This video hit home for me. Thank you so much for calling out the ego, our worst enemy in relationships. I got into a 3-month “relationship” with a covert narcissist and I discovered that my ego kept me in it for validation and lust. Did we both say “I love you?” Yes we did. Did I truly mean it? No I certainly didn’t. It was my ego talking just to be with someone all because she was attractive. It was my ego that was loving her instead of my heart. You’re the man! Thank you again! New sub here 🕺🏻
It's unfortunate that you don't have a much larger following, because the world could benefit from this; it's honestly some of the best advice I have ever come across.
Thank you for this my friend. I'm working on getting the message out with the recent film "Treetops (2018)" and the launch of the "I Am by Infobeing" mobile app. Your vote of confidence means a lot to me. Sometimes we all need a bit of encouragement. Thank you, my brother.
I’m glad you said that. That a relationship is not built on manipulation games. I’ve found that a lot of people play a game or manipulate their partner to keep them even more interested. So for instance as soon as the relationship begins, one person in the relationship decides to start manipulating the other person thru silent treatment amongst other things like waiting games to keep the other persons interest. Or for instance giving love and then pulling it away to keep that person interested or being emotionally available. I was thinking this isn’t the truth and it’s not what true love is, real love can not be manipulated and it is not a game where you can strategize how to win the heart or affection of the other. It’s coming into the relationship with a mask and not being you true self which is love. So many people are afraid to let go of pride to just be love in a relationship and just to simply show it. They try and control something that can not be controlled which is love itself!
This describes how I was before I woke up. Sabotaged a beautiful marriage while I was at it. Once I learned to transcend my ego I started to treat it like a friend that tries to over protect me and I had to learn to discipline the ego. Not kill it or dissolve it. It’s human nature to have an ego.
@@laurenthompson5136 Well, the ego is just what the mind does. It isn't me, it isn't exactly real. So, when I recognize a thought or emotion that is from the ego, it is enough to just know it...observe it...not take it seriously. To do this, it is only necessary to learn in detail about what the ego is and does.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to hear each and every word. You are an incredible, admirable inspiration!🏆 Please, keep spreading your knowledge. Everyone should know ALL these things. Infinite blessings to you. 🙏💝
How beautiful to hear that you have a partner that is on the page / vibrations as you. Totally understand what you are talking about, I have recently found Eckhart Tolle, his talks about consciousness, awareness, being in the present moment, I have been reading his book the power of now, which has helped me alot, sadly I'm currently going through a divorce, all ego driven, he had an emotional affair which went on for two years, it totally destroyed my trust ... I have done alot of work on myself, meditation, reiki, therapy... I'm learning to understand that my thoughts are not me.. I'm still learning and I'm still healing 🧿☮️💜
I think as an individual, it’s pretty hard to surrender (one sure could) but when with a partner, one finds the doorway to surrender themselves to life and the present moment; it could be something other than codependent, if they do so consciously. This truth always remains, you don’t have to rope in or tie or dream about anything when the person you’re with is right and ready. You just let them go. Live life in a surrendered way. If they stay, they are right (and you aren’t marrying your hopes, dreams and potential) Thanks for the talk. I listen to Eckhart Tolle and yes, truth remains simple. Well, unless one is into experimentation- means they’re not ready!
Thank you for this this is very helpful . My relationship has slowed transformed into a ego dominated relationship . I don’t want to judge either of us , But I do want to try to understand it better
I am transitioning from an 8 year relationship, and I had never heard of an ego love. Throughout these 8 years, alcohol has played a huge role. I experienced a lot of stonewalling, blaming, defensiveness, and deflecting. A lot of times, he wasn't dependable, as he would go drink and never come back to his family. I understood that he liked to drink, and accepted that for a long time, but it got to the point where it was affecting my oldest son. Should I have let this continue, and "accepted" it for what is was?
Thank you for the comment. What option do any of us have but to accept the reality that is? I suspect that, beneath the surface of this question, there is an assumption that you have to do something to change him. What, other than total forgiveness and unconditional love, has such power? Certainly not threats, attacks, punishment. He should feel such a strong desire to be with you...that it feels so wonderful...that going to the pub loses its appeal.
Of course I understand that you have chosen separation, so there probably isn't any reason to discuss it other than to justify the reality you have already created. Of course I would not judge either of you for a relationship and an outcome that was created between you two. Maybe you are too different, you just didn't fit, or there was no real love in the relationship. Sadly, this describes my 22 year relationship. Thankfully, I found someone who fits perfectly!
THIS IS WHY I AM AGAINST MARRIAGE! Or even a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP! Because you aren’t ANYONES POSSESSION! We are meant to be FREE! When you deal with one person too long you become fixated and you all want to control one another.
This is what I need to hear am going through it right now, he kept telling me I don't understand i wouldn't understand... to me i don't have an answer and am not going to answer..
This may be a taboo subject but most people are unhappy in relationships without knowing why. They don't understand how the ego operates. Or they don't even know what the ego is. Most people are identified with their ego. And when the infatuation wears off-that beautiful phase of the relationship-they resent each other. Then they think why are they stuck in the relationship? They have false thoughts about each other. And they think there's another person out there that could make them happy. They think about braking up. And so forth... If they go for another relationship, the same thing happens-this person is not good for me and therefore I must look for another partner or lover. Am I wrong? I don't think so. Because I see couples everywhere and they're miserable. They don't get along-they only pretend to do so.
@@ovidiudrobota2182 yes, this is exactly what happens. I couldn't agree more. However, in my current relationship with the woman I was already with when I did this video...we have transcended all of this. It is very much possible!
This video hit home for me. Thank you so much for calling out the ego, our worst enemy in relationships. I got into a 3-month “relationship” with a covert narcissist and I discovered that my ego kept me in it for validation and lust. Did we both say “I love you?” Yes we did. Did I truly mean it? No I certainly didn’t. It was my ego talking just to be with someone all because she was attractive. It was my ego that was loving her instead of my heart. You’re the man! Thank you again! New sub here 🕺🏻
Our ego has taken charge, I am ready to love authentically.
It's unfortunate that you don't have a much larger following, because the world could benefit from this; it's honestly some of the best advice I have ever come across.
I must second this
Thank you for this my friend. I'm working on getting the message out with the recent film "Treetops (2018)" and the launch of the "I Am by Infobeing" mobile app. Your vote of confidence means a lot to me. Sometimes we all need a bit of encouragement. Thank you, my brother.
SPOT ON....
I’m glad you said that. That a relationship is not built on manipulation games. I’ve found that a lot of people play a game or manipulate their partner to keep them even more interested. So for instance as soon as the relationship begins, one person in the relationship decides to start manipulating the other person thru silent treatment amongst other things like waiting games to keep the other persons interest. Or for instance giving love and then pulling it away to keep that person interested or being emotionally available. I was thinking this isn’t the truth and it’s not what true love is, real love can not be manipulated and it is not a game where you can strategize how to win the heart or affection of the other. It’s coming into the relationship with a mask and not being you true self which is love. So many people are afraid to let go of pride to just be love in a relationship and just to simply show it. They try and control something that can not be controlled which is love itself!
This describes how I was before I woke up. Sabotaged a beautiful marriage while I was at it. Once I learned to transcend my ego I started to treat it like a friend that tries to over protect me and I had to learn to discipline the ego. Not kill it or dissolve it. It’s human nature to have an ego.
I find it funny how people always try to defend the ego. As long as we do that, salvation is not complete.
@@AbscondoTube so how would you treat your ego?
@@laurenthompson5136 Well, the ego is just what the mind does. It isn't me, it isn't exactly real. So, when I recognize a thought or emotion that is from the ego, it is enough to just know it...observe it...not take it seriously. To do this, it is only necessary to learn in detail about what the ego is and does.
This is my go to video I give my couples during sessions. It's one of the best on RUclips regarding this topic. Great job Brother.
I got out of an awful marriage where it was focused on "ego love". This is really helpful! 🙏🏻
I wish you the ongoing joy of perfect love. ;-)
This is deep. I realize have a lot of ego to let go of
To realize such a think proves the opposite.
Thanks for this video!!
Now I know why people tell me to be the calm one and I don't want to be which is because of ego. Its best to actually let the ego suffer
Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to hear each and every word. You are an incredible, admirable inspiration!🏆 Please, keep spreading your knowledge. Everyone should know ALL these things. Infinite blessings to you. 🙏💝
How beautiful to hear that you have a partner that is on the page / vibrations as you. Totally understand what you are talking about, I have recently found Eckhart Tolle, his talks about consciousness, awareness, being in the present moment, I have been reading his book the power of now, which has helped me alot, sadly I'm currently going through a divorce, all ego driven, he had an emotional affair which went on for two years, it totally destroyed my trust ... I have done alot of work on myself, meditation, reiki, therapy... I'm learning to understand that my thoughts are not me.. I'm still learning and I'm still healing 🧿☮️💜
Thank you for this. I sincerely hope you find perfect and unconditional love.
Thank you ❣️
I think as an individual, it’s pretty hard to surrender (one sure could) but when with a partner, one finds the doorway to surrender themselves to life and the present moment; it could be something other than codependent, if they do so consciously.
This truth always remains, you don’t have to rope in or tie or dream about anything when the person you’re with is right and ready. You just let them go. Live life in a surrendered way. If they stay, they are right (and you aren’t marrying your hopes, dreams and potential)
Thanks for the talk. I listen to Eckhart Tolle and yes, truth remains simple. Well, unless one is into experimentation- means they’re not ready!
Brilliant feedback. Yes, this is totally doable. My partner and I have lived in this way for many years now.
wow, that's video is amazing. Keep sharing, please!
I agree with the earlier comments. This is wonderful.
Thank you for this
this is very helpful .
My relationship has slowed transformed into a ego dominated relationship .
I don’t want to judge either of us ,
But I do want to try to understand it better
I am sorry to hear that. I am sure you can correct whatever has gone off course.
thank you broski, hope all is well
Simple and powerful thank you
Thank you
Amazing video
Ypu are so right. At least someone gets it.
Really good talk. Helpful
thank you :)
I am transitioning from an 8 year relationship, and I had never heard of an ego love. Throughout these 8 years, alcohol has played a huge role. I experienced a lot of stonewalling, blaming, defensiveness, and deflecting. A lot of times, he wasn't dependable, as he would go drink and never come back to his family. I understood that he liked to drink, and accepted that for a long time, but it got to the point where it was affecting my oldest son. Should I have let this continue, and "accepted" it for what is was?
Thank you for the comment. What option do any of us have but to accept the reality that is? I suspect that, beneath the surface of this question, there is an assumption that you have to do something to change him. What, other than total forgiveness and unconditional love, has such power? Certainly not threats, attacks, punishment. He should feel such a strong desire to be with you...that it feels so wonderful...that going to the pub loses its appeal.
Of course I understand that you have chosen separation, so there probably isn't any reason to discuss it other than to justify the reality you have already created. Of course I would not judge either of you for a relationship and an outcome that was created between you two. Maybe you are too different, you just didn't fit, or there was no real love in the relationship. Sadly, this describes my 22 year relationship. Thankfully, I found someone who fits perfectly!
THIS IS WHY I AM AGAINST MARRIAGE! Or even a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP! Because you aren’t ANYONES POSSESSION! We are meant to be FREE! When you deal with one person too long you become fixated and you all want to control one another.
I agree. There can be no attempt to control another person. That is how relationships begin to break.
This is what I need to hear am going through it right now, he kept telling me I don't understand i wouldn't understand... to me i don't have an answer and am not going to answer..
Thank you for the comment. If he is right for you, you will find a way through acceptance and forgiveness. If not, that's okay too.
So much wisdom.
99.9 % of people have no idea what love truly is. And yet they talk about it, pretend they have it etc
Absolutely, and most people don't even love themselves but claim to love the other person.
Are you all married to tge same people?
Marrige is funural of love
I believe this is true.
Right person wouldnt require sarcrifises
Crazy
3g9 vs L9v3
Arent the same
You cant turn fake love into real no matter how much you try
This isnt love.
Its abuse
Games eh
This may be a taboo subject but most people are unhappy in relationships without knowing why. They don't understand how the ego operates. Or they don't even know what the ego is. Most people are identified with their ego. And when the infatuation wears off-that beautiful phase of the relationship-they resent each other. Then they think why are they stuck in the relationship? They have false thoughts about each other. And they think there's another person out there that could make them happy. They think about braking up. And so forth... If they go for another relationship, the same thing happens-this person is not good for me and therefore I must look for another partner or lover. Am I wrong? I don't think so. Because I see couples everywhere and they're miserable. They don't get along-they only pretend to do so.
@@ovidiudrobota2182 yes, this is exactly what happens. I couldn't agree more. However, in my current relationship with the woman I was already with when I did this video...we have transcended all of this. It is very much possible!
I certainly disagree with a lot of your points but it's kool