Dating is easy if the guys are just looking for a short term relationship, but to find someone willing to take on the responsibility of a stepchild/children, that is not gonna be easy.
I think it's better to be upfront with the guy so that he can decide whether he wants to pursue the relationship. If he does decide to and ultimately still breaks things off though, then that's a problem on his end. It's important for both parties to be mature, level-headed & responsible
@@MuseHathor Majority of the men wouldn't raise another man's kids. People think we have abolished our biological instincts, but they are still present no matter how conscious we become. Single moms aren't seen as used, but they aren't preferred by single men with no kids cuz it's hectic. Men don't easily form emotional connection, but when they do it's really hard to let it go. I have friends who dated single mums and developed quite an attachment to their partner's kids and sometime later when the relationship broke off they kind of become depressed because of not being able to see the child.
I believe dating a single mother is only an issue if the mother relies too strongly on the male for finnances/parenting help, and or takes advantage of him in that sense. I believe the mother should reapect his boundries and continue finnancial responsibility for the child and not treat the new man as something he is not. The man may not be the father but he can still be a role model for the child. I say that as long as the mother is independent without a man in her life, it could have the potential to be a perfectly healthy relationship.
@@guyfromavillage134 exactly ..... at some point your gonna finance that child of hers..... and you will have to do it before she gives you your own biological child. She testing your fatherhood before you actually become a father. Don't fall for the trap
One of the reasons men don't want to date single moms is that they'll always come second place to her kids (which off course is normal). Also, the biological dad is always hovering somewhere in the background and will haunt the relationship like a ghost. Also: "I don't have to listen to you! You are not my real dad!" Why are men expected to invest their precious time and money in another man's kids that we are not allowed to punish or discipline because "you are not his real dad"? Sounds like a bad deal to me.
Personally, it's not the fact that the woman has a child that is a deal breaker because of the responsibilities, stereotypes, etc. Its simply the fact that the child was created with another man. It doesn't sit very well with me
And why is that? No one says that you have to look at it that way. However, taking care of a kid does not have to be that complicated. She/He needs help, stop treating it like a burden and get to know the kid, nothing scary about that. You can have children that are yours going forward you know. You can also love another human being. This notion that single moms are somehow burden is in my eyes terrible.
@Provo Beats I want a job where I get paid more with less responsibility...... not a job where I get paid more with more responsibility because the last employee created a mess now I have to fix it. Childless women are their competition and men want to raise their own children
For the single moms : Be frank upfront. If he's still in, then observe whether he just wanna play you or it's real. For the single guys: Don't date single moms.
Dating as a single mother is not as much of the issue as how women are navigating the dating scene as a single mother. Too many single mothers have unrealistic standards for their circumstances. There is no reason why a single mother should ever say "I won't date a guy that only makes this much" or "I won't date a guy that isn't 6 foot tall". Find the guy that is willing to love you and your child as his own despite his looks and income. That guy that came to repair your sink might be the guy for you, ladies"
Cold hard truth, if you're a single mum and found love again, it's more power to you. However there are so many women out there in this world, why pick a single mum when you can actually pick another woman that has no kids?
Because you love her despite having kid. If you find a single person, are you sure you wont get separated? Many single parents never wanted to become one. Who wants??? Don't judge.
Actually men don't mind dating single parents , but from my observation only brave men and do it cause they willl have to face rubbish and rude comments from friends and family which is the harder part .
Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha, "actually men don't mind dating single parents", hahahahahahahahahahahahaha....hold on, hold on...hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Emphasis on dating and that's it.
Actually biologic prime ape and human males do care, so does literally every single sexually reproducing organism, “brave” men to you are taking care of other men and women’s mistake because they are so weak to resist the urge to simp
I believe in respecting people and giving them a choice SO definitely be upfront and let the guy know that you have a child, the right man will accept you and your child.
None of the moms said it was the guy’s fault for not accepting a single mom on the first date. It is only when they say they do accept it but go back on their word that they don’t accept.
@@krishnakanth1058 why Is a child a baggage? By all means I do not have children but why do people look at a woman having children as a baggage but a man will have children and have no problem dating. It takes 2 to make a kid…
Honestly just put the facts out there, if the guy don't want that, then you are simply not their cup of tea. But right there are some of us who see our single mother, see them old without someone, quite sad.
Sounds like they’re dealing with guys that are in it for the sex. If they press for anything more, that’s where the issue of them being single moms come up. It’s honestly unfortunate. Guys don’t enter a relationship for no reason and then just leave.
I won’t date a or married a single mother, because a kid is extra financial burden, with no authority. A lot of women these days are having kids out of a marriage and I’m not going to able that behaviors by marrying a single or even dating, because tells other women that is ok. Some single will act nicer to get a guy to convince marry her, but it’s a trap, especially if you’re wealthy, because if both separate, you will be paying alimony and child support for a child that’s not yours, while she’s taking vacations and seeing other men on your budget.
my brother got into a relationship with a single mother 6 years ago, they are very happy now, he is dad to her kid and expecting his first biological kid this month, when people put aside their prejudices happiness follows
ah im so agree with you guys --- every single one of you. im a single mother of a 4 years old son and so grateful for him in my life. i know it might be a mistakes for some people but i will always put my child first, i dont mind spend my life without partner rather than have one who cannot love & respect my child. but i hope someday i could meet that person who have bigger heart for me & my +1 ❤💜 be strong mummies!!
An ongoing theme in responses to single Moms dating tends to be mention of responsibility for her kids, bills, and also the lack of time and attention a single Mother can provide to a man. If another person, ANY person, parent or not, has the expectation or need to place another in the position of fulfilling their responsibilities, THAT is the problem. As a single Mom myself, the goals are to remain self supporting, self managed, and self sustaining. I wont tolerate another person taking responsibility for my children or finances, because I'm a healthy, mature adult. If I am dating, which typically isn't a priority, I am with someone who has a STRONG level of mental health and emotional maturity. This would be someone who has understanding of responsibilities, consideration for family systems, and who has many personal hobbies outside of the relationship, and preferably children of their own. I will not be a supplier of everything a man needs. Mother or not, I wouldn't be. A healthy individual has multiple supports and avenues to tend to their needs, as do I. A romantic relationship cannot fulfill all the needs of an individual all of the time. A mature adult will understand this and have the level of patience and understanding needed. If they don't, they aren't well enough equipped for that position in a single parents life.
@V P one can be against murder and also not have the sexual interest in someone with another man’s offspring. Not mutually exclusive. I myself would never abort but I know enough about the logistics of the last abortion ban and what a failure it was to know such a thing wouldn’t work. And even if it could work there would need to be exceptions to such laws. As you can tell I follow neither parties doctrine.
It's a proven fact that children thrive in a double parent home as opposed to a single parent. While it's fine and dandy for you, your kids are suffering.
@@yuvan6499 many married couples with kids lives with older parents who help cook clean and watch kids. You as Asian know this. What’s different if instead of married couple it is single parent there instead.
never ever date a single mom she is not looking for love, she is looking for help the kid will never respect you the mom will never let you discipline the kid the mom will always be busy, never have time she wants you to pay the bills and fix the house sometimes even the real father will still come around it's only problems and drama have some self-respect and don't do it
Ugh.... 😔 this kind of man really exist. Good luck with your group of men. Cult. Spreading bad news about single mothers. Dating is a personal choice. But you could say that to young men.
been following wanie’s youtube channel with her kids since she started it, always found her really nice and funny. didn’t know she recently got divorced but she seems like such a nice chill strong person and so do all of the mums featured. UPS LAH 😎
I dont think most men are avoiding single mums because they'd get social backlash from friends/family, and honestly, with all that social pressure, isn't it easier to find a non-single mum?
The main factor isn't a single mum or not. It's the women still attractive enough in terms of looks. If she is super attractive more men willing to queue up to date her. 2nd is her personality. If she have a really nice personality, many men will also want to continue date her. I respect all single mum/dad out there because they didn't choose to abort the child when relationship fails or give away the child. My grandma abandoned my mum when she is 2 years old. My grandpa brought her up as a single dad n eventually marry my step grandmother who eventually left him with my 2 step aunts. My mum is forever insecure even today.
@@krishnakanth1058 How is it "leeching" is their exes were half responsible for bringing their kids into the picture? So many men are ready to bash these women. You'd think you all were there throughout their relationships. I don't have kids but it just aggravates the hell out of me how men these days are all into this women bashing movement. It's creepy and cult like...
I was a single father from from the time my son was 3. Women often thought it was all cute at first, but when the reality set in that I couldn't go out spontaneously, had to go home after work and cook dinner, etc, the majority lost interest quickly.
@Kashan Pervaiz it has nothing to do with custody ..... just a understanding of no resentment when someone tells you "I can't because of my child". They'll be more understanding and willing to wait compared to the guy who has no kids cause he'll be like forget this I'm cutting her loose.
I think there are a lot of factors involved where the guys are concerned. Maturity, individual preferences etc etc. I, for one, don't mind dating and marrying a single mom. All the single moms interviewed seem like really smart and attractive individuals, especially Nicole. I have dated single moms before. But as the non-parent, you need to be able to shift your perspectives from dating a non-parent to dating a single parent. Otherwise, you'll be constantly frustrated and a lot of tension and disagreements may occur in the relationship. You need to understand that you may not be, in fact most likely will not be the priority for your partner, now or ever, because most of them would prioritise their children over you. They also may not have as much free time to spend with you versus a non-parent partner. All in all, just be more understanding and be prepared to take second place in their hearts. But if you truly love them, it shouldn't matter. Just be an understanding boyfriend to her, and a father-figure to her children.
I'm 46 with a 25 year old this month so Mavis would be ideal for me. I have a child myself so dating a single mother would not be a problem. I would prefer a single mother whose child is older and out the house because mine is.
Being a single mom is alot to handle, you have to take care of the kids all alone and do the duty of both a man and a woman... I'm proud to say I'm a single mom of two beautiful kids, I own a house and a big beauty, thank God for the wise decisions I made about my finances earlier... I'm a millionaire single mom 🎉 You can do it too !!
Having money but not the father is a poor substitute. Having the child's father is way worth more than the millions you have. Ask your child if they want money or a dad.
I see in their eyes that they have options, some of their eyes lits up when spoke about someone who is single parent who is happy and successful.. Yes, you go ladies~~choose those options and work thru it.. everyone deserve their own love and happiness
I get the same treatment as a "single dad". i have 2 kittens. they require a lot of time to maintain, and i love them, as my son and daughter. and there are people that say "every time you talk about the cats, i take that as 'time to skip this part'". very sad. the cats, jut like kids, are part of who i am. accept me and my cats or don't pursue anything with me. I accept single mothers with their children....why can't they accept me with my "kids"
It's simple if you don't want children ,or take care of other man's child ,don't date them ,if you are intrested in children also and have no problem than date them ✌️
My mum and dad actually divorce three years ago and my mum actually have a boyfriend now and her boyfriend is a very nice person but at first i cannot accept him i was like tf get out from our life like i will think that he break our family but no he was a veryvery nice person and he can understand our personality Amd he can accept the four of us. My mum has four kids but he doesn't like hate us or something she told my mum that if he want my mum he will want us too. When i heard that i was like wow this is unbelievable because not so many people can accept this so yeah i was very thankful. ❤️ And then after a few year i started asking them their love story and omg it sounds like a 童话故事 lmao so they met at 14 and he likes my mum and get a job to buy a dog for my mum as a gift and my mum actually don't like her then after so many years later they get back 🥳
I will never understand why these women are so afraid of revealing their true identity as single moms. I am a mother myself and I know 100% that if I ever become a single mom I won’t GAF if no men wants to be with me or see me as a curse all because I can’t give him my full attention because I am too busy being a good, responsible mother and woman. If they can’t accept my kids who are a part of me, I can’t accept them and I’ll gladly have them tell me from the get go. Own your joy and pride mothers and never feel ashamed of yourself!
Being a single mom or single dad is NOT A SHAME. but it's the best to tell the truth right at the beginning that "hey, i'm a single mom/dad, i dont want to waste your time but if you dont mind we can give each other a chance". it's really fucked up when you dated with someone and later found out they have kids, some can accept some dont. so be truthful, be brave then your true love will comes to you. thank you all the single parent out there being brave to keep the baby and raise them up so well, you're doing really good and you're not alone
I don't see anything wrong to date a single mom, underneath that women is still good companion if trust and bonding is being built. Her child will be my child too. Its still a fatherly role.
All the ladies in this video are beautiful. From watching this video I can tell that they are good mothers and love their kids unconditionally. To all the single mums watching this video - y’all have a good day ahead!
@@hughmungus7543 they won't..... they prefer the next man to have no children so he can be at her beck and call...... but what does he get everytime he call her? Oh I can't cause my child is sick..... oh I can't cause I don't have a babysitter..... you'll always be in second place but they want to be in first even with a kid 🤣🤣
Let's be honest here, no guy will be matured enough to bear the responsibility as an instant Father. It takes time to get to the stage where the guy is actually responsible and matured enough to deal with a kid and that might not even happen.
Dating a single mom can be good as the lady has gone thru life and hardships which makes her more resilient and be more appreciative of their future partner. This is unlike those inexperienced ladies who may not have gone thru challenges in life and she would tend to take for granted until much later.
Nah. The natural order of things is that men value women with innocence. Only women value men that have experienced hard times and made it through because that proves that they can take care of them. You are in your feminine.
So what my kid is not a problem. Any guy who was say oh I don’t want to date u because I have a kid isn’t worth it . That’s fine it’s not for everyone . But those videos saying don’t date a single parent . Sometimes we’re single parents because the situation we were in wasn’t say . Does this mean I’m giving up on love no . And I’ll be damn and anyone is going to tell me other wise
Men will date single moms but won't be with them for a long term relationship...... that's the problem all single moms are having. They meet men who don't want to commit to them long term just only use them for fun...... and it's all because she has a child from another man and they want to raise their biological child
Most single women are not willing to raise children of single dads as well as most single men are not willing to raise children of single mums. So what? Single dads should date single mums because they will have a huge understanding for each other and they will not have a problem that he/she has to deal with ex regarding to children. Stop judging single parents wanting to have a relationship! They may have been in abusive marriage or cheated on with ex... And men who start to look for a serious relationship after 40's have a small chance to meet a single woman in late 20's or early 30's because she will look for a younger partner and those in late 30's or 40's are divorced and likely to have children from previous relationship. Getting divorced is not a mistake. It is a choice for better happier life whether it is with a new partner or without partner.
that kinda sounds like me worrying about my crush's daughter instead of my crush, i mean her daughter was like in problems so i was asking about her until i knew everything was okay.
Here's a better idea... How about y'all stick with single dad's instead of expecting single childless guys to pick up the tab that was your mistakes???
@@bsolutions525 being a single mom does not mean sex before marriage. A lady could have the child during her marriage then got divorced 🙄 AND being responsible means fulfilling her duty of caring for the child, which the single moms are doing. They deserve the respect
@@jm9120 I'm not talking about the widows. divorcees could have thought about the family first. And most single moms are those who have sex before marriage
@@bsolutions525 1. single moms have taken the responsibility to give birth and care for their child. they are being RESPONSIBLE for their actions, be it if the pregnancy is unexpected or not 2. what do u mean by "divorcees could have thought about the family first"? are u implying that a divorce is made because she did not think for her family? people like urself are precisely the reason why there is social stigma against single moms and divorcees. Think before u make a negative public opinion/judgement on others. thanks.
understand most men that are looking for a new life and partner are moving away from a failed marriage . so we are very fearful. the trick me again thing is there .
my mom is a single mom too, my parents separated after marriage and I can honestly say that what these women go through is definitely not easy. Being a single working mom is difficult bcs they have to balance finances, their children and their personal life all at the same time. And when it comes to dating,, it def isn’t easy either bcs they’re afraid of people judging them or the guy looking down on them which is honestly so unfair bcs why isit so embarrassing:( ofc it will take time to accept but honestly, they shouldn’t just focus on the “kids” part. Oh and btw, DONT tell her you love her if you’re not ready to accept her kids and love them..bcs that’s not right, the woman you love loves them, so you should too. Anyways let’s love and care for such strong women :)) yall can do it💗
It is never selfish to date again! But children should be the priority over your new partner! And the bare minimum requirement is for your new partner to love your children.
I hv a friend who is single with 2 kids n she did remarried to a man who is also well off...but they still face financial problem. 2nd marriage is not easy..you hv to swallow till bloated up... For the sake if its status.
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Men that are financially stable tend to be older. Hard to be 25-35 with money when you’ve just started your career.
Not telling someone you have kids is kinda deceitful...can't get upset if they cut you off after learning that after it's been a while.
Single moms and single dads should date each other.. it will be easier for them both..
No thanks
Dating is easy if the guys are just looking for a short term relationship, but to find someone willing to take on the responsibility of a stepchild/children, that is not gonna be easy.
"short term relationship" lol
the words keep sounding nicer and nicer describing the same thing
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Why entering a relationship just for short term😔
I think it's better to be upfront with the guy so that he can decide whether he wants to pursue the relationship. If he does decide to and ultimately still breaks things off though, then that's a problem on his end. It's important for both parties to be mature, level-headed & responsible
Dating a single mom is like cleaning after a party that you never being invited
Dating single mom is like continuing someone saved game...most men (not all) will choose new game
Single moms are not “used” or less valuable than non-single moms. If you think that way you’re just not ready to be a parent period.
@@MuseHathor Why should he be a parent to the spawn that is not his?
@@MuseHathor Majority of the men wouldn't raise another man's kids.
People think we have abolished our biological instincts, but they are still present no matter how conscious we become.
Single moms aren't seen as used, but they aren't preferred by single men with no kids cuz it's hectic.
Men don't easily form emotional connection, but when they do it's really hard to let it go.
I have friends who dated single mums and developed quite an attachment to their partner's kids and sometime later when the relationship broke off they kind of become depressed because of not being able to see the child.
Chad chaser looking for insurance/ safety net
_what about single dads?_
I believe dating a single mother is only an issue if the mother relies too strongly on the male for finnances/parenting help, and or takes advantage of him in that sense. I believe the mother should reapect his boundries and continue finnancial responsibility for the child and not treat the new man as something he is not. The man may not be the father but he can still be a role model for the child. I say that as long as the mother is independent without a man in her life, it could have the potential to be a perfectly healthy relationship.
if... should... may... could...
that's a nice picture you painted
not the real world though
@@guyfromavillage134 exactly ..... at some point your gonna finance that child of hers..... and you will have to do it before she gives you your own biological child. She testing your fatherhood before you actually become a father. Don't fall for the trap
It just seem so but believe me, many looks for real love and final love
One of the reasons men don't want to date single moms is that they'll always come second place to her kids (which off course is normal).
Also, the biological dad is always hovering somewhere in the background and will haunt the relationship like a ghost.
Also: "I don't have to listen to you! You are not my real dad!"
Why are men expected to invest their precious time and money in another man's kids that we are not allowed to punish or discipline because "you are not his real dad"?
Sounds like a bad deal to me.
I couldn't agree more! When I was single I had two rules. Rule 1 - Never date or screw around with single mothers. Rule 2 - Never violate Rule 1.
In my experience, single mothers rarely look for companionship, love, or emotional support in a partner. The main thing they look for is help.
It doesnt worth it at all. its not good for the man
@@RabidDisposition they want use somebody for financial help
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Personally, it's not the fact that the woman has a child that is a deal breaker because of the responsibilities, stereotypes, etc. Its simply the fact that the child was created with another man. It doesn't sit very well with me
Then the fact that she has a child is the deal breaker...you literally just found a different way to say the same thing😂
And why is that? No one says that you have to look at it that way. However, taking care of a kid does not have to be that complicated. She/He needs help, stop treating it like a burden and get to know the kid, nothing scary about that. You can have children that are yours going forward you know. You can also love another human being. This notion that single moms are somehow burden is in my eyes terrible.
@Provo Beats I want a job where I get paid more with less responsibility...... not a job where I get paid more with more responsibility because the last employee created a mess now I have to fix it. Childless women are their competition and men want to raise their own children
For the single moms : Be frank upfront. If he's still in, then observe whether he just wanna play you or it's real.
For the single guys: Don't date single moms.
Dating as a single mother is not as much of the issue as how women are navigating the dating scene as a single mother. Too many single mothers have unrealistic standards for their circumstances. There is no reason why a single mother should ever say "I won't date a guy that only makes this much" or "I won't date a guy that isn't 6 foot tall". Find the guy that is willing to love you and your child as his own despite his looks and income. That guy that came to repair your sink might be the guy for you, ladies"
No. You shouldn't lower your standards just because you're a single mum. 🙄
Cold hard truth, if you're a single mum and found love again, it's more power to you. However there are so many women out there in this world, why pick a single mum when you can actually pick another woman that has no kids?
Because you love her despite having kid. If you find a single person, are you sure you wont get separated? Many single parents never wanted to become one. Who wants??? Don't judge.
@@julieabot4154 Love is not a strong enough reason to be with someone, it dies in seconds.
Actually men don't mind dating single parents , but from my observation only brave men and do it cause they willl have to face rubbish and rude comments from friends and family which is the harder part .
Yes....lol. That’s probably the toughest part about life in general
Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha, "actually men don't mind dating single parents", hahahahahahahahahahahahaha....hold on, hold on...hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Emphasis on dating and that's it.
The comments are not the hardest part. I've seen brave and open minded men who dated single moms and ended up with a lot more stress than that.
Actually biologic prime ape and human males do care, so does literally every single sexually reproducing organism, “brave” men to you are taking care of other men and women’s mistake because they are so weak to resist the urge to simp
The majority of men that I know aren't interested in raising another mans child.
I believe in respecting people and giving them a choice SO definitely be upfront and let the guy know that you have a child, the right man will accept you and your child.
The right man is stupid its better to be the wrong guy but happy
good luck with that
@@ImJiom 🤣 ... Yep good luck with that 😌👍🏼
Well it's not the guys fault they don't want to date you. It's very sad, but it's not my problem
None of the moms said it was the guy’s fault for not accepting a single mom on the first date. It is only when they say they do accept it but go back on their word that they don’t accept.
@@krishnakanth1058 why Is a child a baggage? By all means I do not have children but why do people look at a woman having children as a baggage but a man will have children and have no problem dating. It takes 2 to make a kid…
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@@MuseHathor cause they realize it's a waste of time and money
@@dalagamble3164 anyway, its not real love if they think it's a baggage
Honestly just put the facts out there, if the guy don't want that, then you are simply not their cup of tea. But right there are some of us who see our single mother, see them old without someone, quite sad.
When dating single mothers, its the past emotions that is complicated.
Being a step-father is a terrible deal.
What man wants to be no 5 or 6 in a woman’s life priority?
Exactly
"Why did you decide to go back into the dating scene" huh... same as everybody else la
Sounds like they’re dealing with guys that are in it for the sex. If they press for anything more, that’s where the issue of them being single moms come up. It’s honestly unfortunate. Guys don’t enter a relationship for no reason and then just leave.
I won’t date a or married a single mother, because a kid is extra financial burden, with no authority. A lot of women these days are having kids out of a marriage and I’m not going to able that behaviors by marrying a single or even dating, because tells other women that is ok. Some single will act nicer to get a guy to convince marry her, but it’s a trap, especially if you’re wealthy, because if both separate, you will be paying alimony and child support for a child that’s not yours, while she’s taking vacations and seeing other men on your budget.
based on my experienced my mom was a single mother and when she started dating again...i was kinda against it but now he was the best step dad i had
Need a separate video for moms who had kids as teens vs those in their late 20s. Also how is this an issue for the woman whos kid is 20.
my brother got into a relationship with a single mother 6 years ago, they are very happy now, he is dad to her kid and expecting his first biological kid this month, when people put aside their prejudices happiness follows
Wheres the kids bio dad?
@@rexiioper6920 not in the picture
That's so lovely to hear ❤
Your brother is a kind man❤
Its not "prejudice" to not want to take care of a child that is not yours....
Mavis is cool and she gives off the counsellor's vibes
Same, I think cause she’s quite well spoken and composed
Agreed. She has a calm and mature demeanor which is attractive.
@@alfiedj I noticed that as well. I would definitely date Mavis!
ah im so agree with you guys --- every single one of you. im a single mother of a 4 years old son and so grateful for him in my life. i know it might be a mistakes for some people but i will always put my child first, i dont mind spend my life without partner rather than have one who cannot love & respect my child. but i hope someday i could meet that person who have bigger heart for me & my +1 ❤💜 be strong mummies!!
An ongoing theme in responses to single Moms dating tends to be mention of responsibility for her kids, bills, and also the lack of time and attention a single Mother can provide to a man.
If another person, ANY person, parent or not, has the expectation or need to place another in the position of fulfilling their responsibilities, THAT is the problem. As a single Mom myself, the goals are to remain self supporting, self managed, and self sustaining. I wont tolerate another person taking responsibility for my children or finances, because I'm a healthy, mature adult.
If I am dating, which typically isn't a priority, I am with someone who has a STRONG level of mental health and emotional maturity. This would be someone who has understanding of responsibilities, consideration for family systems, and who has many personal hobbies outside of the relationship, and preferably children of their own. I will not be a supplier of everything a man needs. Mother or not, I wouldn't be. A healthy individual has multiple supports and avenues to tend to their needs, as do I. A romantic relationship cannot fulfill all the needs of an individual all of the time. A mature adult will understand this and have the level of patience and understanding needed. If they don't, they aren't well enough equipped for that position in a single parents life.
Bottom line is that most men will rather date women without children .
@V P I dont get why people get so upset over mens dating preferences. Just get over it
@V P one can be against murder and also not have the sexual interest in someone with another man’s offspring. Not mutually exclusive. I myself would never abort but I know enough about the logistics of the last abortion ban and what a failure it was to know such a thing wouldn’t work. And even if it could work there would need to be exceptions to such laws. As you can tell I follow neither parties doctrine.
I am single mum. I am more stable financially and independent. Its good to have a partner but its not necessary.
Is not good to be single.I hope this year brings happiness and prosperity all over the world
It's all cool until you turn 50 above and alone with no one to lean on and trouble your kids who's busy living their life.
It's a proven fact that children thrive in a double parent home as opposed to a single parent. While it's fine and dandy for you, your kids are suffering.
@@danielwetmore7019 many people are fine single.
@@yuvan6499 many married couples with kids lives with older parents who help cook clean and watch kids. You as Asian know this. What’s different if instead of married couple it is single parent there instead.
I really like Nicole’s perspective.
Wanie is 27 and 4 children 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
Laughing at the "two for one" statement as that is what I told my parents when I married a single mother.
Poor dude, how is it working out though?
@@jacoblipkestudios7621 omg why poor? Hope you wont end up being a single parent too 🧐 judgmental
never ever date a single mom
she is not looking for love, she is looking for help
the kid will never respect you
the mom will never let you discipline the kid
the mom will always be busy, never have time
she wants you to pay the bills and fix the house
sometimes even the real father will still come around
it's only problems and drama
have some self-respect and don't do it
Ugh.... 😔 this kind of man really exist. Good luck with your group of men. Cult. Spreading bad news about single mothers.
Dating is a personal choice. But you could say that to young men.
been following wanie’s youtube channel with her kids since she started it, always found her really nice and funny. didn’t know she recently got divorced but she seems like such a nice chill strong person and so do all of the mums featured. UPS LAH 😎
She is strong indeed
She is gorgeous
what is her youtube channel?
What's the name of her youtube channel?
I dont think most men are avoiding single mums because they'd get social backlash from friends/family, and honestly, with all that social pressure, isn't it easier to find a non-single mum?
of course
men just want a decent single woman to start a family with for themselves, it's that simple
Even if there was no backlash , why invest time and money to raise another man’s child .
Men are not avoiding single moms...... they are just avoiding them for long term relationships
@@spiderjump because you love her
The main factor isn't a single mum or not. It's the women still attractive enough in terms of looks. If she is super attractive more men willing to queue up to date her. 2nd is her personality. If she have a really nice personality, many men will also want to continue date her.
I respect all single mum/dad out there because they didn't choose to abort the child when relationship fails or give away the child.
My grandma abandoned my mum when she is 2 years old. My grandpa brought her up as a single dad n eventually marry my step grandmother who eventually left him with my 2 step aunts.
My mum is forever insecure even today.
That's the important thing. That's what matters most the children
Dating a single mom is dangerous. I personally would but only if that person wants to have more kids
This is like going to the buffet after a previous man done ate everything then being told you got to pay his bill and babysit his brat.
@V P it's his opinion though
Being single yet still taking of their kids already shows what kind of a person they are, responsible and caring .... respect to them
@@krishnakanth1058 How is it "leeching" is their exes were half responsible for bringing their kids into the picture? So many men are ready to bash these women. You'd think you all were there throughout their relationships. I don't have kids but it just aggravates the hell out of me how men these days are all into this women bashing movement. It's creepy and cult like...
@@KayciazWorld those men are losers just because
I was a single father from from the time my son was 3. Women often thought it was all cute at first, but when the reality set in that I couldn't go out spontaneously, had to go home after work and cook dinner, etc, the majority lost interest quickly.
Single mums would look for single dads. This would cancel out any stigmas of society.
Has anyone asked them that?
@Kashan Pervaiz it has nothing to do with custody ..... just a understanding of no resentment when someone tells you "I can't because of my child". They'll be more understanding and willing to wait compared to the guy who has no kids cause he'll be like forget this I'm cutting her loose.
When sparks fly, everything can do. Single mum, so what. That's not going to make her a lesser woman.
I think there are a lot of factors involved where the guys are concerned. Maturity, individual preferences etc etc. I, for one, don't mind dating and marrying a single mom. All the single moms interviewed seem like really smart and attractive individuals, especially Nicole.
I have dated single moms before. But as the non-parent, you need to be able to shift your perspectives from dating a non-parent to dating a single parent. Otherwise, you'll be constantly frustrated and a lot of tension and disagreements may occur in the relationship. You need to understand that you may not be, in fact most likely will not be the priority for your partner, now or ever, because most of them would prioritise their children over you. They also may not have as much free time to spend with you versus a non-parent partner. All in all, just be more understanding and be prepared to take second place in their hearts. But if you truly love them, it shouldn't matter. Just be an understanding boyfriend to her, and a father-figure to her children.
Thanks for this video 💖
No, I do tell her I don't date single mothers
I'm 46 with a 25 year old this month so Mavis would be ideal
for me. I have a child myself so dating a single mother would
not be a problem. I would prefer a single mother whose child
is older and out the house because mine is.
Then that’s like not a dating a single mom at all!
Being a single mom is alot to handle, you have to take care of the kids all alone and do the duty of both a man and a woman... I'm proud to say I'm a single mom of two beautiful kids, I own a house and a big beauty, thank God for the wise decisions I made about my finances earlier... I'm a millionaire single mom 🎉
You can do it too !!
Hi beauty
Having money but not the father is a poor substitute.
Having the child's father is way worth more than the millions you have.
Ask your child if they want money or a dad.
Your 000.01 percent of single mothers stop selling unicorns
You own a house and you’re a millionaire single mom… so you’re the top 0.23% of women on this earth. Pathological liar.
Divorce settlement, right?
No thank you I want to start my own legacy
I see in their eyes that they have options, some of their eyes lits up when spoke about someone who is single parent who is happy and successful.. Yes, you go ladies~~choose those options and work thru it.. everyone deserve their own love and happiness
I get the same treatment as a "single dad". i have 2 kittens. they require a lot of time to maintain, and i love them, as my son and daughter. and there are people that say "every time you talk about the cats, i take that as 'time to skip this part'". very sad. the cats, jut like kids, are part of who i am. accept me and my cats or don't pursue anything with me. I accept single mothers with their children....why can't they accept me with my "kids"
Awww, some people are just so insecure!!! ... There WILL be someone right for you out there, Robert. For you and your kitties!!!
It's simple if you don't want children ,or take care of other man's child ,don't date them ,if you are intrested in children also and have no problem than date them ✌️
Most men would want their own children not some other men's kids.
They’re all so beautiful and confident. I hope they find love again 🥺💕
I hope you find love too :)
@@xzack69ersx3 simp
My mum and dad actually divorce three years ago and my mum actually have a boyfriend now and her boyfriend is a very nice person but at first i cannot accept him i was like tf get out from our life like i will think that he break our family but no he was a veryvery nice person and he can understand our personality Amd he can accept the four of us. My mum has four kids but he doesn't like hate us or something she told my mum that if he want my mum he will want us too. When i heard that i was like wow this is unbelievable because not so many people can accept this so yeah i was very thankful. ❤️ And then after a few year i started asking them their love story and omg it sounds like a 童话故事 lmao so they met at 14 and he likes my mum and get a job to buy a dog for my mum as a gift and my mum actually don't like her then after so many years later they get back 🥳
I will never understand why these women are so afraid of revealing their true identity as single moms. I am a mother myself and I know 100% that if I ever become a single mom I won’t GAF if no men wants to be with me or see me as a curse all because I can’t give him my full attention because I am too busy being a good, responsible mother and woman. If they can’t accept my kids who are a part of me, I can’t accept them and I’ll gladly have them tell me from the get go. Own your joy and pride mothers and never feel ashamed of yourself!
Being a single mom or single dad is NOT A SHAME. but it's the best to tell the truth right at the beginning that "hey, i'm a single mom/dad, i dont want to waste your time but if you dont mind we can give each other a chance". it's really fucked up when you dated with someone and later found out they have kids, some can accept some dont. so be truthful, be brave then your true love will comes to you. thank you all the single parent out there being brave to keep the baby and raise them up so well, you're doing really good and you're not alone
Where are the single Dads with children??
*Bad Decision* making is mostly what it comes down to. 🤷♂️
Why 50s-60s cannot go back into the dating scene??
5:02 just make sure that you're financially independent!!!! rule numba one.
How abt a vid on women being step mums?
they are looking for help
Hi hi
Mavis and Wanie seem like pretty laid-back and intelligent people
Lucky their children
Omg these moms are so beautiful and lovely. I wish them love and happiness.
I don't see anything wrong to date a single mom, underneath that women is still good companion if trust and bonding is being built. Her child will be my child too. Its still a fatherly role.
LOL spoken like a true beta chump
Love yourself, love your child. You'll not need to seek somewhere else.
The green shirt girl looks like chungha
Now do the male counterpart!
All the ladies in this video are beautiful. From watching this video I can tell that they are good mothers and love their kids unconditionally. To all the single mums watching this video - y’all have a good day ahead!
“it’s sad but that doesn’t mean we don’t deserve another chance to find love” 😭😭😭 PREACH
Yeah perfect said
Okay well relegate yourselves to dating single dad's ..
@@hughmungus7543 they won't..... they prefer the next man to have no children so he can be at her beck and call...... but what does he get everytime he call her? Oh I can't cause my child is sick..... oh I can't cause I don't have a babysitter..... you'll always be in second place but they want to be in first even with a kid 🤣🤣
@@lancecruz9299 if you start having ur own wife, u will going to be 2nd or last too after u have a kid 😄 Be mature.
Where to find
can we all agree that ALL of them looks beautiful and surely deserves a happy ending one day?
Can I have a happy ending w you
I think its beyond look, each of this women here has unique character, its up to the man to discover her best part of it.
@@narty4586 weirdo
Agreed. And they should try to reconcile with the men they had children with in the first place.
@@narty4586 you naughty bus3rd 😹
Let's be honest here, no guy will be matured enough to bear the responsibility as an instant Father.
It takes time to get to the stage where the guy is actually responsible and matured enough to deal with a kid and that might not even happen.
Wanie has such a gorgeous smile, I would date her 😊
Then tell her
Dating a single mom can be good as the lady has gone thru life and hardships which makes her more resilient and be more appreciative of their future partner. This is unlike those inexperienced ladies who may not have gone thru challenges in life and she would tend to take for granted until much later.
Nah. The natural order of things is that men value women with innocence. Only women value men that have experienced hard times and made it through because that proves that they can take care of them. You are in your feminine.
That's a nice idea but it's not the way things really work.
James is delusional
kudos to the mums for their bravery in sharing their experiences
You call this bravery? LMAO
So what my kid is not a problem. Any guy who was say oh I don’t want to date u because I have a kid isn’t worth it . That’s fine it’s not for everyone . But those videos saying don’t date a single parent . Sometimes we’re single parents because the situation we were in wasn’t say . Does this mean I’m giving up on love no . And I’ll be damn and anyone is going to tell me other wise
Men will date single moms but won't be with them for a long term relationship...... that's the problem all single moms are having. They meet men who don't want to commit to them long term just only use them for fun...... and it's all because she has a child from another man and they want to raise their biological child
I love single mom's
Most single women are not willing to raise children of single dads as well as most single men are not willing to raise children of single mums. So what? Single dads should date single mums because they will have a huge understanding for each other and they will not have a problem that he/she has to deal with ex regarding to children. Stop judging single parents wanting to have a relationship! They may have been in abusive marriage or cheated on with ex... And men who start to look for a serious relationship after 40's have a small chance to meet a single woman in late 20's or early 30's because she will look for a younger partner and those in late 30's or 40's are divorced and likely to have children from previous relationship.
Getting divorced is not a mistake. It is a choice for better happier life whether it is with a new partner or without partner.
Why would any rational man want to continue another man’s saved game?
They will get sex, just no commitment.
I think its better to filter out the men who just want to date single moms versus men who would want to take care of the children of single moms.
that kinda sounds like me worrying about my crush's daughter instead of my crush, i mean her daughter was like in problems so i was asking about her until i knew everything was okay.
Here's a better idea... How about y'all stick with single dad's instead of expecting single childless guys to pick up the tab that was your mistakes???
Mothers are the best
No Just No I don't Date Single Mom's and No man should in my opinion. You wasn't her first choice. She settled for you.... TF
they don't look for love, they look for help
They ignore men before they have children..... then once they have children now they want to give these men a chance. Let the streets take care of her
Single mothers are strong and responsible 💪
Huh? If really responsible with get married first before sex
😂
@@bsolutions525 being a single mom does not mean sex before marriage. A lady could have the child during her marriage then got divorced 🙄 AND being responsible means fulfilling her duty of caring for the child, which the single moms are doing. They deserve the respect
@@jm9120 I'm not talking about the widows. divorcees could have thought about the family first. And most single moms are those who have sex before marriage
@@bsolutions525 1. single moms have taken the responsibility to give birth and care for their child. they are being RESPONSIBLE for their actions, be it if the pregnancy is unexpected or not
2. what do u mean by "divorcees could have thought about the family first"? are u implying that a divorce is made because she did not think for her family?
people like urself are precisely the reason why there is social stigma against single moms and divorcees. Think before u make a negative public opinion/judgement on others. thanks.
What about single dads ?
Wanie is beautiful
Focus on being parents its easier to fail as a parent than a partner. So focus on being a parent more.
understand most men that are looking for a new life and partner are moving away from a failed marriage . so we are very fearful. the trick me again thing is there .
❤️can i get a singapore passport if i get adopted in singapore ❤️ waiting for reply
They all look so much younger than their real age
asian genes, they look great till around 60 then its a car crash
When you're Asian you will be 20 years old forever ❤️
why dont they date single father
my mom is a single mom too, my parents separated after marriage and I can honestly say that what these women go through is definitely not easy. Being a single working mom is difficult bcs they have to balance finances, their children and their personal life all at the same time. And when it comes to dating,, it def isn’t easy either bcs they’re afraid of people judging them or the guy looking down on them which is honestly so unfair bcs why isit so embarrassing:( ofc it will take time to accept but honestly, they shouldn’t just focus on the “kids” part. Oh and btw, DONT tell her you love her if you’re not ready to accept her kids and love them..bcs that’s not right, the woman you love loves them, so you should too. Anyways let’s love and care for such strong women :)) yall can do it💗
Mavis looks super young to be 38???
Mmmm, I'd totally swipe right Mavis and Alyssa.
It is never selfish to date again! But children should be the priority over your new partner! And the bare minimum requirement is for your new partner to love your children.
I am surprised no one mentioned that Wanie looks gorgeous 🤗. Good on you all for being dedicated single patents 👍.
I hv a friend who is single with 2 kids n she did remarried to a man who is also well off...but they still face financial problem. 2nd marriage is not easy..you hv to swallow till bloated up...
For the sake if its status.
Oh look, speaking redflags.
I m love single mother
Looking for true love