We Can’t Avoid This Happening
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- I am aware of the unavoidable effect of what happened to me greatly affected my family and friends. At the time I couldn’t avoid this from happening, even though I wish l could have prevented it. It does take a toll on those that love and care about us.
I do everything l can now to not give others to be worrying about my wellbeing but l know they still do.
We are not to blame ourselves, we were and are hurting and struggling to make sense of our lives and the what and why of everything that we went through.
My family and friends are all a wonderful support system to me and I will always be there to support them if needed.
Ive never been good at asking for help but I always found myself helping others and when I finally broke down myself.
I was so in shock how friends and family couldn't be bothered and were actually annoyed with me for not being there for them.
I had to re evaluate my priorities and focus on helping myself, turn off my heart from the pain I was feeling from being abandoned when I needed them.
I was so good at hiding the abuse, pain I was in and that I was falling apart from it all...that when I finally admitted what was going on by that point these people just had abandoned me but thats ok, because I learned about self care and boundaries. They have been the 2 things that keep me going, im grateful for my resilience and strength to keep holding myself up, keep my chin up.
All the things I did for everyone else I was finally doing for myself and although I hide the pain about how I feel towards these people, im so proud of myself for putting me 1st, getting away from the abuse, shitty friends and family... a few golden people have shown kindness and understanding towards me,..just acting like I exist and hearing me means the world. Even though I'm very guarded now, im soooo grateful for them.
Im glad you had a few good people in your corner, because its so hard when you've been stripped down to nothing left with an empty tank, too just have a safe place to be... To breathe, too gather yourself can be life saving.
Im just glad ive held onto my sanity throughout the madness and its a new day...what can I do for Danielle today. ❤
Thanks for sharing.
I’m so glad you had the resilience and strength as well, it’s not nice to realize that many people who you were there for turned their back on you. Having those few golden friends who were there for you was the best thing, you weeded out the ones not worth your friendship and now have good friends in your life you can spend your time with and never hesitate to be there for them.
Putting oneself first after, we kick ourselves for not doing it before and one should always do this but we learn from our past mistakes, it’s not ever forgetting to do it. Being guarded is the leftover from the from the abuse, shitty friends and family but they lost a beautiful person and now you will have people in your life who will appreciate you.
I always say, if you can count your friends on one hand, then you are lucky person.
I have a handful of friends and l am not sure if I will ever be able to trust my ability to make a good choice in that regard again but l trust who are in my life and like you grateful to have them.
Much love to you Danielle you deserve happiness and to be very proud of yourself. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@@AVanADogAndMyself as do you, and thanks for the kind response. I feel the same moving forward, not sure if I trust myself yet that I wouldn't fall back into bad habits of putting others 1st...so ill keep it simple (count on one hand as well 🖐🥰) im really enjoying the quiet and im ok with that.
@@user-pb5vp8gf4z your very welcome always. I understand what you’re saying, bad habits can be hard to break right. 🩷🩷
Hi Gaye, I am so looking forward to your upcoming van trip showing your area. Your environment is in such contrast to my desert environment the ocean and woods will provide me with a refreshing change. Thanks for all your sharing. It's always wonderful having you visit ! ❤❤ sending hugs and healing love to you, Griffin and your family.
Thank you Joan, look forward to sharing it with you.
Much love sweetie 🙏🩷🩷🩷
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American actor W.C. Fields said long ago two things you should never work with live….children and animals. I guess he figured out early neither will act the way you want them to when you need it most. It’s good seeing you again. I can see a difference in you since you have been letting some of this out. It’s good to see the progress.
That is so true, always a pleasure to hear from you my friend. I am feeling a lot better and certainly being able to talk is the best choice l made in a long time, literally 😊 🙏🩷🩷
Griffin knows when you are emotional…I have a saying from a book called Walking on eggshells….I did not cause this. …I cannot fix it..and literally move on…
Thank you, he certainly does and lm so lucky to have him.
Walking on eggshells certainly resonates with me and l will keep moving on.
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It’s always a pleasure to be in your company 💕
Certainly a pleasure to hear from you Maura, 🙏🩷🩷
I understand you so much, I can feel your pain. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story ❤
You’re very welcome and talking about it is truly helping me to heal.
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same 💜
Wish I could jump through my iPad and give you a massive hug… you need to forgive yourself sweetie for all the mistakes you ‘think’ you made… you are on a journey and we all make the choices that are right for us in that moment.. I’ve found the best way is to just love and accept yourself no matter what. Be your own bestie, your own soulmate… so glad you are going to renovate your van.. hope you share the journey ! Much love, Annalise 😘😘
I feel the hug 🤗 thank you Annalise. Sure have made my share of mistakes, going forward I hope not to make too many more though. I certainly take your advice and am doing that for myself.
Certainly will share the renovations with you as they happen, just waiting for the guy to get some advice on it and the best way to do things.
Much love 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Thank you for sharing this story Gaye. It's often difficult to see anything clear when trauma takes over but it was wonderful you had that support system around you even at the time it didn't feel like it was helping. I wish you, your friends and family all the best in your healing journeys. 😊
Thank you Elliot, your a wonderful friend to me 🙏🩷🩷🩷
No need to apologise for the dogs.. it is what it is … x
Thank you for understanding 🙏🩷🩷🩷