Never tell a man your traumas and insecurities. The minute you demand more they will remind you of what you tolerated and how your 'loved' ones mistreated you
Never tell one of THESE men. You should be able to talk to your significant others about damn near anything. Especially your past. If you can’t do that then that means you need to end that relationship bc it’s not going anywhere. Either it’s a you, them, or both
@The Lies-This is who I am in real life sure they might not have known at first, but he was dating her for a minute lol you’d have to know her age when her birthday comes around
@@danavixen6274 ( not allegedly) The most recent ads glorified and showcase kids( insinuate)being compromised in the worst way. They also had books highlighting demon worship. Unapologetic and intentionally. The freaking teddy bears had S&M straps. Disgusting 🙅🏾♀️
Wow, I can see why she acts the way she does. Her childhood was horrible. She was abandoned so young and left to survive. She's needs deep therapy and a healthy support system.
I do hope she looks into some form of counseling, it’s affected her so much at this point. She needs to find other avenues to heal, if not for herself at least for her kids
This is my first time hearing Erica's story. This definitely is a storyline that so many women can relate to. She's gone through a lot, and grown men took advantage of her. Hip Hop took advantage of her. She was a child at 16 in music videos and on the cover of magazines.
Erica herself is a red flag 😂 she treated Cyn like trash and put her hands on her, she was bouncing between Cyn and Rich, Boward Woward was just dumb and Safaree chased her just to treat her like trash smh
I feel for anyone impacted by childhood trauma as it tends to shape who they are as adults …you can look at how thin she is now and see that last relationship has taken a toll
I’m not familiar with this woman, but I hate what happened to her when she was young. People don’t realize how much that type of trauma can affect a person. If it wasn’t for Christ, prayer, and deliverance, I would still be messed up as well. Just wanted a semblance to anything that looked and felt like love. Thank you for sharing. I pray she gets the help that she needs. 💛💛💛💛
Who cares what happened to her when she was younger. How many black women have been abused and mistreated in our community, where is the sympathy for us?????
Bird Lady Speaks. Same here. Ty for sharing this. As a survivor of childhood trauma I also accepted Christ & years of recovery work. It all saved me from a lot of pain and not making horrible mistakes especially in the relationship paradigm. So many stories everywhere just like this. Many of these women ending up murdered or committing suicide. Tragic.
@@ansiejeanty8814 In case you did not notice this video is about Erica. No one is ignoring the fact that alot of black women have been through abuse and mistreated also. However, this video is based solely on Erica that is why people are commenting on her situation. Had the video been about black women then the main focus would be on black women.
@The Lies-This is who I am in real life This...👏👏👏👏 Let's be honest if Erica was not a preference to certain black men alot of black women would not be acting so heartless, spiteful and bitter in the comment section. I am so happy that I am soo secure within myself to not have hate in my heart. It was certain black men who labelled her a preference so go be angry with those black men. I will never ever be bitter towards any women that a black man prefers to be with.
And children🤦🏽♀️ it’s sad. She didn’t have a mom in her most developmental years. That’s real pain right there. But I still don’t have sympathy for the shit she has done in recent years
She has no educational background and got pregnant at an early age, she was also abused by people around while she was at her sister's house Lisa. I pity her because although she had a terrible upbringing, it still doesn't excuse what she later became and how she treated others but it definitely makes sense. The woman is damaged and needs intense therapy.
She was a video vixen.. at 15…? Is that her in a TOWEL?! 2:55 Lord. Those men are disgusting. I feel bad for her, she was let down over and over and over again.
This is what taking zero accountability looks like. She literally had no time to heal or at least collect her thoughts between her many relationships or situationships.🤷🏽♀ 🚩🚩🚩🚩
My heart cries for baby (and even teenage) Erica. I'm sorry she went through so much. With that being said, it definitely explains why she is the way she is but it doesn't completely excuse it at all. I hope she seeks DEEP therapy and finally finds inner-peace before entering another relationship. My goodness, she should focus on the most important relationship (the one w/ herself) first.
All I can say is therapy. When you get to learn yourself, your triggers and can understand how that has affected your choices and your people around you, you can learn to leave behind all the toxic behaviors and set boundaries for yourself. Good luck to her
1. I completely forgot about her and Bow Wow😅 2. I think we need to be very clear when we refer to predatory relationships involving a minor. Just because Erica was physically developed and stayed with Raul after she became of legal age, doesn't change the fact that it started when she was legally unable to consent. I don't think it should be spoken of, even now in her adulthood, in the same context as her other relationships in which she was on equal/closer standing with her partner. 3. Is her first son Raul's, or does he have a different father 🤔
Oh we agree! But we can't really get into the other aspect of that relationship without the video getting flagged. We think the illegal and predatory aspect of it speaks for itself. And yes, Raul is the father. We forgot to add that part about the pregnancy 😭 thanks for watching.
Why are we ignoring the fact that she literally said Wendy Williams did not get beat good enough and that she would do a better job. Love you RRG I mean no disrespect towards your platform
All I can say is as an adult......u make choices to stay where u been or get to where u need to be! U can't blame your past at 30 plus. Not saying what happened to her as a child and teen was ok....it damn sure wasn't. But at 30 plus, the beauty of being an adult is u can make a choice to do something about it! Idk if she is doing that or not but hopefully so.
@@katvogue2871 all she is saying is an adult you have to take accountability for YOUR actions! At one point or another… she chose these men and continued to be in this cycle. Her childhood and teens were very traumatic. However, some of these cards were either dealt to her or she dealt them to herself. She needs to heal and love herself more to be able to receive the love she always wanted cause it ain’t in these men she choosing.
When you know better, you do better. I have no idea what abandonment feels like or having to do whatever to survive as a child. On love and hip hop, Erica never had the support from the other women. This season she a crew of sisters who are supporting her because she needs it. I say all that to say, your wake-up call to make changes in your life can happen at any age. Sadly, it takes some people a lot longer. I'll continue to pray for her
@@katvogue2871 yea that's what therapy and self-love come into play She has 3 minor children who rely on her and its unhealthy how she's been moving. If She doesn't change, she'll end up in prison or institutionalized which I'm turn will leave her 3 babies in the EXACT place she was in as a child when all adults abandon their love, security and protection. History will repeat itself if you don't ACTIVELY change and put I'm effort to center yourself around positivity & peace.
@@katvogue2871 I said nothing but truth and maybe it hurts but it is what it is. Idc what happened to you in your past....as an adult the responsibility to not be a victim of your past is ultimately up to you. Your trauma all the mishandling you may have gone thru is not ok.....but what r u gonna do about it!?!?!? As an adult you have to be responsible for your own healing to make a better you and ultimately a better life. She has 3 other lives depending on her. She doesnt have a choice but to get better. Her story doesn't have to be mine in order for me to say this applies to each and everyone of us regardless of our past.
To have lost a partner twice, been in foster care and traumatized, and neglected by your parents 🧐 My hands come together for this woman. You never know the true depths of someone else’s pain before you open your mouth to judge them🙌🏽 I pray for her healing 🙏
sweetie was raised in a broken home and her beauty took her out of poverty but couldn’t heal her from her traumas… her energy attracts men who can’t add to her but more babies
The sad thing is that Erica Mena is very toxic her own self. If anyone has watched L&HH from the beginning you will see the constant drama she either creates herself or is involved in then thinks that she will not attract the same drama in her own life. Your energy creates your world period. I pray she finds her identity in God and outside of looks, fame, and a Man because those are the three things she chases after and as we see now it ends up as another void in her life and is now taking a mental toll on her physically. Lets pray for her.
Yes, however as a person who was sexually abused, prayed on, manipulated experienced Stockholm syndrome, hit by a person I thought I loved and loved me, tumultuous relationship with my parents, it's very easy to find comfort in drama. It becomes second nature, you begin to see yourself as less than and it's veryyyyy hard to break cycles, etc. Let's just pray for her, and not judge...
@@MizzTrinieFyre There are cycles and then there are excuses. Every human on the planet has a story and a testimony of tragedy including myself personally. But there has to come a time when you have to put your hurt, ego, pride and personal will to the side and make the necessary steps to not be that person who was hurt at 5, 15, or any age and take the grown up healing steps of forgiving the past, stop blaming everyone else for your pain, take responsibility for your actions and the pain you caused others, realize the generational curse you are walking in and accept you need to heal and need help from a higher power outside of yourself and what the world can bring with temporary self gratification. When every time someone acts reckless then tells their trauma story to justify their actions and does not apologize nor accept responsibility for the actions of the hurt they have caused others that person is using their trauma as a weapon to gain sympathy, to win arguments and to excuse their behavior and not heal from it and Erica Mena has been doing this since the beginning of this show. In the book of John 5 in the bible Jesus met a ill man at the pool of Bethesda. It says in the bible Jesus already knew he had been sick for 38 years. He asked the man do you want to be healed and at first the man gave Jesus all the excuses of no one helping him and he's been this way for years, etc. Then Jesus gave a command to walk again to be healed and instead of giving Jesus more excuses he accepted responsibility and said yes to coming out of his situation and accept healing and only then he was fully healed and able to walk again. This is what I mean by we all have a story and a tragedy that can keep us bound if we choose but we all have a personal choice to move forward into our healing as well and not be defined by our past and no one can do this for us but us. I watched this show in my 18-20s and felt for Erica then stopped for years and to see Erica acting the same way as I watch at 30 I don't feel the sympathy now I feel someone who wants sympathy not accountability.
I pray that Erica receives the help and healing that she needs to overcome the trauma she faces throughout her life, specifically in her childhood. People don’t realize how much their childhood genuinely affects them till they are caught in terrible patterns because of it. So sad ..
This was good video, I honestly knew she was toxic but now knowing that she had a rough upbringing tells a lot more on why she chose some of those relationships. She never fully healed. I hope after all this she takes the time to work on herself and focus on her children. SN: I remember a couple years ago she hated on Draya when draya starred in her own movie , she mentioned she never knew her but social media had to remind her lol. Girl was Lying 😂
This is sad to watch how she lost a lot of weight in her depression,how Raoul took advantage of her as a kid and how Fat Joe wanted to take advantage of her as a kid,I really hope she finds strength and love for herself she really needs that for her kids I hope she falls in love with God!!!! She really needs Him right now,those men never chose her but God will always chose you no matter what!!!!
I knew Erica had a rough childhood, but a lot of this I didn't know like the fact that she started out in the industry so young and in a Chris & Neef video. It's sad she was beaten by her ex. I see how it affected her and why she seems so angry.... I also forgot about her and Bow Wow and never knew he was on CSI. I just hope that she's sought therapy after her divorce with Safaree so she can heal from all of her past trauma.
Erica went through many of the same traumas black women go through. The difference is no one gives black women the grace she has received. We are told to do better and choose better even though we had no one to teach us better. She got the same black man black women get, and she's going to have to deal with the same consequences of that🤷🏾♀️
Learning what she was born into & her upbringing helps me further understand her. I pray for her healing & self love to increase. May God be with her & her children always.
This was really sad. I had no idea that she had been through so much trauma in her life. I really do hope the best for her and that one day she will find someone that really cares about her well-being and her children ❤️🌹
Erica Mena isn't that much older than me. It never dawned on me at the time I saw her on XXL back in 2003 that she was an underage girl. She was only 16 years old, but there she was sexy posing for a bunch of grown men in studios and god knows what else. I was a kid thinking she was a grown woman on that cover. As far as her relationship history, she doesn't have a track record of being an angel herself, but I still can't help but feel bad for her. Especially seeing how her relationship with Safari has taken such a toll in her. She seems so hurt. She's obviously been dealing with toxic men on a romantic/sexual level from a very young age -- like most inner city black and latina women. Even when the signs are so obvious, when that's the only thing you've ever known, you sort of have a dysfunctional subconscious attraction to the toxic even if you claim you're tired off it. EDIT: Holy sh!t. I just found out about Erica Mena supposedly making fun of a woman not being about to have kids. Wtf. I always knew she was a bit nutty, but looks like she has a history of going for the jugular. I take back what I said about feeling bad for her as far as how Safari has treated her. Looks like she simply ran into somebody that's capable of being more toxic than her. #karma
The toxicity is familiar. Abuse victims don’t know any other way so they replay the same scenarios out over and over. The only way for change is intense healing.
Ladies , stop telling men about your childhood traumas and your past relationships. Some actually care and are genuine, but there are a lot of men who play on your traumas and insecurities, they see you as an easy target and will leave you even more damaged. Go to therapy and really really work on yourself before getting into a relationship.
You contradicting yourself though. Once you deal with your past no one can use it against you. And not all men are trash, some actually create a healing environment for you
Nicki is still messed up til this day to walking around with that child predator as her husband. Whatever safaree is doing to these women must be sinister 😭
Childhood trauma is terrible. But YOU choose to be either consumed and turn evil, or fight to be a good person through the bs. She chose to be vindictive and evil.
It's so sad to watch someone past continue to repeat over and over because they don't want to face their traumas.. and refuse to get the help they need..
@@evaphillips2102 not if you truly want it.. help also comes in different ways.. could be through friends.. counseling.. possible therapy.. dating someone who understands and will be patient with you.. just depends..
I don't feel sorry for a lot of the ladies or men on these weird reality shows. However I think maybe if erica were dark skin maybe people would have empathy for her just saying.
@noneya123 I think its understandable but a bit hypocritical at the same time. They give so much grace to someone like safaree but when it comes to erica it's so much worse. It's very misogynistic and hypocritical in a way.
Before I watch the video I just wanna go on record and say I ordered my RRG snacks, so when yall post the NEXT video, imma be munchin'! Aight, I'm focused now, let me get into this tea lol
I like how the Red Flag was solely, Bow wow's name before an action was stated and how at 10:25, the Red Flag is Safaree's dancing and the fact that she dated him 2 months after the prison situation.
Comes to show therapy is mandatory... l say it's a good way to talk to someone where you don't have to worry about your business hitting the streets..it's confidential by law. It helps you deal with your childhood trauma. She clearly needs counseling bless her heart for the sake of those beautiful children 😬😔
I know she is very toxic, but it's clear she has some work to do on herself. Now is the best time to hit the pause button and do the work in therapy. Safaree broke her down so much that I already see the change in her.
Erica got a real BITTER taste of her own medicine, and now she can’t handle it💅🏽 What you put out into the world and how you treat others, karma comes back even stronger 💯💯
Wow. I had no idea that Erica went through so much in her life. I'm not here to judge and I pray she finds peace and the love she deserves. First starting with loving herself. ❤ But........ RRG knows they were wrong for letting the clip of Saffaree dancing run as long as it did. I'm hollering. Shady boots 👢 💀😂😂😂😂 🤣 😂 😭
Because of her bad childhood and miss all lot of love she was trying to get the missing love this way.i see red vlags but i find it very sad for her and her children.♥️
That’s why Safari said he’s not going to lose his freedom she puts her hands on you. She thinks yelling is love but he’s rather walk away than yell leaving her feeling abandoned
She was 15 and they had her parading around in a towel in a sexual manner for a video. Even if she lied about her age, don’t they check anything? Even if the rappers don’t care, what about the magazine she posed for at 16? That’s crazy. Posing in such a sexually suggestive way at that age is scary. The editors have a duty of care to the models I can see why she is the way she is due to her childhood trauma, but I still don’t like her as a person.
Thank you for this video, now I have an understanding why she is the way she is, no guidance growing up, choosing 💩 guys. She's beautiful but she needs to love herself, put her kids first and seek therapy.
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you but I’ve got to be honest we cannot ignore the fact that Erica is a damn walking red flag herself. She did not grow past her trauma, and it shows a really used to love her and I feel for her now you can see that this has really taken a toll on her and I hope she gains the strength to get past it❤
Erica Mena is a Piece of Work ..... She's a Scorpio Sun with a Gemini moon Just like me I'm a Scorpio Sun Gemini moon and with a Capricorn Rising.....But I am nothing like her thought 😂😂😂😂😂
I pray Erica finds the tools, and gains the support to heal her broken wings. I’ve always seen her pain through her aggression, but didn’t understand it until now. Bless her and cover her Lord. Pain can surely distort us all and hide the gold we all hold within. But I hope she rises strong and shines her light so she can be someone’s possibility and hope “if Erica can, so can I.” I also pray she finds the love she deserves from within, not requiring it from anyone so she can attract people who will cherish her because she cherishes herself, first.✌🏾❤️🇬🇧
I never realized the timing of her relationships and how quickly things evolved. Obviously her youth was taken from her, which is heartbreaking to see. 15 years of age on the set of hip-hop videos! Wow - I can only imagine what she saw & participated in during that time. Needless to say, maybe the best she can do for herself is to get into therapy and work on a path of healing and finding peace with solitude.
🌬️💨💨💨 Erica did a movie with Marcus Houston called "The Stepmother" which is currently streaming on Tubi. She played a deranged psycho in the film...I thought that she did a fantastic job. I can only conclude that she played the role so well because she drew from her traumatic experiences from childhood and adulthood.🤷🏽♀️
Oh E, my Scorpio sister, I see you more than you could ever know. I’m rooting for her to heal and win. Ppl don’t understand the BS you experience causes you to make poor choices in life and in rships. Side note- That scene of Safaree’s goofy self dancing…goodness 😂
This video was presented very well. I knew she had difficulties in her childhood but didnt know as many details as you gave us. I haven't liked her in the past because she dumps people so easily. She is very argumentative as well, but she had a very rough childhood and needed a compassionate and constructive mentor as a teenager and beyond.
I’ve put down my cape for nonblack women years ago, but it’s absolutely sickening how these overgrown men didn’t/don’t give af that they were literally pursuing a child‼️ 16?! I am disgusted…& these same men STILL have a career till this day!
She was so pretty during the Bow Wow/ early Love & hip Hop era. When she got w/ Safaree she went and got a skinny face with huge lips and veneers. 🤦🏾♀️
This is just said all around and unfortunately men will use your pain against you. You always have to be careful of who you tell your story to. And yea straight P-do vibes.
I’m glad you didn’t go in on Erica. She’s been through a lot and as a fellow Scorpio who has dealt with similar situations I definitely feel her pain. Her main issue is the same I had, lack of prenatal guidance, self love and respect. Those 3 children will hopefully help her gain what she needs to find peace with the past and present.
Never tell a man your traumas and insecurities. The minute you demand more they will remind you of what you tolerated and how your 'loved' ones mistreated you
Never tell one of THESE men. You should be able to talk to your significant others about damn near anything. Especially your past. If you can’t do that then that means you need to end that relationship bc it’s not going anywhere. Either it’s a you, them, or both
Ain’t that the truth!
Amen!!!!
Truth.
Facts!!!
While I don’t feel much for Erica, I do have a problem with these OLD MEN (Raul, Fat Joe, etc) spitting game at a WHOLE CHILD.
YUP!
Hollywood is filled with these sick people🤢
@thelies-thisiswhoiaminreal7498 Yea right lol. So they never asked how old she was huh? I guess so they could play dumb
@The Lies-This is who I am in real life sure they might not have known at first, but he was dating her for a minute lol you’d have to know her age when her birthday comes around
Nasty
It's sad when mistreated children grow up too fast. We as adults MUST protect the children around us as much as we can! No nonsense! 🙅🏾♀️
We agree ❤️❤️
Oh this comment reminds me F- Balenciaga.
@@princessjada3808 Spill the tea. ☕
@@danavixen6274 ( not allegedly) The most recent ads glorified and showcase kids( insinuate)being compromised in the worst way. They also had books highlighting demon worship. Unapologetic and intentionally. The freaking teddy bears had S&M straps. Disgusting 🙅🏾♀️
@@princessjada3808 Thanks for letting me know. 🤢🤮
Wow, I can see why she acts the way she does.
Her childhood was horrible. She was abandoned so young and left to survive. She's needs deep therapy and a healthy support system.
❤️❤️❤️
And her mental disabilities… it all makes sense.
Blah blah blah
I do hope she looks into some form of counseling, it’s affected her so much at this point. She needs to find other avenues to heal, if not for herself at least for her kids
@@ansiejeanty8814 lol
She was 16 and on an adult magazine, why are we not calling these people out. It's sad and sickening.
She most likely lied about her age. She mentioned she would forge her mom's name on release forms so she could appear in music videos.
BINGO! Corporations have a responsibility to do their homework. Doesn’t excuse them
Her parents!!! What you don't learn at home, the streets will treat you
This is my first time hearing Erica's story. This definitely is a storyline that so many women can relate to. She's gone through a lot, and grown men took advantage of her. Hip Hop took advantage of her. She was a child at 16 in music videos and on the cover of magazines.
Lol
She wanted the 💰
Erica herself is a red flag 😂 she treated Cyn like trash and put her hands on her, she was bouncing between Cyn and Rich, Boward Woward was just dumb and Safaree chased her just to treat her like trash smh
I am living for “Boward Woward.” Thank you 😅
Not Boward Woward 😅😅😅😅
No you did NOT just put Boward Woward honey I'm HOLLERING!🤣
@@kiarieray5975 🤣🫠
@The Lies-This is who I am in real life my heart broke when she did that like tbh and seeing how Cyn reacted was so sad
I feel for anyone impacted by childhood trauma as it tends to shape who they are as adults …you can look at how thin she is now and see that last relationship has taken a toll
I think both of then play apart in the married because i understand how raise but she have want get therapy instead go from one man another man.
I’m not familiar with this woman, but I hate what happened to her when she was young. People don’t realize how much that type of trauma can affect a person. If it wasn’t for Christ, prayer, and deliverance, I would still be messed up as well. Just wanted a semblance to anything that looked and felt like love. Thank you for sharing. I pray she gets the help that she needs. 💛💛💛💛
Who cares what happened to her when she was younger. How many black women have been abused and mistreated in our community, where is the sympathy for us?????
Bird Lady Speaks. Same here. Ty for sharing this. As a survivor of childhood trauma I also accepted Christ & years of recovery work. It all saved me from a lot of pain and not making horrible mistakes especially in the relationship paradigm. So many stories everywhere just like this. Many of these women ending up murdered or committing suicide. Tragic.
She’s toxic but listening to her upbringing I see why
@@ansiejeanty8814 In case you did not notice this video is about Erica. No one is ignoring the fact that alot of black women have been through abuse and mistreated also. However, this video is based solely on Erica that is why people are commenting on her situation. Had the video been about black women then the main focus would be on black women.
@The Lies-This is who I am in real life This...👏👏👏👏
Let's be honest if Erica was not a preference to certain black men alot of black women would not be acting so heartless, spiteful and bitter in the comment section.
I am so happy that I am soo secure within myself to not have hate in my heart. It was certain black men who labelled her a preference so go be angry with those black men. I will never ever be bitter towards any women that a black man prefers to be with.
Her problem is she doesn’t give herself time to heal. She is tryna feel a void with these relationships.
And children🤦🏽♀️ it’s sad. She didn’t have a mom in her most developmental years. That’s real pain right there. But I still don’t have sympathy for the shit she has done in recent years
She has no educational background and got pregnant at an early age, she was also abused by people around while she was at her sister's house Lisa. I pity her because although she had a terrible upbringing, it still doesn't excuse what she later became and how she treated others but it definitely makes sense. The woman is damaged and needs intense therapy.
U can’t ignore red flags when you ARE a red flag! 🥴🤷🏽♂️
Agreed!!! 👏👏👏 She needs to heal from her past, relationships etc. And heal from her self bf getting into another relationship. But just my opinion!
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Thank you!!!
Big facts. Her toxic ass and she been a bully for years
Exactly
She was a video vixen.. at 15…? Is that her in a TOWEL?! 2:55
Lord. Those men are disgusting. I feel bad for her, she was let down over and over and over again.
Yes, that's her in the towel smh
They should not allow girls so young to be in that kind of work, they should make it 18yrs old.
Trust me it was worse in the 90s and early 2000s for them.
This is what taking zero accountability looks like. She literally had no time to heal or at least collect her thoughts between her many relationships or situationships.🤷🏽♀ 🚩🚩🚩🚩
All her relationships are a distraction… from herself.
My heart cries for baby (and even teenage) Erica. I'm sorry she went through so much. With that being said, it definitely explains why she is the way she is but it doesn't completely excuse it at all. I hope she seeks DEEP therapy and finally finds inner-peace before entering another relationship. My goodness, she should focus on the most important relationship (the one w/ herself) first.
All I can say is therapy. When you get to learn yourself, your triggers and can understand how that has affected your choices and your people around you, you can learn to leave behind all the toxic behaviors and set boundaries for yourself. Good luck to her
That would help her so much!!!
1. I completely forgot about her and Bow Wow😅
2. I think we need to be very clear when we refer to predatory relationships involving a minor. Just because Erica was physically developed and stayed with Raul after she became of legal age, doesn't change the fact that it started when she was legally unable to consent. I don't think it should be spoken of, even now in her adulthood, in the same context as her other relationships in which she was on equal/closer standing with her partner.
3. Is her first son Raul's, or does he have a different father 🤔
Oh we agree! But we can't really get into the other aspect of that relationship without the video getting flagged. We think the illegal and predatory aspect of it speaks for itself. And yes, Raul is the father. We forgot to add that part about the pregnancy 😭 thanks for watching.
Yeah I was confused when the son was mentioned
Raul/Fat Joe can go for twins..they look related. Even her son resembles Joe!
@@rrg you did great...to me it was explanatory that her first child was by Raul...
Chiiiiiiiiiiiiile I'm glad Black women are FINALLY starting to see that the preferences aren't getting preferential treatment 💅🏾
Yep, the same black man ♂️👞
They get the same black men that we get even though they think that they're better than us.
Are you happy about that or something???? You’d be crying colorism/racism/featuring if someone said that about unambiguous bw
This comment I hate that they have the standard that they are different from black women
I been knew that’s why I cringe every time I see black women begging for black men to stay. Nahhh LET THEM GO!!
Why are we ignoring the fact that she literally said Wendy Williams did not get beat good enough and that she would do a better job.
Love you RRG I mean no disrespect towards your platform
She's always taught that she was better and has been disrespectful to black women.
@@ansiejeanty8814 I know I honestly thought that she was black for awhile
I’m not understanding why she was picked as a topic
Yes!! Exactly how easily people forget but it's all well documented on the internet forever
Erica mena is an extremely hateful, evil violent person. This is her own karma and making
All I can say is as an adult......u make choices to stay where u been or get to where u need to be! U can't blame your past at 30 plus. Not saying what happened to her as a child and teen was ok....it damn sure wasn't. But at 30 plus, the beauty of being an adult is u can make a choice to do something about it! Idk if she is doing that or not but hopefully so.
@@katvogue2871 agree.
@@katvogue2871 all she is saying is an adult you have to take accountability for YOUR actions! At one point or another… she chose these men and continued to be in this cycle. Her childhood and teens were very traumatic. However, some of these cards were either dealt to her or she dealt them to herself. She needs to heal and love herself more to be able to receive the love she always wanted cause it ain’t in these men she choosing.
When you know better, you do better. I have no idea what abandonment feels like or having to do whatever to survive as a child. On love and hip hop, Erica never had the support from the other women. This season she a crew of sisters who are supporting her because she needs it. I say all that to say, your wake-up call to make changes in your life can happen at any age. Sadly, it takes some people a lot longer. I'll continue to pray for her
@@katvogue2871 yea that's what therapy and self-love come into play
She has 3 minor children who rely on her and its unhealthy how she's been moving. If She doesn't change, she'll end up in prison or institutionalized which I'm turn will leave her 3 babies in the EXACT place she was in as a child when all adults abandon their love, security and protection. History will repeat itself if you don't ACTIVELY change and put I'm effort to center yourself around positivity & peace.
@@katvogue2871 I said nothing but truth and maybe it hurts but it is what it is. Idc what happened to you in your past....as an adult the responsibility to not be a victim of your past is ultimately up to you. Your trauma all the mishandling you may have gone thru is not ok.....but what r u gonna do about it!?!?!? As an adult you have to be responsible for your own healing to make a better you and ultimately a better life. She has 3 other lives depending on her. She doesnt have a choice but to get better. Her story doesn't have to be mine in order for me to say this applies to each and everyone of us regardless of our past.
To have lost a partner twice, been in foster care and traumatized, and neglected by your parents 🧐 My hands come together for this woman. You never know the true depths of someone else’s pain before you open your mouth to judge them🙌🏽 I pray for her healing 🙏
I'll pray for her with you cause at the end of the day we are all human lord please bless her and her babies in Jesus name amen ♥
sweetie was raised in a broken home and her beauty took her out of poverty but couldn’t heal her from her traumas… her energy attracts men who can’t add to her but more babies
Wow that’s deep!
The sad thing is that Erica Mena is very toxic her own self. If anyone has watched L&HH from the beginning you will see the constant drama she either creates herself or is involved in then thinks that she will not attract the same drama in her own life. Your energy creates your world period. I pray she finds her identity in God and outside of looks, fame, and a Man because those are the three things she chases after and as we see now it ends up as another void in her life and is now taking a mental toll on her physically. Lets pray for her.
LHH NY started in 2010/2011 not 2005.
Yes, however as a person who was sexually abused, prayed on, manipulated experienced Stockholm syndrome, hit by a person I thought I loved and loved me, tumultuous relationship with my parents, it's very easy to find comfort in drama. It becomes second nature, you begin to see yourself as less than and it's veryyyyy hard to break cycles, etc. Let's just pray for her, and not judge...
@@tinyking11 Your right Im sorry. 🙏
@@MizzTrinieFyre
There are cycles and then there are excuses. Every human on the planet has a story and a testimony of tragedy including myself personally. But there has to come a time when you have to put your hurt, ego, pride and personal will to the side and make the necessary steps to not be that person who was hurt at 5, 15, or any age and take the grown up healing steps of forgiving the past, stop blaming everyone else for your pain, take responsibility for your actions and the pain you caused others, realize the generational curse you are walking in and accept you need to heal and need help from a higher power outside of yourself and what the world can bring with temporary self gratification. When every time someone acts reckless then tells their trauma story to justify their actions and does not apologize nor accept responsibility for the actions of the hurt they have caused others that person is using their trauma as a weapon to gain sympathy, to win arguments and to excuse their behavior and not heal from it and Erica Mena has been doing this since the beginning of this show. In the book of John 5 in the bible Jesus met a ill man at the pool of Bethesda. It says in the bible Jesus already knew he had been sick for 38 years. He asked the man do you want to be healed and at first the man gave Jesus all the excuses of no one helping him and he's been this way for years, etc. Then Jesus gave a command to walk again to be healed and instead of giving Jesus more excuses he accepted responsibility and said yes to coming out of his situation and accept healing and only then he was fully healed and able to walk again. This is what I mean by we all have a story and a tragedy that can keep us bound if we choose but we all have a personal choice to move forward into our healing as well and not be defined by our past and no one can do this for us but us. I watched this show in my 18-20s and felt for Erica then stopped for years and to see Erica acting the same way as I watch at 30 I don't feel the sympathy now I feel someone who wants sympathy not accountability.
She's had a tough childhood it definitely has affected the decisions she has made as an adult.
Most people had tough childhoods.
@@Enikemi123 Definitely and many of them continue to suffer and make unscrupulous decisions as adults.
@@Enikemi123 everyone handles trauma differently
Multiple partners in adulthood also affects your adulthood. It comes with good experience but mostly bad that we ignore but will never shake off.
I pray that Erica receives the help and healing that she needs to overcome the trauma she faces throughout her life, specifically in her childhood. People don’t realize how much their childhood genuinely affects them till they are caught in terrible patterns because of it. So sad ..
This was good video, I honestly knew she was toxic but now knowing that she had a rough upbringing tells a lot more on why she chose some of those relationships. She never fully healed. I hope after all this she takes the time to work on herself and focus on her children. SN: I remember a couple years ago she hated on Draya when draya starred in her own movie , she mentioned she never knew her but social media had to remind her lol. Girl was Lying 😂
Draya from Basketball Wives? I was looking at the video like who dat? 😂
Sounds like GU.
This is sad to watch how she lost a lot of weight in her depression,how Raoul took advantage of her as a kid and how Fat Joe wanted to take advantage of her as a kid,I really hope she finds strength and love for herself she really needs that for her kids I hope she falls in love with God!!!! She really needs Him right now,those men never chose her but God will always chose you no matter what!!!!
I knew Erica had a rough childhood, but a lot of this I didn't know like the fact that she started out in the industry so young and in a Chris & Neef video. It's sad she was beaten by her ex. I see how it affected her and why she seems so angry.... I also forgot about her and Bow Wow and never knew he was on CSI. I just hope that she's sought therapy after her divorce with Safaree so she can heal from all of her past trauma.
Erica went through many of the same traumas black women go through. The difference is no one gives black women the grace she has received. We are told to do better and choose better even though we had no one to teach us better.
She got the same black man black women get, and she's going to have to deal with the same consequences of that🤷🏾♀️
She’s black.. not every black person is dark skin
Learning what she was born into & her upbringing helps me further understand her. I pray for her healing & self love to increase. May God be with her & her children always.
This was really sad. I had no idea that she had been through so much trauma in her life. I really do hope the best for her and that one day she will find someone that really cares about her well-being and her children ❤️🌹
Erica Mena isn't that much older than me. It never dawned on me at the time I saw her on XXL back in 2003 that she was an underage girl. She was only 16 years old, but there she was sexy posing for a bunch of grown men in studios and god knows what else. I was a kid thinking she was a grown woman on that cover. As far as her relationship history, she doesn't have a track record of being an angel herself, but I still can't help but feel bad for her. Especially seeing how her relationship with Safari has taken such a toll in her. She seems so hurt. She's obviously been dealing with toxic men on a romantic/sexual level from a very young age -- like most inner city black and latina women. Even when the signs are so obvious, when that's the only thing you've ever known, you sort of have a dysfunctional subconscious attraction to the toxic even if you claim you're tired off it.
EDIT: Holy sh!t. I just found out about Erica Mena supposedly making fun of a woman not being about to have kids. Wtf. I always knew she was a bit nutty, but looks like she has a history of going for the jugular. I take back what I said about feeling bad for her as far as how Safari has treated her. Looks like she simply ran into somebody that's capable of being more toxic than her. #karma
The toxicity is familiar. Abuse victims don’t know any other way so they replay the same scenarios out over and over. The only way for change is intense healing.
I'm telling you...that core of hers it rottennnnn baby, I can see it all over her face!
@@Shannon627 naw Erica is wicked !
She can be toxic also at most times
That clip of Safaree, dancing took me da hell out..😂😂Hey RRG🙋🏽♀️ miss ya!
No way I’d allow my minor to be in any sort of rap music video….ugh. 😢
She ignored it because SHE’S THE RED FLAG
Exactly
Yes she is the red flag
Spot on
😂😂😂😂
This is THE COMMENT!!!!😭
Ladies , stop telling men about your childhood traumas and your past relationships. Some actually care and are genuine, but there are a lot of men who play on your traumas and insecurities, they see you as an easy target and will leave you even more damaged. Go to therapy and really really work on yourself before getting into a relationship.
Exactly!!
You contradicting yourself though. Once you deal with your past no one can use it against you. And not all men are trash, some actually create a healing environment for you
@@Thankgot that’s why I used the words “Some” and “a lot” and also said go to therapy and work on yourself before getting into a relationship…
Being Fair, Erica may have her red flags but birds of a feather! In her defense, BOW WOW n SAFAREE ARE RED FLAGS ALL BY THEMSELVES
Yep
Erica is THE Red flag
Safari messed her up bad she came out of a two year relationship looking ten years older it's so sad 🥺
We don’t know what she did to him. He still on mute about it. She is no victim.
Nicki is still messed up til this day to walking around with that child predator as her husband. Whatever safaree is doing to these women must be sinister 😭
Childhood trauma is terrible. But YOU choose to be either consumed and turn evil, or fight to be a good person through the bs. She chose to be vindictive and evil.
All the time ...I'm truly enjoying this series 🙂🤗
Hey bestie!
It's so sad to watch someone past continue to repeat over and over because they don't want to face their traumas.. and refuse to get the help they need..
this part!
Help is hard to find.
@@evaphillips2102 not if you truly want it.. help also comes in different ways.. could be through friends.. counseling.. possible therapy.. dating someone who understands and will be patient with you.. just depends..
I have to commend y'all for the research you do before putting out these videos. I always learn something new!
Thank you, bestie!
@@rrg 🤗🤗
I'm not a fan of Erica's, but the face she was born with, is beautiful .🤷🏾♀️
Call me heartless but I absolutely don't feel sorry for Erica. This woman is very wicked and nasty.
So true
Me either
What are some things she's done? I get she's no angel but everyone seems to not care about her dispite her story.
I don't feel sorry for a lot of the ladies or men on these weird reality shows. However I think maybe if erica were dark skin maybe people would have empathy for her just saying.
@noneya123 I think its understandable but a bit hypocritical at the same time. They give so much grace to someone like safaree but when it comes to erica it's so much worse. It's very misogynistic and hypocritical in a way.
RUclips is trying to play me and not letting me know when you guys upload. Thank goodness I was already on here lol 🍿
Before I watch the video I just wanna go on record and say I ordered my RRG snacks, so when yall post the NEXT video, imma be munchin'!
Aight, I'm focused now, let me get into this tea lol
Thanks so much for your order! ❤️
The way you be rolling your R’s with RAOUL! 😭 sis you crack me up, the entertainment is 👌🏾
😂😂😂😂
I was looking for this comment 🤣
Now we need a reverse video: All of the RED FLAGS that the men she’s dated ignored.
That is an awesome idea!! I would love to see that!
This one wasn't even fun or enjoyable to make like the other red flags videos, so we're done with this topic. Thanks for watching.
I like how the Red Flag was solely, Bow wow's name before an action was stated and how at 10:25, the Red Flag is Safaree's dancing and the fact that she dated him 2 months after the prison situation.
Not just dated but got engaged 2 months after getting locked up
Comes to show therapy is mandatory... l say it's a good way to talk to someone where you don't have to worry about your business hitting the streets..it's confidential by law. It helps you deal with your childhood trauma. She clearly needs counseling bless her heart for the sake of those beautiful children 😬😔
I know she is very toxic, but it's clear she has some work to do on herself. Now is the best time to hit the pause button and do the work in therapy. Safaree broke her down so much that I already see the change in her.
Happy you finally covering Erica Mena & Safaree.. So many red flags with them.
Every man Erica has a relationship with she knows exactly what she's getting into the red flags were there before the relationships
Erica got a real BITTER taste of her own medicine, and now she can’t handle it💅🏽 What you put out into the world and how you treat others, karma comes back even stronger 💯💯
Wow. I had no idea that Erica went through so much in her life. I'm not here to judge and I pray she finds peace and the love she deserves. First starting with loving herself. ❤ But........ RRG knows they were wrong for letting the clip of Saffaree dancing run as long as it did. I'm hollering. Shady boots 👢 💀😂😂😂😂 🤣 😂 😭
This makes me wanna hug her and pray for her. Her past is heartbreaking
Can I say; I love when RRG put the flags with those sounds 😂😂😂😂😂
Hey RRG I am a new subscriber! I like your content sometimes you crack me up with your commentary
Thanks for the sub, and we're glad you're enjoying our videos!
👏🏾💕It's the news lady voice throwing shade for me... 🤣🤣
Because of her bad childhood and miss all lot of love she was trying to get the missing love this way.i see red vlags but i find it very sad for her and her children.♥️
That’s why Safari said he’s not going to lose his freedom she puts her hands on you. She thinks yelling is love but he’s rather walk away than yell leaving her feeling abandoned
Nah safaree a whole deadbeat 🤣
@@mambatv2469 & she is a toxic piece of…….
When you spoke about the ex who passed then y'all had safaree pop locking....I cried laughing...I enjoyed the video 💕
LOL thanks for watching ❤❤❤
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She's on video sets at 15?!?!?wtf
Yup
That Safari dance clip! I'm CRINE!!
She was doomed from the start. I feel bad
She’s feeling the anguish she made others feel. Welp 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly KARMA
This is genuinely THEE best, wittiest, sassiest, pettiest gossip channel ever
Thanks so much
I didn't know that she went through all this. I pray that God will give her the strength to raise her kids with the love she didn't have.
The clip of Safaree dancing 🤣🤣🤣 you guts knew what you were doing!
She was 15 and they had her parading around in a towel in a sexual manner for a video. Even if she lied about her age, don’t they check anything? Even if the rappers don’t care, what about the magazine she posed for at 16?
That’s crazy. Posing in such a sexually suggestive way at that age is scary. The editors have a duty of care to the models
I can see why she is the way she is due to her childhood trauma, but I still don’t like her as a person.
Thank you for this video, now I have an understanding why she is the way she is, no guidance growing up, choosing 💩 guys. She's beautiful but she needs to love herself, put her kids first and seek therapy.
Thanks for watching ❤
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you but I’ve got to be honest we cannot ignore the fact that Erica is a damn walking red flag herself. She did not grow past her trauma, and it shows a really used to love her and I feel for her now you can see that this has really taken a toll on her and I hope she gains the strength to get past it❤
Erica Mena is a Piece of Work ..... She's a Scorpio Sun with a Gemini moon Just like me I'm a Scorpio Sun Gemini moon and with a Capricorn Rising.....But I am nothing like her thought 😂😂😂😂😂
I feel for Erica. She deserves to be happy and treated right.
Deserves? Lol
Not deserves. She deserves to get therapy. Her unhealed traumas is why she's so unhinged and always terrorizing others. She doesn't know peace.
No she doesn’t she’s terrible
I pray Erica finds the tools, and gains the support to heal her broken wings. I’ve always seen her pain through her aggression, but didn’t understand it until now.
Bless her and cover her Lord.
Pain can surely distort us all and hide the gold we all hold within. But I hope she rises strong and shines her light so she can be someone’s possibility and hope “if Erica can, so can I.”
I also pray she finds the love she deserves from within, not requiring it from anyone so she can attract people who will cherish her because she cherishes herself, first.✌🏾❤️🇬🇧
Another great video RRG! Ya'll did your research on this one! Erica had so many red flags over the years!
Such a shame she was so young to be out there like that. Explains why she is how she is now.
Lmao the way Safaree was introduced with him dancing had me rolling
“We like to use substance in our videos”😂 Shade, but I know that’s right!🙌🏾
No shade to anyone or to other channels. It's just our preference at RRG ❤️
I never realized the timing of her relationships and how quickly things evolved. Obviously her youth was taken from her, which is heartbreaking to see. 15 years of age on the set of hip-hop videos! Wow - I can only imagine what she saw & participated in during that time. Needless to say, maybe the best she can do for herself is to get into therapy and work on a path of healing and finding peace with solitude.
Why y’all got that clip of Safaree dancing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
🌬️💨💨💨 Erica did a movie with Marcus Houston called "The Stepmother" which is currently streaming on Tubi.
She played a deranged psycho in the film...I thought that she did a fantastic job. I can only conclude that she played the role so well because she drew from her traumatic experiences from childhood and adulthood.🤷🏽♀️
I'd watch it, but I'm not supporting that other walking red flag Marcus Houston. He needs a video for himself if he doesn't have one already!
@@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect Lol...yes, RRG did a video on Marcus Houston already full of Plenty-Tea ☕.
@@unapologetic1413 thanks let me go look for it
Stepmother 2 is pretty good also. She is on two other Tubi movies.
@@kimc.5625 I saw Stepmother 2 recently and that was also good. The way the movie ended I believe there might be a Stepmother 3.
Someone said Erica Mena needs to call Kim K and ask for tips for child support 😭😭😭😭. Y'all play too much
LMAOOOOO 😭😭😭😭😭
Yes!! I think she will be getting 200k per month in child support!😱😱WOW Kim definitely got in for the money.
Oh E, my Scorpio sister, I see you more than you could ever know. I’m rooting for her to heal and win. Ppl don’t understand the BS you experience causes you to make poor choices in life and in rships. Side note- That scene of Safaree’s goofy self dancing…goodness 😂
8:12 LMFAO at the, AUTOMATIC, “red flag”🤣🤣🤣
This video was presented very well. I knew she had difficulties in her childhood but didnt know as many details as you gave us. I haven't liked her in the past because she dumps people so easily. She is very argumentative as well, but she had a very rough childhood and needed a compassionate and constructive mentor as a teenager and beyond.
I’ve put down my cape for nonblack women years ago, but it’s absolutely sickening how these overgrown men didn’t/don’t give af that they were literally pursuing a child‼️ 16?!
I am disgusted…& these same men STILL have a career till this day!
Right !!!! The 90s and early 2000s were not right …. Most of these men targeted young women
Exactly smh
This was the best one yet. I feel so very sorry for her. I hope she seeks the help she needs and just focuses on her and her childrens well being .
She was so pretty during the Bow Wow/ early Love & hip Hop era. When she got w/ Safaree she went and got a skinny face with huge lips and veneers. 🤦🏾♀️
I love these videos!!!!!!
The clip 10:38 of Safaree dancing is me when I see y’all posted another red flag video 😂
If XXL is still around, they need their asses shut down, arrested, and sued cause I'm sure they knew she was a child!
The definition of toxic behavior and wholesome expectations. Make it make sense. You get in return what you put out in the world.
That Safaree dancing clip with your voiceover 👌🏼😂💀💀💀
Oh. We were waiting for this.
I actually feel for her she been searching for literally 1 thing in her life and she has never received it which is love!
This is just said all around and unfortunately men will use your pain against you. You always have to be careful of who you tell your story to. And yea straight P-do vibes.
Nothing will change with Erica until she really works on herself. Past trauma live on in the present.
Man I wouldve loved to see Fat Joe's face when she asked him to put back his friend on the phone 🤣
She must first heal herself so, she can be an excellent mother & teacher to her children. You'll conquer this my beloved.
I’m glad you didn’t go in on Erica. She’s been through a lot and as a fellow Scorpio who has dealt with similar situations I definitely feel her pain. Her main issue is the same I had, lack of prenatal guidance, self love and respect. Those 3 children will hopefully help her gain what she needs to find peace with the past and present.