This is encouraging. 😂 I'll hit 40 next year this time. I plan to study and read a lot of books this year. I am going to learn what I missed out in school. 😂🎉❤ May my forties and thereafter be legendary!
I am 45 and absolutely agree. I have not felt more myself than the older I get and so far, I love it. Self care is integral to this process since it seems the real fun hasn’t even started yet. Learning is wonderful.
39 next year and I’m battling a brain condition, mostly alone. There is a great deal of darkness but it keeps my pen moving. I believe my greatest works will arise from this inferno.
Since turning 40, I have lost 2 brothers and numerous other family members and pets, began recovery for addictions to nicotine and alcohol, got certified to teach yoga, had a spiritual awakening, going through menopause, and, now at 48, I am in my last semester of grad school for counseling-something I've always wanted to do but never had the opportunity. So, by 50, I will be in a totally different career ready to start my new life!
45 here and also an ex addict, I got my Psychotherapy degree this year and have also just started my new path. I can't wait for you to get the natural high of achieving that ❤ happy new year.
nope. you're not :) You may feel like or think, but you arent remotely as healthy or energetich than you were at 20. I do agree on the purpose part tho...its the same with me, im 40.
Mine happened at 30, when i quit my career, moving to the countryside alone. Lost my identity as a successful person, lost connections with most friends and family. I was reborn. I found my freedom. Now looking back, i am glad i did that, life did begin anew ..
"Lost my identity as a successful person" .. That is interesting, how did that happen? Did it hurt to suppress? I consider my identity a career person and as I get older not only is it more daunting but it's making me resentful.
Interesting, I’m 30 and broke but my goal is to aim to stack enough to buy a small house in the countryside in 10years and live off grid mostly. Any advice ?
Crisis in Latin simply means a crossroads, a time when something needs to come to a change. I think the word crisis has been tautologically changed into a negative context over the years. A good example is "never let a crisis go to waste". Indeed, embrace crisis in all forms, and learn from them.
The older you get, the more invisible you become. It's a good thing, no pressure to be who everyone else wants you to be. You can finally be your true self.
Also the older you get, the older the people that you once listened to & looked up to get closer to passing on from this world, you gain total freedom. You naturally begin to drift away from elders and their expectations
@@ItsNeverTooHot4Leather No trust me, @discodan417 comment is spot on. I work for two very large companies that have lot's of employees. All of the older employees that are not management are invisible to the younger employees. The younger employees want nothing to do with the older employees and don't include them in their inner circles or breaks and lunches. There is much less pressure when your older because not only because you stop caring what other people think but because the focus is off of you in the public.
At 41 I discovered Jung, Maslow, Nietzsche and most importantly Stoicism. It completely changed how I view life, and I've made incredible changes since then, let go of people that didn't deserve me, and found new amazing friends. Worked on my issues and am glad to say, I'm a completely different person, a person I finally love and amazing people love me. Although it has been incredibly tough at times, I'm more content than I've ever been. Two things are most important to find your way, friends. Let go of fear: this will allow you to go where you don't want to go. Never lie to yourself when you get there: this will allow you to see where you have to change.
Recently discovered stoicism after realising my wife and partner since my teens displays traits of a covert narcissist. I've had a bit if a breakdown, and I think it is my way through it all.
I feel the same... plenty of money squandered... good jobs fired from... altho my finances and job are good going on 4+ yrs now. 2025 is upon us lets make it matter
Ive had several issues in my life and a stroke at 22. Im 40 and will be 41 soon and am taking my health seriously working hard to take care of my family
No such thing as midlife crisis unless that idea has been planted in your head I’m 67. My dad said the 40s were the best I disagree. I think 60s are the best and it keeps on getting better. I don’t listen to what other people say about aging I just live my life and have a great job having fun.
Sounds like denial on steroids… did you ever have a dark night of the soul? You must have been born perfect then had no need to evolve! At forty I quit a college tenure track career to buy ten acres & start a humane society. Not your idea of fun but it changed my understanding of everything
As a person who is a bitnover half way to where you are, and over half way to the decade you had mentioned (35), and having had struggled with mental and physical health, and wanting to control my mortality, when and how it is taken from me, my whole life, reading your comment, and your outlook really opened my mind and heart always bit, as well as tickled me all over. Your view on life, almost all the way into your 60's, and you having it be the greatest time you feel you've experienced, in all your years, it gives me hope, and makes me embrace wanting to live another day(maybe even a few more decades) and give it a try. The whimsy, and lightheartedness hearing someone, out of nowhere mention such a random time. . .your 60's of all times,gives me prospect and makes me excited to see what tomorrow brings. If you dont mind me asking, do you know why it has heen the best in your eyes? Any specific changes in life, experience, or even just philosophical outlook on life happen differently for you, or do you just happen to realize you have taken it with a bigger grain of salt and enjoyed it more? Thanks for your wonderful comment!
@@noahtesfaye4718 There's only one source for Socrates, and its quotes can't really be confirmed (Plato). But that totally sounds like something out of _Republic._ Could've been in _Apology,_ too. Yeah, probably that one, since in it he was charged with corrupting the minds of young people.
@noahtesfaye4718 there is no real proof that Socrates even existed...so... (I don't wanna go further claiming that there is no proof that Plato existed neither, otherwise people would kill me, so steong is their belief...)
Wow, I don't know how this video came up in my suggested list, but it is so true. I am 39 and last week I gave a notice about quitting my job. My tiredness of a rat race has overgrown fears of unknown and taking risk of doing what I really love. And comments of people experiencing the same are so true and inspiring. Thanks for a well put video.
Good for you. I’m about to turn 40 and this video just popped up during a really inspirational time of transition. Often I feel like I’m alone in these thoughts and fears. I’m glad I’m not alone.
All the best on this new journey. I wish I had the courage but it feels like any move I make now will cripple me considering I have young dependents and all.
I just turned 40 (December 2024), and this all seems completely valid. For me, it has been a process over several years of letting go of some things (including relationships), and realizing the difference between my persona and my true self. Early on it felt like a loss, but now I feel differently. It's not that I have lost interest in doing or learning, but rather that I am more present and savor each moment. And I'm happy. The now is all we really have. Goals are important, but the finish line is never as important as the journey. Remember, things don't have to last forever to be meaningful. Nothing lasts forever.
I'm turning 40 tomorrow. In many ways it does feel like starting over. I have many more experiences and am less delusional, but I am also less motivated and ambitious. I am starting to reflect on what is really important to me in this life, and have yet to find any clear directions, except for one thing that I practice every day.
Damn, turned 40 this year. This was weird. I started my own business last year. I Retired early from Boston Whaler boat manufacturing. I 18 years of fiberglass /gelcoat /mold building experience . Ran my own team for a few years, then went to RnD the last 6 years. i thought i would retire there, I was still miserable, I was missing something in my life and knew I could take my skills and start my own boat repair business. I love being my own boss , making my own schedule, traveling all over Florida. Meeting customers, working at dealerships, boat yards ,on docks, backyards. It’s different all the time. I am currently making a mold to sell Dock boxes . I do feel all those years at the factory mastering my craft was really hard , but gave me the skills I needed to succeed on my own. I finally am happy with my work. The dock box is business is the next chapter. I have a lot of friends who didn’t think i would make it on my own and People who are just too scared to exit the factory machine.
Best wishes for your new business! I got injured a month after my 41st birthday freak accident really. Unable to walk or stand for extended periods of time. Had surgery on my foot 6 weeks after the injury and decided to start a business selling gift baskets while i was stationary because of my injury. I’m supposed to go back to work my 9-5 as they call it but i feel repelled. Now all i think about are different business ventures. Having multiple streams of income. It’s all becoming very clear to me now ✨
I don’t know you but I feel excited for you. Go for it and hold on to your goal. Those who say you can’t it’s not about you but it was about them. ✨💫 Have Faith in yourself.🎉
Wow. I’m 40 and in the thick of this transformation. It’s been confusing, scary, exciting, and profound. It feels like I’m on a rollercoaster and I’m blindfolded. I thought I had to hang on tight until I figure out what’s going on, but I recently learned that I simply have to let go and enjoy the ride.
I’m 44, and this is how I feel, last few decades was either wasted with dreams or busy with kids, I finally know what I need to do and I’m executing it. I did go through a period of anxiety and depression which made me realise I was not where I needed to be. Love this video!
I’m 44 and still feel like I’m in my 20s. Still get told I don’t look my age. I have so much clarity now. I have goals and dreams. I know exactly where I want to go in life. God is good 🙌
I just turned 40 this year, and I'm right there with what you're saying, but you've got to know that your name and your profile picture don't exactly speak to a more enlightened mindset. No judgement. Just saying. 🙃🤙
2025 feels like a good year number. 2024 for me was very hard, with a marriage in turmoil (working on this with my wife) and battling my own mental health condition that I haven't had treatment for, for most of my life, but I am now getting treatment for it and basically writing the book from scratch, so to speak. I'm still trying to find "my purpose" in life. I enjoy creative endeavours - music, graphic design and art, restoration of musical instruments, learning how things work and function. Life is hard. The older I get though, the less I give a crap about what others think about my likes and dislikes and hobbies. My younger self thought and responded so differently to how I do now. Life is progressive. If you're not dead, you're still needed and wanted in this world. And what was mentioned in the video about responding in a reflective way instead of a reactive way - so true.
Freshest decade ever! My 40s have been so liberating! I definitely agree with this. You stop caring what people think...stop doing what you feel you have to do.... I'm focused on my own personal success....internal peace and happiness and self validation and motivation. I'm all about living in alignment with my Spirit now.
That is a way too generalised view,of course life is a journey but there is stages of that journey that changes a person you don’t change everyday accumulation of time and experiences changes you.
I turned 45 a few months ago. The past 2 years of my life have been some of the best ever! I figured a lot of things, gained perspective and now am extremely grateful for so many amazing things I have in my life. I think the best years are still ahead!!
Becoming an empty nester is what set these feelings into play for me. 18 years... then all of a sudden.... a big part of who you are walks out that door. (if everything goes well, these children who stay at home until they are 40... you dont want that as much as you think you do.) You go from directing the play to just sitting in the audience. I have since learned to be more involved with my own life play.
I can’t recommend therapy enough. A friend of mine has been a therapist for 35 years and he told me the amount of parents who suffer from being empty nesters is insanely high. Very common.
Its so crazy for me to think about being an empty nester at 40. I waited forever to have kids, im 40 and my oldest of 3 is 4. I can see how it would be such a big shift to both turn 40 AND no longer be the head of a family. Wow.
@@sdr6541 I just turned 40 and my boys are 5 and 7 years old. I will be an empty nester in my early 50’s and I’m at peace with that. Even if I could go back and have kids in my 20’s I would never do it and it would have been very selfish of me in hopes of being a “young” grandparent one day. I was lost in my 20’s dealing with childhood memories and how my parents raised me and I didn’t deal with it until just a few years ago. I was also broke in my 20’s and early 30’s getting laid off all the time and being in and out of college in my 20’s trying to figure out a career. The people who have kids in their 20’s and raise them to be great human beings are rare because parents in their 20’s are still usually kids. I would rather raise children being more mature having been to therapy and resolved childhood events than raising kids with more issues than necessary and continuing the cycle so they pass that on to their kids one day. When we die all we have is our legacy and the what we pass on to our kids. Raising children responsibly is very important and if not done properly can cause generational effects.
THIS! THIS! THIS! I'm 45 and at 40 hit a point in my journey where I had to relinquish everything I thought I was to start stepping into who I really am. And the journey is on-going.
Wow! Perfectly times video. My whole 2024 has been external and internal conflicts. Ive felt the midlife crisis, but this makes alot more sense. Shedding the old ways and habits. Ive been fighting it all year, lately ive come to the conclusions im needing more fulfillment and doing more for the world. Ive felt hollow for so long. At 43, this is about the new awaking.
Pretty crazy how this shows up a week before I turn 40. I can honestly say getting older has been way more amazing of an experience than it’s been portrayed as I was growing up. All I do is get better and life gets better as I get better.
Check out Anna Lembke, might just be brain chemical imbalance from overtimulation, too many easy pleasure. Pain\pleasure share the same circuitry. She uses a seesaw metaphor, when we weight the side of fast dopamine the homeostasis forces of the brain try to bring us back to an even keel, she uses gremlins getting on the seesaw. The more fast dopamine, the more gremlins on the side of suffering. Only way to get them off is to stop the pleasure behavior and wait, the rebalancing force goes away on its own. Goes away faster if we seek healthy sources of discomfort like exercise, cold exposure, sensible fasting, boredom, the discomfort of asking a pretty girl out on a date. Spending all our free time online inside climate controlled spaces with easy access to food is gearing our brains to be incapable of feeling natural motivation.
@NAT-turners-Revenge Interesting question. I'm pretty lucky in that I have good health, ok financial situation, not really fear that holds me back. It's more a loss of the spark I used to have to go after things. I do have some newish goals for myself but I lack energy & enough determination to follow through with being consistent like I used to when I was younger. So then I get depressed. I look around at the life I've created and I'm not content with it, but I don't have the sparkle anymore. I used to get really excited about things, now it's like blah, meh, whatever.
I’ll be 45 in January. Everything you said about this stage of life is so true. Applying all of life lessons is difficult but freeing at the same time. Good luck and God bless👍🏿✌🏿
100% agree with this. In my 40's, I have the resources and flexibilty I need to do the things I now know I want to do and the wisdom to pursue them in an impactful and efficient way.
I turned 41 this year and quit my job. Shifted my career if 20+ years to start my own thing and blaze my own path. 6 months in to my new venture and I’ve wrestled more with who I am than ever before. But finally feel…free…like I’m actually living for myself and am able to find what makes my heart feel alive.
Lost everything at 39. The self reflection that followed allowed me to see my faults and strengths. It allowed me to work on myself. Now I begin my second life. ❤
The mid-life crisis is your “last call” to adventure. Life is the quest to unleash human potential by following your conscience because your conscience knows the path that will challenge you to embody your most courageous , most authentic, most excellent self. One day, you will be too old and too sick to begin a new quest, and your mid-life crisis is your conscience letting you know time is winding down.
Just turned 41, and this makes all the sense now. It hit me like a tonne of bricks and for a few days I was overwhelmed, now I just don't give a fck! By pure luck or divine intervention i joined the military and now I have a pension and a large payout to do what I want to do. I had to meditate and let go of all distractions to come to this moment. Good winds and fair sails fellow 40 plus year olds.
watching this at 35. I have a 14 year old son and a 2 month old daughter. I love that my son has seen me grow from a early 20 year old to a mid 30 year old. The difference is night and day between what my life use to look like. I was the same person, but I lived my life so chaotically. Its a blessing that he has been able to see me live it out, I hope he uses it as an example to avoid all the mistakes I made. As someone who lived a very rebellious life against society I can confidently say that it was my own immaturity and lack of world experience that contributed to it. Also that I was not exposed to "real life" as a child. My parents best attempt to shelter me yet never have a relationship made me so much more hard headed and out of control when I was set free on the world. (That last bit is for any parents out there reading this)
After listening to this I've decided that in this chapter of my life I am 5 years old and wonderful infinite possibilities are here for me to receive ❤ thank you 😊❤
Turning 40, April 29th and yes I was worried about getting older to do anything, but Im actually excited to reach this milestone, I feel like my 40s will be the best years of my life, especially since I've learned so much about myself❤.
This happened to me at 32 on the way to work I had a good cry and released some undealt with emotions which led me into a balanced State and started to reveal the role that I was playing and the changes that I needed to make. It was a spiritual awakening that kind of muted me for a a couple weeks and I was very content and very chill meditate and all the sudden.. as I stopped holding on to the spiritual realm that I wanted to live in I came across Carl Jung's work and started the individuate myself and integrate my life and be who I'm supposed to be
@Brightfreeman23 hell yeah man The Awakening process is definitely a roller coaster you think you're so awake your first day you get the Neo complex you watch The Matrix and feel super inspired and then you grow out of that phase into the want to live into the spiritual realm and experience only spiritual then you grow out of that and you realize you're being overly positive and too optimistic and your anger needs to be used in a positive manner LOL I'm ranting but man it's like the more I learn the more I learn and then the more I learn again
My entire 30' was learning and awakening, I never did that before. Earlier was being naive. Now, at 37 feels as if I am matured better than before, and know how to achieve what I want. I always felt I am too late , that everyone around me knew these stuff in early 30's and got successful in life and most are well settled. And here I am still in the journey. But now , I don't mind. I ask for divine wisdom now.
If i Ever needed to hear anything before in my life....! Thank you thank you! Those thoughts whirling around and you're thinking you may be losing it. This put into words almost everything ive been trying to express. ❤
36 going on 40 here! Seeing quantum mechanics in action is like connecting with what some would call god and it’s beautiful. It started in 2020 and never going back! Life is grand!
My entire 30' was learning and awakening, I never did that before. Earlier was being naive. Now, at 37 feels as if I am matured better than before, and know how to achieve what I want. I always felt I am too late , that everyone around me knew these stuff in early 30's and got successful in life and most are well settled. And here I am still in the journey. But now , I don't mind. I ask for divine wisdom now.
I am turning 40 in April and this video has been very profound. I am saving it for a future reference and also sending it to friends that are around my age.
Yep. I turn 44 in February and am finding this absolutely true. I am just managing to let old traumas go, and ready to live and create. I’ve just started painting and dancing and I love them. ✨
It’s true for me as well. I’m 41. A lot changed for me in the last two years. I have been thinking and research self improvement material. I’ve also been going to the gym since I was 18. I am feeling the decline. I’m also no more the sharpest person in the room. So there is a trade off. Maybe there is no other option than reflection and understanding myself.
I'm the same age and still the sharpest person in the room. Young people can't compete with me. They're too lazy and have a lack of motivation. Don't give up on the Gym, bro! 💪🏻
5 years of IBS got me started on this journey and really hit exactly what this encapsulates at 33 and 34. It’s like shedding a rotting exterior and finding out what’s truly you. It’s not fun!
I just turned 40 and Im SO GRATEFUL I decided to quit working and become a mother at 36. I feel like it’s helping me transition into this new phase so much. I have purpose far beyond material things and other people to be of service to. I see my friends who missed the window to have kids or even a partner and I honestly worry about them. Some will find a solution but many will have an incredibly hard time. I see why pre-birth control, having kids well into your 30s would smooth out the transition into midlife versus only having one or two kids in your twenties and going i to midlife at the same time as becoming an empty nester. If you had kids in your twenties through your late 30s you’d hardly have a handful of years before becoming a grandparent and having that sense of purpose and duty again. (If you do it right)
Wow. I'm 36 now and my oldest just turned 18. My youngest will be 6. I can't imagine having a baby now at 36. My parents had me at 38 and 39. I lost my dad when I was 25 and my mom is in her 70s now. I feel bad leaving my kids with her because of her age. 😢 good luck to you in life. Take care of yourself so your kids and grandkids have you for a big chunk of their life
I turn 40 this year, and this is spot on. I had a bit of mid life crisis last fall, am going through a breakup after a 15 year relationship and am reevaluating everything that’s important to me. I plan to move somewhere and change jobs in the next couple years to discover other possibilities, but it is scary to consider change and being alone through it all.
I’m 42. Everything has changed. My job is easy, well paid and balanced (home working), having grafted for over a decade to get where I am. My once strong family bonds are now fracturing, mainly because I was accommodating poor behaviour at my own mental expense. My friendship group has also been cut down drastically as I realise who the genuine people are that align with my values. I am happy with this adjustment, and I feel validated to continue my journey truthfully. Over the last few years, rather than trying to constantly prove myself, or appease others, I’m happily exploring consciousness and spirituality. This has been the main catalyst for the natural decline of my social circles. I need my relationships to have absolute value and reward.
That's an incredibly clarifying video for me brother. And your voice has a warm tone that made even more relaxing hearing your analysis and explanation of Jung's ideas. As for me I have to say that I find myself at some sort of stage like that at 26. I had a stroke while boxing at 19 that made me suffer through all those years an incredible rare issue on the nervous system. Now that I am okay I have went through a process that made me mature a lot. That's why I see it not as if I have lost those 7 years but as if I have rapidly advanced decades inside myself. Life happens primarily now for me and I see that there's a lot of new nows to live jeje. Hope I have the opportunity for a long life in which I can experience a lot of things. And I hope all that health ❤ and good luck 🍀 to you all. Life is just an experience and, as a social species, the best thing we have in live is ourselves and the others to share this experience with.
Wow. This is exactly what I needed in my recent desire to learn more about Jung, namely with regard to his perspective on aging. Very well done video. Thank you so much for sharing.
First day of school as a child. Puberty. College life. Post college adulthood. Married life. Mid-life crisis? Each cycle of growth requires a shock to the system/identity. Midlife crisis then becomes a requirement. A necessary path for all maturing into a higher adulthood. Now imagine if we all lived 1000yrs. How many "crisis" we would experience along the way. Its an exciting and hopeful thing to have such a crisis that propels us forward. Dont waste it
From my own personal experience, I've noticed as I'm approaching 40 it's increasingly difficult for me to enjoy things I used to (watching football, playing video games, etc) On one hand it's very challenging trying to find new things that feel meaningful, but on the other it's a sort of new, inner journey to embark on. I'm forced to really search within and ask some tough questions; what truly means something to you? How can you create something authentic and meaningful to you as an individual? Is this really what you want from yourself? Are you living up to your own standards?
I'm 49 and was there as a kid when pac man and asteroids and centipede came along then Nintendo and everything else and the same has happened to me. Every once in a while I'll try and get an old game of fallout or prey going trying to resurrect the adventure that games could be but it doesn't last.
Same here. 43. Owned every console. Built gaming pc's. Then in my mid 30 I went thru a period where I stopped playing for a while and that has now lasted 10 years. I like the idea of getting back into it, but I know my heart isn't in it anymore. We do change. I'm not a kid or 20 something now with the same carefree attitude. I have life scars I didn't have 20 years ago. You just naturally feel you should spend your time doing things that will improve your lot somehow.
@@hughjass8430It really isnt age issue or growing up issue. I am 37 now and in similar boat like you but its really lack of good games or something new I havent experienced yet. Uncharted 4, Horizon and Read dead Redemption 2 even BF2142 gave me that same old good feeling. When I was younger there were guys in their 40s absolutely loving every console up until this last 10 years where inovation has just stopoed. Golden age 9f games is over perhaps forever, same with movies abd music. We havent changed as much as just natural decline of these industries.
I like your comment, and I totally feel what you are saying. My thought is, sometimes we just lose interest in things, and have to take ir slow and try new things how/whenever we're ready, and see how it feels. Some will work, some will not, but since the world is not new to us, it probably won't have that same spark that things have when every little bit of life is some-what new to us. The meaning and purpose part was the main reason I had wanted to bring up, though. The thing is. . .in the grand scheme(as depressing as it may sound, at first) everything is virtually meaningless, and nothing we do is going to make that Huge impact on us, giving us purpose, because there really is no purpose beyond just living, and being happy, until it's our time. We are virtually just born to die, and all we can do is hope that the world has a positive impact on us during our time here, or that at most, we can have have a fair sized positive impact on the world around us(which, obviously with time, that ends up meaningless and forgotten too, because we, and philosophies, politics, and ideals are passed on through the stories of others, and someday, even that game of telephone ends, and/or gets so jumbled that it's skewed. What we need to do(and it is very hard for me too, but I try) is see that absurdity and "meaninglessness" for what it is. . . .completely absurd, and that is beautiful on its own. The fact that we are all here, now, in the moment we are in, and the people that surround us, and the fact that in a universe that seems from where we are, mostly void of life, and especially concious, complex life, but somehow we made it, at the time we did. . .on a sphere that is absolutely BLOOMING with life and wonder, just basically by happenstance. The fact that our atoms ended up becoming the ball of conciousness that they are, should be enough meaning and purpose given to each and every one of us to keep us going(but again. . .I have a hard time practicing what i preach, so i do know it is hard to see that beauty sometimes, but I like to remind myself when I'm able, and to remind others. . .generally trying to tread lighter on the "meaninglessness" parts, when explaining it, without glossing it over completely, because that perceived pointless Ness can be scary after but it can also be the meat and potatoes of what makes it all amazing in the first place. I hope the way I explained that 1. Made enough sense, and 2. Didn't just sound like more depression, and existential crises coming from some random asshole on the web again, but sounded(and felt) more like the opposite. If you haven't, and you wanna look at more things regarding the beauty of meaningless and absurdity, you should check out some work from(or even videos on) Albert Camus, it can bring bring a bit of beauty to the absurdity.
I started a completely new career (typically a young man’s career) at 40 and I’ve accomplished more in 4 years than most have accomplished in 10 years. Never in my life have I had more focus and determination than in my 40’s. It is during this time in life that I’ve discovered who I am and what I’m worth. It’s been very good.
I turn 38 tomorrow. The older I get, the better I know myself and the more I can enjoy life. I'm not so easily swayed this way or that way anymore. One thing I've learned is that I cherish being alone and I wish I had more time to myself.
@@AntonioMorales-z2j seems you made some difficult decisions which will leave space for something new for you to explore. Even thought the journey can only be taken one step at a time, it will get better eventually.
People flip out at mid-life because it makes them reflect on the first half. Exercise, eat right, build relationships, and financially prepare. The second half will be so much better than if you don't do that stuff.
Thanks for this excellent video. The awakening can happen at almost any age. I’d add that some people Never get there- it takes emotional maturity, openness, courage, self-reflection, to go through this transition.
The film Perfect Days done a lot for me at 40 but I actually wish it had been made when I was younger. If you haven’t already seen it I can’t recommend it enough ❤️
@@AnnieTaylorChen its just a beautiful film. In some obvious ways with how it’s shot in some scenes and in some less obvious ways with how it makes you feel even while the scene being presented to you might be considered as mundane. The best way I can think to explain how it made me feel is that it makes you appreciate the joy of life despite life itself. Neither inherently happy nor sad but that we are just lucky to be here in this lottery of life. If a slightly older than middle aged man can find joy in cleaning toilets then we all can 🥰
As long as you keep your mind open, you'll never truly be old. Discovering, or the willingness to explore possibilities beyond your current comprehension can lead to the same joy's of life you've felt in prior moments.
Life is a beautiful thing and to truly enjoy the light you have to go through the darkness. If anyone is in this currently search “a dark night of the soul” and hopefully this gives you some comfort. Things do get better and through hard work, self reflection and personal development you can become the person you truly are and live a happier, more fulfilling life. The darker the shadow the brighter the light.
47 here and in the midst of becoming disenchanted with everything. Even though I have a "good" job, I see the entire human race as being a slave species as the "work" we are given is often totally stupid and seemingly made up by random "overseers" who just want to make sure we "stay busy." People are only in their physical prime until their mid-30's (at the latest) then it's all a slow decay from there. I would say I've come to similar conclusions about life as are found in Ecclesiastes. I hate the lack of real knowledge we have about how & why everything began. I need to know this info!
Wow that was really resonating. I just turned 42 and everything mentioned made absolute sense in how I’m feeling and how I felt creeping up to this point.
“Midlife crisis” merely means “period of self-discovery in middle age.” The popular usage of the term has misconstrued that to mean crisis in a narrowly negative sense.
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The first 40 years you find out who you are not, then the fun starts🙏
So truuuuue!
This is encouraging. 😂 I'll hit 40 next year this time. I plan to study and read a lot of books this year. I am going to learn what I missed out in school. 😂🎉❤ May my forties and thereafter be legendary!
I am 45 and absolutely agree. I have not felt more myself than the older I get and so far, I love it. Self care is integral to this process since it seems the real fun hasn’t even started yet. Learning is wonderful.
@@SaganismEnjoy!
ACCURATE!
39 next year and I’m battling a brain condition, mostly alone. There is a great deal of darkness but it keeps my pen moving. I believe my greatest works will arise from this inferno.
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Keep it up, man. Keep creating
We are never alone. God bless you
@@CaptainWillard830 Thank you. God Bless you as well.
Life is a journey, you are not alone. You are huge
Since turning 40, I have lost 2 brothers and numerous other family members and pets, began recovery for addictions to nicotine and alcohol, got certified to teach yoga, had a spiritual awakening, going through menopause, and, now at 48, I am in my last semester of grad school for counseling-something I've always wanted to do but never had the opportunity. So, by 50, I will be in a totally different career ready to start my new life!
Blessings on your journey! Sounds like you’ve turned your life around for the better!
45 here and also an ex addict, I got my Psychotherapy degree this year and have also just started my new path. I can't wait for you to get the natural high of achieving that ❤ happy new year.
Well done for your achievements 🎉
Thanks for your comment.
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I'm 42 now and I have full clarity of purpose in my life now and I'm as energetic and healthy as a 20 yr old.
same I am 42 as well. I know my constitutional position and who I am and what I want to get of this body to acheieve my self realised soul.
Yall ar crazy saying you have more energy than at 20. I used to be able to dunk and now I have bone spurs, arthritis, and acid reflux.
@@russallen2011😅 im trending in ur direction but im doing healthier things
nope. you're not :) You may feel like or think, but you arent remotely as healthy or energetich than you were at 20. I do agree on the purpose part tho...its the same with me, im 40.
@@badinstinctsRUclips-xb3oj i do kick ass most younger people in strenght at 40 🤣
I retired from the Army at age 39, and I took 3 years off from Everything and everyone. Now I’m about to turn 43 and my true life begins in 2025!
1982?? 🙏🏽
That's if you do things right and right away
Nice man. Go get em!
Same situation except the retirement part
Same situation for me. I can retire from the Army in two years, and I'll be 39.
Today is my 44th birthday, and I REALLY needed to hear this. Thank you.
Happy belated😉
Mine happened at 30, when i quit my career, moving to the countryside alone. Lost my identity as a successful person, lost connections with most friends and family. I was reborn. I found my freedom. Now looking back, i am glad i did that, life did begin anew ..
"Lost my identity as a successful person" .. That is interesting, how did that happen? Did it hurt to suppress?
I consider my identity a career person and as I get older not only is it more daunting but it's making me resentful.
That's my dream. I'm so tired of family, friends, and work. I want away from it all. I turn 38 tomorrow.
Feel same way but I need a girl ❤😂
Interesting, I’m 30 and broke but my goal is to aim to stack enough to buy a small house in the countryside in 10years and live off grid mostly. Any advice ?
Dreaming of the day I get to get lost in the woods and find myself again
It’s only called a crisis because it looks like a crisis to others. It’s actually a mid life awakening and you realize who and what you are.
Ouh I love your reframing, thanks 🙏
I had my awakening in my early 30s and it was from a movie called Zeitgeist
Its been said that people who always knew they were slaves have no mid life crisis
Love this!
Crisis in Latin simply means a crossroads, a time when something needs to come to a change.
I think the word crisis has been tautologically changed into a negative context over the years. A good example is "never let a crisis go to waste". Indeed, embrace crisis in all forms, and learn from them.
The older you get, the more invisible you become. It's a good thing, no pressure to be who everyone else wants you to be. You can finally be your true self.
Or, perhaps it's the other way around. The older one becomes, the more authentic and thus more visible one becomes.
I get more attention. Must be the confidence gained
Also the older you get, the older the people that you once listened to & looked up to get closer to passing on from this world, you gain total freedom. You naturally begin to drift away from elders and their expectations
@@ItsNeverTooHot4Leatheramen ❤
@@ItsNeverTooHot4Leather No trust me, @discodan417 comment is spot on. I work for two very large companies that have lot's of employees. All of the older employees that are not management are invisible to the younger employees. The younger employees want nothing to do with the older employees and don't include them in their inner circles or breaks and lunches. There is much less pressure when your older because not only because you stop caring what other people think but because the focus is off of you in the public.
At 41 I discovered Jung, Maslow, Nietzsche and most importantly Stoicism. It completely changed how I view life, and I've made incredible changes since then, let go of people that didn't deserve me, and found new amazing friends. Worked on my issues and am glad to say, I'm a completely different person, a person I finally love and amazing people love me. Although it has been incredibly tough at times, I'm more content than I've ever been. Two things are most important to find your way, friends. Let go of fear: this will allow you to go where you don't want to go. Never lie to yourself when you get there: this will allow you to see where you have to change.
High five!
Recently discovered stoicism after realising my wife and partner since my teens displays traits of a covert narcissist. I've had a bit if a breakdown, and I think it is my way through it all.
Boring
Excellent. Just dont buy into the Ryan Holiday movement.
All the literature is freely available. He's just rebranding it and making money off of it.
It’s all in the Bible. Least that’s where the stoic path lead me.
As someone that turned 40 and felt like i should be a lot farther in life, i love this. I’m still alive. Still a lot to do
I feel the same... plenty of money squandered... good jobs fired from... altho my finances and job are good going on 4+ yrs now. 2025 is upon us lets make it matter
Ive had several issues in my life and a stroke at 22. Im 40 and will be 41 soon and am taking my health seriously working hard to take care of my family
Good luck on ur journey... i am in a similar spot
No such thing as midlife crisis unless that idea has been planted in your head I’m 67. My dad said the 40s were the best I disagree. I think 60s are the best and it keeps on getting better. I don’t listen to what other people say about aging I just live my life and have a great job having fun.
Sounds like denial on steroids… did you ever have a dark night of the soul? You must have been born perfect then had no need to evolve! At forty I quit a college tenure track career to buy ten acres & start a humane society. Not your idea of fun but it changed my understanding of everything
Why did you delete me comment?!
I’m closing in on sixty and getting through the back end of childish habits … looking forward to aging
As a person who is a bitnover half way to where you are, and over half way to the decade you had mentioned (35), and having had struggled with mental and physical health, and wanting to control my mortality, when and how it is taken from me, my whole life, reading your comment, and your outlook really opened my mind and heart always bit, as well as tickled me all over. Your view on life, almost all the way into your 60's, and you having it be the greatest time you feel you've experienced, in all your years, it gives me hope, and makes me embrace wanting to live another day(maybe even a few more decades) and give it a try. The whimsy, and lightheartedness hearing someone, out of nowhere mention such a random time. . .your 60's of all times,gives me prospect and makes me excited to see what tomorrow brings.
If you dont mind me asking, do you know why it has heen the best in your eyes? Any specific changes in life, experience, or even just philosophical outlook on life happen differently for you, or do you just happen to realize you have taken it with a bigger grain of salt and enjoyed it more?
Thanks for your wonderful comment!
Boomers do generally get to live more ignorant, happy lives. The only permanent child generation in the history of the world.
Socrates: ‘No man should speak of the world until forty.’
U.S. politics: 'Young people should get out and vote!'
I’m curious about that quote! I couldn’t find a solid reference to confirm that Socrates actually said it. Do you happen to have a source in mind?
@@noahtesfaye4718 There's only one source for Socrates, and its quotes can't really be confirmed (Plato). But that totally sounds like something out of _Republic._ Could've been in _Apology,_ too. Yeah, probably that one, since in it he was charged with corrupting the minds of young people.
@noahtesfaye4718 there is no real proof that Socrates even existed...so... (I don't wanna go further claiming that there is no proof that Plato existed neither, otherwise people would kill me, so steong is their belief...)
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Wow, I don't know how this video came up in my suggested list, but it is so true. I am 39 and last week I gave a notice about quitting my job. My tiredness of a rat race has overgrown fears of unknown and taking risk of doing what I really love. And comments of people experiencing the same are so true and inspiring. Thanks for a well put video.
Good for you. I’m about to turn 40 and this video just popped up during a really inspirational time of transition. Often I feel like I’m alone in these thoughts and fears. I’m glad I’m not alone.
All the best on this new journey. I wish I had the courage but it feels like any move I make now will cripple me considering I have young dependents and all.
I’m transitioning now. It’s painful and scary at times. Everything in due timing. I’m 41 and things have never been more clear ✨
Same. Sending love to everyone who has also taken the leap to be happier ❤❤❤
I had midelife crisis at 34, sold everything moved where I always wanted to live and started living life with a purpose everyday
Awesome! 👍🏾
I’m about to embark on a similar journey….
where
Did you join a hippie cult in the woods?
I just turned 40 (December 2024), and this all seems completely valid. For me, it has been a process over several years of letting go of some things (including relationships), and realizing the difference between my persona and my true self. Early on it felt like a loss, but now I feel differently. It's not that I have lost interest in doing or learning, but rather that I am more present and savor each moment. And I'm happy. The now is all we really have. Goals are important, but the finish line is never as important as the journey. Remember, things don't have to last forever to be meaningful. Nothing lasts forever.
This is bang on on so many levels
I too hit the 40 year mark ! Happy 40th !
I'm turning 40 tomorrow. In many ways it does feel like starting over. I have many more experiences and am less delusional, but I am also less motivated and ambitious. I am starting to reflect on what is really important to me in this life, and have yet to find any clear directions, except for one thing that I practice every day.
I turned 40 in September, I’m definitely noticing a shift, not exactly sure where it will take me.
@emalynicole1006 that's the fun
Damn, turned 40 this year. This was weird. I started my own business last year. I Retired early from Boston Whaler boat manufacturing. I 18 years of fiberglass /gelcoat /mold building experience . Ran my own team for a few years, then went to RnD the last 6 years. i thought i would retire there, I was still miserable, I was missing something in my life and knew I could take my skills and start my own boat repair business. I love being my own boss , making my own schedule, traveling all over Florida. Meeting customers, working at dealerships, boat yards ,on docks, backyards. It’s different all the time. I am currently making a mold to sell Dock boxes . I do feel all those years at the factory mastering my craft was really hard , but gave me the skills I needed to succeed on my own. I finally am happy with my work. The dock box is business is the next chapter. I have a lot of friends who didn’t think i would make it on my own and People who are just too scared to exit the factory machine.
Good for you my friend. Must feel amazing.
Blessings on your next chapter 😊
Best wishes for your new business! I got injured a month after my 41st birthday freak accident really. Unable to walk or stand for extended periods of time. Had surgery on my foot 6 weeks after the injury and decided to start a business selling gift baskets while i was stationary because of my injury. I’m supposed to go back to work my 9-5 as they call it but i feel repelled. Now all i think about are different business ventures. Having multiple streams of income. It’s all becoming very clear to me now ✨
I don’t know you but I feel excited for you. Go for it and hold on to your goal. Those who say you can’t it’s not about you but it was about them. ✨💫 Have Faith in yourself.🎉
Wow. I’m 40 and in the thick of this transformation. It’s been confusing, scary, exciting, and profound. It feels like I’m on a rollercoaster and I’m blindfolded. I thought I had to hang on tight until I figure out what’s going on, but I recently learned that I simply have to let go and enjoy the ride.
I’m 44, and this is how I feel, last few decades was either wasted with dreams or busy with kids, I finally know what I need to do and I’m executing it. I did go through a period of anxiety and depression which made me realise I was not where I needed to be. Love this video!
I'm 43 and going through it. Any tips to get my head on straight and find new motivation?
I am 44 too. Time is passing faster and faster as we grow older. Time was slow when I was below 20 yo. 😂
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I’m 44 and still feel like I’m in my 20s. Still get told I don’t look my age. I have so much clarity now. I have goals and dreams. I know exactly where I want to go in life. God is good 🙌
Same here. 👊
I just turned 40 this year, and I'm right there with what you're saying, but you've got to know that your name and your profile picture don't exactly speak to a more enlightened mindset. No judgement. Just saying. 🙃🤙
Same.
Amen 🙏🏾 Same
I feel the same.
2025 feels like a good year number. 2024 for me was very hard, with a marriage in turmoil (working on this with my wife) and battling my own mental health condition that I haven't had treatment for, for most of my life, but I am now getting treatment for it and basically writing the book from scratch, so to speak.
I'm still trying to find "my purpose" in life. I enjoy creative endeavours - music, graphic design and art, restoration of musical instruments, learning how things work and function.
Life is hard. The older I get though, the less I give a crap about what others think about my likes and dislikes and hobbies. My younger self thought and responded so differently to how I do now.
Life is progressive. If you're not dead, you're still needed and wanted in this world.
And what was mentioned in the video about responding in a reflective way instead of a reactive way - so true.
As you grow older your beauty goes from your face to your mind!
No
Freshest decade ever! My 40s have been so liberating! I definitely agree with this. You stop caring what people think...stop doing what you feel you have to do.... I'm focused on my own personal success....internal peace and happiness and self validation and motivation. I'm all about living in alignment with my Spirit now.
Well said. Me too.
Life begins everytime you wake up. It's just another journey through time.
That is a way too generalised view,of course life is a journey but there is stages of that journey that changes a person you don’t change everyday accumulation of time and experiences changes you.
I'm gonna listen to Jung, thank you.
Yeah, I agree, be well :)
I turned 45 a few months ago. The past 2 years of my life have been some of the best ever! I figured a lot of things, gained perspective and now am extremely grateful for so many amazing things I have in my life. I think the best years are still ahead!!
I totally relate to this. I am 37 this year and i feel like i m only beginning to understand what life is about and who i really am
I feel exactly something like that at 37 , I am working on my aura
Yes! Me too
I turned 38 this year and I feel different, in a good way but I can’t really explain it.
Becoming an empty nester is what set these feelings into play for me. 18 years... then all of a sudden.... a big part of who you are walks out that door. (if everything goes well, these children who stay at home until they are 40... you dont want that as much as you think you do.) You go from directing the play to just sitting in the audience. I have since learned to be more involved with my own life play.
I can’t recommend therapy enough. A friend of mine has been a therapist for 35 years and he told me the amount of parents who suffer from being empty nesters is insanely high. Very common.
Its so crazy for me to think about being an empty nester at 40. I waited forever to have kids, im 40 and my oldest of 3 is 4. I can see how it would be such a big shift to both turn 40 AND no longer be the head of a family. Wow.
@@sdr6541 I just turned 40 and my boys are 5 and 7 years old. I will be an empty nester in my early 50’s and I’m at peace with that. Even if I could go back and have kids in my 20’s I would never do it and it would have been very selfish of me in hopes of being a “young” grandparent one day. I was lost in my 20’s dealing with childhood memories and how my parents raised me and I didn’t deal with it until just a few years ago. I was also broke in my 20’s and early 30’s getting laid off all the time and being in and out of college in my 20’s trying to figure out a career. The people who have kids in their 20’s and raise them to be great human beings are rare because parents in their 20’s are still usually kids. I would rather raise children being more mature having been to therapy and resolved childhood events than raising kids with more issues than necessary and continuing the cycle so they pass that on to their kids one day. When we die all we have is our legacy and the what we pass on to our kids. Raising children responsibly is very important and if not done properly can cause generational effects.
I'm feeling this ❤
Wow, this has given me great inspiration for what I will write in my friend's 40th birthday card. Perfect timing!
I am turning 45 and thankful for this video ❤
I needed to hear someone say things like this today...and I did .
Thks for making this
Thanks!
THIS! THIS! THIS! I'm 45 and at 40 hit a point in my journey where I had to relinquish everything I thought I was to start stepping into who I really am. And the journey is on-going.
Beautiful message in many ways. I need it so much right now. Thank you! 🙏🏻
Wow! Perfectly times video. My whole 2024 has been external and internal conflicts. Ive felt the midlife crisis, but this makes alot more sense. Shedding the old ways and habits. Ive been fighting it all year, lately ive come to the conclusions im needing more fulfillment and doing more for the world. Ive felt hollow for so long. At 43, this is about the new awaking.
Turning 40 next year. I feel like I'm in my power now. I am the most successful I have ever been, and life feels good.
Watch out for the crisis. Transformation isn't pleasant.
Class of 1985
Same class of 1985 and feel life has been hard but easy
Turning forty next year and I am exactly where I started. 😂 Rock bottom! Anyways, all that's gonna change soon. 😂
A man has 2 lives, and the second one begins when he realizes he has 1 life
Whoaaaa this is a fresh perspective about 40 ❤ thank you!!!!
I'm turning 37 and this is happening to me right now !! And it feels great !
I'm turning 40 in one month, exactly. Imagine my surprise to see this in my feed.
I turned 38 this year and I have noticed a shift. A good shift but kind of unexplainable
I’m 38 and this video is so on point taking me my entire life to come to this realization and this is confirmation💯 Thank you!!!
I turned 42 this year. Your video really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing
Pretty crazy how this shows up a week before I turn 40. I can honestly say getting older has been way more amazing of an experience than it’s been portrayed as I was growing up. All I do is get better and life gets better as I get better.
I'm 43 and going through a bit of a dark night of the soul. Can't find thst spark of motivation or joy, despite knowing what i want.
Not sure if you have tried going out in nature, and quiet your mind, you might find clarity that way. Good luck 👍🏾
Check out Anna Lembke, might just be brain chemical imbalance from overtimulation, too many easy pleasure. Pain\pleasure share the same circuitry. She uses a seesaw metaphor, when we weight the side of fast dopamine the homeostasis forces of the brain try to bring us back to an even keel, she uses gremlins getting on the seesaw. The more fast dopamine, the more gremlins on the side of suffering. Only way to get them off is to stop the pleasure behavior and wait, the rebalancing force goes away on its own. Goes away faster if we seek healthy sources of discomfort like exercise, cold exposure, sensible fasting, boredom, the discomfort of asking a pretty girl out on a date. Spending all our free time online inside climate controlled spaces with easy access to food is gearing our brains to be incapable of feeling natural motivation.
What do u think is your biggest obstacle? Finances? Fears? Health?
@@sonyabyrd7956 Thank you, will do.
@NAT-turners-Revenge Interesting question. I'm pretty lucky in that I have good health, ok financial situation, not really fear that holds me back. It's more a loss of the spark I used to have to go after things. I do have some newish goals for myself but I lack energy & enough determination to follow through with being consistent like I used to when I was younger. So then I get depressed. I look around at the life I've created and I'm not content with it, but I don't have the sparkle anymore. I used to get really excited about things, now it's like blah, meh, whatever.
I’ll be 45 in January. Everything you said about this stage of life is so true. Applying all of life lessons is difficult but freeing at the same time.
Good luck and God bless👍🏿✌🏿
thank you 🙏
100% agree with this. In my 40's, I have the resources and flexibilty I need to do the things I now know I want to do and the wisdom to pursue them in an impactful and efficient way.
having a wonderful family beside me allows this to bloom so beautifully
I turned 41 this year and quit my job. Shifted my career if 20+ years to start my own thing and blaze my own path. 6 months in to my new venture and I’ve wrestled more with who I am than ever before. But finally feel…free…like I’m actually living for myself and am able to find what makes my heart feel alive.
Lost everything at 39. The self reflection that followed allowed me to see my faults and strengths. It allowed me to work on myself.
Now I begin my second life. ❤
I just turned 40 this month and year (December 2024). Glad this video found me. I feel much better about being in my 40’s now 😊❤
The mid-life crisis is your “last call” to adventure. Life is the quest to unleash human potential by following your conscience because your conscience knows the path that will challenge you to embody your most courageous , most authentic, most excellent self.
One day, you will be too old and too sick to begin a new quest, and your mid-life crisis is your conscience letting you know time is winding down.
Well said. I agree 😩
Beautiful description. Thank you for sharing.
I am sorry but no.
At 40 there is still so much life to live. Just ask a person in their 60s or 70s.
This is demeaning and ageist. Stop your negativity
Not really no. If you do the work in your mid life you will have many more to come. My teacher said to me "it never ends, and it never gets easier."
I am almost 40 years old. I am living with more maturity and deeper meaning. Thanks for the video!
This is profound!! Thank you.
I cannot express how much I needed to hear this. At the right moment ❤
Just turned 41, and this makes all the sense now. It hit me like a tonne of bricks and for a few days I was overwhelmed, now I just don't give a fck! By pure luck or divine intervention i joined the military and now I have a pension and a large payout to do what I want to do. I had to meditate and let go of all distractions to come to this moment. Good winds and fair sails fellow 40 plus year olds.
Are retired sir? What you do now ?
Awesome. Enjoy this journey.
watching this at 35. I have a 14 year old son and a 2 month old daughter. I love that my son has seen me grow from a early 20 year old to a mid 30 year old. The difference is night and day between what my life use to look like. I was the same person, but I lived my life so chaotically. Its a blessing that he has been able to see me live it out, I hope he uses it as an example to avoid all the mistakes I made. As someone who lived a very rebellious life against society I can confidently say that it was my own immaturity and lack of world experience that contributed to it. Also that I was not exposed to "real life" as a child. My parents best attempt to shelter me yet never have a relationship made me so much more hard headed and out of control when I was set free on the world. (That last bit is for any parents out there reading this)
After listening to this I've decided that in this chapter of my life I am 5 years old and wonderful infinite possibilities are here for me to receive ❤ thank you 😊❤
I just said I’m only 3!
@kiaj.d.5855 ✨❤️
Turning 40, April 29th and yes I was worried about getting older to do anything, but Im actually excited to reach this milestone, I feel like my 40s will be the best years of my life, especially since I've learned so much about myself❤.
Same b day 🙌. I will be 42 this year. Come on in the waters fine!
@@matth7471 😃
Happy early birthday!
im going through it right now, Been overwhelming but positive. Clarity and peace over anything.
This happened to me at 32 on the way to work I had a good cry and released some undealt with emotions which led me into a balanced State and started to reveal the role that I was playing and the changes that I needed to make. It was a spiritual awakening that kind of muted me for a a couple weeks and I was very content and very chill meditate and all the sudden.. as I stopped holding on to the spiritual realm that I wanted to live in I came across Carl Jung's work and started the individuate myself and integrate my life and be who I'm supposed to be
Same here! I was 32. It started after a spectacular ufo experience that I felt activated!
@Brightfreeman23 hell yeah man The Awakening process is definitely a roller coaster you think you're so awake your first day you get the Neo complex you watch The Matrix and feel super inspired and then you grow out of that phase into the want to live into the spiritual realm and experience only spiritual then you grow out of that and you realize you're being overly positive and too optimistic and your anger needs to be used in a positive manner LOL I'm ranting but man it's like the more I learn the more I learn and then the more I learn again
@@shawnrossi6364 @brightfreeman23 Thank you both. These are the comments i was searching.
My entire 30' was learning and awakening, I never did that before. Earlier was being naive. Now, at 37 feels as if I am matured better than before, and know how to achieve what I want. I always felt I am too late , that everyone around me knew these stuff in early 30's and got successful in life and most are well settled. And here I am still in the journey. But now , I don't mind. I ask for divine wisdom now.
If i Ever needed to hear anything before in my life....! Thank you thank you! Those thoughts whirling around and you're thinking you may be losing it. This put into words almost everything ive been trying to express. ❤
36 going on 40 here! Seeing quantum mechanics in action is like connecting with what some would call god and it’s beautiful. It started in 2020 and never going back! Life is grand!
My entire 30' was learning and awakening, I never did that before. Earlier was being naive. Now, at 37 feels as if I am matured better than before, and know how to achieve what I want. I always felt I am too late , that everyone around me knew these stuff in early 30's and got successful in life and most are well settled. And here I am still in the journey. But now , I don't mind. I ask for divine wisdom now.
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Became 37 and I feel like it's only getting better!
Amen! So true! Midlife for me is when I stop being an avatar and start living my authentic life.
Aging is a gift and a blessing
I am turning 40 in April and this video has been very profound. I am saving it for a future reference and also sending it to friends that are around my age.
I turned 40 in August, and I agree with all of this completely.
Yep. I turn 44 in February and am finding this absolutely true. I am just managing to let old traumas go, and ready to live and create. I’ve just started painting and dancing and I love them. ✨
It’s true for me as well. I’m 41. A lot changed for me in the last two years. I have been thinking and research self improvement material. I’ve also been going to the gym since I was 18. I am feeling the decline. I’m also no more the sharpest person in the room. So there is a trade off. Maybe there is no other option than reflection and understanding myself.
Yeah it's kinda why we're here, analyzing individuating and transcending the self. If you don't do that. Life is a total waste and what's the point???
I'm the same age and still the sharpest person in the room. Young people can't compete with me. They're too lazy and have a lack of motivation. Don't give up on the Gym, bro! 💪🏻
5 years of IBS got me started on this journey and really hit exactly what this encapsulates at 33 and 34. It’s like shedding a rotting exterior and finding out what’s truly you. It’s not fun!
I just turned 40 and Im SO GRATEFUL I decided to quit working and become a mother at 36. I feel like it’s helping me transition into this new phase so much. I have purpose far beyond material things and other people to be of service to. I see my friends who missed the window to have kids or even a partner and I honestly worry about them. Some will find a solution but many will have an incredibly hard time. I see why pre-birth control, having kids well into your 30s would smooth out the transition into midlife versus only having one or two kids in your twenties and going i to midlife at the same time as becoming an empty nester. If you had kids in your twenties through your late 30s you’d hardly have a handful of years before becoming a grandparent and having that sense of purpose and duty again. (If you do it right)
Wow. I'm 36 now and my oldest just turned 18. My youngest will be 6. I can't imagine having a baby now at 36. My parents had me at 38 and 39. I lost my dad when I was 25 and my mom is in her 70s now. I feel bad leaving my kids with her because of her age. 😢 good luck to you in life. Take care of yourself so your kids and grandkids have you for a big chunk of their life
I turn 40 this year, and this is spot on. I had a bit of mid life crisis last fall, am going through a breakup after a 15 year relationship and am reevaluating everything that’s important to me. I plan to move somewhere and change jobs in the next couple years to discover other possibilities, but it is scary to consider change and being alone through it all.
Carl is forever Jung
Yeah, you are right we start asking deep questions and trying to picture how we want our life to be
I guess this is how the RUclips algorithm decided to wish me a happy 40th birthday
My 40th was yesterday! Happy Birthday.
I’m 42. Everything has changed. My job is easy, well paid and balanced (home working), having grafted for over a decade to get where I am. My once strong family bonds are now fracturing, mainly because I was accommodating poor behaviour at my own mental expense. My friendship group has also been cut down drastically as I realise who the genuine people are that align with my values.
I am happy with this adjustment, and I feel validated to continue my journey truthfully.
Over the last few years, rather than trying to constantly prove myself, or appease others, I’m happily exploring consciousness and spirituality. This has been the main catalyst for the natural decline of my social circles.
I need my relationships to have absolute value and reward.
That's an incredibly clarifying video for me brother. And your voice has a warm tone that made even more relaxing hearing your analysis and explanation of Jung's ideas.
As for me I have to say that I find myself at some sort of stage like that at 26. I had a stroke while boxing at 19 that made me suffer through all those years an incredible rare issue on the nervous system. Now that I am okay I have went through a process that made me mature a lot. That's why I see it not as if I have lost those 7 years but as if I have rapidly advanced decades inside myself. Life happens primarily now for me and I see that there's a lot of new nows to live jeje. Hope I have the opportunity for a long life in which I can experience a lot of things. And I hope all that health ❤ and good luck 🍀 to you all.
Life is just an experience and, as a social species, the best thing we have in live is ourselves and the others to share this experience with.
true❤️❤️
Wow. This is exactly what I needed in my recent desire to learn more about Jung, namely with regard to his perspective on aging. Very well done video. Thank you so much for sharing.
First day of school as a child. Puberty. College life. Post college adulthood. Married life. Mid-life crisis? Each cycle of growth requires a shock to the system/identity. Midlife crisis then becomes a requirement. A necessary path for all maturing into a higher adulthood. Now imagine if we all lived 1000yrs. How many "crisis" we would experience along the way. Its an exciting and hopeful thing to have such a crisis that propels us forward. Dont waste it
This was the best exclamation for meditation I’ve ever had! Thank you so much for this!
From my own personal experience, I've noticed as I'm approaching 40 it's increasingly difficult for me to enjoy things I used to (watching football, playing video games, etc) On one hand it's very challenging trying to find new things that feel meaningful, but on the other it's a sort of new, inner journey to embark on. I'm forced to really search within and ask some tough questions; what truly means something to you? How can you create something authentic and meaningful to you as an individual? Is this really what you want from yourself? Are you living up to your own standards?
I'm 49 and was there as a kid when pac man and asteroids and centipede came along then Nintendo and everything else and the same has happened to me. Every once in a while I'll try and get an old game of fallout or prey going trying to resurrect the adventure that games could be but it doesn't last.
Same here. 43. Owned every console. Built gaming pc's. Then in my mid 30 I went thru a period where I stopped playing for a while and that has now lasted 10 years. I like the idea of getting back into it, but I know my heart isn't in it anymore. We do change. I'm not a kid or 20 something now with the same carefree attitude. I have life scars I didn't have 20 years ago. You just naturally feel you should spend your time doing things that will improve your lot somehow.
@@hughjass8430It really isnt age issue or growing up issue. I am 37 now and in similar boat like you but its really lack of good games or something new I havent experienced yet. Uncharted 4, Horizon and Read dead Redemption 2 even BF2142 gave me that same old good feeling. When I was younger there were guys in their 40s absolutely loving every console up until this last 10 years where inovation has just stopoed. Golden age 9f games is over perhaps forever, same with movies abd music. We havent changed as much as just natural decline of these industries.
Your health starts declining doesn’t help.
I like your comment, and I totally feel what you are saying.
My thought is, sometimes we just lose interest in things, and have to take ir slow and try new things how/whenever we're ready, and see how it feels. Some will work, some will not, but since the world is not new to us, it probably won't have that same spark that things have when every little bit of life is some-what new to us. The meaning and purpose part was the main reason I had wanted to bring up, though. The thing is. . .in the grand scheme(as depressing as it may sound, at first) everything is virtually meaningless, and nothing we do is going to make that Huge impact on us, giving us purpose, because there really is no purpose beyond just living, and being happy, until it's our time. We are virtually just born to die, and all we can do is hope that the world has a positive impact on us during our time here, or that at most, we can have have a fair sized positive impact on the world around us(which, obviously with time, that ends up meaningless and forgotten too, because we, and philosophies, politics, and ideals are passed on through the stories of others, and someday, even that game of telephone ends, and/or gets so jumbled that it's skewed. What we need to do(and it is very hard for me too, but I try) is see that absurdity and "meaninglessness" for what it is. . . .completely absurd, and that is beautiful on its own. The fact that we are all here, now, in the moment we are in, and the people that surround us, and the fact that in a universe that seems from where we are, mostly void of life, and especially concious, complex life, but somehow we made it, at the time we did. . .on a sphere that is absolutely BLOOMING with life and wonder, just basically by happenstance. The fact that our atoms ended up becoming the ball of conciousness that they are, should be enough meaning and purpose given to each and every one of us to keep us going(but again. . .I have a hard time practicing what i preach, so i do know it is hard to see that beauty sometimes, but I like to remind myself when I'm able, and to remind others. . .generally trying to tread lighter on the "meaninglessness" parts, when explaining it, without glossing it over completely, because that perceived pointless Ness can be scary after but it can also be the meat and potatoes of what makes it all amazing in the first place. I hope the way I explained that 1. Made enough sense, and 2. Didn't just sound like more depression, and existential crises coming from some random asshole on the web again, but sounded(and felt) more like the opposite.
If you haven't, and you wanna look at more things regarding the beauty of meaningless and absurdity, you should check out some work from(or even videos on) Albert Camus, it can bring bring a bit of beauty to the absurdity.
I started a completely new career (typically a young man’s career) at 40 and I’ve accomplished more in 4 years than most have accomplished in 10 years. Never in my life have I had more focus and determination than in my 40’s. It is during this time in life that I’ve discovered who I am and what I’m worth. It’s been very good.
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I turn 38 tomorrow. The older I get, the better I know myself and the more I can enjoy life. I'm not so easily swayed this way or that way anymore.
One thing I've learned is that I cherish being alone and I wish I had more time to myself.
At 48 I'm loving this and appreciate this. ❤ it's true life is starting now and great.!
I’m 50- This is more than accurate
Word. I'm realizing it. This is so uplifting ❤
Anyone other 1985 babies watching this in 2025?
In the trenches, mate 😂
'83 here
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You bet!
Yup. Our turn
I’m reading Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection right now and it’s so good. Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning also profoundly impacted me
Im 40 and been dealing with depression and anxiety since i was 33 ,im just tired " i dont want to die ,I sometimes wish i've never been born at all"
“there’s hope, even when it feels far away.”
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Why are you depressed though?
@danvilela health issues and a tóxic relationship that ended ,but stil grieving..
@@AntonioMorales-z2j seems you made some difficult decisions which will leave space for something new for you to explore.
Even thought the journey can only be taken one step at a time, it will get better eventually.
Thank U for this. I needed to hear it
I will be 41 tomorrow, but i love my life! I have a lover, the job i adore, an absolute wellbeing. I am grateful❤😊
People flip out at mid-life because it makes them reflect on the first half. Exercise, eat right, build relationships, and financially prepare. The second half will be so much better than if you don't do that stuff.
Thanks for this excellent video. The awakening can happen at almost any age. I’d add that some people Never get there- it takes emotional maturity, openness, courage, self-reflection, to go through this transition.
The first 25 years of life we are acquiring our curriculum
The next 25 we are studying it
After age 50 we are applying it.
I love that, thanks
Well this gives wonderful perspective to how I wanted the answers to these questions sooner and didn't have them.
The film Perfect Days done a lot for me at 40 but I actually wish it had been made when I was younger. If you haven’t already seen it I can’t recommend it enough ❤️
@ yes the Japanese film by Wim Wenders. That’s a good point, most probably not 🤦🏻♂️😂 but it certainly wouldn’t have done any harm 😊
@@AnnieTaylorChen its just a beautiful film. In some obvious ways with how it’s shot in some scenes and in some less obvious ways with how it makes you feel even while the scene being presented to you might be considered as mundane. The best way I can think to explain how it made me feel is that it makes you appreciate the joy of life despite life itself. Neither inherently happy nor sad but that we are just lucky to be here in this lottery of life. If a slightly older than middle aged man can find joy in cleaning toilets then we all can 🥰
@ you’re welcome ☺️
As long as you keep your mind open, you'll never truly be old. Discovering, or the willingness to explore possibilities beyond your current comprehension can lead to the same joy's of life you've felt in prior moments.
Life is a beautiful thing and to truly enjoy the light you have to go through the darkness. If anyone is in this currently search “a dark night of the soul” and hopefully this gives you some comfort. Things do get better and through hard work, self reflection and personal development you can become the person you truly are and live a happier, more fulfilling life. The darker the shadow the brighter the light.
Well said!
This was for sure an eye opening year for me.
40🙏✨
47 here and in the midst of becoming disenchanted with everything. Even though I have a "good" job, I see the entire human race as being a slave species as the "work" we are given is often totally stupid and seemingly made up by random "overseers" who just want to make sure we "stay busy." People are only in their physical prime until their mid-30's (at the latest) then it's all a slow decay from there. I would say I've come to similar conclusions about life as are found in Ecclesiastes. I hate the lack of real knowledge we have about how & why everything began. I need to know this info!
Wow that was really resonating. I just turned 42 and everything mentioned made absolute sense in how I’m feeling and how I felt creeping up to this point.
“Midlife crisis” merely means “period of self-discovery in middle age.” The popular usage of the term has misconstrued that to mean crisis in a narrowly negative sense.