Navigating the Silence: Reflecting on Loneliness After My Wife’s Passing
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- Опубликовано: 15 янв 2024
- Join me in ‘Navigating the Silence’ as I share my journey through the loneliness and grief following my late wife’s death. This heartfelt vlog explores the challenges of widowhood, the healing process, and finding peace amidst death. A story of sorrow, strength, and hope for anyone facing similar struggles.
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Yes indeed....the effect of losing ones significant other is a loss like no other. There is that space that only they filled, a presence in our lives that we are now at a loss for being without. An absence where we still keep saying to ourselves, they're really gone aren't they. A loneliness that is beyond loneliness that no one can truly understand until they've experienced it themselves. Losing ones significant other is a whole different kind of Grief.
Sending you lots of Love & (((HUGS))) Josh ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I can't imagine how hard it must be being married to the love of your life and than loosing them forever. When it comes to grieving or starting to date again is very personal. No one has the right to judge you or tell you how to live. This is my humble opinion. 💖👍🙏🙏🙏🙏
I get it Josh. If you had not had such a loving relationship with Sara, you would not miss having that special relationship so much. I hope you find someone to build that with. I don’t think there should be a timeline put on it. You do you, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for thinking about finding someone to build a new life with.
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Well said, Kelly! I love your comment..❤Nobody should tell him when he should be able to find another special person. I hate seeing comments from people telling him that he doesn't love Sarah if he finds love again before a specific amount of time goes by. Nobody knows when that special person will come along side of him so nobody should judge him. If I die before my husband does, I would want him to be happy. Knowing he was lonely would be too upsetting for me ❤
I totally agree.
My sister lost her husband in a car accident. They had 2 boys ages 4 and 8. When my sister started talking about dating again, she said something similar to what you said that Sarah is your standard. I am going to tell you what I told her. There will never be another Sarah and you obviously know that but there will be someone that brings something entirely different into your life but yet give you the companionship snd and love that you treasure. Now my sister is remarried to someone totally different than her first husband but he is such a good person, makes her happy and they have a wonderful life together. You will find that. I'm sure its hard, I watched my sister go through it while managing to raise 2 boys. You'll know when you are ready and who cares what anyone thinks. You would no doubt want Sarah to find someone else. Have a good morning, day and night Josh!!
I to am grieving. The loneliness has so many types. I would give any thing for my late husband to just be sitting in his chair not even saying a word That s just one type I think you express it so as it is. Huge hug xxxxxxxx Maureen. England
I feel your pain, just came across your video because looking for comfort as well just lost my wife 4 months ago December 29 2023 and I feel lost and alone my kids are not with me there leaving there life. I’m home alone 😢. She passed away suddenly, 24 years married it hurts so much😢 . Hope you get the happiness you deserve. Hugs from canada Ontario
For people out there who don’t know what to say to grieving friends, just telling them that you’re thinking of them can be enough.
Quick story, my mom passed away when she was 51 my dad was 53 he started dating within the first year, my brothers and sisters were up in arms. They thought he was not being respectful of her passing. One day the 5 of us were together and they brought up the subject, all I said was "you guys are acting like mami is coming back, Pop was an amazing husband he loved my mom with everything that was in him and he has every right to love again without any interference from us". All I can say is maybe they didn't like but they did respect his decision.
There's no rule on how long someone should wait to seek companionship after losing their spouse. My dad died suddenly at the age of 50. We loved him dearly and it was the hardest experience of my life. I can relate to all you said about how it feels when people have moved on with their lives and yet we feel so lonely and lost. That was over 41 yrs ago. My mom remarried 5 yrs later to a wonderful man who had lost his wife less than a yr prior. They were married nearly 22 yrs before he died from cancer. My mom had two good husbands in her lifetime. So don't let what other people think stop you from pursuing happiness. You will never meet another Sarah. Just like no one could ever replace my dad. Even so you may find another beautiful soul, someone who you connect with and share mutual love and respect. There's always going to be those who judge us even though they have no right to do so. Best to ignor their comments and just do what's best for you and your children.
You have one life to life. You will know when it is right to love again. The person who died would never wish for the family they left to be sad and lonely. Trust your heart. You will know.
I think the loneliness is a big hole that can’t be filled with friends or even your kids. It’s missing that someone who listened to your day, your concerns, your dreams. Don’t let anyone decide your timeline. But don’t borrow trouble…don’t fear what has yet to happen! ❤
Both of my parents are deceased. My Dad is going on 20 years and my Mom is 6 years in August. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss them. I personally feel that you never get over it you just learn to cope in time.
None of us can know exactly what you're going through...follow your heart ... take risks when you're ready....you love your kids and they know it...your path is very hard, but you're doing great ... I am sorry it's so hard...but time is on your side ....
Josh…I understand your feelings as I have been there myself. You will always have the love you and Sarah shared close to your heart. That will never go away.
However, one of these days when you least expect it, you will find a beautiful person who makes you happy.
Don’t let others judge you!
Be kind and make good choices!
Big hugs…🤗❤️🤗
You’re lonely and that’s normal. Your person is gone and no matter whether you’re alone or in a crowded room it’s normal. I heard a saying that says
Why is it the one person you need and want to talk to is the person you can’t talk to. Sending hugs.
That’s so true. 🫂
No body should judge you for wanting to be happy, Josh. ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
So true
Josh is describing many of the loneliness struggles I've had, and still have. I haven't dated now for over 34 plus years, and nearing 16 months since my wife passed, I haven't considered actually trying the 'dating circuit.' My wife told me to be happy and go ahead and find someone else if I'm lonely. I appreciate that, but we'll see.
When people greet me with a 'how are you,' or 'how's it going,' and they know what's happened, I say 'hanging in there.'
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Youll be ready when you meet that one..no judgement here....Sarah would absolutely want you to love and live again.. EVERY PERSON NEEDS LOVE❤
They say that the happily married people who lose their other half will move on quicker, because they were happy enough to want to do it again.
I agree with this sentiment.
Greetings from Australia 🇦🇺. Josh you are such a great dad to your kids. Grief is soul crushing losing your soul mate is heartbreaking as a part of you also died. Sarah was your soul mate. Take one day at a time just always be 'you'.
❤❤❤❤ thinking of you, the depth of your loneliness and heartbreak is due to the depth of your love, take time to heal and what is meant to be will be ❤❤❤❤
No judgment here Josh. Live your best life young man ❤❤❤
Listening to you Josh is like listening to my daughter she said the exact same thing as you are saying yes people do leave after a while and you are alone and you will be judged just like my daughter was she was judged because someone came into her life eight months after she lost her husband to me it was a blessing because it has helped her so much with her sadness and he’s been so understanding about it. My daughter is 38 and has two children both boys one 10 and 14 now my son-in-law died two years ago and my daughter decided to choose happiness and joy Because she didn’t want to be sad no more and yes she loves her husband very much but he’s not coming back but she still has a life to live her and the boys so I’m grateful that she’s moving forward and people can’t understand that that’s fine because unless it’s happened to them They will never understand. It’s my daughters life and she deserves to be happy and so do the boys so you follow your heart choose happiness and joy. Don’t worry about the judgmental people. They all go home at night and they all have someone but you don’t you go home to an empty house, you and your children and you feel loneliness, no one will understand that you got a good head on your shoulder and I know you’re going to move forward and you will find somebody and it doesn’t matter when I just remember it’s your life enjoy it to the fullest. We’re here on earth to be happy we’re not promised tomorrow and you know that better than anyone. God bless you and your family.
The wind chimes are sounding so beautiful that is Sarah listening Pgh Pa
The phrase ‘people are there, and then they’re not’ is just so true. Ghosting is really painful, isolating and so lonely…and compounds your grief. I am so very sorry…you are confronting so much, and you are doing so well with your life. Please just listen to your inner wisdom-and ignore those who think they understand your timeline. No one can ever replace Sarah-and you do have a right to be happy and content.
Thinking of you and your three children with love and care 💙
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Yeah that loneliness must be really hard. The thought of dating sounds really hard too especially with children. You don't want to hurt them either. So much to navigate. ❤
Great topic. I felt the exact same way when I lost my beautiful mother. That first winter was brutal. It felt extra dark, extra cold, extra lonely. The void seemed so deep. And yes EVERYONE disappeared, even my best friend of 35 years. The loneliness was almost too much for me to deal with. I know how you're feeling. I wanted to reach through the phone and give you a hug. I am 100 percent sure you will have many messages in your DMs very soon and once you're ready. Thank you for sharing this video and talking about this issue. Unfortunately, our culture doesn't support people who are grieving very well. Thank you for sharing your videos and your thoughts. You have a beautiful mind. Stay warm!
I get it! My people disappeared on me, too. Even the friend I talked to every day suddenly ghosted me during the hardest /darkest time of my life. I may never understand why people choose to ghost at such a vulnerable time especially when they know the pain of loss themselves
Hi Josh. I just have to say that any friend who would ghost you is not really a friend at all. True friends are with you through all of lives ups and downs. I'm sure that's nothing new. Gradually, overtime, these feelings of loneliness will subside. It's part of the grieving process. Just embrace it, and don't let it get you down. They are better days ahead! That I can say for sure.
Josh, I get it, I really do. You haven’t been grieving since August, you have been grieving for years. There isn’t a timeline on seeking companionship. I feel it’s similar to dating after divorce in that you need to be careful of who you bring around until you are sure this new person is special. But there is nothing wrong with getting out there Josh. You deserve happiness and Sarah would want you to have love again. You do your thing, and remember, you don’t need to share any details with us about dating until you are ready. Sending love and Prayers!
Josh.
You are young with a lifetime ahead of you.
Its true Sarah
Wouldn't want you to be lonely and spend your life grieving.
Your kids will grow and have their own relationships.
You need to build a new life for yourself in time, another adult relationship.
You owe it to Sarah to live your life and be happy as she was unable to fulfill hers.
This will honour her memory, not take anything away from it.
Love your openness in your fireside chats.
Your wise words help me so much.
Not lost a spouse but very close family.
Sending lots of love.
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❤Thank you Josh ❤
My dad remarried 10 months after my mom died. They have now been happily married for 24 years. You'll find someone to love again.
I am very much with you, My wife died in February from dementia, I love (loved) her so much. There is a word in my language (Welsh) hiraeth, there is no real English translation but the closest I can get is a longing for something and someone you can never have again
Exactly Josh! You are so unjaded about your next relationship since you know what a good one looks like. You will know when you are ready and no one can tell you otherwise. No judgement here. Go live your life and be happy. If that means bringing someone else into your life, do it!
Josh….sadly, I am so lonely too. My husband was my whole life. Yes we had lots of kids, I have friends, but I miss holding hands, a hug, just because. Him asking me how I was, if I’m ok, calling me several times a day, just to say I love you. Being thankful,, and telling me. We had an amazing 50 yrs. People would remark how Our love was so apparent. Our love only grew stronger. I wish yours had 50 yrs. You made every moment count. I am very proud how you took care of your love. It’s a very difficult time. My love died in Aug……5 months ago. Similar to you. I will ask God to show you through this darkness . Love to you and yours
Same as me, my wife of 13 yrs died 8 1 23 at only 50, thinking it was menopause with sciatic nerve pain 3 mths hospital to hosptial then oncology to passing 3 mths later, bleed out with cervix cancer ...tumor :( we were together when we were younger till 1993 n got got back together after my 1st wife left me after 12 yrs n gave her my # after 17 yrs...
Josh, when and if the time is right for you to start a new relationship, please do not worry about other people’s opinions. Worry about yourself, your feelings and the children’s. We all just want to see you happy! ❤
Josh. I’m cold watching you with shorts on. 😂 I wish for you to find a new person to love when you are ready . And you will. You won’t ever be ‘replacing’ Sarah. She’s irreplaceable ❤ this new person will help you find happiness again and will be special in their own way. You deserve that for sure ❤
Nobody should be judging you!! Loneliness is a hard thing for anyone in many circumstances!! I pray you find another person to share life and love!! No judgement when that time comes!!!
every one is different there is no time limit ❤
Josh you can talk to us about anything. When the time is right you will meet somebody special. You deserve to be happy. It will happen when you least expect it
It’s now the time the lowliness sets in. Others go back to their way of life, not that they have forgotten you it’s their life is now different. Family, is the best to be close to and the kids. In your time…in your time …I didn’t date, not that I didn’t want to but I felt a responsibility to my child. I didn’t want to bring someone into my home who wouldn’t love her as I did. But you do you. It could be 6 months, 6 years…it will come in time. Every time I hear the chimes, I think Sara is near and listening to you. It’s great you talk to us and talk it through❤❤❤
I think that you will know when your ready to find someone. Im so sorry that you are feeling lonely. Plus with younger kids, it isn't very easy to go out on a date. You are definitely a very busy man. I wouldn't worry what people on here are saying and being judgy about how long you have to wait. You will find someone who is kind and understanding. You definitely deserve happiness. ❤
I hope you find love again .
It's like the saying, "It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all." I have pondered that for years. I have been envious of relationships such as yours as I am in my 40s and resigned that God must not have made someone for me to share life with. May you love and cherish someone again. ❤
Just go live your best life however you can ❤
Josh,I so understand the loneliness and silence as my husband has been gone 13 months now. I am staying with my son and family. I don't know how to be alone. I am 70 and started dating him when I was 16. We were married 51 years. I've been told you had a long life together or you'll get over it. I know I won't. Your young and I'm old but we share that broken heart and understand the pain of losing the one person we truly loved. I wish you only the best. I don't feel whole anymore,just lost,scared and miss him terribly . Thank you for caring and sharing your grief and helping us to not feel so alone. A hug to all of us who are grieving the loss of someone we loved. 🫂❤
Sending you a big hug, Debra.❤
@@kristal5260 Thank you❤️
Hugs and prayers for you my lovely. Yx
@@yvonnesimpson4584 Thank you so much.❤️
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I get it....i miss not looking in my lovers eyes and that warm embrace you just cant feel from the hug of a good friend. Its a sense of emptyness. Telling you to hang in there just rings so hollow.
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I definitely dont think that there is or should be a time frame before meeting a new person. I do think that there are things we could probably benefit from before opening our hearts again (more to just protect ourselves and others). Im not sure what those things are exactly but I think its different for everyone. Some people find someone in a few months and other a few years. Nobody knows so nobody should judge. ❤
It will happen for you again, 100%, with your beautiful soul you will not be alone long..i send you love and hugs
Your feelings are all normal
Isn't it something on how many parts of grieving, loneliness is part of it! You know Josh I believe that in time that person will just be there, you are young and when it's time for another person to enter into your life all of that will fall in place. One day another will probably enter when you least expect it! It's so awesome you have such family support! 💙💙❤️❤️
Good evening Josh it's cold here as well. It's so so good get a bit of air . I understand how your feeling, I see it with my mom since my father passed away 2 years ago. I notice she lonely, I think she tries to take day by day. Sending prayers and hugs. Stay warm and safe
When you meet that person it won’t feel like “dating”.
This!
I do hope you eventually meet another person. No one should judge anyone. All I want for you and your children is to be happy 🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰
We understand. We’ve got you.
Very interesting video! Thank you😊
It will get better this I PROMISE ❤
YOUGET SOME REST
Shorts go well with 20 degree weather😂 glad you have this outlet to share your feelings. You surely are helping several with your words. I have learned through the years of several losses, people don’t know what to say, so they say nothing at all and begin to fade in the background. folks are scared about what to say and what not to say.
The pain of losing someone is all consuming, people are scared to say the wrong thing and they really can’t say the right thing, but there is nothing to say. Saying that I am a huge believer in saying anything that acknowledges your loss is better than say absolutely nothing. Ignoring the whole situation is not nice.
They say that people who have the happiest marriages find it easier to move on than anyone else xx
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I apologize if you’ve addressed this before. Had you and Sara discussed life with someone else after her death? I respect that this is such a tender and personal topic. None of us can say “this is the way and that isn’t the way” because all of this is very individual and personal…not to mention difficult to navigate. Please don’t be hard on yourself. Praying for God’s blessings over you and yours. One day at a time. I’m so sorry for your loss. This sucks. Sharing thoughts and feelings are helpful. Some days the lonely feeling may be stronger/weaker than other days.
We always told each other that happiness, and love should always be sought. It’s not something we had to talk about for many many years, but we both knew we wanted each other happy, and to not dwell in the sadness of death.
Hi Josh. Actually you ARE doing fine. You have great insight and what you are feeling is so normal. Loneliness is horrible in itself especially when you had a great partner and you are the type of person who has so much love to give other people. Ive been single for years by choice. Never had a great love to deeply grieve over but at times i get lonely so i try to channel it in different ways. I hope im going to make sense here but i always tell myself the old saying. " its better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all". This makes me grateful that ive had love in my life. If i never find it again, there is a reason for that. Your story is much different. Of course you want to love again and im sure it will happen for you. My concern is that you need more time to go through the whole grieving process . Get to know yourself more in your new single life. You are very vulnerable at this point. When we are vulnerable sometimes we make mistakes in our decisions by choosing the wrong person or not having your life with Sarah completely processed. I just think by giving yourself a little more time you will truly be open to love, not out of loneliness. I feel badly that you are going through this. One day you are going to be a blessing to anyone that finds you. You are a great guy. And what you do with your kids are awesome. But at the end of the day, like your therapist says, " Only you will know when the time is". There is no judgement here. I want to see you happy and fulfilled. Hugs and ❤
I don't know about anybody else, but when my husband died, a lot of my interest in the things we enjoyed together, really lost their appeal. And I pretty much quit doing them. Other things have replaced them but, yeah, things about my life with him definitely died with him.
Edited to add: I think people go on with their lives because they have to. And they don't miss our people the way we do. Because they weren't tangled up with our people the way we were. They weren't severed from our people the way we were. And everybody is different. Some people suffer and never show it. The stoics. And the other side of it is we are genuinely bad at death. Culturally, we just want to get over it and on with it. That's what we do. And it's hard because we can't just get over and on with it.
Agreed. Some things I push to keep alive for me, some for the kids, and some from promises to Sarah. But there are definitely things that have lost their appeal, or just hurt more so they don’t bring joy anymore.
@@POGGrief Since you really need to get some exercise for both physical and emotional reasons, maybe look into biking. Road biking, mountain biking, that boy of yours might actually like bmx type things and I'm sure your daughter would love to ride with you.
I'm not at all surprised you're craving connection. I miss pillow talk. Staying up late and hushed conversations with giggles and maybe other things but I miss pillow talk and I don't want pillow talk with anybody else. So I get it. My only advice with whatever you do is maybe don't share what you're doing because people will be judgemental and you don't need that right now. Your kids don't need you beat up with that right now either. I know that's kind of awkward but nobody really understands what you're going through. You have to do what you have to do to get through it.
Get it. Sending you a warm hug. ❤
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You're a young man and you need companionship. Nobody should be upset or judgemental if you get a friend. A pastor that I know loss his wife in February 2022 and he just got a friend and he's happy. Go for it.
I meant lost.
Josh you do what's best for you & your children.If there willing to except your kids things should be ok.Your still young you deserve someone nice.God Bless you.
Spot on ! My feelings exactly too.
Freezing and in shorts….looks very familiar! Strength to you 💜
My legs stay warm through just about everything haha 🤣
How I understand your feelings. I feel the same about my beloved husband. It is really hard. Hugs for you and the kids ❤️
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When people ask you, how are you doing? you should imagine they said how are you doing right now, and answer them as if that was the question, 'today I am keeping busy but, it's hard when things quiet down.' or what ever is going on for you.
I like that thought. I’ll see if I can get it to stick.
You have my deepest sympathy Josh. Loneliness is hard! God Bless You and Your Family.
I believe it’s a loneliness of losing the other half of your being x
This. This is what I've been saying. I have grown kids, so empty nest widow.
I know that feeling so well missing my mom so much I feel like someone ripped my heart out of my chest 💔💔💔😭😭😭 stay strong my friend 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I would not worry about what people think you need a friend in your life. We are not supposed to be alone unless you want to. I love being single and by myself, but that's not for you.
You will never find someone just like Sarah. Nor should you ever compare or look for that. Everyone is unique and wonderful in their own ways. With that being said, I do hope you find another person to do life with. We aren’t meant to be alone (unless that’s what one really wants). You deserve happiness and your kids will thrive seeing you continue in another healthy, loving relationship.
It’s no one’s business what you do with your heart. We all know it’s been 💔. It will be great to see it mended by a new and everlasting love.
💯! It’s hard not to compare in my mind. Not intentional at all.
Love your videos, and I strongly feel no one has the right to judge anyone for finding love again after the death of a spouse. You should absolutely find love again when you are ready, and that is your right and solely your decision!
Hi Josh, I experienced my husband's unexpected death. Next month in February it will be three years. It was in the afternoon, with out own town family all there visiting for a big event we'd been planning for a long time. He wasn't sick. We'd been getting all of the things ready for the part that would happen the next day. We had lunch, and then everyone went back to party prep. When I suddenly got word...call 911. One of my sons and his wife were preforming 911. They did so for nearly 40mins. before the paramedic came. There was no cause. He was a healthy pilot, and had his flight physical that week. He was 60 years old and healthy. We were together for 38 years. We had no kiss goodbye, in fact we'd bee quarreling like we did whenever we had a big party. The shock of this was overwhelming, and I have even noticed some cognitive things that I have from the shock. Please know your videos are helpful. It's okay not to be okay. I hope you and your family continue with your sharing. It's important.
Be yourself and when the time is right it will happen ❤
Your videos are wonderful. You are so authentic. And it's ok to take a break from RUclips. We understand.
🫂 taking a break from youtube sometimes leaves me reeling lol. It is a hobby, and something I truly enjoy. But, breaks from everything are necessary at times. Thank you for being understanding
Absolutely we understand! I look forward to your videos but we understand breaks are needed! ❤
"Josh..This must be so terribly hard for you.😢I can understand it will never feel the same. Sarah was your soulmate., but maybe in time, when you feel its right, you will meet someone, and yes you deserve happiness not loneliness and im sure its what darling Sarah would want for you..bless your heart.❤Remember this is your life, dont let anyone judge, you've been through a lot already! ❤🫂
People need to mind their business when it comes to what others do with their life.Hugs Josh❤
❤❤❤much love n understanding 😢😢😢
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Alone and broken,that about sums me up,stuck,my past,present and future is gone ,no idea where to start or if I can.
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Hugs josh and prayers i felt this so much loneliness is so hard at times i take care of my mom who has altimers dementia and abstroke over that i have no social life but i wouldn't change it because im honerd to take care of my momma but it does get very lonly i feel your pain thank you for coming on here to talk about it God bless you and your children
Loneliness is soooo hard!! You are doing well Josh keep pushing through..you will come out the other side it just takes time. Big love to you from Newzealand ❤
I know the feeling of feeling like you are alone it's not easy hang in there
Well said Josh, you’re doing what’s best for you! Much love ❤
Josh you touched on every emotion perfectly. I dont like to use the word replace but after my husband I ventured out and found myself comparing to my husband. I just gave up...its been 20 years now. I keep busy with my kids...I pray you find someone special because you deserve it❤❤❤❤
You do you. It's ok to move forward
great yet difficult topic, but keep exploring and putting words to your thoughts and feelings......hang in there
Hi Josh!! Although I have not lost a spouse I do understand the lonlieness ur facing. I took the easy way out after my last relationship & have not dated in a loooooong time. Although it was the easy way by just avoiding it, it is lonely, yet as more time passes by I find it harder even thinking about dating becuz the only life I know is by myself. 😊. But we as humans do need that physical and emotional connection w someone…even us introverts. Nobody has the right to ever tell u when or if it’s ok to date. That is so wrong of anyone to tell u or make u feel guilty for wanting that companionship and love. Ignore them, u aren’t dating them😀. I also believe there is more than one person meant for us. I think there r so many amazing people that wil fall in love with u and vice versus. Yes dating is totally different. I’m in my 40’s and it has changed so much. But I do beleive the world has its ways of seeing when ur heart is open and it will find a way to fill that void when the time is right. Just go about each day as u have and u r going to meet and fall in love with someone and it’s going to come naturally. It will happen at the most random place and the most random time. Just ride the wave Josh 😀. And it’s ok that ur longing for that emotional and yes physical connection don’t feel guilty or let anyone tell u differently . U r human and ur love language is loving someone and it’s so awesome ur heart is still open. Thats incredible. Others aren’t as fortunate and or become closed off so I think it’s amazing and so strong of u to feel that way. U keep on rockin and take each day as it is and u will meet someone when the time is right and u will never know when that is until it happens but it will b just as magical with the heart palpitations and excitement as soon as u meet that special someone. Big hugs Josh and never lose that incredible strength and huge loving heart. Trust me when I say there’s a lot of us women that wish there were more Josh’s out there. Big hugs my friend
I agree with you Sara!!! ❤
Everybody is different. You will know when. nobody should tell you how long you have to wait. If they truly cared they would want to see you alone. Hugs and prayers from Alabama ❤
Can't even imagine 😢
I lost my wife Feb 19, she died unexpectedly of heart failure a month after the birth our fifth child. 16 years of relationship building and a deep love and respect gone just like that. Her last words to me were struggling to say "I'm with you" as I pleaded for her to stay with me while I performed CPR awaiting the paramedics. I feel like I'm living in a fairytale tragedy. I love my wife more than anybody else, but I am already feeling deserving of a new chance at love based on what my wife taught me about how to be a better man... yet I don't want to rush anything or "settle" just to try and fill a void that nobody can fill, that took 16 years to build. I need to find someone who accepts my kids, and my love for my late wife, and for me. I won't compromise on that. It feels like an impossible puzzle piece to find.
Love from Ohio 💞💞💞💞
I can’t imagine having to get back into the dating pool but Josh you are young and it will happen. No there will not be another Sarah but she is out there when you least expect it. Gotta have someone to help you run that homestead 😊. Hang in there.
I often feel that treating someone who is struggling with a situation, or a loss, or an illness like they are 'different' isn't really very honest of me. The script that people get handed in life is the script that they get handed. Yes, they may be undergoing all sorts of challenges to deal with but they as people are just like me. I keep you in my prayers as you navigate the script you have been handed. I think you are doing a really good job of looking after yourelf while sharing with us how there is no map to get through this.
Ah, are they just like you. I want to challenge that idea. Not in a negative way, just for thought sake.
Also there may be more conveyed beyond just the text of what you wrote. We are all very different. :)
Someone who has never been through loss has no place to judge someone else since they don’t know how they would respond unless they are in that situation. You will know when it is right for you and follow your heart.
I agree with you. I will say that since everyone's situation is different that I would even take people's opinions who have lost their own person with a grain of salt. Losing my dad has been excruciating pain for me and a few of my friends who have also lost parents still don't understand why I'm not "over him yet". 💔
Hi Josh, thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. It can’t be easy. I am on my own, due to circumstances that happened in my life. For the most part I have been alone, but never felt lonely. That is, until we were in lockdown for 6 mths in Melbourne during Covid, where we couldn’t leave the house. I felt like I was in solitary confinement with just a daily phone call. During that time I was grieving for my furangel who I lost just before lockdown began. It had just been the two of us for nearly 17 years. I had never felt so alone and realised how much I missed human contact, just a hug or seeing a friendly face. It really had an impact on my mental health. I hope you know how much your videos are helping us and that they are helping you too. Take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself, Josh. You have been through something most of us can only imagine. Nobody has any right to judge you and how you are dealing with your grief. Thinking of you and your family. With love and best wishes from Down Under 😘💕🇦🇺.
I said it in one of your early videos… Everybody is there in the beginning to the point of exhaustion and you wish they would just go away because most of them early there to make themselves feel better. And then they really do disappear….. I call them jump on the band wagon people in times of tragedy….idk the answer, but I get it.
Yep. No answer needed, I appreciate the understanding as do others.