Yes being patient and polite with people, allows us to convey our message with more respect and doesn’t make the other uncomfortable. There are ways to connect deeper. Can’t help em all, learn when to cut the tethers we use to absorb these energies.
Sometimes I feed my Ego by watching videos like this, not because of selfishness, NO! But because I’ve been misunderstood, unrecognized, and rejected in my life. The child within needs recognition once in a while.
if it was ego - you'd say this was you without regards to how this particular perspective applies to your life. the entire list applies to the crap i've been through and i still don't give a damn. life is worth living happily. if that is you too - the first thing everyone should have done is gotten to know themselves first... this is the first step towards that. you're doing fine. :)
There's so much I can relate to here! We walk a fine line between blunt honesty and rudeness but sometimes the most loving thing you can tell someone is that they just need to get a grip. My nosiness (or, as I like to think of it, my expert detection skill) isn't always appreciated. Someone once blocked me for noticing that a woman who he thought was a good friend in fact had an unhealthy obsession with him. So all I could do was sit back, watch the inevitable fireworks and think, "Oh well, he can't say nobody warned him!" 😝
One of my favorite lines is from the tv series, “The Nanny” when she famously said, “Sometimes helping is hurting and hurting is helping.” If it comes from a place of being connected with source it’s with, for, on and in purpose.
Our humor is dark Our love is stark We cannot see our own reflection But we can see through your bark There is something surreal about realizing who we really are. It's like we have dissected ourselves over and over in the effort of trying to understand our own selves as well as we seem to understand others and often times not being valued for having that understanding of others, shoruding us more into self doubt and further introspection. It is so empowering to realize that the curse that we feel like we have always lived with is actually valuable and unique and something to nourish and improve upon. This is a necessary step to try and realize the potential within us and I am grateful to you for helping enlighten us. Thank you.
You are describing my everyday life 😅 but to soften the "rude & arrogant" approach, I've learned to listen first while analising the situation and of course planning the reaction to help the other person.
I thought this did not apply to me BUT I did this some months ago, really meaning to help. All hell broke loose.......... with spiteful, vindictive retaliation, gaslighting and lies. Friendship terminated / door slam. Why can't others be as honest with themselves as we are?
I get into more trouble offending when that isn't my intent. Yes, being blunt is truth being voiced to me, to ones on the receiving end, it is taken as an insult. Oh well, life goes on and it goes on with or without them.
YES AND NOTHING. They are as unprepared for the initial words are for the explanation of how a HEYOKA INFJ mind words. Its futile, but the few people I want to keep close to me that are related to me I know now that I have to create clear boundaries with and the way 'I" make them feel are precluded by verbose explanations of their actions that made my "their" words come from my mouth. Its the gift that keeps on giving an explanation. lol
Are minds are going so fast we just sometimes just trip over our words. Give us a break world we take so little from the world, but it takes every thing from us 🤷♂️
Nailed spot on here. A constant self-battle for equilibrium, while trying to bring out the best potential of someone they see as worthy. The mirror ability can't be turned off. They don't detect lies, but actually acceptance or denial. That's the key to understanding them or not. It's those with denial that see them as "rude". The "bluntness" is the classic, along with the humour to make others laugh off their issues. Those with acceptance will become happier, while others get angrier with denial. How heyokas "fix" broken people is when one is so broken by their denial, that they have to rediscover acceptance. They are called "clowns" because of the abundance of apathy and denial in society.
At this point, I don’t even use my humor anymore to help people because most people don’t even understand what I was joking about in the first place, so I literally just laugh to myself because it’s just so funny to me how the people around me don’t know how to change and it’s flusterrating when they just don’t know how to listen either. What a world, but the ppl who get my humor and see my efforts, few but very cherished moments by me. I wouldn’t change it for the world, except for you know, the world to change
I accidentally offend people all the time and I finally got over being apologetic about it because it's my natural function to be that jokey clowning the clowns and honestly whether they like it or not they do eventually understand and learn the lesson from it. I'm a natural authentic source of enlightenment and education to every life that touches mine. That's pure truth and faith in my anointed purpose and right action on accordance with that faith in the truth.
I have a tendency for being blunt but never intend to tell like it is out of spite and yet more often than not, it's the "how dare you" look followed up with bitter words. Honestly, when somethings brought to my attention, I speak on it without hesitation nor intentions of offending anyone. I've learned to get ahead of this tendency to question wither or not that I should bring it up. And yes I have issues with the "woe is me" depending on the kind hearted for their dose of attention which is disgusting. Worse, they come up with just as many excuses as to why they can't move on for every helpful words of kindness to suggest they can, short of giving 'em car keys, cash and telling 'em "Get tha hell on out of here with negative shit!" I'm fine with just telling 'em after awhile of tolerating to make sense of their situation as to try uplift their spirits. There's no uplifting a spirit when it comes to a demon guise of "woe is me" sorts. I loathe narcissist bullies, especially those in a position of authority. They deserve no less than what I like to refer as a humbling experience. To say I've held my tongue would of meant no need for rambling about from job to job "You're damned good worker but you have an attitude problem." Now why is that; if to say I'm sound of mind for the task at hand; of which is clearly evident as with profound efficiency accounted for time gained expresses quality on point to question the misconduct of supervisors on behalf of their own egos rather than the company's or their charges. Belittling employees already having to endure the stress of workloads along with tolerating snide wit of stooperviser's lack of considerable respect for there to be harmony in the workplace. If you speak only to hear yourself talk, I'm not listening and I'm sure as hell not gonna cater to your ego as I'm here for the job and not as your subject to make up for lack of control elsewhere. Yeah, I've got an attitude to see the problem isn't interested in a solution as it would involve acknowledgement of denial than a long process of understanding to forgive one's self a way forward without having to berate others on behalf of egos false sense of being all that as none are. You've got a problem with authority? No. I've got a problem with abuse of authority. Heads get so swollen; entrusted to insure safe steady work flow for all involved, tends to leave responsibility sitting by the wayside of far below, looking up, the thought of Icarus comes to mind, a laugh short of a tear. These days as the last 10 years or so I've kept distance from people here on my made of self island. Seeing things for what they are and not how they care to represent themselves can lead to seeing something about someone you'd wished you hadn't and there's your curse. Before I understood my nature I dealt with a lot of happenings as it were a mystery I had a hard time relating to things I was able to do and always questioning my sanity alongside others questioning my sanity. Felt ostracized in school until I quit at 16 years of age. Things I experienced as a child, I thought was normal for everyone else until I spoke of these things to found as to how I was the odd one always on the outside looking in as if through a two way mirror always seeing others seeing themselves. On the bright side I'm fine with being alone understanding I'm never alone.
HI Brian. I learned a few years ago that I am an INFJ-Advocate. I have an Enfj-Protagonist, an Enfp-Champainer and Infp-Mediator (all Diplomats) in my household. We all experience this being - "sound of mind for the task at hand; of which is clearly evident as with profound efficiency accounted for time gained expresses quality on point to question the misconduct of supervisors on behalf of their own egos rather than the company's or their charges. "You're damned good worker but you have an attitude problem." Indeed! Perhaps my introvert island is next to yours and you can feel the love from your neighbors. :)
@@jolynn8732 it's been about two years or so since I discovered this about myself out of curiosity. To say I was surprised for the first time in a long time and more so than previous times is an understatement. Didn't have much in the way of a childhood. Especially since I had expressed my unusual experiences as if it were naturally experienced by everyone else. Some ways I was happy to have found mysteries; of numerous occasions in the past, solved... then sad to think of times had I known this... but then such as it is... I was tooken back by MBTI test as it's come closer to me than few I've allowed in. When I was young, I wanted nothing more than to be apart and understood... after countless disappointments I went and embraced the odd man out, a ghost drifting in and around of lives. There's people who've known me for years and yet don't understand me. And what each know of me is different. Perhaps if they came together they'd have a better understanding 🤔 I got tired of my being always questioned as shackled to the witness stand in my own defense which was pointless since I was presumed guilty for their misunderstanding my intentions. So then I left and found solitude not as dreadful as those I hung around felt it was. About 10yrs with few connections and lesser words spoken. And to cross this that I took the test more than a few times; even though it explains a lot I hadn't understood before then; only that I'm weird by everyone else's standards, I got so use to being a ghost, I no longer cared to be seen and to be seen took me for a whirl. Didn't bother going deeper with subs though. On the bright side I'm not as alone as I previously thought.
XXXJ are generally honestly types, and I love it. For me, it's like: "no, please, I'm doing my stuff in my own way, please leave me alone!" But in reality I need their opinion, I need their guidance and advices and I appreciate a lot that trait. Honesty it's a mix of rationality and empathy, because responds to the questions "what's the truth?", but also "what's the better for that person?" The first day of university I sat down with a fifty-year-old woman and an INFJ girl, with an expression of incredulity, said to me: "what are you doing here? Come with us!" And I was shocked and impressed by the intense, direct way she pronunciated that words. We're now friends (or maybe flirty friends hahaha), we understand each other in a supernatural level and we doesn't need to talk to be connected, we care a lot about each other, she's hdkswknsnznzsn really cuteeeee 😵😳😭 I'm an ENFP
I can relate to all of the above mentioned. I may start out softly softly catchy monkey just to weigh up a situation. When I discover that I'm being taken for a mug and then I let 🙏rip I have all the good 👍intentions but have come to a rude relization that not everyone can actually help themselves.
Wow I'm pretty polite about everything the first time so I know and listens and I end up suffering horrible horribly it pisses me off and then I get rather blunt and then no one listens so then I freaked the f*** out and that's about that's what it is
Wow you just described me in a nutshell. Ill work on being so blunt and honest. The worst part though and not sure if it was mentioned and I missed it but I HATE absorbing other peoples aches and pains. It isn't just emotions.
@@EpicWarDog think it is possible to feel or not feeling. Not sure how to stop altogether though. Think it like we have eyelids. Still can see light just not like when they opened.
We can seem catatonic to others, if those others are in constant survival mode, pretending they are fine while having intrusive thoughts of cutting your head off and putting somewhere that's not a sexual organ, if comfortable they will have the greatest time ever, reality has infinite perspectives, 🙏💓😇
We are rude to the extremely crude! Point blank period … we usually stay in our lane and dislike even being around THE OTHERS … very blunt cause life is short and we don’t waste people’s time.. as time is energy and energy is $$$
I think this video put in the last puzzle piece for me (I'll be looking into Heyoka more). It took me a while researching the depth of MBTI to confirm I was an INFJ - I always test INTJ, but I didn't quite vibe with the 'shy' or more 'reserved' type. I'm known to be very blunt and I come across wrong a lot - I'll be perceived as arrogant, judgmental, or insensitive. I definitely detest the victim mentality in any form and I've recently found myself trying to push against the auto door slam that's trying to happen on a 20+ year 'friendship'. The 'seeing the big picture' also rings true. My father-in-law recently passed from an aggressive cancer that gave him a year to live. We are a Christian family, so death is simply a part of life and we truly believe we will see each other again. He was a really fun-loving guy - loved humor and dad jokes, so yeah if I ever joked about his cancer, it would make everyone but he and I uncomfortable. I didn't care...it made him smile every time.
Brilliant video.thats me.i struggle with this gift, feel everything earthquakes coming, I go woods daily or near water it's my therapy.ground me. I'm now going to look at foods we should eat for nervous system , as wer so sensitive, thanks for ur video ❤
This was entertaining to watch😄. I had to look up the meaning of "heyoka" before finally watching a video with such titles. Labels lately put me off. But it was worth the watch. With the exception of the last point about us mirroring to manipulative types their behaviours by being manipulative too; this is classic me. In my case, I simply exercise my power to choose what I want. This disempowers them and drives them bat shit crazy. And I do it calmly because it really isn't that deep or personal. As for all the other parts, this is what I learnt after a long and deep journey within; I talk to myself exactly how I talk to them. The blunt, unvarnished truth I tell them; I speak to myself like that first. It's impossible to treat people outside how you treat yourself. Your treatment of others is a reflection of your treatment of yourself. As a result, I'm unapologetically myself. Instead, when I trigger someone due to my honesty; I give them space to decide what they want to do about it. I learnt that I can't choose to be myself and expect others to be okay with it. Also, I realised people don't know the difference between empathy and compassion. I have a lot of empathy which is why I'm able to be kind and merciful. I have very little compassion. That's why I'm hard on people with victim mentality. I just don't believe in compassion; I believe in justice and fairness. When I realise people need compassion, I tell them clearly I'm ill-equipped to give them what they need and recommend someone with the compassion they need to sympathize with their reality. I listen to solve. People share their trials for validation and to complain. I'm just not built for that and I'm at peace with it. To each their own. As such, I'm currently focused on myself, life, and creating a world I love and enjoy for myself. It's either people want to be with me as I am or not. I'm done pandering to people's inability to look within and face themselves.
Everything truly resonates, alot of people don't fuck with me because I am too real for their realities. Whatever 🤷🏾♀️ someone else will appreciate me
Apparently I am (rude) - and edgy with cutting incite, but I’m in deep denial of this when I’m in the throws of sincerely providing my “wisdom“ to any human who captures my attention . I thought I may have found a calling when I trained to be a quantum hypnosis therapist (QHHT). I completed 26 free sessions for others as was the internship requirement. I thought I was brilliant in my ability to cut through to the heart of any client’s true issues to help them have a great hypnosis session- but sadly I think I just intimidated and overwhelmed some with my direct honesty and possibly off putting humor, as they never referred me or responded to requests for feedback . I’ll never know. And I really dislike not knowing . Very disappointing. And although I felt in the zone, the 4-6 hour sessions drained me for two-5 days after, as I processed everyone on such a deep level. Not a sustainable career. Maybe if I focused on INFJs. Lol. Oh well, back to writing and illustrating my comic book, The Initiate - a graphic novel of multi dimensional self discovery. So hard to find a good fit in this backwards world. Anyway, the person making these INFJ videos is off the chart accurately describing me - it’s almost embarrassing, while also quite validating. I feel so understood. Thanks for that!
Andrea, where was the rapport, engagement with the client? Did the emotional mind accept reprioritization of values as most beneficial, and as adequate to resolve related, residual difficulties. Were you doing the ‘heavy lifting’ or was the client discovering/uncovering their own latent imagination, creativity, resources. What part did laughter play? How do you explain the absence of feedback ... lack of gratitude, self-appreciation for honest effort and results? Blessings.
I am a Heyoka INFJ. I will leave honest comments on RUclips chatlogs about things people aren’t willing to be open minded about. I have had people I have had to do the INFJ door slam on by reporting for being totally out of control. I come off as rude but I am never vicious
...I do have no tolerance toward victim mantality. I just shut someone down that I served yesterday because she is trying to manipulate me to get something that is not important to her either. And she has a ego that is fragile that she went to complain to my manager because she think I'm rude when I saw her lie about the things that she's trying to get from me. I don't like her anyways but I just want to know if it's something that is super important to others, will they forget it? I bet no and that's a kind of rudeness.
I found you'll offend people less if you level with what they say or do and gently repeat their actions or words with an understanding while adding a slight deviation in the direction of your perspective while not going all the way into sounding preachy, correcting, or infantilizing. You win people over with time, patience, understanding and love. You must also know when to stop trying with people who refuse to listen.
Intriguing. I have a question about #7. Is it normal for this variety of INFJ to desire constant solitude more than most? As for #6 (victim mentality) this has always bothered me since I was a little kid as my earliest memory was being irritated by Piglet in the cartoon Winnie the Pooh whenever he said "p-p-poor me". I remember thinking "ugh just shut up and make it better". Last question is about humor. When people see my arm doesn't work right since an accident and try to offer condolences, I can't have that and my immediate response is to have them hold thier hand up to see if I can land a proper high-five with a janky arm. I think it's hilarious and they loosen up after. Is this an example of heyoka infj humor? I probably spelled it wrong
Personality types are a spectrum, in the sense that everyone can feel certain traits stronger than others. So, so INFJs tend to require more solitude in their lives while others require a little more human interaction. For the heyoka-like empath, usually they don't mind to socialize but like any INFJs they are still introverts. The second example could very well be an example of their quick-witted humor - haha!
Words are powerful so it's empowering to use them. Sometimes it's coupled with a corresponding emotion which further expresses the position of the speaker. The point is made. Walking karma works.
Being confident enough in one's self will allow for one to not feel a need to be forceful. Assertion, conflict and aggression has been the source of many lifetimes of problems.
Absolutely agreed, yet it's only recognized by the ones mature enough to appreciate it. Too many people are threatened by honest assertiveness nowadays. 🙄
Is Heyoka really a thing? Of so, how does one get diagnosed or is it a hunch thing? Did MBTI test as well as others but didn't say anything about this heyoka thing? Just wondering guys! TY in advance. :)
The term Heyoka empath did in fact originate from the First Nations Lakota people, and in their beliefs you technically must be chosen for this path, and then go through vigorous challenges to earn your name. In this aspect, the modern-day heyoka-like empath is what we discuss in the video, describing an empath with specific traits that closely resemble those described by the original founders of the term. It has nothing to do with MBTI and more so related to empath types, however, some INFJs find themselves very in tune with both descriptions. Hope this helps! These are the 15 signs of the INFJ Heyoka: ruclips.net/video/EgjE5VMHBc4/видео.html
@@PSYCH-O I see. Thank you for the clarity. I'm probably a more descreet one and I do care what people think and often choose my words carefully but I seem to be a natural at defusing intense conversations and moments with a little humor. Anyway thank you again!
Thank you. First off, I am not Heyoka. I was not appointed by the ones with the authority to bestow such a position on me. Heyoka is not a thing one can claim. And I have high doubts that anyone that is aware of this type of 'information' is Heyoka either. Can anyone here give a valid claim that they were appointed by the Lakota Sioux Tribal Elders' Council? Secondly, I just do my thing. Labels are for those that need a reminder of who they are. To remind themselves and everyone else.
🤔🧐 this video on these types are q bit different then the other ones an so far as I have seen in here some these triats are of infj empath how ever I have sigma as well well if u put it on a scale as most do I say 7 maybe 8 out of 10 I got for sigma ! interesting that some of these things here over my life span I have actually done ✔ while angery or very much in my youth 😅 however not the munupltuive behavior an toxic I find it rather distasteful relly buh in a sence so far with this assessment of this the firmness of growth perhaps is what make the difference in that regard to being well let's say it rude an a jerk lmfao any way 😅 so if you asked me we different buh different an relly I would need more time to analyze this in further an I already got to much to do as of present so imma take this as it is an let another infj speak up 🤣🤩😇💯❤🤦♀️🤷♀️ an well as far as I have thought there is a stage of process in our minds or body spirit an well soul buh happy trails 👣
Omg yes ...I'm not tolerant of people's clear abuse of power at the moment Montgomery county Cys. My public defender who will be disbarred .I had too move outta that county so I could get footing an adjust accordingly. Unfortunately being a Navy Brat so I used too say. An having 2 narcissistic parents having narcissistic relationships habits only die when they're met wit the facts an when I found through my own discovery an thank God for RUclips an yous making these enlightening videos narcissistic mannerisms are OBVIOUS NOW ...NO empathy NO THX never gonna change, an OMG found that it gets worse. Narcissistic sociopath my ex. I LET HIM VISIT HIS DAUGHTERS IN MY HOUSE AFTER WE BROKE UP AN HE FUCKED WIT EVERYTHING HE HAD MY KIDS TAKEN alot alot alot an cys caseworker calling me bipolar . Like condisendingly he had his monkeys already..I said I had PTSD from being in a narcissistic relationship lol. Anyway I've came out an LOL 😂😂😂 THEY MAD CAUSE IM GRATEFUL THIS HAPPENED IMMA BETTER VERSION OF MYSELF I SEE ME.AN IM DONE DIMMING MY LIGHT HE GAVE ME THIS GIFT AN I THANK EVERYONE AN EVERYTHING THATS US ON OUR HEAVEN EARTH. IMMA STAY RUFFLING FEATHERS AN LEAVE THEM AS A REMINDER STRONGfamVALUEZ has WINGZ. XOXOX
The best thing to do is to back out as peacefully and as tactfully as possible if that's not possible then that usually means going super nova is the only way to get across that your boundaries have been crossed and you are serious and then to door slam with no contact 😢❤️🩹
Hey PSYCH-Os! 👋
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Cultural appropriation kills your vibe....like alot.
Heyokas are lakota, if you're not lakota, you're not heyoka.
Right ✅ on 👍 👌 🙆♂️ infj's always 🏆 win in the end.
Most of the time I am very polite, but I can be very blunt, the older I get the more outspoken I am.
yes - even after we pass, this wisdom will still hold true. it never was about us, it's about the truth so they all have a damn chance. :D
Now I ask, "may I offer you an idea?" and listen for the yes, before I tell people what I think they can do to change what they complain about.
Listening.
Yes being patient and polite with people, allows us to convey our message with more respect and doesn’t make the other uncomfortable. There are ways to connect deeper. Can’t help em all, learn when to cut the tethers we use to absorb these energies.
Sometimes I feed my Ego by watching videos like this, not because of selfishness, NO! But because I’ve been misunderstood, unrecognized, and rejected in my life. The child within needs recognition once in a while.
if it was ego - you'd say this was you without regards to how this particular perspective applies to your life. the entire list applies to the crap i've been through and i still don't give a damn. life is worth living happily. if that is you too - the first thing everyone should have done is gotten to know themselves first... this is the first step towards that. you're doing fine. :)
Ain't got no time for sugar coating crap anymore, LoL.
Amen! 💯
There's so much I can relate to here! We walk a fine line between blunt honesty and rudeness but sometimes the most loving thing you can tell someone is that they just need to get a grip. My nosiness (or, as I like to think of it, my expert detection skill) isn't always appreciated. Someone once blocked me for noticing that a woman who he thought was a good friend in fact had an unhealthy obsession with him. So all I could do was sit back, watch the inevitable fireworks and think, "Oh well, he can't say nobody warned him!" 😝
One of my favorite lines is from the tv series, “The Nanny” when she famously said, “Sometimes helping is hurting and hurting is helping.” If it comes from a place of being connected with source it’s with, for, on and in purpose.
It's so true they can't handle I'm being real with them and say I'm grimey because they are uncomfortable
Our humor is dark
Our love is stark
We cannot see our own reflection
But we can see through your bark
There is something surreal about realizing who we really are. It's like we have dissected ourselves over and over in the effort of trying to understand our own selves as well as we seem to understand others and often times not being valued for having that understanding of others, shoruding us more into self doubt and further introspection. It is so empowering to realize that the curse that we feel like we have always lived with is actually valuable and unique and something to nourish and improve upon. This is a necessary step to try and realize the potential within us and I am grateful to you for helping enlighten us. Thank you.
Thank YOU! Great comment, my friend 🙌
You are describing my everyday life 😅 but to soften the "rude & arrogant" approach, I've learned to listen first while analising the situation and of course planning the reaction to help the other person.
That's the best route to take! Thanks for watching 🙏
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I love changing people with my bluntness and I can't beet around the bush people think I am rude but they don't say it they look it.
I thought this did not apply to me BUT I did this some months ago, really meaning to help. All hell broke loose.......... with spiteful, vindictive retaliation, gaslighting and lies. Friendship terminated / door slam. Why can't others be as honest with themselves as we are?
To seem less offensive I try to keep my mouth shut. Sometimes. Great video. Those actors are doing a great job by the way.
Thank you for watching!
I get into more trouble offending when that isn't my intent. Yes, being blunt is truth being voiced to me, to ones on the receiving end, it is taken as an insult. Oh well, life goes on and it goes on with or without them.
YES AND NOTHING. They are as unprepared for the initial words are for the explanation of how a HEYOKA INFJ mind words. Its futile, but the few people I want to keep close to me that are related to me I know now that I have to create clear boundaries with and the way 'I" make them feel are precluded by verbose explanations of their actions that made my "their" words come from my mouth. Its the gift that keeps on giving an explanation. lol
Are minds are going so fast we just sometimes just trip over our words. Give us a break world we take so little from the world, but it takes every thing from us 🤷♂️
Aww shucks... that was beautiful. Dayum.
I usually say, "I dont mean to sound as harsh as I'm coming off as" explaining that..is really hard to do!
Nailed spot on here. A constant self-battle for equilibrium, while trying to bring out the best potential of someone they see as worthy. The mirror ability can't be turned off. They don't detect lies, but actually acceptance or denial. That's the key to understanding them or not. It's those with denial that see them as "rude".
The "bluntness" is the classic, along with the humour to make others laugh off their issues. Those with acceptance will become happier, while others get angrier with denial. How heyokas "fix" broken people is when one is so broken by their denial, that they have to rediscover acceptance. They are called "clowns" because of the abundance of apathy and denial in society.
Well explained comment, thank you for sharing! 🙏
Exactly this is why that door is literally slammed in a wide variety of individual s faces later
At this point, I don’t even use my humor anymore to help people because most people don’t even understand what I was joking about in the first place, so I literally just laugh to myself because it’s just so funny to me how the people around me don’t know how to change and it’s flusterrating when they just don’t know how to listen either. What a world, but the ppl who get my humor and see my efforts, few but very cherished moments by me. I wouldn’t change it for the world, except for you know, the world to change
Great video. Number 7 is especially true. We really do need our OWN personal and PRIVATE SPACE. Great video.
I accidentally offend people all the time and I finally got over being apologetic about it because it's my natural function to be that jokey clowning the clowns and honestly whether they like it or not they do eventually understand and learn the lesson from it. I'm a natural authentic source of enlightenment and education to every life that touches mine. That's pure truth and faith in my anointed purpose and right action on accordance with that faith in the truth.
Me too, I find myself apologizing even before talking because it seems that I posses the ability to offend everyone all the time. I hate it.
Hahaha, oh man. I have this little crazy look and dance I do after the "mic drop". Makes me laugh, now.
Haha love it 😂
I have a tendency for being blunt but never intend to tell like it is out of spite and yet more often than not, it's the "how dare you" look followed up with bitter words.
Honestly, when somethings brought to my attention, I speak on it without hesitation nor intentions of offending anyone.
I've learned to get ahead of this tendency to question wither or not that I should bring it up.
And yes I have issues with the "woe is me" depending on the kind hearted for their dose of attention which is disgusting. Worse, they come up with just as many excuses as to why they can't move on for every helpful words of kindness to suggest they can, short of giving 'em car keys, cash and telling 'em "Get tha hell on out of here with negative shit!"
I'm fine with just telling 'em after awhile of tolerating to make sense of their situation as to try uplift their spirits.
There's no uplifting a spirit when it comes to a demon guise of "woe is me" sorts.
I loathe narcissist bullies, especially those in a position of authority. They deserve no less than what I like to refer as a humbling experience. To say I've held my tongue would of meant no need for rambling about from job to job
"You're damned good worker but you have an attitude problem."
Now why is that; if to say I'm sound of mind for the task at hand; of which is clearly evident as with profound efficiency accounted for time gained expresses quality on point to question the misconduct of supervisors on behalf of their own egos rather than the company's or their charges.
Belittling employees already having to endure the stress of workloads along with tolerating snide wit of stooperviser's lack of considerable respect for there to be harmony in the workplace.
If you speak only to hear yourself talk, I'm not listening and I'm sure as hell not gonna cater to your ego as I'm here for the job and not as your subject to make up for lack of control elsewhere.
Yeah, I've got an attitude to see the problem isn't interested in a solution as it would involve acknowledgement of denial than a long process of understanding to forgive one's self a way forward without having to berate others on behalf of egos false sense of being all that as none are.
You've got a problem with authority?
No. I've got a problem with abuse of authority.
Heads get so swollen; entrusted to insure safe steady work flow for all involved, tends to leave responsibility sitting by the wayside of far below, looking up, the thought of Icarus comes to mind, a laugh short of a tear.
These days as the last 10 years or so I've kept distance from people here on my made of self island.
Seeing things for what they are and not how they care to represent themselves can lead to seeing something about someone you'd wished you hadn't and there's your curse. Before I understood my nature I dealt with a lot of happenings as it were a mystery I had a hard time relating to things I was able to do and always questioning my sanity alongside others questioning my sanity. Felt ostracized in school until I quit at 16 years of age.
Things I experienced as a child, I thought was normal for everyone else until I spoke of these things to found as to how I was the odd one always on the outside looking in as if through a two way mirror always seeing others seeing themselves.
On the bright side I'm fine with being alone understanding I'm never alone.
HI Brian. I learned a few years ago that I am an INFJ-Advocate. I have an Enfj-Protagonist, an Enfp-Champainer and Infp-Mediator (all Diplomats) in my household. We all experience this being - "sound of mind for the task at hand; of which is clearly evident as with profound efficiency accounted for time gained expresses quality on point to question the misconduct of supervisors on behalf of their own egos rather than the company's or their charges. "You're damned good worker but you have an attitude problem." Indeed! Perhaps my introvert island is next to yours and you can feel the love from your neighbors. :)
@@jolynn8732 it's been about two years or so since I discovered this about myself out of curiosity.
To say I was surprised for the first time in a long time and more so than previous times is an understatement.
Didn't have much in the way of a childhood.
Especially since I had expressed my unusual experiences as if it were naturally experienced by everyone else. Some ways I was happy to have found mysteries; of numerous occasions in the past, solved... then sad to think of times had I known this... but then such as it is...
I was tooken back by MBTI test as it's come closer to me than few I've allowed in.
When I was young, I wanted nothing more than to be apart and understood... after countless disappointments I went and embraced the odd man out, a ghost drifting in and around of lives.
There's people who've known me for years and yet don't understand me.
And what each know of me is different.
Perhaps if they came together they'd have a better understanding 🤔
I got tired of my being always questioned as shackled to the witness stand in my own defense which was pointless since I was presumed guilty for their misunderstanding my intentions.
So then I left and found solitude not as dreadful as those I hung around felt it was. About 10yrs with few connections and lesser words spoken. And to cross this that I took the test more than a few times; even though it explains a lot I hadn't understood before then; only that I'm weird by everyone else's standards, I got so use to being a ghost, I no longer cared to be seen and to be seen took me for a whirl. Didn't bother going deeper with subs though.
On the bright side I'm not as alone as I previously thought.
XXXJ are generally honestly types, and I love it. For me, it's like: "no, please, I'm doing my stuff in my own way, please leave me alone!" But in reality I need their opinion, I need their guidance and advices and I appreciate a lot that trait. Honesty it's a mix of rationality and empathy, because responds to the questions "what's the truth?", but also "what's the better for that person?" The first day of university I sat down with a fifty-year-old woman and an INFJ girl, with an expression of incredulity, said to me: "what are you doing here? Come with us!" And I was shocked and impressed by the intense, direct way she pronunciated that words. We're now friends (or maybe flirty friends hahaha), we understand each other in a supernatural level and we doesn't need to talk to be connected, we care a lot about each other, she's hdkswknsnznzsn really cuteeeee 😵😳😭
I'm an ENFP
gosh it’s almost a curse!!! I know it’s a “gift”….but it’s a curse and I’ve just learned to stay silent lol
When compassion and understanding dont work, fight fire with fire.
I can relate to all of the above mentioned.
I may start out softly softly catchy monkey just to weigh up a situation.
When I discover that I'm being taken for a mug and then I let 🙏rip
I have all the good 👍intentions but have come to a rude relization that not everyone can actually help themselves.
Ok now this is most definitely me!! I definitely tore my ex Malignant Narcissist a new hole that he will not ever forget 🥊🥊🥊🤗🤗🤗
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@@PSYCH-O For Real 😂😂😂😂😂
Wow I'm pretty polite about everything the first time so I know and listens and I end up suffering horrible horribly it pisses me off and then I get rather blunt and then no one listens so then I freaked the f*** out and that's about that's what it is
Wow you just described me in a nutshell. Ill work on being so blunt and honest. The worst part though and not sure if it was mentioned and I missed it but I HATE absorbing other peoples aches and pains. It isn't just emotions.
You're exactly right, it's not just emotions.. some empaths can get physically sick from feeling other's physical pains. 🙄
@@PSYCH-O I wish I knew how to block it. It's a heavy load .
@@EpicWarDog think it is possible to feel or not feeling. Not sure how to stop altogether though. Think it like we have eyelids. Still can see light just not like when they opened.
@@PSYCH-O spot on, I do.
We can seem catatonic to others, if those others are in constant survival mode, pretending they are fine while having intrusive thoughts of cutting your head off and putting somewhere that's not a sexual organ, if comfortable they will have the greatest time ever, reality has infinite perspectives, 🙏💓😇
The truth hurts. Too bad.
Well-intended truth can hurt even more sometimes 😅
@@PSYCH-O Them's the breaks.
We are rude to the extremely crude! Point blank period … we usually stay in our lane and dislike even being around THE OTHERS … very blunt cause life is short and we don’t waste people’s time.. as time is energy and energy is $$$
Thank you for this video⚘ I knew I was an empath but now I know I'm an infj👁🎯HEYOKA 💪
Sincere words are not fine
Fine words are not sincere......thank you for video
Always welcome 💙
I think this video put in the last puzzle piece for me (I'll be looking into Heyoka more). It took me a while researching the depth of MBTI to confirm I was an INFJ - I always test INTJ, but I didn't quite vibe with the 'shy' or more 'reserved' type. I'm known to be very blunt and I come across wrong a lot - I'll be perceived as arrogant, judgmental, or insensitive. I definitely detest the victim mentality in any form and I've recently found myself trying to push against the auto door slam that's trying to happen on a 20+ year 'friendship'.
The 'seeing the big picture' also rings true. My father-in-law recently passed from an aggressive cancer that gave him a year to live. We are a Christian family, so death is simply a part of life and we truly believe we will see each other again. He was a really fun-loving guy - loved humor and dad jokes, so yeah if I ever joked about his cancer, it would make everyone but he and I uncomfortable. I didn't care...it made him smile every time.
Brilliant video.thats me.i struggle with this gift, feel everything earthquakes coming, I go woods daily or near water it's my therapy.ground me. I'm now going to look at foods we should eat for nervous system , as wer so sensitive, thanks for ur video ❤
This was entertaining to watch😄.
I had to look up the meaning of "heyoka" before finally watching a video with such titles. Labels lately put me off. But it was worth the watch.
With the exception of the last point about us mirroring to manipulative types their behaviours by being manipulative too; this is classic me.
In my case, I simply exercise my power to choose what I want. This disempowers them and drives them bat shit crazy. And I do it calmly because it really isn't that deep or personal.
As for all the other parts, this is what I learnt after a long and deep journey within;
I talk to myself exactly how I talk to them.
The blunt, unvarnished truth I tell them; I speak to myself like that first. It's impossible to treat people outside how you treat yourself. Your treatment of others is a reflection of your treatment of yourself.
As a result, I'm unapologetically myself. Instead, when I trigger someone due to my honesty; I give them space to decide what they want to do about it. I learnt that I can't choose to be myself and expect others to be okay with it.
Also, I realised people don't know the difference between empathy and compassion. I have a lot of empathy which is why I'm able to be kind and merciful. I have very little compassion. That's why I'm hard on people with victim mentality. I just don't believe in compassion; I believe in justice and fairness. When I realise people need compassion, I tell them clearly I'm ill-equipped to give them what they need and recommend someone with the compassion they need to sympathize with their reality. I listen to solve. People share their trials for validation and to complain. I'm just not built for that and I'm at peace with it. To each their own.
As such, I'm currently focused on myself, life, and creating a world I love and enjoy for myself. It's either people want to be with me as I am or not. I'm done pandering to people's inability to look within and face themselves.
Next time one talks to me I'm immediately going to kick it....immediately.
Uh… didn’t know about that First Nations name.
Worryingly relatable though !
So, there's a difference between a regular infj and a heyoka infj? Huh....
We are not rude. We are just honest! 😊 Maybe a bit too direct but if u aren't a bad person, we will never be mean in the first place
Haha exactly!
Everything truly resonates, alot of people don't fuck with me because I am too real for their realities. Whatever 🤷🏾♀️ someone else will appreciate me
I'm a villain in someone's story 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I feel called out... Lol thank you for the video
Apparently I am (rude) - and edgy with cutting incite, but I’m in deep denial of this when I’m in the throws of sincerely providing my “wisdom“ to any human who captures my attention . I thought I may have found a calling when I trained to be a quantum hypnosis therapist (QHHT). I completed 26 free sessions for others as was the internship requirement. I thought I was brilliant in my ability to cut through to the heart of any client’s true issues to help them have a great hypnosis session- but sadly I think I just intimidated and overwhelmed some with my direct honesty and possibly off putting humor, as they never referred me or responded to requests for feedback . I’ll never know. And I really dislike not knowing . Very disappointing. And although I felt in the zone, the 4-6 hour sessions drained me for two-5 days after, as I processed everyone on such a deep level. Not a sustainable career. Maybe if I focused on INFJs. Lol. Oh well, back to writing and illustrating my comic book, The Initiate - a graphic novel of multi dimensional self discovery. So hard to find a good fit in this backwards world. Anyway, the person making these INFJ videos is off the chart accurately describing me - it’s almost embarrassing, while also quite validating. I feel so understood. Thanks for that!
Andrea, where was the rapport, engagement with the client? Did the emotional mind accept reprioritization of values as most beneficial, and as adequate to resolve related, residual difficulties. Were you doing the ‘heavy lifting’ or was the client discovering/uncovering their own latent imagination, creativity, resources. What part did laughter play? How do you explain the absence of feedback ... lack of gratitude, self-appreciation for honest effort and results? Blessings.
Ya, i have to just keep my mouth shut...its almost impossible. I am very offensive when it comes to drug addicts!! No empathy for that at all!
I am a Heyoka INFJ. I will leave honest comments on RUclips chatlogs about things people aren’t willing to be open minded about. I have had people I have had to do the INFJ door slam on by reporting for being totally out of control. I come off as rude but I am never vicious
...I do have no tolerance toward victim mantality. I just shut someone down that I served yesterday because she is trying to manipulate me to get something that is not important to her either. And she has a ego that is fragile that she went to complain to my manager because she think I'm rude when I saw her lie about the things that she's trying to get from me. I don't like her anyways but I just want to know if it's something that is super important to others, will they forget it? I bet no and that's a kind of rudeness.
loved this video
I offend people everyday but that's only because they're easily offended
It is not polite to look into someone's soul!
It can certainly threaten people who have things to hide!
Yeah, usually the murderers can t handle looking straight in my eyes.
I found you'll offend people less if you level with what they say or do and gently repeat their actions or words with an understanding while adding a slight deviation in the direction of your perspective while not going all the way into sounding preachy, correcting, or infantilizing. You win people over with time, patience, understanding and love. You must also know when to stop trying with people who refuse to listen.
This me 200%
Intriguing. I have a question about #7. Is it normal for this variety of INFJ to desire constant solitude more than most? As for #6 (victim mentality) this has always bothered me since I was a little kid as my earliest memory was being irritated by Piglet in the cartoon Winnie the Pooh whenever he said "p-p-poor me". I remember thinking "ugh just shut up and make it better". Last question is about humor. When people see my arm doesn't work right since an accident and try to offer condolences, I can't have that and my immediate response is to have them hold thier hand up to see if I can land a proper high-five with a janky arm. I think it's hilarious and they loosen up after. Is this an example of heyoka infj humor? I probably spelled it wrong
Personality types are a spectrum, in the sense that everyone can feel certain traits stronger than others. So, so INFJs tend to require more solitude in their lives while others require a little more human interaction. For the heyoka-like empath, usually they don't mind to socialize but like any INFJs they are still introverts.
The second example could very well be an example of their quick-witted humor - haha!
@@PSYCH-O thank you so much for answering my questions! You are amazing! 🙏
Sounds like my life in a nutshell. Lol. 🤣
Yes amen I am rude and I am proud of myself I don't care amen
Sometimes 😊
Words are powerful so it's empowering to use them. Sometimes it's coupled with a corresponding emotion which further expresses the position of the speaker. The point is made. Walking karma works.
I'm going to be alone forever! LOL
You: Questions. …
Me: Your what hurts????
Wow, 💯 %
Persistent Encouragement = bullying and will bring out my Nasty side.
We must all find balance and unity!
I am balance, any one who upsets that balance reaps what they sow.
Interesting video
Thanks for the visit!
Not rude....assertive.
We must all find balance and unity!
@@randycarter2981 becoming assertive is an excellent step towards balance.....
Being confident enough in one's self will allow for one to not feel a need to be forceful. Assertion, conflict and aggression has been the source of many lifetimes of problems.
@@randycarter2981 confidence in and of itself is assertion.
Absolutely agreed, yet it's only recognized by the ones mature enough to appreciate it. Too many people are threatened by honest assertiveness nowadays. 🙄
Interesting.
Sorry. Not Sorry.
Remember the Golden Rule.
WE ARE NOT RUDE!!!
Just kidding. 😁
Lol
@@skybluemoon8768 We're such meanies! 😂
Is Heyoka really a thing? Of so, how does one get diagnosed or is it a hunch thing? Did MBTI test as well as others but didn't say anything about this heyoka thing? Just wondering guys! TY in advance. :)
The term Heyoka empath did in fact originate from the First Nations Lakota people, and in their beliefs you technically must be chosen for this path, and then go through vigorous challenges to earn your name. In this aspect, the modern-day heyoka-like empath is what we discuss in the video, describing an empath with specific traits that closely resemble those described by the original founders of the term. It has nothing to do with MBTI and more so related to empath types, however, some INFJs find themselves very in tune with both descriptions. Hope this helps! These are the 15 signs of the INFJ Heyoka: ruclips.net/video/EgjE5VMHBc4/видео.html
@@PSYCH-O I see. Thank you for the clarity. I'm probably a more descreet one and I do care what people think and often choose my words carefully but I seem to be a natural at defusing intense conversations and moments with a little humor. Anyway thank you again!
say : And I Thank you> at the drive-up window (only did it once) gave the sandwich back after i payed for it? bad mo jo
Thank you.
First off, I am not Heyoka. I was not appointed by the ones with the authority to bestow such a position on me. Heyoka is not a thing one can claim. And I have high doubts that anyone that is aware of this type of 'information' is Heyoka either. Can anyone here give a valid claim that they were appointed by the Lakota Sioux Tribal Elders' Council?
Secondly, I just do my thing. Labels are for those that need a reminder of who they are. To remind themselves and everyone else.
Im an IFNJ vodka tonic.
YuP!👍
I swear. We are made, not born 🪬
Sooooo differents unuques. Familiessssss cloupcloup
Individuals
🤔🧐 this video on these types are q bit different then the other ones an so far as I have seen in here some these triats are of infj empath how ever I have sigma as well well if u put it on a scale as most do I say 7 maybe 8 out of 10 I got for sigma ! interesting that some of these things here over my life span I have actually done ✔ while angery or very much in my youth 😅 however not the munupltuive behavior an toxic I find it rather distasteful relly buh in a sence so far with this assessment of this the firmness of growth perhaps is what make the difference in that regard to being well let's say it rude an a jerk lmfao any way 😅 so if you asked me we different buh different an relly I would need more time to analyze this in further an I already got to much to do as of present so imma take this as it is an let another infj speak up 🤣🤩😇💯❤🤦♀️🤷♀️ an well as far as I have thought there is a stage of process in our minds or body spirit an well soul buh happy trails 👣
Omg yes ...I'm not tolerant of people's clear abuse of power at the moment Montgomery county Cys. My public defender who will be disbarred .I had too move outta that county so I could get footing an adjust accordingly. Unfortunately being a Navy Brat so I used too say. An having 2 narcissistic parents having narcissistic relationships habits only die when they're met wit the facts an when I found through my own discovery an thank God for RUclips an yous making these enlightening videos narcissistic mannerisms are OBVIOUS NOW ...NO empathy NO THX never gonna change, an OMG found that it gets worse. Narcissistic sociopath my ex. I LET HIM VISIT HIS DAUGHTERS IN MY HOUSE AFTER WE BROKE UP AN HE FUCKED WIT EVERYTHING HE HAD MY KIDS TAKEN alot alot alot an cys caseworker calling me bipolar . Like condisendingly he had his monkeys already..I said I had PTSD from being in a narcissistic relationship lol. Anyway I've came out an LOL 😂😂😂 THEY MAD CAUSE IM GRATEFUL THIS HAPPENED IMMA BETTER VERSION OF MYSELF I SEE ME.AN IM DONE DIMMING MY LIGHT HE GAVE ME THIS GIFT AN I THANK EVERYONE AN EVERYTHING THATS US ON OUR HEAVEN EARTH. IMMA STAY RUFFLING FEATHERS AN LEAVE THEM AS A REMINDER STRONGfamVALUEZ has WINGZ. XOXOX
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What INFJ Actually Mean???
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Number 9: INFJ heyoka doesnt ever wear mask. Deal with it.
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Edit: Cos we are Not scared of death, ilness, or/and goverment.
Good eye, you're exactly right. Most INFJs in general can see right through the false facade.
Ah, shit... Why is this video my personality????
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411or 144 lol 🎉😂❤❤❤
Don't know if I'm a heyoka but lol 😆 😂 cringe 😬 😅 🤣
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@@monthstwenty7342 m'I
I sometimes stun myself
Hhh this is why I'm so popular 💥
If you are not lakota, you are not a heyoka PERIOD
That’s fine, who wants to be a clown anyway. I mean, I agree the Lakota are fools, that’s for sure.
Is that so? Then we non Lakota shouldn’t be using it.
Sounds pretty narcissistic
Get your facts straight, cross eyed
The best thing to do is to back out as peacefully and as tactfully as possible if that's not possible then that usually means going super nova is the only way to get across that your boundaries have been crossed and you are serious and then to door slam with no contact 😢❤️🩹
Islaaaaaaaaam Attudess PESE RESPECT soomaali. TicEticE
Interesting.