I came out on my birthday and my parents said it was "uncalled for" because my birthday isn't about just me?????? And that coming out wasn't a celebration for them.
I feel that so hard and I’m so sorry you have to deal with that, especially around coming out which is already nerve racking. My family’s been similar like with me wearing a suit to MY graduation (it’s not conciderate to your grandparents!) and stuff like that. Just gotta due you and hopefully in time they’ll come to see it differently and come to respect your identity and that being out is necessary for your happiness going forward. Sometimes it’s just hard for parents to see at first when it comes as a shock they weren’t prepared for.
I emailed my dad he replied with a sweet loving supportive email. My mom I texted she came back supportive . I went and sent my family messages before coming out on Facebook . My two aunts were cool with it were I lost most of my mom family and a aunt on my dad side . My friend who I was staying with told her neighbours I am trans without really asking me . She said we aren’t a couple because I don’t have the right parts because I am ftm . I told my one roommate where the other two I haven’t .
You're not a coward, Mack. You've come so far in the time that I've known you. and you've more courage than you believe. You're so strong, and so freaking proud of you, my bro!
this is very insightful, mack! im going to come out FINALLY in january (im already out at my uni) and have been thinking abt how to tell my family, work, and old friends from high school. i dont like the face to face Talk either so i think spreading the word is gunna help lessen the awkwardness for work lmao love ya 💕
I came out at work last year, I told the assistant manager shaking like crazy and asked if she could spread the news.. she did and when I saw my manager it was awkward at first. Because I knew she knew and I didn’t know what to say.. She pulled me aside though and turned out to be the most supportive person in regards to my transition, Im still not out to the majority of my family so I feel it’ll be like your story with you extended family...
I'm so glad you had such a positive experience coming out! I've been on t for just over a year and I came out around 2 years ago with pretty much the same experiences as you ☺
I feel you Mack! I can relate so much, i'm dying to come out but i hate saying these kind of things face to face, super afraid to loose people, so i would feel way better if someone helped me out :')
I’m in the beginning testosterone stages of my medical transition but for the most part all of my friends and the immediate family knows. My workplace knows as well and the possible new job I’m interviewing for knows too. I’m hoping it’ll be easier the further into transition I get for me to ask people to refer to me with the correct name in pronouns, because that’s what I have the hardest time with. My family took it the worse and we aren’t on speaking terms but I also knew going into this that that would likely be the case. Gotta roll with the punches sometimes.
I was a bit of a "coward" too by changing jobs as I was transitioning for the first year that way I didn't get misgendered too much or called by my birth name. Now I'm back at my old job, but they all call me my name and I don't misgendered hardly at all.
I'm out to all my friends as trans, most of them don't understand but they still use the right name and pronouns. I don't know how to come out to teachers or my parents though....
Hey it’s awesome that you were able to take the step of telling your friends! Congratulate yourself on that. As for teachers, I don’t know your situation but maybe emailing them all (or waiting to email right before new classes/teachers start if that’s easier) to explain to them your name and pronouns. Or maybe reaching out to a counselor or administrator at your school to help you? Best of luck on your coming out journey friend!
My coworker told everyone today and I'm so happy he did bc I didnt have to have long, anxious conversations. He even corrected people bc he knows i'm a non confrentational bitch. I'm feeling good stress, it's weird being happy.
I’m currently questioning whether or not I’m trans. I have chest dysphoria and always have. I’m 17 though and there’s no way I could tell my parents or family because they are super religious and would disown me. :(
Jake Vaughn Yep you’re right I’ve always had dysphoria I just kinda shoved it to the back of my mind but once I actually took the time I started noticing it more.
I’m sorry friend. Just try to remember you’re valid and wonderful. Also it’s totally ok to have dysphoria about some things and not others, or to experience a little or a lot. I’m sorry you’re not in a position right now to be able to pursue top surgery if that’s something you’d want. But hang in there and know there’s a whole world of love out there and you’re not alone, and you never know what’s around the corner. Even if you have to wait it out for a bit you got this and you’re awesome. It’s great that you’ve come this far on understanding yourself and your identity! So congratulate yourself for that and best wishes to you.
I brag about my ovaries and wait for people's reactions to see if they think it's a joke. People think I'm joking. Wake up people! You don't know anything about any stranger unless they tell you
I wish I could come out in school But I'm afraid my mom will find out (she's transphobic) or that nobody will really accept me/take me seriously I already heard some people say stuff about me like sick in my mind but like,, some others knew a trans guy and were supportive I don't want to be bullied again like before I came to this school, now I'm tolerated when I sit with others and sometimes spoken too like, I don't want to ruin that
"Do I come out? Is being happy worth it or should I stay in the closet?" A question NO trans person should EVER have to ponder. 😞
Casstiel a question you should ask is “ am I being my true self”
@@johnfreeman9358 Amen to that.
I only come out to strangers because they can't judge me
I came out on my birthday and my parents said it was "uncalled for" because my birthday isn't about just me?????? And that coming out wasn't a celebration for them.
Your parents are now on Santa's naughty list!
YOUR birthday isn't about you? About who then??
Good! Don’t do that to you parents
Your birthday isn’t about u um yes it is . It’s the one day a year that is all u .
I feel that so hard and I’m so sorry you have to deal with that, especially around coming out which is already nerve racking. My family’s been similar like with me wearing a suit to MY graduation (it’s not conciderate to your grandparents!) and stuff like that. Just gotta due you and hopefully in time they’ll come to see it differently and come to respect your identity and that being out is necessary for your happiness going forward. Sometimes it’s just hard for parents to see at first when it comes as a shock they weren’t prepared for.
I emailed my dad he replied with a sweet loving supportive email. My mom I texted she came back supportive . I went and sent my family messages before coming out on Facebook . My two aunts were cool with it were I lost most of my mom family and a aunt on my dad side . My friend who I was staying with told her neighbours I am trans without really asking me . She said we aren’t a couple because I don’t have the right parts because I am ftm . I told my one roommate where the other two I haven’t .
You're not a coward, Mack. You've come so far in the time that I've known you. and you've more courage than you believe. You're so strong, and so freaking proud of you, my bro!
When I came out to my mum I Just sent her a text as I couldn't tell her face to face
Hazel's Transgender Vlogs me to I was in the room right next to her with my little brother because that made me feel safe
this is very insightful, mack! im going to come out FINALLY in january (im already out at my uni) and have been thinking abt how to tell my family, work, and old friends from high school. i dont like the face to face Talk either so i think spreading the word is gunna help lessen the awkwardness for work lmao love ya 💕
I'm so happy for u mack you are very lucky I wish my parents would be supportive only my friends know
I came out at work last year, I told the assistant manager shaking like crazy and asked if she could spread the news.. she did and when I saw my manager it was awkward at first. Because I knew she knew and I didn’t know what to say..
She pulled me aside though and turned out to be the most supportive person in regards to my transition,
Im still not out to the majority of my family so I feel it’ll be like your story with you extended family...
I'm so glad you had such a positive experience coming out! I've been on t for just over a year and I came out around 2 years ago with pretty much the same experiences as you ☺
I feel you Mack! I can relate so much, i'm dying to come out but i hate saying these kind of things face to face, super afraid to loose people, so i would feel way better if someone helped me out :')
I’m in the beginning testosterone stages of my medical transition but for the most part all of my friends and the immediate family knows. My workplace knows as well and the possible new job I’m interviewing for knows too. I’m hoping it’ll be easier the further into transition I get for me to ask people to refer to me with the correct name in pronouns, because that’s what I have the hardest time with. My family took it the worse and we aren’t on speaking terms but I also knew going into this that that would likely be the case. Gotta roll with the punches sometimes.
I was a bit of a "coward" too by changing jobs as I was transitioning for the first year that way I didn't get misgendered too much or called by my birth name. Now I'm back at my old job, but they all call me my name and I don't misgendered hardly at all.
you look so much happier than ever and so comfortable with yourself
I'm out to all my friends as trans, most of them don't understand but they still use the right name and pronouns. I don't know how to come out to teachers or my parents though....
Hey it’s awesome that you were able to take the step of telling your friends! Congratulate yourself on that. As for teachers, I don’t know your situation but maybe emailing them all (or waiting to email right before new classes/teachers start if that’s easier) to explain to them your name and pronouns. Or maybe reaching out to a counselor or administrator at your school to help you? Best of luck on your coming out journey friend!
My coworker told everyone today and I'm so happy he did bc I didnt have to have long, anxious conversations. He even corrected people bc he knows i'm a non confrentational bitch. I'm feeling good stress, it's weird being happy.
I’m currently questioning whether or not I’m trans. I have chest dysphoria and always have. I’m 17 though and there’s no way I could tell my parents or family because they are super religious and would disown me. :(
I think of you think you have dysphoria then you've answered your own question there. I didn't realise I was a dude until I realised I had dysphoria
Jake Vaughn Yep you’re right I’ve always had dysphoria I just kinda shoved it to the back of my mind but once I actually took the time I started noticing it more.
I’m sorry friend. Just try to remember you’re valid and wonderful. Also it’s totally ok to have dysphoria about some things and not others, or to experience a little or a lot. I’m sorry you’re not in a position right now to be able to pursue top surgery if that’s something you’d want. But hang in there and know there’s a whole world of love out there and you’re not alone, and you never know what’s around the corner. Even if you have to wait it out for a bit you got this and you’re awesome. It’s great that you’ve come this far on understanding yourself and your identity! So congratulate yourself for that and best wishes to you.
Riley G Thank you so much
I brag about my ovaries and wait for people's reactions to see if they think it's a joke. People think I'm joking. Wake up people! You don't know anything about any stranger unless they tell you
Can u talk more about the coming out after passing as male? Id be very interested to hear more about that.
#MackDaddy
I wish I could come out in school
But I'm afraid my mom will find out (she's transphobic) or that nobody will really accept me/take me seriously
I already heard some people say stuff about me like sick in my mind but like,, some others knew a trans guy and were supportive
I don't want to be bullied again like before I came to this school, now I'm tolerated when I sit with others and sometimes spoken too like, I don't want to ruin that
Z.G. are you a male?
@@johnfreeman9358 I'm ftm so born as a female, why?
Z.G. Just asking. So what makes you want to transition to male?
@@johnfreeman9358 I have dysphoria
Basically I want to feel like me and comfortable, I'm not a girl so I don't want to be seen/treated like one
Z.G. Okay I got it but biologically your still a girl , so I don’t get why you say you not a girl
Can you share your therapist?
You make an adorable man
Hello hello your daughters a boyo