even going? Just to say that you did? A lot of amazing places in Europe a week of bar hopping and getting the best food will cost you less than a single night out in New York or San Francisco.
And surprisingly, some people think like this
I bet you spent less than 10K per month too!
This is the most craziest video of bridezilla's I've ever watched
Same
One of my good friends just got engaged. The drama started when she messaged me Facebook and told me, not asked, that I was going to be a bridesmaid. The message literally read, you're being a bridesmaid. Now, I'm 6 months pregnant and she knew I was pregnant when this started. I told her I wasn't sure if I could. I'm due in late April and the wedding is in July. I told her I couldn't commit to anything because I wasn't sure how I would react to the rest of the pregnancy, labor and delivery, if I would be okay, if the baby will be okay, etc. Her response was well, you're still coming right I EXPECT you to be there. Excuse me? I called her and had a long heated talk with her. Since she never talks on the phone not on speaker, her fiance heard everything. I heard him ask her if she was serious before he took the phone and said, she meant we hope you can come we would love to have you there but completely understand if you can't. Now, she's asked me to be part of her blue crew and a candle lighter. Everything she asks me about something she refers to it as someone who doesn't WANT to be part of the wedding. I told her that it's not I don't want to it's that you're having a wedding less than 3 months after I'm giving birth and physically cannot do it.
Charlotte-“you mean to tell me there are women like this who have husbands or have future husbands and I don’t?!”
*laughs In loneliness*
My life 🤣
Good girls never get to be with a good guy, because they're atracted by the "bad boy" type 😂 So, i don't think Charlote looks for a romantic guy, but, more of a "bad boy", with a motocycle, that he'll call "Muh byk" 😂 But, i might be wrong too ! ...
The trick is to be a psychopath, literally.
Love bombing 💣 ✅
Gaslighting ✅
Isolate your partner from family and friends so you can control them. ✅
@@Mariet31 that’s how my longest relationship lasted 🤣🤣🤣
@@moontiddiez33 hope you are joking.